Love what you do! thank you for providing this explanation. Currently studying a postgraduate certificate in ABA and your videos are helping me enormously to understand ABA concepts. THANK YOU!!
this whole store thing really goes for any child under the age of 14 if they are not shopping for themselves they will most likely not want to go shopping and some kids are braver than others when they express just how much they do not want to go shopping. I feel like adults forget that no matter what children are just adults just younger thy feel all the feelings we feel when we don't want to do things that especially do not benefit anyone but themselves. parents need to be consistent from the very beginning parents need to realize that when they have children they need to pay attention to their children and what they are feeling. lets respect our children and their needs as much as we would want anyone else to do for ourselves. This is exactly what else we could be doing have patience with our kids as much as we would want them to have patience with us.
My personality is naturally very lax, so it makes parenting a challenge because my son is very hyperactive. Long story short- he ended up learning manners (i.e. 'please,' 'thank you,' etc.) as a result of my attempt in dealing with him because when he would bombard me with his intense cries or excited energy of wanting something out of nowhere, I would be overwhelmed as if a viscous bee kept buzzing or flying around me and would not leave me alone. It's hard to describe, but he truly overloads my sensory centers causing my brain to kind of shut down for a second in order to re-group, I suppose. During this time of mental re-grouping, I slowly tell him, "What do you say when you want something?" At this point, these types of situations have happened so many times that he automatically calms himself, saying "please" very quickly. And there are times where he will just say 'please' first instead of resorting to any type of temper tantrum. I suppose it can be interpreted as a good thing because he's interpreting my demeanor during that entire debacle as calm and uninfluenced by his behavior. We are still working on "use your words" when I can feel a manic episode approaching. But just like these ladies said, it is difficult to be successful with this when you have other care-takers (i.e. your parents) reinforcing or giving in to the explosive behaviors due to their fear of public judgement/opinions. It doesn't have to be the parents or daycare teachers that accidentally reinforce the inappropriate behavior, either. There are women down here where I live that will actually approach you and your child in an attempt in calming them down when they see that you are not doing so. Of course, he finds their attention stimulating. It got to a point in the past where he would do all of these odd behaviors (i.e. laying on the floor) when out in public instead of just crying; this felt to me like he was just trying to put on a show for their attention. I just tell him "okay, bye" and start walking off. He jumps right up. I use that technique when he will not listen to me to leave a place as well. Sometimes, I do give him the body language that reflects the message of "I don't have time for this temper tantrum," combined with telling him, "I cannot understand you; use your words" once or twice. While these techniques can come across as harsh to the educated, general public (I've even had a teenager come up to my face with her phone, and record me doing them), they seem to be very effective at discontinuing his inappropriate behaviors.
+John Collins Just remember the power of praise, when he does something right - like say please or slow his words down while staying calm make sure to praise him and give him a meaningful reward!
I just watched this video because i'm taking the DSW course online, and I was finding the concept difficult to totally grasp. It was very helpful, and I just want to say thank you! Also, for the record, I enjoyed the hosts personal touch, her explanations helped it make more sense to me!
@@svetavinogradova4243 that's not okay,. This technique has been universally disavowed. using a negative stimulus is questionable, but forcibly placing a substance in someone's mouth to cause them pain, especially when they may not understand what it is is DERANGED
@@gracecampbell9589 It is called punishment, and punishments have been used for thousands of years on children to bring them up normal. It is ALLOWED, together with spanking, in most countries, definitely innAmetica and Britain. If someone does not want mustard - they will behave. Dimples. The reason for the rates of abnormal kids growing from 1:10000 to 1:30 is exactly that - mommies thinking proper discipline is " not allowed" and this is encouraged by the inductry of mental diseases, as those kids will be milking cows for drugs and services for life.
@@gracecampbell9589 Service provider eon't use wasabi, it is the parent's job, by the way. If you are determined to bring up a pdychiatric patient though - embrace the child during tantrum, support them - and sure they will use their tantruming weapon again and again.
Treating autistic people like pets is stupid and punitive approaches foster resentment. This idea of extinction of behaviors is insane. You are way better off respecting these people, assisting them and being dignified in the process. The junk I've heard on this podcast is appalling. I would never subject my Autistic nephew to people who use tactics like these.
Love what you do! thank you for providing this explanation. Currently studying a postgraduate certificate in ABA and your videos are helping me enormously to understand ABA concepts. THANK YOU!!
this whole store thing really goes for any child under the age of 14 if they are not shopping for themselves they will most likely not want to go shopping and some kids are braver than others when they express just how much they do not want to go shopping. I feel like adults forget that no matter what children are just adults just younger thy feel all the feelings we feel when we don't want to do things that especially do not benefit anyone but themselves. parents need to be consistent from the very beginning parents need to realize that when they have children they need to pay attention to their children and what they are feeling. lets respect our children and their needs as much as we would want anyone else to do for ourselves. This is exactly what else we could be doing have patience with our kids as much as we would want them to have patience with us.
Your channel is so helpful in me preparing to take my RBT exam. Thank you so much.
this video is soooo helpful I'm trying to understand this concept and you guys helped me aloooot so thank you so much
My personality is naturally very lax, so it makes parenting a challenge because my son is very hyperactive.
Long story short- he ended up learning manners (i.e. 'please,' 'thank you,' etc.) as a result of my attempt in dealing with him because when he would bombard me with his intense cries or excited energy of wanting something out of nowhere, I would be overwhelmed as if a viscous bee kept buzzing or flying around me and would not leave me alone. It's hard to describe, but he truly overloads my sensory centers causing my brain to kind of shut down for a second in order to re-group, I suppose.
During this time of mental re-grouping, I slowly tell him, "What do you say when you want something?"
At this point, these types of situations have happened so many times that he automatically calms himself, saying "please" very quickly. And there are times where he will just say 'please' first instead of resorting to any type of temper tantrum. I suppose it can be interpreted as a good thing because he's interpreting my demeanor during that entire debacle as calm and uninfluenced by his behavior.
We are still working on "use your words" when I can feel a manic episode approaching. But just like these ladies said, it is difficult to be successful with this when you have other care-takers (i.e. your parents) reinforcing or giving in to the explosive behaviors due to their fear of public judgement/opinions.
It doesn't have to be the parents or daycare teachers that accidentally reinforce the inappropriate behavior, either. There are women down here where I live that will actually approach you and your child in an attempt in calming them down when they see that you are not doing so. Of course, he finds their attention stimulating. It got to a point in the past where he would do all of these odd behaviors (i.e. laying on the floor) when out in public instead of just crying; this felt to me like he was just trying to put on a show for their attention. I just tell him "okay, bye" and start walking off. He jumps right up. I use that technique when he will not listen to me to leave a place as well.
Sometimes, I do give him the body language that reflects the message of "I don't have time for this temper tantrum," combined with telling him, "I cannot understand you; use your words" once or twice.
While these techniques can come across as harsh to the educated, general public (I've even had a teenager come up to my face with her phone, and record me doing them), they seem to be very effective at discontinuing his inappropriate behaviors.
+John Collins Just remember the power of praise, when he does something right - like say please or slow his words down while staying calm make sure to praise him and give him a meaningful reward!
I just watched this video because i'm taking the DSW course online, and I was finding the concept difficult to totally grasp. It was very helpful, and I just want to say thank you!
Also, for the record, I enjoyed the hosts personal touch, her explanations helped it make more sense to me!
Very helpful
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What about having a reinforcer at home for not begging at the store? Is that a good way to avoid a giant tantrum at the store?
Have a bit of wasabi that will be placed ( by you) into the child's mouth at the very beginning of a tantrum in the store.
@@svetavinogradova4243 that's not okay,. This technique has been universally disavowed. using a negative stimulus is questionable, but forcibly placing a substance in someone's mouth to cause them pain, especially when they may not understand what it is is DERANGED
@@gracecampbell9589 It is called punishment, and punishments have been used for thousands of years on children to bring them up normal. It is ALLOWED, together with spanking, in most countries, definitely innAmetica and Britain. If someone does not want mustard - they will behave. Dimples.
The reason for the rates of abnormal kids growing from 1:10000 to 1:30 is exactly that - mommies thinking proper discipline is " not allowed" and this is encouraged by the inductry of mental diseases, as those kids will be milking cows for drugs and services for life.
@@gracecampbell9589 Service provider eon't use wasabi, it is the parent's job, by the way. If you are determined to bring up a pdychiatric patient though - embrace the child during tantrum, support them - and sure they will use their tantruming weapon again and again.
@@gracecampbell9589 Wow, I am talking to a teenager. Learn, kid.
Treating autistic people like pets is stupid and punitive approaches foster resentment. This idea of extinction of behaviors is insane. You are way better off respecting these people, assisting them and being dignified in the process. The junk I've heard on this podcast is appalling. I would never subject my Autistic nephew to people who use tactics like these.