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@Swetabh Gangwar Vaiya apki bate podcast kafi badhiya h me apko last 4-5 salo s follow kr rha hu you are trying very good to change men who are chasing women blindly or wasting time in dreaming about women by trying to teach them what a real man is And I appreciate it very much..... But why are you against men who wants to stay single and let's say raise kids who are parentless what's wrong with that anath baccho ko koi raise kre unhe padhake unhe bada banaye what's wrong with that zarrori thodi na h k apko shadi krke koi cheating walo ladki nhi milege plus there are some points which Jordan Peterson and Andrew tate says which match with you weak men are danger to society society need strong men to survive you also say that wo shi h but jb Sadhguru khud keh rhe h ki modern feminst n feminine k against chale gye he himself said the day you truly destroy feminine you enslave women jo aj kal k feminst kr rhe h western societies me feminst logo n danka Baja ke rakha h wha shadi krke ladkie khule am cheat krti h and then divorce mangke unhe alimony money to milti hi hai but baccho ko v who raise krti h problem h ki we are following these idiots blindly aur ap ladko ko sudhar rhe ho but ladkio ko kuch khas nhi kehte which is against problematic ladkie v to insan hi h na vagwan to nhi so what's wrong by asking them to behave a bit decent and don't listen to feminist jese ap ladko ko Andrew tate k against Jane bol rhe ho even though west khud me ek feminist society h jo masculinity k pure against m h so why also not go against feminist
@Swetabh Gangawar Please opinion dijiye vaiya is comment ko please apna opinion dijiye if you can please the problem is like this I will give 8 points for today's world they are 1. when I say equal rights I think women should also stand up for men right like how most man do stand up for women as I said in just above comment that is If a guy harrases my nephew or someone he will always have me or my uncle (his father) if he alone cannot deal with situation he doesn't need any women but if a girl harrases him he will need his mother or sister or aunt to stand up but I bet very few women will go against that women and even only when it is happening in front of their eyes .... 2.#me too allows women to say no Means no but not men can say the thing this is another problematic #mee too standards........ Men cannot use me too like women or they will be called looser ..... 3.If a women destroys a man's life by falsely accusing him of rape or harrasement she can get away after he suffers all the years in prison with court even she has done a horrible deal but if it's a man the case is gone..... 4.The Defination of western feminism involves everyone to be respected like transgender lesbian gays and everyone except men ...... That is the main problem which this red pills don't include and they only include a women ...... Why should someone be brainwashed to become a trans a non binary if he doesn't want or doesn't even know many western kids are changing their genders as their parents who are LITTTERALLY spoiled millineals thinks it cool... 5.A WOMAN NO MATTER WHO SHE IS IF SHE IS MARRYING A GUY WHO IS OK AND NICE SHOULD NOT GIVE DIVORCE ONLY TO FIND A MORE SUCCESSFUL MEN BECAISE THEY CAN GET AWAY BY A HEFTY AMOUNT OF ALIMONY MONEY AND EVEN TAKE THE KIDS WITH HER IN DIVORCE CASE BUT WHAT WILL A MAN GET HE LOSY HIS FAMILY AND IS PAYING A HUGE AMOUNT OF SUM FOR A WOMEN WHOM SHE BETRAYED HIM ........ IF THESE THINGS ARE IDOLISED THEN YOU WILL HAVE MANY MEN WHO WILL BECOME IRRESPONSIBLE TOXIC DOUCHE BAGS WHOM WE CALL LOAFERS AND THIS WESTERN PEOPLE CALL CHAD YOU WILL SEE AN INCREASE WHILE YHE GOOD GUYS WILL REFUSE TO MARRY WHO WANTS TO MARRY A WOMAN IF SHE IS GOING TO BETRAY HIM AND TAKE HIS FAMILY DREAM AWAY WHATS THE POINY OF MARRIAGE ANYWAY.... 6.IN India many you must have heard of dowry which is disgraceful thing but many women nowadays have DOUBBLE standards they marry a guy then falsely accusing him of harrasement and dowry and others to get a hefty some and get away these women should never be IDOLISED and females should rise up Just like how men rise up if a guy is wrong to destroy a women's life media will show but not give any reaction to this........ 2 years ago there was one case in which a 17 year old boy was blackmailed by his female freind and is rape threatened just for fun by a whatsapp later he committed suicide and you know she got away so isn't it best for boys to avoid interaction with girls and ..... 7.THEN best for men is to avoid marriage or don't have any gf in life BEACUSE if a guy doesn't marry or have any romantic relationship for any woman the whole problem of false accusation heart break or even the rape numbers will decrease ............ 8.But robots will take our place if population is decreased and we are doing exactly to evolve AI beyond human intelligence basically being a slave to Machines and if the above factors are kept in mind humanity is doomed to face a big crisis in coming years and that may lead humanity not being a dominant race let alone may lead to extinction of human race in coming decades and I disagree with Sadhguru on His AI. Theory Humans will NOW BE SELF SUFFICIENT INSTEAD OF SELF SURVIVAL ARE HUMANS ARE BECOMING TOO DEPENDENT ON ROBOTS AND ALL THE ABOVE FACTORS HOW IS NOT SEEING THIS
When your boundaries are no more respected and destroyed by others ,then either you get involved with them to destroy others boundaries or you get depressed and let them assimilate your boundaries to none. This happens when you don't stand and walk up for yourself. People don't let your relationship turn toxic or be in toxic relationship.
when i was in class 9-10 my friend used to do this to me. i used to fight back but one day he got angry kept telling me that these are only jokes. then i let everyone assimilate my boundaries. But as i entered 12th this year, i stopped talking to him. I am preparing well for my competitive exams but my friend is not. now his parents are fed up of him and another one of my friend who earlier used to laugh while i was roasted also gave up on him. i got sweet revenge without even wanting it
Absolutely, when u let others violate your boundaries, you do the same to others. You end up damaging your relationships at work, family etc. Plus it causes mental health issues.
@@KSHITIJTAMBOLI We all have those type of toxic friendship that are just only for sake of name "Friendship" but these all just corrodes you from inside and you also become toxic in the process and the sad part is you don't know how much you have changed. Better to kick those who doesn't respect you and your boundaries.
@@wanderingnomad1 Mental health issues are very critical and no one give a damn about it in India . People just expect you to be tough and if you can't take their BS, then you are weak. Seriously. Try to be a little considerate. People just forget that others have some boundaries and emotions and when you see all this growing up ,you believe this is normal. Then you also do things what you have seen . So this is the vicious cycle of our Indian culture of breaking lakshman rekha
I am kind of an introvert personally which leads me to the situation wherein I am unable to handle toxic friends. This perspective will definitely help me to grow and live a mindful life ahead. Thank You ❤️
I have depression beacause of childhood bullying and had severe social anxiety and the people who bullied me said i am mad and mentally ill still i am recovering :)
Power is the most important factor here. And as children you are completely powerless and helpless and you don't even understand what's happening with you. Over time crossing boundaries becomes a habit for your parents and relatives and later in life when you understand, No matter what you do you just can't get them to treat you right. The only option you have left is to give up hope for wanting to be treated right by your family. Then get out and make your own family and treat them right.
Yeah best option is to take full responsibility for yourself and leave for the better . These people are toxic to the core and you have no responsibility towards them .
Saying No and making boundaries are really really important. I have been to the group of toxic friends from past 2/3 years. At first I left the group by getting frustrating of their behaviour but after that I tried compromising with them because they were my school friends but after that also they were behaving like shit literally not logic of their talk then again if left after thinking so much for 7 consecutive days and now after few months they text out of nowhere and say chal Bhai ghummne chal rehe h like seriously Bhai kon h tu But finally I said no but they were still forcing me in and I said "Bhai mere bas ki nahi yeh chutiya shi zabardasti ki dosti ni bhana" And now I'm proud that I finally draw those boundaries which I should have drawn long ago. Anyone who's suffering this learn to say no and even if they don't accept your no just get to the point and draw your boundaries.🙁
Right now I really cant describe in words that how much I needed this video..Thank You Shwetabh Brother you were always there when i needed you the most
❤ Bahot sahi bhai..... Salute you brother 🙏.... For this information..... In dark u feel like ur soul is deeply crying with the fire in mind and anger on mouth with all bad words on tongue..... Be it ur family members.... Doesn't matter.... U should make ur boundaries..... With Krishna Word on mouth n in mind..... Just think you should not do wrong.... God will not bless u..... So always think good...
this is gold!! been suffered it most !! The only thing I would say is no need to be polite or anything about telling people to check their behavior. Because you suffer the most !! and people don't leave you after it they just change!!
When someone picks on u Don't just laugh it out , give them some reply. Let them know their boundaries. Friendly banter is good but it has to be two way.
Yes! When you let them make fun of you indirectly we give them power to demean anytime. Unfortunately we Indian are never taught to respect others personal space and personal life.
Shwetabh Sir. You don't even know how much you have changed my life and especially changed me.. You advice me on comment section of video "paisa nahi hai manghai cheez kharidne ke liye" to watch your video "tumhe kuch bolne wale ki aukat ky hai" I found it very thought provoking.. Then afterwards I bought your book Rudest book ever yellow one (which is 10/10)... I got to tell you my life has actually been changed alot... I used to call those people friend who used to make me feel inferior and stupid even used to insult my dad and his profession.. It began so normally but gradually it got worst.. Then I realized I got to take some initiative.. So I just stopped hanging out with them I thought they would notice immediately but they didn't..and I know it is stupid but I got really sad by this I was hoping someone who'll ask me why I am not hanging out with them and then ill tell them the reason.. But nothing like that happened they just ignored but after a month I started to feel better and bright.. I still sometimes talk to them but have totally stopped hanging out with the grop.. Don't know why I think they wanted the same.. I am this socially awkward and shy guy in a group of alphas the reason I got in that group is because of my high school classmates they felt bad that I am always alone so asked me to join them but after some time I just become a guy in the group who is joked upon, is insulted in front of his crush, doesn't say anything when someone just give him tapli (slapping head) for making everyone laugh or to show dominance , even insulting his father and his profession, making dirty jokes on his sister.. I became more anxious and felt like a side role in his own move... I was getting depressed.. Until I got to know about your channel from the contravercy... And I am sooo glad that controversy happened.. Otherwise OK would have been suicidal I know no one will read this but bass maan halka karna tha..🙏🙏
@@Asher23y jo tumhe mock krte hai vo best friend nahi hote vro . Jo tumhare sath rahe khushi mai bhi aur dukh mai bhi . Jo tumhare emotions samajate hai aur respect krte hai vo hote best friend .
Bullying has destroyed my mental health and as a result, i unconsciously detached from my own self in order to be invulnerable to the world. Now i have an anxiety disorder, C-PTSD and I am detached from my feelings. I lost myself to it. Now, even though i am almost 18 and no one bullies me anymore, it still plagues me and most of the times i'm surprised by the way my body reacts to certain behaviors... It makes me feel vulnerable and fills me with adrenaline rush. I start trembling and weirdly, that's the only time i realise i was repeatedly traumatised as a child. It has turned me into an invulnerable person even though i am, atleast i hope, the same sensitive person internally. To be precise, Bullying can destroy your life in unimaginable ways and make you a complex mess - if you don't deal with it right away. If you can't convince them, just withdraw. I wish i had withdrawn. I'd have been a much better person.
Also, how bullying affects your actions is a very very serious issue. You might get into bullying someone else after being bullied to let out your frustrations, ending up in a cycle of bullying and pain. Or you might start acting out of fear of the people around you, someone might end up on the crime path etc
True..."mai ne apne aas paas aise bhot logon ko dekha hai" in family and friends jo dusre ke logon ki respect ni krte hein I hv one female freind she was damn toxic and narcissist ... thankfully she has gone from my life....
glad that you brought the example of sopranos ,that show taught me more about the mental health ,despression ,self esteem than i could have imagined to know,being a shy guy since childhood who despite in such situations at multiple times never confronted and was always confused about boundaries ,i can relate to things you said
"The problem I am facing is that when my relatives cross their limits in casual conversation, if I make them aware that their words made me feel bad or if I stop meeting them, my parents scold me for being disrespectful and says if I start avoiding such people, then no one will be left for me."
As my bounding myself to work more and more by putting more hours I feel mentally better and have better sense of putting boundaries to what to put emotions on and what to stay away from
I am currently 19 years old and I am staying with my parents. They are always good to me and provide whatever I ask. But they never asked about my opinion or how I am feeling....they neither express love... nor I can sense it. I just want to vent out all my feelings to them..but my upbringing made me so weak. This ruined my decision making skills...I am a very good student but never felt happy studying...i am trying my best to reach the standards of my family so that they will respect me...but in this process I am losing myself... my self esteem...there are two more years to complete my graduation. Until then I should stay with them. Hope good days will come soon
You are supposed to respect nd obey ur parents as a moral duty but you have to take your life decisions by yourselff..you have to stand for urself otherwise you will not be able to build ur own identity
Was in similar situation. They want you to excel in something which are you weak in . They are not considering that not all people have different abilities. I suggest you to find your strength by introspection and use your unfair advantage to be in top 1 % in that field.
my "best friend" for 6 years used to do this to me, and about 1.5 years now, I've completely got rid of him and kaam kr rha hu aage badh rha hu. 2 all india level exams me 7th rank. thank you shwetabh
Shwetabh!! You don't have any idea how much this video was required at this point of life 😭 I have suffered a lot due to lack of boundries and now when I am trying to create them, people' s defensive attitude towards boundaries is just too annoying 🥲 Thanks for this video
We have to set boundaries,maine bhi ye chij face kiya hai, school time me, pr uske baad maine khud ke liye stand out krna shuru kr diya... Ye bahut jroori hai, All the best. More power to you
shwetabh, ive been watching you since almost a year now, i am loving your content and how you inspire our youth. i think i speak for every single guy/girl here when i say that; how to command respect in your friend circle & in general w people? your videos are making me better slowly! we'd love to hear your views and a solution to that topic!
15:24 nahi bhai there are people who wait till this point. They eagerly wait for every video to learn perspectives and so much about life, psychology, philosophy and what not. Maybe bhai you don't get high views on this but please bhai do like this only (I know bhai you don't need my or comment's validation because views don't bother you but still bhai you are also a human and you help us a lot so even if my comment made you 0.000001 percent happy or satisfied, the purpose of this comment is fulfilled) so please bhai in this Era of shorts and low attention span, please never stop making such superb amazing classy highly knowledgeable and very very much helping content, thumbnails maybe simple or videos me koi bhainkar transitions nahi hain but bhai we love that really, it's very soothing and I just can't express more bhai....I love you bhai, it's just for the sake of saying, it may sound simple like in every comment or post of any youtuber but here I really mean it bhai. Please bhai aap iss sab se bother mat hona (I believe ki aap nahi Hoge but still writing this coz aap bhi insaan hain) aap bhale hi beech beech me ek chillaane wala video nikal dena for motivation(views) but please bhai views ke liye mat pareshaan hona aap. I want to give you more and more empathy. And thank you so much bhai for teaching me so much it really really helped a lot lot lot in my life. THANK YOU BHAI ❤️
I was watching Sopranos(enjoyed it very much) and after listening to you, I think either I should rewatch it 5 years down the line(coz I'm not mature enough rn) or try to watch it with more of a interpersonal relationship perspective. I am 20 btw.
I would be forever grateful for you if you would do your videos in English again. I follow your old channel. I find that with English you can reach a larger audience. Your book has helped me lately. Thank you.
I was in a relationship with a very toxic girl , she had a habit of always seeing the bad side , being always jealous of other's happiness , complaining about everything and what not....... I wasted my 2 years on her hoping that it will be better . I just broke up with her recently . I always feel guilty that I should have done this a lot before . I have gained many negative traits from her , m working on them now . I want the real me ..like i was before this relationship . It's painful .
Thank you Shwetabh hmein ye btane ke liye, sbhi logo ki ek boundaries hoti hai, use cross nhi krna hai, most important cjij hai ye aaj ke time me, kyunki log jaane anjane aisi glti kr rhe hai,jo bhi ye face kr rha hu, use stand out krna chahiye, saaf baat keh deni chahiye... Ki bs bahut hua, ab nhi, ye kehna jroori hai. Thank you for helping Us. Stay blessed, loads of Love ✨️
Bohot acha relate kar pa rha hun mai bhaiya. Mujhe bas yahi doubt tha ki agar mai distance krne lagu toh vo cheez galat toh nahi hogi family walo ke liye but aapne doubts clear kar diye. Aise distance toh nahi kar sakta but yes I'll make myself that powerful so that I remain unbothered.
Shwetabh sir, you have done a wonderful job here! I have read and watched so much on boundaries but casual, conversational tone me iske baare me samajhna sounds so good. Thank you!
The way Tony treated Chris, throughout the series, is heartbreaking. It wasn't evident to me at first but over time, Tony kept crossing the line several times. For me, it was how Chris reacted every time after being pushed down, that broke my heart. Made me realise a lot about casual bullying.
Hi Shwetabh, I know you made a video related to procrastination. It really helped me in back a lot, got into good uni and everything went well. Working in a mnc right now, and lost that zeal and procrastinate a lot. Please a help with a suggestion as lot of people after 2 year lockdown, something happened we became "Lazy".
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@Swetabh Gangwar
Vaiya apki bate podcast kafi badhiya h me apko last 4-5 salo s follow kr rha hu you are trying very good to change men who are chasing women blindly or wasting time in dreaming about women by trying to teach them what a real man is And I appreciate it very much.....
But why are you against men who wants to stay single and let's say raise kids who are parentless what's wrong with that anath baccho ko koi raise kre unhe padhake unhe bada banaye what's wrong with that zarrori thodi na h k apko shadi krke koi cheating walo ladki nhi milege plus there are some points which Jordan Peterson and Andrew tate says which match with you weak men are danger to society society need strong men to survive you also say that wo shi h but jb Sadhguru khud keh rhe h ki modern feminst n feminine k against chale gye he himself said the day you truly destroy feminine you enslave women jo aj kal k feminst kr rhe h western societies me feminst logo n danka Baja ke rakha h wha shadi krke ladkie khule am cheat krti h and then divorce mangke unhe alimony money to milti hi hai but baccho ko v who raise krti h problem h ki we are following these idiots blindly aur ap ladko ko sudhar rhe ho but ladkio ko kuch khas nhi kehte which is against problematic ladkie v to insan hi h na vagwan to nhi so what's wrong by asking them to behave a bit decent and don't listen to feminist jese ap ladko ko Andrew tate k against Jane bol rhe ho even though west khud me ek feminist society h jo masculinity k pure against m h so why also not go against feminist
@Swetabh Gangawar
Please opinion dijiye vaiya is comment ko please apna opinion dijiye if you can please
the problem is like this I will give 8 points for today's world they are
1. when I say equal rights I think women should also stand up for men right like how most man do stand up for women as I said in just above comment that is If a guy harrases my nephew or someone he will always have me or my uncle (his father) if he alone cannot deal with situation he doesn't need any women but if a girl harrases him he will need his mother or sister or aunt to stand up but I bet very few women will go against that women and even only when it is happening in front of their eyes ....
2.#me too allows women to say no Means no but not men can say the thing this is another problematic #mee too standards........
Men cannot use me too like women or they will be called looser .....
3.If a women destroys a man's life by falsely accusing him of rape or harrasement she can get away after he suffers all the years in prison with court even she has done a horrible deal but if it's a man the case is gone.....
4.The Defination of western feminism involves everyone to be respected like transgender lesbian gays and everyone except men ......
That is the main problem which this red pills don't include and they only include a women ......
Why should someone be brainwashed to become a trans a non binary if he doesn't want or doesn't even know many western kids are changing their genders as their parents who are LITTTERALLY spoiled millineals thinks it cool...
5.A WOMAN NO MATTER WHO SHE IS IF SHE IS MARRYING A GUY WHO IS OK AND NICE SHOULD NOT GIVE DIVORCE ONLY TO FIND A MORE SUCCESSFUL MEN BECAISE THEY CAN GET AWAY BY A HEFTY AMOUNT OF ALIMONY MONEY AND EVEN TAKE THE KIDS WITH HER IN DIVORCE CASE BUT WHAT WILL A MAN GET HE LOSY HIS FAMILY AND IS PAYING A HUGE AMOUNT OF SUM FOR A WOMEN WHOM SHE BETRAYED HIM ........
IF THESE THINGS ARE IDOLISED THEN YOU WILL HAVE MANY MEN WHO WILL BECOME IRRESPONSIBLE TOXIC DOUCHE BAGS WHOM WE CALL LOAFERS AND THIS WESTERN PEOPLE CALL CHAD YOU WILL SEE AN INCREASE WHILE YHE GOOD GUYS WILL REFUSE TO MARRY WHO WANTS TO MARRY A WOMAN IF SHE IS GOING TO BETRAY HIM AND TAKE HIS FAMILY DREAM AWAY WHATS THE POINY OF MARRIAGE ANYWAY....
6.IN India many you must have heard of dowry which is disgraceful thing but many women nowadays have DOUBBLE standards they marry a guy then falsely accusing him of harrasement and dowry and others to get a hefty some and get away these women should never be IDOLISED and females should rise up Just like how men rise up if a guy is wrong to destroy a women's life media will show but not give any reaction to this........
2 years ago there was one case in which a 17 year old boy was blackmailed by his female freind and is rape threatened just for fun by a whatsapp later he committed suicide and you know she got away so isn't it best for boys to avoid interaction with girls and .....
7.THEN best for men is to avoid marriage or don't have any gf in life BEACUSE if a guy doesn't marry or have any romantic relationship for any woman the whole problem of false accusation heart break or even the rape numbers will decrease ............
8.But robots will take our place if population is decreased and we are doing exactly to evolve AI beyond human intelligence basically being a slave to Machines and if the above factors are kept in mind humanity is doomed to face a big crisis in coming years and that may lead humanity not being a dominant race let alone may lead to extinction of human race in coming decades and I disagree with Sadhguru on His AI. Theory Humans will NOW BE SELF SUFFICIENT INSTEAD OF SELF SURVIVAL ARE HUMANS ARE BECOMING TOO DEPENDENT ON ROBOTS AND ALL THE ABOVE FACTORS HOW IS NOT SEEING THIS
@@TWC2.0 🤣
Let me add this beautiful line "I will always be respectful and mindful to people around me" to my rules.
When your boundaries are no more respected and destroyed by others ,then either you get involved with them to destroy others boundaries or you get depressed and let them assimilate your boundaries to none. This happens when you don't stand and walk up for yourself. People don't let your relationship turn toxic or be in toxic relationship.
when i was in class 9-10 my friend used to do this to me. i used to fight back but one day he got angry kept telling me that these are only jokes. then i let everyone assimilate my boundaries. But as i entered 12th this year, i stopped talking to him. I am preparing well for my competitive exams but my friend is not. now his parents are fed up of him and another one of my friend who earlier used to laugh while i was roasted also gave up on him. i got sweet revenge without even wanting it
Absolutely, when u let others violate your boundaries, you do the same to others. You end up damaging your relationships at work, family etc. Plus it causes mental health issues.
@@KSHITIJTAMBOLI We all have those type of toxic friendship that are just only for sake of name "Friendship" but these all just corrodes you from inside and you also become toxic in the process and the sad part is you don't know how much you have changed. Better to kick those who doesn't respect you and your boundaries.
@@wanderingnomad1 Mental health issues are very critical and no one give a damn about it in India . People just expect you to be tough and if you can't take their BS, then you are weak. Seriously. Try to be a little considerate. People just forget that others have some boundaries and emotions and when you see all this growing up ,you believe this is normal. Then you also do things what you have seen . So this is the vicious cycle of our Indian culture of breaking lakshman rekha
@@khalshubh yes I agree with you. Hardest part is when the people who constantly violate boundaries are from your own family.
I am kind of an introvert personally which leads me to the situation wherein I am unable to handle toxic friends.
This perspective will definitely help me to grow and live a mindful life ahead. Thank You ❤️
How the fuck ... you are so relatable .. your thoughts are much much appreciated sir
I have depression beacause of childhood bullying and had severe social anxiety and the people who bullied me said i am mad and mentally ill still i am recovering :)
Your one subscribe can change my life..
Agree
Not just Indian mate
@@shivyawithscars what he did bad?
@Shivya your every comment is really toxic on this channel 🤯
His influence is outside from India too..
Power is the most important factor here. And as children you are completely powerless and helpless and you don't even understand what's happening with you. Over time crossing boundaries becomes a habit for your parents and relatives and later in life when you understand, No matter what you do you just can't get them to treat you right. The only option you have left is to give up hope for wanting to be treated right by your family. Then get out and make your own family and treat them right.
Yeah best option is to take full responsibility for yourself and leave for the better . These people are toxic to the core and you have no responsibility towards them .
How you break the problems into pieces and then brings out the conclusion that makes you stand-out. Simply sublime
Saying No and making boundaries are really really important.
I have been to the group of toxic friends from past 2/3 years. At first I left the group by getting frustrating of their behaviour but after that I tried compromising with them because they were my school friends but after that also they were behaving like shit literally not logic of their talk then again if left after thinking so much for 7 consecutive days and now after few months they text out of nowhere and say chal Bhai ghummne chal rehe h like seriously Bhai kon h tu
But finally I said no but they were still forcing me in and I said "Bhai mere bas ki nahi yeh chutiya shi zabardasti ki dosti ni bhana"
And now I'm proud that I finally draw those boundaries which I should have drawn long ago.
Anyone who's suffering this learn to say no and even if they don't accept your no just get to the point and draw your boundaries.🙁
Right now I really cant describe in words that how much I needed this video..Thank You Shwetabh Brother you were always there when i needed you the most
Needed this video shwetabh
We men suffer a lot because of letting others cross our boundaries
❤ Bahot sahi bhai..... Salute you brother 🙏.... For this information..... In dark u feel like ur soul is deeply crying with the fire in mind and anger on mouth with all bad words on tongue..... Be it ur family members.... Doesn't matter.... U should make ur boundaries..... With Krishna Word on mouth n in mind..... Just think you should not do wrong.... God will not bless u..... So always think good...
this is gold!! been suffered it most !! The only thing I would say is no need to be polite or anything about telling people to check their behavior. Because you suffer the most !! and people don't leave you after it they just change!!
When someone picks on u
Don't just laugh it out , give them some reply.
Let them know their boundaries.
Friendly banter is good but it has to be two way.
Yes! When you let them make fun of you indirectly we give them power to demean anytime. Unfortunately we Indian are never taught to respect others personal space and personal life.
Its very diffcult for me to say to them on their face..Pls say solution
Sir there are people who never respect your boundaries. No matter how hard you try.
Loose them PERIOD
One of my favourite video. wish I found shwetabh gangwar 10 years ago
man, it's so fucking relatable to my current job environment, thank you so much shwetabh bhaiya,it helped a lot...
Shwetabh Sir. You don't even know how much you have changed my life and especially changed me.. You advice me on comment section of video "paisa nahi hai manghai cheez kharidne ke liye" to watch your video "tumhe kuch bolne wale ki aukat ky hai" I found it very thought provoking.. Then afterwards I bought your book Rudest book ever yellow one (which is 10/10)... I got to tell you my life has actually been changed alot... I used to call those people friend who used to make me feel inferior and stupid even used to insult my dad and his profession.. It began so normally but gradually it got worst.. Then I realized I got to take some initiative.. So I just stopped hanging out with them I thought they would notice immediately but they didn't..and I know it is stupid but I got really sad by this I was hoping someone who'll ask me why I am not hanging out with them and then ill tell them the reason.. But nothing like that happened they just ignored but after a month I started to feel better and bright.. I still sometimes talk to them but have totally stopped hanging out with the grop.. Don't know why I think they wanted the same.. I am this socially awkward and shy guy in a group of alphas the reason I got in that group is because of my high school classmates they felt bad that I am always alone so asked me to join them but after some time I just become a guy in the group who is joked upon, is insulted in front of his crush, doesn't say anything when someone just give him tapli (slapping head) for making everyone laugh or to show dominance , even insulting his father and his profession, making dirty jokes on his sister.. I became more anxious and felt like a side role in his own move... I was getting depressed.. Until I got to know about your channel from the contravercy... And I am sooo glad that controversy happened.. Otherwise OK would have been suicidal
I know no one will read this but bass maan halka karna tha..🙏🙏
bro my condition is same or even worse than you because my friends who used to mock me had become my best friend and i don't know what to do now i
@@Asher23y jo tumhe mock krte hai vo best friend nahi hote vro . Jo tumhare sath rahe khushi mai bhi aur dukh mai bhi . Jo tumhare emotions samajate hai aur respect krte hai vo hote best friend .
I love you all. I've been through hell. I can't describe it here. I wish you all great strength forever🤍
@@rutikchakre6118 indeed I wish I knew this way earlier..
@@rutikchakre6118 Thankyou Rutik for the info
Bullying has destroyed my mental health and as a result, i unconsciously detached from my own self in order to be invulnerable to the world. Now i have an anxiety disorder, C-PTSD and I am detached from my feelings. I lost myself to it. Now, even though i am almost 18 and no one bullies me anymore, it still plagues me and most of the times i'm surprised by the way my body reacts to certain behaviors... It makes me feel vulnerable and fills me with adrenaline rush. I start trembling and weirdly, that's the only time i realise i was repeatedly traumatised as a child. It has turned me into an invulnerable person even though i am, atleast i hope, the same sensitive person internally. To be precise, Bullying can destroy your life in unimaginable ways and make you a complex mess - if you don't deal with it right away. If you can't convince them, just withdraw. I wish i had withdrawn. I'd have been a much better person.
Also, how bullying affects your actions is a very very serious issue. You might get into bullying someone else after being bullied to let out your frustrations, ending up in a cycle of bullying and pain. Or you might start acting out of fear of the people around you, someone might end up on the crime path etc
Shewtabh Army Assemble!
Andh bhakt mat bano
We should respect him but we shouldn't make a cult
But people nowadays abuse so much when told truth to them😿😿
@@PrakritiSenpai senpai I don't think I have asked for your opinion and showed any andha bhakti it's just your thoughts your sharing
@@voltage3896💯
*Avengers theme playing in background*
True..."mai ne apne aas paas aise bhot logon ko dekha hai" in family and friends jo dusre ke logon ki respect ni krte hein
I hv one female freind she was damn toxic and narcissist ... thankfully she has gone from my life....
Excellent point. I went thru the same negativity in my immediate family, finally I moved alhumdululillah. I feel soon better mentally!
glad that you brought the example of sopranos ,that show taught me more about the mental health ,despression ,self esteem than i could have imagined to know,being a shy guy since childhood who despite in such situations at multiple times never confronted and was always confused about boundaries ,i can relate to things you said
Tony Blundetto , Tony Sopranos and Christopher Moltosanti reference was spot on.
Got rid of those kinds of people long back Bhai. Thank you for the video!
"The problem I am facing is that when my relatives cross their limits in casual conversation, if I make them aware that their words made me feel bad or if I stop meeting them, my parents scold me for being disrespectful and says if I start avoiding such people, then no one will be left for me."
Feeling so proud of my self today, unknowingly i did this when I was in school. ✨️
Thank you Shwetabh. I left a person who always made me feel less than
I think ye sabse important video thi sir aapki....thanks a lot
As my bounding myself to work more and more by putting more hours I feel mentally better and have better sense of putting boundaries to what to put emotions on and what to stay away from
That's the reason I cut off connections with my elementary school friends
👍👍👍👍
Bhai, kya bola hai! This is the best way I have seen ‘setting boundaries’ explained.
I am currently 19 years old and I am staying with my parents. They are always good to me and provide whatever I ask. But they never asked about my opinion or how I am feeling....they neither express love... nor I can sense it. I just want to vent out all my feelings to them..but my upbringing made me so weak. This ruined my decision making skills...I am a very good student but never felt happy studying...i am trying my best to reach the standards of my family so that they will respect me...but in this process I am losing myself... my self esteem...there are two more years to complete my graduation. Until then I should stay with them.
Hope good days will come soon
You are supposed to respect nd obey ur parents as a moral duty but you have to take your life decisions by yourselff..you have to stand for urself otherwise you will not be able to build ur own identity
Was in similar situation.
They want you to excel in something which are you weak in .
They are not considering that not all people have different abilities.
I suggest you to find your strength by introspection and use your unfair advantage to be in top 1 % in that field.
Exactly same things ( boundaries problem ) happened to me yesterday. I think, I handled that situation as you said in this video. Thank you 🙂💪
A million thanks for this video, brother 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I really needed this video when I was in school
Great talk Shwetabh bhai, it was very helpful. Boundaries are underestimated in our culture. Thank you.
Absolute Banger 😍
Bohot acha video tha bhai. Thank YOU.
This feels so peaceful ❤️
This video by shwetabh beautifully depicts our lives. Helped me a lot bro to silence the noise in my head for so many problems.
my "best friend" for 6 years used to do this to me, and about 1.5 years now, I've completely got rid of him and kaam kr rha hu aage badh rha hu. 2 all india level exams me 7th rank. thank you shwetabh
Respect++
Kya ho tum
Same thing happened.........proud of your courage and success
@@parthshah8494 thank you brother
Damn
Bhai aapki video relaxing mode main hi concentrate hoti hai this video is amazing👍
Loving these back to BACK video's 🚀
Bhai pahuch gya 15:26....🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Bhai gajab sikha dia aaj aapne🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Best best best and best person who teaches us the reality of this world 🌎 love you shwetabh sir 😘😘😘
Thank you shwetabh sir 🙏🙏🙏🙏
so much relatable bhaiya 😢❤ luv u lot 🙏🙏
This is the perfect video I have watched in so many days.
Dhanyawad Sir❤️
Samajh gaye👍🏻
Shwetabh bhai i needed this thing more than anything rn!!!
Your videos are so much practical
Thank you bhai ❤️
I just dont have any words Shwetabh bhaiya what you have said. ALL I CAN SAY IS THANKYOUVERYMUCH ! :)
Thank you Shwetabh Sir, really needed to hear this today.. Your words have empowered me.. thanks a lot!!
This video is OMG❤
Shwetabh!!
You don't have any idea how much this video was required at this point of life 😭
I have suffered a lot due to lack of boundries and now when I am trying to create them, people' s defensive attitude towards boundaries is just too annoying 🥲
Thanks for this video
We have to set boundaries,maine bhi ye chij face kiya hai, school time me, pr uske baad maine khud ke liye stand out krna shuru kr diya... Ye bahut jroori hai, All the best. More power to you
Thank you so much for this viedo i really found when i need it most it resonate with me ❤🎉
If you liked Sopranos then you should watch Breaking Bad & Better call Saul. Two of the best Tv shows of all time.
Bhai .. your content is so so relatable
Waahh you have watched the sopranos? Let's gooo greatest show of all time
Bohot time se aapko follow kar rahu bro bohot intellectual baatein karte ho aap 🙏
ig this is the vdo that i need rn ...bohot time pe vdo upload ki hai bhai
thanks 🙏
Litreally best of this channel
The video i needed.
True sir..
It started with home
Shwetabh ALWAYS LOVED YOUR WORK😊😊💪💪
shwetabh, ive been watching you since almost a year now, i am loving your content and how you inspire our youth.
i think i speak for every single guy/girl here when i say that; how to command respect in your friend circle & in general w people?
your videos are making me better slowly! we'd love to hear your views and a solution to that topic!
Love u swetabh bhai💗💗
15:24 nahi bhai there are people who wait till this point. They eagerly wait for every video to learn perspectives and so much about life, psychology, philosophy and what not. Maybe bhai you don't get high views on this but please bhai do like this only (I know bhai you don't need my or comment's validation because views don't bother you but still bhai you are also a human and you help us a lot so even if my comment made you 0.000001 percent happy or satisfied, the purpose of this comment is fulfilled) so please bhai in this Era of shorts and low attention span, please never stop making such superb amazing classy highly knowledgeable and very very much helping content, thumbnails maybe simple or videos me koi bhainkar transitions nahi hain but bhai we love that really, it's very soothing and I just can't express more bhai....I love you bhai, it's just for the sake of saying, it may sound simple like in every comment or post of any youtuber but here I really mean it bhai. Please bhai aap iss sab se bother mat hona (I believe ki aap nahi Hoge but still writing this coz aap bhi insaan hain) aap bhale hi beech beech me ek chillaane wala video nikal dena for motivation(views) but please bhai views ke liye mat pareshaan hona aap. I want to give you more and more empathy. And thank you so much bhai for teaching me so much it really really helped a lot lot lot in my life.
THANK YOU BHAI ❤️
i agree with each and every point u mentioned above
Bhai love you❤❤ you changed my life completely. God bless you bro.
I was watching Sopranos(enjoyed it very much) and after listening to you, I think either I should rewatch it 5 years down the line(coz I'm not mature enough rn) or try to watch it with more of a interpersonal relationship perspective. I am 20 btw.
I would be forever grateful for you if you would do your videos in English again.
I follow your old channel. I find that with English you can reach a larger audience.
Your book has helped me lately.
Thank you.
Thank you sir...Mera mental health thinking kow improvement keliye....❤️
I was in a relationship with a very toxic girl , she had a habit of always seeing the bad side , being always jealous of other's happiness , complaining about everything and what not....... I wasted my 2 years on her hoping that it will be better . I just broke up with her recently . I always feel guilty that I should have done this a lot before . I have gained many negative traits from her , m working on them now . I want the real me ..like i was before this relationship . It's painful .
Just Awesome as always...
Thank you...💛
You are a real problem solver man! Thank you shwetabh.
Distance kr liya pahle hi bhaiya😊
Your Expressions are too good
Thank you Shwetabh hmein ye btane ke liye, sbhi logo ki ek boundaries hoti hai, use cross nhi krna hai, most important cjij hai ye aaj ke time me, kyunki log jaane anjane aisi glti kr rhe hai,jo bhi ye face kr rha hu, use stand out krna chahiye, saaf baat keh deni chahiye... Ki bs bahut hua, ab nhi, ye kehna jroori hai. Thank you for helping Us. Stay blessed, loads of Love ✨️
Thanks a lot sir🔥
Bohot acha relate kar pa rha hun mai bhaiya. Mujhe bas yahi doubt tha ki agar mai distance krne lagu toh vo cheez galat toh nahi hogi family walo ke liye but aapne doubts clear kar diye. Aise distance toh nahi kar sakta but yes I'll make myself that powerful so that I remain unbothered.
Shwetabh sir, you have done a wonderful job here! I have read and watched so much on boundaries but casual, conversational tone me iske baare me samajhna sounds so good. Thank you!
Yeh admi gajab hai yrr
The way Tony treated Chris, throughout the series, is heartbreaking. It wasn't evident to me at first but over time, Tony kept crossing the line several times. For me, it was how Chris reacted every time after being pushed down, that broke my heart. Made me realise a lot about casual bullying.
Which series/movie he is describing about?
@@savi_sandbox The Sopranos
For a moment I thought u were talking about Avengers 😂
Much needed bro !!
True ... you nailed it
Last few minutes were fu*ing relatable.....
This man reads our minds.
For sure
such a meaningful video.
This video is amazing... I literally needed this🙌
Good one.🔥
The world needs shwetabh.....❤️
Hi Shwetabh, I know you made a video related to procrastination. It really helped me in back a lot, got into good uni and everything went well. Working in a mnc right now, and lost that zeal and procrastinate a lot. Please a help with a suggestion as lot of people after 2 year lockdown, something happened we became "Lazy".
This is true setting boundries is very importamt, Being good to others is okay but don't be a fool or let anyone fool you.
I truely thank God for blessing us with a gem like you
Khush raho humesha Bhai 🙌
Bhai 😊