Maybe it's about being patient with yourself. To be forgiving when things are shit and to be okay with not feeling okay sometimes. What you said made me so happy, I really needed this right now.
This was nice to hear today. I've found it difficult to engage with recovery stuff when it's all about loving yourself endlessly. I don't really feel like I can relate to that and I feel like it seems fake, but I'm aware my own feelings probably cloud that too. I certainly like and love myself in many ways but I don't think it's wrong to be unhappy or indifferent either!
I never thought there could be something in between self-love and self-hate - both of which make me uncomfortable. Like you said, I've got things to do and none of them have to do with my weight (something like that). So true! I'm going to put a post-it up with that quote to remind myself daily.
I understand what you mean, but that hasn't been my experience. I follow a few body positive instagram accounts, and they seem to focus on accepting yourself in general, good days and bad. I feel like I get more of that stuff from the people in my life who know about my eating disorder; it's like they worry so much about me that they panic when I don't feel good about myself. I can definitely see how people could do that to themselves though. Balance is so hard in general for so many of us.
This is something I very much needed to listen to. I started recovery three weeks ago and I don't feel good when I see my tummy all bloated up. I don't love it, but I ignore it because I know I need to be healthy again. I have decided to love my body enough to nourish it as much as it needs but not go so much overboard that it becomes fat in the extreme unhealthy manner. That is my goal and I wish to achieve it. But it is so great that you pointed out the flaw of body positivity movement. It is ok to have days or moments when you feel crappy. This is part of being normal. Sorry for that long rant. And Happy Women's Day to you too. :) ♡♡
So interesting. Never thought about this perspective...always knew self-love was important, and something that I lacked, but never until now realized that it can be just as susceptible to the dangerous "perfection" paradigm that a lot of us tend to assign to so many behaviors. I hope I'm taking away the message you're trying to convey, but I'm grateful that you've introduced me to the perspective that self-love doesn't have to be complete all the time, so as to keep our expectations realistic.
Once again dear Mia, I have loved hearing your thoughts. I find the idea of moderation and acceptance such a good way to look at things. By no means easy as I'm a black and white thinker, but definitely something I hope to continue working on. Thank you for sharing your thoughts again so beautifully.
Saying the self-love movement is setting us up for failure is a bit too generalizing in my opinion. A lot of it is about loving yourself even when you're not loving yourself in a way, if that makes sense. Being okay with liking your body instead of loving it is, in a way, self-love as well, because you're lowering your standards and saying 'I'm okay the way I am'. Of course this won't be how you feel every day, but for me, the idea of self-love is something that spreads itself out across the good and the bad days; taking everything as it comes without judgement. It's like every 'movement', ; everyone interprets it in their own personal way. Sure, there are people that take self-love to such extremes that it becomes a perfectionist thing, but that's not what it's about in the core of it's meaning. I'm sorry if this sounded a little woolly, I've been taking filosofy classes at Uni hahaha
Joelle Bouwman I think it's the wording which bothers me. Love sets a far greater expectation than acceptance, and the latter incorporates the entire scale of taking care of yourself. Fantastic movement though!
ok this is so freaky but the EXACT moment the truck came in for you a truck started revving outside my apartment. anyways, if i were to name the single most helpful person in my recovery itd have to be you. thank you for your nuanced approach to an incredibly complex illness
This is such a helpful video. I am always feeling like a failure bc I struggle with self love. Usually I don't hate myself so I'm better than I thought I was bc I feel like I constantly have to love myself. I feel like I am doing better but would like to accept myself more often than I do now. You are very beautiful and intelligent. I enjoy your videos😍
Maybe it's about being patient with yourself. To be forgiving when things are shit and to be okay with not feeling okay sometimes. What you said made me so happy, I really needed this right now.
This was nice to hear today. I've found it difficult to engage with recovery stuff when it's all about loving yourself endlessly. I don't really feel like I can relate to that and I feel like it seems fake, but I'm aware my own feelings probably cloud that too. I certainly like and love myself in many ways but I don't think it's wrong to be unhappy or indifferent either!
I never thought there could be something in between self-love and self-hate - both of which make me uncomfortable. Like you said, I've got things to do and none of them have to do with my weight (something like that). So true! I'm going to put a post-it up with that quote to remind myself daily.
I understand what you mean, but that hasn't been my experience. I follow a few body positive instagram accounts, and they seem to focus on accepting yourself in general, good days and bad. I feel like I get more of that stuff from the people in my life who know about my eating disorder; it's like they worry so much about me that they panic when I don't feel good about myself. I can definitely see how people could do that to themselves though. Balance is so hard in general for so many of us.
This is something I very much needed to listen to. I started recovery three weeks ago and I don't feel good when I see my tummy all bloated up. I don't love it, but I ignore it because I know I need to be healthy again. I have decided to love my body enough to nourish it as much as it needs but not go so much overboard that it becomes fat in the extreme unhealthy manner. That is my goal and I wish to achieve it. But it is so great that you pointed out the flaw of body positivity movement. It is ok to have days or moments when you feel crappy. This is part of being normal.
Sorry for that long rant. And Happy Women's Day to you too. :) ♡♡
Fat isn't unhealthy per se. That is very much the eating disorder talking. I hope you are now at a better place? Whish you all the best.
You look beautiful...keep up the good work..
So interesting. Never thought about this perspective...always knew self-love was important, and something that I lacked, but never until now realized that it can be just as susceptible to the dangerous "perfection" paradigm that a lot of us tend to assign to so many behaviors. I hope I'm taking away the message you're trying to convey, but I'm grateful that you've introduced me to the perspective that self-love doesn't have to be complete all the time, so as to keep our expectations realistic.
I needed this today, you don't have to do this and yet you do. I'm so so so grateful, Thank you ❤️
This really resonates with me. Thank you so much for a fantastic video.
This is so honest and real I love this
Once again dear Mia, I have loved hearing your thoughts. I find the idea of moderation and acceptance such a good way to look at things. By no means easy as I'm a black and white thinker, but definitely something I hope to continue working on. Thank you for sharing your thoughts again so beautifully.
so helpful and needed video! Your opinion is really on point and so real.. Thank You. Greetings from Poland🇵🇱🤗
Saying the self-love movement is setting us up for failure is a bit too generalizing in my opinion. A lot of it is about loving yourself even when you're not loving yourself in a way, if that makes sense. Being okay with liking your body instead of loving it is, in a way, self-love as well, because you're lowering your standards and saying 'I'm okay the way I am'. Of course this won't be how you feel every day, but for me, the idea of self-love is something that spreads itself out across the good and the bad days; taking everything as it comes without judgement. It's like every 'movement', ; everyone interprets it in their own personal way. Sure, there are people that take self-love to such extremes that it becomes a perfectionist thing, but that's not what it's about in the core of it's meaning. I'm sorry if this sounded a little woolly, I've been taking filosofy classes at Uni hahaha
Joelle Bouwman I think it's the wording which bothers me. Love sets a far greater expectation than acceptance, and the latter incorporates the entire scale of taking care of yourself. Fantastic movement though!
What Mia Did Next yeah, I get that! self-acceptance would be more suitable maybe
YESSSS. Such a great video. SO agree with you. Thanks for pointing out soooo many important things.
ok this is so freaky but the EXACT moment the truck came in for you a truck started revving outside my apartment. anyways, if i were to name the single most helpful person in my recovery itd have to be you. thank you for your nuanced approach to an incredibly complex illness
Hey, good work
i really needed to hear this
Watching this eating lunch.
Thank you.
You are so pretty?❤
This is such a helpful video. I am always feeling like a failure bc I struggle with self love. Usually I don't hate myself so I'm better than I thought I was bc I feel like I constantly have to love myself. I feel like I am doing better but would like to accept myself more often than I do now. You are very beautiful and intelligent. I enjoy your videos😍