I seen my tough-guy husband break down in tears twice in my life ..day our son left for college... and one afternoon just driving along i-95 when this song came on.. looked me in the face and he said pretty sure my father just sent that to me.. his father had died 2 years prior and this was just a week after our son was born. My husband has since passed also and I can't listen to this song without bawling my eyes out. Beautiful...
My dad died unexpectedly in my arms. I watched the light fade from his eyes, trying to revive him. I kept telling him "I love you dad, come back". I hope he heard my final words to him. I wish I had 1 more day. 😢
My father was a Vietnam Vet who came back broken and angry and he eventually became a violent drunk and my parents got divorced a couple years later. We didn't take PTSD seriously back then, but we never had a chance to rebuild a connection with him because he cut us all off emotionally and financially and we just moved on from him. The couple times I talked to him as an adult, he criticized me and told me he was ashamed of me. I learned of his death when I randomly googled him and found he had passed away years prior. In spite of all of that, I wish I had had an opportunity to thank him for serving our country well and try to forgive him. I harbored hate for him for most of my life and it's taken so long to resolve that within myself. An honest conversation with him would not have changed the past, but it could have healed me much sooner.
Only 18 years for me, but we lost Mom and Dad 10 weeks apart. We knew she was going to be leaving, but he wasn't even sick. I think her dying broke his heart. This song is hard to listen to...
My dad is still alive, but he wont talk to me. It eats me up. I spent two decades as a junkie, avoided prison snd death.. and i just wantto say im sorry, and i love him. If you see this dad.. PLEASE... we cant end it like this.
This is such a beautiful song, it's made me cry for decades. Your dad is still here, no matter what differences you have, call and tell him how much you love him. My dad and I had MANY differences but when he got sick I told him thank you for going to every softball game, every concert, everything when I was a kid. He passed away a week later. Man, I'm so glad I had the chance to tell him. We aren't all that lucky.
So sorry for your loss. I lost both my parents in the last 2 years myself. Like you I had my differences with my Dad but was all forgotten and forgiven as he got older. Dad went before Mum and though they where deforced for years, One day my siblings and I went to visit his grave and my Mother decided she would like to go too. to pay her respects, she liked the cemetery so much that she decided that's where she wanted to go too, and so both my parents are in the same place now. I was much closer to my mom if I'm honest, one of the best lasting memories of our time together was me taking her to the Queen musical "we will rock you" she was a huge Freddie Mercury fan and loved every minute of it
@@michaeldolan9980 I haven't been to any of my families graves...missed my sister's funeral...crazy shit but I'm not going to blame everything on myself anymore...wow, u helped me dude! Are you in that crazy US? I got out 6 years ago, thank God. I'm barely alive over here but I don't thinl of be alive over there. Is Biden dead yet
This was one of my dads favorite songs. He passed away in May of 2022. My dad was 48 when I was born and 88 when he passed, but I feel blessed and cherish the 40 yrs that I got to spend with him.
My Dad was 32 when he lost to cancer, I was 12. I still miss him daily 51 years later. He was a wonderful man and a perfect human. I never met anyone that had anything but great things to say about him. If ya'll still have your father make sure he knows how much he means to you.
I just posted about losing my dad to cancer when I was 12. He was 30. We have a very similar story. Sorry for your loss, even though it was so long ago.
I was eight month's pregnant with my dad's first grandson when cancer took him from us at age 65. I wasn't there that morning when he passed away and I did feel his spirit and hear his echo later that year in my newborn son's tears. But luckily, I did get to tell him what I needed to say and I'm so grateful for that. Twenty years later and that new born is a wonderful young man who dad would have been so proud of. Say it! Say the thing you need to say, tell him that you love him while he can still hear it, and say it at every opportunity. To your mom too. None of the quarrels mean anything when you come down to that bottom line, the only thing that matters is that you love one another.
Dad has been gone 19 years. A week before he passed away we did have that deep conversation and it was one of the greatest gifts I ever received. He gifted me with the time to have that talk while he was still alive. Love you dad....miss you.
Man you are so right!! I love your sincerity and I am 60 years old and I lost my Dad 5 days before Christmas in 1969 when I was 5 years old and this song really helps me cope and appreciate what I have! A beautiful wife and 2 daughters!!
MY Father passed away 5 months ago after a long battle of dementia - I will forever love my wife for pleading for me to make mends with my mom a few weeks before she passed away 6 years ago... with my Father, I was there many many nights by myself at ICU and Hospice just talking to him and seeing in his eyes the hurt and pain of all the lost years we wasted for not seeing eye to on things. I was there along with my 4 brothers when he passed away.. My Brothers and I still do not see eye to eye on many things but I thank them for us all being able to get together for the last few weeks so my dad could see us all in the same room with him. We still have lots of things to sort through, but I made it a point to be there for my father on his last days of life....My wife told me to listen to this song when my mom was passing away.... it opened my eyes and i promised myself to be there for her and for my dad regardless of not seeing eye to eye on religion, family and other critical stuff that happened.... If you have your parents, cherish them, as they will be gone in this cycle of life and you want no regrets..
Sorry for the loss of both your mother and father. Glad you were able to reconcile with your mother before she passed. I hope their memory is a blessing to you.
I'm 62, and my dad is still with us so far. However, this song sobers me right quick as it is a reminder of the inevitable. I realize how blessed I am to have him around for so long. I will be lost when he goes. Great reaction!
I’m 69 years now and have started writing letters of love and apologies to my children plus saying it to them. I am painting things for the grandkids to have when l pass away. There is no reason not to prepare with memories for them. This is a beautiful song with a powerful message.
I’m 67. I have 2kids I’ve not seen or spoken to in years. I think of them every day. I like to think I treat people a little better because of my experience. I really would like to connect soon.
Beautiful lyrics. Truly meaningful; especially as we mature and lose loved ones! A masterful,piece of music and powerful lyrics. I still weep when I hear it. In fact, I cry more deeply as I age!
Lost my Dad to alzheimers. I still had his living years to tell him, but he was already gone. He didnt know who any of us were. Mom continued to make chocolate chip cookies every day for him and carry them to the nursing home. He didnt remember her, the absolute live of his life, but the smell of those cookies triggered something in his brain and he would gobble them down like a child. It was Moms link to him even if he couldnt speak.
My Mom passed away also from Alzheimer’s but before that my sister and I visited her every week, after a few years she had no idea who we were, but I made a cassette of the music she always liked, I put the headphones on her and played it, the smile on her face and then she called us by our names! Music solves everything!
Alzheimer's is one of the most evil diseases known to humankind 😥 The person you love is gone long before their life ends; the only saving grace is that for most there comes a point when the sufferer no longer knows there's anything wrong with them.
My nan died with Alzheimer's and my mum currently has vascular dementia. My nan didn't know who we were aswell when she passed...it's a terrible way to go and for the family. My mum still knows who we are but she's getting worse.
My dad passed in 91 a year after this song was released, I was 12 at the time. My family sheltered me from seeing him while he fell ill. So it hits hard when he sings the lyrics, 'I wasn't there the morning my father passed away' I miss you daddy❤
I tear-up every time I hear this now-a-days. I lost my Dad to cancer 8 years ago, and I still miss him every single day. If I had known how quickly he was going to pass, I could have done so much more for him in those last few days. He deserved it. I beg you: treasure every day you have with him, as they are limited.
Lost my dad 20 years ago. Although he did not show emotions well, because growing up he wasn’t shown much love. I always knew that he loved me and was proud of me. Every one he met, he always bragged “my daughter is a nurse”. I don’t think I ever told him thank you for your sacrifices made to make sure our family had everything we needed and most times even the things we wanted. I love you Daddy, and I hope you can hear me say THANK YOU.💔💔💔
I lost my dad a few months ago to complications due to cancer. My dad and I, mostly on my part, had a falling out for over 5 years. He had a hospital visit near where I now live. My husband almost literally pushed me out the door to go visit him. I had only planned on staying long enough to hear how he was and what the doctors were saying. His first words when I came into his room were, " Hey, son. I'm glad you came to see me. I'm sorry I hurt you." All of my defenses were shattered and we spent the next four and a half hours talking about and healing the rift between us. During our conversation, this song came up. My high school choir performed it at my baccalaureate, and it was as clear a memory to him as if it were yesterday. This song has become very special to me since. Thank you for this reaction.
My father was diagnosed with cancer in 1989. This song was on the radio at the time so I knew about the song and the meaning behind it. We got the phone call from the hospital to come and say our goodbyes. I was aware of the meaning of this song so that night I took the time to share words with my father. I told him how I learn to walk in his shoes . as me and my girlfriend and my daughter got into our car. My girlfriend started the car and the radio came on, this song started from the queue I swear. I cried all the way home. My father passed away that night. Thank you for sharing this.🙏
I cried when I listened to this song long before my father died, and now seeing the song's title is all it takes. My father died nearly 20 years ago, and it hurts as much as it did then.
This song literally came out the week my Dad passed away. The very first time I heard it was when I was getting dressed for his funeral. It totally wrecked me. Still does, 34 years later. 😢
My dad died in 1990 when i was 7 im 41 now and a father myself and this song still makes me cry no matter how many times i hear it i miss my dad hardcore
lead singer is Paul Carrack ..... had hits with 3 bands (The Living Years, How Long with Ace, and Tempted by the Fruit of Another with Squeeze, plus a single of his own) .... quite a complete body of work for an "unknown"
A lot of fathers sat their sons down & made them listen to this song . I sat there a little embarrassed back in 89 i think??while he expected me to understandt the enormity of this song it was lost on me. It got played a lot at work on our local radio station for years during the 90s & thats where i "got" the lyrics. My father has passed away since & of course this song really upsets me but i also thank the song as i took the songs advice & made sure i "was" there that morning when he passed away & made sure our petty arguments never surfaced for the previous 10 years all because of this beautiful song. Paul carrick or whoever wrote this song "thankyou"
My dad died just before Christmas last year. He and i didnt have a great relationship and in his final years I was in constant dilemma as to how much energy to put towards trying to repair that relationship. The damage was not because he did anything wrong, we were just two very different people with very different ways of showing love. This song really speaks to me ❤
Almost 25 years since my dad passed. We had a great relationship. He, like us all, had faults, but overall was a good man. There is always more that could have been said. Just treasure the good as much as you can.
I appreciate this song soooooooo much!!! My mother passed away about 4 yrs ago. My dad passed away just 3 months after. I was born in 1952. ( there was 5 of us kids) We were in a small town in southern Illinois,,,, of 5,200 population. They were like the perfect ‘Leave it to Beaver’ parents of the ‘50’s. During my childhood I never hear them even argue one time!!! Like all kids, I took them for granted! But,,, because of this song I made sure that i told them all that I needed to say to them about how GREAT they were as parents & how proud I was that I was there son!!! Altogether thier family grew to nearly 150 kids, grand, great grand & great-great grand kids,,, before they passed! Thank you,,, Mike and the Mechanics!!!!!!!
Right on Sebs, the song has served it's purpose if it motivates the listener to say what needs to be said. Mike & the mechanics is basically Genesis bassist/guitarist Mike Rutherford's solo project. The lead vocalist here is the amazing Paul Carrack, one of Britain's greatest R&B/Soul singers. The original line up also featured another incredible vocalist, Paul Young who sings lead on two other great tracks from their mid 80's debut album: Silent running & All I need is a miracle. Also check out a later little heart warming gem, Beggar on a beach of gold, cheers
This song makes me think about how much ive wanted a better relationship with my Father but also reminds me how important it is that im there for my kids to support them, love them and enjoy being with them.
The first time I heard this song I was driving, it got to me so much that I started crying and had to pull the car over. I never once heard my father say that he loved me but he gave a lot to provide for his family. In my 40’s I had a chance to do a Masters Degree and my thesis was based on my relationship with my father and how I then fathered to my children and the influence this song made on me.
Came out in 1988, written by B A Robertson & Mike Rutherford (white suite & guitar). This chart was hit around the world. I was 28 yrs old when this came out & cried so much. I'm from the UK too. 💝💝💝
I am 64 years old. I grew up as an Air Force brat, my dad served in the army at first in the Korean war, then he joined the Air Force and served in the Vietnam war. War. He met my mom while in paris, France. Mama was French. They were five of us kids, four girls and a boy. I lost my brother a couple of years ago. He was the baby. What I wanted to tell you is that I am so proud of my father. I'm proud to be an American and I'm proud that I was the military kid. I remember the day daddy got back from Vietnam. We were stationed on the Air Force Base in Maine and it was winter and there was heaps of snow. But I remember an Air Force truck stopping in a man got out in his dress. Blues caring a duffle bag and I said that's daddy and I ran and ran and ran through the snow. I was 9 years old. I have two nephews that were in the army and served two tours each in Afghanistan and I am so proud of them. Thankfully they both came home to their wives and children. Thank you for all the videos you show of the military and the honorable men and women.❤
cared for my father through his cancer he died at home and i was by his side reasuring him i would look after the family. we still think about him and remember the fun and good times.
25 years ago I lived in Kentucky. I worked construction. A coworker lost his grandfather. At the service, this song was sung by a local band. I was there as one of the backing vocals, bass/baritone. Coworkers dad was estranged from the grandpa.
My precious father went away in 1970 😢 and i couldn't understand why. He probably had things he couldn't get over and couldn't see anyway out except to take his own life. Today i understand completely because i faced the same thing in my life when i came to a turning point. I prayed for God most high and he answered my prayers and i went to rehab in Tupelo mississpi . Praise God most high I've been clean and sober for 40 years ❤ thank you for your reaction to this beautiful song. It still tugs at the heart whenever i heart it ❤😊
I lost my dad a couple of years ago. I lived out of town, and didn't see him that much. We didn't see eye to eye on a lot and I usually felt worse having talked to him, as he was judgy and I never felt good enough. But I loved him. So much. And I regret not seeing him more often. He passed away and I wasn't there and I will die regretting that. Call your dad. Talk to your dad. Tell him you love him. Don't fool yourself thinking you'll talk to him tomorrow. This song just guts me.
Mark Twain once said, "When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years." A week before my dad passed I called him, but he was so weak my step mom had to talk for him. His last words were how proud he was of the man I had become. Next to my wife and children, having him as my father and those final words was the greatest gift God ever gave me.
I was lucky enough to have this song come on while I was cleaning my garage while my dad sat in a chair and watched. We always had discussions that we had differing opinions about, except for our love for the Chicago Cubs, the team that had recruited him in 1943, but then the Army recruited him, effectively robbing the public from ever seeing this man that could knock the cover off the ball. He pasded in 2006 on his birthday. He did not get to see the Cubs win the World Series in 2016. I miss him dearly, and thank him for everything he ever did for me and lessons taught. Rest in Peace, dad. I love you. I'll be seeing you and mom again 8:28 when I come home to Jesus.
It is amazing to me that though it does make logical sense to finally realize in our hearts that everyone actually has feelings, not just you. Man, how lost are we that we aren't so as close as we all could be and should be.
A phone call on a Saturday morning, go to the HospItal. Get there too late, my main Man and best friend ever had gone. He is always here though, God bless you Dad
@@mufuliramark You're referring to a different Paul Young! The Mike & The Mechanics Paul Young, who formally sang with Sad Cafe, sadly died on 15 July 2000. Great loss.
I loved my Dad and miss him so very much since he passed away in 1974. Both he and my mum came from the generation that fought through the Second World War and being born in 1953 I greatly appreciate the sacrifice their whole generation made on our behalf. To me, they are the greatest of all generations.
My dad passed away before this song came out. I first heard this song on an episode of Oprah and I immediately wrote a letter to my mum to tell her how much I loved her and appreciated all the things she did for me. It was a cathartic moment and I immediately felt better and my relationship with her was amazing after that. Sadly she passed away , but it gave me comfort that I’d said everything I needed to. I still tear up when I hear it but they’re happy tears. Luv ya.
My grandfather passed away in an auto accident in 1990. My mom chose this song to be played at his funeral. So, this holds a special meaning to me for that reason.
Beautiful heartfelt reaction Sebs, I don't know anyone who wouldn't be affected by this song the same way as you. Paul Carrack has an amazing voice and nobody could have done this better and the lyrics are just achingly beautiful. The kind of song that makes me wish I'd known my Dad. Thanks for your reaction, it means a lot.
Lost my dad almost 30 years ago, and still tear up thinking about the things we might have talked about, but didn't. Maybe if there's an afterlife, we'll catch up then, my only hope.
Happy Father's Day to you, Sebs!.... and to all the dad's out there! A dad is an awesome thing to be!!! Best job ever, imho!!! (not that my opinion is all that humble!!! lol) Peace and love to all the dads, from the Great State of Texas!!!
Great reaction. Lead singer is Paul Carrack, hes just great. He was in another group back in the 80s called Ace, the song is "How Long Has This Been Going On", great song too btw. ❤🎼 On a different note....Has anyone ever told you, you look just like Jimmy Fallon? 😮
My dad and I had a conversation when I was a young adult about him doing the best he could with what he knew. I felt peace with him after that talk. When he passed years later, I knew I'd see him again when it's my time to go. Can't wait to see him again!❤❤❤❤
Oh, I'm in tears! I am so glad I had "that conversation" with my dad before he passed. He was my hero and I was always so afraid that I didn't live up to his expectations. He was the strong and silent type (a career US Navy officer and fighter pilot) with a heart of gold. I told him that her was my hero, and he told me that he was proud of me. He's been gone for 14 years and I miss him every day.
Oh my gosh I love this song. It's beautiful and yes that singer was born to sing it. I sing everytime, but not out loud because it always brings me to tears and nobody not even me wants to hear all of that lol.
Lead singer is Paul Carrack… he’s awesome! Sings another song with Mike and the Mechanics called Silent running.. another band called Ace is a song How Long and also another good one he sings is with Squeeze called Tempted
I heard the song for the first time two days after my dad passed away on his 57th birthday in 2019. I was driving and this song had me thinking and crying. Someone knew I needed it most at that moment. Great reaction, man. Thank you
Hi Seb - Chris in the UK here - i love yuor channel as you put so much into it. I am sure you have been told but the singer on Living Years is Paul Carrack - from Yorkshire England - a truly incredible singer and still in his 70's doing it - try an earlier incarnation in ACE called "How Long" - incredible late 70's vocal
Kind of interesting you said something about listing to this when your father passes. I was not even born when my dad passed. And this song held me since the moment of its release. Two of my three siblings and I were with our mother as she passed. On the way home from holding her hand as she went, I put on this song. I BAWLED in my driveway before heading in my house to tell my husband she was gone. Gut-wrenching. She has been gone now 21 years come the beginning of July, and this song still makes me bawl. But the memories of her are all the sweeter as the years pass.
my father died when i was an infant, my first son was born the same year as this song was released. the song gets me every time i listen to it. "i wasn't there the morning when my father passed away, but i thought i heard his echo in my babies new born tears"
I used to listen to this song and dread the thought of my father passing and then a few years ago, he died in my arms. Part of me died with him and I miss him every second of every day...
This song gets to me every time I hear it.....I grew up in a very strained relationship with my Father.... we never resolved our differences and now he has passed on. He is now at peace and I am left to bear the sorrow.
I lost my dad on the 9th of July this year.....this song is exactly how our relationship was...never told him the things I had to say....I have a terrible time forgiving myself....
For me it’s about both my parents. When they were alive I’d been driving home and this song came on my car radio. Got home, mum and dad were in the kitchen, I said to both of them, “If I had a thousand parents lined up to choose, I’d choose both of you.” They both looked at me in amazement then smiled. We all got along beautifully, no bad memories, I never argued with them, but thought I’d tell them how much I loved them, In Their Living Years, because one day, as now, they have both passed. Miss them terribly. But so glad I heard the song and told them what I did. Dad passed aged 89 peacefully in his own bed. Mum passed 95 one hour in hospital.
I can't imagine anyone voicing this other than Paul Carrack. He's just perfect.
I seen my tough-guy husband break down in tears twice in my life ..day our son left for college... and one afternoon just driving along i-95 when this song came on.. looked me in the face and he said pretty sure my father just sent that to me.. his father had died 2 years prior and this was just a week after our son was born. My husband has since passed also and I can't listen to this song without bawling my eyes out.
Beautiful...
I cried over your post ... Blessings
My dad died unexpectedly in my arms. I watched the light fade from his eyes, trying to revive him. I kept telling him "I love you dad, come back". I hope he heard my final words to him. I wish I had 1 more day. 😢
Sorry for loss from the bottom of heart. From Perth Australia
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I am sure he felt your warmth and love
I can assure you that your dad heard your voice, sorry that you lost your dad that way, in your arms, that’s gotta hurt big time , that memory
Wow I’m so sorry for your loss! I can’t imagine and I hope you find peace asap! God bless
My career suffered because I prioritized being dad, I have zero regrets.
That deserves a huge congratulations !!
I love this Song because it reminds of my Dad who died in 93 I was 17 miss you Love you Dad .....till we meet again Someday......
My father was a Vietnam Vet who came back broken and angry and he eventually became a violent drunk and my parents got divorced a couple years later. We didn't take PTSD seriously back then, but we never had a chance to rebuild a connection with him because he cut us all off emotionally and financially and we just moved on from him. The couple times I talked to him as an adult, he criticized me and told me he was ashamed of me. I learned of his death when I randomly googled him and found he had passed away years prior. In spite of all of that, I wish I had had an opportunity to thank him for serving our country well and try to forgive him. I harbored hate for him for most of my life and it's taken so long to resolve that within myself. An honest conversation with him would not have changed the past, but it could have healed me much sooner.
It's been 35 years, and it still gets me every time 😔💙
Yeah 38 for me. There are so many question I still have but the answers are lost to the ages.
Same here😢
Only 18 years for me, but we lost Mom and Dad 10 weeks apart. We knew she was going to be leaving, but he wasn't even sick. I think her dying broke his heart. This song is hard to listen to...
Same here, every single time.
Nearly 20 years since my Dad passed and this track still has me shook to the core
My dad is still alive, but he wont talk to me. It eats me up. I spent two decades as a junkie, avoided prison snd death.. and i just wantto say im sorry, and i love him. If you see this dad.. PLEASE... we cant end it like this.
This is such a beautiful song, it's made me cry for decades. Your dad is still here, no matter what differences you have, call and tell him how much you love him. My dad and I had MANY differences but when he got sick I told him thank you for going to every softball game, every concert, everything when I was a kid. He passed away a week later. Man, I'm so glad I had the chance to tell him. We aren't all that lucky.
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Glad u had a good Dad...my Dad left me and my sister and moved away with a new woman. I feel sorry for my sister who just wanted a father.
@@michaelasay8587 I'm so sorry. Yes, we didn't get along but at least he was there.
So sorry for your loss. I lost both my parents in the last 2 years myself. Like you I had my differences with my Dad but was all forgotten and forgiven as he got older. Dad went before Mum and though they where deforced for years, One day my siblings and I went to visit his grave and my Mother decided she would like to go too. to pay her respects, she liked the cemetery so much that she decided that's where she wanted to go too, and so both my parents are in the same place now. I was much closer to my mom if I'm honest, one of the best lasting memories of our time together was me taking her to the Queen musical "we will rock you" she was a huge Freddie Mercury fan and loved every minute of it
@@michaeldolan9980 I haven't been to any of my families graves...missed my sister's funeral...crazy shit but I'm not going to blame everything on myself anymore...wow, u helped me dude! Are you in that crazy US? I got out 6 years ago, thank God. I'm barely alive over here but I don't thinl of be alive over there. Is Biden dead yet
This was one of my dads favorite songs. He passed away in May of 2022. My dad was 48 when I was born and 88 when he passed, but I feel blessed and cherish the 40 yrs that I got to spend with him.
I still cannot get through this song without tears since it first came out.
My Dad was 32 when he lost to cancer, I was 12.
I still miss him daily 51 years later. He was a wonderful
man and a perfect human. I never met anyone that had anything
but great things to say about him. If ya'll still have your father
make sure he knows how much he means to you.
I just posted about losing my dad to cancer when I was 12. He was 30. We have a very similar story. Sorry for your loss, even though it was so long ago.
My dad simply didn't make home from work one day. I was 17 and it's nearly 50 years ago. Luckily I had told my parents how I felt about them.
very sorry for your loss too, hard losing a parent, especially so young. @@dalesanders1260
I was eight month's pregnant with my dad's first grandson when cancer took him from us at age 65. I wasn't there that morning when he passed away and I did feel his spirit and hear his echo later that year in my newborn son's tears. But luckily, I did get to tell him what I needed to say and I'm so grateful for that. Twenty years later and that new born is a wonderful young man who dad would have been so proud of. Say it! Say the thing you need to say, tell him that you love him while he can still hear it, and say it at every opportunity. To your mom too. None of the quarrels mean anything when you come down to that bottom line, the only thing that matters is that you love one another.
Dad has been gone 19 years. A week before he passed away we did have that deep conversation and it was one of the greatest gifts I ever received. He gifted me with the time to have that talk while he was still alive. Love you dad....miss you.
Man you are so right!! I love your sincerity and I am 60 years old and I lost my Dad 5 days before Christmas in 1969 when I was 5 years old and this song really helps me cope and appreciate what I have! A beautiful wife and 2 daughters!!
MY Father passed away 5 months ago after a long battle of dementia - I will forever love my wife for pleading for me to make mends with my mom a few weeks before she passed away 6 years ago... with my Father, I was there many many nights by myself at ICU and Hospice just talking to him and seeing in his eyes the hurt and pain of all the lost years we wasted for not seeing eye to on things. I was there along with my 4 brothers when he passed away.. My Brothers and I still do not see eye to eye on many things but I thank them for us all being able to get together for the last few weeks so my dad could see us all in the same room with him. We still have lots of things to sort through, but I made it a point to be there for my father on his last days of life....My wife told me to listen to this song when my mom was passing away.... it opened my eyes and i promised myself to be there for her and for my dad regardless of not seeing eye to eye on religion, family and other critical stuff that happened....
If you have your parents, cherish them, as they will be gone in this cycle of life and you want no regrets..
Sorry for the loss of both your mother and father. Glad you were able to reconcile with your mother before she passed. I hope their memory is a blessing to you.
I'm 62, and my dad is still with us so far.
However, this song sobers me right quick as it is a reminder of the inevitable. I realize how blessed I am to have him around for so long. I will be lost when he goes.
Great reaction!
I’m 69 years now and have started writing letters of love and apologies to my children plus saying it to them. I am painting things for the grandkids to have when l pass away. There is no reason not to prepare with memories for them. This is a beautiful song with a powerful message.
I’m 67. I have 2kids I’ve not seen or spoken to in years. I think of them every day. I like to think I treat people a little better because of my experience. I really would like to connect soon.
Beautiful lyrics. Truly meaningful; especially as we mature and lose loved ones! A masterful,piece of music and powerful lyrics. I still weep when I hear it. In fact, I cry more deeply as I age!
Lost my Dad to alzheimers. I still had his living years to tell him, but he was already gone. He didnt know who any of us were. Mom continued to make chocolate chip cookies every day for him and carry them to the nursing home. He didnt remember her, the absolute live of his life, but the smell of those cookies triggered something in his brain and he would gobble them down like a child. It was Moms link to him even if he couldnt speak.
Thats beautiful!
My Mom passed away also from Alzheimer’s but before that my sister and I visited her every week, after a few years she had no idea who we were, but I made a cassette of the music she always liked, I put the headphones on her and played it, the smile on her face and then she called us by our names! Music solves everything!
Alzheimer's is one of the most evil diseases known to humankind 😥
The person you love is gone long before their life ends; the only saving grace is that for most there comes a point when the sufferer no longer knows there's anything wrong with them.
My nan died with Alzheimer's and my mum currently has vascular dementia. My nan didn't know who we were aswell when she passed...it's a terrible way to go and for the family. My mum still knows who we are but she's getting worse.
My dad passed in 91 a year after this song was released, I was 12 at the time. My family sheltered me from seeing him while he fell ill. So it hits hard when he sings the lyrics, 'I wasn't there the morning my father passed away' I miss you daddy❤
I tear-up every time I hear this now-a-days. I lost my Dad to cancer 8 years ago, and I still miss him every single day. If I had known how quickly he was going to pass, I could have done so much more for him in those last few days. He deserved it.
I beg you: treasure every day you have with him, as they are limited.
Lost my dad 20 years ago. Although he did not show emotions well, because growing up he wasn’t shown much love. I always knew that he loved me and was proud of me. Every one he met, he always bragged “my daughter is a nurse”. I don’t think I ever told him thank you for your sacrifices made to make sure our family had everything we needed and most times even the things we wanted. I love you Daddy, and I hope you can hear me say THANK YOU.💔💔💔
My dad actually loved this song. He was always pure country music. I still miss him after 9 years. 😢
I lost my dad a few months ago to complications due to cancer. My dad and I, mostly on my part, had a falling out for over 5 years. He had a hospital visit near where I now live. My husband almost literally pushed me out the door to go visit him. I had only planned on staying long enough to hear how he was and what the doctors were saying. His first words when I came into his room were, " Hey, son. I'm glad you came to see me. I'm sorry I hurt you." All of my defenses were shattered and we spent the next four and a half hours talking about and healing the rift between us. During our conversation, this song came up. My high school choir performed it at my baccalaureate, and it was as clear a memory to him as if it were yesterday. This song has become very special to me since. Thank you for this reaction.
I am so sorry for your loss but am glad that you were able to reconcile with him before he passed. May his memory be a blessing to you.
By this tune
I water the memories
of my Dad
with a bucket of tears.
( I ask him, still
..."how I am doing Dad?)
My father was diagnosed with cancer in 1989. This song was on the radio at the time so I knew about the song and the meaning behind it. We got the phone call from the hospital to come and say our goodbyes. I was aware of the meaning of this song so that night I took the time to share words with my father. I told him how I learn to walk in his shoes . as me and my girlfriend and my daughter got into our car. My girlfriend started the car and the radio came on, this song started from the queue I swear. I cried all the way home. My father passed away that night. Thank you for sharing this.🙏
My dad died in 2000 suddenly age 60 . Thought I’d have time. Song still can make me cry.
I cried when I listened to this song long before my father died, and now seeing the song's title is all it takes. My father died nearly 20 years ago, and it hurts as much as it did then.
This song literally came out the week my Dad passed away. The very first time I heard it was when I was getting dressed for his funeral. It totally wrecked me. Still does, 34 years later. 😢
Lost my dad 13 jan 1984 he was 38, this song still makes me cry😥🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
My dad died in 1990 when i was 7 im 41 now and a father myself and this song still makes me cry no matter how many times i hear it i miss my dad hardcore
Such a brilliant song and fantastic vocal performance by Paul Carrack. Gets me Every. Time.
lead singer is Paul Carrack ..... had hits with 3 bands (The Living Years, How Long with Ace, and Tempted by the Fruit of Another with Squeeze, plus a single of his own) .... quite a complete body of work for an "unknown"
Those that appreciate music, know exactly who Paul Carrack is, he is a a generational talent!
@@marsanchez2500I personally consider Paul as one of the top greatest vocalists of the rock era ever. Along with Lou Gramm from Foreigner.
Cool Running by Mike and the Mechanics with Paul Carrack was great as well.
@@davidchapman2213Silent Running, fyi
@@Faltor895 My bad. Thank. I think Cool Runnings was a movie. Don’t know why I typed that since I’ve never even seen the movie, lol.
I had no idea about the awards. That’s awesome. I think this song hit everyone the same way.
I lost my dad last summer, so this song hits hard! There is definitely a lot I wish I would have said or done.
Ditto…… to lung cancer and dementia. Miss him more every single day.
Sorry for both you're losses 🙏
One of the most moving songs ever, Paul Carrack's voice is perfect for it.
A lot of fathers sat their sons down & made them listen to this song . I sat there a little embarrassed back in 89 i think??while he expected me to understandt the enormity of this song it was lost on me. It got played a lot at work on our local radio station for years during the 90s & thats where i "got" the lyrics. My father has passed away since & of course this song really upsets me but i also thank the song as i took the songs advice & made sure i "was" there that morning when he passed away & made sure our petty arguments never surfaced for the previous 10 years all because of this beautiful song. Paul carrick or whoever wrote this song "thankyou"
so nostalgic! to me the song has always meant to always tell people you love that you love them before its to late to do so
My dad died just before Christmas last year. He and i didnt have a great relationship and in his final years I was in constant dilemma as to how much energy to put towards trying to repair that relationship. The damage was not because he did anything wrong, we were just two very different people with very different ways of showing love. This song really speaks to me ❤
Almost 25 years since my dad passed. We had a great relationship. He, like us all, had faults, but overall was a good man. There is always more that could have been said. Just treasure the good as much as you can.
23 years since my Father passed and 37 since my Mother, not a day goes by that I don't miss them and long for the day I will be reunited with them
I grew up in the 60's and 70's. I love this song. It has no much meaning. I knew you would get teary eyed when you heard it. A powerful song !!
I grew up listening to this.... Makes me cry now...
Daddy , I miss you. I saw my Daddy take his last breath. It was painful. But I know that I know I showed him love and respect. A man of honor was he.
I appreciate this song soooooooo much!!!
My mother passed away about 4 yrs ago. My dad passed away just 3 months after.
I was born in 1952. ( there was 5 of us kids)
We were in a small town in southern Illinois,,,, of 5,200 population.
They were like the perfect ‘Leave it to Beaver’ parents of the ‘50’s.
During my childhood I never hear them even argue one time!!!
Like all kids, I took them for granted!
But,,, because of this song I made sure that i told them all that I needed to say to them about how GREAT they were as parents & how proud I was that I was there son!!!
Altogether thier family grew to nearly 150 kids, grand, great grand & great-great grand kids,,, before they passed!
Thank you,,, Mike and the Mechanics!!!!!!!
You said Bacharach correctly. One of the greatest songwriters of the last 70 or so years. He recently passed away
Made me cry with a big proud smile thanks daddy
Right on Sebs, the song has served it's purpose if it motivates the listener to say what needs to be said. Mike & the mechanics is basically Genesis bassist/guitarist Mike Rutherford's solo project. The lead vocalist here is the amazing Paul Carrack, one of Britain's greatest R&B/Soul singers. The original line up also featured another incredible vocalist, Paul Young who sings lead on two other great tracks from their mid 80's debut album: Silent running & All I need is a miracle. Also check out a later little heart warming gem, Beggar on a beach of gold, cheers
Lost my dad 40 years ago when I was 4,Wish I had to get to know him 💙
The one thing I love about your reactions is that you literally read the words that were written for the songs! I believe you have a beautiful soul❤
This song makes me think about how much ive wanted a better relationship with my Father but also reminds me how important it is that im there for my kids to support them, love them and enjoy being with them.
The first time I heard this song I was driving, it got to me so much that I started crying and had to pull the car over. I never once heard my father say that he loved me but he gave a lot to provide for his family. In my 40’s I had a chance to do a Masters Degree and my thesis was based on my relationship with my father and how I then fathered to my children and the influence this song made on me.
Came out in 1988, written by B A Robertson & Mike Rutherford (white suite & guitar). This chart was hit around the world. I was 28 yrs old when this came out & cried so much. I'm from the UK too. 💝💝💝
I am 64 years old. I grew up as an Air Force brat, my dad served in the army at first in the Korean war, then he joined the Air Force and served in the Vietnam war. War. He met my mom while in paris, France. Mama was French. They were five of us kids, four girls and a boy. I lost my brother a couple of years ago. He was the baby. What I wanted to tell you is that I am so proud of my father. I'm proud to be an American and I'm proud that I was the military kid. I remember the day daddy got back from Vietnam. We were stationed on the Air Force Base in Maine and it was winter and there was heaps of snow. But I remember an Air Force truck stopping in a man got out in his dress. Blues caring a duffle bag and I said that's daddy and I ran and ran and ran through the snow. I was 9 years old. I have two nephews that were in the army and served two tours each in Afghanistan and I am so proud of them. Thankfully they both came home to their wives and children. Thank you for all the videos you show of the military and the honorable men and women.❤
Two other tear jerkers examples of many are"I will always love you(Dolly Parton)" and "Are you lonesome tonight (Elvis Presley)."
my lovely dad passed away 1 month before my son was born always bring tears to my eyes i love this song
My father never got to meet his grandchildren either..and now one of my sons have gone too..this song kills me.
cared for my father through his cancer he died at home and i was by his side reasuring him i would look after the family. we still think about him and remember the fun and good times.
Me too.
25 years ago I lived in Kentucky. I worked construction. A coworker lost his grandfather. At the service, this song was sung by a local band. I was there as one of the backing vocals, bass/baritone. Coworkers dad was estranged from the grandpa.
My precious father went away in 1970 😢 and i couldn't understand why. He probably had things he couldn't get over and couldn't see anyway out except to take his own life. Today i understand completely because i faced the same thing in my life when i came to a turning point. I prayed for God most high and he answered my prayers and i went to rehab in Tupelo mississpi . Praise God most high I've been clean and sober for 40 years ❤ thank you for your reaction to this beautiful song. It still tugs at the heart whenever i heart it ❤😊
I lost my dad a couple of years ago. I lived out of town, and didn't see him that much. We didn't see eye to eye on a lot and I usually felt worse having talked to him, as he was judgy and I never felt good enough. But I loved him. So much. And I regret not seeing him more often. He passed away and I wasn't there and I will die regretting that. Call your dad. Talk to your dad. Tell him you love him. Don't fool yourself thinking you'll talk to him tomorrow. This song just guts me.
❤Touching and tears! ALWAYS HAVE LOVED THIS SONG!!
Another song that I can't seem to hear without tearing up.
Mark Twain once said, "When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years." A week before my dad passed I called him, but he was so weak my step mom had to talk for him. His last words were how proud he was of the man I had become. Next to my wife and children, having him as my father and those final words was the greatest gift God ever gave me.
I was lucky enough to have this song come on while I was cleaning my garage while my dad sat in a chair and watched. We always had discussions that we had differing opinions about, except for our love for the Chicago Cubs, the team that had recruited him in 1943, but then the Army recruited him, effectively robbing the public from ever seeing this man that could knock the cover off the ball. He pasded in 2006 on his birthday. He did not get to see the Cubs win the World Series in 2016. I miss him dearly, and thank him for everything he ever did for me and lessons taught. Rest in Peace, dad. I love you. I'll be seeing you and mom again 8:28 when I come home to Jesus.
It is amazing to me that though it does make logical sense to finally realize in our hearts that everyone actually has feelings, not just you. Man, how lost are we that we aren't so as close as we all could be and should be.
A phone call on a Saturday morning, go to the HospItal. Get there too late, my main Man and best friend ever had gone. He is always here though, God bless you Dad
Paul Carrack - a fantastic singer. The other singer with this band was Paul Young, now sadly deceased. Great reaction.👍👍😊😊
I think you’ll find mate that Paul young will be offended that you say he died…..he’s still rockin’ and rollin’
@@mufuliramark You're referring to a different Paul Young! The Mike & The Mechanics Paul Young, who formally sang with Sad Cafe, sadly died on 15 July 2000. Great loss.
@@waynejones1054 Ooops, my bad. 👍🏻
@@mufuliramark It's confused me more than once😄
I loved my Dad and miss him so very much since he passed away in 1974. Both he and my mum came from the generation that fought through the Second World War and being born in 1953 I greatly appreciate the sacrifice their whole generation made on our behalf. To me, they are the greatest of all generations.
The most beautiful song ever written
This came out right after my dad passed. I was 17 and just graduated highschool. It reminds me of him everytime I hear it but in a good way.
My dad passed away before this song came out. I first heard this song on an episode of Oprah and I immediately wrote a letter to my mum to tell her how much I loved her and appreciated all the things she did for me. It was a cathartic moment and I immediately felt better and my relationship with her was amazing after that. Sadly she passed away , but it gave me comfort that I’d said everything I needed to. I still tear up when I hear it but they’re happy tears. Luv ya.
My grandfather passed away in an auto accident in 1990. My mom chose this song to be played at his funeral. So, this holds a special meaning to me for that reason.
This was played at my father-in-law’s funeral.
You expressed perfectly the true heart of the emotions that this song invokes, Sebs. Thank you so much
Beautiful heartfelt reaction Sebs, I don't know anyone who wouldn't be affected by this song the same way as you. Paul Carrack has an amazing voice and nobody could have done this better and the lyrics are just achingly beautiful. The kind of song that makes me wish I'd known my Dad. Thanks for your reaction, it means a lot.
Lost my dad almost 30 years ago, and still tear up thinking about the things we might have talked about, but didn't. Maybe if there's an afterlife, we'll catch up then, my only hope.
Happy Father's Day to you, Sebs!.... and to all the dad's out there! A dad is an awesome thing to be!!! Best job ever, imho!!! (not that my opinion is all that humble!!! lol) Peace and love to all the dads, from the Great State of Texas!!!
dads, not dad's ... god, I had typos.... lol
hate, not had... rofl
geeeeez
So many great songs from this period…Genesis, Sting, Phil Collins, Peter Gabriel. All great rabbit holes for you to explore.
Great reaction. Lead singer is Paul Carrack, hes just great. He was in another group back in the 80s called Ace, the song is "How Long Has This Been Going On", great song too btw. ❤🎼
On a different note....Has anyone ever told you, you look just like Jimmy Fallon? 😮
My dad and I had a conversation when I was a young adult about him doing the best he could with what he knew. I felt peace with him after that talk. When he passed years later, I knew I'd see him again when it's my time to go. Can't wait to see him again!❤❤❤❤
One of the purest reactions to this great song on YT. Fantastic job.
Oh, I'm in tears! I am so glad I had "that conversation" with my dad before he passed. He was my hero and I was always so afraid that I didn't live up to his expectations. He was the strong and silent type (a career US Navy officer and fighter pilot) with a heart of gold. I told him that her was my hero, and he told me that he was proud of me. He's been gone for 14 years and I miss him every day.
Genesis was jammed pack with super talented people, Mike Rutherford, Phil Collins, and Peter Gabriel - just more of their great solo work.😊
Steve Hackett, Tony Banks, Anthony Phillips
I’m in floods of tears here watching this..Great reaction mate..🙏
I miss my dad every day. But I am fortunate enough to have made my peace with my parents so I got to know them as adults.
Oh my gosh I love this song. It's beautiful and yes that singer was born to sing it. I sing everytime, but not out loud because it always brings me to tears and nobody not even me wants to hear all of that lol.
Lead singer is Paul Carrack… he’s awesome! Sings another song with Mike and the Mechanics called Silent running.. another band called Ace is a song How Long and also another good one he sings is with Squeeze called Tempted
I heard the song for the first time two days after my dad passed away on his 57th birthday in 2019. I was driving and this song had me thinking and crying. Someone knew I needed it most at that moment. Great reaction, man. Thank you
Hi Seb - Chris in the UK here - i love yuor channel as you put so much into it. I am sure you have been told but the singer on Living Years is Paul Carrack - from Yorkshire England - a truly incredible singer and still in his 70's doing it - try an earlier incarnation in ACE called "How Long" - incredible late 70's vocal
My dad died in 2020, and I can honestly say he knew in the living years how much I loved him
Kind of interesting you said something about listing to this when your father passes. I was not even born when my dad passed. And this song held me since the moment of its release. Two of my three siblings and I were with our mother as she passed. On the way home from holding her hand as she went, I put on this song. I BAWLED in my driveway before heading in my house to tell my husband she was gone. Gut-wrenching. She has been gone now 21 years come the beginning of July, and this song still makes me bawl. But the memories of her are all the sweeter as the years pass.
my father died when i was an infant, my first son was born the same year as this song was released. the song gets me every time i listen to it. "i wasn't there the morning when my father passed away, but i thought i heard his echo in my babies new born tears"
I used to listen to this song and dread the thought of my father passing and then a few years ago, he died in my arms. Part of me died with him and I miss him every second of every day...
This song gets to me every time I hear it.....I grew up in a very strained relationship with my Father.... we never resolved our differences and now he has passed on. He is now at peace and I am left to bear the sorrow.
You are so blessed to have that I was in prison when my daddy died and I will never ever get over it. He loved me so much.
I lost my dad on the 9th of July this year.....this song is exactly how our relationship was...never told him the things I had to say....I have a terrible time forgiving myself....
You have a beautiful heart, and it's sweet to see the music touch your soul. Your reactions are a blessing ❤
This song makes me weep for my dad gone since 2012. So much left unsaid.
66 years old and I cry every time!!
This one is timeless, fantastic song
For me it’s about both my parents. When they were alive I’d been driving home and this song came on my car radio. Got home, mum and dad were in the kitchen, I said to both of them, “If I had a thousand parents lined up to choose, I’d choose both of you.” They both looked at me in amazement then smiled. We all got along beautifully, no bad memories, I never argued with them, but thought I’d tell them how much I loved them, In Their Living Years, because one day, as now, they have both passed. Miss them terribly. But so glad I heard the song and told them what I did.
Dad passed aged 89 peacefully in his own bed. Mum passed 95 one hour in hospital.