I AM GLAD MY MUM IS DEAD & HERES WHY! | *Talk Tuesdays - Episode 2*
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.พ. 2025
- In todays video I talk about how I am glad that my mum is dead. It sounds heartless but when you watch and listen to the video you will understand WHY I say that. I love my mum dearly and miss her so much but I am glad that she isn't here.
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Hi everyone, I just want to add here that I know that the title may seem heartless but watch the video right until the end you will hopefully understand WHY I have gave the video the title that I have. I’m not as heartless as it may initially seem. ♥️♥️
Yes I from I Ireland not sure about the lovely Irish accent 🤣🤣.there is some lovely places in Ireland.u never no u might visit here some time.i love watching your vlogs.your are so down to earth. U are a lovely person.your kids are so lucky to have you for there mum.😄😄
My heart breaks for u 💔 I get it tho & ty for bein honest. U do everythin for those girls & u should be extremely proud of gettin up & gettin on xx
Aww thanks Julia. I’m okay though, it’s made me who I am ♥️♥️ xxxxx
I am so pleased you replied to my comment. Your title struck a cord with me as it was somewhat reminiscent of my feelings around my brother's death. As the video continued many of the complex issues you described had similarities to my brother life experience. He, like your mother was alcohol dependent and towards the end of his life he was also dependent on prescription medication. He started drinking at 15 years old and sadly died at 48 years old. His 19 years anniversary is on the 18th September 2022. I don't want to solely relate to my brother in this comment but I wanted share some aspect as they have echoes from my own family situation. You are a remarkable young woman given the traumas you have described and lived through. I guess that another word that may best substitute the word in your title, could it be 'Relief at your mother's death'. This type of feeling is so understandable,when you are coping with such a level of stress, and feelings of helplessness. Witnessing someone whom you love continue to use destructive methods inorder to cope with their own feelings of vulnerablity and personal distress is also very distressing for others on so many levels. It's important not to forget that you were The Child in the family situation . I do have some insight into many of the aspects you have shared and feel humbled by your story. It would not be appropriate to touch on these in the comment, as you know there are boundary and personal safety issues to consider. Remember to Be kind to yourself, you did support your mother in the best way both for her and yourself. Also to recognise and acknowledge your personal achievements on a daily basis.
My mum's childhood was like yours. My Nan was an alcoholic and the stories My Mum recalls make me so sad. She had one pair of tights for School and had to wash them each night. She told her she was ugly. She couldn't bring any friends home as the house was so bad. My Mu. went on to Foster children and the social worker said she can't believe she turned out so normal after the childhood she had. You are a lovely Mum and your children are looked after and feel loved by you. That's the least we can do. This was sad but interesting and so raw. You know your Mum loved you. The drink takes over and takes away the real person. It becomes more important and is a cycle that very few get put of. Sending you 🫂 hugs xxx
I understand, totally what you mean. My dad was a chronic alcoholic, he died age 47, it’s was a relief for him he was finally at peace. He fought it for years, in and out of rehab, but nothing really helped him. It’s was bad for us as kids, we see and heard things that most kids wouldn’t. And as a family it was a relief for us, no more searching for him, not knowing if he was dead or alive xx
That’s so sad that you had to search for him and worry whether he was going to be dead or alive. That must still stay with you today. Having an alcoholic parent is so hard, it really takes it’s toll xxxxx
Excellent talk…so open and honest 💜 life experience has made you stronger and determined to give yourself and your girls the best life xx
You are are very brave to put this video out and I’m sure that it will help others going through similar things. You have lived a very full and varied life and you are a strong, sensitive and well rounded human being. You are also very intelligent and perceptive I think you would do really well in a career that would benefit from your experiences. Thanks for sharing xx
Thanks so much Carole. I always try to understand people and why they are the way they are. I do think if we try to understand each other more then the world will be a better place. Understanding people also helps us heal if we know why someone is the way they are. Human psychology fascinates me. I think I done the wrong degree 🥴😂😂 xxx
Thanks for being honest this may help many people out. I understand and get what your saying. Mental health can be hard. If your mum was here during covid she could have suffered loads with her mental health. So glad to see you looking so much better xx
You’re very right. I’d of hated to see her go through covid 😘 xxx
When i read the title of your video i was like whaaat but after watching your video i understand.. My brother was an alcoholic he drank quietly he died at the age of 43 i tell myself hes at peace now... Thankyou for being so open and honest.
Aww I’m sorry the title comes across so blunt. Once you listen to what I say it’s not so bad though! I’m sorry about your brother. Addiction is a sad road to go down for the addict as well as the family xxx
Your an inspiration!🤍
Aww thanks Morgan ♥️♥️
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My Mum suffers from a mental illness and has done for as long as I can remember, it's so difficult at times and heartbreaking for everyone, I totally understand why you would say you're glad, it's no life for someone who is struggling so much with life. Much love to you, she'd be so proud of you x Please do more video's, I'm really interested x
Aww Alison I am sorry to hear that. It’s hard to grow up and realise that the way they are is due to a mental illness. As a kid we don’t understand that so we become confused. Then as an adult you have more of an understanding but so much resentment. It’s hard to process those feelings. I’m still trying but I do think I’m doing well and slowly getting there xxx
I hope you’re okay and your mum ♥️♥️
@@CatherineElizzabeth Thank you xx
Hi catchrine your are a strong woman.fear play to you for opening up about your mam's mental health. That must of been very hard on u haven a young child and expecting a baby.thank god you were abel to cope with a toddler and a new baby.its good thst u can talk about it now..just think of the happy and good memories. U had with your mam.take care💕
Hi Evelyn, thank you so much for such a lovely comment. Can I ask, do you have a beautiful Irish accent? As I read that I could just hear an Irish accent lol. My mum was irish. She was from Valentia Island in southern island. I can’t wait to go and visit one day ♥️♥️
You are so mentally strong. You should be so proud of mother you are. When I think of your mum now I think of her free from her troubles and happy.
Made me cry too xx
Aww Nik, what are you like 🥹. I was sad watching this video back because hearing her story be spoken out loud made me realise how sad she was. You probably have more understanding over what I’ve said because you knew her. You must remember seeing me and Andrew washing windows, cutting the grass and going shopping and so on. It was so hard but now she’s gone I realise she was just mentally unwell ☹️. She was so loving in so many ways though. She was a good mum with problems xxxx
thank you you are so brave you should write a book on your life and am sure it will help loads of people you are very caring and your 2 girls are lucky to have you you had to learn one hard lesson in life and it as made you a beautiful person your chats do help me with what I'm doing wrong in my own life so thank you linxxx
Aww thanks Linda, I’ve always wanted to write a book since I was a child. I never knew what to write about though lol. This may be the topic. It will be hard to write but I’m sure it will also be therapeutic. I certainly did learn a hard lesson in life. There have been many of them. Maybe that’s why I am the way I am and I think the way I do xxxx
Hi thank you for sharing and telling your story love to you and your girls x
Thanks for watching and listening ♥️♥️
Im so impressed with your vlog . Thank you. Its really helped me and your obviously still missing her but she needed her own peace . ❤
Aww thanks Julie, I’m glad it’s helped you. I really do miss her so much xxx
I'm not gonna lie I was shocked at the title of your video but I stuck with it and I understand now. You see I lost my Mum a couple of years ago and I'm still affected even now. One of my twins who is 26 has ptsd I can't say on here what caused it, and I finally got him to see a Dr who sent him to a therapist and he told her what was wrong and she cried, she was no help to him at all, so now he is trusting Holland and Barrett medication which seems to be working thankfully. Xx
I’m glad you stuck with it and understand why I say what I say. I miss her every day and wish she was here but not the way she was. She was just so sad. Mental health is so fragile and it’s hard for people to pull themselves out of it. I’m sorry to hear about your son. A family member of mine also has PTSD. I can only imagine how hard it is for you to see your son suffer. Ultimately as loved ones we can only be there for them but we can’t cure them and it’s so sad. Xxxxx
If able look for a private counsellor.
I think your Mam would be so proud of you. I know where you're coming from. I felt the same with my Dad, he suffered so much in his last 10 years, we all suffered, and we were happy for him when he died. Its 25 years ago and I think about him everyday, but I wouldn't want him back the way he was.
That’s exactly how I feel. Them being here they way they where is cruel for them and us (in a way) xxxx
Fabulous talk ,very honest think she would be so proud of you ❤️❤️
Thanks Julie so much xx
Thank you just makes me think about my life
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Great vlog sorry that's how your life was but I totally understand what you were saying not wanted your mum to be in any more pain mentally or psychically,I lost my dad 32 years ago he went out to work and died in a rta in another county it took me along time to come to terms with it, and affected me for a number of years but it does get easier with time thankyou for being so open and honest and I do believe in the psychic world thankyou again x
Wow that must of been such a shock for you. That’s awful, I’m so sorry. He will be watching over you! Without a doubt looking out for you xxxx
Hiya chick I totally understand. My mum was a alcoholic and died in 12/3/2000. I was pregnant with my youngest at the time and knew what time and day she died as I'm psychic myself. Anyway I went down the road of drinking years ago but I was on the virge of cyrociss of the liver. But I turned my life around and now I'm drink free and I used to smoke but don't now. Sending much love and light 💜💜💜😘
Wow that’s amazing that you’ve turned your life around. We can always grown and learn from our mistakes. Our past isn’t who we are it’s just part of our story! I can’t believe how similar our lives are around the death of our mothers. It’s hard to lose your mum but being pregnant on top just makes it that little bit harder ♥️ thinking of you xxxx
Oh and being psychic!! I love it! You must know that your mum is around you all the time. I believe they get better when they move on to the other side xxx
@@CatherineElizzabeth oh yes I speak with my angel family as I call them daily. They are also better and know more about us than we do chick. Hope you are keeping well. Sending much love and light to you and your girls 💜💜💜😘
They definitely do. I get random messages from me mum but I can’t get them properly all the time. I think it’s hard when we try and communicate with them ourselves because it’s like are we just interpreting messages that we want to hear or is it actually what they’re saying 😂💁🏻♀️. Fascinating though. I love watching all those near death experiences too. Im like a weirdo aren’t I ha ha. I hope you and your son are good and sending lots of love to you both xxx
@@CatherineElizzabeth I have 5 children chick I have 3 boys and 2 girls 💜💜💜😘 I don't think your a weirdo at all. Everyone has a gift. I have been comnicating with my spirit guides and angle family for years. It's easy to communicate even those thought we have are message's. I was so proud of you talking about your mum and she loved it to as that road is so nasty in real life. I also know she's with u n the girls everyday. And please play music they love it. I also light a tea light candle everyday chick. Also light insence to which usually is California white sage. Helps clean the air xxx also if I don't reply from tomorrow until Monday is coz I don't have internet. Sending much love and light 💜💜💜😘
GOOD YOOU GIRLl,❤️
Thanks Barbara 🥹♥️♥️
Oh Catherine I know where your coming from mental health is a terriable thing for the person who goes through it and the family of the person my hubby he's got bi polar and is now in a care home for people with mental health issues and brain injuries my hubby went into hospital and jt was getting harder for me and my family to cope so the nurse as the hospital he was in gold me to have a think if I wanted him in a care home Catherine it was the hardest thing I had to do but I realised he would of had to be with me 24 /7 well he went into a care home after 12 months bring in hospital he's being well care for I can go see him whenever I want I can sleep at night knowing he is well cared for and I've got piece of mind people might not agree but if they have looked after a person with mental health issues they will understand I'd love to give you a big hug Catherine love fran xxxxx
Aww Fran that must of been so hard to shoulder and have to decide. That’s something no one expects to have to do. You’re an inspiration and you should be proud of yourself. You have a husband but you have to live alone. That must be hard to deal with alone. You amaze me ♥️♥️ xxxxx
When I saw your thumb nail I thought ive often said that, but your reason is completely different to mine , I just hated the women that gave birth to me for several reasons ,im not ashamed to to say but that's just me xx
Aww Julie, I am so sorry to hear that but I do understand it. I’m fortunate that my mum loved me and showed me. She was good in so many ways. If you didn’t even have that I can’t imagine how you feel 😔♥️♥️ xxxx
Won't go into to much detail totally understand my mum passed at 57 she was a alcoholic and died qt the hands of her ex partner what we found when we found her still haunts me every day but it's hard to say she's at piece we are qt piece even though we are not if that makes sense the stress the worry the one day she's our mum the next day she's bk to being abusive it's so hard to put into words xx
Whhhaaaaattt?!?! Excellent thumbnail!
I know ☹️ sorry. I hope you understand once you watch the video ♥️
Read Karen Johnson out of the corner 😲Your strong for the girls ❤️
Thanks for the recommendation Dee. I had a look at what her book was about and seen it related to suffering DV and getting out of all the corners she was backed in to. I am definitely going to give it a read. Did you like it? Xxx