I'm 35 and feel so old and like I wasted my 20s on anxiety and depression and heartbreak. I'm going to work every day to get over it. This was so helpful. Thank you!
I see you and celebrate you. Nothing is a waste. All of it is BEAUTIFUL. Even the parts we're not proud of. They make us who we are today. Have grace with yourself. You're doing amazing. Much love and joy to you!!! 🌺🌻🤗💛🌞
I'm 38 and yes the same, trudging through this world especially as a black woman seems to be like walking through mud constantly wiping your face off trying to see through the gunk of life. I have finally grown to Love Myself,and clarity is pushing me forward, i still have days of angst and regret ,but it is my motivation instead of my hinderance. You got this ❤you're going to be such an asset to the world because of what you've been through remember you're not old ! 😂 your 30s are like your twenties ,but better. now you understand and know better and can do better 🤎🤎🌹
I understand. It's not too late as long as we keep living. May you flourish in Jesus name and shed the spirits of depression and anxiety . God's got you!!!
I was quite isolated as a teenager, and I'm learning how to properly socialise at 30. It feels like I should've been doing this 15 years ago, but I am in a better place now than I was then
It’s okay I’m the same at 27 almost 28 I would like to meet people in my age group who are also blooming. You’re the friend someone like me is looking for! So keep going and keep smiling. You will do mighty things 🎉
Well done ;) I did that at 20, and found good friends. The depression i dealt with in my twenties was very hard, and they where there. When trying to socialize i felt so bad, but they still accepted my goofy self. It's not about age, it's about the experience we have in common, people will love you, go out yourself out there 👍🏼👍🏼
I feel like 20-40 was me learning how to live due to childhood trauma and undiagnosed depression. Now at 43, I am ready to live out new goals such as travel, a healthy romantic relationship and and creating a new circle of friends and "family" for myself. I am happy I have wisdom, knowledge and understanding and a lot of life left!
I m not a young beautiful black female entrepreneur❤ I m a 64yr old white woman recovering from cancer and your words were just what I needed to hear💖...I loved it when you told us it took 9 years to get your degree🎉 Thank you for your positivity ❤
The Lord Jesus✝️call all of us -no matter the race and predicament- his children. Don’t We have such a great Father God in heaven. Great victory on beating cancer ♥️
💛💛💛🫂🫂🫂 You're amazing as you are. And recovering from cancer is no small feat. That is HUGE. CONGRATULATIONS, BEAUTIFUL. You're doing wonderful. I see you and celebrate you!!! 💛💛💛
As a 28 yrs old single woman, no college degree, i feel like I failed myself seeing my high-school classmates started stellar careers, got married and are starting families. At times I am wallowing in regrets and what if 's, I needed to hear this. Thank you so much
Hey I'm 28 too and I feel the EXACT same way...all my peers finished masters and are in fancy neighbourhoods. I think as long as you keep going, we will get to our goals! Wish you the best 🎉
Same position pretty much (28 y/o female, no degree). Just went through a tough breakup in the last week. I just decided I'm going to start a small biz selling my art, traveling more, and learning to play an instrument, as well as a new language. It doesn't need to happen all at once, either-- a little bit at a time, small goals, continuous progress. I kept thinking it was too late for me, that I should have started way sooner, that the ship has sailed... but ya know what?? Fuck it! Now is the time. Wish you both goodness and triumph long into the future. ♥
Just know that you could look into a trade scholarship or look at online certifications. You can do ittt! Find something you might enjoy or stimulate your noggin. And if you don't like one, move onto the next. Part of success is failure. Learning what does and doesn't work.
You are worthy of love and are beautiful. College is very hard to do without a support system, completely alone. And it's hard without a motivation for a specific career path or at least specific area of learning you're interested in
“People want you to compete with other people but when you realize there is no competition and you opt out of that race and live your life to the fullest; not someone’s else’s life, not what other people think you should be doing or what you think you should be doing.” I love it!
Hey ya’ll - I’m 57 and just starting to bloom! Yes, be Present in every day, every moment; you are exactly where you are supposed to be; it’s never too late. Enjoy the journey and appreciate all those small joys in your life. “Where I am is beautiful” - perfect! Thanks for the great talk.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. 💛🌺 We will definitely be taking this wisdom for ourselves. You're so encouraging and inspiring. 🤗☺️ Much love and joy to you!
Thank you for sharing. For various reasons I am just coming into my own, so to speak in my 40s. I wish I had done some things differently, but I'm thankful for the lessons learned and thankful that my kids see me changing and stretching myself. Most of all, I'm thankful that my ultimate value and approval comes from God through Christ, so whatever I do or don't accomplish by man's standards is secondary. I'm working on living in that reality.
@@lizcreationz8654 Awww... So sorry to hear you're struggling, Liz. You're not alone - particularly over the past few days, cosmic energy has seemed particularly heavy! Know that Creator never sees you as a failure. Do your best to align with that Source energy and see yourself from God's perspective. Give yourself compassion. You have a gift to share. Have faith knowing there is a way you can fulfill your purpose here. Maybe this is your opportunity! Time for a shift. Sending Blessings your way.
I'm 57 I'm a semi-retired janitor😊 Why I feel like I can be a hiphop/edm composer when I retire in 4yrs is BEYOND me😮 Probably because I invested in the equipement already✅️ They called me "Late Nate" in school because of my attendance, and I despised it🤬 I embrace it now, so I'm gonna be "Late Nate" when I monetize myself in 4 short years.🥳 Until then, I will master my craft.🧐 Luv ya'll🖤
As a soon to be 33 year old woman with no kids, never had a real relationship that was leading to anything, just switched my career, and haven’t bought a house yet…. HONEY, I needed to hear this. 😊 Thank you. I am exactly where I’m supposed to be in my life.
Oh ma'am, you are not alone! I just turned 32, moved back in with my parents after a bad break up, and have no children. This is a helpful message. I think the constant competitiveness in life makes us feel we need to get certain things by a certain time. The funny thing is, if we had them, would that be enough? That's why being present in yourself is so important.
Same feeling right now. No job, kids and never been in a relationship. It feels like I'm a failure. I hope and pray I get over it soon. I will be 32 this December and I wish that day never comes 😢
Being able to brush your teeth or take shower is indeed a blessing. I learned it after going through chronic depression. Because in that state it was exhausting to even get out of bed. You earned a new subscriber...
@@anonymous-cx7ng I don't want to leave Islam but want to leave my family. But it's not easy because of multiple reasons. Btw my family is abusive too and Islam has nothing to do with it. Which country you are from?
@@anonymous-cx7ng I am sorry that you felt like, you had to leave your faith.. God is always with you no matter how ppl reconstructe religion to fit their human ideas. ❤️
Wooooo tell me about it. I was in that state of chronic depression. Still have depression and anxiety but improve enough where I am able to get out of bed brush my teeth and finally working
My youngest sister was a wife and mother before she died a suicide at 21. I'm not married nor have kids and I am 57, with a high school diploma and retired and in a wonderful relationship with a 76 year old man for 14 years and living in my own apartment, being alone and independent. I realize that it is NEVER too late for anything you want.
I'm sat here as a 45+ year old woman with tears streaming down my face. Thank you, thank you, a million times thank you. This is what I needed to hear today 💕
Whoa!! You are YOUNG! Wait until you hit 50, 60, 70 and you still have things to achieve! I too was depressed in college, but I'm so happy to have gone through the higher education process. My life, as a late bloomer is full of action/adventure... I just didn't sit in what I thought was my goal. Now I know, the goal is finding and living you! Not some heavy duty media star. Not having the big house. Not having the partner of your dreams. It's finding YOU -- the holy grail. At 18 I traveled the world looking for my dream guy, dream career -- someone to discover me. The key is to find you and your joy and happiness. Being famous is a manipulation to pull you away from finding who you are.
I'm just seeing this today. Its 2023 says it was posted two years ago. Now for my comment! I'm 60! This video is so great. I married right out of high school, had four children, the marriage ended. Instead of going to college I taught myself how to speak properly got an interview, landed the job of receptionist. Fast forward I became a flight Attendant at 41 married at 43. Recently separated and divorcing. I have felt like I have wasted my whole life because I thought my validation came from being married, chosen if you will. Now I am doing my best to rediscover or discover me. Its scary. For the first time in my life I'm setting boundaries and learning to love me. I'm sending so much love, and success your way. Your message was right on time. I still look good feel good I am good. You Are Good. Thank you😊❤❤❤❤
I'm glad I came back to this video today and read through the comments. The fact you became a flight attendant at 41 is amazing! * 0 * I'm 37yrs old and feel like that kind of traveling wouldn't be for me. Maybe when I was in my early 20's that route would be fun to do with the energy I had then. Not so sure about now. Lol. But thank you for your comment. Very inspirational. 🩷✨️
A 33 years old woman, turning 34 soon. I graduated in 2018 but no job yet, still studying though. No relationships No kids, I'm just in the air. I really needed to hear this 🙏
Keep studying and trying your best. Also, make sure to put yourself out there (e.g. go to coffee shops, book stores, go with friends or take yourself out to a nice restaurant or shopping area, dance class or exercise/gym, keep up with church/spiritual life, etc.). This will help you to stay positive and also meet other future friends or potential spouse). **All of the above has helped me immensely!
@teresai1877 thanks for the advice 🙏 . The problem is that I was sexually abused during my childhood from 5 years to 13 years. I hate socializing and prefer being alone. Thus why I grew up with no friends. Will try my best to make a move, thank you dear!
Excellent video... Im a male and at 23 I thought my life was finished and over 😅 just because I wasn't able to come up with a great software product that'd make millions... I was comparing myself to one some of the youngest software developers in the USA.. one guy 'made it' at around 18 years old... His software product was brought by yahoo for millions of dollars... I'm now 38...I've been so blessed to gain wisdom thru my experiences... Now I'm living each day as my last, I'm so motivated and people like you are helping heal this world thru your words life and music. God bless u Alicia.
*"There is no way to be behind in my own life... the race doesn't exist"* I just turned 25 and I've been comparing myself to my friends and the things they're doing and just feeling super lost. Thank you so much for this video, I really needed to hear this 💛
That's where I was at 25... feeling so low and everyone above me,.. now 28 and I feel free, ready and excited that my journey is just beginning and it's glorious,... I can't fit in a box. My life was never meant to be predictable and I have learnt to enjoy my own ride rather than compare to someone else's that society might have placed on a pedestal. Hopefully you get to the point of only caring about your heart's desires for your life and eventually learn how to show up to your own plans. ❤Best wishes, you got this
I’m 57 and after 35 years of marriage, I am divorcing a toxic human …, I just completed my 3rd Peachtree Road Race…I’m trading for and will be hiking the Grand Canyon in the fall…I have earned three degrees and about to embark on earning my Ph D…. My BEST of me is Right NOW. I still have goals. I’m going to get them…ALL In God’s time, not mine.🙏🏾❤️ Thank you for this shining light you are!
I'm turning 39 in a couple of weeks, no kids, no relationship that's ever really gone anywhere and ups and downs in running my business. Lately gotten a lot of pressure from family to adopt even though I don't feel ready for parenthood. The incredible thing is I feel like am right where am supposed to be. I finally stood up to my family and told them I will have a child when am good and ready, not because of pressure and am so proud of myself. I realised I want to love me, heal me, enjoy me and thrive as me, and I want to guard that with everything right now because it's my peace.
Yeah but women are different. We don’t have until 50 to have children. The older we get the harder will be to want to have a child. I think that’s mostly the worry here. I am 33 and not married not kids. I am worried bc of this 😭😭😭 I want a child sooo bad
I'm 46 and feel like society has thrown me by the wasteside so this video spoke to me. Sometimes I feel like life has passed me by but then I remember the things I have accomplished in my life so far and remind myself that bigger and better things are on the horizon. I appreciate your video, it really helped get me back on the right mindset.
I clicked on this video because I'm 44 going on 45 this summer and I do feel like I failed at life. I feel insecure due to not being able to make my dreams come true. Thank you for your positive words.
Sounds like we're in a similar-ish place 😢 I hope these words have encouraged you as much as they have me. We can do this! We're not at the end of our journeys yet. There is much, so much, that we can and will do yet 💕😊
30 y/o failure here.. I got burned out almost immediately after school, so I never really made it out into worklife. I have no partner, no kids, no job and very little money. The apartment I live in is old and falling apart. My body is also ruined because of medications and comfort eating. My 20s got destroyed by depression and anxiety.. And I'm still not any closer to having a more normal life. I don't even have any real ambitions to try to pursue. I feel like a prisoner in my own body, in this town and in my life as a whole. I just feel like a waste of oxygen at this point.. I'm just sitting around waiting for the day I collapse in a heart attack or something...
The only reason people feel “behind” is also when people compare themselves to others. It creates a lot of anxiety. I’m 50 and am literally redesigning my whole life. I already lived more than half of my life. I need to build within my lane. In retrospect I see that when I have listened to God, I never wasted time. I spinned my wheels a lot when I started listening to the world and doing my own thing. When I was more in tuned with God, my life was much smoother. So I’m going back to the source and shutting out all else,.
Precisely. Nothing is a waste of time if you are sincerely pursuing your goals and vision. God instills those things in your for a reason. Your varied experiences may even all come into play at one time one day down the road.
Same here. I asked The Most High to get me out of NYC before the next winter and I left that Oct. I have surrendered my life to The Most High and live in service. It's been a wild, crazy ride. But, it's perfect for me. I trust in the Most High with all my heart and I (try not to) lean not on my own understanding. 👍🏽😉👍🏽
Thank you Alecia...what a powerful message for me, 73 yrs young....7/15/23!! I am enough of everything... especially gratitude for the opportunity to keep on keeping on!! LOVE your Spirit 🤩!!
Thank you for this! I haven’t accomplished the buying a house milestone and at 42 I am applying to law school in an attempt to fulfill my childhood dream of becoming an attorney. I see people who have hit these “milestones” and many of them are not happy. As long as I am breathing I am not behind. I needed this
I am new subscriber, I am 53 years old, a mother of two grown children and two young grandchildren; I have been living my life in stuck mode, wondering how can I move forward whether it’s learning a new skills or hobbies; to wanting to discover and going to different locations. But listen to your message is encouraging me to stop and realize what I am doing is meanful. So thank you for your encouragement and will continue to watch and listen to your aspiring messages.
Thank you! I am 59 years young and I too am just beginning to bloom. I always knew historically, that I was a late bloomer. These last several weeks my Lord confirmed that! You are an affirmation and again I thank you. I stress what you said about being grateful...because that's when the accelerated blooming, growth started🙏🏽😘🙌🏽
Dear Alecia, thank you for this immensely encouraging message to a 71-year-old never-married female who thought she would be married with a family by age 30 and who has felt "behind" ever since. Am working to break free from the myriad of lies with which our culture bombards us. Would give you a hug if I could! 💖
Every time I feel “behind” in life, it’s because other people made me feel that way. In reality I am fine with who I am and my life. It’s the world that sees me as worthless, not me 🤷🏼♀️ I don’t align with the values of this system and this society and never have, and it has never been a problem for *me* but it has always been a problem to others.
31 in a few days & all I keep telling myself is that I’am Enough! Never been In a Real relationship, no children. Not doing what I love for work. It’s a Process showing my gratitude to God despite what I feel are shortcomings. His timing not mine.
I'm just here to remind yall, if you had healing to do from trauma, if you have had to overcome oppression especially internal oppression, if you're neurodivergent, differently abled, struggling with mental or chronic illness, etcetc then you are not behind. You have been busy healing and learning; and you don't need to worry about being behind because when you are ready, when life is ready, for you to blossom, you are going to bring so much wisdom and beauty that it will all be worth it.
I was told at 17 that I was a late bloomer by a teacher and how sad is that? It has been this label that has haunted me for my whole life and I am now over 50. Currently I am in school pursuing a healthcare career and most of the students are in their 20's and 30's and it has been hard not to feel like I do not belong so your words are so helpful to me. Everything you said is so true. Thanks for spreading positive content on TH-cam.
Good luck with your degree! I was one of those 20 year old’s in a health care degree, but I feel like mature students such as yourself, bring SO much value and life experience to the job. Totally understand how you’d feel like the odd one out, but allow your age and wisdom to be your strength in helping your patients 💕
31yo. I spent my 20s chasing a man-now my ex. feels like Im starting again. my 2024 will focus on my physical health, finances, and learning new skill- learning spanish, and creating new hobbies/sports. Im counting on me. 💪
I stopped using words Young and Old. Life doesn’t care about those things. And my dog taught me that too. I just say Alive. I am alive. That’s what matters. Humans are funny. We created all these words and then attached positive and negative meanings to them. It doesn’t serve us. The most important fact is You are alive , that’s what truly matters
I feel the same way as you, I feel stupid being in my 40s and still wanting to go to LA and become an actress. I'm like who wants to go see my middle-aged ass on the big screen? But I still want to do it, I just try not to bring it up in mixed company anymore.
@@daniellemaroney2931you should research on Kathryn Joosten. Didn’t start acting until she was 42, didn’t go to Hollywood until she was in her 50s, took her first major role at 59, and by the time she passed away at 72, she had two Emmys and was loved by millions. So next time you think you’re too old, remember her story :)
same girl, 42 and look back at so many opportunities I didn't take advantage of... but this can't be the end, right? There has to be more to look forward to...
In our head it all looks so much easier than in practice I feel. We can travel thousands of miles in our head in minutes, but we still can only put one foot in front of the other. Also, the order of lessons in life are different for everyone and maybe even not the same. (Trying to tell that to myself) So focus on what lessons you have mastered and based off that what it is now you wanna do
I'm 43 and started college online a year and a half ago. Thank you for your words, I often toggle between feeling behind and just being in the moment. I struggled with ADHD my whole life and felt dumb, but now I know that I needed those years to raise my kids and figure out my coping mechanisms before going back to school. Having ADHD can really make a person feel inferior though. Bless you for your encouragement and if you read this comment, I hope you are encouraged in return
Making friends that were older than me helped me so much. They are the ones keeping me grounded and reminding me my life isn't over in my 20s. I know I am not old at 24, but when I was 19/20 and dropping out if college because I was suffering from undiagnosed depression and ADHD, I felt like the biggest failure in the world. I felt like my life would never be back "on track," but it never was on track in the first place because I was letting other people drive. Am I doing what I want to be doing right now? No. But I can see my life ahead of me now instead of wallowing in sorrow and anxiety and uncertainty and being hard on myself for failing at things I never even wanted for myself. I was never going to be the person other people thought I should be, and now I better understand what I want my life to look like. I'm not an 18 yr old kid who just picked a major because I felt like I had to.
I feel like everyone around me (of any age but esp my age or younger) is way ahead of me, they all have their shit better together. I know that's not true but it feels like it a lot of the time. I'll be 28 this year and logically I know that's so young but social media has made me feel horribly behind - so I deleted them for now. I knew I saved this video and scrolled in my watch later until I found it and it brought me to tears. Thank you for this.
I truly needed to hear this. Growing up with abuse and trauma, I spent so many years having to process all of that. I'm almost 40 and finally ready to live on my terms but feel left behind, like a loser.
This video is 2 years old but it poped up on my feed today July 6 2023! Great words of encouragement. I’ve been feeling down this week looking at where I am and where I’d like to be, things i want to accomplish, challenges I’m facing……. All of these thoughts make me feel discouraged. These words you spoke were very encouraging to me. I have so much to live for and be thankful for instead of focusing on what i don’t have. Thank you so much for reminding that I’m not behind….I’m exactly where i am supposed to be!!!!!!
I'm about to turn 19 and already reached that stage of feeling behind! Mostly because I don't have a job, and I'm taking a gap year instead of rushing into college debt, I feel like everyone is judging me. But I know I'm doing what's right for me! Thank you so much for this video which I found at just the right moment. 💙💙💙
I am celebrating 61 years, and I am just getting started. Enjoying the journey. Loving the process and the lessons along the way. I am blooming beautifully.💖💖💖
I love that you said when those thoughts come at you understand that they are a lie!!! That is the single hardest thing I've been trying to do for months now but a little helps! Just asking "that's def. a lie" or "where did you hear that lie from"
Thank YOU so much for watching and resonating with me on this. 💛💛💛 And yes! I love this! Going to the root of the issue is always a good idea. You may find that the voice was from a parent or loved one and we internalized it along the way. Sending you so much love! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm 42 and I got my license last year. I try to remind myself that for most people life gets better as you age not in your youth. I even had successes older. Older people have wisdom that young people lack.
I’m 31 literally this morning I wrote in my journal how I truly fear not reaching my goals, and healing myself enough to be able to live the life I want before I die. This came just in time. Thank you❤
Wow, “there is no way you can be behind in your own life”. Thank you, I'm not gonna lie I avoided your video on my timeline for a few days but I needed this sit down. Thank you 💗
You are dropping much wisdom.🙌🏾 At 54, I am finally doing what I wanted or thought I should have been doing with my life in my teens 20's....30's. Actually, I am doing even more than I imagined. Life happened FOR me not AGAINST me and the truth is that I wasn't ready back then. I am enjoying life over 50 like I never thought I could. I always say....I ain't getting old. I'm getting better!!!💕
I’m 22 and feel like my life is over. When you are the age currently of the youth who is doing so much in such short time (due to social media) or due to having support years ago and having that nurtured, it’s really hard. Daily I feel like my life is over and I was not dealt a good set of cards. This video is supportive.
I truly understand this video was made 2 years ago, but to pop up today as the VERY FIRST video when I opened TH-cam IMMEDIATELY after talking to God and telling Him I feel like I’m in a midlife crisis because I feel left behind…. This video couldn’t have come at thee most PERFECT moment!!! So I’m screaming to you THANK YOU!!! The need to hear this was directly from God!!! THANK YOU SOOOOO SO MUCH AGAIN!!!!!🥰🤗
So simple but it hit when you said “I don’t want to peak in my 20s”. I’m entering my late 20s and trying to transfer into a university. Wish I knew back then what I knew now so I could have this accomplished already but I wasn’t mature at all in my early 20s to follow through with anything anyway. Thanks for this ❤️
As a 16 year old, I’m glad I learned this earlier than later. I’m saving myself from years of doubt and discouragement. I’m happy you made this video. God bless ✨
Yes you should be!! Congratulations to your awakening. It is truly of great value to know this early in life. I won't say waste, but you'll probably achieve your goals faster. However, keep in mind, everyone has struggles that challenge and teach them life lessons. So, live in the present as you move forward. Do great things. And, always seek wisdom to overcome any hurdles you may have in the future. 👍🏽
This is a great message! I will be 40 next year and I feel like I am just now "getting my life together" in the last couple years. I was definitely giving myself a hard time about being a late bloomer until I started to trust God's timing. To not be hyper-focused on what is to come but to be more present and appreciate every step of my journey. I am thankful❤
I’m 38, have a wife and 3 kids. Had multiple jobs in one profession. Owned a business and lost it. Learned many new skills in my own time, been on ‘early retirement’ multiple times. Still feeling behind and actually going backwards, still trying to figure it all out😢
Not even 1 minute into your video and I feel the same. After high school I studied things I wasnt interested in and didnt let myself the time to think about what I really love. Because if you take time for yourself, people will think you are lazy and not motivated.
I’m 45, lost my dead end job at the start of Covid, and just finished my first semester back in school at a community college I searched “late bloomer” and after watching a Ted Talk and a Psych2Go video and I see your thumbnail and I’ll admit it…I second guessed what kinda message I could possibly gain from you Wow was I wrong. Your video hit me way harder than any of the vids I’ve watched Plus you were the only one to say “there’s nothing such as a late bloomer…you are where you are supposed to be” Thank you for this wonderful video. You are a hell of an orator. I’m saving this to my “Motivation” playlist and you’ve definitely earned a sub right here. You have a gift for this
Hello, I am 33 years old, and I had thought I would be married by now, with children, and with a ministry about saving lives who wrestle with depression but, it failed! Now I believe there's no hope! But, I am slowly coming back to myself with a new chapter; I am trying not to worry nor compare on what I lost. I have decided to go back to school, and I pray that God will open a new door even though I have failed to open the last two doors
I have this voice in the back of my head that tellse I should have started sooner, but you are right. I'm right where I'm supposed to be at this moment of time.
Yeeeeeeeeeees! You are exactly where you are supposed to be 💛💛💛 and I totally understand that voice. I get the same voice too. And it comes up at the most annoying times (especially when I'm feeling down on myself). But that voice is lying. The best time to start is TODAY! 💛💛💛😊😊😊
I'm a 25 year old and the only thing to i managed to complete is high school. I feel so left behind because all my mates are doing great and some are starting their families. It sucks but I thank you for this message.
I’m 19 and same. I started community college but I wanted to take a break to start working. But it’s so hard with lack of experience. I literally turn 20 next month and it’s so frustrating still needing my parents to do things monetarily for me when i can literally do it myself but just haven’t been given the chance 😔
I cried today because I am 37 and feel like I have no idea what I’m passionate about. I’ve been a mother since I was 23 my first child was special and I had a toxic relationship that was very traumatic. A couple weeks ago I took an LOA from my job because I was spent. This last couple weeks I realized I was surviving so long, I am learning to live and discover myself more every day. Thank you for this. This was for me
I'm in my late 40s and still not sure what I'm passionate about and worst I'm unemployed all.i know is I don't want a sucky 9to 5job with a shitty boss..
I’m 19 and I feel like I’m not feminine enough as a woman. I am at the point in my life where I want to present more feminine so when I see other women my age or younger able to do it I often find myself getting frustrated. God-willing I know my time will come, so I’m learning not to rush it
Im sure I felt the same way at your age bc I still do at 47 but check this out...our feminine is not hers or hers...we are all individuals. Choose what makes you feel good about you not what the world tells you that you look good in. Im in between...not a feminine woman but not a tom boy either. Im finding what makes me smile and that's enough 😊💚
I’m 45, about to start a new career in Health Informatics after I graduate with my Masters degree this fall. Thank you for this message because I’ve been feeling like I’m behind & now I feel motivated again! My best years are right now & I’m grateful for the me I am today!☺️
"Your best years are now." Thank you. 32 here, still building my company that I started 10 years ago. I'm still going strong. But I wish I could arrive already.
I turn 29 this year and I've struggled so much with trying not to feel like my life is over now, especially with going through childhood abuse that lasted until I moved out at age 17 and not feeling like I had a good past or a good future. I know this video is from 2 years ago, but it came up in my suggestions today and I'm so grateful it did. Even if my life isn't guaranteed in the future, I can make ***NOW*** the best days of my life, because they will always be the best days of my life if I make them so!
I agree, I have failed the road test like 4 times and this summer ill be taking it again for the 5th and im 27 now started learning how to drive at 25 and it seemed like everyone just got there license instantly and id beat my self up about the wait and wonder what's wrong with me, but at least im still trying and eventually it will happen.
Update!! Sis, did you pass yet!? And same story for me, I didn’t get my drivers license until I was 27, I failed the test twice. Had to get a permit 3 times 😩. But God made a way for me!
I’m 27 and just finished taking driving lessons-I failed my road test twice before, and I’m just now starting to feel confident and will likely take it again soon. But now my main goal is to be ok whether I fail or not, and to be patient with myself. Driving is a big responsibility, and it’s ok to feel anxious about it. I had felt similar to how you described for a long time, wondering how everyone else can just get their license and move on, feeling like there’s something wrong with me, but now I’m much more accepting of myself and where I’m at and can acknowledge that everyone lives a different life. Plus, I got to practice with a really nice instructor this time around, and it was a fun time-if I’d gotten my license years ago we never would have met, so there’s that too. Best of luck to you, me, and all of us “late” drivers out there-we got this 🎉🎉
Yes! I needed this, I just graduated with a bachelor’s in psychology, it took me almost 11 years to complete and honestly only one person really said congratulations which really sucked. Then my sister in law received praise and admiration I just felt like a loser, but looking back I wouldn’t change it. Thank you for this video ❤
Congratulations!!! You did that! I can only imagine how happy you must be to have accomplished such a big thing for yourself. Good job and God bless you! Keep going 🎉
Thank u So much! 'My Best days are right Now'! I like that. Fri, I did something I've always wanted to do, Finally at age 69! I purchased the necessities, and took my grandson fishing, his first time too! I don't know why I waited so long! We sat under a tree, a young lady near us showed us how to cast the rod and reel, how to remove the hook, how to put on the fake smelly bait, etc.! An older gentleman on the other side demonstrated how to put on live bait giving us a nightcrawler worm! My grandson was ecstatic! A Perfect day! Now, I may not know what to do about snakes, the older man said he had come out with his grandson the day before and had to kill 2 snakes- won't be going across the pond near the heavy foliage, but I Won't let this deter me! Unfortunately, we didn't catch any catfish, but the young lady gave us 2 of hers weighing 2 lbs total! All I had to do was pay for the weighed fish and have them filleted! AMAZING, Relaxing, Fun Day! Why didn't I do this sooner? ... Also, I had taken my grandson rock climbing, now I think I want to rock climb too! 😊
BARBARA!!! YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!! 😊💛🤗 I'm so excited for you!!!! Congratulations! We used to go fishing when I was younger and it's so relaxing! I love that you are living your best life TODAY!!!! THAT'S SO EXCITING!!! 💛💛💛 I want to go catfishing! You'll have to teach me how!!! 😉 Thank you so much sharing this with us! That's BEAUTIFUL!!! 😊❤️❤️❤️
Wow. That is so cool! Thank you for sharing. Now both you and your grandson have that memory. Doing something together and LEARNING together with the help of kind people who knew the ropes. You didn't donit sooner, but the important thing is, you finally did it! Inspiring this 44 year old. 🙂
I always thought that I would peak in my late 20s so I was not anxious about getting older until then, but covid hit when I turned 28 and everything was locked down for 2 years I was unable to advance my life. Now I am 31, stuck in the same shabby apartment, decent job but not the career I always wanted and just ended a very toxic relationship. I have a lot of anger inside me because of the lockdowns it was really unfair and I have not been the same since.
I read this quote years ago and it has always stuck with me. "Don't worry about how long you have to take to reach your goal. Or how many road blocks you have to take. You are still further ahead then those who to scared to even try."
Hello! I'm 19, eldest daughter of a first gen immigrant family and have been depressed throughout my childhood. I never managed to experience the things teens should due to depression, anxiety & the problems that come with being an immigrant. No friendships, love, or all others things people discover about themselves at that age. Recently got rejected from uni and I cannot help but feel like I wasted my teen years, especially with my 20th birthday coming up. This video was my saving grace, I have seriously been considering ending it all. I'll do my best regardless, but it's eternally less lonely to know you're not alone in this world. Thank you.
I am 35 but I still cannot find what is my calling in life. Like I may like something and is good at doing it but I am not passionate about it. I feel like I am way behind time and it is too late to start everything from scratch again.
Thank you 💚 I'm 32 and spent the entirety of my 20s in a really bad place mentally and physically. I haven't completed uni, haven't been able to have a job in 10 years and was constantly burned out just trying to survive. I now know that I am autistic and have ADHD and, with that knowledge, I'm starting to gradually make changes to accommodate myself moving forward. However, I've been struck hard with the, "Oh god, I'm 32 and haven't lived or figured out my life," feeling. I'm starting to have some ideas for a career and thinking properly about my future for the first time since I was a teenager, but it's intimidating, especially when you feel like you're "behind" and "failing" in life. But you're right. I have life ahead of me. My best days HAVE to be ahead of me. It's not too late and I'm not behind. I took the time I needed to heal and learn. Thank you so much for this video.
Omg ❤you are amazing!! Watching you crying and smiling at the same time. I’ll be 36 this year . No kids not married and not a home owner. Society will make woman go crazy & feel unworthy being “older” and not settled. But I’m a learning each day life is beautiful the way it is & what’s meant will be. Maktub- I’m learning to LOVE being alone traveling with my dog and thankful for breath. Again love your message ❤
I love this. Whenever I feel like I’m behind I remind myself that when you rush you overlook things and make mistakes. When you wait and take your time it always works out. At least in my life that has always happened for me. When I rushed I ended up hurting myself in the end
As a woman who is 33 who lost it all in 2020 AND had to start from scratch, yes it can be done. Like the saying goes, it only seems impossible until it's done. " The race doesn't exist" and the "American dream" is what YOU want, not what they say you should have.
Thinking of myself as a "late" bloomer kept me on a self-imposed deadline for the longest and wondering why I felt so defeated and behind everyone else all the time. Is it any wonder?! You reminded me that the present is a gift to myself right now, and it is better to bloom later than not to bloom at all. Thanks Alecia Renece for the reality check. I'll think of myself instead as a bloom-in-process. :)
I needed to hear this when I felt like a failiure at 23, and then at 24, 25 & the day before my 26th birthday. Idk what happened on my 26th birthday but I started to feel good and great. Now at 27 I am happy to hear someone talk about this in such a beautiful way. It's always nice to be reminded of this. THANK YOU! 💗
I’m 34 ( 35 in 3 months ) and I don’t feel old at all ! I do however feel ‘behind ‘ a lot of my friends in certain ways, and then my inner critic starts berating me. I’m learning to accept myself more ❤ For example, I haven’t been in an intimate relationship since 2016 (although to be honest , I wasn’t even open to meeting anyone until Spring 2022) I have had plenty of dates since then ( some wonderful ones ) but nothing that’s developed into a long lasting relationship. I feel very insecure about this at times and alien like, also I get scared time is running out sometimes ( but on reflection this is the pressure I feel from society - I’m genuinely very interested in meeting men, dating and being in a genuine relationship , but the time pressure is more a product of society .) However I’m realising this is me just measuring myself against mainstream society’s values. Whenever I approach dating from a state of anxiety, panic or hurry, it backfires every time . I’ve gone through phases of being addicted to dating apps and overusing them, to the point ( I’m embarrassed to say but it may help someone to know they’re not the only one ) even contemplated self harm , because I felt so alien like in this regard compared to the average person and like I was unloveable in a romantic sense . ( I’m thankful to say i didn’t do this…I stopped, reflected and realised how ridiculous I was being … how precious this life is , and how dangerous it is to rely on the world to determine your worth. I deleted most dating apps for good and only kept the one dating app that I enjoy . Even then I take breaks for days / weeks if I need to .) When I’m kinder with myself and only use dating apps from a healthy, self accepting state of mind, I attract men with much better energy, intention, and aligned interests. This has been a pattern that’s repeated itself over and over since I started being open to meeting men , and I FINALLY feel I’m getting it ( again, judging myself for not knowing sooner.) Of course, a relationship or a man doesn’t define us anyway. I have a true desire for these, but the pressure from society to have it now, this very instant sometimes takes me out of the enjoyment of the present moment - and into future catastrophising about problems that don’t exist 😂 Sorry if this was a little heavy - I just wanted to be open in the hope it helps someone . I love this video and in this age of social comparison on steroids , videos like this are a great antidote ! Much love ! ❤️
My story last time I dated 2016 time has flown,to say that I feel behind is an understatement but I keep hope alive because there’s The one Who holds the future and I hold on to that
This was well needed as I decided to take a break from dating too because I realized I'm not ready and I was feeling pressured by societal expectations of me and I just sat with myself an said I'm not ready to date ❤
Thank you for this message. Your truth is refreshing and very honest . I've learned that accomplishments comes at any age for example KFC founder David Sanders was in her 60's, McDonald's founder in his 50's. Also I've learned not to compare myself to other people, because most people lie about their luxurious life and others turn to illegal activities to get ahead. I'm counting my blessings each day, patting myself on the back for every small accomplishments because I am trying and doing my best, sometimes my greatness. I thank God for me and I know He is walking with through this rough terrain leading me greener pastures. I have learn to trust God's process, be patient, stay focus, and stay active with my dreams, also create a circle with positive people, even if that circle small. Negative people keep at a distance, be cordial, but keep them at a distance. Negative are envious and they will try to stop you from succeeding in life, and want you to be miserable with them. I bid you all great fortune, to all who are watching this video and reading my comment, great fortune to the lovely Queen who created this video. 🌟Stay Fabulous 🌟
I am 45 and live with Sickle Cell Anemia, so I have always felt behind and slow. I am tired, sick, and then not. But I had to remember and remind myself I haven't had full-out sickle cell crisis since April of 2020!! That is the longest I have been without one, and the little ones in between were taken care of at home, not needing a hospitalization. So much of what you say I hear God's word in it, integrity, live for today and not worry so much about tomorrow as tomorrow will have its own set of troubles. I want to change my mindset, change only what I can, leave alone what I can't with Jehovah. Girl, and be grateful and really focus on the hope I have learned from His Word, focus on the things I have and can di, be real on what I cannot do and learn to say no firmly and respectfully cause when I don't this I have learned can affect me physically! I am saving this for later to watch again. I was in school for 6 years to become a nurse, it ain't no joke, but now I don't believe my body can take this anymore. But boy when I look at what was possible I need to learn how to be more grateful. Thank you for this!
I wish I never went to college if life was going to work out this way! I would have been content selling wigs and being a spa manager! All this pressure, minimum wage jobs out of college, poverty, unjust arrests, and poor understanding of marriage can cause young people to pursue goals with surprising disappointments when you're way too young! "Don't... looking at these other plants around you!" Yes, people will hate their lives and become frustrated if they perceive life in a race! "Don't rush." Amen! 🙌 Thanks for sharing this video!
A real good home girl suggested I watch this video. Sis I cried through the whole video. I absolutely needed to hear this and I’m grateful for the message. Ima slow down and breath 😮💨
Thank you for putting this video up. I am 42 years old. I have 2 kids, battle mental health and I am in school for medical assistant. I thank you for putting this out there because there are so many people going through the motions. I feel I am where I am supposed to be now and I am going further with my life. I have always felt like I was behind because of so many things I have done, made me feel like I was too late for things to happen. I don't regret anything I have been through and pray that everybody learns from this message and to know you are not alone.
It has take me 8yrs to finish my undergrad and I’ll be 26 when I get it. Such an on time video for me to watch and feel affirmed. Thank you for continuing creatively as that’s how I’d like to move as well.
Do you feel like you're a late bloomer? You're in GREAT company. 😉❤️ You're blooming right NOW ❤️❤️❤️
Bless you ❤️. Thank you 🙏🏾. This video brought me out of my depression. Thank you
@@Mindful.Movement.01 😭🌺🌻 That makes me and my heart SO happy! Thank you so much for sharing this. Much love and joy to you!
@@AleciaRenece same to you. Continue to let your beautiful light shine.
Thanks for the beautiful video.
I do but I own it. Thank you very much for your encouragement.
I'm 35 and feel so old and like I wasted my 20s on anxiety and depression and heartbreak. I'm going to work every day to get over it. This was so helpful. Thank you!
I see you and celebrate you. Nothing is a waste. All of it is BEAUTIFUL. Even the parts we're not proud of. They make us who we are today. Have grace with yourself. You're doing amazing. Much love and joy to you!!! 🌺🌻🤗💛🌞
I'm 38 and yes the same, trudging through this world especially as a black woman seems to be like walking through mud constantly wiping your face off trying to see through the gunk of life.
I have finally grown to Love Myself,and clarity is pushing me forward, i still have days of angst and regret ,but it is my motivation instead of my hinderance. You got this ❤you're going to be such an asset to the world because of what you've been through remember you're not old ! 😂 your 30s are like your twenties ,but better. now you understand and know better and can do better 🤎🤎🌹
Same
I understand. It's not too late as long as we keep living. May you flourish in Jesus name and shed the spirits of depression and anxiety . God's got you!!!
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I was quite isolated as a teenager, and I'm learning how to properly socialise at 30. It feels like I should've been doing this 15 years ago, but I am in a better place now than I was then
Same
It’s okay I’m the same at 27 almost 28 I would like to meet people in my age group who are also blooming. You’re the friend someone like me is looking for! So keep going and keep smiling. You will do mighty things 🎉
But hey, you learned it :)
Omg same
Well done ;)
I did that at 20, and found good friends. The depression i dealt with in my twenties was very hard, and they where there.
When trying to socialize i felt so bad, but they still accepted my goofy self.
It's not about age, it's about the experience we have in common, people will love you, go out yourself out there 👍🏼👍🏼
I feel like 20-40 was me learning how to live due to childhood trauma and undiagnosed depression. Now at 43, I am ready to live out new goals such as travel, a healthy romantic relationship and and creating a new circle of friends and "family" for myself. I am happy I have wisdom, knowledge and understanding and a lot of life left!
I'm 42, this resonates with me because I'm going through the same thing.
Me too
Same
I’m 44 and completely relate to you .
The best thing we can do in life is heal ourselves....
I m not a young beautiful black female entrepreneur❤ I m a 64yr old white woman recovering from cancer and your words were just what I needed to hear💖...I loved it when you told us it took 9 years to get your degree🎉 Thank you for your positivity ❤
Congratulations for beating cancer. You can’t do everything but you can do anything. Use that same spirit that conquered cancer to win.
All the best on your journey Cynthia
The Lord Jesus✝️call all of us -no matter the race and predicament- his children. Don’t We have such a great Father God in heaven. Great victory on beating cancer ♥️
💛💛💛🫂🫂🫂 You're amazing as you are. And recovering from cancer is no small feat. That is HUGE. CONGRATULATIONS, BEAUTIFUL. You're doing wonderful. I see you and celebrate you!!! 💛💛💛
@i-dash Thank you so much!
As a 28 yrs old single woman, no college degree, i feel like I failed myself seeing my high-school classmates started stellar careers, got married and are starting families. At times I am wallowing in regrets and what if 's, I needed to hear this. Thank you so much
Hey I'm 28 too and I feel the EXACT same way...all my peers finished masters and are in fancy neighbourhoods.
I think as long as you keep going, we will get to our goals!
Wish you the best 🎉
Same position pretty much (28 y/o female, no degree). Just went through a tough breakup in the last week. I just decided I'm going to start a small biz selling my art, traveling more, and learning to play an instrument, as well as a new language. It doesn't need to happen all at once, either-- a little bit at a time, small goals, continuous progress. I kept thinking it was too late for me, that I should have started way sooner, that the ship has sailed... but ya know what?? Fuck it! Now is the time. Wish you both goodness and triumph long into the future. ♥
It’s early days yet you’ve got plenty of time honestly you don’t come into your own until you’re in your 50’s trust ❤
Just know that you could look into a trade scholarship or look at online certifications. You can do ittt! Find something you might enjoy or stimulate your noggin. And if you don't like one, move onto the next. Part of success is failure. Learning what does and doesn't work.
You are worthy of love and are beautiful. College is very hard to do without a support system, completely alone. And it's hard without a motivation for a specific career path or at least specific area of learning you're interested in
“People want you to compete with other people but when you realize there is no competition and you opt out of that race and live your life to the fullest; not someone’s else’s life, not what other people think you should be doing or what you think you should be doing.” I love it!
Hey ya’ll - I’m 57 and just starting to bloom! Yes, be Present in every day, every moment; you are exactly where you are supposed to be; it’s never too late. Enjoy the journey and appreciate all those small joys in your life. “Where I am is beautiful” - perfect!
Thanks for the great talk.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. 💛🌺 We will definitely be taking this wisdom for ourselves. You're so encouraging and inspiring. 🤗☺️ Much love and joy to you!
This comment brought me so much joy. Enjoy the new season! 🌷
Thank you for sharing. For various reasons I am just coming into my own, so to speak in my 40s. I wish I had done some things differently, but I'm thankful for the lessons learned and thankful that my kids see me changing and stretching myself. Most of all, I'm thankful that my ultimate value and approval comes from God through Christ, so whatever I do or don't accomplish by man's standards is secondary. I'm working on living in that reality.
Tnx Heidi..Im 44 and lost! Broke/ unemployeed and feeling a failure and depressed!!😭😭😭
@@lizcreationz8654 Awww... So sorry to hear you're struggling, Liz. You're not alone - particularly over the past few days, cosmic energy has seemed particularly heavy! Know that Creator never sees you as a failure. Do your best to align with that Source energy and see yourself from God's perspective. Give yourself compassion. You have a gift to share. Have faith knowing there is a way you can fulfill your purpose here. Maybe this is your opportunity! Time for a shift. Sending Blessings your way.
I'm 57 I'm a semi-retired janitor😊
Why I feel like I can be a hiphop/edm composer when I retire in 4yrs is BEYOND me😮
Probably because I invested in the equipement already✅️
They called me "Late Nate" in school because of my attendance, and I despised it🤬
I embrace it now, so I'm gonna be "Late Nate" when I monetize myself in 4 short years.🥳
Until then, I will master my craft.🧐
Luv ya'll🖤
As a soon to be 33 year old woman with no kids, never had a real relationship that was leading to anything, just switched my career, and haven’t bought a house yet…. HONEY, I needed to hear this. 😊 Thank you.
I am exactly where I’m supposed to be in my life.
Absolutely!!! 🤗💛🌻🌺 I see and celebrate you!!!
@K I feel the EXACT SAME WAY
Oh ma'am, you are not alone! I just turned 32, moved back in with my parents after a bad break up, and have no children. This is a helpful message. I think the constant competitiveness in life makes us feel we need to get certain things by a certain time. The funny thing is, if we had them, would that be enough? That's why being present in yourself is so important.
Same here,33 no kids about to do my first degree and I'm lucky to have inherited a house from my grandma. I'm a late bloomer and its hard to accept.
Same feeling right now. No job, kids and never been in a relationship. It feels like I'm a failure. I hope and pray I get over it soon. I will be 32 this December and I wish that day never comes 😢
"Who are we racing against. The race doesn't exist. Take your time." - This is a word! ❤
Being able to brush your teeth or take shower is indeed a blessing. I learned it after going through chronic depression. Because in that state it was exhausting to even get out of bed.
You earned a new subscriber...
@@anonymous-cx7ng I don't want to leave Islam but want to leave my family. But it's not easy because of multiple reasons. Btw my family is abusive too and Islam has nothing to do with it. Which country you are from?
@@anonymous-cx7ng
I am sorry that you felt like, you had to leave your faith.. God is always with you no matter how ppl reconstructe religion to fit their human ideas. ❤️
Or just having your own mind.
Islam has nothing to do with culture. Never leave your religion, depressed people are all over the world, mostly in wester / Atheist people.
Wooooo tell me about it. I was in that state of chronic depression. Still have depression and anxiety but improve enough where I am able to get out of bed brush my teeth and finally working
My youngest sister was a wife and mother before she died a suicide at 21. I'm not married nor have kids and I am 57, with a high school diploma and retired and in a wonderful relationship with a 76 year old man for 14 years and living in my own apartment, being alone and independent. I realize that it is NEVER too late for anything you want.
I'm sat here as a 45+ year old woman with tears streaming down my face. Thank you, thank you, a million times thank you. This is what I needed to hear today 💕
Same here! ❤
I'm sending you both so much love 🫂💛🌻🌺
She said a Word 💫💫💫
Whoa!! You are YOUNG! Wait until you hit 50, 60, 70 and you still have things to achieve! I too was depressed in college, but I'm so happy to have gone through the higher education process. My life, as a late bloomer is full of action/adventure... I just didn't sit in what I thought was my goal. Now I know, the goal is finding and living you! Not some heavy duty media star. Not having the big house. Not having the partner of your dreams. It's finding YOU -- the holy grail. At 18 I traveled the world looking for my dream guy, dream career -- someone to discover me. The key is to find you and your joy and happiness. Being famous is a manipulation to pull you away from finding who you are.
I'm just seeing this today. Its 2023 says it was posted two years ago. Now for my comment! I'm 60! This video is so great. I married right out of high school, had four children, the marriage ended. Instead of going to college I taught myself how to speak properly got an interview, landed the job of receptionist. Fast forward I became a flight Attendant at 41 married at 43. Recently separated and divorcing. I have felt like I have wasted my whole life because I thought my validation came from being married, chosen if you will. Now I am doing my best to rediscover or discover me. Its scary. For the first time in my life I'm setting boundaries and learning to love me. I'm sending so much love, and success your way. Your message was right on time. I still look good feel good I am good. You Are Good. Thank you😊❤❤❤❤
YOU inspire ME! You learned to choose you rather than to be chosen. 👏🏾
I'm glad I came back to this video today and read through the comments. The fact you became a flight attendant at 41 is amazing! * 0 *
I'm 37yrs old and feel like that kind of traveling wouldn't be for me. Maybe when I was in my early 20's that route would be fun to do with the energy I had then. Not so sure about now. Lol.
But thank you for your comment. Very inspirational. 🩷✨️
Only seeing this year too. July 3rd 2023 ❤❤❤❤
You go girl❤
You’ve confirmed my reality. Thanks
A 33 years old woman, turning 34 soon. I graduated in 2018 but no job yet, still studying though. No relationships No kids, I'm just in the air. I really needed to hear this 🙏
Keep studying and trying your best. Also, make sure to put yourself out there (e.g. go to coffee shops, book stores, go with friends or take yourself out to a nice restaurant or shopping area, dance class or exercise/gym, keep up with church/spiritual life, etc.). This will help you to stay positive and also meet other future friends or potential spouse). **All of the above has helped me immensely!
@teresai1877 thanks for the advice 🙏 .
The problem is that I was sexually abused during my childhood from 5 years to 13 years.
I hate socializing and prefer being alone.
Thus why I grew up with no friends.
Will try my best to make a move, thank you dear!
@@AiniNShilongo-vy5bv Keep pushing Aini and don't give up. Sending you love all the way from Ghana
@@eever6545 thank you so much 💓
Amen social media make you feel bad
IM 30 And still feel like this. Especially when I see 18 to 20 yr Olds with everything I wish I had at that age...
Excellent video...
Im a male and at 23 I thought my life was finished and over 😅 just because I wasn't able to come up with a great software product that'd make millions...
I was comparing myself to one some of the youngest software developers in the USA.. one guy 'made it' at around 18 years old...
His software product was brought by yahoo for millions of dollars...
I'm now 38...I've been so blessed to gain wisdom thru my experiences...
Now I'm living each day as my last, I'm so motivated and people like you are helping heal this world thru your words life and music.
God bless u Alicia.
*"There is no way to be behind in my own life... the race doesn't exist"* I just turned 25 and I've been comparing myself to my friends and the things they're doing and just feeling super lost. Thank you so much for this video, I really needed to hear this 💛
Same over here! We’re gonna make it!
@@khoatran-pc6tb 💕💕
Same here! I'm glad to hear that I'm not alone with comparing myself to others.
I'll be 26 this August and it's terrifying, not because im getting old but because I've not accomplished ANYTHING!😭
That's where I was at 25... feeling so low and everyone above me,.. now 28 and I feel free, ready and excited that my journey is just beginning and it's glorious,... I can't fit in a box. My life was never meant to be predictable and I have learnt to enjoy my own ride rather than compare to someone else's that society might have placed on a pedestal. Hopefully you get to the point of only caring about your heart's desires for your life and eventually learn how to show up to your own plans. ❤Best wishes, you got this
I’m 57 and after 35 years of marriage, I am divorcing a toxic human …, I just completed my 3rd Peachtree Road Race…I’m trading for and will be hiking the Grand Canyon in the fall…I have earned three degrees and about to embark on earning my Ph D…. My BEST of me is Right NOW. I still have goals. I’m going to get them…ALL In God’s time, not mine.🙏🏾❤️
Thank you for this shining light you are!
I'm turning 39 in a couple of weeks, no kids, no relationship that's ever really gone anywhere and ups and downs in running my business. Lately gotten a lot of pressure from family to adopt even though I don't feel ready for parenthood. The incredible thing is I feel like am right where am supposed to be. I finally stood up to my family and told them I will have a child when am good and ready, not because of pressure and am so proud of myself. I realised I want to love me, heal me, enjoy me and thrive as me, and I want to guard that with everything right now because it's my peace.
Amen to that!!!
Yeah but women are different. We don’t have until 50 to have children. The older we get the harder will be to want to have a child. I think that’s mostly the worry here. I am 33 and not married not kids. I am worried bc of this 😭😭😭 I want a child sooo bad
I'm 46 and feel like society has thrown me by the wasteside so this video spoke to me. Sometimes I feel like life has passed me by but then I remember the things I have accomplished in my life so far and remind myself that bigger and better things are on the horizon. I appreciate your video, it really helped get me back on the right mindset.
I’m 57 and sometimes I still don’t know what I want to do. I thank you for this video.
i physically felt healed after this. my chest feels lighter. i should listen to this everyday
I hope you are feeling well & light a month later
i had a big breakdown today and i needed this so much. i hope youre doing good now!
It’s 2023. I’ll be turning 42 tomorrow and I feel like a better me is too late. I needed to hear this. Thank you so much.
I clicked on this video because I'm 44 going on 45 this summer and I do feel like I failed at life. I feel insecure due to not being able to make my dreams come true. Thank you for your positive words.
You are SO welcome. I'm sending you so much love and joy!
Sounds like we're in a similar-ish place 😢 I hope these words have encouraged you as much as they have me. We can do this! We're not at the end of our journeys yet. There is much, so much, that we can and will do yet 💕😊
43, going on 44… Same boat!
44 and paddling the same boat! Feel like I'm just going in circles
so real. thank u for sharing ur experience. u r not alone.
30 y/o failure here.. I got burned out almost immediately after school, so I never really made it out into worklife. I have no partner, no kids, no job and very little money. The apartment I live in is old and falling apart. My body is also ruined because of medications and comfort eating.
My 20s got destroyed by depression and anxiety.. And I'm still not any closer to having a more normal life. I don't even have any real ambitions to try to pursue.
I feel like a prisoner in my own body, in this town and in my life as a whole. I just feel like a waste of oxygen at this point.. I'm just sitting around waiting for the day I collapse in a heart attack or something...
The only reason people feel “behind” is also when people compare themselves to others. It creates a lot of anxiety. I’m 50 and am literally redesigning my whole life. I already lived more than half of my life. I need to build within my lane. In retrospect I see that when I have listened to God, I never wasted time. I spinned my wheels a lot when I started listening to the world and doing my own thing. When I was more in tuned with God, my life was much smoother. So I’m going back to the source and shutting out all else,.
This is quite literally my experience, except im half your age 😅
Precisely. Nothing is a waste of time if you are sincerely pursuing your goals and vision. God instills those things in your for a reason. Your varied experiences may even all come into play at one time one day down the road.
This is EXACTLY it. I have cried and mourned for 16+ yrs spent out of his will and am turning back to him.
Same here. I asked The Most High to get me out of NYC before the next winter and I left that Oct. I have surrendered my life to The Most High and live in service. It's been a wild, crazy ride. But, it's perfect for me. I trust in the Most High with all my heart and I (try not to) lean not on my own understanding. 👍🏽😉👍🏽
Thank you Alecia...what a powerful message for me, 73 yrs young....7/15/23!! I am enough of everything... especially gratitude for the opportunity to keep on keeping on!! LOVE your Spirit 🤩!!
Thank you for this! I haven’t accomplished the buying a house milestone and at 42 I am applying to law school in an attempt to fulfill my childhood dream of becoming an attorney. I see people who have hit these “milestones” and many of them are not happy. As long as I am breathing I am not behind. I needed this
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Wish you the best. You got it 💪
You got this!
Congratulations! You are doing great and you got this. 🙏🏾😌💙🖤✨
Good luck on law school applications! I started law school at 30 and now I’m going into my 3L year. You can do it! 💯
I am new subscriber, I am 53 years old, a mother of two grown children and two young grandchildren; I have been living my life in stuck mode, wondering how can I move forward whether it’s learning a new skills or hobbies; to wanting to discover and going to different locations. But listen to your message is encouraging me to stop and realize what I am doing is meanful. So thank you for your encouragement and will continue to watch and listen to your aspiring messages.
Thank you! I am 59 years young and I too am just beginning to bloom. I always knew historically, that I was a late bloomer. These last several weeks my Lord confirmed that! You are an affirmation and again I thank you. I stress what you said about being grateful...because that's when the accelerated blooming, growth started🙏🏽😘🙌🏽
Dear Alecia, thank you for this immensely encouraging message to a 71-year-old never-married female who thought she would be married with a family by age 30 and who has felt "behind" ever since. Am working to break free from the myriad of lies with which our culture bombards us. Would give you a hug if I could! 💖
Every time I feel “behind” in life, it’s because other people made me feel that way. In reality I am fine with who I am and my life. It’s the world that sees me as worthless, not me 🤷🏼♀️ I don’t align with the values of this system and this society and never have, and it has never been a problem for *me* but it has always been a problem to others.
31 in a few days & all I keep telling myself is that I’am Enough!
Never been In a Real relationship, no children. Not doing what I love for work.
It’s a Process showing my gratitude to God despite what I feel are shortcomings.
His timing not mine.
I'm just here to remind yall, if you had healing to do from trauma, if you have had to overcome oppression especially internal oppression, if you're neurodivergent, differently abled, struggling with mental or chronic illness, etcetc then you are not behind. You have been busy healing and learning; and you don't need to worry about being behind because when you are ready, when life is ready, for you to blossom, you are going to bring so much wisdom and beauty that it will all be worth it.
What a lovely message to share. ❤
Thanks! I'm almost 70 and am always reminded that time's almost up...mmm. Thanks for your calming message.
I was told at 17 that I was a late bloomer by a teacher and how sad is that? It has been this label that has haunted me for my whole life and I am now over 50. Currently I am in school pursuing a healthcare career and most of the students are in their 20's and 30's and it has been hard not to feel like I do not belong so your words are so helpful to me. Everything you said is so true. Thanks for spreading positive content on TH-cam.
I’m sorry you were told that, you didn’t deserve it
Good luck with your degree! I was one of those 20 year old’s in a health care degree, but I feel like mature students such as yourself, bring SO much value and life experience to the job. Totally understand how you’d feel like the odd one out, but allow your age and wisdom to be your strength in helping your patients 💕
31yo. I spent my 20s chasing a man-now my ex. feels like Im starting again. my 2024 will focus on my physical health, finances, and learning new skill- learning spanish, and creating new hobbies/sports.
Im counting on me. 💪
For someone who spent years in college pursing dental hygiene and then dropped out right before graduation, mid pandemic, this makes me feel good🩷
🫂🫂🫂💛💛💛 THIS Comment makes me SO happy! Much love and joy to you! 🌺🌺🌺
I stopped using words Young and Old. Life doesn’t care about those things. And my dog taught me that too. I just say Alive. I am alive. That’s what matters. Humans are funny. We created all these words and then attached positive and negative meanings to them. It doesn’t serve us. The most important fact is You are alive , that’s what truly matters
For a long time I lived comparing myself and when I didn't hit certain society milestones, I feel behind but now at 35 I really don't care..
I am right there with you. And same! The older I get, the more I don't care as much about the things I stressed about when I was younger.
I feel the same way as you, I feel stupid being in my 40s and still wanting to go to LA and become an actress. I'm like who wants to go see my middle-aged ass on the big screen? But I still want to do it, I just try not to bring it up in mixed company anymore.
@@daniellemaroney2931you should research on Kathryn Joosten. Didn’t start acting until she was 42, didn’t go to Hollywood until she was in her 50s, took her first major role at 59, and by the time she passed away at 72, she had two Emmys and was loved by millions. So next time you think you’re too old, remember her story :)
Getting it together, having everything under control is a myth… maybe for awhile, but not permanently.
I’m 42 and definitely feeling like I’m not where I thought I would be 🥺 it’s taking a toll and trying to push through daily
I’m 40 and feel the same
same girl, 42 and look back at so many opportunities I didn't take advantage of... but this can't be the end, right? There has to be more to look forward to...
In our head it all looks so much easier than in practice I feel. We can travel thousands of miles in our head in minutes, but we still can only put one foot in front of the other. Also, the order of lessons in life are different for everyone and maybe even not the same. (Trying to tell that to myself) So focus on what lessons you have mastered and based off that what it is now you wanna do
I'm 43 and feel the same way.
Yes, exactly, getting harder 😢
I'm 43 and started college online a year and a half ago. Thank you for your words, I often toggle between feeling behind and just being in the moment. I struggled with ADHD my whole life and felt dumb, but now I know that I needed those years to raise my kids and figure out my coping mechanisms before going back to school. Having ADHD can really make a person feel inferior though. Bless you for your encouragement and if you read this comment, I hope you are encouraged in return
I ❤️ this comment
Making friends that were older than me helped me so much. They are the ones keeping me grounded and reminding me my life isn't over in my 20s. I know I am not old at 24, but when I was 19/20 and dropping out if college because I was suffering from undiagnosed depression and ADHD, I felt like the biggest failure in the world. I felt like my life would never be back "on track," but it never was on track in the first place because I was letting other people drive. Am I doing what I want to be doing right now? No. But I can see my life ahead of me now instead of wallowing in sorrow and anxiety and uncertainty and being hard on myself for failing at things I never even wanted for myself. I was never going to be the person other people thought I should be, and now I better understand what I want my life to look like. I'm not an 18 yr old kid who just picked a major because I felt like I had to.
That's exactly my story. I'm glad that you are in a better place now 😊
I feel like everyone around me (of any age but esp my age or younger) is way ahead of me, they all have their shit better together. I know that's not true but it feels like it a lot of the time. I'll be 28 this year and logically I know that's so young but social media has made me feel horribly behind - so I deleted them for now. I knew I saved this video and scrolled in my watch later until I found it and it brought me to tears. Thank you for this.
I truly needed to hear this. Growing up with abuse and trauma, I spent so many years having to process all of that. I'm almost 40 and finally ready to live on my terms but feel left behind, like a loser.
Oh golly, me too !
me too!
You are not loser!
me too
Me too.
This video is 2 years old but it poped up on my feed today July 6 2023! Great words of encouragement. I’ve been feeling down this week looking at where I am and where I’d like to be, things i want to accomplish, challenges I’m facing……. All of these thoughts make me feel discouraged. These words you spoke were very encouraging to me. I have so much to live for and be thankful for instead of focusing on what i don’t have.
Thank you so much for reminding that I’m not behind….I’m exactly where i am supposed to be!!!!!!
I'm about to turn 19 and already reached that stage of feeling behind! Mostly because I don't have a job, and I'm taking a gap year instead of rushing into college debt, I feel like everyone is judging me. But I know I'm doing what's right for me! Thank you so much for this video which I found at just the right moment. 💙💙💙
I am celebrating 61 years, and I am just getting started. Enjoying the journey. Loving the process and the lessons along the way. I am blooming beautifully.💖💖💖
This is all love "you bloom when it's time to bloom" Thank you for spreading this :)
I love that you said when those thoughts come at you understand that they are a lie!!! That is the single hardest thing I've been trying to do for months now but a little helps! Just asking "that's def. a lie" or "where did you hear that lie from"
Thank YOU so much for watching and resonating with me on this. 💛💛💛 And yes! I love this! Going to the root of the issue is always a good idea. You may find that the voice was from a parent or loved one and we internalized it along the way. Sending you so much love! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm 42 and I got my license last year. I try to remind myself that for most people life gets better as you age not in your youth. I even had successes older. Older people have wisdom that young people lack.
I’m 31 literally this morning I wrote in my journal how I truly fear not reaching my goals, and healing myself enough to be able to live the life I want before I die. This came just in time. Thank you❤
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Wow, “there is no way you can be behind in your own life”. Thank you, I'm not gonna lie I avoided your video on my timeline for a few days but I needed this sit down. Thank you 💗
You are dropping much wisdom.🙌🏾 At 54, I am finally doing what I wanted or thought I should have been doing with my life in my teens 20's....30's. Actually, I am doing even more than I imagined. Life happened FOR me not AGAINST me and the truth is that I wasn't ready back then. I am enjoying life over 50 like I never thought I could. I always say....I ain't getting old. I'm getting better!!!💕
I’m 22 and feel like my life is over. When you are the age currently of the youth who is doing so much in such short time (due to social media) or due to having support years ago and having that nurtured, it’s really hard. Daily I feel like my life is over and I was not dealt a good set of cards. This video is supportive.
I truly understand this video was made 2 years ago, but to pop up today as the VERY FIRST video when I opened TH-cam IMMEDIATELY after talking to God and telling Him I feel like I’m in a midlife crisis because I feel left behind…. This video couldn’t have come at thee most PERFECT moment!!! So I’m screaming to you THANK YOU!!! The need to hear this was directly from God!!! THANK YOU SOOOOO SO MUCH AGAIN!!!!!🥰🤗
So simple but it hit when you said “I don’t want to peak in my 20s”. I’m entering my late 20s and trying to transfer into a university. Wish I knew back then what I knew now so I could have this accomplished already but I wasn’t mature at all in my early 20s to follow through with anything anyway. Thanks for this ❤️
As a 16 year old, I’m glad I learned this earlier than later. I’m saving myself from years of doubt and discouragement. I’m happy you made this video. God bless ✨
Yes you should be!! Congratulations to your awakening. It is truly of great value to know this early in life. I won't say waste, but you'll probably achieve your goals faster. However, keep in mind, everyone has struggles that challenge and teach them life lessons. So, live in the present as you move forward. Do great things. And, always seek wisdom to overcome any hurdles you may have in the future. 👍🏽
I’m so glad the algorithm sent this video to me 😂 thank you for this! I’m 48 and working on being kind to myself.
Dreams exist outside of time and convention. Goals are the language that allows others to understand your dream.
This is ABSOLUTELY beautiful. Thank you for this.
I like this! 👍❤️
This shook me to my core 🫶🏽
This is beautiful 😍 AMEN to that ! Thank you 🙏
This was so good I had to screenshot it. Thank you for sharing this
This is a great message! I will be 40 next year and I feel like I am just now "getting my life together" in the last couple years. I was definitely giving myself a hard time about being a late bloomer until I started to trust God's timing. To not be hyper-focused on what is to come but to be more present and appreciate every step of my journey. I am thankful❤
I’m 38, have a wife and 3 kids. Had multiple jobs in one profession. Owned a business and lost it. Learned many new skills in my own time, been on ‘early retirement’ multiple times. Still feeling behind and actually going backwards, still trying to figure it all out😢
*BIG HUGS* have grace with yourself. We're all taking it one step at a time! 💛☺️🌻
Wow, impressive!
What if the possibility of having it all figured out is a lie, designed to keep us miserable
Not even 1 minute into your video and I feel the same. After high school I studied things I wasnt interested in and didnt let myself the time to think about what I really love. Because if you take time for yourself, people will think you are lazy and not motivated.
I’m 45, lost my dead end job at the start of Covid, and just finished my first semester back in school at a community college
I searched “late bloomer” and after watching a Ted Talk and a Psych2Go video and I see your thumbnail and I’ll admit it…I second guessed what kinda message I could possibly gain from you
Wow was I wrong. Your video hit me way harder than any of the vids I’ve watched
Plus you were the only one to say “there’s nothing such as a late bloomer…you are where you are supposed to be”
Thank you for this wonderful video. You are a hell of an orator. I’m saving this to my “Motivation” playlist and you’ve definitely earned a sub right here. You have a gift for this
Oh wow! ☺️🌻💛 This makes my heart so HAPPY. I'm so glad this spoke to you. *BIG HUGS* 🫂🌺
@@AleciaRenece thank you and hugs back at you
Hello, I am 33 years old, and I had thought I would be married by now, with children, and with a ministry about saving lives who wrestle with depression but, it failed! Now I believe there's no hope! But, I am slowly coming back to myself with a new chapter; I am trying not to worry nor compare on what I lost. I have decided to go back to school, and I pray that God will open a new door even though I have failed to open the last two doors
I have this voice in the back of my head that tellse I should have started sooner, but you are right. I'm right where I'm supposed to be at this moment of time.
Yeeeeeeeeeees! You are exactly where you are supposed to be 💛💛💛 and I totally understand that voice. I get the same voice too. And it comes up at the most annoying times (especially when I'm feeling down on myself). But that voice is lying. The best time to start is TODAY! 💛💛💛😊😊😊
I'm a 25 year old and the only thing to i managed to complete is high school. I feel so left behind because all my mates are doing great and some are starting their families. It sucks but I thank you for this message.
I’m 19 and same. I started community college but I wanted to take a break to start working. But it’s so hard with lack of experience. I literally turn 20 next month and it’s so frustrating still needing my parents to do things monetarily for me when i can literally do it myself but just haven’t been given the chance 😔
I cried today because I am 37 and feel like I have no idea what I’m passionate about. I’ve been a mother since I was 23 my first child was special and I had a toxic relationship that was very traumatic. A couple weeks ago I took an LOA from my job because I was spent. This last couple weeks I realized I was surviving so long, I am learning to live and discover myself more every day. Thank you for this. This was for me
Iam sending peace, love, blessings & success your way! May your life journey be beautiful, blissful & bountiful! 😊
@@amandaliscette6541 This is so kind! I receive all of that.
@@amandaliscette6541 I pray the same to you as well!!!
I'm in my late 40s and still not sure what I'm passionate about and worst I'm unemployed all.i know is I don't want a sucky 9to 5job with a shitty boss..
@@Heidideedee1 pray and seek. Your spirit will reveal the answer
I’m 19 and I feel like I’m not feminine enough as a woman. I am at the point in my life where I want to present more feminine so when I see other women my age or younger able to do it I often find myself getting frustrated. God-willing I know my time will come, so I’m learning not to rush it
Im sure I felt the same way at your age bc I still do at 47 but check this out...our feminine is not hers or hers...we are all individuals. Choose what makes you feel good about you not what the world tells you that you look good in. Im in between...not a feminine woman but not a tom boy either. Im finding what makes me smile and that's enough 😊💚
I’m 45, about to start a new career in Health Informatics after I graduate with my Masters degree this fall. Thank you for this message because I’ve been feeling like I’m behind & now I feel motivated again! My best years are right now & I’m grateful for the me I am today!☺️
"Your best years are now."
Thank you. 32 here, still building my company that I started 10 years ago. I'm still going strong. But I wish I could arrive already.
I am in tears right now 😢😢.. this is so beautiful message and wake up call. Thank you for the reminder
I needed this so bad right now. About to turn 29 and feeling like I am behind/not reaching my potential can put me in paralysis sometimes....
I turn 29 this year and I've struggled so much with trying not to feel like my life is over now, especially with going through childhood abuse that lasted until I moved out at age 17 and not feeling like I had a good past or a good future. I know this video is from 2 years ago, but it came up in my suggestions today and I'm so grateful it did. Even if my life isn't guaranteed in the future, I can make ***NOW*** the best days of my life, because they will always be the best days of my life if I make them so!
I agree, I have failed the road test like 4 times and this summer ill be taking it again for the 5th and im 27 now started learning how to drive at 25 and it seemed like everyone just got there license instantly and id beat my self up about the wait and wonder what's wrong with me, but at least im still trying and eventually it will happen.
This is me as well. I am 27 and still learning how to drive and getting my first car.
Don't feel bad I know my mom didn't get her Driver's License until she was 35 years old.
My mom is 69 years old now
Update!! Sis, did you pass yet!? And same story for me, I didn’t get my drivers license until I was 27, I failed the test twice. Had to get a permit 3 times 😩. But God made a way for me!
I’m 27 and just finished taking driving lessons-I failed my road test twice before, and I’m just now starting to feel confident and will likely take it again soon. But now my main goal is to be ok whether I fail or not, and to be patient with myself. Driving is a big responsibility, and it’s ok to feel anxious about it. I had felt similar to how you described for a long time, wondering how everyone else can just get their license and move on, feeling like there’s something wrong with me, but now I’m much more accepting of myself and where I’m at and can acknowledge that everyone lives a different life. Plus, I got to practice with a really nice instructor this time around, and it was a fun time-if I’d gotten my license years ago we never would have met, so there’s that too. Best of luck to you, me, and all of us “late” drivers out there-we got this 🎉🎉
I have failed it 6 times and got it on the 7th time. Good luck, you got this!
"Don't despise your beginnings." Now that's a word!
Yes! I needed this, I just graduated with a bachelor’s in psychology, it took me almost 11 years to complete and honestly only one person really said congratulations which really sucked. Then my sister in law received praise and admiration I just felt like a loser, but looking back I wouldn’t change it. Thank you for this video ❤
Congratulations!!! You did that! I can only imagine how happy you must be to have accomplished such a big thing for yourself. Good job and God bless you! Keep going 🎉
You’re not a loser well done wear your crown with pride and joy
Congratulations!!!!! I am so proud of you 💗💗💗
Congratulations!!
Congratulations
Thank u So much! 'My Best days are right Now'! I like that. Fri, I did something I've always wanted to do, Finally at age 69! I purchased the necessities, and took my grandson fishing, his first time too! I don't know why I waited so long! We sat under a tree, a young lady near us showed us how to cast the rod and reel, how to remove the hook, how to put on the fake smelly bait, etc.! An older gentleman on the other side demonstrated how to put on live bait giving us a nightcrawler worm! My grandson was ecstatic! A Perfect day! Now, I may not know what to do about snakes, the older man said he had come out with his grandson the day before and had to kill 2 snakes- won't be going across the pond near the heavy foliage, but I Won't let this deter me! Unfortunately, we didn't catch any catfish, but the young lady gave us 2 of hers weighing 2 lbs total! All I had to do was pay for the weighed fish and have them filleted! AMAZING, Relaxing, Fun Day! Why didn't I do this sooner? ... Also, I had taken my grandson rock climbing, now I think I want to rock climb too! 😊
BARBARA!!! YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!! 😊💛🤗 I'm so excited for you!!!! Congratulations! We used to go fishing when I was younger and it's so relaxing! I love that you are living your best life TODAY!!!! THAT'S SO EXCITING!!! 💛💛💛 I want to go catfishing! You'll have to teach me how!!! 😉 Thank you so much sharing this with us! That's BEAUTIFUL!!! 😊❤️❤️❤️
Wow. That is so cool! Thank you for sharing. Now both you and your grandson have that memory. Doing something together and LEARNING together with the help of kind people who knew the ropes.
You didn't donit sooner, but the important thing is, you finally did it! Inspiring this 44 year old. 🙂
I always thought that I would peak in my late 20s so I was not anxious about getting older until then, but covid hit when I turned 28 and everything was locked down for 2 years I was unable to advance my life. Now I am 31, stuck in the same shabby apartment, decent job but not the career I always wanted and just ended a very toxic relationship. I have a lot of anger inside me because of the lockdowns it was really unfair and I have not been the same since.
I read this quote years ago and it has always stuck with me. "Don't worry about how long you have to take to reach your goal. Or how many road blocks you have to take. You are still further ahead then those who to scared to even try."
Hello! I'm 19, eldest daughter of a first gen immigrant family and have been depressed throughout my childhood. I never managed to experience the things teens should due to depression, anxiety & the problems that come with being an immigrant. No friendships, love, or all others things people discover about themselves at that age.
Recently got rejected from uni and I cannot help but feel like I wasted my teen years, especially with my 20th birthday coming up. This video was my saving grace, I have seriously been considering ending it all.
I'll do my best regardless, but it's eternally less lonely to know you're not alone in this world. Thank you.
hey luv how are u doing now? I hope ur doing ok 🥺
just know u r loved by God and I totally get u…u are SEEN!
I am 35 but I still cannot find what is my calling in life. Like I may like something and is good at doing it but I am not passionate about it. I feel like I am way behind time and it is too late to start everything from scratch again.
Yes, I struggle with feeling rushed in my life. I always feel like I am behind the eight ball.🙏🏾💖😒
Thank you 💚 I'm 32 and spent the entirety of my 20s in a really bad place mentally and physically. I haven't completed uni, haven't been able to have a job in 10 years and was constantly burned out just trying to survive.
I now know that I am autistic and have ADHD and, with that knowledge, I'm starting to gradually make changes to accommodate myself moving forward. However, I've been struck hard with the, "Oh god, I'm 32 and haven't lived or figured out my life," feeling.
I'm starting to have some ideas for a career and thinking properly about my future for the first time since I was a teenager, but it's intimidating, especially when you feel like you're "behind" and "failing" in life.
But you're right. I have life ahead of me. My best days HAVE to be ahead of me. It's not too late and I'm not behind. I took the time I needed to heal and learn.
Thank you so much for this video.
Omg ❤you are amazing!! Watching you crying and smiling at the same time. I’ll be 36 this year . No kids not married and not a home owner. Society will make woman go crazy & feel unworthy being “older” and not settled. But I’m a learning each day life is beautiful the way it is & what’s meant will be. Maktub- I’m learning to LOVE being alone traveling with my dog and thankful for breath. Again love your message ❤
I'm 22 , in university, I finish next year, and I still feel so lost and like I failed. I really needed this video, thank you so much! ♥
I love this. Whenever I feel like I’m behind I remind myself that when you rush you overlook things and make mistakes. When you wait and take your time it always works out. At least in my life that has always happened for me. When I rushed I ended up hurting myself in the end
Yeeeeeeeeeees! I LOVE this!!! 💛💛💛
So true. I learned that lesson as well.
Same here
As a woman who is 33 who lost it all in 2020 AND had to start from scratch, yes it can be done. Like the saying goes, it only seems impossible until it's done. " The race doesn't exist" and the "American dream" is what YOU want, not what they say you should have.
Thinking of myself as a "late" bloomer kept me on a self-imposed deadline for the longest and wondering why I felt so defeated and behind everyone else all the time. Is it any wonder?! You reminded me that the present is a gift to myself right now, and it is better to bloom later than not to bloom at all. Thanks Alecia Renece for the reality check. I'll think of myself instead as a bloom-in-process. :)
I needed to hear this when I felt like a failiure at 23, and then at 24, 25 & the day before my 26th birthday. Idk what happened on my 26th birthday but I started to feel good and great. Now at 27 I am happy to hear someone talk about this in such a beautiful way. It's always nice to be reminded of this. THANK YOU! 💗
I’m 34 ( 35 in 3 months ) and I don’t feel old at all ! I do however feel ‘behind ‘ a lot of my friends in certain ways, and then my inner critic starts berating me. I’m learning to accept myself more ❤
For example, I haven’t been in an intimate relationship since 2016 (although to be honest , I wasn’t even open to meeting anyone until Spring 2022) I have had plenty of dates since then ( some wonderful ones ) but nothing that’s developed into a long lasting relationship. I feel very insecure about this at times and alien like, also I get scared time is running out sometimes ( but on reflection this is the pressure I feel from society - I’m genuinely very interested in meeting men, dating and being in a genuine relationship , but the time pressure is more a product of society .)
However I’m realising this is me just measuring myself against mainstream society’s values. Whenever I approach dating from a state of anxiety, panic or hurry, it backfires every time . I’ve gone through phases of being addicted to dating apps and overusing them, to the point ( I’m embarrassed to say but it may help someone to know they’re not the only one ) even contemplated self harm , because I felt so alien like in this regard compared to the average person and like I was unloveable in a romantic sense .
( I’m thankful to say i didn’t do this…I stopped, reflected and realised how ridiculous I was being … how precious this life is , and how dangerous it is to rely on the world to determine your worth. I deleted most dating apps for good and only kept the one dating app that I enjoy . Even then I take breaks for days / weeks if I need to .)
When I’m kinder with myself and only use dating apps from a healthy, self accepting state of mind, I attract men with much better energy, intention, and aligned interests. This has been a pattern that’s repeated itself over and over since I started being open to meeting men , and I FINALLY feel I’m getting it ( again, judging myself for not knowing sooner.)
Of course, a relationship or a man doesn’t define us anyway. I have a true desire for these, but the pressure from society to have it now, this very instant sometimes takes me out of the enjoyment of the present moment - and into future catastrophising about problems that don’t exist 😂
Sorry if this was a little heavy - I just wanted to be open in the hope it helps someone .
I love this video and in this age of social comparison on steroids , videos like this are a great antidote ! Much love ! ❤️
Thanku 🙏🏽
@@theanonymoushelpline7248 you’re welcome 🙏 hope it helped you and sending love and good vibes your way ! 💚🫶🙏
My story last time I dated 2016 time has flown,to say that I feel behind is an understatement but I keep hope alive because there’s The one Who holds the future and I hold on to that
This was well needed as I decided to take a break from dating too because I realized I'm not ready and I was feeling pressured by societal expectations of me and I just sat with myself an said I'm not ready to date ❤
Thank you for this message. Your truth is refreshing and very honest . I've learned that accomplishments comes at any age for example KFC founder David Sanders was in her 60's, McDonald's founder in his 50's. Also I've learned not to compare myself to other people, because most people lie about their luxurious life and others turn to illegal activities to get ahead. I'm counting my blessings each day, patting myself on the back for every small accomplishments because I am trying and doing my best, sometimes my greatness. I thank God for me and I know He is walking with through this rough terrain leading me greener pastures. I have learn to trust God's process, be patient, stay focus, and stay active with my dreams, also create a circle with positive people, even if that circle small. Negative people keep at a distance, be cordial, but keep them at a distance. Negative are envious and they will try to stop you from succeeding in life, and want you to be miserable with them.
I bid you all great fortune, to all who are watching this video and reading my comment, great fortune to the lovely Queen who created this video. 🌟Stay Fabulous 🌟
I am 45 and live with Sickle Cell Anemia, so I have always felt behind and slow. I am tired, sick, and then not. But I had to remember and remind myself I haven't had full-out sickle cell crisis since April of 2020!! That is the longest I have been without one, and the little ones in between were taken care of at home, not needing a hospitalization. So much of what you say I hear God's word in it, integrity, live for today and not worry so much about tomorrow as tomorrow will have its own set of troubles. I want to change my mindset, change only what I can, leave alone what I can't with Jehovah. Girl, and be grateful and really focus on the hope I have learned from His Word, focus on the things I have and can di, be real on what I cannot do and learn to say no firmly and respectfully cause when I don't this I have learned can affect me physically! I am saving this for later to watch again. I was in school for 6 years to become a nurse, it ain't no joke, but now I don't believe my body can take this anymore. But boy when I look at what was possible I need to learn how to be more grateful. Thank you for this!
I wish I never went to college if life was going to work out this way! I would have been content selling wigs and being a spa manager! All this pressure, minimum wage jobs out of college, poverty, unjust arrests, and poor understanding of marriage can cause young people to pursue goals with surprising disappointments when you're way too young! "Don't... looking at these other plants around you!" Yes, people will hate their lives and become frustrated if they perceive life in a race! "Don't rush." Amen! 🙌 Thanks for sharing this video!
A real good home girl suggested I watch this video. Sis I cried through the whole video. I absolutely needed to hear this and I’m grateful for the message. Ima slow down and breath 😮💨
Yeeeeeeeeeees! Have grace with yourself ☺️🌺💛 you are exactly where you are supposed to be 🌼
Thank you for putting this video up. I am 42 years old. I have 2 kids, battle mental health and I am in school for medical assistant. I thank you for putting this out there because there are so many people going through the motions. I feel I am where I am supposed to be now and I am going further with my life. I have always felt like I was behind because of so many things I have done, made me feel like I was too late for things to happen. I don't regret anything I have been through and pray that everybody learns from this message and to know you are not alone.
It has take me 8yrs to finish my undergrad and I’ll be 26 when I get it. Such an on time video for me to watch and feel affirmed. Thank you for continuing creatively as that’s how I’d like to move as well.
I'm trying to start medical college at 24 this year too
Thank you so much for seeing me and appreciating my point of view. It really means a lot to me 🌻🌺 Much love and joy to you! 😘💐 And CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
The same happened to me as well! I was in school for 8 years and graduated close to my 26th birthday.