130: How To Communicate When You Don't Feel Financially Secure As A Wife

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  • @graceupongrace16
    @graceupongrace16 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I went shopping with my husband after listening and he picked out a $10 item which I thought should be researched first. I thought of this conversation and realized it wasn’t worth my fighting over it. It was a much more pleasant way to go! Thanks for the encouragement to love and respect our husbands in this way.

  • @herhomebook
    @herhomebook 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Awe! I love when you and Kyla collaborate! I wish you guys lived closer together! I can really attest to this as well. My husband and I got married as very young and completely broke college students. I didn’t mind so much at first, but once we had our first child, I felt the need to become really controlling over our finances, and it caused to much tension and I think I really stunted my husband’s confidence and growth. When I came into the faith a few years ago, I decided to fully give my trust to The Lord and to trust my husband as the provider. I can’t believe what an incredible change it made in him! Now he is incredible and so responsible and motivated to provide for our family. While he isn’t a believer (yet! He and God are working it out) but even me stepping into my biblical role as his helper and his biggest cheerleader changed everything!

    • @NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast
      @NowThatWereAFamilyPodcast  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What a great testimony Skyla, thanks for sharing!

    • @laurens8623
      @laurens8623 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks that really encouraged me.

  • @linap92
    @linap92 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I totally relate- to scrimping and stressing for no reason. Then seeing husband buy something and feeling upset and resentful! Communication is key!!

  • @Dreaming0fSunshine
    @Dreaming0fSunshine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really enjoyed this conversation. I have definitely struggled in this area, but never thought about it in this way before. Thank you ladies so much for sharing ❤️

  • @laurens8623
    @laurens8623 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes many women might have very high demands on what a provision looks like

  • @morganjones4186
    @morganjones4186 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So good. Thank you

  • @christy4531
    @christy4531 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Where did you buy that cute blue dress or romper?

  • @laurens8623
    @laurens8623 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Stewarding vs controlling

  • @ayeshaakbarali9316
    @ayeshaakbarali9316 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish I came upon this podcast a few months ago....now it's too late.

  • @saintamerican6105
    @saintamerican6105 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    im a sahm, my issue is the opposite - my husband will complain about me spending an extra $5, mind you i dont even own makeup or buy anything costly, i stopped being high maintenance to feel like less of a burden to my husband and he still continues to cut our grocery bill even tho im pregnant LMAO. He controls all the money, he wont let me see how much he has, and we are NOT broke yall, he buys things on amazon every single week

    • @katie8325
      @katie8325 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      well that's an abusive relationship

  • @lm6927
    @lm6927 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, this is a truly great message. I completely agree with this approach, although it is definitely easier said than done! My husband and I sometimes have different approaches to spending, and when I speak up, it can create a wall of hostility and tension. I realized it's not even worth it. Better to let him spend the money, to trust him, and to have peace at the end of the day. Have you heard of the author Laura Doyle and read either of her books "The Surrendered Wife" or "The Empowered Wife"? I'm just asking because what you're saying here is very in line with how she recommends dealing with finances as the wife. Although her works are not explicitly Christian, I would highly recommend reading them because she has some great suggestions for wives (called The 6 Intimacy Skills) that are counterintuitive for maintaining peace and harmony in marriage, and they are mostly in line with Biblical principles. She also has a weekly podcast called "The Empowered Wife." She uses the word "empowered" in her titles basically to describe how the wife really does have a lot of influence on the culture of the relationship, and just by cleaning up her side of the street she can greatly improve things in her marriage. At first I was hesitant to follow suggestions from a book that was not specifically Christian, however, her stuff really works to bring about a better marriage! I've tried it and it's made me a much better wife, I'm happier, and so is my whole family.