Abuse in the Community // Honest Tea Talk | Season 1 Episode 8
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ย. 2024
- *TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE/DOMESTIC VIOLENCE*
In this episode, we bring a pertinent topic to the table: abuse in the Muslim community. It's high-time we talked about this, and we ask you:
- How can we tackle and resolve the issues of abuse in the community?
Watch the episode, then comment with your thoughts, experiences, and join the discussion.
___
Support links:
Nour - Domestic Violence - www.nour-dv.or...
AMINA Muslim Women Resource Centre - www.mwrc.org.uk/
She Can Consultancy - www.shecanconsu...
Solace UK - For Revert Sisters in Difficulty - www.solaceuk.org/
___
WANT SEASON 2?
We can only do that with your help! Donate via:
- GoFundMe: www.gofundme.c...
- PayPal: bit.ly/HTTdonate
JOIN THE DISCUSSION:
- Facebook: / honestteatalk
- Instagram: / honestteatalk
- Twitter: / honestteatalk
GET UPDATES:
Sign up at bit.ly/honestt...
___
About Honest Tea Talk
with Aliyah, LaYinka & Sumayah
Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith's 'Red Table Talk', 3 Muslim women have set up a platform to speak openly and honestly, giving viewers an unedited insight into the minds and life of Muslim women. Honest Tea Talk brings deep and often unspoken topics to the table to lay down our masks and start much-needed discussions about matters related to Muslim women and the ummah at large.
© 2019
#honestteatalk #realtalk #abuse
Excuse me, but can we just take a moment first and thank laYinka for being so brave to share and speak up about what happened to her? This video has been posted a while ago, but I hope it went viral within the community. May Allah be pleased with you ladies🤍
@laYinka sanni u are indeed braave and may Allah make things easy for us all
@@LaYinkaSanni Sorry for the experience you have had. I really feel sorry for you.
The emotional abuse is the worse! As a revert, I know after the shahadah the community does not take care of the revert. We are all alone and it is hard. But Alhamdulliah!! Allah is with us!!
The best moment of this video is when sister aliyah hugged sister layinka knowing that she needs that kind of support at the moment
Mashaa Allah
U Sisters Are Doing Really Great Work To Help Out The Sisters Out There In Any Way You Can
May Allah Azzawajjal Accept Your Efforts And Grant You All Highest Rank In Jannah
Aameen Sumameen
Jaza Kallah Hu Khayran
Aameen
WOW STUNNING WORK SISTERS , I WAS REDUCED TO TEARS FROM THE START AT HOW ACCURATE YOU BROKE THIS DOWN, IT'S SO SAD BUT A MUST TO BE ADDRESSED, MAY ALLAAH REWARD YOU ALL FOR THESE VERY SINCERE ACCOUNTS.
Such a loaded topic, I'm only 2 mins in and I can see how heavily this weighs on you, may Allah grant you a great reward for carrying this burden.
I felt the same way. These issues need to be discussed intellectually, and that's exactly our three sisters are doing Masha Allah.
This was triggering but it needed to be shed light upon. BarkAllaahu feekum sisters
Changes start with open discussion, keep it up! Well done sisters! Everything starts with a plan if you are opressed and want to make changes and get help.
Sisters you are amazing and yes when you take the Shahada is like a new life new friends but down the line you are left and looked upon as you have no knowledge and no family left and do not fit in anywhere. I have nearly left several times.
Assalaamu alaykum sister Katrina. May Allah makes things easy for you. Ameen. I hope that you now have the support that you need. I'm not a revert but I received an email back in March from Solace UK about an 'Ask the Shaykh Service'. You can contact Shaykh Wasim Kempson and the details are in the following link: www.solaceuk.org/ask-the-shaykh/
Thank you so much Mashallah@@protectyourthaghr
Sorry to hear that sis. I am part of a WhatsApp group called 'Hikmah Sisters'. Do you want to be part of the group? You might be able to find sisters in your area for companionship. Private message me if you're interested and I'll pass on the number xx
Been subscribed for six months, but just now found this video. The three of you have power beyond belief. May God continue to bless each of you. And still, we rise!
MashaAllah❤ very emotional and real subhanallah! This message needs to constantly be repeated to the muslim ummah
The women who's husband controls the money, that's financial abuse.
not always, not if the man is trustworthy. plus women can do some home working and spend on herself as sunnah teaches but Man is many times the traditional bread winner due to hard labor traditionally.
If husband makes money he has the right to control money same if woman makes money has the right so.Feminism &me too is really responsible for these divorces.
when the husband takes the money that she worked for that's not ok. And she doesn't get a say in how its spent and she doesn't know where her money is going. Or even in the case where he is the only one working if she is left having to ask him for every single penny and he scrutinizes every single purchase she makes yet he doesn't tell her what he's spending the rest of the money on and he's only buying things for himself yes that's financial abuse too.
@@hyrunnisa997 if he is not allowing her to work but is also not allowing her to use any of his money. Is that fair?
@@هدي-ه8ظ Totally not! Its her right to be taken care of financially. And she can work if she wants. These things should be taken care of before marriage and be talked through with the people who are getting married.
Another gem of a discussion! Thank you. May Allah reward each one of you.
Asalaam alaikum amazing lecture and heartbreaking. I was a victim over 45 years ago, and I live everyday in the pain of it. I never learned how to move on
May Allah heals u completely, sis
Wa 'alaykum salam, sis would you consider taking therapy? I'd recommend it xx
@@channabiryan asalaam alaikum, yes I have tried many therapists over the years to no avail. I just keep making duaa that Allah will make it easy for me.
@@ErickaSuttonWa-'alaykum salam. May Allah continue to make you strong ameen
@@channabiryan ameen, jazakalah khair
We need to have more discussions and exposure on this subject globally. Wake up to the male Imam. You also need to support the oppressed
You go girls!!!! Awesome to see this modern content in the Islamic sphere
Maa shaa Allah! I love you ladies. May Allah give you the highest level of jannah with your beloved ones. May we watch/listen/understand/and practice in shaa Allah!
I had a fellow revert sister tell me exactly this about her abusive ex-husband: he did this to me because I don't have family support.
Alhamdulillah I am married to a wonderful man and my in law family themselves are my support when I need it, but i am sad to admit had I married an abusive man there would be nobody from the muslim community to aid me.
Almost like being a revert and marrying someone from a "Muslim culture" is a gambling game. You hope they will treat you good, you hope they will accept you, you hope they will not discriminate against your children.
yea Sunnah has balance, the sufis who follow shias mix in alot of disingenious treatment to the massses. I pray they get better and follow the Sunnah. Alhamdulilah there are bros and sisters helping out reverts some more as reverts speak about this. May Allah bless my and your families and guide us Muslims.
Wow, your last point about how if we were to address this it would probably reflect well on the community was just so 100% bang on.
This is the best talk show ... JazakumAllah khayr! May Allah grant you all barakah
Alhamdulillah yes indeed
The power of lived experience is unbelievably testimonial and educational. Thanks a lot Layinka for reminding us about the reality of making sure we be mindful of predators especially those close to us.
Inspiring ! I really appreciate your courage, abuse do really exist and even here in the Arab world where most of us born as muslims and almost have a family and good social network, it is never that easy to speak about abuse without you being blamed with the same lines you said, we really need to open up gazakom Allah khyran for every single word and Salam to layinka I have cried with her and I am just proud of her and will try to always remember her and you all in d'ua in sha Allah
Islam is a religion of truth. Let’s call out abuse in the community as is.
You women are amazing masAllah!! Love and hugs and duas ♥️
Top discussion,so true,we all need to take a stand against abuse and oppression,Allah is watching these abusers and oppressors,and they will get what's comming to them,ameen!
Sisters thank you very much for these videos, you are role models for the ummah and my English revert wife loves your videos.
Again, thank you for this.
First of all, sisters may Allah bless you all thousands of times! I am sure it takes a lot of strength and courage to open up to such sensitive topics and so bravely talk about it without filter.
The abuse, to any form it might be, goes on both sides. But truth is that it is the sisters and the children that suffer the most out of the hands and tongues of men. And that is a real shame.
We men, need to learn, not only by the tongue, the teaching of our beloved Prophet by the actions.
Any act that disregards, disrespects, dishonors, diminishes, disvalues women should never be tolerated in our community. And what's worse is that it very often comes from the people you expect less would do that to you.
I pray Allah to grant us the wisdom the treat our women the best of ways that Satisfy Allah. To the victims of any form of abuse, May Allah give them the strength to overcome their pain and have a normal life.
Liberation ! Very good. I see abuse in the Islamic community is just the same as non-muslim community. Abuse causes PSST, Anxiety , depression. Keep talking ladies
It's really sad when people blame the victim of sexual abuse for example. The Ummah need to learn to come to the victim's defence instead of shaming her. Because Islam does not allow the mistreatment of women. We are human beings. We breath, we cry, we bleed, we have emotions. If no one is going to think about our sisters, if no one will defend our sisters, who will?..
May Allah make us better! Such a great talk SubhanAllah.
Yes, We are survivors, we have every opportunity to thrive by the grace of Allah Azza wa Jal.
This is why Allah gave us the right to divorce. Subhannallah
There shouldn't be a single stigma about divorce in our Ummah
Thanks for sharing.
With Millions of educated students selfish has hit a high
Another good one! You all are hitting the points hard! Just subscribed. I know I'm late to the game but keep these videos coming.
There has to be a network addressing different issues a person needs after they speak up as support.
The leaders say have sabr, the life is short.
I dont know why on earth would you go to a sheikh when you are abused instead of reporting to the police? can anyone please explain to me this?
Exactly. If my husband put his hands on me I'm calling the police, not a so-called spiritual leader. He can talk to the "spiritual leader" on his own time but he's going to spend time in jail first. And that's if my family members don't get to him first.
@@shayemoore Any man who can place his hand on a woman or child needs to feel pain period .
@@s0urbugz837 Exactly but if that woman is in a situation where no one is around to make him feel pain then she needs to call the police for her and her kids sake. Heck hopefully the police will make him feel pain. In these types of situations I don't care if the police abuse their authority. Abuse on...
Can say that as a convert and or revert however you want to phrase it when they started and he talked about how the religion being used it to harm. That was my experience it'll be two years since my conversion a my husband's in from Senegal. He also has a wife and Senegal and he compared me to her regularly even though she's young enough to be my daughter he emotionally abused he verbally abused me and attempted to physically abused me but I'm not having that I'm an American I'm black American the the emotional abuse was enough I felt trapped felt I felt trapped by his ideal that I'm Muslim and he's my husband but I a lot gave me the strength to not pursue him as that was the multiple times he had walked out on our marriage. I felt this pull to Islam for a long time but I wouldn't come because I said me and use it as a way to oppress women and so when I found myself in that situation I was devastated and I was ready to leave I was crying I wasn't praying I was depressed and I wanted to leave because I was so hurt I was so hurt by The experience so when they said they spoke about that I felt what they were saying because I lived it. I just recently found out my husband gave me HPV which is a sexually transmitted my doctor explained to me I got it from him and she knew how hard it would be for me to hear that I'm 53 years old and I've been going to see them as a patient since I was twenty-three years old my husband gave me this I know because I was faithful and I was celibate before I married him but I continue to go to the doctor on a regular basis so I know that I did not have this before received this shocking medical news the last day of Ramadan
Going into homes strong brothers and sisters helping
I can't believe there is still gruesome people like this. Allh forgive us.
Love you girls!
So what is the point of taking an issue to the leaders? What type of REAL punishment can they enforce on the man? Are they going to beat his ass? If not, then it's all B.S. to protect the man and absolve him of his bad behavior. Call the cops so the man can go to jail and jail is not punishment enough. The man should be beat for as long as he was abusing his wife and children and on top of that spend time in prison time. If these women who are being abused are living in the U.S. and not taking advantage of law enforcement available to them then they are to blame for not protecting themselves and their children.
Abuse, oppression is completely against the beautiful deen of peace and anyone who says otherwise is a LIAR. Sisters I find this is happening more often than not sisters and so I say educate yourself know your rights before marriage or your rights as human beings therefore you dont need anyone except your Lord for strength, when you know your worth in respect to your Lord and creator then no one and I mean no one can tell you any BS and therefore you show them the door.
SubhanAllah
i am a by born muslim and i know stereotyping is bad but if I always see, hear, and even sometimes experience the wrong, horrible behaviors of muslim men in the community - how they handle situations, how they treat women, etc - how am I supposed to have a good view of men? And how am I not to feel hopeless and depressed because while Islam is a pure and beautiful religion, the way it is practiced by "muslims" scares me. it frightens me and my relationship with Allah is one thing but i will have to live and interact within these communities i dont know how
I have watch 4 videos so for and this one made me a new subscriber. I am non Muslim and have been interested in becoming. But I know I won't have the support of friends and family so that's the delay because I don't anyone who is Muslim. What do I do???
Most Muslims don’t like talking about it I’m a converty n I go thru emotional mentally religious abuse from a husband subhanallah such a bad experience Layinka sometimes I ask myself is it right I even doubt myself
Sister , it is not right . Please speak up , Allah created you for a higher purpose not to be abused or beaten.
As a victim it’s your fault in our culture, I was abused and the abuse was bad but afterwards that your family treats like your a problem and when no one is there fore you that’s the worst alhamdoeliah we have Allah if i didn’t hadn’t Allah I probably not here anymore
A room added to Masjid for tea talk on both side of family
There are some Muslim women out here that will not tolerate any type of abuse. Some will knock a rude abusive brother out.
We need to bring up sons as men who you would want your daughters to marry. Educate them in islam. Educate them to respect women. Women will raise children that is our ummah. Think.
Most imam in uk are old generation and need replacing with fully educated with various sciences and are voted into those positions of honour and support as "imam of a mosque who understand where he is"
When you have not been free so many ills just teaching Basic teaching walk to what we need places for next Generation land
The reason behind abuse is mainly wanting power and money and nothing to do with Islam and we woman help that to happen because we don't know our religion.
Sumaya are u somalien ?
Depend on background tribe
Where are our Ansar to call we want the Christ force to deal with what their forefathers Mess and the Muslims to that why some say go where we belong
Assalamu aleykum sisters. I hope UmRayyan and her team would get back to me in Shaa Allah. Logically you're right whatever you're saying but you all are saying out of emotions and experience and what's happening in the community, I totally agree with everything you guys are putting forward. My question to you is what are your daleels on the issue of psychological abuse, religious abuse, there's nothing out there to these "religious/daawa" men for them to read or learn from coz they see as whatever they're doing is "religousnees" I'm not talkng about physical abuse, but religious and mental/psychological abuse. What if the man is doing all this mental/psychological and religious abuse thinking he's protective and qawwam over his wife, and that it's his responsibility to act like this coz the "leaders" in the mosques promote that. Not sure if I'm making sense.
Um B.A.I.K then they need to learn from the companions and the Prophet (s) on the proper methods of being the protectors on the women.
R u srs..
Knowledge of the deen is very important and so is also having hikma. Most of these men who are psychologically abusive, religiously abusive and emotionally abusive, don't really have the right understanding of Islam and the importance of manners and good behaviour in the home.
So in terms of the daleel, they take ayahs in the Holy Quran and misinterpret it without knowing the tafsir and context or even applying the Sunnah. For example, they take the ayahs in Surah Nisa which mention that men are charge of women as Allah SWT caused one to excel over the other and that Men are maintainers of the women. At the same time there are men who misinterpret the ayahs regarding how to manage their wives.
Why are they religiously abusing? Very simple, it is very clear from the Quran that Allah SWT also orders kindness (ma'ruf) and that men deal with us kindly and in an honourable way. Further more, the Prophet's peace be upon him's treatment towards his wives and sunnah is there to be followed. The prophet peace be upon him said in his farewell speech, that men should be kind towards their women for their under their captivity. Yes men should have protective jealous over their women, where does it say that protective jealous translates to beatings and unkind treatment?
In fact the prophet said the best of men are those who are best to their family (women) and for them not to strike their women. Religious abusers pick out certain text without the context and ignore other daleel. The leaders and the ummah are they to enjoin good (ma'ruf) and forbid evil (munkar). Abusing vulnerable sisters and newly reverted sisters is evil and leads to injustice.
The Prophet PBUH said "beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah SWT". These type of destructive behaviour by these abusers is not in accordance with the Quran and Sunnah at all. Love you all for the sake of Allah SWT.
Anything that's out there is treat your women justly and with ma'aruf, ect however there are other hadiths that say a woman if called by her husband should answer even if she's preparing food to leave the preparation of food and answer her husband's needs, and another one that Rasool s.a.w said if I were to order some one to bow down to a being then I would order a wife to bow down to her husband. I think there needs to be Al wasatiyyah to this topic which it's not out there, the scholars/ulama/leaders do not explicitly talk as these sisters talk which they'll be accused as going against what the ulama/scholars have done in the past(I never seen any leader talking about this or written articles about this) some public western speakers have done but then the "religious/daawa" men don't consider them as scholars coz they aren't that accredited therefore they say these public western speakers are simply going against what the real scholars have put. In the books of Fiqh a man to enjoy(intimately) with his wife and to submit to him in return what he needs to do is nafaqa(now in the books it's says nafaqa is food,shelter and clothing - no money!) now when a woman asks for more it's a favour from her husband but hea not obliged. So my confusion is, how can a woman be married and submits to her husband and in return what's obligatory to the husband is food shelter and cloth nothing more nothing less. If he does extra it's a bonus from her husband. So now where are these sisters getting this information and empowerment of women. I would like to read something based on daleel. Although according to the seerah of Rasool Llah s.a.w (to my understanding)
these "dawa/religious" guys do not follow his way. And they use the cat and chase game of "you're the reason I'm like this ect" as the sisters pointed out. Does this justify them? What do the scholars say about This?
Sister, what evidence, specifically, are you after? That psychological and emotional and religious abuse exist?
Sisters have to do like The Other tribes doing army flying plane police office Called Ansar
Family issues have nothing to do with Islam,but all this happens culturally .If you live a family life in a toxic culture where family values are dead then be ready for consequences.
Cultural aspects seep into the religion and help poison the faith.
Even the LGBT is taking responsibility for their choices even a he'll Iland retirement place
If someone leaves Islam because of abuse by someone that person is so weak and low in belief .What it has anything to do with Islam??? Reverts really will always have problems.These women most oftenly sit here talking against men.What women do to men in here ?There should be a conversation what women do to men as well.
Stop deflecting. The problem with the Muslim community is pure hypocrisy. When Muslim women talk about their problems you want them to shut up.
And also they're about to get to that but they don't have time. Watch the full video!
This is really a shallow view. Often times the abuser weaponizes Islam against the victim so the victim associates abuse with Islam. It’s not because the person is weak - it’s because the abuser made them a mental disaster and convinced them that this is because of Islam. Reverts will not always have these problems. My fiancée is a revert himself and he is stronger than me MashaAllah.
Your flippant comment is very telling.
Feminism & Me too have destroyed family unit .
hahaha.....i..want...to..answer....ollmuslim...women...are..going..on..the...steert.. road...included....you...me...oll....musilm...tell...who..is....going...on the....road...the....secand....befor...speaking...why....not..give...adive...ollways...i...can't...imagine...oll ways...showed.. by me....chaneg...and....work. for your deen it..is...true...result...this..is.. not...work.....
one thing i have to say to parents is please dont leave your daughters with their uncles under any circumstance. honestly i know too many girls who were touched kissed inappropriately by their uncles so at least leave them with women.
Yes. I agree. There are too many bad stories of uncles touching their niece and nephews. But also we should teach our kids what a good touch is and what a bad touch is.
*Since I was a child, I was abused physically, emotionally, mentally and neglected by my own family. At the same time I was used in many ways. I was always the black sheep within my family. Even two members of my family attempted to sexually abuse me but Allah protected me Ahamdulillah. I tried to speak to many but I realised when you're suffering, you suffer alone and cry alone in the bathroom trying to hide so you feel bathroom is where I cannot be seen or heard while you open the water and it makes sounds so people assume you're having a bath. I lived like this till my marriage separated me and that's when I got my soul mate who really cares about me. Allah will always never Leave you and one day you'll get someone who will comfort you, give a shoulder to cry on. Keep Allah first make ALLAH AND PROPHET MUHAMMAD PBUH AS YOUR BEST FRIENDS, I MEAN THE REAL LOVE TO THEM and I believe your life will change and don't worry for your past because WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. ALLAH PAYS!*
I went through the same thing :( Alhamdulilah sister we made it through by the will and mercy of Allah Stay strong Inshallah we will meet in Jannah Ameen. It hurt al ot coming from our own family, I know and for anyone else out there hold firmly to the rope of ALLAH SWT
@@whisperingwhiskerss4877 Allahumma Ameen sister😘😗❤❤❤
This is so true. The truest form of love comes from Allah & His Rasul (sa). My life is thousand times better ever since I started to understand my relationship with Allah. He got me out of evil bondage Subhaan Allah. I hold it near and dear to me.
@A simple Guy Just simple Nope Arab
Imagine abusing someone to the point they decide to leave Islam then meeting your lord on the day of judgement and expecting not to be thrown in hell head first. People are so heartless sometimes wallahi it sickens me. Allahu Akbar !!!
cutting and pasting ISlam and following only what one likes is what some ppl do, its sad and misreps Islam, ppl should learn ISlam for themselves and not judge it on anyone other then the Prophet peace and blessings on him, so its not good ppl leave Islam because of ppl either though.
Abuse is wrong I condemn it in every interpretations of the word, but why would someone leave Islam if they’re being abused? Does Islam condone this? If not, why would Islam be blamed for it?
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fear Allaah with regard to women, for you have taken them as a trust from Allaah and intimacy with them has become permissible to you by the words of Allaah. Your right over them is that they should not allow anyone to sit on your furniture whom you dislike; if they do that then hit them but not in a harsh manner. And their right over you is that you should provide for them and clothe them on a reasonable basis.” Narrated by Muslim, 1218. Islam is the most just religion, and if u attribute unjustness to Allah, u have committed kufr
@@criticalthinker-vw2yy The abuser often use Islam as an excuse to abuse people and its even harder when an Imam comes and tells them its okay. No one would want to be in a religion if all it does is hurts them. Astaghfurillah its terrible but sadly it happens
If the prophet of Allah was alive PBUH, he would condemn their actions to the highest degree. Always think ‘ what would the prophet do’ because he was the perfect example of Islam, not these people u speak of unless they follow his way. Do research and learn about your religion instead of blaming it because of the actions of a few
Types of abuse
1. Physical
2. Sexual
3. Psychological
4. Emotional
5. Financial
I would add Religious Abuse - use of Quran/Hadith/fear of Allah to physically and emotionally harm and manipulate another
I got all from my siblings since I was little until my marriage took me away that's when I became free😢
@@alexitillery7512 That would fall under physical and emotional abuse.
And verbal
Aliya..I love the phrase"Islam is pure" . I think it says it all!
@@mazzmarymaria she mentions that her father is Nigerian
One thing I've learnt from my previous marriage, I've learnt not to even bother explain myself, I asked for a divorced and moved on. Leave it to Allah to show these people how oppressive they're.
@A simple Guy Just simple I don't want to talk about it, it happens 11 yrs ago, I got so much criticism for it but then Allah cleared my name.
Sisters must learn their religion so that they can respond to the person who is using religion to abuse her and let him know that he is ignorant to use beautiful religion to abuse a person.
Yes but they do! But they don't listen! Its is high time about time we need more /brothers the men to challenge and speak up to the imams also- also due to them having a patriarchal societies/ mindset. Sisters can't deal with it on their own anymore. Address the ills collectively as a team /support stamp out the evil! The imam's the men the leaders will not change just like that! Fact.
Even with knowledge the husband still abuse them. My mother and me have suffered and is still suffering with knowledge. I have a brother who is hafiz and he speaks knowledge to my father but he believes it’s “his Islam”. It’s so bad we are trying financially trying to get away without loosing our children to the abuser.
@@realtruth2870 may Allah give you strength and patience. May Allah make it easy for you honey aamiin. Remember duaa is the weapon of the believer alhamdulillah. Do not ever despair from the mercy and blessing of Allah and remember we are all being tested differently and each one of us need to try pass his/her test, may Allah help you aamiin 🤲🤲🤲
May Allah give justice and ease to the oppressed. ❤️
and patience, strength and a way out to them as well and a way to serve the din.
آمين❤️
I honestly, think this particular topic needs to really send out. Most women I know continue to face abuse within the community.
alot of mothers and women abusing kids too. May Allah guide the men and women to follow the Sunnah and make us strong and independent upon the Sunnah to avoid harm and empower those to reduce harm.
It's indeed a great topic that needs to definitely be discussed. The part that really got me thinking was how dare humans oppress people with backing from Allah. I mean when Allah never refuses the prayer of an oppressed person subhanallah.
However this isn't limited to women. The fact is whenever people are allowed to go away with something, it flourishes. There is a greater stigma with men speaking up. It's considered shameful or unmanly for a man to talk about how his wife is treating him. So maybe we aren't hearing more from men not because they aren't also suffering but the systems makes it difficult.
Most of the examples and the talks centered on men being the perpetuators. There's nothing inherent about men doing these. The truth is there also need to be programs dedicated for men to speak together and change how society is defining how women are to be treated.
Yes there is good and bad men and women, and Islam teaches us to be better! both extremism and communism and feminism which uses gender problems like marxism uses class problems to oppress and disempower and ahte and divde are both wrong. Sunnah explained by our scholars are beautiful! May Allah guide us to be kind and empowering to those who also have empathy to others and empower them and May Allah make us from them.
@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 ameen
@Hamzat Mukhtar
l I completely agree with this. This kind of matters needs to be addressed for both men and women.
May Allah guide our ummah to the right path
I went to a local masjid and was almost brought to tears that there was a sign in the women restrooms in the stalls, posters about a abuse, letting them know what abuse is, and the statistics and how to get help. They couldn't put it anywhere else. Also in the case of reverts, I had a really good friend who was married after converting and having her husband leave the country and basically telling her she was like a temporary place holder until he could go back home. She came home to an empty home one day after 1 year of marriage, no goodbyes ,nothing. She was so embarrassed because she obviously didn't have family support. She is no longer muslim.
That sent shockwaves to my heart. What a painful experience. I don't have a wife I can come home to so I am in agony over what she had to go through.
This channel brings so much comfort to my heart. You guys hit the nail right on the spot every time by avoiding sugarcoating serious issues. Avoiding these very real problems is not going to help anyone. An abuser will not “fix” themselves, unless they get help or there is some form of intervention. I’m glad that point was stressed here.
When l listen to this knowing that l have a daughter l thing men have failed their God's promise to protect (women) God will never let them go free even if it looks easy here on earth for them.
There are good and bad women everywhere. There are women who abuse their sons and then they go into marraige messed up. Many women also say you do no good to husbands in hormonal fits and don't control themsleves. the Sunnah teaches us we are different to be a team and not abuse each other. there are many messed up extremists and even liberal feminist ideas that push problesm.The blance is in the Sunnah and then expanding based on that. Nsha Allah we need to have taqwa and be good brothers and sisters and empwoer and aid one another as a general commnity as well. Before that Taqhid and Aqidah is linked to secuirty like Quran 24,55! while sufi and shia grave worship is linked to colonization.
tawhid*
We the Umma do not have anything in place for the reverts in terms of transitioning and that is really a big problem. Other religions have stuffs in place. It’s a shame. This is my optimal goal insha Allah.
Assalaamu alaikum sisters nice talk what was said relates alot to me i had an abusing husband and was force to run away from him he was abusive to me and my children because he was not his i apreciate this topic i i hope it reach many people... narcissist does exist even as muslims and today he blames me he is playing the victims im the divorce and he says i have no other choice but to come back to him please thank you for sharing this my country is non islamic and it makes it harder when the leader doesn’t help
Are you and your children ok now?
This is a really really good show Alhamdulilah
Subhanallah I can't believe i haven't found you guys all this time, I am currently working on this topic specifically...and most of what i am getting is how i am turning into feminist. I am sick of this, i can almost say Most men Failed ... they failed to protect the amanah of rasool salallahu aleyhi wesellem. Such a shame.
Making me cry :(
I must have watched this episode on a day I was interrupted. Subhanallah! My darling sister Layinka, that was courageous of you, and sweet sister Asiyah as always so sensitive and compassionate. That hug was exactly what she needed. may Allah continue to strengthen your bond of sisterhood and reunite you trio in Jannah! Love you all for the pleasure of Allah ta'ala!
clique culture is right on point sister
I have come across such stories and it is a shock that it is so widespread. Some women are treated awful and mentally damaged.
This topic is what makes me ask myself, how a revert can survive in this close-minded oppressed Muslim world? I don't actually respect anymore scholars or leaders because I literally came across some huge scholor saying, sister you have to have sabr in physical abuse and here you're talking about other abuses!!
Lost you are.
@pink girl its because of the bidah of sufis and shias. their shirk lead to colonization while TAwhid leads to security like in Quran 24,55 or Sunni gulf nations having both family and high tech balance. The dawa of Tawhid, Aqida Manhaj and taqwa at that level should enter as well as at the family level. the bidah blind following of sufis and shias have to be taught ebcause there bida isn't in Quran and Sunnah. May Allah guide us tot he sunnah!
Man sha allah My Sisters > FROM SOMALIA . Thank You SUBSCRIBE Ahlan
Exactly we need to talk about this more as an Ummah!
Omg astaghfirula what u said about being like the catholic church how scary! May Allah guide us
Aliya Beluli what is the time print for this part
That's the problem. We dont acknowledge that this stuff happens! It does. There was a woman who was married and the imam of her mosque pursued her and raped her. Got her pregnant and she didnt know how to tell her husband because she knew she would be blamed. This stuff happens all the time. There was another girl who lived with her sister and her sisters husband. She was a young teen by the way. Every time her sister would go to work the husband would sweet talk the girl and touch her and asked her to sit on his lap. Next thing you know she is pregnant and she doesn't even know how because she is so naive to not realize she was being groomed and abused. But rather than confess to his crimes the husband told her to get an abortion.
@@hyrunnisa997 A family friend went shopping and left her 5/6 months girl with her brother in law who recently came to live with her and her husband. She came back, he had disappeared and the baby's private parts were badly bleeding and damaged and baby was so distraught. People need to be careful. Sometimes even some father do these things. Also applies to females there are plenty of those who do these things to kids.
To be honest the topic you are talking about is yes exist in foreigne countries but not Arab Muslims specifically in Gulf countries Alhamedule Allah, our leaders will never ever shut their mouths for any acases or stand by the side of the oppressor. My experience with leaders abroad shock me! I live for 5 years and when I seek help or advice from imams it was horrific!!!!!! I never experienced such in my home country. Alhamedule Allah our leaders well educated in their deen, they know what abuse is! They know what oppression meant! And they will never hide the truth for the sake of any one. They exactly know their duties. Again my experience was the worst with seeking imams or sheikhs abroad because of lack of deen knowledge regardless of their titles. What happened to me is unbelievable!!!!!! and will forget it!!!
Even our government is with women and children side in regards of abuse, the same with man in case of abuse. Also, I should highlight Muslims men abroad are totally different than middle east in sense where treating women in a good manner. Ofcourse not all of them but seriously most of them. For example, while living abroad I had many friends who married for months, one year, four years and get divorced but in middle east I have friends whose marriage still last until today. So my opinion in leaders abroad is zero, but I hope this change in the near future otherwise it will be a disaster. I noticed that abroad Muslims want to be perfect Muslims and stress for that but perfection is not the solution. Just be human and be firm in your deen as it should be. Also, seeking perfection could become worse, Islam all about holding the stick in the middle. I hope my point get to all.
May Allah bless these girls to rise this topic and I know Muslims abroad community will label them in many names just because of their transparency and honesty. Abroad Muslims community have to wake up and stand with "Haqq"!!!!!!!
Please note that I'm not against imams or sheikhs abroad but I have to share my story.
Your sister from Gulf countries.
I've just came across these series very recently and loving listening to each and every episode. May Allah help you, reward you with the BEST OF REWARDS for standing up for others and helping those who cannot help themselves, Ameen.
Exactly. You telling the non Muslims about this or that as if Allah differentiates wrong by a Muslim or non Muslims. A wrong is a wrong is the eyes of Allah whether committed by a Muslim or non Muslim.
Should never accept forms of abuse, including spiritual abuse.
So sad Allah help the reverts
there people to look up to masha allah
So eloquently spoken by all
is very hard, like revert to islam i waited a lot good things about get married with a muslim husband, is very sad when broken your hearth and like revert you have not a family that be with you, a father that talk for you, I dont understand how someone can broken other muslim hearth and still with his life like anything happen, also like revert i asked myself in this moment ¿this is islam? are this rights that i have like muslim, like wife? alhamdulillah i didnot left islam, but i know a lot sisters that left islam for situations like this because really like revert really our hearth is pure and we really thing other muslim are like us, but our comunity left us alone definetly.
May Allah bless you with health, happiness and a life full of love. You are not alone and you are loved by Allah and our Ummah. ❤️💕
Getting the jewels Of Islam and son of Mary and still what Paul Started the show blue A FAMILY BASED ON Jesus Christ the Church Father's common and confessions and police protection and courts for those who except the trinity
Simply powerful discussion. Thank you for stating that acts of oppression and abuse are not condoned by Islam.
My Husband Bro and long taken son have done 50 yrs all together born 1948 -1958 -1970 yet = 50 yrs and still treated and can be labeled as Crimals and have had to except Christ in order to sevive
Handle with action of building money backing what you are speaking of A DOLLAR SENT TO HELP YES IT HURT
Being punched in the soul is often worse than being punched in the face.