i think i’ve been grieving before the breakup. we haven’t even officially broke up. i love her but she is no good for me. i deserve better. i’m at the point where i don’t care. i’m a good dude, good career and take care of myself and this person couldn’t appreciate any of it! cheers to new beginnings and if you’re going through it you will be fine. work on yourself, be into you and take care of the things that are important in your life
I agree. This is the fourth time my husband got mad and left me again. I believe he is narcissistic and just used me for money. I need to let him go but my mind will not accept it. I can’t sleep. I feel like if I could sleep I could start to exercise, eat better. I am not eating much but I just eat what’s easiest. I literally feel like I am losing my mind. I don’t want to fall apart.. uugh this is horrible
Same here. I love him. But he has no affection for me. He wants to keep me because I am a good person and he knows it. I feel like I am his convenience who is a marriage material. He wants to marry me but I don’t feel loved and he makes me feel invisible
If you’re here and you are trying to get over someone, recognize you’re leaving because something wasn’t right for you. It’s that simple. Get up. Get yourself together. And start moving forward.
I'm currently trying to go through a 4 year relationship with someone who doesnt know what they want. I have tried everything and now it my turn to grieve and move past all this and start the new chapter of my life but none of this is helping me to be fair but I have faith
It took me two years to get over my-ex. At the same time we broke-up, I “broke-up” with my entire family. It was almost beyond what I could bear. One tool that worked, despite the tears was giving thanks for everything that happened, one little event, pain, struggle at a time. Just give thanks.
I'm current undergoing this kind of situation right now. I don't think this one will pop up in my youtube home page, it is a coincidence or i deserve to know this. Thanks a lot.
DAY 1 of MOVING ON - 9/27/2023 6 ways to let go of someone you love: 1. Allow yourself to grieve. / 2. Journaling. / 3. Invest in self-care. / 4. Find asolid support group. / 5. Focus on what you can control. / 6. Forgive yourself. / Thank you, Denny!
We’ve had our ups and downs… I wasn’t the best husband.., I pushed her away…. I just found out by her phone she has been texting a guy from her past, calling each other baby and everything. I’m so dead inside right now… we have two beautiful kids together. She’s called me a narcissist, gaslighter, and very hurtful things when I confronted her last night. I’m so lost right now, I never envisioned a life without her by my side… I am depressed, anxious, my home doesn’t feel like a home anymore. She said I’ve treated her bad for 10 years…..
I am on the other side of the story. However I don’t have a person to text , have you tried to have an open heart conversation? I am on the verge of cheating ( even if emotional only) because my husband doesn’t even touch me , he complaints me nagging is not sexy , well him watching porn or looking for escorts is not a husband’s duty either . I’m tired of trying to fix this . Sometimes I wish he could say : you are free to go, I’m sorry I hurt you so bad. He doesn’t think he did wrong , he still believes it’s normal and that he is a good dude . 😢
I was in a relationship but then he wanted to wait to be with me, when he said that , he began to leave me on read and said " I have other people to talk to " and when I told him how I felt and he said " K " it's like he doesn't care
Ths is what am going through right,it hurts so much,am trying to let go him,i hp with time all wil be well, Thanks for ua video,am grieving now,, It's feels like hell🥺🥺
I loved this person but we talked about how we should start to focus on our self and broke up , but i still can't fully commit on letting her go. today i chatted her and yeah she said she still not okay and refuse to reply on "iloveyou" i sent to her , and she said " she doenst want to get my hopes up " and " told me not to wait for her " 🥺 and im super lost i love her that much .
@@nithyasnarayan7887 My girlfriend ghosts me all the time, I find it very hurtful especially considering everything I do for her, I only ever hear from her when she wants something
I am grieving a 3 year old relationship that fell apart and now they are getting married to someone else in less than a year after breakup. It stings. I wake up with crippling anxiety everyday. I don’t know how to get better it’s so overwhelming sometimes,
I have someone that I thought was my best friend and he's changed in the past few weeks....I really hate that I got emotionally attracted to this guy but clearly he doesn't value even the friendship....I really wanna let him go, because I'm really hurting, I just wanna be how I was before meeting him.... your video is really helping and hopefully I'll get over it and find someone who really cares about their friends or partner
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
If it was so beautiful, it wouldn't have fallen apart. You're in love with the idea of what you thought it was, not what it actually was. I know it's tough. I, too, am going through a similar pain. I was in love with the fantasy of the relationship we had created. But the reality, we were at odds with each other. He really wasn't ready for the relationship, even though it was his idea, and he was the one who convinced me to try. He really wasn't ready for life, so I really couldn't expect him to be serious about us. It's sad when the dream we had for our future dies. A part of you never recovers. But what does happen, if you work on it and let it, is that you will fill that void with a better you. You will work harder, love harder, and eventually, you will be where you were meant to be. I know it sucks, but you're not alone. You will get through it.
What I don’t see positive from coaches (I have been with a couple) and where it could be dangerous for someone who needs a therapist is that coaches focus on prompting the individual to action, I can see in your approach on the video that there are some things that “are not good” “or shouldn’t be done” during that process, that a therapist wouldn’t put it like that because therapist focuses on the emotional turmoil, how to navigate it and where do they come from so that the individual can dig in deep so that it won’t happen again not because “it shouldn’t happen“ or it’s not the right thing to do which is what coaches sell. The thing about grief is that is subjective and each person goes through it differently, so limiting this is not natural, prompting the person to get away from this process into action can be detrimental due to the pressure this can cause during this vulnerable time. The therapist allows the individual naturally to feel like they don’t want it or feel like going back those patterns that lead the relationship to be where it ended or to allow the person to be in a specific scenario that was not good for them. It allows the self-awareness of the person which is the strong one to naturally take those decisions because after a thorough awareness of why this makes sense the person decides this on its own, as for coaches tell people what to do and what not to do and that’s it, the person just needs to convince themselves why it is a good idea regardless of unconcious patterns that may make the person fall into those patterns later on again.
I am a 35 year old Guy. Iv been with my partner since 2005. I've recently found out she cheated 9 year's ago and Also 12 year's ago the second time with a man who is like family. I am utterly crushed to pieces. I am. A very good looking guy and have offers in work every week and iv never cheated. I feel suicidal but Will stay strong for my kid's . I Will live in house until I think of a plan. She's denying it all which is making the pain grow. how do I stop caring?
you stop caring when you start caring for yourself. hit the gym and hit it hard. it will build mental toughness. find your purpose in life. stay busy and screw motivation, motivation is fake it’s all about drive. get up in the morning and conquer the day! you will be fine!
Question: this girl is one of my best friends and she’s stepping away which is fine. I’d like to stay friends and hang out as we did. But I’m not sure what to do
Thank you so much! I want to get better. It’s only been two days now, but I literally can not sleep and feel like I am going crazy! What can I do to sleep?
Been in love for 19 months sound less but when it was true love it hurts it hurts when u r stupidly attached you daily see that person hanging out female friends the friends who use to be friends once , it hurts when he used to carry out every activity with you with whom he does now with . It hurts when he just changed and chooses his female friends over his gf who gave up everything for him
It literally messed my mental health now I can't just sleep without thinking of him i just let my self fall apart my memory was afffected everything for person who laugh and flirts with other girls
Sometimes I feel I am not going to make it..I was cheated on..but we are still together..I forgave her..but I feel she does not put her all into our relationship.been with her for 15 months and have not met anyone in her family..it hurts..she wanted to meet everyone in my family..and she did..but thank you for video it helped. ♥️
Sending you positive vibes and healing. I am going through the same thing except I am close to my person's family. Being betrayed is beyond difficult. 💔
Just broke up with my fiancee/bf for almost 11 years bec I love him and I'm not the best for him. It hurts seeing him in so much pain but he deserves a better life without me.
There is nothing like "it's not you it's me, you deserve better" Alll this is Bullshitt. You must've fell in love with someone and now making this up...
Been friends witha guy for over 3 yrs but always felt like he's my person. I got alot of mixed signals, we would always argue about the same thing. Recently stopped talking for three months and I accepted that it was actually the end but then we rekindled again amd now we aren't speaking again. I love him and he knows this but he acts nonchalant when i decided to end our friendship recently.
@@andrewmcfarlane3274 same…it feels so taboo to think about them our talk about them too. It hurts…it’s been almost 4 weeks for me and everyday gets better but it also gets worse.
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How does somebody let go of "their person?".. I really dislike this phrase. It sounds very silly. Nobody can let go of "their person'"... That is"yourself." Gender neutral terminology must make sense or it looses the entire purpose of communication. How can you be a coach if you can't make yourself understood ?
'Their person' is gender neutral because not one sex or the other watches the videos. He's referring to the other party in the relationship that is not yourself. Letting go of 'their person' is letting go of the other half in the relationship.
i think i’ve been grieving before the breakup. we haven’t even officially broke up. i love her but she is no good for me. i deserve better. i’m at the point where i don’t care. i’m a good dude, good career and take care of myself and this person couldn’t appreciate any of it! cheers to new beginnings and if you’re going through it you will be fine. work on yourself, be into you and take care of the things that are important in your life
I feel you bro I been there as well
As a guy, sincere question, did you ever try and tell her how you feel?
I agree. This is the fourth time my husband got mad and left me again. I believe he is narcissistic and just used me for money. I need to let him go but my mind will not accept it. I can’t sleep. I feel like if I could sleep I could start to exercise, eat better. I am not eating much but I just eat what’s easiest. I literally feel like I am losing my mind. I don’t want to fall apart.. uugh this is horrible
@@ReginaEzzougay I’m sorry about how you feel. A would come when you’d feel better.
Same here. I love him. But he has no affection for me. He wants to keep me because I am a good person and he knows it. I feel like I am his convenience who is a marriage material. He wants to marry me but I don’t feel loved and he makes me feel invisible
If you’re here and you are trying to get over someone, recognize you’re leaving because something wasn’t right for you. It’s that simple. Get up. Get yourself together. And start moving forward.
I'm currently trying to go through a 4 year relationship with someone who doesnt know what they want. I have tried everything and now it my turn to grieve and move past all this and start the new chapter of my life but none of this is helping me to be fair but I have faith
Going through pregnancy abandonment and being evicted at the same time your video helped me so much thank you
So sorry to hear that. Keep trust in life, good things will come.
It took me two years to get over my-ex. At the same time we broke-up, I “broke-up” with my entire family. It was almost beyond what I could bear. One tool that worked, despite the tears was giving thanks for everything that happened, one little event, pain, struggle at a time. Just give thanks.
I totally understand you ....im going through the exact thing ,the only different its 6 montj now .
Thank you, this video is right on the mark. Just what was needed to hear. Thank you Danny.
I'm current undergoing this kind of situation right now. I don't think this one will pop up in my youtube home page, it is a coincidence or i deserve to know this. Thanks a lot.
Thankyou!! We should all be proud of ourselves for watching this. Remember we are not alone! We are all going to make it - thats it.
Thank you so much for watching!
Been searching about this and I thank God I bumped into this video first.🙏🏿
This was a really great video. Thank you, bro. Helpful insights & advice. God bless you 🙏
I love the content and the flow. Makes alot of sense. Thank you
Happy to hear the video was helpful for you, Musoki.
Coach Danny
Loud and clear! Thank you!
DAY 1 of MOVING ON - 9/27/2023
6 ways to let go of someone you love:
1. Allow yourself to grieve. /
2. Journaling. /
3. Invest in self-care. /
4. Find asolid support group. /
5. Focus on what you can control. /
6. Forgive yourself. /
Thank you, Denny!
This is what I needed to hear today … thank you
Happy to hear that!
Coach Danny
Thank you, this is all I wanted to hear 😭
We’ve had our ups and downs… I wasn’t the best husband.., I pushed her away…. I just found out by her phone she has been texting a guy from her past, calling each other baby and everything. I’m so dead inside right now… we have two beautiful kids together. She’s called me a narcissist, gaslighter, and very hurtful things when I confronted her last night. I’m so lost right now, I never envisioned a life without her by my side… I am depressed, anxious, my home doesn’t feel like a home anymore. She said I’ve treated her bad for 10 years…..
😥
Hope things got better for u
How are things going for you? Hope they got better.
I am on the other side of the story. However I don’t have a person to text , have you tried to have an open heart conversation?
I am on the verge of cheating ( even if emotional only) because my husband doesn’t even touch me , he complaints me nagging is not sexy , well him watching porn or looking for escorts is not a husband’s duty either .
I’m tired of trying to fix this . Sometimes I wish he could say : you are free to go, I’m sorry I hurt you so bad.
He doesn’t think he did wrong , he still believes it’s normal and that he is a good dude . 😢
I am very sorry .. I understand that pain ..
Thank you, Your video helped so much.
I was in a relationship but then he wanted to wait to be with me, when he said that , he began to leave me on read and said " I have other people to talk to " and when I told him how I felt and he said " K " it's like he doesn't care
Great advice.
Thank you for your feedback, Alex!
Coach Danny
Ths is what am going through right,it hurts so much,am trying to let go him,i hp with time all wil be well, Thanks for ua video,am grieving now,, It's feels like hell🥺🥺
Thank you
Very useful
I loved this person but we talked about how we should start to focus on our self and broke up , but i still can't fully commit on letting her go. today i chatted her and yeah she said she still not okay and refuse to reply on "iloveyou" i sent to her , and she said " she doenst want to get my hopes up " and " told me not to wait for her " 🥺 and im super lost i love her that much .
Omg going through the exact same situation right now. He still says I love you and then ghosts me for weeks after to work on himself
@@nithyasnarayan7887
My girlfriend ghosts me all the time, I find it very hurtful especially considering everything I do for her, I only ever hear from her when she wants something
omg the same he just told me yesterday, how are you buddy now its been a year
Not necessarily or everyone but you got it on point
Putting your thoughts on paper can be used against you legal stand point. No paper trail.
I am grieving a 3 year old relationship that fell apart and now they are getting married to someone else in less than a year after breakup. It stings. I wake up with crippling anxiety everyday. I don’t know how to get better it’s so overwhelming sometimes,
Nice 👍
Love your videos!
Thank you for your kind words! - Coach Danny
I have someone that I thought was my best friend and he's changed in the past few weeks....I really hate that I got emotionally attracted to this guy but clearly he doesn't value even the friendship....I really wanna let him go, because I'm really hurting, I just wanna be how I was before meeting him.... your video is really helping and hopefully I'll get over it and find someone who really cares about their friends or partner
just go with it
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
If it was so beautiful, it wouldn't have fallen apart. You're in love with the idea of what you thought it was, not what it actually was. I know it's tough. I, too, am going through a similar pain. I was in love with the fantasy of the relationship we had created. But the reality, we were at odds with each other. He really wasn't ready for the relationship, even though it was his idea, and he was the one who convinced me to try. He really wasn't ready for life, so I really couldn't expect him to be serious about us. It's sad when the dream we had for our future dies. A part of you never recovers. But what does happen, if you work on it and let it, is that you will fill that void with a better you. You will work harder, love harder, and eventually, you will be where you were meant to be. I know it sucks, but you're not alone. You will get through it.
I'm just confused how to help myself further. I'm sorry I don't know how to be okay anymore
What I don’t see positive from coaches (I have been with a couple) and where it could be dangerous for someone who needs a therapist is that coaches focus on prompting the individual to action, I can see in your approach on the video that there are some things that “are not good” “or shouldn’t be done” during that process, that a therapist wouldn’t put it like that because therapist focuses on the emotional turmoil, how to navigate it and where do they come from so that the individual can dig in deep so that it won’t happen again not because “it shouldn’t happen“ or it’s not the right thing to do which is what coaches sell. The thing about grief is that is subjective and each person goes through it differently, so limiting this is not natural, prompting the person to get away from this process into action can be detrimental due to the pressure this can cause during this vulnerable time. The therapist allows the individual naturally to feel like they don’t want it or feel like going back those patterns that lead the relationship to be where it ended or to allow the person to be in a specific scenario that was not good for them. It allows the self-awareness of the person which is the strong one to naturally take those decisions because after a thorough awareness of why this makes sense the person decides this on its own, as for coaches tell people what to do and what not to do and that’s it, the person just needs to convince themselves why it is a good idea regardless of unconcious patterns that may make the person fall into those patterns later on again.
It’s been a year and a half and still I’m struggling to let go,?
I don’t want to let go but I’m so in denial it brought me here
He keeps coming back right when I move on 😭😭😭
I hate it here 💔…,
thanks ❤️
We know how difficult this can be to deal with! You can get through this.
- Happily Committed Team
I am a 35 year old Guy. Iv been with my partner since 2005. I've recently found out she cheated 9 year's ago and Also 12 year's ago the second time with a man who is like family. I am utterly crushed to pieces. I am. A very good looking guy and have offers in work every week and iv never cheated. I feel suicidal but Will stay strong for my kid's . I Will live in house until I think of a plan. She's denying it all which is making the pain grow. how do I stop caring?
All we can do is keep hoping and believing this is not the end of the road, but might actually be the beginning to something beautiful ahead.
you stop caring when you start caring for yourself. hit the gym and hit it hard. it will build mental toughness. find your purpose in life. stay busy and screw motivation, motivation is fake it’s all about drive. get up in the morning and conquer the day! you will be fine!
@@evafinley4843 nah. hope won’t get you there. read my comment
No one is worth your life
Question: this girl is one of my best friends and she’s stepping away which is fine. I’d like to stay friends and hang out as we did. But I’m not sure what to do
20yrs we was together then 2.months later she met someone how am I to deal with that grief?
Yes lord
Thank you so much! I want to get better. It’s only been two days now, but I literally can not sleep and feel like I am going crazy! What can I do to sleep?
What helped for your sleep?
Been in love for 19 months sound less but when it was true love it hurts it hurts when u r stupidly attached you daily see that person hanging out female friends the friends who use to be friends once , it hurts when he used to carry out every activity with you with whom he does now with . It hurts when he just changed and chooses his female friends over his gf who gave up everything for him
It literally messed my mental health now I can't just sleep without thinking of him i just let my self fall apart my memory was afffected everything for person who laugh and flirts with other girls
@@aleenaadil.19
It was five months ago, how are you feeling now ?
For me the last time I saw her was only five days ago, I'm sooooo hurt 😟
Sometimes I feel I am not going to make it..I was cheated on..but we are still together..I forgave her..but I feel she does not put her all into our relationship.been with her for 15 months and have not met anyone in her family..it hurts..she wanted to meet everyone in my family..and she did..but thank you for video it helped.
♥️
Sending you positive vibes and healing. I am going through the same thing except I am close to my person's family. Being betrayed is beyond difficult. 💔
Just broke up with my fiancee/bf for almost 11 years bec I love him and I'm not the best for him. It hurts seeing him in so much pain but he deserves a better life without me.
There is nothing like "it's not you it's me, you deserve better" Alll this is Bullshitt. You must've fell in love with someone and now making this up...
Don't be so hard on yourself, we've all got our insecurities which can influence our behaviour but deep down we're decent people,
I love you all 💚
Been friends witha guy for over 3 yrs but always felt like he's my person. I got alot of mixed signals, we would always argue about the same thing. Recently stopped talking for three months and I accepted that it was actually the end but then we rekindled again amd now we aren't speaking again. I love him and he knows this but he acts nonchalant when i decided to end our friendship recently.
I have much the same story as you except my guy has fallen to pieces. He won't speak to me at all.....hope your situation gets better x
it’s been 3 months since i lost my best friend and i just can’t let go
Me too, how are going now? I can’t let go of the memories
@@andrewmcfarlane3274 same…it feels so taboo to think about them our talk about them too. It hurts…it’s been almost 4 weeks for me and everyday gets better but it also gets worse.
I still struggle with this notion 11+ months onwards..
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Coach Natalie
I want to understand if it’s normal to call and text your partner during this phase of breakup 😢
There is no normal, we all react and respond in our own unique and individual way
Hang in there bro, it'll all work out fine
How does somebody let go of "their person?".. I really dislike this phrase. It sounds very silly. Nobody can let go of "their person'"... That is"yourself." Gender neutral terminology must make sense or it looses the entire purpose of communication. How can you be a coach if you can't make yourself understood ?
'Their person' is gender neutral because not one sex or the other watches the videos. He's referring to the other party in the relationship that is not yourself. Letting go of 'their person' is letting go of the other half in the relationship.