4 UPDATES: After My BIL Asked For A Divorce From My Sister Bcoz Of Her Infidelity, My Parents...
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- 4 UPDATES: After My BIL Asked For A Divorce From My Sister Bcoz Of Her Infidelity, My Parents Requested That I Postpone My Wedding, Which Was Just A Week Away, As It Would Upset My "Innocent Sister" & Demanded I Reschedule It For The Next Yr Or They Wouldn’t Come...I Went Ahead With My Wedding & My Parents Regretted It The Moment They Saw Who My In-Laws Are In The Photos & Oh Boy...
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So my brother-in-law recently filed for a divorce from my sister because he had caught her cheating on him with one of his friends. She had been acting suspiciously for quite some time, and he decided to go through her phone one night and that was it. He has moved out and filed for divorce, but unfortunately, it happened at a really bad time for me because he found out just a little over a week before my wedding, and by the time he filed for a divorce, there were just seven days to go until the big day for me.
They felt cheated? Yet, they didn't think about how YOU felt cheated because of your sister. They didn't show up. It's on them.
There were no grounds to ask OP to postpone the wedding. That would have also been had true had the boot been on the other foot, and the sister had been the wronged party. If the wedding was going upset the sister, I sure that OP would have forgiven the sister for not attending the wedding.
I guess it's time to get a lawyer and get a restraining order against your parents and sister.
It shouldn't matter who his family is. They need to be better people and parents.
They wanted to use her wedding for a networking event?😲That is so messed up! They sound like really weird people, and I would be totally embarrassed of them as well! Crazy people showing up at her in-laws uninvited to complain about their "naughty daughter" like what, do you expect her new father in law to give her a spanking? I can't even! Good riddance to them and her meddling cousin. I wish them all the best❤
Honestly, everything is a networking opportunity. But once you miss that opportunity, it is gone.
Though, OP's parents were not trying to network. They were trying to take advantage of new family connections in order to get their money.
The parents were trying to leech, not network.
@@Gilhelmi Weddings sometimes functioning as networking opportunities is only of secondary, if not tertiary consideration or probably even farther down the priority list than that. The primary function of a wedding is the bonding of the people getting married. The secondary function is as a social event, giving family and friends the opportunity to RE-connect with people they haven't seen for ages.
@@judithflow3131Excellent comment. There are people who pile a whole bunch of other "expectations" into the wedding celebration but, I think, the majority of people do not have these odd expectations of a wedding. I attend weddings because I care about the people getting married. That is it. No networking. No anything else.
The only reason they were upset is because they saw the wedding as a networking event, they never saw it as the wedding of their daughter, because if they actually had, they would have attended.
Introducing her parents to the in-laws would be like telling the in-laws, “Would you like to play with my pet scorpion and pet rattlesnake?“
The sister should be happy for her sister getting married. Be happy for the sister n hope she has a wonderful marriage unlike herself.
Actions or inactions have consequences, selfish, self absorbed people will get what's coming sooner or later.
Your innocent sister who cheated on her husband might be upset if you don’t postpone your wedding that’s a week away? Are they crazy? Are your parents also cheating on each other? Isn’t it a bit off the bubble to be protecting a cheating spouse? Is your sister the golden child? Do not agree with this. They’ll your parents if they don’t want to come to your wedding it’s they that will be missing out. Go no contact with your crazy family! They all need therapy! Not ashamed of where you came from. Your ashamed of their behavior
The audio quality has gone up from some of the earlier videos I've listened to. Less echoeing.
Good job.
So none of you are held accountable for your actions. You all want to blame me for all your outrageous behavior. Too bad. My life doesn't revolve around you three. I have my own life. You never think of others feelings, but expect everyone to think of your feelings. So no! You all just leave me alone. I'm done with you all. Contact me again and I will call the police.
Golden child vibes!
Op was never important enough for them to take an interest in her life and relationship. It is a good thing cause they 100% would’ve manipulated op’s bf at the time, to take an interest in their other daughter. Nothing like having their golden child married to a millionaire.
Bull! Too late! She can stay home if it's too HARD on her. She is right. She did it to herself. No, I would tell parents you are out of your minds. Too expensive and this doesn't revolve around sister. So, show or not. I don't care.
She had the right idea about letting his parents get to know her before her's started a gold rush. Her parents managed to "Trackdown" his with the public records.
And then they visited uninvited as if they had every right to visit uninvited some people they hardly knew at all.
I would have said you only thought of sister. I shouldn't have to think of you people with my every move. You choose my sister's feelings over mine. Even when she was at fault for her own issues.
How can u change the wedding with 7 days to go....😢😔 Family is crazy. 😂
Even if the OP's sister had been the victim in some alternate universe where her husband was the cheater it STILL would have been audacious to demand that she delay her wedding. Weddings are EXPENSIVE and take A LOT of planning and every guest set aside time and made flight reservations or hotel reservations etc. Postponing a wedding is a HUGE deal.
(Before updates.) Not at all TA, OP. As you know, your parents are users, who use other people for their own advantage without having any respect for them as people in their own right. They also otherwise have shoddy morals, as is shown by their insistence that your sister did nothing wrong, despite the evidence. I understand completely why you did not want to introduce your parents to your in-laws, knowing the acutely embarrassing way they behave with people they believe have money. The fact that they shot themselves in the foot by boycotting your wedding because you did not comply with their ridiculous demand to postpone your wedding for a year so as not to upset your tarty sister, is on them. It was a blessing in disguise, as I am sure you appreciate. Now they are upset because of the reaction in you (and many others) that their own actions and lack of common decency have elicited. Still, they now have a newly single daughter that they can pimp out to the highest bidder for financial gain, so your going NC will leave them with more time to be plotting.
News flash parents, weddings are almost impossible to reschedule, parents please learn how weddings work
On a sidenote, skipping your child’s wedding to most people is an unforgivable sin that’s almost impossible to move on from
Sounds like your family could use a lesson in boundaries and a touch of reality check, maybe throw in some therapy for good measure! Who knew wedding planning came with family drama and plot twists rivaling a soap opera?
If they had treated you better, then maybe they would be seen in a better light..
If your first thought about missing your daughter's wedding is how you weren't "able to make connections" you are something that should be kept in the dark and away from others. Hopefully their Entitled Golden Child finds a rich guy they can mooch off of and then they can live out their Entitled Dreams that way
PS OP. I suggest that you don't publish details about your pregnancies online, but tell chosen people by text or email. You don't want your parents sabre rattling about 'grandparents rights' to anyone who will listen and spoiling your happy tines as a new family.
I blocked my parents every where but they should have talked to me first and not involve the in-laws! 😂
Actually, her parents did not even call her in laws first.
They showed up uninvited yet again. Ironnically, the one time her parents were invited, to the wedding, they did NOT show up! They thought their reasons, for the uninvited visit and for ignoring the wedding invitation were both good enough. Which is her parents being extremely stupid socially both times
And the reason they went to the in laws is because they thought the in laws would with side with themselves, as "fellow" parents, in condemning OP's behavior.
I cannot imagine my in laws showing up uninvited at my parents' house nor my parents showing up uninvited at my in laws house. It is just something neither of the sets of parents would have ever done.
In fact, I do not know any set of parents and in law parents who would do that sort of thing. Like I said, her parents were socially inept.
They could have written to her. There is no way to block regular snail mail delivery. (Which BTW, is the proper way to issue marriage invitations. Not by email. Not by text messaging. Not on Instagram or Facebook. By snail mail only!)
And, without a phone number but with a street address, the proper way to ask someone if you can visit and what the visit is about is by snail mail.
I cannot emphasize this enough: showing up uninvited is never ever proper, socially. You are laughing because she blocked them electronically, but they could still have made contact using traditional methods.
BUT they chose the improper way of trying to get everyone to agree that they "deserved" an apology from their daughter by embarrassing her even further, thereby proving yet again that they were not deserving of an apology.
Instead of using audacity (which is overused), they should write someone had a lot of gall to do such and such. Old fashioned but at least it is not overused like "audacity".
Both her parents kods are just like them!! They did nothing not to to them like that!! She spoke to them as an adult so did nothingvin childhood to her, she's using that because she mad because she was jealous of her sister!!! Girl bye!!!
why even answer toxics like this? i think laughing in their face (or over a text) is the best response.. and say you are enjoying the schadenfreude of watching them get their panties in wads..
I have to say I have yet to meet the Hardware Store owner who is struggling financially. I know at least 11 Hardware store owners who live in Big Houses and own multiple SUVs and Trucks.
Fine! Be upset with me right now. Away from me. I'm sick and tired of you always upset with me no matter what I do, but my sister can be a cheating ho and you still treat her better. That right there should tell you want I am careful around you. I can never do anything right in your eyes. So why should I care that you are upset with me.
So many of these authors don't think about the repercussions and consequences of anything they have written prior in the story, and they simply forget about it and keep running the story like an idiot. Whatever the plot that they start with, should never be forgotten nor lose focus on till the end.
The r in rGirl means reddit.
While there are places to post fiction on reddit, if this is from AITA or some other sub reddit areas, posts in these sub reddit are something that actually happened in that person's real life. So they are not "stories" meant to entertain but instead are people asking for advice about issues in their life.
@@rollothecat2010 I very well know these stories are from Reddit. But this is not a real story. How long have you been on Reddit.
I would not have cone to soneones wedding during my divorce either whovhas the energy after a mess of a divorce
Well they did say they won't attend because of sisters divorce and wanted her to cancel. To do that they didn't care she would lose alot of money. Just tell them their fault they made their own situation.
Why are there so many additional details in her stories?
The parents are cheaters and understand the golden child…
OP and her in laws were very lucky that her parents and her sister boycotted the wedding because sister was getting divorced.
As far as not being told what jobs her in laws had, they knew the in laws names; they could have researched that on their own. No one can help stupid people being stupid.
Their business is perpetually on the verge of failure because they are poor at running a business. Maybe if they did more reseach into the kind of things people go to hardware stores to buy, they would not be perpetually failing. I think it is interesting that the daughter they are close to is a bit of a failure too (at marriage which a major part of being successful is trust and loyalty).
I always think that people who dismiss cheating are basically telling on themselves- lol actually, I have this theory that about 80% of all communication is projection- but when it comes to cheating- yeah, major sideeye. And for this story- everyone kinda sucks here- OP (the bride) should be proud of her working class family, no matter how embarrassing they are (lol ohmygod the stories I could tell- they would all be titled "childhood trauma or cringe?"🤦♀️😂), the parents suck for having a favourite child in the first place and the couple and his inlaws suck for not pushing to be introduced to their freaking SON'S FIANCE'S FAMILY before the freaking wedding!!!! Lol of COURSE this was gonna be the reaction- OP knows her parents!! Which means she made a choice (based on YEARS of lived experience) and so has to accept all consequences...ugh, just go no contact already and concentrate on your NEW family, with your hubby and friends and kids, life is too freaking short...let's hope she chose a good man, everybody needs just ONE person to have their back to support them😊🤷♀️🤷♀️ #gigglesnortthesestoriesmakemesooogladIamanonlychild😂😂😂
Are people really this basic?
Business in marriage is common!; to me its OP not wanting to share and all her things cone from the In Laws Bigg mistake but okay
I have mixed emotions about this story. I’m troubled how she describes her parents. She’s young and thinks she knows more than she probably does. Many of us were embarrassed by our parents while we were young, then grew older and realized we were the idiots!
Not all people who were embarrased by their parents are idiots.
Some parents are actually embarrassing because they behave badly in most situations. It has nothing to do with age. It has everything to do with bad parental personalities and behaviors.
I have met parents like her parents. The children were embarrassed by their parents because their parents behaved badly.
It was clear to her in laws when her parents showed up UNINVITED to her in laws home exactly how embarrassing her parents were.
I will just clue you in: Do NOT ever try that in real life.
Perfectly reasonable to be embarrassed by money hungry losers who always try to ingratiate themselves with wealthy people in the falsest way possible. I'm pretty sure OP's view of her parents is VERY accurate. They tried to get her to change her wedding date because her sister cheated her way into a divorce.