I fought for my marriage. 5 years of hell. I understand this pain. It's so real, raw, and deep. Begging God, praying, fasting, counseling with and without him. Felt numb, broken, confused when it all came crashing down.
I am having a hard time getting my life back on track from a situation that happened last yr. This situation really broke me, challenged my character and showed me some things that I can fix and how not to trust people. It has caused me to shut my heart down to people who I feel are fake and who I feel will hurt me or my family in the future. It has me where I don't like large crowds due to the fact that I can't discern their motives and fear of rejection in front of people. Please pray for me and that I can with the help of God move on
You got this, I'm praying for you! Just remember, you and your feelings are valid and matter. Seek God and watch some videos on your situation. There is alot of helpful info out there. Give yourself time and grace. I know you will get through this and back to a place where your emotionally regulated and trust yourself again. Hugs 🙏
Well, my eyes have been opened… I stumbled upon this video well let me change that God led me to this video and I just want let both know that my life from this point on will have boundaries with consequences… And that’s not a joke. Thanks for the AWAKING!
I call them "speedbumps". They (trials) may slow me down but they will not stop me. He is always with me, never has God forsaken me. He gets me through and walks with me Hand in hand in my journey. 🙌 😊 🙏 We are all here for such a time as this. 😊 Thank you Lysa!! Thank you Louie!!
Thank you Louie and Lisa! I've been reading Forgiving what you can't forget and uninvited I also have what happens when women walk in faith and what happens when women say yes to God.... Lisa is an amazing author and bc she writes from her struggle she connects with so many of us via understanding... These two books are helping me thru the struggle of leaving a 16 yr abusive relationship with 2 kids... 7 days I've been gone longer than ever but I'm learning... Rejection is a very real fear.... and it cripples many of us.. lysas books are God sent for me right now bc I fought so hard and so long to make that work 16 yrs of my life... Thats half my life. Lysas you're a miracle more than a great NY Times best selling authors
I read your post and completely relate. I’m so sorry. I just left a 25 year marriage in July. I stayed and tried to make it work with someone who is a liar and manipulator. I lost myself and was severely depressed. He was destroying me. God showed me the truth and told me to go. At least I have peace about that. But I am having to do things I have been very fearful of doing.
“Woman go away im trying to searve sodas “ i love that lol This means so much that such a popular celebrated woman has anxiety like me Not like she’s not human but like she said in her books she writes from a place of her struggles before her strengths become people relate better to that. And that is displayed in this interview
I will be purchasing her books for sure…what she says makes a lot of sense and I love the fact she unlike certain so called pastors out there can actually quote a scripture from the Bible and isn’t just trying to be a motivational speaker just speaking about scripture…I know she isn’t a pastor…she talks about so many things to try and encourage and talks about her past and her current life now which there are a few that do not do that…i really enjoyed this podcast…it’s hard to know sometimes who is genuine or false but I liked hearing what she had to say❤❤❤
🙏Let Us Pray: God Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God I ask You in Jesus’ name to bless and strengthen me to keep my focus on You at all times. Bless me to keep on praying, reading, listening to, and meditating upon Your Word. Bless me to keep on believing in, trusting, and standing firm on Your promises. Bless me to keep on walking by faith and not by sight. Bless me to keep on thanking, praising, and worshiping You God in Spirit and in Truth daily. Bless me to keep on fasting as You lead me. God bless me to keep on doing what is right in Your eyesight. God help me to keep on keeping on in Christ Jesus, realizing that You are always in control, You love me, You are with me always, I am never alone. I have the victory in Christ Jesus. God forever honor this prayer over my life, the life of the writer of this prayer, and the lives of all those I love and care about. Thank You Jesus. Amen.
A lot of people on TH-cam live on a bubble and are disconnected from reality. Many are just trying to sell books and profit on you. You suffer and they profit.
She is such a great resource and teacher. So often in churches we as women are taught to submit. ( without teaching Ephesians 5:21 that husbands are to submit to wives and wives to husbands, that is supposed to be mutual). We are taught verses out of context and not taught healthy, biblical boundaries. Thank you so much for sharing how to live a God honoring life.
Take this cup from me …. Oh I so hear you loud and clear … a marriage death of 40 yrs along with my sons whom have been manipulated with $. I have had to go no contact and now stand alone and no one understands the truth or very few. The discard just like research speaks .
I understand. A death of a 38 year marriage. My two children bought with money 💵 too. Took his side. I stand alone too. Was very painful. My daughter is starting to come around. I’m still in God’s wilderness. 👑✝️🐝
@@kaythomson5671 God bless you this very day my sister in Christ. May I ask where you are in your healing journey? And are you involved with a recovery group ? I have been on this alone for ever so long and it’s just more recently that I have started to share on chat lines such as this . There are now so many of them , but they must have the faith of God leading through this horrific storm. I understand it from years of research and living it but I long for another woman to share this healing journey with. I’m so exhausted and tired and losing ground in my daily life. My faith is what sustains me but I am so alone as I no longer fit into life at this time . Though I know He has plans and a purpose for my life through this great sorrow. My daughter is the scapegoat and lives yet with me due to the betrayal of the rest of family . How might we encourage each other as women ? I suffer from complex ptsd which you likely do as well. What and how are you coping daily ? In His Grip May you hold fast as He carry’s us through this journey. 🙏☀️🎶. I listen to a lot of music and journal but lately I’ve not even able to journal.
wow, just wow!! this is extremely powerful and impacted me. Your comments on access level vs responsible actions (or lack there of) and also your comment on when you walk in a room "looking for acceptance.... Wow! Jaw-dropping and soooo true. Seeing, feeling and choosing to focus on Christ's acceptance, and love helps us realizing the real truth - HIS perspective is all that 'should matter.' I have experienced this most from having past expectations based on past treatment. Especially when you still have open wounds (emotionally) then those encounters bring a flood of feelings of "vulnerability" I work daily on giving that to God and keeping my focus on Him, His love, and acceptance. HE IS THE ONLY ONE LOVED ME TO THE POINT OF DEATH!
Thank you for having this conversation with Lysa, she has so much wisdom and knowledge of the Lord. I have learned and had growth in my own life through her books and ministry ❤
If you are depleted then you will never give your best, and sometimes its a big fat NO NO NO, this was a lovely interview all round, often the inerviewer will constantly chip in but this pastor was so gracious, and isn,t it sad it takes us all to get to 50yrs plus to start and say no, also Jesus fights are battles. Amen I was bullied for 54years but God set me free and its a battle but so is putting up with bullies etc, our phones allow people to contact us 24/7 and so i put my phone away and decide when i will get back to them and step away from the phone freed me up a lot, its addictivie and controlling.
I am currently reading Good Boundaries and Goodbyes and soaking it up. This was a riveting interview for me and it spoke to my soul. I find watercoloring to be relaxing, therapeutic and helps to process hurt without really being aware that its taking place.
Why am I surprised God sends you what you need when you really need it??? Trying to heal from divorce 13 years ago and dealing with the guilt that I have put my children through this. When your kids grow up there are new problems now for them and all involved. And it's hard not to see that every difficult struggle isn't because of the divorce Maybe the struggle is just a struggle? ❤ Thank you!!!Thank you!!! 47:19
great information and Godly...but my question is 'if you are going into a room wanting to give them approval and acceptance, isn't that being a 'people pleaser'?
How about when you make a boundary and then you're told that in a marriage there should not be boundaries. cause my body is not my own anymore. however, there's just something that didn't go over very well with me. and then was told you just don't love me and you think I'm disgusting.. and a lot was backed up by christian principles according to the belief of the other. I was told it's because of your childhood abuse that you think this is not okay. If you hadn't bin abused, then all this would have been fine in a marriage. I was to that he didn't hurt me so why was i taking out my trumma on him. Well some of the things that were asked of me felt very terrifying well that's when i became silent and did what i felt i had to do. Needles to say after 12 yearsbof marriage i left and im separateing leagely what hurts the most is knowing i cant give my children my dream home i wanted for them so they could experience life of joy. Yes, I have been abused in every way from a baby to child hood till I left home when I was 18. I have been through trumma councling bin back to the place/ places where the most severe abuse happened. And I did not have a trigger going back however the thought of living back with my hausband is utterly termattic. I wish him well and happiness however I can't grant him his request to live together for the childrean sake. The guilt of hurting my children is unbearable, and knowing how to deal with it, I don't know how.
I am thankful to be able to connect. I have gone decades and decades not able too. God knows. Someone or something doesn’t want me to connect to anyone or anything. I don’t know a lot but enjoy hearing the good in people for people. Love you Lisa and thankful for you. I don’t know how to do technology either but thank God again when I can hear from all the good. God bless you.
How can the tools and resources and people Lysa has access to made available to regular people men and women who may not have a deep financial cushion?
My exact question!! I’ve been feeling for some time now that I need to find a Christian therapist to help bring clarity with my deep thinking that has been a good thing and bad at the same time! I need to get out of my head and the enemy uses it against me. Which plays As well into relationships, guidance in navigating relationships and social anxiety. So yes! I need to get a good Christian therapist. 🙏🏾
As God would have it ... I heard this conversation tonight and WOW did I EVER need to hear this about setting boundaries for us people pleasing people. This ROCKS me with a challenge to set healthy boundaries ... and not apologize for it ...
Wow! What a powerful video. The messages were so helpful because the issues were clarified and hope nurtured in the tools shared. A 360 degree perspective that is inspirational. Thank you so much. I'll start reading Lisa's books too. I love the work you both do. Such service
Love this information from Lysa. The no voicemail, no email-- only works when you have (can ea$ily afford) an assistant/manager who can circumvent that for you. The majority of us can’t afford staff . Other than that small problem 😂 Lysa hits it outta the park AGAIN ❤
Lysa, you are loved. I have been talk about you lately with my Christian friends. I reference you as a fantastic resource for healing. I appreciate your speaking and writing so much. You always calm my unrest with your practical wisdom. Thank you🥰
Her argument and phraseology about ‘access’ (especially, ‘low -level’) ‘responsibility’ and ‘capacity’ just doesn’t match up to scripture. If we are, as Christian’s, to seek FIRST His kingdom and His righteousness, lay down our lives & pick up our cross and follow Him daily, when / where do we now have the right, or begin to analyze boundaries. Aren’t these the kinds of ‘rights’ the fallen world has taught us as we have lived in it? And the very ones Christ has asked me to lay down? We aren’t supposed to be living for our own emotional safety. If this was the way many who have gone bravely before us to show us how the body of Christ moves ‘as a new man’ on this earth, we wouldn’t have seen people dying for their faith like so many have. This is not a book I would read. Christ came to put His Spirit inside of us and for us to walk as He walked. I don’t see Him doing, as she is explaining here, is okay for Christians to do.
I’m at that part of the story and can’t move. I’m frozen daily in fear after the death a few months ago of my husband. I am struggling alone.. for a few reasons.. to live each day with hope. My God seems so far away. I struggle to find someone who will walk with me through this. :I know God.. I know he provides but I’m desperately seeking his compassion
I fought for my marriage. 5 years of hell. I understand this pain. It's so real, raw, and deep.
Begging God, praying, fasting, counseling with and without him.
Felt numb, broken, confused when it all came crashing down.
I sm sorry. Prayers for healing. Guessing he may have been a true narcissist.
I am having a hard time getting my life back on track from a situation that happened last yr. This situation really broke me, challenged my character and showed me some things that I can fix and how not to trust people. It has caused me to shut my heart down to people who I feel are fake and who I feel will hurt me or my family in the future. It has me where I don't like large crowds due to the fact that I can't discern their motives and fear of rejection in front of people. Please pray for me and that I can with the help of God move on
You got this, I'm praying for you! Just remember, you and your feelings are valid and matter. Seek God and watch some videos on your situation. There is alot of helpful info out there. Give yourself time and grace. I know you will get through this and back to a place where your emotionally regulated and trust yourself again. Hugs 🙏
Well, my eyes have been opened… I stumbled upon this video well let me change that God led me to this video and I just want let both know that my life from this point on will have boundaries with consequences… And that’s not a joke. Thanks for the AWAKING!
Boundaries keep us safe. ❤
Please pray for me. I am in so much pain I feel like I can’t bare it. Seriously feel like I can’t take anymore. 💔
Boundaries are solidly set within our own capacity..in order to demonstrate self control, self awareness and self love❤
I call them "speedbumps". They (trials) may slow me down but they will not stop me. He is always with me, never has God forsaken me. He gets me through and walks with me Hand in hand in my journey. 🙌 😊 🙏 We are all here for such a time as this. 😊 Thank you Lysa!! Thank you Louie!!
Thank you Louie and Lisa! I've been reading Forgiving what you can't forget and uninvited I also have what happens when women walk in faith and what happens when women say yes to God.... Lisa is an amazing author and bc she writes from her struggle she connects with so many of us via understanding... These two books are helping me thru the struggle of leaving a 16 yr abusive relationship with 2 kids... 7 days I've been gone longer than ever but I'm learning... Rejection is a very real fear.... and it cripples many of us.. lysas books are God sent for me right now bc I fought so hard and so long to make that work 16 yrs of my life... Thats half my life. Lysas you're a miracle more than a great NY Times best selling authors
I read your post and completely relate. I’m so sorry. I just left a 25 year marriage in July. I stayed and tried to make it work with someone who is a liar and manipulator. I lost myself and was severely depressed. He was destroying me. God showed me the truth and told me to go. At least I have peace about that. But I am having to do things I have been very fearful of doing.
The more I listen to Lisa Terkeurst and read her books…man, the more I love this woman!!
Me too!
So good
Just make sure you are loving God more from her teachings.
Amen! Thank you! I needed this!🙏🏻💞❤️
“Woman go away im trying to searve sodas “ i love that lol
This means so much that such a popular celebrated woman has anxiety like me
Not like she’s not human but like she said in her books she writes from a place of her struggles before her strengths become people relate better to that. And that is displayed in this interview
I will be purchasing her books for sure…what she says makes a lot of sense and I love the fact she unlike certain so called pastors out there can actually quote a scripture from the Bible and isn’t just trying to be a motivational speaker just speaking about scripture…I know she isn’t a pastor…she talks about so many things to try and encourage and talks about her past and her current life now which there are a few that do not do that…i really enjoyed this podcast…it’s hard to know sometimes who is genuine or false but I liked hearing what she had to say❤❤❤
I’ve listened to many of Lysa’s interviews and this was one of the BEST. THANKS❤
Amazing! Learned so much today. Thanks!
🙏🏼❤️ so good.
Glad i listened. Ill be more gracious when i decline.
I might need to read: it's not supposed to be this way...
The church has kept women in abuse and not able to be His Precious creation of them .
🙏Let Us Pray: God Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God I ask You in Jesus’ name to bless and strengthen me to keep my focus on You at all times. Bless me to keep on praying, reading, listening to, and meditating upon Your Word. Bless me to keep on believing in, trusting, and standing firm on Your promises. Bless me to keep on walking by faith and not by sight. Bless me to keep on thanking, praising, and worshiping You God in Spirit and in Truth daily. Bless me to keep on fasting as You lead me. God bless me to keep on doing what is right in Your eyesight. God help me to keep on keeping on in Christ Jesus, realizing that You are always in control, You love me, You are with me always, I am never alone. I have the victory in Christ Jesus. God forever honor this prayer over my life, the life of the writer of this prayer, and the lives of all those I love and care about. Thank You Jesus. Amen.
🙏Beautiful, thank you!!! In Jesus name Amen!
Nothing worst when a person doesn’t want y to be successful because that are
Insecure
A lot of people on TH-cam live on a bubble and are disconnected from reality. Many are just trying to sell books and profit on you. You suffer and they profit.
Walker Scott Rodriguez Sandra Williams George
She is such a great resource and teacher.
So often in churches we as women are taught to submit. ( without teaching Ephesians 5:21 that husbands are to submit to wives and wives to husbands, that is supposed to be mutual). We are taught verses out of context and not taught healthy, biblical boundaries.
Thank you so much for sharing how to live a God honoring life.
Take this cup from me …. Oh I so hear you loud and clear … a marriage death of 40 yrs along with my sons whom have been manipulated with $. I have had to go no contact and now stand alone and no one understands the truth or very few. The discard just like research speaks .
I understand. A death of a 38 year marriage. My two children bought with money 💵 too. Took his side. I stand alone too. Was very painful. My daughter is starting to come around. I’m still in God’s wilderness. 👑✝️🐝
@@kaythomson5671 God bless you this very day my sister in Christ. May I ask where you are in your healing journey? And are you involved with a recovery group ? I have been on this alone for ever so long and it’s just more recently that I have started to share on chat lines such as this . There are now so many of them , but they must have the faith of God leading through this horrific storm. I understand it from years of research and living it but I long for another woman to share this healing journey with. I’m so exhausted and tired and losing ground in my daily life. My faith is what sustains me but I am so alone as I no longer fit into life at this time . Though I know He has plans and a purpose for my life through this great sorrow.
My daughter is the scapegoat and lives yet with me due to the betrayal of the rest of family . How might we encourage each other as women ? I suffer from complex ptsd which you likely do as well. What and how are you coping daily ?
In His Grip May you hold fast as He carry’s us through this journey. 🙏☀️🎶. I listen to a lot of music and journal but lately I’ve not even able to journal.
@@kaythomson5671Hugs to you!! God knows and has all of your tears in a bottle.
wow, just wow!! this is extremely powerful and impacted me. Your comments on access level vs responsible actions (or lack there of) and also your comment on when you walk in a room "looking for acceptance.... Wow! Jaw-dropping and soooo true. Seeing, feeling and choosing to focus on Christ's acceptance, and love helps us realizing the real truth - HIS perspective is all that 'should matter.' I have experienced this most from having past expectations based on past treatment. Especially when you still have open wounds (emotionally) then those encounters bring a flood of feelings of "vulnerability"
I work daily on giving that to God and keeping my focus on Him, His love, and acceptance. HE IS THE ONLY ONE LOVED ME TO THE POINT OF DEATH!
Thank you for all the helpful wisdom.
Thank you for having this conversation with Lysa, she has so much wisdom and knowledge of the Lord. I have learned and had growth in my own life through her books and ministry ❤
Yes 🙌 And Louie asks such great questions ☺️.
Thank you for this, I have felt this way so many times. Walking into a room the same as what you have gone through.
Thank you both! Great questions that led to better understanding for me. 😊
Lysa is awesome! So aunthentic and a big big creative!
If you are depleted then you will never give your best, and sometimes its a big fat NO NO NO, this was a lovely interview all round, often the inerviewer will constantly chip in but this pastor was so gracious, and isn,t it sad it takes us all to get to 50yrs plus to start and say no, also Jesus fights are battles. Amen I was bullied for 54years but God set me free and its a battle but so is putting up with bullies etc, our phones allow people to contact us 24/7 and so i put my phone away and decide when i will get back to them and step away from the phone freed me up a lot, its addictivie and controlling.
I am currently reading Good Boundaries and Goodbyes and soaking it up. This was a riveting interview for me and it spoke to my soul. I find watercoloring to be relaxing, therapeutic and helps to process hurt without really being aware that its taking place.
How refreshingly honest and so edifying ..thank you Lysa.. I wish I could learn from you more and be part of a group that you can educate !
I love this woman so much ❤
Dude?? Don’t Give The Enemy a Seat at Your Table was amazing also!!!
Really just great input... I found myself in so many aspects! Thank both of you. Greetings from Munich
I live in Ethopia I need joine passion city church give me instraction or answer Please ? 1God bless you.
I am so glad I ran across this video. Thanks a lot. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Therapy +theology = Biblical counseling. IBCD
Why am I surprised God sends you what you need when you really need it??? Trying to heal from divorce 13 years ago and dealing with the guilt that I have put my children through this. When your kids grow up there are new problems now for them and all involved. And it's hard not to see that every difficult struggle isn't because of the divorce
Maybe the struggle is just a struggle?
❤ Thank you!!!Thank you!!! 47:19
great information and Godly...but my question is 'if you are going into a room wanting to give them approval and acceptance, isn't that being a 'people pleaser'?
How about when you make a boundary and then you're told that in a marriage there should not be boundaries. cause my body is not my own anymore. however, there's just something that didn't go over very well with me. and then was told you just don't love me and you think I'm disgusting.. and a lot was backed up by christian principles according to the belief of the other. I was told it's because of your childhood abuse that you think this is not okay. If you hadn't bin abused, then all this would have been fine in a marriage. I was to that he didn't hurt me so why was i taking out my trumma on him. Well some of the things that were asked of me felt very terrifying well that's when i became silent and did what i felt i had to do. Needles to say after 12 yearsbof marriage i left and im separateing leagely what hurts the most is knowing i cant give my children my dream home i wanted for them so they could experience life of joy. Yes, I have been abused in every way from a baby to child hood till I left home when I was 18. I have been through trumma councling bin back to the place/ places where the most severe abuse happened. And I did not have a trigger going back however the thought of living back with my hausband is utterly termattic. I wish him well and happiness however I can't grant him his request to live together for the childrean sake. The guilt of hurting my children is unbearable, and knowing how to deal with it, I don't know how.
Please pray for me. I seriously don’t feel like I can take this. I’m not sure that I can take this.
I am thankful to be able to connect. I have gone decades and decades not able too. God knows. Someone or something doesn’t want me to connect to anyone or anything. I don’t know a lot but enjoy hearing the good in people for people. Love you Lisa and thankful for you. I don’t know how to do technology either but thank God again when I can hear from all the good. God bless you.
So how do they communicate? Hire a secretary? Text😂 Id rather have an email than a text if its not urgent.
One of the best messages I’ve heard for a while.
🤍Thank you🕊
ThanksI needed it today. Be blessed.🙏🙏🙏
Lee Barbara White Kimberly Harris Robert
How can the tools and resources and people Lysa has access to made available to regular people men and women who may not have a deep financial cushion?
It comes down to trusting in God to provide for all your needs, He feeds the birds and He will also take care of you, that’s a promise from Gods word
Go to your local
Library and ask them to buy them
Lysa, how did you find your therapist?
She looked online for a heretical “Christian” counselor
My exact question!! I’ve been feeling for some time now that I need to find a Christian therapist to help bring clarity with my deep thinking that has been a good thing and bad at the same time! I need to get out of my head and the enemy uses it against me. Which plays As well into relationships, guidance in navigating relationships and social anxiety. So yes! I need to get a good Christian therapist. 🙏🏾
@@Bluelightcheaphotelpraying you find the help you need.
As God would have it ... I heard this conversation tonight and WOW did I EVER need to hear this about setting boundaries for us people pleasing people. This ROCKS me with a challenge to set healthy boundaries ... and not apologize for it ...
Wow! What a powerful video. The messages were so helpful because the issues were clarified and hope nurtured in the tools shared.
A 360 degree perspective that is inspirational. Thank you so much. I'll start reading Lisa's books too. I love the work you both do. Such service
You actually mean a 180 degree perspective
Lisa, life is sinking me.
Love this information from Lysa.
The no voicemail, no email-- only works when you have (can ea$ily afford) an assistant/manager who can circumvent that for you.
The majority of us can’t afford staff .
Other than that small problem 😂
Lysa hits it outta the park AGAIN ❤
Lysa, you are loved. I have been talk about you lately with my Christian friends. I reference you as a fantastic resource for healing. I appreciate your speaking and writing so much. You always calm my unrest with your practical wisdom. Thank you🥰
Her argument and phraseology about ‘access’ (especially, ‘low -level’) ‘responsibility’ and ‘capacity’ just doesn’t match up to scripture. If we are, as Christian’s, to seek FIRST His kingdom and His righteousness, lay down our lives & pick up our cross and follow Him daily, when / where do we now have the right, or begin to analyze boundaries. Aren’t these the kinds of ‘rights’ the fallen world has taught us as we have lived in it? And the very ones Christ has asked me to lay down? We aren’t supposed to be living for our own emotional safety. If this was the way many who have gone bravely before us to show us how the body of Christ moves ‘as a new man’ on this earth, we wouldn’t have seen people dying for their faith like so many have. This is not a book I would read. Christ came to put His Spirit inside of us and for us to walk as He walked. I don’t see Him doing, as she is explaining here, is okay for Christians to do.
She is sooo amazing.. love this woman. Such an inspiration
I love 💓 Lysa. Blessings sister. Jesus really loves you and is using you.
The most powerful word in my vocabulary is Jesus.
Thank you so much for this refreshing honesty & wisdom
I’m at that part of the story and can’t move. I’m frozen daily in fear after the death a few months ago of my husband. I am struggling alone.. for a few reasons.. to live each day with hope. My God seems so far away. I struggle to find someone who will walk with me through this. :I know God.. I know he provides but I’m desperately seeking his compassion
I am with you too. A different situation, but all the same feelings. ❤❤
Amen! Great teaching!🙏🏼🔥
I have a home