I love the choice of words in this line "When are you coming home son I don't know when", because without punctuation, this exchange can be read in two different ways that reflect the stages in the song and the parallel between father and son over the years. The first two times are from the son's perspective, growing up, repeatedly asking his dad when he's coming home so they can spend time together, the line then reads - "When are you coming home?" - "Son, I don't know when." Then when the son is all grown up, in college, at his own house with wife and kids, and doesn't have time to spend with the dad anymore, the line then reads from the dad's perspective as he misses his son - "When are you coming home, son?" - "I don't know when."
I've given EVERY second I could to my son as he was growing up, he just got married at 26 now and I couldn't be prouder of him. Lately is the only time I've felt like this song spoke to me cause I feel his hand pulling away and now he's working the same job I did and is busy all the time. Sigh, NO amount of time is ever enough, and especially when you enjoyed every second you had and now its stopped. But I raised an amazing son. I fought hard in the Army to make sure he had an America to grow up to.
You're making me tear up now, man. I hope my dad's proud of who I am and what I've accomplished. He ended up with a kid just like him, personality and looks, only without the trauma he experienced as he grew up. He raised my brother and I so we'd never feel like he did. So many sarcrifices
@@ignorant1126 just be yourself and be strong when times feel tough. I'm sure he is already proud of ya man. Rock on with all you got! Thanks for the comment, he sounds like an amazing guy I could be friends with.
I heard this song when I was a very young and impressionable young man and I swore to myself that I would always be there for my kids. I am now 50 and took a job working from home so I could wake my kids up in the morning and put them to sleep at night (had kids later in life). Best decision I have ever made in my life...
I am a 44 year old man and listened this song when i was young , always busy with my own business but had to quit my job because of a disease and i am now a more happy man and feel so lucky that i can see my 2 sons grow up and be with them most of the day , never thought that this all would be so beautiful , now i realize the dutch proverb work to live and not live to work
As the son of a father who had the luck to find and keep a work from home since I was born, I can confirm the benefit goes both ways. Sure sometimes you might feel like stepping on each other's shoes, especially once they grow up and start feeling like they want more independence or autonomy, and to be honest it also depends on the personalities and how they link or clash together (personally this was the only real reason why I ended up moving out, but I sure took my damn time lol). But I assure you that this way the father gets to express all of his love up to the very small things, the ones that they'll have to grow up to realize what they were worth, meanwhile the kids get to have his support and a father figure present basically all day everyday. Again it depends, in my case I have issues because of some ways my father was hurt that in turn made him hurt me, the 'usual' parental cycles sadly, and this is also something that is a bit amplified in small ways when having him always there, but i never stopped noticing how much he loves me and cares for my well-being, even the part of me that hates him, in reality, still wants to give him back the love it deserves. And all of this is helped immensely by him having lived and worked all under the same reliable roof. Quite the long comment but I hope it helps you and others with some insight from the son's perspective. Anyway I love this song too, maybe a bit more the original than this version but I see and feel the lyrics very clearly.
Sold my company and retired young. Was lost. Had two kids. Still unfillfilled. Then this song popped up in my feed. I remembered it as a cutesy kids song. But now I realize the incredible meaning and grateful I still have my kids young in age. I have purpose. Amazing the legacy of music can have on countless generations.
@@wjatube I remember the first time I heard it and immediately thought of my childhood. My dad was there but he was a steelworker and usually wore out so time with him was valuable to me. As I got older I have made it a point to spend as much quality time with my kids as possible and I believe it makes both me and my babies better for it.
@Altschauerberger Opferkult-Spiritist Find the right balance. Your children are only children once. Plus nobody on their death bead says "I wish I spent more time at the office."
At 40 my dads still alive, Marine, Vietnam vet, truck driver, policeman. At this age, the most i remember about my childhood is not the things he bought me, its the time we spent together. We talk regularly and know that one day I may pick up the phone he may not be there. Enjoy all the time you get with your parents people.
My father was military, Vietnam vet, gone a lot, but I treasure those times when we were together. He's gone now. Only during the last five years of his life did he ever mention obliquely some of his war and service experiences - he spoke a language from a country "we were never in" and spoke of someone named "Muammar" with whom he had to share flightline in Libya in the 60's (only time I ever heard my father use foul language was in reference to this *gentleman.*) I am so glad you are talking regularly to your father, and more than a little envious, too.
Mate, your father IS the hero. I wish you good luck. So understand your words. My grandpa was in Africa in 2.WW. God bless them.. I know, war, but top lads!
@@FilipeCzech1986 I look at black and white photos of my grandfather when he was in the Army in WW2 pictured in his dress uniform and think: 'they don't build men like that anymore'. He was tough as a $2 steak and wise as an owl.
@@erichdgoth8451 feel ya there man. I’m 50, never been good enough for my dad, or my daughter, damn shame he doesn’t know her. Do to me what you will, but I be damned you do it to my daughter
My father and I always joked about this song. There was no animosity, just an understanding that that's life. There were times when he wasn't around, and there were times he was. He's gone now and I miss him everyday. Though he wasn't the best father at times, I wouldn't trade him for the world.
@@upshiftgo you're wrong. Unfortunatelly not everyone has the same opportunities. I know having good times with your kids not always rely on having money, but having to run after it to try to have conditions in the old age takes a lot from that
That's the way they think it is until it's too late to change it. And then suddenly it's clear how they could have moved everything around and prioritized each other and they'll never get to now.
The message is time eternal. My Dad was killed in an auto wreck when I was a 9 year old 4th grader. Now 52 years later I can still shed a tear when I think of things done and time spent with him, and this song in particular can make those tears flow. For most of my entire life Chapin's tune has served as a reminder. When I was a high school freshman, we had a stereo in our Advanced English class so we could listen to commercial-free FM radio while writing. That was a big deal at the time especially for the relatively small town community where I went to school. I remember one afternoon after Cats in the Cradle aired, hard-nosed Irish disciplinarian Mr. Hollahan shut off the stereo receiver and asked the entire class to chime in and talk about what we all had just listened to, the ballad sung, and how one should aspire to live. I don't remember all of my classmates' individual responses, but I was glad I was not called upon. Hearing Cats in the Cradle that day had not brought me to tears, but the lump in my throat would have made it tough to talk and express my own experience and feelings. It had not been that many years prior to that early September 1969 morning I was really looking forward to because I was going to get to ride my bike to school, but not long after awakening knowing I had overslept and that something was wrong when I heard our family friend Shirley McArthur's voice downstairs only to soon learn my Dad had been killed on the Pit 1 Grade the night before driving home. Now, I am a husband and father with a 14 year old son and an 18 year old princess. I endeavor to provide for my bride and family, I work hard, travel too damn much for work, but with the exception of a rare day when I only get to speak with my bride when I am on the road, I make absolutely sure my children hear me say "I love you" each and everyday. Yes, Chapin's song has had a nearly life long impact on me and maybe they don't realize it, but my own children too. Subsequently, fathers young and old, remember to major in the majors. Only we can be our bride's husband, provider, protector, lover, and confidant, and only we can be our childrens' guide, protector, and father. No job, career, profession, or business can ever match what a good man of steel and velvet and a rock solid father can accomplish.
@@robinhut5359Seriously if this post hasn't touched your heart you must be completely lacking in empathy and compassion as you sit behind a keyboard in your mother's basement trolling with heartless posts like this 👎
Im 25 and my dad is 62. I moved in with him 5 months ago because his health was declining. 2 weeks ago was his last hospital visit before speaking with palliative care and deciding on hospice care. Still with hospice…I’m here 7 days a week taking FMLA and my dad screams for me when they try do give him a bath. I get no breaks. On top of that, Palliative care said he would die of kidney failure when we were in the hospital but he has been passing urine on his own. They said kidney failure is a good way to die - painless. But now I think he may be dying of his cancer and not his kidney. I don’t know what to do. I feel so helpless. Is he dying or do I need to bring him to a hospital and save his life? So many questions. Palliative care messed this one up.
@@imastered9021condolences for your loss young friend. I randomly decided to come listen to this song and it reminded me of how I lost my Dad at 15 when he was 60. And that's when I came across your comment from just 2hrs ago. 😢 Hope you're managing well.
My dad passed in 2001 when I was 19, never really was sure how he felt about me or if he really genuinely cared about me. Now I'm almost 39 with a 14 year old daughter and a seven year old son, and though I still wonder how my dad felt about me I know my children will never have to wonder the same thing.
Im same my dads still alive when my mother passed on my 4th birthday i went to live with my aunt dad's sister and saw him occasionally he had a new woman and she had kids now ive got my own i know they stay with me forever no matter what and for that I cannot forgive my father
I was 17 at work and told an older customer how much I was working with school and Baseball. He said “Remember…no dying man ever said I wish I spent more time at the office”. Probably the greatest advice I’ve gotten in my entire life. I’m 48 now and still remember that.
@@edpearson8973 Let me tell you, I’m 48, work at a Ford auto parts warehouse in Orlando FL, without AC for 8+ hours. I’ll gladly spent more time in an office, especially in July/August LOL!
@@detroitpolak9904 are you dying? I guess you’ll just have to wait till then to find out. But for me I’ll gladly take a Friday off to spend at the lake. Oh wait I don’t work fridays am thankful. Long weekend at tge lake every weekend.
I'm 56 and my children are in there 30's. I made sure i was there for them and did my best to show them what dad means to a family. I've lived a long life and the best accomplishment is being a dad to three amazing children that have given me grandchildren to carry our legacy.
I could never listen to this song without tearing up when my dad was alive because he always worked so hard, we rarely saw him. He died almost one year ago (September 26, 2019) and for some reason, I made it through without shedding a tear listening to this version now. He was the best daddy me and my sister could have asked for. She remarked one time how fortunate we were that we won the daddy lotto with him...I miss you more than words can say, daddy...Donald Ray Tibbitts - April 21, 1939 - September 26, 2019) A good man and the BEST daddy that ever lived!
This song reminds me of my son Trevor I'm 2 times divorced a son and a daughter. I'm a recoving alcoholic. I always loved my children n always will . My son is back in my life and my daughter sends pics . My higher power saved me from myself. Thanks God for my sobriety 1 day at a time I love u Trevor boy n Erin love Dad
your story is so like mine and probably 100000 others we were the lucky ones who had dads that strove to give us better lives than they had and paid the price of not having the lives they wanted with us
I was 14 when this came out in 92, to me then it was a great song. As I got older and understood the lyrics I apricated my dad a lot more for all he gave us. Now I'm a dad myself, this song reminds me to try, try to spend some time with the kids, no matter how knackered I am, before the cycle goes round again.
never too late tom i'm 56 now and my daughter is 21 and last xmas she makes me a special present a laser ingraved holo block saying "best dad ever" it makes me cry but on the other hand it shows me everything did right
I'm 59 and use to listen to the original in 1974. This song described my father to a tee. Though I never had any children I am a favorite uncle few my sister's and others the kids just seem to adopt me. My nephew was about six and his mom ( my sister) and his dad we're always busy. One night I invited the whole family over for dinner. I happen to play this song and my sister looked at me and I said "remember dad?". My nephew is now a dad twice over and pays attention to those two constantly. Just like his mom and dad did.
Miss my three sons. One of them in particular, if only we could get together for a basketball game. I hope you boys know you’re apart of me and will always be. Until the end
Just to my dad, I'm sorry I became a cocaine addict after your passing. And not being the man You raised me to be. But your boy has beat his demons and 4 years sober and back from deaths door. Living, not just existing, It's not goodbye dad... it's only till next time. Thank you
Sometimes before I wake my son for school, I will look at him sleeping. And as I do, I imagine myself as an old old man, and he now grown and raising a family of his own somewhere. And I ask myself, what would that old man pay, what would the old me give to be standing here in this quiet moment? The answer is he would pay any amount, he’d give anything to be able to stand there and watch his little boy sleeping. That simple mental exercise grounds me, reminds me these moments are golden and they should be savored for the gifts they truly are!
This comment made me tear up and you are truly a good person and if he is being raised by you I know he is gonna be a man one day have a amazing evening. God loves u
Makes me cry because my Dad died a Pill addict and Alcoholic who couldn't get over the Divorce.....I never realized until listening to this song now how truly our children are a reflection of us.......I have been sober a year but I was a Heroin addict and alcoholic barley made it out alive....My dad has this album he passed on and left me his collection Listened to this song and got really sad......Just now I never understood it till now. I am crying......
My heart goes out to you. So much brokenness in our world-a frequent subject in my prayers. I pray somehow out Heavenly Father will continue to bring you healing.
i'm just a brazillian boy, honestly my english is terrible and i don't know how to express my sadness for you guys, i'm really sorry hope you enjoy your parents as i
Lyrics: My child arrived just the other day He came to the world in the usual way But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay He learned to walk while I was away And he was talking 'fore I knew it, and as he grew He'd say "I'm gonna be like you, dad" "You know I'm gonna be like you" And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man in the moon "When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when" But we'll get together then You know we'll have a good time then My son turned ten just the other day He said, thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play Can you teach me to throw, I said-a, not today I got a lot to do, he said, that's okay And he, he walked away, but his smile never dimmed It said, I'm gonna be like him, yeah You know I'm gonna be like him And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man in the moon "When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when" But we'll get together then You know we'll have a good time then Well, he came from college just the other day So much like a man I just had to say Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while? He shook his head, and they said with a smile What I'd really like, dad, is to borrow the car keys See you later, can I have them please? And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man in the moon "When you coming home, son?" "I don't know when" But we'll get together then, dad You know we'll have a good time then I've long since retired, my son's moved away I called him up just the other day I said, I'd like to see you if you don't mind He said, I'd love to, dad, if I can find the time You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kids have the flu But it's sure nice talking to you, dad It's been sure nice talking to you And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me He'd grown up just like me My boy was just like me And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon Little boy blue and the man in the moon "When you coming home, son?" "I don't know when" But we'll get together then, dad We're gonna have a good time then
This is one of those moments I am thankful for my dad. Work came 9th place at all times. He told me "You can make money every day, you can't make your childhood again."
Don't forget about daughter & father too. My mum & dad were married, lived in the same house & it was like it was a single parent household (never saw my dad much which was a good thing). To all men, if you want your kids in your life, be in theirs when they're growing up.
I saw these guys live in Houston around the time they were hitting the rotation on MTV. They were the headliners but I was into the local opening band. I remember telling my friends that I wasn't really looking forward to the "I hate everything about you" guys. To say that I was blown away by their live performance would be a gross understatement. These guys absolutely brought it. Years later I honestly can't remember the opening band name but I'll never forget Ugly Kid Joe.
This is one of those rare songs that hits home, and it it's home hard. Happy Fathers Day to all the dads out there working hard to support their families. May your hard work not cost you your kids as it did to the father in this video.
One of the best songs ever written and the band does a great remake of it. I listened to this song as a kid and it always brought up mixed feelings. Still does. So glad I spent time with my son - he has grown up to be an awesome man and a great friend. All the time practicing baseball and shooting hoops with him was a joy for me. I wouldn't trade it for all the money in the world.
Except they screwed up the words. They say "When you comin' home SON i don't know when", in each verse. It's supposed to be DAD in each verse except the last.
My dad left me for job relocating and to help secure the cats then i went psychotic they don't help - the cats - and just made everything worse He wants me to be retarded not genuine and creative. Want me to cover it cover it?
Living it myself except the show off shit that's never been us just the work part missed some thing's that can't be recaught not a ton but it matters far far more than money you're always going to make money working you not always going to be there. Love and peace y'all ❤
Many jobs have personal days available to employees. Take advantage of them at sporadic and random times during the year. I don't get to have dinner with family at any regular holidays, but the days I take makes it so I see them more days a year than just holidays allows.
Growing up. My grandfather HATED this song.... because with me growing up it reminded him so much of this song. My father working so hard to support the family. But never having ANY time for the family. He hated his own family because as a native American he hated what his family had become. Reliant on the government. He hated it so much. He hated that the exact opposite was coming true. Where the people no longer could rely on the government for support and were left to suffer. He wanted nothing but the best for he grand children. He wanted his ancestry honored while honoring modern society. He wanted the best for all.
My father always had time for us...I'm over 60 now...he's been gone since 2003...I miss him every day. In the middle of a large storage room, no one else in the room, I caught myself saying - out loud - I wish I could call my Dad and talk to him...
This song hurts so much. My husband died when my kids were very little. I think I have missed every important thing that they did because I had to support them. I did good job supporting them. I have never had a chance to just be a mother.
You do what you can, and when they're old enough to understand, they'll appreciate it. We can't be perfect, we just do the best we can with the hand we're dealt.
I think what i love most about this song is how many people could relate to it. It isn't specific. The father's not abusive, negligent, cruel, mean, or absent. This actually happens in almost every family where there is a father, or even mother, that's too busy to get to know their child, and before they know it, they're retired, their kid is married with their own kids, and now THEY dont have time for THEM. It's honestly the circle of life as we know it.
Thanks Kat B for the reminder. I will go home tonight and give my sons a huge meaningful hug each... they won't understand it now but it doesn't matter... Cheers
Definitely but being one of those forgotten kids I learnt from it!the biggest lesson I learnt before my dad died was to never abandon your family!work is not your life your family is your life and that's where I place my heart and soul :)
iwantit162 really hope it works out for you. Really do. That the rest of life's pressures never force you to choose between. In all honesty best of luck and may your spouse appreciate your heart/values.
Translation: Treat your kids in the way that you'd want your kids to treat your grandkids. Who in 2020? Ive lost my hero when i was 13. now im 32, i still miss you dad more then ever...
My son is about to turn 21. I gave 20 years to the Marine Corps,and was on several deployments to Afghanistan and Iraq. I missed out on a lot of him and his sister's childhood, and after everything I've seen,done,and been through, it took this song to make me burst into tears.
I spent a lot of time with my kids, now I’m 55 and they are all grown up, my oldest reminds me of me, don’t know when he is dropping in and never said a word when he moved out, now he is at in age of when I had him. Always reflect those special memories, time does not wait for no one take advantage of the time you have.
I’m touched by what you’ve said. You should give your oldest a call or at least leave a message. I’m sure he’d be happy to hear that you’re thinking of him during these trying times.
I can’t listen to this without crying.. me and my dad had a huge falling out a few years back, I sent him old man by Neal young out of the blue and he replied with this, I tear up anytime I hear either one, I’m glad we worked everything out… I love you dad..
Happy to hear that bud. I had a similar experience/relationship with my pops. I'm constantly told nowadays I'm just like him from everybody. I take it as a sideways compliment lol
Well you two guys are lucky,, my old man was a prick and the one time I was dealing with him and this song came on,, the guy just laughs and turns it off.. needless to say,, turning my back on the prick was twenty-some years too late but not a day too early... A couple of years ago one of my own sons played this tune for me kind of out of the blue, and I don't mind saying that, yeah I cried, who wouldn't? I wasn't working too much to be away from my kids but they are kind of spread out so,, I'd be with them when I could but anyways just refreshing to see other stories of guys who got along with their dads...
I am glad you and your dad are working on things and never stop trying as long as it isn't detrimental to your mental health. I blamed my dad for everything that happened with my mom. By the time I realized I was wrong, it was to late and he was gone. Never stop trying to fix it.
This is an incredibly sad song. It makes me think of all the times I told my mom I was busy… she died unexpectedly of cancer in 2016 and if I could go back in time I would do things much differently. 😢
Great song. It's lyrics are so haunting to me even from my teenage years. It captures the tensions of modern career responsibilities and family life. No that I'm in my middle career and have a young boy, I've always tried my best to spend quality time with him even when I'm exhausted from work. The lyrics of this song always pop into my head as a warning to avoid regret. During the pandemic I played catch with my son almost everyday. Today he's a star pitcher in his little league. I'm so proud of how he's turning out, an excellent young man. Funny how this song has encouraged me to become a better parent. It's a gift! Life and family are gifts too.
Back in the 1990s, this was used for a PSA in Northern Ireland, aimed at breaking generational cycles of violence (basically "don't let your kids make the same mistakes your generation did"). Powerful stuff.
In my country, it is used for "Stop Smoking" campaign, and it is pretty effective, whenever this song came up, my mind is like. "oh, it's no smoking song," Some people called this "dad is dead song." rofl
This was one of my dad's favorite songs. He'd sing this song often in the car when he'd pick me up. He wasn't in my life as much as most Dads traditionally, but he'd call me often. We'd talk, laugh, and relate with each other. The older I got, the more I realized he was JUST like me! Unfortunately, the last time we spoke on the phone was two weeks before he died suddenly. Talk to your loved ones; you NEVER know when the last conversation with them will be. Enjoy paradise, Dad. ❤
My dad was with me every step of my childhood. He was always home for the family. I wasn't all there with him in his final days. Now with my son just walking and learning to talk, my work has me away for most of the week. And this song that I've always loved playing but never identified with my father and myself, seems like it's telling me that it wasn't ever about my father. It was me all along.
Hey, I've noticed something about Western societies. They don't treat their elderly parents very well. It's sad to see them in old age homes. It's like when you were a baby and your parents left you with strangers and only checked on you occasionally. In contrast, in Middle Eastern countries, children take care of their parents until they pass away. Our religion teaches us to worship God alone and to be dutiful to our parents. I hope you don't take offense to what I said. It's just my observation. By the way, that song is really great!
I was a us soldier from 1987 to 2011. My son was born in 1994. I was there i as often as the job would allow. I dont know if i was really though since there was repairs to everything all the time, 24 hour duty shifts and a wide range of stuff. I retired as he entered adulthood. He died in 2014. This song had a whole new meaning after that.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sorry for your loss. I know that was hard for you to share. It's a heartbreaking experience and I'm sorry you had to go through this. This makes me think of my niece who also was born in 1994. I didn't get to spend time with her as she grew up. I made excuses when she wanted me to spend time and there were times when I did but now 9 years old has turned into 29 and she's busy with her life she barely calls at all. So, yeah, this song hits home.
22 years later, 44 year old me started talking to my Dad again. He's 83. My advice people, fly the nest by all means, but never cut the apron strings. Time is something you can never get back. Don't waste it. Family is everything and everything else is nothing.
Man, I'm a kid from the early 80's and I grew up with all kinds of music, since my family is so versatile. And in my humble opinion: this song will never ever die! 👏👏👏
Yea hit me hard bio dad. Didn't want nothing to do with me second dad never saw him again last dad was a tad better but had he's regrets....me. I made a Val I'd be the best dad...played games attended he's sporting events. We go to movies.
My mom heard me listing to this song the other day. She told me that she used to play this song in the car all the time when I was younger, no wonder why it sounded so familiar.
When this cover first came out.. I loved it bc it sounded just like a lullaby.. Now that I understand the world, it is a beautiful warning in ways you can interpret. I never knew my father, but many men shaped my life. My children have a good man as a father; this is my life's blessing.
41 years old and this song makes me cry every single time I hear it. Every single time I’ve been too busy to play or cuddle with my son hits me like a brick.
I have been an alcoholic and an occasional user of the white reaper. Now i am clean and an great earner for my kid, this song makes me cry everytime for the person i've been the first 2 years of my kids life
When lost my first son I could not listen to this song for years....when i lost my second son i could not stop listening to it for a while. As time has passed, i still listen to it once in a while, but with a smile instead of tears.
I have totally forgotten how incredibly beautiful Whitfield is, or was, I haven't seen current photos of him. I do know that this video brought about one of my most precious memories of My Mom Donna. She died when I was 24, and though I would love to share my memory w/ the world, I think it is something that you had to be there to really appreciate. I miss these days more than words can express, but I am extremely grateful for the ability to have my Mom as close as when she was alive just by watching this video. She was the most beautiful person who touched so many people, and I am forever grateful for ' UGLY KID JOE ' & this overplayed video that I gave me such a hilarious and beautiful reminder that I was so freaking blessed to have such a wonderful person as my Mom, the very best friend anyone can ask for, and the one who loved unconditionally to a fault!! THANK YOU DONNA LEE, MY BEAUTIFUL MOM FOR GIVING ME SO MUCH TO MISS!!! I LOVE YOU LADY JANE!!
This song hits home im 58. My 2 girls are great young women i was so busy when they were going up now my girls have left home love those girls with everything i have they take good care of there momma.love you girls..
A beautiful song about life and the wrong priorities most people have. The most unforgiving thing in life is lime, because once it's gone you can never get it back.
My dad passed away in 2020 from a stroke, my mother has passed away from cancer in 2021, they both worked their lives away. I can never say how much I appreciate and learned from them
@Dan Lowton I appreciate it. I've learned that in life for every loss we gain something from it ultimately, usually lessons that we carry with us through our lives.
World seemed okay in the 90s : Warsaw Pact had disappeared and Central Europe seemed to have a lot of chances...and we were young and always at techno-parties and in love. Now there are more problems than chances...
I can certainly appreciate this song more now in my 40s than in my teens. I was 11 years old when my Mum left my Dad and from then until I left home my Dad busted his ass to keep a roof over our heads. That's why I always tried to see him as often as I could as an adult. He passed away a few years ago but I'll always be grateful for everything that he did for me.
I don't know what brought me back to this song. I knew it was a cover of course, I was in high school. I'm a 45 year old woman today and I am my father in every way, shape and form today. I'm not a parent, but love you Dad.
Back as a kid, I just loved the melody on this song and used to hear it again and again. Now 25 years later and with 2 kids, when I truly 'listened' to this one again, I just cant stop wondering with teary eyes about what I'd want my kids to grow up to. Thank you Harry Chapin for this masterpiece and Ugly Kid Joe for the amazing rock cover!!!
The song "Cats in the Cradle" strikes a chord with me as I see myself repeating the same mistakes as my father did. My dad lost his life when I was just 12 due to his job, and I wished things would have been different. I have been fortunate enough not to have gone through what my dad did, but I have repeated his mistake of not being present in my kids' lives. As a parent, I now understand the importance of balancing work and family time. However, due to the divorce and the distance between us, I have not been able to see my sons as much as I would have liked to. Time flies so quickly, and I always thought that I would soon have the time to be with them more often, but it has not happened. Life has come full circle now as I see my sons doing what my dad did and what I did. They are busy with their lives, just like I was. But now, I am regretting not having spent more time with them, just like my dad regretted it in his final moments. Now that my sons are adults, I am always thinking about the mistake I made for not being there for them enough. I understand the impact that my absence has had on their lives, and I am making a conscious effort to be present in their lives now through social media platforms. Although I cannot turn back time, I hope to make up for the lost time and create new memories that we can all cherish. My experience is a reminder to all of us to prioritize spending quality time with our families, despite the challenges that life throws at us. Please don't let work or other distractions get in the way of creating lasting memories with your loved ones..
But Reinaldo. Your boys turned out like you. They saw u provide for them and work hard...which is ok That's what I take from this song too The dad was busy providing for the son and family The boy turned out doing the same thing
I understand what you mean. It hurts not being able to be with them , I have one son and his mom took him away from me when he was young. Now he is 19 years old and he treats me like a stranger because he tells me that he doesn't know who I am and it's too late too act like I am his dad .
I'm reading this as I'm nursing my 15mo son. His dad is a busy surgeon with very little time for the family. I have tried reasoning with him, cautioning him but I don't think he gets it. I sincerely hope he will not have regrets when his son is all grown up. I don't intend to bad mouth him but my son will see what he sees.
I loved this song. My Daddy was a Truck Driver and was always gone on the road. He was a strong, proud, and loving man, making a living for his family. I miss him terribly 😔. This song is even more emotional than the original. Very well done.
This song always reminded me of my dad. He passed 2 years ago now it makes me cry remembering him. If you have your dad alive still, make sure you go see him because he will be gone before you know it while you’re living life.
My dad just passed away and his last words were "sure was nice talking to you". This song was always our relationship, do busy to teach me how to catch, to busy to hang out and I was the same 'Just like you dad'. Went to college and came back, did not want to hang out. Now that I am older, enjoy the moments with parents, if only for a bit.
One of the most powerful songs ever written with one of the most important messages ever!
Well said
This version is complete crap if you compare it to Johnny Cash's song.
I love the choice of words in this line "When are you coming home son I don't know when", because without punctuation, this exchange can be read in two different ways that reflect the stages in the song and the parallel between father and son over the years. The first two times are from the son's perspective, growing up, repeatedly asking his dad when he's coming home so they can spend time together, the line then reads
- "When are you coming home?"
- "Son, I don't know when."
Then when the son is all grown up, in college, at his own house with wife and kids, and doesn't have time to spend with the dad anymore, the line then reads from the dad's perspective as he misses his son
- "When are you coming home, son?"
- "I don't know when."
Oof that hit hard.
mindblowing...
Wrong choices
Hits alot harder at 46yrs old then it does at 18 yrs old Love you Dad
Yes I do agree 💯%. It stinks when men put their work first and kids on the back burner.
Back when it was released, it was just a cool rock song. Now, as a dad, I can't listen to it without crying, oh man...
yeah, this song hits a little different now
So true! I ball every time
Feel the same mate
as Jay z relaeased 99 Problems it was great, too. did anybody notice the marrying jewish couple + the not so amber background..🎈
I think you don't know this is a Cover XD
I've given EVERY second I could to my son as he was growing up, he just got married at 26 now and I couldn't be prouder of him. Lately is the only time I've felt like this song spoke to me cause I feel his hand pulling away and now he's working the same job I did and is busy all the time. Sigh, NO amount of time is ever enough, and especially when you enjoyed every second you had and now its stopped. But I raised an amazing son. I fought hard in the Army to make sure he had an America to grow up to.
You're making me tear up now, man. I hope my dad's proud of who I am and what I've accomplished. He ended up with a kid just like him, personality and looks, only without the trauma he experienced as he grew up. He raised my brother and I so we'd never feel like he did. So many sarcrifices
@@ignorant1126 just be yourself and be strong when times feel tough. I'm sure he is already proud of ya man. Rock on with all you got! Thanks for the comment, he sounds like an amazing guy I could be friends with.
I heard this song when I was a very young and impressionable young man and I swore to myself that I would always be there for my kids. I am now 50 and took a job working from home so I could wake my kids up in the morning and put them to sleep at night (had kids later in life). Best decision I have ever made in my life...
I am a 44 year old man and listened this song when i was young , always busy with my own business but had to quit my job because of a disease and i am now a more happy man and feel so lucky that i can see my 2 sons grow up and be with them most of the day , never thought that this all would be so beautiful , now i realize the dutch proverb work to live and not live to work
As the son of a father who had the luck to find and keep a work from home since I was born, I can confirm the benefit goes both ways. Sure sometimes you might feel like stepping on each other's shoes, especially once they grow up and start feeling like they want more independence or autonomy, and to be honest it also depends on the personalities and how they link or clash together (personally this was the only real reason why I ended up moving out, but I sure took my damn time lol). But I assure you that this way the father gets to express all of his love up to the very small things, the ones that they'll have to grow up to realize what they were worth, meanwhile the kids get to have his support and a father figure present basically all day everyday.
Again it depends, in my case I have issues because of some ways my father was hurt that in turn made him hurt me, the 'usual' parental cycles sadly, and this is also something that is a bit amplified in small ways when having him always there, but i never stopped noticing how much he loves me and cares for my well-being, even the part of me that hates him, in reality, still wants to give him back the love it deserves.
And all of this is helped immensely by him having lived and worked all under the same reliable roof.
Quite the long comment but I hope it helps you and others with some insight from the son's perspective. Anyway I love this song too, maybe a bit more the original than this version but I see and feel the lyrics very clearly.
Sold my company and retired young. Was lost. Had two kids. Still unfillfilled. Then this song popped up in my feed. I remembered it as a cutesy kids song. But now I realize the incredible meaning and grateful I still have my kids young in age. I have purpose. Amazing the legacy of music can have on countless generations.
@@wjatube I remember the first time I heard it and immediately thought of my childhood. My dad was there but he was a steelworker and usually wore out so time with him was valuable to me. As I got older I have made it a point to spend as much quality time with my kids as possible and I believe it makes both me and my babies better for it.
LIL w h o?!
This song should serve as a warning to those who spend all their time at work. You'll miss your children growing up.
True
Well, they're just by-products.
As if we have a choice ...
@Altschauerberger Opferkult-Spiritist Find the right balance. Your children are only children once. Plus nobody on their death bead says "I wish I spent more time at the office."
For a lot of men that is a life chosen.
At 40 my dads still alive, Marine, Vietnam vet, truck driver, policeman. At this age, the most i remember about my childhood is not the things he bought me, its the time we spent together.
We talk regularly and know that one day I may pick up the phone he may not be there.
Enjoy all the time you get with your parents people.
My father was military, Vietnam vet, gone a lot, but I treasure those times when we were together. He's gone now. Only during the last five years of his life did he ever mention obliquely some of his war and service experiences - he spoke a language from a country "we were never in" and spoke of someone named "Muammar" with whom he had to share flightline in Libya in the 60's (only time I ever heard my father use foul language was in reference to this *gentleman.*) I am so glad you are talking regularly to your father, and more than a little envious, too.
Mate, your father IS the hero. I wish you good luck. So understand your words. My grandpa was in Africa in 2.WW. God bless them.. I know, war, but top lads!
@@FilipeCzech1986 I look at black and white photos of my grandfather when he was in the Army in WW2 pictured in his dress uniform and think: 'they don't build men like that anymore'. He was tough as a $2 steak and wise as an owl.
My dad only talks to me when he wants to scold or belittle me. I'm 43 now, same old shit. 😁😁😁 I promised to myself that I'll be better than he is.
@@erichdgoth8451 feel ya there man. I’m 50, never been good enough for my dad, or my daughter, damn shame he doesn’t know her. Do to me what you will, but I be damned you do it to my daughter
My father and I always joked about this song. There was no animosity, just an understanding that that's life. There were times when he wasn't around, and there were times he was. He's gone now and I miss him everyday. Though he wasn't the best father at times, I wouldn't trade him for the world.
What makes this song extra hard is that there's no bad intent, it's just the way it is.
2020
Since 1993 🔥🔥🔥
@@upshiftgo you're wrong. Unfortunatelly not everyone has the same opportunities. I know having good times with your kids not always rely on having money, but having to run after it to try to have conditions in the old age takes a lot from that
You completely missed the entire point of the song if you think that's just the way things are.
That's the way they think it is until it's too late to change it. And then suddenly it's clear how they could have moved everything around and prioritized each other and they'll never get to now.
The message is time eternal.
My Dad was killed in an auto wreck when I was a 9 year old 4th grader. Now 52 years later I can still shed a tear when I think of things done and time spent with him, and this song in particular can make those tears flow.
For most of my entire life Chapin's tune has served as a reminder.
When I was a high school freshman, we had a stereo in our Advanced English class so we could listen to commercial-free FM radio while writing. That was a big deal at the time especially for the relatively small town community where I went to school. I remember one afternoon after Cats in the Cradle aired, hard-nosed Irish disciplinarian Mr. Hollahan shut off the stereo receiver and asked the entire class to chime in and talk about what we all had just listened to, the ballad sung, and how one should aspire to live. I don't remember all of my classmates' individual responses, but I was glad I was not called upon. Hearing Cats in the Cradle that day had not brought me to tears, but the lump in my throat would have made it tough to talk and express my own experience and feelings. It had not been that many years prior to that early September 1969 morning I was really looking forward to because I was going to get to ride my bike to school, but not long after awakening knowing I had overslept and that something was wrong when I heard our family friend Shirley McArthur's voice downstairs only to soon learn my Dad had been killed on the Pit 1 Grade the night before driving home.
Now, I am a husband and father with a 14 year old son and an 18 year old princess. I endeavor to provide for my bride and family, I work hard, travel too damn much for work, but with the exception of a rare day when I only get to speak with my bride when I am on the road, I make absolutely sure my children hear me say "I love you" each and everyday. Yes, Chapin's song has had a nearly life long impact on me and maybe they don't realize it, but my own children too.
Subsequently, fathers young and old, remember to major in the majors. Only we can be our bride's husband, provider, protector, lover, and confidant, and only we can be our childrens' guide, protector, and father. No job, career, profession, or business can ever match what a good man of steel and velvet and a rock solid father can accomplish.
Okay okay okay, just don't shit your pants.
@@robinhut5359Seriously if this post hasn't touched your heart you must be completely lacking in empathy and compassion as you sit behind a keyboard in your mother's basement trolling with heartless posts like this 👎
It’s a cover.
Your comment was like a novel. Almost eternal. But still. Respect.
@@stevep3692 What's the matter? Your father also was squeezed to death by a truck or what?
Im 51 . My dad is 87 and on palliative care, I've been so blessed . He was so amazing . He always appreciated being a dad
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Im 25 and my dad is 62. I moved in with him 5 months ago because his health was declining. 2 weeks ago was his last hospital visit before speaking with palliative care and deciding on hospice care. Still with hospice…I’m here 7 days a week taking FMLA and my dad screams for me when they try do give him a bath. I get no breaks. On top of that, Palliative care said he would die of kidney failure when we were in the hospital but he has been passing urine on his own. They said kidney failure is a good way to die - painless. But now I think he may be dying of his cancer and not his kidney. I don’t know what to do. I feel so helpless. Is he dying or do I need to bring him to a hospital and save his life? So many questions. Palliative care messed this one up.
@@TheFirstAmendment he passed on Easter sadly. Thanks for being a canvas for my rant
@@imastered9021condolences for your loss young friend.
I randomly decided to come listen to this song and it reminded me of how I lost my Dad at 15 when he was 60.
And that's when I came across your comment from just 2hrs ago. 😢
Hope you're managing well.
Aa @@imastered9021
One of the best covers 🎸
To all the fathers in the world,
and those from heaven
continue to care for their children
Happy Father's Day 2020 !!!
Listened to this song hundreds of times and only today have I realised how much I miss my late father and the life we didn’t have.
I know exactly how you feel
@@End_Times_Dreams Yes it is so relatable and i thank UKJ for bringing this song to the forefront.
My dad passed in 2001 when I was 19, never really was sure how he felt about me or if he really genuinely cared about me. Now I'm almost 39 with a 14 year old daughter and a seven year old son, and though I still wonder how my dad felt about me I know my children will never have to wonder the same thing.
I‘m sure u will let your children know how much u love them, great dad:)
My dads alive and im currently wondering that
❤️
Im same my dads still alive when my mother passed on my 4th birthday i went to live with my aunt dad's sister and saw him occasionally he had a new woman and she had kids now ive got my own i know they stay with me forever no matter what and for that I cannot forgive my father
:)
I love the subtle transition from “im going to be like you dad” to “im going to be like him”. Kinda heartbreaking. This is my life. Love this song.
One of the greatest covers around. People still never learn this life lesson.
Ditto
a lot of our moms chose shitty guys; or chose good guys, who turned into bums..
It’s one of the rare cases when the cover is better than the original!
I like original a lot but this one of those covers beautiful as the originals in my opinion
@@awt1989 or the moms were crazy and dad had to leave
I was 17 at work and told an older customer how much I was working with school and Baseball. He said “Remember…no dying man ever said I wish I spent more time at the office”. Probably the greatest advice I’ve gotten in my entire life. I’m 48 now and still remember that.
And still in an office.
@@edpearson8973 Let me tell you, I’m 48, work at a Ford auto parts warehouse in Orlando FL, without AC for 8+ hours. I’ll gladly spent more time in an office, especially in July/August LOL!
I even remember when i had to put on my own diapers. So this song reminds of me off not ending up like my "dad"
It's all about a clear conscious.
@@detroitpolak9904 are you dying? I guess you’ll just have to wait till then to find out. But for me I’ll gladly take a Friday off to spend at the lake. Oh wait I don’t work fridays am thankful. Long weekend at tge lake every weekend.
Watching this as a 42 year old dad vs watching it when I was 16 or so is heart-rending. Tears flowing.
Exactly..where did the years go?? They passed way too fast...
True that time just flew by .when we were in school we wanted time to fly by now in are 40s we want time to slow down .
Agreed dude I now make sure I have time to do stuff with my two boys, I know one day they won't ask me to hang out with them. Dreading that day really
I Love classic .
The world is a wonderful place ,depends the heart
I'm 56 and my children are in there 30's. I made sure i was there for them and did my best to show them what dad means to a family. I've lived a long life and the best accomplishment is being a dad to three amazing children that have given me grandchildren to carry our legacy.
I could never listen to this song without tearing up when my dad was alive because he always worked so hard, we rarely saw him. He died almost one year ago (September 26, 2019) and for some reason, I made it through without shedding a tear listening to this version now. He was the best daddy me and my sister could have asked for. She remarked one time how fortunate we were that we won the daddy lotto with him...I miss you more than words can say, daddy...Donald Ray Tibbitts - April 21, 1939 - September 26, 2019) A good man and the BEST daddy that ever lived!
This song reminds me of my son Trevor I'm 2 times divorced a son and a daughter. I'm a recoving alcoholic. I always loved my children n always will . My son is back in my life and my daughter sends pics . My higher power saved me from myself. Thanks God for my sobriety 1 day at a time I love u Trevor boy n Erin love Dad
@Paul C Lalchungnunga Thank you
Love 💟 wins.
All you ever need is love 💝.
your story is so like mine and probably 100000 others we were the lucky ones who had dads that strove to give us better lives than they had and paid the price of not having the lives they wanted with us
Rip
I was 14 when this came out in 92, to me then it was a great song. As I got older and understood the lyrics I apricated my dad a lot more for all he gave us. Now I'm a dad myself, this song reminds me to try, try to spend some time with the kids, no matter how knackered I am, before the cycle goes round again.
never too late tom i'm 56 now and my daughter is 21 and last xmas she makes me a special present a laser ingraved holo block saying "best dad ever" it makes me cry but on the other hand it shows me everything did right
I'm 59 and use to listen to the original in 1974. This song described my father to a tee. Though I never had any children I am a favorite uncle few my sister's and others the kids just seem to adopt me. My nephew was about six and his mom ( my sister) and his dad we're always busy. One night I invited the whole family over for dinner. I happen to play this song and my sister looked at me and I said "remember dad?". My nephew is now a dad twice over and pays attention to those two constantly. Just like his mom and dad did.
Oooo it came out long before that sweety... It was in the 70s
@@dmbtmk1964 Nobody can do it like Harry. 👍
@@dmbtmk1964 you are hilarious *oooo*
As a father now.. I can't listen to this without crying. This was/is basically the relationship I have with my father.
Same as you, i know exactly how you feel
My father was "just like him" and I didn't repeat it with my boys. I'm there for them, every day, as long as they need me...
Miss my three sons. One of them in particular, if only we could get together for a basketball game. I hope you boys know you’re apart of me and will always be. Until the end
Just to my dad, I'm sorry I became a cocaine addict after your passing. And not being the man You raised me to be.
But your boy has beat his demons and 4 years sober and back from deaths door. Living, not just existing, It's not goodbye dad... it's only till next time. Thank you
Be proud of yourself for having overcome that. I'm sure your father is.
I'm proud of you dude, and I know your dad would be as well
I know personally how hard it can be to recover from something like that, he would be so proud, just know that
Our dads will be proud whatever 🤞 Peace and love
Sounds boring!
Sometimes before I wake my son for school, I will look at him sleeping. And as I do, I imagine myself as an old old man, and he now grown and raising a family of his own somewhere. And I ask myself, what would that old man pay, what would the old me give to be standing here in this quiet moment? The answer is he would pay any amount, he’d give anything to be able to stand there and watch his little boy sleeping. That simple mental exercise grounds me, reminds me these moments are golden and they should be savored for the gifts they truly are!
This comment made me tear up and you are truly a good person and if he is being raised by you I know he is gonna be a man one day have a amazing evening. God loves u
Who wouldnt pay the world for the ability to time travel...
What a gem IM glad I came across this comment
People can say whatever they want about Ugly Kid Joe, but THIS SHOWS what amazing MUSICIANS they are!!
Makes me cry because my Dad died a Pill addict and Alcoholic who couldn't get over the Divorce.....I never realized until listening to this song now how truly our children are a reflection of us.......I have been sober a year but I was a Heroin addict and alcoholic barley made it out alive....My dad has this album he passed on and left me his collection Listened to this song and got really sad......Just now I never understood it till now.
I am crying......
My heart goes out to you. So much brokenness in our world-a frequent subject in my prayers. I pray somehow out Heavenly Father will continue to bring you healing.
man.. i'm sorry :c
I'm Larry's sister by the way and yes we were blessed to have the parents we had.
i'm just a brazillian boy, honestly my english is terrible and i don't know how to express my sadness for you guys, i'm really sorry hope you enjoy your parents as i
Koffinkat666... *SENDING YOU HUGS FROM CANADA*
Lyrics:
My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talking 'fore I knew it, and as he grew
He'd say "I'm gonna be like you, dad"
"You know I'm gonna be like you"
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when"
But we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
My son turned ten just the other day
He said, thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play
Can you teach me to throw, I said-a, not today
I got a lot to do, he said, that's okay
And he, he walked away, but his smile never dimmed
It said, I'm gonna be like him, yeah
You know I'm gonna be like him
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you coming home, dad?" "I don't know when"
But we'll get together then
You know we'll have a good time then
Well, he came from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
Son, I'm proud of you, can you sit for a while?
He shook his head, and they said with a smile
What I'd really like, dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you coming home, son?" "I don't know when"
But we'll get together then, dad
You know we'll have a good time then
I've long since retired, my son's moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, I'd like to see you if you don't mind
He said, I'd love to, dad, if I can find the time
You see, my new job's a hassle, and the kids have the flu
But it's sure nice talking to you, dad
It's been sure nice talking to you
And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me
He'd grown up just like me
My boy was just like me
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
"When you coming home, son?" "I don't know when"
But we'll get together then, dad
We're gonna have a good time then
lyrics thanks😊my favorite
@@かずみん-z9p no problem.
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Thanks..
This is one of those moments I am thankful for my dad.
Work came 9th place at all times. He told me "You can make money every day, you can't make your childhood again."
Irish Eyes Wise man, your Dad
I wish I had a dad ... and one like that!!!
what a testament to your pop...cheers, Irish Eyes
Irish Eyes you got lucky. Most dads are gone
Your dad is awesome.
such a strong message about a son and a father relationship
Don't forget about daughter & father too. My mum & dad were married, lived in the same house & it was like it was a single parent household (never saw my dad much which was a good thing). To all men, if you want your kids in your life, be in theirs when they're growing up.
I saw these guys live in Houston around the time they were hitting the rotation on MTV. They were the headliners but I was into the local opening band. I remember telling my friends that I wasn't really looking forward to the "I hate everything about you" guys. To say that I was blown away by their live performance would be a gross understatement. These guys absolutely brought it. Years later I honestly can't remember the opening band name but I'll never forget Ugly Kid Joe.
Cat stevens
Three Days Grace?
This is one of those rare songs that hits home, and it it's home hard. Happy Fathers Day to all the dads out there working hard to support their families. May your hard work not cost you your kids as it did to the father in this video.
One of the best songs ever written and the band does a great remake of it.
I listened to this song as a kid and it always brought up mixed feelings. Still does.
So glad I spent time with my son - he has grown up to be an awesome man and a great friend. All the time practicing baseball and shooting hoops with him was a joy for me. I wouldn't trade it for all the money in the world.
Boston Tea Party, heard of, h is to r y...great...
Except they screwed up the words. They say "When you comin' home SON i don't know when", in each verse. It's supposed to be DAD in each verse except the last.
I'm not crying, you're crying!
Hearing this at 13 and now at 44 hits home. Life goes fast so make the most of it....
Well said
RIght here with you man.
I was thinking just the same... good grief...
Dam…
and im 13 now and hearing for the first time🙂
As my dad got sick, I played this for him. This was totally our song. When he left this world for a pain free one... this became our song
Sorry for your loss 😞
Sending some gentle virtual hugs
🫶🫂🫶
My dad left me for job relocating and to help secure the cats then i went psychotic they don't help - the cats - and just made everything worse
He wants me to be retarded not genuine and creative. Want me to cover it cover it?
Living it myself except the show off shit that's never been us just the work part missed some thing's that can't be recaught not a ton but it matters far far more than money you're always going to make money working you not always going to be there. Love and peace y'all ❤
I'm sorry for your loss man. 😢he died happy
Man this really hits home. My old man worked his life away and now at 37. I'm doing the same.
They all do...
you still have time man, living is not all about working hard, be content with what you have and spend as much time with your kids.
This is the fate we need to face as men
Every passing moment is another chance to turn it all around..
Many jobs have personal days available to employees. Take advantage of them at sporadic and random times during the year. I don't get to have dinner with family at any regular holidays, but the days I take makes it so I see them more days a year than just holidays allows.
Growing up. My grandfather HATED this song.... because with me growing up it reminded him so much of this song. My father working so hard to support the family. But never having ANY time for the family. He hated his own family because as a native American he hated what his family had become. Reliant on the government. He hated it so much. He hated that the exact opposite was coming true. Where the people no longer could rely on the government for support and were left to suffer.
He wanted nothing but the best for he grand children. He wanted his ancestry honored while honoring modern society. He wanted the best for all.
My father always had time for us...I'm over 60 now...he's been gone since 2003...I miss him every day. In the middle of a large storage room, no one else in the room, I caught myself saying - out loud - I wish I could call my Dad and talk to him...
This song hurts so much. My husband died when my kids were very little. I think I have missed every important thing that they did because I had to support them. I did good job supporting them. I have never had a chance to just be a mother.
You're an amazing person ❤️
Mierda!
You do what you can, and when they're old enough to understand, they'll appreciate it. We can't be perfect, we just do the best we can with the hand we're dealt.
I think what i love most about this song is how many people could relate to it. It isn't specific. The father's not abusive, negligent, cruel, mean, or absent. This actually happens in almost every family where there is a father, or even mother, that's too busy to get to know their child, and before they know it, they're retired, their kid is married with their own kids, and now THEY dont have time for THEM. It's honestly the circle of life as we know it.
Thanks Kat B for the reminder. I will go home tonight and give my sons a huge meaningful hug each... they won't understand it now but it doesn't matter... Cheers
that suck....thats because capitalism, all of us should work until we exceed our limit and the nwe dont have a time for our families....
Definitely but being one of those forgotten kids I learnt from it!the biggest lesson I learnt before my dad died was to never abandon your family!work is not your life your family is your life and that's where I place my heart and soul :)
Kat B
This song completely relates to me. I have stories that would blow your mind
iwantit162 really hope it works out for you. Really do. That the rest of life's pressures never force you to choose between. In all honesty best of luck and may your spouse appreciate your heart/values.
growing up is understanding all factors and events that occurred. We must honor our parents regardless of circumstances as they gave us life.
Translation: Treat your kids in the way that you'd want your kids to treat your grandkids.
Who in 2020?
Ive lost my hero when i was 13. now im 32, i still miss you dad more then ever...
please go on. Do your part. I´m with you
♥️
I lost my dad 4 years to suicide. This song really gets to me now that I have a son. RIP Dad SFC US ARMY retired. The best man I ever knew.
@@ptstrong3 Sorry for your loss😢❤️
Gena Hutchinson thank you so much.
I was born in 93 I feel like Ive missed a lot of good music. I wish the radio was more diverse than just the usual rock hits.
Adam Hopkins you have. So much great bloody music in in the 80' & 90's
yes u did !!!!!!!
Watching my dad fade away and my boys fading in..... this song holds much more meaning than when I first heard it when I was little... thank you
aw Shad this is so sad . But did Papa get the chance to meet one of your boys.
Your welcome ❤
My son is about to turn 21. I gave 20 years to the Marine Corps,and was on several deployments to Afghanistan and Iraq. I missed out on a lot of him and his sister's childhood, and after everything I've seen,done,and been through, it took this song to make me burst into tears.
I spent a lot of time with my kids, now I’m 55 and they are all grown up, my oldest reminds me of me, don’t know when he is dropping in and never said a word when he moved out, now he is at in age of when I had him. Always reflect those special memories, time does not wait for no one take advantage of the time you have.
I’m touched by what you’ve said. You should give your oldest a call or at least leave a message. I’m sure he’d be happy to hear that you’re thinking of him during these trying times.
I can’t listen to this without crying.. me and my dad had a huge falling out a few years back, I sent him old man by Neal young out of the blue and he replied with this, I tear up anytime I hear either one, I’m glad we worked everything out… I love you dad..
Happy to hear that bud. I had a similar experience/relationship with my pops. I'm constantly told nowadays I'm just like him from everybody. I take it as a sideways compliment lol
Well you two guys are lucky,, my old man was a prick and the one time I was dealing with him and this song came on,, the guy just laughs and turns it off.. needless to say,, turning my back on the prick was twenty-some years too late but not a day too early... A couple of years ago one of my own sons played this tune for me kind of out of the blue, and I don't mind saying that, yeah I cried, who wouldn't? I wasn't working too much to be away from my kids but they are kind of spread out so,, I'd be with them when I could but anyways just refreshing to see other stories of guys who got along with their dads...
Fico feliz por vocês dois. Um forte abraço 🇧🇷
I am glad you and your dad are working on things and never stop trying as long as it isn't detrimental to your mental health. I blamed my dad for everything that happened with my mom. By the time I realized I was wrong, it was to late and he was gone. Never stop trying to fix it.
Nice to hear you did! Time shouldn't be taken for granted.
Mine died to cancer before we did, at least I was there on his last moments.
I fucking love Ugly Kid Joe. They kicked so much ass back in the early 90s, when I was just a boy... I call it the "Wayne's World" era.
I fucking hate ugly kid joe.They sucked so much ass back in the 90s.I called it the "idiot era".
p.s. the original cays in the cradle is better!
+Jon Kline that's it, chewwwwwwwwiiiiinnngggggg!!!!
+Jon Kline Where's alice cooper???
+Jon Kline EXCELLENT!! THE BEST F***N ERA!
+Jon Kline No one could better explain that :D :) The good old days......
This is an incredibly sad song. It makes me think of all the times I told my mom I was busy… she died unexpectedly of cancer in 2016 and if I could go back in time I would do things much differently. 😢
For everybody who grew up without a father.
beautiful 90s
I turn this music on and 40 seconds in im crying like a child. I haven't cried in the last 6 months...
+Krimpf You simply have the soul :) i have the same
It's good to cry
BABY
i always cry in this song
Always gets me slightly misty-eyed. There's a sense of melancholy that always hits you.
Great song. It's lyrics are so haunting to me even from my teenage years. It captures the tensions of modern career responsibilities and family life. No that I'm in my middle career and have a young boy, I've always tried my best to spend quality time with him even when I'm exhausted from work. The lyrics of this song always pop into my head as a warning to avoid regret. During the pandemic I played catch with my son almost everyday. Today he's a star pitcher in his little league. I'm so proud of how he's turning out, an excellent young man. Funny how this song has encouraged me to become a better parent. It's a gift! Life and family are gifts too.
Congrat bro... now is my time to do!!
Im 47 years old i remember when i listened to this i was crying ,now im listening to it now and i am crying again
To Donna Crying? That's because you have good taste!
Back in the 1990s, this was used for a PSA in Northern Ireland, aimed at breaking generational cycles of violence (basically "don't let your kids make the same mistakes your generation did"). Powerful stuff.
In my country, it is used for "Stop Smoking" campaign, and it is pretty effective, whenever this song came up, my mind is like. "oh, it's no smoking song," Some people called this "dad is dead song." rofl
idgaf
I plan to make the next generation to grow up perfect not to no of the evil sins this earth have
@@AI.industry Would you care to elaborate? You seem like an eloquent person...
Not this specific version-I'm pretty sure they used the original by Harry Chapin.
This was one of my dad's favorite songs. He'd sing this song often in the car when he'd pick me up. He wasn't in my life as much as most Dads traditionally, but he'd call me often. We'd talk, laugh, and relate with each other. The older I got, the more I realized he was JUST like me! Unfortunately, the last time we spoke on the phone was two weeks before he died suddenly. Talk to your loved ones; you NEVER know when the last conversation with them will be. Enjoy paradise, Dad. ❤
My dad was with me every step of my childhood. He was always home for the family. I wasn't all there with him in his final days. Now with my son just walking and learning to talk, my work has me away for most of the week. And this song that I've always loved playing but never identified with my father and myself, seems like it's telling me that it wasn't ever about my father. It was me all along.
He flies with angels, as does mine.
Awh bless❤
Want to bad but thresholds boundaries
Hey, I've noticed something about Western societies. They don't treat their elderly parents very well. It's sad to see them in old age homes. It's like when you were a baby and your parents left you with strangers and only checked on you occasionally. In contrast, in Middle Eastern countries, children take care of their parents until they pass away. Our religion teaches us to worship God alone and to be dutiful to our parents.
I hope you don't take offense to what I said. It's just my observation.
By the way, that song is really great!
This song fills me with all kinds of emotions. My dad just passed this past November. He was one of my best friends, and we were a lot alike.
That’s something special
Grown man in my mid 40s with a son of my own and this is the only song that leaves me with tears down my face every time I hear it
I was a us soldier from 1987 to 2011. My son was born in 1994. I was there i as often as the job would allow. I dont know if i was really though since there was repairs to everything all the time, 24 hour duty shifts and a wide range of stuff. I retired as he entered adulthood. He died in 2014. This song had a whole new meaning after that.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sorry for your loss. I know that was hard for you to share. It's a heartbreaking experience and I'm sorry you had to go through this. This makes me think of my niece who also was born in 1994. I didn't get to spend time with her as she grew up. I made excuses when she wanted me to spend time and there were times when I did but now 9 years old has turned into 29 and she's busy with her life she barely calls at all. So, yeah, this song hits home.
@@Jae-b1s thank you.
Reading through these comments breaks the heart. 😪 Make family first again.
Incredible song with very important message ...
I say without apology, this is one of the best cover songs of Generation X.
Absolutely bro.
22 years later, 44 year old me started talking to my Dad again. He's 83. My advice people, fly the nest by all means, but never cut the apron strings. Time is something you can never get back. Don't waste it. Family is everything and everything else is nothing.
Family is everything, and everything else is nothing. Wow, nice words
Not to everyone
My dad was the one to cut the strings...didnt care enough i guess
Tony Lonsdale yeah, unfortunately..
peace b upon em
Sometimes there are lyrics put together in such a way that they become timeless any always meaningful.
Man, I'm a kid from the early 80's and I grew up with all kinds of music, since my family is so versatile. And in my humble opinion: this song will never ever die! 👏👏👏
This song fucks me up every time
I Agree, he found ways as it turns out not to be home with his kids. That's not me, not a Chance.
I have four girls, and I thank god I spent every moment I could with them. But yes, this song always fucks me up too.
This one hits a homerun, for sure😢
Yea hit me hard bio dad. Didn't want nothing to do with me second dad never saw him again last dad was a tad better but had he's regrets....me. I made a Val I'd be the best dad...played games attended he's sporting events. We go to movies.
My mom heard me listing to this song the other day. She told me that she used to play this song in the car all the time when I was younger, no wonder why it sounded so familiar.
The original is by Harry Chapin. In 1976 I saw him in a small concert hall and he was excellent and full of blue humor. I was saddened by his passing.
When this cover first came out.. I loved it bc it sounded just like a lullaby.. Now that I understand the world, it is a beautiful warning in ways you can interpret. I never knew my father, but many men shaped my life. My children have a good man as a father; this is my life's blessing.
41 years old and this song makes me cry every single time I hear it. Every single time I’ve been too busy to play or cuddle with my son hits me like a brick.
Miss my dad alot hope he is looking down happy with the progress I've been making. He passed before I could truly make him proud.
I have been an alcoholic and an occasional user of the white reaper. Now i am clean and an great earner for my kid, this song makes me cry everytime for the person i've been the first 2 years of my kids life
I lost my father this Friday and this made me cry. Love you, dad ❤️
You are loved, missed and appreciated.
My heart is going to you my friend! Sad to hear that you have lost your dad😢
all the best stranger from australia
Mine was 20 years ago and I still cry.
My best thoughts to you man.
Hang on. No more pain for your father now.
Best wishes and regards.
When lost my first son I could not listen to this song for years....when i lost my second son i could not stop listening to it for a while. As time has passed, i still listen to it once in a while, but with a smile instead of tears.
🥺😢🥰
I'm sorry karelus...my mom and my mont Lost their gorgeous children too
I couldn't care less about your son
Just talked to my dad for about 45 mins, I'm blessed to still have him. Love you dad!
I have totally forgotten how incredibly beautiful Whitfield is, or was, I haven't seen current photos of him.
I do know that this video brought about one of my most precious memories of My Mom Donna.
She died when I was 24, and though I would love to share my memory w/ the world,
I think it is something that you had to be there to really appreciate.
I miss these days more than words can express, but I am extremely grateful for the ability to have my Mom as close as when she was alive just by watching this video.
She was the most beautiful person who touched so many people, and I am forever grateful for
' UGLY KID JOE ' & this
overplayed video that I
gave me such a hilarious and beautiful reminder that I was so freaking blessed to have such a wonderful person as my Mom, the very best friend anyone can ask for, and the one who loved unconditionally to a fault!!
THANK YOU DONNA LEE, MY BEAUTIFUL MOM FOR GIVING ME SO MUCH TO MISS!!!
I LOVE YOU LADY JANE!!
This song hits home im 58. My 2 girls are great young women i was so busy when they were going up now my girls have left home love those girls with everything i have they take good care of there momma.love you girls..
what a nice comment hope you have a nice day
Lost my Dad right when I got out of the military. We were just beginning to share war stories together when he died of a freak heart attack at 56.
I’m so sorry man that’s rough, I’m hope your doing well in yourself and keep your head up
condoleses man
Life's funny that way eh. Sry man..
You will see him again in Valhalla
Sorry for your lost..
A beautiful song about life and the wrong priorities most people have. The most unforgiving thing in life is lime, because once it's gone you can never get it back.
Ive lost my hero when i was 13. now im 32, i still miss you dad more then ever...
I love this song. And my Dad.
My dad passed away in 2020 from a stroke, my mother has passed away from cancer in 2021, they both worked their lives away. I can never say how much I appreciate and learned from them
sorry for your loss, Tommy
@Dan Lowton I appreciate it. I've learned that in life for every loss we gain something from it ultimately, usually lessons that we carry with us through our lives.
@@akeel_1701 thank you. Through loses in life we gin lessons that will help us in life.
Music during this era just had something magical. It made you feel a certain way, can't explain it. There will never be another time like the 90s.
Matt M true
I totally agree, maybe that's why the 90's just feel like 10yrs ago lol
World seemed okay in the 90s : Warsaw Pact had disappeared and Central Europe seemed to have a lot of chances...and we were young and always at techno-parties and in love.
Now there are more problems than chances...
it is a 1974 folk rock song written and sung by Harry Chapin
@@dagonming1319 But this cover came out in the 90s, that's what they meant
I can certainly appreciate this song more now in my 40s than in my teens. I was 11 years old when my Mum left my Dad and from then until I left home my Dad busted his ass to keep a roof over our heads. That's why I always tried to see him as often as I could as an adult. He passed away a few years ago but I'll always be grateful for everything that he did for me.
I don't know what brought me back to this song. I knew it was a cover of course, I was in high school. I'm a 45 year old woman today and I am my father in every way, shape and form today. I'm not a parent, but love you Dad.
There were planes to catch,and bills to pay..there is more to life than jobs or FREAKING money..i love you dad always.
If you don't have jobs, you don't have money. If you don't have money you cannot PROVIDE for your children.
My dad disowned me when I came out! 💔
I will NEVER disown my son, no matter who he turns into or who he loves! ❤️
He shouldn't have disowned you, but you shouldn't give into evil lust.
The Fury Commander excuse you??
The Fury Commander oof
@@wardjunior1450 How is that an oof?
@@iiamromika Yes?
Back as a kid, I just loved the melody on this song and used to hear it again and again. Now 25 years later and with 2 kids, when I truly 'listened' to this one again, I just cant stop wondering with teary eyes about what I'd want my kids to grow up to. Thank you Harry Chapin for this masterpiece and Ugly Kid Joe for the amazing rock cover!!!
As a father, honestly i don't want my boys to grow up to be like me, bitter, angry and resentful. I want them to be happy 😢
It’s never too late to change. You can do it
Even after nearly 30 years,this is still the best cover of all time
Sure
30 now since 1993
my dad use to play this song for me growing up and now that hes gone i keep it close to my heart this is great song R.I.P dad i love and miss you
One of the rare remakes that's just as good, if not better, than the original. This song still rocks in 2024 :)
Is better than original to me, l have no doubt, this cover is beautiful 👏
My first daughter will come to this world next month and I just discover this song today, nearly cry in the office.
Enjoy!
Congratulations! I've got twin girls coming in September. Same feels
Congrats.. May u blessed w/ beautiful body n soul baby girl ever..
God bless you , Brother .
I kinda do everytime I hear this now , my Dad was 47 when he died , so yeah I feel this
The song "Cats in the Cradle" strikes a chord with me as I see myself repeating the same mistakes as my father did. My dad lost his life when I was just 12 due to his job, and I wished things would have been different. I have been fortunate enough not to have gone through what my dad did, but I have repeated his mistake of not being present in my kids' lives.
As a parent, I now understand the importance of balancing work and family time. However, due to the divorce and the distance between us, I have not been able to see my sons as much as I would have liked to. Time flies so quickly, and I always thought that I would soon have the time to be with them more often, but it has not happened.
Life has come full circle now as I see my sons doing what my dad did and what I did. They are busy with their lives, just like I was. But now, I am regretting not having spent more time with them, just like my dad regretted it in his final moments.
Now that my sons are adults, I am always thinking about the mistake I made for not being there for them enough. I understand the impact that my absence has had on their lives, and I am making a conscious effort to be present in their lives now through social media platforms. Although I cannot turn back time, I hope to make up for the lost time and create new memories that we can all cherish.
My experience is a reminder to all of us to prioritize spending quality time with our families, despite the challenges that life throws at us. Please don't let work or other distractions get in the way of creating lasting memories with your loved ones..
so true
But Reinaldo. Your boys turned out like you. They saw u provide for them and work hard...which is ok
That's what I take from this song too
The dad was busy providing for the son and family
The boy turned out doing the same thing
I understand what you mean. It hurts not being able to be with them , I have one son and his mom took him away from me when he was young. Now he is 19 years old and he treats me like a stranger because he tells me that he doesn't know who I am and it's too late too act like I am his dad .
I'm reading this as I'm nursing my 15mo son. His dad is a busy surgeon with very little time for the family. I have tried reasoning with him, cautioning him but I don't think he gets it. I sincerely hope he will not have regrets when his son is all grown up. I don't intend to bad mouth him but my son will see what he sees.
This song makes me cry everytime.
Right there with ya. I'm sorry.
Ditto
You should listen to the original writer and singer of this song Harry Chapin
Me too
I WAS THERE 13 OR 14 IT MADE ME CRY WAY BACK THEN.
THAT WAS MY DOOR WAY INTO ROCK.
I loved this song. My Daddy was a Truck Driver and was always gone on the road. He was a strong, proud, and loving man, making a living for his family. I miss him terribly 😔. This song is even more emotional than the original. Very well done.
My dad left when I was five, I see my son in this song! We still get together but as time goes by those times become fewer and farther apart! 😞
I played this at my dads funeral. Always reminded me of him
A good son he had ❤
This song always reminded me of my dad. He passed 2 years ago now it makes me cry remembering him. If you have your dad alive still, make sure you go see him because he will be gone before you know it while you’re living life.
Sorry for your loss ❤
100 percent correct
So true bro.
My dad just passed away and his last words were "sure was nice talking to you". This song was always our relationship, do busy to teach me how to catch, to busy to hang out and I was the same 'Just like you dad'. Went to college and came back, did not want to hang out. Now that I am older, enjoy the moments with parents, if only for a bit.
🥰🤗