THE MOST STIGMATIZED MENTAL ILLNESSES
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- let's help spread awareness and education about these mental illnesses that are heavily stigmatized!
article on BPD stigma:
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living with schizophrenia website:
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stigma is making us sicker article:
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if you're struggling and need help here are some resources:
national hotline for the US
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international hotline information
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I have borderline, and for my college writing class I wrote a paper and did a presentation on the stigma against BPD by mental health professionals. I started with explaining the ins and outs of BPD and it obviously made everyone uncomfortable. After I started giving examples of how professionals fail to help us on a daily basis, everyone's attitudes changed. I really think I got through to some of my classmates that getting help for mental illness isn't as easy as most think. My professor even told me that she was glad my presentation was so personal and that she wanted me to continue reaching out and fighting for better treatment.
Thank you! As someone with bpd as well I appreciate you
I'm type one BPD. Its difficult because unless you have it, people don't fully understand what it's like. Keep on fighting soldier.
Odd Eyes94 There is no type one BPD, do you mean bipolar?
@@sofiedessau5291 yes. I keep being told bpd by my therapist. The doctor has diagnosed me with type one Bipolar disorder. She was using BPD to abbreviate Bipolar disorder and I only recently caught that.
scyythe that’s so amazing. I’m so proud of you!
I think antisocial personality disorder typically referred to in media as psychopathy or sociopathy is one of the most stigmatized disorders ever. I mean I can’t name one movie where someone with this disorder wasn’t a serial killer.
As a person with AsPD, PRAISE.
I have psychopathy with aspd and npd traits. I only talk about it online ( since that's not my real name or picture ) because I know how people would react to it. And because it would interfere with my plans ( manipulation etc. )
Lea Harris psychopathy is not an actual diagnosis tho
nihil. Don't you think I know that ? It's not in the DSM but according to the Checklist by Robert Hare I am one. Psychopathy is a cluster combination of multiple personality characteristics. I have aspd and npd. The traits that I have do fit into the criteria of a psychopath. I talked to "my" therapist about it. I scored 38 out of 40 points.
C I'm not really proud. I'm just happy that I'm liberated from most emotions and guilt.
Bipolar is definitely a stigmatized mental illness. People just do not get it. When you tell someone you have bipolar, they automatically assume you're unstable and "crazy". That has been my experience. So I make it a point not to tell people about my mood episodes. Unfortunately sometimes I can't hide it and suddenly I'm that "crazy" girl who must have forgotten to take her meds. Heh
I didnt even realise i had bipolar disorder until just 2 years ago because of the stigma. What id seen bipolar portrayed as, and what it actually is, were really different. I started showing symptoms at age 12, but i refused to even consider it as being bipolar disorder, which means i never asked for and got the right help for it. When i was 18 i decided to research some of the more stigmatized mental illnesses, and thats when i finally learnt what bipolar disorder really was. 6 months later i was diagnosed and in therapy and on medication and the past two years of my life have been so much easier, now that i know my illness and get the right help. For 6 years i lived through hell because i didnt understand, since my view of bipolar disorder was so influenced by media and society, and so different from what bipolar really is.
I knew a girl with bipolar disorder who dropped out of therapy because she was scared of the idea that she was all these scary stereotypes and didn't understand how much of that was stigma created by ignorant people. Unfortunately she went into a very destructive spiral that caused all her housemates to get evicted from their house. Stigma can be really dangerous to sufferers and people they care about when it stops them from getting help.
I have a friend with Bipolar. Another one is that people don't understand there is technically something like 3 types of Bipolar as well. Type 1 and 2. And then there is a milder version of the disorder that has periods of otherwise normalcy. Type 1 sways more to manic, Type 2 is more depressive. I'm simplifying it, but Bipolar is near a Spectrum a smuch as Schizophrenia is or Autism.
I have bipolar type II and I've come to realize there's just two types of people in my life: the ones that assume bipolar is a made up excuse for my actions and the ones that assume I'm a ticking bomb. Because of that I stopped telling people about it altogether. They don't even question my mental health when they don't know.
I’m bipolar and I hate it so much. I also hate it when people fake it too
Can I just say that I absolutely hate when people are like "She's been having mood swings, I think she's bipolar!" or "She's, like, always nervous, I think she has anxiety!" I know this video isn't about that issue, but I just wanted to say that saying that is incredibly disrespectful and my sister (who actually has anxiety) hears "So, what does anxiety actually feel like? I think I might have it!" weekly.
I can relate to the anxiety comment. Ive had to explain to someone close to me many times what its like, because they equate my panic attacks to "Well I had a stressful day at work but I dont break down" NO. Yeah, you could be stressed and anxious, but an anxiety disorder makes it hard or even impossible to FUNCTION some days. Its strange to me that people who dont suffer from it cant understand, but comments like that, like its some alien disease, are hurtful and upsetting. And it's all cause mental illnesses are in this Other/Sick/Not Like Us category to people.
She gets very annoyed by the question but she stays calm and asks "Do you wake up being scared of something but not knowing what that something is?". Not one time has the answer been yes. Trust me, you KNOW when you have anxiety.
Lucy W Yes. Or I like to explain it as always feeling like someone has jumped out at you from around a corner and scared the crap out of you.
Yep, fight or flight mode.
Lucy W so, I always thought bipolar was basically just mood swings like that. Until I actually met someone who was diagnosed as bipolar. Now i know; mood swings ain't shit compared to what bipolar is.
One of my best friends has Borderline, she's not scary...its just sad when she gets bad, it makes me want to take care of her...
Patchwork Undead You're an amazing friend to her, it looks like! A lot of us with BPD appreciate having people like you around 🌸
Saigen Wallaby thanks so much
Thank you for being such a good, caring friend
Thank you for being a good friend to her
I wish i had a friend like you
Some good DID youtubers are : dissociadid, acrylic and aether, multiplicity and me, as well as the entropy system. Theese people talk about the science behind it as well as personal experiences.
I was just about to recommend dissociaDID
There’s actually a tik toker called it’sokaycosplay with osdd1b who make informative videos about his osdd1b as well as cosplay and bird content I suggest following him
@@libby4986 i follow him on tik tok too he is great
i love the disosiatiDID system!
When I follow all of them
As a man with schizophrenia and borderline personality disorder, I would like to personally thank you for this video and your channel. I have been a long time fan and hearing at least someone defend us and educating the masses is so positive. I thought I was alone in being a man with these illnesses- but hearing you talk about it makes me happier.
You would not believe half the crap people say to me when they find out about my illness. I've heard that I'm faking, men can't have those feelings and that I was doing it for attention. I've personally been down a dark path in my mental health before due to lack of education on the subject and misdiagnosis.
If anyone wants to talk I am open. Message me anytime.
Thank you so much for everything you've done.
Can I just say, kudos to you mate!
That is the biggest load of crap people have said to you 'faking' and 'doing it for attention' what a load of rubbish! Who the heck would CHOOSE to have a debilitating illness for attention forgodsake. (unless someone has Munchausen's but that's a whole other story).
I will also continue to educate people I come across and defend mental illness until the stigma is gone!
We need more people like Sarah speaking about things like this!
Good on you for getting through your dark times.
ComosCamos I know exactly how you feel! Well, I'm not a man, but I also have both. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia first when I was 14 and BPD later. I had an incredibly abusive and narcissistic father who shamed me my entire life so I've bottled up a crazy amount of things which ultimately has just made things worse. I'm 25 and I feel like a teenager still because I've never had the right type of therapy and being misdiagnosed with clinical depression at age 12 and not having proper treatment growing up.
Trying to make friends is almost impossible for me and I'm so embarrassed about my disorders and the amount that I have because it sounds unreal that I don't really allow anyone near me. Once they are around me more they treat me different so I'd rather just not go through the disappointment. I've been professionally diagnosed with all of the following by psychiatrists throughout the years (not including misdiagnosis) anxiety, PTSD, OCD, schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder, ADHD and now my psychiatrist thinks I'm shifting into some kind of disassociating type of behavior and I really think it's mostly because of stigma. I also have been told I've made things up, or I'm being a "drama queen", trying to "manipulate" the situation, etc. by people I love the most and it's beyond hurtful. I go through psychosis episodes sometimes and that's usually when I get treated with the least amount of patience and compassion. I've found it's increasingly difficult to find people who won't take advantage of me due to my issues and anyone who will genuinely accept me and my flaws so I've kind of given up on meeting other decent human beings around me. It seems I can only find kind souls on the internet which is scary since the internet can be the most cruel place around.
ComosCamos what exactly is bpd? I guess I don’t totally understand what it is?? I’ve looked through many article and websites and can’t seem to grasp it. How did you know you had these illnesses? I’ve been diagnosed with MDD since I was 8 (22 now) and I feel like things have changed since then. I don’t want to be self diagnosing because that doesn’t help anyone but I don’t want to go to the doctor if it’s just going to waste my time and theirs.
Jenna Smith BPD is sorta weird in my case. Each person is different but with myself, it feels like I can sorta notice my personality change and then I feel like I am the backseay driver. All in all, talk to a doctor or therapist and tell them EXACTLY how you feel and think. That was honestly what I did and my doctor lead me to the right people. Good luck with your journey to safe mental health!
Shandra Ellis wow that is a journey! Glad you responded and are here now! Sorry to hear about your past but at least we have small (hopefully larger ) communities like this channel to talk openly about this stuff!
I am very open about my BPD diagnosis and was chatting about it with a very close friend one day. Another friend was at the table and interjected that her two sisters were diagnosed with it but she didn't think they really had BPD because "they were total psychos", would talk about suicide and wanting to self harm and then be "fine" when they got to the hospital- she just ripped apart her BPD sisters after a whole conversation about my recent borderline diagnosis. All I replied with was "Actually, that sounds exactly like BPD". I don't understand how she thought that was an appropriate thing to say to my face.
"I don't believe they have BPD because.." *Lists off symptoms of BPD they exhibit* "... and that can't be BPD!"
Like... fam... and in response to someone talking about just having been diagnosed with it themselves. It's a developmental disorder and not a mental health one, but similar social and sensitivity "rules": that's like if I mentioned I have autism and someone went "oh yeah, my brother supposedly has that but I don't think he actually does because he's just super bratty and socially awkward and really weird about touch."
PTSD is so over looked. I was 34 until my Doctor figured it out. Sense my doctors has put me on the proper medication... My life is easier... Yet I still battle with it and unfortunately always will.
SO SO TRUE!!
I have a totally different experience with that, I was diagnosed with PTSD last year (age 17). Hopefully this means things are changing.
Yup. It's really sad.
Yah I don't get it how can anyone not understand that mental health is often caused by trauma or what ever but understand stand it by genetics man people are so dim and ignorant
@@charlottegisborne2319 I have PTSD from waking up during my open heart surgery when I was 5. Not many people believe me (my doctor does) but I fit almost every single one of the symptoms for both PTSD and Bipolar Disorder
I have BPD [diagnosed 5 years ago] and have had MULTIPLE therapists ask me over the phone [before a 1st appointment] why I was seeking therapy/my diagnosis ... and will be completely okay with everything else I list UNTIL I mention BPD. I've had doctors immediately get awkward and seemingly nervous, saying "oh sorry we don't treat that here!" or literally hang up on me lol. it doesn't bother me nowadays since I'm luckily doing so well lately but it's still such a sad memory. gaining the strength & asking for help and being turned away by people who WORK in the damn mental health field!!! so.. thank you for this video.
I have had this happen too! “I can’t treat you :)”. Thankfully, I have someone now.
sour angel same thing happened to me so many times when I was looking for new therapist because I moved recently. “Oh yeah, we don’t treat BPD” and one therapist also told me that BPD could not be treated at all and that I would have to check into a psychiatric hospital & basically were not able to ever live on my own... the stigma is so hurtful, even among professionals
I hate the stigma, cuz BPD isn't incurable or fake,it's real. And people who have it don't deserve to be treated like you have to stay 50 feet away or you might catch it or something. Again I have a close friend who is a sweetheart and I learned who he was and loved him long before he even learned he had it,BPD people are just normal human beings that need to be loved and cared for like anyone else.
I completely sympathize. People had been asking me for years if I had BPD, even before I knew what it was. A friend from my class who had seen me every day for years had a mother with borderline and she said she was 99% sure I had it too. My mother, who knew by living with me that I had a personality disorder, was fairly sure it was BPD after much research. None of them mentioned it to me directly, but to the school. Then I too, was 100% sure, when I found out about borderline, that it was what I had, when I read it, something just CLICKED. Mind you, none of the people who suspected it told me directly so it wasn't like "oh someone told me, let's look it up, oh yeah that's it". I kept googling my symptoms and I read books and testimonies. I had been going to a psychiatrist since I was 10. She too, in the end, admitted she had been thinking of borderline for years but she wasn't specialized so she referred me. Then finally, I got someone specialized in it, did some long tests and then he just said that "my family has a lineage of mental illness at my mom's side (my grandma and uncle were both bipolar) so I have the genetic/nature component and that due to my alcoholic, manipulative's father consistent rape from age 3 (he has untreated PTSS due to having been a child soldier and then having been brought to Europe with no family and no knowledge of English or the language of Dutch, meaning culture shock and more trauma at age 12) I had the nurture component too", but then, finally being diagnosed, his conclusion was "you're too damaged to treat, most borderliners are, you're going to have to try and live with it or die with it"
I’ve actually heard of people being diagnosed bipolar to avoid the stigma that comes from other therapist. Idk how true that was but I’ve also heard it happens for insurance reasons.
Okay so two parter:
1. I have BPD and if I'm struggling with something related to it I'll look up ways to cope with it. And everytime I've done so articles pop up with titles like, "How to leave your abusive borderline partner," "why dating someone with BPD will ruin your life," and its just really triggering for me because I already hate myself for having the disorder without having outside influences telling me I'm unworthy of love because of it.
2. My husband has always had a very high metabolism and is very thin. He has been bullied for it pretty much his whole life. When he was in middle school he developed a binge eating disorder to desperately try to gain weight, which actually almost killed him. Its been 8 years and he still feels like he can't talk about it because "men don't have eating disorders." And if I'm being honest I get so scared when people bring up his weight that he's going to relapse... Its not fair that when women have eating disorders people are genuinely concerned and typically try to help, but with men its just ignored completely.
Lizabeth Werner I relate to that first one so much, I had a therapist tell me that my relationship wouldn’t work out
This happened to me when I was trying to research ways to effectively explain my disorder to other people and I was just like welp 🤷♀️
It's the collateral damage of bad actors who happen to share the disorder. It CAN be abusive/manipulative, but it does not mean that all BPD sufferers are lost causes.
After moving I went to a new doctor. I had to get blood work done and when he saw my self harm scars he said something along the lines of "so borderline it is". I was so offended and started arguing with him. "excuse me but I never got diagnosed with that. Selfharm doesn't equal a personality disorder. Isn't that a stereotypical thing to say?" He gave me the whole "I'm the doctor and you don't know shit" speach. Very awkward and very frustrating.
Ask him if he understands what the Hippocratic Oath is and that "Diagnosis based upon assumption" goes against it.
That is disgusting behaviour from a so called professional
It's scary that some "professionals" are like that. It's like saying every one with bpd cuts themselves which isn't true either. Mental illnesses are fucking complex and have many variables that differentiate from each person. Sure, you have to classify to give the right treatment but it's infuriating how quick some doctors diagnose you just to diagnose and end up belittling you when you go against it. Yes, I know you are supposed to be a professional in this, THEN WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU NOT ACTING LIKE IT
Great video. I would love to hear your thoughts on the paradoxical stigma and glamorization of eating disorders. I find it so interesting that our society glamorizes orthorexia (and often anorexia), but stigmatizes binge eating disorder, for example. I also find it incredibly interesting that our society has one image of someone with an eating disorder and people who don’t fit that mold are told they’re faking or simply lazy or unable to exercise self-control. This is a major topic explored by body positivity activists and something I’ve been reading up on lately. Thoughts on this? Could be a cool video.
I couldn't agree more, Sydney!
Yes we need a video on this!
yes please! Id love it if you could include some discussion about the stigma that men "dont get" eating disorders or if a male does there its bc they're gay or will eventually decide to become a woman when that is simply not true
The thing is that i have anorexia and if i told anyone i feel i would be automatically rejected. Though it is the most talked about ed, i feel people aren't fully comfortable (and don't know how to act) with knowing someone with the illness.
I hate how people with eating disorders are glamorized and stigmatized
"Binge eating- Lol i do that haha!"
No its more serious its effecting there health and they have little impulse control
"Anorexia girl you skinny already why worry bout your weight"
You might see a skinny girl but the girl sees a cow cause her perciption is jacked
I can't leave my BPD stigma experience here because I don't feel strong enough to share some relevant details and experiences about it publicly , at this moment i feel a little bit vulnerable, but i've send you a DM on instagram if you want to read it. Thank you a lot for making this video Sarah
Men do NOT commit suicide more than women. Their attempts are more successful however women attempt it more often. Very important distinction. That said this was a great video and I’m very happy you’re are bringing more attention to the stigmas that surrounds these illnesses, especially BPD.
dinkyboss I think the word “commit” implies success so men do actually “commit” suicide more often. But I agree that it’s an important distinction for sure!
O. My. Fuckin. God. 🙄
@@milkflysLet me get this right ,more men DEAD,but more women alive,right.
Committing suicide is different from attempting suicide. Very important distinction
This isn’t a fucking competition. Men commit suicide more than women. Women try but don’t succeed in doing so more than men. That distinction is more important than the bull you wrote
the discrimination against borderline personality disorder is definitely present in the medical field. my ex girlfriend suffered from bpd, and she told me so many awful stories of her experiences with professionals, including hospitals refusing altogether to treat/accept patients with bpd due to their "policy". not bashing all hospitals, and definitely not trying to discourage anyone from getting help, just trying to show just how stigmatized people who suffer from this are.
There's this thing called a Hippocratic Oath doctors must take before they graduate and receive their license. Denial of a patient's medical needs based upon pre existing conditions is against that oath. Bring it up next time a doctor starts that and see what they do. It makes them nervous. In addition, they also can loose their license because of what they did.
@@oddeyes9413 That's not true at all. A doctor can refuse to treat a patient if they feel they are not capable or trained to handle the condition. And the Hippocratic Oath predominantly is a philosophical ideology that doctors are meant to do no harm to patients. It's not at all binding in a court of law.
www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/article/hippocratic-oath-today/
My mom stigmatizes mental illness so much it hurts...
Warning to anyone with depression and anxiety.
She thinks that people with the disorders you mentioned are all dangerous killers. She's said time and time again that "depressed people just need to get over it" and "need to get a life/friend/job" and "people who are suicidal should stop complaining and just kill themselves," that "the world is better off without them." I haven't ever told her I'm depressed (obviously) and I'm scared to get an official diagnosis for what type I have. I once was able to get a diagnosis at a hospital, but I lied to the doctors because my mom was in the room (she got mad on the way home that they tried to diagnose me with depression. "You're not depressed," she kept stating. "None of y'all {my siblings, one of which is} are depressed.") Why were we there? She was tired of me talking about my anxiety and making a big deal out of my (painful and seemingly randomized) panic attacks, so she wanted us to go to the hospital so I can "pop a pill whenever I get anxious." She was mad that they didnt prescribe meds and instead talked about therapy. We never went to the hospital again after that. She doesn't believe in therapy. Oh, and whenever I get anxiety I'm told to just "calm down" like I'm overreacting. She's seen me have panic attacks numerous times. Once she just sat there and played phone games as I was shaking and hyperventilating in front of her. Another time, we were in public. I collapsed on the ground and she kept telling me to just "get up" because I was embarrassing her and people were staring. When people tried to help, she shooed them away, telling them, "She does better getting through it herself. She doesn't need help. She's fine." Luckily someone eventually ignored her words and helped me. Oh, and the first time she saw me have a panic attack (I'd been hiding it for a while for obvious reasons) she actually brought me to a public area to calm down, walking through the store ignoring me as I panicked. I was so embarrassed...
I tried numerous times to get her to understand mental illnesses, but she refuses to learn. Having to give up on that just adds to the loneliness and pain I already have to go through... It just leads to the thoughts, "Why won't she try?" and "Why won't she love me?" You know?
Now I'm in college. They offer free counseling sessions, but I've never went. My mom's words stick. Maybe therapy won't help. Maybe I should just kill myself. Maybe I am better off trying to help myself. My friends ask why I don't go. It is right there, but at the same time, it feels out of reach. I wanted to go in once but I felt an anxiety attack coming on so I left.
I know your comment is from 10 months ago, but I sincerely hope you went to those free counseling sessions because you deserve to feel better! I hope you're doing okay
Aya Jones Go to therapy. Your mom is wrong. Your life is precious. Don’t throw it away. I believe in you. I know I’m just a stranger, but hey, take it from a fellow sufferer of anxiety. It can get better.
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Hi, thank you all for the lovely comments. At the start of this year I moved away from my mom. I'm surrounded by people who love and support me. I started doing therapy via Zoom calls, and got diagnosed with PTSD. Life is hard but it's a whole lot better than it used to be💖
The only representation of bpd in media that actually seems like bdp is girl interrupted, suchhh as good movie
ugh yes LOVE that movie!
Tbh, I think Crazy Ex-Girlfriend does a pretty good job. Some people may see it as really unhelpful and contributing to the stigma, but I actually think it’s a parody of the way society sees women and especially women with bpd - it makes me feel less alone and I always get a really good chuckle out of it.
But yep. Girl, Interrupted is soooo good. Also, Eternal Sunshine for sure! I relate hardcore to that film.
agreed!! I have BPD and see myself in Clem sm. favorite movie everrr
I'd say that Crazy Ex Girlfriend portrays BPD and mental illness in general way better than the title would have you believe. Sure, the main character does bad things at times, but those actions are both shown to have consequences, and are explained, but not excused. The show is a musical comedy where we get to see things from the perspective of the 'Crazy Ex Girlfriend' trope in media and explore both the main character's mental illness and the variety of ways society and media can distort our world view. It shows how toxic your thoughts and actions can be if you allow yourself to adopt a romcom mindset in real life.
I have schizophrenia and every single time i try to talk to my friends or family about it they think i’m joking and don’t take me seriously.
What do you mean they think you're joking? This is awful that you're not being taken seriously, is there anyone else you could possibly speak to about it like a doctor, co-worker, teacher etc? (I don't know how old you are or if you're in school or work hence why I say teacher and co worker) :)
You can talk to me if you want to, but please get the help you need, it’s out there and you’ll get better i promise
Me too. And the ones who dont treat it as a joke treat me like I'm something to study. I recommend online support and new friends
I would love to see a video about dermatillomania/trichotillomania as someone who has dermatillomania it's not talked about alot and it's always great when you see someone talk about it
why god wow I had no idea that had a name... I was diagnosed with OCD very young but I have scars all over my body from picking at scabs and I was never able to stop or control it. It was so bad at times I would start to have lines go upwards from the wound due to infection yet I'd still pick at it no matter how painful. My stepdad would try shaming me to get me to stop doing it but it only made me feel even worse. I used to be way too self conscious to wear anything with straps or short sleeves because of the wounds and scars but I've some what gained some control. I don't pick at my arms anymore which is where most of the damage to my skin is. But I also started cutting at the age of 10 and my scars are too extreme for any type of scar cream. My doctor told me I would have to get skin grafts in order to reverse the damage and even then questioned if that would be suitable because I cpuld end up doing it all over again so I've just kind of accepted my scars at this point.
I have trichotillomania and dermatillomania. I pull my eyelashes out that I have pretty much none left and i had dermatillomania so bad at one point that I kept picking at the skin on my face that I have a large scar on the inner part of my eye, my nostril is now bigger than the other one, and I have keloids on my arms 😣 I have gotten better since I was able to get on medication for my OCD.
Omg I have that I think but I don't know how to talk to professionals about it. I'm really struggling at the moment, any tips for things that can help me use my hands on other things as mine tends to fixate on needing to move my hands. My thumbs end up bleeding and I have to cover them up for my work but then from the fidget I break the plasters or tape
Jules Reed I don’t have a condition this extreme, but when I’m fidgety and picking, I hold a small silicone squishie in my hands and squeeze instead of picking. Or, hold a stress ball, or a small special rock, or a coin. I also make bracelets by tying knots, or doodle.
im not diagnosed, but i pull my hair out a lot... i should get an expert to talk to soon
Recently read about how every Winnie the Pooh character embodies a specific mental illness. I think it’s silly but would be interested to hear your thoughts in a video!
Nah m8 I think I related to tigger on a very deep level
lol i looked up what you said and they have quizzes to see which mental illness is most correlated to urself and i got tiger (adhd) and theyre not wrong cause i have been diagnosed by a doctor lol
OMG I'm piglet
as someone who has been diagnosed with bipolar two, the ending bit hit me the most. "self-stigma". i follow a lot of pro-mental health advocates(?) on instagram and whenever i see something about bipolar that i don't match up to or deal with, i automatically feel like i'm a "fake" and that i "shouldn't say i have bipolar" because i don't do ___ (say: crying during a depressive episode) and it's tough. same for social anxiety. it's always portrayed in a way that i, personally, can't relate with because i actually have some type of hold on my issues (sometimes) and it's really damaging sometimes but i'm coming to realize that no one feels emotions the same way and i'm valid even if i don't cry when i'm in a bad episode. i absolutely love your videos and they helped me learn more about disorders and things i didn't know about yet so thank you 💖
hmheather I'm sorry you feel that way. Just because you feel things differently, doesn't make your illness any less valid.
ahh i have adhd and i feel the same way :/ when i got my diagnosis i doubted myself so long and i felt fake, because i only knew about those basic symptoms. i thought, i dont run around all day? i dont jump around? im not ALWAYS hyper as shit? how do i even have ADHD? but i found a subreddit and it has helped me alot! i can see now that theres so much more to ADHD than just not concentrating and being hyper. alot of people share their struggles so i can relate a lot better and now can see that i DO have ADHD.
maybe they have a subreddit for social anxiety(i think they do) or bipolar? idk if that will help you but it has helped me to find people that relate!
im sorry you feel that way, but im so happy for you that youre realizing that your feelings ARE valid and that it isnt the same for everyone 💓💓💓
hmheather I have Bi-Polar 2 and I have had only 1 manic episodes and I felt the same way but Bi-Polar disorder is just like any disorder, unique to the individual. Never feel bad about yourself.
sanne tf funnily enough, i have adhd and have been diagnosed with it since i was little and it used to be really bad like i would be hyper as shit but now i barely deal with any sparks of hyperactivity but i still struggle with the concentration part and have to take medicine in order to focus on anything for a long period. but i'm glad that you realized you don't have to match up to everyone elses' experiences with it because everyone deals differently!! and i'll look on reddit for some subreds
Mistress Cynical thank you ♡ i've never had a full-blown manic episode but i normally deal with short hypomanic episodes but just remember what you said, it's different for everyone ♡
I thought for sure you’d mention antisocial personality disorder since everyone it always calling people “sociopaths”
Jessica Louisia Antisocial personality disorder is actually the professional term for sociopathy...
Olivia Frances I know, that was my point.
When I was 18 I went to a psychiatrist to talk about my BPD symptoms and he just said you're young, you probably don't have it, it was completely dismissed before we even talked about my symptoms. That happened a couple of times when I bought it up, basically just dismissed and not being listened to because I was younger, even though I was old enough for it to be considered. It made me feel stupid and invalidated because I was looking for an answer and not being taken seriously. I was diagnosed with BPD last year.
It took so long for me to get help with such a volitile disorder that by the time I was diagnosed I was managing it quite well because I just had to learn to, so I never got the therapy I desperately needed for years.
This is exactly what happened with me when I was in the hosptial a few months ago for self harm. I was 18 but the doctor said I was too young and "people with bpd often have problems with anger" but he didn't even ask if I had problems with anger anyway so? In my experience people just want to keep pushing "depression and anxiety" as a diagnosis before even talking to me. I've been hospitalized three times since I was 13 for self harming and suicidal thoughts and I felt so alone and crazy until I learned what bpd was because it describes me so well. I did start seeing a therapist and I brought it up to her but she isn't qualified to diagnose me and the psychologist I see for meds just wants to get me in and out as fast as possible and I'm on Medicare right now so I don't have many options as far as what it covers. I feel really frustrated and unheard.
Hey, I think I might be in the same boat as you guys. I know this is really late lol. But I’m kind of wanting to go for more testing to see if it’s a thing I have (previous testing showed high results for it but psychologist didn’t diagnose). Could you explain like what the symptoms and stuff are? You don’t have to, but it would be really helpful. I have quick mood changes without reasons, and then stay stuck in the emotion for awhile. I’ve always felt emotion extremely, so much so that I shut down emotionally for like three years. I have a terrible temper. I’ve struggled with self harm. I have a very overactive imagination (idk if that has anything to do with BPD or not). I’m very clingy to people. I’m sorry this is like way too personal. I just don’t really know what to do.
Like two or three months ago a Venezuelan youtuber that a follow uploaded a video ranting a tv show from my country (Mexico). They used a video of her (without her permission) talking about her self-harming story and her BPD. And she was encouraging people to receive help. The show modified the video in a way that she seemed to be telling people to hurt themselves. Other thing that she was really angry for was that they talked about depression, but in really stigmatized way. It's sad because this kind of shows are seen for a huge amount of people in Mexico.
Your video was really good. I'm happy that you talk about mental illness and their stigma.
I have schizophrenia and I have lived all my life around stigma.
I started hearing voices when I was 13 and I wanted to tell my parents but I heard people saying in movies (or in real life) that those people were "cracy" and "violent" so I was so ashamed to tell anyone.. And this is a real problem because I couldn't get the help I needed thanks to all the stigma.
Nowadays I live a normal life.. I am not a serial killer. The stigma has to be stoped
That color. That cut. And super interesting video on top of all that!! Love
I have a close friend of mine that has BPD, and I very much am concerned that I have BPD as well. However, my friend is one of the most caring individuals I know, and the only difference between her and my other friends who have not experienced mental illnesses is that she is much more passionate about things and experiences her emotions in a more extreme way. That's not to say she's going out and being violent, or attempting to take her life at any moment, but that she can't control how something makes her react and it is very difficult to bring her down from an emotion. They are not "ticking time bombs". They are not intentionally manipulative. They are people, and nobody wants to experience a mental illness. Nobody wants to experience emotions to that degree. Nobody wants to live up to a stigma, and they often don't. It's a stigma for a reason. Whenever mental illness is portrayed on television, it is almost always a mental illness to the extreme and at its most severe. Not every person with BPD that you meet is going to break down in front of you, or punch you in the face for criticizing them, or commit suicide if you make them upset.
Bipolar disorder is stigmatized. Many people ask me if I’m crazy or say I’m just PMS-ing. And people don’t understand that it’s not changing moods every 5 seconds. And when I’m in the depressive phase I usually dissociate and people just tell me I’m forgetful.
i definitely relate to the self-stigma part, its hard for me to seek help mostly because I see other people with more challenging mental illness experiences and I feel like i shouldn't need help/have it easy
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As someone who actually has DID, thank you for including this in your video. Even the “rareness” of DID is stigmatised, people think it’s like 1 in a million when really, it’s just as common as red hair.
Thank you
- Violet 💜
I have DID to. Hope your whole system is doing alright
Sam Cu
Thank you, it’s going pretty good for once lol. How about yours? And if you want to chat on insta our username is @_thestarlightsystem_ ~G
So happy my comment made it into a video! honestly I have avoided getting treatment at this point and stopped bothering with professionals because no-one believes me (I have BPD) there is nothing worse than being considered not worth listening to and feeling more worthless than I already do by people that are supposed to value you.
Isabella Todisco I have the same issue and it is so frustrating! The people who are meant to be helping can be the most triggering as the brush you off.
I am so sorry you are struggling too but know that you are worth it and deserve happiness xx
I highly recommend DBT over CBT for people like me with BPD. The first therapist that I specifically seeked out for DBT was leagues better for me than the therapist I had before. The one I had before was just awful, she wanted me to self commit to a freaking psych ward because I wasn't making progress fast enough for her liking, and she wouldn't even diagnose me with BPD because in her mind, I couldn't have it since I have empathy?!?! Luckily, I left her, got another psychological examination, got diagnosed with BPD, which my psychiatrist recommended DBT for.
I’m BPD and Bipolar II ♥️ and I can say I’ve dealt with that stigma and judgement with BPD even from a psychiatrist when I was hospitalized. She sat across from me and called me promiscuous, wild and blamed me for being stalked by my ex-boyfriend. (I’m a mom and I’ve been to one party in my 27 years 😂) She said word for word, “I’ve been doing this for 30years I know this disorder”. It made me feel so disgusting and ashamed. I’ve gotten to a point where I will openly talk about my disorders, and I’m not ashamed but it really sucked. ♥️ thank you for this.
TW: Suicide Attempt
I stayed in a residential treatment center that supposedly “specialized” in BPD. There was a woman there that had been clearly showing signs of higher suicidal ideation than was her “normal.” I watched her try and reach out to staff several times and even asked to call her therapist or see the nurse. A few clients spoke up to say “hey *client* seems to really need some help right now.” And we were told to ignore her because she just wanted attention. A further traumatized roommate and an ER trip later she asked why they didn’t help her and they said it was because she was there to learn how to help herself and was supposed to use her skills to calm herself down
I struggle with anxiety and depression and my sister has BPD, so even though we have totally different mental disorders we do talk a lot about what we're going through and how we've dealt with things. My sister happens to be quite violent when she has an intense BPD 'episode' (idk what else you'd call it) which as you pointed out isn't the case for everyone with BPD but for her it definitely manifests itself that way. It's really hard for her to explain to people why she acts the way she does without them thinking she's just making up a blanket excuse for her behaviour. Obviously anxiety and depression suck but when I describe what's going on in my mind when I'm feeling panicked or really down I get a lot more compassion and understanding than my sister, which makes me so sad. BPD is a major part of her life that she constantly works on with different therapies and learning coping strategies, but most people don't see it as a genuine disorder and just think of her as being a bad person which is not true at all :(
Thank you so much for this video!
I was diagnosed with Depression and BPD and I often read comments online that someone had a bad experience with their 'borderline ex' and that you should avoid 'those people' at all costs.
Sometimes that really gets me and I often just tell people that I have Depression because of the stigma around BPD.
I love that you talk about these topics! A friend and I have recently become anti stigma ambassadors within our college to help combat the stigma of mental health. Sending love and keep doing amazing 💕💕
I was told my an MD serving as my therapist over the course of several years that, having worked with me, she felt BPD was a more appropriate diagnosis than "just" the anxiety and depression I previously had received diagnoses for. But she specifically said she would *not* register that as a formal diagnosis in my online medical records because the stigma is so great that often new therapists won't take patients with a BPD diagnosis, and general practitioners will discount claims of pain or real medical concerns if the person has a BPD diagnosis because they're seen as being "dramatic" and faking lots of things "just for attention."
My brother has Schizophrenia (and a bunch of other disorders) . It was really bad when he was first developing the symptoms. He wasn't really violent, just a threat to himself. Many late nights of trying to get him to calm down because of his main delusion. Right now, he's much better, usually around the age of 30 the symptom start to less if they are treated properly and understand what their brain does. The best thing for a schizophrenic is to know that they are, and to have people who are understanding who can help them back out of their episodes. My brother also has drug issues (understandable) but the drugs often make his symptoms worse. He rarely has visual hallucinations, but when he does, it's usually because he's high. Otherwise, my brother is a "normal" human being. He is actually very intelligent but as I mentioned he has other disorders that make it hard for him to fit within standardized academia. It's not very friendly to people with mental disorders, I know this very well as someone who has Anxiety and Major Depression, college sucked because I wasn't told I could get accommodations for my mental issues until I had slept for 3 days straight due to emotional drain. Even after all that, I still had the asshole teachers who would say "mental issues aren't being sick" when I gave them my note from a counselor or from the hospital.
I have schizophrenia. Your brother sounds a lot like me. I was able to go back to school & I'm now in a master's program. Maybe he'll be ready for something like that at someday. Good luck!
I know this is two years ago but my brother has schizophrenia and started last year and he’s relapsed going off meds, at home but refusing help...reading ur comment about ur brother and his personality made it relate for me and I feel a bit better. Thank you even if u didn’t mean too, your comment gave me comfort.
Such a great video as always, as a male I've definitely experienced a lot of people undermining my OCD when I talk about it and i'm constantly told that I'm just "weak", even I used to believe that i was being weak and that I should "man up" until I started therapy. so I think it is super important to start lifting off this stigma with men, so that more of them become more comfortable talking about it and getting the help they need.♥
i love how considerate of others you are. trying to understand where people are coming from and not being rude. it's really easy to be offensive towards people when you don't interact with them face to face. i feel like being rude and "edgy" and "sassy" is praised too much :I
I'll never forget the way my doctor looked at me when he told me I was diagnosed with BPD. He looked at me like I was evil, subhuman,
Borderline is always associated with self harm, I once went to the hospital to get some cuts treated and the doctor immediately said that I have borderline, which is not true.
Really it can be from major depressive disorder and even anxiety or a completely diffrent disorder.
I have BPD I never cut my self
As a person with schizophrenia and Avoident personality disorder I want to thank you so much for this. People think that when you have schizophrenia you have mood swings which is not true at all...So thank you...
I dont think ill ever ask for help, im too afraid of misdiagnoses and bad professionals...
Moon R
Don't let that hold you back from trying to get help. Because help is out there. If you don't like your counselor you can just ask for a new one!
yeah i hesitated for a long time for the same reason. but the benefits of getting help is so much more than the possibility of misdiagnoses and bad professionals. I think what most people for get is that in all most all cases of professional help, you are in charge of who and how you get your care. You can go to a different therapist and you can say that you dont think you have the right diagnoses. Getting help is the hardest and scariest thing to do, but its worth it.
Moon R - you should try to get help if you need it love. more often than not the professionals will do anything they can to help you, and you can always switch to someone else if you want. I wish you the best of luck!
I'm all for getting help, but just know that you might not find the help you need the first time you reach out. I went through 4 different therapists before I found someone that could give me exactly what I needed. Don't let that discourage you and always remember it's not your fault!! It's all about finding what works for you
I'd say ask for any test and exam they can give. It took years to get the proper medications, the proper therapist, and the proper diagnosis, but what sped up positive changes for me without fail was getting tested so that the professionals helping me have a better understanding of my mental health issues. Instead of getting years of ineffective talk therapy where you talk about what's going on in your life currently and end up reeling with thoughts of everything you forgot to bring up that might have been really useful after each session, testing has you answer question after helpful question that in my opinion give a much quicker, clearer idea of what's going on mentally than simply how you react to the most recent goings ons in your life.
I have anxiety/panic disorder, slight OCD, AND histrionic personality disorder and people always assume I’m just narcissistic and it’s so tiring to explain histrionic over and over.
Oh mental health 🙄
I have bpd, and I've always been made to feel awful about it. Doctors even told me I was a lost cause and I would die before I turn 25. I'm 19, and I struggle deeply, but seeing this video helped me realize I'm not alone, I had a meltdown and saw this show up. Thank you Sarah, I love you, I hope one day I can feel somewhat normal.
Sarah Kern hey there, fellow BPD sufferer here. I’m 26 now & have been struggling with BPD for more than a decade now. I’ve also had many people (family members, doctors, therapists, friends) tell me that I’d be dead by my mid 20s but here I am alive and well. It’s just so hurtful to hear people say shit like that because it’s just like “we don’t believe in you”, “BPD is untreatable, you’re stuck with it forever and will never live a happy life”... and while it’s true that there were many times that my extreme emotions made my life feel like literal hell, I’ve also had some of the best times where I’ve felt on top of the world. Hope you’ll get the help and support you need, I know how hard it is to even reach out to people, sending you lots of love ❤️
I know it's been a while since you commented but I hope you feel better about yourself. I hope your recovery is going well. Also fuck those piece of shit excuses of doctors who told you that. They are fucking terrible and shouldn't be allowed to practice. Fuck them. Telling a patient that they're going to die because they're too lazy to fucking treat them? (Gee I wonder why people with BPD are so hard to treat! It's almost like nobody wants to treat them!/sarcasm) I hope they lose their license.
i have bpd and a huge part of the symptoms is a fear of abandonment bc most ppl develop it from repeated trauma. ppl often times think that ppl w bpd will abuse and manipulate their partner to keep them around but in reality ppl with bpd are more likely to stay with an abusive person because the thought of being alone is so so painful. we are easily manipulated and easily hurt not necessarily the other way around
love that you brought up mental illness being ignored in men! I’ve been seeing a lot of celeb men speaking up about it lately, specifically Zayn Malik, who has anxiety and had an eating disorder (well, he was doing it as a way to regain control over his life so I guess it was more of a self harm kinda thing but whatever). Also a lot of men have been coming forward about their past sexual trauma with the whole Me Too thing, which is incredible for them to do. As annoying as it is that we often have to rely on public figures to reduce stigmas, I’m rly thankful for people like Zayn who are so open about it, esp in regards to toxic masculinity and hiding your emotions and feelings to seem more “manly” instead of getting help. Even as a girl, it made me feel a better about having anxiety seeing him be so open about it lol
Speaking of professionals not taking some illnesses seriously, I got sick in September and I went to the doctor (it was a children's doctor), and I told her I go to therapy for my chronic depression, severe anxiety, and paranoia, and being sick was making my paranoia a lot worse. I shit you not, she laughed in my face and started to mock me, saying "oh, what, you think someone's going to come get you?" A child's doctor mocking a patient she knows is being treated for mental illnesses. I still can't believe that happened.
lizium _ ikr. I tried telling someone that i was paranoid at 13 and she laughed at me. 5 years later and it turns out im schizophrenic. Why do people see paranoia as a joke
Sup I don't know but it really frustrates me. Others wouldn't like to be treated that way if they had paranoia or something out of the ordinary, so why do they treat us that way?
Being diagnosed with BPD was one of the hardest things I’ve had to experience. After hearing for years about how terrible and manipulative people with BPD are, and the high likelihood of suicide attempts, it really tore my world in two. I was diagnosed 2 years ago at 18, and I’m still struggling to reveal it to people in my life that I care about. None of my coworkers know, out of fear that it could endanger my job in some way, or make my work life more of a living hell than it already is. Just reading through these comments breaks my heart, to see how common these feelings are among other people suffering from borderline.
I really appreciate you bringing awareness to these disorders. I am diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and the way that it is stigmatized breaks my heart. I have people who think I am dangerous and unstable when they hear my diagnosis. They think I am going to hurt them, and it hurts so badly. I have never been a danger to anyone but myself and I just want to be able to get better and try to live a normal life.
Thanks for this. My Dad had schizophrenia and it was very difficult for him and our family. All of the stigma and false beliefs about the illness always overtook that actual facts as far as what other people believed about the illness. My neighbors brother also has schizophrenia. They own a farm and during the strawberry picking season when there are customers around they won’t even let him near where people are picking or paying. He is relegated to the back fields. It’s really sad because this man is one of the kindest, gentlest, most careful and friendly people that I have met. His brother, however, is horrible, verbally abuses him, and is constantly calling him stupid and swearing at him. Having schizophrenia definitely does not make a person a monster. It seems to bring out the monster in other people, though.
My mom's old boyfriend had skitzophrenia and he thought everyone was spying on him and going after him. I loved him so much and didn't know about it until a while after he jumped off a building. It just made me sad because I think my mom would be a far better person with him still around. But yeah, he was an amazing person and was NEVER violent and did a wonderful job taking care of us kids.
thank you for this video sarah! ive been diagnosed with bpd and ive experienced the professional stigma u talked about and i do believe its because im a teenager. my self harm was dismissed and no one actually believed i would ever be able to commit suicide, which just made me question myself even more. also, idk if its just me, but i can never relate with portrayals of bpd in the media, i feel like theyre blown way out of proportion
I was diagnosed with BPD this year. I was hospitalised three years ago when I was feeling suicidal after a breakup (and severe abuse from my family) and brought up that I believe I may have BPD to the doctors there and they refused to give it any thought. If they listened to me I would be years into treatment by now.
Also brought it to my GP and he pretty much told me he doesn’t ‘like’ or ‘believe’ in BPD as a diagnosis and wouldn’t even entertain referring me anywhere. I had no idea what referrals or specialists were, I just saw him as the end all be all and just retreated into myself. I isolated for years, dealing with dissociation, depression, anxiety, trauma, emptiness, self harm and anger for years. Nobody believed me or wanted to help me with this issue I was having. I believed I didn’t deserve help, which BPD often makes people feel guilt and ashamed for taking up space or existing. It really sucks. Thank you for reading, and thank you for making this video
When I was initially diagnosed with BPD I felt like I had to go. I had a daughter and truly believed from what I’d heard of BPD that it would be kinder to her for me to die than to force her to live with me. Even now, years later because I’ve always been told and heard that we’re manipulative I don’t feel like I can trust my own perception. I just wish that TV could show us as being anything else other than the evil manipulator who thinks the world centres around them. I also wish that I could vocalise my feelings without people literally telling me to my face “it’s fine, you’re just crazy”.
Love this video! I think another heavily stigmatized mental illness is OCD. I have a good friend who struggles with it, and people make annoying comments about him always wanting things to be "neat" "clean" etc. People don't understand that OCD does not equal "neat freak." Another one that is not necessarily stigmatized but that may be made fun of is trichotillomania, which I've dealt with on and off since I was 7. I've heard comments about how "weird" it is to pull out your own hair.
We need more videos like this on youtube (and they SHOULDN'T get demonetized). Thank you again!
I’m so glad to be alive in an era where mental health is acknowledged the way that it is. I can’t imagine suffering from any mental illness in the past when there weren’t even proper diagnoses if any. We have a lot of progress to make but it’s happening and compared to even as little as a few decades ago we have come a lonnnggggg way. And I can’t wait to see where we are a few decades from now. Hope everyone has a good day
It gives a lot of hope
I have bpd and I know other people who have it too so I've seen it from the inside and from the outside and it fills me with pure DREAD when I see people talking about it or see characters with it because I've seen so many people portraying us as derranged manipulative monsters, even killers because of bpd. i've seen therapists painting us as something people need to be protected from. and sometimes we are, like anyone else in the world who doesn't have bpd. but most of the time we are traumatized, vulnerable and susceptible to being victims of abuse and more trauma.
When I was in the hospital they told use that people with BPD where manipulative and evil ppl. I was just diagnosed with it and I left the group room and cried the entire day because I felt like I was a bad person bc of what I have
I really appreciate you and this video. I have bipolar disorder, in the past I was diagnosed as well with BPD -- I don't know if I really have it or not because difficult as the stigma is with bipolar, I felt it was even worse with BPD so I rejected the dx and don't even tell my current behavioral health doctors that anyone even mentioned it. With bipolar, I've had people assume I'm dangerous, which is so hurtful. The statistics are clear. The mentally ill are so much more likely to hurt themselves than other people. We aren't dangerous.
One thing I don't ever tell anyone is I had DID as a child and then a reemergence in adulthood. No one even realized I had it as a kid, they just thought I was playacting AND that I was troubled, I don't blame them for not putting it together. Then it "came out" again as an adult when apparently my brain decided it was time to try to deal with things again. All in all, with these varied experiences I've had, I would say stigma is not just detrimental to the mentally ill, but can be deadly, when it causes people to not seek treatment.
I even think it's time for a different term than mental illness. I think of my bipolar disorder as a brain disease, like Alzheimer's or dementia, it's something physical that is affecting the mind, emotions, etc. Anyway I'm sorry for babbling. You seem like such an empathetic and intelligent person and I really appreciate that you put this out there
I just wrote my first grad school paper about establishing trust with mentalization-based Group therapy treatment for people with bpd!! It was super interesting and I really hope I can better understand bpd throughout my schooling so that I can fight against the stigma. I have known a few people with it as well as I suspect others in my life may have had it, and it truly irritates me that bpd sufferers face such a significant stigma. I will say that the literature is promising and a lot of research is out there in favor of bpd treatment. :)
Quentin Styger I plan to do that in my internship but thanks for your input! Also as I stated I had people in my life with it.
I actually thought u wrote that paper in first grade and not first grad
Omg I would love to read it. I love reading stuff like that
It's so true that there are so many mental illnesses out there that people not only don't understand but won't even try to. I appreciate all the effort you put into your videos and how you speak so honestly about these illnesses. Thank you so much for fighting to end the stigma!
There is a difference between mood swings and bipolar. PERIODT
It would be cool if you did a video on social anxiety disorder and how people usually think that people with this disorder are: just being rude, going through a phase, just being emo, are just shy. I constantly get told that I am being so rude, when in reality, I’m trying my hardest to NOT come off that way.
i think eating disorders are also highly stigmatized. a lot of people out there think that eating disorders are a choice, or that you can "simply eat", when it is an actual DISORDER. i've seen comments like "oh i wish i was anorexic so i could loose weight", but eating disorders have the highest death rate of all mental illnesses, and the stigma makes it that it's shameful and selfish to even mention having one. they are often reduced to "tragic beauty" and it is terribly awful.
Being told you look fine and you shouldnt starve yourself or lol i binge eat too quirky wont help
Words like your pretty or learn some self comtrol fatty do nothing but hurt
also being bulimic isnt easy its painful to throw up food and abuse laxatives but its also addicting it becomes an obsession. Lets talk more about bulimia.
Sarah 🙌🏼 you’re a goddess.
I got diagnosed with BPD finally after 10 difficult years. I decided to share the diagnosis with my workplace and they twisted it and fired me a week later. I’ve learnt not to be excited to finally have a diagnosis, but to hide it away and I guess be ashamed. It’s easier to hide because of the stigma. Anyway, love this video. You described it so perfectly x
When I was dealing with suicidal thoughts and was hospitalized in the ER, I was sent to this one psychiatric center. They told me I wasn't "suicidal enough" and had me discharged. They would rather give beds to homeless people, not that I'm against them helping them, but I wanted to die so bad and they didn't believe me. I think it's great that they help out people who need it, but they lied to my social worker in the ER and promised me I would be given a bed there. It made me feel EVEN WORSE and more suicidal. Anyway they discharged me and I went to a different psychiatric center a couple days later and they admitted me there, because I was "suicidal enough".
Going back to your older mental health videos as I'm in my final semester of my undergrad in Psychology and all my classes went online because of the lockdown. These and other Personality Disorders and Dissociative Disorders are some of what I most want to study and help the people that struggle with these the most, if I ever become a psychologist and therapist. There is so much research that can be done on how these disorders come to be, the link of childhood trauma to the development, and so much more that I think is getting overlooked because of the stigma. Also, one of the most disturbing things that I learned that shook me to my core is how strong of a correlation there is to schizophrenia and homelessness. I don't remember the exact percent but it was shockingly high for the amount of people diagnosed that end up homeless, and after living places with large homeless populations I could see this and it was so heartbreaking.
You look so good Sarah!! Always look forward to your videos xxx
I was in a group home about a year ago, and they wanted to see Split. As someone with extreme anxiety, I watched something else (don't remember what it was). I told them they shouldn't see it. They ignored me and literally everyone in the group got triggered from past traumas they've had. We had to have a meeting so that the counselors could reinforce that they are available to talk to. I was holding back the urge to just tell them "I told you so"
I had one girlfriend I told about me being diagnosed with BPD. She was reading some book about relationships and codependency and it mentioned people with BPD having "toxic personalities" and to avoid them at all cost. She left me soon after that, though she said that wasn't the reason... I don't really tell people anymore.
Thank you for talking about DID. As someone diagnosed with it, the way media portrays it enrages me. Because of the stigma people get nervous or anxious even though there is no need to be. It makes dealing with it a lot harder and it has caused people to distance themselves from me. I hate it when I feel comfortable enough to open up about it to someone and the first thing they say is "oh like the movie split?".... so it means a lot to me that you took time to talk about it. :) also, love your videos!
I live for your hair 😍😍
I have a couple of friends who suffer from schizophrenia, and they both a functional people. I get upset over people who don't get their illness and stigmatize them.one is totally sweet and lovable. She one of my best friends. :) Very good Video, Sarah. I'm going to college (I'm 45) and I've been taking s lot of Psychology courses. I find these types of videos very interesting.
my mom had bpd and killed herself when i was 2 years old. i did hear a lot of stories about her (mostly neutral) but my grandma still speaks of her behavior in a derogatory way which is one of the reasons i no longer associate with her. it's so beyond disrespectful and disgusting. the stigma 100% had a play in this. to this day i am convinced there have been several instances of her having been in rlly awful situations with insensitive / careless ppl even just in my family and i feel so sorry she had to go through that.
Maybe your grandma has it, too?
@@ElanaVital83 no i'm pretty sure she just has a drinking problem and some severe alzheimers (grandma as in my dad's mother). my mom's mother died the same day as mom.
@@tiaralcu ugh...my grandma has Alzheimers too. She would say the worst things. My sympathies
I've believed for a long time that I have borderline personality disorder as I remember a lot of the symptoms of BPD going back to when I was young adult and trying to make friends and have relationships. Unfortunately where I live in New Zealand it is very difficult to get any kind of mental help because I'm mental health system has had so many budget cuts and there are simply not enough doctors psychologist nurses etc to go around. It is very hard to start and maintain healthy relationships with the mental issues that I currently have whether they are borderline or not.
My heart definitely goes out to everyone out there who believes that they know what the 'problem' is but is scared to seek treatment or have been on a waiting list for a very long time or has just had very bad experiences with doctors. There is someone out there that can help you and trust me you deserve to get help and you will them. Just keep going ❤
Thanks for covering DID! I also liked US of tara but not so much the last season. It's actually very common for alters to be different genders as well as ages, sexualities, accents etc. Most of us just have learned how to keep it on the down low when we need to to keep up safe from further bullying, stigma and abuse. On our youtube channel we are very open about who each of us are and how we are different however in everyday life we tend to be more low key about it unless with trusted friends.
My two main diagnoses are Borderline Personality Disorder (diagnosed just over 3 years ago) and Schizophrenia (diagnosed just this past year). So many aspects in this video resonated with me to the very core. I have to admit that when I was first diagnosed with BPD several years ago, I was in denial because I had developed so many assumptions about the disorder after having gone through a very abusive relationship with my slightly older sister who just happens to have the same diagnosis. She does happen to fit into many of the negative stereotypes surrounding BPD and so it took a very long time for me to come to terms with the fact that BPD (alongside basically every other mental illness) manifests differently in every single person. My BPD manifests in a very different way for a variety of reasons. While my sister and I grew up in the same household, we had very different upbringings and we experienced various other diagnoses that had an impact on our BPD. I am autistic and so aspects of my Aspergers did have an impact on my BPD to a degree. It has been a massive struggle to get decent professional support in my community/area since I was officially diagnosed with BPD. While there are massive and well-funded programs for people with depression, anxiety, and bipolar, the options for people with BPD are limited at best. As for the stigma towards BPD by professionals, I can definitely relate. A couple years ago I went through an intensive outpatient program that involved almost exclusively group therapy. At the end of every therapy session we would hand in our worksheets and we were always told that if we felt as if we were a danger to ourselves or others for whatever reason, all we had to do was sign the back of the worksheet and the issue would be addressed immediately. While I’ve been in recovery for a while now, I was actively self-harming at the time. On at least a dozen occasions I signed the back of my worksheet and was never once approached by any of the professionals running the program. Just recently I shared this information with a friend that I’d made through the program. She told me that she had gone through the same thing on several occasions too. It just so happened that we were also the only 2 people attending this program that had a personality disorder of BPD.
I’ve also been a very vocal advocate for mental health awareness. I don’t mind sharing my various struggles with mental health when appropriate. However, before I got engaged I found it so difficult to date because the second someone learned that I had BPD and Schizophrenia they would make hurtful assumptions without any basis in fact and would rarely even give a relationship a chance. The growing “MGTOW” (stands for Men Going Their Own Way) movement online is really adamant on shaming women with BPD and amplifying negative stereotypes.
Additionally, while the majority of online support forums that are specifically for people with BPD are positive spaces to explore, they have a reputation for being extremely toxic at times. My fiancé and my best friend both frequent support forums for bipolar type 2 and panic disorders and have rarely encountered anything negative. In contrast, I’ve stopped going to BPD support forums because of the visible conflicts and such.
Overall, I think the most important thing about the stigma around BPD is the fact that it pushes so many people to hesitate in reaching out for support, whether it be from friends, family, and especially professionals.
(Sorry that this comment is so lengthy…)
A tv show that actually addresses BPD in a pretty positive light is Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (title is misleading but it's meaning to be like ironic) in which the main character finds out that she has BPD in season 3. It's actually the beginning of her getting better, and she's not shunned or hated. It's quite a wacky show but I liked it 🤷♀️
The mental illnesses you discussed I knew of but didn't know much about so thank you for explaining it to me :) PLEASE DO A PART TWO !!! I would love to see a part two...
I always feel like my mental illnesses get brushed under the rug if I try and discuss it with someone because they always say "Oh I have that to" "Everybody goes through that,that's just life",laugh at me/sigh or try to make it seem like what I'm going through is less than.Its very frustrating & makes me feel so isolated & horrible about myself....I rarely talk about my mental illnesses to anyone but if I do just a tiny bit that's what happens...
I always love your videos, especially the ones that cover mental illnesses!
I have BPD and was misdiagnosed with bipolar type 2 for years before I finally saw a psychologist that specialized in BPD. No one would ever wanna treat me when I told them about my borderline symptoms. It was fucking horrible. But now after years of treatment I'm doing better. It's wild how much you'll improve the moment you get the right treatment for your illness. Thank you for making this video!
I dont know if gender dysphoria is still seen as a mental illness but from my experience, a lot of people don't really understand the concept of it. I hear a lot of stereotypes like "You will accept your body over time" or "Just get over it, it's not that bad" Many people don't even know it exists! I know that its not that stigmatisized as depression or anxiety but in my opinion its really important to bring near stuff like that to as many people as possible
A lady with a schizoaffective disorder but still trying my best✊ and THANK YOU so much for this, I was wondering why everyone was talking about the more commons one besides the fact it’s common... other people deserve that kind of support too and not judged. Some rude things that I’ve gotten from sharing my illness or even just either informing people who don’t know what it is and they don’t know I have it or just over hearing people talk about mental illnesses like these are “crazy”, “stupid”, “they do belong in a hospital”, “there’s nothing actually wrong with them”, “they do it for attention”, “it’s not that bad”, and just down talking them and belittling them as humans in general.
Mom: tell me what’s wrong with you. I am your mother and I deserve to know!
Child: *tells her everything *
Mom: You are just seeking attention!
thank you for talking about bpd!!! i have it and have faced the stigma and people not taking me seriously my entire life. i once started dating someone and once he found out i had bpd he told me he was scared to continue talking to me because his ex had bpd also and was very emotionally abusive and manipulative. its ridiculous to think that everyone with bpd is the same when some of us dont have certain symptoms of the disorder or are trying really hard NOT to be the stereotype. The worst part about it is people not taking it seriously at all when i tell them that i cant control my emotions or reactions to stressful or hurtful situations and always being told that im overreacting even though what i feel is very real and valid to me. i know when i am overreacting or having an extreme mood swing but there is nothing i can do to control how i feel, even though i try very hard not to be "crazy" or manipulative. its a difficult disorder to live with and as a long time watcher of your channel i thank you for not sweeping it aside or acting like we dont matter. i have a lot more i could say about bpd but i dont want to leave a wall of text in this comment so ill just say thank you again!! 💖
I was talking to my grandmother about my mental illness which is schizophrenia and she asked how many personalities do you have
bruh.
DID and schizophrenia are commonly confused and it is awful.
I was diagnosed with BPD three years ago. It was after many suicide attempts and one therapist told me that I was just doing all of it for attention. Not all therapists are like this, but the ones that are sure do make you feel bad. I see my past behavior as a cry for help that I wasn't getting. I was getting help but not the right kind and the people that were supposed to be helping me didn't seem to understand. I am glad it's behind me now and I am able to be understood by my close friends and even myself. I never thought I would live past that dark time in my life, but I'm so glad that I did. The stigma, however, still gets to me. Whenever I get close to someone new in my life, I get scared that they will run when I tell them about my BPD. I fear they will run because of the judgement placed on my illness. I'm learning that the ones that do stay and see me as a whole person and not just my illness are true friends.
I have ADHD and I’ve been diagnosed 3 weeks ago and for me it’s been a relief as I know I’m not crazy or “worthless” or stupid or careless.
I also have anxiety.
Moreover,most people think I have Bipolar disorder cause I’m a Gemini. I’m like “No I don’t. At least I’m not diagnosed and it’s actually very disrespectful for people who actually have Bipolar disorder to say that to me.”
I don’t really tell people I have ADHD and anxiety because you know...I have my reasons
I love these videos about mental health so much. Even though I've been diagnosed with illnesses since I was 12 years old, I realized that I still have some stigma against other illnesses - even my own. It's crazy, and I don't know why that is, but thank you so much for making me really realize this so I can change my way of thinking :')
Check out multiplicityandme on youtube. She does a phenomenal job at explaining dissociative identity disorder. Her whole system partakes in educating others. She has a play list called multiplicity and us full of other systems videos about DID.
YES! Jess & the guys are amazing!
How do you debunk a disorder like DID? You can choose to rabidly disbelieve a person has this disorder but how do you prove they are faking it? I have this disorder, it took me 6 months to even find a professional who was willing to do the testing to validate the presence of alternate personalities. I think anyone who would challenge a well documented individual like Jess needs to take a step back and take a good look at themselves, What purpose does it serve to try to prove someone who has already lived through more trauma as a child than most people experience in their entire life.
United States of Tara is one of my FAVORITE shows 👏🏽 thank you for making these videos.
I am a Borderline and I am NOT a monster! I'm a person with thoughts and feelings and I'm sick of people running from me when they find out
I have anxiety/panic disorder (been on meds for four years) and I had a very bad depression for several years and nobody took me seriously. Nobody. I couldn’t make them understand what I felt and how it made my life difficult. It feelt like i had to “prove” that i had this illness, that it’s not about “feeling nervous”, etc. To everyone, I was being just “weak” till my panic attacks got so bad I blacked out every time I had them. And people in my family only started to realize that i had a problem when i got hospitalized for the first time due to a panic attack. i think all mental illnesses are stigmatized beacause people always tend to overlook them or make you feel like it’s not a serious matter. At least here in Spain. You have to be quiet about having depression or anxiety because “everybody feels nervous and sad once in a while (words said to me by an actual doctor).
ADHD has a stigma: the stigma that it doesn't exist. And while it doesn't have a negative stigma in the way borderline has, this stigma actually really hurts too. Because you go through life justifying your own neurological illness, and when you need medication for studying you always always always hide it because people will judge you as someone who wants "a kick" for free, or who is "doping".
I'm glad you talked about DID. I am very close to someone with DID and can say it is very much a real thing, and they are the most beautiful people I will ever meet in my entire life.
I know it isn't an illness, but the amount of people that think ADHD is a joke kills me. I hate telling people I have because I'll usually get, "oh I must have it too because I hate homework and I get so distracted". They'll self-diagnose themselves thinking "distractibility" is what makes ADHD.
Then there's the other field where people roll their eyes thinking ADHD is an excuse made up by lazy people. It sucks and I wish people would just understand it's a kind of serious disorder.
I also have ADHD. I was diagnosed when I was about 10 years old (I'm 27 now) I have heard all of those things as well. When my mom would try to explain it to my teachers they would claim that I was just "being lazy" or "being a brat" or I just didn't want to do school work.
As an adult I have to work twice as hard to make sure my life is organized, that I don't allow for distractions when working and I have to remind myself to pay attention to the people around me. I have to remember to make eye contact, engage in conversations with people and I have to work extra hard in motivating myself. This also effects my ability to sleep and causes me anxiety and depression.
It's such a struggle to deal with and it's worse when you get older because then people like to say that it's only something kids get and "you grow out of it" which is just not true at all (I wish lol).
babeofoz yeah I wish I could grow out of it lol! Sounds like your situation is similar to mine, actually. I have to take my medication if I want to get anything done, and yet, people have the audacity to come to me say, "oh you're basically a crack addict. Those meds are related to cocaine, so you shouldn't take them". It's damned if your are and damned if you don't with ADHD.
With socializing it's really hard ,ecspecially when I'm tired. The minute someone says something it could be out of my mind so fast and then they get mad at me because they think I'm being rude and not listening. Forcing eye contact seems to help, but at the end of the day I'm so out of it and exhausted. This disorder isn't easy and "cute"
Emily Fries Yes I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD 3 weeks ago but for me it was the biggest relief as I don’t feel stupid or “careless” anymore. I am 15 almost 16 and I don’t really tell people about that(except my parents of course),because people have this misconception that if you have ADHD,depression,anxiety(I also have anxiety),Bipolar(I hear this word thrown around like it’s nothing a lot of times),Schizophrenia or anything you are less capable of success and you’ll end up doing nothing. But it’s not true. I mean I might have the worst focusing ever,but in things I am passionate I am really good. Like I’m a good makeup artist,I have good fashion sense,I am a good songwriter(because I also have HSP:-high sensitive personality) and I can capture emotions better that the average person and I am a good singer again cause I usually feel the songs.
I have BPD and ASPD traits, and I have to say my ASPD has received much more stigma. Anything that goes wrong, I’m given the blame, and I’d say ASPD traits are very difficult to treat because most of us don’t want to be treated. But overall, I’d say my BPD traits are far harder to live with, and my ex cut me out his life for a while when he found out I have it. Swings and roundabouts I guess. It’s a weird comorbidity to have because I can go from caring about something very much to not caring at all. But yeah, I’m glad you talked about it.