First story. I found the next update on Reddit. They found her bio daughter. She was in the foster system. Apparently she was removed from the other home by the state. Op is adopting her to bring her home, and then they're going to move away. She doesn't mention the results of the lawsuit (a lot of times people aren't allowed to), but she does say they have "pretty significant resources now." So we can interpret that.
Sounds like a net gain if you ask me- that young girl turns out to have a family that loves her, the couple gets both their daughters and a renewed perspective on their relationship, and sounds like they won their lawsuit.
@@ked49 I could see them going for that angle in court, but I'm confident that a jury wouldn't buy that unless the hospital had really hard evidence supporting their theory. It's a doubt, for sure, but not a *reasonable* doubt.
@@turnpike9680 They would be absolute morons to even try that angle, because doing so admits that they do not have the safeguards in place to prevent this sort of thing in the first place. Likely, they'll settle out of court for a very hefty sum.
Story 2: What did the mother expect? Of course OP would freak out about the whole thing! And the fact that the family would keep the cheating a secret is Red Flag City
FIRST STORY: That is so hard. At 5, you've bonded with your daughter & she is yours. In other rare situations like that...families have visitation with their biological children. And both families should sue the hospital!!! SECOND STORY: The fiancé 's family is "religious"? The Bible gives only two acceptable reasons for divorce...Abandonment & Infidelity...Infidelity is such a betrayal even the strictest evangelicals acknowledged this! And I seriously doubt the would-be mother in law would have been so quick to dismiss the cheater if it was her son who was the one betrayed.
Oh yeah my outlook is that regardless of what has happened you've raised that kid the entire time and that's your daughter no matter what. Hopefully if they find their biological daughter they can have a relationship with her family and both should sue because legally this is a mess and ethically this is a mess... I couldn't imagine the decision you'd have to make such as 1. Do you keep the kids that's your daughter at this point 2. Do you even tell your daughter that happened? 3. Legally who is this kid's parent? 4. Swapping children with the other family isn't a realistic choice is it?
@@trainmaster_1237 that would be so absolutely traumatic for the child...to remove her from the only parents, grandparents, family she's known & given to complete & total strangers.
@@LynnCooks No, once you've raised a small child for more than a year, it's considered too damaging to remove them except in abusive situations. They're basically naturalized family at that point. A reswap isn't an option.
@@trainmaster_1237 Not a 5-year-old who's only known this family, no. As far as a court is concerned, the families that raised them are theirs, despite the situation.
On the switched baby: The parents of the switched baby may not have their baby either. Where I live at, a hospital system had accidentally round robin'd the babies in the delivery room back in the 80s. My cousin wasn't his parents', and his parents didn't have my biological cousin either. It took 20 couples doing 400 sets of DNA tests, on the hospital's dime, to place the kids with the proper families... and it took my him developing Leukemia at 14 for any of it to come out. Obviously, most of the parents decided to finish raising the kids they were given thanks to 14 years of bonding, but a few dumped the kids on their biological parents.
People like the parents who dumped the kids they raised are the reason the foster care system is as fucked and overloaded as it is. Fuck them. I’m so worried that OP is gonna be one of those people, and will scar this poor girl for life.
@@Tustin2121 considering the fact that OP is still sleeping in her daughter's room because she's terrified she's going to taken away, I'm willing to bet that's a low possibility at this point at least.
@@389Miku DEFINITELY!! … In her mind, that is her daughter. I am more worried about the husband. I get that he was upset that his wife (in his mind) cheated on him, but he was taking it out on his four year old daughter!! How was it her fault??
First story: holy cow. I feel so bad for OP. I say she's right to sue the hospital because I assume when a baby is born, they are taken away to get cleaned and examined and then placed back in the room with their parents. But switches like this happen far too often at times and are devastating. When I was born, it was still during the time people go around kidnapping newborns (dunno if it's still happening today), so my mom made sure to that I was brought right back to her. I really feel for OP and hope a bright outcome is in the cards for her family Second story: What...in the world...is this story?! The whole family knew the husband cheated and told him to keep quiet, tells OP about it (probably thinking he was going to die so "time to let the cat out of the bag"), and then pretend nothing happened while playing happy family AND STILL BROUGHT UP OP MARRYING THE GUY?! Like how about no! Getting married knowing your fiance cheated cause of a "weak moment" and then knowing it was swept under the rug by everyone is a massive betrayal! There's no way a woman would want to marry someone like that. OP dodged a bullet by not marrying this guy and entering this gaslighting family. Third story: This is why I dislike people who get drones. They tend to abuse it for the dumbest reasons so this guy got his karma by teasing a dog. So the update was swift justice and the sweetest ever. So he played a stupid game and won a stupid prize then tried playing the victim...UNO REVERSE! Hope those drones get taken.
@@Maiyinlikesmusic you can insist that your child be brought back to you. You will get push back, but hospitals do NOT want a hysterical mother and/or family disrupting the other patients so if you raise enough of a fuss they'll cave. Speaking as a former medic who had to do OB rotations on occasion. The first rule of patient care is to keep your patient calm. Your job is a LOT easier (and of course safer) if you can manage that. If you fail at that basic rule though? Lawsuits waiting to happen.
@@Maiyinlikesmusic that sounds absolutely horrible. Why would you do that, when all research agrees that skin contact after birth is the best? It seems very backwards
Kidnapping newborns is still very much a thing. The screening process for adoption in the US is onerous, and comes with the ridiculously expensive price of $40,000 for a kid. Remember that the FBI routinely catches would-be murderers accepting $5-10k, so, yeah there are definitely people who will kidnap a baby for less than the price of adoption.
First story: does anyone else remember that CreepyPMs video RSLASH did? Or maybe it was another one, but anyways... is anyone else thinking that the kid in that story might've been switched by that nurse who admitted on her deathbed that she swapped over 100 newborn babies for fun? *EDIT: okay, turns out it was actually SSSniperWolf who reacted to that.
First story reminded me of my own birth. Apparently there were two couples with the same last name, however the other baby was male while I'm female. My mom still jokes about how paranoid the hospital staff was about making sure everyone had the right wristbands, but after that story, that paranoia was well justified.
Same thing happened when I was born but the other baby had the same last name and needed corrective surgery on his legs. My mom told me that when the dr came in, they told her that due to the complications she was having during my birth that my legs were crooked and they needed to be broken and casted to be corrected. She said she told them to recheck because she didn't have any complications. Good thing that they didn't follow through with that mistake.
When my daughter was born, we filled out the paperwork for her birth certificate and the nurse said there was another baby with the exact same name (different last name, obviously) in the nursery. I thought, "Oh great, I hope they give us the right baby when we leave." Since my daughter looks like me I don't think there's any issue. Even if I found out she's not biologically mine, I'd keep her anyway.
Story 3 : "You don't own the space area over your house". If the drone was flying low enough the dog could catch it from a table, there's no way it was flying from over his house.
Also depending on the area they live, one of the courts in the USA did determine that as long as you are in an area you can legally fly a drone, you own the airspace up to a certain amount above your property. Im not a lawyer, and that isn't legal advice, but if you own a drone I highly recommend looking into if you do own it where you live
@@DeathProductions200 I forget the exact wording but basically, where I live, you own the airspace up to 10ft above the tallest structure or tree. Even had one guy shoot down another person's drone and the shooter got fined but only for discharging a firearm within city limits.
@@loacyric Incorrect. The FAA controls the airspace from the grass tips to the edge of the atmosphere. If you interfere with a drone in flight, it is a violation of federal law. I am an FAA licensed drone pilot under 14CFR Part 107, and if I or my drone are interfered with during operations the full weight of FAA can be brought to bear for interfering with an aircraft in flight. Shooting it, throwing a towel at it, or having ones dog jump up and grab it, all constitute illegal interference.
@@DeathProductions200 Incorrect. The FAA controls the airspace from the grass tips to the edge of the atmosphere. If you interfere with a drone in flight, it is a violation of federal law. I am an FAA licensed drone pilot under 14CFR Part 107, and if I or my drone are interfered with during operations the full weight of FAA can be brought to bear for interfering with an aircraft in flight. Shooting it, throwing a towel at it, or having ones dog jump up and grab it, all constitute illegal interference. The max altitude that you can legally fly a drone with a few exceptions, is 400 feet above the ground and up to 400 feet above the tallest point of a structure if you are doing a building inspection or survey. So if you have a 150ft tall building you can fly the drone up to 550ft to accomplish your mission, however in certain locations, namely near airports and military bases, you do not get that buffer, and sometimes can't even get full 400ft. I recently did a private day school near a major airport, and only got airspace authorization up to 200ft, and that was fixed AGL so I couldn't take the building height into account. Luckily the building wasn't that high so 200ft AGL was more than enough height, and this is all the USA.
I would really like to get another update on the first story. While the big question was cleared up another even bigger question came up. Couldn't police possibly reach out to the hospital and make them investigate who's babies were born around the same time and contact these families to make them take tests?
While "just ask the hospital about other babies around that time" might sound like a simple solution, that ignores two problems: There's probably a BUNCH of those children, and tracking them all down years later is a logistical challenge. and secondly (and more importantly) Asking the hospital to reveal that would probably be a HUGE violation of HIPA or local equivalents. Not just for whichever kid turns out to actually be theirs but for every other kid as well.
@@zazuch theyre suing now anyways. I hope they win, how does a hospital mix up babies, aren't there wristbands and the like to prevent this kind of situation?
I remember Dabney said when Lily was born, the were all given matching braclets so she wouldn't get mixed up with other babies. Guess the hospital in Story 1 didn't do that.
I half remember an old story about a disgruntled nurse that switched the identification of dozens of babies because she was fired (Not in the US). It caused so much chaos. It's very rare rare, but it happens either though mistakes or through malice.
Story 1 is literally my worst nightmare, I was so paranoid about this before we had our son to the point we elected to never have our baby leave the room.
I don't understand that about America. I can get hospital births being common and preferred, but why does the baby get taken out of the room, and placed in a nursery with other babies (at least in shows they do). Unless there is medical issues, prem babies etc and they need to go to nicu, or it was a c section, I don't understand why they can't clean, weigh and do the check up in the same room as mum. Do yall over there not do skin to skin after birth? Try to feed them asap? My baby never left my sight except when I went to shower, and my parents were there to stay with him. This whole thing is terrifying
@@AuntyAwesome I think this is changing in the U.S. more and more now. I am due with my first in October and the hospital has told me that unless my baby is in serious distress and needs intervention they can’t do in the room my baby will not leave my side at all. If they do need to take him out of the room my husband will go with him every step of the way.
@@AuntyAwesome My son was only out of the same room as me 1 time and it was when I was hemorrhaging and the doctor and a bunch of nurses were stopping it. My husband was with him 100% of the time. No baby nursery, but also I delivered during lockdown so that's my only frame of reference.
@@AuntyAwesome Oh, my poor, innocent, naive friend, it's even more terrifying. Some hospitals charge extra for skin-to-skin contact. Yep! They will literally charge a mother for holding her newborn baby after birth. I hate it here! But I'm too poor to leave 💖😀😀😀!
First story: my mum was a social worker (until she got fired for being too nice), and the law is that a child under the age of, I think, 8 is considered "abandoned" after a year without contact. The law considers the swapped babies to be your own. You don't have to worry about her being taken away but might be able to work out visitation with your daughter's parents.
@@ked49 Yes, that's possible, but I thought my options were depressing enough without the addition of grieving parents finding out their kid is alive and trying and failing to sue for custody.
I'm so pleased there was justice for that poor dog. Dogs have no way to understand a huge buzzing thing dive-bombing them! The neighbour sounds straight-up sadistic for harassing an animal that way. The small claims suit backfiring is some measure of sweet karma, but he definitely deserves fallout from the FAA too. Suck it, flyboy.
Technically Op does own the air over his house. It's illegal to fly a drone in a housing area without a permit. My dad is a licensed drone flyer, and he has an app on his phone that tells him where it is legal to fly, and how high. My nephew calls his drone BUG.
@@michaelf.2449 I admit I don't have any experience with flying drones. All I know is my dad has to get a permit to fly over houses when people want to get images of hail damage.
Yeah, the last two years have had a whole lot of newer and stricter rules about what you can fly and where. I'm in Europe, but there's a lot of overlap with US and EU laws. Flying recreational outside Line of Sight inside residential areas is straight out in EU law.
That does make sense now that I think about it. Heck, your allowed to trim off the limbs of a neighbor's tree if it extends into your property line . I would know, we've had crazy neighbors yell at us and call the cops because we called some guys to cut off branches that were close to our house and windows. They were heavy branches that could easily cause damage if they broke off during a storm. We only got the closest branch cut but they still act bitter and weird
Newsflash: there are going to be times in your marriage that are 10x more stressful than prepping for your wedding. If you can’t handle that initial stress without making poor decisions, you’re not ready for marriage.
Work related stress, getting fired and then financial issues would cause a lot of stress, so that means he's likely to cheat again. You can't marry someone you can't trust. I also have to assume he didn't just bump into an ex and they decided to bang, although it's possible. More like he's been speaking to an ex and they hooked up.
Exactly. Not to mention on the different types of stresses that you can have in your life planning a wedding sure while it is stressful it's at the bottom of that list. I'm planning a wedding it's really not that stressful. You know what is stressful having a sick relative in the hospital struggling with money having a newborn. Hell even having teenagers is pretty stressful. So what she's just supposed to be okay with the fact that every time he gets stressed out he thinks he's entitled to go meet up with his ex and have an affair. I would never trust him again.
My mom was almost switched at the hospital, the nurses said that they were just playing a sick joke on my grandma but she was a tough no nonsense kind of woman and raised hell the second she realised that she wasn't given her daughter. Joke or no joke, it's weird to imagine what life would have been like if my grandma wouldn't have been at the nurses' throats about getting the wrong baby.
I probs would have grabbed something heavy and hit thier heads to let them know what i think about such jokes, then file a formal complaint and a lawsuit to those who did that "joke".
@@someguy7629 I don't know how much could've been done considering my mom was born into the Soviet Union lol. A lot of stuff went unreported because status and others' opinions of your family were more important back then.
As a polygamous person, I keep saying this again and again. Polygamy is only ok when 1. You are very upfront about this part of you when entering a relationship and your partner has clearly and totally expressed they are fine with it 2. You tell them whenever you start up a new relationship or set up whatever communication works best for the both of you in that regard Otherwise it's cheating. That fiancé is the worst, kick him to the curb.
Yeah, cheating is not polygamy and polygamy isnt cheating because the whole foundtation of polygamous relationship is being open to one another, respecting boundaries and honesty
Ya'll polygamous means having multiple marriages. Polyamorous is having multiple partners 💀Source: I'm polyamorous. Polygamy is illegal in the US and many other places. Use the right term guys
prove himself and his loyalty... Right... There's no loyalty to be found there. There is absolutely no reason to cheat. Being stressed is NOT a reason. Being scared is NOT a reason. "it meant nothing" is NOT a reason. Good on OP for ending it and not planning on taking him back.
As someone who is not a parent, I’m sitting here wondering wtf you’d even do in a situation like the first story. Like, after raising the brown-eyed girl for 5 years, she’s definitely your daughter. That’s the relationship the 3 family members spent 5 years building; this little girl’s whole life. Logically speaking, I’d say you keep them switched, BUT, that completely ignores the emotions involved in knowing that the child you carried for 9 months and delivered isn’t the child you’re raising, and not knowing where that child is. I’m at a loss for what to do in that situation, too, and realistically I think the best solution is whatever the two families can work out between them if they manage to find each other.
2nd story OP please stick to your guns. This family is trying gaslighting the hell out of you. They are terrible clearly manipulative people who think that telling you when their son cheats is bad and a moment of weakness. IMO block all of them and give their son his stuff back and never speak to any of them again.
I hate how the mom said "I wish you didn't take advantage of what I said" take ADVANTAGE? As if she wasn't taking advantage of op and trying to manipulate her.
I’m pretty sure there is a support group for situation like this. I’m there for the op because literally there situation is awful and idk what i would do if I was there
First Story: Wow that first story is absolutely insane. I couldn’t imagine raising someone else’s kid for 5 years and someone raising mine for the same amount of time Second Story: OP simply dodged a bullet with that guy because that family is insane Third Story: I love that karma against that neighbor
In 2006 this happened in Czech Republic. Two girls were switched in hospital and later father of one the girls got paternity test because his friends made fun of him because the girl did not look like him. Then mom denied infidelity and was tested as well and they find out they are not raising their bio kid. The other family was tracked and they switched babies in 2007 under the supervision of psychologists.
That last story: I actually just got through the certification process with the FAA to be a drone pilot and when I heard that on top of flying low over OP's dog and private property, but also flying that high near an airport? That dude needs to have his drones confiscated before he seriously hurts someone- what he's doing is illegal for very good reasons!
2:48, this is Called Baby Juggling. its when a nurse gets CONFUSED when holding Multiple Babies and places them in the WRONG CRIB. This can happen but if its resolved before the baby develops a Solid Memory of who the Previous parent was, then its something that wont Effect your child's Future. (Max of 1-2 years.)
Yeah that's the real thing is like finding those families and then having a court force a test if they refuse alongside it could've been a situation like you said we're everyone got a child that wasn't theirs instead of a simple swap of one child for another.
Switched baby story: One reason I haven't seen mentioned as to why it is super important to find their daughter's birth parents, and their own birth child, is sharing family medical history. Adopted kids often run into issues later in life without this information, and the same would be true here. Ex. As a female, their daughter will be asked about any history of breast or ovarian cancers to determine when certain screening tests should be started. Then there are the hereditary congenital defects that don't always present right away but can have significant impact if not identified for monitoring, like bicuspid valves in the heart. Being able to share and get that info is very important.
Please... please do so much more of these updates, it is nice to know what happened after. How their life went on. We all say "I would never" but we all had to go thru something to not allow things anymore.
With the baby mixup in the first story, the scary part is that it may not just be 2 babies switched. It could be all born that day were off by one or something crazy like that where lots are effected not just 2. There are no guarantees, and the more people the more complicated it gets since each would likely feel similar.
First story. Do not tell the daughter, she's too young and, as you said, would spread the word out because she knows no better. Neither your husband or you will tell anyone else either, especially if you have toxic family members. Keep it strictly between yourself and any professional you're working with (doctors and such). You get counsel, you want for the girl to reach an age where she's mature enough for that information. And above all, she's still your daughter. Treat her like so.
My biggest fear about that first story is that OP and/or her husband are gonna be the kind of people who look down upon adopted kids and consider them not worth their time. The husband already was separating himself from his wife and daughter, so the red flags are already going up. (Of course, jumping to the worst conclusion without any evidence is also a massive red flag, so...)
For the first story: either faulty test, oooooor babies switched at hospital... I've read about it online many times and it is TERRIFYING to say the least.
I know there is a disorder where basically a parent can have the reproductive information of a twin that was never born. So basically they'd have the twin brother/sister's genetic information for there own because the twin never actually did develop. Just part of them did. Their baby being switched is far worse.
@@KumiChan2004 I believe you're talking about chimerism. It's a rare condition and it was my first thought during the first part of the story as well, especially since in humans it is impossible to tell without testing for it. In certain animals it can be seen, one example I know of is male calico cats. If he's fertile, chances are he's a chimera. If not, he may have XXY chromosomes which usually makes one infertile. I think there was a third cause for male calicos as well but i can't remember off the top of my head, and this is getting a bit sidetracked anyway.
Last Story: OP, be really really careful and stay on watch because that a**hole is gonna 100% try to get revenge on your dog. I suggest you to gift him a DVD copy of John Wick, just so that he has a clear understanding on where he does not want to be.
The first story reminds me of how my mom and dad told me how they were given the wrong baby twice at different hospitals. There’s four of us and the the first happened with my younger brother in 2000 my parents went to a mainly white people dominant hospital (they’re Mexicans) and the thing was the baby was a darker skin color and on the bracelet was a completely different Spanish name than ours. My parents pointed it out but the doctor didn’t believe them and actually got pissed at my parents for telling him he’s wrong and thought they were lying or they couldn’t understand him (notice my dad is a Mexican American and was born in the US from Mexican parents and English is his first language, my mom was the Mexican with little English). It was to the point my dad and doctor were going to fight but a nurse saw the bracelets and saw the different names and quickly grabbed the baby and went to find my brother, who was given to the family of the baby they gave my parents who were also Mexicans but with darker skin. When my parents got my brother apparently the doctor was still pissed and left the room and didn’t talk to my parents for the rest of their hospital stay and only through the nurses. From the nurses apparently the doctor didn’t tell the other family what happened just that a nurse came in and took the baby and then gave them their baby with no explanation since I think the other family know little English. The second time was in 2004 with my little sister at a different hospital and they were more friendly. This time at least the baby had a similar sounding Spanish last name and skin color. The nurses quickly got it but after giving the baby to my parents before taking the baby back and went to look for my sister. Turns out she was still in the nursery sleeping before she was given to the other family and the nurses apologized profusely. To think this could’ve happened to my family is insane and makes you wonder how often does it actually happen or how many kids are switched without knowing.
Story 3: There are a few stories about drone troubles in ProRevenge, and the FAA was involved in at least one of them. Also, why would you harass the neighbor's dog with a drone? Of course they would have enough and attack it!
I just double checked and it’s the same person. Rslash probably found it while looking for stories without checking if he already did it/ it was in another sub lol
It could also fall under voyeurism. His backyard is not public property, and there is a reasonable expectation of privacy. Depending on the state, filming someone like that is illegal, and could result in fines or even jail time.
@@TheGreyKami Not to mention OP had an 8 foot fence, so the neighbor had to fly the drone over the fence and then dip down low enough and close enough for the dog to snag it. That means he was purposely targeting the dog.
The first story is actually possible, I remember learning in biology class that both parents won’t show up in paternity tests. It had to do something with genetic coding but they usually solved the problem by dna testing a family relative and it matched with the kid.
@@zazuch yeah but cheating is common and their are many stories of women lying about paternity, so even if it’s not common for a hospital to send you home with the wrong child it is common for a man to be tricked into raising a child that’s not his.
For the record, my husband has hazel eyes, so do his siblings. both their parents have brown eyes. So it is possible to have lighter eyes from two dark-eyed parents. Also...first story is a nightmare. I have 2 kids 2 and 5 and if I found out one of them weren't mine I could not give them up. I'd obviously want visitation with my bio kid but the babies I've raised are my whole heart and I would die if they were taken away. I feel like OP in the first story is going to grow to resent her husband because he blew up their whole life because he did not trust her or respect her enough to bring up his concerns with her first. That marriage is probably over.
Man, it's been so long since I did biology... but I think that lighter eyes from two dark eyes parents may be like, dominant vs submissive genetics? Basically it's entirely possible that both parents have a gene that would make the eyes a light color and another for dark, and the dark color is dominant. But if they both pass down only the light gene then the kid would have two ligth genes and thus light eyes. Disclaimer: this is all off the top of my head and there's a chance I've forgotten something
@@fieratheproud the word you're looking for is "recessive" 😉. But yeah, recessive genes do exactly that - they get passed on but the dominant gene from the other parent trumps them. Only if 2 recessive genes get passed on does the recessive trait actually become visible. Hemophilia (a genetic disease where you suffer from excessive bleeding and can actually bleed out from what could be a minor wound) is passed on recessively on the X-chromosome, for example. So women rarely get it because both parents would have to be recessive carriers and pass the gene on. Men get it a bit more often cause they only have 1 X-chromosome, thus it can manifest more easily by being passed on by the mother alone.
That first story is the hospital’s r/TIFU. That is some lifetime movie BS. Happy ending would be that they find the other family, both sue the pants off that hospital, and buy a big family home together and raise both kids.
story 2: that family is awful, they fact they regretted telling you about the affair shows that they care more about his relationship, over his infidelity
The first story, I wonder what would have happen if they split up, then they find out about the switch. The worst part, it might happen with the other family. In any case, I hope the children gets reunited with their birth parents some day.
Second story: My fiance's ex-husband cheated on her, said all those things, she offered an open marriage and he said no, so she gave him a second chance. He cheated again. Cheaters ALWAYS cheat again. Second chances do not work from people who willingly cheat. A drunk night or EXCEPTIONALLY extenuating circumstances may warrant a second chance, but you don't "Accidentally" do that with someone. That's SEVERAL mistakes in a row.
That first story... if I were her I don't think I could ever look at him the same way again. How he treated her was completely and utterly unacceptable. He never even gave her the chance to find out why, and immediately assumed her to be a villain. That's unforgivable - especially since swapping at birth and chimera-ism is very much a thing.
Yeah, but Chimeraism and being swapped at birth is VERY rare, and women having an affair and the child not being the husbands is incredibly common comparatively. Chimeraism especially is only really known about because basically every case makes the news in some way - its that rare.
Right? Like I understand the suspicion being enough to take a test, but then acting like an asshole after is inexcusable. Straight up talk to your partner! If you have a problem say something! Don’t just become sick about it
To be fair, while swapping at birth and chimera-ism are both possible. I do not they are statistically likely. So the guy is within his right to have the test done and it is understandable that he would think OP cheated. As such, it is 100% understandable why he would see OP as a villain and have a hard time seeing his daughter.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd @Secundum I totally agree about needing a test, but it's how he acted that was wrong. It's one thing to have some very pointed questions, but it's another to act like a complete a-hole the way he did. That was well beyond reasonable in my eyes. I've had cheaters before in my life, and not once did I ever act like he did. I read his update, and his reaction makes a lot more sense. Still unforgivable, but it does explain his reaction.
@@TheEDFLegacy I will agree to disagree. I have been both the cheater (no excuse, i fucked up and i learned from it) and the cheated. So I feel his reaction is justified. He, at that point, thought he was cheated and that he got baby trapped. That can breed immense resentment. So I do not seem him as someone who was in the wrong.
First story- he became distant from his daughter that he should have already loved. He isn't a good father, he should have been hurt at the alleged cheating but if he truly loved his daughter he wouldn't have been distant to her.
I feel like he's getting too much of a pass. He: Accused his wife of cheating in his mind. Rather than confront his wife with his accusations, he did a paternity test behind her back. Rather than confront his wife with the results, he treated her and the child like shit. Once the court case is over, the sad reality of just how poorly he treated her will sink in and cause a whole other host of martial problems.
@@slytherinlibrarian3501 yeah i agree here like he based it on her eyes being brown... Do they not have grandparents? Or are all of them all the way down blue eyed? Like he saw brown eyes and became super defensive... I think they're all gonna need counselling
@@twistysunshine It's understandable though. Two blue eyed parents absolutely can have a brown eyed child but it's like 1 or 2 percent. So his suspicion and anger is completely understandable. I do agree he did not handle it in the best way, you want to give him a butthole score for that go right ahead but I understand.
That second story. Whatever happened to communication?! When my fiancée stresses me out, I TELL THEM. We then talk about taking a break or putting aside some time where we don't talk about or do whatever is stresses the other out and do something fun so we can decompress for a bit. Conflict management is SO important in relationships.
I love the logic of the neighbor in the last story. "Yes, I purposely fly my drone over to annoy your dog. How dare your dog react and destroy my drone!" Play stupid games, win stupid prizes, my guy. Dogs run on instinct, and if the dog thought your drone was "attacking" it was only a matter of time before it got hold of it somehow.
Story #2 about the cheating fiance: I'm glad OP ended things. If cheating happened once, (we're assuming it DID only happen once. It's one time that OP knows of.) and it got blamed on "weakness because of high stress"... high stress times happen in literally every long term relationship. If it got a pass the first time, that would make it so much easier for it to happen again. Also I'm so glad OP found out before the wedding. It may not feel like it to OP, but it's still easier to disentangle themself now, than it would have if they'd been married.
@@RedK5 aslo i have a better line for this husband: but the child is not my son wife: but the child is your daughter the test: but the child is not out son
The "it meant nothing" argument from cheaters is a terrible argument. Because honestly I would be more forgiving if you cheated on me with someone you had feelings for, but to nuke our relationship for someone that doesn't mean anything to you? That's way worse.
That first story is why im glad the hospital I gave birth at keeps the babies in the roon with the parents. All tests are done in the room. If the baby has to leave the room for any reason, one parent may go with them. The hospital had a nursery, but due to covid, it was closed. Only the NICU was open
The first story is a great example why mother and baby shouldn't be separated after birth since, shit like this seems to happen a little too often in the US
I live in Canada and horror stories like that were the reason I kept my son right next to me and didn't sleep a wink in the hospital (not the greatest thing to do after a C-Section, but momma bear instincts were taking over)
10:52 here's the thing about "nothing personal" what they really mean is that it's not personal to them and don't realize that it's extremely to the person they're cheating on, pranking, or firing for their jobs
Story 2: I have a sneaking suspicion that if the roles were reversed and the OP had cheated instead of the fiancé, fiancé’s super religious mom would have demanded OP be kicked to the curb immediately. But no, these kinds of people always make excuses for their own precious children that they’d never make for other people.
Story 1: We recently had a media covered incident like this in my country. 2 Babies mixed up, but one of the mother was suspicious when she was looking at the baby after they got out and caught the mix up (1 month into the age of the babies). It was messy as the other family was..... let's call it troublesome with no income. The result was that both families sued the hospital. They each got something like 10 years worth of minimal working salary for the country.
"I can't really blame your husband for getting as upset as he did because even though he was wrong, it was a pretty reasonable assumption to make" What?? The guy got suspicious because of the color of his daughters eyes!! Two blue eyed parents can, in fact, give birth to a brown eyed baby if one or both parents carry the brown eyed gene. That "reasonable assumption" is still UNreasonable. Hell, my best friend gave birth to her son not too long ago & he's got red hair. She's got dark brown, her bf has dirty blonde. Her parents both have brown hair; his dad has brown hair & his mom has dirty blonde. The only other person in her family to have red hair is her nephew. Her sister has 5 kids, only one has red hair. So where'd the red hair come from? You guessed it, a gene passed down from their grandfather who was 100% Irish. That shit LITERALLY skipped two generations. Calling 100% bull on him being "suspicious" based on the color of his daughters eye.
Eye color in this case is plenty of reason to be suspicious. No it's not proof, not even close but it is reason to be suspicious. To get proof, he needed the test which did in fact prove that the kid was not his. The only problem is he took that as proof of his worst fears (cheating) without investigating the other highly unlikely but possible alternatives which turned out to be true.
3rd story-I am studying real estate and the first thing they teach you is about your bundle of right and it quite literally says you own every thing above your property and below. Lol that dude does not know what he is talking about smh.
That almost happened to my stepmom apparently the hospital forgot that two girls was born the same day but her mom said that’s not my child and demanded that they go look again and that’s when they realized their mistake
With the last story, and how OP's neighbor sued him but ended up losing and having to paying OP. I enjoy when individuals like the neighbor sue others, only to end up losing.
I don't know if anyone else mentioned the TV series, "Switched At Birth", but it's about a situation exactly like the first story. I don't know how realistic that show is, but regardless, this is not entirely unheard of unfortunately, and I have heard of this happening to some other families. I imagine if OP dug a little deeper, then would be some kind of support group, or they could at least find a family therapist or counselor that has possibly dealt with the situation before, or specializes in something related like issues surrounding adoption, blended families, etc. Regardless, that is a crazy situation to be in!
132 feet. That is the amount of air space above your owned land that most states recognize as still your property. If someone puts a drone in that space they are legally trespassing and in most states, you could shoot it down and not be held legally liable for damages. Particularly if you can show proof you trespassed them. And you don’t have to allow them legal access to retrieve it until ordered to by an officer.
In the first story, that guy was giving off all the signs of cheating himself. And he made the assumption that she had cheated before taking the test. That's why he took it. And treated her and the child badly based on his assumptions. It doesn't matter how logical his assumption was. He's an asshole. I know this is not an Am I The Asshole post but he is and she isn't.
@@H-to-O no, I don't think someone having their phone flipped over is a sign of cheating. Accusing someone else of cheating is bigger than having a phone flipped over. Granted I was cheated on and may have a certain bias, but I'm unfortunately familiar with the signs.
The last story should see if there are any tv or radio towers near by and report that to the FAA as well since it’s illegal to fly within so many feet of them without clearance
I am honestly so terrified of that 1st story ever coming true in my life with my wife because I will be watching my kid like a freaking hawk. Like I will not even allow a nurse to be gone with my baby for more than a minute and I will be following them everywhere.
they're not allowed to do anything without your permission. the trick is theyll assume you DO want everything unless its explicitly stated. make sure your wife has a printed out birthing plan, give one to your OB one to your nurse and keep one for reference.
To everyone who sees this, just because I was curious I looked up the first story and people here on TH-cam are so much kinder to this person than the people on Reddit. A lot of people there claims that this story is fake, and in case you're wondering she posted an update saying that she found her biological child. Idk what to think anymore tbh..
The first story, I can't remember the details but there was a story like this before where both children didn't match either parent and the second child had a DNA test right at birth, it some rare DNA thing or something. Found it, it's called chimerism
For the drone story: My dad has a drone, we fly it often. That thing goes HIGH. The neighbor has his own yard to get altitude, why is she moving to other yards being (I'm guessing) less than 10m high? When you fly a drone you know you should avoid animals, trees and objects, you paid a lot of money, so you must be careful because it is delicate.
Oh boy! I actually do know the legality of the drone case! Per real estate law (at least in California) you do own the air up to a reasonable point over your property! It used to be all of the air above your property but the introduction of commercial airlines changed that. The property owner absolutely owns the space in which a drone would fly. Especially if its low enough for a dog to catch.
When my daughter was born I never left her out of my sight. I was so worried about her being switched or worse, I was around her like a hawk. Hospital staff treated it like those things don't happen there, but I didn't care, I'll be damned if I entrust my newborn to distracted strangers.
Why do cheaters always say "It meant nothing" when they cheat? That's even worse in my opinion, you ruined the relationship on a whim. A literal passing thought or flight of fancy?!
1st story - depending on the country you can normal go to the hospital and they can run tests and find someone with similar DNA. Its actually quite common and me and my fiancee almost got arrested because the hospital thought we were baby-napping (the nurse gave us the okay to take her tags off) thank god the nurse ran in to hear the commotion and said everything was okay, with our 2nd daughter we learned to wait till we were in the car to snip the tags 😂 talk about a high anxiety and anxious moment to be stuck in as new parents
Story 1: I'm terrified that this is what happened to me. I look very little like either of my parents, but mostly like my mother at first glance. There are just parts of my face that look like neither of them. There's the matter of my eyes, greyish blue that doesn't match my mother's green-blue or my father's brown-green hazel. My nose doesn't match. My hair is darker than my mother's, but lighter than my father's. My body shape is completely different. I never felt a familial connection to them as well as never held any of their beliefs despite how they tried to make me. Despite having the same father and a mother that looks nearly identical, my supposed half-brother looks like my father: easily tannable to the point of being mistaken for Hispanic, brown-green hazel eyes, same nose, same everything. Hell, their voices were similar. There's also weird stories about the first year of my life, all surrounding why there are no pictures of me during that time. One is that I had sleep apnea (I don't have sleep apnea now and it's not supposed to be a thing that goes away so ???) but this sleep apnea came with heart problems that caused me to stop breathing and nearly die every time I cried, so I had a heart monitor and they didn't want to have pictures with me like that. According to my mother, she took me to a church where nuns put their hands on me and prayed and BOOM no more heart problems. It doesn't make sense. Another excuse my mother had was that a flood wiped out their trailer and took all the pictures with it a week after my first birthday. Ask her on a different day though and that flood supposedly happened only a week after I was brought home from the hospital. It doesn't make sense and I'll probably never find out the truth, due to my father being dead and my mother being a rabid liar.
@@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00 They were too poor and too drugged 7p to go through the offical system. If I was some sort of adopted, it was probably the sold between junkies or surprise adopted kind.
In school, my husband & I were taught brown eyes are dominant, so a brown eyed person CANNOT have a blue eyed kid. 1 of ours has blue eyes & we learned that, along with a ton of other things we were taught in public school were nothing but lies. If you value knowing facts, reteach yourself everything you learned. I started homeschooling a few years ago and was astounded at how many lies there were, mostly history, economics, the government, etc. My husband & I are from different states with totally different teaching styles, so I guarantee you're also affected.
You've got it backwards. Because blue eyes are recessive, you'd need that trait from both parents. Brown eyes would occur if you got one brown eyed trait from either parent. It would overrule the recessive trait. Two blue eyed parents couldn't pass on a brown eyed trait because they have to have the double recessive. Therefore the kid would have to have blue or some other recessive eye color, not brown
Cheating fiancé…you’re not married. She’s not your another in law. She told you to ease her guilty conscience with no regard to the pain it would cause you. You have no cause to feel bad. Walk away. Don’t bind yourself to him if your heart isn’t 100% in it which it is clearly not.
Wow, a genuine changeling story. That's horrible, but morbidly interesting. I just hope that the biological child doesn't end up in sinister circumstances.
Story 1: The husband has to know that sometimes characteristics skip a generation or two. I myself have an eye color that no one else in my family does, but I also know that I am full of recessive traits (a lot of them!). I'm pretty sure that I share traits with great great grandparents or perhaps even further back, but I also know that I am definitely my parents' child as I look like them. 😅 Granted in this case, the hospital messed up big time and I think there's going to be a major lawsuit involved. How do you accidentally swap out babies in this day and age? They have bracelets that are identical to the mothers, and scanners that send up alarms if matching bracelets are not found when a baby exits the building with a mother. Story 2: Glad Op got out of there. Story 3: The police report that Op made leave the paper trail where it shows Op ask them to stop and contacted police about it and they asked him to stop as well. That meant he already had a history of ignoring police and teasing Op's dog with the drone. In short, he played stupid games so he won stupid prizes.
Except the dna test proved he's not the dad and your comments is 100 percent moot. He secretly took the test before saying anything. If he was the father he likely wouldn't have said anything. He died it the right way.
11:18 For any one who broke up with a cheater and still feels like you love them, that’s your mind not wanting to let go, but your heart knows what’s best, so trust yourself
First story: This is why paternity test should be mandatory at birth before either parent signs the birth certificate. And no op’s husband wasn’t wrong for getting that test, it’s his right to know if the child he is raising is biologically his.
I think you misheard his statement. I took it as him being wrong about her cheating due to the kid not being biologically his. Not that he was wrong for doing the test/trying to figure out if it was his kid or not.
First story. I found the next update on Reddit. They found her bio daughter. She was in the foster system. Apparently she was removed from the other home by the state. Op is adopting her to bring her home, and then they're going to move away. She doesn't mention the results of the lawsuit (a lot of times people aren't allowed to), but she does say they have "pretty significant resources now." So we can interpret that.
Sounds like a net gain if you ask me- that young girl turns out to have a family that loves her, the couple gets both their daughters and a renewed perspective on their relationship, and sounds like they won their lawsuit.
Please give me a link to that
@@MarioLuigi0404 I replied to my comment with the link
@@Arachne97 looks like it got filtered. Rslash probably has all comments with links blocked, now that I think about it.
Jesus thank goodness
First story: Sue that hospital for every penny they're worth. This is the easiest malpractice lawsuit to win.
Unless they say you swapped the babies
@@ked49 what? They can’t just say that with 0 evidence because from what OP said, it appears they will be 100% win this case.
@@ked49 I could see them going for that angle in court, but I'm confident that a jury wouldn't buy that unless the hospital had really hard evidence supporting their theory. It's a doubt, for sure, but not a *reasonable* doubt.
@@turnpike9680 They would be absolute morons to even try that angle, because doing so admits that they do not have the safeguards in place to prevent this sort of thing in the first place. Likely, they'll settle out of court for a very hefty sum.
Also divorce the husband
Story 2: What did the mother expect? Of course OP would freak out about the whole thing! And the fact that the family would keep the cheating a secret is Red Flag City
I'm glad OP decided to grab all those red flags, sew them together, make it a cape and fly away like a super hero lmao
Yeah
@@cuteghost5368 More like a parachute! 🤣
Not a red flag, a communist parade.
@@RandomDragonBoi Popopoooooooooh
FIRST STORY: That is so hard. At 5, you've bonded with your daughter & she is yours. In other rare situations like that...families have visitation with their biological children. And both families should sue the hospital!!!
SECOND STORY:
The fiancé 's family is "religious"? The Bible gives only two acceptable reasons for divorce...Abandonment & Infidelity...Infidelity is such a betrayal even the strictest evangelicals acknowledged this! And I seriously doubt the would-be mother in law would have been so quick to dismiss the cheater if it was her son who was the one betrayed.
Oh yeah my outlook is that regardless of what has happened you've raised that kid the entire time and that's your daughter no matter what. Hopefully if they find their biological daughter they can have a relationship with her family and both should sue because legally this is a mess and ethically this is a mess... I couldn't imagine the decision you'd have to make such as
1. Do you keep the kids that's your daughter at this point
2. Do you even tell your daughter that happened?
3. Legally who is this kid's parent?
4. Swapping children with the other family isn't a realistic choice is it?
@@michaelf.2449 legally depends for the first one some circumstances you must give back the baby to the biological parents or may keep the baby
@@trainmaster_1237 that would be so absolutely traumatic for the child...to remove her from the only parents, grandparents, family she's known & given to complete & total strangers.
@@LynnCooks No, once you've raised a small child for more than a year, it's considered too damaging to remove them except in abusive situations. They're basically naturalized family at that point. A reswap isn't an option.
@@trainmaster_1237 Not a 5-year-old who's only known this family, no. As far as a court is concerned, the families that raised them are theirs, despite the situation.
On the switched baby: The parents of the switched baby may not have their baby either. Where I live at, a hospital system had accidentally round robin'd the babies in the delivery room back in the 80s. My cousin wasn't his parents', and his parents didn't have my biological cousin either. It took 20 couples doing 400 sets of DNA tests, on the hospital's dime, to place the kids with the proper families... and it took my him developing Leukemia at 14 for any of it to come out. Obviously, most of the parents decided to finish raising the kids they were given thanks to 14 years of bonding, but a few dumped the kids on their biological parents.
That’s sad for the people who couldn’t stick with it for four years
People like the parents who dumped the kids they raised are the reason the foster care system is as fucked and overloaded as it is. Fuck them. I’m so worried that OP is gonna be one of those people, and will scar this poor girl for life.
@@Tustin2121 considering the fact that OP is still sleeping in her daughter's room because she's terrified she's going to taken away, I'm willing to bet that's a low possibility at this point at least.
@@389Miku DEFINITELY!! … In her mind, that is her daughter. I am more worried about the husband. I get that he was upset that his wife (in his mind) cheated on him, but he was taking it out on his four year old daughter!! How was it her fault??
@@Tustin2121 No, it sounds more like OP is worried about both daughters. The biological and the one she raised.
First story: holy cow. I feel so bad for OP. I say she's right to sue the hospital because I assume when a baby is born, they are taken away to get cleaned and examined and then placed back in the room with their parents. But switches like this happen far too often at times and are devastating. When I was born, it was still during the time people go around kidnapping newborns (dunno if it's still happening today), so my mom made sure to that I was brought right back to her. I really feel for OP and hope a bright outcome is in the cards for her family
Second story: What...in the world...is this story?! The whole family knew the husband cheated and told him to keep quiet, tells OP about it (probably thinking he was going to die so "time to let the cat out of the bag"), and then pretend nothing happened while playing happy family AND STILL BROUGHT UP OP MARRYING THE GUY?! Like how about no! Getting married knowing your fiance cheated cause of a "weak moment" and then knowing it was swept under the rug by everyone is a massive betrayal! There's no way a woman would want to marry someone like that. OP dodged a bullet by not marrying this guy and entering this gaslighting family.
Third story: This is why I dislike people who get drones. They tend to abuse it for the dumbest reasons so this guy got his karma by teasing a dog. So the update was swift justice and the sweetest ever. So he played a stupid game and won a stupid prize then tried playing the victim...UNO REVERSE! Hope those drones get taken.
Most hospitals in the US take newborns to a seperate room, where they keep all the babies, away from their parents
Most people have no idea about the laws behind drones. If they did less people would buy them.
@@Maiyinlikesmusic you can insist that your child be brought back to you. You will get push back, but hospitals do NOT want a hysterical mother and/or family disrupting the other patients so if you raise enough of a fuss they'll cave. Speaking as a former medic who had to do OB rotations on occasion. The first rule of patient care is to keep your patient calm. Your job is a LOT easier (and of course safer) if you can manage that. If you fail at that basic rule though? Lawsuits waiting to happen.
@@Maiyinlikesmusic that sounds absolutely horrible. Why would you do that, when all research agrees that skin contact after birth is the best? It seems very backwards
Kidnapping newborns is still very much a thing. The screening process for adoption in the US is onerous, and comes with the ridiculously expensive price of $40,000 for a kid. Remember that the FBI routinely catches would-be murderers accepting $5-10k, so, yeah there are definitely people who will kidnap a baby for less than the price of adoption.
First story: does anyone else remember that CreepyPMs video RSLASH did? Or maybe it was another one, but anyways... is anyone else thinking that the kid in that story might've been switched by that nurse who admitted on her deathbed that she swapped over 100 newborn babies for fun?
*EDIT: okay, turns out it was actually SSSniperWolf who reacted to that.
I mean, it is a small world.
This is redditors Reddit page
That lady was proven to be a liar… and when it was investigated it was found to be untrue
So she was true or telling a lie
@ForeverLostEevee Sadism, maybe?
If someone was terrorizing my dog with a drone, it wouldn't be the dog who smashed it; and it wouldn't be the dog having medical bills.
sir, you made my day.
I saw a video of Viking Reenactors, one of them took a drone down with his axe!
Well i can do that with my tomahawk or with an arrow!
BB guns are very helpful for terrorist drones, a few well placed shots with a CO2 gun and there goes a few hundred dollars
First story reminded me of my own birth. Apparently there were two couples with the same last name, however the other baby was male while I'm female. My mom still jokes about how paranoid the hospital staff was about making sure everyone had the right wristbands, but after that story, that paranoia was well justified.
Same thing happened when I was born but the other baby had the same last name and needed corrective surgery on his legs. My mom told me that when the dr came in, they told her that due to the complications she was having during my birth that my legs were crooked and they needed to be broken and casted to be corrected. She said she told them to recheck because she didn't have any complications. Good thing that they didn't follow through with that mistake.
When my daughter was born, we filled out the paperwork for her birth certificate and the nurse said there was another baby with the exact same name (different last name, obviously) in the nursery. I thought, "Oh great, I hope they give us the right baby when we leave." Since my daughter looks like me I don't think there's any issue. Even if I found out she's not biologically mine, I'd keep her anyway.
Story 3 : "You don't own the space area over your house". If the drone was flying low enough the dog could catch it from a table, there's no way it was flying from over his house.
Also depending on the area they live, one of the courts in the USA did determine that as long as you are in an area you can legally fly a drone, you own the airspace up to a certain amount above your property.
Im not a lawyer, and that isn't legal advice, but if you own a drone I highly recommend looking into if you do own it where you live
Generally, you own any airspace you can reasonably access and use. So yeah, if you can touch it, it's yours. 🙂
@@DeathProductions200 I forget the exact wording but basically, where I live, you own the airspace up to 10ft above the tallest structure or tree. Even had one guy shoot down another person's drone and the shooter got fined but only for discharging a firearm within city limits.
@@loacyric Incorrect. The FAA controls the airspace from the grass tips to the edge of the atmosphere. If you interfere with a drone in flight, it is a violation of federal law. I am an FAA licensed drone pilot under 14CFR Part 107, and if I or my drone are interfered with during operations the full weight of FAA can be brought to bear for interfering with an aircraft in flight. Shooting it, throwing a towel at it, or having ones dog jump up and grab it, all constitute illegal interference.
@@DeathProductions200 Incorrect. The FAA controls the airspace from the grass tips to the edge of the atmosphere. If you interfere with a drone in flight, it is a violation of federal law. I am an FAA licensed drone pilot under 14CFR Part 107, and if I or my drone are interfered with during operations the full weight of FAA can be brought to bear for interfering with an aircraft in flight. Shooting it, throwing a towel at it, or having ones dog jump up and grab it, all constitute illegal interference. The max altitude that you can legally fly a drone with a few exceptions, is 400 feet above the ground and up to 400 feet above the tallest point of a structure if you are doing a building inspection or survey. So if you have a 150ft tall building you can fly the drone up to 550ft to accomplish your mission, however in certain locations, namely near airports and military bases, you do not get that buffer, and sometimes can't even get full 400ft. I recently did a private day school near a major airport, and only got airspace authorization up to 200ft, and that was fixed AGL so I couldn't take the building height into account. Luckily the building wasn't that high so 200ft AGL was more than enough height, and this is all the USA.
I would really like to get another update on the first story.
While the big question was cleared up another even bigger question came up. Couldn't police possibly reach out to the hospital and make them investigate who's babies were born around the same time and contact these families to make them take tests?
While "just ask the hospital about other babies around that time" might sound like a simple solution, that ignores two problems:
There's probably a BUNCH of those children, and tracking them all down years later is a logistical challenge. and secondly (and more importantly)
Asking the hospital to reveal that would probably be a HUGE violation of HIPA or local equivalents. Not just for whichever kid turns out to actually be theirs but for every other kid as well.
@@ripopol and 100% be opening the hospital up to a lawsuit. So they would do everything in their power to avoid that.
@@zazuch theyre suing now anyways. I hope they win, how does a hospital mix up babies, aren't there wristbands and the like to prevent this kind of situation?
@@Avrysatos I thought so. But given the number of times this has happened I’m not so sure
@@ripopol It's not a violation when it's for an investigation.
I remember Dabney said when Lily was born, the were all given matching braclets so she wouldn't get mixed up with other babies. Guess the hospital in Story 1 didn't do that.
That exactly my thought.
I half remember an old story about a disgruntled nurse that switched the identification of dozens of babies because she was fired (Not in the US). It caused so much chaos. It's very rare rare, but it happens either though mistakes or through malice.
Even in America it can and will occur unless doing home births.
@DeNisey MyFamily'sLivesMatters it's incredibly rare and home births aren't feasible for the vast majority of people either via cost or medically.
@@neilprice513 honestly it happens every so often I imagine it's not common but it could easily happen if someone made literally one mistake
Story 1 is literally my worst nightmare, I was so paranoid about this before we had our son to the point we elected to never have our baby leave the room.
Thats exactly what we decided for our kids cause I'm so paranoid about them being switched or taken from the nursery
I don't understand that about America. I can get hospital births being common and preferred, but why does the baby get taken out of the room, and placed in a nursery with other babies (at least in shows they do). Unless there is medical issues, prem babies etc and they need to go to nicu, or it was a c section, I don't understand why they can't clean, weigh and do the check up in the same room as mum. Do yall over there not do skin to skin after birth? Try to feed them asap? My baby never left my sight except when I went to shower, and my parents were there to stay with him.
This whole thing is terrifying
@@AuntyAwesome I think this is changing in the U.S. more and more now. I am due with my first in October and the hospital has told me that unless my baby is in serious distress and needs intervention they can’t do in the room my baby will not leave my side at all. If they do need to take him out of the room my husband will go with him every step of the way.
@@AuntyAwesome My son was only out of the same room as me 1 time and it was when I was hemorrhaging and the doctor and a bunch of nurses were stopping it. My husband was with him 100% of the time. No baby nursery, but also I delivered during lockdown so that's my only frame of reference.
@@AuntyAwesome Oh, my poor, innocent, naive friend, it's even more terrifying. Some hospitals charge extra for skin-to-skin contact. Yep! They will literally charge a mother for holding her newborn baby after birth. I hate it here! But I'm too poor to leave 💖😀😀😀!
First story: my mum was a social worker (until she got fired for being too nice), and the law is that a child under the age of, I think, 8 is considered "abandoned" after a year without contact. The law considers the swapped babies to be your own. You don't have to worry about her being taken away but might be able to work out visitation with your daughter's parents.
First story. The bio kid could be dead or have been put up for adoption.
@@ked49 Yes, that's possible, but I thought my options were depressing enough without the addition of grieving parents finding out their kid is alive and trying and failing to sue for custody.
How do you get fired for being too nice?
thats the most fucked up thing ive ever heard. i knew i hated social workers. now they're just straight up supporting kidnapping
@@Monsterblade401 Possibly bent the rules to help children
I'm so pleased there was justice for that poor dog. Dogs have no way to understand a huge buzzing thing dive-bombing them! The neighbour sounds straight-up sadistic for harassing an animal that way. The small claims suit backfiring is some measure of sweet karma, but he definitely deserves fallout from the FAA too. Suck it, flyboy.
Technically Op does own the air over his house. It's illegal to fly a drone in a housing area without a permit. My dad is a licensed drone flyer, and he has an app on his phone that tells him where it is legal to fly, and how high. My nephew calls his drone BUG.
Depends on location entirely I believe in my state you don't automatically own the air rights to your property
@@michaelf.2449 I admit I don't have any experience with flying drones. All I know is my dad has to get a permit to fly over houses when people want to get images of hail damage.
Yeah, the last two years have had a whole lot of newer and stricter rules about what you can fly and where.
I'm in Europe, but there's a lot of overlap with US and EU laws.
Flying recreational outside Line of Sight inside residential areas is straight out in EU law.
That does make sense now that I think about it. Heck, your allowed to trim off the limbs of a neighbor's tree if it extends into your property line . I would know, we've had crazy neighbors yell at us and call the cops because we called some guys to cut off branches that were close to our house and windows. They were heavy branches that could easily cause damage if they broke off during a storm. We only got the closest branch cut but they still act bitter and weird
@@michaelf.2449 You own the air as tall as your house is. I'm pretty sure that is every single state.
Newsflash: there are going to be times in your marriage that are 10x more stressful than prepping for your wedding. If you can’t handle that initial stress without making poor decisions, you’re not ready for marriage.
Like having a kid or moving or college for the kid.
@@ked49 With a 1 year old. Raising a baby especially as a new parent can be stressful as hell. But me and my wife did it.
Work related stress, getting fired and then financial issues would cause a lot of stress, so that means he's likely to cheat again. You can't marry someone you can't trust.
I also have to assume he didn't just bump into an ex and they decided to bang, although it's possible. More like he's been speaking to an ex and they hooked up.
No kidding. It's a pretty piss poor excuse for cheating, anyway.
Exactly. Not to mention on the different types of stresses that you can have in your life planning a wedding sure while it is stressful it's at the bottom of that list. I'm planning a wedding it's really not that stressful. You know what is stressful having a sick relative in the hospital struggling with money having a newborn. Hell even having teenagers is pretty stressful. So what she's just supposed to be okay with the fact that every time he gets stressed out he thinks he's entitled to go meet up with his ex and have an affair. I would never trust him again.
My mom was almost switched at the hospital, the nurses said that they were just playing a sick joke on my grandma but she was a tough no nonsense kind of woman and raised hell the second she realised that she wasn't given her daughter. Joke or no joke, it's weird to imagine what life would have been like if my grandma wouldn't have been at the nurses' throats about getting the wrong baby.
I probs would have grabbed something heavy and hit thier heads to let them know what i think about such jokes, then file a formal complaint and a lawsuit to those who did that "joke".
@@someguy7629 I don't know how much could've been done considering my mom was born into the Soviet Union lol. A lot of stuff went unreported because status and others' opinions of your family were more important back then.
As a polygamous person, I keep saying this again and again. Polygamy is only ok when
1. You are very upfront about this part of you when entering a relationship and your partner has clearly and totally expressed they are fine with it
2. You tell them whenever you start up a new relationship or set up whatever communication works best for the both of you in that regard
Otherwise it's cheating. That fiancé is the worst, kick him to the curb.
While I agree with you about the boundaries of polygamous relationships this is a non sequitur and had nothing to do with any of the stories told.
Yeah, cheating is not polygamy and polygamy isnt cheating because the whole foundtation of polygamous relationship is being open to one another, respecting boundaries and honesty
Ya'll polygamous means having multiple marriages. Polyamorous is having multiple partners 💀Source: I'm polyamorous. Polygamy is illegal in the US and many other places. Use the right term guys
@@monochrome_prism THANK YOU OMG PEOPLE WERE TELLING ME POLYAMOURY AND POLYGAMY WERE THE SAME WORD NOW AND I WAS SO COBFUUUUUSED
prove himself and his loyalty... Right... There's no loyalty to be found there. There is absolutely no reason to cheat. Being stressed is NOT a reason. Being scared is NOT a reason. "it meant nothing" is NOT a reason. Good on OP for ending it and not planning on taking him back.
As someone who is not a parent, I’m sitting here wondering wtf you’d even do in a situation like the first story.
Like, after raising the brown-eyed girl for 5 years, she’s definitely your daughter. That’s the relationship the 3 family members spent 5 years building; this little girl’s whole life. Logically speaking, I’d say you keep them switched, BUT, that completely ignores the emotions involved in knowing that the child you carried for 9 months and delivered isn’t the child you’re raising, and not knowing where that child is. I’m at a loss for what to do in that situation, too, and realistically I think the best solution is whatever the two families can work out between them if they manage to find each other.
2nd story OP please stick to your guns. This family is trying gaslighting the hell out of you. They are terrible clearly manipulative people who think that telling you when their son cheats is bad and a moment of weakness. IMO block all of them and give their son his stuff back and never speak to any of them again.
Agree
I hate how the mom said "I wish you didn't take advantage of what I said" take ADVANTAGE? As if she wasn't taking advantage of op and trying to manipulate her.
Not to mention the mother is a straight up sack of crap for dropping that info in that situation.
@@TJDious Hey at least she found out before getting married. But that was not the best situation
@@arandomfan4710 yeah
I’m pretty sure there is a support group for situation like this. I’m there for the op because literally there situation is awful and idk what i would do if I was there
It's such a rare situation there might not be a group of people with exactly the same experience. But hopefully they can find some support.
FDM 215 - Given how many soap operas use the baby-swapping plot line that it’s a trope, it would surprise me if it really was so rare.
First Story: Wow that first story is absolutely insane. I couldn’t imagine raising someone else’s kid for 5 years and someone raising mine for the same amount of time
Second Story: OP simply dodged a bullet with that guy because that family is insane
Third Story: I love that karma against that neighbor
First story the true daughter could be dead or put up for adoption.
In 2006 this happened in Czech Republic. Two girls were switched in hospital and later father of one the girls got paternity test because his friends made fun of him because the girl did not look like him. Then mom denied infidelity and was tested as well and they find out they are not raising their bio kid. The other family was tracked and they switched babies in 2007 under the supervision of psychologists.
That last story: I actually just got through the certification process with the FAA to be a drone pilot and when I heard that on top of flying low over OP's dog and private property, but also flying that high near an airport? That dude needs to have his drones confiscated before he seriously hurts someone- what he's doing is illegal for very good reasons!
2:48, this is Called Baby Juggling. its when a nurse gets CONFUSED when holding Multiple Babies and places them in the WRONG CRIB. This can happen but if its resolved before the baby develops a Solid Memory of who the Previous parent was, then its something that wont Effect your child's Future. (Max of 1-2 years.)
Story 1, the daughters bio parents MIGHT have OPs kid. The kids could be mixed up with multiple families
Yeah that's the real thing is like finding those families and then having a court force a test if they refuse alongside it could've been a situation like you said we're everyone got a child that wasn't theirs instead of a simple swap of one child for another.
Or worse op's kid has passed in the infancy stage, try dealing with that trauma on top of finding the kids were swapped
I was thinking this very thing. Omg this is terrible
Someone in the comments here said there was an update. Their bio kid was in foster care so they were adopting her.
R/nuclear revenge anytime soon?
Yeah I miss that sub too
Yeah I miss the absolute destruction
Need some more nuclear revenge
I would also like more r/nuclear revenge
This!
Switched baby story: One reason I haven't seen mentioned as to why it is super important to find their daughter's birth parents, and their own birth child, is sharing family medical history. Adopted kids often run into issues later in life without this information, and the same would be true here. Ex. As a female, their daughter will be asked about any history of breast or ovarian cancers to determine when certain screening tests should be started. Then there are the hereditary congenital defects that don't always present right away but can have significant impact if not identified for monitoring, like bicuspid valves in the heart.
Being able to share and get that info is very important.
Please... please do so much more of these updates, it is nice to know what happened after. How their life went on. We all say "I would never" but we all had to go thru something to not allow things anymore.
With the baby mixup in the first story, the scary part is that it may not just be 2 babies switched. It could be all born that day were off by one or something crazy like that where lots are effected not just 2. There are no guarantees, and the more people the more complicated it gets since each would likely feel similar.
First story.
Do not tell the daughter, she's too young and, as you said, would spread the word out because she knows no better. Neither your husband or you will tell anyone else either, especially if you have toxic family members. Keep it strictly between yourself and any professional you're working with (doctors and such).
You get counsel, you want for the girl to reach an age where she's mature enough for that information.
And above all, she's still your daughter. Treat her like so.
My biggest fear about that first story is that OP and/or her husband are gonna be the kind of people who look down upon adopted kids and consider them not worth their time. The husband already was separating himself from his wife and daughter, so the red flags are already going up. (Of course, jumping to the worst conclusion without any evidence is also a massive red flag, so...)
For the first story: either faulty test, oooooor babies switched at hospital... I've read about it online many times and it is TERRIFYING to say the least.
They did more tests. The baby wasn’t hers or her husband’s. They believe the baby was switched.
I know there is a disorder where basically a parent can have the reproductive information of a twin that was never born. So basically they'd have the twin brother/sister's genetic information for there own because the twin never actually did develop. Just part of them did.
Their baby being switched is far worse.
@@affettatoprosciutto7139 yeah, I listened to the end after that, but like... In general any outcome would be bad (either cheating or switched babies)
@@FnkyMdnss yeah. I feel bad for them. Hopefully they find peace and give the kid the best life possible
@@KumiChan2004 I believe you're talking about chimerism. It's a rare condition and it was my first thought during the first part of the story as well, especially since in humans it is impossible to tell without testing for it. In certain animals it can be seen, one example I know of is male calico cats. If he's fertile, chances are he's a chimera. If not, he may have XXY chromosomes which usually makes one infertile. I think there was a third cause for male calicos as well but i can't remember off the top of my head, and this is getting a bit sidetracked anyway.
Last Story: OP, be really really careful and stay on watch because that a**hole is gonna 100% try to get revenge on your dog. I suggest you to gift him a DVD copy of John Wick, just so that he has a clear understanding on where he does not want to be.
Drone dude: "You're getting sued, kid!"
OP: "No, YOU'RE getting sued!"
Drone dude: "AHHH! How the hell does that even work?!"
Is that an asdfmovie reference?
If the wedding is so stressful imagine them having a baby
The first story reminds me of how my mom and dad told me how they were given the wrong baby twice at different hospitals. There’s four of us and the the first happened with my younger brother in 2000 my parents went to a mainly white people dominant hospital (they’re Mexicans) and the thing was the baby was a darker skin color and on the bracelet was a completely different Spanish name than ours. My parents pointed it out but the doctor didn’t believe them and actually got pissed at my parents for telling him he’s wrong and thought they were lying or they couldn’t understand him (notice my dad is a Mexican American and was born in the US from Mexican parents and English is his first language, my mom was the Mexican with little English). It was to the point my dad and doctor were going to fight but a nurse saw the bracelets and saw the different names and quickly grabbed the baby and went to find my brother, who was given to the family of the baby they gave my parents who were also Mexicans but with darker skin. When my parents got my brother apparently the doctor was still pissed and left the room and didn’t talk to my parents for the rest of their hospital stay and only through the nurses. From the nurses apparently the doctor didn’t tell the other family what happened just that a nurse came in and took the baby and then gave them their baby with no explanation since I think the other family know little English.
The second time was in 2004 with my little sister at a different hospital and they were more friendly. This time at least the baby had a similar sounding Spanish last name and skin color. The nurses quickly got it but after giving the baby to my parents before taking the baby back and went to look for my sister. Turns out she was still in the nursery sleeping before she was given to the other family and the nurses apologized profusely.
To think this could’ve happened to my family is insane and makes you wonder how often does it actually happen or how many kids are switched without knowing.
Story 3: There are a few stories about drone troubles in ProRevenge, and the FAA was involved in at least one of them.
Also, why would you harass the neighbor's dog with a drone? Of course they would have enough and attack it!
I don't blame the dog in the slightest. If it had been me and the asshole divebombed me to within baseball bat range, I'd have done something similar.
I just double checked and it’s the same person. Rslash probably found it while looking for stories without checking if he already did it/ it was in another sub lol
It is literally in the basic instructions for any drone to try not flight near people or animals.
It could also fall under voyeurism. His backyard is not public property, and there is a reasonable expectation of privacy. Depending on the state, filming someone like that is illegal, and could result in fines or even jail time.
@@TheGreyKami Not to mention OP had an 8 foot fence, so the neighbor had to fly the drone over the fence and then dip down low enough and close enough for the dog to snag it. That means he was purposely targeting the dog.
Dude with the drone is a total butthead. If he's flying low enough for the dog to get it, then he got what he deserved.
As a professional drone operator I totally agree. The neighbor is an asshole and deserved to lose. Hope the FAA nails him to the wall.
The first story is actually possible, I remember learning in biology class that both parents won’t show up in paternity tests. It had to do something with genetic coding but they usually solved the problem by dna testing a family relative and it matched with the kid.
The kid was swapped in the hospital. It's not their bio kid.
Story 1: THIS is why you get a blood test to confirm that the child is yours
To be far its not expected that the hospital would send you home with the wrong child. While it happens its not exactly common either.
no. you should be able to trust hospitals to do their fucking job
@@zazuch yeah but cheating is common and their are many stories of women lying about paternity, so even if it’s not common for a hospital to send you home with the wrong child it is common for a man to be tricked into raising a child that’s not his.
@@zazuch The fact that it happens once is once too often.
@@topasu9454 And this story proves you can't.
For the record, my husband has hazel eyes, so do his siblings. both their parents have brown eyes. So it is possible to have lighter eyes from two dark-eyed parents. Also...first story is a nightmare. I have 2 kids 2 and 5 and if I found out one of them weren't mine I could not give them up. I'd obviously want visitation with my bio kid but the babies I've raised are my whole heart and I would die if they were taken away. I feel like OP in the first story is going to grow to resent her husband because he blew up their whole life because he did not trust her or respect her enough to bring up his concerns with her first. That marriage is probably over.
Man, it's been so long since I did biology... but I think that lighter eyes from two dark eyes parents may be like, dominant vs submissive genetics? Basically it's entirely possible that both parents have a gene that would make the eyes a light color and another for dark, and the dark color is dominant. But if they both pass down only the light gene then the kid would have two ligth genes and thus light eyes.
Disclaimer: this is all off the top of my head and there's a chance I've forgotten something
@@fieratheproud the word you're looking for is "recessive" 😉. But yeah, recessive genes do exactly that - they get passed on but the dominant gene from the other parent trumps them. Only if 2 recessive genes get passed on does the recessive trait actually become visible.
Hemophilia (a genetic disease where you suffer from excessive bleeding and can actually bleed out from what could be a minor wound) is passed on recessively on the X-chromosome, for example. So women rarely get it because both parents would have to be recessive carriers and pass the gene on. Men get it a bit more often cause they only have 1 X-chromosome, thus it can manifest more easily by being passed on by the mother alone.
@@PawsOnTheBalcony ack, I had a feeling I got that term wrong but I couldn't think of alternatives! Thank for catching that. 😅
It's not scientifically possible for 2 blue eyed parents to have a brown eyed child.
That first story is the hospital’s r/TIFU. That is some lifetime movie BS.
Happy ending would be that they find the other family, both sue the pants off that hospital, and buy a big family home together and raise both kids.
story 2: that family is awful, they fact they regretted telling you about the affair shows that they care more about his relationship, over his infidelity
The first story, I wonder what would have happen if they split up, then they find out about the switch. The worst part, it might happen with the other family. In any case, I hope the children gets reunited with their birth parents some day.
First story: I can be hopeful. Hopefully both families (more specifically both kids) could become very good friends?
Second story: My fiance's ex-husband cheated on her, said all those things, she offered an open marriage and he said no, so she gave him a second chance. He cheated again. Cheaters ALWAYS cheat again. Second chances do not work from people who willingly cheat. A drunk night or EXCEPTIONALLY extenuating circumstances may warrant a second chance, but you don't "Accidentally" do that with someone. That's SEVERAL mistakes in a row.
That first story... if I were her I don't think I could ever look at him the same way again. How he treated her was completely and utterly unacceptable. He never even gave her the chance to find out why, and immediately assumed her to be a villain. That's unforgivable - especially since swapping at birth and chimera-ism is very much a thing.
Yeah, but Chimeraism and being swapped at birth is VERY rare, and women having an affair and the child not being the husbands is incredibly common comparatively. Chimeraism especially is only really known about because basically every case makes the news in some way - its that rare.
Right? Like I understand the suspicion being enough to take a test, but then acting like an asshole after is inexcusable. Straight up talk to your partner! If you have a problem say something! Don’t just become sick about it
To be fair, while swapping at birth and chimera-ism are both possible. I do not they are statistically likely. So the guy is within his right to have the test done and it is understandable that he would think OP cheated. As such, it is 100% understandable why he would see OP as a villain and have a hard time seeing his daughter.
@@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd @Secundum I totally agree about needing a test, but it's how he acted that was wrong. It's one thing to have some very pointed questions, but it's another to act like a complete a-hole the way he did. That was well beyond reasonable in my eyes. I've had cheaters before in my life, and not once did I ever act like he did.
I read his update, and his reaction makes a lot more sense. Still unforgivable, but it does explain his reaction.
@@TheEDFLegacy I will agree to disagree. I have been both the cheater (no excuse, i fucked up and i learned from it) and the cheated. So I feel his reaction is justified. He, at that point, thought he was cheated and that he got baby trapped. That can breed immense resentment. So I do not seem him as someone who was in the wrong.
First story- he became distant from his daughter that he should have already loved. He isn't a good father, he should have been hurt at the alleged cheating but if he truly loved his daughter he wouldn't have been distant to her.
I feel like he's getting too much of a pass. He:
Accused his wife of cheating in his mind.
Rather than confront his wife with his accusations, he did a paternity test behind her back.
Rather than confront his wife with the results, he treated her and the child like shit.
Once the court case is over, the sad reality of just how poorly he treated her will sink in and cause a whole other host of martial problems.
@@slytherinlibrarian3501 yeah i agree here like he based it on her eyes being brown... Do they not have grandparents? Or are all of them all the way down blue eyed? Like he saw brown eyes and became super defensive... I think they're all gonna need counselling
@@twistysunshine It's understandable though. Two blue eyed parents absolutely can have a brown eyed child but it's like 1 or 2 percent. So his suspicion and anger is completely understandable. I do agree he did not handle it in the best way, you want to give him a butthole score for that go right ahead but I understand.
That second story. Whatever happened to communication?! When my fiancée stresses me out, I TELL THEM. We then talk about taking a break or putting aside some time where we don't talk about or do whatever is stresses the other out and do something fun so we can decompress for a bit. Conflict management is SO important in relationships.
I love the logic of the neighbor in the last story.
"Yes, I purposely fly my drone over to annoy your dog. How dare your dog react and destroy my drone!"
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes, my guy. Dogs run on instinct, and if the dog thought your drone was "attacking" it was only a matter of time before it got hold of it somehow.
Mad respect to OP in the first story!!! They still see the child they raised as their daughter and sue the shit out of this hospital!!!!
Story 1: That is gross incompetence, I literally have no other way of describing it.
Story #2 about the cheating fiance: I'm glad OP ended things. If cheating happened once, (we're assuming it DID only happen once. It's one time that OP knows of.) and it got blamed on "weakness because of high stress"... high stress times happen in literally every long term relationship. If it got a pass the first time, that would make it so much easier for it to happen again.
Also I'm so glad OP found out before the wedding. It may not feel like it to OP, but it's still easier to disentangle themself now, than it would have if they'd been married.
First story:DOUBLE ANIME ASS TWIST
This was actually an Anime plot twist for Kinnikuman lol
A Couple of Cuckoos is about that.
@@GreatQuestionFran I think I seen that
@@RedK5 ayyyyy 37 likes
am i too late?
@@RedK5 aslo i have a better line for this
husband: but the child is not my son
wife: but the child is your daughter
the test: but the child is not out son
The "it meant nothing" argument from cheaters is a terrible argument. Because honestly I would be more forgiving if you cheated on me with someone you had feelings for, but to nuke our relationship for someone that doesn't mean anything to you? That's way worse.
That first story is why im glad the hospital I gave birth at keeps the babies in the roon with the parents. All tests are done in the room. If the baby has to leave the room for any reason, one parent may go with them. The hospital had a nursery, but due to covid, it was closed. Only the NICU was open
The first story has to be one of the few stories that I was *genuinely surprised* at
The first story is a great example why mother and baby shouldn't be separated after birth since, shit like this seems to happen a little too often in the US
I live in Canada and horror stories like that were the reason I kept my son right next to me and didn't sleep a wink in the hospital (not the greatest thing to do after a C-Section, but momma bear instincts were taking over)
If hes gonna cheat due to the stresses of a wedding, what makes them think he wont cheat again when he gets stressed again?
The FAA don't mess around if they fine him it will probably be around $10,000 fine at minimum.
10:52 here's the thing about "nothing personal" what they really mean is that it's not personal to them and don't realize that it's extremely to the person they're cheating on, pranking, or firing for their jobs
1:31 somebody failed middle school biology.
Even though the daughter isn't either of theirs the point still stands.
Yes! It's crazy that all of this came out of some misguided notions about recessive traits
Story 2: I have a sneaking suspicion that if the roles were reversed and the OP had cheated instead of the fiancé, fiancé’s super religious mom would have demanded OP be kicked to the curb immediately. But no, these kinds of people always make excuses for their own precious children that they’d never make for other people.
Story 1: double plot twist. Your biological daughter is a deaf redhead living with a Hispanic family.
Under rated comment. I guess that show wasn't that popular
Story 1: We recently had a media covered incident like this in my country. 2 Babies mixed up, but one of the mother was suspicious when she was looking at the baby after they got out and caught the mix up (1 month into the age of the babies). It was messy as the other family was..... let's call it troublesome with no income. The result was that both families sued the hospital. They each got something like 10 years worth of minimal working salary for the country.
"I can't really blame your husband for getting as upset as he did because even though he was wrong, it was a pretty reasonable assumption to make"
What?? The guy got suspicious because of the color of his daughters eyes!! Two blue eyed parents can, in fact, give birth to a brown eyed baby if one or both parents carry the brown eyed gene. That "reasonable assumption" is still UNreasonable. Hell, my best friend gave birth to her son not too long ago & he's got red hair. She's got dark brown, her bf has dirty blonde. Her parents both have brown hair; his dad has brown hair & his mom has dirty blonde. The only other person in her family to have red hair is her nephew. Her sister has 5 kids, only one has red hair. So where'd the red hair come from? You guessed it, a gene passed down from their grandfather who was 100% Irish. That shit LITERALLY skipped two generations. Calling 100% bull on him being "suspicious" based on the color of his daughters eye.
Eye color in this case is plenty of reason to be suspicious. No it's not proof, not even close but it is reason to be suspicious. To get proof, he needed the test which did in fact prove that the kid was not his. The only problem is he took that as proof of his worst fears (cheating) without investigating the other highly unlikely but possible alternatives which turned out to be true.
3rd story-I am studying real estate and the first thing they teach you is about your bundle of right and it quite literally says you own every thing above your property and below. Lol that dude does not know what he is talking about smh.
That almost happened to my stepmom apparently the hospital forgot that two girls was born the same day but her mom said that’s not my child and demanded that they go look again and that’s when they realized their mistake
Nothing's more exciting than hearing *"and then OP posted an update"* on an rSlash video
With the last story, and how OP's neighbor sued him but ended up losing and having to paying OP. I enjoy when individuals like the neighbor sue others, only to end up losing.
The neighbor in the third story won the award for "f around and find out"
I don't know if anyone else mentioned the TV series, "Switched At Birth", but it's about a situation exactly like the first story. I don't know how realistic that show is, but regardless, this is not entirely unheard of unfortunately, and I have heard of this happening to some other families. I imagine if OP dug a little deeper, then would be some kind of support group, or they could at least find a family therapist or counselor that has possibly dealt with the situation before, or specializes in something related like issues surrounding adoption, blended families, etc. Regardless, that is a crazy situation to be in!
132 feet. That is the amount of air space above your owned land that most states recognize as still your property. If someone puts a drone in that space they are legally trespassing and in most states, you could shoot it down and not be held legally liable for damages. Particularly if you can show proof you trespassed them. And you don’t have to allow them legal access to retrieve it until ordered to by an officer.
In the first story, that guy was giving off all the signs of cheating himself. And he made the assumption that she had cheated before taking the test. That's why he took it. And treated her and the child badly based on his assumptions. It doesn't matter how logical his assumption was. He's an asshole. I know this is not an Am I The Asshole post but he is and she isn't.
I agree and when the fervour of the switched at birth situation dies down, the way he treated her that started all of this week sink in to her.
@@H-to-O no, I don't think someone having their phone flipped over is a sign of cheating. Accusing someone else of cheating is bigger than having a phone flipped over. Granted I was cheated on and may have a certain bias, but I'm unfortunately familiar with the signs.
The last story should see if there are any tv or radio towers near by and report that to the FAA as well since it’s illegal to fly within so many feet of them without clearance
First story: we’re assuming that it was just two kids who got switched. I would be more surprised if it was JUST two kids
I am honestly so terrified of that 1st story ever coming true in my life with my wife because I will be watching my kid like a freaking hawk.
Like I will not even allow a nurse to be gone with my baby for more than a minute and I will be following them everywhere.
they're not allowed to do anything without your permission. the trick is theyll assume you DO want everything unless its explicitly stated. make sure your wife has a printed out birthing plan, give one to your OB one to your nurse and keep one for reference.
To everyone who sees this, just because I was curious I looked up the first story and people here on TH-cam are so much kinder to this person than the people on Reddit. A lot of people there claims that this story is fake, and in case you're wondering she posted an update saying that she found her biological child. Idk what to think anymore tbh..
WOW...first story...brutal. Baby switches happen way more often than we'd like to believe, though.
The first story, I can't remember the details but there was a story like this before where both children didn't match either parent and the second child had a DNA test right at birth, it some rare DNA thing or something. Found it, it's called chimerism
2:21 This was glossed over, but since they are suing the hospital, this has most probably ruled out.
For the drone story:
My dad has a drone, we fly it often. That thing goes HIGH. The neighbor has his own yard to get altitude, why is she moving to other yards being (I'm guessing) less than 10m high?
When you fly a drone you know you should avoid animals, trees and objects, you paid a lot of money, so you must be careful because it is delicate.
'You...are not the Father'
"I knew it!"
'And you are not the Mother'
"Wait, what?"
You owe me a new cup of coffee.. (you made me laugh so hard I spat out my coffee)
Oh boy! I actually do know the legality of the drone case! Per real estate law (at least in California) you do own the air up to a reasonable point over your property! It used to be all of the air above your property but the introduction of commercial airlines changed that. The property owner absolutely owns the space in which a drone would fly. Especially if its low enough for a dog to catch.
Get this man to 2M subs already, he puts in a ton of work and gives us daily uploads and great entertainment.
When my daughter was born I never left her out of my sight. I was so worried about her being switched or worse, I was around her like a hawk. Hospital staff treated it like those things don't happen there, but I didn't care, I'll be damned if I entrust my newborn to distracted strangers.
Why do cheaters always say "It meant nothing" when they cheat? That's even worse in my opinion, you ruined the relationship on a whim. A literal passing thought or flight of fancy?!
1st story - depending on the country you can normal go to the hospital and they can run tests and find someone with similar DNA. Its actually quite common and me and my fiancee almost got arrested because the hospital thought we were baby-napping (the nurse gave us the okay to take her tags off) thank god the nurse ran in to hear the commotion and said everything was okay, with our 2nd daughter we learned to wait till we were in the car to snip the tags 😂 talk about a high anxiety and anxious moment to be stuck in as new parents
first story is straight up a movie plot, holy shit.
It’s also an episode of Dinosaurs
She’s worried what others will think?? Wow….that should be last on the list
Screw him, he cheated! Doesn’t matter about his accident.
Story 1: I'm terrified that this is what happened to me. I look very little like either of my parents, but mostly like my mother at first glance. There are just parts of my face that look like neither of them. There's the matter of my eyes, greyish blue that doesn't match my mother's green-blue or my father's brown-green hazel. My nose doesn't match. My hair is darker than my mother's, but lighter than my father's. My body shape is completely different. I never felt a familial connection to them as well as never held any of their beliefs despite how they tried to make me.
Despite having the same father and a mother that looks nearly identical, my supposed half-brother looks like my father: easily tannable to the point of being mistaken for Hispanic, brown-green hazel eyes, same nose, same everything. Hell, their voices were similar.
There's also weird stories about the first year of my life, all surrounding why there are no pictures of me during that time. One is that I had sleep apnea (I don't have sleep apnea now and it's not supposed to be a thing that goes away so ???) but this sleep apnea came with heart problems that caused me to stop breathing and nearly die every time I cried, so I had a heart monitor and they didn't want to have pictures with me like that. According to my mother, she took me to a church where nuns put their hands on me and prayed and BOOM no more heart problems. It doesn't make sense. Another excuse my mother had was that a flood wiped out their trailer and took all the pictures with it a week after my first birthday. Ask her on a different day though and that flood supposedly happened only a week after I was brought home from the hospital. It doesn't make sense and I'll probably never find out the truth, due to my father being dead and my mother being a rabid liar.
Or maybe you were just adopted and they never told you?
@@ThEjOkErIsWiLd00 They were too poor and too drugged 7p to go through the offical system. If I was some sort of adopted, it was probably the sold between junkies or surprise adopted kind.
In school, my husband & I were taught brown eyes are dominant, so a brown eyed person CANNOT have a blue eyed kid. 1 of ours has blue eyes & we learned that, along with a ton of other things we were taught in public school were nothing but lies.
If you value knowing facts, reteach yourself everything you learned. I started homeschooling a few years ago and was astounded at how many lies there were, mostly history, economics, the government, etc.
My husband & I are from different states with totally different teaching styles, so I guarantee you're also affected.
You've got it backwards. Because blue eyes are recessive, you'd need that trait from both parents. Brown eyes would occur if you got one brown eyed trait from either parent. It would overrule the recessive trait. Two blue eyed parents couldn't pass on a brown eyed trait because they have to have the double recessive. Therefore the kid would have to have blue or some other recessive eye color, not brown
Cheating fiancé…you’re not married. She’s not your another in law. She told you to ease her guilty conscience with no regard to the pain it would cause you. You have no cause to feel bad. Walk away. Don’t bind yourself to him if your heart isn’t 100% in it which it is clearly not.
Wow, a genuine changeling story. That's horrible, but morbidly interesting. I just hope that the biological child doesn't end up in sinister circumstances.
In the first story it's good that they found out this early, because if anything bad happened in the future it would have made a big problem.
Story 1: The husband has to know that sometimes characteristics skip a generation or two. I myself have an eye color that no one else in my family does, but I also know that I am full of recessive traits (a lot of them!). I'm pretty sure that I share traits with great great grandparents or perhaps even further back, but I also know that I am definitely my parents' child as I look like them. 😅
Granted in this case, the hospital messed up big time and I think there's going to be a major lawsuit involved. How do you accidentally swap out babies in this day and age? They have bracelets that are identical to the mothers, and scanners that send up alarms if matching bracelets are not found when a baby exits the building with a mother.
Story 2: Glad Op got out of there.
Story 3: The police report that Op made leave the paper trail where it shows Op ask them to stop and contacted police about it and they asked him to stop as well. That meant he already had a history of ignoring police and teasing Op's dog with the drone. In short, he played stupid games so he won stupid prizes.
The thing about the eyes though is that blue eyes are both recessive so both parents have double blue eye genes, no room for brown eyes.
Except the dna test proved he's not the dad and your comments is 100 percent moot. He secretly took the test before saying anything. If he was the father he likely wouldn't have said anything. He died it the right way.
@@davidscott1340 I went back to edit as I continued listening. Also nobody died in this story. 🧐
@@smolboi1222 I'll let my grade school friend know this since she has brown eyes and her grandma has brown eyes and both parents have blue.
@@dnisey64 That sounds like her father might want to do a paternity test then...
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For any one who broke up with a cheater and still feels like you love them, that’s your mind not wanting to let go, but your heart knows what’s best, so trust yourself
First story: This is why paternity test should be mandatory at birth before either parent signs the birth certificate. And no op’s husband wasn’t wrong for getting that test, it’s his right to know if the child he is raising is biologically his.
Disagree
I think you misheard his statement. I took it as him being wrong about her cheating due to the kid not being biologically his. Not that he was wrong for doing the test/trying to figure out if it was his kid or not.
@@zazuch ah okay. Sorry for the misinterpretation
@@lil-mochi1579 which part do you disagree with?
It should be automatic to remove the requirement to request it. It’s not a trust test it’s a right to know.
Hospitals still switch babies around even though it’s highly illegal who is responsible deserves a prison sentence