How To Clean When You're Overwhelmed || a Neurodivergent Cleaning Routine to Avoid Burnout
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 พ.ย. 2024
- Hi friends!
Today's video is a little bit different. I love sharing cleaning routines on my channel as you all know, but lately I've been so burnt out trying to keep up with everything, and I thought maybe some of you might find use in the routine I do when I'm burning out.
Homemaking isn't always as easy as many channels make it look. Especially for those of us who don't fit an allistic mindset and for whom the tips and tricks were not necessarily made. Things like "cleaning as you go" or "delegate tasks" aren't as helpful as one might think.
So, here's what I do on those days when I'm burning out, overwhelmed, and feel as though I cannot focus.
Xo Kristina
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Garlic + herb + butter chicken:
6-8 bone-in, skin-on chicken thighs (or whatever cut you prefer)
1/2 cup butter, softened
1 head garlic, finely diced or pressed through a garlic press
2 Tablespoons italian seasoning
1 Tablespoon powdered chicken bullion
2 Tablespoons minced dried onion
Heat oven to 375 Fahrenheit. Mix the garlic and herb butter: to a bowl add 1/2 cup softened butter, diced garlic, and herbs and onion. Mix until fully incorporated. Rub all over the chicken, and top each piece with a good covering of the butter mixture. Put into the oven and cook on the top rack for 30-40 minutes, or until the juices have begun to run clear and the meat is no longer pink.
Meanwhile, snap the woody ends off a bunch of asparagus spears and lay them out on a sheet pan. Top with olive oil, salt, and any other spices (I like onion powder or dried minced onion!). Mix well, and pop into the oven with the chicken on a lower rack. Cook for about 30 minutes or until it is crisp on the tips.
While your chicken and asparagus are cooking, cut a small bag of red potatoes into quarters and plop into a pot. Cover with water. Bring to a boil, and then simmer for about 20 minutes or until soft. When they've softened, drain the water out. Put your butter in hte bottom of the hot pan, then top with the potatoes. Add about 1/4 cup milk, some onion powder, and salt or chicken bullion. Mash, adding more milk as necessary until the desired consistency is achieved.
When the chicken is cooked, retrieve the juices into a pot alongside chicken bullion and water (I did 3 cups water, 1 tbsp powdered bullion). Mix thoroughly and bring to a boil. In a separate cup, thoroughly whisk 2-3 tbsp (2-3 forkfuls) corn starch in cold water. Pour into the boiling broth, stirring constantly. Allow to thicken -- more corn starch mixture may be made and added if needed.
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And by “comments” for the recipe I used at the end I did mean description 😅 anyway I hope you are all doing well, and if you have ND cleaning tips I’d love to hear them!
Loved this video and hoping you are doing well too. I think you are a fab mother & I really really enjoyed how you approach cleaning now after trying your different routines. I have been curious about the what worked for you bits 😊. And I think your priorities are awesome because we do need time to be there for those who need us & creative etc… I struggle with that. I tend to dig into a project & drop the housekeeping ball. So I feel my life is a bit off balance at times. You have given me a good bit of food for thought in this video ❤️ Wishing you the best, Lynne
You are doing it right! My mother never sat down with us or played with us. Our house was immaculate, clothes washed and ironed and meals on time. My mother loved me but the pressure to have a perfect house was overwhelming. I’m the youngest of six children and 70 years old.
Your children are lucky to have you as their Mom.
The pressure to have a perfect house is overwhelming and I would MUCH rather spend time with my kids or being creative. Thank you for this sweet comment!
That's a mothers job ,to raise good adults . You are not their friend . They are an extention of you . Never apologize for being a mother ....it's a job. They turn out fine if you mother.
@@WithLoveKristina Its me Ana don't ever feel bad bout b in a gd mom. I told my daughter the same thing. 4 get bout the house 2 a point. Ur kids R young only once enjoy them. I love the music U use in ur video's , an sum tymes I wish I was bac in the dae.....
I grew up in the 70s and to date I don''t know HOW my Mom did it. She was a stay at home, got up every morning at 5 to feed the chickens, dogs, hog (when we had one) water her garden, make fresh corn and flour tortillas for a family of 10, had breakfast ready for my Dad by 7 and children. Everything she made was from scratch. Everything came from her garden, vegetables, spices, meat, eggs. She ironed every single day, did laundry, she sewed all of our clothes, pants, dresses, shirts, etc. When we got home the house was clean, and she was in the kitchen starting dinner before Dad got home from work. My fondest memories are of her sitting at night outside relaxing after she had cleaned the house '---again, ironed all our clothes for the next day. This was about 10ish/11 at night, where she would water her garden, trees,plants, again. We lived in TX so the weather was always hot. We helped, but not as much as we should've. She was a wonderful wonder woman, and I don't think anyone in today's world can do what she did.
Marisolreyes6502: Wow! Your mother sounds amazing. That is a lot of work.
Mexican woman for sure with such family values and work ethic. Bless her soul.
“I do not exist to tidy my house” is what I needed to hear today 😭💛💛💛
Haha I so get it
I have ADHD and I could never do the whole clean as you go and it would drive my mom nuts 😂 Now I set a timer for 10 minutes and clean as much as I can in a room then go to the next room. It's much better for my brain and mental health!
Same!
I'm not neurodivergent but I think this could be an excellent video for people like me who get overwhelmed due to anxiety.
I'm 74 yrs old and have been homemaking since I married at 17. My Mother didn't teach me much of anything, so I went into it GREEN!! I love your vintage style and I know how fun it is to go to antique stores and and bring home a haul of "new stuff." Here's my friendly recommendation: Get rid of at least 50% of all your dodads, gizmos, whatnots and widgets. You're fighting all the stuff! The minimalist trend may not be what you want, but it's so much easier and quicker to clean when there's not so much sitting around on all your surfaces. Also, don't let your laundry hit the couch; use a laundry basket and keep it out of reach of the children until you fold them and they put their things away. They should have much fewer toys out where they can strew them everywhere. Give them only a few things to play with and a few books and rotate them weekly. If they're like mine were, when there's so much, they play with one thing a minute, throw it down and pick up the next thing and repeat until the entire floor is covered. Work smarter, not harder. I know you feel like you're fighting a losing battle, but having less to clean will help.
My backyard neighbor when my kids were young raised 7 boys and a girl in a small two bedroom house. She told me Every other day is the way to get things done. A day of rest, a day of work, a day of rest etc...
Omg I love every other day idea so much. I always think to myself, what's the point of any of this if I don't get to ENJOY it too?!
I’m so grateful that you added the disclaimer recognizing the problems with mid century life that some other content creators don’t always grasp. Your perspective is refreshing and you are appreciated!! ❤
It’s an important thing to point out I think 💖 especially because I am in what looks like a traditionally set up marriage role-wise with a lot of kids hah!
“I simply do not exist to tidy my house” YESSSS & thank you. 🙏
I want this in an embroidery pattern I can stab at when overwhelmed by my disarrayed domain.
You clearly work very hard, especially since you are a mom of five! And you don’t need to explain or justify yourself, you are wonderful just the way you are! Your little ones are obviously happy and well-adjusted because they are loved and taken care of, and are absorbing good values all the while.❤ Far too many kids today have a lot of possessions that fill big, prestigious houses…but scarcely a loving, guiding presence in their lives. Your kids are very blessed, indeed.🥰
This is definitely the best house☺️
@@gohawks3571 Totally agree!❤️
My little cleaning tip I'd like to share with everyone is I find setting a timer for 30 minutes, putting on some music, and focus on cleaning an area for those 30 minutes. I put stuff away, throw things out, tidy up the piles (no one's perfect😅) and I find that I can get quite a lot done in that 30 minutes and sometimes after the timer goes, I keep cleaning. And if I finish the little area before the 30 is up, I clean something else. Afterwards I have a cleaner space and I treat myself by doing something I like. I've also done this for focusing on getting tasks done, by just doing 30 minutes of work on something. I told it to my dad, and it's helped him to put energy into cleaning the shed, and he told it to my uncle who's used it in his shop, or at least made "a take a drawer and clean it" version. Might not work for everyone, but it's something I recommend to people to at least try 😊
Thank you for your videos and sharing your tips with us!❤
Nobody manages their household effortlessly. It's a job. Love your channel.
One thing they had it right in the 50’s was that home making, if you call it that, was prioritized. I think of it as putting family first.. kids and your spouse first whether mom or dad stays home being the care taker. Just taking care of each other and ourselves., you do a wonderful job encouraging others Kristina thank you!
Honestly with how bad the economy is I cannot fault many couples that homemaking isn’t prioritized. Many are struggling to survive.
I’m privileged to be able to make money at home and home make like I wanted to, and I think so many people would if they could! 💖 I wish more people could prioritize home. It’s really so important.
I stumbled across your channel. I think I've been waiting to find you! I am an older gal, almost 65. Just in the last few years, I've found out I am Neuro Divergent - ADHD. Back in my day, they didn't have names for these things, other than lazy and unproductive. I want to thank you for teaching me to be kinder to myself for not being "the way I should be." Blessings to you sweet girl. 😊
I love the “They just want to be with you” comment! As long as my kiddos are in the room with me, they’re fine. If I’m doing something they can take part in in some way, I let them. If it’s something they can’t do for safety reasons, I set them up in the room with something simple like a coloring book and they are happy for about an hour or find something else they want to do. ❤
Watching this as part of procrastinating about cleaning my kitchen 😂
AHAAHHAHA valid though 😂
Realistic 😊
Can totally relate.
Me too!!!
Same 😂
I really like what you make of your life, a modest, but stylish home and also stylish outfit makes it all cozy and special.
I’ve been beating up on myself for not cleaning up my home the way it needs to be because I have really bad back pain this really helped me take the small steps needed to tidy up my home 😊 thank you for everything u really helped me during a difficult time 😊
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You’re doing great kiddo. We women are hard on ourselves. My mom was and i was too. Your doing what works for you and thats what matters.
I admire you for your courage and your openness about your life. We all have had those times in our life's when we just want to give up. But there is always tomorrow. Deep breath and know we strangers are routing for you. 🤗 👍
Your videos are so helpful. I struggle with chronic depression and anxiety and I have found these methods to help me when I am overwhelmed and feel like all I can do is lay in bed and rot. You have a lovely home and family :)
This video helped me get the motivation to put away laundry that’s been sitting for weeks
Sweeping everything into a pile is EXACTLY what I do. I had no idea anyone else did this! Mind blown!
Youre a great momma and wife! Keep doing whatever works for your family! ❤
I love that you know what works for you and what doesn't -- that's half the battle. I find your thoughts on cleaning helpful because it causes me to pause and think about what actually works for me and why. Thank you for sharing!
I admire you for giving your children chores to do. When our boys were growing up, I got tired of the struggle of trying to make them help. It just seemed easier to do it myself most of the time. That was a mistake.
Thank you so much for sharing, Kristina! I relate to you so much! I also get really overwhelmed by cleaning my house, and I also cannot just clean as I go. I also have to give myself the time to do it like you do. I really loved the book How To Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis. She has great ideas for neurodivergent people and those dealing with physical and mental illnesses like anxiety, depression, and ADHD . I love that she refers to chores as "care tasks" instead. I really appreciate you, and hope that you have a wonderful weekend! I can't wait to hear more about the book you're writing!
I have that book! It’s on my list of routines to try! I love KC Davis
Thank you for reminding me to search for it at my library - it's now on hold for me!
4:24 I love that you showed us the reality of things not always going to plan, and that your kiddo helped!
One of my favorite techniques when cleaning a room is to sweep everything into a pile first, especially in the family room and kids' spaces! I love that you do this, too and highlighted it. Brilliant! ❤
I like to write things to do in my day planner, then not do them, scratch them out, replace them with whatever i did get done, check those things off and then move the unfinished things forward to a different day. Sew button on robe has been written, scratched and rescheduled about 15 times, it will get done one day, maybe 🤪
You and me both!
Hahaha I do the same thing.
Are you me?? 😂😂😅
@@maudline doppelganger maybe? 🤣
I am spectral with more than a touch of compulsivity. We call it zone cleaning, divide the cleaning into zones like the table or that corner. I found my kids would clean better as well as myself if it was a bit rather than a whole, much like you. I had to have all the dishes in the sink at bedtime, and we all didn't leave the kitchen until the dishes were done and put away. For me, getting up to a mess was just so stressful. Clutter is an anxiety trigger for me. We all have to find what works for our own brain.
Thank you so much, Kristina for saying what you did about cleaning as you go. I have never been able to do this and I have never been able to understand its benefits. You're correct, it is its own task and it gets in the way of my mind being able to concentrate on cooking.
Getting my self started is always overwhelming. I’ve learned to glance at the clock or set a timer when I finally begin. I’ll check back in after and see that the task I’ve been avoiding only took about 25 mins. It’s so helpful for pep-talking yourself into the work next time you clean (“this should only take 25mins, that’s not so bad and I’ll feel exponentially better once it’s tidied”).
This has been an ESSENTIAL part of me overcoming the dread and overwhelming procrastination. I time myself going leisurely one day and then doing the same task but quicker. I started with timing unloading the dishwasher which I don't like doing. 10 min. leisurely, 7 min quickly. Haha. Now I time everything. Tasks never take me as long as I assume they will. Unless I'm on my cycle or having back pain then it takes longer haha.
First of your vids I've watched & I'm so in love. I'm AuDHD & your speaking to conventional cleaning/housekeeping advice vs what works for ND brains. So true! Also, i completely agree with your statement that just because you're home with kids all day doesn't mean it's ur job to clean all day. I'm a teacher & I told my husband that in the summers my "job" is to have fun with the kids & do big projects around the house (currently redecorating/reorganizing the basement) My job is NOT to keep the house clean all day.
Also, my ND friendly cleaning tips: body doubling with youtube videos. Making peace with uneven productivity. One day i might clean the whole house, but then not have energy/interest to do a single anything for the next 3 days 😂 also, when a system/routine isn't working, change it! Don't just force yourself/"try harder" to make it work.
that was so helpful for you to say "they just want to be around you" I struggle with this...unfortunately I resort to the tv...😕 you are an inspiration to me ❤
I’m neurodivergent as well, and your videos are so helpful and encouraging. I also follow the Fly Lady System and found it works wonderfully for neurodivergence as well! I highly recommend it. I was so overwhelmed until I found her system. You start with baby steps and go from there and they stress to not focus on perfection. My best friend has ADHD and recommended her, and I’m so glad she did! I’ve been following her for two years (it also works great for families with children) and it feels like my home is finally under control with the routines and habits I’ve established. I just thought I’d mention it. She has a you tube channel as well with lots of great videos and lives. ☺
Fly Lady is on my list of routines to try! I have heard so many good things about her!
I carry a laundry basket with me to collect things. Clean the room and put away the items in the basket. I do that for each room and it helps so much.
Kristina, I think you do amazingly. You have a great balance to your life and you are right no one understands neurodivergence except neurodivergent people and then it is unique to each person. I am with you on the cleaning as you go thing. Task switching is too hard when you are doing g something else. I too am neurodivergent and I have had six kids, the eldest is now 23 and youngest is 9. The chores thing, well if you are nd then very likely all your kids are too which makes chores very difficult. It’s not like dealing with a normal family set up. Also, if you are nd and have chosen to have five kids knowing what your own struggles are and how hard things can be then you had them because you wanted to be with the, and not because you wanted them to do your chores lol. Parents have responsibilities and you very obviously fulfill them in a great way.
The greatest advice I can give to you I think is for the kids, attach a chore to a physical thing so it then becomes a habit. For example, my kids have been taught from young 6/7 that if they go bathroom for a number two then the first thing they do is clean the bathroom. Dish soap and water in a spray bottle is enough and dish soap in a squirt bottle under the rim. Sure, they make a mess sometimes but it pays off and you never have to do more than a wipe over yourself because with five kids cleaning it every day it stays clean.
The second is get a floor squueeggeee . It is so much faster than a broom and more effective for cat hair ( I have seven ) you can use it for everything, carpets,floors and furniture.
Thirdly, get a laundry bucket for each member of the family or each bedroom that the clothes go back to, then wash them in turn . You never have to sort because it’s already sorted. Saves so much time .
I love your videos x peculiarlyhookedonpendle
I didn't know I was ND until I was pregnant without second-to-last one (and our last one was a surprise). It definitely changed my perspective on how I function, that's for sure! And I found out about me, because yes -- several of my kids are also ND, and around that time my mom also found out SHE is ND, lol.
I love these tips!
New to your channel. Love it!! One thing that may help you is to declutter. Changed my life. Less businesses less to clean removes that mind clutter.❤
This is the first time watching your videos; love how quaint and imperfect your kitchen is, I mean it, it looks well loved.
I can't believe how big Pippin has gotten! He's so adorable. I absolutely love these cleaning videos!
I can't clean as I go, either. When I cook, I end up with a destroyed kitchen. I've always been that way. Believe me, I've tried. It makes me forget what I was doing with the cooking. I have enough trouble remembering what I need to do next and then I get stressed. Cooking shouldn't be stressful. It should be enjoyable. So, I don't worry about it anymore and clean it up when I'm done.
You gave me some good tips about how to approach cleaning. Thank you.
xo~linda
Yes! The sweep pile! It really helps when things are scattered everywhere
Adore the furniture you've brought into your home! You are just amazing. I couldn't keep up with 2 kids and a husband even with my mother in law to help! You're doing it right❤
You are a shining example of a caring mother! Thank you for all your tips about cleaning and how to manage that without burnout, better to take care of our mental health by implementing housework chores accordingly, than have a meltdown and or burn out. Many many thanks for your honesty on this topic.
I love that your kids sit with you and watch you do chores! I remember as a little kid I would sit with my mom and watch her do chores/ cook and I would sit with my dad and watch him when he cleaned the fish he caught for us to eat too. It was truly like live entertainment as a kid lol. I don’t have kids of my own yet, but will definitely do this with them in the future!
I had someone tell me that my children aren’t going to remember how clean the house was when they are grown. But they will remember how they were treated and the experiences they had as a child. Now my children are grown and that is so true. Also, all the “perfect” homes I see on other TH-cam channels are not actually. Don’t compare yourself to others. You have a beautiful family and have created a beautiful home to raise these precious babies. Love your channel.
They do remember, and it effects them when they're older.
Thank you for your honesty about the challenges you face concerning home care and housekeeping. You are an inspiration Kristina.
Wow! This video helped me so much! Not sure if I have ADHD but truly struggle with cleaning as well. I had some “aha” moments in this video which will help me tremendously make cleaning so much more manageable. Thank you for being so real!
You are such a great mom- so patient and soft spoken.
I believe that you do an excellent job. Its not easy to be a homemaker AND a Mom. I had once rule, person eating from dishes put them in sink with soapy water, bring dishes from where ever you were. This didn't always hopped, not the end of the world. ❤❤ I really like your 1920s cleaning routine. To be truthful, if its a beautiful day or I wanted to go play with my grandson,I Do it! You're doing a great job, kids are more important than dishes and dust.
I'm working on unburying my craft area while I listen to/watch you 😊
Lovely video! I have memories of my mom having a playpen nearby her with littles helping “supervise” while cooking and then when doing dishes we got to sit in front of the pots and pans cupboard and play pretend with wood spoons and such.🥰
I loved your disclaimer ❤❤❤ I also love vintage music, decor, furniture and home making practices. I find myself telling people that I take aspects of the past I love, and weave them into my present life. There are many things I purposely leave in the past. Both me and my husband also work to support our family. So thanks for helping me feel I’m not alone in my partial vintage lifestyle ❤ it means a lot ❤
Edited to add my fave cleaning book is older but it's The Sidetracked Home Executive by Pam Young and Peggy Jones- they're sisters.
Also a neurodivergent mom I have a hard time delegating and assigning chores. I have chore charts for them and it gets done but it's not easy.
I'm like you, I HAVE to have a cleaning routine/ schedule or it won't get done and I'll be spinning my wheels stressed.
I have chores organized by day, and every week of the month is designated 1 monthly deep cleaning chore. Weeks 1-5 each have a deep cleaning in a different area on a set day of the week. Since not every month has a 5th week, that chore is something that needs less frequent cleaning. It works when I can stay on top of it when life doesn't throw a monkey wrench like company coming or illness or whatever. If the house is in chaos then I clean the most pressing things first and once the house is tidied up, I get back to the schedule. It's hard with my ADHD but getting on meds has helped tremendously. Today I found myself saying OK it's late, that's enough working. Which, before meds never happened. I'm getting acclimated to being better with time management and scheduling. Such a new concept for me at 38. Wish I would've got diagnosed and on meds sooner, but that's life. Just keep doing what works for you and the family. ❤
I always get inspired to clean and tidy up after watching one or more of your cleaning videos. Things at my house get out of control quickly and sometimes stay that way for a long time. (Chronic fatigue related to MS) Thank you for your videos. ❤❤❤
Christine I have been watching your video tonight for the first time episode or homemaking on a budget 11 you brought me back to my life years ago that simple life Life when I was very happy. I was very poor and I was very happy. I made my own decorations I cooked everything from scratch because there wasn’t enough money to buy anything of luxury you’re a pleasure to watch and I love watching your husband make the pizza. Wonderful God bless you
Thank you so much for your great tips. I love the idea of sweeping everything into the middle of the room so it doesn’t seem so daunting- I’m going to try that one.
And when you swept the dining room table with your broom, I thought, “oh no, loads of people are going to be horrified and write in.”!!! But then you looked at the camera and winked - you knew exactly what clean freaks would be thinking too! I loved it, and actually thought what a good idea, especially as you’re going to wipe down the table anyways.
I love seeing your little girl helping you clear up laundry in the living room. She’s quite obviously having a great time helping you, and not feeling that this is a negative thing. I hat seeing little ones being forced to perform household duties with an angry parent who uses it as a punishment. That’s a whole new set of problems for them in later life.
Your techniques are a blessing to so many people and reading the comments, they’ve helped a lot of folk to let go of home making anxiety induced by ultra clean freaks on TH-cam. It’s a standard we can’t live up to, and it’s really dull too!!!
Thanks again. ❤❤❤
I agree with you on hating seeing chores being used as a punishment by an angry parent. I grew up with parents like that and it took years after moving out for my brain not to go into full panic mode because my space was messy. I still struggle with feeling guilty and like I need to have my space immaculate when there's realistically not that much of a mess.
@@itssteph263 Hi, yes thank you. It’s sad that so many of us feel that panic if our house isn’t tidy enough. I sometimes worry that there’s a new generation of children growing up with parents who have decluttered their homes to the point of sterility, and they tidy, clean and organise so much that the children have no idea how to be creative or joyful or spontaneous. Immaculate homes make for unfulfilled hearts and a striving for perfection, which is impossible to achieve.
❤I can identify myself with you so much on how my brains works and o absorbs visual information, I was told two times I don’t have ADHD.
They diagnosed me with childhood trauma, they said my brain couldn’t develop “normally” because of all the trauma and that the symptoms are very similar to ADHD, but they refuse to prescribe ADHD meds 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
I let them know I have tried my sons ADHD meds and they worked wonders, I felt liberated from my brain!!
I cried as I drove back home, when they said that my childhood trauma does not require ADHD meds and that they would schedule me to a trauma therapist, after seeing her for six months I realized I knew so much more about a neurodivergent conditions than she did😢
Watching videos like this helps put my brain in a space where I don't feel as overwhelmed to start cleaning. Your videos, specifically, help a ton.
Laying here in bed still at almost noon on a Sunday, while it storms outside, but tomorrow is Monday. If I don't get it done today it will go another week because I'm a single mom that works full time..
So thank you so much for making these videos! It helps to know I'm just a normal mom, not a crappy one LOL
Love this! I adore your dress. My “tip” to share is when I feel overwhelmed by clutter, I gather all my kids in the worst room and we each grab one thing in each hand to put away, then we rush off to put it where it belongs, then hurry back for another round. Thanks for sharing your beautiful home and lovely thoughts with us. Many blessings to you! 💕
This provides good tips. I do a number of these things, but it has taken me several years to figure out all these things.
ADHD mom here, thank you so much, this video was so helpful and encouraging!!! I’ve seen many other homemaking videos and when I try to do similar things I get so burnt out. I don’t know why I didn’t connect the dots that it’s just because my brain is different. I’ll definitely be trying out your overwhelmed cleaning tips.
Would you be willing to consider doing a video on 'how to write when you're overwhelmed?' for neurospicy brains that have trouble staying on task, plotting, keeping track of notes etc? If you have any tips for story structure or the like, that would be so helpful! Great video, thank you for sharing!
I’m glad you found a method that works for you. I’m audhd and I HAVE to clean as I go, otherwise I get overwhelmed and can’t do anything at all.
Good morning Kristina, 5:60 am in Germany and me trying to get ready for leaving the house. And than realising, that I began to tidy up on the fly while listening to you and doing my morning routine.😮 Thanks for that. To listen to your thoughts and struggles puts me on ease. And yes, it is very helpful to listen to somebody's cleaning stuff while tiding up your own stuff.
Btw. Tried the bin-theory ... Worked...kind of. Now I have a bin in every room, with stuff I collected in other rooms, that belong there but not get out off this bin😂😂😂. But I think it's a good start and kind of a win.
Just found your channel. Binge watching. I m a grandma & love seeing all the vintage things. Brings back fond memories
This is so wonderful and helpful, and interesting as someone who is very much the clean-as-you-go type of neurodivergent I'm fascinated by others, like my wife, who really prefer to focus and just clean for most of a day. Kristina, if you could please put the recipe on the top half of the screen, that really helps for people who use captions so the captions can still be visible on the bottom of the screen.
I'm so glad I had the same parenting realization with my first baby. I'm currently watching your video while folding clothes and my 10mo is 'helping' me. He doesn't care what we're doing he just wants to be near me
The sweeping all things into a pile is genius. It is indeed weird, or maybe just unique, but I’m definitely going to copy it!
I discovered it while pregnant when I couldn’t bend over 😂 and it changed the game for me! Makes things so much less overwhelming when it’s just all one spot and not everywhere.
I started watching your channel when it was just a tiny thing, and I wanted to take a moment to say how proud I am of you! You are doing beautiful work taking care of your family, creating an engaging community through your TH-cam channel, and also writing a book! My goodness, I hope you take time to be proud of yourself. You are amazing.
(Just think of me as an extremely proud 59 year old Auntie with ADHD and anxiety who somehow managed to raise 3 amazing humans and in the end even figured out how to keep her home clean.)
I love the disclaimer loving the style and some aspects of the past trying recommended routines or menus does not mean you want to go back to that time and live it certainly doesn't mean you agree with those outdated dangerous things that were going on in those times (and happen still today ) glad to hear you have an equal partner that takes on as much as you
there are all types of relationships and roles people can take on in relationships I think as long as you and who your with are safe, trust each other, agree on whatever dynamics you have and are happy it's all good do you and live your best life :)
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and struggles. My son is one who is task focused. We've learned that in learning about his ADHD. It's just a fact that we deal with. At 27, he's learning to add in things. You are fabulous and have your priorities in line. Family is the most important. Much appreciation and Blessings.❤
Thank you for sharing your health issues, I think my daughter has this problem . And your dinner looked so tasty😊
I have also used my broom to sweep my table. It's just so handy.
My mom always swept everything into the center of the room, too. She is 80 now. Watching and listening to your ideas is really helping me. I cleaned with you this morning. Thank you!
Thank you! I've been on a 20-year journey to manage my own home and routines. Like you, I have a spicy brain and have had to learn what works for me. Something that really helps me is "body doubling" with your videos - so a HUGE THANKS to being great motivation and offering kind companionship : )
So many things were said in this video that were so powerful to me! You have such a way with words. I really appreciate you putting out this video! While you're the realest TH-camr I know, you're also the most insightful and impactful BEAUTIFUL mom I watch. No lie. Keep being you. I love your videos!
Love your videos. Downloaded that American Household Book and I love it. May have to save it on a thumb drive since it's 640 pages. Trolls are just jealous so just ignore them. You to me are a modern day version of Snow White, due to the hair, voice, and you do look like her. Living vintage pulls it all together. I'm 65 and prefer the 1930's version of the movie. As for your content, you're helping to make up for the lack of Home Economics in schools.
Please could you share what the kids are doing when you clean/get ready for the day. Especially the energetic little toddlers
Absolutely something I had to learn on my own , and the hard way, is to clean only one room and just that room or I would run myself ragged. I’m late diagnosed ADHD. just doing this, and being more gentle with myself has made things a little easier. I hope you are gentle with yourself as well.😊
My kids are all grown and gone. I struggled to stay on top of my home with 4 kids, homeschooling and land/animals to care for. Now that my house is quiet, I realize that I'm all over the place in my cleaning! 1000 tasks all at once because I'm seeing everything that needs to get done in each room I go to put something away in... im going to implement your strategy and see if I do better! Thanks for this video!
I think you are a lovely person, mom, and wife.❤
He so occupied with the washing up with mum. That was very cool the hand-jive saving your phone. Love your content,love family, keep up the good work 😉
Thank you for posting this video it is tremendously helpful. I work away from home and the last thing I want to do is clean and its only myself at home. Thankfully I am not a super messy woman. I do clean, the dishes, toilet, laundry, take out the trash, and sweep when needed.
I would love to live in the 1950s, I'd be the homemaker I always want to be, I am 50 and never married. Future TradWife in training.
You've probably gotten this recommendation before, but I just finished How to Keep House while Drowning by KC Davis. It's written by someone that is neurodivergent for neurodivergent people. I found it very accessible and learned some new tips as well as helping to accept that not being great at cleaning/keeping up with chores is not a moral failing. It's a quick read!
Thanks for recommending this, just got it on Audible ❤
Thank you for this video. It was just what I needed to see today. I struggle with the overwhelm and everything talked about in this video and your tips I think will really help me.
I have been doing the sweeping things into a pile thing for a few years now and it’s crazy how much it helps ❤
I love your channel! Don't worry about a perfect house. Make a perfect home for your family. Start letting your children "help". They are never too young to start taking care of themselves. Put away some of the stuff in labeled boxes. Like most children, we have too much stuff. A friend of mine, took a kitchen timer and a "toy" box ;she gave the children 15 minutes to get their toys in the box. Then mom picked up the toys and put them up out of reach. Her children had to buy back their toys. Her wonderful husband helped them earn money on Saturday, while she did the grocery shopping.
Thank you for sharing your tips. This reminded me that when I was a kid my mom (who has ADHD) wrote out a full list of steps on how to clean our bathroom. What order to do things and what supplies to use. It was on a page from a yellow legal pad and it lived in the cleaning caddy under the sink with all the supplies. When my sister and I cleaned the bathroom we referenced that paper religiously for years until we had the order memorized. I still use pretty much the same system for cleaning my bathroom today.
You are so beautiful and you make me feel so much better about my house, myself and give me so much more energy to tackle overwhelm by the attitude you have towards yourself.😊
You are a breath of fresh air!
Love watching all your content! I also have a difficult time getting up the energy, getting in the right headspace, etc to clean on a regular basis. Thanks for helping me know I’m not alone in that! Also, thank you for your stand on not monetizing your kids! ❤❤❤
Dinner looks delicious. I'll try my chicken that way soon.
I clean as I go in my kitchen on big cook or baking days, maybe even on an everyday basis. Primarily because my husband does the clean up and I like to make it easier on him, plus my kitchen is small & I need to empty the sink for the next thing. That's what works for me. You need to do what works for you.
I always liked doing laundry all in 1 day & there were years that with 6 kids, that meant my husband schlepped it all to the laundromat after work and brought it home where I or we would fold it. Now that it's just 2 of us, it's easily accomplished at home. He still does most of the carrying. Again, you do you.
From my perspective, you're pretty amazing.
I loved this video! Such good advice! The editing, the angels, and your home just lovely! Thanks for sharing!😍💖💖💖
Watching this during a break from trying get my house clean after a busy week. I can get easily overwhelmed by the amount of tasks to do, especially when I'm already burnt out from a busy week and trying to squeeze cleaning into a weekend. I sometimes have to remind myself to take breaks, but then I need to set a break timer so I'll get back to work. I find myself distracted by whatever I'm doing for a break and opps, there goes an hour or more when I only wanted to take about fifteen minutes.
On the other hand, I try, when I can, to work with my energy levels throughout the day, and rest longer when I need to, so I guess it's just a big balancing act for trying to stay motivated without wearing myself out working too long and too hard in any one block of time.
Love the fridge & stove.
I love that blue shoe and how it emerges from the pile! I'm writing a poem about that! Wait! The part about the phone is much more poetic! hahahahaha Love that! Also appreciate how you are NOT about monetizing your kids. Very important and people with videos are not thinking about what they are doing in that regard. You and your husband seem like great parents!
I’ve always struggled with “cleaning as I go”, I work as a baker and one of my previous employers had a lot of issues with me not cleaning as I went. She would passive aggressively clean my mess in front of me before I was finished with my baking. One of a quite few jobs I’ve lost due to the general public not understanding neurodivergent people