If I payed a therapist 200 bucks an hour to be this guy and say this stuff it would Actually be worth it. But look this is free ??? Great video. Simplifies a very very complicated complex mindset about as good as someone could. Impressive. Best therapy I’ve ever had. Thankyou.
My parents are both passed away. I have tried to relay that message to my mother. She recognized it as being disrespectful and hurtful. She had a lack of empathy unless it affected her, she had no feelings for a situation. And my dad enabled her. He threw me off his land. He told me do not ever return. That was after my mom attacked me as I was walking away. I was upset, and I said to my dad, please go see a therapist. You are mentally disturbed. I did feel bad about that. That situation was inappropriate and unacceptable behavior. My parents continued with their grudge.
I expressed myself when I was 16, and I got rejected until my dad literally said to me when are you going to leave; I replied now. I got my books for high school, and I walked out the door. I like the idea of writing a letter. I especially like scheduling writing periods to take breaks.
Very concise and helpful. I am writing a rage letter and still havent found the rage. I dont remember much about my dads anger and yelling. I know it happened but I dont feel rage about it. There has been a lot of damage from his anger and I feel more sad than angry about it. Ill keep writing.
Hopefully you can tune into my live streams tomorrow I have one at 7 AM and one at 5 PM. Maybe I can help you attached to it you can find the links on my main TH-cam page.
Hi, I've just discovered your channel. My question is, "How do I create the boundaries that were never created in childhood due to parental transgression"? This is my current dilemma. I'm not coping with absorbing all the negativity directed towards me by the group of ladies in my Madrasah. 💔🇿🇦
I did go through that process in my DBT GROUP lead by a PSYD. I did not do the part where the feeling originated. I have an inkling. That’s going to be hard to discover the one event since there were so many. This is a brilliant plan. I am going to work on this plan. Thank you. It’s kind of strange that I felt something was missing that I wasn’t paying attention to. It stands to reason that this would be overlooked related to most people say don’t blame behavior on your childhood. I don’t believe in that point of view. I remember when I was an affected child. I had radical acceptance. I was a mountain. I’m talking about around age 5-6. I didn’t even realize I was that young. I was talking to my husband about the feelings I had; then I realized after seeing the news what year it was. I was only 7.
All feelings are learned in childhood, and all thoughts begin with feelings and emotions. If we are not seeing the progress we desire, it is a feeling/childhood trauma problem, not a current-day thinking problem. My videos, books, and classes provide you with the latest brain science and the process to achieve your healing goals. I hope you check them out and discover it for yourself. ;-) Or tune into either of my live streams tomorrow to learn more.
I'm just in the process of reading your book, Your journey to success" you are the only person who makes everything super clear to understand. Thankyou Kenny 👍
Wow, thank you! I am so happy you are finding the solutions you deserve. If you like my first book, you will love my next book, which comes out on Monday. It takes everything from my first book even deeper to help you. You can pre-order the ebook now, and on Monday, the paper and hardback versions will be available. If interested, here is the link: amzn.to/3RNqbtU
Who I was before they started placing their pains onto me was an embryo.. And how do you cry when you learned crying was painful, my mom would hit/beat me when I cried, she wouldn’t stop until I stopped crying, I so have tried for years to be able to just cry, I use to have to get drunk to be able to cry and release, I know longer do that but I still pull it back when I start to cry, to cry also makes me fell shame and embarrassment. I have gone through telling myself it’s ok to cry and just do it and let it out but my body sucks it back up.
Keep trying and working at it!!! I was like that and it was a process--the key is don't listen to the thoughts that will come up like "this is too much," "I can't do this," etc. I actually started with mediation and mindfulness so I learned to observe my thoughts and not necessarily believe them/buy into them. Then I worked at going into the body--somatic emotional work.
I must be weird because no matter what I obeyed my parents. I could go back, and I know why and when I discovered fawning as a protection. I cannot remember when the pain originated. I never faced it. I let it go. My people pleasing wouldn’t allow for it. My dad once said to me when I was an adult. He thought I didn’t have feelings as a child. My first thought was that he was less insightful than I realized, and he had no awareness of what happened. I remember being concerned about all my siblings. I took care of my baby sister changed her diaper, and we took turns feeding her at breakfast before school. I was 7 years old. I felt there was nothing wrong at the time. I became aware when I was about 14-16. I told my mom the truth about her behavior. And I asked lots of questions. She was devastated. Therefore I got verbally abused and spanked if one can call it that; it was abuse by my dad. Then as I got older in my teens it was non stop arguments. I had evidence to support what I said. So you can imagine the gaslighting my dad used to cause me to feel bad. Oh wow, your intention wasn’t for me to journal in the comments. Not much mindfulness happening here. Although there is plenty of mind Fullness happening. I’m not deleting this until I copy it. I also paused the video. 🤦🏻♀️.
Hi, I've just discovered your channel. My question is, "How do I create the boundaries that were never created in childhood due to parental transgression"? This is my current dilemma. I'm not coping with absorbing all the negativity directed towards me by the group of ladies in my Madrasah. 💔🇿🇦
Thank you so much for your response, much appreciated. I'm planning to go on your website now. I'm so excited and willing to put in the time and do the work. This video is such an eye opener and I understand so much, everything is starting to make sense. God bless you Mr Kenny. This is gold! ❤❤❤❤🇿🇦
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If I payed a therapist 200 bucks an hour to be this guy and say this stuff it would Actually be worth it. But look this is free ??? Great video. Simplifies a very very complicated complex mindset about as good as someone could. Impressive. Best therapy I’ve ever had.
Thankyou.
Happy new years everyone I wish you a new year full of healing and recovery ❤
My parents are both passed away. I have tried to relay that message to my mother. She recognized it as being disrespectful and hurtful. She had a lack of empathy unless it affected her, she had no feelings for a situation. And my dad enabled her. He threw me off his land. He told me do not ever return. That was after my mom attacked me as I was walking away. I was upset, and I said to my dad, please go see a therapist. You are mentally disturbed. I did feel bad about that. That situation was inappropriate and unacceptable behavior. My parents continued with their grudge.
Thank you so much for the guidance help and support 🙏
You’re welcome. I hope you tune into one of my two live streams tomorrow so you can ask questions if you need more help.
I expressed myself when I was 16, and I got rejected until my dad literally said to me when are you going to leave; I replied now. I got my books for high school, and I walked out the door.
I like the idea of writing a letter. I especially like scheduling writing periods to take breaks.
So true! Great work, it’s our responsibility! Not our fault.
YES!!!!
Very concise and helpful. I am writing a rage letter and still havent found the rage. I dont remember much about my dads anger and yelling. I know it happened but I dont feel rage about it. There has been a lot of damage from his anger and I feel more sad than angry about it. Ill keep writing.
Hopefully you can tune into my live streams tomorrow I have one at 7 AM and one at 5 PM. Maybe I can help you attached to it you can find the links on my main TH-cam page.
Thank you very much for this amazing content that you are spreading! Love from Pakistan💝
It's my pleasure
I just started reading your new book Kenny and it is already working in my life. Thank you for being brave enough to write it.
You’re welcome and I’m glad it’s already helping you. :-)
Awesome message. I let it sink in and deep breathed it out. Thank you.
You are very welcome
Hi, I've just discovered your channel. My question is, "How do I create the boundaries that were never created in childhood due to parental transgression"? This is my current dilemma. I'm not coping with absorbing all the negativity directed towards me by the group of ladies in my Madrasah. 💔🇿🇦
Thank you 🙏🏾! You are significantly helping me through my own healing journey.
I did go through that process in my DBT GROUP lead by a PSYD. I did not do the part where the feeling originated. I have an inkling. That’s going to be hard to discover the one event since there were so many. This is a brilliant plan. I am going to work on this plan. Thank you. It’s kind of strange that I felt something was missing that I wasn’t paying attention to. It stands to reason that this would be overlooked related to most people say don’t blame behavior on your childhood. I don’t believe in that point of view. I remember when I was an affected child. I had radical acceptance. I was a mountain. I’m talking about around age 5-6. I didn’t even realize I was that young. I was talking to my husband about the feelings I had; then I realized after seeing the news what year it was. I was only 7.
All feelings are learned in childhood, and all thoughts begin with feelings and emotions. If we are not seeing the progress we desire, it is a feeling/childhood trauma problem, not a current-day thinking problem. My videos, books, and classes provide you with the latest brain science and the process to achieve your healing goals. I hope you check them out and discover it for yourself. ;-)
Or tune into either of my live streams tomorrow to learn more.
I'm just in the process of reading your book, Your journey to success" you are the only person who makes everything super clear to understand. Thankyou Kenny 👍
Wow, thank you! I am so happy you are finding the solutions you deserve. If you like my first book, you will love my next book, which comes out on Monday. It takes everything from my first book even deeper to help you. You can pre-order the ebook now, and on Monday, the paper and hardback versions will be available. If interested, here is the link: amzn.to/3RNqbtU
Trust yourself and the process.
Thank you so much, but it's possible to forgive my self so easy;;;;;;; is so difficult for me 😢😥
You can do it! It. only requires learning the Authentic Self Cycle and Emotional Authenticity.
Who I was before they started placing their pains onto me was an embryo.. And how do you cry when you learned crying was painful, my mom would hit/beat me when I cried, she wouldn’t stop until I stopped crying, I so have tried for years to be able to just cry, I use to have to get drunk to be able to cry and release, I know longer do that but I still pull it back when I start to cry, to cry also makes me fell shame and embarrassment. I have gone through telling myself it’s ok to cry and just do it and let it out but my body sucks it back up.
Keep trying and working at it!!! I was like that and it was a process--the key is don't listen to the thoughts that will come up like "this is too much," "I can't do this," etc. I actually started with mediation and mindfulness so I learned to observe my thoughts and not necessarily believe them/buy into them. Then I worked at going into the body--somatic emotional work.
@@evelinel.9827 thank you so much, I will try this.❤️
I must be weird because no matter what I obeyed my parents. I could go back, and I know why and when I discovered fawning as a protection. I cannot remember when the pain originated. I never faced it. I let it go. My people pleasing wouldn’t allow for it. My dad once said to me when I was an adult. He thought I didn’t have feelings as a child. My first thought was that he was less insightful than I realized, and he had no awareness of what happened.
I remember being concerned about all my siblings. I took care of my baby sister changed her diaper, and we took turns feeding her at breakfast before school. I was 7 years old. I felt there was nothing wrong at the time. I became aware when I was about 14-16. I told my mom the truth about her behavior. And I asked lots of questions. She was devastated. Therefore I got verbally abused and spanked if one can call it that; it was abuse by my dad. Then as I got older in my teens it was non stop arguments. I had evidence to support what I said. So you can imagine the gaslighting my dad used to cause me to feel bad.
Oh wow, your intention wasn’t for me to journal in the comments. Not much mindfulness happening here. Although there is plenty of mind Fullness happening. I’m not deleting this until I copy it.
I also paused the video. 🤦🏻♀️.
When you say that the parents made "loving" mistakes, this doesn't resonate at all with me.
Hi, I've just discovered your channel. My question is, "How do I create the boundaries that were never created in childhood due to parental transgression"? This is my current dilemma. I'm not coping with absorbing all the negativity directed towards me by the group of ladies in my Madrasah. 💔🇿🇦
That requires trauma and codependence recovery. My website shows you all of the programs I have developed to help people like you heal.
Thank you so much for your response, much appreciated. I'm planning to go on your website now. I'm so excited and willing to put in the time and do the work. This video is such an eye opener and I understand so much, everything is starting to make sense. God bless you Mr Kenny. This is gold! ❤❤❤❤🇿🇦