I'm sorry to hear you had such a traumatic experience at such a young age. Dealing with rejection is never easy, especially when you're young. Remember that such experiences do not define you. Your worth shows in the person you've become.💕
I can totally relate. I was rejected at 5 . I remember sitting watching each car coming down the road thinking that...this one will be dad...each time it wasn't. He never came and after that I always wondered what I had done so wrong for him to not want to visit me. Of course, I know it wasn't my fault, now as a grown up, but it changed me forever. I still see it as a flashback, clear as day! Sending hugs to you and may you feel the love that I am sending to you. ❤
@@kathyforeman5603 Thank you very much for sharing your very personal experience. Your bravery and strength are truly inspirational. It's pleasure to know that even though you've been through difficult circumstances, you've acknowledged it wasn't your fault. Your ability to spread feelings of empathy and compassion to others shows how you are as a person. Remember that you are not walking alone in this journey. I'm sending you virtual hugs and love, ❤ as well as a reminder that you are appreciated and cherished.💕take care
@@yourinnerchildmatters Now that I am 75 I am learning to give that little child still within a hug especially when the remnants of rejection get triggered. My health deteriorated and the only thing that spurred healing was to know that I was loved and acceptable with all my assets and deficiencies and the best one to realize it was my inner self. Trying to carry that message Thanks for this sight.
@@margielogman1355 Embracing my inner child has also been my greatest source of healing. It's wonderful how self-love may improve our health. Keep spreading that message of acceptance and love; it's a lovely gift to give. Thank you for your kind words, and I wish you the best on your path of self-discovery and healing. Thank you again for your uplifting message!. Sending lots of love and hugs to you. Take care alaways 💕🙏✨
As an HSP, I've come full-circle over the years from the point where sensitivity and empathy for others leads to numbness, leads to dissociation, leads to a break with humanity entirely and a desire to turn against humanity and, well, basically end all of it. Obviously I have the insight to understand myself fully in the third-person as an observer, but it doesn't change how I see the solution. It's a horrible place to be.
As an HSP, music has been such a source of healing and strength. My relationship with Jesus has profoundly grounded my state of being. I allow myself to feel!! I embrace and empathize fully without regrets. I am blessed to be an HSP.
Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt experience. It's truly inspiring to hear how music and your relationship with Jesus have been sources of healing and strength for you. Embracing and fully allowing yourself to feel is a beautiful gift, and being an HSP is indeed a unique blessing. Your openness is touching, and I appreciate you sharing this positive energy with the community. Wishing you continued peace and strength on your journey. ❤️💖
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you resonate with the message of spirituality, music, and art. It's a beautiful journey back to the self in the Universe. bless you
Thank you so much for the kind words and help! It means a lot to us that our video, as someone who has experienced childhood trauma, relates with you. We believe in the power of healing and growth, and it gives us great joy to know that our videos can bring some comfort and understanding. Remember that you are not alone on your journey, and that there is always hope for a better future. Stay strong and keep pushing forward. Your Inner Child Matters Channel sending you virtual hugs and best wishes for ongoing strength and healing.
Life can be so hard for an HSP! Of course there are wonderful moments - when you enjoy music for example. But I felt being an outsider wherever I was, even within my own family. There are times when I want be "normal" - just like the others, but I know I'm not and never will be. And it's so difficult to meet people I can relate to. It costs a lot of strength, too - but who am I talking to..... 😌 And this point about isolation is crucial. As a child I've been told over and over that I'm isolating myself - these words felt like a verdict and I felt even more isolated. But again - who am I talking to... 😌
Your comment has really touched me, and I want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way. Being an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) may bring its own set of challenges, and it's totally okay to have moments when you wish you could be "normal" like everyone else. But keep in mind that your sensitivity is a lovely and valuable aspect of who you are. Being an outsider, even within your own family, can be quite alienating, and I can only imagine how difficult that must be. It's important that you understand that your experiences are valid, and that there are people, like myself, who can relate to what you're going through. Isolation is a familiar experience, especially if it was reinforced in childhood. It's understable that those statements would leave an impression. Please know that you are not alone on your path, and that there are groups and support networks full of individuals who understand and accept your sensitivity. Get in touch with us if you ever want to discuss or share more about your experiences. Your voice matters, and you deserve to be heard and supported. 😌💕
@@yourinnerchildmatters Hello, Dr. Maté! Thank you so much for your kind words! They mean very much to me and helped to get rid of that terrible self-doubt every HSP knows so well! What you do is so important, especially as there seem to be sociologists or psychologists who claim there is no such thing as high sensitivity. Thank you!
After years of wishing I didn't feel Everything to such an intense degree, now, at 59, I consider it a gift. I've channeled my sensitivity into what I love, working with and rescuing animals and think I am, to a degree, some sort of an animal empath. And by being able to read them and feel what they're feeling, I can help them even more! 😊
At first, isolation is truly my natural defensive mechanism, which I had not noticed. But after many years, I really enjoy it and feel grateful as it's giving me the space to do reflection and insightful lessons. I'm still in isolation now. Can you share a bit of your experience, as I see you were fascinated that Dr Gabor said it?😊
You have absolutely caught the essence of being an HSP. Those hard filters are our tools for managing an exciting but overwhelming world. Stay strong and continue to embrace your unique viewpoint! 🌟
When you blame yourself as a child, you believe that if it’s your fault, you can change to make it better. Spoiler alert: that doesn’t work. Has taken me a long time to come to terms with realizing I’m not as awful as I used to think I was.
@@lemarch57 Yes, it's a journey that many of us are able to relate to. Recognizing your value and letting go of self-blame is an important step toward self-acceptance and growth. Continue to enjoy your journey!❤
Thank you very much for your thoughtful words! Your comment has deeply touched me. I'm happy that our channel resonated to you and showed up into your life just when you needed it. Your appreciation means a lot to us , and we are grateful to have you as a member of this wonderful community. Thank you for your encouragement, and we hope to continue creating contents that brings you joy and inspiration. Sending our heartfelt appreciation and best wishes! 😊🌟
Thank you Dr GaborMate,with all the wisdom you share, you must really have gone through a lot, l appreciate you sharing your hard won experiences, it helps me to not feel so alone. 😊❤😊
Interesting! I have seen agressivity and sorrow as a todler, lost my dad, my mum got depressed. I blamed my mum for the death of my dad (I was 3.5 years young) and she was angry with me for this. I have never blamed myself, never thought that something must be wrong with me. I do not feel traumatized by the trauma, have good self esteem and self confidence and confidence in other people. I am not afraid of my emotions, I express them. I am very HSP and happy. I like to connect with people and animals. Sometimes I feel lonely because most people do not connect deeply, they seem afraid. Why am I so different?
Despite your early life problems, you appear to have developed outstanding toughness and emotional intelligence. The ability you have to connect truly with people and animals, as well as your self-esteem and open emotional expression, are all indicators of your strength and personal growth. Everyone's path is different, and your good attitude and self-awareness have most certainly contributed to the person you've become. Keep embracing your differences; these are what make you unique and You never know how your story will touch others in meaningful ways.Have a blessed Sunday and smile🌟 💫💕🙏✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters My sister went a different path. She became narcissic, not very severe, but difficult enough to handle. She is working on herself. Since 10 months she is eating keto (no carbs) and doing intermittent fasting. I was doing it already for 2 years. Last october she decided to try it. She has lost weight, looks great, feels great and is getting softer and much more relaxed and less fearfull. I am soooo proud of her. We connect now! This might help your patients too. Have a great sunday to you too! Greetings from France!
@@KirstiCheetahh It's nice to hear of your sister's path toward self-improvement. It's wonderful how changes in lifestyle can result in good improvements. It must be incredibly special to connect by means of shared experiences like this. Kudos to both of you for supporting each other on this path! I wish you great success, a wonderful path ahead of you, and happiness on your journeys. Thank you for telling us this inspiring story. Greetings and best wishes from all across the world! 🌟🇫🇷
Hello there! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the video! It's interesting to explore the idea of switching from sensitive to narcissistic like a light switch. While acknowledging that human behavior can be varied and complicated is important, it is also important to make an effort for balance and self-awareness in our behaviors and emotions. Being sensitive allows us to sympathize with people, understand their points of view, and form meaningful connections. Being narcissistic, on the other hand, may break those bonds and lead to self-centeredness. It is important to notice when we are leaning towards one extreme and to seek for a healthy middle ground. Let us work for self-awareness and personal growth so that we can promote mutually beneficial relationships and work together to make the world more understanding and compassionate. Thank you for connecting with the subject again, and I value your viewpoint! Bless You
The First Noble Truth that Life is Suffering and the Second that Desire is the Soirce of All Suffering must be clearly comprehended before Enlightenment. At one point it is seen that Consciousness appearing as the Body/Mind/Ego separate self is this suffering. Once that is cognitively understood that is the door. But allowing its dissolution then becomes the only task but that is easier said than done because it does not give up easily. 😂
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us! You've expressed the essence of the First and Second Noble Truths nicely. Recognizing that our consciousness identifies with the separate self is true and it can be the key to the door of enlightenment. And, as you pointed out, the journey to allow its dissolution can be difficult, but your awareness and humor (as evidenced by your "😂" emoji) indicate that you're making progress on this important path. Continue on your journey, and may it be filled with peace and understanding. 🙏💫
Hello there! Isn't it wonderful to observe how much we evolve and grow throughout time? Looking back at our younger selves, it's not uncommon to see a few unusual or amusing things. Remember that we are all on a path of self-discovery and improvement. Accept the changes and experiences that have shaped us into the people we are today. Thank you for expressing your thoughts, and here's to many more years of progress! 🌟
Better Help is the advertiser for this video for me. I dont have a problem with them, there are a whole lots of positives, but not sure if they are aware this particular ad utilizes negging to try to solicit sales. Not good.
I appreciate you taking the time to share your personal experience as a HSP. . It's interesting to hear different experiences and viewpoints on being a highly sensitive person (HSP). thanks for sharing
As a six year old I was severely rejected. I remember sitting on a log in the woods wondering what I did to deserve the rejection.
I'm sorry to hear you had such a traumatic experience at such a young age. Dealing with rejection is never easy, especially when you're young. Remember that such experiences do not define you. Your worth shows in the person you've become.💕
I can totally relate. I was rejected at 5 . I remember sitting watching each car coming down the road thinking that...this one will be dad...each time it wasn't. He never came and after that I always wondered what I had done so wrong for him to not want to visit me. Of course, I know it wasn't my fault, now as a grown up, but it changed me forever. I still see it as a flashback, clear as day! Sending hugs to you and may you feel the love that I am sending to you. ❤
@@kathyforeman5603 Thank you very much for sharing your very personal experience. Your bravery and strength are truly inspirational. It's pleasure to know that even though you've been through difficult circumstances, you've acknowledged it wasn't your fault. Your ability to spread feelings of empathy and compassion to others shows how you are as a person. Remember that you are not walking alone in this journey. I'm sending you virtual hugs and love, ❤ as well as a reminder that you are appreciated and cherished.💕take care
@@yourinnerchildmatters Now that I am 75 I am learning to give that little child still within a hug especially when the remnants of rejection get triggered. My health deteriorated and the only thing that spurred healing was to know that I was loved and acceptable with all my assets and deficiencies and the best one to realize it was my inner self. Trying to carry that message Thanks for this sight.
@@margielogman1355 Embracing my inner child has also been my greatest source of healing. It's wonderful how self-love may improve our health. Keep spreading that message of acceptance and love; it's a lovely gift to give. Thank you for your kind words, and I wish you the best on your path of self-discovery and healing. Thank you again for your uplifting message!. Sending lots of love and hugs to you. Take care alaways 💕🙏✨
As an HSP, I've come full-circle over the years from the point where sensitivity and empathy for others leads to numbness, leads to dissociation, leads to a break with humanity entirely and a desire to turn against humanity and, well, basically end all of it. Obviously I have the insight to understand myself fully in the third-person as an observer, but it doesn't change how I see the solution. It's a horrible place to be.
Very horrible. Like Al Bundy said in Married With Children quote '' It's a horrible life ''....most of the time.
As an HSP, music has been such a source of healing and strength. My relationship with Jesus has profoundly grounded my state of being. I allow myself to feel!! I embrace and empathize fully without regrets. I am blessed to be an HSP.
Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt experience. It's truly inspiring to hear how music and your relationship with Jesus have been sources of healing and strength for you. Embracing and fully allowing yourself to feel is a beautiful gift, and being an HSP is indeed a unique blessing. Your openness is touching, and I appreciate you sharing this positive energy with the community. Wishing you continued peace and strength on your journey. ❤️💖
Spot on. Spirituality, music and art. Full circle back to self in the Universe after the journey through the world and back. Thank you!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you resonate with the message of spirituality, music, and art. It's a beautiful journey back to the self in the Universe. bless you
Thank you, Dr Mate! As an adult sufferer of childhood trauma, I v much appreciate your voice!
Thank you so much for the kind words and help! It means a lot to us that our video, as someone who has experienced childhood trauma, relates with you. We believe in the power of healing and growth, and it gives us great joy to know that our videos can bring some comfort and understanding. Remember that you are not alone on your journey, and that there is always hope for a better future. Stay strong and keep pushing forward. Your Inner Child Matters Channel sending you virtual hugs and best wishes for ongoing strength and healing.
Life can be so hard for an HSP!
Of course there are wonderful moments - when you enjoy music for example.
But I felt being an outsider wherever I was, even within my own family.
There are times when I want be "normal" - just like the others, but I know I'm not and never will be.
And it's so difficult to meet people I can relate to.
It costs a lot of strength, too - but who am I talking to..... 😌
And this point about isolation is crucial.
As a child I've been told over and over that I'm isolating myself - these words felt like a verdict and I felt even more isolated.
But again - who am I talking to... 😌
Your comment has really touched me, and I want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way. Being an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) may bring its own set of challenges, and it's totally okay to have moments when you wish you could be "normal" like everyone else. But keep in mind that your sensitivity is a lovely and valuable aspect of who you are. Being an outsider, even within your own family, can be quite alienating, and I can only imagine how difficult that must be. It's important that you understand that your experiences are valid, and that there are people, like myself, who can relate to what you're going through. Isolation is a familiar experience, especially if it was reinforced in childhood. It's understable that those statements would leave an impression. Please know that you are not alone on your path, and that there are groups and support networks full of individuals who understand and accept your sensitivity.
Get in touch with us if you ever want to discuss or share more about your experiences. Your voice matters, and you deserve to be heard and supported. 😌💕
@@yourinnerchildmatters
Hello, Dr. Maté!
Thank you so much for your kind words!
They mean very much to me and helped to get rid of that terrible self-doubt every HSP knows so well!
What you do is so important, especially as there seem to be sociologists or psychologists who claim there is no such thing as high sensitivity.
Thank you!
After years of wishing I didn't feel Everything to such an intense degree, now, at 59, I consider it a gift. I've channeled my sensitivity into what I love, working with and rescuing animals and think I am, to a degree,
some sort of an animal empath. And by being able to read them and feel what they're feeling, I can help them even more! 😊
Omg! Finally! Someone saied this about isolation! Love this man!❤
thank you for watching, bless you
At first, isolation is truly my natural defensive mechanism, which I had not noticed. But after many years, I really enjoy it and feel grateful as it's giving me the space to do reflection and insightful lessons. I'm still in isolation now.
Can you share a bit of your experience, as I see you were fascinated that Dr Gabor said it?😊
Absolute truth beyond the mind. A pure & blissful state of being I encountered and lifted me out of "my" pain❤
Unfortunately, us HSPs don't have an off switch for sensitivity. We have to use hard filters
You have absolutely caught the essence of being an HSP. Those hard filters are our tools for managing an exciting but overwhelming world. Stay strong and continue to embrace your unique viewpoint! 🌟
When you blame yourself as a child, you believe that if it’s your fault, you can change to make it better. Spoiler alert: that doesn’t work. Has taken me a long time to come to terms with realizing I’m not as awful as I used to think I was.
@@lemarch57 Yes, it's a journey that many of us are able to relate to. Recognizing your value and letting go of self-blame is an important step toward self-acceptance and growth. Continue to enjoy your journey!❤
Thank you so much !! I need more stuff like this to understand ppl around us 🎼
Your channel is so beautiful, im grateful to have stumbled upon it at just the right time. Thank u :)
Thank you very much for your thoughtful words! Your comment has deeply touched me. I'm happy that our channel resonated to you and showed up into your life just when you needed it. Your appreciation means a lot to us , and we are grateful to have you as a member of this wonderful community. Thank you for your encouragement, and we hope to continue creating contents that brings you joy and inspiration. Sending our heartfelt appreciation and best wishes! 😊🌟
I enjoy his voice so much! 😻
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video ❤️💖
Thank you Dr GaborMate,with all the wisdom you share, you must really have gone through a lot, l appreciate you sharing your hard won experiences, it helps me to not feel so alone. 😊❤😊
Glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
It’s like that saying, “It’s better to have 4 quarters than 100 Pennies.”
I’d rather go to 4 funerals than 100.
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏
I love Gabor Mate. The flickering lines on the video screen gives me headaches.
sorry
Thanks. Sorry, i'm a sensitive person!
Thank you very much for this video! I don't like the publicity.
You're welcome!
Interesting! I have seen agressivity and sorrow as a todler, lost my dad, my mum got depressed. I blamed my mum for the death of my dad (I was 3.5 years young) and she was angry with me for this. I have never blamed myself, never thought that something must be wrong with me. I do not feel traumatized by the trauma, have good self esteem and self confidence and confidence in other people. I am not afraid of my emotions, I express them. I am very HSP and happy. I like to connect with people and animals. Sometimes I feel lonely because most people do not connect deeply, they seem afraid. Why am I so different?
Despite your early life problems, you appear to have developed outstanding toughness and emotional intelligence. The ability you have to connect truly with people and animals, as well as your self-esteem and open emotional expression, are all indicators of your strength and personal growth. Everyone's path is different, and your good attitude and self-awareness have most certainly contributed to the person you've become. Keep embracing your differences; these are what make you unique and You never know how your story will touch others in meaningful ways.Have a blessed Sunday and smile🌟 💫💕🙏✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters My sister went a different path. She became narcissic, not very severe, but difficult enough to handle. She is working on herself. Since 10 months she is eating keto (no carbs) and doing intermittent fasting. I was doing it already for 2 years. Last october she decided to try it. She has lost weight, looks great, feels great and is getting softer and much more relaxed and less fearfull. I am soooo proud of her. We connect now! This might help your patients too. Have a great sunday to you too! Greetings from France!
@@KirstiCheetahh It's nice to hear of your sister's path toward self-improvement. It's wonderful how changes in lifestyle can result in good improvements. It must be incredibly special to connect by means of shared experiences like this. Kudos to both of you for supporting each other on this path! I wish you great success, a wonderful path ahead of you, and happiness on your journeys. Thank you for telling us this inspiring story. Greetings and best wishes from all across the world! 🌟🇫🇷
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you so much for talking with me! ❤
@@KirstiCheetahh likewise ❤❤❤
"connection is the opposite of addiction"
Humans are pack animals and even lone wolves need other people at some point.
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if only its like a light switch you can switch between sensitive and Narcissistic.
Hello there! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the video! It's interesting to explore the idea of switching from sensitive to narcissistic like a light switch. While acknowledging that human behavior can be varied and complicated is important, it is also important to make an effort for balance and self-awareness in our behaviors and emotions.
Being sensitive allows us to sympathize with people, understand their points of view, and form meaningful connections. Being narcissistic, on the other hand, may break those bonds and lead to self-centeredness. It is important to notice when we are leaning towards one extreme and to seek for a healthy middle ground.
Let us work for self-awareness and personal growth so that we can promote mutually beneficial relationships and work together to make the world more understanding and compassionate. Thank you for connecting with the subject again, and I value your viewpoint! Bless You
How does one get this off of me
Unfortunately I go back in therapy....
Thank you for sharing. You're taking care of yourself and that's important. I hope everything goes well for you in therapy.
@@yourinnerchildmatters thanks
👍😍
thanks for watching, bless you!
Please credit this original content creator! Thanks
The First Noble Truth that Life is Suffering and the Second that Desire is the Soirce of All Suffering must be clearly comprehended before Enlightenment. At one point it is seen that Consciousness appearing as the Body/Mind/Ego separate self is this suffering. Once that is cognitively understood that is the door. But allowing its dissolution then becomes the only task but that is easier said than done because it does not give up easily. 😂
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us! You've expressed the essence of the First and Second Noble Truths nicely. Recognizing that our consciousness identifies with the separate self is true and it can be the key to the door of enlightenment. And, as you pointed out, the journey to allow its dissolution can be difficult, but your awareness and humor (as evidenced by your "😂" emoji) indicate that you're making progress on this important path. Continue on your journey, and may it be filled with peace and understanding. 🙏💫
« Hier klopt iets niet » : 10 years Old me.
Hello there! Isn't it wonderful to observe how much we evolve and grow throughout time? Looking back at our younger selves, it's not uncommon to see a few unusual or amusing things. Remember that we are all on a path of self-discovery and improvement. Accept the changes and experiences that have shaped us into the people we are today. Thank you for expressing your thoughts, and here's to many more years of progress! 🌟
Better Help is the advertiser for this video for me. I dont have a problem with them, there are a whole lots of positives, but not sure if they are aware this particular ad utilizes negging to try to solicit sales. Not good.
I hate to correct you,
but there are NO advantaged in being a HSP, only disadvantages.
im speaking from experience
I appreciate you taking the time to share your personal experience as a HSP. . It's interesting to hear different experiences and viewpoints on being a highly sensitive person (HSP). thanks for sharing
God, no...I wanna be as tough as nails..
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Someone once said that we get tough because we don't get touched.
@@julie5668 maybe true