I do not know what i want. I'm 35 and feel tired of the life of motivation..i always remember when I was happiest in childhood or older years were those moments where i just wad here doing nothing. I just want to FEEL now in every moment even if i HAVE to get a job my ego doesn't like and is low vibe.. while i just want to be in forest and grow my own food ..but i can't see possiblity for that now. I want to be ok feel at peace whatever is going on with me. And I'm feeling so depressed that i do not feel joy..my heart feels closed.
I've noticed that I keep thinking I'll feel secure when: I get a raise, I pay off the credit cards, I sell my lot in the mountains, etc. I've done all of those things and I still don't have a sense of security. Apparently, it's an inside job. Thanks for the message, Kyle.
I resonate with this...I'm at a place where wanting a relationship, money, a house, car is not my biggest thing... I want to just know that what I'm doing is my purpose.
@@darleneatkinson6730 wow that's amazing and so true I'm also understanding what it is to truly love myself thanks for this message definitely confirmation for me ❤️❤️
@@darleneatkinson6730 thank you for your comment here! I was resonating with what ADW said, but still thought (I can see now that is conditioning after reading your comment), I had to DO something. And I haven't been able to do anything of late. I'm at so much more peace and joy, there really is no motivation to do anything. Before pain was the motivator. BE Love, is what I see in your message. Be Love loving me and be Love loving you, and be Love loving everyone, as we are One. Again,thank you. 😇
6:50 - I’ve had this same lesson from life: if I’m triggered, I do nothing. That’s a great practical application of wu wei. I learned that the result of any action cannot have a vibe different from the cause of that very action. As an artist, maybe I had this lesson from Art itself, as when things go wrong in our craft, stopping the work is the best alternative. We can take action out of a trigger, but the result will be a sequence of triggers until we stop and get back to the indifferent and peaceful self. It works not only in the case of being triggered, but also when we’re needy, sad, or sometimes even when we’re hungry and cannot go eat for some reason. We can choose doing nothing, enjoying the hunger and then eventually we’ll see the magic of a pizza coming out of the blue. This is a habit - or a practice - that certainly increases our trust in the flow of life.
The other option if your triggered particularly by other people is it’s meant to help you figure out you be compassionate and loving to both yourself and them.
@@SuperSarahbop yes, I understand that approach as a way to accept and assign meaning to situations, so it may work well as a solace of sorts, depending on your personal stance. But in my case, I'm removing from myself the need to find meaning. Life for me is essentially meaningless and this is not a reason for despair, but for freedom. If I'm triggered, that's it and it's just that, I'm triggered, that's all. There's nothing to "learn" from that. That's just my opinion and my own sense though, I repeat. I'm not in the position to convince anyone of that. For me, it's not a lesson, nor a stage towards something else, or a step towards a higher level... I cannot feel comfortable with the idea that the universe has this need to teach us some moral or ethical lessons, or the idea that some virtues are absolute, and then we would be supposed to embody those virtues... I don't sense that the universe is asserting anything onto us. I don't feel we're supposed to learn to love and be compassionate. On the contrary, we already ARE pure love and compassion. Yet now we're here precisely experiencing the opposite of love and compassion. So why would we come here just to be thoroughly oblivious of our true nature, to experience something different, and then we're supposed to get back to what we actually are? Getting out just to get back... Well, I don't need the answer to that "why". I think it's just what it is, and it doesn't need to make sense, I don't need to find meaning in it. I say that out of my own experience, not out of thoughts and intellectual work. In many meditations, I've been seeing all of that with my own inner sense, and experiencing the deepest meaninglessness of existence. And this is not disruptive, it's rather truly liberating.
This stirred up a lot for me. Having experienced childhood abuse, and an abusive relationship later in life, I lived most of my life learning to have no needs or wants, life revolved around someone else's wants. It wasn't until the past couple of years that I've really been able to notice just how deep that has gone, debilitating indecision (I couldn't even pick pizza toppings for a shared pizza), and how I eventually learned to use this to frame myself as being laid back/easy-going, not needing/wanting anything, but it was really just a continuation of what I had experienced with abusers, survival programming. I learned to accept this at the extremes, giving up even basic needs. So in that sense, I think it has been important for me to learn what I want/need, because it has been the process of reconnecting to myself, valuing myself, listening to my body, allowing myself to have a thought/a voice, learning what I might like or not like. The things I find I want are often simply needs - like rest - rather than THINGS. And much of it is what I have had to learn to give myself - like safety, calmness, healing, freedom, love. Beyond that...yes, I have often felt how you describe, realizing I have no idea what is possible so in terms of what do I want in life, what do I want in my career, etc, there is so much in my life I didn't realize was ever an option and I'm glad I had some degree of openness to explore the unknown to find/create beyond what I once knew possible. I'm now in so deep into this unknown path that it seems impossible to answer what I would want with my future in any concrete way, where I am going and who I will be doesn't exist yet. So pending the situation, I just have to be sure I check in to ensure I'm not in the survival programming pretending to be open and going with the flow when I actually need to tune in and make a decision/have a voice, vs the times where it is genuine openness and not feeling the pressure to define/limit what is possible thinking my limited brain knows best. I love the concept of even when we feel out of alignment, to consider that we are still in alignment - felt a weight lift in that moment, a confirmation nothing is actually WRONG and I haven't failed anything, and reminded me of how those moments always have wisdom within. Thank you!
Boy do I really like this. It used to bother me that I could not come up with anything that I want. I can finally put that to rest and be fine with not knowing what I want.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Every action is measured by the sentiment from which it precedes” - with that in mind, it’s no wonder the actions we take in our triggered state lead us nowhere.
💕 I just want to be peaceful and in harmony with source energy. Like I'm good enough exactly how I am here and now. I always feel like I'm just short of good enough. Like there is more I have to work on about myself in order to feel GOD'S GRACE AND FAVOR. i'm tired. It's wearing me out. I'm just going to stop listening to all the teaching videos. Listen to my own inner guide for awhile. To this point I'm all confused. So... Ty for all you've said that has guided me so far. I love you Kyle. ♥
Oh man, Life does it again! I was just given Living Untethered, the latest by Michael Singer. And for those that have read it, well- it’s what you’re pointing too here. Let go, of it all- preferences, likes, dislikes, “what I want”- and just let Life move through you. Ah, so freeing to the heart! It feels I’m finally tired enough of suffering to see that mind has no answers. No lasting happiness. So just get out of there! (I say to myself ☺️) Stop thinking! This is so beautiful, Kyle. Thank you, again, for listening long enough to hear this depth of Presence.
Yes yes yes!!! Thank you for clarifying that. If we are living in the present, then that question makes one revert back in the mind to lack in what is right now.
I knew from the title this was going to be the one issue I still struggle with despite making huge leaps spiritually. I'm in the same place. If someone says "what would you do if you could do anything?" or similar...I genuinely don't really know. I can come up with scenarios and things I would like, but then if I'm honest with myself I know most of those things come from ego, an illusion (like a certain amount of money will give me ultimate freedom for example) or trying to fill a void of various types. I even have the exact same issue of I've done a lot of things or felt forced to do a lot of things I DON'T want and I know all the things I don't want in my life. I feel I'm more constantly running from those again now than lined up with where I want to be (or more how I want to feel.) Even the whole urge to want to do something similar to this or another version of helping people I think is mostly still me thinking it will bring me self acceptance and purpose deep down. That's not to say I don't want to do it otherwise but I feel like those are the root wounds I'm still subconsciously trying to nail. I think I'll have to watch this one again, maybe even a few times as I can feel it but I know I need to really take it in and process it fully emotionally.
Cal, your comment here really resonates with me, and really gets to the heart of what I was asking in the question (I'm the Brigg he was responding to... Especially what you said about doing something similar or helping people. That is the thing I find myself struggling in over and over again. I've worked as a job as a therapist for a very long time. I'm now no longer drawn to this work in the same way but find myself thinking frequently about how I can somehow "manipulate" what I know and have done for so long into something I want. Feeling like I need to find purpose doing something and knowing that it is somehow what I really want. Thanks for your comment. It helps me.
Thank you, Kyle for this. Timing is impeccable for I have reached a stage in my healing, that I don't need to seek healing anymore, and so much of my identity had become wrapped around that. I am at such peace and joy in the now moment, I don't know what I want, and it has been a bit confusing, as I'm not used to that. I'm used to seeking, seeking, seeking, and now I am here. I'm having to acclimate to this new stage of which I'm grateful! Your message here is very affirming. Thank you. I also, love what you said, don't respond to life triggered. Magical! Thank you! 😺
Thank you. ❤️ I hope to stop seeking and yearning for healing too. Living in the present and not looking to a future in which "Life will be better" I guess is the key. 😊
This information is such a blessing. It provides Truth to feelings I had no idea how to explain to others or to myself. “What do I want” from a business endeavor I’m going into to help others heal, other than healing for as many as possible, I had no idea. When ‘pushed’ to come up with something, I defaulted to “to replace my current income”. Even that was a contraction because my true desire is to live in a world where income isn’t required for safety and security. Thank you for offering me understanding of these deep and meaningful feelings that before this video I could not explain. Indeed, what a blessing to be free from trying to conjure wants that I do not have because they are contractions to my Truth.
I'm doing a fasting thing similar to you. People that have known me my whole life are commenting on how good I look, clear skin, bright eyes. You got that same thing going on. Love me some autophagy !!
Thank you so much Kyle...so many points hit home. I especially love the 'heal the trigger' stop trying to 'do better' from the trigger. No wonder I've been going in circles and thinking something is wrong with me because I keep 'failing'. Whew. What a heavy weight lifted off of me right now. Thank you ☺️💐 🎶💞
Thank you for this view. I was the same wanting to know what I wanted but nothing would come. Then shaming myself for not knowing- that I must be doing something wrong because I don’t know what I want. How will I get what I want if “I” don’t even know. When , yes my higher self knows! Doesn’t everyone know what they want? Yet me still just not wanting. I never thought that it was ok to not know and that was ego wanting. Yes I want what is for the highest and best but there is not definition of what that is or looks like. Thank you for helping me see that not wanting IS ok - I’m ok in this state of being🙏
My phone glitched halfway through this video so I had to go to my history and click it again to keep watching... an ad popped up first, and the first thing it said was "what do you want?" 🤣 this energy is EVERYWHERE and my heart is GIDDY to know I've been on the right path to realizing that I am always ok where I am. Others, my family especially, will complain about where I am as if it affects them. It doesn't make my journey easier to perceive that I am letting them down in some way, and yet I still persist in feeling good where I am. Some days may feel like 2 steps forward and one step back but I can't let myself focus on the one step back. Because every day, "good" or "bad" is a gain in my books! Plus, I'm an artist, so I'm literally learning to restructure to my own personal truth that my perceived "negative" feelings are merely the growing pains which inspires me to create more art. Not even for the beauty of it, for art to me is the connective tissue through which we can understand each other as one and the same, no matter our differences
This work is transforming my entire life - I can't wait to see you and the team today! Thank you to you and the AEP team for creating this space and this community! 👏🏼💪🏼💖🥳🥰
“ I want to feel like what I’m doing is ok and that I’m ok with myself..” wow! That is so accurate. I couldn’t put it into words before but yes, that’s what I was wanting for a long time. I’m finding it now. That’s why I couldn’t figure out what I wanted and why I was unhappy. I’m getting more comfortable being me in the now.
My “wanting” was for a memory prior to the abuse that happened when I was three years old. For the years of longing of memories of what happened and why… What I have received, through this breaking through of the stories that I believed were me, I have found an innocent heart. ♥️ I have never received a memory. There are years of life that I don’t remember. But I’m more than grateful for this second childhood!✨🧚♀️
I feel so lost. I was forced to stay in a country for 14 years now I’m ‘free’ - returned to my homeland for a visit to taste it./ check out. Return next week. No idea 🤷♀️where I’m supposed to be what I’m meant to be doing… no actual home or job now… I’d love to stop feeling torn. Please please some advice 🤍🤍🤍🤍
OMG this video explained sooo much to me.. for years and years everyone keeps asking what do You want?? What do You want to do?? even I have asked myself that.. and I can never ever come up with an answer.. This has been the wrong question for me all along...It sooo takes the pressure off.. I have had to take a break from this many times.. cause thinking about it,, just physically hurt inside.. I felt like I was missing a part that everyone else had.. WOW... thank you sooo much for what you do.. ♥
Piyannah from Denmark We are not supposed to know. Life is living life and we are life. We don’t have to do anything but follow the inputs that arize. Bless you Kyle, february last year you inspired me to sit for two hours and………..blessings happened🙏🙌🏼
Wow the timing of this couldn't have been more timely. My mind gets stuck in a loop "what do I want", "I don't know". Yes I would love to have loving relationships both friends and romantically, to know I have value to offer but I'm also aware they're not my happiness. What I really want is to love myself and I don't know what that looks like either 😭 Thank you Kyle. This is what I needed to hear though 🙏
This message resonates so much for me, even though I'm only halfway through... Noticed the likes at the time were 401, with 41 comments, and curiously I'm staying at a hotel room number 401...
It’s been a while since I’ve watched any of your content; not for any particular reason. I just wanted to state how helpful this video was to me today; so glad i decided to stay for the whole thing. You are amazing
Mmm, this felt deliciously good. While listening, I remembered that before awakening to self awareness, before doing allllll the "shadow work" & learning spiritual labels/techniques etc ~ I thought like this. I felt the truth of this, and I trusted, through one of the most turbulent & violent times in my life. Now, as I meet another interesting shift, which wanted to draw panic from me, I'm remembering how to trust again & pull myself out of heavy emotions when they still try to show up, briefly. This helped immensely. Thank you Kyle 🙏🏼
Oh my! Perfect Kyle. Thank you 🙏 ‘Always in alignment regardless’ … we are moving beyond…! WOW! What we Perceive on the external is what we need on the internal! WOW! This is Brilliant ! X
Thanks, Kyle for the usual insight and rapid healing therapy. Your psychoanalytic skills are always superb. So blessed to be a member of the AEP community.
“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life-daily and hourly. ~Viktor Frankl
Wow.... I had not recognized how much "inspired action" I've taken from a triggered place... even a "positive" trigger. And none of it worked. Like... YEARS of diets, business plans, relationship goals. Hmmm.
Kyle, thanks so much for your thoughts about my question. It helped me so much. The idea that trying to answer the question of what I what is contracting and takes me away from me and being here now was spot on. And wanting what I don't want... that's really great. Thank you and so much love. Brigg
Omg…thank you thank you thank you. I’ve felt like this forever and have taken so much ridicule and been shamed so much for it. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME! I AM WHERE I’M SUPPOSED TO BE DOING WHAT I’M SUPPOSED TO DO.
Absolutely Amazing 👏 thank you for everything you do! Inspiring, mind blowing, divine truths. ✨️ 💖☯️ Wish I could Hug you! 🫂 and so I will hug myself 🫂🤗
Yes true on the absolute plane: but our separate self, we humans have dreams and visions of life and it’s healthy and natural to want to pursue it and better your life situation instead of living in misery. In fact this is growth.
Love this - if I am triggered I do nothing!! I have been slowly integrating this over the last 6 mths or so, and it offers an interesting space of reflection. Because, if I am triggered it is something that I need to address regardless of the delivery method from the other person (words, actions). It really helps remove the "why did they do this/that etc..". and offers me the place to sit and not react but to breathe and let the feelings show up, do their happy dance & then pass through. After everything settles down - I can make a different decision/respond a different way for myself and for them. It is actually such beautiful awareness and so freeing💜...
Just had a bit of an epiphany on the whole trope of women wanting to vent and men trying to problem solve: even if there is a "solution" present, that solution wouldn't be authentic (or accepted) from a triggered place (as per 8:16). So trying to problem solve in a containment space is just moot. (And I'm fully aware that, if possible, it's best for the upset person to communicate "I need to vent" as a preface to that).
I’m sorry buddy but if you don’t believe in good and evil then you will never figure out what you truly are. They DO exist and they both exist WITHIN you. What you have done is turned from it because it’s harder to accept. When we see a child laugh and be marry with its family in their front yard, it makes our heart swell and we can’t help but smile. Yet say we are watching a movie and we see someone cut someone down with a warriors fury our eyes might widen and we feel our heart skip a beat as some adrenaline is pumped through our system before we quickly shake free from the feel preferring to pretend like you didn’t just get excited. And the realization that this can be applied to any evil makes you realize that we aren’t so different from the most atrocious monsters of history can be to much for a person to except. Good and evil do exist and we are the ones that commit them. If you want to understand yourself then you HAVE to accept this otherwise the only thing your exploring is your imagination which I don’t disapprove of. I’m an escapist often times so I value the ability to explore worlds of your own creation using your experiences as a template.
Wow, Thanks Kyle. 😊 That's exactly how I feel when I think about that question. I did asked myself that question recently and I don't have and answer. 🕉 I guess it's time to rejoin the everything pass 😃.
Thank you for this video Kyle. There's so much I've been doing lately that a deeper part of me kind of knew was still 'trying to get into alignment'. This video has given me permission to not 'know', AND to know that's OK. 🙏
“It is perfectly possible to get what you think you want and be miserable. It’s possible too, to never get it but deeply enjoy the process of trying. In this world, there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.” - Oscar Wilde Edit, I just remembered this really good thing that just happened. I was going to see someone I hadn't seen for years who always left me with really horrible feelings - not the only person who I responded like that to, i.e. me not them. As soon as I knew I was going to be seeing them and immediately felt anxious, the thought that came to mind was 'what a perfect opportunity to get to grips with this painful pattern I've suffered from my whole life'. Instead of trying to put it from my mind I dwelled on it each time I found myself dreading it, thinking back to all of the times I've wanted to crawl under a table and disappear when I encounter this particular kind of person. I kept saying to myself 'I see you', 'I see how painful this has been for you' etc., had one really good cry for just how obliterated I've felt after these things for DECADES and how I've 'dealt' with this by avoiding this sort of person to the point of avoiding, well, most people. Then, I see now, it stopped occurring to me, I forgot about it, saw the person and didn't even realise until afterwards that I'd had no emotional reaction at all, it was a full non-event - it just disappeared.
Wowza. I listened to this live, but listening now, the day after Expansion First, two days after I had the chance to move through some big stuff with Kyle in Day One.... I hear it in a whole new way... or at least with so much more clarity and simplicity. I still don't "understand," but that's okay. I do not have to understand. It's No Understand August and I am happy to let it all marinate within! Thank you for posting this short clip to remind of the profoundness of the call.
It's like you tapped into my psyche and created this video personally for me. My current dilemma is I have all this energy inside me that I am wanting to put somewhere. When I don't pour my energy into work/projects I start feeling depressed as if my energy was wasted. Is this my own delusion of wanting/needing something?
I just had my most profound aha moment ever. King Solomon, when he literally could've asked for the world, instead wanted only wisdom to fulfill what he knew was his life's purpose. What if, collectively humanity simply wanted to commit fully to its calling?
I joined the absolutely everything pass yesterday, what you give freely is worth it, if I never log in lol cuz sometimes I sign up and don't log in. I appreciate this free content so much, it's my offering that's also a gift to myself. I needed this one so much. Thank you 💞. This is realizing I'm further along the journey when I thought I was lost. And this my saying, you have to get lost to get found.
Holy shit! When the speaker asked you what do you want a hundred million followers that was the highest level of expansion that he may have thought of. Whereas you had a deeper more profound desire which is a billion times more expansive. I get this now on such a deeeeep level. I just wanna be ok with whatever in the now is so much more freeing than getting to ab arbitrary number of fans or money coz, then what????!!!!!!
I’m coming from an overwhelming triggered place of the pull towards non duality and resisting it as an unsafe space. So I’m sitting with the discomfort and despair and confusion and rawness of not feeling love for anything despite what ‘they’ tell me should be a feeling of freedom and love. No longer a story, just this discomfort, which I guess is still the story. It’s unexplainable to friends and family.
To whoever it was who said they need their ritual and crystals, yes you can manage without them, but we do need our hands for a quick (or long) chakra balance. We have everything we need with our hands and intentions etc. I’m mentioning this because it wasn’t mentioned, so yes certain things our needed! He’s addressing what we don’t need outside. I have to say as much as I’m good now at chakra clearing in silence k do sometimes “need” the singing bowls etc. but I know don’t need them. Because I successfully do self reiki without sound but once in a while I feel better using the sound. My point is I know we don’t need it. But we have it, hope that makes sense 💖
Beautiful, recently my main intention is knowing myself as the "dimension tripper", which wants 0 and is perfect. My spiritual ego is in a state of falling apart which hurts because I consider myself to be that even if I am being self-conscious of this now. It is giving me 2 binary choices, now it's time to try to not die and not retreat into "cool knowledge".
As of last week I managed to stop my food addiction. I had been trying to fill up the emptiness inside of me caused from childhood trauma. I’ve lost that bottomless hunger. How? I recognized the legacy of childhood trauma in a very public family that must go back generations. The father abusing the son. And the fathers father probably doing that too and so on and so on. As this dawned on me how tragic for them I felt so much compassion for their suffering. I prayed for their hearts to be healed. It’s in that moment something changed in me. July has been tough just low energy and foggy feeling up to this point. My heart lifted up and something inside healed. I’ve been learning that when we see things we don’t like that are triggering in others it’s about ourselves. Love heals
Ok I love relationship with my crystals & stones...at first when they weren't with me I felt 'naked'...in the now I notice not have them on, stop notice & feel I still have a relationship with them but my relationship with my inner God self more important. I am an aspect Of God Source as are the stones, thus we are a part of one another in any given moment. Peace be with every aspect of You
I always thought there was something wrong with me, like in school when they asked, what do want to be when you grow up? Everyone seem to have an answer but me. Wish I could have said I don't know, let me grow up first!
Oh my gosh! I hate that question too-what do you want? I’ve never been able to answer this and I spin my wheels trying to find an answer and just feel worse than when I started. “That question is a contraction… “ 🤯
My ego self feels like to have someone in my life strongly , And I am like no I want to be strong enough I don't want anything,how can I know here whats missing inside of me????
Kyle, what do I do about a bad tattoo. It is giving me negative thoughts every time I look at it and sometimes I feel ok about it but other times not. I was thinking about blacking it out but idk I feel really stupid about it.
I do not know what i want. I'm 35 and feel tired of the life of motivation..i always remember when I was happiest in childhood or older years were those moments where i just wad here doing nothing. I just want to FEEL now in every moment even if i HAVE to get a job my ego doesn't like and is low vibe.. while i just want to be in forest and grow my own food ..but i can't see possiblity for that now. I want to be ok feel at peace whatever is going on with me. And I'm feeling so depressed that i do not feel joy..my heart feels closed.
Thats just like me bro except i dont want to grow my own food, too much work dawg.
I've noticed that I keep thinking I'll feel secure when: I get a raise, I pay off the credit cards, I sell my lot in the mountains, etc. I've done all of those things and I still don't have a sense of security. Apparently, it's an inside job. Thanks for the message, Kyle.
Great answer, helpful, thanks
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I resonate with this...I'm at a place where wanting a relationship, money, a house, car is not my biggest thing... I want to just know that what I'm doing is my purpose.
ASW, love your comment, I am 64 years on earth and found out Love me, Love you that is our purpose in life love ourselves even if you do nothing.
@@darleneatkinson6730 wow that's amazing and so true I'm also understanding what it is to truly love myself thanks for this message definitely confirmation for me ❤️❤️
@@darleneatkinson6730 thank you for your comment here! I was resonating with what ADW said, but still thought (I can see now that is conditioning after reading your comment), I had to DO something. And I haven't been able to do anything of late. I'm at so much more peace and joy, there really is no motivation to do anything. Before pain was the motivator. BE Love, is what I see in your message. Be Love loving me and be Love loving you, and be Love loving everyone, as we are One. Again,thank you. 😇
I remember reading the statement ..we are not “human doings” we are human beings 😊
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6:50 - I’ve had this same lesson from life: if I’m triggered, I do nothing. That’s a great practical application of wu wei.
I learned that the result of any action cannot have a vibe different from the cause of that very action. As an artist, maybe I had this lesson from Art itself, as when things go wrong in our craft, stopping the work is the best alternative.
We can take action out of a trigger, but the result will be a sequence of triggers until we stop and get back to the indifferent and peaceful self.
It works not only in the case of being triggered, but also when we’re needy, sad, or sometimes even when we’re hungry and cannot go eat for some reason. We can choose doing nothing, enjoying the hunger and then eventually we’ll see the magic of a pizza coming out of the blue. This is a habit - or a practice - that certainly increases our trust in the flow of life.
Acceptance
The other option if your triggered particularly by other people is it’s meant to help you figure out you be compassionate and loving to both yourself and them.
@@SuperSarahbop yes, I understand that approach as a way to accept and assign meaning to situations, so it may work well as a solace of sorts, depending on your personal stance. But in my case, I'm removing from myself the need to find meaning.
Life for me is essentially meaningless and this is not a reason for despair, but for freedom. If I'm triggered, that's it and it's just that, I'm triggered, that's all. There's nothing to "learn" from that. That's just my opinion and my own sense though, I repeat. I'm not in the position to convince anyone of that.
For me, it's not a lesson, nor a stage towards something else, or a step towards a higher level... I cannot feel comfortable with the idea that the universe has this need to teach us some moral or ethical lessons, or the idea that some virtues are absolute, and then we would be supposed to embody those virtues... I don't sense that the universe is asserting anything onto us.
I don't feel we're supposed to learn to love and be compassionate. On the contrary, we already ARE pure love and compassion. Yet now we're here precisely experiencing the opposite of love and compassion. So why would we come here just to be thoroughly oblivious of our true nature, to experience something different, and then we're supposed to get back to what we actually are? Getting out just to get back... Well, I don't need the answer to that "why". I think it's just what it is, and it doesn't need to make sense, I don't need to find meaning in it.
I say that out of my own experience, not out of thoughts and intellectual work. In many meditations, I've been seeing all of that with my own inner sense, and experiencing the deepest meaninglessness of existence. And this is not disruptive, it's rather truly liberating.
This is a really interesting perspective. Thanks for sharing it.
This stirred up a lot for me. Having experienced childhood abuse, and an abusive relationship later in life, I lived most of my life learning to have no needs or wants, life revolved around someone else's wants. It wasn't until the past couple of years that I've really been able to notice just how deep that has gone, debilitating indecision (I couldn't even pick pizza toppings for a shared pizza), and how I eventually learned to use this to frame myself as being laid back/easy-going, not needing/wanting anything, but it was really just a continuation of what I had experienced with abusers, survival programming. I learned to accept this at the extremes, giving up even basic needs. So in that sense, I think it has been important for me to learn what I want/need, because it has been the process of reconnecting to myself, valuing myself, listening to my body, allowing myself to have a thought/a voice, learning what I might like or not like. The things I find I want are often simply needs - like rest - rather than THINGS. And much of it is what I have had to learn to give myself - like safety, calmness, healing, freedom, love. Beyond that...yes, I have often felt how you describe, realizing I have no idea what is possible so in terms of what do I want in life, what do I want in my career, etc, there is so much in my life I didn't realize was ever an option and I'm glad I had some degree of openness to explore the unknown to find/create beyond what I once knew possible. I'm now in so deep into this unknown path that it seems impossible to answer what I would want with my future in any concrete way, where I am going and who I will be doesn't exist yet. So pending the situation, I just have to be sure I check in to ensure I'm not in the survival programming pretending to be open and going with the flow when I actually need to tune in and make a decision/have a voice, vs the times where it is genuine openness and not feeling the pressure to define/limit what is possible thinking my limited brain knows best. I love the concept of even when we feel out of alignment, to consider that we are still in alignment - felt a weight lift in that moment, a confirmation nothing is actually WRONG and I haven't failed anything, and reminded me of how those moments always have wisdom within. Thank you!
I really resonate with this comment
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I appreciate the read and understanding ❤
very eloquently said!
Boy do I really like this. It used to bother me that I could not come up with anything that I want. I can finally put that to rest and be fine with not knowing what I want.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Every action is measured by the sentiment from which it precedes” - with that in mind, it’s no wonder the actions we take in our triggered state lead us nowhere.
Perhaps the best answer would be; I want what the divine wants for me. 🙏
Love this!!
Always
Only thing I want
💕 I just want to be peaceful and in harmony with source energy. Like I'm good enough exactly how I am here and now. I always feel like I'm just short of good enough. Like there is more I have to work on about myself in order to feel GOD'S GRACE AND FAVOR. i'm tired. It's wearing me out. I'm just going to stop listening to all the teaching videos. Listen to my own inner guide for awhile. To this point I'm all confused. So... Ty for all you've said that has guided me so far. I love you Kyle. ♥
Oh man, Life does it again! I was just given Living Untethered, the latest by Michael Singer. And for those that have read it, well- it’s what you’re pointing too here. Let go, of it all- preferences, likes, dislikes, “what I want”- and just let Life move through you.
Ah, so freeing to the heart! It feels I’m finally tired enough of suffering to see that mind has no answers. No lasting happiness. So just get out of there! (I say to myself ☺️) Stop thinking!
This is so beautiful, Kyle. Thank you, again, for listening long enough to hear this depth of Presence.
Yes yes yes!!! Thank you for clarifying that. If we are living in the present, then that question makes one revert back in the mind to lack in what is right now.
Yes, this message is resonating with me. I feel like I just want to be. My higher self is saying “have fun”
I knew from the title this was going to be the one issue I still struggle with despite making huge leaps spiritually.
I'm in the same place. If someone says "what would you do if you could do anything?" or similar...I genuinely don't really know. I can come up with scenarios and things I would like, but then if I'm honest with myself I know most of those things come from ego, an illusion (like a certain amount of money will give me ultimate freedom for example) or trying to fill a void of various types. I even have the exact same issue of I've done a lot of things or felt forced to do a lot of things I DON'T want and I know all the things I don't want in my life. I feel I'm more constantly running from those again now than lined up with where I want to be (or more how I want to feel.)
Even the whole urge to want to do something similar to this or another version of helping people I think is mostly still me thinking it will bring me self acceptance and purpose deep down. That's not to say I don't want to do it otherwise but I feel like those are the root wounds I'm still subconsciously trying to nail.
I think I'll have to watch this one again, maybe even a few times as I can feel it but I know I need to really take it in and process it fully emotionally.
Same here. But then also the ego kicks in and says “these are all tricks you’re playing to procrastinate and do nothing “
Running. Yes. I do that. i also keep hoping there is a reason or purpose and someone is going to hand it to me on a you tube video:)
Cal, your comment here really resonates with me, and really gets to the heart of what I was asking in the question (I'm the Brigg he was responding to... Especially what you said about doing something similar or helping people. That is the thing I find myself struggling in over and over again. I've worked as a job as a therapist for a very long time. I'm now no longer drawn to this work in the same way but find myself thinking frequently about how I can somehow "manipulate" what I know and have done for so long into something I want. Feeling like I need to find purpose doing something and knowing that it is somehow what I really want. Thanks for your comment. It helps me.
Thank you, Kyle for this. Timing is impeccable for I have reached a stage in my healing, that I don't need to seek healing anymore, and so much of my identity had become wrapped around that. I am at such peace and joy in the now moment, I don't know what I want, and it has been a bit confusing, as I'm not used to that. I'm used to seeking, seeking, seeking, and now I am here. I'm having to acclimate to this new stage of which I'm grateful! Your message here is very affirming. Thank you. I also, love what you said, don't respond to life triggered. Magical! Thank you! 😺
Thank you. ❤️ I hope to stop seeking and yearning for healing too. Living in the present and not looking to a future in which "Life will be better" I guess is the key. 😊
This information is such a blessing. It provides Truth to feelings I had no idea how to explain to others or to myself. “What do I want” from a business endeavor I’m going into to help others heal, other than healing for as many as possible, I had no idea. When ‘pushed’ to come up with something, I defaulted to “to replace my current income”. Even that was a contraction because my true desire is to live in a world where income isn’t required for safety and security. Thank you for offering me understanding of these deep and meaningful feelings that before this video I could not explain. Indeed, what a blessing to be free from trying to conjure wants that I do not have because they are contractions to my Truth.
I'm doing a fasting thing similar to you. People that have known me my whole life are commenting on how good I look, clear skin, bright eyes. You got that same thing going on. Love me some autophagy !!
I noticed that too, when looking back at Kyle’s older videos. The radiance in him now is striking.
Thank you so much Kyle...so many points hit home. I especially love the 'heal the trigger' stop trying to 'do better' from the trigger. No wonder I've been going in circles and thinking something is wrong with me because I keep 'failing'. Whew. What a heavy weight lifted off of me right now. Thank you ☺️💐 🎶💞
Thank you for this view. I was the same wanting to know what I wanted but nothing would come. Then shaming myself for not knowing- that I must be doing something wrong because I don’t know what I want. How will I get what I want if “I” don’t even know. When , yes my higher self knows! Doesn’t everyone know what they want? Yet me still just not wanting. I never thought that it was ok to not know and that was ego wanting. Yes I want what is for the highest and best but there is not definition of what that is or looks like. Thank you for helping me see that not wanting IS ok - I’m ok in this state of being🙏
Brilliant…A super accessible clear concise explanation of a subtle dynamic we all experience but can’t contextualize.
My phone glitched halfway through this video so I had to go to my history and click it again to keep watching... an ad popped up first, and the first thing it said was "what do you want?" 🤣 this energy is EVERYWHERE and my heart is GIDDY to know I've been on the right path to realizing that I am always ok where I am. Others, my family especially, will complain about where I am as if it affects them. It doesn't make my journey easier to perceive that I am letting them down in some way, and yet I still persist in feeling good where I am. Some days may feel like 2 steps forward and one step back but I can't let myself focus on the one step back. Because every day, "good" or "bad" is a gain in my books! Plus, I'm an artist, so I'm literally learning to restructure to my own personal truth that my perceived "negative" feelings are merely the growing pains which inspires me to create more art. Not even for the beauty of it, for art to me is the connective tissue through which we can understand each other as one and the same, no matter our differences
Yes!!! This resonates with me even though my mind doesn’t fully grasp it! What I want is to love what is. 💕
This work is transforming my entire life - I can't wait to see you and the team today! Thank you to you and the AEP team for creating this space and this community! 👏🏼💪🏼💖🥳🥰
“ I want to feel like what I’m doing is ok and that I’m ok with myself..” wow! That is so accurate. I couldn’t put it into words before but yes, that’s what I was wanting for a long time. I’m finding it now. That’s why I couldn’t figure out what I wanted and why I was unhappy. I’m getting more comfortable being me in the now.
My “wanting” was for a memory prior to the abuse that happened when I was three years old.
For the years of longing of memories of what happened and why…
What I have received, through this breaking through of the stories that I believed were me, I have found an innocent heart. ♥️
I have never received a memory.
There are years of life that I don’t remember. But I’m more than grateful for this second childhood!✨🧚♀️
A person's age, karma and level of consciousness is a huge factor in this discussion. Great talk❤
Yes and we are where we need to be now
I feel so lost. I was forced to stay in a country for 14 years now I’m ‘free’ - returned to my homeland for a visit to taste it./ check out. Return next week. No idea 🤷♀️where I’m supposed to be what I’m meant to be doing… no actual home or job now… I’d love to stop feeling torn. Please please some advice 🤍🤍🤍🤍
OMG this video explained sooo much to me.. for years and years everyone keeps asking what do You want?? What do You want to do?? even I have asked myself that.. and I can never ever come up with an answer.. This has been the wrong question for me all along...It sooo takes the pressure off.. I have had to take a break from this many times.. cause thinking about it,, just physically hurt inside.. I felt like I was missing a part that everyone else had.. WOW... thank you sooo much for what you do.. ♥
Always getting straight to the heart of everything!
Oh my goodness. I always felt this was true but was told I’m not dreaming big enough if I don’t know what I want. Thank you so much.
Piyannah from Denmark
We are not supposed to know.
Life is living life and we are life.
We don’t have to do anything but follow the inputs that arize. Bless you Kyle, february last year you inspired me to sit for two hours and………..blessings happened🙏🙌🏼
The famous guy who asked Kyle what he wants, sounds like what Tony Robbins would ask.
Wow the timing of this couldn't have been more timely. My mind gets stuck in a loop "what do I want", "I don't know". Yes I would love to have loving relationships both friends and romantically, to know I have value to offer but I'm also aware they're not my happiness. What I really want is to love myself and I don't know what that looks like either 😭 Thank you Kyle. This is what I needed to hear though 🙏
This message resonates so much for me, even though I'm only halfway through... Noticed the likes at the time were 401, with 41 comments, and curiously I'm staying at a hotel room number 401...
I just realised I have/am happiness. I just need to release myself from the unhappiness that is preventingit from showing up! Wow light bulb 💡 moment
Looooooooooooooooooooooove this!! thank you! always so relaxing to watch your videos.
Breathing in gratitude. I know that I know nothing and it is well with my soul.
It’s been a while since I’ve watched any of your content; not for any particular reason. I just wanted to state how helpful this video was to me today; so glad i decided to stay for the whole thing. You are amazing
Mmm, this felt deliciously good.
While listening, I remembered that before awakening to self awareness, before doing allllll the "shadow work" & learning spiritual labels/techniques etc ~ I thought like this. I felt the truth of this, and I trusted, through one of the most turbulent & violent times in my life.
Now, as I meet another interesting shift, which wanted to draw panic from me, I'm remembering how to trust again & pull myself out of heavy emotions when they still try to show up, briefly. This helped immensely. Thank you Kyle 🙏🏼
Not doing anything from a triggered place is epic!
Incredible video Kyle. Perfect timing. Everything we need is within
I'm here... now
Thanks bud.. your pure gold
I want my own home,my own small space where I will be so happy with a garden and my own space. I find happiness now but oh to be content..
I also want my own space, best of luck to you :)
Do nothing from a trigger. Don’t get discouraged as this will take time but being aware is the first step.
I've done the bouncing from place to place to try to solve the safety issue. You verbalize that really well. Love this one
Oh my! Perfect Kyle. Thank you 🙏 ‘Always in alignment regardless’ … we are moving beyond…! WOW! What we Perceive on the external is what we need on the internal! WOW! This is Brilliant ! X
Allow our inner committee to deliberate, and you are the commissioner.
The universe knows what we need for our expansion, simple and profound !!
I resonate with this so much. I’ve always had problems answering that question. I’m content without the things most people want.
So true! Surrender to blend with present reality, and align with what your soul needs now.
Thanks, Kyle for the usual insight and rapid healing therapy. Your psychoanalytic skills are always superb. So blessed to be a member of the AEP community.
Brilliance 🔥 I want presence, mindfulness, gratitude and love
“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life-daily and hourly.
~Viktor Frankl
Wow.... I had not recognized how much "inspired action" I've taken from a triggered place... even a "positive" trigger. And none of it worked. Like... YEARS of diets, business plans, relationship goals. Hmmm.
Kyle, thanks so much for your thoughts about my question. It helped me so much. The idea that trying to answer the question of what I what is contracting and takes me away from me and being here now was spot on. And wanting what I don't want... that's really great. Thank you and so much love. Brigg
Omg…thank you thank you thank you. I’ve felt like this forever and have taken so much ridicule and been shamed so much for it. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME! I AM WHERE I’M SUPPOSED TO BE DOING WHAT I’M SUPPOSED TO DO.
Absolutely Amazing 👏 thank you for everything you do! Inspiring, mind blowing, divine truths. ✨️ 💖☯️
Wish I could Hug you! 🫂 and so I will hug myself 🫂🤗
Yes true on the absolute plane: but our separate self, we humans have dreams and visions of life and it’s healthy and natural to want to pursue it and better your life situation instead of living in misery. In fact this is growth.
Love this - if I am triggered I do nothing!! I have been slowly integrating this over the last 6 mths or so, and it offers an interesting space of reflection. Because, if I am triggered it is something that I need to address regardless of the delivery method from the other person (words, actions). It really helps remove the "why did they do this/that etc..". and offers me the place to sit and not react but to breathe and let the feelings show up, do their happy dance & then pass through. After everything settles down - I can make a different decision/respond a different way for myself and for them. It is actually such beautiful awareness and so freeing💜...
A miracle would not suffice for me. I feel sooo lost... What's bigger, stronger... ...higher in hierarchy than *miracle* ? That! I need that.
That was an amazing call. Such wisdom. Thank you Kyle❤️
That question doesn't compute for me either. Everything comes to me. Thanks Kyle.
Obviously I’m seeing this now because I’m ready for it. This answers the questions I’ve been asking source for help. Thank you! 🙏🥰🤗
Just had a bit of an epiphany on the whole trope of women wanting to vent and men trying to problem solve: even if there is a "solution" present, that solution wouldn't be authentic (or accepted) from a triggered place (as per 8:16). So trying to problem solve in a containment space is just moot. (And I'm fully aware that, if possible, it's best for the upset person to communicate "I need to vent" as a preface to that).
I’m sorry buddy but if you don’t believe in good and evil then you will never figure out what you truly are. They DO exist and they both exist WITHIN you. What you have done is turned from it because it’s harder to accept. When we see a child laugh and be marry with its family in their front yard, it makes our heart swell and we can’t help but smile. Yet say we are watching a movie and we see someone cut someone down with a warriors fury our eyes might widen and we feel our heart skip a beat as some adrenaline is pumped through our system before we quickly shake free from the feel preferring to pretend like you didn’t just get excited. And the realization that this can be applied to any evil makes you realize that we aren’t so different from the most atrocious monsters of history can be to much for a person to except. Good and evil do exist and we are the ones that commit them. If you want to understand yourself then you HAVE to accept this otherwise the only thing your exploring is your imagination which I don’t disapprove of. I’m an escapist often times so I value the ability to explore worlds of your own creation using your experiences as a template.
Wow, Thanks Kyle. 😊 That's exactly how I feel when I think about that question. I did asked myself that question recently and I don't have and answer. 🕉 I guess it's time to rejoin the everything pass 😃.
Another important message! Thanks Kyle!
Wow, thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear right now.
Thank you for this video Kyle. There's so much I've been doing lately that a deeper part of me kind of knew was still 'trying to get into alignment'. This video has given me permission to not 'know', AND to know that's OK. 🙏
“It is perfectly possible to get what you think you want and be miserable. It’s possible too, to never get it but deeply enjoy the process of trying. In this world, there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.”
- Oscar Wilde
Edit, I just remembered this really good thing that just happened. I was going to see someone I hadn't seen for years who always left me with really horrible feelings - not the only person who I responded like that to, i.e. me not them. As soon as I knew I was going to be seeing them and immediately felt anxious, the thought that came to mind was 'what a perfect opportunity to get to grips with this painful pattern I've suffered from my whole life'. Instead of trying to put it from my mind I dwelled on it each time I found myself dreading it, thinking back to all of the times I've wanted to crawl under a table and disappear when I encounter this particular kind of person. I kept saying to myself 'I see you', 'I see how painful this has been for you' etc., had one really good cry for just how obliterated I've felt after these things for DECADES and how I've 'dealt' with this by avoiding this sort of person to the point of avoiding, well, most people. Then, I see now, it stopped occurring to me, I forgot about it, saw the person and didn't even realise until afterwards that I'd had no emotional reaction at all, it was a full non-event - it just disappeared.
Wowza. I listened to this live, but listening now, the day after Expansion First, two days after I had the chance to move through some big stuff with Kyle in Day One.... I hear it in a whole new way... or at least with so much more clarity and simplicity. I still don't "understand," but that's okay. I do not have to understand. It's No Understand August and I am happy to let it all marinate within! Thank you for posting this short clip to remind of the profoundness of the call.
It's like you tapped into my psyche and created this video personally for me.
My current dilemma is I have all this energy inside me that I am wanting to put somewhere. When I don't pour my energy into work/projects I start feeling depressed as if my energy was wasted. Is this my own delusion of wanting/needing something?
Totally relate to this.
I just had my most profound aha moment ever. King Solomon, when he literally could've asked for the world, instead wanted only wisdom to fulfill what he knew was his life's purpose.
What if, collectively humanity simply wanted to commit fully to its calling?
I joined the absolutely everything pass yesterday, what you give freely is worth it, if I never log in lol cuz sometimes I sign up and don't log in.
I appreciate this free content so much, it's my offering that's also a gift to myself.
I needed this one so much. Thank you 💞.
This is realizing I'm further along the journey when I thought I was lost.
And this my saying, you have to get lost to get found.
Holy shit! When the speaker asked you what do you want a hundred million followers that was the highest level of expansion that he may have thought of. Whereas you had a deeper more profound desire which is a billion times more expansive. I get this now on such a deeeeep level. I just wanna be ok with whatever in the now is so much more freeing than getting to ab arbitrary number of fans or money coz, then what????!!!!!!
I’m coming from an overwhelming triggered place of the pull towards non duality and resisting it as an unsafe space. So I’m sitting with the discomfort and despair and confusion and rawness of not feeling love for anything despite what ‘they’ tell me should be a feeling of freedom and love. No longer a story, just this discomfort, which I guess is still the story.
It’s unexplainable to friends and family.
Thank you Kyle🙏🏻✨ Your warm, genuine energy is very comforting 😇
To whoever it was who said they need their ritual and crystals, yes you can manage without them, but we do need our hands for a quick (or long) chakra balance. We have everything we need with our hands and intentions etc. I’m mentioning this because it wasn’t mentioned, so yes certain things our needed! He’s addressing what we don’t need outside. I have to say as much as I’m good now at chakra clearing in silence k do sometimes “need” the singing bowls etc. but I know don’t need them. Because I successfully do self reiki without sound but once in a while I feel better using the sound. My point is I know we don’t need it. But we have it, hope that makes sense 💖
We are on heart war.. ..all other is illudion even you can make big things......
Beautiful, recently my main intention is knowing myself as the "dimension tripper", which wants 0 and is perfect.
My spiritual ego is in a state of falling apart which hurts because I consider myself to be that even if I am being self-conscious of this now.
It is giving me 2 binary choices, now it's time to try to not die and not retreat into "cool knowledge".
As of last week I managed to stop my food addiction. I had been trying to fill up the emptiness inside of me caused from childhood trauma. I’ve lost that bottomless hunger.
How? I recognized the legacy of childhood trauma in a very public family that must go back generations. The father abusing the son. And the fathers father probably doing that too and so on and so on. As this dawned on me how tragic for them I felt so much compassion for their suffering. I prayed for their hearts to be healed. It’s in that moment something changed in me. July has been tough just low energy and foggy feeling up to this point. My heart lifted up and something inside healed.
I’ve been learning that when we see things we don’t like that are triggering in others it’s about ourselves. Love heals
Yes, benefit to detriment ratio
Ok I love relationship with my crystals & stones...at first when they weren't with me I felt 'naked'...in the now I notice not have them on, stop notice & feel I still have a relationship with them but my relationship with my inner God self more important. I am an aspect Of God Source as are the stones, thus we are a part of one another in any given moment. Peace be with every aspect of You
I always thought there was something wrong with me, like in school when they asked, what do want to be when you grow up? Everyone seem to have an answer but me. Wish I could have said I don't know, let me grow up first!
I love this, I love you as a reflection of me, thank you💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Querido Kyle, seria maravilhoso se vc tivesse seu canal também dublado, em português brasileiro.
Um grande beijo!
Oh my gosh! I hate that question too-what do you want? I’ve never been able to answer this and I spin my wheels trying to find an answer and just feel worse than when I started. “That question is a contraction… “ 🤯
I'm so greatfull I found your channel its my second video and I'm in tears already. Thank you
Wow. What a awesome, beautiful and powerful message ❤️.
I was on the AEP and heard this the first time and loved it. Listening again I got even more. Thank you, Kyle!
i dont know man, your "eyes closed" analogy seems like faith. So is faith the anwser ?
WishINg 2 saY HappY B-DaY 4 Vivi,,from mE annd, Wobbin…🎶🥰🤓🤗💝🙏💚✨🦋🌈✨
My ego self feels like to have someone in my life strongly , And I am like no I want to be strong enough I don't want anything,how can I know here whats missing inside of me????
This journey (life) is to learn to become align with what we "want " what does spark in your soul, not your egos want.
Thank you....gained clarity from listening to you talk. 😊
Jesus did not do what he wanted. He strictly followed the will of the Father. Including things he did not want, like the cross.
What an amazing clip. I was on the call But I am changing priorities so fast that watching this resonated much deeper than before!
Kyle, what do I do about a bad tattoo. It is giving me negative thoughts every time I look at it and sometimes I feel ok about it but other times not. I was thinking about blacking it out but idk I feel really stupid about it.
wow what you just said at the end there just BLEW MY MIND!! so good..