As an adopted child im so happy to see this content. I was adopted at the age of seven months and its the best feeling ever to know that you’re „tummy parent“ love you so much, that they choose to give u a better life. Selflessness! And when I see people like you who are ready to give someone like me a better life, it truly makes me believe in the good of people :) Can’t wait to see the video titled „ Our Baby is here“! Much love :)
Oh gosh I will sob when they bring home a baby. I don't think I've ever been so invested in a stranger's fertility or adoption but I'm so very very excited for you guys. I hope the approval comes through soon that's when it gets real. That's when the chances of those calls coming goes up a lot
yes also as an adopted child. i’m forever grateful my birth mom gave me a better chance at life. my mom feels like my mom just because i’m adopted doesn’t mean anything to us she loves me just as much and i’m grateful she was able to get me out of a situation that wasn’t the best. i’m adopted from another country so we don’t look alike. she’s white im hispanic so there is obviously a difference between us in looks and i’m so happy that non of that matters to us.
My parents adopted my youngest sister. I’ll never forget they had a special ringtone (it was a baby crying) for the birth mother. One day we were all sitting watching tv together, the phone rang, and since it was such a a distinct ringtone we all immediately started crying because we KNEW it was time!! So excited for you both to get “the call!”
I couldn’t stop crying as I watched this whole video. I’m just so happy for you guys. You did it😭 you are parents. You are PARENTS. You are going to raise a beautiful family. So much love to you both. Nothing but prayers and well wishes to you through this whole process❤️
As a birth mother, hearing how respectful you’ve been talking about your own future birth mother brings tears to my eyes. Giving up my baby girl was the #1 hardest most traumatic experience I have ever experienced. I can’t speak for all birth mothers but I’ve always felt that my job as her mother was to keep her safe and healthy, and I knew the only way I was going to be able to do that was to find her parents who would be able to care for her in all the ways I couldn’t. Any birth mother would be so blessed to have you guys care and love on their baby with the same intensity as them. I’m following along on the edge of my seat! Also just as a suggestion, I would urge you to think about providing mental health care for the birth parents if it’s not already provided my the adoption agency.
Amazing!!! God bless you for your decision. You have to be so strong and selfless! I pray you were able to find healing through it all too. Also, What a wonderful idea for mental healthcare for the birth parents too. ❤
I have more respect for you then you’ll ever know. You are really the best type of mom. Even though you were not in your daughter’s life you gave her the best life you possibly could. Really, you are amazing.
Intro - 0:00 Why did we end up choosing adoption? - 2:56 When did we start the adoption process? - 5:54 Have you found a baby yet? - 8:00 What age and what gender are we looking for? - 8:55 What race is your baby going to be? - 9:58 How soon could you be matched with a baby? - 11:00 How are you preparing for a baby? - 13:08 (Quick Question: Do you guys want to see a nursery tour? - 13:25) Are we doing a domestic or international adoption? - 14:34 Could you potentially get twin babies? - 15:33 Are you going to be doing more fertility treatments in the future? - 16:22 What bothers you the most with adoption? - 18:18 Are you going to tell your kid that they're adopted? - 20:34 hesitant
I’m an adoptive Mama and I can attest that the moment you set eyes on your baby...your heart grows so full. Adoption was how God planned to expand our family and I can’t imagine life without our daughter. I know you will feel that way too!
Hi Bella! I'm a lactation consultant and it is pretty awesome y'all are adopting a newborn, I just want you to tell you that you can nurse your baby thru a lactation induction, you won't have colostrum but your body can produce mature milk! You can look into it, it takes time but it all depends on the mom
I thought about this too!!! If she gets a pump and starts now she could be ready. Bella did mention on Matt and Abbie’s she wasn’t breastfeeding since it was an adopted baby and since they would get bottles Dallin could feed more and I thought well she could breastfeed! Maybe she will but either way is okay! ❤❤
@@emmafield9770 yes! Every feeding is good for our kids!I just mention that bc some of parents don't even know they have that opportunity as well, I haven't had time to hear that episode, I will, sending so much love!🤍
I am just over the moon excited for this new chapter in your lives. I couldn’t wait to get home from a 12hr shift so I could say congrats. I always knew from a very young age my calling was to be a mother with lots of kids. Being an only child, raised by a single mom was super lonely. My plan didn’t work out as I saw it in my mind and lost my middle Son to SIDS after a battling a life threatening auto immune disease, they believe was trigger by pregnancy hormones. We always wanted to adopt after that but never had the money it would take. I did go through another pregnancy but the disease cane back with a vengeance and a high risk for those two reasons. I literally though it was going to kill me. And they finally induced at 37 weeks. Even though I would do it all over again. I literally have nightmares about being pregnant. Not sure if this is even remotely helpful. The point I am trying to make is adoption would have been such an amazing gift and just so happy for you both!
I just wanna say I’m adopted with my twin sister from Russia & my parents went back 4 years later to adopt a boy who was from another Russian family. I now live in Florida and have been raised by them since I was 18 months. I’m 24 now & I couldn’t be more grateful. I’ve known my entire life that I was adopted, and my mom journaled through the entire process and I still have it to this day. Watching your process and your story has made me appreciate my family more than I ever did. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and willing to bring a loved baby into your home. It’s such a good feeling to be “chosen” and wanted so badly. ❤️
First off, I'm generally a silent viewer but I couldn't help but respond to this video. I have been watching y'all since C19 hit and I've stuck around through all of the content you posted. from pranks to the devastating news of infertility to finding out about your adoption. I have stayed around because you guys are soo inspirational!! you guys handled every high and low with hope and thankfulness. you guys deserve the world and every inch of happiness that this baby will bring you!! Next, I'm so excited for you guys!! I was adopted and as an adoptee I know personally that it will mean the world to your baby when he or she grows up to know that you documented your whole journey!! My parents documented my adoption and we have a tradition that every year on the day I was adopted we watch the videos so that they can relive that precious moment and so I can see what I don"t remember. You guys will be amazing parents and examples to the little baby that you will get bless!! and remember that everything is in God's Plan!
@@aubreyfb “I’m generally a silent watcher” did you get that part meaning she mostly just watches. 27 in how long? I can’t believe you had to write this on such a nice comment and great video. Shameful
As an adoptive parent - just wanted to share some things I’ve learned regarding language 😌 the more person centered name for the birth mother at THIS stage would be “expectant mom” as she is still in the process of making the decision to place her child. Additionally, a more appropriate phrase for “giving up” is “placing” or “placed the child.” Just thought I’d share what I learned ❤️
I’m just over joyed that y’all are adopting! Y’all will be the absolute best parents! Being a mom doesn’t always mean being pregnant for 9 months! God works in great ways!!
Maybe Gd was protecting her from something…we never know Gods plans. I’m truly happy for them! I feel like their meant to bring this baby into their home for whatever Gods reasoning and everything was happening to them so that they can bring this baby into their home. They’re gonna be great at this!!!
I highly recommend reading the book “The Primal Wound” so that you are completely prepared for what the experience is like for your baby. You will be amazing parents, I am sure. This will just help you to be even better. An adopted child has some special things you want to be aware of and prepared to work through.
I love when Bella said “things I would have taken for granted if I didn’t go through this journey.” We experienced 2+ years of infertility. And now I have a miracle 5 month old. Whenever he throws up on me or wakes me at 2 am or cries in the car, I just feel this overwhelming sense of “this is what I longed for.” It makes the worst days as a mom still feel like the best day ever. So happy for you guys! ♥️
I am sooo happy for you two! I adopted my 2 1/2 year old daughter at birth and she is the light of my life ❤️ After 10 years of infertility, 3 rounds of IVF and 2 miscarriages, our shooting star 💫 came to us out of the blue! I’m so freaking excited for you! This will be the best decision of your lives 😘
As a mother of two adopted children, I'd like to speak into this, if I may. First, I'm so, so happy for you! We also struggled with many years of infertility and loss and have walked the same road you're on. (Sometimes it just helps to know that someone else truly knows where you're coming from.) Second, I feel the need to address the idea that holding that baby in your arms for the first time is exactly like giving birth to them. For me, the reality was that it wasn't the same. Don't get me wrong, It was amazing and beautiful, but there wasn't an instant connection and it did take me awhile to develop entitlement and fully feel like he was mine. A lot of that was influenced by a birth family (not the birth mom herself) who wouldn't give us space so we could gel as a family. Because of this, I felt like I was babysitting long term, rather than being a mother. But we eventually stepped away from contact with the birth family for a time so we could form the proper attachments and then we resumed contact with just his birth mom. Today we have a GREAT relationship with his birth mom, she calls on me like I'm her big sister, and we can talk for hours. (Our son is now 22 years old.) The good news is that when we took that time and stepped away, we DID form those bonds and it BECAME the beautiful thing it was intended to be. Your experience my be exactly as your friends have described, but should you find yourself with the same sort if feelings I had, know that it's very normal and give yourself some grace and some time. And perhaps consider giving yourself some space by stepping away from the baby's birth mom/family for a bit to allow for that to happen. Because it will. It could possibly just take a bit. Third, our son is biracial (black/Hispanic, although he leans heavily toward the black side) and my husband and I are both very white. We didn't care if our baby's skin was the same color as ours either, but know that having a child of another ethnicity does come with some issues. Random people will stop you in the store and try to pry into your business and think it's ok to ask very personal questions. Sometimes I answered questions and sometimes I didn't, because it just wasn't any if their business. My favorite answer to give to the question, "Are you his real mom," was, "Oh yes, I'm not imaginary!" Every adoption journey is different and every story is unique. Both of our children's situations were different and they were each miraculously brought to us. We've done our very best to be the parents God has called us to be and we are SO VERY BLESSED to have our precious kids. We wouldn't trade them for anything in this world...even children born from our bodies...and we love them dearly and fiercely. May your journey be quick and the way be blessed.
Tips! -Stock up on diapers size N but mostly size 1 (babies grow out of size N within a month) -buy a thermometer -stock up on onesies and double zipper sleepers (they will have lots of pooping and pee accidents and the double zipper sleepers are so much easier to have specially at night) I’m so happy for you guys!!
As a child that was in foster care and then adopted I can’t express how excited I am for you both and your new child . Good luck to you because it won’t always be easy . You both seem like genuinely good people and soon to be parents . ❤️
My sister and I are both adopted, and I watched my mom struggle with infertility for years. I have also placed a child for adoption, and it was a great decision for that time in my life that I have never regretted. Knowing that I was giving a baby a better chance at a good life is a good feeling, and you will be that for your future child. You guys are going to be the most incredible parents, and I am so excited to watch your journey unfold❤
Bella talking about how she’s open to all races and how beautiful she thinks all races are made me tear up a little. as a black person, it’s not often you hear ppl outside your race speak positive about other races, in a world full of hate, & racism. y’all are literally gonna be the best parents ever and i can’t wait to see you with your baby❤️
I am from Poland, country which sometimes is soo racist (especially elderly people) and i think you black people are one of the prettiest people walking on Earth. So much love for you!! You are enough 🥺
I have seen white couples on social media who adopt children of other races and receive backlash from others for adopting a non white child and its not white people who are complaining its the people of other races who think its wrong. I don't understand it.
My niece was told she wasn't able to conceive...they adopted a baby girl. Well 10 months later they were the parents of two.! She gave birth to my great nephew! House was lively 😊 You never know guys!!!! So happy for you!!!!!
I’m so excited for you both! I was adopted at 7 months from Guatemala! I’m so appreciative of my adopted parents for giving me a better life here in the US rather than the rural area I was from in Latin America. Something I admired from this video was how you both said you’re going to raise the child to know about their culture and embrace it. I didn’t know much about Latin American culture as a kid which left me feeling very uncomfortable in who I was in many aspects simply because I didn’t understand. My birth mom was never really talked about and was referred to as “the lady” and all I know to this day about my bio dad is that he was from Mexico. As I got older, I decided to go on a self discovery journey and even learned Spanish and the rest of my culture. Most importantly I’ve learned to love my Hispanic heritage. So just hearing you guys say you’re gonna raise your kid from a young age to understand where they come from so they will be culturally aware and appreciate their roots from the very beginning was like music to my ears. That will seriously reduce identity crisis later on. U guys are going to be the best parents. 🤍
when dallin said he was most happy to see bella be happy at the end, i started tearing up bc that is honestly the most heartfelt thing he could have said and i love their relationship its so wholesome and their always putting each other first! so excited to meet your future baby and see you guys go through this journey :)
My baby sister is adopted. I love her just as much as my “bio” siblings. She’s a spoiled little redhead. We’re obsessed with her. Adoption completed our family. And it is BEAUTIFUL 😊❤️
I was adopted, and my parents gave me the oportunity of having a beautiful life ❤ Im 26 now, married, singing teacher, and getting close to have my own baby one of this days ❤ You are going to be BLESSED WITH THE BABY YOU WERE ALWAYS MEANT TO HAVE, AND YOU WILL BLESS THIS BABY'S LIFE ❤ Praise god for sending you this way ❤ Many many babies are born everyday who dont have a warm home or a loving Mother. You guys have all that ❤
Not me genuinely wishing I could start over with life and grow up as your kid 😭 Not in a weird way, but your lifestyle and home seems like my dream. You will both be such incredible parents, and with how you two love to travel, make memories, live on the farm, see the world, etc; your future kids will be living the absolute dream.
@@Thelastlazy your comment is basically bs. Can't you see that when people (in this case Dallin and Bella) want to adopt a baby, they want it SO BAD that they go through endless paper work, a lot of work with social worker etc., basically they do much more than "makes a baby". Didn't you watch this video? In every word you can hear excitement, joy and pure love for the upcoming baby and their birth mom. ❣️
My mother-in-law adopted her first two sons thinking she couldn't have children. Then had THREE more after naturally! My husband is the baby of the family. It's all in God's hands. Congrats! 🎉
It's like y'all have wanted to love on a kiddo for years and the love just keeps building up and you just want a kid to pour love out on! I feel that and pray this process goes smoothly ❤
Bella- I've been thinking this for the longest time, but didn't think it was appropriate to say yet. I think this a good time... You are already a FANTASTIC mom. One of the best. You are just searching for you baby, and thankfully you are so so close to having them. I went through 5.5 years of infertility and had my daughter 3 years ago, followed by 2 miscarriages and am halfway through this current pregnancy. Everytime I watch one of your videos, my baby kicks at the sound of your voice. You both will be amazing parents ❤ Congratulations
I’m adopted! I love seeing more and more creators be so open about their adoption journey. I grew up knowing I’m adopted but I never knew what the process was like. Keep doing what you love! I love watching you guys! ❤
I couldn’t stop smiling the entire video because I’m so so excited for you guys! My husband and I have lost 3 babies and are dealing with infertility as well and my eyes get so teary when I see how beautiful your journey is turning out to be! God bless your family! ♥️
The way that each of you talk about and to your future child is the most endearing sweetest thing ever. Such great parents already. I’m so excited for you guys and your future baby ❤
So happy for you! We went through infertility and I was heartbreaking at the time, but it was such a blessing. Infertility lead us to our son though adoption. I was in the delivery room when he was born, it was love at first sight. He is 15 and I can’t imagine life without him!
I'm literally crying right now... I'm so so SO excited for this new chapter in your lives; I can see in your eyes and how much you're reiterating that you're excited that you really really want this. I can't wait. Also, as an international adoptee: I was ridiculously lucky to have been adopted by my family. They chose to tell me that I was adopted at about 9 years old, and I could not be more grateful. They're some of the only people in my life that have ever been positive about being adopted. I get what you're saying, Bella, there's such a negative instant reaction to someone being adopted, for literally no reason. Like, I was literally abandoned as a baby, because of the one child policy in China, but compared to the alternatives; giving me to a family member, having an abortion, literally anything else, giving me up for adoption was them trying to give me the best chance at life. So it just drives me nuts when people apologize; like, don't! I'm so so happy, and my family and the love I have for them is the only thing that makes me feel ok with the facts that I don't know when I was born (my birthday was an educated guess), and I will probably never know who my biological family is. Like I'm already so happy, I'm so proud of the things I've accomplished, and I love my family so much; I wouldn't change a single thing. Sorry this was so long, but this is just something I've struggled with my entire life; I'll probably go my entire life without having been able to fully process what being adopted means, but I know I have the best family and the best friend in the world who support me, and don't see it as a negative thing
In general, adoption is just a topic that is never really talked about, unless it's within a group of people in which at least one person was adopted, or is adopting, or has adopted. It's kinda irritating, because it feels like it's becoming more revealed to others through social media, but idk. It's complicated, but it needs to be talked about more
I've had 4 beautiful babies and our family is complete but I'm sitting here wishing I could have a baby for you. Any child would be so lucky to have you guys as parents. I know you will have a baby in your arms this year.
“Not bone of my bone or flesh of my flesh…never forget for a moment….you weren’t created under my heart, but in it.”This was the words my 2 grown adopted sons heard growing up. Ours were newborn babies, now grown adult gentlemen who have made us garndparents. Its a good life. We never had an adoption talk….we told them their story every night as infants until we no longer tucked them in and used the word adopted so that they always knew. It’s their story, they need to know. I am so happy you finally found your way to adoption❤️
I just want to mention that I’m an adopted child!! I was a newborn when I was adopted! I feel so blessed with the parents I have! I can see that the baby that will have you as Parents will be the Most Blessed child!! 😁
This may sound stupid but so many times when I watched your videos, in my gut, I felt like God was setting you up to adopt. He knows you will be the most amazing parents. He knows his babies need parents like y’all. He has prepared y’all since day one and gave you this journey for a reason. I look forward to your next journey.
Hi, my name is Joselin. I was adopted at 3 years old and I am so blessed with an amazing family. My parents are my hero and I wouldn’t be the person I am today without them. You guys are going to change a child's life and I know you guys will be amazing parents. There are kids out there every day that needs a home. God Bless You❤
As someone who suffered recurrent pregnancy loss it is so admirable to see someone take on adoption with the hope and joy you guys do! I do not want to scare you guys (you probably won't even see this ,and some of it may be money) but I have a friend who's been waiting for 3 years on a baby through adoption. I hope it goes quicker than that for everyone looking to adopt, but it happens. Praying for your future baby and all those looking for their future babies!
After a couple years of infertility I did get pregnant….for me, I was so excited and emotional all the time….I remember the hearing their cries in the middle of the night and getting SO excited to be awakened by BABIES!! I’m so excited for you guys! Enjoy the journey!!
I’m an adoptive adult, I love watching people on their adoption journey it’s makes my heart melt ❤ I was an international adoption and the process took over around 2 years . In the Uk international adoption isn’t common . I was told I was adopted from a young age and again and again until I could fully understand it ❤
You two are going to be just the BEST parents ever... a house full of love you have to offer, and that you will be able to adopt a child that may not have the opportunities in life you can provide for them is just a wonderful thought. I wish you could get a set of twins...wouldn't that be fun. You both could change, feed, and bathe in shifts lol...personally, I know this is such an act of love for the mother giving up the child knowing they for a number of reasons may not be able to take care of or provide a good home for their child..and what an act of love to feel their baby has a better life and to be so brave and while I can imagine the heartache the mother may go through, there is a peace of mind knowing a couple who can provide not only a loving home, but have prayed for a child and through such an act of love...allows her child to have the best opportunity's to be so loved and wanted that is such an act of love. While my deepest appreciation and love goes out to the birth mother, I can't help but celebrate what a loving home the baby is destined to arrive at your house and your loving arms. Thanks for being what I know you will be, a great mother and Daddy. You two will be just the best parents EVER. I am so excited for you, as the stork begins his journey to arrive any time at your house.
So excited for you both 🎉 We adopted two 4 year Old’s and they are now 26 & 23. Our adopted was closed for each child. Both kids new they were adopted and we let them meet their biological families. You both are going to do wonderfully being parents. It’s the best feeling to love a sweet child no matter of their age when you get them
Bella talking about having a baby shower definitely got me teary eyed. And then when dallin was explaining what he's most excited for🥹 I can't wait to watch this journey! And I completely understand what you mean when you say you don't think you would have been grateful for all the small things had you not gone through infertility. I had a miscarriage before my daughter and while it was absolutely horrible and pregnancy after loss was so mentally exhausting, it truly made me appreciate EVERYTHING. I was never angry waking up in the middle of the night for feedings or diaper changes. I was always so thankful. And still am. It truly changes your mindset once you've had hardship. So excited for you guys❤️
My parents never told me I was adopted. And it was really hard when I found out my entire life was a lie. I'm so glad you will be honest to your kid. Trust me being honest is important. You will be great parents
I just think it would be so amazing if you guys were given twins like Bella mentioned when describing the nursery for your house tour I believe! But I’m so excited for you guys and your new journey! You can really tell how excited and genuine you guys are and how happy you are now! It makes me cry because I’m so happy for you guys!
I am a silent follower but had to say I am so excited for you and am praying for God’s perfect timing. I’ve been around for a while and have cheered for you, cried for you, and been so hopeful for you along the way. As a human being but also as a social worker, I wish there were more people like you.. not only because you are so open and willing to love on anyone’s baby, but that you will be respectful to Baby’s story AND the birth mother is incredible and so so important for everyone involved. Much love and blessings for you and your future children. ❤
You can see the pure joy and happiness in y'all eyes and on your faces. I'm so happy for y'all. Y'all are going to be great parents. The baby that does get adopted by y'all will be so very blessed, loved, lucky. Congratulations you two 🎉. Will b here to watch y'all's beautiful journey 😊
My heart is bursting with joy for you guys! I almost cried hearing Bella talk about being a mama. Y’all’s story reminds me of Brittany dawn (TH-camr) I remember her video announcing they were going to foster (they also considered adoption) she said she was at church when the pastor said “I feel like some of you are putting adoption or foster as a second option when God is wanting it to be your first”, and so they pursued foster all the while never giving up on their dream to conceive themselves, too!
If you guys would consider an open adoption that would be awesome! It is really beneficial to the child and the birth family! I am a birth mom and my daughter is 6 now, I’ve been a huge part of her life, and so is my family, her adoptive parents include me as family, it’s been a really beautiful experience. My daughter never had to lose me or feel rejected, she just has extra people that love her.
@@chichioko1446 great question:) My ex and I had an unplanned pregnancy and he decided he didn’t want to be a father and left. I became a single mother and in struggled with severe postpartum depression.(hard to explain to those who haven’t experienced it, but it can cause you to not feel bonded with your baby, which creates extreme guilt, on top of just being severely depressed and having suicidal thoughts. It’s often due to hormonal shifts post pregnancy but there is no way to know if you are going to experience it, it can be genetic.) on top of the postpartum depression, I was working 10 hour days, struggling to stay afloat financially, while being extremely sleep deprived with a young baby, I was not doing well. At the end of the day, I felt like I had nothing left and I was not able to give my daughter the best of me and everything I felt she deserved. I loved her, but it was hard to show her that emotionally at the time and give her the time and attention I felt she deserved. I also felt it was really important to have a father which was something I couldn’t give her. I met a couple through church when she was one and a half and things just fell into place. I knew they could give her everything I couldn’t and i could still be involved so she would always know how much I love her. They had the financial stability for the father to be a stay at home dad with her, and she could have that father relationship I always wanted for her, and he absolutely thinks the world of her. They provided her with love and stability and are awesome parents to her and I get to be included as family as her “tummy mommy” as she calls me, which is a blessing. I am a huge part of her life which will hopefully prevent that resentment that can come up with adoption. I am there and will be there her whole life, to remind her how much I love her(even though this was the hardest and most painful decision of my life and took 2 years of hard grieving for it to become more bearable, I really do think it was the best thing for her) and if she does have resentment in the future, that’s ok, those feelings are valid and I would be there to talk and listen to her feelings. Sorry for the long response:)
I was adopted at 5 months and it's such an amazing feeling to know that you were given a chance for the best life possible. I'm so very grateful every day for the great life I have! It's so great following your journey! You are going to be such amazing parents and your baby will be so loved!! I'm so happy for you! Thanks for sharing your experience with us! :)
Dallin, please don’t apologise for your honesty. You’ve spent years dreaming of your birth child and fighting for that outcome - it can take time to pivot to the new reality… but you’re there now and that’s all that matters! You’re going to be a wonderful father and you and Della are going to gift love, family, companionship, hope and a happy future to a child who would not have had those things without this adoption. I’m delighted for you both. We can’t wait to meet the newest member of your family! x
I am so very very very happy for you guys! I don’t know anyone that deserves this more than you two, and I can’t wait to see your journey and dreams come true! ❤❤
Love this for you guys! I was placed in my forever home almost 20 years ago, in 2005, and they adopted us in 2009. Adoption is such a great thing and with my story I want to adopt as well and it was one of my moral “standards” before I met the man I married. I casually brought it up while we were talking with no explanation and he said “if I had the chance to I wouldn’t turn it down” that minute I knew. But now here we are 4 years later married for almost 6months and we are getting ready for the next chapter of our lives. We want to wait a little bit but hopefully one day we will be in the same boat to adopt 🎉
I was adopted at birth, and watching how excited over this topic I nearly broke into tears! You guys are such an inspiration and I am so excited to watch your amazing journey unfold!❤❤❤
On the comment about being ready to be a mom & dad... I have to say, I'll never forget watching Dallon at TG convention, jumping rope with the little girls. It was the sweetest moment. I found out about my breast cancer 2 days before convention, and was over-emotional those 4 days.. and my heart literally melted watching Dallon trying to jump his tall-ass self under that rope! 😅😂❤❤❤ I told him he's gonna be the best dad! He laughed and said, "I hope so..I can't wait!" So excited for you both. ❤ Watching you grow up the past 11 years Bella, even looking in from the outside of Origami Owl/Think Goodness, and being a part of the journey with all of you, has been such an integral part of peace in life. Being able to share so many meaningful, amazing stories and products in the lives in my world, and being a part of this community... Yeah, makes it like watching my neice! Hugs to you both!
as an adopted child. i’m forever grateful my birth mom gave me a better chance at life. my mom feels like my mom just because i’m adopted doesn’t mean anything to us she loves me just as much and i’m grateful she was able to get me out of a situation that wasn’t the best. i’m adopted from another country so we don’t look alike. she’s white im hispanic so there is obviously a difference between us in looks and i’m so happy that non of that matters to us because we love eachother no different. it’s not blood that creates family it’s love. i wish you guys the best of luck. you’re gonna be amazing parents
Look into the church adoption services. You usually always get a newborn and so many LDS babies that need to be adopted. Wish we could have adopted but we just made the decision not too. We struggled with infertility since 2005 and i had my last miscarriage in 2018 and at that point we decided a hysterectomy was the best option. You are very lucky. Babies, children and pregnancy is a MAJOR trigger in my life. Breaks my heart but due to so much heartbreak and many rivers and lakes of tears is what it is. Congrats you guys! SO happy for you.
Not a long time subscriber, however the love that radiates from you both and towards one another is so beautiful. I feel such joy for you both and I pray Heavenly Father puts you in the right direction of expanding your family. If anyone deserves a sweet bundle of joy, it's you guys. Fingers crossed for you to hold your baby soon.
I was adopted at three days old and my sister was adopted at ten months old when I turned two. I will say being adopted has its ups and downs but I look back now as an adult to the parents that raised me and I can't thank them for the life they have given me. I found out when I was six and was able to contact my birthmother when I was 18 but I wasn't ready at the time. It took me almost three years to contact her after my 18th birthday where "Facebook" helped me find her and we chatted and connected instantly. She had always wanted to meet me but waited until I was ready. The first day I met my birthmother was my wedding day. Yes, I did say my wedding day - I don't recommend it to emotions all in one day. My parents couldn't have kids and they tried countless times - its always an option. I wish some mothers wouldn't abort but I understand there might be reasons behind it. I will say some days I regret meeting her because I found out I have three half brothers from different dads and a half sister who is older by a year than me. I was the only given up and it hurts but the life I'm living with the help from my parents wouldn't compare to the life I would be living with her. I did ask a lot of questions don't be afraid to answer them. When the time is right you will know and so will he or she. I was found in a newspaper so anything is possible. Think positive.
I think it’s super important to tell your kid that they are adopted and also to emphasis that “you’re not adopted because you are not loved, you are adopted because we love you so much more than anyone ever could!” And share with them the reasons behind why they were adopted and why the birth parents decided to put them up for adoption (if you know that)
You two will truly be the best parents. I’ve never seen two people so ready, so loving, and so deserving. That is one lucky baby. I hope you find him/her soon 💗
My friend got pregnant after 10 years of unexplained infertility recently. She said she held onto her faith with god and never stopped trying even when she lost hope. Miracles happen in mysterious ways. This is very exciting ❤ found your page after matt&abby podcast and you reminded me of my friend. This baby is luckiest they are going to be most loved🤍 God tests the ones who is close to him to see if we lose our faith in him. Hold onto the Lord❤️
It’s refreshing to see TH-camrs that want to protect their baby and not exploit and monetize them for views. Thank you for that! Some influencers post too much about their kids and it’s not okay
Just stopping in to let you know I am a silent follower. I was watching the unplanned podcast episode with you guys in it. I know you touched on people like myself being kind of silent cheerleaders if you will. I know this is gonna be an amazing journey for you guys. Don't listen to anyone who wants to hate, they are not important to your story. Im always here silently rooting you on ❤
As a child who was adopted at the age 6 i totally find it amazing that you guys are adopting.... my parents are star foster parents as well and we have opened our home to many different children and my parents are the best. Kids are the best and my parents know it especially right now when we have a total of 9 kids ranging from ages 19years old to the youngest being 4 years old. So happy for you too and hope for the best for both of you..
So excited for you guys!! Just curious if you guys ever considered/heard of embryo adoption? I have some friends who are planning to do that and I was just wondering if you all have heard of that. Praying for you all through this process!❤
Things y’all got right: Birth mother is queen! Speaking love towards their tummy mommy is beautiful and healthy. That was a brave mommy who loved their baby! Open to all races but no color blind BS! Race and culture are real, and j love your humility - you’ll learn where need be! Telling child they’ve been adopted since day one. You have been called to do this and you said yes. This is so beautiful! - Simcha from Israel!
As an adoptee that was chosen the day after being born I love seeing the start of your journey. As someone thats been suffering from infertility for 3 years, I sincerely appreciate your vulnerability in your journey and normalizing the process.
I hope you walk through this chapter fully informed in the trauma around adoption. Birth moms are often left traumatized when choosing adoption. I hope all involved are left feeling okay. Best wishes.
As a birth mother with a open adoption and worked in a adoption center yes that can be the case but there is healing. And I saw their interview with Matt & Abby's podcast and they mentioned how they already care for the birth mom and they want to help her and give her the best. So I'm grateful they mentioned that.
It's a little bit different when you go through an agency because these women or girls have had time to think and process before choosing a family. Of course it hurts I can't even fathom doing it but there are people who do for the better life of their child and I don't think that they could ask for a better life than with these two
In other words I'm glad they are considerate of the birth mother even this early on in their process regardless of where she is now because I always hated selfish adoptees who just wanted a baby and could care less about the birth mother. It was a red flag to me when I worked or came across selfish adoptees. As a birth mother you're being 100% selfless by putting your own wants and feelings aside for the better and well being of your child so for adoptees we expect them to be selfless too.
Im rarely comenting here, but guys i am so happy and excited cause of you. I couldnt stay silent after i watched this video. You guys deserving the world!!!! ❤❤❤ i never seen someone in my entire life who is more ready for baby and who deserves more baby than you!! And not olny one baby, but a lot of babies. You guys are made to be a parents for a lot of babies. Kids who will be adopted by you are going to be the best people in the future and on that way world is changing on better. So happy to see people like you having a baby, that is the best thing what could happen litteraly🎉❤🎉❤🎉
I was adopted with my two brothers by my foster family, they have always told us we were adopted and it was just a part of who we were and our lives. We celebrated our adoption day every year, they were always very honest about who our birth family was, why we were removed from the home, nothing was ever hidden, the more dire information we were told later when older but I’ve always been grateful to know. Especially in the older years where I was curious to know if those things were true and wanting to know about them more. Though the truth was hard to take, I am so grateful I knew about it and they kept everything so we could see the process and what occurred ourselves from the court documents. I love when people adopt cause it’s such a beautiful thing. I’m so excited for you both and know you will be amazing parents.
I've been crying on and off ever since the reveal! I'm so happy for you guys, you are literally going to be saving a life by adopting, this is just so beautiful, I have to stop typing now because I'm crying again. ❤❤❤
I was adopted from Kazakhstan in Asia at about 6 months old ! Aswell as my brother, and we are not biologically related ! Hearing this news that you guys are choosing to adopt is great stuff because honestly, many cases of adoption are only existing because the mother wants a better life that she wouldn’t be able to provide herself to the baby (lack of finance, drugs/alcohol abuse/physically abusing household that wouldn’t be safe for a newborn) I’m so excited for you guys and your future !! You guys are also so right when you say adopting is equally beautiful and special as giving birth yourself. Excited to follow along your wonderful journey
One of my friends parents struggled with infertility for years. They adopted their first, did IVF a few years later and got pregnant with twins - then within the first year of the twins life they got pregnant naturally . Anything is possible! Wishing you and your family all the best ❤
I really loved the moment when he put his hand on your lap after you said he’d be the best dad in the world. The look he made towards you honestly makes me want to cry because I feel like I can see how much he loves you and wants to have a family with you. You guys make each other feel so special to each other and it’s amazing I feel like you guys will be wonderful parents please be happy for the rest of your lives you deserve it
This is such a beautiful story ...as someone who was in a care home as a child this fills my heart with immense joy ❤❤😊 you both are truly a huge blessing to both baby and birth mother ❤❤❤❤
As an adopted child im so happy to see this content. I was adopted at the age of seven months and its the best feeling ever to know that you’re „tummy parent“ love you so much, that they choose to give u a better life. Selflessness! And when I see people like you who are ready to give someone like me a better life, it truly makes me believe in the good of people :) Can’t wait to see the video titled „ Our Baby is here“! Much love :)
Oh gosh I will sob when they bring home a baby. I don't think I've ever been so invested in a stranger's fertility or adoption but I'm so very very excited for you guys. I hope the approval comes through soon that's when it gets real. That's when the chances of those calls coming goes up a lot
yes also as an adopted child. i’m forever grateful my birth mom gave me a better chance at life. my mom feels like my mom just because i’m adopted doesn’t mean anything to us she loves me just as much and i’m grateful she was able to get me out of a situation that wasn’t the best. i’m adopted from another country so we don’t look alike. she’s white im hispanic so there is obviously a difference between us in looks and i’m so happy that non of that matters to us.
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Much love to you to❤
My parents adopted my youngest sister. I’ll never forget they had a special ringtone (it was a baby crying) for the birth mother. One day we were all sitting watching tv together, the phone rang, and since it was such a a distinct ringtone we all immediately started crying because we KNEW it was time!! So excited for you both to get “the call!”
Oh heck that is exactly what you need to do you need a special ringtone
I cried a little
Wow! I love this comment. I was blessed to adopted a baby and continue to be blessed with my amazing Child.
I couldn’t stop crying as I watched this whole video. I’m just so happy for you guys. You did it😭 you are parents. You are PARENTS. You are going to raise a beautiful family. So much love to you both. Nothing but prayers and well wishes to you through this whole process❤️
Mallory...this is such a special story...thanks for sharing. I agree with Jenni...that is what they need to do!
I'm not being shady to other TH-cam young families, but, you guys seem the most mature and taking parenthood seriously is just beautiful to watch.
For sure! They are old souls ❤
And they seem like the type to not overly film their baby for content
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@@cookiebox6077 Hopefully
Yessss!! So agree! 💛
As a birth mother, hearing how respectful you’ve been talking about your own future birth mother brings tears to my eyes. Giving up my baby girl was the #1 hardest most traumatic experience I have ever experienced. I can’t speak for all birth mothers but I’ve always felt that my job as her mother was to keep her safe and healthy, and I knew the only way I was going to be able to do that was to find her parents who would be able to care for her in all the ways I couldn’t. Any birth mother would be so blessed to have you guys care and love on their baby with the same intensity as them. I’m following along on the edge of my seat!
Also just as a suggestion, I would urge you to think about providing mental health care for the birth parents if it’s not already provided my the adoption agency.
This is an incredible idea!
You’re an incredibly selfless birth mother! ❤️
Amazing!!! God bless you for your decision. You have to be so strong and selfless! I pray you were able to find healing through it all too.
Also, What a wonderful idea for mental healthcare for the birth parents too. ❤
I have more respect for you then you’ll ever know. You are really the best type of mom. Even though you were not in your daughter’s life you gave her the best life you possibly could. Really, you are amazing.
Intro - 0:00
Why did we end up choosing adoption? - 2:56
When did we start the adoption process? - 5:54
Have you found a baby yet? - 8:00
What age and what gender are we looking for? - 8:55
What race is your baby going to be? - 9:58
How soon could you be matched with a baby? - 11:00
How are you preparing for a baby? - 13:08
(Quick Question: Do you guys want to see a nursery tour? - 13:25)
Are we doing a domestic or international adoption? - 14:34
Could you potentially get twin babies? - 15:33
Are you going to be doing more fertility treatments in the future? - 16:22
What bothers you the most with adoption? - 18:18
Are you going to tell your kid that they're adopted? - 20:34
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Thanks so much ❤
THANK YOU! :)
you are a real one! thank you for this
Thank you
Thanks !!
I’m an adoptive Mama and I can attest that the moment you set eyes on your baby...your heart grows so full. Adoption was how God planned to expand our family and I can’t imagine life without our daughter. I know you will feel that way too!
what a lovely message 💖
Hi Bella! I'm a lactation consultant and it is pretty awesome y'all are adopting a newborn, I just want you to tell you that you can nurse your baby thru a lactation induction, you won't have colostrum but your body can produce mature milk! You can look into it, it takes time but it all depends on the mom
I thought about this too!!! If she gets a pump and starts now she could be ready. Bella did mention on Matt and Abbie’s she wasn’t breastfeeding since it was an adopted baby and since they would get bottles Dallin could feed more and I thought well she could breastfeed! Maybe she will but either way is okay! ❤❤
@@emmafield9770 yes! Every feeding is good for our kids!I just mention that bc some of parents don't even know they have that opportunity as well, I haven't had time to hear that episode, I will, sending so much love!🤍
Yes! I knew a family that adopted all three of their kids and the mom was able to breast feed each one! She loved it!
I am just over the moon excited for this new chapter in your lives. I couldn’t wait to get home from a 12hr shift so I could say congrats. I always knew from a very young age my calling was to be a mother with lots of kids. Being an only child, raised by a single mom was super lonely. My plan didn’t work out as I saw it in my mind and lost my middle Son to SIDS after a battling a life threatening auto immune disease, they believe was trigger by pregnancy hormones. We always wanted to adopt after that but never had the money it would take. I did go through another pregnancy but the disease cane back with a vengeance and a high risk for those two reasons. I literally though it was going to kill me. And they finally induced at 37 weeks. Even though I would do it all over again. I literally have nightmares about being pregnant. Not sure if this is even remotely helpful. The point I am trying to make is adoption would have been such an amazing gift and just so happy for you both!
Yes to this!!
I just wanna say I’m adopted with my twin sister from Russia & my parents went back 4 years later to adopt a boy who was from another Russian family. I now live in Florida and have been raised by them since I was 18 months. I’m 24 now & I couldn’t be more grateful. I’ve known my entire life that I was adopted, and my mom journaled through the entire process and I still have it to this day. Watching your process and your story has made me appreciate my family more than I ever did. Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and willing to bring a loved baby into your home. It’s such a good feeling to be “chosen” and wanted so badly. ❤️
First off, I'm generally a silent viewer but I couldn't help but respond to this video. I have been watching y'all since C19 hit and I've stuck around through all of the content you posted. from pranks to the devastating news of infertility to finding out about your adoption. I have stayed around because you guys are soo inspirational!! you guys handled every high and low with hope and thankfulness. you guys deserve the world and every inch of happiness that this baby will bring you!! Next, I'm so excited for you guys!! I was adopted and as an adoptee I know personally that it will mean the world to your baby when he or she grows up to know that you documented your whole journey!! My parents documented my adoption and we have a tradition that every year on the day I was adopted we watch the videos so that they can relive that precious moment and so I can see what I don"t remember. You guys will be amazing parents and examples to the little baby that you will get bless!! and remember that everything is in God's Plan!
“A silent viewer” - has 27 comments lol
@@aubreyfb “I’m generally a silent watcher” did you get that part meaning she mostly just watches. 27 in how long? I can’t believe you had to write this on such a nice comment and great video. Shameful
Thank you "silent viewer" you are amazing!! ❤️ Dallin and Bella are SO fortunate.
@@aubreyfb they have 1,000 videos, 27 comments isn’t anything. 🤦🏽♀️😂
@@aubreyfb go away.
As an adoptive parent - just wanted to share some things I’ve learned regarding language 😌 the more person centered name for the birth mother at THIS stage would be “expectant mom” as she is still in the process of making the decision to place her child.
Additionally, a more appropriate phrase for “giving up” is “placing” or “placed the child.”
Just thought I’d share what I learned ❤️
I’m just over joyed that y’all are adopting! Y’all will be the absolute best parents! Being a mom doesn’t always mean being pregnant for 9 months! God works in great ways!!
Maybe Gd was protecting her from something…we never know Gods plans. I’m truly happy for them! I feel like their meant to bring this baby into their home for whatever Gods reasoning and everything was happening to them so that they can bring this baby into their home. They’re gonna be great at this!!!
@@Musicgirl708 AMEN SISTER ❤️
A mantra that I absolutely love is: “Biology doesn’t make you family. Love does” That is the beauty of adoption ❤ 😘
I highly recommend reading the book “The Primal Wound” so that you are completely prepared for what the experience is like for your baby. You will be amazing parents, I am sure. This will just help you to be even better. An adopted child has some special things you want to be aware of and prepared to work through.
I love when Bella said “things I would have taken for granted if I didn’t go through this journey.” We experienced 2+ years of infertility. And now I have a miracle 5 month old. Whenever he throws up on me or wakes me at 2 am or cries in the car, I just feel this overwhelming sense of “this is what I longed for.” It makes the worst days as a mom still feel like the best day ever. So happy for you guys! ♥️
I am sooo happy for you two! I adopted my 2 1/2 year old daughter at birth and she is the light of my life ❤️ After 10 years of infertility, 3 rounds of IVF and 2 miscarriages, our shooting star 💫 came to us out of the blue! I’m so freaking excited for you! This will be the best decision of your lives 😘
As a mother of two adopted children, I'd like to speak into this, if I may.
First, I'm so, so happy for you! We also struggled with many years of infertility and loss and have walked the same road you're on. (Sometimes it just helps to know that someone else truly knows where you're coming from.)
Second, I feel the need to address the idea that holding that baby in your arms for the first time is exactly like giving birth to them. For me, the reality was that it wasn't the same. Don't get me wrong, It was amazing and beautiful, but there wasn't an instant connection and it did take me awhile to develop entitlement and fully feel like he was mine. A lot of that was influenced by a birth family (not the birth mom herself) who wouldn't give us space so we could gel as a family. Because of this, I felt like I was babysitting long term, rather than being a mother. But we eventually stepped away from contact with the birth family for a time so we could form the proper attachments and then we resumed contact with just his birth mom. Today we have a GREAT relationship with his birth mom, she calls on me like I'm her big sister, and we can talk for hours. (Our son is now 22 years old.) The good news is that when we took that time and stepped away, we DID form those bonds and it BECAME the beautiful thing it was intended to be. Your experience my be exactly as your friends have described, but should you find yourself with the same sort if feelings I had, know that it's very normal
and give yourself some grace and some time. And perhaps consider giving yourself some space by stepping away from the baby's birth mom/family for a bit to allow for that to happen. Because it will. It could possibly just take a bit.
Third, our son is biracial (black/Hispanic, although he leans heavily toward the black side) and my husband and I are both very white. We didn't care if our baby's skin was the same color as ours either, but know that having a child of another ethnicity does come with some issues. Random people will stop you in the store and try to pry into your business and think it's ok to ask very personal questions. Sometimes I answered questions and sometimes I didn't, because it just wasn't any if their business. My favorite answer to give to the question, "Are you his real mom," was, "Oh yes, I'm not imaginary!"
Every adoption journey is different and every story is unique. Both of our children's situations were different and they were each miraculously brought to us. We've done our very best to be the parents God has called us to be and we are SO VERY BLESSED to have our precious kids. We wouldn't trade them for anything in this world...even children born from our bodies...and we love them dearly and fiercely.
May your journey be quick and the way be blessed.
Tips!
-Stock up on diapers size N but mostly size 1 (babies grow out of size N within a month)
-buy a thermometer
-stock up on onesies and double zipper sleepers (they will have lots of pooping and pee accidents and the double zipper sleepers are so much easier to have specially at night)
I’m so happy for you guys!!
Great tips!!!
Stock up on all diapers lol my son grew so fast. He was in size 3 in no time!!!
Skip newborn, they outgrow them in a week and size one works
As a child that was in foster care and then adopted I can’t express how excited I am for you both and your new child . Good luck to you because it won’t always be easy . You both seem like genuinely good people and soon to be parents . ❤️
My sister and I are both adopted, and I watched my mom struggle with infertility for years. I have also placed a child for adoption, and it was a great decision for that time in my life that I have never regretted. Knowing that I was giving a baby a better chance at a good life is a good feeling, and you will be that for your future child. You guys are going to be the most incredible parents, and I am so excited to watch your journey unfold❤
Bella talking about how she’s open to all races and how beautiful she thinks all races are made me tear up a little. as a black person, it’s not often you hear ppl outside your race speak positive about other races, in a world full of hate, & racism. y’all are literally gonna be the best parents ever and i can’t wait to see you with your baby❤️
I am from Poland, country which sometimes is soo racist (especially elderly people) and i think you black people are one of the prettiest people walking on Earth. So much love for you!! You are enough 🥺
I have seen white couples on social media who adopt children of other races and receive backlash from others for adopting a non white child and its not white people who are complaining its the people of other races who think its wrong. I don't understand it.
My niece was told she wasn't able to conceive...they adopted a baby girl. Well 10 months later they were the parents of two.! She gave birth to my great nephew! House was lively 😊 You never know guys!!!! So happy for you!!!!!
You will be great parents!
I feel like this is exactly what’s going to happen to them!!! ❤
Omg imagineee that would be such a blessing for them 🥺
I’m so excited for you both! I was adopted at 7 months from Guatemala! I’m so appreciative of my adopted parents for giving me a better life here in the US rather than the rural area I was from in Latin America. Something I admired from this video was how you both said you’re going to raise the child to know about their culture and embrace it. I didn’t know much about Latin American culture as a kid which left me feeling very uncomfortable in who I was in many aspects simply because I didn’t understand. My birth mom was never really talked about and was referred to as “the lady” and all I know to this day about my bio dad is that he was from Mexico. As I got older, I decided to go on a self discovery journey and even learned Spanish and the rest of my culture. Most importantly I’ve learned to love my Hispanic heritage. So just hearing you guys say you’re gonna raise your kid from a young age to understand where they come from so they will be culturally aware and appreciate their roots from the very beginning was like music to my ears. That will seriously reduce identity crisis later on. U guys are going to be the best parents. 🤍
when dallin said he was most happy to see bella be happy at the end, i started tearing up bc that is honestly the most heartfelt thing he could have said and i love their relationship its so wholesome and their always putting each other first! so excited to meet your future baby and see you guys go through this journey :)
My baby sister is adopted.
I love her just as much as my “bio” siblings. She’s a spoiled little redhead. We’re obsessed with her. Adoption completed our family. And it is BEAUTIFUL 😊❤️
as someone who is adopted, you guys documenting their journey personally in your family would be amazing.
I was adopted, and my parents gave me the oportunity of having a beautiful life ❤ Im 26 now, married, singing teacher, and getting close to have my own baby one of this days ❤ You are going to be BLESSED WITH THE BABY YOU WERE ALWAYS MEANT TO HAVE, AND YOU WILL BLESS THIS BABY'S LIFE ❤ Praise god for sending you this way ❤ Many many babies are born everyday who dont have a warm home or a loving Mother. You guys have all that ❤
Not me genuinely wishing I could start over with life and grow up as your kid 😭 Not in a weird way, but your lifestyle and home seems like my dream. You will both be such incredible parents, and with how you two love to travel, make memories, live on the farm, see the world, etc; your future kids will be living the absolute dream.
This comment is sweet! ❤️ come hang out with us anytime!!
@@DELLAVLOGS 🥺😭 Ya'll are the best
@@DELLAVLOGS sooo happy. you guys are the most deserving people out there!!! ❤❤❤
@@Thelastlazy that’s not true at all. Have you even adopted a child?
@@Thelastlazy your comment is basically bs. Can't you see that when people (in this case Dallin and Bella) want to adopt a baby, they want it SO BAD that they go through endless paper work, a lot of work with social worker etc., basically they do much more than "makes a baby". Didn't you watch this video? In every word you can hear excitement, joy and pure love for the upcoming baby and their birth mom. ❣️
My mother-in-law adopted her first two sons thinking she couldn't have children. Then had THREE more after naturally! My husband is the baby of the family. It's all in God's hands. Congrats! 🎉
It's like y'all have wanted to love on a kiddo for years and the love just keeps building up and you just want a kid to pour love out on!
I feel that and pray this process goes smoothly ❤
Bella- I've been thinking this for the longest time, but didn't think it was appropriate to say yet. I think this a good time... You are already a FANTASTIC mom. One of the best. You are just searching for you baby, and thankfully you are so so close to having them. I went through 5.5 years of infertility and had my daughter 3 years ago, followed by 2 miscarriages and am halfway through this current pregnancy. Everytime I watch one of your videos, my baby kicks at the sound of your voice.
You both will be amazing parents ❤
Congratulations
I’m adopted! I love seeing more and more creators be so open about their adoption journey. I grew up knowing I’m adopted but I never knew what the process was like. Keep doing what you love! I love watching you guys! ❤
I couldn’t stop smiling the entire video because I’m so so excited for you guys!
My husband and I have lost 3 babies and are dealing with infertility as well and my eyes get so teary when I see how beautiful your journey is turning out to be!
God bless your family! ♥️
The way that each of you talk about and to your future child is the most endearing sweetest thing ever. Such great parents already. I’m so excited for you guys and your future baby ❤
Omg I love how you explained about telling your kid about being adopted. I love people who see it that way. It’s so important. So happy for you guys
So happy for you! We went through infertility and I was heartbreaking at the time, but it was such a blessing. Infertility lead us to our son though adoption. I was in the delivery room when he was born, it was love at first sight. He is 15 and I can’t imagine life without him!
I'm literally crying right now... I'm so so SO excited for this new chapter in your lives; I can see in your eyes and how much you're reiterating that you're excited that you really really want this. I can't wait. Also, as an international adoptee: I was ridiculously lucky to have been adopted by my family. They chose to tell me that I was adopted at about 9 years old, and I could not be more grateful. They're some of the only people in my life that have ever been positive about being adopted. I get what you're saying, Bella, there's such a negative instant reaction to someone being adopted, for literally no reason. Like, I was literally abandoned as a baby, because of the one child policy in China, but compared to the alternatives; giving me to a family member, having an abortion, literally anything else, giving me up for adoption was them trying to give me the best chance at life. So it just drives me nuts when people apologize; like, don't! I'm so so happy, and my family and the love I have for them is the only thing that makes me feel ok with the facts that I don't know when I was born (my birthday was an educated guess), and I will probably never know who my biological family is. Like I'm already so happy, I'm so proud of the things I've accomplished, and I love my family so much; I wouldn't change a single thing.
Sorry this was so long, but this is just something I've struggled with my entire life; I'll probably go my entire life without having been able to fully process what being adopted means, but I know I have the best family and the best friend in the world who support me, and don't see it as a negative thing
In general, adoption is just a topic that is never really talked about, unless it's within a group of people in which at least one person was adopted, or is adopting, or has adopted. It's kinda irritating, because it feels like it's becoming more revealed to others through social media, but idk. It's complicated, but it needs to be talked about more
I've had 4 beautiful babies and our family is complete but I'm sitting here wishing I could have a baby for you. Any child would be so lucky to have you guys as parents. I know you will have a baby in your arms this year.
“Not bone of my bone or flesh of my flesh…never forget for a moment….you weren’t created under my heart, but in it.”This was the words my 2 grown adopted sons heard growing up. Ours were newborn babies, now grown adult gentlemen who have made us garndparents. Its a good life. We never had an adoption talk….we told them their story every night as infants until we no longer tucked them in and used the word adopted so that they always knew. It’s their story, they need to know. I am so happy you finally found your way to adoption❤️
I can’t think of anyone more deserving of everything working out! Congrats to both of you
Dang the PASSION with which they talk about parenthood is insane. I feel it.
I just want to mention that I’m an adopted child!! I was a newborn when I was adopted! I feel so blessed with the parents I have! I can see that the baby that will have you as Parents will be the Most Blessed child!! 😁
This may sound stupid but so many times when I watched your videos, in my gut, I felt like God was setting you up to adopt. He knows you will be the most amazing parents. He knows his babies need parents like y’all. He has prepared y’all since day one and gave you this journey for a reason. I look forward to your next journey.
My husband and I had our first (and only!) baby after 6 years of marriage. By choice. And it’s great to have that time as a couple. ❤️
Hi,
my name is Joselin. I was adopted at 3 years old and I am so blessed with an amazing family. My parents are my hero and I wouldn’t be the person I am today without them. You guys are going to change a child's life and I know you guys will be amazing parents. There are kids out there every day that needs a home. God Bless You❤
As someone who suffered recurrent pregnancy loss it is so admirable to see someone take on adoption with the hope and joy you guys do! I do not want to scare you guys (you probably won't even see this ,and some of it may be money) but I have a friend who's been waiting for 3 years on a baby through adoption. I hope it goes quicker than that for everyone looking to adopt, but it happens. Praying for your future baby and all those looking for their future babies!
Their wealth and privilege will help them and all of these videos is them hoping someone approaches them now.
After a couple years of infertility I did get pregnant….for me, I was so excited and emotional all the time….I remember the hearing their cries in the middle of the night and getting SO excited to be awakened by BABIES!! I’m so excited for you guys! Enjoy the journey!!
As an adoptive mama myself, I love my daughter so much, I always tell her she saved me ❤
I’m an adoptive adult, I love watching people on their adoption journey it’s makes my heart melt ❤
I was an international adoption and the process took over around 2 years . In the Uk international adoption isn’t common . I was told I was adopted from a young age and again and again until I could fully understand it ❤
I LOVE that in every conversation about this, they bring up the birth mother! This says a lot about them.
You two are going to be just the BEST parents ever... a house full of love you have to offer, and that you will be able to adopt a child that may not have the opportunities in life you can provide for them is just a wonderful thought. I wish you could get a set of twins...wouldn't that be fun. You both could change, feed, and bathe in shifts lol...personally, I know this is such an act of love for the mother giving up the child knowing they for a number of reasons may not be able to take care of or provide a good home for their child..and what an act of love to feel their baby has a better life and to be so brave and while I can imagine the heartache the mother may go through, there is a peace of mind knowing a couple who can provide not only a loving home, but have prayed for a child and through such an act of love...allows her child to have the best opportunity's to be so loved and wanted that is such an act of love. While my deepest appreciation and love goes out to the birth mother, I can't help but celebrate what a loving home the baby is destined to arrive at your house and your loving arms. Thanks for being what I know you will be, a great mother and Daddy. You two will be just the best parents EVER. I am so excited for you, as the stork begins his journey to arrive any time at your house.
So excited for you both 🎉 We adopted two 4 year Old’s and they are now 26 & 23. Our adopted was closed for each child. Both kids new they were adopted and we let them meet their biological families. You both are going to do wonderfully being parents. It’s the best feeling to love a sweet child no matter of their age when you get them
Thank you for not just adopting newborns!!!! Every child deserves a loving family!
@@585meghan Amen we are so blessed with both our babies and we now have two grandchildren ❤️❤️
Bella talking about having a baby shower definitely got me teary eyed. And then when dallin was explaining what he's most excited for🥹 I can't wait to watch this journey! And I completely understand what you mean when you say you don't think you would have been grateful for all the small things had you not gone through infertility. I had a miscarriage before my daughter and while it was absolutely horrible and pregnancy after loss was so mentally exhausting, it truly made me appreciate EVERYTHING. I was never angry waking up in the middle of the night for feedings or diaper changes. I was always so thankful. And still am. It truly changes your mindset once you've had hardship. So excited for you guys❤️
im so happy for you guys! you've been waiting for this baby for so long and now its finally going to be a reality 💞 good luck!
My parents never told me I was adopted. And it was really hard when I found out my entire life was a lie. I'm so glad you will be honest to your kid. Trust me being honest is important. You will be great parents
I just think it would be so amazing if you guys were given twins like Bella mentioned when describing the nursery for your house tour I believe! But I’m so excited for you guys and your new journey! You can really tell how excited and genuine you guys are and how happy you are now! It makes me cry because I’m so happy for you guys!
I am a silent follower but had to say I am so excited for you and am praying for God’s perfect timing. I’ve been around for a while and have cheered for you, cried for you, and been so hopeful for you along the way. As a human being but also as a social worker, I wish there were more people like you.. not only because you are so open and willing to love on anyone’s baby, but that you will be respectful to Baby’s story AND the birth mother is incredible and so so important for everyone involved. Much love and blessings for you and your future children. ❤
You can see the pure joy and happiness in y'all eyes and on your faces. I'm so happy for y'all. Y'all are going to be great parents. The baby that does get adopted by y'all will be so very blessed, loved, lucky. Congratulations you two 🎉. Will b here to watch y'all's beautiful journey 😊
My heart is bursting with joy for you guys! I almost cried hearing Bella talk about being a mama.
Y’all’s story reminds me of Brittany dawn (TH-camr) I remember her video announcing they were going to foster (they also considered adoption) she said she was at church when the pastor said “I feel like some of you are putting adoption or foster as a second option when God is wanting it to be your first”, and so they pursued foster all the while never giving up on their dream to conceive themselves, too!
If you guys would consider an open adoption that would be awesome! It is really beneficial to the child and the birth family! I am a birth mom and my daughter is 6 now, I’ve been a huge part of her life, and so is my family, her adoptive parents include me as family, it’s been a really beautiful experience. My daughter never had to lose me or feel rejected, she just has extra people that love her.
isn't she confused on why you gave her up though.
if you're always in her life then what was the point. when she gets older she may start growing resentment
@@chichioko1446 great question:) My ex and I had an unplanned pregnancy and he decided he didn’t want to be a father and left. I became a single mother and in struggled with severe postpartum depression.(hard to explain to those who haven’t experienced it, but it can cause you to not feel bonded with your baby, which creates extreme guilt, on top of just being severely depressed and having suicidal thoughts. It’s often due to hormonal shifts post pregnancy but there is no way to know if you are going to experience it, it can be genetic.) on top of the postpartum depression, I was working 10 hour days, struggling to stay afloat financially, while being extremely sleep deprived with a young baby, I was not doing well. At the end of the day, I felt like I had nothing left and I was not able to give my daughter the best of me and everything I felt she deserved. I loved her, but it was hard to show her that emotionally at the time and give her the time and attention I felt she deserved. I also felt it was really important to have a father which was something I couldn’t give her. I met a couple through church when she was one and a half and things just fell into place. I knew they could give her everything I couldn’t and i could still be involved so she would always know how much I love her. They had the financial stability for the father to be a stay at home dad with her, and she could have that father relationship I always wanted for her, and he absolutely thinks the world of her. They provided her with love and stability and are awesome parents to her and I get to be included as family as her “tummy mommy” as she calls me, which is a blessing. I am a huge part of her life which will hopefully prevent that resentment that can come up with adoption. I am there and will be there her whole life, to remind her how much I love her(even though this was the hardest and most painful decision of my life and took 2 years of hard grieving for it to become more bearable, I really do think it was the best thing for her) and if she does have resentment in the future, that’s ok, those feelings are valid and I would be there to talk and listen to her feelings. Sorry for the long response:)
I was adopted at 5 months and it's such an amazing feeling to know that you were given a chance for the best life possible. I'm so very grateful every day for the great life I have! It's so great following your journey! You are going to be such amazing parents and your baby will be so loved!! I'm so happy for you! Thanks for sharing your experience with us! :)
asking social media for a baby is super off putting to me. gave me an extremely bad taste in my mouth. holy crap. wow wow wow. i’m just mind blown
Dallin, please don’t apologise for your honesty. You’ve spent years dreaming of your birth child and fighting for that outcome - it can take time to pivot to the new reality… but you’re there now and that’s all that matters! You’re going to be a wonderful father and you and Della are going to gift love, family, companionship, hope and a happy future to a child who would not have had those things without this adoption. I’m delighted for you both. We can’t wait to meet the newest member of your family! x
I’m adopted, but have never once felt like it. So loved by my family❤
Hearing you guys talk about your adopted baby has me tearing up big time 😭😭 you guys are just going to be the best parents!!
I am so very very very happy for you guys! I don’t know anyone that deserves this more than you two, and I can’t wait to see your journey and dreams come true! ❤❤
Love this for you guys! I was placed in my forever home almost 20 years ago, in 2005, and they adopted us in 2009. Adoption is such a great thing and with my story I want to adopt as well and it was one of my moral “standards” before I met the man I married. I casually brought it up while we were talking with no explanation and he said “if I had the chance to I wouldn’t turn it down” that minute I knew. But now here we are 4 years later married for almost 6months and we are getting ready for the next chapter of our lives. We want to wait a little bit but hopefully one day we will be in the same boat to adopt 🎉
I'm so overjoyed for you guys! Watched your journey and you deserve the very best!
I was adopted at birth, and watching how excited over this topic I nearly broke into tears! You guys are such an inspiration and I am so excited to watch your amazing journey unfold!❤❤❤
On the comment about being ready to be a mom & dad... I have to say, I'll never forget watching Dallon at TG convention, jumping rope with the little girls. It was the sweetest moment. I found out about my breast cancer 2 days before convention, and was over-emotional those 4 days.. and my heart literally melted watching Dallon trying to jump his tall-ass self under that rope! 😅😂❤❤❤ I told him he's gonna be the best dad! He laughed and said, "I hope so..I can't wait!" So excited for you both. ❤ Watching you grow up the past 11 years Bella, even looking in from the outside of Origami Owl/Think Goodness, and being a part of the journey with all of you, has been such an integral part of peace in life. Being able to share so many meaningful, amazing stories and products in the lives in my world, and being a part of this community... Yeah, makes it like watching my neice! Hugs to you both!
as an adopted child. i’m forever grateful my birth mom gave me a better chance at life. my mom feels like my mom just because i’m adopted doesn’t mean anything to us she loves me just as much and i’m grateful she was able to get me out of a situation that wasn’t the best. i’m adopted from another country so we don’t look alike. she’s white im hispanic so there is obviously a difference between us in looks and i’m so happy that non of that matters to us because we love eachother no different. it’s not blood that creates family it’s love. i wish you guys the best of luck. you’re gonna be amazing parents
I’m a silent watcher but this all brought me to tears! You guys are gonna be amazing parents and I can’t wait to watch journey🥹❤️
I am so happy for you!!!
How could anyone have anything negative about adoption?? A baby is a blessing no matter how it comes to you.
My older cousin is adopted and as soon as she got home her parents conceived naturally. One of my favorite stories.
Look into the church adoption services. You usually always get a newborn and so many LDS babies that need to be adopted. Wish we could have adopted but we just made the decision not too. We struggled with infertility since 2005 and i had my last miscarriage in 2018 and at that point we decided a hysterectomy was the best option. You are very lucky. Babies, children and pregnancy is a MAJOR trigger in my life. Breaks my heart but due to so much heartbreak and many rivers and lakes of tears is what it is. Congrats you guys! SO happy for you.
Not a long time subscriber, however the love that radiates from you both and towards one another is so beautiful. I feel such joy for you both and I pray Heavenly Father puts you in the right direction of expanding your family. If anyone deserves a sweet bundle of joy, it's you guys. Fingers crossed for you to hold your baby soon.
I was adopted at three days old and my sister was adopted at ten months old when I turned two. I will say being adopted has its ups and downs but I look back now as an adult to the parents that raised me and I can't thank them for the life they have given me. I found out when I was six and was able to contact my birthmother when I was 18 but I wasn't ready at the time. It took me almost three years to contact her after my 18th birthday where "Facebook" helped me find her and we chatted and connected instantly. She had always wanted to meet me but waited until I was ready. The first day I met my birthmother was my wedding day. Yes, I did say my wedding day - I don't recommend it to emotions all in one day. My parents couldn't have kids and they tried countless times - its always an option. I wish some mothers wouldn't abort but I understand there might be reasons behind it. I will say some days I regret meeting her because I found out I have three half brothers from different dads and a half sister who is older by a year than me. I was the only given up and it hurts but the life I'm living with the help from my parents wouldn't compare to the life I would be living with her. I did ask a lot of questions don't be afraid to answer them. When the time is right you will know and so will he or she. I was found in a newspaper so anything is possible. Think positive.
I think it’s super important to tell your kid that they are adopted and also to emphasis that “you’re not adopted because you are not loved, you are adopted because we love you so much more than anyone ever could!” And share with them the reasons behind why they were adopted and why the birth parents decided to put them up for adoption (if you know that)
You two will truly be the best parents. I’ve never seen two people so ready, so loving, and so deserving. That is one lucky baby. I hope you find him/her soon 💗
I could watch your adoption videos all day! I cannot express how excited I am for you! Give me 20 more videos of you just gushing about this baby!
My friend got pregnant after 10 years of unexplained infertility recently. She said she held onto her faith with god and never stopped trying even when she lost hope. Miracles happen in mysterious ways. This is very exciting ❤ found your page after matt&abby podcast and you reminded me of my friend. This baby is luckiest they are going to be most loved🤍 God tests the ones who is close to him to see if we lose our faith in him. Hold onto the Lord❤️
Nothing on youtube makes me happier then finally seeing bella excited to be a mum finally
I’m happy that you’re open to adopting any race!! Most people could not adjust!! It’s all about what is in your ❤️
It’s refreshing to see TH-camrs that want to protect their baby and not exploit and monetize them for views. Thank you for that! Some influencers post too much about their kids and it’s not okay
Just stopping in to let you know I am a silent follower. I was watching the unplanned podcast episode with you guys in it. I know you touched on people like myself being kind of silent cheerleaders if you will. I know this is gonna be an amazing journey for you guys. Don't listen to anyone who wants to hate, they are not important to your story. Im always here silently rooting you on ❤
As a child who was adopted at the age 6 i totally find it amazing that you guys are adopting.... my parents are star foster parents as well and we have opened our home to many different children and my parents are the best. Kids are the best and my parents know it especially right now when we have a total of 9 kids ranging from ages 19years old to the youngest being 4 years old. So happy for you too and hope for the best for both of you..
So excited for you guys!! Just curious if you guys ever considered/heard of embryo adoption? I have some friends who are planning to do that and I was just wondering if you all have heard of that. Praying for you all through this process!❤
Things y’all got right:
Birth mother is queen! Speaking love towards their tummy mommy is beautiful and healthy. That was a brave mommy who loved their baby!
Open to all races but no color blind BS! Race and culture are real, and j love your humility - you’ll learn where need be!
Telling child they’ve been adopted since day one.
You have been called to do this and you said yes. This is so beautiful!
- Simcha from Israel!
What an exciting season! So happy for you two ❤ The baby will be SO loved. I love seeing the immense joy within the two of you guys
As an adoptee that was chosen the day after being born I love seeing the start of your journey. As someone thats been suffering from infertility for 3 years, I sincerely appreciate your vulnerability in your journey and normalizing the process.
I hope you walk through this chapter fully informed in the trauma around adoption. Birth moms are often left traumatized when choosing adoption. I hope all involved are left feeling okay. Best wishes.
I really hope they don't exploit this baby like Matt & Abby and the Beestons etc. KIDS ARE NOT CONTENT!
As a birth mother with a open adoption and worked in a adoption center yes that can be the case but there is healing. And I saw their interview with Matt & Abby's podcast and they mentioned how they already care for the birth mom and they want to help her and give her the best. So I'm grateful they mentioned that.
It's a little bit different when you go through an agency because these women or girls have had time to think and process before choosing a family. Of course it hurts I can't even fathom doing it but there are people who do for the better life of their child and I don't think that they could ask for a better life than with these two
In other words I'm glad they are considerate of the birth mother even this early on in their process regardless of where she is now because I always hated selfish adoptees who just wanted a baby and could care less about the birth mother. It was a red flag to me when I worked or came across selfish adoptees. As a birth mother you're being 100% selfless by putting your own wants and feelings aside for the better and well being of your child so for adoptees we expect them to be selfless too.
Im rarely comenting here, but guys i am so happy and excited cause of you. I couldnt stay silent after i watched this video. You guys deserving the world!!!! ❤❤❤ i never seen someone in my entire life who is more ready for baby and who deserves more baby than you!! And not olny one baby, but a lot of babies. You guys are made to be a parents for a lot of babies. Kids who will be adopted by you are going to be the best people in the future and on that way world is changing on better. So happy to see people like you having a baby, that is the best thing what could happen litteraly🎉❤🎉❤🎉
This is so beautiful. Adoption is an exciting beginning, not a last resort. I’m so excited for you!
I was adopted with my two brothers by my foster family, they have always told us we were adopted and it was just a part of who we were and our lives. We celebrated our adoption day every year, they were always very honest about who our birth family was, why we were removed from the home, nothing was ever hidden, the more dire information we were told later when older but I’ve always been grateful to know. Especially in the older years where I was curious to know if those things were true and wanting to know about them more. Though the truth was hard to take, I am so grateful I knew about it and they kept everything so we could see the process and what occurred ourselves from the court documents. I love when people adopt cause it’s such a beautiful thing. I’m so excited for you both and know you will be amazing parents.
I've been crying on and off ever since the reveal! I'm so happy for you guys, you are literally going to be saving a life by adopting, this is just so beautiful, I have to stop typing now because I'm crying again. ❤❤❤
I was adopted from Kazakhstan in Asia at about 6 months old ! Aswell as my brother, and we are not biologically related ! Hearing this news that you guys are choosing to adopt is great stuff because honestly, many cases of adoption are only existing because the mother wants a better life that she wouldn’t be able to provide herself to the baby (lack of finance, drugs/alcohol abuse/physically abusing household that wouldn’t be safe for a newborn) I’m so excited for you guys and your future !! You guys are also so right when you say adopting is equally beautiful and special as giving birth yourself. Excited to follow along your wonderful journey
One of my friends parents struggled with infertility for years. They adopted their first, did IVF a few years later and got pregnant with twins - then within the first year of the twins life they got pregnant naturally . Anything is possible! Wishing you and your family all the best ❤
I haven't even started the video and I'm already tearing up.. so happy for you guys!!❤❤
I really loved the moment when he put his hand on your lap after you said he’d be the best dad in the world. The look he made towards you honestly makes me want to cry because I feel like I can see how much he loves you and wants to have a family with you. You guys make each other feel so special to each other and it’s amazing I feel like you guys will be wonderful parents please be happy for the rest of your lives you deserve it
This is such a beautiful story ...as someone who was in a care home as a child this fills my heart with immense joy ❤❤😊 you both are truly a huge blessing to both baby and birth mother ❤❤❤❤
I was adopted at 2 1/2 years old and was in the foster care system until then. I am so excited for you guys! You will truly change this baby’s life.