I know someone who's aunt was killed by her 29 year old, non verbal Autistic son. She always said he was such a sweet boy, and that she'd do everything she could to keep him at home. Sometimes, you have to know your limitations, and let the professionals take over. It doesn't mean you don't love someone, it means that you are being realistic.
My brother is severely autistic and limited verbal. He was also very aggressive as a kid. As he grew older, my mom and dad knew they wouldn't be able to physically handle him. Letting g him go to a group home was the best decision they ever made. He calmed down, felt like he was gaining a degree of independence, and really became more social with family and friends.
What a godsend your support system is, he is kept safe and well cared for. So lovely to see him come back to the family home for visits. You have given him the best of both worlds, he has some independance which is wonderful. I am sure your video has helped a lot of other families who probably felt very alone and unsupported. Thank you for your bravery and honesty in showing just how difficult the situation was.
I couldn’t imagine being so desperate and calling a mental health crisis line for help and being told there’s nothing they could do for me or my child! That should never happen. If they can’t directly help, they should know exactly where to point you for the help you need. That situation could’ve caused a desperate parent to give up and take theirs or their child’s life, or both!
@@karendegenerous8044 don’t say you agree with someone’s comment regarding mental health while saying on another vid that mental disorders are an excuse and don’t exist
there are so many of us living with adult children with autism. Violence and destruction of our homes is part of our everyday lives. I feel for this family. my son is 22 years old .. such a familiar story .
have you been able to get your son on the waiting list for Home and Community Based Services Medicaid Waiver Program? It took us 15 years on the list to finally get the services our son needed as an adult. We did put him on the list at the age of 5.
God bless you for finding such an amazing home for your precious son. As the mother of 3 adult children I can't even fathom what you went through trying to get the help you needed.
I know the first things that a parent will feel is blame & shame. But as Dr. Phil likes to say "this situation is beyond your pay scale". The people who run group homes like these (like my friend Patrick) are a God-send. To both the parents & to the people who live in them. Asking for help is never a weakness. It's a strength. I only wish there were more places like this with good caring people who spend their lives making a safe place for the people who need extra help in life. If you have a son or daughter who's autistic or have other problems, please don't wait until things get bad. Start long before that to find help. It isn't easy but there IS help out there!
To the both of you. You are loving wonderful parents. You have done all you can. Please take care of yourselves My heart is with you all as a family. As well as prayers
I don't know why I picked this video out to watch,but I'm so glad I did! Steven is the luckiest boy to have such loving,attentive, caring and smart parents! TY for showing us!
My heart breaks for your son. He is prayed for, darlings. I know a lady who just lost her mind and thinks three men are her husband. God gave each of us power, love and a sound mind. 🙏 You all are loving people. ❤️
So glad he’s doing so much better and everyone is safe. Breaks my heart to think about families that don’t have the means or resources to be able to have this kind of care for their child.
Society needs to not look at the physical appearance of these children. My heart hurt for the pain their parents went through which then turned to the upmost respect. They fought for their babies because in the end that is who these beautiful boys are their babies. Much love to all
This is such a wonderful family. A wonderful precious son. So very happy he is doing well, which I know as a mother makes you happy and relaxed in life as well
Not even loving caring parents should have to live in fear of their own safety and their own lives. Nor the destruction of everything they work to build their entire lives. That’s just how I feel about it. He is where he needs to be.
I know how you feel my daughter has Autism she's 33 now and so much better than when she was a young girl she struggled threw her childhood but she's getting there now
What level was she diagnosed with ? My little one unfortunatly has been diagnosed with level 3 . We are spending all our money in therapy because i cannot come to terms with the idea that he may never get married, have a family and just have a normal life. He is so little. Will be 3 in june.
Gosh. I can understand this to a degree. My son has an intellectual disability and autism and anxiety. It has and still is sooo tough. We've had a lot of things damaged and destroyed. The battle with our National Disability scheme here in Australia is just horrendous. I'm trying to find somewhere for my son which is extremely difficult due to lack of funding. I'm at the point of not being able to cope. My son also has what I refer to as meltdowns, I've called ambulances so many times with police in attendance. They take him to hospital for 24 hours, give him a sedative, then back home again for everything to repeat itself again. My son is on medication and has a psychiatrist and a psychologist. It truly is a very very difficult road.
I’m so sorry my son is on the spectrum mild with learning disabilities his in supportive living and comes home to me at weekends his 44 now my heart feels for you there are places to help well in England 🏴 where I am I hope u get th help you need
My nephew worked in a group home about 30 years ago and they kept some patients strapped in wheelchairs to keep them from hurting themselves and others. This young man is thriving in a safe and caring place.
Now they aren't allowed to leave them strapped in. I think protection of staff and others is important and takes precedence over allowing the disabled child "freedom".
@@universeofopulence No PANDAS is not caused by viruses, it’s caused by strep infections. It’s really interesting, you should look in to it! Also this documentary is about 15 years old.
Lovely programme. Here in the UK there is no way we can afford to pay for someone to have a separate home and 3 full time carers - we are just as a nation far too poor for that. Even that first house with the pool is like nothing many of us can even dream of here in the UK.
That's because you are sadly paying to support millions of people flowing into your country, who will never have any reason to work because they get it all for free, and-so will never pay back into your system (as in taxes). Just like ours, your system will be bankrupted, and the funds collected from the working citizens in taxes, that should be going towards your retirement, etc., are going to support those people and their children forever.
They are very smart in certain subjects but lack control in others my son is autistic but high functioning now at 17. I worked sohard learning things as i went along. That's the only thing i could do.he Was diagnosed at 2.5. It was challenge because not much was known or treatment. My grandson has other mental social w autism n is pretty much in his own world at11 never had friends..narrates his day long. I work with him in his challenges. Change is difficult for all of them. OCD And anger is easier turned to rage because they did not know how to vocalize things. Sign language can be used for them to learn at those points use. I speak to my grandson in Spanish sometimesand now he will say it to me when he gets mad. I find it redirects his mind. Every child is different and it's a lot of trial and error. You are doing the best you can and are very loving parents. Do not ever feel like it's your fault.!!!!! My son s were invitro. My first son died from kidney failure right before born. My son now autistic. Both were not high numbers through IVF. I have 2 daughters from previous husband that are 16 n 18yrs older. No symptoms of any disorders. It is just not known why in certain children. You have to be safe yourself. Bless you all
What level was he diagnosed with ? My little boy unfortunatly level 3. He will be 3 y old in june. We are spending all our money in therapy because i cannot come to terms with the idea that he will never be able to get married, have family and frinds and its breaking me. Its literally breaking my heart and soul.
@@muslimah42 I understand you’re so sad for what you dreamed for your son. But, I honestly think you may have to let the dream you have for him, go. He probably has new dreams for you to reach, like communication, being able to function enough to care somewhat for himself, etc. your son is only 3 years old. Marriage would be years away for anyone, even without autism. So, try not to have him run before he can walk. If you carry on being disappointed by him, you will end up with resentment for the boy you thought he’d be. He’s not that boy…. He’s YOUR boy, and he has milestones to reach. Focus on those. 🌹
@@muslimah42 Hi friend. We have autism in my family. You must understand that your son won't miss being married or having his own children so therefore it isn't a "loss". You must stop thinking this way. We had to stop thinking this way too. Focus your energy on ABA training, establishing a communication system,etc. One important thing we did was to put solid plates over electrical outlets in his bedroom, bars on windows, and reverse bedroom door to lock on outside so we could lock him in at night. And a ceiling mounted camera so we could see what he was doing. Also all home exits/ground floor windows need to have a sensor that makes a big noise when opened. Install bar locks up high on doors. This helps prevents escapes. Sending you a big hug and prayers.
You Are not alone. My little girl also has autism. My dreams for her of having a normal life are crushed. I am so worried about what will become of her when er die. Are you coping better now?
This was such a brave and honest account..you will have undoubtedly helped others as well as your own child...I just wanted to reach into this video and give this mother a hug!❤
I’m going to say something opposite to everyone else . If I had a child like this , I would want him to go to sleep and not wake up They have no quality of life ,they have no future , I don’t say this to be mean , I say it , because it’s just too heart breaking for the child now adult . It’s a constant worry for the parents , that child will out live the parents ,then what ,who keeps an eye on him , how safe will he be ! There is no answer ☹️
A lot of people might not believe me because I am replying to the video but I am very autistic and and can be non verbal and I have a very high IQ but I have hurd a lot of stories like this and I want you to know that you are not alone ❤
My beautiful daughter has a daughter that is autistic & her daughter ended up clubbing my daughter on the head with a heavy pan , she steals .. she's an incipient phycopath ( in my opinion) . She now lives in a group home ; which is best .
I have an autistic child who is only 7. At this stage never ever displayed any aggression. I do worry about teen hormones and what will happen. We are already seeing friends be no longer interested in my child's life as the rituals and not liking these other kids touching things that are in certain places in our home, and not being interested in the outside world . Very much living in own world and it is getting harder and harder to get out of this . But the love I have for my child will never fade
I really wish more parents talked about this like the documentary. How I wish someone would have warned me. But yes, puberty and hormones (especially males) will change everything. Being a teen is so rough, think about it. It’s so much more intense with Autism. It literally happens overnight. It may be just a rough patch, it may be repetitive then end with maturity, or it may be permanent. You never know.
I had an experience with a normal (not autistic) young man, age 17, who was very very angry at the time, and said, " I want to break something. I want to break this chair," with his hands on one of my dining room chairs. Now I owned that chair and he wasn't even mad at me, he was mad at someone else. I said, "No. That chair belongs to ME. Go break something of your own." Something clicked in his brain at that moment, and he was never destructive again. I suppose ownership began to make sense to him, when it was suggested he break his own stuff.
I empathise with Mr and Mrs Alexander. I'm an autistic author - five books since COVID - and my autism stems from rewiring following a stroke as a baby. I have severe anxiety from the rewiring and also work for and assist my folks who use walking sticks.
I feel so badly for him and for his family, having to give him away for a time. I don't know what it is like to have a child with autism, but I really don't know what else they could have done. I do wish the police had skipped the handcuffs since he was calm, but I understand the police have safety to worry about as well.
The amount of Ads on this site is disgusting; What is it about these Australian channels that love to bombard as many of these stupid idiotic ads as they can.
I've seen videos about other children who's entire personality changed after having a virus. The doctors were able to reverse the damage so perhaps Steven could benefit from further investigation by the medical community.
"PANDAS stands for pediatric autoimmune neuropsychiatric disorders associated with streptococcus. The syndrome involves sudden and often major changes in personality, behavior, and movement in children following an infection involving Streptococcus pyogenes (streptococcal-Ainfection)."
@@heyitsriver5456 you're the one making yourself look like a fool. They aren't saying autism is caused by a virus, they're suggesting that the virus the child suffered with may have triggered PANDAS which can cause neuropsychiatric problems amongst other symptoms and can develop into a chronic autoimmune condition.
My nearly 26 yr old son has severe Undiagnosed and untreated OCD and he is barely functioning, but because he is not saying he is homicidal or suicidal, there seems to be nothing I can do......such a long story as is yours.....and he won't talk to me.....ugh......praying for help!!!
I noticed the family had a pupper. Does that help at all? I know animals can be a huge help. If the family pupper doesn't help maybe a different animal. I'm not on the spectrum, but I have a variety of physical and mental illnesses. My cats are my lifeline. When I was having regular seizures Indie the Cat would always be there when I came around. At night St. Francis the Cat sleeps on my legs, offering deep pressure therapy. I have fewer nightmares.
Cinder block walls? So that he breaks a bone or head when hitting? He spent 24 hours in the emergency room, hitting a concrete wall, the mother said that the wall was covered in blood. No, your idea is not the solution.
These parents are in complete denial and are not facing facts so that he can live a safe and comfortable life because he needs to be heavily medicated. People like this keep wishing there's some miracle cure or something they can do. At least they're not giving him the keys to a car
Medication is often not the answer with autism, for many it makes things worse: theres a much higher incidence of extra pyramidal symptoms from major tranquillisers, paradoxical reactions to benzodiazepines, neuromalignant syndrome and serotonin syndrome than the general population. Once you start adding medications with autism more likely than not you're going to be adding more and more medications rather than solving anything (there's are some lucky exceptions to this). It seems this family tried medication plenty but it didn't help massively, the change in behaviour which was maybe aggregated by him picking up on changes in his parents behaviour with their own health issues and slight changes to his routines: these kids and adults with high anxiety and support needs need a level of predicability absolutely no family can maintain 24hrs a day for the rest of their lives but can be maintained with the right care and support from multiple people working together.
I’ve said this so many times through my adult life, God did not give me a child with special needs because I strongly believe that he knew I absolutely could not handle it. My heart breaks for this family the parents were so devastated talking about what happened in the home you could see it in their eyes especially his mom.
Anything....depending on his meds he could be having hallucinations. Noises you do not hear, he can hear and the sound is extremely loud and irritating to him. He does not process sensory things in the same way you do. His brain doesn't filter and he can become over stimulated. There are many factors that can occur with autism that we just do not understand. We look for triggers and do our best to avoid them.
I know someone who's aunt was killed by her 29 year old, non verbal Autistic son. She always said he was such a sweet boy, and that she'd do everything she could to keep him at home. Sometimes, you have to know your limitations, and let the professionals take over. It doesn't mean you don't love someone, it means that you are being realistic.
Most intelligent comment in this whole section 👍
My brother is severely autistic and limited verbal. He was also very aggressive as a kid. As he grew older, my mom and dad knew they wouldn't be able to physically handle him. Letting g him go to a group home was the best decision they ever made. He calmed down, felt like he was gaining a degree of independence, and really became more social with family and friends.
You should share your opinion more ebecaise lots of people tend to feel guilty and it's so important to know there is no reason for it
Love is doing what's right for someone even if that means putting them in a place where they are safe and so are u and others
Did he go to prison?
I'm so happy that he has genuine carers that love him, not everyone gets that, unfortunately.
That gentle souled warrior who cares for him is a beautiful man x
Mom, you are amazing! Dad, you are amazing! His caregiver knows him so well and I think you all are lucky to have found him.
What a godsend your support system is, he is kept safe and well cared for. So lovely to see him come back to the family home for visits. You have given him the best of both worlds, he has some independance which is wonderful. I am sure your video has helped a lot of other families who probably felt very alone and unsupported. Thank you for your bravery and honesty in showing just how difficult the situation was.
Such kids should be locked up. And mad to do factory work or clean up the land next to highways.
I couldn’t imagine being so desperate and calling a mental health crisis line for help and being told there’s nothing they could do for me or my child! That should never happen. If they can’t directly help, they should know exactly where to point you for the help you need. That situation could’ve caused a desperate parent to give up and take theirs or their child’s life, or both!
I totally agree with you.
@@karendegenerous8044 don’t say you agree with someone’s comment regarding mental health while saying on another vid that mental disorders are an excuse and don’t exist
there are so many of us living with adult children with autism. Violence and destruction of our homes is part of our everyday lives. I feel for this family. my son is 22 years old .. such a familiar story .
have you been able to get your son on the waiting list for Home and Community Based Services Medicaid Waiver Program? It took us 15 years on the list to finally get the services our son needed as an adult. We did put him on the list at the age of 5.
@@theirmom4723 Hello can I ask you something?
See my comment. I'm a nearly 40 year old autistic bachelor, son, uncle, author and carer.
I have extreme anxiety most of the time.
Same with families of Down syndrome
Family violence. No excuses
God bless you for finding such an amazing home for your precious son. As the mother of 3 adult children I can't even fathom what you went through trying to get the help you needed.
he's very lucky to have all that support. God Bless him.
I know the first things that a parent will feel is blame & shame. But as Dr. Phil likes to say "this situation is beyond your pay scale". The people who run group homes like these (like my friend Patrick) are a God-send. To both the parents & to the people who live in them. Asking for help is never a weakness. It's a strength. I only wish there were more places like this with good caring people who spend their lives making a safe place for the people who need extra help in life. If you have a son or daughter who's autistic or have other problems, please don't wait until things get bad. Start long before that to find help. It isn't easy but there IS help out there!
To the both of you.
You are loving wonderful parents.
You have done all you can.
Please take care of yourselves
My heart is with you all as a family.
As well as prayers
I don't know why I picked this video out to watch,but I'm so glad I did! Steven is the luckiest boy to have such loving,attentive, caring and smart parents! TY for showing us!
My heart breaks for your son. He is prayed for, darlings. I know a lady who just lost her mind and thinks three men are her husband.
God gave each of us power, love and a sound mind. 🙏
You all are loving people. ❤️
So glad he’s doing so much better and everyone is safe.
Breaks my heart to think about families that don’t have the means or resources to be able to have this kind of care for their child.
Society needs to not look at the physical appearance of these children. My heart hurt for the pain their parents went through which then turned to the upmost respect. They fought for their babies because in the end that is who these beautiful boys are their babies. Much love to all
This is such a wonderful family. A wonderful precious son. So very happy he is doing well, which I know as a mother makes you happy and relaxed in life as well
Very strong living parents who just got to the end before accepting they needed help. Thanks for sharing
Not even loving caring parents should have to live in fear of their own safety and their own lives. Nor the destruction of everything they work to build their entire lives. That’s just how I feel about it. He is where he needs to be.
I agree 💯
This video reduced me to tears. My heart goes out to your family. Sending live and prayers from Scotland
I would be afraid to go to sleep. Afraid of being hurt.
Bless you both for being such loving parents. ❤️
The parents and his sister did the best they could for him. It’s very difficult for them. But ultimately he’s where he belongs.
What an amazing mother and human being,she is absolutely doing her best for her beautiful son ❤
I know how you feel my daughter has Autism she's 33 now and so much better than when she was a young girl she struggled threw her childhood but she's getting there now
What level was she diagnosed with ? My little one unfortunatly has been diagnosed with level 3 . We are spending all our money in therapy because i cannot come to terms with the idea that he may never get married, have a family and just have a normal life. He is so little. Will be 3 in june.
Gosh. I can understand this to a degree. My son has an intellectual disability and autism and anxiety. It has and still is sooo tough. We've had a lot of things damaged and destroyed. The battle with our National Disability scheme here in Australia is just horrendous. I'm trying to find somewhere for my son which is extremely difficult due to lack of funding.
I'm at the point of not being able to cope.
My son also has what I refer to as meltdowns, I've called ambulances so many times with police in attendance. They take him to hospital for 24 hours, give him a sedative, then back home again for everything to repeat itself again. My son is on medication and has a psychiatrist and a psychologist. It truly is a very very difficult road.
I’m so sorry my son is on the spectrum mild with learning disabilities his in supportive living and comes home to me at weekends his 44 now my heart feels for you there are places to help well in England 🏴 where I am I hope u get th help you need
My nephew worked in a group home about 30 years ago and they kept some patients strapped in wheelchairs to keep them from hurting themselves and others. This young man is thriving in a safe and caring place.
Now they aren't allowed to leave them strapped in. I think protection of staff and others is important and takes precedence over allowing the disabled child "freedom".
That's 30 yrs ago thank goodness and bad practice even then. Today we use positive behaviour support.
20 year old man with disabilities. So tough. My heart goes out to this family. 😢
This is actually more terrifying than any horror movie ever could be.
Yeah because this is reality unlike movies which for the most part are fake
My immediate thought when they said he’d been sick right before the changes is PANDAS disease. I really hope they’ve looked into that.
@@universeofopulence No PANDAS is not caused by viruses, it’s caused by strep infections. It’s really interesting, you should look in to it!
Also this documentary is about 15 years old.
@@universeofopulenceSuch a ridiculous comment.
@@randibgood ... don't be such a Dumbo
@@universeofopulence So proud of your idiocy you deleted it. Can't say as I blame you.
@@randibgood .... what are you blabbering on about...move on stalker, I'm muting you, keep on barking
God bless this family, friends and those wonderful carers.
Sometimes it's too much or too potentially dangerous to keep children with mental disabilities at home especially as they get bigger and stronger.
Thank you so much for the video. It gave me so much hope!
Those caters are amazing - such a horrible illness and so good that Stephen’s lovely parents, and Stephen, have this support❤️
Autism isn't an illness, it's a disability and neurotype.
@@autisticzuko2750 My therapist called is a diffability - differently abled.
I had a stroke as a baby and my brain got rewired hence autism.
It's not an illness
This video is heart wrenching.
Bless him so glad u and him got the help luv from uk 🇬🇧
Lovely programme. Here in the UK there is no way we can afford to pay for someone to have a separate home and 3 full time carers - we are just as a nation far too poor for that. Even that first house with the pool is like nothing many of us can even dream of here in the UK.
Get rid of the knives.
That's because you are sadly paying to support millions of people flowing into your country, who will never have any reason to work because they get it all for free, and-so will never pay back into your system (as in taxes).
Just like ours, your system will be bankrupted, and the funds collected from the working citizens in taxes, that should be going towards your retirement, etc., are going to support those people and their children forever.
But 1 person can have a whole team in uk
Whataboutery
They are very smart in certain subjects but lack control in others my son is autistic but high functioning now at 17. I worked sohard learning things as i went along. That's the only thing i could do.he Was diagnosed at 2.5. It was challenge because not much was known or treatment. My grandson has other mental social w autism n is pretty much in his own world at11 never had friends..narrates his day long. I work with him in his challenges. Change is difficult for all of them. OCD And anger is easier turned to rage because they did not know how to vocalize things. Sign language can be used for them to learn at those points use. I speak to my grandson in Spanish sometimesand now he will say it to me when he gets mad. I find it redirects his mind. Every child is different and it's a lot of trial and error. You are doing the best you can and are very loving parents. Do not ever feel like it's your fault.!!!!! My son s were invitro. My first son died from kidney failure right before born. My son now autistic. Both were not high numbers through IVF. I have 2 daughters from previous husband that are 16 n 18yrs older. No symptoms of any disorders. It is just not known why in certain children. You have to be safe yourself. Bless you all
Hugs to you❤️
Thanks
No autistic person is the same. High/low functioning is not appreciated by us autistic people
Beautiful family, I so hope things are going really well for you, much luv. Polly x
I had this same experience with our autistic child. He also destroyed walls and windows.
What level was he diagnosed with ? My little boy unfortunatly level 3.
He will be 3 y old in june.
We are spending all our money in therapy because i cannot come to terms with the idea that he will never be able to get married, have family and frinds and its breaking me. Its literally breaking my heart and soul.
@@muslimah42 I understand you’re so sad for what you dreamed for your son. But, I honestly think you may have to let the dream you have for him, go. He probably has new dreams for you to reach, like communication, being able to function enough to care somewhat for himself, etc. your son is only 3 years old. Marriage would be years away for anyone, even without autism. So, try not to have him run before he can walk. If you carry on being disappointed by him, you will end up with resentment for the boy you thought he’d be. He’s not that boy…. He’s YOUR boy, and he has milestones to reach. Focus on those. 🌹
@@muslimah42 Hi friend. We have autism in my family. You must understand that your son won't miss being married or having his own children so therefore it isn't a "loss". You must stop thinking this way. We had to stop thinking this way too. Focus your energy on ABA training, establishing a communication system,etc. One important thing we did was to put solid plates over electrical outlets in his bedroom, bars on windows, and reverse bedroom door to lock on outside so we could lock him in at night. And a ceiling mounted camera so we could see what he was doing. Also all home exits/ground floor windows need to have a sensor that makes a big noise when opened. Install bar locks up high on doors. This helps prevents escapes. Sending you a big hug and prayers.
You Are not alone. My little girl also has autism. My dreams for her of having a normal life are crushed. I am so worried about what will become of her when er die. Are you coping better now?
Oh god…. I cried so much when the poor mum was telling of him being taken away
Thank you for this video, maybe my family future can be changed.
I'm so happy for this family. Love nd Light to them 🙏🌻👌👍🐦
Such lovely parents good luck with everything,
This was such a brave and honest account..you will have undoubtedly helped others as well as your own child...I just wanted to reach into this video and give this mother a hug!❤
My heart is pouring you rain of love from us all
God bless you and your family! I hope that you find a path to peace.
Resources have shrunk and there are not nearly enough well run group homes and other alternatives out there.
How can you afford this wonderful service? I am happy things are better now.
I’m going to say something opposite to everyone else . If I had a child like this , I would want him to go to sleep and not wake up
They have no quality of life ,they have no future , I don’t say this to be mean , I say it , because it’s just too heart breaking for the child now adult . It’s a constant worry for the parents , that child will out live the parents ,then what ,who keeps an eye on him , how safe will he be ! There is no answer ☹️
the onset of his condition sounds very similar to a condition called PANDAS.
What a beautiful family ❤️ such a tender story.
He's got one of those weird long hauler effects from strep infection.Very rare but happens.
No he was clearly autistic before and so is his sister in my opinion. It's correlation not causation.
God bless these parents.
Prayers for this family
God bless you for opening up your hearts and souls
A must see absolutely tragic we can change this,,!
This behavior security team is great he is hero too I’m sure during COVID as well.They are heros
If there had been early intervention he would have been able to be really rehabilitated would it be different
You have done your best for him so that's good
Farout! What amazing parents ❤️
Beautiful heart parents
This Poor family, I feel so sorry for them...
Thoughts & Prayers to your family
A lot of people might not believe me because I am replying to the video but I am very autistic and and can be non verbal and I have a very high IQ but I have hurd a lot of stories like this and I want you to know that you are not alone ❤
I am so sorry, it must be so difficult for all of you
My beautiful daughter has a daughter that is autistic & her daughter ended up clubbing my daughter on the head with a heavy pan , she steals .. she's an incipient phycopath ( in my opinion) . She now lives in a group home ; which is best .
My daughter is 5 yo autistic and I'm afraid she turns out this way😢
Bless his heart
I have an autistic child who is only 7. At this stage never ever displayed any aggression. I do worry about teen hormones and what will happen. We are already seeing friends be no longer interested in my child's life as the rituals and not liking these other kids touching things that are in certain places in our home, and not being interested in the outside world . Very much living in own world and it is getting harder and harder to get out of this . But the love I have for my child will never fade
I really wish more parents talked about this like the documentary. How I wish someone would have warned me. But yes, puberty and hormones (especially males) will change everything. Being a teen is so rough, think about it. It’s so much more intense with Autism. It literally happens overnight. It may be just a rough patch, it may be repetitive then end with maturity, or it may be permanent. You never know.
thank you for sharing x
I had an experience with a normal (not autistic) young man, age 17, who was very very angry at the time, and said, " I want to break something. I want to break this chair," with his hands on one of my dining room chairs. Now I owned that chair and he wasn't even mad at me, he was mad at someone else. I said, "No. That chair belongs to ME. Go break something of your own." Something clicked in his brain at that moment, and he was never destructive again. I suppose ownership began to make sense to him, when it was suggested he break his own stuff.
r/thathappened
Vaosila is a gentle giant angel 😇
And it sounds like this virus caused some neuro damage they refused to address.
No you can see he was already autistic
True love.. you both look beautiful xx
Very uplifting.!!!
Prayers 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I empathise with Mr and Mrs Alexander. I'm an autistic author - five books since COVID - and my autism stems from rewiring following a stroke as a baby.
I have severe anxiety from the rewiring and also work for and assist my folks who use walking sticks.
I feel so badly for him and for his family, having to give him away for a time. I don't know what it is like to have a child with autism, but I really don't know what else they could have done. I do wish the police had skipped the handcuffs since he was calm, but I understand the police have safety to worry about as well.
Yes It Is so sad.unfair why
Oh my heart breaks for them. How terribly tragic
We absolutely believe he was a loving little heart love heals all wounds
What an absolute nightmare. An absolutely abysmal way to live. My heart goes out to families existing this way
Viruses can infect/affect the brain, there is blood work for brain viruses/disease from, don't know how soon during virus it has to be done.
Heart breaking
The amount of Ads on this site is disgusting; What is it about these Australian channels that love to bombard as many of these stupid idiotic ads as they can.
I agree, here we are, talking about life changing mental health/neurological issues. And the ads are plugging alcohol!
New Zealand
Could he also has pandas because he's changed after that virus.
Iove the way he said cup cakes .
I've seen videos about other children who's entire personality changed after having a virus. The doctors were able to reverse the damage so perhaps Steven could benefit from further investigation by the medical community.
No you haven’t.
"PANDAS stands for pediatric autoimmune neuropsychiatric disorders associated with streptococcus. The syndrome involves sudden and often major changes in personality, behavior, and movement in children following an infection involving Streptococcus pyogenes (streptococcal-Ainfection)."
Autism isn't caused by a virus. Research your statement before you make yourself look like a fool online
@@heyitsriver5456 you're the one making yourself look like a fool. They aren't saying autism is caused by a virus, they're suggesting that the virus the child suffered with may have triggered PANDAS which can cause neuropsychiatric problems amongst other symptoms and can develop into a chronic autoimmune condition.
@@_year-sb6sy hey, go back to the year 2000.
My nearly 26 yr old son has severe Undiagnosed and untreated OCD and he is barely functioning, but because he is not saying he is homicidal or suicidal, there seems to be nothing I can do......such a long story as is yours.....and he won't talk to me.....ugh......praying for help!!!
Those poor parents.
You need to watch fatheringautism it is so good. I have a grandson that has high functioning he is a kind person but he trust everyone.
I noticed the family had a pupper. Does that help at all? I know animals can be a huge help. If the family pupper doesn't help maybe a different animal. I'm not on the spectrum, but I have a variety of physical and mental illnesses. My cats are my lifeline. When I was having regular seizures Indie the Cat would always be there when I came around. At night St. Francis the Cat sleeps on my legs, offering deep pressure therapy. I have fewer nightmares.
May I suggest cinder block walls?
That dog is just precious!!
Cinder block walls? So that he breaks a bone or head when hitting?
He spent 24 hours in the emergency room, hitting a concrete wall, the mother said that the wall was covered in blood. No, your idea is not the solution.
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Isn’t that what the care home he was at had?
Je fais des crise violente episotique je surporte pas la fultracion et je soufre danxieté permanent
Steven's Maori wrangler is a legend. Someone needs to get the kid in a punk band lol
These parents are in complete denial and are not facing facts so that he can live a safe and comfortable life because he needs to be heavily medicated. People like this keep wishing there's some miracle cure or something they can do. At least they're not giving him the keys to a car
Medication is often not the answer with autism, for many it makes things worse: theres a much higher incidence of extra pyramidal symptoms from major tranquillisers, paradoxical reactions to benzodiazepines, neuromalignant syndrome and serotonin syndrome than the general population.
Once you start adding medications with autism more likely than not you're going to be adding more and more medications rather than solving anything (there's are some lucky exceptions to this).
It seems this family tried medication plenty but it didn't help massively, the change in behaviour which was maybe aggregated by him picking up on changes in his parents behaviour with their own health issues and slight changes to his routines: these kids and adults with high anxiety and support needs need a level of predicability absolutely no family can maintain 24hrs a day for the rest of their lives but can be maintained with the right care and support from multiple people working together.
The virus he caught as a kid did this to him
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I cant imagine
I’ve said this so many times through my adult life, God did not give me a child with special needs because I strongly believe that he knew I absolutely could not handle it. My heart breaks for this family the parents were so devastated talking about what happened in the home you could see it in their eyes especially his mom.
Society and science needs to find the cause of Autism. We may not like the answer. But we need to find the cause and help.
We don't all want help thank you. It's the NTs that lie and are unreliable.
We don't all want help thank you. It's the NTs that lie and are unreliable.
WHERE IS STEVEN AT NOW
Is there a reason that boy cant repair those walls?
Did he move out?
What was causing his anger? What triggered it or what was he upset about?
Or was he in pain in some way?
Anything....depending on his meds he could be having hallucinations. Noises you do not hear, he can hear and the sound is extremely loud and irritating to him. He does not process sensory things in the same way you do. His brain doesn't filter and he can become over stimulated. There are many factors that can occur with autism that we just do not understand. We look for triggers and do our best to avoid them.
Steven perceives the world in a very different way than you do. What is normal for you, can be overwhelming for him.
People with severe Autism dont need triggers to set them off.
@@elizabethpieters7798 yes they do.