How Not to Lose Yourself When Dating

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  • @sabrinacrawford2262
    @sabrinacrawford2262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I'm Single, but I take myself on Dates & treat myself to experiences that once I'm in a Relationship I'll want the guy that I'm Dating to share in.

  • @sharonbrown388
    @sharonbrown388 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I have lost myself in the past when I was a much younger individual and then I turned my life around when I decided that it was more important to have a relationship with God than with a man. God has since blessed me with the man who is now my husband (we will be celebrating 14-years on August 23rd) I agree with your message today and have had this same discussion with young women so that they will value who they are as the beautiful women God created them to be.

  • @Tfolife528
    @Tfolife528 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dating again and schedule my manicure and pedicure monthly. I do a weekly spa day at home. I use my bath and body works and perfumes day and night. It’s a way I spoil myself. I spend time reading daily and going to the gym. I go on walks by myself. I enjoy playing in my makeup, drinking my water and taking my vitamins. All of this helps me to enjoy spending time with my man.

  • @roxannaedwards9917
    @roxannaedwards9917 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Amen to everything you just said! I wish someone had told me all of these things when I was in my 40s. It might have saved me some grief. Con artist, for sure!!! But, then again, I have always been the kind of person who thinks she knows best. Water under the bridge. In spite of him, my life has been good because God is good! Thanks for sharing!

  • @NicoleW614
    @NicoleW614 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m 49 and single. I pretty much follow all the tips you mentioned.

  • @fdoctor79
    @fdoctor79 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Prior to dating, I have to do a self inventory: are there areas that I need to work on to become the best version of me? If so, get help and/or healed. It's not fair for someone to be hurt b/c you have unresolved issues or trauma. Great tips, Ms. Angela!

  • @DH-dt2hk
    @DH-dt2hk 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    All great tips no matter what age. I also paid close attention to how they spoke about and treated the women in their lives such as mothers, sisters, aunties, daughters. That’s how Im blessed with my husband of 20 years 💕

  • @trinamarietv2375
    @trinamarietv2375 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you! Thank you! I did lose myself when I was Married for 28 years raising kids and taking care everyone but me. I have boundaries now , I put me first now I'm dating myself right now.my children are grown and now its all about me. I refuse to take any bull. Yes mama a red flag is a red flag. Great video Angela.😄😄

  • @44Stephieb
    @44Stephieb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m single how I don’t lose myself is that I have a fun life and I don’t stop living it just because I met someone. I make time and space for them but I just don’t revolve my life around them.

  • @cynthiakennedy9385
    @cynthiakennedy9385 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Oh my Lord! 😭 You said a mouth full, after 37 years with the absolute LOVE OF MY LIFE! My True Soul Mate, It has been nothing but difficult first, trying to move foward and forge on without that Genuine feeling that there is this one person who would "Treat You like They wanted to be Treated Always!" and who only did right by you and yours. I am struggling to pull me up and Out Angela. I know , I must The dead are dead and Life is for the Living. I got it, it's just so darn difficult sometimes. I have at least decided to stop allowing others to dump their crap in my lap and struggling to help them when it's not reciprocated. I am again commending you for reminding me and All of us who listen or read your post that We do matter! We can successfully make it after great loss🥰🙏 THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING! ( Perhaps something on how to get order after you lose your soulmate)

    • @barbiec4312
      @barbiec4312 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      All the best to you in this new phase dear lady.

    • @lenebrantley221
      @lenebrantley221 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I know it is hard and you will never get over, maybe each day will get better. You will always have those special memories. And, you should stop people from dumping their problems on you. Sometimes it is just too much. Wishing you all the best❤❤❤

    • @theosymommy
      @theosymommy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I know this is cliché BUT Time does heal.. Love on yourself and get through this one day one moment at a time..

  • @angeliquealamer
    @angeliquealamer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So many gems here! And “the white flag goes from white, to pink, to a red brick that hits you in the head” made me LOL!!😹 I’ve def been there & agree that now in my 30’s, the flags are extra red!!
    I’m single and when I do date, I plan on keeping my alone time routinely & also have strongly considered not moving in together unless married. Never thought I’d say that but, feel like it keeps a certain boundary there that I’d like to maintain & moving in together too fast has been a past mistake. Love you Angela! 🌹& love this outfit today!🔥

  • @empresserica
    @empresserica 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Oh Mrs. Angela ! You are such a wise soul. Wonderful tips ! Wow. I will use them all ! And i would add one more tip if Thats ok...Never chase after a man. Some men these days really believe that " They" are the prize, and they just are not. We are if we believe that about ourselves, and i do ! Bless you Dear Sister ! And thank you ! 👋🏽💃🏽💯

  • @Tfolife528
    @Tfolife528 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow!I wanted and needed this information! So true about liking a guy more than he liked me, in the past. Later he came back for a second chance. I said no thanks hun. Thank you for sharing Ms. Angela.

  • @hollid175
    @hollid175 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Like one subbie said , how a man treat his mom is very important to me. My brother always treated me & my mom with respect, opened doors, looked out for us. Dad passed when I was young but my brother always protected me. My hubby now takes care of me and calls me his princess 💞

  • @smoocherbean4648
    @smoocherbean4648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I’m single and will keep these thoughts in mind as I date. These dating streets are tough and discouraging sometimes but I remain open & hopeful. 👋🏽 Hi Production

  • @costelladenisegreen1231
    @costelladenisegreen1231 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you for sharing and providing the gentle reminder Angela. In my relationship I have and respect boundaries, I make sure I take “me” breaks, and find & hold onto balance.

  • @irisvictorino8251
    @irisvictorino8251 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Loved it! Im 38, divorced, single mom of a 5 years old boy and i can relate with everything you said, especially the “he is not that into me…” its hard, but is better to get yourself out…! Kiss kiss

    • @lenebrantley221
      @lenebrantley221 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree! If you keep it going it's only going to leave you open to be used and abused. That is a sure fire way to get taking advantage of. Let him go!

  • @boirocr-Tamiko5
    @boirocr-Tamiko5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love this message I'm 47 a mom of 5 boys and new to being single,this message and video is amazing. You look so beautiful ❤️ it's actually new for me being single but I do enjoy going to the nail shop or reading a book at the park tfs 🌹❤️

  • @elaibesummers906
    @elaibesummers906 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Great video as was thinking of starting to date again after about 3+ years on my own. I am out of practice lol. I don't like jumping from relationship to relationship so spend a lot of time single and enjoying my own company. I have been married. I know exactly want I want at my age and not willing to lower my standards.

  • @alexandriaedwards1937
    @alexandriaedwards1937 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am going slow and steady with my friend, and things have kinda switched in a more romantic way and I'm really happen and excited about it. Please pray for us 🙏🏾🥰

    • @theosymommy
      @theosymommy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You got it sis 🙏🏽 Take your time and enjoy💖

  • @arlenemestwick
    @arlenemestwick 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi Angela I love your channel..I recently started watching your videos and now I'm hooked. Great advice which I wholeheartedly endorse! I've been married for 6 years and I'm loving it! Small acts of kindness are a great way to keep the relationship fresh and fun! It's easy to slip into a rut so you have to keep reminding each other if and when things get a little off track or life gets busy. Marriage is work but it requires both persons to actively participate if it is to weather life's challenges..because they will come. Not going to bed upset is also something we practice..no matter what it is.

  • @aishadestiny5648
    @aishadestiny5648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I just want to thank you very much for your teaching because after your teaching on self care I started to do those things you said am seeing myself differently now thank you so much once again from Nigeria

  • @sharonkeggins290
    @sharonkeggins290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for everything! I’m single and too old to waste my valuable time! When red flags come up I get my track shoes and get gone! Because like you said if not it doesn’t get better it gets worse! Have a blessed and beautiful day 🙏💕

  • @helenaevette00717
    @helenaevette00717 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am currently single divorced twice (I am 44 years old) at this point in my life I have not given up on love because I have realized that my previous relationships we not meant for me but I have accepted them as life lessons and experiences to learn my worth, put it work towards healing and self wellness. Some days it feels like I don’t attract anyone and because I’m not trendy and more old school, that I won’t ever find someone who is for me. But that’s the devils voice and I’m not listening nor will I settle for less than I deserve or desire. I would not be able to say this if I had not learned from past experiences. In the meantime I am using my singleness to find my rhythm and individuality which is where your video comes into play because once he does come along I need to be able to maintain the new person that I HAVE become and have boundaries set so that I maintain my self worth and wellness. Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏾 I have also become aware that this change will attract a different type of person and not allow me to settle. 💞

  • @valrice817
    @valrice817 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    If you like/love him more than he like/loves you, run! Otherwise you settle for second best! I have been married 32years so I know a thing or two!

    • @AngelaMashelle
      @AngelaMashelle  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Amen. That is definitely the wrong side of the coin to be on

    • @theosymommy
      @theosymommy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am learning this as I step into 41 Lol

  • @rontikasradiance
    @rontikasradiance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m Single & took 4y off to let God heal me and break every generational curse , heartbreak etc out of my life. I do the things you’ve mentioned & also have learned to pace myself when pouring out who I am. I’ve shown all my gifts and pearls to pigs who trampled them. DONE ✅ So now I’m dating with a purpose. Slowlyyyyy lol . Loved the video! Learned a few new things. Blessings 💜

  • @cvnfhi172
    @cvnfhi172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you sis for I don’t think I know myself anymore and is problem for me.

  • @theosymommy
    @theosymommy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great video as always Angela💖 This topic is right up my alley because this is where I am in my life as I am stepping into 41 feeling the best I've ever felt in my life as this beautiful, soft, intelligent, lovely, etc woman.. ( I can go on. LoL) May God continue to bless me, bless you Angela, and anyone who reads this💖 We Got This 🙏🏽
    P.s. I was al up and through your comments and I am so inspired by what is being posted by your followers!!! This is a community I am glad to be a part of God Bless 🙌🏾

  • @brandygee9954
    @brandygee9954 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love your OOTD, esp the sandals.

  • @RonnieNCSU21
    @RonnieNCSU21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sis!! Those points were so exact; well done. Thanks for putting into words what many women think and feel when they date.

  • @hollid175
    @hollid175 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Angela, it's always great to see you and that beautiful smile. I love all of your tips and did practice them when I was younger because my mom instilled them in me when I was younger. Thanks be to God that I have a good hubby. I hope all of our nieces, goddaughters and daughters see this because the advice is priceless. Tfs.

    • @theosymommy
      @theosymommy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow! That's great your mom prepared you. God bless her.. I was not prepared in these dating streets. My mom could not teach me what she didn't know.. I won't go down that road but knowing this information would have saved me a lot of desruction... it is important that daughters are taught stuff like this in the teen years and beyond. May God continue to bless you💖

    • @hollid175
      @hollid175 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@theosymommy, ty for the mom compliment. Our paths were different in one respect but you have an amazing testimony. What you learned from your path has made you wiser and stronger. Life lessons are equally important. Now you can tells others what not to do. There's good in everything if you look hard enough. I'm sorry you endured pain but cheers & blessings to the road ahead. Now you can a cheerleader for others. Blessings to you.

    • @theosymommy
      @theosymommy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hollid175 Girl, your response brought tears to my eyes.. Thank you💖 and you are welcome. I really appreciate your kind words and encouragement..

    • @hollid175
      @hollid175 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@theosymommy it's true. You got this. We have all made mistakes no one is perfect except Jesus. No judgement zone in the channel. You're a queen, now straighten your crown and be the queen you were created to be🤗. Women encouraging women..its a sisterhood. Hugs

    • @theosymommy
      @theosymommy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hollid175 Thank you💖

  • @lenebrantley221
    @lenebrantley221 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Angela this is a much needed video for women of all ages. I have definitely been there and done that. Learned a lot amongst the way. I am going to share this with my 21 year old niece. She is an amazing young woman. Thank you so much. You are an inspiration. ❤❤❤

    • @Oluwakemifully
      @Oluwakemifully 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Say hello to your niece. She's lucky to have you.

  • @GS-ux9xy
    @GS-ux9xy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great tips Angela. I'm single @ 60 and looking into on line dating for the first time, I'll like to see you make a video on what to wear on a date.

  • @charlotteeshun1393
    @charlotteeshun1393 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Self standard = Self confidence. Luv 💕

  • @yourstrulyalisa657
    @yourstrulyalisa657 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love your OOTD. Going to keep these tips in my dating kit😄

  • @sallyparsons6933
    @sallyparsons6933 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you, Angela, for describing your Scents of the Day! I really appreciate your detailed descriptions. They help me decide if I should consider it for myself.

  • @joanvassall3384
    @joanvassall3384 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Agree 100%, great advice and a gentle reminder for us ladies. (not dating 🙂 too many heartbreak) Good vibes and God bless you Angela and production!!!!!!

  • @jbar234
    @jbar234 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Great advice! I have been married 25 years and have two sons and still need reminded not to loose myself and to have boundaries. I have seen a lot of women loose themselves after marriage and children and it’s really sad.

  • @judysnell
    @judysnell 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Happily married for 21 years. Great advice TFS 🥰

  • @jenniferjones4113
    @jenniferjones4113 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Happy Sunday to you and the fam Angela!!! I'm hoping to spend this week getting caught up on your videos. I've gotten so behind. TFS!!

  • @carolfrank9645
    @carolfrank9645 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    SPEAK sweetie!!! Thankful for being able to see the red flags, my maturity and pass experiences were the key... as you said, they can't hide it for long.

  • @Justgloryn
    @Justgloryn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's even worse when u get married.The kids ,the husband,in-laws,home chores a lot of responsibilities.

    • @lenebrantley221
      @lenebrantley221 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You sound overwhelmed. That is only so much you can do in a day. Especially, if you have a job outside the home. A lot of married women are trying to do it all. It can lead to burn out. Burn out can cause stress, depression, anger and health issues. Please just slow down. The husband has to do his part. Or, you can hire someone to do the cleaning. As for the in laws, you don't have to answer the door, phone or text for them. Set boundaries and stick to them. Your peace of mind is what matters the most.

    • @Justgloryn
      @Justgloryn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lenebrantley221 thank u👌👌👌

  • @agyrrl
    @agyrrl 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Howdy 🤠 thanks for this - I think because I’ve started a long distance relationship I haven’t lost myself cause they are not around. However I do find that I often think of what they are doing and I do my best to just remind myself I was doing just fine before them and I will continue doing just fine while we are not sharing the same space …. So I continue to do the things that make me happy regardless.

  • @paulag6199
    @paulag6199 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This advice is also great for your job/ career. You can easily lose yourself in work if you don’t value yourself, community and relationships!

  • @marciajames8202
    @marciajames8202 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m working on that I’m single and I’m getting back to self after this Visio I see how important it is to have a self care routine and to know thy self. Or you can be lost bin a relationship I this was really helpful I enjoyed this content

  • @XOAliciaMarie
    @XOAliciaMarie 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your videos...such great quality int he filming and girl you are SUPER stylish! I admire you!

  • @patricialegare6847
    @patricialegare6847 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for the tips. I am 59 and had some not good relationships so now I definitely now I am a Queen. I demand to treated as such.

  • @halliebass
    @halliebass 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Important to maintain you friendships and your self care. You are right to watch for red flags! Boundaries are essential. I have not dated in years. Not much availability in my area and I have just become probably too comfortable with my friends and family. I have been married and have had some longer term relationships. I am fine on my own. Good advice about what to look for.

  • @tonirand6011
    @tonirand6011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I take myself out to a movie and dinner.

    • @michonnegrimes880
      @michonnegrimes880 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Just did this last night! Loved it and had a great time! 👍🏾

    • @tonirand6011
      @tonirand6011 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @robinblack7883
    @robinblack7883 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loving the perfume recommendations as that is my new addiction

  • @sharondeloach2533
    @sharondeloach2533 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sending this to my 24 yr old daughter, great advice before getting married. Ty😍

  • @shaunettelloyd6321
    @shaunettelloyd6321 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am single. Self-care is a must for me. That includes pedicures, gifting myself with a nice bag or shoes, taking care of my skin, and enjoying my company. I refuse to put up with things thar I have in time past. I know my worth!!!

  • @tonirand6011
    @tonirand6011 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m 53 1/2 and single

  • @brooklynnewyork8494
    @brooklynnewyork8494 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good night Angela. Amen to that. Have a bless night

  • @RonnieNCSU21
    @RonnieNCSU21 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    … and the OOTD - too cute and comfy!

  • @miag6211
    @miag6211 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m 52 and I’m single .

  • @tonyahendricks11
    @tonyahendricks11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A whole word in a video.💯

  • @tabithawashington9425
    @tabithawashington9425 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you !!!!from a single dating women turning 50

  • @marciabutler834
    @marciabutler834 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent advice...for ALL ages!!

  • @leetaylorwilliams8480
    @leetaylorwilliams8480 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for sharing these reminders Angela. Have you ever consider been a life coach?

  • @carolnewman8590
    @carolnewman8590 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Another great video,Thank you Angela!!!🌹❤️🍷

  • @Divinenubian
    @Divinenubian 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Listen to her as married lady with a great guy..

  • @aishadestiny5648
    @aishadestiny5648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Now adays I take myself out because nobody yet

  • @aishadestiny5648
    @aishadestiny5648 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you very much dear

  • @shakera02
    @shakera02 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome advice!

  • @shirleyan4gentry212
    @shirleyan4gentry212 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good topic
    Wise information

  • @karena.9429
    @karena.9429 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amen 🥰

  • @teresa416
    @teresa416 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advice 👍

  • @aishadestiny5648
    @aishadestiny5648 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Exactly just let him go the earlier the better

  • @BougieThriftQueen814
    @BougieThriftQueen814 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advise

  • @tormapea1987
    @tormapea1987 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great podcast

  • @arenee6418
    @arenee6418 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good stuff!

  • @BionicVee-s7n
    @BionicVee-s7n 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good morning beautiful people ✨ 💕

  • @ocedkin9147
    @ocedkin9147 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very Good Conversation. Out fit is cute.

  • @shirleyan4gentry212
    @shirleyan4gentry212 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello beautiful blessed
    woman of God ❤️

  • @sadiesarah4945
    @sadiesarah4945 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sorry for this question; Is there real true love in life?
    This is referred to human life. For I have only felt true love from Christ Jesus and not human love however much I have tried.
    Someone please enlighten me about this.

  • @dorismcnealy
    @dorismcnealy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🔥

  • @beverlystatum7312
    @beverlystatum7312 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    💜

  • @RonnieNCSU21
    @RonnieNCSU21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Sis!! Those points were so exact; well done. Thanks for putting into words what many women think and feel when they date.