@@stratonchallenga1185 no one is insecure like you....you have to have confidence that she will not leave you.....if she leaves...what love is that....she will and have to come back because of your behavior ...it's simple phycology...so stop being insecure little pony tail
Truest information ever given! After a year and half My girl has started ghosting me and acting differently, I’m just gonna sit back and let her handle it the way she wants to, I’ve been thinking and worrying about it all the time but now I’m not even fussed, I’ll let her handle it, if she wants me she will show me, if not...... fuck her 😄 I know my worth!! Be strong guys!!!
Things are great, things have actually settled and it’s generally much better. I have her too much effort and time, once I took a little bit of that away it seemed to get her thinking. I still have to admit deep inside my mind she is my priority, but on my exterior I don’t let her believe that. Know your worth, that’s all I say to you. You have to think in the way that she is very lucky to have you. Not vice versa
My girlfriend just left me.. everything you are saying fits perfectly into my life lol. Before her I was doing what ever i wanted to do. and had an easy time with girls, and her in the start. But now I have given her a lot of attention, and she pulled away
I was having bad anxiety about her being distant, this really helped me to be calm. I love her, but if she leaves it’s okay. At least I won’t have anxiety about it anymore 😂
my anxiety just cost me a woman. She flaked on me -so I deleted her number, so iI couldn't call her - make her come to me. But ... last night I found her email and sent her a message. She called me this morning to call me weird :) That was pure desire/loneliness/anxiety on my part.
I freaking love this guy my girlfriend has been pulling away and I made the mistake of trying to talk her out of it right before watching this guy today but now I listened and she's texting me a bunch now thanks so much and imma continue to do my own thing
@@modi5271 lol nothing I just stopped giving her all of my attention until she realized that she was taking my attention for granted then she came back to me but this is in the past me and her are better than ever now and I'm so in love with her so it's good
@@sajegainer6674 I need some advice my gf and i are celebrating our anniversary together however she was suppose to call tonight but she didn't and sometimes when I make dates something always comes up on her end which cause her to cancel so should I cut contact or confront her
@@modi5271 I think you shoud cut contact UNTIL.... She texts first. When she texts you . You should obviously text back but you need to play it cool and act like nothing's wrong you should always try to make her the who texts you first. Make her want and desire you . People want what they can't have so if you stop giving her everything than they'll come to you.... Now this could work or msyne she was just very busy so before you cut contact with her stick it out a couple more days and she how she acts
When she wants to come back it will be too late. Im not accepting mood swings going from love me to death then suddently doesnt love me no more? Get lost
Correction- if you do the same thing over and over again AND YOU THINK YOU'LL GET DIFFERENT RESULTS, that my friend is the definition of insanity. Good video bro, your information is priceless! keep up the good work! You really help guys in need! you make the world a better place!
This guy is on the money ;) Guys...stay centred...make yourself a priority, when you do...watch how the world changes around you..Your energy will attract the right woman for you...
Your videos have literally changed my life in terms of giving me a stronger mindset and a don't give a shit attitude lol. Your tactics truly work!! Best part is that separates you from the rest is Your straight to the point. Love it. Thank you 🙏
Super duper.. U always helped me. Our relationship is in 7th year. Now for some days I can feel that she is losing interst. Now as a coach I m gonna follow ur adice. Previous I followed ur no contact rule it also worked like magic. One free advice for everyone don't ever want ur ex who cheated or leaves u... Next u won't be happy my personal experience.
U proved again.. Genuine data and knowledge is still underrated in this weird world... ❤ I do feel super lucky to find this channel out... You deserve 16 million subs bruh.
I agree however there should be a caveat, if they pull away and leave you to go and hook up with other dudes you should never consider her for a serious relationship...like a switch should just go off in your head.
Guys it works. She reached out and is more attracted then before. Honestly just live and love your life. If you’re only happy with her that’s bad. You should be happy enough with yourself. Once they see that they always reach out and put forth more effort to prove their worth. Never let them “prove it” because once they do they would think “mission accomplished”. never get satisfied fellas.
Also, last weekend I went to a party and she asked me to text her in the morning. I didnt do that and she called a couple times. I didnt reply until later. She said she was "worried" I'm talking to other girls lol. But later that night on Sunday she said she was sorry for being "needy" so sometimes she pulls away bc she feels like she's being too needy and doesn't wanna push YOU away. 🤷🏾♂️
This really works. Me & soon to be fiancé have been kinda go thru a rough patch. We haven’t been fighting but she has been distant. She’s was making more excuses than normal & the response times would be hours. I would constantly blow up her phone worried. But once I stopped & started replying to her late she got more attracted to me. She wanted to know what’s going on with me & why I’m pushing away.
Same thing here bro. What IS it with women!!? You give them all the attention and they run for the hills . You back the hell off and then they text YOU.
If my gf pulls away then during the NC rule I may completely forget her and start dating a new girl. I have lot of important stuffs to do in my life. I cant just focus on a single girl.
Also think about it like this: If you text and call constantly.. what are you going to talk about? If you go around finding something to do, it's better. Then you have something to tell her next time. She pulls away? do nothing. the answer is do nothing.
If she pulls back, and you mirror that by not texting her or any contact ...some women just think you're being mean and vengeful. And you're showing you're pissed off at them. However I agree, there's really not much choice, you should mirror their pulling back, and let them choose to come back on their own.
One thing to keep in mind though is that many “less than average” women will pursue you even if you don’t return their texts or advances . They have less options and persistence is their only card. Try “forgetting to return a text” to a hot chick” , she’ll be gone. So it’s a balance, just be respectful, independent, grounded and confident
This is not a male female issue, it's an attachment issue - anxious, avoidant or secure. It's worth looking into before making assumptions about either sex.
6:45 What to do after this part ... When she starts to call you several times and stars masging about it was not her fault rather my faults and must not leave her. What to do Start texting back the normal way???
I just had a skype with Chris, and asked him these questions. When she does call or text, wait. Remember to match and mirror her behavior. When you do respond, keep it short and light; dont explain anything, dont apologize, dont offer to come to her. Convey the impression you are busy and your time is valuable. The natural thing to feel is that you need to placate her and come to her; thats a mistake. You want her to earn your respect and time now, if you give in and work for her, she will lose respect for you again, I guarantee it. She's expecting you to react a particular way and if you dont give her that, its going to cause her anxiety (if she still is attracted to you) and she will begin chasing you out of fear of losing you. Remember its important to remain mysterious and scarce. I've done the opposite of what I just stated so many times in the past and its always yielded the same results; the woman leaves or becomes distant and bitchy. Keep us updated on what happens.
In Cuba we have a saying that says “any girl that pulls away is because she found someone else” I guess is all about balance. Depends how much they are pulling away too.
Used to be needy and texted my ex girl a lot.. now I'm trying to appoint a date with a new one.. she texts me once a day and it is really hard to be patient and wait a few hours to answer her.. but I keep strong and during 7 days we exchanged only a couple of messages 😀 hope I am doing it the right way
I agree that we should never chase another human being, desperately wanting them back. However, I would like to stress out that it is important not to do it for your relationship's sake, but for your own - Transcending Neediness (Eckhart Tolle). Realize that you really don't need them.
My girlfriend broke up with me because she feels stuck and she needs time to find herself; she needs to take care of herself. However, she told me that she wants to come back better for me and for her so I don't waste my time being sad about her. She is sure that she will come back to me but she does not know when. She also told me that I won't be alone and that If I need her, I should not hesitate to text her. She is hurting and she blames everything for hurting me, for breaking up with me. She says she is not in the right state of mind right now and that is the reason why she broke up with me because she has to find herself. What she wants me to do is to grant it which I am doing now. I am giving her space. However, should I hope that she will come back? When should I also text her again because she told me that I can still talk to her. We were friends before being in a relationship. Idk when to approach her without invading her space, without making her feel distrub and at the same time idk what to tell her if I do it so. We broke up and I know it must be hard for her to break up with me because she promised me that she won't. But right now, she needs time. She is stuck and needs to find herself. What should I do and when should I start communicating with her again; text her and start a new chapter without even touching our past, without reminiscing past events that cause us emotional breakdown? I still want her tho, I know she still wants me but she is hurting right now. I also don't want to lose our communication and I know she feels the same too. Any advice? Thank you! BTW I was needy back days that I was not able to see her, although the reason why was that I saw that she was already in pain before breaking up with me Like I wanted to stay with her as a support that I am just right there. but maybe, I ruined her boundaries... PS. we are in a long distance. She moved to the US to finish her studies this May. When she moved, that's where conflicts starts. Adjustments. Update: In five days no contact now. (8 days since we broke up, on our anniversary) It feels great. I am not in rush nor being crazy about her not coming back. I love her and I have to give her all the freedom that she wants as I work on myself too. For now, I have to trust the process and I have to trust her. If she is ready to talk, I'm all ears. By then, I'll decide when it comes. She's gotta have to work a little bit on me since I entrusted her in the first place of my heart. I gave her the key. But at the same time, I won't let her feel that she is trying so hard, I want her to understand that she has to earn it again. For now, It feels great that I am picking up the pieces of me where I left it off. On a streak now and I am happy for myself. I got to be healthy again emotionally, spiritually, and physically. At the end of the day, everything will take its own place as life goes by.
I was doing things right in the beginning without even knowing but I got sloppy in the end. We started as friends and moveds to Fwbs and then I guess I rushed into a relationship. Currently on day 9 of no contact. I would like to work things out with her if she is still interested but if she doesn't want it, I wont even trip. I'll just continue doing my thing.
@@jeffersonribeiro1669 I didnt really follow NC like many youtubers recommended. I did what I felt was right and I got her back and its better then it has ever been. Its been almost a month and things are all positive. In my opinion, there are many variables that will determine weather NC will work or not. Its like finding a workout routine/diet that will work for you. What works for someone, will not always work for you. I do recommend NC, but you have to use good judgment to determine for how long. Youre obviously not gonna have the best judgement after a break up with someone you have strong feelimgs for, so at the very least, I recommend one week minimum. That way you have time to pull yourself together.
@@richbum3725 facts and that's how I got my ex back. 1 week is enough time to give that person space especially if you have been needy and clingy... . Never over pursue a woman I done this about 19 times with my current girlfriend but I'm bettering myself and trying to make our relationship stronger
We men are logical... Never try to apply logic to the where's and what's for what reason in a woman's mind. To be on a mission, drive, a focus on a plan of some sort... Basically be a man. Women are attracted to men. When they leave dont chase, kiss em good bye
My girlfriend just left me last Tuesday because I was blowing up her phone and not giving her space and now I know to give the space that she needs and I will let her miss me and chase after me.
In Dubai expo 2020 event,I met a Morocco lady who took all my heart ❤️,I approached her and got a no. The problem I did is I confessed my feelings too early and acted needy in the beginning,she lost interest and pulled away.
Chris .. one important question here .. how do you know , IF YOU NEVER CHECK HER AND WHERE SHE IS , if she dates and meets other men and if she is a cheater in her nature ?
Chris!!! Why haven't I see you vids a month ago? Man, I am beating myself now. For the past 3 years, I was the man. Being chased by my girlfriend. In a blink of an eye, the table has turned; lol! And crazy me, I went into a panic mode. But not as crazy as some others. I started the no contact then saw one video who said, it is possible to call your girl under certain circumstances. BIG MISTAKE of me. I did contact her and seem like we are on the same page. She let me know what the problem is. My lack of commitment. Then she was the light!!! She won't return text or say she will call back. I believe she might have seen some of this videos. Possible. But now, I am going to give space. Space she wants, she will have just like I have done in the past. Give them the space.
I keep texts for setting up dates now. Texting will never create attraction. Texting can however put her off in so many ways though! We only like texting because we want reassurance. Just set up the date and keep busy in the meantime 😊👍
“If u start making her a priority and showing her how important she is, she’s going to lose interest in u” lmaooo sad world we live in
That's exactly what I did with my ex and yep, she dumped me.
It is about space and letting them wonder about you. It is annoying when you know everything of the person all the time
its not about whats right, its about what works....I blame hollywood
dude Their nature is strange
Sad but True! my dad always used to say he didn't understand Women, man! he wasn't F***ing kidding!!
Let her go, don’t chase, she will come chasing instead. That’s the greatest strategy. I take it fro you dude. Thanks
Try and another guy takes over🤣🤣
Next day see with other guy:)))
Girl if rejects you let her go,don expect anything in return.She wont come back if she does not love you.
@@stratonchallenga1185 no one is insecure like you....you have to have confidence that she will not leave you.....if she leaves...what love is that....she will and have to come back because of your behavior ...it's simple phycology...so stop being insecure little pony tail
@@Botaola111 yeah when a girl has an insecure girlfriend like you ...sure why not?
Truest information ever given! After a year and half My girl has started ghosting me and acting differently, I’m just gonna sit back and let her handle it the way she wants to, I’ve been thinking and worrying about it all the time but now I’m not even fussed, I’ll let her handle it, if she wants me she will show me, if not...... fuck her 😄 I know my worth!! Be strong guys!!!
Thank you!
How's it going bruh
so what happened did it work?
Things are great, things have actually settled and it’s generally much better. I have her too much effort and time, once I took a little bit of that away it seemed to get her thinking. I still have to admit deep inside my mind she is my priority, but on my exterior I don’t let her believe that. Know your worth, that’s all I say to you. You have to think in the way that she is very lucky to have you. Not vice versa
@@BruceLee-dg5bv good for you, wasn’t even expecting a reply tbh lmao good shit bro
This guy is the prime example of confidence as a dude. Be confident in yourselves. Solid advice. Thank you.
My girlfriend just left me.. everything you are saying fits perfectly into my life lol. Before her I was doing what ever i wanted to do. and had an easy time with girls, and her in the start. But now I have given her a lot of attention, and she pulled away
really like me, fk girl
Yep. Same.
VictorTalks same bro. You were fine before her, you'll be fine without her.
@@zookablade4349 its just that we need to accept that they are the way they are...... so act accordingly . they dont even know what they want .
Exact same thing here...🤔🤔🤔time go get my s#it together😎
I was having bad anxiety about her being distant, this really helped me to be calm. I love her, but if she leaves it’s okay. At least I won’t have anxiety about it anymore 😂
my anxiety just cost me a woman. She flaked on me -so I deleted her number, so iI couldn't call her - make her come to me. But ... last night I found her email and sent her a message. She called me this morning to call me weird :) That was pure desire/loneliness/anxiety on my part.
Golden! why doesnt this guy have 5million subscribers i dont know
He’s hands down the best!
Ikr
Agreed!
yes why 🤔🤔🤔🤔
Because most people aren’t smart enough to look into this shit
I freaking love this guy my girlfriend has been pulling away and I made the mistake of trying to talk her out of it right before watching this guy today but now I listened and she's texting me a bunch now thanks so much and imma continue to do my own thing
What did u do
@@modi5271 lol nothing I just stopped giving her all of my attention until she realized that she was taking my attention for granted then she came back to me but this is in the past me and her are better than ever now and I'm so in love with her so it's good
@@sajegainer6674 I need some advice my gf and i are celebrating our anniversary together however she was suppose to call tonight but she didn't and sometimes when I make dates something always comes up on her end which cause her to cancel so should I cut contact or confront her
@@modi5271 I think you shoud cut contact UNTIL.... She texts first. When she texts you . You should obviously text back but you need to play it cool and act like nothing's wrong you should always try to make her the who texts you first. Make her want and desire you . People want what they can't have so if you stop giving her everything than they'll come to you.... Now this could work or msyne she was just very busy so before you cut contact with her stick it out a couple more days and she how she acts
@@sajegainer6674 thanks I hope to god this works
When she wants to come back it will be too late. Im not accepting mood swings going from love me to death then suddently doesnt love me no more?
Get lost
You must deal with it cuz its normal
Be a warrior and a prince, act like you are the prize.
We are the prize...
Love is not about a mood or emotion. Love is about the decision to love someone. Emotions often accompany love, but it is not always the case.
Then you will never be in a relationship with any woman. That’s how they are.
Alpha power
Correction- if you do the same thing over and over again AND YOU THINK YOU'LL GET DIFFERENT RESULTS, that my friend is the definition of insanity. Good video bro, your information is priceless! keep up the good work! You really help guys in need! you make the world a better place!
Don’t be _that_ guy; I think everyone knew what Chris was saying.
Making a girl a priority will make them lose interest. Crazy. Making them feel special and a priority is a bad thing. Truly a crazy world.
A straight woman isn’t attracted to a dude with feminine qualities.... its nature... not very mind blowing
Spoolin & Boolin this is true. Thank god for youtube amirite
We have been brainwashed our whole lives
That's their job not yours
@@michaeljackson7361 well yeah majority of us raised by a woman
This guy is on the money ;)
Guys...stay centred...make yourself a priority, when you do...watch how the world changes around you..Your energy will attract the right woman for you...
The Irish Romeo sorry there’s no right one ok
This channel is so under rated!!
I swear bro
Ong
All women react same way,that's right
Only text to set dates otherwise keep it brief 1-2 texts then stop responding take a while to respond as well
Thaynk you mr. Chris... This video helped me overcome depression!
I'm stress bro,my gf😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 the same
@@Studyismypride hope that pain has passed brother!!!
I must get this Brother on my radio show as my Special Guest.
Great Wisdom and Insights coming from this Brother - Great Great Video!
I used this technique and i can definitely say it really works. This video will clear up your acne!
Thank you. This guy is is a legend.
Your videos have literally changed my life in terms of giving me a stronger mindset and a don't give a shit attitude lol. Your tactics truly work!! Best part is that separates you from the rest is Your straight to the point. Love it. Thank you 🙏
Super duper.. U always helped me. Our relationship is in 7th year. Now for some days I can feel that she is losing interst. Now as a coach I m gonna follow ur adice. Previous I followed ur no contact rule it also worked like magic. One free advice for everyone don't ever want ur ex who cheated or leaves u... Next u won't be happy my personal experience.
saved me
Erkal saaaame
I wish I had seen before I fucked up my relationship.
@@vishnuprasadreddyeng don't worry, you'll get a better one
Spot on. Great advice
Really, this girl made me to the point where I need to see this kind of videos. Seriously!
By the way thanks for the motivation ❤
No girl in this world is logical.
Girls feed on guys emotions
Fuck bro related so much
U proved again.. Genuine data and knowledge is still underrated in this weird world... ❤
I do feel super lucky to find this channel out... You deserve 16 million subs bruh.
love your videos, every man can benefit from this info
I agree however there should be a caveat, if they pull away and leave you to go and hook up with other dudes you should never consider her for a serious relationship...like a switch should just go off in your head.
Yup dump her
Yup. Love this.
From my experience this guy is right.
human relationships are one unique and complicated thing...
Just bought your book, so far im really liking the info and the way it flows from one topic to the next. Keep up the great work!
😭😭My brother, it's my first time watching your vids and hey you deserve a crown
Guys it works. She reached out and is more attracted then before. Honestly just live and love your life. If you’re only happy with her that’s bad. You should be happy enough with yourself. Once they see that they always reach out and put forth more effort to prove their worth. Never let them “prove it” because once they do they would think “mission accomplished”. never get satisfied fellas.
You speak the truth, brother. Especially the part where you say if you’re only happy with her that’s bad. I need that imprinted in my mind.
You are by far the best dating coach on TH-cam. You always give me mental strength 💪
As soon as you make someone a priority, they’ll make you an option. Fact!
this is me. great topic. thanks, Chris!
good shit dude ur right on the spot.....im goin to subscribe
This man deserves millions subscribers 👌👌
Also, last weekend I went to a party and she asked me to text her in the morning. I didnt do that and she called a couple times. I didnt reply until later. She said she was "worried" I'm talking to other girls lol. But later that night on Sunday she said she was sorry for being "needy" so sometimes she pulls away bc she feels like she's being too needy and doesn't wanna push YOU away. 🤷🏾♂️
Chris Canwell is a legend!
*Cantwell
You spit solid stuff, other youtubers are... Almost useless when it comes to "this" stage
0:25 check his eyes.
He's a reptilian, mate.
WhaAaaa lol
wt actual f
Glad someone noticed
Wtf
Great video the best thing you should do in a relationship with a woman time is the key
This really works. Me & soon to be fiancé have been kinda go thru a rough patch. We haven’t been fighting but she has been distant. She’s was making more excuses than normal & the response times would be hours. I would constantly blow up her phone worried. But once I stopped & started replying to her late she got more attracted to me. She wanted to know what’s going on with me & why I’m pushing away.
Same thing here bro. What IS it with women!!?
You give them all the attention and they run for the hills .
You back the hell off and then they text YOU.
Hallelujah brother, God bless this man
If my gf pulls away then during the NC rule I may completely forget her and start dating a new girl. I have lot of important stuffs to do in my life. I cant just focus on a single girl.
Wow, I've just seen the first 2 mins of the video and already got what was wrong with me.. thanks Chris! That was so helpful!!
Why are you underrated bruh! I have read your book.
Top of the top advice!! Your advice keeps me having courage. Thank you.
Chris you deserve a million subscribers
0:25
Chris shows us how he knows so much
😁😁😁
What the fuck!!!!! Holy shit man that’s freaky
Also think about it like this: If you text and call constantly.. what are you going to talk about? If you go around finding something to do, it's better. Then you have something to tell her next time. She pulls away? do nothing. the answer is do nothing.
Why havent i met this channel sooner omg.
If she pulls back, and you mirror that by not texting her or any contact ...some women just think you're being mean and vengeful. And you're showing you're pissed off at them. However I agree, there's really not much choice, you should mirror their pulling back, and let them choose to come back on their own.
An insecure woman will think you're being mean. A secure woman will not.
@@NewLeaf88 And i totally agree with you without a shadow of a doubt in my bone !!
One thing to keep in mind though is that many “less than average” women will pursue you even if you don’t return their texts or advances . They have less options and persistence is their only card. Try “forgetting to return a text” to a hot chick” , she’ll be gone. So it’s a balance, just be respectful, independent, grounded and confident
Spot on
Why would you consciously ignore someone's message?
And if you genuinely forgot, everyone would feel weird be it men or women
Women leave us men on “read” ALL the time , before bothering to answer back , If at all. It’s all mindgames
Demon eyes at 00:26!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭☠
So I'm not the only one noticing thank goodness!
But something weird happend to his eyes at 26 second...spooky
Immediately went to the comments to see if anyone else saw the reptilian shapeshifting eyes
Was not disappointed
Lucifer here giving us advises, listen to him!!!
only if you were my older brother, that would have saved me lot of time with relationships.
I watch this video everyday... Before Breakfast, lunch and dinner...
This is not a male female issue, it's an attachment issue - anxious, avoidant or secure. It's worth looking into before making assumptions about either sex.
Message him now if you want him to help you🙏🙏
This person help my thinking grew up and become more mature and thanks man I really appreciate you
We shall all thank this man for proposing us with the red pill 🤣🤷🏽♂️🇿🇦 trust me i wish i learnt this 5yrs ago
This is for me truely speaking.Thank you soo much sir.
Hats off to you, I read your book, its amazing.
Where did you get it? You buy or download?
This guy is the real deal !
Doing the same thing and getting same result isnt insanity, its expecting something different to happen.
At first I didn't believe this but it actually works!!! Thanks dude
6:45
What to do after this part ... When she starts to call you several times and stars masging about it was not her fault rather my faults and must not leave her.
What to do
Start texting back the normal way???
I just had a skype with Chris, and asked him these questions. When she does call or text, wait. Remember to match and mirror her behavior. When you do respond, keep it short and light; dont explain anything, dont apologize, dont offer to come to her. Convey the impression you are busy and your time is valuable. The natural thing to feel is that you need to placate her and come to her; thats a mistake. You want her to earn your respect and time now, if you give in and work for her, she will lose respect for you again, I guarantee it.
She's expecting you to react a particular way and if you dont give her that, its going to cause her anxiety (if she still is attracted to you) and she will begin chasing you out of fear of losing you. Remember its important to remain mysterious and scarce.
I've done the opposite of what I just stated so many times in the past and its always yielded the same results; the woman leaves or becomes distant and bitchy. Keep us updated on what happens.
,this man got all the facts i was looking for ,thanks a lot
This guy is a master . calms me right down
In Cuba we have a saying that says “any girl that pulls away is because she found someone else” I guess is all about balance. Depends how much they are pulling away too.
Woah now that's an advice! Thank you for this Chris! You gain me more knowledge in taking up relationship. And btw, you deserve more subscribers!
Used to be needy and texted my ex girl a lot.. now I'm trying to appoint a date with a new one.. she texts me once a day and it is really hard to be patient and wait a few hours to answer her.. but I keep strong and during 7 days we exchanged only a couple of messages 😀 hope I am doing it the right way
I agree that we should never chase another human being, desperately wanting them back. However, I would like to stress out that it is important not to do it for your relationship's sake, but for your own - Transcending Neediness (Eckhart Tolle). Realize that you really don't need them.
u are the best
My girlfriend broke up with me because she feels stuck and she needs time to find herself; she needs to take care of herself. However, she told me that she wants to come back better for me and for her so I don't waste my time being sad about her. She is sure that she will come back to me but she does not know when. She also told me that I won't be alone and that If I need her, I should not hesitate to text her. She is hurting and she blames everything for hurting me, for breaking up with me. She says she is not in the right state of mind right now and that is the reason why she broke up with me because she has to find herself. What she wants me to do is to grant it which I am doing now. I am giving her space. However, should I hope that she will come back?
When should I also text her again because she told me that I can still talk to her. We were friends before being in a relationship.
Idk when to approach her without invading her space, without making her feel distrub and at the same time idk what to tell her if I do it so. We broke up and I know it must be hard for her to break up with me because she promised me that she won't. But right now, she needs time. She is stuck and needs to find herself.
What should I do and when should I start communicating with her again; text her and start a new chapter without even touching our past, without reminiscing past events that cause us emotional breakdown? I still want her tho, I know she still wants me but she is hurting right now. I also don't want to lose our communication and I know she feels the same too. Any advice? Thank you!
BTW I was needy back days that I was not able to see her, although the reason why was that I saw that she was already in pain before breaking up with me Like I wanted to stay with her as a support that I am just right there. but maybe, I ruined her boundaries...
PS. we are in a long distance. She moved to the US to finish her studies this May. When she moved, that's where conflicts starts. Adjustments.
Update: In five days no contact now. (8 days since we broke up, on our anniversary) It feels great. I am not in rush nor being crazy about her not coming back. I love her and I have to give her all the freedom that she wants as I work on myself too. For now, I have to trust the process and I have to trust her. If she is ready to talk, I'm all ears. By then, I'll decide when it comes. She's gotta have to work a little bit on me since I entrusted her in the first place of my heart. I gave her the key. But at the same time, I won't let her feel that she is trying so hard, I want her to understand that she has to earn it again. For now, It feels great that I am picking up the pieces of me where I left it off. On a streak now and I am happy for myself. I got to be healthy again emotionally, spiritually, and physically. At the end of the day, everything will take its own place as life goes by.
I was doing things right in the beginning without even knowing but I got sloppy in the end. We started as friends and moveds to Fwbs and then I guess I rushed into a relationship. Currently on day 9 of no contact. I would like to work things out with her if she is still interested but if she doesn't want it, I wont even trip. I'll just continue doing my thing.
Update?
@@jeffersonribeiro1669 I didnt really follow NC like many youtubers recommended. I did what I felt was right and I got her back and its better then it has ever been. Its been almost a month and things are all positive. In my opinion, there are many variables that will determine weather NC will work or not. Its like finding a workout routine/diet that will work for you. What works for someone, will not always work for you.
I do recommend NC, but you have to use good judgment to determine for how long. Youre obviously not gonna have the best judgement after a break up with someone you have strong feelimgs for, so at the very least, I recommend one week minimum. That way you have time to pull yourself together.
@@richbum3725 facts and that's how I got my ex back. 1 week is enough time to give that person space especially if you have been needy and clingy... . Never over pursue a woman I done this about 19 times with my current girlfriend but I'm bettering myself and trying to make our relationship stronger
U still alive buddy ?
We men are logical... Never try to apply logic to the where's and what's for what reason in a woman's mind. To be on a mission, drive, a focus on a plan of some sort... Basically be a man. Women are attracted to men. When they leave dont chase, kiss em good bye
My girlfriend just left me last Tuesday because I was blowing up her phone and not giving her space and now I know to give the space that she needs and I will let her miss me and chase after me.
uncoded sora no she is not it’s been 3 mouths since we have been broken up
Fk
In Dubai expo 2020 event,I met a Morocco lady who took all my heart ❤️,I approached her and got a no. The problem I did is I confessed my feelings too early and acted needy in the beginning,she lost interest and pulled away.
Ive been in this situation right now... now i clearly understand why..
@@TupacAintNoBitxh pull away nc is the thing
Priceless timeless wisdom.
Amazing and to the point! Loved it Sir! Thank you so much!
Hey Chris !! I wanna become a Dating coach.. Can u guide me ?! Would love to learn from u, if u r teaching :)
Sir i really really really want to say thanks a bunch you changed my life😍😍😍
Chris .. one important question here .. how do you know , IF YOU NEVER CHECK HER AND WHERE SHE IS , if she dates and meets other men and if she is a cheater in her nature ?
I love your vids- fantastic stuff!
Wow your advice has helped me a lot....
You’ve opened my eyes
Super cool and helpful information keep on the good work 👌
Nice strategy brother. Thanks abunch
I love your advice man. ..thanks for such an eye opener
Chris!!! Why haven't I see you vids a month ago? Man, I am beating myself now. For the past 3 years, I was the man. Being chased by my girlfriend. In a blink of an eye, the table has turned; lol! And crazy me, I went into a panic mode. But not as crazy as some others. I started the no contact then saw one video who said, it is possible to call your girl under certain circumstances. BIG MISTAKE of me. I did contact her and seem like we are on the same page. She let me know what the problem is. My lack of commitment. Then she was the light!!! She won't return text or say she will call back. I believe she might have seen some of this videos. Possible. But now, I am going to give space. Space she wants, she will have just like I have done in the past. Give them the space.
Great video! I love it and thank you the advice
Too much availability is not good. I’ve learned from this!!
Awesome stuff again Chris 👌
I keep texts for setting up dates now.
Texting will never create attraction.
Texting can however put her off in so many ways though!
We only like texting because we want reassurance. Just set up the date and keep busy in the meantime 😊👍
Well thing is I'm in a long distance relationship so idk how these tips can apply
Me too, sadly
Great counsel
Thanks
This is a great video!!
I needed it 🔥🔥🔥🔺Thank u soo much
5:42 thats a word of wisdom. Nice! Wish that every man knows the essence of those words
Did you just quote Vaas from Far Cry 3?
Aro Nova “HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO KILL YOU?!”
Aro Nova “HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO KILL YOU?!”