Please don’t have anything to do with him. He abandoned you and your mother. He is the reason why your mother is dead. Don’t betray your mother, grandparents and uncle. They raised you and love you all your life. You don’t need a dead beat dad like him.
You’re blessed with a loving Maternal family. Grandparents, uncle and those around you. I’m happy to hear you’re doing good that the man who left you regret it.
I applaud your decision. If you took back your dad, you'd have betrayed your Mom and the people who loved you from your Mom's side. A father can doubt whether a child was his, but a Mother always knows the child was hers. A father is more than just an ejaculation. You owed him nothing. Stay strong and I hope you'll never betray your Mom. By the way, a late repentent is often insincere.
Wow son I applause your perseverance and your sucess. Sorry for you have to be an orphan at such a young age, but thanks to your uncle ya, your grandpa and grandma. I know your mom's spirit is very happy for you and your family.
Please DON'T accept your rotten, loser father into your life, EVER! If you do, you will betray all the love and support your late mother's parents & uncle gave you, and you will seriously hurt them. DON'T let him guilt trip you into letting him, a toxic person, into your life. Aside from your wife & children, the only people deserving of your love and support are those who were there for you and your mother when you most needed help, NOT someone who abandoned you & your mother because he was too selfish to be a good father and husband! You will never be npam because you don't owe him anything! Live a happy life with the family you created, and know that all the "father figure" you will ever need is in the form of your yawmtxiv and dablaug. A physical father is worthless if he was never a father figure to you. Stay true to your words to your late mother so you can be proud of the good man you have become.
You are so blessed to have a wonderful uncle and maternal grandparents. I applaud them for being so strong for you and your mom. Your father is no more than a sperm donor. Sperm donors do not have wny rights to corner their offsprings to take responsibility of them. He was not there for you when you needed him most. You have no responsibility to him. You owe him nothing. Do not feel guilty. You owe it to yourself to only surround yourself with those who love you and have been there for you. Honestly if you dad still had a lady to support him he would not think twice to reach out.
Good for you to not accept him as your dad. Honestly, you are better of without your dead beat father. Stay close to your mom’s family because they truly love you
Brother, you made the correct decision. If we forgive and accept this kind of abusive and neglected fathers, everyone would continue to neglect their fatherhood responsibility in early age and return to receive children fortunes at dying age.
Maternal grandparents and that side of family are the best. I know from experiences. You are a strong man. Don't ever let that peice of scum of the earth back in your life. I'm sorry for the loss of your mother.
Good for you. Hooray do not acknowledge him. He just want to mooch off you and your wife. Nothing to feel guilty about. You do not owe him. You'll not be cursed for you did not do any wrong.
My nephew’s father was not in his life either because he chose drugs over his family. My nephew is 18 now and doesn’t remember what his father look like. It’s a blessing that his father isn’t in his life because he’s a good kid and deserves better. I hope he becomes successful too.
Koj ua yog lawm os, txhob txhawj nws vim thaum nws tsim koj niam nws nrauj koj niam es xas neb ob niam tub rov rau koj tais nkawv ces yog tsis muaj lawv 3 leeg xyov koj niam neb yuav txom nyem npaum cas ntxiv. Yep, 20 years too late, no regrets, move on with your family and the grandparents and uncle who was there for you.
Me tub aw hais txog ntawm.k9j txiv ces tsis tas paub txog nws lawm os mog, koj txiv twb muab koj niam neb pov qhov ntuj puag thaum koj tseem mos mos ab lawm os, thaum yav hluas twb tsis paub tsis pom tsis hlub yus thaum yav laus txom nyem no ces mam ho paub txog yus li no crs tej noag kev npam.kev khaum tsis muaj nyob qhov twg li os, kav tsij rau siab ua yus lub neej xwb, thaum yus me los txog hnub no leej twg hlub yus ces yus hlub tus ntawd xwb thoaj tsim nqi rau yus txog kev hlub os.
Hmoob OG can be the cruelest and so judgmental. Just because he is your dad, doesn’t mean he deserves to be in your life. Some people lam yug me nyuam xwb lawv twb tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv. It’s too late for him to come back. I feel so sorry for your mom. Leej twg hlub yus ces yus nrog tus ntawd xwb os. Blood is not thicker than water.
CHILDRENS ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR PARENTS. Parents ARE OBLIGATED to take care of their kids. Childrens didn't choose to have the parents, the parents CHOSE to have them. You are not in the wrong for rejecting your father.
If he should call again, talk to him. Tell him that you also had your eyes and ears open to know who he is and you too love him only at heart, the same he said to you. He didn't love you in person so you can't love him in person. He didn't care for you in person so you can't care for him in person. He failed his duties as a father so you will fail your duties as a son. He abandoned over 20 years when a child needs a father so now you will abandon him when he needs a son.
Cov niag tib neeg quav kasino ces av tsi lim tsi tag yuav cia siab rau li hmoob hniaj hnub niam no muaj coob tus nrog niam kwv tij nyob xwb yog tsi muaj lawv ces mus nyob qab choj xwb lawv E😮😮Say no tus txiv dev lwj kas xwb ok.
Ib leej txiv zoo li koj txiv no xwb ces g quav ntsej kiag. Koj txiv muab koj tso tseg ua rau koj niam mob2 tuag kiag es hnub no g muaj chaw mus no ces tseem paub tias muaj yus ua tub no na. Hlub koj niam tais yawm txiv dab laug cov no thiaj yog koj cov cawm seej xwb.😂😂😂😂
Don't take him back. He's got to learn for himself how to be a decent human. He's still an evil selfish beast just eating to live off of you. He needs to go make his own money and be a man before he deserves you. Plus also, bring your mom back from the dead...that'll do.
Have you thought that maybe she doesn't love you that much? How can she just watch you do all the work and not help...very sad. And that's what your siblings and mom are thinking. They hate seeing you do all the work while she sits...that's not what love looks like. I hear you love her, you love her, but does she love YOU. I'm tired too. I don't want to work either. But I drag my ass off the couch to help clean the house and do chores so my beloved partner doesn't have to do everything. It's called teamwork. How can she just sit there and watch YOU do all the work. Thay hurts. If she can spend hours on make up and making herself beautiful, then she is selectively lazy. She just doesn't want to help you because you got her used to it. And YOU always sating you don't mind, you don't mind has taken all the guilt out of it. It's now a bad habit, her laziness. When you'rr old, you'll be bitter. When you're sick and she can't take care of you or the house, you'll be bitter and then you'll hate her. You're too young to know. It's all fun and love until someone is fed up, or sick.
Yog koj txiv mus ciaj huab tais ces nws twb tsis nug koj hmoo... Yog mus ciaj dev es thiaj hu rau koj xwb nawv. Koj txiv mas siab phem tas tas... Yog kuv ces muab nws block xwb.
Your dead beat dad is at a dead end that is why he wants you back in his life. Imagine if your life wasn’t good or if he is still living ok he will not even bother to contact you! Taking him back will be the biggest backstabbing you can do to your mom and her family.
Yes it's too late! Block him! He doesn't deserve you. If you were a loser like him, he wouldn't even care to look for you. Same thing happened with my son. He's 30 years old now and his sperm donor (dead beat father) is messaging him on FB, 🥴my son blocked him but he made another account to msg my son, even got his GF to msg. My son deactivate his FB because he wants nothing to do with that loser. I told my son to reply back but my son said "mom, he's nothing to me, I'm not wasting my time, if I reply back than he think he's worth something." 😅
Don’t feel any pressure or guilty not taking back that man left his sperm on your mom’s womb so your mother was the one that carried you for 9 months in her body, raised you from birth till she passed away. You have your grand parents and uncle, aunts that they raise you without any contributions from that man. Let him be a little man without you!!
Why you chose going back to your dad's Lub Xeem? If I were you, I will never turn myself back. Your mom and niam tais/yawm txiv are everything in your life. You are well educated and just wanted to leave a question for you. What is the difference between your mom Lub Xeem and your dad Lub Xeem? Lub Xeem twg yog lub cob koj tsim txiaj mas?
Pog nplas yawg nplas ces yog hmoob people ntag mas. Not single moms. Hmoob ces tsis muaj teb muaj chaw. Technically hmoob people don’t belong anywhere in the world. They have no claimed on earth because they don’t have a country that belongs to them. Definitely not plog teb or China. 🤔 hmmm I wonder why?
You did the right thing. Yeej tsis npam li. He’s just a sperm donor. Sad that your mom had a short life and she didn’t get to see you grow up and enjoy her grandchildren
Please don’t have anything to do with him. He abandoned you and your mother. He is the reason why your mother is dead. Don’t betray your mother, grandparents and uncle. They raised you and love you all your life. You don’t need a dead beat dad like him.
You’re blessed with a loving Maternal family. Grandparents, uncle and those around you. I’m happy to hear you’re doing good that the man who left you regret it.
Good response to the old man. Exactly how he needed to hear.
Good for you Brother. Do not let him ever into your life. I support your decision 💯.
You are bless to have great grandparents like your niam tias and yawn txiv
😭😢😥I feel so bad for the mom.
GOD JOB GOOD JOB. I love your message to your father.
Agreed with you brother. He doesn't deserves your love.
I applaud your decision. If you took back your dad, you'd have betrayed your Mom and the people who loved you from your Mom's side. A father can doubt whether a child was his, but a Mother always knows the child was hers. A father is more than just an ejaculation. You owed him nothing. Stay strong and I hope you'll never betray your Mom. By the way, a late repentent is often insincere.
Such a strong son, don't care about your dad due to where were he when you and your mom need him beside he didn't want you thats why he left your mom.
Zoo mloog heev 👍 👏 👌
Your yawm txiv and niam tais raised a very brave and smart grandson. That was a really great response to a deadbeat father. 👏
Good job, u made the right decision. Ur Dad don't deserve your love.
Don’t give in. He only want to use you.
Wow son I applause your perseverance and your sucess. Sorry for you have to be an orphan at such a young age, but thanks to your uncle ya, your grandpa and grandma. I know your mom's spirit is very happy for you and your family.
I'm glad you didn't take your father in. He is not worth your time and money.
Please DON'T accept your rotten, loser father into your life, EVER! If you do, you will betray all the love and support your late mother's parents & uncle gave you, and you will seriously hurt them. DON'T let him guilt trip you into letting him, a toxic person, into your life. Aside from your wife & children, the only people deserving of your love and support are those who were there for you and your mother when you most needed help, NOT someone who abandoned you & your mother because he was too selfish to be a good father and husband! You will never be npam because you don't owe him anything! Live a happy life with the family you created, and know that all the "father figure" you will ever need is in the form of your yawmtxiv and dablaug. A physical father is worthless if he was never a father figure to you. Stay true to your words to your late mother so you can be proud of the good man you have become.
I’m glad u didn’t get back with him. He is the reason your mom got stroke & passes way. Let him suffer.
You are so blessed to have a wonderful uncle and maternal grandparents. I applaud them for being so strong for you and your mom. Your father is no more than a sperm donor. Sperm donors do not have wny rights to corner their offsprings to take responsibility of them. He was not there for you when you needed him most. You have no responsibility to him. You owe him nothing. Do not feel guilty. You owe it to yourself to only surround yourself with those who love you and have been there for you. Honestly if you dad still had a lady to support him he would not think twice to reach out.
Good for you to not accept him as your dad. Honestly, you are better of without your dead beat father. Stay close to your mom’s family because they truly love you
Great response to him! Glad you stood your ground. He does not deserve you.
Eye rollllll
Brother, you made the correct decision. If we forgive and accept this kind of abusive and neglected fathers, everyone would continue to neglect their fatherhood responsibility in early age and return to receive children fortunes at dying age.
Tseem hluas hluas
Koj txiv dev ua ua koj niam thiaj li mob strokes tuag kiag. Hlub koj os me tub ntsuag.
Maternal grandparents and that side of family are the best. I know from experiences. You are a strong man. Don't ever let that peice of scum of the earth back in your life. I'm sorry for the loss of your mother.
Good for you. Hooray do not acknowledge him. He just want to mooch off you and your wife. Nothing to feel guilty about. You do not owe him. You'll not be cursed for you did not do any wrong.
I Wouldn’t Accept His / Her Sorry Too! Whoever It Is For Me?! 20 Yrs & That’s Sad! 😢❤😮
Zoo kawg, koj txiv twb tuag thaum koj niam tsis tau tuag os. Hlub koj niam, niam tais yawm txiv, dab laug lauv thiaj tsis npam koj xwb.
My nephew’s father was not in his life either because he chose drugs over his family. My nephew is 18 now and doesn’t remember what his father look like. It’s a blessing that his father isn’t in his life because he’s a good kid and deserves better. I hope he becomes successful too.
Koj ua yog lawm os, txhob txhawj nws vim thaum nws tsim koj niam nws nrauj koj niam es xas neb ob niam tub rov rau koj tais nkawv ces yog tsis muaj lawv 3 leeg xyov koj niam neb yuav txom nyem npaum cas ntxiv. Yep, 20 years too late, no regrets, move on with your family and the grandparents and uncle who was there for you.
Me tub aw hais txog ntawm.k9j txiv ces tsis tas paub txog nws lawm os mog, koj txiv twb muab koj niam neb pov qhov ntuj puag thaum koj tseem mos mos ab lawm os, thaum yav hluas twb tsis paub tsis pom tsis hlub yus thaum yav laus txom nyem no ces mam ho paub txog yus li no crs tej noag kev npam.kev khaum tsis muaj nyob qhov twg li os, kav tsij rau siab ua yus lub neej xwb, thaum yus me los txog hnub no leej twg hlub yus ces yus hlub tus ntawd xwb thoaj tsim nqi rau yus txog kev hlub os.
Make peace with your past. Give your dad a chance. If he doesn't change then you have no regret.
At least he could of visited and pay child support. Roll your eyes and walk away!!
You made a very good decision. He’s only contacting you so he could use you. He don’t qualify thiab yeej yuav tsis Npam koj kiag li.
He sees you better now so he contacted you. But if you turn out to be a bad poor kid, he won't even call.
Hmoob OG can be the cruelest and so judgmental. Just because he is your dad, doesn’t mean he deserves to be in your life. Some people lam yug me nyuam xwb lawv twb tsis txawj ua niam ua txiv. It’s too late for him to come back. I feel so sorry for your mom. Leej twg hlub yus ces yus nrog tus ntawd xwb os. Blood is not thicker than water.
Brother, don't do it. He threw you and your Mom out like garbage. Now he can be garbage. Only love your family who loves you.
Hi you don't need him in your life😊
Hey kwvtij, peb Hmoob tsis need nyob muaj caj muaj ces li neeg tribes. Hmoob lubneej twb tsis twg
Txhob feel guilty os ua li koj niam hais xwb, koj kav tsij hlub koj dab laug thiab niam tais yawm txiv xwb os mog.
I will do the same thing too. I will not take this dirty old dog in my house.
Aww.....theem qhab hu niag leej txi ntawv ua niag Dog kiag li ?!!! This story is very hurt and tears, huh!
CHILDRENS ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR PARENTS. Parents ARE OBLIGATED to take care of their kids. Childrens didn't choose to have the parents, the parents CHOSE to have them. You are not in the wrong for rejecting your father.
Me tub tsis tas khes22 nws li os. Koj tsis hlub nws los yeej tsis npam koj li os. Tab tsis cov hlub22 koj thiab tu22 koj. Yog koj tsis hlub lawv ses tsis npam ntau los npam me ov. Hlub cov hlub yus xwb os.
If he should call again, talk to him. Tell him that you also had your eyes and ears open to know who he is and you too love him only at heart, the same he said to you. He didn't love you in person so you can't love him in person. He didn't care for you in person so you can't care for him in person. He failed his duties as a father so you will fail your duties as a son. He abandoned over 20 years when a child needs a father so now you will abandon him when he needs a son.
Cov niag tib neeg quav kasino ces av tsi lim tsi tag yuav cia siab rau li hmoob hniaj hnub niam no muaj coob tus nrog niam kwv tij nyob xwb yog tsi muaj lawv ces mus nyob qab choj xwb lawv E😮😮Say no tus txiv dev lwj kas xwb ok.
Ib leej txiv zoo li koj txiv no xwb ces g quav ntsej kiag. Koj txiv muab koj tso tseg ua rau koj niam mob2 tuag kiag es hnub no g muaj chaw mus no ces tseem paub tias muaj yus ua tub no na. Hlub koj niam tais yawm txiv dab laug cov no thiaj yog koj cov cawm seej xwb.😂😂😂😂
Don't take him back. He's got to learn for himself how to be a decent human. He's still an evil selfish beast just eating to live off of you. He needs to go make his own money and be a man before he deserves you. Plus also, bring your mom back from the dead...that'll do.
Have you thought that maybe she doesn't love you that much? How can she just watch you do all the work and not help...very sad. And that's what your siblings and mom are thinking. They hate seeing you do all the work while she sits...that's not what love looks like. I hear you love her, you love her, but does she love YOU. I'm tired too. I don't want to work either. But I drag my ass off the couch to help clean the house and do chores so my beloved partner doesn't have to do everything. It's called teamwork. How can she just sit there and watch YOU do all the work. Thay hurts. If she can spend hours on make up and making herself beautiful, then she is selectively lazy. She just doesn't want to help you because you got her used to it. And YOU always sating you don't mind, you don't mind has taken all the guilt out of it. It's now a bad habit, her laziness. When you'rr old, you'll be bitter. When you're sick and she can't take care of you or the house, you'll be bitter and then you'll hate her. You're too young to know. It's all fun and love until someone is fed up, or sick.
Yog koj txiv mus ciaj huab tais ces nws twb tsis nug koj hmoo... Yog mus ciaj dev es thiaj hu rau koj xwb nawv. Koj txiv mas siab phem tas tas... Yog kuv ces muab nws block xwb.
Your dead beat dad is at a dead end that is why he wants you back in his life. Imagine if your life wasn’t good or if he is still living ok he will not even bother to contact you! Taking him back will be the biggest backstabbing you can do to your mom and her family.
Yes it's too late! Block him! He doesn't deserve you. If you were a loser like him, he wouldn't even care to look for you. Same thing happened with my son. He's 30 years old now and his sperm donor (dead beat father) is messaging him on FB, 🥴my son blocked him but he made another account to msg my son, even got his GF to msg. My son deactivate his FB because he wants nothing to do with that loser. I told my son to reply back but my son said "mom, he's nothing to me, I'm not wasting my time, if I reply back than he think he's worth something." 😅
Don’t feel any pressure or guilty not taking back that man left his sperm on your mom’s womb so your mother was the one that carried you for 9 months in her body, raised you from birth till she passed away. You have your grand parents and uncle, aunts that they raise you without any contributions from that man. Let him be a little man without you!!
Why you chose going back to your dad's Lub Xeem? If I were you, I will never turn myself back. Your mom and niam tais/yawm txiv are everything in your life.
You are well educated and just wanted to leave a question for you. What is the difference between your mom Lub Xeem and your dad Lub Xeem? Lub Xeem twg yog lub cob koj tsim txiaj mas?
Pog nplas yawg nplas ces yog hmoob people ntag mas. Not single moms.
Hmoob ces tsis muaj teb muaj chaw. Technically hmoob people don’t belong anywhere in the world.
They have no claimed on earth because they don’t have a country that belongs to them. Definitely not plog teb or China. 🤔 hmmm I wonder why?
Forget about your old men ok.
If you didn't listen to your mom requested and you take your old men home with you, it mine be a curve son ok.
You did the right thing. Yeej tsis npam li. He’s just a sperm donor. Sad that your mom had a short life and she didn’t get to see you grow up and enjoy her grandchildren