Lessons learned over 60 years…. We were built to be with other people but it is OK to be alone. If you want to really be in love then get vulnerable, be willing to compromise and not feel about not getting your way and not gloating because you won. And finally if you cannot make your partner your priority then the relationship will never be true. Take the risk…. The reward is so worth it. Thank you Nathaniel and Lana.
@@FinancialCharles Unfortunately, the only way to become a good partner is to try. Mainly focus on the mantra of ensuring that you are supporting the other person in achieving their purpose. Not necessarily their wants, desires, or goals, but their genuine purpose. Help the other person constantly improve and do not be a burden on them. If you are kind and supportive, you will have no difficulties.
One of the things I’m learning about loneliness, especially for introverts is that there is a balance we must have with having solitude, valuing our time and space and also embracing connection. We all need connection and as Lana says, that comes with vulnerability. We have to be honest about certain aspects of our lives in order to connect with others. Also, know that we don’t connect with everybody. Not everyone is for you and will get you so be okay with knowing that your people might be very few in number but what matters most is the quality of those connections.
This honestly brought me so much peace. My entire life I’ve been so hard on myself when people leave my life. This helped me realize that it’s normal that people come and go and I will meet more people as life goes on. Thank you for this. It was much needed❤
i too feel worried about when my girl friend in the Philippines doesn't e mail but i realized i should give time for her to come back if she desires. rather i should become more adorable not just for her friendship but for my self improvement
What a great video, I totally love your conversation with Lana. I am a 64 yr young woman that feels lonely as a result of living in Florida with very few friends. I moved here from Colorado and look forward to my next chapter in Panama. Here is the thing, I have been a person that has moved and lived in different places most of my life. I also traveled to France about six times by myself but never felt lonely. I've often said to myself, that I am happy while traveling and meeting people along the way but not really knowing the person but opening my heart up to allowing myself the possibility to get to know someone or maybe not. Life is a journey, we keep growing and seeking out who we are at all stages of life, I think the most important thing is to grow and be true to ourselves as we are all just passing through. Thank you, Nathan and Lana! ❤
What beautiful words! I am about to separate from my husband. I'm very confused, losted...but I feel inside my heart that I need to travel, meet people and most importantly, get to know myself...he's a good person, but I feel alone even next to him...I hope to find someone compatible with my soul and heart
1. Your videos are masterpieces. Period. 2. As a person who is moved almost solely by love, I can't believe you put it into words this perfectly. Thank you. We're all still learning.
Not necessarily. Detachment and Self-Esteem can curb the pain of rejection. “For the person who has learn to let go and let be, nothing ever get in the way again.”
check Love Mastery: the Art of relationship, Miguel Ruiz the Toltec wisdom he shares is just the right amount of knowledge to teach us that the love we seek is inside us which is necessary to creating love with others, the reason we all came into this life
@@sammiekaymusicmost people's love is not infinite, which is actually somewhat okay and healthy. My mother whose love is more abundant than anyone I've ever met, will give the coat off of her back, and all the money in her bank to charity. As she lives by Jesus teachings closer than most I've met (I'm not religious this isn't a religious post) and whist Jesus love was abundant and infinite there is no human truly like him. Her father was murdered by her siblings, and on a deeper level she still loves and understands why they are like that and did what they did, but at the surface level she shares no more love for them, which is probably just given what they did. I think (maybe, not wanting to put words in your mouth) but I heard a good quote from I think the Dalai Lama "thousands of candles can be lit can be lit by a single candle and that candles life will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared". Does that encasulate what you are trying to say? And also to your other point, the love we seek is inside of us, but I know too many who are not willing or ready to accept that kind of love from within and most of them never will sadly. From those I know personally it often stems from the love languages or lack their of from their parents that shaped whether and how much they are willing to love themselves.
Love only hurts when you feel like something is being taken from you by doing so. I think this is one of the biggest myths of society. Looking at love like a transaction. We all have the capacity to love the world unconditionally. The issue arises when we expect something in return.
Being 7 years in relationship I can say that love is more a choice and commitment and only then magic)) Same with being single. It's a choice and magic. Every human connection is worthy to have)
I thought this video was particularly interesting. There is a fantastic F. Scott Fitzgerald quote saying, "There are all kinds of love in the world, but never the same love twice." I think your talking about the different types of fluctuations in relationships was particularly relevant. I have felt this recently. People aren't always meant to stay in our lives for a long time, but sometimes just a brief but meaningful interaction can help influence our way of thinking forever. I liked viewing love as curiosity and growth, because I think that redefines it to make it more tangible and less based on attraction while being more applicable to different types of love.
Each video is a cinematic masterpiece and I feel like so many of us overlook that. As well as an incredibly deep and inspiring message, the craft you perform is beautiful and awe-striking. Thank you Nathaniel.
Your drawing of the people in your life and the trajectories that they are on, in comparison to your own, is so awesome-and quite accurate. I have found that, if your lines run close enough, and for a long enough period of time, they can diverge but you will always be able to pick up where you left off and maintain that sense of closeness.
3:19 saaame!! it’s the yearning, this is exactly how I feel.. like I don’t think I’ve ever been peer pressured to do anything, I just choose which experience I want to pursue
Okay here are the things that i have learned from listening to this 15 min vid 1. The reasons of not wanting to be lonely can be a result of fear or curiosity (maybe you want someone because you want to run away from yourself or maybe because you are curious about love and you just want to experience all that sweet feelings) 2. Vulnerability can make connections deeper , yeah it’s a risk but it’s worth it if you want to take your relationship to the next level 3. Accept the fact that ppl are not stable in your life they come and go, it’s just part of life so always be excited about who else you gonna meet 4 loneliness is just a part of life you gotta accept it it has it”s own advantages
Loving fully and vulnerably is essential for a full life, especially for an artist. Healing is also a practice which is part of life when you’re inevitably hurt. Impossible to avoid pain, you can only avoid it if you avoid love altogether
The more acquainted I get with my fear, the more I experience it as a propelling force - pushing me towards being more sociable and valuing connections.
Being in your 20s is so much of an exploration right? Like, yes I agree that there's something to learn from all our life.. but 20s is so so fascinating. Whenever I think of my position right now as someone in her early 20s it's so much of a rollercoaster ride and then suddenly there are moments when I find myself in stagnant motionless periods when nothing seems to move and feels depressing and frustrating. 20s is really a period of tectonic shifts in life, we all have to agree on that. Thank you for this wonderful video. I can totally relate to all that you both have shared ❤
Interestingly, I’ve never felt lonely. But I also am an oversharing introvert that forces lots of human interaction. But very very frequently, I feel misunderstood and not ever finding someone I actually connect with.
If you haven't discovered Brene Brown and her work on vulnerability I highly recommend her. She is so accessible. Nathaniel, It does my heart good to see you exploring the big issues at a young age.
In my thirty years on this planet I’ve learned that when it comes to fear in everything (work, romantic relationships, friendships) it’s enough to ask yourself one simple question: What’s the worst thing that could happen? If the answer is not death, then you’re good! Go for it, give it a shot and see where the road takes you! You’ll be fine! I have faith in you chief!
You've brought me to tears, Nathaniel, to the point where i could no longer hold my stuck emotions, and I thank you for this and everything you do in this life. You've touched the topic tremendously important for our generation, where being busy being busy is the key point sometimes. But it's okay to be on our own and it's unforgettable to be with someone. Thank you also for triggering my vocabulary. Your speech is beyond beautiful, it is magnificent!
I have been seeing them for the past three years and I can say that they are perfect individuals to talk about these issues I'm thankful that they collaborated
As soon as I started watching this I knew there was something different about the piece.. It’s one of the best works you’ve done in a long time and it breaks my heart to see it’s not more ‘traditionally popular’. Either way I hope that kind community can compensate for it as I am truly inspired by every piece of content (I would consider it artwork). Keep on rocking!!!🎉
Thanks for the video. For me it's so hard to connect with people, I live in the us, I'm Guatemalan, maybe it's the language, the culture, whatever. But what has been the hardest is finding love, because we don't realize how important it is, we take it for granted, being away from my friends, not being able to find a partner has made me value more love in itself, it has made me learn that vulnerability is not ok, it's necessary, but as a man I think I've been taught not be vulnerable, to be strong and tough but I think that having that thought has actually scared potential partners off. So I think what you're doing here is very important to create awareness, for men to be more connected with who they are
I am currently reading the book Platonic, it has been worth it. I've been digging into myself and my views of platonic relationships. I feel like I have been connecting deeper ever since I picked up this book.
Aaaah Nathaniel you know I love you & now I love you & Lana in conversation. I have never been this lonely & yet there is a peace to be found within it & here you both explore that. Thank you both
Beautiful as always. To me, there are two parts to finding real love and connections. Yes, you have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. But also it just happens when it happens. Sometimes things just instantly click with someone. Friendship-wise or romantically. You may not be searching for it at the time. And you may not even be able to help it if you wanted to. The fragility of our relationships and human life is what makes it beautiful.
Love this video and really needed it. Especially the explanation about how people are vectors and they can either converge or diverge with us along our timeline. Love you guys!
At age 25 😮. When your whole life and experiences is still ahead of you ? Wait till your in your 60ties. You then lose and due the stagnancy of older lives, it becomes almost impossible to meet and connect to people your own age group. We’ll talk again. (Well, i’ll be dead then but in a matter of speaking).
Don't white knuckle your want for love because it comes when you least expect it. The more you think about wanting it the harder it will come. I was single for a long time and I felt social pressure, lonliness, fomo, insecurity i felt all the things but the less I seeked out for love it came to me. The more I seeked out for experiences and fun, love came.
Intimacy is the state of being vulnerable with yourself or others. It helps to be intimate with others when you’ve learned to be intimate with yourself.
What a great video Nathan ! I met you in my city Rosario when you have been here in 2016 (if I'm not wrong)... Then you became a famous youtuber =) I love your videos, they're awesome and a good way to practice my English. Te mando un abrazo genio !
This, like every other video of you, is so extremley well done. You have so many skills I would love to have, from your editing skills to your articulation skills. Like how did you learn to articulate your thoughts this good, that everyone understands? I have difficulties to do this tbh.
Absolutely love this video! The esthetic is so pretty. The visualization of people as trajectories is insightful. Love the end message. ❤ Thanks for putting it together
As someone further in life's journey, some people come and go and return! I have had a number of relationships that have made a 180 and it is beautiful! Love your thoughtful videos..
Nathaniel, I don’t know you but from what you shared on this conversation and the one on Lana’s channel. A lot resonates when it comes to why you may still be single or just haven’t found that one person. I also grew up in the US, I’m Uruguayan. Every time I go back to Uruguay I realize how nothings wrong with me. That I connect with everyone with no effort and that’s on short visits. I did spend a 2 year period in 2010 but I had other issues going on that prevented me from letting people close to me. But I honestly just think it’s the fact that you’re Argentinian and you just yearn for that culture. I know you spent some time there. But if you lived there full time. I’m sure within a year you’d find the one. As you say here we try to over complicate in having these conversations. I have them ALL the time with other friends. And it’s exhausting 😂 all the ones that are married it’s because they’re from here or found someone from their race. The exception to the rule is 0.01%. You should try to open up to that community again in Argentina and leave behind the bad experience you may have had. And don’t see yourself different you them as I did because I had grown up in the US. I let that get in my head and kept saying I can’t be like them when I already AM and because they all accepted me and wanted me in their lives I was getting triggered by a trauma response from my experience here in the US 😂
I was literally just thinking about all of this - especially about feeling lonely and how social media plays a role in that, making me feel like sometimes the way I'm living is not the right way. Thank you for this and always being so open. I needed to hear this today!
I feel like people, specially TH-camrs and influencers make relationships seem way more complicate than they actually are, this glamorization and sentimentality of relationships creates constant drama and negativity between people infinitely milk-able. Take away all the ego juice and relationships become very simple.
Amazing video! Completely describes how I felt in the last couple of days! Trying to get comfortable with the feeling of letting go someone who I was really close to, feeling lonely in the process, but at the same time being excited about the new relationships that I will have in the future.
Yes. You’re Lovely young. In age, body (strength), looks and possibility of experiences. Enjoy the next 30 years. After your 60 …. Life becomes fairly stagnant with lot less possibilities and with that human encounters. LIVE ! Don’t let yourself be held back. When you sense that negative feeling …. step immediately over it. Good luck. 👍
Thank you Nathaniel for this video. In past I was inspired with your talks about life that looks like no one other live or even loneliness in life and what to do with it. But this kind of speaking about that it could be get from many sites gives me the strength to not disappoint myself on daily bases. I would like to know more about that kind of loneliness that you shouldn’t be feeling lonely or that they are not caused by social media or people surrounded by you. If that’s possible that you know someone with a different story and make a video I would appreciate it. But in first place thanks for your content. It’s helping me for years. Glad regards.. Viktor from Slovakia
To love people deeply and to be super intimate with another person is so important. It makes me feel more fully human. I love being married for many years because I get to experience that with someone through every season of life. I hope you can experience it soon!
When he said impatient he just described me with my experiences ,those lack of experiences and oppourtunties that I have in my life is just cuz I'm impatient 😢
Man, I needed to hear this. I feel like I've been trying so hard to keep some of the friendships I have but never really reflecting if we still have that deeper connection or if we've already drifted apart in our values and perspective in a way. Not everyone stays in our lives and that's ok. Amazing Matt, thank you for this great video ~
Such a great and well done video as always Nathan. Was nice to see both of your perspectives on this. My rule is this: Live life and figure out who you are, what your strengths and weaknesses are, play to your strengths and work on your weaknesses, Find your purpose, and then and ONLY then are you truly ready to be available for someone else (since your taking good care of yourself and already found your calling). Now that the big stuff is out the way (and when you hopefully find someone compatible for you), work with each other and try to build something while taking it slow. “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
True but you can't spend your whole life trying to figure out who you are and even if you do,your journey doesn't stop there,there is growth to be had even in a relationship:)
Try and remember something you had to learn as a child, something that seems so easy to you now you don’t even give yourself credit for having learned it. Learning to walk, to speak… What else did you work to achieve in your early years of life? Take a moment to witness that young person who tried hard. Even now, years later, value that effort. Because that same power is still in you, to do this now.
I loved this video man. The way you described how people are on different trajectories resonated a lot. It's like i knew it already but you just showed it in a physical way that I hadn't thought of. :)
My relationships in life (with self and others) improved drastically when I became more aware of the power and danger of the word "should" in my life. When I am saying "I should," I have trained myself to immediately start asking myself why I think "I should" be doing something. I don't immediately believe the "should."
I’m 24 years old and relationships have and always will be the most important thing to me. I have many deep and meaningful platonic friendships, but I’m never truly had a long term romantic relationship. I’ve dated here and there, but it’s just never worked out for me. Everyone tells me I’m a catch and I’ll find the right girl some day, and I believe that, but it’s really hard hearing that year after year, yet not feeling like anything is changing. I’ve realized I need to truly focus more on my relationship with myself and “unlock a new level” within myself so that I can truly give my all to others. The reality is that I’m trying my best, and that’s all we can really do in life. If you’re reading this, I’m cheering for you in whatever you’re going through too!
As an engineer i actually emphasized a lot with the point vs. vector analogy, never thought about my life like that. I always find myself trying to define a point in which my coordinates in life lie, pitying myself when I don't like them. I should try and remember to myself that I still don't know where the vector is leading. Thanks man ♥️
i finally figured what keeps bringing me back to your videos: you have this way of wrapping those stories with that beautiful romantic taste to it. "A love letter to life" kinda vibe and I love it. Deeply.
People confuse loneliness with solitude. You can be with all the people of the world but still feel lonely; and you can be with only yourself in solitude and be completely at one with the world feeling whole and connected. It has nothing to do with other people. It has everything to do with your relationship with yourself.
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It was so lovely having these conversations with you Nathan :)
And great to have two of my favorites in a frame together ♥️
Still fishing for clout on youtube are we Lana?
You two look good 😊
haha I was reading 'lonely' instead of 'lovely' the first time 😋. Great video though!
@@MikeyPaper how has she done that?
Lessons learned over 60 years…. We were built to be with other people but it is OK to be alone. If you want to really be in love then get vulnerable, be willing to compromise and not feel about not getting your way and not gloating because you won. And finally if you cannot make your partner your priority then the relationship will never be true. Take the risk…. The reward is so worth it. Thank you Nathaniel and Lana.
I am 25 and I never been in love and never dated to someone and finding people who share their honest story is something magical ✨
@@FinancialCharles Unfortunately, the only way to become a good partner is to try. Mainly focus on the mantra of ensuring that you are supporting the other person in achieving their purpose. Not necessarily their wants, desires, or goals, but their genuine purpose. Help the other person constantly improve and do not be a burden on them. If you are kind and supportive, you will have no difficulties.
@@debtfree.degrees That's interesting what you said. Food for thought. Although I don't necessarily agree with everything.
Yup
Me too!! Except I'm 28 haha. ❤
I'm 29 and never been in an official relationship.
One of the things I’m learning about loneliness, especially for introverts is that there is a balance we must have with having solitude, valuing our time and space and also embracing connection. We all need connection and as Lana says, that comes with vulnerability. We have to be honest about certain aspects of our lives in order to connect with others. Also, know that we don’t connect with everybody. Not everyone is for you and will get you so be okay with knowing that your people might be very few in number but what matters most is the quality of those connections.
Wise words -- thank you for sharing 🤍
This honestly brought me so much peace. My entire life I’ve been so hard on myself when people leave my life. This helped me realize that it’s normal that people come and go and I will meet more people as life goes on. Thank you for this. It was much needed❤
Yes, sometimes we outgrow them, seldom they outgrow us and it's all fair 😌
i too feel worried about when my girl friend in the Philippines doesn't e mail
but i realized i should give time for her to come back if she desires. rather i should become more adorable not just for her friendship but for my self improvement
You and Lana would be so good together!
What a great video, I totally love your conversation with Lana.
I am a 64 yr young woman that feels lonely as a result of living in Florida with very few friends.
I moved here from Colorado and look forward to my next chapter in Panama.
Here is the thing, I have been a person that has moved and lived in different places most of my life. I also traveled to France about six times by myself but never felt lonely.
I've often said to myself, that I am happy while traveling and meeting people along the way but not really knowing the person but opening my heart up to allowing myself the possibility to get to know someone or maybe not.
Life is a journey, we keep growing and seeking out who we are at all stages of life, I think the most important thing is to grow and be true to ourselves as we are all just passing through. Thank you, Nathan and Lana! ❤
What beautiful words! I am about to separate from my husband. I'm very confused, losted...but I feel inside my heart that I need to travel, meet people and most importantly, get to know myself...he's a good person, but I feel alone even next to him...I hope to find someone compatible with my soul and heart
The collab we didn't know we need!
Haha. Interestingly, 2-3 years ago I thought these two had similar channels and should have collabed back them.
Being able to manage a relationship is a kind of talent that not everyone has. Accept yourself.
Deep love comes naturally - something you can't force to learn...
Maybe then learning to love deeply is to disregard everything you’ve learned.
1. Your videos are masterpieces. Period.
2. As a person who is moved almost solely by love, I can't believe you put it into words this perfectly. Thank you. We're all still learning.
Yeah totally!
When u love deeply...u get hurt deeply too
Not necessarily. Detachment and Self-Esteem can curb the pain of rejection.
“For the person who has learn to let go and let be, nothing ever get in the way again.”
check Love Mastery: the Art of relationship, Miguel Ruiz the Toltec wisdom he shares is just the right amount of knowledge to teach us that the love we seek is inside us which is necessary to creating love with others, the reason we all came into this life
you cant get hurt by something that is infinite and abundant, love does not hurt, the fear of “losing love” is what hurts us
@@sammiekaymusicmost people's love is not infinite, which is actually somewhat okay and healthy. My mother whose love is more abundant than anyone I've ever met, will give the coat off of her back, and all the money in her bank to charity. As she lives by Jesus teachings closer than most I've met (I'm not religious this isn't a religious post) and whist Jesus love was abundant and infinite there is no human truly like him. Her father was murdered by her siblings, and on a deeper level she still loves and understands why they are like that and did what they did, but at the surface level she shares no more love for them, which is probably just given what they did.
I think (maybe, not wanting to put words in your mouth) but I heard a good quote from I think the Dalai Lama "thousands of candles can be lit can be lit by a single candle and that candles life will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared". Does that encasulate what you are trying to say?
And also to your other point, the love we seek is inside of us, but I know too many who are not willing or ready to accept that kind of love from within and most of them never will sadly. From those I know personally it often stems from the love languages or lack their of from their parents that shaped whether and how much they are willing to love themselves.
Love only hurts when you feel like something is being taken from you by doing so. I think this is one of the biggest myths of society. Looking at love like a transaction.
We all have the capacity to love the world unconditionally. The issue arises when we expect something in return.
sometimes alone but never lonely.
Being 7 years in relationship I can say that love is more a choice and commitment and only then magic))
Same with being single. It's a choice and magic. Every human connection is worthy to have)
Wow! Thank you ❤
Being single is a choice for women, but unfortunately not always for men as most men are involuntarily single.
@@NikosM112 nope, being single is also a choice for men. Just lower your standards and you'll get a girl.
@@saku.544 I don't have high standards. You are also ignorant and unaware of reality. Most men are chronically single.
@@saku.544 Ignorant and unaware...
I thought this video was particularly interesting. There is a fantastic F. Scott Fitzgerald quote saying, "There are all kinds of love in the world, but never the same love twice." I think your talking about the different types of fluctuations in relationships was particularly relevant. I have felt this recently. People aren't always meant to stay in our lives for a long time, but sometimes just a brief but meaningful interaction can help influence our way of thinking forever. I liked viewing love as curiosity and growth, because I think that redefines it to make it more tangible and less based on attraction while being more applicable to different types of love.
your short films have the artistic details of a lost art so to speak, love getting encaptured by this channels content, thank you!!!✨
Each video is a cinematic masterpiece and I feel like so many of us overlook that. As well as an incredibly deep and inspiring message, the craft you perform is beautiful and awe-striking. Thank you Nathaniel.
Your drawing of the people in your life and the trajectories that they are on, in comparison to your own, is so awesome-and quite accurate. I have found that, if your lines run close enough, and for a long enough period of time, they can diverge but you will always be able to pick up where you left off and maintain that sense of closeness.
3:19 saaame!! it’s the yearning, this is exactly how I feel.. like I don’t think I’ve ever been peer pressured to do anything, I just choose which experience I want to pursue
12:33 Idk why but I felt so deeply your words here Nathan. Put a smile on my face 🤍
Guys, it’s so nice to see you together in a video. Your channels are my favorite ones. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, fears and insights.
Okay here are the things that i have learned from listening to this 15 min vid
1. The reasons of not wanting to be lonely can be a result of fear or curiosity (maybe you want someone because you want to run away from yourself or maybe because you are curious about love and you just want to experience all that sweet feelings)
2. Vulnerability can make connections deeper , yeah it’s a risk but it’s worth it if you want to take your relationship to the next level
3. Accept the fact that ppl are not stable in your life they come and go, it’s just part of life so always be excited about who else you gonna meet
4 loneliness is just a part of life you gotta accept it it has it”s own advantages
Loving fully and vulnerably is essential for a full life, especially for an artist. Healing is also a practice which is part of life when you’re inevitably hurt. Impossible to avoid pain, you can only avoid it if you avoid love altogether
The more acquainted I get with my fear, the more I experience it as a propelling force - pushing me towards being more sociable and valuing connections.
Being in your 20s is so much of an exploration right?
Like, yes I agree that there's something to learn from all our life.. but 20s is so so fascinating. Whenever I think of my position right now as someone in her early 20s it's so much of a rollercoaster ride and then suddenly there are moments when I find myself in stagnant motionless periods when nothing seems to move and feels depressing and frustrating. 20s is really a period of tectonic shifts in life, we all have to agree on that.
Thank you for this wonderful video. I can totally relate to all that you both have shared ❤
This video reminded me the old ones you used to make, which always inspired me.
In order to attract people of value, you have to be happy with yourself first!
Really, really nice video and the footage is so nice in this man! I felt like I was in a vintage film
Interestingly, I’ve never felt lonely. But I also am an oversharing introvert that forces lots of human interaction. But very very frequently, I feel misunderstood and not ever finding someone I actually connect with.
If you haven't discovered Brene Brown and her work on vulnerability I highly recommend her. She is so accessible. Nathaniel, It does my heart good to see you exploring the big issues at a young age.
This video was beautifully crafted. I have a lot of respect for you!
In my thirty years on this planet I’ve learned that when it comes to fear in everything (work, romantic relationships, friendships) it’s enough to ask yourself one simple question: What’s the worst thing that could happen?
If the answer is not death, then you’re good! Go for it, give it a shot and see where the road takes you!
You’ll be fine! I have faith in you chief!
This was such a wondeful video. Spoken directly into the heart. I can relate so much with everything that was said.
You've brought me to tears, Nathaniel, to the point where i could no longer hold my stuck emotions, and I thank you for this and everything you do in this life. You've touched the topic tremendously important for our generation, where being busy being busy is the key point sometimes. But it's okay to be on our own and it's unforgettable to be with someone. Thank you also for triggering my vocabulary. Your speech is beyond beautiful, it is magnificent!
I have been seeing them for the past three years and I can say that they are perfect individuals to talk about these issues I'm thankful that they collaborated
As soon as I started watching this I knew there was something different about the piece.. It’s one of the best works you’ve done in a long time and it breaks my heart to see it’s not more ‘traditionally popular’. Either way I hope that kind community can compensate for it as I am truly inspired by every piece of content (I would consider it artwork). Keep on rocking!!!🎉
I knew this collab would happen! It was impossible for the two of them not to meet. 🥳
It’s only the beginning for both of them, I have a feeling.
they speak the exact same messages in their stories. Yes, it's great to finally see them talking to each other)
@@annavoytenko it would be nice if they were a couple 🥰
Thanks for the video. For me it's so hard to connect with people, I live in the us, I'm Guatemalan, maybe it's the language, the culture, whatever. But what has been the hardest is finding love, because we don't realize how important it is, we take it for granted, being away from my friends, not being able to find a partner has made me value more love in itself, it has made me learn that vulnerability is not ok, it's necessary, but as a man I think I've been taught not be vulnerable, to be strong and tough but I think that having that thought has actually scared potential partners off. So I think what you're doing here is very important to create awareness, for men to be more connected with who they are
I'm Mexican, and I see the males in my life struggling with this too. It's a culture thing. Completely agree. Love and blessings where ever you are. ✨
I am currently reading the book Platonic, it has been worth it. I've been digging into myself and my views of platonic relationships. I feel like I have been connecting deeper ever since I picked up this book.
Aaaah Nathaniel you know I love you & now I love you & Lana in conversation. I have never been this lonely & yet there is a peace to be found within it & here you both explore that. Thank you both
With men like Tucker Carlson and Tate talking about what it means to “be a man” we need more of THIS. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
yes!!!
We need both.
Beautiful as always. To me, there are two parts to finding real love and connections. Yes, you have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable. But also it just happens when it happens. Sometimes things just instantly click with someone. Friendship-wise or romantically. You may not be searching for it at the time. And you may not even be able to help it if you wanted to. The fragility of our relationships and human life is what makes it beautiful.
This was lovely. The heights of your joy shall equal the depths of your sorrow!
Now thát is so profound. 🧐
Thank you so much for this!
Love this video and really needed it. Especially the explanation about how people are vectors and they can either converge or diverge with us along our timeline. Love you guys!
He spoke about whatever I am going through right now❤
At age 25 😮. When your whole life and experiences is still ahead of you ? Wait till your in your 60ties. You then lose and due the stagnancy of older lives, it becomes almost impossible to meet and connect to people your own age group. We’ll talk again. (Well, i’ll be dead then but in a matter of speaking).
Beautiful photography, sound, music and editing are a main reason I watch 🤩 👏🏻
Two of my favourite TH-camrs in one video 💖 I'm always amazed by both of your contents, your topics and how your videos are edited 💙
Don't white knuckle your want for love because it comes when you least expect it. The more you think about wanting it the harder it will come. I was single for a long time and I felt social pressure, lonliness, fomo, insecurity i felt all the things but the less I seeked out for love it came to me. The more I seeked out for experiences and fun, love came.
Intimacy is the state of being vulnerable with yourself or others. It helps to be intimate with others when you’ve learned to be intimate with yourself.
Wow...I was not expecting this collab 😮🎉
What a great video Nathan ! I met you in my city Rosario when you have been here in 2016 (if I'm not wrong)... Then you became a famous youtuber =) I love your videos, they're awesome and a good way to practice my English. Te mando un abrazo genio !
This was so nice, it felt longer than what the duration shows. Nice chats makes us view and feel time in a different way ❤
The beautiful women like Lana has a choice to be alone or not. Lots of people don't really have a choice.
Loved the cinematics 😍
OMG OMG OMG YES YES YES!!!!! First it was a Lana and Ali Abdaal collab. Now Nathaniel and Lana. My favorite TH-camrs are collaborating OMG.
love u guys! very grateful for your work, for opening your hearts for us
what a beautiful collaboration! love both your channels
Thank you so much for this amazing quality video
Indeed when you can have as sweet like Lana one should love deeply.. very deeply
This, like every other video of you, is so extremley well done. You have so many skills I would love to have, from your editing skills to your articulation skills. Like how did you learn to articulate your thoughts this good, that everyone understands? I have difficulties to do this tbh.
Absolutely love this video!
The esthetic is so pretty.
The visualization of people as trajectories is insightful.
Love the end message. ❤
Thanks for putting it together
As someone further in life's journey, some people come and go and return! I have had a number of relationships that have made a 180 and it is beautiful! Love your thoughtful videos..
Seen ones of my favorites together is incredible
Nathaniel, I don’t know you but from what you shared on this conversation and the one on Lana’s channel. A lot resonates when it comes to why you may still be single or just haven’t found that one person. I also grew up in the US, I’m Uruguayan. Every time I go back to Uruguay I realize how nothings wrong with me. That I connect with everyone with no effort and that’s on short visits. I did spend a 2 year period in 2010 but I had other issues going on that prevented me from letting people close to me. But I honestly just think it’s the fact that you’re Argentinian and you just yearn for that culture. I know you spent some time there. But if you lived there full time. I’m sure within a year you’d find the one. As you say here we try to over complicate in having these conversations. I have them ALL the time with other friends. And it’s exhausting 😂 all the ones that are married it’s because they’re from here or found someone from their race. The exception to the rule is 0.01%. You should try to open up to that community again in Argentina and leave behind the bad experience you may have had. And don’t see yourself different you them as I did because I had grown up in the US. I let that get in my head and kept saying I can’t be like them when I already AM and because they all accepted me and wanted me in their lives I was getting triggered by a trauma response from my experience here in the US 😂
We have to be careful with the concepts. Loneliness ≠ Aloneness
You are so right about this!
Agreed
Thank you for this lovely and meaningful conversation. I can relate to a lot of things you are saying. 🥰
I was literally just thinking about all of this - especially about feeling lonely and how social media plays a role in that, making me feel like sometimes the way I'm living is not the right way. Thank you for this and always being so open. I needed to hear this today!
I feel like people, specially TH-camrs and influencers make relationships seem way more complicate than they actually are, this glamorization and sentimentality of relationships creates constant drama and negativity between people infinitely milk-able. Take away all the ego juice and relationships become very simple.
Amazing video! Completely describes how I felt in the last couple of days! Trying to get comfortable with the feeling of letting go someone who I was really close to, feeling lonely in the process, but at the same time being excited about the new relationships that I will have in the future.
Yes. You’re Lovely young. In age, body (strength), looks and possibility of experiences. Enjoy the next 30 years. After your 60 …. Life becomes fairly stagnant with lot less possibilities and with that human encounters.
LIVE ! Don’t let yourself be held back. When you sense that negative feeling …. step immediately over it. Good luck. 👍
Thank you Louis! Appreciate your advice! Cheers!🤝
Thank you Nathaniel for this video. In past I was inspired with your talks about life that looks like no one other live or even loneliness in life and what to do with it. But this kind of speaking about that it could be get from many sites gives me the strength to not disappoint myself on daily bases. I would like to know more about that kind of loneliness that you shouldn’t be feeling lonely or that they are not caused by social media or people surrounded by you. If that’s possible that you know someone with a different story and make a video I would appreciate it. But in first place thanks for your content. It’s helping me for years. Glad regards.. Viktor from Slovakia
Amazing video! Simple words but deep meaning.🌌🌟💛
To love people deeply and to be super intimate with another person is so important. It makes me feel more fully human. I love being married for many years because I get to experience that with someone through every season of life. I hope you can experience it soon!
What a wholesome work Nathaniel! ❤️
Yey! My favorite yourtubers in one video. Love this.
When he said impatient he just described me with my experiences ,those lack of experiences and oppourtunties that I have in my life is just cuz I'm impatient 😢
Man, I needed to hear this. I feel like I've been trying so hard to keep some of the friendships I have but never really reflecting if we still have that deeper connection or if we've already drifted apart in our values and perspective in a way. Not everyone stays in our lives and that's ok. Amazing Matt, thank you for this great video ~
Such a great and well done video as always Nathan. Was nice to see both of your perspectives on this. My rule is this: Live life and figure out who you are, what your strengths and weaknesses are, play to your strengths and work on your weaknesses, Find your purpose, and then and ONLY then are you truly ready to be available for someone else (since your taking good care of yourself and already found your calling). Now that the big stuff is out the way (and when you hopefully find someone compatible for you), work with each other and try to build something while taking it slow. “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
you perfectly put out what i wanted to say
True but you can't spend your whole life trying to figure out who you are and even if you do,your journey doesn't stop there,there is growth to be had even in a relationship:)
Glad to see you’ve visited Norway! Hope you had a nice stay.
Try and remember something you had to learn as a child, something that seems so easy to you now you don’t even give yourself credit for having learned it. Learning to walk, to speak… What else did you work to achieve in your early years of life?
Take a moment to witness that young person who tried hard. Even now, years later, value that effort. Because that same power is still in you, to do this now.
Loved this conversation! I really admire Lana ❤
I loved this video man. The way you described how people are on different trajectories resonated a lot. It's like i knew it already but you just showed it in a physical way that I hadn't thought of. :)
My relationships in life (with self and others) improved drastically when I became more aware of the power and danger of the word "should" in my life. When I am saying "I should," I have trained myself to immediately start asking myself why I think "I should" be doing something. I don't immediately believe the "should."
I’m 24 years old and relationships have and always will be the most important thing to me. I have many deep and meaningful platonic friendships, but I’m never truly had a long term romantic relationship. I’ve dated here and there, but it’s just never worked out for me. Everyone tells me I’m a catch and I’ll find the right girl some day, and I believe that, but it’s really hard hearing that year after year, yet not feeling like anything is changing. I’ve realized I need to truly focus more on my relationship with myself and “unlock a new level” within myself so that I can truly give my all to others. The reality is that I’m trying my best, and that’s all we can really do in life. If you’re reading this, I’m cheering for you in whatever you’re going through too!
nice to see your apartamet's podcast area (specific area for conversations ) finally getting use =)))))
As an engineer i actually emphasized a lot with the point vs. vector analogy, never thought about my life like that. I always find myself trying to define a point in which my coordinates in life lie, pitying myself when I don't like them. I should try and remember to myself that I still don't know where the vector is leading. Thanks man ♥️
You are such an artist Nathan, I really appreciate your videos so much.
Thanks you are so helpful always on time thanks Nathaniel for helping me out!! love your channel : )
genuinely one of my favourite episodes from you.
I needed this one. Thank you
This video reminded me of this: "Your legacy is every life you touch" - Maya Angelou & you have touched plenty amigo, keep up the deep convos
okay, now i´m crying in a very good way, masterpiece!
I needed this video this morning. Thank you for this.
i finally figured what keeps bringing me back to your videos: you have this way of wrapping those stories with that beautiful romantic taste to it. "A love letter to life" kinda vibe and I love it. Deeply.
this video is full of beauty and love, thank you nathaniel:)
People confuse loneliness with solitude. You can be with all the people of the world but still feel lonely; and you can be with only yourself in solitude and be completely at one with the world feeling whole and connected. It has nothing to do with other people. It has everything to do with your relationship with yourself.
Beautiful content, Nathan. Thank you so much for being you. And for sharing it with the rest of the world.
Sending you love.
Beautiful video
This conversation was very deep and gave me something to think about
Is there any way I can reach out to you?
Be a loving person first and then everything happens like a magic !!!