I am a retired minister in the United Church of Christ. I did the same first gender wedding in our county and our church had the first same gender wedding as well. I received a lot of phone calls from people in the community telling me what an awful person I was and how awful our church was. Because we welcomed everyone a large number of gay people joined our congregation; most dealt with religious trauma being rejected or thrown out of other churches. Religous rejection leads to so much religious trauma. I am numb from hearing so many stories of cruelty to people for being a part of the LGBTQA+ community.
The ways that people have hurt others in the name of a God they expect that everyone is following is insane to me. I imagine to be in the place you were in and to have that thrown at you must have been a deep layer of pain 💜💜
Don’t let it numb you! You are actually making a difference and you can do no better than that. You can’t save everyone and that has to be okay, your own happiness on this earth is just as important.
In the storms of life is where a man is truly made where souls are being perfected restored and saved I will wait on you o Lord and know that you are near I won't trust in what I see ahead but only what I hear and I hear you're still small voice telling me to be calm to rest assured in your peace and be still 🌈😇🙏💙 63-year-old woman born gay still gay and best of all I'm a gay Christian😂
@@KellyRMinter Very much so. I admired them so much because they didn't give up on God, they gave up on churches. I think our church was, for many, their last crack at being people of faith. I think we ended up being one of three or four churches in the community who welcomed them. The vast majority did not.
I’m trans, and I don’t pass. So most of the time, random people I meet treat me like a dude. And the thing is, if I was completely comfortable, I would correct them. But whenever I want to correct someone I think, “Are they a massive transphobe? Would I be attacked? Would they kill me? If I’m never even gonna see them again, what’s the point in correcting them? I’ll just leave as quickly as possible so they aren’t able to misgender me again.” Having to constantly worry about whether or not I’m going to be assaulted or murdered simply for disclosing that I am trans is painful. I don’t think most cishet people understand how dire the situation is for people.
No one should have their lives threatened for being who they are. I happen to be straight and cisgender. You know what? No one's gender identity, sexual orientation, gender self-expression has ever harmed me. It is awful the opposite isn't true. Stay safe @yusaki8064.
I totally understand what you're expressing and it makes total sense that you need to find this balance between expressing yourself, but also needing safety... Sucks that you have to do it at all. I hate that our external appearance matters that much to total strangers...
To be fair, why should it matter? You know you're still a guy emulating a woman. If you don't pass, people are going to call what they see. Being trans should be about you, not what others think about you. When you do that, you're putting your happiness and self-acceptance in the hands of others. Never do that.
@@jasonwismer2670 You just insulted a trans woman by calling this chick a 'guy emulating a woman' while giving her advice to just not care about passing when she said the problem was her worrying about the very real issue of transphobic hatecrimes. That was backhanded as all hell and I genuinely hope you don't talk to everyone in your personal life like that because holy SHIT even if I were cis I would not want to be your friend
@@jasonwismer2670 I’m not “a guy emulating a woman”. That’s not what trans women are. So I take issue with that. Also unfortunately, when there is the ever real possibility of being attacked and murdered, I do have to think about what others think about me. It’s just a matter of safety. I don’t massively care about my life at the moment, honestly if someone murdered me they’d probably be doing me a favour. But my family would be sad if I died, and causing them sadness is unforgivable. So I have to be careful.
I’m glad you are putting this out there AND hope everyone realizes the trauma and damage to LGBTQ boomers done years and years ago. As a 64 year old lesbian, I can share personal experiences with you that interfered with employment, my house, threats to lose my child, the trauma of HIV/AIDS. This is round 2 for us. We went through the worst homophobia and heterosexism in our day just fighting for civil rights. We are going to lose them if the younger generation doesn’t take up the yoke and carry on our work. Your mental health, you’re spiritually, your life may depend on you now.
As a gay man who has been gay bashed a number of times, I am always mindful of the safety of my surroundings. I’m always sensitive to homophobia around me and particularly when used as a blunt tool for electoral gain by conservatives and god-botherers. Just when I feel like we’re over the hump and socially/politically in a better place, queer bashing by politicians, media and people who believe in Bronze Age superstitious nonsense puts me on edge again. It is a constant stress that is corrosive and wears you down.
You're not wrong. If it's any consolation, I'm a librarian who keeps arguing that we should reshelve the entire Religion section into Fiction, with the exception of the agnostics and possibly the atheists (the agnostics have a reasonable argument; the agnostic atheists I'll allow; the gnostic atheists are another story).
The sins of omission is a huge thing I think. The lack of representation and visibility and mirroring from positive role models, etc., is something I became aware of a long time ago. Those of us who grew up in a very religious environment saw those effects greatly magnified.
You really struck a chord when you mentioned minority stress of not seeing yourself represented in media. I feel like most of the queer representation I get from media is from all the hateful stuff politicians are saying and doing when I watch the news.
Me too. I would never do anything these people say we do, and I don't know any other trans people who would either. I hate being people's enemy, somebody to hate just because I'm alive.
How dare you make me feel all these feels! I went into this video thinking that I have not been morally injured. But then I realized it was me all along…I was injuring myself. My own internalized self denial from religion was causing me commit moral injury against myself as omission and commission. Thank you for this insight. Now I’m gonna’ go cry… -Dr. Sofie
I'm auDHD with signs of PDA, non-binary and trans (medically transitioning taking testosterone) and into men. My alienation and minority stress is wild. I'm just plainly too different. And even with other neurodiverget folks, we're all very widely different, and not as common, finding people who understand and can relate is so rare. Getting aknowledged that minority stress is real and can be so profound - I want to thank you. I wish I had a therapist who would genuinely validate that.
Omg...i did not realize what a trigger that phrase "sins of omission" was for me. Im not criticizing you for using it, youre fine. That was the phrase my minister used when accusing me of sin when i went to them for coubsel and comfort after being r***d as a teenager. One of many things i finally left my church over. Thank you though fir covering this topic. It is so true.... It is sad to know i am just one of thousands in my community who dont even feel safe living a quiet life of no real consequence...simply because we are different in just one aspect of self.
Never describe your life as "of no real consequence." I'm a librarian who paints and rescues cats. On the surface, I'm a complete stereotype. But if you look a little deeper, it has real consequence to those who enjoy my paintings...and the cats certainly appreciate the fact that I'm there. Your life has consequence to those you impact every day, and that effect ripples out through the world.
I believe this is why coming out feels so good. You’re bucking the moral injuries you’ve experienced and get to experience affirmation. I’m fortunate in that my coming out experience wasn’t the worst.
I am a bisexual man. The biggest stressor I have with regards to NY sexuality is dating women. Despite the fact that I am monogamous, they still don't accept bisexual men. Interestingly enough, the bi erasure that I encountered was exclusively from women-both right and left. I have had many women tell me I am gay and need to accept it. Well; I am not gay, and like gay people-I too have a right to my identity. Honestly, I have never encountered the same hostility from men. I live in a purple state (Arizona), in a Republican dominant city. Women (both right and left) have been the more hostile camp. The men I am out too (straight, gay, liberal, conservative) don't really care.
Being a transwoman, with autism and ADHD, trying to conform for 34 years, because the area i grow up in was literally dangerous to be in even as a child when you wasnt hetero normative. Got beaten, bullied, sexually assaulted and much much more.. i know very well how minority stress affect my life.. I'm not only a minority, i am a minority in any minority groups i am part of, so even in places where i should feel safe and accepted i dont.. 😓 Having to think about how much you can say about yourself, without being judge, misunderstood, isolated, and more.. F.x. making friends, do i tell that i'm autistic and got ADHD? On one hand, if i dont i got misunderstood because of differences in behavior and perception, on the other hand if i do people treat me different and most people just simple distance them self, because of it.. when and how do i say that i'm transgender? I'm lucky i am not very big at all, i pass quite well.. but how do i handle conversations where i dont have experiences because of my body, but women expect that i got? Because yes i can say it, but it will change their behaviour afterwards.. even in situations where i can talk about my experience, like being unable to get pregnant like a rather big group of cis women, i still need to consider my wording or expect questions no other women would get.. even though my sorrow and pain about it are just as genuine as a cis women with the same problem.. And then there is dating 😒 or job interviews.. 🫣 and more.. Just the feeling of being outside and people look, and not knowing if it is they know or it is something else.. 🤔 is very stressful..
@@KellyRMinter spot on.. i do not feel close to anyone.. and never had.. a little like one of those dreams where you are kinda an observer, but still are part of the dream without really being it. On top of that, i feel like being an observer to another persons life stuck in that persons body.. I find myself explaining to others that, "that feeling" you get when someone are a little of or don't get they talk about something you don't want to talk about, autist have too.. the difference is that we got it in the majority of conversations, and do we point it out we get blamed for being the rude one.. but we can not just talk to the next person, because we are so few.. Or the feeling of exhaustion we get from masking our social deficit, is the same as when you are a non native, speaking with a group of native speaking people.. it is just all day for us every freaking day, we dont get a break. And when we try to ask people to accommodate us just a little, it is like speaking to a native English speaking person, they simple expect you to conform to their language because "all can speak english".. I am "high functioning", i got 2 degrees and works full time.. But i still get the you cant be an autist, you are too good socially.. or you cant have ADHD, you can focus and sit still comments.. also from fellow autistic and ADHD people.. I have had a school psychologist ask if what was wrong with me could be fixed with a surgery.. psychiatrist ignore me asking to be tested for autism for 16 years before i got the diagnosis.. being blamed for being a bad parent because of my autism and my kids had different behaviours (not bad just different), they are also autistic.. I have never wanted to commit suicide, but i have been self harming, i'm fighting with an eating disorder i can't shake, and a Hugh pile of trauma.. I live in a country where we luckily are not anti trans og lgbt+ anymore, but we just have had a story in the news where it can to light that 90% of all people born in my country between 1985-2000 having a diagnosis in the neuro diverse spectrum which got they blood taking at birth to run standard test have been gen sequenced to target the gens resulting i f.x. autism.. under the theses that they wanted to find a cure.. that is degradation at the highest degree.. we cant even sue because there was given consent from our parents at the birth.. Try being classified as something abnormal which needs to be cured..
This is scary in terms of how accurate your description of my life is. At 40, this ordeal has left me severely depressed, anxious, paranoid, and isolated. I don't have access to therapy, I have no support system, and I no longer have it in me to keep trying to figure this out.
@@lotfibouhedjeur Je ne sais pas si tu parles français, mais j'ai essayé de t'envoyer des lyens avec mon compte principal, mais la plateforme les a supprimé. Donc l'assos se nomme HelemMontreal. J'habite en région montréalaise, si tu vx me contacter j'ai un réso qui rime avec anagramme. Je sais que ça peut paraitre compliqué mais pour le trouver, il faut écrire la première lettre des mots suivants en n'oubliant pas le point: Faire . moins karaté wagon lion lent
Im a gay man and what gets me are tv commercials that feature bride and groom couples all the time. From dog food to candy bars. Why? How does it relate?
My boyfriend, who is cisgender and heterosexual (I'm pansexual), has said the same thing. He always thinks it's so weird how they sexualize food commercials, and how it is always straight people.Even he has thought it was strange.
I'm a non-passing trans woman. I dont correct people if they misgender me because I don't like being a burden. The same burden transphobes cry about saying we're "forcing it down their throats". I feel increasingly unsafe in my relatively liberal city, mostly from cis men. Also, I used to be religious, and I left in 2021, after the Jan-6 event and just befire realizing I was queer. My religious mom went on a massive, several-phone-page-long relifious tangent about me changing my name and pronouns. I haven't talked to her in a year.
I am so sorry that your mom couldn't get past her understanding of religion and see her daughter for who she is. You have every right to correct people and to love fully who you are. I wish our world was a safe place for you to do that in. I know that more and more every day it is not. I am sorry for that 💜💜
I’m a passing trans woman. I’m currently living far away from my very accepting family and community. My grown kids are worried to say the least as I’m living stealth. I’m caring for my elderly mom and I had to bring my disabled son with me (his dad is a trans man but he’s not in the picture) I can’t move my mom right now. To have to go back in the closet is bringing up a lot for me. The queer community very much took me in decades ago and helped me as a young single parent. I feel so isolated again. My employer doesn’t know nor my coworkers. I have men after me a lot and it scares me if I’m found out. I’m seen as a cis straight woman and I end up forgetting who I am in moments. I don’t even feel safe telling other people I meet who’re LGBTQIA because I have dependents to worry about and I have employees who would definitely see me differently. I go to the gym with an employee who’s transphobic as she very much sees me as cis. I have a transphobic ex employee who keeps hitting up on me. I’m small, high voice and I’m called mom and grandma so no one questions who I am. I know this is only temporary but I’m terrified. I feel so much like I escaped years ago and now I’ve gone back to live behind enemy lines. I do know I’m incredibly privileged compared to so many. I’ve lived a good life and I’d certainly rather it be me to be taken out before those who haven’t known genuine sustained happiness get a chance. But I’d like none of us to be taken out. I lived thru childhood abuse, the streets, my neighborhood being one of the worst hit by AIDS years ago and the trauma it caused. I understand in the worst of times there’s always joy to be found and lessons to be learned. I know all the anti trans nonsense is just the latest moral panic designed to distract and it will eventually end. But I’m definitely struggling right now. No none should have to live in fear.
I’m not sure why but even now I get a lot of anxiety when I interact with religious ppl on the matter of lgbt issues or their views on queerness. Even though I left religion behind I still have a lot of internalized stress and anxiety because of everything I’ve been taught and told. It’s like they bring out my fears, shames, guilt and all the thoughts that went through my head when I was still religious and realized I was queer. The internal struggle I had was so overwhelming and overbearing even now that I’ve come to love and accept this part of myself I still find it hard not to feel guilty or ashamed or feel like I’m doing something wrong. And I desperately try to fight that it really feels like I’m drowning.
I always felt the pressure to "pass" was an experience that queer people and neurodivergent people shared. Almost everything I heard in this video about heteronormative trauma sounds like it could apply to neuronormative trauma as well.
4:25 I feel this so much. This is the only comment, I'll probably ever make regarding this on this account. But, when I was younger I came out as being a trans man, because my parents told me that I couldn't be truly in between. I then ended up detransitioning, because of the fact that I knew I wasn't a trans man. I buried my dysphoria with drugs and now that I'm 28, and finally starting to come off of my methadone, and I'm more stable, the dysphoria is back with force. It's really frustrating, because I'm in a relationship now with a heterosexual cisgender man, because I am pansexual and, I'm not willing to lose him. The idea of him not being in my life, is horrifying. I know for a fact too, if I decided to transition, to identifying publicly as non-binary and started physically transitioning, that he would not be okay with that. As he is attracted to cis women solely. [He is not a transphobe at least, and we've spoken about these issues and he supported for other people. He just wouldn't personally date somebody who fell on that spectrum.] It's just unfortunate, because I feel like I don't have the same guts that I did when I was younger. Another reason, I will not be coming out is, partly why I detransitioned as well, even if it's less of a reason, it was just so hard to date. I couldn't find anybody, who actually respected and understood who I was. I only was ever able to find one person, and they were not the most positive partner. I feel like, at this point I'm just going to continue to be an ally to the trans community, and be there for them. As that is the best I can do at this point. I'm not willing to come out, and go through all that s***. I just don't have the guts to do it, and I don't have the guts to impact the current relationships I have. I already am lonely as is, it would just be worse. It just sucks feeling this way. The crazy thing is too, I agree with everything you're saying, shoving things down like that is not good. It's insane to me too, that I'm involved in this level of cognitive dissonance, because I would always tell anybody that they need to be authentically themselves. It's honestly a big reason why I'm so supportive over trans youth, because I don't want them to end up being forced back into the closet like I was.
I so appreciate you taking about this. So overdue to discuss in society. Some really good things here. Makes me think of when friends ask often, “when did you come out?” But we come out continuously each time we meet a new person. You’re right we constantly have to determine when and where are we safe.
Yes! I covered this question again in my microaggression video, because the portion of "curiosity" that makes people believe it is appropriate to ask that question is definitely coming from a place of privilege. 💙💙
i experience profound minority stress, and the degree of my marginalization is particularly extreme; i am not straight, i am not cis, and i am also part of another minority sexuality that is often judged as wrong even by other lgbt people learning to regard the world in terms of radical outsider ethics, to forgive myself for not being 'normal' while also protecting myself against harm and picking my battles is a constant struggle. you might have noticed i didn't even specify what my most marginalized identity is, since i am actively judging this comment section to be unsafe. so there's a practical demonstration of some of the concepts being discussed here
While I know I can't understand THE struggle to the extent you live it, I can definitely see WHY it would be a constant struggle to balance the living into who you are and necessity to protect yourself. I know you have been clear that here is not that for you, but do you have any area where you are safe to be completely you? Online or in person? You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I would totally understand. Either way I appreciate you way hing and commenting, and sharing part of your story here. 💜💜
@@KellyRMinter thank you for being understanding. i do have a place where i feel comfortable to be myself among peers and it heals and transforms me. i didn't mean to be judgemental of you or any individual when i said i don't feel safe enough to be open here. it's just long experience of what most internet comment sections can be like.
I literally left a toxic work environment where a conservative gay coworker made me feel all of this in the video as a nonbinary person who started HRT. He didn't know before I came out to him, but this explains very well why this still impacted me so badly. Both of us grew up religious, and I understand his line of thought but it was so painful to have to keep that to myself for so long. I am in Colorado now and everyone seems so supportive of queer people no matter what kind of queer person you are so...maybe I'll risk it all and try again. I am trying to heal.
I am so glad you have been able to get into a more supportive environment! I think sometimes people overlook the fact that this same thing came come from right within our own community, thank you for being willing to share part of your story here 💛💛
I really appreciate that definition of cognitive dissonance vs. the moral injury. I am analytical so I sometimes think "I must have cognitive dissonance because I'm doing everything all wrong." But seeing how you talked about it here, that it's an experience many go through, is very helpful.
Oof, I feel called out. I literally omit the fact that I like women all the time. I don't think people are going to be aweful to me per se, if I tell them. I do find that other women will start to consider me a woman with an even bigger asterisk than usually, since I am trans. If I could 100% pass, I would go stealth.
I'm 63 years old born gay and you're right and so smart I didn't start dealing with my own self until about 52, And you're never going to I'm never going to be the same because of all I went through and all I went through has caused a lot of unnecessary energy wasted. But we must forgive does it mean we can go back into society so easily. 🌈😇🙏
This was a super validating video and I came into the comments to say that. But I’m a little disappointed that you respond to the hateful comments instead of deleting them. I kind of expected your comment section to be a safe space
I am sorry that having the comment here removed the validation you felt in watching the video. I leave the negative comments up, typically, and reply to them as soon as I can to prevent anyone else from feeling like they HAVE to comment. I'm going to be super honest here and hope it comes across the way I want it to. The YT algorithm LOVES to deplatform content like mine. When I immediately delete a comment, it really, REALLY negatively impacts the reach of a video. I know that may not sound like a big deal but for me the entire reason I do this channel is so more and more people know they are not alone and they are not bad, broken, or wrong. And so I choose to reply and use their hate to push the videos forward instead of allowing their hate to keep the reach smaller. Again, I am really and truly sorry if that has meant that the work we are doing here has been ruined for you. I appreciate you sharing your perspective ❤️
@@KellyRMinter Honestly you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells about this. If you use hate comments to fuel ideas for new material that’s a perfectly valid way to respond to hate comments. If seeing a comment is enough to drive you away from a good channel then you probably shouldn’t be on TH-cam. I just hope that OP never ends up in the position of power.
@@jordanwhite8718- Wow, that's a very narrow-minded take on OP's comment. If the only advice you have fir somebody who doesn't feel safe in a certain space is "just leave", there's something more wrong with you than there is with them. TH-cam should work for everyone, not just the people it likes.
@@Vahlee-A There’s something I learned as a disabled person that I think everyone should understand. There is no such thing as a safe space. Every time I go outside my house, I have to face the reality as someone who is legally blind that when I cross the street, some idiot driver who wants to run a red light can end up ending my life. It’s not very likely but it can happen. When you go onto a platform with other people you have to deal with with those other people. Part of the reason I think bullying is such an important part of childhood is that it teaches you that when you become an adult, you will have to deal with people you don’t like, you have to deal with assholes who might decide that they find it fun to ruin your day. And OP certainly does not have the right to come on to somebody’s channel and tell them how to run their channel. The high-level of disrespect OP showed is just incredible.I would never think that I would have the right to come on to somebody’s TH-cam channel and tell them how to do their job.
Oh, that's daily in most forums and even online. Accept Jesus/suffer in hell dichotomy thinkers are insane (and while I completely lack qualifications, I'm beginning to think I mean that quite literally).
This kind of stuff along with minority stress in general is a lot of why I actually feel perfectly justified avoiding most of society for good periods of time at this point. I still wanna get out more, but sometimes I need to gain community with my own people first and if those people are online rn rather than IRL then so be it.
I was raised fundie evangelical xtian. It left a mark. It gave me so much shame and guilt about myself it took me until 46, last year, to finally just recognize I'm trans. But it was a revelation! and I haven't looked back since. I'm working in an online community to discuss religious authoritarian parenting. It's providing an excellent space to consider what was done to me and how I can recover and move on. Because to me, nothing is giving me greater satisfaction and happiness then starting to live my life for me! It's scary, sure, and especially with the rhetoric, but at least I'm finally me.
Just found your channel and instantly subscribed, love your vids so far! 💕 I was wondering if you’ve made a video on how you decided on choosing your career and the pros and cons of your job, especially with your specialties in queer/religious trauma. Deciding what to do with my psych degree has been tough but I’m very interested in what your career is like and how it compares to a psychologist. Ty! :)
Welcome!!! I can definitely do a video on that! I'll put it on the list and see where it make the most sense in the topic rotation! Thanks for being here and thanks for watching 💚
I really struggle with finding a group of queer people my age. I’m in my early twenties, and most groups are either for high schoolers, or people who are ten or more years older than me. I don’t exactly have anything against sharing a space with someone older, but I think meeting people closer to my age would be beneficial, as I could relate to them and their stage of life. And younger queer people is a definite no, because it isn’t appropriate for me to hang out with high schoolers.
@Reed5016 ugh, I know how that is... I grew up in FL. I'd say if you can move to a more urban part of FL, you'd have an easier time finding community.
@@Reed5016I also know, a lot of queer people will use queer dating apps just to make new friends... Not even for hookups or anything. Chances are, if you're struggling to find people like you, people like you are also struggling to find you. Best wishes :)
I’ve been avoiding this video for a few days fearing the video would be about the moral injury religious people feel at the existence of lgbtq+ people. Grew up Mormon, am gay and non-binary. Pride month for me means tempering my celebrations around my parents.
Oh wow. I'm sorry that it came off that way. I hope once you watched it you felt better? I am sorry that your celebration has to be tempered during pride month. I hope you are finding a way to celebrate in your own way 💛💛
I’m a trans woman, 45. Various times over the past few years my boss has told me that I need to wear skirts and shorts that are longer, and no tank tops. It makes me feel gross and uncomfortable even though I’m not exactly wearing skimpy outfits. Well, earlier this year, he hired a 20 year old cis-het young lady. Guess what? She gets to wear skimpy gym shorts and tank tops and the boss says NOTHING to her about it!! I don’t think he even realizes what a creep and a hypocrite he is! I want to seek retribution but can’t afford access to the law. What’s worse is I can’t afford to quit and I have to keep subjecting myself to this!!
This works for any perceive minority status, justified or not. I have family and friends on the political right who feel this way. Though that is infuriating to me as it is absolutely not the case in fact, I see how it puts blinders on and filters their perception. It helps me understand how serious the problem is, and that problem has created the backlash for supporting sexual, gender, and other minorities. I feel like we’ve had such a set back the past 10 years, we have a temptation to go back into hiding. I just stay true to who I am and have modified by response to the newly re-emergent bigotry. I try not to react because it is neither effective nor healthy.
These are really good points. To your last point, that is a very hard line to walk in a balanced way, but I agree it is one that is important to do in places where it is safe to do so. 💙💙💙
Deconstruction is the way forward. If you were raised in a religion, understand that it's made up and trust yourself over parables that give people license to be bigoted. It's not that God isn't real. It's that if any of us are honest, none of us can know the true nature of God. Leave the religion behind in its entirety and build your own relationship with God.
I have question for you over lgbt . Signs i know i wasn't straight. Sign number 1 i start having crushson tv soap characters on both men and women. Like men liam connor from coronation street and Bradley branning from eastenders and women Sian powers in corontion street and heather peace who plays Eve Unwin in eastenders. Sign number 2 i start having crushes on men and women singers Men singer call peter andre who sings mysterious girl and girl singer call Jessie J . Sign number 3 i start kissing photo of girl on my high school musical balloons name is Vanessa Hudgens who plays gabriella montez in hsm Sign number 4 i start having fancying Lesbian call Rachel in my old work place for special needs. Sign number 5 i got crush on celebrity like Peter Andre and Zac Efron And corbin bleu and Jessie j and Vansssa Hudgens and Girl from 90 day fiance Call Erkia Owens Sign number 6 i can't stop thinking about it Please can you help me please
"For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due." Romans 1; 26-27 "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." 1 Cor. 6; 9-11 1 Tim. 1; 10 Deut. 22; 5 Lev. 18; 22, 20; 13 Such WERE some of you.... BUT now you are transformed into the image of Christ.... is the message. It is a sin just like all the other sins. "I'm a greedy corporate embezzler who exploits the workers.. but they won't let me into their church.... and they are not being loving.... they are judging me... and hating on me... and claiming that I can't be a Christian while I am engaged in this heinous sin... how dare they!" Booo hoooo hoooo! Sob... sob... sniffle. Don't they know that I was... born this way? I just neeeeed to swindle people! Why don't they understand me?! (Eyeroll) Jesus calls us out of sin, to repent of sin and live a holy life. That is God's Word. That is the Bible. That is the Truth. Sometimes the truth hurts. But you cannot change it into something else that you like better and still claim to be obeying God. So yes, the truth hurts at times. But hell hurts more. That is the truth. There is nothing unloving being said in any of this, because God is not unloving and yes, that is really what He said. And yes, abortion is murder, that does not mean we need to open our borders to those we did not beget. Wokeness will lead to hell. Certain sins are an abomination and open one up to the demonic, we are seeing that today with the grooming of children in public libraries by the demonic fairies. Please people, wake up.
You must be lost...in this corner of the internet we don't go around using mythical books and fairy tales to berate people for being who they are and then cry "no hate, just love" to make ourselves feel better and walk away. VERY simple Google searches (or, better yet, education in the matter) can help you contextualize those scriptures you are quoting in an attempt to...well actually I don't even know what you're attempting to do here with this comment. You put a lot of work into it, I'll give you that. Maybe put half this much work into spreading positivity in the world and see how much better you feel. Oh, and I mean no hate by this. And, see, you have to believe it bc I said it, right? *Eye roll* 💁♀️
What is wrong with you? You come into a comment section where people are trying to heal from your religious bullshit and spout hate. I get that you want to perform for your god because you’re scared of him. But do it someplace else. Have the day you deserve
Since you enjoy scripture so much, I thought you might appreciate these.......for those who believe they can judge others when they themselves are not without sin (James 4:11-12, Romans 14:10, Romans 3:23, John 8:7, Matthew 7:1-3)......for those who have a nasty, hateful tongue (James 1:26)......and just to remind you who Christ said had been given ALL judgment, that is the ONLY one who gets to judge the "sins" of others (John 5:22). Also, I do hope you don't support or even idolize any pastors or politicians (especially if they're orange) who are adulterers, liars, racists, rapists, thieves, idolators, or hate-mongers.....because if you do that would make you a hypocrite.....unless of course you are pointing out THEIR sins to THEM. Also, don't ever forget Matthew 7:12 OR The Greatest Commandment, neither of which you seem to be familiar with.
Do you also believe the earth is only 6000-10000 years old, the earth is flat and the centre of the universe or do you pick and choose which bits to believe from a book of fairytales concocted by illiterate Bronze Age peasants who didn’t know where the sun went at night?
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I am a retired minister in the United Church of Christ. I did the same first gender wedding in our county and our church had the first same gender wedding as well. I received a lot of phone calls from people in the community telling me what an awful person I was and how awful our church was. Because we welcomed everyone a large number of gay people joined our congregation; most dealt with religious trauma being rejected or thrown out of other churches. Religous rejection leads to so much religious trauma. I am numb from hearing so many stories of cruelty to people for being a part of the LGBTQA+ community.
The ways that people have hurt others in the name of a God they expect that everyone is following is insane to me. I imagine to be in the place you were in and to have that thrown at you must have been a deep layer of pain 💜💜
I wish there were a religious congregation like that where I live. Bless you for being there for those of us in your area.
Don’t let it numb you! You are actually making a difference and you can do no better than that. You can’t save everyone and that has to be okay, your own happiness on this earth is just as important.
In the storms of life is where a man is truly made where souls are being perfected restored and saved I will wait on you o Lord and know that you are near I won't trust in what I see ahead but only what I hear and I hear you're still small voice telling me to be calm to rest assured in your peace and be still
🌈😇🙏💙 63-year-old woman born gay still gay and best of all I'm a gay Christian😂
@@KellyRMinter Very much so. I admired them so much because they didn't give up on God, they gave up on churches. I think our church was, for many, their last crack at being people of faith. I think we ended up being one of three or four churches in the community who welcomed them. The vast majority did not.
I’m trans, and I don’t pass. So most of the time, random people I meet treat me like a dude. And the thing is, if I was completely comfortable, I would correct them. But whenever I want to correct someone I think, “Are they a massive transphobe? Would I be attacked? Would they kill me? If I’m never even gonna see them again, what’s the point in correcting them? I’ll just leave as quickly as possible so they aren’t able to misgender me again.”
Having to constantly worry about whether or not I’m going to be assaulted or murdered simply for disclosing that I am trans is painful. I don’t think most cishet people understand how dire the situation is for people.
No one should have their lives threatened for being who they are. I happen to be straight and cisgender. You know what? No one's gender identity, sexual orientation, gender self-expression has ever harmed me. It is awful the opposite isn't true. Stay safe @yusaki8064.
I totally understand what you're expressing and it makes total sense that you need to find this balance between expressing yourself, but also needing safety... Sucks that you have to do it at all. I hate that our external appearance matters that much to total strangers...
To be fair, why should it matter? You know you're still a guy emulating a woman. If you don't pass, people are going to call what they see. Being trans should be about you, not what others think about you. When you do that, you're putting your happiness and self-acceptance in the hands of others. Never do that.
@@jasonwismer2670 You just insulted a trans woman by calling this chick a 'guy emulating a woman' while giving her advice to just not care about passing when she said the problem was her worrying about the very real issue of transphobic hatecrimes. That was backhanded as all hell and I genuinely hope you don't talk to everyone in your personal life like that because holy SHIT even if I were cis I would not want to be your friend
@@jasonwismer2670 I’m not “a guy emulating a woman”. That’s not what trans women are. So I take issue with that.
Also unfortunately, when there is the ever real possibility of being attacked and murdered, I do have to think about what others think about me. It’s just a matter of safety. I don’t massively care about my life at the moment, honestly if someone murdered me they’d probably be doing me a favour. But my family would be sad if I died, and causing them sadness is unforgivable. So I have to be careful.
I’m glad you are putting this out there AND hope everyone realizes the trauma and damage to LGBTQ boomers done years and years ago. As a 64 year old lesbian, I can share personal experiences with you that interfered with employment, my house, threats to lose my child, the trauma of HIV/AIDS. This is round 2 for us. We went through the worst homophobia and heterosexism in our day just fighting for civil rights. We are going to lose them if the younger generation doesn’t take up the yoke and carry on our work. Your mental health, you’re spiritually, your life may depend on you now.
As a gay man who has been gay bashed a number of times, I am always mindful of the safety of my surroundings. I’m always sensitive to homophobia around me and particularly when used as a blunt tool for electoral gain by conservatives and god-botherers. Just when I feel like we’re over the hump and socially/politically in a better place, queer bashing by politicians, media and people who believe in Bronze Age superstitious nonsense puts me on edge again.
It is a constant stress that is corrosive and wears you down.
It really, really does wear on you. especially when it is piling on top of things from your past like you've described. I am sorry. 🧡🧡
You're not wrong. If it's any consolation, I'm a librarian who keeps arguing that we should reshelve the entire Religion section into Fiction, with the exception of the agnostics and possibly the atheists (the agnostics have a reasonable argument; the agnostic atheists I'll allow; the gnostic atheists are another story).
The sins of omission is a huge thing I think. The lack of representation and visibility and mirroring from positive role models, etc., is something I became aware of a long time ago. Those of us who grew up in a very religious environment saw those effects greatly magnified.
Very, very much so! 💚💚
You really struck a chord when you mentioned minority stress of not seeing yourself represented in media.
I feel like most of the queer representation I get from media is from all the hateful stuff politicians are saying and doing when I watch the news.
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Me too. I would never do anything these people say we do, and I don't know any other trans people who would either. I hate being people's enemy, somebody to hate just because I'm alive.
How dare you make me feel all these feels! I went into this video thinking that I have not been morally injured. But then I realized it was me all along…I was injuring myself. My own internalized self denial from religion was causing me commit moral injury against myself as omission and commission.
Thank you for this insight. Now I’m gonna’ go cry…
-Dr. Sofie
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I'm auDHD with signs of PDA, non-binary and trans (medically transitioning taking testosterone) and into men. My alienation and minority stress is wild. I'm just plainly too different. And even with other neurodiverget folks, we're all very widely different, and not as common, finding people who understand and can relate is so rare. Getting aknowledged that minority stress is real and can be so profound - I want to thank you. I wish I had a therapist who would genuinely validate that.
Omg...i did not realize what a trigger that phrase "sins of omission" was for me. Im not criticizing you for using it, youre fine. That was the phrase my minister used when accusing me of sin when i went to them for coubsel and comfort after being r***d as a teenager. One of many things i finally left my church over. Thank you though fir covering this topic. It is so true.... It is sad to know i am just one of thousands in my community who dont even feel safe living a quiet life of no real consequence...simply because we are different in just one aspect of self.
Never describe your life as "of no real consequence." I'm a librarian who paints and rescues cats. On the surface, I'm a complete stereotype. But if you look a little deeper, it has real consequence to those who enjoy my paintings...and the cats certainly appreciate the fact that I'm there.
Your life has consequence to those you impact every day, and that effect ripples out through the world.
I believe this is why coming out feels so good. You’re bucking the moral injuries you’ve experienced and get to experience affirmation. I’m fortunate in that my coming out experience wasn’t the worst.
That's a really good point 💙💙💙
I am a bisexual man. The biggest stressor I have with regards to NY sexuality is dating women. Despite the fact that I am monogamous, they still don't accept bisexual men.
Interestingly enough, the bi erasure that I encountered was exclusively from women-both right and left. I have had many women tell me I am gay and need to accept it. Well; I am not gay, and like gay people-I too have a right to my identity.
Honestly, I have never encountered the same hostility from men. I live in a purple state (Arizona), in a Republican dominant city. Women (both right and left) have been the more hostile camp. The men I am out too (straight, gay, liberal, conservative) don't really care.
This is so spot on! Every word of it. I'm 43 years old, and it feels like my life has been destroyed by this.
Thank you for watching, I am both happy and so, so sorry it resonates so much 💚💚
I know the feeling just know that you're not alone we're all together in this. 💙🙏😇🌈
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Being a transwoman, with autism and ADHD, trying to conform for 34 years, because the area i grow up in was literally dangerous to be in even as a child when you wasnt hetero normative. Got beaten, bullied, sexually assaulted and much much more.. i know very well how minority stress affect my life..
I'm not only a minority, i am a minority in any minority groups i am part of, so even in places where i should feel safe and accepted i dont.. 😓
Having to think about how much you can say about yourself, without being judge, misunderstood, isolated, and more..
F.x. making friends, do i tell that i'm autistic and got ADHD? On one hand, if i dont i got misunderstood because of differences in behavior and perception, on the other hand if i do people treat me different and most people just simple distance them self, because of it.. when and how do i say that i'm transgender? I'm lucky i am not very big at all, i pass quite well.. but how do i handle conversations where i dont have experiences because of my body, but women expect that i got? Because yes i can say it, but it will change their behaviour afterwards.. even in situations where i can talk about my experience, like being unable to get pregnant like a rather big group of cis women, i still need to consider my wording or expect questions no other women would get.. even though my sorrow and pain about it are just as genuine as a cis women with the same problem..
And then there is dating 😒 or job interviews.. 🫣 and more..
Just the feeling of being outside and people look, and not knowing if it is they know or it is something else.. 🤔 is very stressful..
Having to have those questions in your head all the time must make it hard to feel close to many people at any given point. I am sorry. 💚💚
@@KellyRMinter spot on.. i do not feel close to anyone.. and never had.. a little like one of those dreams where you are kinda an observer, but still are part of the dream without really being it. On top of that, i feel like being an observer to another persons life stuck in that persons body..
I find myself explaining to others that, "that feeling" you get when someone are a little of or don't get they talk about something you don't want to talk about, autist have too.. the difference is that we got it in the majority of conversations, and do we point it out we get blamed for being the rude one.. but we can not just talk to the next person, because we are so few..
Or the feeling of exhaustion we get from masking our social deficit, is the same as when you are a non native, speaking with a group of native speaking people.. it is just all day for us every freaking day, we dont get a break.
And when we try to ask people to accommodate us just a little, it is like speaking to a native English speaking person, they simple expect you to conform to their language because "all can speak english"..
I am "high functioning", i got 2 degrees and works full time..
But i still get the you cant be an autist, you are too good socially.. or you cant have ADHD, you can focus and sit still comments.. also from fellow autistic and ADHD people..
I have had a school psychologist ask if what was wrong with me could be fixed with a surgery.. psychiatrist ignore me asking to be tested for autism for 16 years before i got the diagnosis.. being blamed for being a bad parent because of my autism and my kids had different behaviours (not bad just different), they are also autistic..
I have never wanted to commit suicide, but i have been self harming, i'm fighting with an eating disorder i can't shake, and a Hugh pile of trauma..
I live in a country where we luckily are not anti trans og lgbt+ anymore, but we just have had a story in the news where it can to light that 90% of all people born in my country between 1985-2000 having a diagnosis in the neuro diverse spectrum which got they blood taking at birth to run standard test have been gen sequenced to target the gens resulting i f.x. autism.. under the theses that they wanted to find a cure.. that is degradation at the highest degree.. we cant even sue because there was given consent from our parents at the birth..
Try being classified as something abnormal which needs to be cured..
This is scary in terms of how accurate your description of my life is. At 40, this ordeal has left me severely depressed, anxious, paranoid, and isolated. I don't have access to therapy, I have no support system, and I no longer have it in me to keep trying to figure this out.
Do you live in Canada? I know a LGBT Arab organization in Montreal that can help you.
@alexn.2901 I appreciate you taking the time to reply. I'll be moving to Canada next year. How can I contact them? Where are you based in Canada?
@@lotfibouhedjeur Je ne sais pas si tu parles français, mais j'ai essayé de t'envoyer des lyens avec mon compte principal, mais la plateforme les a supprimé. Donc l'assos se nomme HelemMontreal.
J'habite en région montréalaise, si tu vx me contacter j'ai un réso qui rime avec anagramme.
Je sais que ça peut paraitre compliqué mais pour le trouver, il faut écrire la première lettre des mots suivants en n'oubliant pas le point:
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@@lotfibouhedjeur Btw, I tried to share the links and all but my comment got automatically removed.
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This is a seriously overlooked issue. Thanks for addressing it and explaining it well.😊
Thank you for watching! 🧡🧡
Im a gay man and what gets me are tv commercials that feature bride and groom couples all the time. From dog food to candy bars. Why? How does it relate?
Alllll the time! But then one character happens to be gay in a TV show and people get accused of "pushing an agenda". It's absolutely bizarre. 💛💛💛
My boyfriend, who is cisgender and heterosexual (I'm pansexual), has said the same thing. He always thinks it's so weird how they sexualize food commercials, and how it is always straight people.Even he has thought it was strange.
I'm a non-passing trans woman. I dont correct people if they misgender me because I don't like being a burden. The same burden transphobes cry about saying we're "forcing it down their throats". I feel increasingly unsafe in my relatively liberal city, mostly from cis men.
Also, I used to be religious, and I left in 2021, after the Jan-6 event and just befire realizing I was queer. My religious mom went on a massive, several-phone-page-long relifious tangent about me changing my name and pronouns. I haven't talked to her in a year.
I am so sorry that your mom couldn't get past her understanding of religion and see her daughter for who she is. You have every right to correct people and to love fully who you are. I wish our world was a safe place for you to do that in. I know that more and more every day it is not. I am sorry for that 💜💜
I’m a passing trans woman. I’m currently living far away from my very accepting family and community. My grown kids are worried to say the least as I’m living stealth. I’m caring for my elderly mom and I had to bring my disabled son with me (his dad is a trans man but he’s not in the picture) I can’t move my mom right now. To have to go back in the closet is bringing up a lot for me. The queer community very much took me in decades ago and helped me as a young single parent. I feel so isolated again. My employer doesn’t know nor my coworkers. I have men after me a lot and it scares me if I’m found out. I’m seen as a cis straight woman and I end up forgetting who I am in moments. I don’t even feel safe telling other people I meet who’re LGBTQIA because I have dependents to worry about and I have employees who would definitely see me differently. I go to the gym with an employee who’s transphobic as she very much sees me as cis. I have a transphobic ex employee who keeps hitting up on me. I’m small, high voice and I’m called mom and grandma so no one questions who I am. I know this is only temporary but I’m terrified. I feel so much like I escaped years ago and now I’ve gone back to live behind enemy lines. I do know I’m incredibly privileged compared to so many. I’ve lived a good life and I’d certainly rather it be me to be taken out before those who haven’t known genuine sustained happiness get a chance. But I’d like none of us to be taken out. I lived thru childhood abuse, the streets, my neighborhood being one of the worst hit by AIDS years ago and the trauma it caused. I understand in the worst of times there’s always joy to be found and lessons to be learned. I know all the anti trans nonsense is just the latest moral panic designed to distract and it will eventually end. But I’m definitely struggling right now. No none should have to live in fear.
Thank you for speaking on this…. I’m still processing the disgust around some of the public conversations about queer folk
The overt and implied things that are said on a regular basis are a LOT to process 💙💙
I’m not sure why but even now I get a lot of anxiety when I interact with religious ppl on the matter of lgbt issues or their views on queerness. Even though I left religion behind I still have a lot of internalized stress and anxiety because of everything I’ve been taught and told. It’s like they bring out my fears, shames, guilt and all the thoughts that went through my head when I was still religious and realized I was queer. The internal struggle I had was so overwhelming and overbearing even now that I’ve come to love and accept this part of myself I still find it hard not to feel guilty or ashamed or feel like I’m doing something wrong. And I desperately try to fight that it really feels like I’m drowning.
I always felt the pressure to "pass" was an experience that queer people and neurodivergent people shared. Almost everything I heard in this video about heteronormative trauma sounds like it could apply to neuronormative trauma as well.
I absolutely agree! There are so many similarities and overlaps 💛💛
Yea, I'm non-binary and auDHD, and I really relate those things in the video to my neurodivergent experience.
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I feel this so much. This is the only comment, I'll probably ever make regarding this on this account. But, when I was younger I came out as being a trans man, because my parents told me that I couldn't be truly in between. I then ended up detransitioning, because of the fact that I knew I wasn't a trans man. I buried my dysphoria with drugs and now that I'm 28, and finally starting to come off of my methadone, and I'm more stable, the dysphoria is back with force. It's really frustrating, because I'm in a relationship now with a heterosexual cisgender man, because I am pansexual and, I'm not willing to lose him. The idea of him not being in my life, is horrifying. I know for a fact too, if I decided to transition, to identifying publicly as non-binary and started physically transitioning, that he would not be okay with that. As he is attracted to cis women solely. [He is not a transphobe at least, and we've spoken about these issues and he supported for other people. He just wouldn't personally date somebody who fell on that spectrum.]
It's just unfortunate, because I feel like I don't have the same guts that I did when I was younger. Another reason, I will not be coming out is, partly why I detransitioned as well, even if it's less of a reason, it was just so hard to date. I couldn't find anybody, who actually respected and understood who I was. I only was ever able to find one person, and they were not the most positive partner.
I feel like, at this point I'm just going to continue to be an ally to the trans community, and be there for them. As that is the best I can do at this point. I'm not willing to come out, and go through all that s***. I just don't have the guts to do it, and I don't have the guts to impact the current relationships I have. I already am lonely as is, it would just be worse.
It just sucks feeling this way.
The crazy thing is too, I agree with everything you're saying, shoving things down like that is not good. It's insane to me too, that I'm involved in this level of cognitive dissonance, because I would always tell anybody that they need to be authentically themselves.
It's honestly a big reason why I'm so supportive over trans youth, because I don't want them to end up being forced back into the closet like I was.
I so appreciate you taking about this. So overdue to discuss in society. Some really good things here. Makes me think of when friends ask often, “when did you come out?” But we come out continuously each time we meet a new person. You’re right we constantly have to determine when and where are we safe.
Yes! I covered this question again in my microaggression video, because the portion of "curiosity" that makes people believe it is appropriate to ask that question is definitely coming from a place of privilege. 💙💙
i experience profound minority stress, and the degree of my marginalization is particularly extreme; i am not straight, i am not cis, and i am also part of another minority sexuality that is often judged as wrong even by other lgbt people
learning to regard the world in terms of radical outsider ethics, to forgive myself for not being 'normal' while also protecting myself against harm and picking my battles is a constant struggle.
you might have noticed i didn't even specify what my most marginalized identity is, since i am actively judging this comment section to be unsafe. so there's a practical demonstration of some of the concepts being discussed here
While I know I can't understand THE struggle to the extent you live it, I can definitely see WHY it would be a constant struggle to balance the living into who you are and necessity to protect yourself.
I know you have been clear that here is not that for you, but do you have any area where you are safe to be completely you? Online or in person? You don't have to answer if you don't want to, I would totally understand. Either way I appreciate you way hing and commenting, and sharing part of your story here. 💜💜
@@KellyRMinter thank you for being understanding. i do have a place where i feel comfortable to be myself among peers and it heals and transforms me. i didn't mean to be judgemental of you or any individual when i said i don't feel safe enough to be open here. it's just long experience of what most internet comment sections can be like.
I literally left a toxic work environment where a conservative gay coworker made me feel all of this in the video as a nonbinary person who started HRT. He didn't know before I came out to him, but this explains very well why this still impacted me so badly. Both of us grew up religious, and I understand his line of thought but it was so painful to have to keep that to myself for so long. I am in Colorado now and everyone seems so supportive of queer people no matter what kind of queer person you are so...maybe I'll risk it all and try again. I am trying to heal.
I am so glad you have been able to get into a more supportive environment! I think sometimes people overlook the fact that this same thing came come from right within our own community, thank you for being willing to share part of your story here 💛💛
I really appreciate that definition of cognitive dissonance vs. the moral injury.
I am analytical so I sometimes think "I must have cognitive dissonance because I'm doing everything all wrong."
But seeing how you talked about it here, that it's an experience many go through, is very helpful.
I'm so glad it was helpful 💛💛
Oof, I feel called out. I literally omit the fact that I like women all the time. I don't think people are going to be aweful to me per se, if I tell them. I do find that other women will start to consider me a woman with an even bigger asterisk than usually, since I am trans. If I could 100% pass, I would go stealth.
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I'm 63 years old born gay and you're right and so smart I didn't start dealing with my own self until about 52, And you're never going to I'm never going to be the same because of all I went through and all I went through has caused a lot of unnecessary energy wasted. But we must forgive does it mean we can go back into society so easily. 🌈😇🙏
This was a super validating video and I came into the comments to say that. But I’m a little disappointed that you respond to the hateful comments instead of deleting them. I kind of expected your comment section to be a safe space
I am sorry that having the comment here removed the validation you felt in watching the video. I leave the negative comments up, typically, and reply to them as soon as I can to prevent anyone else from feeling like they HAVE to comment.
I'm going to be super honest here and hope it comes across the way I want it to. The YT algorithm LOVES to deplatform content like mine. When I immediately delete a comment, it really, REALLY negatively impacts the reach of a video. I know that may not sound like a big deal but for me the entire reason I do this channel is so more and more people know they are not alone and they are not bad, broken, or wrong. And so I choose to reply and use their hate to push the videos forward instead of allowing their hate to keep the reach smaller.
Again, I am really and truly sorry if that has meant that the work we are doing here has been ruined for you. I appreciate you sharing your perspective ❤️
@@KellyRMinter Honestly you shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells about this. If you use hate comments to fuel ideas for new material that’s a perfectly valid way to respond to hate comments. If seeing a comment is enough to drive you away from a good channel then you probably shouldn’t be on TH-cam. I just hope that OP never ends up in the position of power.
@@jordanwhite8718- Wow, that's a very narrow-minded take on OP's comment. If the only advice you have fir somebody who doesn't feel safe in a certain space is "just leave", there's something more wrong with you than there is with them. TH-cam should work for everyone, not just the people it likes.
@@Vahlee-A There’s something I learned as a disabled person that I think everyone should understand. There is no such thing as a safe space. Every time I go outside my house, I have to face the reality as someone who is legally blind that when I cross the street, some idiot driver who wants to run a red light can end up ending my life. It’s not very likely but it can happen. When you go onto a platform with other people you have to deal with with those other people. Part of the reason I think bullying is such an important part of childhood is that it teaches you that when you become an adult, you will have to deal with people you don’t like, you have to deal with assholes who might decide that they find it fun to ruin your day. And OP certainly does not have the right to come on to somebody’s channel and tell them how to run their channel. The high-level of disrespect OP showed is just incredible.I would never think that I would have the right to come on to somebody’s TH-cam channel and tell them how to do their job.
Another term specific to faith moral injury is Spiritual Violence. I first heard this in my faith about 15 yrs ago.
Yes, that's another very important term! It probably needs to be considered for its own video 💜💜💜
Oh, that's daily in most forums and even online. Accept Jesus/suffer in hell dichotomy thinkers are insane (and while I completely lack qualifications, I'm beginning to think I mean that quite literally).
This kind of stuff along with minority stress in general is a lot of why I actually feel perfectly justified avoiding most of society for good periods of time at this point. I still wanna get out more, but sometimes I need to gain community with my own people first and if those people are online rn rather than IRL then so be it.
I can definitely understand this sentiment 💚💚
I was raised fundie evangelical xtian. It left a mark. It gave me so much shame and guilt about myself it took me until 46, last year, to finally just recognize I'm trans. But it was a revelation! and I haven't looked back since. I'm working in an online community to discuss religious authoritarian parenting. It's providing an excellent space to consider what was done to me and how I can recover and move on. Because to me, nothing is giving me greater satisfaction and happiness then starting to live my life for me! It's scary, sure, and especially with the rhetoric, but at least I'm finally me.
Thank you for this terminology and framework. I truly appreciate it! Happy Pride!
Happy Pride to you! ❤️❤️
I truly relate to this content!
Thank you, really good break down of something I could see but couldn’t fully articulate.
I'm so glad it was helpful! 💙💙
Just found your channel and instantly subscribed, love your vids so far! 💕 I was wondering if you’ve made a video on how you decided on choosing your career and the pros and cons of your job, especially with your specialties in queer/religious trauma. Deciding what to do with my psych degree has been tough but I’m very interested in what your career is like and how it compares to a psychologist. Ty! :)
Welcome!!! I can definitely do a video on that! I'll put it on the list and see where it make the most sense in the topic rotation! Thanks for being here and thanks for watching 💚
@@KellyRMinter yay amazing, ty for responding so quick. Looking forward to it !!
I really struggle with finding a group of queer people my age. I’m in my early twenties, and most groups are either for high schoolers, or people who are ten or more years older than me.
I don’t exactly have anything against sharing a space with someone older, but I think meeting people closer to my age would be beneficial, as I could relate to them and their stage of life. And younger queer people is a definite no, because it isn’t appropriate for me to hang out with high schoolers.
You are right, having people in your own age group is definitely beneficial. I assume you don't live in a demographic area where you can meet others?
@@KellyRMinter Yeah. I live in a conservative part of Florida.
@Reed5016 ugh, I know how that is... I grew up in FL. I'd say if you can move to a more urban part of FL, you'd have an easier time finding community.
@@Reed5016I also know, a lot of queer people will use queer dating apps just to make new friends... Not even for hookups or anything. Chances are, if you're struggling to find people like you, people like you are also struggling to find you. Best wishes :)
@@nissutobor9078 Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it.
I’ve been avoiding this video for a few days fearing the video would be about the moral injury religious people feel at the existence of lgbtq+ people.
Grew up Mormon, am gay and non-binary.
Pride month for me means tempering my celebrations around my parents.
Oh wow. I'm sorry that it came off that way. I hope once you watched it you felt better?
I am sorry that your celebration has to be tempered during pride month. I hope you are finding a way to celebrate in your own way 💛💛
I’m a trans woman, 45. Various times over the past few years my boss has told me that I need to wear skirts and shorts that are longer, and no tank tops. It makes me feel gross and uncomfortable even though I’m not exactly wearing skimpy outfits.
Well, earlier this year, he hired a 20 year old cis-het young lady. Guess what? She gets to wear skimpy gym shorts and tank tops and the boss says NOTHING to her about it!!
I don’t think he even realizes what a creep and a hypocrite he is!
I want to seek retribution but can’t afford access to the law. What’s worse is I can’t afford to quit and I have to keep subjecting myself to this!!
This is life changing information
I'm so glad you were able to watch ❤️❤️
This works for any perceive minority status, justified or not. I have family and friends on the political right who feel this way. Though that is infuriating to me as it is absolutely not the case in fact, I see how it puts blinders on and filters their perception. It helps me understand how serious the problem is, and that problem has created the backlash for supporting sexual, gender, and other minorities. I feel like we’ve had such a set back the past 10 years, we have a temptation to go back into hiding. I just stay true to who I am and have modified by response to the newly re-emergent bigotry. I try not to react because it is neither effective nor healthy.
These are really good points. To your last point, that is a very hard line to walk in a balanced way, but I agree it is one that is important to do in places where it is safe to do so. 💙💙💙
Great video!
Thank you! 💛💛💛
Thank you!! 😊🌈
Deconstruction is the way forward. If you were raised in a religion, understand that it's made up and trust yourself over parables that give people license to be bigoted. It's not that God isn't real. It's that if any of us are honest, none of us can know the true nature of God. Leave the religion behind in its entirety and build your own relationship with God.
There is definitely a LOT in religious circles that has allowed people to feel emboldened to degrade people within the LGBTQIA+ community 💜
I have question for you over lgbt . Signs i know i wasn't straight.
Sign number 1 i start having crushson tv soap characters on both men and women.
Like men liam connor from coronation street and Bradley branning from eastenders and women Sian powers in corontion street and heather peace who plays Eve Unwin in eastenders.
Sign number 2 i start having crushes on men and women singers
Men singer call peter andre who sings mysterious girl and girl singer call Jessie J .
Sign number 3 i start kissing photo of girl on my high school musical balloons name is Vanessa Hudgens who plays gabriella montez in hsm
Sign number 4 i start having fancying Lesbian call Rachel in my old work place for special needs.
Sign number 5 i got crush on celebrity like
Peter Andre and Zac Efron And corbin bleu and Jessie j and Vansssa Hudgens and Girl from 90 day fiance Call Erkia Owens
Sign number 6 i can't stop thinking about it
Please can you help me please
Are you in need of help because you are not ready to face being part of the LGBTQIA+ community? I'm not sure I understand the question.
@@KellyRMintersigns i know i was bisexual not straight
@@KellyRMinter are all of these class being bisexaul
@@KellyRMinteris it all class bisexual or not? All my signs class as bisexual.
It would be impossible for me to choose a label for you, but if it feels like the one that fits you the best then that is awesome!! ❤️💜💜
Oh goodie. A new way to claim victimhood...
Thanks for watching!
It isn't new. It just has a name now.
"For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due." Romans 1; 26-27
"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God." 1 Cor. 6; 9-11
1 Tim. 1; 10
Deut. 22; 5
Lev. 18; 22, 20; 13
Such WERE some of you.... BUT now you are transformed into the image of Christ.... is the message.
It is a sin just like all the other sins. "I'm a greedy corporate embezzler who exploits the workers.. but they won't let me into their church.... and they are not being loving.... they are judging me... and hating on me... and claiming that I can't be a Christian while I am engaged in this heinous sin... how dare they!" Booo hoooo hoooo! Sob... sob... sniffle. Don't they know that I was... born this way? I just neeeeed to swindle people! Why don't they understand me?! (Eyeroll)
Jesus calls us out of sin, to repent of sin and live a holy life. That is God's Word. That is the Bible. That is the Truth. Sometimes the truth hurts. But you cannot change it into something else that you like better and still claim to be obeying God. So yes, the truth hurts at times. But hell hurts more. That is the truth. There is nothing unloving being said in any of this, because God is not unloving and yes, that is really what He said. And yes, abortion is murder, that does not mean we need to open our borders to those we did not beget. Wokeness will lead to hell. Certain sins are an abomination and open one up to the demonic, we are seeing that today with the grooming of children in public libraries by the demonic fairies. Please people, wake up.
You must be lost...in this corner of the internet we don't go around using mythical books and fairy tales to berate people for being who they are and then cry "no hate, just love" to make ourselves feel better and walk away.
VERY simple Google searches (or, better yet, education in the matter) can help you contextualize those scriptures you are quoting in an attempt to...well actually I don't even know what you're attempting to do here with this comment.
You put a lot of work into it, I'll give you that. Maybe put half this much work into spreading positivity in the world and see how much better you feel.
Oh, and I mean no hate by this. And, see, you have to believe it bc I said it, right? *Eye roll* 💁♀️
What is wrong with you? You come into a comment section where people are trying to heal from your religious bullshit and spout hate. I get that you want to perform for your god because you’re scared of him. But do it someplace else. Have the day you deserve
Crazy Christofascist is crazy. Take your pills sweety
Since you enjoy scripture so much, I thought you might appreciate these.......for those who believe they can judge others when they themselves are not without sin (James 4:11-12, Romans 14:10, Romans 3:23, John 8:7, Matthew 7:1-3)......for those who have a nasty, hateful tongue (James 1:26)......and just to remind you who Christ said had been given ALL judgment, that is the ONLY one who gets to judge the "sins" of others (John 5:22). Also, I do hope you don't support or even idolize any pastors or politicians (especially if they're orange) who are adulterers, liars, racists, rapists, thieves, idolators, or hate-mongers.....because if you do that would make you a hypocrite.....unless of course you are pointing out THEIR sins to THEM. Also, don't ever forget Matthew 7:12 OR The Greatest Commandment, neither of which you seem to be familiar with.
Do you also believe the earth is only 6000-10000 years old, the earth is flat and the centre of the universe or do you pick and choose which bits to believe from a book of fairytales concocted by illiterate Bronze Age peasants who didn’t know where the sun went at night?