Ahh to be 25 again, seems like a distant memory for me. I migrated to the US on my 25th bday. I was also sheltered growing up. My world revolved around trying to be a good daughter, model student, perfect sister - that I never found who I really was. When I moved to my 1st apartment, living on my own, I felt so deprived of freedom and independence. I partied hard, real hard! I didn’t have family or anyone to keep me accountable for my actions. Until I found my self sobering up in jail for 6 hours for DUI. That did it for me, I had to grow up fast! I totally agree with everything you said, feels good hearing it from somebody else. I can totally relate. It might have something to do with our parents’ generation.
My sister, on the other hand, was always breaking the rules when we were younger. She was labeled the black sheep of the family, but she found her true self early on. She didn’t care about appeasing everyone, but herself.
This is true. Growth really happens outside your comfort zone or specifically away from your family. I live independently since I started working away from home. Umuuwi lang twice a month to visit my dad and dogs and I felt like I never want to go back home and live there again.
On my side, i-enjoy ko na lang muna while living with my parents. I grew up sheltered. Bawal ang swimming with friends at overnight. Naging independent lang ako nung nag-work ako sa ibang city at 23. Na-enjoy ko ang freedom for 2 years pero iba pa rin ang under sa parents. hahhahah at 25, bumalik din ako sa kanila hahhahaha. Always remember, time spent with your parents is never wasted. :) Ngayon na married na ako, I miss the comfort with my parents and all pero since nasa new chapter na ako ng life as married. Kaya wag ka masyadong ma-pressure sender. :)
Yes, its seems impractical naman to move out and live alone just because you want to feel mature and grow up. It will come eventually. Lahat naman tayo mag mmove-out from our parents home. Whether you’re 18 or 30, it will happen in your own time. You don’t have to force it, especially if it will only cause financial stress to your family. If you really need space then continue working and soon you’ll buy a big enough house for your family where you won’t feel sheltered.
Yeah, literally adulting is hard humiwalay sa mga magulang is hard but that's how we will improve as individual person. Yes you're alone but it will paid-off. We ourselves can help ourselves. You're on your own you always have been.
I agree with that. It is really hard and challenging especially in our generation today. It will be great if you further expound this type content ATB!
I can totally relate to this. When I was still young, I always ask why. Cause some of my friends can but I can't. As I grow up, that's when I realized that I was being protected by my parents because I was too young back then. We can still grow with or without our parents, it just depends on us. Step out of our comfort zones and go for our goals and dreams.
Been so long since i last listened to the skypodcast and i miss it so much..felt so good hearing and absorbing every bit of info and growth on this topic..thanks skyfam..
Growing having a family beside you should be treasured.. Kasi if you're living independently lalo kapag wala ka na'ng choice, sobrang hirap ng situation, pero mas mabilis ka magmature. And when you grow older "alone", marerealize mo lahat ng lessons na nadaanan mo beyond your journey towards life. I started living independently at 17 yrs old and i am now 26. 😊
hi, I plan on living independently rin po once I turn 17 which is 1 month from now. How did you survive supporting yourself alone po, giving the fact na nag aaral pa?
@@gwynetholasiman6597 Hello po! Living alone is not my plan po since I was very young. But our life in the province is not enormous. My parent's income is just enough po para sa pag aaral namin ng elementary up to high school lalo na nung nag decide ako magtake ng engineering course. I was sent to college by my Uncle ( mother's brother ) na ang kapalit ng pag aaral ko ay living with them, taking care of his kids, doing household chores ( mention all gawaing bahay na ginagawa ng isang kasambahay :) ).., I took up engineering as a scholar in a community college in metro manila. The situation po na ganyan is hard for a 17 year-old. May baon ako papuntang school na 50 pesos minus the transpo of 18 pesos minus the paperworks na ipophotopy, etc. So nothing left talaga. I did have sidelines ( nagbibigay yung bayaw ng tito ko ng 50 or 100 pesos as their appreciation kasi ginawa ko yung project ng anak nila but kapag nalaman na nagkaroon ako ng pera, hindi na ako binibigyan ng tita ko ng baon na 50 pesos. :D ) Anyways, my story are too long to be told. But I survived it all. Mahirap, may times na maiinggit ka kasi sa mga kaklase or kakilala mo, may nag aasikaso na magulang pero sayo wala. ) Iniyak ko nalang. Pinagdasal na malagpasan ko lahat. And tada... after almost 6 years until now, sanay na sanay nako na ako lang mag isa sa realidad ng buhay. Responsible enough to pay my bills , buy my own food, managed my time and disciplined. :) I realized na ang mga pinagdaanan ko in an early age, magagamit ko pala ngayon. :) So kung kaya naman ng family mo na suportahan ka through your journey specially pagdating sa finances, hangga't hindi ka pa nakakapagprovide para sa sarili mo, itreasure mo lang. Not everyone has given such chances . Mas maganda pa din kung nasa mga magulang ka pa. Tsaka kana magdecide to live independently kung alam mo'ng ready kana at kaya mo na :)
Living independently since my parents separated since I was 11 yrs old was extremely challenging but when I've gone through all the difficult part, I felt and still feel liberated and I wouldn't want it any other way. Being independent is addicting.
Quite an interesting podcast. At a very young age, my grandma (lola) asked me what I wanted to be when I grow up. Told her that I wanted to move abroad at a very young age (like after college) to find how life in a strange country would treat me. Luckily, that message was conveyed to my parents early on and they agreed to my plans. The deal was to get good grades to avail of full college scholarships so my parents wouldn't have to pay for my tuitions. If I agreed to and secure such scholarships, then they would allow me to go and live abroad (USA). I also mentioned that if I did continue to get such grades, there will be schools in the USA that would provide scholarships for graduate school. That really happened so I left after graduation and had some form of financial aids & pay stipends to support me. Believe me, when one gets to be independent at an early stage there will be no barriers that one can't overcome whether it be money, job opportunities, career choices or even finding your true self. It's all in the discipline one aspires to maintain a true and fulfilling life. As my late mom would always say " There's always Easter after Good Friday". Trust me that mantra always works. It's been a long and fruitful journey and I do love living here in the USA.
I really love this topic because it opened my mind. When Sir Slater talked about owning the problem instead of asking your parents for help, and not just being a messenger but being a part of it, it gave me an idea to be a part of the problem and resolve it. Growing up, I depended on what my parents would say or agree upon, and I applied their opinions to my interactions with classmates and friends. I would wait for their validation before deciding what action to take when encountering a problem, so essentially, I lacked initiative to resolve it myself. I would just be there, waiting for someone to help me and solve it for me."I hope that one day, I become responsible for the problems that are given to me and can aid in resolving them, without seeking validation or agreeing for my decisions."
That “You can be responsible or irresponsible, it depends on you” indeed, makes me realize a lot 😍 Thank you SKY parents, always inspired and motivated to your words. Forever be the SKY fam fan 🤗
When I graduated from college, I thought I was knowledgeable enough to deal with the real world. I thought I was wise enough to stand on my own and not need anyone to guide me, but I wasn't. After I experienced being alone and broke, I realized that what I learned in school and what my parents thought me were not enough. I realized that there are a lot of things that I don't know, which is why I have to explore by myself in order to learn and to be wise. "Experience is the best teacher,and the worst experiences teach the best lesson." -Jordan Peterson
I lived with my grandma for 14 years. Now I'm 21 living with my parents, its a hard adjustment because we never really lived together before. Migrated to Japan at the age of 15 with my parents, so I was learning new culture and new language at the same time learning how to live with my parents. Its so hard. Especially when mine and their perspective, beliefs and way of thinking is different. I ended up hiding my true self, to the point that I fell into depression. 16, started working, part time so I can save money to move out but things happened so I ended up using the money anyway. Now I'm 21, working full time now but the money I worked for di ko nabubulsa but instead palagi napupunta sa parents ko. I'm not allowed to go out unless kasama ko sila, and I'm not allowed to have sleep overs aswell. I sometimes feel like I have the responsibility of an adult but I also don't have the freedom of an adult so its a struggle. I feel stuck, burned out, tired and depressed. I've given up on saving, because whenever I do, things happen and I always end up using it so I don't see a point to move out and have my own life anymore. Often I think to myself, "Mas better na lang siguro na I wait till their dead kesa naman I prove ny independence and tell them na gusto ko ng umalis, it always ends up in violent fights anyway." Which, probably sounds depressing and disturbing to other people, but its what I think often. I just really want the freedom of being on my own, as selfish as it sounds.
I thought ako lang. It's not selfish, same here sometimes i have thoughts of waiting na lang until their dead kaso i feel guilty about it. Waiting for someone's death is bad but i can't wait for me to experience life.
Manifesting to live in my own. Almost 4 years in my first job. And living with my sister, who is very strict like I can't go out without always telling her where Im going. Sometimes she also misjudge my companions. My heart's been aching and I wanted to soar the soonest.
I was an active yet silent listener of your podcast here in YT but when I read this topic, I can't help myself but to comment. Me, growing up in a Filipino-Chinese fam, I really felt that especially I, who grew up with my grandparents until they've crossed the bridge to God a decade and 3 years ago and was living under the same roof with my father and his fam since then, up until now. The strictness I felt when I was young when I was with my grandparents is on another level but I understood it when I became an adult, especially with the responsibilities, and I thank them for that. You'll feel trapped inside a box at first but really, they're doing it just for yourself and it really paid off when you get older. I hope the younger generations won't feel like they're being dictated with their life. Everything happens for a reason and it will be a good lesson for oneself if you'll take it on a positive note. P.S. in fairness, nahago kog English HAHAHAHA more power and fun podcast topics, Skyfam!
Godbless u both Slater and Kryz. You have no idea how much I need this podcast. I will follow your advice Kryz. I think my mom did not realize I've grown when I move out before. Tayo nalang mga anak mag adjust talaga but not compromising ourselves. Kasi may sarili na tayong buhay. I have my reason why I chose to stay again sa bahay even if I really wanted and I am able naman to live alone again. I hope all old school parents get to watch this. Madalas they forgot that their kids are growing and need to make their own lives in their own terms. Be confident sana na you have raised and equipped them well enough and just let them figure out life. We understand that your children will always be your babies but they need to explore, see, feel and live their lives at the end of the day.
All i wanted is to have people that support me and people i can depend on at a young age but that's not the case. I feel like I'm 5 years older than my age because of this and I hate that I technically never experienced being a "child"
I moved out at the age of 25 pero no pressure kasi I did this kasi ito yung asa timeline ko. My parents asked me several time nung college na mag dorm kasi mahirap bumiyahe Manila to Bulacan everyday, pero hello free and fast wifi sa bahay. It is good to live alone at early stage but don't pressure yourself ha, you need to be ready in making this decision kasi nakakalunod, nakakalula and nakakagulat promise. But in my case now, after ko ma experience yung living alone narealize ko din na I have ticking bomb naI don't know how long can I enjoy my time with my parents. Daming pros and cons but as long as you are mature to face adulthood, gooooo.
Sakin, I want to live separately also. Pero always greater yung fear ko na baka I'll regret it pag wala na parents ko. Na I should have spent more time with them.
I used to be someone who questioned my parents' advice alot especially when they add the part na they're older that's why I should listen to them. But then the moment I had to live on my own and experience things alone, that's when I realize why they had to say those. Living alone does really make you mature enough cause you have no choice but to what's best for you on your own will. It's indeed true that living on those moments rather than listen to it theoretically makes a huge difference. Like what they said that experience is the best teacher. Other than that, living alone does make you get to know yourself better.
True. I was also like this but my view changed when I started to live an independent life which made me grow as an individual. Hard but really want to think its for the better and for my future.
Started moved out at 18, have to live on my own. Won't ask for my parents. I'll have to budget everything an earning just enough to live but doesn't have any savings at all at 20.
Thank you, Mama Papa for allowing me to explore or take risks sa life, bisan gna ingnan nko ni Papa nga gahi jud daw ko ulo, mag tuman sa gusto,hahha pero nalahi jud akoang mindset sa life nga I'm trying to figure jt out sa akoang life.
I do very relate to this. Me and my husband moved out from my parents after 8 years, finally. Kasi my mom we always have indifferences , and also protective na di n sya healthy and also I'm tired of balancing married life and relationship with my parents . Yun aalis k nang bahay na need magpa alam tapos Pag Uwe nmn , ttanungin ka as if kelngan mo magreport all the time
"Little by little, push the boundaries" I also did this when I graduated. I'm still living with my parents until now. Ako na ang breadwinner karun ug di na kaayo ko nila gina-restrict sa akong mga buhaton kay they have adjusted na and kabalo na sila na I'm okay on my own. hehe.
I think a lot of people would prefer the freedom we had. My mother is very supportive and we can do a lot of things without worrying our mother would get mad.
Sa sobrang attached ko sa sky mom grabe nagagaya ko na si skymom kryz sa pag rereact hehehe ang cute cute kasi lang yung "oh nooooooowwwww" hehehe 😂😊😊 btw, I have a strict parent din , may time talaga na nakakainis din kasi di ako pinapayagan pero I'm thankful kasi ramdam ko na may care yung parents ko sakin , takot lang sila na maranasan ko yung mga naranasan nila dati , pero gusto ko din mag try na di dumedepende sakanila.Idk pero ang galing kasi same sila ni mother ko yung sa part na sinabi ni skymom na kailangan natin na iproof sa mga parents na kaya natin gawin yung isang bagay para pag katiwalaan nila tayo maybe that is a mom thing or a parent thing talaga.
The hardest part in living alone is when you get sick and u're miles away from ur parents. You have to get up and buy meds by urself, it's kinda like self healing. No one would gonna massage u or even make some tambal like what ur mother always do, no one is gonna watch you over at night. You have to rely on urself.
Oo super hard siya but eventually you can adjust you will know what to do na, iyong limitations to take care of yourself and that’s an achievement sa self. :).
Home was not my safe space, home was not my comfort zone, home is hell. At the age of 24, last year, umalis nakami ng younger sibling ko, due to our situation. Now I am doing everything for us to survive and for my kapatid to have proper education. I just hope that irresponsible people just don’t have children na, kaming mga anak yung hirap na hirap. As of now, money will solve 90% of our problem, para mabayaran ko na tuition and even my sister’s baon. Yung responsibilities ng parents namin saakin na napasa, all I can do is accept it.
Sulit kaayo ang holiday oi kay nagsige na lang man ko paminaw sa #skypodcast while doing my hobby. Kana bitaw dili na nako need pa magbasa og books kay puno kaayo sa kaalaman ang topics. Hutdanay nani og data bai👍😂. Comment pud ko panagsa og like perminti para naa koy ambag. Even my friends pag once naga yt nako kabalo na sila kinsa akong ginatan aw. Silent follower and supporter ra ko diri na side from Davao. Gikan pagka single, na taken hantod na married na lang SKYFAM gihapon ang bisyo. 😂💕
I was 18 when I started to live independently although my parents are against with it. They are very strict but good thing I was able to convince them by having a proper talk (and arguments hehe). We just have to make them understand, update and assure them in the process. But If they don't, then don't charottttt
Some parents are reasonably strict because they are just over protective. There are also parents who are unreasonably selfish and unfair. Just in the case of Sarah Geronimo, her siblings were allowed to study abroad and have bachelors degree but she as the main bread winner of the family cannot even have a life of her own. Sarah was not even allowed to commit mistakes. Parents are generally protective just like Krizzy's parents but not to the extent of controlling her in all her decisions.
tama....depende pa rin po 😌 i think that their take is obviously from a PRIVILEGED POV... their wealthy life growing up is so different from us who don't get to choose the course that we want to take on for ourselves...
Lumaki ako sa super strict mom , so nong nag work ako abroad don ko na experience lahat ng saya being independent at lungkot at the same time . Hahanap hanapin mo magulang mo kapag malayo nsila mas lalo mo na appreciate . ❤
Super relate to this... Was sheltered for 18 years and my mom died, sumakabilang bahay yung papa ko, I was just an immature, idiot teenager na bago palang namulat, this was the time where I am trying figure out anything everything, ang goal ko nun maka graduate pa nang college, super struggle talaga, i have to grow, to be mature to know donts and dos to survive, to protect myself! I am also suicidal that time kasi no support. And Its been 6 years, and finally, di panaman na figure out lahat but fortunately I am alive and kickin HAHAHAHAHA, how we need to learn talaga the life all the good and the bad..🎉 and its all good learning all this things alone..
Super relate, my mom and dad are extra strict on me than my other siblings. I'm already 24 when I moved out for review, I really learned to take care of myself away from them. Now I'm back in the house cause luckily I passed my board exam, I wanted to work sa Cebu nalang, but they won't let me unless daw may kasama ako, and yeah I'm back at home again kasi they sound more reasonable. I really could save a lot of money specially that I'm still saving money for my future.
Hi please make more videos. Like to suggest also if they want to move out are they capable to live a life alone. Or they are stable and has job. Ty po likey your content this is so nice watching from California
Since high school I want to move out from our house, felt the independence during college, got bullied and having mental disorder from my first job, need to resign at my 2nd job because I got skin/immune disorder (psoriasis and pcos again) but I really want to go to Manila again but my parents won’t let me, 1 year had passed and I am stuck here again at my parents house. 😢 can’t even support my own meds, therapies and consultations from diff. Doctors because the I also need to give financially to them, eventhough I have my degree and also experience the salary here in PH is di po nakakabuhay lalo pag may sakit ka. 😢
Samen sa bahay strict si dad pag sinabing hinde pwede hinde talaga. So ako yung batang tatakas or aalis, makapunta o magawa ko gusto ko. Umalis ako samen like *stokwa*. Kung san san ako nakitira para lang may matuluyan. Natuto ako maglaba maglinis magluto ng pang sarili. Nag work ako ng kung anoano para mabuhay kasi di kami mayaman na kukunsintihin ka ng parents mo. Ayon kayod hahaha. Pero bumalik pa din ako kasi hinde ko kaya. Gusto ko lang umlis para maramdaman yung feeling ng NAKALAYA. Well sa bahay natuturuan naman kami ng mga bagaybagay. Like maglinis ng electric fan. Hinde lang basta linis lalagyan mo pa ng langis yan😅. Yung mga cable wires na nasira dahil kinagat ng daga or aso, aayusin ko yon. Kung gusto mo ng sabitan, di mo na kailngan iutos ikaw mismo ang gagawa😅. Siguro ilang years ko ding gingawa yung pagiging stokwa hanggang sa nag mature na ako sa bahay. Take note sa bahay ako nag mature😅. Hinde sa labas. Naisip ko na di ko mabbili yung gusto ko. Gusto ko naka ready na lahat pag gisng mo may food na sa mesa, yung uniform mo nalabhan na at plantsado pa. Parang hotel nga na gigising ka anjan na lahat sa harap mo. 34 yrs na akong nakasandal sa parents ko. And hinde kasi showy si dad so parang naghahanp ako ng attention. Si mom naman busy sa negosyo kaya wala din.
Bahay at school lang. Pag uwian ng 4 dapat 4:30 nasa bahay ka na. Pag na late ka ng 10mins mapapagalitan ka. Kaya wala akong friends hahaha loner tuloy ako. Pag may group project hinde ako pinapayagan kasi iniisp nila lakwatsa lang ako😢.
I'm 31 firt time ko mg move out. But hindi ko gusto mg move out cause i miss my fam hehehe. But i learn to save money to suffice my needs and now i don't gala cause i'm tired unlike before when i was with my family.
what if u dont have the chance to leave your parents, kasi ikaw ang bunso ikaw mag aalaga sakanila then they request na pag mag aasawa ka na sa sakanila pa din titira.? how about that po?
Same with me, I am the youngest and they don't want to give me away. You can talk to them and make them understand how important it is that you can stand on your own feet. It's not that you'll abandon them, you're just going to build your own little family.
I am thankful with my parents they are strict but at the same time not. I still live with them but I actually have my freedom. They let me travel solo or with my friends, do overnight with colleagues and friends. I think they are also like that was because I earned their trust and respect for the last 26 years.
Ng move out eldest pero di siya nag matured aw 😆 grabe aga ko natuto mag grocery at budget. Kulang pa dala ng mother ko tas may binili akong ice cream. Ending lakad patungo sa house ng parents ko 😱 like 30min walk. Buti mahilig pa ako mglakad nuon
I moved out 2011 and came back to my mom 2020 due to pandemic. I became more matured but it’s different when you are with your parents. Honestly, life is too short and important na makapag spend ka ng time with your parents. Im missing my mom every day now because she is gone and regretting i was not able to spent more time with her
FYI: Not all home are *safe space*
:((((
then you can’t call that a home if it doesn’t feel like one.
@@le.a.n_16 indeed.
legit😢
Ahh to be 25 again, seems like a distant memory for me. I migrated to the US on my 25th bday. I was also sheltered growing up. My world revolved around trying to be a good daughter, model student, perfect sister - that I never found who I really was. When I moved to my 1st apartment, living on my own, I felt so deprived of freedom and independence. I partied hard, real hard! I didn’t have family or anyone to keep me accountable for my actions. Until I found my self sobering up in jail for 6 hours for DUI. That did it for me, I had to grow up fast! I totally agree with everything you said, feels good hearing it from somebody else. I can totally relate. It might have something to do with our parents’ generation.
My sister, on the other hand, was always breaking the rules when we were younger. She was labeled the black sheep of the family, but she found her true self early on. She didn’t care about appeasing everyone, but herself.
This is true. Growth really happens outside your comfort zone or specifically away from your family. I live independently since I started working away from home. Umuuwi lang twice a month to visit my dad and dogs and I felt like I never want to go back home and live there again.
Omg are you back to uploading the whole podcast on yt? Yess please so we can comment
I don't think they can do that. Being them "spotify exclusive"
On my side, i-enjoy ko na lang muna while living with my parents.
I grew up sheltered. Bawal ang swimming with friends at overnight.
Naging independent lang ako nung nag-work ako sa ibang city at 23.
Na-enjoy ko ang freedom for 2 years pero iba pa rin ang under sa parents.
hahhahah at 25, bumalik din ako sa kanila hahhahaha.
Always remember, time spent with your parents is never wasted. :)
Ngayon na married na ako, I miss the comfort with my parents and all pero
since nasa new chapter na ako ng life as married.
Kaya wag ka masyadong ma-pressure sender. :)
Yes, its seems impractical naman to move out and live alone just because you want to feel mature and grow up. It will come eventually. Lahat naman tayo mag mmove-out from our parents home. Whether you’re 18 or 30, it will happen in your own time. You don’t have to force it, especially if it will only cause financial stress to your family. If you really need space then continue working and soon you’ll buy a big enough house for your family where you won’t feel sheltered.
Aww this is really happening. Yes, it's so tough to navigate that balance between pleasing your parents and pursuing your own dreams. 😌💜
Yeah, literally adulting is hard humiwalay sa mga magulang is hard but that's how we will improve as individual person. Yes you're alone but it will paid-off. We ourselves can help ourselves. You're on your own you always have been.
Sometimes it is really hard since we love our parents and feel the need to repay them by listening to them and sometimes that could lead us astray.
I agree with that. It is really hard and challenging especially in our generation today. It will be great if you further expound this type content ATB!
ATB, I think finding a guest with strict parents and cool parents experience would be great! Love your comment and I totally agree with you 💯
Very relating to me, it happen to me when I started to build my own family.
I can totally relate to this. When I was still young, I always ask why. Cause some of my friends can but I can't. As I grow up, that's when I realized that I was being protected by my parents because I was too young back then. We can still grow with or without our parents, it just depends on us. Step out of our comfort zones and go for our goals and dreams.
Been so long since i last listened to the skypodcast and i miss it so much..felt so good hearing and absorbing every bit of info and growth on this topic..thanks skyfam..
Growing having a family beside you should be treasured.. Kasi if you're living independently lalo kapag wala ka na'ng choice, sobrang hirap ng situation, pero mas mabilis ka magmature. And when you grow older "alone", marerealize mo lahat ng lessons na nadaanan mo beyond your journey towards life. I started living independently at 17 yrs old and i am now 26. 😊
hi, I plan on living independently rin po once I turn 17 which is 1 month from now. How did you survive supporting yourself alone po, giving the fact na nag aaral pa?
@@gwynetholasiman6597 Hello po! Living alone is not my plan po since I was very young. But our life in the province is not enormous. My parent's income is just enough po para sa pag aaral namin ng elementary up to high school lalo na nung nag decide ako magtake ng engineering course. I was sent to college by my Uncle ( mother's brother ) na ang kapalit ng pag aaral ko ay living with them, taking care of his kids, doing household chores ( mention all gawaing bahay na ginagawa ng isang kasambahay :) ).., I took up engineering as a scholar in a community college in metro manila. The situation po na ganyan is hard for a 17 year-old. May baon ako papuntang school na 50 pesos minus the transpo of 18 pesos minus the paperworks na ipophotopy, etc. So nothing left talaga. I did have sidelines ( nagbibigay yung bayaw ng tito ko ng 50 or 100 pesos as their appreciation kasi ginawa ko yung project ng anak nila but kapag nalaman na nagkaroon ako ng pera, hindi na ako binibigyan ng tita ko ng baon na 50 pesos. :D ) Anyways, my story are too long to be told. But I survived it all. Mahirap, may times na maiinggit ka kasi sa mga kaklase or kakilala mo, may nag aasikaso na magulang pero sayo wala. ) Iniyak ko nalang. Pinagdasal na malagpasan ko lahat. And tada... after almost 6 years until now, sanay na sanay nako na ako lang mag isa sa realidad ng buhay. Responsible enough to pay my bills , buy my own food, managed my time and disciplined. :) I realized na ang mga pinagdaanan ko in an early age, magagamit ko pala ngayon. :) So kung kaya naman ng family mo na suportahan ka through your journey specially pagdating sa finances, hangga't hindi ka pa nakakapagprovide para sa sarili mo, itreasure mo lang. Not everyone has given such chances . Mas maganda pa din kung nasa mga magulang ka pa. Tsaka kana magdecide to live independently kung alam mo'ng ready kana at kaya mo na :)
Living independently since my parents separated since I was 11 yrs old was extremely challenging but when I've gone through all the difficult part, I felt and still feel liberated and I wouldn't want it any other way. Being independent is addicting.
Quite an interesting podcast. At a very young age, my grandma (lola) asked me what I wanted to be when I grow up. Told her that I wanted to move abroad at a very young age (like after college) to find how life in a strange country would treat me. Luckily, that message was conveyed to my parents early on and they agreed to my plans. The deal was to get good grades to avail of full college scholarships so my parents wouldn't have to pay for my tuitions. If I agreed to and secure such scholarships, then they would allow me to go and live abroad (USA). I also mentioned that if I did continue to get such grades, there will be schools in the USA that would provide scholarships for graduate school. That really happened so I left after graduation and had some form of financial aids & pay stipends to support me. Believe me, when one gets to be independent at an early stage there will be no barriers that one can't overcome whether it be money, job opportunities, career choices or even finding your true self. It's all in the discipline one aspires to maintain a true and fulfilling life. As my late mom would always say " There's always Easter after Good Friday". Trust me that mantra always works. It's been a long and fruitful journey and I do love living here in the USA.
Yes, its true you are the boss on your own when you go apart from them ..
I really love this topic because it opened my mind. When Sir Slater talked about owning the problem instead of asking your parents for help, and not just being a messenger but being a part of it, it gave me an idea to be a part of the problem and resolve it. Growing up, I depended on what my parents would say or agree upon, and I applied their opinions to my interactions with classmates and friends. I would wait for their validation before deciding what action to take when encountering a problem, so essentially, I lacked initiative to resolve it myself. I would just be there, waiting for someone to help me and solve it for me."I hope that one day, I become responsible for the problems that are given to me and can aid in resolving them, without seeking validation or agreeing for my decisions."
I got goose bumps, I related so much. Thank you for this episode, it made me reflect on things I can work on to improve the situation💕
That “You can be responsible or irresponsible, it depends on you” indeed, makes me realize a lot 😍
Thank you SKY parents, always inspired and motivated to your words. Forever be the SKY fam fan 🤗
We all can make mistakes even with or without our parent's guidance, but the most important of all is we all learned from it.
always so helpful and full of insights. love how them as internet parents heal us also! thanks skyfam!
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When I graduated from college, I thought I was knowledgeable enough to deal with the real world. I thought I was wise enough to stand on my own and not need anyone to guide me, but I wasn't. After I experienced being alone and broke, I realized that what I learned in school and what my parents thought me were not enough. I realized that there are a lot of things that I don't know, which is why I have to explore by myself in order to learn and to be wise.
"Experience is the best teacher,and the worst experiences teach the best lesson." -Jordan Peterson
I lived with my grandma for 14 years. Now I'm 21 living with my parents, its a hard adjustment because we never really lived together before. Migrated to Japan at the age of 15 with my parents, so I was learning new culture and new language at the same time learning how to live with my parents. Its so hard. Especially when mine and their perspective, beliefs and way of thinking is different. I ended up hiding my true self, to the point that I fell into depression. 16, started working, part time so I can save money to move out but things happened so I ended up using the money anyway. Now I'm 21, working full time now but the money I worked for di ko nabubulsa but instead palagi napupunta sa parents ko. I'm not allowed to go out unless kasama ko sila, and I'm not allowed to have sleep overs aswell. I sometimes feel like I have the responsibility of an adult but I also don't have the freedom of an adult so its a struggle. I feel stuck, burned out, tired and depressed. I've given up on saving, because whenever I do, things happen and I always end up using it so I don't see a point to move out and have my own life anymore. Often I think to myself, "Mas better na lang siguro na I wait till their dead kesa naman I prove ny independence and tell them na gusto ko ng umalis, it always ends up in violent fights anyway." Which, probably sounds depressing and disturbing to other people, but its what I think often. I just really want the freedom of being on my own, as selfish as it sounds.
I thought ako lang. It's not selfish, same here sometimes i have thoughts of waiting na lang until their dead kaso i feel guilty about it. Waiting for someone's death is bad but i can't wait for me to experience life.
Finallyyyyy full episode on TH-cam, ever since pandemic I’ve been watching your podcast.🥺❤️
Manifesting to live in my own. Almost 4 years in my first job. And living with my sister, who is very strict like I can't go out without always telling her where Im going. Sometimes she also misjudge my companions. My heart's been aching and I wanted to soar the soonest.
I was an active yet silent listener of your podcast here in YT but when I read this topic, I can't help myself but to comment. Me, growing up in a Filipino-Chinese fam, I really felt that especially I, who grew up with my grandparents until they've crossed the bridge to God a decade and 3 years ago and was living under the same roof with my father and his fam since then, up until now. The strictness I felt when I was young when I was with my grandparents is on another level but I understood it when I became an adult, especially with the responsibilities, and I thank them for that. You'll feel trapped inside a box at first but really, they're doing it just for yourself and it really paid off when you get older. I hope the younger generations won't feel like they're being dictated with their life. Everything happens for a reason and it will be a good lesson for oneself if you'll take it on a positive note.
P.S. in fairness, nahago kog English HAHAHAHA more power and fun podcast topics, Skyfam!
Godbless u both Slater and Kryz. You have no idea how much I need this podcast. I will follow your advice Kryz. I think my mom did not realize I've grown when I move out before. Tayo nalang mga anak mag adjust talaga but not compromising ourselves. Kasi may sarili na tayong buhay. I have my reason why I chose to stay again sa bahay even if I really wanted and I am able naman to live alone again. I hope all old school parents get to watch this. Madalas they forgot that their kids are growing and need to make their own lives in their own terms. Be confident sana na you have raised and equipped them well enough and just let them figure out life. We understand that your children will always be your babies but they need to explore, see, feel and live their lives at the end of the day.
All i wanted is to have people that support me and people i can depend on at a young age but that's not the case. I feel like I'm 5 years older than my age because of this and I hate that I technically never experienced being a "child"
I moved out at the age of 25 pero no pressure kasi I did this kasi ito yung asa timeline ko. My parents asked me several time nung college na mag dorm kasi mahirap bumiyahe Manila to Bulacan everyday, pero hello free and fast wifi sa bahay. It is good to live alone at early stage but don't pressure yourself ha, you need to be ready in making this decision kasi nakakalunod, nakakalula and nakakagulat promise. But in my case now, after ko ma experience yung living alone narealize ko din na I have ticking bomb naI don't know how long can I enjoy my time with my parents. Daming pros and cons but as long as you are mature to face adulthood, gooooo.
Sakin, I want to live separately also. Pero always greater yung fear ko na baka I'll regret it pag wala na parents ko. Na I should have spent more time with them.
I used to be someone who questioned my parents' advice alot especially when they add the part na they're older that's why I should listen to them. But then the moment I had to live on my own and experience things alone, that's when I realize why they had to say those. Living alone does really make you mature enough cause you have no choice but to what's best for you on your own will. It's indeed true that living on those moments rather than listen to it theoretically makes a huge difference. Like what they said that experience is the best teacher. Other than that, living alone does make you get to know yourself better.
Following our parents is one of the best thing to do as their children but sometimes you need to learn from your own mistakes
True. I was also like this but my view changed when I started to live an independent life which made me grow as an individual. Hard but really want to think its for the better and for my future.
Started moved out at 18, have to live on my own. Won't ask for my parents. I'll have to budget everything an earning just enough to live but doesn't have any savings at all at 20.
I move out at 15 yrs old to work on my own to finish college. It was difficult but it's all worth it.
Getting out of your comfort zone can be the best thing you can do to yourself!
Thank you always skyfam 💛 more power and love!!!
Interesting topic.👍
Relate much.
Thank you, Mama Papa for allowing me to explore or take risks sa life, bisan gna ingnan nko ni Papa nga gahi jud daw ko ulo, mag tuman sa gusto,hahha pero nalahi jud akoang mindset sa life nga I'm trying to figure jt out sa akoang life.
This is very relatable in my situation. Thanks for this, Skyfam! ❤
I do very relate to this. Me and my husband moved out from my parents after 8 years, finally. Kasi my mom we always have indifferences , and also protective na di n sya healthy and also I'm tired of balancing married life and relationship with my parents . Yun aalis k nang bahay na need magpa alam tapos Pag Uwe nmn , ttanungin ka as if kelngan mo magreport all the time
For me, just let them feel the respect and love, they'll understand that you need to build your family. I know you can do it. Fighting!
very informative! slater and kryz. as a young adult ang dae ko ntutunan.. 🙏 God bless po
"Little by little, push the boundaries" I also did this when I graduated. I'm still living with my parents until now. Ako na ang breadwinner karun ug di na kaayo ko nila gina-restrict sa akong mga buhaton kay they have adjusted na and kabalo na sila na I'm okay on my own. hehe.
Yay! 27mins! Sobrang bitin kasi pag 5 to 10 mins lan e. Thanks for this! So happy para sa katulad kong walag spotify! ❤
I think a lot of people would prefer the freedom we had. My mother is very supportive and we can do a lot of things without worrying our mother would get mad.
Nice to watch a whole episode again... 🙏💖
Yes na upload ng whole sa YT thank you .kasi hindi ko mapanood sa spotify yung video pag hindi ako naka wifi I'm happy 💜
Sa sobrang attached ko sa sky mom grabe nagagaya ko na si skymom kryz sa pag rereact hehehe ang cute cute kasi lang yung "oh nooooooowwwww" hehehe 😂😊😊 btw, I have a strict parent din , may time talaga na nakakainis din kasi di ako pinapayagan pero I'm thankful kasi ramdam ko na may care yung parents ko sakin , takot lang sila na maranasan ko yung mga naranasan nila dati , pero gusto ko din mag try na di dumedepende sakanila.Idk pero ang galing kasi same sila ni mother ko yung sa part na sinabi ni skymom na kailangan natin na iproof sa mga parents na kaya natin gawin yung isang bagay para pag katiwalaan nila tayo maybe that is a mom thing or a parent thing talaga.
Oh, thank you for this episode. I totally could here my voice in Kryz's
The hardest part in living alone is when you get sick and u're miles away from ur parents. You have to get up and buy meds by urself, it's kinda like self healing. No one would gonna massage u or even make some tambal like what ur mother always do, no one is gonna watch you over at night. You have to rely on urself.
Oo super hard siya but eventually you can adjust you will know what to do na, iyong limitations to take care of yourself and that’s an achievement sa self. :).
yesss full episodeee love it!!💛💛
Home was not my safe space, home was not my comfort zone, home is hell.
At the age of 24, last year, umalis nakami ng younger sibling ko, due to our situation. Now I am doing everything for us to survive and for my kapatid to have proper education. I just hope that irresponsible people just don’t have children na, kaming mga anak yung hirap na hirap. As of now, money will solve 90% of our problem, para mabayaran ko na tuition and even my sister’s baon. Yung responsibilities ng parents namin saakin na napasa, all I can do is accept it.
“Ako, yung parents ko Tiger” 😂
Best insights from you both❤
Eto talaga gusto kong marinig dahil matagal ko ng gusto mag move out sa house namin para matuto ako sa sarili ko.
Sulit kaayo ang holiday oi kay nagsige na lang man ko paminaw sa #skypodcast while doing my hobby. Kana bitaw dili na nako need pa magbasa og books kay puno kaayo sa kaalaman ang topics. Hutdanay nani og data bai👍😂. Comment pud ko panagsa og like perminti para naa koy ambag. Even my friends pag once naga yt nako kabalo na sila kinsa akong ginatan aw. Silent follower and supporter ra ko diri na side from Davao. Gikan pagka single, na taken hantod na married na lang SKYFAM gihapon ang bisyo. 😂💕
Skyfam is the best fam on youtube. From Kryz's dalaga days to family life. Super solid!
I was 18 when I started to live independently although my parents are against with it. They are very strict but good thing I was able to convince them by having a proper talk (and arguments hehe). We just have to make them understand, update and assure them in the process. But If they don't, then don't charottttt
Some parents are reasonably strict because they are just over protective. There are also parents who are unreasonably selfish and unfair. Just in the case of Sarah Geronimo, her siblings were allowed to study abroad and have bachelors degree but she as the main bread winner of the family cannot even have a life of her own. Sarah was not even allowed to commit mistakes. Parents are generally protective just like Krizzy's parents but not to the extent of controlling her in all her decisions.
tama....depende pa rin po 😌 i think that their take is obviously from a PRIVILEGED POV... their wealthy life growing up is so different from us who don't get to choose the course that we want to take on for ourselves...
Lumaki ako sa super strict mom , so nong nag work ako abroad don ko na experience lahat ng saya being independent at lungkot at the same time . Hahanap hanapin mo magulang mo kapag malayo nsila mas lalo mo na appreciate . ❤
Yes, I agree Charm! Being independent, you will be shocked on how much things you still don't know about yourself.
Super relate to this... Was sheltered for 18 years and my mom died, sumakabilang bahay yung papa ko, I was just an immature, idiot teenager na bago palang namulat, this was the time where I am trying figure out anything everything, ang goal ko nun maka graduate pa nang college, super struggle talaga, i have to grow, to be mature to know donts and dos to survive, to protect myself! I am also suicidal that time kasi no support. And Its been 6 years, and finally, di panaman na figure out lahat but fortunately I am alive and kickin HAHAHAHAHA, how we need to learn talaga the life all the good and the bad..🎉 and its all good learning all this things alone..
How to be TOP G slater. LMAO
ganda ni Kryzie 🥰
When you move out from your parents’ house, you will become more aware of realities of life and become street smart.
Correct! There are life lessons and life skills that you can only learn when you step out of your comfort zone!
Super relate, my mom and dad are extra strict on me than my other siblings. I'm already 24 when I moved out for review, I really learned to take care of myself away from them. Now I'm back in the house cause luckily I passed my board exam, I wanted to work sa Cebu nalang, but they won't let me unless daw may kasama ako, and yeah I'm back at home again kasi they sound more reasonable. I really could save a lot of money specially that I'm still saving money for my future.
You are both well spoken, easily to listen and speak of make sense topics
funny yung part na "ako yung parents ko tiger" hahahahahahaha ok mom.. raaaawr
oemgeeee will wait for the motivation podcast 😊
This is what I want for myself.for me to grow and feel free somehow
You can do this! Life is short, take it one step at a time!
Please just upload the whole video/podcast some of us don't have a Spotify
I loved your podcast, and it would be nice if you put an English sub, bc there are times I don’t understand, what you said and there is no subtitle :)
Living alone since college has allowed me to truly understand the potential consequences of my choices, which is a fantastic experience until now.
Slater "Biceps" Young
Hi please make more videos. Like to suggest also if they want to move out are they capable to live a life alone. Or they are stable and has job. Ty po likey your content this is so nice watching from California
Lovee you young fam!🔥❤️❤️❤️
I have reached the stage of adulting because I am watching slater and kryz lately. more of this please
Swerte daw ni kryz oy! sabe ni gf hahaha
I love their dynamics!
Since high school I want to move out from our house, felt the independence during college, got bullied and having mental disorder from my first job, need to resign at my 2nd job because I got skin/immune disorder (psoriasis and pcos again) but I really want to go to Manila again but my parents won’t let me, 1 year had passed and I am stuck here again at my parents house. 😢 can’t even support my own meds, therapies and consultations from diff. Doctors because the I also need to give financially to them, eventhough I have my degree and also experience the salary here in PH is di po nakakabuhay lalo pag may sakit ka. 😢
"NAKUBALAN"😭😭😭 lawma maam oyyy hahahahaha
What if wala jud naka learn sa mistake imo friend? Di nalang jud ko ganahan ma stress. Maka ana nalng jud ko "You deserve what you tolerate."
nanghihinayang na rin ako sa hindi na-record na episode !! hahahahahaha
Please share the link po ng community /FB group. Para makajoin. I have something to confess 😢😢 need advice po
Samen sa bahay strict si dad pag sinabing hinde pwede hinde talaga. So ako yung batang tatakas or aalis, makapunta o magawa ko gusto ko.
Umalis ako samen like *stokwa*. Kung san san ako nakitira para lang may matuluyan. Natuto ako maglaba maglinis magluto ng pang sarili. Nag work ako ng kung anoano para mabuhay kasi di kami mayaman na kukunsintihin ka ng parents mo. Ayon kayod hahaha. Pero bumalik pa din ako kasi hinde ko kaya. Gusto ko lang umlis para maramdaman yung feeling ng NAKALAYA.
Well sa bahay natuturuan naman kami ng mga bagaybagay. Like maglinis ng electric fan. Hinde lang basta linis lalagyan mo pa ng langis yan😅. Yung mga cable wires na nasira dahil kinagat ng daga or aso, aayusin ko yon. Kung gusto mo ng sabitan, di mo na kailngan iutos ikaw mismo ang gagawa😅.
Siguro ilang years ko ding gingawa yung pagiging stokwa hanggang sa nag mature na ako sa bahay. Take note sa bahay ako nag mature😅. Hinde sa labas. Naisip ko na di ko mabbili yung gusto ko. Gusto ko naka ready na lahat pag gisng mo may food na sa mesa, yung uniform mo nalabhan na at plantsado pa. Parang hotel nga na gigising ka anjan na lahat sa harap mo.
34 yrs na akong nakasandal sa parents ko. And hinde kasi showy si dad so parang naghahanp ako ng attention. Si mom naman busy sa negosyo kaya wala din.
Bahay at school lang. Pag uwian ng 4 dapat 4:30 nasa bahay ka na. Pag na late ka ng 10mins mapapagalitan ka. Kaya wala akong friends hahaha loner tuloy ako. Pag may group project hinde ako pinapayagan kasi iniisp nila lakwatsa lang ako😢.
It's just a matter of proving to your parents that they can let you be on your own.
I'm 31 firt time ko mg move out. But hindi ko gusto mg move out cause i miss my fam hehehe. But i learn to save money to suffice my needs and now i don't gala cause i'm tired unlike before when i was with my family.
what if u dont have the chance to leave your parents, kasi ikaw ang bunso ikaw mag aalaga sakanila then they request na pag mag aasawa ka na sa sakanila pa din titira.? how about that po?
Same with me, I am the youngest and they don't want to give me away. You can talk to them and make them understand how important it is that you can stand on your own feet. It's not that you'll abandon them, you're just going to build your own little family.
Love u skyfam
I am thankful with my parents they are strict but at the same time not. I still live with them but I actually have my freedom. They let me travel solo or with my friends, do overnight with colleagues and friends. I think they are also like that was because I earned their trust and respect for the last 26 years.
Oommgg i need to grow up na gyud 23 nako gonna graduate soonn naa huhuhu 🤧
Ng move out eldest pero di siya nag matured aw 😆 grabe aga ko natuto mag grocery at budget. Kulang pa dala ng mother ko tas may binili akong ice cream. Ending lakad patungo sa house ng parents ko 😱 like 30min walk. Buti mahilig pa ako mglakad nuon
All of their children looked a lot like their mother. Maybe she had plastic surgery and there is nothing wrong with plastic surgery.
anu po brand nang white shirt ni Slater?😂
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Kailangan 😂 Ng motivation rice
We need all the motivation we can get to go with life and grow.
Yeahh
I moved out 2011 and came back to my mom 2020 due to pandemic. I became more matured but it’s different when you are with your parents. Honestly, life is too short and important na makapag spend ka ng time with your parents. Im missing my mom every day now because she is gone and regretting i was not able to spent more time with her
Sometimes we all want to be free but diyan natin ma re realize that we already have the best thing in the world and that is THEM
thats why I want to spend more time with my parents even if I can stand and live on my own. as long as I'm not married yet, ill be with them
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Paki say hi po ako kay scottie boo plzzz!❤
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