I think you should make a video about the harsh affects of p*rn and viewing p*rn*graphic material, especially in relationships. It’s serious . Also I personally wish more people would talk about how you’re not insecure for not being happy that your partner consumes that kind of content. It’s not rooted in insecurity at all and people will say things like “all men do it, get over it” “there’s nothing wrong with him viewing pretty women” when it’s much bigger than this, yet so many people minimize how harmful even the overconsumption of explicit Insta models is. Most women just suffer in silence about these things because they don’t want to come across as a “hater” or judgmental or controlling. It baffles me how people really act like following 2000 explicit Insta models and going to the sites and viewing that kind of content has no negative affect or consequences personally or in relationships.
Also there’s full blown scientific evidence and research that proves how damaging it is. Especially thing like severing pair bonding abilities, promoting hypers*xuality, men in their 20’s experiencing ED or can’t get it up. A whole new wave of men using it in the bedroom bc they can’t get off without seeing it. Us as women feeling like we have to compete with cornstars and over performing in bed. The increase of violence in the bedroom being normalized. Shaming of “vanilla” s*x. People making it seem like you have to enjoy being chocked, slapped, spanked, thrown around to have valid s*x or else you’re “boring”. All of these issues stem from p*rn and I’d love to see it spoken about more. Because it definitely affects us as women soooooo much
i feel like this "feminine energy only being soft and delicate" is a repackaging of the old school gender roles where women are supposed to be nice & quiet only.
This is sooo deep! People want women to forget that the feminine is often the dark side of the coin. Mother Nature is a whole destructive force as well as a creative, soft, and beautiful…
@nxbxxha_1764no what bullshit are you speaking women have been leaders in bast as well please stop this cave man speak we live in 2023 where there arre women leaders
@White Magik Tiger Well in a patriarchal society woman are said to be more emotional and primal rage is an emotion. So it is a part of feminine energy.
Yeah I definitely noticed way too much of an aesthetic focus on femininity and feminine energy. A lot of channels during the femininity era mostly pushed looking nice on the outside to be feminine. Nails done, hair done, a dress or a skirt, heels ...etc. I now realize how much of a scam that was. Over the last few years , thousands of women have been pressured into buying things. It started off to help women but then became a way to profit off of us. They’d say thing like, “in order to attract a high value man, you have to keep your nails done to be feminine” and then link their coupon code for some press ons ..etc. Then it led to a whole new market of interest and more videos popped out like “top 5 feminine perfumes/ perfumes men love” “High heels that make you look feminine and s*xy” , also probably followed by their link to buy whatever product. Forcing so many women to think that if they don’t have x,y,z then they can’t be feminine. Capitalism took over again . What’s the point of doing all the extras when you still cuss like a sailor, say bro, are overtly aggressive..etc. You can still be in your masculine in a dress, and Valentino heels and perfume lol . Now we just have a lot of women that LOOK the part and look feminine but lack feminine energy .
THISSSSSSSSS! Just because you wear heels and makeup doesn't mean that you're feminine. It's an ENERGY state more than anything, FIRST. Of course beautification can help us FEEL more feminine, but femininity as been absolutely lost in this whole thing, I totally agree!
I always think "If you are trying all the time to be perfect in your femenine energy, you are been controlling, and thats very masculine energy to me". Let it flow🦋
@Don't Need My Name exactly!! That's why I don't agree with how transexuality is being normalised no matter what. Like, *I* am a woman because I was born one, that's how I've always been perceived , I've had to live and deal with the troubles and issues, daily, every other women has too. I feel like most men who identify as trans women don't fully understand what being a woman is. I understand and know that there is dysmosphism, even I've felt it before! But becoming a woman is not as easy as getting a surgery. It DEFINETELY is NOT about what we dress, makeup or nails or our hair not even high heels. I don't wear makeup, nor high heels nor do my nails a lot, but I'm a woman regardless, and trans women DO have to prove to us they are women! Otherwise, it's just men trying to force themselves into our spaces to abuse us in some way, like they've been doing since the beginning of time. No, I don't agree trans women can use women's bathrooms no matter what, nor can they take part in female sports. If they can't understand that they have to prove to cis women that they are women, then they're just like men trying to take advantage of their masculinity.
I remember a year ago there was feminine energy videos popping up. Some good some bad. One of the bad were feminine energy all relating to men and physically appearances even tattoos. Often bashing black culture aesthetics like long designed nails, earrings, dressware -everything. Saying men don’t want that and often taking submissive role to men in these talks. So thank you for these videos bc femininity isn’t linear or black/white.
@@eliciagoguenI agree, the toxic side of some of these femininity channels is that they teach femininity from a standard point that Eurocentrism is ideal
So true!I HATE when people think if woman wears make up,everything in pink soft, that’s how feminine woman looks like, but nooo!Its confident,strong, beautiful with her light and dark feminine energy!❤️🔥
You act like make up is a crime 😅make up & hygiene makes women attractive. Not to much make up but a bit can change ur look and ur confidence. Why always the hate? If you don’t like make up then don’t do it 😊
god i’m so in love with this channel! i’m soon turning 18 and learning about femininity and self improvement is so important to me. i’m so thankful this channel exists!❤
Never really got into the feminine energy thing because i just saw a lot of perfectionism and physical attractiveness in a convenient for men sorta way but i still wanted to feel feminine in my being. This was a great video
I think as someone who hasn't had a lot of money on my disposal to spend on make up, wigs and new clothes, I've been feeling like I'm not making much progress on my femininity journey. Funny enough, internally I've been doing the work & I do see the changes (I'm happy) but because I don't look like the prescribed femininity aesthetic. Which has been discouraging, because femininity has been reduced to looks over energy.
I needed this. I am often seen as sweet and cute until, I tap into my dark feminine side. I am not afraid to vocalize if an issue arises and men often get defensive. I may be a Floridian but, I was born and raised in New Jersey. You can always take the girl out of New Jersey but, you can't take the New Jersey attitude out of the girl. sorry for keeping it real.
Wow I realized I was so stuck in being a ‘soft’ that when I ended my relationship I entered my dark feminine from a very wounded place and sometimes honestly made me feel worse
I always thought feminine energy is different from feminine character. A lot of content creators are basically saying doing this, talking like that, dressing like this will make you feminine but those are characteristics , a woman can have a deep voice or dress like a Tom boy or whatever and still have the energy of a feminine woman. Idk, great video though!
I do posts on divine femininity and womanhood on social media and I make sure to let my followers know that femininity isn't all about liking pink, having a soft voice, or wearing dresses and make-up.
People think feminine energy is some sort of voice modulation, a capsule wardrobe with only skirts and being soft like a doormat. As a woman, being the highest version/worthiest of yourself is being feminine. In that mindset, you will hardly ever put yourself down or regret your actions. From that mindset, you can wear shoulderpad blazer/ suit, yell, swear and still will radiate feminine energy. You can cry and wont be called crazy. It is an inside job. In your power, you dont have to yell or cry first of all. Things will be done without any action.
Loved this video! I’m only 17 and still struggling with my identity but I naturally embody the dark feminine quite often but always felt really bad about it as if it needed to be fixed. Thank you for this reminder!! Women are amazing. I feel like this huge sometimes wild and chaotic range of very powerful emotions is what makes being a woman hard but also very beautiful. It’s all about balance in the end. Keep on doing what you’re doing you’re so likable and I love watching your videos💗
One of the most well deserved moments I immediately clicked the subscribe button! I would like to add, these "femininity" youtubers can also tend to be rude and passive aggressive, which goes against their "femininity" agenda lmao I got called out by one of these famous "feminine" youtubers implying that I'm crazy just because i said that masculinity and femininity can be mixed in both men and women, and that traditionally speaking, one purpose of marriage was supposed to be about the more "masculine" husband learning feminine energy in his wife and vice versa, and finally getting to a point where both partners through learning from each other can balance both the energies within them later on. She literally dismissed my religious background (I'm a Hindu woman), and instead of being professional about my comment and taking it with a grain of salt, or just ignoring it if she has nothing nice to say, she replied directly, and her comment just implied I'm crazy and told me to watch the video again ,😒 Girl, this is on point, don't change your view, hold your ground. ❤️
Wow, so sorry to hear you had that experience 🙄 but honestly, there’s so many viewpoints at this point you are bound to come across people with polarizing views.!! Even for me, there’s still people who don’t agree with a lot of things that I say, which is whatever 🤷🏽♀️ I totally see your viewpoint though and I love that balance!!! Thanks so much for subscribing 🥰
I'm always told I'm "too competitive" "too aggressive" "too brute"... I have always hated this, but I thought they were correct in labeling me as unladylike. but no. the misogynistic view of a woman needs to die. you are beautiful, you are strong, you are powerful.
We all contain multitudes! The focus should be on developing self-confidence, consistency and self-worth in order to have an overall healthy wellbeing. Once you operate from a place of intention and fulfillment, you'll have more rewarding moments.
Emotions are necessary, taming your anger just so other people are comfortable is not ok, because anger tells you where you need to set boundaries and about your needs, being the cool chill girl to me is not ok, its rejecting your own needs just to please others out of fear they reject you, its not putting yourself first. at the same time, you can be angry and communicate this anger in so many ways, you can decide to react different and communicate assirtively to not hurt the people close to you. It should be a balance. But thinking you have to be put together and "classy" all the time is just ridiculous. I actually like more, girls that are unapologetic, free, alive, and wild, real raw. I think its necessary also to have true real connections with other people. To me feminine energy is about being yourself, feeling yourself and feeling empowered by whatever you are feeling and accepting yourself deeply. Being connected to yourself and knowing who you are.
I'm new to this and hearing you explain the duality so clearly made me agree to almost everything you said. The biggest problem young girls in my generation face in these times is expectations from society which in turn wounds and harms their potential to embrace their natural feminine side. Their wounds then poison them and they fall into this loop of never ending self sabotage, thank you, Elicia, for being here for Girls like me who have been like this before.
12:07 yes I will always be myself. So true. I understand being classy & looking good. I'm still going to be free & outside of the box. To me femininity is free & fun.
Omg this is right on time. I’m so tired of being treated like I’m not cherish-able, delicate or like I’m solely tomboy-ish just because I honestly do allow myself the space and the grace to thrive in my duality. I’m not just dark feminine. I’m not just the lighter side of femininity. I’m both and I’m not ashamed of it.
I 100% agree with just be you, in all your forms. And it seems really exhausting to TRY to be in a certain energy so people will see you a certain way and change everything about yourself to fit an image.
My friend just told me that i have a feminine energy and that made me feel bad cause i thought it made me weak because of the way society percieves it, the soft feminine energy, but thankyou for telling about dark feminine energy, i clearly have both of em
God brought me to your channel and I thank Him for speaking to me through you. i was telling my inner child earlier how i don’t have to live my life based on aesthetics, how i don’t have to be perfect and how i don’t have to operate from my old wounds still, especially when i would go into my dark feminine energy and this video pops up of you telling us the EXACT same thing. your videos is literally in sync with the internal change i’ve been doing in my life lately especially when they pop up after the talks i have with myself and some days are better than other but that’s okay too. i’ll be 27 in a couple months and this year has made me face my God complex which is something you have when you operate from your wounds and subconsciously don’t know it. i really had to face myself and i feel like you’re the friend i never had in life and your videos is helping me way better than all the years of therapy bc you’re really helping us get to the root without scaring ourselves to face our wounds. this shit is pure love, thank God for you❤
Finally someone preach it!! 💗 So many people forget that feminine energy doesn't always about the "light" and perfectionism. You can be angry and swear but still feminine, you can express negative emotions but still feminine. If you watch movie Gilda, she's very feminine charming woman even though on the inside she's a mess. Morticia from Adams Family, she's very feminine and soft, even though she has sadistic energy. In How to marry a billionaire, all the 3 women have different character; one is uptight, one is playful, another one is foolish, but they're all feminine. You don't have to be that "one type" of feminine woman. You can be yourself and be feminine at the same time 💗
I love that you’re wearing a dark tank-top for the topic of embracing dark feminine energy. But on the real, thank you for doing a deep dive on feminine energy. I always knew I like a woman who has both energies, thank you for reinforcing that ❤ This really helped distract me, I just been verbally attacked by my stepfather, I’m kinda sad 😢 and my day’s been ruined. I don’t even know what I did to deserve this 😭 sorry But thank you for the video 🥹
Im so sorry your stepfather verbally attacked you. You don't deserve that and I hope you find an amazing community of supportive people to have your back (if you don't already).
This is a great argument! ✨got me thinking about animals where the females are often stronger and more aggressive than the male counterparts due to their maternal instincts!! A lot of human societies and animal species have always had female leaders - this is a side of women that has always been there. Trying to be overly soft is really never who we were supposed to be.
Once again, Elicia you read my mind! What a wonder you are. Before I focused on being more self aware, I felt bad I wasnt being “Feminine” enough. At least the way it is being sold in society. I tend to be bubbly and passionate and also silly but that is who I am and it makes me happy. But my mind always told me I wont be feminine enough no matter what. Now, I am doing my best to be more self accepting and be self aware and somehow the calmness and being comfortable seem to come naturally. But at the same time, my dark feminine traits also remain. Your video was just a confirmation how it is okay and how there is a duality. I am not saying that validation is needed but still…what you said made me realize we are not alone in this topic. Thank you once again. I feel wiser or tap into my own wisdom deeper with every video you create.
Omg this makes me SO HAPPY to read. Im truly so proud of you, this was my goal for the video to help you feel a little more wise while being A LOT more loving to yourself. So so so proud of you ❤️
Can you make a video on jealousy!!! Whenever I see someone with something I desire I feel extremely bad for myself and beat myself up! Help. I hate how I’m not able to be fully grateful and happy with what I have. I end up regretting that.
i was watching a trans women vs conservative women middle ground video and one of the trans women answered that being a women is about integrity and yada yada but…shouldn’t everyone have integrity? so it got me asking myself the same thing, what makes a woman and what makes a man. you totally hit it on the nail for me, it’s more than being girlboss girl power 24/7
I used to be told to "sit like a lady." I didn't think much of it at the time (I was 9-10) but now a decade later, I look back and realize I should have been simply told to sit properly. Not sit "like a lady."
This video made me open to going back and listening to *your* videos on this subject (still mistrustful of the other videos, though). I’ve really been appreciating your work & the strength I feel to take better care of myself and heal after watching.
Just reading Women Who Run With Wolves' for the first time and this is really hitting it. Baba Yaga is the feminine, the witch is the feminine as much as the princess. Divine feminity is Kali and Hecate, as well as Aphrodite.
@@Molster77 Yes! I mean I think it's an amazing book for any woman at any stage of her journey, but especially at the start when you're just coming into your womanhood and shedding the armour of adolescents. I'm 21 myself, and am finding it a really good way to connect to the Old Wise Feminine - a lot of it feels like listening to a grandmother while you're shelling peas together.
i’m so tired of the capitalistic and patriarchal ideals pushed on women for the sake of femininity. one of the actual videos i’ve seen on the topic that’s actually helpful and not disingenuous
So glad you clarified this. I’m so tired of people stripping feminine energy down to a pretty girl esthetic. That’s the same problem I have with transgenders. Like women are much more than an appearance, a generic catty attitude, and a light toned voice
Omg that's why I love this channel and I love you too! So many Women claim in order to be in your feminine energy you have to always wear pink , be tamed (as if we are some animal) , like just completely forget who you actually are in order to be loved and appreciated by your Partner. This is so dumb 💀 I literally hate this kind of bishes 😫 Sorry for my language. But girl.. I love you.. I really do💗
your videos on tiktok really kept me alive last year and it's happening again, you're like a big sis i've never had and i'm soooo thankful that you're making this content, thank you soooo much and i really wish you the best ❤❤
I love your video is sooo refreshing. I've been on this whole feminine energy side of youtube and honestly it was draining it made me actually more insecure than before because I' ve never found myself exactly fitting in to this vision of super girly girl and now I' m finding that I lack essence of a this womenhood. I' m not a proper women. Right? Which is such a bullshit. Because being a women is not about laughing along with every word your man says or spending hours in bathroom being a women is about being good human feeling confident authentic and loving yourself so you can love being a women which none can take away from you!!! I think this kind of content is booming right now as a consequance of unfortunate musculisation of femminity which is so common for example in movies which makes girl really lost. They are facing now two extremes perceiving femminity as a weakness and accepting masculinity as a new femminity or being extra femminine in order to feel better about themselves and making it their whole identificatio but being a women or a men is about balance about confidence that comes from inside you not the superficial stereotypical behaviour. Also why would I reject my awasome qualities as witt ability to stand up for myself or emotional control there is nothing unfemmine about it you are a women and every women is different so your energy will be different there is no need to overthink that. Plus I love how manipulative this whole trend. It shows femminity as a consequence of masculinity as a response to it. It's just sad that being a women is still so misinterpreted. Anyway I'm really happy that you tackle this topic keep going.
My mom is a very dominance woman. I have it from her. Men always tell me I am too dominant and don’t let them feel like a man & I want to say my opinions as well or choose things etc. But the reality is. They only want that „feminine energy“ so they can manipulate her. I have feminine energy as well but my masculine energy comes as fast as I can say when I realize I don’t feel safe with that man I’m having a date with
I for a long time identified as non binary and/or gender fluid, using he/they/she pronouns. But after sitting with myself for a long time I realised that it wasn’t actually that I didn’t feel like a woman, it was that I didn’t feel like the societal representation of a woman - I don’t fart perfume, I take shits, I have thick dark eyebrows, I weigh more that 110 pounds… but actually I do feel like a Woman, I feel deeply connected to my feminine energy now that I have reframed my understanding of what it means to be a woman. It’s deeply personal, it’s ever changeable and ultimately I think a lot of AFAB people that identify as NB are in that same position, that they don’t feel they are achieving the standards set forth by society of womanhood, simply because they sweat, or shit, or just generally aren’t these perfect soft pink packages we are made to feel we should be .
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The big disconnect is that we keep perpetuating there is a "masculine energy." This is simply not true, the feminine is energy itself. Unfortunately this interferes with recent social trends/constructs and so this little fib is doing a number on everyone's understanding of polarity.
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I think you should make a video about the harsh affects of p*rn and viewing p*rn*graphic material, especially in relationships. It’s serious . Also I personally wish more people would talk about how you’re not insecure for not being happy that your partner consumes that kind of content. It’s not rooted in insecurity at all and people will say things like “all men do it, get over it” “there’s nothing wrong with him viewing pretty women” when it’s much bigger than this, yet so many people minimize how harmful even the overconsumption of explicit Insta models is. Most women just suffer in silence about these things because they don’t want to come across as a “hater” or judgmental or controlling. It baffles me how people really act like following 2000 explicit Insta models and going to the sites and viewing that kind of content has no negative affect or consequences personally or in relationships.
Also there’s full blown scientific evidence and research that proves how damaging it is. Especially thing like severing pair bonding abilities, promoting hypers*xuality, men in their 20’s experiencing ED or can’t get it up. A whole new wave of men using it in the bedroom bc they can’t get off without seeing it. Us as women feeling like we have to compete with cornstars and over performing in bed. The increase of violence in the bedroom being normalized. Shaming of “vanilla” s*x. People making it seem like you have to enjoy being chocked, slapped, spanked, thrown around to have valid s*x or else you’re “boring”. All of these issues stem from p*rn and I’d love to see it spoken about more. Because it definitely affects us as women soooooo much
i feel like this "feminine energy only being soft and delicate" is a repackaging of the old school gender roles where women are supposed to be nice & quiet only.
Yup
@@spotless003 We’re women…… What’s wrong with being feminine, soft and delicate as a WOMAN?
@@kaylanetanya absolutely nothing. It's bad only when you forced to be that way, even when your nature is different.
Then how would you define feminine energy? Genuine question, no bad intentions
@@kaylanetanya nothing. But dont expect like i have to be soft delicate and bla bla at all costs because that's your only conception of feminine.
This is sooo deep! People want women to forget that the feminine is often the dark side of the coin. Mother Nature is a whole destructive force as well as a creative, soft, and beautiful…
YES!!!
THISS....so true. Well said.
Exactly!!!!
Frrr❤❤
this!!
"you are not here to make people comfortable at all times"
I needed that!!!!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥
😍😍😍
This is why I’m subscribed. No bs about trying to shrink yourself to uphold toxic patriarchal standards.
yaaaaaas !!
Which toxic patriarchal standards specifically?
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@@themeaningisalwaysvague8671 society doesn’t like women when we don’t have these traits. So yeah.
@nxbxxha_1764no what bullshit are you speaking women have been leaders in bast as well please stop this cave man speak we live in 2023 where there arre women leaders
Expressing emotions, even primal rage, is perfectly feminine 😌
Yep
Seems quite masculine to me
@White Magik Tiger Well in a patriarchal society woman are said to be more emotional and primal rage is an emotion. So it is a part of feminine energy.
@@whitemagiktiger how is a EMOTION a masculine trait
Yeah I definitely noticed way too much of an aesthetic focus on femininity and feminine energy. A lot of channels during the femininity era mostly pushed looking nice on the outside to be feminine. Nails done, hair done, a dress or a skirt, heels ...etc. I now realize how much of a scam that was. Over the last few years , thousands of women have been pressured into buying things. It started off to help women but then became a way to profit off of us. They’d say thing like, “in order to attract a high value man, you have to keep your nails done to be feminine” and then link their coupon code for some press ons ..etc. Then it led to a whole new market of interest and more videos popped out like “top 5 feminine perfumes/ perfumes men love” “High heels that make you look feminine and s*xy” , also probably followed by their link to buy whatever product. Forcing so many women to think that if they don’t have x,y,z then they can’t be feminine. Capitalism took over again . What’s the point of doing all the extras when you still cuss like a sailor, say bro, are overtly aggressive..etc. You can still be in your masculine in a dress, and Valentino heels and perfume lol . Now we just have a lot of women that LOOK the part and look feminine but lack feminine energy .
“Capitalism took over again”, never has anyone sounded more like me in a TH-cam comment section💀💀
Yes to every analysis you drew
THISSSSSSSSS! Just because you wear heels and makeup doesn't mean that you're feminine. It's an ENERGY state more than anything, FIRST. Of course beautification can help us FEEL more feminine, but femininity as been absolutely lost in this whole thing, I totally agree!
@Don't Need My Name cussing is off putting from a man or woman tbh
I always think "If you are trying all the time to be perfect in your femenine energy, you are been controlling, and thats very masculine energy to me". Let it flow🦋
Facts!!! ❤️
@@dontneedmyname2164 Who is talking about being a woman? We're talking about energy.
@Don't Need My Name exactly!! That's why I don't agree with how transexuality is being normalised no matter what. Like, *I* am a woman because I was born one, that's how I've always been perceived , I've had to live and deal with the troubles and issues, daily, every other women has too. I feel like most men who identify as trans women don't fully understand what being a woman is. I understand and know that there is dysmosphism, even I've felt it before! But becoming a woman is not as easy as getting a surgery. It DEFINETELY is NOT about what we dress, makeup or nails or our hair not even high heels. I don't wear makeup, nor high heels nor do my nails a lot, but I'm a woman regardless, and trans women DO have to prove to us they are women! Otherwise, it's just men trying to force themselves into our spaces to abuse us in some way, like they've been doing since the beginning of time. No, I don't agree trans women can use women's bathrooms no matter what, nor can they take part in female sports. If they can't understand that they have to prove to cis women that they are women, then they're just like men trying to take advantage of their masculinity.
@@sugar_plum_fairy autogynephilia they have a fetish mostly
@@seabreeze4559 :// yeah..
I remember a year ago there was feminine energy videos popping up. Some good some bad. One of the bad were feminine energy all relating to men and physically appearances even tattoos. Often bashing black culture aesthetics like long designed nails, earrings, dressware -everything. Saying men don’t want that and often taking submissive role to men in these talks.
So thank you for these videos bc femininity isn’t linear or black/white.
Ugh yes. More conversations need to be had about this!! Definitely not linear or black/white 👏🏼
Thank you there is a demonization of black culture in these feminine energy videos
@@eliciagoguenI agree, the toxic side of some of these femininity channels is that they teach femininity from a standard point that Eurocentrism is ideal
So true!I HATE when people think if woman wears make up,everything in pink soft, that’s how feminine woman looks like, but nooo!Its confident,strong, beautiful with her light and dark feminine energy!❤️🔥
That's called hyperfemininity now
You act like make up is a crime 😅make up & hygiene makes women attractive. Not to much make up but a bit can change ur look and ur confidence. Why always the hate? If you don’t like make up then don’t do it 😊
god i’m so in love with this channel! i’m soon turning 18 and learning about femininity and self improvement is so important to me. i’m so thankful this channel exists!❤
i'm so thankful that you're here watching 😍
Never really got into the feminine energy thing because i just saw a lot of perfectionism and physical attractiveness in a convenient for men sorta way but i still wanted to feel feminine in my being. This was a great video
I think as someone who hasn't had a lot of money on my disposal to spend on make up, wigs and new clothes, I've been feeling like I'm not making much progress on my femininity journey. Funny enough, internally I've been doing the work & I do see the changes (I'm happy) but because I don't look like the prescribed femininity aesthetic. Which has been discouraging, because femininity has been reduced to looks over energy.
I needed this. I am often seen as sweet and cute until, I tap into my dark feminine side. I am not afraid to vocalize if an issue arises and men often get defensive. I may be a Floridian but, I was born and raised in New Jersey. You can always take the girl out of New Jersey but, you can't take the New Jersey attitude out of the girl. sorry for keeping it real.
YAAAAAAAS GIRL
Jersey Girl here!!! And i have the same issue
Same
Wow I realized I was so stuck in being a ‘soft’ that when I ended my relationship I entered my dark feminine from a very wounded place and sometimes honestly made me feel worse
I always thought feminine energy is different from feminine character. A lot of content creators are basically saying doing this, talking like that, dressing like this will make you feminine but those are characteristics , a woman can have a deep voice or dress like a Tom boy or whatever and still have the energy of a feminine woman. Idk, great video though!
Right Tmthere is Anna Mouglalis a frensh actress who has a very deep voice but stills a symbol of femininity
I like how you just say that feminine energy isn’t perfect = letting go of those thoughts which are finally very structured !!
Really reminds me of that theme in black swan movie.
I do posts on divine femininity and womanhood on social media and I make sure to let my followers know that femininity isn't all about liking pink, having a soft voice, or wearing dresses and make-up.
People think feminine energy is some sort of voice modulation, a capsule wardrobe with only skirts and being soft like a doormat. As a woman, being the highest version/worthiest of yourself is being feminine. In that mindset, you will hardly ever put yourself down or regret your actions. From that mindset, you can wear shoulderpad blazer/ suit, yell, swear and still will radiate feminine energy. You can cry and wont be called crazy. It is an inside job. In your power, you dont have to yell or cry first of all. Things will be done without any action.
Loved this video!
I’m only 17 and still struggling with my identity but I naturally embody the dark feminine quite often but always felt really bad about it as if it needed to be fixed.
Thank you for this reminder!! Women are amazing. I feel like this huge sometimes wild and chaotic range of very powerful emotions is what makes being a woman hard but also very beautiful. It’s all about balance in the end.
Keep on doing what you’re doing you’re so likable and I love watching your videos💗
Why don't you say, fuck it and just do stuff as you please rather than worrying about an identity?
One of the most well deserved moments I immediately clicked the subscribe button!
I would like to add, these "femininity" youtubers can also tend to be rude and passive aggressive, which goes against their "femininity" agenda lmao I got called out by one of these famous "feminine" youtubers implying that I'm crazy just because i said that masculinity and femininity can be mixed in both men and women, and that traditionally speaking, one purpose of marriage was supposed to be about the more "masculine" husband learning feminine energy in his wife and vice versa, and finally getting to a point where both partners through learning from each other can balance both the energies within them later on. She literally dismissed my religious background (I'm a Hindu woman), and instead of being professional about my comment and taking it with a grain of salt, or just ignoring it if she has nothing nice to say, she replied directly, and her comment just implied I'm crazy and told me to watch the video again ,😒
Girl, this is on point, don't change your view, hold your ground. ❤️
Wow, so sorry to hear you had that experience 🙄 but honestly, there’s so many viewpoints at this point you are bound to come across people with polarizing views.!! Even for me, there’s still people who don’t agree with a lot of things that I say, which is whatever 🤷🏽♀️ I totally see your viewpoint though and I love that balance!!! Thanks so much for subscribing 🥰
I'm always told I'm "too competitive" "too aggressive" "too brute"... I have always hated this, but I thought they were correct in labeling me as unladylike. but no. the misogynistic view of a woman needs to die. you are beautiful, you are strong, you are powerful.
We all contain multitudes! The focus should be on developing self-confidence, consistency and self-worth in order to have an overall healthy wellbeing. Once you operate from a place of intention and fulfillment, you'll have more rewarding moments.
Emotions are necessary, taming your anger just so other people are comfortable is not ok, because anger tells you where you need to set boundaries and about your needs, being the cool chill girl to me is not ok, its rejecting your own needs just to please others out of fear they reject you, its not putting yourself first. at the same time, you can be angry and communicate this anger in so many ways, you can decide to react different and communicate assirtively to not hurt the people close to you. It should be a balance. But thinking you have to be put together and "classy" all the time is just ridiculous. I actually like more, girls that are unapologetic, free, alive, and wild, real raw. I think its necessary also to have true real connections with other people. To me feminine energy is about being yourself, feeling yourself and feeling empowered by whatever you are feeling and accepting yourself deeply. Being connected to yourself and knowing who you are.
I'm new to this and hearing you explain the duality so clearly made me agree to almost everything you said. The biggest problem young girls in my generation face in these times is expectations from society which in turn wounds and harms their potential to embrace their natural feminine side. Their wounds then poison them and they fall into this loop of never ending self sabotage, thank you, Elicia, for being here for Girls like me who have been like this before.
12:07 yes I will always be myself. So true. I understand being classy & looking good. I'm still going to be free & outside of the box. To me femininity is free & fun.
Omg this is right on time.
I’m so tired of being treated like I’m not cherish-able, delicate or like I’m solely tomboy-ish just because I honestly do allow myself the space and the grace to thrive in my duality. I’m not just dark feminine. I’m not just the lighter side of femininity. I’m both and I’m not ashamed of it.
I 100% agree with just be you, in all your forms. And it seems really exhausting to TRY to be in a certain energy so people will see you a certain way and change everything about yourself to fit an image.
My friend just told me that i have a feminine energy and that made me feel bad cause i thought it made me weak because of the way society percieves it, the soft feminine energy, but thankyou for telling about dark feminine energy, i clearly have both of em
Girl you are the blessing for 2023 I needed 🙌🙏
just by watching your videos, i can tell that we're already friends. good energy, good mentality, keep it up. sending you my blessings.
God brought me to your channel and I thank Him for speaking to me through you. i was telling my inner child earlier how i don’t have to live my life based on aesthetics, how i don’t have to be perfect and how i don’t have to operate from my old wounds still, especially when i would go into my dark feminine energy and this video pops up of you telling us the EXACT same thing. your videos is literally in sync with the internal change i’ve been doing in my life lately especially when they pop up after the talks i have with myself and some days are better than other but that’s okay too. i’ll be 27 in a couple months and this year has made me face my God complex which is something you have when you operate from your wounds and subconsciously don’t know it. i really had to face myself and i feel like you’re the friend i never had in life and your videos is helping me way better than all the years of therapy bc you’re really helping us get to the root without scaring ourselves to face our wounds. this shit is pure love, thank God for you❤
I’m so proud of you ❤️
Finally someone preach it!! 💗 So many people forget that feminine energy doesn't always about the "light" and perfectionism. You can be angry and swear but still feminine, you can express negative emotions but still feminine.
If you watch movie Gilda, she's very feminine charming woman even though on the inside she's a mess. Morticia from Adams Family, she's very feminine and soft, even though she has sadistic energy. In How to marry a billionaire, all the 3 women have different character; one is uptight, one is playful, another one is foolish, but they're all feminine. You don't have to be that "one type" of feminine woman. You can be yourself and be feminine at the same time 💗
I love that you’re wearing a dark tank-top for the topic of embracing dark feminine energy. But on the real, thank you for doing a deep dive on feminine energy. I always knew I like a woman who has both energies, thank you for reinforcing that ❤
This really helped distract me, I just been verbally attacked by my stepfather, I’m kinda sad 😢 and my day’s been ruined. I don’t even know what I did to deserve this 😭 sorry
But thank you for the video 🥹
Im so sorry your stepfather verbally attacked you. You don't deserve that and I hope you find an amazing community of supportive people to have your back (if you don't already).
I love this. You make me feel like I'm not crazy for being myself.
Omg my favorite video on feminine energy!!! Loved everything you and definitely agree!!! Embody light and dark feminine energy ❤
This video encouraged me a lot, people always confuse feminine energy with this pretty pink and soft personality, but it's really not
Exactly!!
This is a great argument! ✨got me thinking about animals where the females are often stronger and more aggressive than the male counterparts due to their maternal instincts!! A lot of human societies and animal species have always had female leaders - this is a side of women that has always been there. Trying to be overly soft is really never who we were supposed to be.
100% ❤
The duality side is similar to Mother Nature. Beautiful, but if provoked a force to be reckoned with.
I really wish you get more subscribers and more people can receive your message 😊 this will be life changing for so many women ❤
Once again, Elicia you read my mind! What a wonder you are. Before I focused on being more self aware, I felt bad I wasnt being “Feminine” enough. At least the way it is being sold in society. I tend to be bubbly and passionate and also silly but that is who I am and it makes me happy. But my mind always told me I wont be feminine enough no matter what. Now, I am doing my best to be more self accepting and be self aware and somehow the calmness and being comfortable seem to come naturally. But at the same time, my dark feminine traits also remain. Your video was just a confirmation how it is okay and how there is a duality. I am not saying that validation is needed but still…what you said made me realize we are not alone in this topic. Thank you once again. I feel wiser or tap into my own wisdom deeper with every video you create.
Omg this makes me SO HAPPY to read. Im truly so proud of you, this was my goal for the video to help you feel a little more wise while being A LOT more loving to yourself. So so so proud of you ❤️
Girl, love your content! Please do a video on Masculine energy vs. Dark feminine energy.
absolutely 💗
Can you make a video on jealousy!!! Whenever I see someone with something I desire I feel extremely bad for myself and beat myself up! Help. I hate how I’m not able to be fully grateful and happy with what I have. I end up regretting that.
totally 💗
Finally someone said it!! Thank you for this!!
i was watching a trans women vs conservative women middle ground video and one of the trans women answered that being a women is about integrity and yada yada but…shouldn’t everyone have integrity? so it got me asking myself the same thing, what makes a woman and what makes a man. you totally hit it on the nail for me, it’s more than being girlboss girl power 24/7
You NAILED IT! There’s always duality. It’s literally science. It’s how you embrace the bad with the good.
Chloe talks about both sides of the coin ALL THE TIME! She is intelligent and knowledgeable
I used to be told to "sit like a lady." I didn't think much of it at the time (I was 9-10) but now a decade later, I look back and realize I should have been simply told to sit properly. Not sit "like a lady."
Love love love this, gurl!
You have a tendency of giving great and useful insights. We all hope to see more videos like this.
This video made me open to going back and listening to *your* videos on this subject (still mistrustful of the other videos, though).
I’ve really been appreciating your work & the strength I feel to take better care of myself and heal after watching.
Love your videos. Learning about feminine and masculine energy and wounded energy is so helpful for many things
Yes yes 🥰
Thank you Elicia for this video and for addressing this topic all of us trying to understand.
You’re just so good for my healing. Teach me things I really need to learn as a woman
thank GOD i found your acc 😭 i’m so tired of the self improvement ytbers who’s content circle around men and repackaging gender roles
Yes it’s the range of emotions for me!
YAS!!!!
Just reading Women Who Run With Wolves' for the first time and this is really hitting it. Baba Yaga is the feminine, the witch is the feminine as much as the princess. Divine feminity is Kali and Hecate, as well as Aphrodite.
Do u recommend this book for a nearly 18 year old trying to learn how to let go of her masculine energy ?
@@Molster77 Yes! I mean I think it's an amazing book for any woman at any stage of her journey, but especially at the start when you're just coming into your womanhood and shedding the armour of adolescents. I'm 21 myself, and am finding it a really good way to connect to the Old Wise Feminine - a lot of it feels like listening to a grandmother while you're shelling peas together.
i’m so tired of the capitalistic and patriarchal ideals pushed on women for the sake of femininity. one of the actual videos i’ve seen on the topic that’s actually helpful and not disingenuous
So glad you clarified this. I’m so tired of people stripping feminine energy down to a pretty girl esthetic. That’s the same problem I have with transgenders. Like women are much more than an appearance, a generic catty attitude, and a light toned voice
People ruined feminity so much I don't like be called feminine. I get nervous about what they really mean.
Omg that's why I love this channel and I love you too! So many Women claim in order to be in your feminine energy you have to always wear pink , be tamed (as if we are some animal) , like just completely forget who you actually are in order to be loved and appreciated by your Partner. This is so dumb 💀 I literally hate this kind of bishes 😫
Sorry for my language.
But girl.. I love you.. I really do💗
Love you 🥰
I really needed this
your videos on tiktok really kept me alive last year and it's happening again, you're like a big sis i've never had and i'm soooo thankful that you're making this content, thank you soooo much and i really wish you the best ❤❤
Omg babe!!! I’m so happy to hear this 🥹
Thank you for this video! As someone with big emotions I really appreciate this perspective ❤
this came at the right time in my life. thank you for sharing your thoughts 💗
You really my girl😂❤. You be cracking me up😂, thank you for all your wisdom
Feminine energy is not about dressing, behaving like a soft woman. Feminine energy is about energy, how you radiate
I love your video is sooo refreshing. I've been on this whole feminine energy side of youtube and honestly it was draining it made me actually more insecure than before because I' ve never found myself exactly fitting in to this vision of super girly girl and now I' m finding that I lack essence of a this womenhood. I' m not a proper women. Right? Which is such a bullshit. Because being a women is not about laughing along with every word your man says or spending hours in bathroom being a women is about being good human feeling confident authentic and loving yourself so you can love being a women which none can take away from you!!! I think this kind of content is booming right now as a consequance of unfortunate musculisation of femminity which is so common for example in movies which makes girl really lost. They are facing now two extremes perceiving femminity as a weakness and accepting masculinity as a new femminity or being extra femminine in order to feel better about themselves and making it their whole identificatio but being a women or a men is about balance about confidence that comes from inside you not the superficial stereotypical behaviour. Also why would I reject my awasome qualities as witt ability to stand up for myself or emotional control there is nothing unfemmine about it you are a women and every women is different so your energy will be different there is no need to overthink that. Plus I love how manipulative this whole trend. It shows femminity as a consequence of masculinity as a response to it. It's just sad that being a women is still so misinterpreted. Anyway I'm really happy that you tackle this topic keep going.
I love how she just jumps into the video without talking soooo much for no reason
You look like Aubrey Plaza and you have such beautiful eyes✨ I love your energy
Thank you babe 🥹
Omg I was literally thinking she looks like someone I can’t quiet grasp who and that’s exactly who she looks like sooo pretty
i don’t know what masculinity or femininity means.
just be yourself and be a decent human being.
this is such a beautiful perspective! thank you ❤️❤️
This is just what I needed!! Thank you!!!
I love your videos. Every time you surprise me with so much good information.
Aww thank you 🥹
I absolutely loved watching this !!
Just discovered your videos, and immediately subscribed.
My ex was toxic af. He could NOT handle my dark feminine energy.
Lmao 🤣 that means he could’ve handle your toxicity either. You should’ve been toxic towards him. 😂😂😂😂😂
SAY THAT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE AT THE BACK ! love your videos ❤
@TheGlowUpSecrets. ahh okay 😆❤
I love how you explain things. You only speak the truth!! I love your videos very much ♥️
Subscribed. You're amazing! Wholesome, comforting, empowering content ❤️
Thank you so much for being here 🥹
You are Amazing I needed to hear all of this ✨⚡️
This video came just when I needed it. 🥺❤️
I was just thinking about this. I almost got sucked into the tiktok version of femininity 💀💀💀
It’s crazy out here 😭
I subscribed I agree with everything you said ☺️
My mom is a very dominance woman. I have it from her. Men always tell me I am too dominant and don’t let them feel like a man & I want to say my opinions as well or choose things etc. But the reality is. They only want that „feminine energy“ so they can manipulate her. I have feminine energy as well but my masculine energy comes as fast as I can say when I realize I don’t feel safe with that man I’m having a date with
Same
Did you really just get to 125k followers in like 3 months??? Girllll!!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💕🔥
Yes ma’am 🥹🥹❤️❤️
You speak nothing but FACTS. I needed this - THANK YOU 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️🙌🙌🙌
You just gained one subscriber ☺️
You ALWAYS have to look and be clean.
I for a long time identified as non binary and/or gender fluid, using he/they/she pronouns. But after sitting with myself for a long time I realised that it wasn’t actually that I didn’t feel like a woman, it was that I didn’t feel like the societal representation of a woman - I don’t fart perfume, I take shits, I have thick dark eyebrows, I weigh more that 110 pounds… but actually I do feel like a Woman, I feel deeply connected to my feminine energy now that I have reframed my understanding of what it means to be a woman. It’s deeply personal, it’s ever changeable and ultimately I think a lot of AFAB people that identify as NB are in that same position, that they don’t feel they are achieving the standards set forth by society of womanhood, simply because they sweat, or shit, or just generally aren’t these perfect soft pink packages we are made to feel we should be .
*im not trying to erase other NB peoples experience- this is just my own personal experience
Similar to me i identify as a women now
I recommend the book “el secreto de eva “ by Guillermo Ferrara
Yes!!! Finally a woman saying the truth!
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Thank you for the wonderfull Message and the Price!😊♥️
I subscribed for this👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
i try to follow everything this lovely lady says!!
Ily 🥹🥹
The big disconnect is that we keep perpetuating there is a "masculine energy." This is simply not true, the feminine is energy itself. Unfortunately this interferes with recent social trends/constructs and so this little fib is doing a number on everyone's understanding of polarity.
Thank you for this video I needed it ❤❤
I really think how much women are like Mother Nature… beautiful and magnificent but also terrifying and full of grit
Absolutely!!!
Your videos are amazing😻 I love your content so much
I’m so glad 🥰
I don't give off feminine energy in any mood besides depression. That's why feminine pushers kind of make me depressed.
I love your videos so much!