Why ENFPs love INTJs
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ก.ค. 2024
- The reasons behind the crush ENFPs feel for INTJs. What do INTJs naturally do, just by being themselves, that makes ENFP not only fall for them but appreciate their input in their lives when in a romantic relationship, or friendship?
Of course all of this from the perspective of an ENFP.
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I am INTJ male and have been with my ENFP wife for 25 years ... it is probably one of the best pairings for both of these types. She brings me out of my shell and I help keep her focused. The main struggle that we've had is mostly dealing with Fi stuff because we both have introverted feeling and can be sometimes selfish in wants and if those wants dont line up it occasionally gets messy. But I would say overall that does not happen often. Also, what happens in the bedroom .... well let's just say pretty amazing. We both have a lot of similar interests from music, to sci-fi stuff, outdoors and world views/religion etc. So we mesh really well on all those. She can talk for hours and I like to listen and will interject when I feel necessary, so that works out really well. ENFPs are far more intelligent than some people give them credit for and INTJs are a lot more kind hearted than people give them credit for once you get to know these types on deeper level.
Sounds like a great combination and a good marriage. I love it, INTJs love listening and add up something very valuable to the conversation that the ENFP so vividly keeps going and going. haha relatable!!
INTJ female here, married to an ENFP male.
In terms of the bedroom talk, I think that maybe an INTJ male and a female ENFP are better than vice versa. Maybe because (speculating) women in general are also more caring than males in general. Im an INTJ female and I think instinctively my ENFP husband doesn’t look past his own needs. I know it sounds horrible, but outside of the bedroom though he wants to take care of everything I need... like EVERYTHING that I need, to the point i get frustrated because im so independent. LOL its all a jumble right now, he slightly makes me crazy but I dont know, maybe im not as miserable if I was on my own. Ill never know I guess. Also, on a side note, if I step out of myself and look at how I treat him, I notice that I give him a lot of leeway, am not as controlling, as I seem to be with others that I care less about. We love being together and he gives me so much relief in the sense that he doesnt judge me as much as I judge myself. I feel his love is unconditional. He is very patient but wants to jump around and do many things which can be very uncomfortable for me. beign married though for 15 years now, I feel i am getting into a balance now.
P.S. Just so you know, im stopping myself from keeping on editing this post or deleting it as Ive done before and am compelled to. 😂
@@peppylemon1717 I know that you've been married for 15 years and it sounds like you've learned to sort of navigate it, but it could be a good idea sharing with him what your needs are as an INTJ. He might not be aware of the importance that doing things on your own has for you. You don't need to change them, you need to understand where they are coming from. The same goes for you.
I don't know what you mean by "jumping around and do many things", but me as an ENFP myself I am like that too. We get excited through our Ne, extroverted intuition is the very core of who we are. Not possible to change that. We can get better at managing our energy yes, and people in our lives can understand that and support us the way we are :)
Mindimalist hi, I have, numerous times, and it seems like it just went out his other ear. Also, I think there is also a big difference between female and male enfps, I just watched a seminar/conference on ENFPs on a TH-cam channel called "The ENFP Brain" and they literally scanned the brains of volunteers while they did specific tasks, and it showed which part of the brain were active and the movements within it while the action was being made. So maybe with you (sorry, I'm assuming that you're female but I am not really sure), it may be different. It could also be upbringing and culture. Nonetheless, I wouldn't really be an INTJ if I didn't exhaust every possible solution before giving up. That would include having a good conversation about it. Something that wouldn't be appropriate to post here for sure. Thank you for concern though.
I'll be enclosing the link to the ENFP Brain video if you're interested in watching it. I was very surprised with the differences in the way women and men's brain work! So interesting!
th-cam.com/video/3XxlV0Y5Te4/w-d-xo.html
@@peppylemon1717 what do you mean _"you're not sure if she's female"????_
Don’t mind me, just here to get my ego stroked.
Same. Lol #intj
Oh, my... you read my mind.
#INTJ
💀I feel exposed
Lmaoo yeah
Same lol
enfps makes us intjs feel somehow important 😂
haha, and you guys make us feel special!!
When they like something about you, they’ll say it out loud and that’s gonna be the nicest thing your INTJ soul has ever heard someone say xD
Well you are!!!
By an Enfp
you are :)
ENFP's are the only type with whom I can be goofy/silly to some extent.
With other types, well, I keep the Darth Vader mask, ha-ha.
BoxCrossed haha at least you know your sweet side too :)
Damn, spot on 😂
1. They love the ENFP as they are and support them to be themselves
2. Aren't jealous
3. They can talk about anything
4. Low maintenance
5. Helpful
6. No nagging
7. Lets the ENFP fly but bursts their bubble when needed
As an INTJ, I don't think we don't live by jealousy at all. We have trouble trusting, but once you have our trust, you have it. If you break that trust once, we are done. The trust is gone.
INTJ can be very jealous of other friendships; like, they want to keep you all for themself and won’t want you to have other friends. They also sometimes think you’re trying to make them jealous when you include them as friends in picture messages so that they feel as part of the group. They can read things wrong if they’re not healthy - and this is a 60 yo INTJ female I am talking about. I’m not saying all of them but some really can be.
I did the test and the result was that I was INTJ. I watched some videos and dug some information online and all of them told me that ENFPs are great company for me. I was so curious to find an ENFP to talk to to see if this information was true. Since I'm not a very friendly type of person, I have only one friend. So, I asked my friend to take the test and I asked my girlfriend whom I can't really live without and I have never seen anyone being into me to the extent that she is and I will never find such a lovely girl anywhere anytime to take the test too. I was so afraid that my girlfriend was another type and I'd be drawn to an ENFP later. To my surprise, both my girlfriend and my friend were ENFP. This made me see why all the information out there suggested that ENFPs were great company. I think every INTJ is either lonely or is in ENFP's company now
Wow, what a "coincidence". Lovely!!!
ENFPs make me feel squishy.
Another interesting situation is when you are leading a team of INTJ’s and they like you. you’ll will be the most successful manager in your organization.
thefirstborn you are totally right. I run a while ago a project where the INTJ was in charge of the logistics. It was amazing. I didn’t know about MBTI back then, and when I learned about it and I asked this person to take the test some months later, everything made sense. It was one of the smoothest collaborations ever, where I had the leading role, ideas and the last word, and he would be amazed by them and make sure that they would come into fruition. Best team ever!
Mindimalist That guy probably likes you as a person and he was willing to go all the way to make your project a success. I am an INTJ myself and I work with engineers and developers. Most of these can be super agreeable when your ideas help them grow and “accomplish” their goals. Me being the youngest member of the team made me feel like I don’t belong because everyone here is a rockstar. But I hang around and they are always willing to help. That’s the upside everyone miss about the mysterious INTJ.
I'm an INTJ and my sister is an ENFP. Because we both lead with intuition, our conversations tend to be very interesting, complex, and abstract. We never really talk about other people or what happened at work.
The chemistry between the two types is difficult to put into words, but if you are one of these types and you have a good relationship with the other, you will immediately know how this chemistry feels. The difference between talking with a sensor versus an intuitive is fairly substantial and an INTJ will usually find conversations with ENFP's 1000x more stimulating than other types.
I also love how complex an ENFP is. Their choice of gifts, what they wear, and how they choose to express themselves makes an INTJ's problem solving and need to understand the world and everything in it to perfection, spin around and work, which we enjoy the mental stimulation (and physical stimulation but that's another topic for another day)
I love how you describe it. That's a good example of a healthy relationship between an INTJ and an ENFP, where both by being themselves, help one another to bring the best out of each other. That's not always the case, even though both connect very well. But I'm so delighted to read that you experience it this way.
Namasté!
My dad is an INTJ and I am an ENFP. I get more from talking with him than with any other person I know. He also says that I understand him better than anyone else. Life has not turned out the way I thought it would but I think our complimentary personality types have kept us connected. I believe God put it into us so that I would always be able to find a way back "home" and he would always have a person to "spiritually" connect with even through tough times. I almost lost him to cancer and I don't know what I would do without him. Thank the Lord, he has overcome it.
@@naowright9308 Yeah, it's amazing how some people can just "get" us so well. Thanks for sharing.
I clicked the video cause "OH WOW there is somebody who likes me" THANK YOU!!!!Love
Haha you’re welcome!
ENFPs are good listeners for INTJs cause unlike many others even if they don’t understand, they’ll try and want to know
From my INTJ pov such a personality is pure diamond and shall be protected from the harsh society at all cost
Loved this comment. Thanks for sharing!
My sis is an ENFP and I love everything about her and support her with all cost.
That’s so cool! 😊
It's reassuring that ENTPs love us INTJs. At best, we're perceived as distant, even cold, but the reality is we're just preoccupied in our headspace while simultaneously observing and evaluating everything. From my perspective, I love the spontaneity and warmth of the ENFP female personality - so bubbly, honest and empathetic.
And we love the silent INTJ. You know one of the things I like most of you guys is the capacity you have to think ahead and strategize what you will do next. Purposefully thought, lead by efficiency to reach the goal in mind, whatever that is, from answering a question to doing something. Inspiring.
@@Mindimalist Sorry, I meant ENFPs. There goes my reputation for attention to detail. :)
@@Mindimalist I'm listening and so is my alter-ego. We both are. Two for the price of one! : )
@@justinejacks0n haha hilarious!
@@Mindimalist It takes a bit to make me laugh out loud but LOL! I tripped over my own complexity! You bring out the fun in me! I love ENFPs!
We are not jealous but we like clear boundaries. We hate drama.
-INTJ
I'm an enfp married to an intj 🥰🥰 they are awesome 😁
I am an INTJ...but I get jealous. But only towards very intimate people...maybe like one
Thanks for sharing!!!
I’ve had an INTJ be jealous of my friendship with another’s. I tried to include her in my texts so she’s feel included in the things I was doing (of course she wasn’t there but she was there in other activities). She seemed to think she should control things and if it didn’t go the way she wanted, she got angry and jealous.
As an intj, we will let you take it to the edge, but we wont let you go over the cliff. I'll watch as you pick up a hammer, I'll watch as you walk over to the window, I'll watch as you lift the hammer, I'll watch as you bring it down. Just before it hits the window you will hear,
"STOP, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING?"
hahaha, love it! So true!!
Yup
Agreed, free will is important to me, plus people sometimes figure out things in crisis at the last second, I know I do. Denying someone I care about having an epiphany or figuring out things themselves, seems counter productive and intrusive. But I'll be waiting with a plan, just in case. :)
I'll only stop someone, if I don't want them to feel the pain of the consequences. IF I think they need that pain to learn something.... I'll watch a trainwreck in slow motion and even have popcorn ready.
Wrong we intj wanna teach Enfp to not be taken advantage off by abusive people. But this is the only thing we want to change in the Enfp.
Still, lovely!!! haha or maybe I find it lovely because I'm an ENFP :D
true true true
Giving someone knowledge and self-awareness with no expectation is not an attempt to change someone! Giving the Princessa her crown is not changing, it's actually revealing her true self!
Then protection it is!!! Let's go!!! ENFP here
Yes, my boyfriend is always trying to teach me how to be more assertive and protect myself.
As I am INTJ, you look so adorable and lovely honestly haha, and thanks for you interesting of our personality type 💖
At first enfps can seem really annoying, but ok once you get to know them, their actually pretty cool.
hahaha Thank you!
I’ve heard people say they thought I had a resting B face... but got to know me and then liked me.
It’s because the “shiny new thing” energy tones down a little 😹
I always thought this ENFP / INTJ love is just a meme. But here I am, being INTJ, watching this video, believing every word you say. I kind of like you, even. O.o
Are you single?
Hahaha You know the best part of having uploaded this video is the amount of interaction I'm having with you guys INTJs... Every comment is delightful
I love my INTJ best friend. She's the one person who understands me best.
💗
ENFPs are just great. They make me happy. Also I’d rather guide your bubble than burst it. I haven’t spent time with an ENFP yet, but I really want to. If I saw her getting off track I’d just be like “hey remember blank” and hopefully that would be enough to get them back on track. I think the two types compliment each other very well.
I really love this comment ❤️
@@Mindimalist Thank you. I used to mistrust ENFPs when I was younger, but now I really want to get to know them better. I think honesty is one of the big reasons for the ENFP INTJ connection. Also INTJs don't understand subtlety very well, so the ENFP being anything but subtle is nice for us. Also, you actually appreciate us for who we are, which is really rare. I know that was your number one reason why ENFPs like INTJs, but it works both ways.
Also an INTJ here. ENFPs feel really natural to spend time with (yes I said 'feel', don't tell anyone). I appreciate them because they generally get me and I think that's a very rare find. They can also get me out of my mind, which is nice.
I'm an INTJ and ALL my girlfriends were xNFP! You are awesome.
I dunno an INFP might crumble to dust if you questioned their love for their pet rock
I am ENFP as well and I love your videos! I love INTJ because they are so solid and so honest and mysterious! They are so nice and cute! Anyway, all the love for INTJ!
Thank you! You're awesome!
I think, when you get into all the theory of the cognitive functions and stuff, that INTJs and ENFPs think in very similar ways - they both have Te and Fi. You wouldn't expect that as the only similar letter in the type is the 'N'. But, it seems that way. The thing is, from my personal experience, I can totally see this. When I see people like you and some other ENFPs expressing their thoughts, I can totally see myself thinking internally in a very similar way. That's probably why, you can talk about that book even though you don't really understand it, it's the exact same thing an INTJ would do if an ENFP did something that an INTJ would not necessarily understand.
Oh wow, that´s a lovely example!! Wow it gave me a great insight into the mind of the INTJ. Thank you!!!!! :)
Thank you for talking about this combi. I (INTJ) met an ENFP back in the school days just by random and have been best friends with them for over 10 years since. Other friendship relations come and go, but not the one I share with them until now.
Truth is, I often get mistaken as an extrovert whenever I'm around this ENFP just because I always talk like a madman for durations and being silly with them.
Unlike a stereotypical INTJ, I do well in social situations (I believe some INTJs also). But sadly, it's also true that I do well in them because I know exactly what impression that I want others to have about me, and I make conversations flow nicely the way they logically should be. My mind's doing the calculations. It takes energy, really. That's why I sometimes need 2-3 days of 'break time' from anything social, or more if I could (how about u INTJs out there😂).
But with my ENFP bsf, everything is pure chaos🤣. My mind always goes: 'aha interesting'. I'm triggered by them. In a good way.👌
I LOVE ENFP's! They're so happy!!
At least someone (FINALLY) likes us. ☺️
As and INTJ, I adore your energy and enthusiasm.
I liked you within the first 30 sec. I completely believe in the match ENFP / INTJ
Yes to all this (ENFP speaking)! I have especially noticed the same trend that you did re aging making us appreciate one another more. Maybe it's because of my extroversion, which means I know how easy to say vs mean something, or maybe the introverted feeling, which means I only value sincerely held internal beliefs, but I just couldn't care less about how often someone tells me they love me or flatter my hair or whatever...but MAN -- you remember I needed a better pen and one just shows up in the mail? In love forever.
Haha ENFP I can see your Ne playing right now!!
Thanks for watching and for commenting
Here for the ego boost
Olive Muteti welcome then! 😄
Are you from Kenya @Olive Muteti
@@dennisqrah752 yes
I like to think of an ENFP as people who like mysteries, since the INTJ personality type is very discrete and mysterious, the INTJs attracts ENFPs because of the fact that INTJs are mysterious.
(I am an INTJ and I asked my ENFP friend why she likes me so much and she told me this answer)
You are totally right, and I even say this on this other video where I talk also about INTJs th-cam.com/video/RycYMH0d-lw/w-d-xo.html Yes, it's about a mystery but also about a feeling of wonder we get when the mystery seems to be revealed to us -- only --. Check out the video :)
@@Mindimalist
Thank you, your videos are very informative and helpful for everyone.
Brandon Ohrberg glad to hear :) I’m working on new content always. Subscribe to stay tuned!
I am a INTJ and I never jealous. I have not really dated but I do think I have a problem if partner seemed to be ignoring me for days on end or not seeming interested. It drive me crazy because I just go trough all our conversations and try to find something I did wrong.
Your channel just popped up on my feed for whatever reason. But as an INTJ, I agree with you about your observations and you're certainly attractive and quirky and all the things we love about your personality. Most of my friends were ENFPs without me even realizing it. Instant sub!
As an intj, being cheated is the worst thing I would want to experience. There are few people who we emotionally invest in, and if they betray it's a very painful experience. So, if jealousy or apprehension comes it's because of that. So, be completely loyal and I'll reciprocate.
Sorry to hear. I mentioned it on this video because typically ENFPs are captivated by the INTJ as much as the INTJ is by them and this leads to the ENFP being loyal. Of course, there are exceptions, but this would be the most normal thing to find among healthy individuals.
I also mentioned it because other types can feel insecure by the bubbly and colorful personality of the ENFP. INTJs wouldn't feel threatened just because they are being themselves. I guess they would only show jealousy if there are reasons for it. Other types would feel jealous just because.
@@Mindimalist Lol.. This is so true... My Female ENFP friend has many people jealous and dislike her, which often made me wonder why. For us INTJ, ENFP has a beautiful soul and often felt like sunshine to our dark INTJ world, they bring colors (rainbows) to our life, which is a gem and treasure that many INTJ would protect. I think other personality types jealous by the happiness, colorful and fulfilling life when they compare or see their own life, which may cause them to be jealous.
@@mrendyt haha I love it! You really understand enfps. Did you check this video about ENFPs being flirtatious? I bet you will understand what I talk about here:
th-cam.com/video/yqKajZkWCp0/w-d-xo.html
Agreed. I am more apprehensive because I have been cheated on by an ENFP and also saw my best male friend who is an ENFP cheat on his wife. So sadly this INTJ doesn't think highly of the loyalty of an ENFP. Maybe female ENFP are different. Men, I think I rather find an INTP or INFJ. Currently happy with my ISTP.
Wonderfully Quirky. Look after Yourself. 🙏🕊️🦉
I'm INTJ and wrote a book and my wife doesn't understand it at all
Tell me about it bro. Same boat.
Lol I hope she can still talk with you about your book, just like I do with my intj friend I mention on this video.
I’m an INTJ male and I don’t consider myself as a jealous person however I am possessive and what’s mine is mine. Also I don’t tolerate disrespect so there are boundaries and lines that one shouldn’t cross. 😊
Hello. INTJ here with an unsolicited recommendation for your channel. When you're making videos for INTJs, please itemize the content in the description box so that we can get to the essence of what you're saying without having to sit through the entire video. The efficient dissemination of information is a virtue and should be a priority when making videos for INTJs. This would help us streamline our research process.
Other than that, thank you for the insightful content. I am currently infatuated with an ENFP and have been binge-watching your videos. I find them information and valuable.
Thank you for your feedback. Glad that I could help with your ENFP, the personality type I keep on talking about and creating videos about every week :)
I'll keep in mind your suggestion.
The other day my INTJ friend asked if he could see the script of my videos. I said there's no script. He laughed big time. It's hard for me to put things into bullet points, although I try. I will see how can I do something better for you guys.
Cheers!!
This is how some ENFP's communicate. Why do you assume that the video is for INTJ's? It could be for lots of people (people interested in MBTI, people interested in ENFP's or people interested in INTJ's that are not INTJ's themselves). While the "efficient dissemination of information is a virtue", it is also a virtue to be able to appreciate the differences between people. For instance, I actually think its great how much emotion she expresses via facial expression or even via her tone of voice, the way that she makes her points and includes stories from her own experiences to support them.
@@elizabethgrant1155 I feel so seen and appreciated because of your comment. Thank you for sharing your insight and for seeing me and understanding me as an ENFP.
After many months of making videos I don’t itemise what I say - only a few rare times when I think it’s needed, maybe 3 videos - because I refuse to do something that doesn’t feel right. They come here to watch that the ENFP has to say, and me not listing what I say per minute is one part of it.
Thank you again!!! ❤️
Thank you! This really helps
Amazing!!! 🧡 glad to hear and thanks for sharing :)
Why I like ENFP, as an INFJ : They accept me as I am, they don't judge or criticize me, they talk to me directly, they will not tell me to change this or that on my physic or personality, talk about everything, not reject me, me me feel less weird, appreciated, understood.
Hmm I like how you describe clearly. As ENFP, INTJ traits is what I need. So.... Any INTJ here? Let's be friend. I'm single btw. 😂😂😂
Hey, I am an INTJ. Sorry, I'm not single. But I like having ENFPs in my circle. :)
It depend on the definition of jealous, I consider myself as such based on my specific definition. I consider this as positive thing.
Curious about your definition! 🤓
U R Quick. LOVE IT...
The only thing that could provoke me to jealousy, is if someone I care deeply about betrays me for my enemy, "a foreign or opposing tribe" or someone who couldn't care less about them... OR is giving misplaced affection to something or someone that is destructive rather than me and my good advice...
I am going to say something that contradicts your perception - it's impossible to find a trusting INTJ unless it's a small child.
Kreepi Krawli are you one yourself?. I’m not an INTJ and I’m open to learning more about them. This is my perception of them, not the absolute truth :)
@@Mindimalist Apparently INTJs are the most gullible children and they quickly learn not to trust anyone. Pain is a great teacher. That's why trust is important and once broken the person is dropped and bridges burned. In the world like that if I like you I will trust you in some cases. If INTJ was cheated on before, you can be certain he/she will not fully trust you on the subject ever. Consequently types that enjoy bending the truth now and then, like ESTP (hello Donald Trump), are the least compatible with INTJs.
@Kreepi Krawli interesting point and so true...
@@kreepikrawli6301 I agree
Sadly, correct. It's very hard for anyone to live up to the Ni vision in my head.
Im an INTJ and i wasnt a jalouse type. An bad few exes made me one. But I think with time I can give trust again. I can read ppl pretty good so it could go fast with an ENFP.
Ralph Jaspers I’m sure you will! 🙏🏻🙌🏻
as an intj - i wouldn't necessarily describe myself as jealous, but I do have a huge focus on trust. I could easily see people like me being very jealous people.
That´s informative. Thanks for your comment.
Jealous INTJ reporting.
Still, jealous isn't same as needy or distrustful so your points are valid.
My experience with an intj is totally different:( except the intellectually stimulating conversations and practicality).
Woow do you love me 😍and I don't know 😅 Thank you so much 💞 i really enjoyed this video
INTJ here. Yes. Excellent . We hate drama.
that you find someone who help you and thay love when thay do
it's something .......i don't know how can i say it but i love that😭💓
enfp
Absolutely!!!!! 🤗🤗🤗🤗
We're jealous but we do not show it.
😂 this vid was created 8 months ago and a bunch of INTJs said the same. My question is, what is your concept of jealousy. Maybe we have a different one?
@@Mindimalist I think the our Te often overwrites the jealousy feeling since we are quite tuned to our Fi. We may feel jealous, may be for a short period, but often quickly get over it. Once we are aware of the jealous feeling, then our Fi informs our Te to find out and get an understanding as to why we feel jealous. Then, move on either to improve our deficiency or our situation that caused the jealousy,or to leave the thought and feeling behind, if we think and feel that there is nothing we can do. May be that's why lots of people see us as not the jealous type.
@@mrendyt This is an awesome answer! I love the clear way you articulated it. Thank you very much for watching and for your comment! 💓
as an intj i have been cheated on in the past and I am struggling with issues regarding jealousy. However, prior to this terrible incident i was never a jealous person.
And thank you alot 😉
I have met an enfp. She is talkative but very nice. Dont know why...
Well when my enfp crush said she she loved other guy it certainly made feel a bit jealous. No big deal, just some minutes.
Luis Berenguer haha you see, a few minutes.
1 year before i discovered my mbti type (INTJ) i used to have a roommate who is ENFP. For the first timw in my entire i was able to understand what friendship is actually like. Throughout the 1 year we spent living in that dorm i always told her that she felt so similar to my mom.
1 year later i after i discovered my type I forced my mom to take the test. Turns out she was ESFP, and my friend is ENFP. Can you imagine?😂😂
There is an ENFP on my work team and our boss is INTJ (I am too) and the relationship is not as synergistic as this video makes it seem. In this case the ENFP can’t keep up with the INTJ boss and co-worker (me).
I NTJ , I found out I was that personality type 4 years ago, so anywho but I had a pretty unfortunate beginning of Life and it's having effects in my out of life can you get a hold of me and we can talk about it further? 🤔✌️🤞
Firstly, why would one change someone that is beyond perfection?
Secondly, noone is "allowed" to change anyone, if they truly love them! All their "flaws" are your favourite qualities, all their insecurities are strength in your eyes. Talking from the high horse because ENFP is perfect and needs no changing :)))))))))
INTJ, and a single parent (surprise!), but I raised an ENFP daughter.
I am an INTJ with my love 😘
That’s sweet 💗
Batman approves!
Im a INTJ male and I can get jealous but most people would seen it as I'm very competitive against the other guy.
Could it be possible that INTJs make of most of their emotions something intellectual? :)
That is definitely possible.
im a enfp and my ex is an intj and it didnt work out at all ! he was very emotionally immature , heartless , disrespectful , never took anything seriously , and etc . total man child and his heart was always somewhere else ... he never did anything right . im so confused
Sorry to hear. And yes typology alone doesn't guarantee anything. You have to still get to know the person and learn by yourself if you like the person and if you are good match or not. Whatever that means for you.
It just goes to show you that anyone can be an immature and emotionally broken person. Anyone can have relationship baggage, and/or mental illness and abusive problems.
Anyone can be self-entitled and self-centered/selfish/narcissistic, and we all have different ways of dealing with our problems, some have massive rage anger resentment issues.
I love my ENFP 🤗
Being jealous about anything is just stupid that why INTJs are not jealous.
I am a intj, and now i would give a chance to a enfp woman, I am single and a bit frustrated. Now I know how difficult is for intj find a girlfriend. Types i am interested now are intj, infj and enfp.
If I found out, that the girl I'm dating is ENFP, I would block her immediately.
I’m a male 15 year old enfp and I’m still looking for the luv of my life intj better come soon 😂
I do know an INTJ now. We are not exactly close. The thing I do notice is they are able to follow my line of thought and they are a good listener. Unfortunately the first INTJ I met was a covert narcissist.
Something I keep in mind is that typology isn't a measure of personality at all. It is only a method to understand cognition. I do not write off INTJs because my first encounter was extremely bad. The second connection with an INTJ was sad for me. I remember one day when I told them "You are a really good friend to me." They replied "We aren't friends but I can see why you might think so." Another two years of moments like that and I had to end the friendship as I would be crying at times.
The current connection with an INTJ is pleasant and kind when I see them. They do not initiate. Haven't seen them thru the isolation. I might see them again, no idea. INTJs are not forthcoming about wanting to go out and do things. They appear to be one of the most introverted types.
I think INTJs might find me overwhelming. I remember the current one said, "Not all you extroverts are obnoxious." ... Its progress.
Sorry to hear about the bad experiences with INTJs, and yes I agree with you, MBTI is about cognition, and personality can vary from person to person, you add up there cultural background, family, religion, previous life experiences, and so on. That will give you, in turn, a different individual, even though the wiring of their brain could be similar.
I've made friends with INTJs through work, or through similar hobby's, and it required a certain amount of time, it evolved in a very natural way. It's not that you post an Ad online and you get your INTJ easily haha
You are dealing with immature and unhealthy INTJs, I can guarantee you that. Like all types, if you find the unhealthy ones you will have a bad experience. I seriously laughed at "Not all you extroverts are obnoxious." ... Its progress.
That actually sounds like that person could be a healthy INTJ based on the sense of humor.
You have got to love that dark humor, or you won't last long with them :).
Snowflake Star Princess Akiko Sparkle Queen agreed!
@o165o There have been times when I've wanted to say this to someone, but I know that it'll land too harshly. I'm selective about who I actually call friend. I can be very nice, understanding, and helpful to someone, but I don't or no longer consider them a friend (for various reasons like betrayals). Usually, in those situations, I give more than I receive and I don't trust the person, but they trust me. Example could be a work colleague who trusted me to help them mend and stabilize their current romantic relationship (I just finished my Master's in Counseling Psychology), and while she's grateful, I don't consider her a friend at all due to many reasons, but suffice to say I know her 'friendship' with me is as deep as a shallow puddle.
All my favourite fictional characters end up being INTJ or ENTJ/ENTP (these often end up overlapping due to lack of depth in a story).
If it's a more serious discussion, I think ENFP female and INTJ male can be an easy match, and obviously the reverse is completely possible, but societal stereotypes will put a barrier.
INTJ, never jealous - I trust but NOT getting jealous has been an issue for some exgirlfriends.
I don't have a romantic partner but my best male friend is an ENFP. He was my employee first and then my witness at my wedding and then my friend for life. In analyzing him I would say if I had a romantic ENFP partner, their lack of boundaries and their charisma that makes women think they are flirting with them is something I would not be able to tolerate. I had the chance to watch it as an outsider since he was my employee and the amount of women coming to my business for HIM, flirt with him and even attempt things..that's something that sorry but no. I would want that changed.
So not sure that I would say that as an INTJ I would accept them as they are.
Not that. I am super strict with my boundaries and want the same.
I am married to an ISTP who is a master st boundaries. I would go nuts otherwise.
Other than that I probably would accept all their quirks and flaws. I find them endearing, down to their lack of organization.
I just asked my best friend what his MB is and it’s ENTP, I’m an INTJ 😂
What about your contrasexual type - ISTJ? ISTJs have the same cognitive functions (Si, Te, Fi, Ne) in their functional stack as ENFPs (Ne, Fi, Te, Si), except they're in the reverse order. So,. they have something in common with ENFPs in one sense, but are completely opposite in another.
Alastair Paisley great subject for another video!! Thanks.
But shortly, yes under stress we’re very alike. It’s scary haha
Yeah, I know an ISTJ female, and there is no emotional bonding, no emotional closeness, just cold hard logic and facts here.
The administer/supervisor is so very opposite of ENFP, no hugs at all (ever!), and is just all intellectual, it feels so cold to this INFJ girl.
A well balanced ENFP and ISTJ can really have a great relationship which helps each other cancel their flaws.
Same thing is true for the ISFJ - more emotional stability.
INTJ - again planning and stability but the freedom to pursue Te logic.
The common thread is the lack of stability in the ENFP and the cautious IXXJ who can miss possibilities
Idk, I've been friends with an Intj girl for about 3 months, she's just my friend but I was thinking about if I could date an INTJ girl, but idk how would Intj be the perfect partner for Enfp, I love hugs, she hates hugs, I'm all love, I need attention but makes me so sad and lonely not having somebody as cheerful, expressive and sentimental, why would Intj supposed to be my soulmate if I just think about how alone and different would I feel, I guess it's cus I've been alone all my life, I've never had fiends, I was alone everytime, and i guess I just want to be huged by my partner, if my parents never hug me or show me any love and affection, I would love to get all the love from my partner, but I'm scared what type of personality my partner could have and if we would grow old together, it better be perfect, idk I'm just talking nonsense, it's just that...
I'm a depressed Enfp, sometimes I think about killing myself, I have nobody, my mom makes me want to kill myself and nobody hugs me or tells me they love me...
I just want somebody to give me love, and I don't see how an intj would :c
Maybe it's not about my personality and it's more about me being alone at home and in school that I feel or think like this, i really don't know
🤗 hugs, believe in you!
INTJ here🙋😎
I am a male INTJ and my best friend is a female ENFP. I don't get jealous of her being with other people, having a bf, etc. I do get jealous of time: I notice her absence in my life when she's gone from my life for long spans of time. A little bit of WeChat or a phone call and I'm good, again.
Oh yes, ENFP’s tend to disappear from time to time. All of those I know including myself 🙈
@@Mindimalist Yeah, and I keep being there when she comes back even though I swear up and down that she's done. No joke, watch the movie, "Leon: The Professional". I'm Leon. All of you ENFPs are the Natalie Portman character. ;)
@@GeoScorpion 😂😂😂😂😂 LMAO
Its funny I'm an INTJ and watching your videos with your enthusiasm and positive energy for being around people like me makes me feel good.
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I think I am a bit jealous INTJ because the girl ENFP that I'm attracted to is in the movement of polylove an all of that. So I was thinking that maybe the best to do is to not try anything with this girl whatsoever. Idk, but I think that if I try something with her, there are highly probability chances that the one that will end in hurt will be me.
ENFPs (especially female) are comparatively common, particularly for NFs, so if you find those kind of personality traits attractive, statistically you will come across someone who matches your personal circumstances eventually.
In terms of hurt, you're both Fi users and will feel any loss deeply.
I would just go for it, win or lose you'll learn something. Better to have loved and lost cliche etc. wonder how this turned out as I am commenting 1 year later
I love enfp's to 😂❤️
Iam an intj and yet iam jealous !
Aha!! one more found.
INTJs experience jealousy just like any other person, yet I think it takes us longer to realize it and accept the feeling, but i believe that for healthy INTJs they have learned to recognize and accept those feelings in order to find a way to deal with them in a way that doesn't affect their relationship. Since our feelings are so personal to us it makes us very sensitive to the people and values we care about. INTJs usually observe the people around us carefully and it takes a lot for us to trust someone, but when we do decide to trust, we do it completely. I like how ENFPS are usually bubbly around everyone and its just how they are, but it would actually make me suspicious when an ENFP is not bubbly around me. I don't know how to respond to that.
That’s a good explanation, thank you.
I have a question for you. Would you feel jealous if you were dating an ENFP that they are bubbly with others as well? Would their natural friendliness and warmth with others make you feel less special and insecure?
@@Mindimalist Well if I have decided to date an ENFP that means i would have already taken the time to observe and understand them and so I would trust them. I know that being friendly is just part of their personality and so I would not be insecure about it. I think its actually a really special thing when an ENFP decides to show someone their serious side since it means that they're committing to something that is special to them.
can u do ab istp?
Honestly, what I love the most about having posted this video, is the amount of interaction I'm having with INTJs. Thanks for your comments, all of them are delightful!!!!
What are things that enfps are confused or dislike about most intjs? At times we know we get things wrong, or feel it's wrong even if it's right .
tim hill hey! I have made a video on this subject th-cam.com/video/yE-Q72D4L2c/w-d-xo.html
It's good, really made me think. You can truly help intjs and people progress. Happy to suggest.
I was searching "who loves intj" and I'm not convinced
INTJ here! Where can I find ENFP's?
Just put it on your dating profile and you’ll find soon one. At least I’ve seen that there’s a lot of male out there... there is for sure a lot of females. Plus dating apps are full of extroverts.
You don't find them, they find you.
Pink and the Brain... one is a genius, the other insane
I was under the impression that everybody hated INTJs. It sure seems that way based on how we're treated much of the time.
Nope, Enfps actually love you! (Okay ENTPs as well) 😇
ENFP here and INTJs are my absolute favorite people always
Imagine you need to do taxes by the end of the month. It will bother me that you procrastinate (lets face it, you will), therefore do you think it's nagging that I will remind you every day that you need to do it, even though it's your problem, but it bothers me to the point that I can't sleep well? :) Most types will consider it's nagging. So I think it's ENFP trait that they can tolerate reasonable level of nagging from INTJs not the other way around.
I haven't filed my taxes for a few years. I do procrastinate around things based on rules and arbitrary systems. Its true about me for sure and probably would annoy others. I am easily motivated when I am with others to have structure. ENFPs require structure that doesn't seem to come naturally for us.
1. Yes I'd procastinate too haha, but I will always do my thing on time, even if it's last minute without anyone reminding me. 2. A reminder wouldn't feel like nagging imo, maybe you're right.
I think it is all made up by the INTJ's, just to find someone who is friendly towards anyone. To me it seems like a nightmare combo. I as a ENFP like spontaneous, emotional expressive, oh and I hate if someone complains about my messiness. All I can find perfectly in my INFP relationship.
Oh well I guess it depends on the person, but it is definitely not for everyone, it depends on your needs.
Wilco den Brok love your comment and it’s totally true. Different people and different needs. Glad to hear that you found your power partner! 😊🙏🏻
Jelous INTJ ✋
haha Great to meet you :)
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