Tips for starting Recovery from an eating disorder - All in Recovery
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I have had an eating disorder for about 2 years, I have gone to a psychologist but it did not help me to recover. I never feel satisfied when it comes to food, I can always eat more, crave more. Every time I eat, there is a bomb in my head with thoughts on what to eat, etc., I am all for everything. I'm trying to go all in now because it feels like it's the only way out. But going all in with normal weight feels so unreasonable and I think the only thing I do is overweight is nothing else and what is the point of it.
What is the point of recovery? Well what's the point of restricting? You've tried that already and it just made you miserable and sad. You know recovery is a option becaise think about how much better your life was pre-ed! Also in response to the normal weight part, there are many many recovery influencers that started all in at a normal weight. Even tabitha Farrar says she didn't really commit until she was at a "healthy" bmi. If you were to gain weight eating unrestrictedly then that was supposed to happen. Once I hit my set point I was still eating over 6000 calories still but my weight gain just stopped completely. It's all about energy debt being paid off :) hope this helps
@@sophiecarter4555 Thanks for the ''slap in the face facts'' , I really needed that :) The thing is im so afraid of gaining back all my weight that i've lost. My weight was 94kg and i got down to 70kg (which got me into an eating disorder) now I haven't weight myself in months but looking att my stomach area and it got a little bit of fat again and it feels like just before my weight-loss. DAMN its hard but I guess it has to do with my selfconfidence also that im nothing if im not fit.
Keep fighting. These are all common thoughts. I have a daily fair share BUT REMEMBER, YOU ARE GOING THROUGH A DAILY BATTLE WITH THESE ED THOUGHTS MAKING YOU THINK YOU ARE BIG, BUT PRE-ED, look how less stressed we were, not thinking of food or body image....that's what keeps me going. I want to STOP THE ED THOUGHTS and embrace my carefree mindset that I had before this horrible eating disorder reared its ugly head. Its jot going to be easy, but dont think it's not going to happen. Small baby steps are better than no steps. Recovery is not a race, but ensure you move forward. Weight/scales are NOTHING BUT A NUMBER.....what matters is YOU.....AND YOUR HAPPINESS. Being a certain weight and restrictions to maintain it =lifelong misery. You deserve more....we all do. It's taken me 22 years of relapses to get this mindset, but I hve wasted 22 years of achieving and happiness NOT ABOUT TO DO ANOTHER 22.....SO LETS GET OUR LIVES BACK....AND THROTTLE THAT UGLY ED.....thin/big....doesnt matter. You will be remembered for your personality rather than image/size...if you are rude then people dont forget that. They will remember how you are as a person NOT how you look....looks are our own imagination. Damn the diets, damn size, damn restr6, damn the ED controlled behaviour AND LETS GET OUR LIVES FLOURISHING...LIFE IS TOO SHORT....NOT A CLICHE...ITS VERY TRUE....
Thank you so so much for this video. I'm officially in the healthy BMI range since today and it terrifies me - my whole ed voice is yelling at me to restrict again and I felt terrible about myself the whole day, until I realised how great it is that I can stand up without feeling dizzy and that I'm not worried about my low pulse anymore... recovery is hard but inspiring people like you constantly remind me it's worth it. Thanks so much!!
remember to keep fighting! i was at a ‘healthy’ weight when i actually started ‘all in’ recovery and i ended up gaining more and that’s okay! it still might not be the right weight for your body. i was still deep in my ED thought wise but a lot better now xx
You're such a beautiful and strong person. I'm 9 months into recovery, I had a salad and eggs for lunch and was still hungry so I ate cake, chocolate and popcorn. Had a bit of a freak out but it passed, and I'm glad I had those things (especially since I baked the cake myself.) I'm really happy to have found a good balance that works for me.
Emma I was rlly struggling recently but this made me feel like trying again. thank you and we all love u so much ❤
sherrine ong love to you too keep fighting xx
You’re so amazing!!! Seeing you over months time during your recovery is really inspiring, you are completely glowing and radiant now, I’m so happy you recovered. Great work.
So happy for you !!! You videos show a huge change in how your body is healing and you are helping your body and helping others . ❤️
I cannot thank you enough. I just started recovery and your videos have been a lifeline..I really appreciate all you are doing :D
You actually are looking your age now, a new found confidence and maturity. Absolutely amazing sweetie. Keep pushing forward xxx
looking at my eating disorder from a scientific standpoint (doing research, learning about the damage i was doing to myself) saved my life. THAT was my “wake up call”. i would not be able to achieve body neutrality without learning about what i was gong through mentally + physically. education saves!
Im struggling today about my parents , commenting about how much i eat, and said you will get fat , you need to eat normally , etc
Firstly tell them those comments do not help, use your voice secondly ignore, your parents obviously do not know what they are talking about ask them to get educated before making any sort of comments, show them extreme hunger videos or even my videos. you have an eating disorder your in recovery nothing about that is normal therefore you will not be eating normal until your recovered!
I have the same problem
SHE IS BACK! ❤ I am so happy that you are here again!
(But to be honest- I hope that someday I won't need to re-watch all of your videos again (and again...) because I'll be fully recovered. 😅).
Hugs, xx
WOOO! ❤ I hope so to!
Your videos are very helpful and you are so arcticulate, I bet you are a brilliant recovery coach Emma!❤😊
Gabby Chitty thank you!! 🥺❤️
I’m so nervous/scared to recover but I’m finally ready to really commit after 7 years of eating disorders. I’ve seen this coming for a little while but it’s taken my hips and lower back completely giving out at 22 for me to acknowledge that my body cannot take it anymore. Thank you for all your videos, I’m using all of them to help motivate me! You are so inspirational ❤️
Hello! I hope you're doing well, congratulations on being so brave and strong, you can with this and more
I'm going inpatient really soon, I'm scared but I have no choice anymore. It's a matter of life and death for me. I will continue to watch your video, thank you ❤
HOW ARE YOU NOW??
I am watching this video now ı am going all in tommorow you are the one who inspires me x
Such a beautiful video!
I've been relapsing for 3 weeks now and I know how bad it is but I don't even WANT to get out of it. No cravings at all.. It makes me desperate...
Enni 1709 thank you, please fight deep down the real you does! Xx
So intelligent! Great advice 💕
Thanks you’re such a motivation ! 💗
Sofia Kersten sending love xx
Great video! I always watch them :)
I was wondering if there was any difference in bloating or water retention in your previous attempts at recovery vs all in recovery? I feel like this is what is keeping me from upping my calories more. I am so bloated.
This is the third time i'm watching this, reminding myself weekly haha
I had a relapse and for the last 2 weeks tried recovery and stopped counting calories then I challenged the Ed voice but I haven’t had a major “recovery feast” does this mean I won’t recover I’ve been watching a lot of recovery videos and it’s making me think I can’t do it because it’s not exactly the method I’m trying to recover
I´m now at a healthy weight aigain. I´m doing your all in method for one week now but now that Iḿ at a healthy weight i´m scared that i will look so diffrent and that y friends dont like my new body... I struggle so much with mental hunger and extrem hunger and now that i´m helathy i dont know if i should honur it or not. Do you have any tips? or does someone in the comments know what i should do?
hi, emma! i have a few questions for you, if you do not mind.. :>
1. any tips on getting your periods back apart from calorie increase? (when medical help is not an option)
2. what are preferential workouts/exercises after recovery or are there any at all?
3. how long can muscle tension last? (approx. obviously)
you are such a lovely human being! i adore you and your channel. i have committed to recovery not a long time ago. and tho i know that probably i will not be able to get to the final point in the near future (due to some factors i have no control over, sadly), i will do my best. and so thank you for the support and warmth i receive from your great personality! wish you all the best in the world ♡ ;)
Hiii, I could probably help with these questions 🥺1.) focus on FAT increase especially there has been LOTSSSS of studies and proof that when dealing with amenorrhea , an increase in fat intake had the largest results so make sure to eat lots of fats , this also promotes hormone regulation so ofc is important in periods. Other than that it can just be a waiting game , get to your unsurpassed body weight and you will have your period back!
2.) If you are in recovery and planning how you’re gonna exercise after that is just exercise addiction , exercise and the truthful desire to move in a healthy way will come back in time but sometimes you should leave exercise for months after weight restoration because don’t you want to recover !
3.) by muscle tension do you mean the extreme exhaustion that starts usually when you stop restricing , if so this can usually last up too a month but then again everyone’s body is different
Hope this helped
@@sophiecarter4555 oh hi! thanks for your answer. i actually eat a lot of fat right now. even more than carbs (i just feel that it is easier to find food items high in those rather than fat, haha)
i now do not exercise at all. only do short slow walks (because of my back issues)
by "muscle tention" i mean actual pain in your muscles :> i have been experiencing that for nearly 3 weeks so far. so i just wonder what the average lasting period for this situation is.
however. thanks again for your answer. i will re-read it in the future and maybe this will spark some helpful thoughts inside my mind later on (it happens sometimes lol) ;)
Thank you so much! 1. Lots of food and rest, and like the comment above said lots of high fat sugars food and protein is necessary! 2. Only when your truly healed you can excersise and only exercise for your well being not for looks!
@@recoveredbakes3675 omg emma! no youtuber has ever tried to help me with my issues before and spent their time on answering my questions :'<
this is soo moving, i am definitely going to cry after i overcome the waves of joy that are hiting me right now haha. i actually have not been eating a good amount of protein, i feel. so it makes me re-think this one moment. thanks for that. and i guess, i should figure out exercise after recovery actually AFTER recovery, and now focus on other things that might be more beneficial for me in the situation that i am currently in, right? again, i repeat myself, but you are sooo lovely omg, thank you so much ♡~
holy crap Awh no worries! I hope to support as many people as possible! ❤️ protein is so important for the body as it helps heal tissue damage which has happened due to Restrction! Protein speeds up the healing process! Yes! Definitely focus on the now! Xx
What to do if i don‘t feel hungry or only feel hunger if i skip a meal? When i‘m eating three main meals and two snacks i‘m stuffed the whole day :( i never experienced extreme hunger as well. It‘s very hard for me eating when i‘m never hungry, that gives me the feeling that my body doesn‘t need all the food.
i know so many including me gage felt this! it feels like you’re almost force feeding yourself but you HAVE to push through. it will get better and easier i promise. if bloating is the issue then try a heat pack xx
I couldn't understand it very well but did you say a minimum of 3000 caloriees a day ?
yep. she did :> but it'd better be more.
I don’t have a lot of food thoughts anymore now I’m following the MinnieMaud minimums but my mind is driving me crazy in regards to exercise thoughts. I constantly have to suppress the need to move (literally every move I make is guided by my ocd or ed) and it’s making me go insane. I honestly thought of giving up. I don’t even know if I want recovery. And if I want it, I don’t know if I want it enough to be strong enough to fight my huge eating disorder that I’ve had for 8 years already (with 1 year of being free). It controles my whole freaking day. I feel so sad
Emma i really don't know how to tell my parents, i feel like they'll be so disappointed in me as they have noticed my habits but i just shut them off every time they comment and i hate lying to them, i have a closer bond with my mum but i just don't know how to tell her 😩💛
Leah J a lot of the time , parents know more than you think! Just next time she brings it up feel threw too explode. It’s okay to cry when doing this, I know when I told my mom, I had a big cry with her because it felt so relieving no longer keeping it from her
Thanks for all. i deal with anorexia since 9 years... Thanks to you i decided to go all in this morning. you are incredible, love you so much. just a question : Did you count calories?
Hi! So happy to hear that you choose recovery, sending you strength ❤️ I've been informing myself watching lots of all-in videos and, calculating calories is not recommended in recovery, also weighting youserlf because numbers can really trigger restriction. Focus on listening to your body and not your ed thoughts (it's though but you can do it), and eventually you'll learn what to eat, how much and when to stop only by listening to your body without the need of tracking calories, because it's smart enough itself to know how much you need. Hope it helped and I wish you the best!
do you recommend to increase calories slow?
go full in. go all in.
When you say entire cakes is that a cupcake or a big cake? Xx
I really would love to do recovery coaching, what qualification did you get to do it? xx
You don't need qualifications in my opinion, your qualifications is your experience recovering. You learn all the sneaky tricks the eating disorder use and you learn how to combat them. For me going though and recovering from and eating disorder was just enough to give me the magical ability to pick up on anyone's restriction and pull them up on it! :)
I decided to start all in recovery a few days ago, after like 7 months of recovery of some sort. Those 7 months were full of like mini relapses and then also some better periods of time. I am now closer to a healthier weight (even though i dont know my weight exactly),and because of that I feel like im too "big" or "healthy" to eat as much as im eating now (I constantly think about food too, and im not sure if its mental hunger or just habit...)
Hi how are you?
@@user-hj5ie3hi9i omg hiiii, I'm much better, thank you for asking! I mean I'd consider myself pretty much fully recovered!! I do still struggle a bit with my body image but I can cope with it
@@imlovinit7473 so happy to hear that! Did your extreme/mental hunger go away?
@@user-hj5ie3hi9i yes with time!! It was hard at the beginning but definitely worth it
I have an ED for 17 years now (yeah that long..) and I don't believe in recovery anymore. People around me even said I never recover (fully). Why do I fight Then? I relapse into my old habbits for like 6 weeks now and I don't know how to turn this.. Can I recover after an ED for so long?? You are really an inspiration!!
You can recover from an ED at any age after any amount of time!! My relation has actually recovered from anorexia even though she is nearly 60!! Anything is possible as long as you truly commit to recovery. Don't try and hold on to some part of your Ed. This Is a very common fear but I assure you people recover after having it this long! People said that to me too at points. My treatment team even lost hope and i think Emma has even made a video saying about how they didn't believe she could cover alone, but look at her SHE'S HELLA RECOVERED AND SLAYING LIFE. With enough motivation to finally start living life again, you will be able to recover :)
@@sophiecarter4555 Thanks for your hopefull comment ❤
I would like to start all in, meal plans etc don't seem to work and don't need my needs or neural rewiring. But I'm too afraid to start all in. Anybody else feel the same? Any advice?
Livyly Taube just do it ! Commit to just eating all the time and getting fully recovered ! It has the highest rates of success . This is what I did and tbh i wouldn’t have recovered any other way 🥺
Thanks so much.... Have you really recovered by doing it? I feel so doubtful whether it'll really work because no therapist or professional I know uses or even suggests this method
Livyly Taube Ye well our fundamentals health service is fatphobic. They seem to be scared of eating just us much. all In really was the only way for me . I couldn’t handle meal plans I’d just want to feast and so.... I did it feasted and ate all I wanted
I have the same. I tried so many meal plans but nothing works for me and it makes me so angry. I want to live again but scared to go all in
@@anoukvisser6995 yeah, me too! I'm desperate and I feel stuck, I want to, but somehow there's a mental barrier. Terrified, too afraid, I guess.... I have no clue how to overcome this fear. Does anyone have any advice?
please do a what i eat in a day or week x
JJ _chz I feel like she may not have done this since all in as this can be triggering because everyone’s body is different! And all In tells you nothing as your body Is unique :) your body may need more than hers ESPECIALLY if you’re in recovery !
Sophie Carter true thanks x
if i went and ate a snack id just binge
You look beautiful Emma
Jenelle Marie Thankyou Janelle 🥺❤️
Do you gain weight if you eat 1000 calories and don't exercise? I feel like if I sit down,I will gain weight and get fat . Is this true?
Nope! 1000 is unhealthy no matter your activity. Depending on your height, you’d be about 1500-2500 when sedentary to maintain. I used to struggle with that a lot, but the more I pushed through it, the less I bloated and the asked I got. You feel like you’re gaining weight because your body holds onto water
@@genius2655 thanks. I am 5 ft and weigh about 23-24 kgs
Hilda Ferguson You’re incredibly underweight. Like I’m talking you need to gain 20kg+. You need to see a doctor immediately, your heart and organs are likely under an incredible amount of stress
@@genius2655 I am only 13
Hilda Ferguson you still need to gain babe xx
I am struggling badly with bloating. I just can't stand this. there is no freedom.
We all go through it,here’s what really helped me lose bloat:low fiber high protein foods like egg whites bone broth etc,if you have fruits and veg purée them into a smoothie.if it’s very bad keep to soft and blended food.it will improve don’t give up.take walks when you are uncomfortable and keep a sense of humor.
don’t worry sweetie you will get more freedom! for bloating i hv hot tea (normally with a chocolate or biscuit etc!), a hot bath helps, heat packs and stretching xx