6 THINGS GERMANS HAVE NEVER SEEN BEFORE (and probably wouldn't like)
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Here are some things that you probably won't find in Germany but you could very easily find in the USA (if you keep your eyes open). Some of these things might be unsettling and complete culture shocks for a German visiting/living in the USA.
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00:00 Things that Germans have never seen before
00:52 Stripclubs and breakfast buffets (or all you can eat chicken wings)
03:34 Book fairs
05:20 Paper plates, plastic cups, and plastic utensils
07:42 Baby showers, gender reveals, and push presents
09:21 Electronic scooters in grocery stores
11:49 Corporal punishment in American schools
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This one is going to be a fun one 😅Please TH-cam Gods DON'T demonetize the video... It was all in good "educational" fun... I promise... My question for yall watching this: would you eat chicken wings at a stripclub?
If we eat chicken wings at a stripclub? No! In our stripclubs the chicks are on stage. But we don't eat them.
Of course I would 1. If they served any and 2. if I wasn't on a diet 😜
Only if they have good legs! ha ha
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@@klauskruger6187 Not for free at least
In Germany it is written in the Grundgesetz that every child in Germany has the right for a non violent treatment. Any sort of violence against kids is forbidden by law. It's a crime.
Yes even a slap.
So viel zur Theorie...
Came here to comment the same, it's not just something uncommon in Germany, corporal punishment is against the law. Of course it sadly still happens behind closed doors, but at least there is a structure in place to combat it in some way. The thought of hitting a child just being legal and normal to do genuinely sickens me, as I had to endure that as a child myself, and it definitely heavily contributed to the f'd up state I am still in 30 years later.
One thing of note is that it only became illegal relatively recently, parents were only prohibited by law from striking their children in 2000. This sadly also means I couldn't get reperations from the state for my parents hitting me in my childhood, while in some cases it is actually possible to do that (as the state failed to protect you from the violence of your parents). I heard the paperwork and conditions to fulfill are hellish, though, as always in Germany.
@@MsLilyFay naja dass in deutschen Schulen strukturell Gewalt angewendet wird, wage ich zu bezweifeln.
Was in einigen Haushalten passiert, insbesondere zu Corona bzw. Homeschooling Zeiten ist sicherlich schrecklich.
Ich bin selbst Erzieher. Statistisch gesehen, habe ich ständig mit misshandelten Kindern zu tun.
Das ist leider sehr schwer einzuschätzen und nachzuweisen.
Sehr traurig.
@@Wranuckl Na, du hast ja nicht von struktureller Gewalt in Schulen gesprochen. Die Eltern gehen ja schon bei Nachsitzen auf die Barrikaden. Da käm ein Lehrer mit Schlägen Gott sei Dsnk nicht durch.
Ich bin auch Erzieherin 😊 Ich liebe meinen Job, aber was das Thema "Gewaltfreie Erziehung" angeht, wurden mir dabei die Augen geöffnet. Einem sind viel zu lange die Hände gebunden. Manchmal schwierig auszuhalten.
@@Wranuckl Ich fände es super, wenn Kinder ermutigt werden mit Lehrern sprechen zu können ohne dass sie Angst haben müssen, dass die Eltern was erfahren würden ohne die Erlaubnis vom Kind selbst.
The holes in it reduces the air resistance so you can hit harder. Hitting children is wrong, optimizing your weapon to hit children is a lot worse.
I agree... I think if I had a kid and this happened to them at school... I would sue the school or... they would have to deal with a crazy Hayley
Please tell me you're kidding me
Wtf? When I hear that my son got spanked in school, this would be the day the first school massacre happening in austria.
I have seen such wooden boards with holes... But we use it to serve shots in bars.
I wonder if this are the same boards and we just forgot about their function. 🤔
This isn't just for hitting children. Let's say some adults enjoy pain.
I joined a Facebook group in good faith that is mostly full of people from the Deep South and Idaho and they use the group to glorify corporal punishment. I've argued against this and even used the term Stockholm Syndrome to discredit their arguments.
Just a few words:
on #2: In Germany books have fixed prices so bookstores do not go bankrupt so easily.
on #4: With our kids we sent a card to "reveal" our baby to our relatives and friends. That's fully sufficient...
on #6: That's just against human rights. So much for the land of the free and the brave...
on #6: True words, Eagle - true words!
Zu #4. Wir waschen den Babies den Kopf. Wenn also die Mutter noch im Krankenhaus ist zieht der Vater mit den besten Freunden durch einige Lokale und sie sind von ihm eingeladen. So ein "Kopfwaschen" endete auch manchmal damit, dass der Vater oder die Freunde danach wie "Babies" aussahen ;-)
We send cards too. I couldn't imagine throwing a party after giving birth or in the late pragnancy. That's way to stressful. A push present from my husband would be nice. I like the idea of showing respect for the hard work of giving bith. But the biggest presents are my children. I need no jewelry. I need no car. I could need new clothes because I'm still fat. I gave birth 4 month ago. Maybe I should tell my husband that American mothers get push presents.
@@Keno0355 Hab ich noch nie gehört als Deutscher. Ist das evtl eine regionale sache?
@@sognarisenheart7806 Könnte sein. Hier im Saarland wurde zu meiner Zeit oft den Neugeborenen der Kopf gewaschen. Manchmal auch erst nachdem Mama und Kind zu Hause waren
#6 explains a lot.
Outlawing corporal punishment miraculously dropped youth criminality a few years later in Germany.
How it isn't obvious that teaching kids you can hit those with less power than you encourages them to get more violent, I will never know.
@@Call-me-Al amen to that!
As a Minnesotan, I didn't even know what corporal punishment was until I started watching videos online about the way they do things in Southern schools. There are even still schools in the South that have _segregated proms_ , which to me is utterly unbelievable. In a lot of ways, it's kind of like an alternate universe down there where society is still stuck in the 1950s.
yeah... the south seriously effs everything up in my opinion... Don't get me wrong.. I love Florida BUT it bothers me like no tomorrow how it is governed down there -_-
@@HayleyAlexis
The states where corporal punishment is legal are all in the South and Far West. Why do you tell your viewers otherwise?
@@sheilagolden8674 but she didn't, she even showed a map.
I got whipped two times in Elementary School.
Once by the gym teacher with a Tennis Racket. (For fighting in kindergarten)
Second a few years later by the Principal (For accidentally hurting a friend from horseplaying with a plastic fork in third grade). This was in the mid to late 80s. This usually only happened rarely and typically was done in response to things such as small fighting. Usually other than detention or suspension, the biggest disciplinary action was a teacher putting a note on your back for your parent to read when they got home (to let them deal with you). That said if a teacher whipped you they didn't tell your parents (and probably knew you wouldn't tell them either).
By the late 80s though, this started to go away in the US (or at least in the urban Midwest Public Schools I went to). My parents told me this was very common in the 50s-60s and even neighbors would whip you.
In the 90s, I remember alot of adults more/less complained that they couldn't discipline kids anymore because of being taken to court or being locked up, so this was no longer common. I remember in the early 90s, a female teacher got suspended for beating up a boy (the boy cursed her out and slapped her in the face). I've seen some teachers actually gotten punched by students and didn't retaliate (that said these were adult male teachers who probably could have severely hurt these kids if they were to retaliate).
I think now for this to happen, the parents need to be okay with it, so it is probably more/less reserved for Private Schools or such as I think a Public School wouldn't want to be involved with the lawsuits from parents if that happened.
I dont think most US parents would be okay for teachers whipping their kids anymore. Or at least it is divided enough that most teachers wouldn't just try it assuming the parents would be okay with it.
Alot of the pro corporal punishment is relics from the pre 1960s America where this was totally fine. I think it slowly started to go away since then as my Grandmother said it was really bad in the 30s-40s. My parents said it was bad in the 50s-60s, but it seems with each generation it has gotten better.
you mean 1850s ?
Single use plastic cups, straws and plates aren't even allowed any more in germany since 2021
What also always blows my head is how much importance is put on an engagement ring in the US. It has to be insanely expensive, the diamond must be this and this big and so on. We here in Germany don't even put so much pressure on our wedding rings and engagement rings? Well, most don't even have one. 🤷🏻♀️
I have read that in the US the price of an engagement ring should be 3 monthly salaries or more, in Germany it is considered normal for the ring to cost about one monthly salary, 1.5 months at most. But then again I don't live in a world where the number of carats (?) of your diamond on the ring is something you would know or share
My partner is German and the joke between us is that we'd get married for tax cuts and the engagement ring will cost €100 (easier to replace when I enviably lose it). Honestly though, its hard engagement ring shopping here compared to the UK as it's not as big of a selection in the window/ shop for this kind of jewellery. And here the wedding bands are normally sold as a matching pair at a decent price.
#6 As far as I know the United States has signed the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC), however it is the only United Nations member state that has not ratified it and that is really sad. Gun owners have more rights than children in the US.
> Gun owners have more rights than children in the US.
There is a very american solution for this problem: give them kids more guns!
You laugh, I laugh - but the texan guy with his collection of assault rifles scratches his head and thinks:"that's right, my three-year-old hasn't got his own automatic rifle yet ..."
@@deryeti351 A stranger laying their hands on my child in a place were firearms are easily acquired, sounds like a recipe for disaster...
And now they want to force women to put out even more children no one wants to take care of and protect :/
Yes children do not have right in the US. That is why they are allowed to feed them garbage for breakfast and lunch. There are so many domestic abusers and child predators walking the streets. Parents are not allowed to abuse their children.
I live in the US and yeah they can like spank and hit us at school but they can only hit you like two times and it doesn't even hurt
I feel like the baby stuff has gotten out of hand in the US. It used to just be a baby shower and that was it. Now its a gender reveal, baby shower, maternity photoshoot. Even with push presents. It wasn't a big deal until the last 10-15 years I wanna say.
I think and it's just my opinion, but in Germany the gender is not a big deal who cares if it's a girl or a boy!! important is when the baby is healthy!
Yeah, then let's celebrate that: first ultrasound, first arm and leg distinguishable etc.
Ich denke genau deswegen haben wir solche Partys auch gar nicht. Da feiert man , bekommt Geschenke und dann ist es beispielsweise ne Fehlgeburt oder was anderes schlimmes passiert. Deswegen feiern wir eher erst wenn das Baby da und gesund ist :)
You know that there is something wrong, when drilling for oil, extracting it from the ground, transporting it to a refinery, producing plastic raw material, transporting this plastic raw material to another factory, producing plastic cutlery out of it, transporting it to shops, selling it and transporting it to home, and then using it only once, is deemed to be ok.
And then the plastic will end up in the environment. From dust to dust ...
@@user-sm3xq5ob5d only that plastic is a artificial material that will not dissolve the next 500 years. And even then it will still be artificial molecules which the environment can't process.
It can have its uses. A couple of years ago I was the technical project manager at a project where we digitized a large collection of very old manuscripts (Jewish, Arab etc) collected by a Jew and considered an important part of the cultural heritage of our Jewish community, and made it available to the public online. When it was released we had a reception presenting the result and most if not all the external people invited were Jews some of whom where very prominent.
The food was served on paper plates, the cutlery was plastic and so where the cups and glasses and it wasnt becasue we didnt have plenty very nice plates, glasses, cups and cutlery.
It was because done to ensure the Jews that we understood their religious dietry restrictions and made sure to respect them - this way they knew that whatever came into contact with their food and drink hadn't touched anything forbidden (eg. something that has touched milk or something with milk in it must not come into contact with something that has touched meat or something with meat in it).
@@user-sm3xq5ob5d Not if you have a proper waste disposal sytem and use it. Burnable non recyclable/compostable garbage is green(it won't release more CO2 when burned than if left to decay in a landfill) fuel.
@@CarlAlex2 Some people are stuck in history. They have to decide whether they want to behavein an intelligent way or participate in destroying God's work.
Any form of corporal punishment or using psychological stress/torture is HIGHLY ILLEGAL in Germany. As a parent you face hefty fines and years in jail PLUS in extreme cases you permanently lose custody of your kids. In institutional settings teachers or other employees who used these 'methods' are fired, face fines and have to pay money to the victim for bogily or mental damages and go to jail. Usually you are registered as being a danger to minors and no one in the field (and sometimes other employers too) will hire you again, when they do a background check on you.
Reasoning is that you endanger a childs life and well-being and you break the laws of children's rights, human rights and the general gekrman law. People who know of such crimes perfomed by parents, employees, coworkers, family members or other people and don't report them will be facing a child neglegance and endangerment sentence too , if the case is severe like childs death or pedophhilia and rape or torture (obviously with evidence, when you can prove it).
In America children have no rights it is disgusting. We still allow child marriages. We like domestic abusers and child predators walk our Streets. Yet a woman can not get an abortion not even for medical or incest. Americans need to wake up.
I can only speak for my school, a Gymnasium in Bavaria, but we didnt have any in school suspension, just regular detention, which was basically 2h in the afternoon in a class room with maybe 1 other 2 other kids and you had to do some extra exercises. You wouldnt miss any classes and it was rather difficult to even get detention. The only harsher punischment besides detention was a "Verweis", which I dont know the englisch word for. Your parents would get a letter and the "Verweis" would be listed in your school certificate at the end of the year. But that was very uncommon, I think about 1 oder 2 kids from my grade (200 people) in 8 years received one.
I had a suspension in Germany. A few days I had to stay home, because I ran out on a teacher and left school grounds because I was having a bit of a tantrum.
When I was in 6th grade, 4 people in my class got a Verweis for playing Schafkopf in the back rows. And I think some got a Verweis for throwing snowballs. Interestingly, apart from being viewed as "bad", a Verweis actually has no consequences whatsoever but is simply a formal way to call out bad behaviour. Then, there is a "verschärfter Verweis", which means that the principal is giving you a Verweis (which also has no consequences, but is a "last warning").
The real punishments include exclusion from lessons (specific or all) for a limited amount of time, in severe cases "Versetzung" to a different school (i.e. you have to leave the school and go to some other school).
Hypothetically, you can be expelled from a school (i.e. have to leave the school for good immediately) or even prohibited to ever go to a school of this form ever again, but this never happens as it has extremely strong premises. Also, you can not be expelled from a "Pflichtschule" (e.g. Hauptschule), because you have Schulpflicht, which means you have to visit some school.
I got a Verweis for running in my classroom (Gymnasium in Bavaria). The teacher wasn't there yet and I chased my friend. Then the teacher entered and my friend ran into her. She didn't fall or so. And we apologized. But we both got a Verweis.
We had two people suspended in our class (gymnasium/bavaria/2000s) for drinking alkohol on a school trip. And nearly everyone got at least 1 Verweis in our school during my time there. So you might have either had a particular leanient one or you were just really rule obiding kids :D
@@ElchiKing Actually, what kind of punishment it is to be excluded form lessons for a limited amount of time?? Isn't a reward?? I should have been the bad kid and I could have stayed at home. My daughter loved covid lockdowns just because she did not have to sit through the boring classes with loud schoolmates.... and I think she even got "třídní důtka" (something like the Verweis I suppose) from the class teacher... for forgetting textbooks etc... once he called me that he would not like to do that and that she can do something about it (like some extra things to do around the classroom, watering flowers etc) and I told him that he doesn't need to worry if he needs to give it to her. That it is completely normal to forget things and that I reallz do not care. :-)))))
Corporal punishments are allowed at schools in the US and esp. in Florida up to this day and age? That's an eye opener to me! It's a clear pathway to establish violence as a sort of amends for (a childs) wrong doing and sets a precedence for dealing with problems when becoming an adult, not to mention being invasive on the right of physical integrity and the dignity of being a sensient being. To say that I am shocked to hear this is a clear understatement!😲😦
On a lighter note I'd like to say that you can save even more money when your dishwasher is attached to the end of your arms, as it is in my case...😜🤣🤣
Actually no. Aside from the costs to buy and install a dishwasher, using it is cheaper than washing by hand. Less energy and less water.
To my knowledge, corporal punishment is explicitly illegal in several countries under any circumstances. In 1979, Sweden became the first country in the world to universally prohibit it; it is classified as assault.
On the bookstores thing, in the US there used to be numerous small, specialty bookstores in every city until, say, the late 1990s. This was especially true in towns with universities. In the US city I lived in and the huge US city I was raised in, there were small bookstores everywhere, some focusing on paperbacks, some focusing on children's books, others focusing on academic books, others focusing on imported books, several focused on art books, a few focusing on what were called "coffee table books," meaning big books with lots of impressive photos and artwork intended for display, and quite a few focusing on used books and antiquarian/collectible books. There were also major chain bookstores, had been for decades, chains like Walden's, B. Dalton, Barnes and Noble's, Bookstop, etc, but by the end of the nineties, the chain bookstores were gobbling up the independents, and online Amazon, which started out as a bookselling site, was starting to impact even the big chains so that during the early 2000s even the big chains started to disappear. Those old independent bookstores were great. Some were literally in old houses with rooms and floors of books; others were just one room, like the German ones you mention. You could browse for hours and have great conversations with the owners and employees, who were usually serious book lovers with a lot of knowledge.
That's the reason why I try to avoid the bookstore chains as well as Amazon whereever I can. Instead I call the small bookstores and by from them. It's another thing to rummage through the shelfs of the small ones than to do a few clicks on Amazon. They also have the books the next day and it helds jobs in the area.
In Germany there is practically no competition in selling books. Every bookstore has to sell the same book for the same price even Amazon. And people like browsing bookstores and read into a book at the bookstore instead of ordering a book online based on reviews. Sure some sales of bookstore got "stolen" by Amazon but i think especially the fixed prices kept online retailers from destroying local bookstores in Germany.
@@redcrafterlppa303 But the small bookstores feel the competition to the bookstore chains heavily because the chains are able to present a bigger variety of books in their shelves than the small ones and they are able to rent stores in the main areas of stores because they have more money and can make more advertising. They are also able to present their customers with authors who will present their books occasionally and sign them for customers.
@@Glibber777 true there is never no competition but small stored don't get out of business because of drop shippping discounts of large chains
Here I was thinking the general public in the western world hasn't really understood much about early childhood development and thus accidentally traumatizes children but at least they stopped hitting them.
Whelp.
This reminds me of the case of the man who used to have a wheelchair that he used with his hands. Later in life his mobility and issues with his hands got so bad that he requested an electronic wheelchair from his insurance (the first wheelchair was also from them).
The insurance denied his request. Why? Because the man was blind. The blind man then sued the insurance company because he was already blind when he used the old wheelchair. He won. The judge said that just because he was blind the insurance didn't have the right to deny him his freedom of movement.
This happened in Germany of course.
We used to go to our favorite pub in Germany and hang out until 4 am and then go to the Blumenmarkt and have breakfast and then go to our college classes👌🏻fun times! And totally agree on the throw away- unless maybe you have a huge event and not enough dishes their is no warrant for this. We have dishes and reusable plastic plates that we just stick into the dishwasher ! And yes it is more work with clean up but who cares. I really hate the wastefulness here .
Wait, hitting children is fine but if you let your 15 year old son use public transport on his own or have your kid play in your own garden while the parent is inside the house CPS can be called to check up on you?
First time I heard about the paper plates and plastic cups. I'm a bit shocked. (I'm from Sweden and I live in Croatia).
First of all the glasses are so cool! I love them! As a German I'll never understand the paper plate thing to be honest. It doesn't make sense and I would be so ashamed to offer my friends food using paper plates. I have plates I usually use for myself (Harry Potter merch ^^) and then I got very fine porcelain from my elderly neighbour. She is in her 90s and got the porcelain when she was young from her boss. I use this porcelain for guests and friends and family. Your guests deserve the best, not paper plates. And I don't have words to say how I feel about this punishments in school! I'm so sorry it happened to you. It must have been so humiliating. I understand your decision. I would have done the same, but it just shouldn't be like that. Btw you did the right thing hitting the ass**** with your book!
Just as a public service announcement (and a demonstration of German overcorrectness): be aware about cheap sunglasses. They usually don't have the UV protection of higher quality glasses, and thus are even worse for eye protection than not wearing sun glasses at all.
We don't even have plastic utensils or paper plates in the house. Let alone use them. That is for food stalls on the street or festivals and such, not for dayly use.
Your channel is getting more and more interesting and I really like the path it’s taking! Thank you!
I like the idea of a bookfair at schools. It gives children that don't go to bookstores with their parents a chance to get to know different books and purchase what interests them.
Everything that promotes reading is good.
Hayley - nur um die Geschichte rund zu machen: Was ist mit dem Typen passiert, der Dich ein halbes Jahr gequält und geärgert hat? Ist der dafür *auch* bestraft worden? Oder warst am Ende allein Du die Böse? - Ach so, und: GUT GEMACHT! Das war die einzig richtige Reaktion von Dir, damit Du Ruhe vor dem hast. Sonst hätte der ewig so weitergemacht. *Some* times violence *is* a solution! ;-)
Only me… leider… und mein Problem war das unser Lehrerin hat nix gemacht (und hat alles gesehen).
@@HayleyAlexis That's really sad!
@@HayleyAlexis In der Schule werden leider die falschen bestraft.
War bei mir auch ein dilemma. "Aber du musst dich doch wehren!" habe ich von den eltern gehört. Also habe ich mich gewehrt, bin meinem plagegeist an die gurgel gegangen und das war dann auch nicht in ordnung. Führte glaube ich dazu, dass die eltern zur sprechstunde einbestellt wurden.
Konfliktlösung ohne gewalt ist eigentlich etwas, das schon zuhause gelernt werden sollte, kann aber in der schule auch thematisiert werden. Die kinder zu verdreschen ist aber ganz sicher nicht der richtige weg dorthin.
Holy moly. I mean come on, that shit leaves emotional scars doesn’t it? Standing up for yourself and getting abused by grown ups because of it? I don’t necessarily think you were 100% right, but nonetheless, the humiliation and the abuse that followed is just wrong. I know a lot of children get spanked in the US, but I don’t understand the parents. I could never do that to my child.
Sometimes you just have to stop people from acting. Well done.
In 7th class we had a girl with really nice boobies and I, asshole me, touched them and squeezed it. The girl kicked me in the nuts immediately really hard what downed me instantly for quite a while cramping in pain.
That was quite a lesson.
Years later i thanked her for it.
Thank you for spreading awareness!
I’ve to admit, that I haven’t watched one of your vids for quite a while. So I was completely astounded about you haircut. After a quick check that it is by purpose (and not due to medical condition), I’d like to say: you are looking marvelous!
Or in Berghain, you can go in 2017 and come out 2019. 😂
I did not know there are schools in America that allow spanking as a punishment or students to choose their punishment. The spanking is a bit shocking.
Corporal punishment ("Prügelstrafe") was a thing in Germany, too. But it is long gone. Before 1973 (1983 in Bavaria) teachers were allowed to use a cane or ruler ("Rohrstock" oder "Lineal") to discipline his students - either with hits on the hands or backside...
Other punishments were slapping the student or have him stand or kneel in a corner.
Which ones did you receive?
How long in corner typically?
@@Mr.Goodkat I'm old, but not THAT old...
All of those punishments got forbidden before I was enrolled in school. ;-)
Sometimes, if i watch people from the US, i get the believing that nobody is using the kitchen.
It seems to be very common to order food or to take food from different restaurant's at home.
Self-made food is unpopular.
If adults have to physically abuse their kid's to teach them something, these people have lost it all, there's no reason to accept that and if any teacher or principal would ever hit or touch kid's in front of me,
that inhuman being must be a fast runner.
They have never learned children need guidance and taught how to do things or not do them.
Baby showers and gender reveal parties are so typically American 😊 If Germans have those Kind of parties, it 's because the trend is slowly coming here from the USA through movies and social Media. Kinda like Halloween. When i Was a kid in the 80s and 90s, noone had Halloween parties over here in Germany. Basically, Germany has become more and more Americanized over the last 20 years.
I have noticed that a lot in Germany recently
@@HayleyAlexis We started Halloween because of the kids. But it is not deep-rooted here and many people still do not know the date.In my childhood, Halloween never has been a topic. And with our children, we only celebrated baptism. But the first day at school is quite a thing in Germany. Do you have that as well in the US?
i can't believe it to be true that children get spanked in school. Impossible to express how shocked I am.
when I went to school 40 years ago it is already , and one of us did something wrong or rude or disrespectful we got told off, which was hard enough. It would have been much better to just talk about the incident and the teacher explains better ways to handle the situation.
but actual spanking? with that wooden thing? i just can't believe it. i'm shocked
I'm baffled by how gendered everything child-related has become over the last few decades. When I was growing up, me and my sisters would be wearing the same clothes at least all through kindergarten, and even during primary school we had some items of clothing that were handed down regardless of gender. When we played together, we would spend one day playing with Barbie dolls, the next playing with legos, and we might even combine both into one make-believe universe. Our parents weren't indoctrinating us into woke culture or anything, they just left us to play on our own terms. As for clothing, before the rise of fast fashion, buying gendered clothes for small children simply wasn't an affordable option. Today, even at the baptism toddlers are dressed up in gendered clothing, little smokings for the boys, and a skirt and matching bow around the head for the girls... It doesn't make sense to me, especially when the baptism is about being loved the way you are. The traditional white baptism gown illustrates that life is like a blank slate, full of options and opportunities, but unfortunately, this beautiful idea is getting lost in all the gender-marketing hype.
4:02 🥰 _Ohhhh._ Oh my gosh. 💛💚💙 Well, I mean, Hayley, those are some _stylin'_ shades under _any_ circumstances, but the idea that you would receive those as a gift from your little _brother_ is _adorable._
Right?! That is why they travel with me everywhere I go... I miss his little self :(
We had corporal punishment at german schools too. It was abolished in 1968-80 (depending on the state), but some older teachers did not care about that even during the 80's.
or the 90's...
When I went to primary school in the nineties, there was one older teacher close to retirement who was rumored to have pulled on children's hair as a punishment in the past. I don't know if this was true or not, but the fact that it could spread like a rumour and would stick to you long after the fact shows how unthinkable this kind of behaviour had become at that point.
@@haukenot3345 I attended school 1999-2012 in the UK and in primary school as late as 2006 there, I seen student's being grabbed, pushed, shoved and physically poked (really, really hard repeatedly) sometimes they fell over (like little 4 year olds) in front of the whole school in the cafeteria and burst into tears laying on the ground, while the teacher who pushed them onto their faces stood over them ordering them aggressively to get up, I heard even worse things happening and I myself was shoved around and on one occasion grabbed up by my collar and tie onto my tip toes by teacher cause he wanted to stare into my eyes close to intimidate me and berate/belittle me. I was 9 years old and years younger when other stuff happened too, I was very meek and submissive so it's not like I was escalating it being aggressive back.
Corporal punishment was still possible until -- I think -- 1971. I got to primary school in 1973, and only much later learned that I had only "missed" it so closely.
Turns out I was slightly wrong, in former East Germany it was banished from the very start in 1949, here in West Germany 1973 was the first year where it was no longer allowed. So for once I have a reason to be happy that my parents got cold feet in 1972 and decided to not send me to school for another year (I was just near the threshold, 1972 I would have been one of the youngest in my class, 1973 I was one of the oldest)
That is a lot of information!! Thank you so much for that 😊 it’s so crazy how different the USA and Germany are regarding this point
@@hartmutholzgraefe I entered Grundschule in 1975 in NRW and corporal punishment was everything but uncommon, (Ohrfeigen, Kopfnüsse, pulling ears, aimed hand balls to the face, ...), the older the teacher the more likely. I found myself at the receiving end as late as 1984. There's a video, "Paul McCartney on George Harrison's Dad" where karma is returned to the teacher that caned George Harrison. Legend has it some of the teachers I mentioned before wisened up after similiar lectures.
I know Lower Saxony forbade it in 1967 or earlier.
While this is true for teachers, parents were still allowed to hit their children until the year 2000 in Germany. Then Germany added the §1631 to the BGB which makes it completely illegal to hit or "spank" children. Interestingly inflicting "mental injuries" is illegal, too.
The authorities may even go so far as to take kids away from their parents, if they can prove that the parents hit their children.
Spanking children has been made illegal in Germany about 2002, even for parents. This has actually lead to a decrease in juvenile crime...
Has it really? Or is this just a diffuse feeling I would love to see that statistic.
I was bullied at school for six years and the kids who beat me up every day were the ones whose parents "disciplined" them with violence.
35 years of living in germany and i've never heard of anyone throwing or attending a 'gender reveal' anything lol
Same here. And I hope this never becomes a thing here lol
In Austria we had book fairs when I was a child, that is more than 40 years ago. Don’t know, why they vanished or went out of fashion. We even had one especially for English or French written books and I still have these books on my shelf.
We had book fairs in Austria ten years ago. maybe it's because I live on the countryside? There was one every year primary school to middle school as far as I remember.
The more you are talking about the US, the more i get the feeling, that this country just got stuck in the year 1970....
more 1950
More like 1760.
Well corporal punishement existed in germany until 1973. Its not that long ago.
@@gbbgbb1856 Well, nearly 50 years is two generations... twice that in years (that would be 1924), and most people didn't even had a telephone, women didn't have voting rights in most countries, and only a very few people had their own car (and nearly nobody a refrigerator) - as such, one can argue that 50 years actually *is* "long ago" nowadays when it comes to human development.
When I refuse to use paper plates at my mom's house, the family tells me I'm being a snob.
Mine too 😅 but I really don’t care. Mike is worse when he’s in the USA 🤣
Germany has book faires, too. Usually once a year.
Love the part about the dishwasher vs. plastic plates. Here in Lebanon, it's setting a nice table vs. fewer plates etc to be cleaned. At any rate, it's me who does the cleaning not the guests...😉
About the scooters in stores. Most people in Denmark who rides a scooter they are already go to the store on.
It’s highly illegal to lay hands on kids here. no person parent or otherwise it’s considered violence.
Regarding scooters: If you need one for shopping, how did you get to the store all on your own in the first place? If you can't even casually stroll through a store, be it due to obesity or a leg injury, can you drive safely? Wouldn't you need assistance all the time? And if someone's just lazy, why enable them?
It's the US, so have a guess. No, it's not guns, but good idea! ... Yes, cars is correct! When everything but store interiors is car friendly, you need to be just fit enough to walk a few steps.
(No mockery intended, I just found that dialog funny. 😂🙈)
@@ThePixel1983 some times you dont even need to get out of the car.......... th-cam.com/video/4Ho2f6oIFuA/w-d-xo.html
I worked as a camp counsellor in California and in a break I was invited in one of the villas in the wine valley with a lot of sport cars in the drive way and we got some food and drinks using paper plates and cups. I was really shocked. For me it was lazyness as they said their maid had her day off.
Baby shower parties is so nuts . Not sure why. Totally overrated
We had a very strict polish teacher in elementary school 1987-1991. She once slapped a Turkish pupil that had fallen asleep…it might have been Ramadan, not sure (back then I didn‘t know about it)and I was quite shocked! Nothing came of it…
And when our town celebrated the 500th anniversary we had a period where we learned how school was done ‚in ye olden days‘ and were required to come in wearing skirts, kneelenth white socks and all girls had to have their hair braided and we had the old arrangement of Single seats Front to back and all of it…and our teacher taught us how to write in Sütterlin which I have completely forgotten (it is the old new script that was adopted in Germany around the beginning of the 20th Century) and we went to our Heimatmuseum to an exhibition and everything…but having your fingernails controlled in the morning with the teacher parading around with a cane behind her back…I was never quite sure if she wouldn‘t just randomly choose me for a certain kind of demonstration…lol..I generally gave her enough reason to want to….I guess I was lucky to not have been in schools with cp because I would have gotten plenty, for sure
Our karate teacher checked our nails, too. Long, dirty nails are an awful weapon.
also went to a Heimatmuseum once in primary school ( ~ 2000) and I was shouted at and insulted for writing with my left hand. we wrote some poems with feathers and ink, and everyone's looked nice but mine didn't for not being allowed to use my dominant hand and was than trashed by the museums guide. hated that day!
@@ChicaTiquita I feel u, that must have been hard for you at that age!
My mother is a lefty and is 72 now and she was ‚re-educated‘ in elementary school and it really messed up her brain…she still writes with the right hand, but she can also write normal with the right and at the same time in mirrorskript with the left…in cursive!
It‘s like daVinci just that she doesn‘t need to concentrate at all…it‘s a bit weird to watch her do it!
I am impressed by how much you have learned about values in a foreign culture and how good you are at reflecting on your upbringing and home culture. Most people would judge the foreign culture based on their upbringing, but you are able to weigh these cultures against each other and identify your own values.
Robert Bly among other american authors have found the US general culture to be one of "teenagers who never grow up". That said by an American, I can only agree, that is what it looks like from an outside perspective.
Maybe at some point Americans will see the drawbacks of a limitless culture and develop?
I think it is different because she actually allowed herself to fully indulge in culture by living in Germany. Not visiting, but actually trying to see it as a home. Some things about your own culture you only learn/discover after living abroad for months or years
The spanking thing is absolutely bonkers! Learned a lot again, thanks for the vids!
"book fairs" are called flea markets (Flohmärkte) in Germany and they still exist, though not in numbers as I've seen them around as a child.
After eBay and Amazon Marketplace basically ruined the market for used books, people just give them away in boxes at the street or share them in public cabinets..
The sort of book fair Haley is talking about is a, generally, one day event taking place in the elementary school (maybe ages 5 through 11 or 12.) Little pamphlets with the books and other items being sold (mostly books or book related items) are sent home maybe a week before, the child and family can pick out what they want to buy, send the child to school with the money, and then the students are released from class in small groups to go shopping that day.
When I was a kid they didn't actually bring the books to the school for kids to shop. The shopping was done on the order forms sent home, the child returned it with the money, and maybe a month later each child would get what they ordered. In my day, 45-50 years ago, it was strictly books. Now they might sell plushies of characters from the books, fancy bookmarks, book bags, and, apparently, a pair of sunglasses. Who knew?!
Book fairs are not flea markets! Flea market is when you sell your old, used stuff. Book fairs are selling brand new books.
damn now i kinda want to visit a flea market again... ive found quite a few interesting books when looking through boxes of old books people wanted to get rid of
Also Bücherbörsen, where you can find new books also are still a thing in Germany, though in recess either.
They are either their own thing or could be found on special conventions.
Hi Hailey, you look absolutely georgious and hawt with the minimalist Look! I enjoy your channel so much! Thanks a lot!! Your humor is pure Gold!
You used inclusive language to talk about push presents. That makes me so happy. Thank you.
A family is a family and everyone can be graced with a child 😊
Licensing for a club is easier if you serve food, then you can get the food & beverage permit as opposed to a straight up liquor license. It could also affect the hours of operations allowed
Didn’t even start watching the video but already put a thumbs up
Corporal punishment especially against a female teenager (but not limited to) is nothing els than a sexual assault and should be punished accordingly. Where is the "me too" movement to fight against these laws which allow such practice? Side note: "religious" practices seem to promote those things as we see in germany with the abuse cases of the katholic church.
At our school the worst you could get was doing “social hours”which was basically helping in the kitchen or cleaning the school.Idk how it was tho,never had to do one
Book fairs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOOOOOOOVED the book fairs in Florida!! Even if all I could afford was a free bookmark 😭 My kids in Germany will so miss out on this amazing experience 💔
It was one of my FAVORITE experiences growing up in the USA... The excitement that I got walking from my classroom to the library with $10 in my hand... was probably one of the nicest memories I have from school :)
i have the same experience when i go to FNAC in France (bookstore over 4 stories)
But hey, better than no books at all...
Hayley I like your personality very much - keep going on with your channel!
Grocery scooters: in the US most shops are so big, that you make more miles inside the store getting from the entrance to the meat, to the sweets, to the veggies and to the checkout, than most germans in cities walk the entire tour within getting to the shop and back home by foot.
Outrageous! That lack of ecological concience is really ...lack of words!
Food doesn't even taste as well as from ceramics/porcellaine.
In Germany you just have "Bäumchen stellen" where neighbours and friends gather, put up a tree with -old- babystuff, bring some presents, have food and drink and celebrate. That's it
NO corporal punishment at school at all! At least not from the teacher-side. If a teacher only so much as TOUCHED a child hell would brake loose!
Sadly bullies still don't get the treatment they deserve...
Book fairs at schools? Does that mean, a commercial bookstore comes to school and sells the books? Not in Germany! Commercialised stuff is not allowed at schools. But you can of course organise a flea-market.
Lazasha here … Loving the cozy background..
I was so confused when we spent new year in Las Vegas in a Club and everyone was gone at around 1 and they closed the Club at 2.... In Austria I would normally go home at 6am after clubbing when I was young. Clubs often habe a reduce or free entranc fee before midnight so people come and fill the club up earlier as most will drink at home and come to the club after midnight ^^
I think it's fair to stand up against a bully and I'm glad you did.
I assume that the bully didn't get called to the principal. He should have.
on paper plates: My parents had the opposite aproach: The owned a set of plates etc with blue glazing and a bit of gold plating here and there that must have been pretty expensive and that only came out on very special occasions like Christmas. But even on normal days the only time they would eat from paper or plastic inside the house was when the food had been bought on this thing and it would have been too much bother to transfer it to a normal plate. My ma would have rather seen her heart blood spilling than offering a paper plate to a guest, no matter how casual the occasion.
on spanking in school: Of course illegel here thank god. Beeing a teacher myself, the thought of hitting a student with a stick in cold blood is totally outrageous. Raising your hand when your losing control in an emotional situation would still be wrong, but the situation you described is something different entirely.
So you were a soccer girl? Kudos. Did you watch the women's EM final?
Greetings from the Ruhr district!
On the baby parties thing I think posturing and showing off are much more common in the US to the point that with some things it's questioned if you don't. Also the troubled teen industry is one of the most shocking things about America that a lot of Americans don't seem to know about as well as 43 states still allowing child marriage.
Baby showers can get pretty involved in the US up to the point of heated arguments. I've seen people get cursed out over them.
It seems like this is more of a modern thing though as back in like the 80s there was still baby showers but it was basically just like a small birthday party than what it is today.
I think this is influenced by marketing now.
@@jsmacks11 Why is it called baby shower ?
@@shinysweety9822 Because you are showered with gifts for having a baby.
@@nadjak3410 Ooooooh I see, somehow I thought I thought the baby got bathed or something like that 😅
@@shinysweety9822 Haha no. :) similarly there are bridal showers for example when you're getting married
I like the sunglasses. Really cool! 😎
hayley if the sun glasses block visable light and not uv light, better use them on moderate bright days as accessory
Of course we know this thing. It‘s called „Speckbrett“.
Used as a racket we play „Speckbrett“ like Tennis.
OmG Hayley, your personal school spanking story leaves me speechless 😮😭
That baby shower/gender reveal party is so, so necessary with the US - because the parents have so little to celebrate later on, because having a kid is forbiddingly expensive in the US, even if you send your kids to "normal" schools and not to some fancy shmanzy private institution. Starts with childcare you have to organise - or you will lose an income. Then diapers - not cheap. Healthcare - not cheap. Transportation (but for school) - not cheap. Books for school - not cheap. Clothing, feeding them a good diet, sports ... children are so, so expensive and you do not get much help in the US apart from family, if you have one and they are able to help. So that little cake-eating, juice chugging celebration for mom and child - let them have it.
It is much different here. We have much more affordable childcare, schools, books. Less responsibility for parents (we do not demand the parents control the shit out of their young teenagers or they lose their children), more self-reliance for our kids pays early on makes that possible. So yeah, having children is still no walk in the park, but you do not have to stretch yourself quite so thin.
And our gift giving events are usually after birth. Traditionally they were at the christening.
Electric scooters start making an appearance, but only in the bigger supermarkets - there simply is not enough space for those in "normal" supermarkets.
In my area school buses and books were free. I didn't have to buy book until university.
I was gonna say that a lot of the stuff I remember my sister getting at her baby shower was necessities like baby clothes, diapers, bottles, binkies(pacifiers),etc.
Now as a friend you can kind of see the style the parents are going for, like my friends requested a lot of non plastic things, mental note to self they are trying to be more on the crunchy side maybe at first. I will try to respect that.
@@rooooooby I can assure you that this is not the case everywhere in Germany. I had to pay USD 60 for the school books and the school material of my daughter. The rest of the books were included. So, I did not have to pay for all the books, thank good, but for a few, I had to.
#6 Most grocery stores in Germany are not big enough for these scooters.
That is very true and the lanes are way too thin for them. The people would get stuck 🤣
Oh yes I remember the "Tanzhaus in Offenbach" before the virus hit us.... Friday to Sunday, EDM .... das waren geile wochenenden!
Very informative indeed. Thank you. I learnt something new. Little did I know that beating up students was still common over there when it's been abolished here quite a few decades ago even. Also, this is the first time I've heard the term "push present". I couldn't grasp it at first, having to think about the "push notification" that your web browser wants you to agree to. How wrong I was.
Seems like US people really like partying with their friends and family, even though clubs close early. Or maybe, you don't like it but it's just custom?
Here is a suggestion: how about the topic of unincorporated communities? It doesn't exist in Germany that you live in a town but it's not really a town and but you do not really live in the next town that is a real town either. I wonder how you could make that more easily understandable. Thank you.
Book fairs sound like something I would enjoy, having been to record fairs before.
Regarding the last point, i'm more shocked that you were the one being punished, clearly you should have been the one spanking the principle and the teacher who both had failed in their duty of care to have allowed the teasing to get to that point. the teacher should have picked up on the teasing within the first few times and punished the boy.
Capital punishment was banned in Australia in the 1970's, they used to use a cane or a ruler, those paddles you showed would hurt a lot less.
Yeah I sometimes think that’s another reason we have school shootings in the USA. Not saying it’s normal or justified but I can understand someone hitting their breaking point after being picked on for months. That is exactly what happened to me. That is why I always tell people to raise their children to be kind
I know in Florida that all corporal punishment is based on the district you live in I was so lucky to be living in Broward County and Dade County where it's illegal
Plastic ustensils for one-time use have become mostly illegal to sell in the EU. For a good reason.
With #6, moving from Rhode Island to the south (Florida panhandle specifically), I was surprised that the teachers were allowed to engage in corporal punishment. Such an act where I grew up would result in the teacher being fired and the parent possibly suing not just the teacher, but the school as well. I was also shocked to notice that both the students AND the teachers themselves have 'attitude problems'. I had never seen, until moving to Florida, the students and teachers yell and bicker constantly, especially in rural schools. I'm not sure what kind of lack of parenting that happens, or how people are raised here, but they seem to think that 'hitting' will solve it. Here's the thing...pain is temporary, and the students will likely to try to find a sneakier way to do what they did, or even mouth off more. There's also I think a breaking point, where if the student gets hit enough or is sensitive to it, the student could suddenly snap and beat the teacher up, or the teacher could be ganged up on from other students too.
Having 'acted up' as a kid too, I also get spanked by my parents, and pretty hard by my dad. It's why even as a 30 year old, when he hugs me or puts his hand on my shoulder or back to get my attention, I jump a bit and back away from him. It's also why I prefer an arms length distance from others in general.
"Don't do unto other's what's hateful when done unto you." Spanking is many, many things and I'm not going to list them all but domestic violence and degrading assault are among them and not even the worst terms for it. All other forms of punishment (aka breaking the moral "golden rule" have most of the same issues spanking does and some are even worse) I follow the above moral golden rule (or try to) and it's the only rule you need for all your relationships in life, I also believe "if you would NOT do it to an adult, you will not do it to a child" in fact doing so is even worse not better, even more damaging for all of us not less (even for those who don't get it cause they have to live in society where people have and experience "butterfly effect" suffering, which they don't realise trace back to that as root cause) people constantly (mis)treat the young in ways which they'd be arrested if they did it to them when older and in instances where they wouldn't they still be thought unreasonable, hateful, condescending (like HUGHELY *off the charts* levels) psychotic, cruel and an immoral monster, I am not comfortable having people do actions would get them labelled that to children and exclusively so too, which is discriminatory with your disrespect and not based on content of character either therefore a bigotry against minorities.
Usually, in Germany, in suspension, you have to write an essay about why the things you did were wrong. I once threw a snowball at one of my class mates and it came on the teacher. The teacher made me stay after school and I had to write an essay about "why it is forbidden to throw snowballs at schools" - it had to be at least two pages long...
You forgot to add (or maybe this was just the case in my private school) that parents had to sign a paper at the beginning of the school year with regards to discipline. The parent could choose to either be contacted to come discipline the child ~or~ let the school discipline the child, with licks if deemed necessary, in the event the child misbehaved to the point of being sent to the principal's office.
I’m a teacher in Germany and IN SHOCK about the last one! I even think about touching a student in any way or form because we would be able to get sued for it. Just recently there was a case in my district, where a teacher grabbed a student too hard so that the student had marks from it and it was a HUGE scandal 🥲😅
Even to help them cross the street?
@@rooooooby we might help the little ones (like first grade) across by stopping the cars but not by holding their hand ^^ and after that they dont need it anymore anyway
Hallo Hayley, vielen lieben Dank für deine Aufklärungsvideos. Ich denke du möchtest lediglich informieren, daher behalt ich meine Meinung für mich. Meine Meinung tut eh nichts zur Sache. Es tut mir leid, dass ich grad für Themenvorschläge etwas unkreativ bin, mich interessiert schon eine Menge, aber meistens sind es Dinge, die sich aus einem Gespräch heraus kristallisieren. Ich wünsche dir noch einen guten und entspannten Abend.
Paper plates are on point. What baffled me: washing/rinsing the dishes before putting it ny the dishwasher. I lived with two host families and even the one which was really eco concious who did not use paper plates did rinse the dishesbefore dishwasher because dont trusted the mashine clean them perfectly....
So a strange thing on the dishwashers. People used to buy liquid (more like a thick gel) or powdered automatic dishwasher detergent. They'd pour some in the clasp container and add a little to the pre-wash cup. Things worked well.
Later companies started marketing the convenience of dishwasher tabs and gel packs. They'd throw them into the dispenser, close it up, and start the cycle. The issue is dishes got a water rinse and then went onto a wash cycle with all the food debris. Basically, the dishes were being washed in soapy soup rather than in soapy water. Dishes came out with dried on debris. In response people started rinsing thoroughly before loading their dirty dishes into the dishwasher.
This can be resolved by doubling the pricier tab detergent cost by throwing one tab into the dispenser, closing it, throwing another tab in the pre-wash cup, and starting the cycle. The way I do it is finding a store that still sells powder or liquid detergent (I prefer more environmentally friendly & cheaper powder) and putting that in both cups. My dishes come out clean without pre-rinsing or hand scrubbing.
Just another example of Americans experiencing more expense & lower quality of life for environmentally problematic convenience.
You're suppose to remove food scraps before putting them into the dishwasher
Some dishwashers advertise that you don't have to and have a built in garbage disposal.
The corporal punishment thing really stunned me. I work in education myself and we use very different solutions to work this out. This is in the Netherlands, by the way.
But I would be surprised of any such law in the EU, apart from the eastern Europeans.
We have got to have coffee and chat….you sound like me! 🤣🇪🇸🇺🇸
It is absolutely wrong to punish a child to defend itself from a bully. And not punishing the bully is totally unacceptable.
You're right about it not being only the poor in the US who use paper plates, etc. A lot of Americans, no matter what their income or how grandiose their possessions, eat just about only fast food and use only the easiest, most disposable, least environmentally friendly tableware you can imagine. (In the past thirty years with the rise of the far right in the US, this is partly due to many Americans becoming explicitly anti-environmental, i.e. they will deliberately use the most environmentally unfriendly disposable products like styrofoam, paper plates, etc, consciously and often maliciously. That was not so much the case before the nineties.) I had a friend who was trained as a gourmet chef at a prestigious culinary school and he thought he'd get a supplemental job cooking for a well-off US family for a while. He lasted about two months because he was so disgusted with their taste in food and their boorishness: All they wanted were hamburgers and wings and other staples of US fast food culture, and they would get aggressively furious when he couldn't or wouldn't make it just the way it was made at, say, Whataburger or whatever. And when I worked at a US university for a while that catered to pretty wealthy students, I was surprised that many, many of the students had similar tastes, laughing at me mockingly and incomprehensibly when they'd see me eating, say, blue corn chips and tabouli and always offering me "wings" and french fries from fast food places.
wow that's so sad... And infuriating, I mean the whole conciously using the worse disposable materials for the environment... That's just evil. Don,t these people have children? Grand children? :(
Yet it's cheaper to use reusable crockery in the long run. It just costs more in the beginning as an outlay. I've only seen paper plates used in mass catering. I can't stand hot drinks in disposable plastic cups.
Here even at camping and with RVs lots of people don't like plastic dishes but prefer ceramic or porcelain and real glasses because it feels better. Besides a childrens birthday or a barbecue nobody would use paper plates.
I often read and see that dishwashers don't last long, even here in Germany. And US units seem to be even worse. So maybe they just don't want to buy a new dishwasher every 4 months ? 🙂 Strange new thought: you can do that even by hand !
Generally in Europe (I'm in Belgium) inviting people on paper plates and plastic glasses would be felt as very cheap and rather disrespectul.
I guess, if I worked 60hours a week I wouldn't have the energy to cook or clean, too.
I once took a home-study course in fitness, and over the years, I've _read_ many books on this subject, and I dare to say that the _overwhelming_ majority of the obesity problem in the US stems from this misconception that, by and large, we can eat whatever we want as long as we're _active._ On the contrary, given our by-and-large sedentary lifestyle, what we _need_ to adjust is our _eating_ habits. Any benefits we derive from being _active_ can be _easily_ overwhelmed by our _eating_ habits.
The average man does not need more than 2000 calories a day, spaced out evenly through the course of the day. The average _woman_ does not need more than 1500.
Now when we talk about the _size_ of a meal (or snack), we're measuring it in _calories._ The proper size is 300 to 400 per heal (trying to stay closer to 300) and the proper interval is three to four hours, beginning with when you first wake _up_ in the morning.
_This_ is what you need to fix first. _This_ needs to be your top priority. Don't work on adjusting your _exercise_ habits. Work on adjusting your _eating_ habits.
arent there any bookstores in bigger subway or trainstations? in austria a coffee shop and a book shop are the must have for the bigger stations
Not that I know of/remember in the USA. We don’t have public transportation systems like in Germany/Europe so it’s not that common :(
In school suspension actually only happens for like one lesson or one day. You would usually actually get suspended so you have to stay home.
Also in germany you can go to jail or at least pay a fine for hitting your child even with just your hand 🙈
In sweden corporeal punishment of a child (be it spanking, or slapping them (the phrasing is roughly "any kind of physical violence, not matter if it is at home or at school")) is considered straight up child abuse, both at a legal and societal level - and it has been like this for about 40 years (since 1979). It is a thing that trips up some tourists in that they think "they are just discipling their child" and find themselves with public scorn, a hefty fine, and some time in jail while they're trying to figure what to do with the child abuser.
Corporeal punishments at school was outlawed about two decades before that (1958) but that took a bit longer to set in a societal level so did happen for a while afterwards.
Just one of those "even the western countries are _very_ different".
(As an aside - the entire concept with school sport clubs are just weird up here in sweden, it is a hobby you do separate from school - no idea which side of this divide germany falls on (maybe time for another mike-as-a-guest discussion about this?))
sport is a hobby in Germany. if you want to play tennis or football or what ever you have to join a club which has nothing to do with your school. We do usually not have schoolclubs in Germany. if you play for a local club you can play in the nearest league or go to tournaments. You can even be excused from school if you are playing an important tournament for your local sportsclub. playing in the league allowes you to (if your team is doing well) join a higher league next season or if you are doing well, play for a better team next season without having to change schools... I don't think this is weird. I think it is weird to stay in school after classes ended... why would i practice my hobby at school? it is a private matter and schould be seen as such. Also I think it sucks if one has to change schools just in order to play for a better team.
I know people who went on a trip for governmental talks to the US and were served coffee in a styrofoam cup. For a German, that is about as polite as serving warm piss for drinks.
Thanks for this Viedeo. Especially when you did the Calculation for the Dishes. That was really German of you.
Here in germany they used thos paddle buttslammer thingies for people who finished there apprenticeship in a company. Every employee was allowed to hit the now being-out-of-apprenticeship-dude on his naked butt - for the lols. I think this was common until the Mid-80's even. That mainly was a thing for Industrial or Construction Jobs like Machine Builders, Car Mechanics, Carpenters, Plumbers, stuff like that.
Listening to you I again find a solid reason to state that parts of the USA are still stuck in the last century! People being lazy and so they use disposable stuff to serve meals... A supermarket that needs to provide electric scooters , physical punishment in schools... Jeeeeezus!!! I spent 2 weeks this summer in the USA and some things are great but some things make me frown big time! Up class hotels that serve breakfast on paper plates and with plastic cutlery is very very sad! The mountain of plastic that is created by that ... Common!!! It is sad that we in Europe try to reduce plastic and the USA is using more plastics than ever..
The thing that truly horrified me about corporal punishment in school is that there at least have somewhat recently been states that don't even require parental consent or have protections in cases of developmental issues. I see the point of the implicit threats of the alternatives limiting the freedom of choice when there is consent required but at least there is some choice involved in weighing two bad alternatives. But if my kid came home having been hit with that especially without my knowledge of it happening or consent you better believe that they'll regret that for the rest of their earthly existence, especially considering the things you get in trouble for in American schools.
I was taught to be effectively annoying by my parents by understanding the rules and being tactical in my approach. And learning that was only about dealing with non physically violent behavior effectively without losing my high ground, there may have been a nun that hated my dad for it, my dad understood it as a badge of honor. Fun fact, he never even directly faced off with her and she hated his guts because she made him responsible for my defiant spirit. He usually officially stayed out of school stuff because some teachers don't handle parents being teachers well and he wanted to avoid me getting targeted, we did learn all the mean tricks through him instead. I never got into official trouble even though I liked to play with the rules that were arbritary.
Depending on the school in Germany getting into trouble is really difficult because a lot of teachers either are clueless or pretend to be as long as it doesn't get out of hand, so essentially unless they have to react they try not to ruin harmless fun. On one trip we pretty much all drank some alcohol and no one cared, some regretted it because we went on a boat the next day, much to the amusement of the teachers.
One of the most significant differences between the US and Germany: In Germany, you *really* have to mess things up to go to jail. About 69 out of 100,000 inhabitants are in jail here, in the US it's about 629 per 100k inhabitants - nearly ten times as much.
About the paper/plastic dishes: A point that you did not mention is that the opportunity cost of doing the dishes (even when having a dishwater) is higher with "real" porcelain dishes - because it takes more effort and time than having paper/plastic dishes. I feel that many Americans live at the brink of a burn-out and thus try to reduce any stress outside work to an absolute minimum.
Danke für die Einsicht in das amerikanische Leben. Besonders der letzte Teil hat mir gefallen. Er hat mir gezeigt das nicht alle Affen vom Baum herunterklettern um aufrecht über die Dummheiten der Vergangenheit hinweg zu schauen und neue Horizonte zu erblicken , sondern einige unbedingt wieder ganz schnell rauf wollen.
Cheers from the Pacific West Coast of Canada.