I have exactly the same problem because of not being able to exercise. I take the approach of I have a space in my room where I can fit a small number of clothes that don’t fit. If I can fit it in there I can keep it. Every time I do a declutter I go through and see how far I am from fitting in and usually get rid of a few. If it’s too small to even try on I let it go. A few things I wouldn’t really wear now as I’m a different age/ life season to when I bought them. But if I would buy something new if it was my size I’ll keep it to see if I loose weight in the future.
That’s actually a great way of looking at it thank you Kathryn 🥰 it makes a lot of sense too, I feel a bit better about keeping them for a little longer now. I’m trying to eat better foods at the moment to see if a drop a few pounds but I’m definitely struggling with that, us spoonies need some chocolate now and again 🙈🤣 xxx
I definitely rely too much on sugar to keep me going even though I know it doesn’t help in the long run. I feel like I’ve cut so much of the good things from life though because of CFS that a little chocolate is the least I deserve!
What helped me learn to let go of what doesn’t fit was a comment by someone online (probably Facebook) where they said (I have to mention that I really love the KonMari Method and she says you should keep what sparks joy) that the cute clothes that were too small don’t only spark joy, they also spark sadness as you regret how you don’t fit into them anymore every time you see them. Maybe this helps you, too. Clothes are meant to work for you now, make you happy now, not some undefined time in the future or the past (as I said before in my other comment). Hope this is useful. xxx
Thank you that’s very true, I never actually thought of it that way with the konmari method. You’re totally right though, now I have a new perspective I will grab these out and go through them again. It may make it easier to let go 🥰
I have started getting in the habit of letting anything go that doesn’t fit because for years I believed I would lose weight and I never did so I realised I will buy new cute clothes if I ever do lose weight. That was my stance until recently because last year I actually did lose 9kg so now I am keeping some favourites as I have actual hope of fitting back into them but it’s mostly sizes I recently outgrew, not really my goal weight. As I weigh 119kg and wanna get down to around 75kg. But it’s been proving very hard this year so I need to get back to my diet. Or in sizes, I used to be size 10-12 and now I’m a 22. 😔 I have lost 9kg but I haven’t lost a dress size yet aside from my bra circumference which has become one size smaller. 😊 I would recommend that you let go what doesn’t fit you now as you’re supposed to feel happy in your clothes now not in the future or the past. And it’s fun to get to buy new clothes once something has become too big.
Losing weight is soooooo hard. Well done on losing the 9kg though and thank you I know you are right, I’m still holding onto these clothes, I need to get myself into gear and let go. 🙈 wishing you all the luck on your weight loss journey ❤️
I still fit in most of my old clothes - I only gained a few pounds since the pregnancies. But a few are uncomfortable. I got rid of a few pieces with the question if I would wear the things if they WOULD fit comfortably. And I was like - no, the mini denim dresses were great when I was 18, but I cannot sit down on the floor with the kids in them, I cannot ride my bike in them and they don’t fit into my current life and probably won’t for a lot of years (or never again) and I got rid of them and thrifted a nice comfortable dress instead which I absolutely adore and that will fit if I loose a few pounds.
Now I finished :) I actually have a lot of energy for active stuff, but I struggle with mental load and time management (probably AuDHD). That’s the reason I would never homeschool. I enjoy having tasks for work, not be the one organizing a schedule. In Germany you actually aren’t allowed to homeschool kids older than 6. I am curious for your video about why you want to homeschool in spite of your chronic illness. For me it’s very exhausting organizing crafts for the kids, and concentrating tasks the therapist recommended for my son etc. and I am happy I don’t have to do it every day.
I agree, in different seasons of like we suit and feel more comfortable in different items of clothing. It’s great in a way how things change over time, life would be so boring else 🙈🤣 Ahhh I feel you, I’m planning to unschool him, thankful I have the opportunity and grateful it’s legal here in the UK. I will get round to making a video at some point covering it all 🥰 it’s deffo on my list of things to do. Definitely think it’s going to be very exhausting but super rewarding all at the same time 🤞🏻
Clothes are just items, nothing more. Sizing is just a number, ignore the sizing all manufacturers make up sizing. We are women not a number. You grew a baby and yes your body changed. You need to learn to love your new self and any clothes that don't make you feel amazing do not deserve to be in your wardrobe. The striped tops your mum gave you looked amazing on you. You are beautiful and you need to just have clothes that you love to wear and you will feel confident in your body. Xx
Aww thank you Sarah for your kind comment, I agree, I’m trying to remind myself of these things, the sizing of some items can be so misleading as they’re all different from different shops 😬 I feel like we could never truly know what size we are 🙈 working on the loving my new body part ❤️ xxx
Hi stranger! crikey we have not spoke for a bit have we aha. How are you? you fully settled into your new home yet?. When you said about men not caring about what we wear, I kinda worry and care lol as I am very self conscious like it's so bad. I check myself twice before heading out and because I have long hair it sometimes sneaks out as I hate having it out in public in case anyone takes the micky know what I mean?. I bought myself a brand new phone a few weeks ago while out shopping with my sister who's kind of driving me insane at the moment lol. I ordered it with Argos and we collected it. It's a Samsung Galaxy that was released two years ago so still a baby lol. My Mum loved Samsung phones and no I can understand why as it is so smooth does everything I need it to it's brilliant!. I am still using my old phone for my TH-cam stuff as I didnt want to sell or get rid as it did me good and got me to where I am with TH-cam at the moment. I'm struggling a bit with content ideas at the moment. I feel like it's being a bit samey at the moment and I dont want my channel to be consumed or fully focused on just one topic know what I mean?. You can guess what that topic is lol. I enjoy filming outside at the moment as it gives me motivation and more self confidence to!. I follow this creator who does family vlogs and travel videos and his videos motivate me so much seeing him vlog in public ushers me to keep going!. I do want to start doing different things now and thankfully I have a good community that supports change even if I dont like it due to being Autistic lol. I hate personal change, anything that happens online I'm ok with as its online and not physical know what I mean?. I understand what you mean about your illness and friends. It's like if someone was in a wheelchair and cant do certain things youd feel left out and dissapointed that kind of thing so I understand what your going through, sending you a big hug!. Hope you are ok otherwise?. I sent you a message on Instagram not sure if you have got it but it's OK if not as I know your busy with Dexter and other things to!. Just trying to get some sleep in me as I'm worried for myself at the moment, I feel like my health is declining and I had a health scare other day that worried me so need to get a doctors appointment made soon as. Take your time there's no rush. Doing things at your own pace is a good feeling!. 😊😊
Hey Peter how are you doing?! I’m doing ok thank you, been in and out of flaring though as life’s a bit hectic at the moment. I feel like I’m definitely getting there with the house, settled but still feel like I have so much to do to make it feel more homey and less stressful if that makes sense. Hey it’s absolutely ok even as a guy to care about how you look, Ben just doesn’t give a hoot and throws any old clothing on and goes out without a care in the world. I wish I could be so care free myself, I totally get where you’re coming from. I’m with your mum on Samsungs, they’re the best, I miss having a Samsung and think if I ever need a new phone I’d probably get Samsung for sure. I currently have an iPhone but honestly they’re really nothing special. I know the feeling on the old TH-cam content, I actually answered your poll the other day with post whatever we will watch, it’s great you have a good community of people built up. I wish I had more time to catch up quicker on your vlogs and I totally get you on the whole Change front. I think you’re doing an amazing job and it’s easy to worry about these things. Yes it’s exactly like this, there are times I’ve had to use a wheelchair to be able to just get out of the house and honestly I hate using it, I feel so self conscious and it feels so limiting so I’m grateful I don’t have to use it all the time. It’s hard when friends and family don’t really get it, they ask me constantly to do things with them and I just can’t most of the time. I spend what little energy I have on things that really matter to me like dexter and trying to care for myself on top etc it’s hard. I always feel like the bad guy but have to look after myself, it means I have to be a bit selfish sometimes which I don’t like but needs must. Thank you for the hug it is greatly appreciated. I’m super exhausted at the moment, I spent the entire day on the sofa today barely able to move with a horrific migraine but otherwise I’m ok. Same old really. Oh gosh I’m so sorry, I actually don’t have it on my phone anymore as I was trialling limited social media and totally just forgot about Instagram. I had to put facebook back on to sell stuff online as it was the only place things were selling but honestly I hate it lately. I wish I could just delete it all together, I find it such a negative place to be you know? Oh no I’m sorry to hear that Peter I really hope you are ok, get yourself that appointment booked, always best to have a check up. Thinking of you and sending hugs and positive vibes your way. Aww thank you my dear, I’m trying to remind myself that slow progress is always better than no progress. The final outcome will be worth it I hope. Going to get myself off to bed, hope you are able to get some good sleep yourself. Xxx
@@Livingthefreelife you want a home to be feel comfy and somewhere you can escape the real world when feeling overwhelmed. gosh I still have those days where I just want to stay in and do nothing. Getting those days back at the moment with not motivation and just want to sleep aha. I understand girls being self concious but why they look good as they are they dont need to douse thereselves in makeup to look good. Natural beauty is what matters. I think they do it to stand out or something?!. Yeah 100% slow progress is better than none absolutely!. Aww thanks wasnt sure you still watched my videos aha. I'm trying my best at the moment all I can ask of myself. Im doing a bit of research for filming technqiues as i gain a lot of inspo and motivation from films I watch. Im going to see the new Godzilla x Kong end of the month which im looking forward to. My Cinema nights are making a regular appearence again and it feels good to zone out for a couple of hours in front of the big screen and forget everything in big comfy chairs aha. Need one for my room lol. Your welcome aha we all need a hug sometimes even though ive not had one for a while lol. I've taken a step back from dating girls as one they were not authentic and what i would have liked and two right now im scared of getting into a relationship because of what girls have done to me in the past. Honestly it was hell especially the last girl who mentally drained the life out my brain and took me a while to get myself back on track and back to me again and it felt good once I did. Take care of yourself to and I will be sure to make that appointment at the doctors. Im OK otherwise though. ☺x
@@peter_robinson Exactly it’s important to have a space where you feel like you can escape from the daily grind. I love being home me 🙈🤣 I agree, I think a lot of it is “society’s standards” all we see in the media, online, magazines etc is thin airbrushed and extremely edited models. People compare themselves but that’s not reality. I haven’t worn make up in years and my skin is so much better for it. Sometimes it’s good to just embrace who we are 🥰 I’m still around, just don’t have a lot of time to sit and watch everything, takes me a long time to catch up 🙈🤣 but I’m still here 😁 it’s good to hear you’re doing something you enjoy. Films are great for escaping reality for a while too and like you say, you’re able to pick up on some cool angles and techniques. Definitely sounds like you need to focus on yourself for a while, sometimes it’s good to be a little selfish and put yourself first. I believe there is someone out there for everyone and when you least expect it, the right girl will be there for you 🥰 for now, just concentrate on you 😁 Hope you made that appointment? Xxx
@@Livingthefreelife exactly and it's sometimes difficult in an already popularised world where everyone wants to be known. Sometimes I wish I'd have started TH-cam sooner because I think I'd be a bit further than I am now but I'm happy with what I have and growth will come in time. I watched a video yesterday where it said don't worry about the algorithm just enjoy what you are creating and have fun with it. I do try my best. I'm going to either make an appointment today or nip in to see the same day health centre to get checked over. I've been having issues with my left knee past few days it hurts when I put pressure on it. Plus I need to be seen for my overall health to. 😊
@@Livingthefreelife oh by the way I bought a couple of big storage bags one from my local Primark and B&M and I'm starting to declutter my things I have to much stuff laying around so need to store them and neaten my room up a bit aha. Feels good getting rid of stuff we have attachments to. Sometimes it's good to let go this includes people to which I've done in the past. 😊
i used to keep them then never wore it so gave it away its taking up space in more ways than one and you should dress your body for what it is now if you loose weight in the future then you treat yourself to new items that fit that body
I’m going to keep reminding myself of this so I can finally let go I think. I don’t know why it is so hard 🙈 sometimes you just need to hear from other people to give you that little push to get the job done. Thank you! ❤️
I have exactly the same problem because of not being able to exercise. I take the approach of I have a space in my room where I can fit a small number of clothes that don’t fit. If I can fit it in there I can keep it. Every time I do a declutter I go through and see how far I am from fitting in and usually get rid of a few. If it’s too small to even try on I let it go. A few things I wouldn’t really wear now as I’m a different age/ life season to when I bought them. But if I would buy something new if it was my size I’ll keep it to see if I loose weight in the future.
That’s actually a great way of looking at it thank you Kathryn 🥰 it makes a lot of sense too, I feel a bit better about keeping them for a little longer now. I’m trying to eat better foods at the moment to see if a drop a few pounds but I’m definitely struggling with that, us spoonies need some chocolate now and again 🙈🤣 xxx
I definitely rely too much on sugar to keep me going even though I know it doesn’t help in the long run. I feel like I’ve cut so much of the good things from life though because of CFS that a little chocolate is the least I deserve!
@@kathrynreay3344I feel you, we definitely deserve it. Chocolate is important in a spoonies life ❤️
What helped me learn to let go of what doesn’t fit was a comment by someone online (probably Facebook) where they said (I have to mention that I really love the KonMari Method and she says you should keep what sparks joy) that the cute clothes that were too small don’t only spark joy, they also spark sadness as you regret how you don’t fit into them anymore every time you see them.
Maybe this helps you, too.
Clothes are meant to work for you now, make you happy now, not some undefined time in the future or the past (as I said before in my other comment).
Hope this is useful. xxx
Thank you that’s very true, I never actually thought of it that way with the konmari method. You’re totally right though, now I have a new perspective I will grab these out and go through them again. It may make it easier to let go 🥰
I have started getting in the habit of letting anything go that doesn’t fit because for years I believed I would lose weight and I never did so I realised I will buy new cute clothes if I ever do lose weight. That was my stance until recently because last year I actually did lose 9kg so now I am keeping some favourites as I have actual hope of fitting back into them but it’s mostly sizes I recently outgrew, not really my goal weight. As I weigh 119kg and wanna get down to around 75kg. But it’s been proving very hard this year so I need to get back to my diet. Or in sizes, I used to be size 10-12 and now I’m a 22. 😔 I have lost 9kg but I haven’t lost a dress size yet aside from my bra circumference which has become one size smaller. 😊
I would recommend that you let go what doesn’t fit you now as you’re supposed to feel happy in your clothes now not in the future or the past. And it’s fun to get to buy new clothes once something has become too big.
Losing weight is soooooo hard. Well done on losing the 9kg though and thank you I know you are right, I’m still holding onto these clothes, I need to get myself into gear and let go. 🙈 wishing you all the luck on your weight loss journey ❤️
Hi, I watched it all. I love your channel ❤❤❤xxx
Awww thank you Rebecca ❤️❤️❤️
I still fit in most of my old clothes - I only gained a few pounds since the pregnancies. But a few are uncomfortable. I got rid of a few pieces with the question if I would wear the things if they WOULD fit comfortably. And I was like - no, the mini denim dresses were great when I was 18, but I cannot sit down on the floor with the kids in them, I cannot ride my bike in them and they don’t fit into my current life and probably won’t for a lot of years (or never again) and I got rid of them and thrifted a nice comfortable dress instead which I absolutely adore and that will fit if I loose a few pounds.
Now I finished :) I actually have a lot of energy for active stuff, but I struggle with mental load and time management (probably AuDHD). That’s the reason I would never homeschool. I enjoy having tasks for work, not be the one organizing a schedule. In Germany you actually aren’t allowed to homeschool kids older than 6. I am curious for your video about why you want to homeschool in spite of your chronic illness. For me it’s very exhausting organizing crafts for the kids, and concentrating tasks the therapist recommended for my son etc. and I am happy I don’t have to do it every day.
I agree, in different seasons of like we suit and feel more comfortable in different items of clothing. It’s great in a way how things change over time, life would be so boring else 🙈🤣
Ahhh I feel you, I’m planning to unschool him, thankful I have the opportunity and grateful it’s legal here in the UK. I will get round to making a video at some point covering it all 🥰 it’s deffo on my list of things to do. Definitely think it’s going to be very exhausting but super rewarding all at the same time 🤞🏻
Good declutter
Thank you so much 🥰
Clothes are just items, nothing more.
Sizing is just a number, ignore the sizing all manufacturers make up sizing. We are women not a number.
You grew a baby and yes your body changed.
You need to learn to love your new self and any clothes that don't make you feel amazing do not deserve to be in your wardrobe.
The striped tops your mum gave you looked amazing on you.
You are beautiful and you need to just have clothes that you love to wear and you will feel confident in your body.
Xx
Aww thank you Sarah for your kind comment, I agree, I’m trying to remind myself of these things, the sizing of some items can be so misleading as they’re all different from different shops 😬 I feel like we could never truly know what size we are 🙈 working on the loving my new body part ❤️ xxx
Also, you look just fine so don’t worry about your Mum bod.
Thank you lovely 🥰❤️
I found it to be so hard getting ride of clothes. 😮
Right??? Whyyyy is it soooooo hard 😩
@@Livingthefreelife I be hoping to be able to fit it again lol but never put in the effort to lose these pounds .lol
I feel you, losing weight is a lot of hard work 😩 I’ve tried but never succeed. Sometimes we have to accept and love ourselves as we are 🥰
*@Livingt* hefreelife i agree
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Hi stranger! crikey we have not spoke for a bit have we aha. How are you? you fully settled into your new home yet?. When you said about men not caring about what we wear, I kinda worry and care lol as I am very self conscious like it's so bad. I check myself twice before heading out and because I have long hair it sometimes sneaks out as I hate having it out in public in case anyone takes the micky know what I mean?. I bought myself a brand new phone a few weeks ago while out shopping with my sister who's kind of driving me insane at the moment lol. I ordered it with Argos and we collected it. It's a Samsung Galaxy that was released two years ago so still a baby lol. My Mum loved Samsung phones and no I can understand why as it is so smooth does everything I need it to it's brilliant!.
I am still using my old phone for my TH-cam stuff as I didnt want to sell or get rid as it did me good and got me to where I am with TH-cam at the moment. I'm struggling a bit with content ideas at the moment. I feel like it's being a bit samey at the moment and I dont want my channel to be consumed or fully focused on just one topic know what I mean?. You can guess what that topic is lol. I enjoy filming outside at the moment as it gives me motivation and more self confidence to!. I follow this creator who does family vlogs and travel videos and his videos motivate me so much seeing him vlog in public ushers me to keep going!.
I do want to start doing different things now and thankfully I have a good community that supports change even if I dont like it due to being Autistic lol. I hate personal change, anything that happens online I'm ok with as its online and not physical know what I mean?.
I understand what you mean about your illness and friends. It's like if someone was in a wheelchair and cant do certain things youd feel left out and dissapointed that kind of thing so I understand what your going through, sending you a big hug!.
Hope you are ok otherwise?. I sent you a message on Instagram not sure if you have got it but it's OK if not as I know your busy with Dexter and other things to!.
Just trying to get some sleep in me as I'm worried for myself at the moment, I feel like my health is declining and I had a health scare other day that worried me so need to get a doctors appointment made soon as.
Take your time there's no rush. Doing things at your own pace is a good feeling!. 😊😊
Hey Peter how are you doing?!
I’m doing ok thank you, been in and out of flaring though as life’s a bit hectic at the moment. I feel like I’m definitely getting there with the house, settled but still feel like I have so much to do to make it feel more homey and less stressful if that makes sense.
Hey it’s absolutely ok even as a guy to care about how you look, Ben just doesn’t give a hoot and throws any old clothing on and goes out without a care in the world. I wish I could be so care free myself, I totally get where you’re coming from.
I’m with your mum on Samsungs, they’re the best, I miss having a Samsung and think if I ever need a new phone I’d probably get Samsung for sure. I currently have an iPhone but honestly they’re really nothing special.
I know the feeling on the old TH-cam content, I actually answered your poll the other day with post whatever we will watch, it’s great you have a good community of people built up. I wish I had more time to catch up quicker on your vlogs and I totally get you on the whole Change front. I think you’re doing an amazing job and it’s easy to worry about these things.
Yes it’s exactly like this, there are times I’ve had to use a wheelchair to be able to just get out of the house and honestly I hate using it, I feel so self conscious and it feels so limiting so I’m grateful I don’t have to use it all the time. It’s hard when friends and family don’t really get it, they ask me constantly to do things with them and I just can’t most of the time. I spend what little energy I have on things that really matter to me like dexter and trying to care for myself on top etc it’s hard. I always feel like the bad guy but have to look after myself, it means I have to be a bit selfish sometimes which I don’t like but needs must. Thank you for the hug it is greatly appreciated.
I’m super exhausted at the moment, I spent the entire day on the sofa today barely able to move with a horrific migraine but otherwise I’m ok. Same old really. Oh gosh I’m so sorry, I actually don’t have it on my phone anymore as I was trialling limited social media and totally just forgot about Instagram. I had to put facebook back on to sell stuff online as it was the only place things were selling but honestly I hate it lately. I wish I could just delete it all together, I find it such a negative place to be you know?
Oh no I’m sorry to hear that Peter I really hope you are ok, get yourself that appointment booked, always best to have a check up. Thinking of you and sending hugs and positive vibes your way.
Aww thank you my dear, I’m trying to remind myself that slow progress is always better than no progress. The final outcome will be worth it I hope. Going to get myself off to bed, hope you are able to get some good sleep yourself. Xxx
@@Livingthefreelife you want a home to be feel comfy and somewhere you can escape the real world when feeling overwhelmed. gosh I still have those days where I just want to stay in and do nothing. Getting those days back at the moment with not motivation and just want to sleep aha.
I understand girls being self concious but why they look good as they are they dont need to douse thereselves in makeup to look good. Natural beauty is what matters. I think they do it to stand out or something?!. Yeah 100% slow progress is better than none absolutely!.
Aww thanks wasnt sure you still watched my videos aha. I'm trying my best at the moment all I can ask of myself. Im doing a bit of research for filming technqiues as i gain a lot of inspo and motivation from films I watch. Im going to see the new Godzilla x Kong end of the month which im looking forward to. My Cinema nights are making a regular appearence again and it feels good to zone out for a couple of hours in front of the big screen and forget everything in big comfy chairs aha. Need one for my room lol.
Your welcome aha we all need a hug sometimes even though ive not had one for a while lol. I've taken a step back from dating girls as one they were not authentic and what i would have liked and two right now im scared of getting into a relationship because of what girls have done to me in the past. Honestly it was hell especially the last girl who mentally drained the life out my brain and took me a while to get myself back on track and back to me again and it felt good once I did.
Take care of yourself to and I will be sure to make that appointment at the doctors. Im OK otherwise though. ☺x
@@peter_robinson Exactly it’s important to have a space where you feel like you can escape from the daily grind. I love being home me 🙈🤣
I agree, I think a lot of it is “society’s standards” all we see in the media, online, magazines etc is thin airbrushed and extremely edited models. People compare themselves but that’s not reality. I haven’t worn make up in years and my skin is so much better for it. Sometimes it’s good to just embrace who we are 🥰
I’m still around, just don’t have a lot of time to sit and watch everything, takes me a long time to catch up 🙈🤣 but I’m still here 😁 it’s good to hear you’re doing something you enjoy. Films are great for escaping reality for a while too and like you say, you’re able to pick up on some cool angles and techniques.
Definitely sounds like you need to focus on yourself for a while, sometimes it’s good to be a little selfish and put yourself first. I believe there is someone out there for everyone and when you least expect it, the right girl will be there for you 🥰 for now, just concentrate on you 😁
Hope you made that appointment? Xxx
@@Livingthefreelife exactly and it's sometimes difficult in an already popularised world where everyone wants to be known. Sometimes I wish I'd have started TH-cam sooner because I think I'd be a bit further than I am now but I'm happy with what I have and growth will come in time. I watched a video yesterday where it said don't worry about the algorithm just enjoy what you are creating and have fun with it. I do try my best. I'm going to either make an appointment today or nip in to see the same day health centre to get checked over. I've been having issues with my left knee past few days it hurts when I put pressure on it. Plus I need to be seen for my overall health to. 😊
@@Livingthefreelife oh by the way I bought a couple of big storage bags one from my local Primark and B&M and I'm starting to declutter my things I have to much stuff laying around so need to store them and neaten my room up a bit aha. Feels good getting rid of stuff we have attachments to. Sometimes it's good to let go this includes people to which I've done in the past. 😊
21:20 Could you take it off? Maybe you could open the seam with a seam ripper.
I never even thought of that 🙈😂 it’s long gone to Charity now but hopefully it’s making someone Happy 🙂
i used to keep them then never wore it so gave it away its taking up space in more ways than one and you should dress your body for what it is now if you loose weight in the future then you treat yourself to new items that fit that body
I’m going to keep reminding myself of this so I can finally let go I think. I don’t know why it is so hard 🙈 sometimes you just need to hear from other people to give you that little push to get the job done. Thank you! ❤️
Good morning beautiful
Right back at ya beautiful ❤️