5 signs you're not in love 1) no talking for a few weeks 2) consistently venting about them 3) being together no longer enjoyable 4) "i love you" feels fake 5) honesty feels conditional
@@Alex-bl8uh Platonic is self explanatory in nature. Romantic / sexual love is a continual choice made each day by showing up and wanting to love somone
I actually thought that I was in love with this person and even confessed to them not long ago but after I did I actually felt nothing. Everything's in this video is really on point with me (except the venting about them part). I always wanted a stable relationship and they were my first choice because I thought they were the safest option, now I realize that I was just in love of the thought of being in a relationship and not actually being in one
and how do you just tell someone u fell out of love after giving them hope- I am planning on just running away , disappearing....cause i cant take the look on their face and i am not in love at all
I've actually never really been in love , I've had a few relationships but thinking back, i don't really know why I agreed on it. Sometimes i think I'm unable to love. And i am afraid of getting emotionally attached to someone
Yeah!! Sometimes I also feel incapable of loving someone, it's like you think you feel something for that person, sometimes some reactions happen, palpitations and nervousness, but when that reaction becomes official, you just don't feel anything anymore, or in another situation, you feel comfortable with the other person, you think you like them, but you think it's weird not feeling anything, i want to but i can't, it seems fake and superficial
Same here. I guess it's true that can't love you unables you to love someone. I once thought I loved me, but I confused it with narcisism, what was the end? I ruined my relationship with my best friend in the world... Even so, we keep talking, we are best being friends, but I feel like I still love him, but I don't want him with me in that way at the same time, he doesn't deserve that.
My gf confessed to me a couple months ago (I'm pretty sure) and I'm not fully in love with her because I'm still recovering from my trauma. We love cuddling and we text each other every and I show her a lot of affection - it's so cute seeing her happy :) Every once in a while, I'll get excited and nervous sometimes, meaning I'm getting closer to full recovery. I'm glad I'm happy, and I hope everyone here is happy too💕💕
i was in the same situation and i caused him so much pain, but i knew he was the right person for me and now we're dating for almost 6 months now ◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧ i hope y'all have a lovely future like us :3
I've had that before with someone who seemed too fastly attracted to me - broke up and now I'm talking to a very nice girl from Canada (not YET in a relationship)
5 Signs You're Not Actually In Love 0:34 No talking? No problem! 1:10 Consistently venting. 2:05 Being together no longer enjoyable. 3:00 “I love you” feels fake. 3:30 Honesty feels conditional.
Just ended a relationship where all of these things were true about me... seeing it summed up in a video has helped me to feel valid for the choice I made. I wasn't invested in my partner anymore and they deserve someone who will be. I'm going to hurt for a while, especially when they find someone else, but it was the right thing to do. I don't really think I'm the kind of person who is capable of loving so I don't think I'll be pursuing anything myself, and I wouldn't ask anyone to love me if I'm seemingly incapable of giving them the same in return.
@@uddhavgalande5202 They've fallen into a depression lately, and I'm almost positive it was from our break-up. However, they have made new friends and are being social, which I'm happy for. But they've been taking it pretty hard otherwise.
If you don't have time: 1. No talking? No problem! 2.Consistently venting 3.Being together no longer enjoyable 4."I love you" feels fake 5.Honesty feels conditional
@@ajohncarino my bf also have this feeling now doubting but not bcs not feel same anym. It's cos of ldr he doubt if it work or not bcs the feeling kill him so much thatbhe miss me alot. So tbh I kinda need this kind of answer too😇
@@Psych2go I'm concerned about the future and when I do or don't do things in the present FoR the future to be like what I plan to be ,I'm being told that I look too far in the future and I should be focusing on the present...I don't feel like I ignore or let the present go without paying attention to it but at the same time I don't like doing things now that I believe won't help me going where I plan in the future.....Its a bit confusing in my head and it actually stresses me out so maybe a video about something like that?
This video actually really helped me figuring out I am not in love anymore Things like that sometimes seems so easy but at the samd time they are hard to accept, so thank you! I really needed some advice
The part about honesty gets me… because I rarely ever feel safe telling my (sort of) partner the truth, but with my ex it came so easily when he turned up the other day - even though telling him about my ‘sort of’ partner could make things harder… being the best version of myself comes naturally with him!
Umm.. why are you talking to your ex while you’re seeing someone else? How would you feel if your partner, or even ex was talking to one of their ex’s while dating you. Sounds to me like you need to be single for awhile anyways
i do love him. but im just too shy to be my complete self around him. we still have alot to go through so i know this will change and in time, i'll be comfortable with him like he is with me:)).
Oh, I have felt the honesty part really well. I can't comfortably speak about everything with her just because of her sometimes insulting jokes and "others have it worse" kind of answers. And I can't really blame her for that since she has grown up in the same conditions, for every of her troubles she had same answers from relatives and some "friends". She thinks it builds the character, just because she was raised up like this, but I know her fairly well and her heart is closed in a similar way like mine, not really tightly though. She is very nervous about herself and very critical of herself and others, she kinda tries to tight herself up, but through enormous emotional strain. I always listen to her and I try to soothe her mind through calm and soft speaking and listening thoroughly. I always want her to just be better. Isn't it love?
Not like I was looking for answers, but this helped me see that my relationship with my ex was long gone dead and took the right decision when calling quits.
I have always thought that my love with my partner is Love in it's purest form.... I didn't need any assurance from anyone, because I felt it. But after seeing this video, I am surer than before that our thing is real. Because we behave totally opposite of this with one another . A little reassuring like this feels nice.
i agree with most except for the ‘nonchalant’ part. sometimes we need space or alone time, and that does not necessarily equate to not loving them anymore.
I absolutely love and cherish my alone time and my social battery is naturally pretty low, but being with him just gives me comfort and energy, I love every second of it. Being alone with him is the best thing in the world, I love that boy so much.
Hmm. I miss them a lot. I always want to hang out with them, whereas I don’t usually with others. I am honest with them all the time. I genuinely enjoy their company. But here’s the question. Am I talking about my best friend, or the person I like?
Okay so I found this comment and I wanted to answer because I've seen with my own eyes my moms ex bf be emotionally dependent on her. Younger child me knew it wasn't love no matter how lovey dovey he was and he reeked with insecurity. Always cried about being nothing without my mother. Actually worried about a friend becoming like him because her habits mimic what my memories are just very mildly compared to what ex bf was like (not the crying about being nothing just alot of clingyness and insecurity while going through something). From a quick search and paste Other key signs of emotional dependence include: an idealized view of your partner or the relationship. the belief your life lacks meaning without them. the belief you can't find happiness or security alone. a persistent fear of rejection. a constant need for reassurance. I didn't see it as love because he didn't see himself as a whole person and basically "used" my mother to feel complete. In my eyes that's not love. But who knows. That's just my interpretation. Maybe look up secure attachment styles. I feel like this didn't answer anything with love but maybe it did :]
@@CrepuscularQueen for some reason your response feels complete and resonates with me for this is where i feel. Reality hits as i have been the kind of a receptor for such a relationship
There isn't. Love, as most people would define it, is just an emotional addiction that your brain is experiencing in order to procreate. After a while, it vanishes and that's just natural. Then you have people who call long-term bonding with someone after this phase the "real love", but I think they are just deluding themselves since they don't want to admit that all their initial feelings were just petty biological reactions and everything that's left is more or less just a friendship they got used to over time. People are serial monogamists usually, so that means every love has a built-in expiration date.
I reached out to him just a few days after meeting him, and he never replied. At first, I was heartbroken. And then I realized why I was upset- both of my sisters were in committed, happy relationships, and I wasn’t. I was trying to rush myself. It’s been almost two years now, and I have never felt more fulfilled in my life as I focused more on myself rather than just… waiting for a relationship that would never come. It still stings a little when I think back to when I was so empty and trying to rush something, but I’m happy that I never settled on just waiting. Thanks so much for this video. I know so many people like myself need to hear it.❤️
I was in love with my best friend. And she said she was too. But then (and also before that) she always ignored me for several days and sometimes weeks. I was blind of love and i always forgave her. But now she isnt even interested in talking to me in school and avoids me. When i tried to solve the problem, she didnt even answer to the text. It still hurts me so much only thinking about the first letter of her name. I feel guilty for things i didnt even do. And I still dont know why she lost interest in me and not only didnt tell me but activley ignored me. I cry every morning because i not only lost her as a crush but also as a friend. While she doesnt even seem to care of my existence. This video helped me cope a bit tho thank you
It feels good to see that I am not the only one questioning ones feelings in my current relationship... I don't know, it feels so nice and comfortable to be with him, we are so good to each other, but on the other side I just cannot say I love you to him, because I don't feel it... I was single most of my life and it is so rare that I find someone who is giving, with whom I can have intelligent conversations with and who I find attractive... so in this sense, he is a gem... but I am still not sure if I am in love...
I think that a lot of people think they've fallen out of love once the honeymoon period ends. The truth is that once you've been together for a while and maybe moved in together, the novelty wears of and your partners becomes a part of your normality. That, of course, doesn't mean you love them any less. Relationships, just like everything else, require maintenance
Came out of a 6 years long relationship. Everything was fine. Just that our communication was less..but I think we can work out of things like this too..until and unless the other person has very deep trauma, loneliness , codependency nature always wants attention. Prioritizing their goal but never yours. I gave him chances to so that he could fix himself. I asked him to get therapy but he didn't. I have been with him when nobody believed he could even achieve anything. Today when he achieved everything, he left me in cold.. saying he doesn't love me and choose to dump me. I sit here and realise .what was everything for 6 years. Have you never loved me? I am so tired .mentally exhausted now.😔
You will find someone else- you deserve better. Learn to love yourself and love only those persons who love you back. Don't try to save anyone. You are worth it - love yourself.
Beautiful person reading this, go after what it is that you want in life! Learn the skills, do whatever it takes! You are capable of anything! I believe in you! ✨ Love - Nat ❤️
Im confused.. what if when I’m not with them I feel irritated about them.. I don’t mind not speaking with them for some longer periods of time.. it kinda feels like a “work” to spend time with them.. but when I’m actually with them I feel safe, comfortable and loved? I guess.. I don’t know..
I feel like I've took the "don't bombard them with texts" too seriously. I constantly end up ignoring their texts for days on end even when I feel intensely for them. I think it is because of the fear of disappointment that they would take me for granted and ignore me instead. I just want them to feel my worth. But in the process, I just ended up distancing ourselves from each other. Am I being selfish by keeping expectations? Edit: It is about a crush.
i feel the last one depends on who you are. I have great friends yet will never share my music taste or playlist with them because I'm too afraid of rejection. I've had too many incidents of someone making fun of me for the music I like. So me hiding the goofy things I like is just because I don't wanna be hurt, and doesn't mean I don't love my partner, but rather need to work on myself
I am curious, what does it mean when you don't talk to someone for weeks, you enjoy every moment with them and you love them more each time you talk or meet?
I'm thankful for this video, it helps me to finally understand what I've been feeling and it's a relief for me to know. It's sad that I finally realized that I don't love him anymore, that's why I'm acting that way and broke up with him. We can close off the chapter in our life to make another but now without each other. I hope he's doing well and I wish him goodluck.
In our mental minds class our teacher plays your videos! (Love them btw) you make me feel more sure about myself along with other things. Also I’m obsessed with the art to accompany the video. Love you and stay safe!! 💗🫣
I’m not okay with accurate this is 😭 currently going through this with my partner of 5 years. It’s been so rough in general but I’m the one who’s had to rip the bandaid off for both of our mental health and well being. It honestly sucks 💔
So, i'm not in love, then. I want to be alone, but still be with someone who understand me. I only want a friend who understands me. Friends and people who listen to what i say and who understands me is all i ask for, it's all i want. I honestly only want genuine friends and genuine people who understands me more than even my parents. I'm not looking for love, not now, not ever, not until i have found genuine people i can be with, and finding genuine people and friendshas and still is harder than i thought it would be, and still it isn't a challenge. Why it isn't challenging enough is beyond me. I've turned to hard liqour and started isolating myself, mostly because i don't enjoy life, and because i dislike my job, and because i have a sore shoulder. I've told people about my declining mental and physical health, and still i don't get any help. I'm not looking for love until i get the help i need and find genuine people i can surround myself with
It's quite frustrating to be reminded constantly that I was actually in love. That video just validated everything that I felt for my ex. And for a long while, I wasted all the love I can give to someone who was faking it the whole time before she left me for someone else. I'm glad to know that I'm very much capable of doing that, but I'd rather be left alone and content with myself than getting into a relationship that would just end in lies and betrayal.
i’m in a really tricky situation because i threw myself into a relationship with one of my friends way too quickly and now i’m having second thoughts. i would break up, but i don’t wanna lose them as a friend. i’ve also become friends with some of their friends and i don’t wanna lose them either. i feel like an asshole.
Its videos like this that makes me want to have talks with my mom since I struggled with feeling love or expressing it because of that difficulty, thanks for the simple words of wisdom and encouragement
I'm in love with someone. But the only thing I struggle with is with remembering to interact with people in all my relationships (family, friends, and love.) I think I don't have a grasp on time.
I fell out of love because I could tell he didn't love me as much anymore but based on these things makes me realize he truely didn't love me as much as I had loved him and once we had one break I could tell that it wasn't meant to be I completely broke it off. Even though he still has made me happier than anyone I don't think I made him all that happy
NGL, I had all these signs except the number 3. We enjoy being together but mostly in his own ways. Our relationship was like all about physical contact, we only talk when we plan to meet each other, we never go on a date, we're just always in his very cold room doing what he wants, sometimes when we go out, we only buy foods & eat inside his car. That's not that date & relationship I want, I don't feel anything but his desire. Too good we parted ways.
I'm asexual and aromantic so I'm not interested. People don't believe me and they think I can change. I've been like this since I can remember.. I just don't feel anything. Also the fact that I'm treated differently because I'm Goth and a metalhead makes me even more uninterested for anyone. There's plenty of others who like me, but I get sick..
asexual means you are unattracted to having sex related activites with anyone aromantic means you don't want to have a romantic experience with anyone However it is a spectrum and it's not black and white. People who are both asexual and aromantic are ones who don't care to have any of a relationship beyond platonic ones and don't enjoy sexual stuff.
@@olivemeraki schizoid personality disorder is when you don't want any close relationships at all, including with family or friends. You like isolation and prefer it. It is not to be confused with being asexual.
People are different and so are their emotions and how they live them. I don’t think describing “being in love” can never be objective. But I still agree with most of this video’s assumptions. Especially the last one. I’m just saying there could be someone who has a completely different explanation for the way they feel and it’s okay and it doesn’t mean their feelings are not legit. Everyone has their own way of seeing the world. Things like emotions shouldn’t be so definitive ^^
Thank you!!! I came her for confirmation. In my heart I think I already knew. I feel sad because we are great together. We are at the very beginning of our relationship, and it is actually my first one, even though I'm 29. He loves me and is the perfect boyfriend, but maaaan replying to his texts feels like a chore! I can get bored while kissing or being intimate, even though I enjoy other activities with him. He is always the one who initiates physical contact, not me. It really took me a while to realize this is platonic love. Now, how to tell him this?
I kinda have the same Problem but i've been with him for about 8 months now. Even tho we talk very openly about everything, I think about breaking up quite often. He is also kinda my only friend rn... sometimes I just wanna turn back time and leave things in the friendzone. Figuring out if it's love or friendship is hard...
Just an update. I recently had a very honest conversation with him, and it went better than I expected. We both decided we still love each other as friends, and agreed on keeping that part of our relationship, but not having a romantic relationship. Still trying to figure out if we keep the sexual part or not tho (we are both very liberal on that part), as it risks getting our feelings confused.
I’ve been in a relationship for two and a half years. I lost my feelings of love in September of last year. I’m so lost and don’t know what to do. My relationship feels like a chain I’m stuck to. They know about my loss in feelings but want me to talk to a therapist first. I’ve had no hope finding one and it’s causing me stress and depression. I don’t know what to do
I see that I'm on the edge of falling out of love bc I vent abt my partner a lot but barely tells him and he can stop communicating for long period of time. It's complicated and idk if I should hold on or move on. Idk, if I'm the only one fighting to make it nice does worth it. I love him so much but I'm getting a little indecisive
My ex and I were absolutely happy (as I saw it) and got involved in a community musical. I as the set designer, he as the lead. He ended up getting emotionally involved with the female lead and dumping me before the show started (last week). And has gotten together with her simultaneously. He told me all the right things and showed me all the passion over our 7 months together. I am still in shock at the abrupt ending. What he told me on breaking up was "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". Hard to believe he was that good of a liar for this long. He claimed that he was saying all the right things to deepen his feelings that weren't there yet. Seems he's chasing the all elusive feeling of infatuation that he thinks is love, and hurting everyone along the way in his selfishness. I'm devastated. He was so convincing and I feel so betrayed. Is his judgement clouded by his new feelings, or did he truly never love me?
I am so sorry you have to go through this! Sounds really confusing and heart breaking. Reminds me of how important it is to be honest and not say the right things just to fit in. Hope you find strength and clarity.
I hope you are doing better! I am going through something very similar, and currently I also feel absolutely betrayed, idk if he is still with the other girl but I feel absolutely betrayed and heartbroken. He told me he cares a lot about me but that his feelings aren't enough for a relationship with me, and this video absolutely seems to explain what happened to him. I just wonder how my feelings grew while his diminished, and I'm also sad that he didn't tell me about this sooner instead of leading me on. Like before talking to this other girl and before spending about 2 months pretending as if everything was fine when it was all over for him :(
I do love him, but I’m not a romantic person and I’m very closed off, I can’t not text him because I feel alone without him. Whenever I say I love him I feel nauseous and when I try to be lovey dovey etc, he knows im not romantic but to the point where I get nauseous I creep myself out and I feel so different from everyone else. I can say I love you to my family but like that’s something totally different…
We're often watching TH-cam on our phones, unique programs and accounts, so we often do it in different rooms, or opposite sides of the same room. Often when he watches TV I'll watch my videos only during commercials, and he often mutes the TV during commercials so he can listen to my video (we have a lot of similar interests, though I don't do much TV unless he's in the room). I've been burned out for several months, so he gives me space when I need to be alone. I think I complain about him too much--always affectionately, but still too much and still complaints. Still, after 6 years the love is a strong as ever, we've just mice past the honeymoon period.
Now what do I do now that I realized that I'm not truly inlove with him? I feel so bad to hurt his feelings but I can no longer pretend to love him and force myself to talk to him everyday. Am I a bad person for leading him on? I know he really loves me.
Keep in mind that your feelings lie. Love is a choice not a feeling. Some days you may be in a lot of pain and may not give one crap about a person. But it doesn't mean you don't love them. Don't be misguided by whether or not you get the butterflies around someone anymore. Love is a choice and love requires work to keep the passion going. You need to feed that fire with your attention every day.
What if you love the person, admire them, like their company and all, but you just don't feel like IN LOVE anymore? And you're ok talking with this person and enjoy spending time with them, but just doing friendship stuff and feel annoyed when doing couple stuff...
maaaan, Fearing I'm aromantic because I'm nearing my 30'ies and I've yet to feel any sort of love or Lust towards anyone. Would be GREAT to experience this emotion at least once but alas, stil haven't found "the one"
5 signs you're not in love
1) no talking for a few weeks
2) consistently venting about them
3) being together no longer enjoyable
4) "i love you" feels fake
5) honesty feels conditional
Thank you-!
thanks sm!
Thanks
Kk
You can understand it wrong by just reading these points, so I recommend you watch the full video
Love is a choice. Once the honeymoon hormones wear off, we all have a choice to continue to love someone as long as you feel it or we don't
What fo you mean? How do you chose this and how does this love feel? Like a platonic one?
@@Alex-bl8uh Platonic is self explanatory in nature.
Romantic / sexual love is a continual choice made each day by showing up and wanting to love somone
@@Martyn_Wolf so you have to force yourself to love once the honeymoon is over?
@@Alex-bl8uh Choosing and forcing are different things.
Love can indeed be a choice and commitment, but wouldn't that be a bit of betraying yourself if you no longer feel the same way down the road?
I actually thought that I was in love with this person and even confessed to them not long ago but after I did I actually felt nothing. Everything's in this video is really on point with me (except the venting about them part). I always wanted a stable relationship and they were my first choice because I thought they were the safest option, now I realize that I was just in love of the thought of being in a relationship and not actually being in one
Same
So interesting
and how do you just tell someone u fell out of love after giving them hope-
I am planning on just running away , disappearing....cause i cant take the look on their face and i am not in love at all
@@irctinr4evr919 I was rejected after I did so I think it still worked out fine for me but I dunno what to say to your situation sorry
I've actually never really been in love , I've had a few relationships but thinking back, i don't really know why I agreed on it. Sometimes i think I'm unable to love. And i am afraid of getting emotionally attached to someone
i used to think im unable to love, and also afraid of caring too much and getting too attached as well, so i feel your struggle too
i have finally found someone who has it the same way
I relate to this. Maybe loving ourselves could enable us to love others.
Yeah!! Sometimes I also feel incapable of loving someone, it's like you think you feel something for that person, sometimes some reactions happen, palpitations and nervousness, but when that reaction becomes official, you just don't feel anything anymore, or in another situation, you feel comfortable with the other person, you think you like them, but you think it's weird not feeling anything, i want to but i can't, it seems fake and superficial
Same here. I guess it's true that can't love you unables you to love someone. I once thought I loved me, but I confused it with narcisism, what was the end? I ruined my relationship with my best friend in the world... Even so, we keep talking, we are best being friends, but I feel like I still love him, but I don't want him with me in that way at the same time, he doesn't deserve that.
My gf confessed to me a couple months ago (I'm pretty sure) and I'm not fully in love with her because I'm still recovering from my trauma. We love cuddling and we text each other every and I show her a lot of affection - it's so cute seeing her happy :)
Every once in a while, I'll get excited and nervous sometimes, meaning I'm getting closer to full recovery.
I'm glad I'm happy, and I hope everyone here is happy too💕💕
I'm so happy for your happiness, online stranger
i was in the same situation and i caused him so much pain, but i knew he was the right person for me and now we're dating for almost 6 months now ◝(⁰▿⁰)◜✧ i hope y'all have a lovely future like us :3
Sociopath vibes
@@Titbitist no. shut up.
I've had that before with someone who seemed too fastly attracted to me - broke up and now I'm talking to a very nice girl from Canada (not YET in a relationship)
much luck to you both ✨
Amazing that you are comfortable enough to comment about this👏👏
But good luck to you❤
Me too,
Good luck for us bro😁😁😁😁
@@luhuttuhul3411 GL man 🤝
Good luck!
5 Signs You're Not Actually In Love
0:34 No talking? No problem!
1:10 Consistently venting.
2:05 Being together no longer enjoyable.
3:00 “I love you” feels fake.
3:30 Honesty feels conditional.
Just ended a relationship where all of these things were true about me... seeing it summed up in a video has helped me to feel valid for the choice I made. I wasn't invested in my partner anymore and they deserve someone who will be. I'm going to hurt for a while, especially when they find someone else, but it was the right thing to do. I don't really think I'm the kind of person who is capable of loving so I don't think I'll be pursuing anything myself, and I wouldn't ask anyone to love me if I'm seemingly incapable of giving them the same in return.
How did your partner took your confession?
@@uddhavgalande5202 They've fallen into a depression lately, and I'm almost positive it was from our break-up. However, they have made new friends and are being social, which I'm happy for. But they've been taking it pretty hard otherwise.
@@gothsinn23 thanks a lot for sharing, i hope your partner get's better overtime.
Well I am proud of you for realizing that you may not be capable and owning it. It's not easy.
Try loving yourself for a change maybe
i know that feeling, it's hard for me to open my heart and feel love, but when someone abuses that, it's even more difficult
If you don't have time:
1. No talking? No problem!
2.Consistently venting
3.Being together no longer enjoyable
4."I love you" feels fake
5.Honesty feels conditional
Thanks
Noo, just watch the video xd.
Yo!! Your content helps me a lot when I'm questioning things and when i need answers. Tysm for all that you do for us!!
Glad that it could be helpful! Are there any other topics you would like us to cover?
@@ajohncarino my bf also have this feeling now doubting but not bcs not feel same anym. It's cos of ldr he doubt if it work or not bcs the feeling kill him so much thatbhe miss me alot. So tbh I kinda need this kind of answer too😇
@@Psych2go I'm concerned about the future and when I do or don't do things in the present FoR the future to be like what I plan to be ,I'm being told that I look too far in the future and I should be focusing on the present...I don't feel like I ignore or let the present go without paying attention to it but at the same time I don't like doing things now that I believe won't help me going where I plan in the future.....Its a bit confusing in my head and it actually stresses me out so maybe a video about something like that?
Loved how this one explained each sign well and compared what the opposite might look like. Really helps the understanding.
This video actually really helped me figuring out I am not in love anymore
Things like that sometimes seems so easy but at the samd time they are hard to accept, so thank you!
I really needed some advice
Was having doubts, then started watching and started thinking about the person, and now my chest is making it clear.
I am indeed, in love. It's just him losing interest and moved on from me to someone else
Well, I know I'm in love, but this definitely confirmed it more 🥰
Happy to hear that you found someone special! What was the clear sign for you?
@@Psych2go he treats me better than anyone ever has. I really don't know what I did to deserve this kind of love but I am SO happy!
Me too 😁💝
So... I was in love and he made me stop feeling this way.
How
The part about honesty gets me… because I rarely ever feel safe telling my (sort of) partner the truth, but with my ex it came so easily when he turned up the other day - even though telling him about my ‘sort of’ partner could make things harder… being the best version of myself comes naturally with him!
seems you don't love either your ex or your current partner
That's kinda fvcked up relationship
The replies 💀
Umm.. why are you talking to your ex while you’re seeing someone else? How would you feel if your partner, or even ex was talking to one of their ex’s while dating you. Sounds to me like you need to be single for awhile anyways
you act like being friends with your ex's isn't normal
i do love him. but im just too shy to be my complete self around him. we still have alot to go through so i know this will change and in time, i'll be comfortable with him like he is with me:)).
Oh, I have felt the honesty part really well. I can't comfortably speak about everything with her just because of her sometimes insulting jokes and "others have it worse" kind of answers. And I can't really blame her for that since she has grown up in the same conditions, for every of her troubles she had same answers from relatives and some "friends". She thinks it builds the character, just because she was raised up like this, but I know her fairly well and her heart is closed in a similar way like mine, not really tightly though. She is very nervous about herself and very critical of herself and others, she kinda tries to tight herself up, but through enormous emotional strain. I always listen to her and I try to soothe her mind through calm and soft speaking and listening thoroughly. I always want her to just be better. Isn't it love?
Not like I was looking for answers, but this helped me see that my relationship with my ex was long gone dead and took the right decision when calling quits.
I have always thought that my love with my partner is Love in it's purest form.... I didn't need any assurance from anyone, because I felt it. But after seeing this video, I am surer than before that our thing is real. Because we behave totally opposite of this with one another . A little reassuring like this feels nice.
i agree with most except for the ‘nonchalant’ part. sometimes we need space or alone time, and that does not necessarily equate to not loving them anymore.
I absolutely love and cherish my alone time and my social battery is naturally pretty low, but being with him just gives me comfort and energy, I love every second of it. Being alone with him is the best thing in the world, I love that boy so much.
ooh that #4 I feel that's a big one definitely! I think sometimes words can be actions because of your emotions and what you feel on the inside.
You only want what's best for the person when it doesn't affect you negatively.
This account is my favorite, always heals me, I play these videos in the background to feel calm and tbh they are really therapeutic, thank you💓
That's so nice to hear! How do you feel about the more recent vids?
Hmm. I miss them a lot. I always want to hang out with them, whereas I don’t usually with others. I am honest with them all the time. I genuinely enjoy their company. But here’s the question. Am I talking about my best friend, or the person I like?
Your voice always makes me so emotional especially when you're talking for love 😭❤
Happy to hear!
What's the difference between being in love and being emotionally dependant to your partner?
Just planted my comment cuz i wanna know the answer too.
That is… a really good question.
Okay so I found this comment and I wanted to answer because I've seen with my own eyes my moms ex bf be emotionally dependent on her. Younger child me knew it wasn't love no matter how lovey dovey he was and he reeked with insecurity. Always cried about being nothing without my mother. Actually worried about a friend becoming like him because her habits mimic what my memories are just very mildly compared to what ex bf was like (not the crying about being nothing just alot of clingyness and insecurity while going through something).
From a quick search and paste
Other key signs of emotional dependence include:
an idealized view of your partner or the relationship.
the belief your life lacks meaning without them.
the belief you can't find happiness or security alone.
a persistent fear of rejection.
a constant need for reassurance.
I didn't see it as love because he didn't see himself as a whole person and basically "used" my mother to feel complete. In my eyes that's not love. But who knows. That's just my interpretation.
Maybe look up secure attachment styles. I feel like this didn't answer anything with love but maybe it did :]
@@CrepuscularQueen for some reason your response feels complete and resonates with me for this is where i feel. Reality hits as i have been the kind of a receptor for such a relationship
There isn't. Love, as most people would define it, is just an emotional addiction that your brain is experiencing in order to procreate. After a while, it vanishes and that's just natural.
Then you have people who call long-term bonding with someone after this phase the "real love", but I think they are just deluding themselves since they don't want to admit that all their initial feelings were just petty biological reactions and everything that's left is more or less just a friendship they got used to over time. People are serial monogamists usually, so that means every love has a built-in expiration date.
Can you make a video about if you think you have done something bad but are not sure but if you have done something and can’t get over it?
I LOVE THE VISUALS ON THIS ONE!
I reached out to him just a few days after meeting him, and he never replied. At first, I was heartbroken.
And then I realized why I was upset- both of my sisters were in committed, happy relationships, and I wasn’t. I was trying to rush myself.
It’s been almost two years now, and I have never felt more fulfilled in my life as I focused more on myself rather than just… waiting for a relationship that would never come. It still stings a little when I think back to when I was so empty and trying to rush something, but I’m happy that I never settled on just waiting. Thanks so much for this video. I know so many people like myself need to hear it.❤️
I've been thinking a lot about my past relationships and the possibility of being Aro, and this video helped!!!
Same...
I was in love with my best friend. And she said she was too. But then (and also before that) she always ignored me for several days and sometimes weeks. I was blind of love and i always forgave her. But now she isnt even interested in talking to me in school and avoids me. When i tried to solve the problem, she didnt even answer to the text. It still hurts me so much only thinking about the first letter of her name. I feel guilty for things i didnt even do. And I still dont know why she lost interest in me and not only didnt tell me but activley ignored me. I cry every morning because i not only lost her as a crush but also as a friend. While she doesnt even seem to care of my existence.
This video helped me cope a bit tho thank you
why do I somehow relate to all of these videos 😭
sadly me too
It feels good to see that I am not the only one questioning ones feelings in my current relationship... I don't know, it feels so nice and comfortable to be with him, we are so good to each other, but on the other side I just cannot say I love you to him, because I don't feel it...
I was single most of my life and it is so rare that I find someone who is giving, with whom I can have intelligent conversations with and who I find attractive... so in this sense, he is a gem... but I am still not sure if I am in love...
I think that a lot of people think they've fallen out of love once the honeymoon period ends. The truth is that once you've been together for a while and maybe moved in together, the novelty wears of and your partners becomes a part of your normality. That, of course, doesn't mean you love them any less. Relationships, just like everything else, require maintenance
Love is nuanced. I hope people don't see these videos and go "I knew it".
Came out of a 6 years long relationship. Everything was fine. Just that our communication was less..but I think we can work out of things like this too..until and unless the other person has very deep trauma, loneliness , codependency nature always wants attention. Prioritizing their goal but never yours. I gave him chances to so that he could fix himself. I asked him to get therapy but he didn't. I have been with him when nobody believed he could even achieve anything. Today when he achieved everything, he left me in cold.. saying he doesn't love me and choose to dump me.
I sit here and realise .what was everything for 6 years. Have you never loved me? I am so tired .mentally exhausted now.😔
Hope your doing better
You will find someone else- you deserve better. Learn to love yourself and love only those persons who love you back. Don't try to save anyone. You are worth it - love yourself.
No, I really do love you guys. You're one of my absolute favorite channels on this platform.
The thumbnail is just too cute 😍😍😍
Beautiful person reading this, go after what it is that you want in life! Learn the skills, do whatever it takes! You are capable of anything! I believe in you! ✨
Love - Nat ❤️
Thankyou beautiful person!
I don't necessarily agree with point 1 but I get the logic behind it, sometimes life gets in the way and you might need space from communication.
Struggling with this right now. My heart hurts.
Claim your “here within an hour” ticket right here❤️
first 60 seconds 😌
Ah thank u very much
52 seconds
Here now
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THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO😭 IT HELPS ME A LOT😭 CUZ I'M SO CONFUSED OF HOW I FEEL RIGHT NOW😭
Your voice is the only meditation we need😭❤️
her voice is so peaceful.
every time i hear it i feel calm.
nice job 👍 keep it up
Im confused.. what if when I’m not with them I feel irritated about them.. I don’t mind not speaking with them for some longer periods of time.. it kinda feels like a “work” to spend time with them.. but when I’m actually with them I feel safe, comfortable and loved? I guess.. I don’t know..
i feel like i’m having the same problem right now but i’ve been with them for 7 months and i don’t know how to deal with it 😭
I feel like I've took the "don't bombard them with texts" too seriously. I constantly end up ignoring their texts for days on end even when I feel intensely for them. I think it is because of the fear of disappointment that they would take me for granted and ignore me instead. I just want them to feel my worth. But in the process, I just ended up distancing ourselves from each other. Am I being selfish by keeping expectations?
Edit: It is about a crush.
i feel the last one depends on who you are. I have great friends yet will never share my music taste or playlist with them because I'm too afraid of rejection. I've had too many incidents of someone making fun of me for the music I like. So me hiding the goofy things I like is just because I don't wanna be hurt, and doesn't mean I don't love my partner, but rather need to work on myself
I am curious, what does it mean when you don't talk to someone for weeks, you enjoy every moment with them and you love them more each time you talk or meet?
I'm thankful for this video, it helps me to finally understand what I've been feeling and it's a relief for me to know. It's sad that I finally realized that I don't love him anymore, that's why I'm acting that way and broke up with him. We can close off the chapter in our life to make another but now without each other. I hope he's doing well and I wish him goodluck.
Sounds like you were able to make a brave decision. How are you doing these days?
In our mental minds class our teacher plays your videos! (Love them btw) you make me feel more sure about myself along with other things. Also I’m obsessed with the art to accompany the video. Love you and stay safe!! 💗🫣
Aww. That's so lovely to hear! Thank you to your teacher for doing that! Hopefully, we can keep making nice artsy vids for you!
I’m not okay with accurate this is 😭 currently going through this with my partner of 5 years. It’s been so rough in general but I’m the one who’s had to rip the bandaid off for both of our mental health and well being. It honestly sucks 💔
So, i'm not in love, then. I want to be alone, but still be with someone who understand me. I only want a friend who understands me. Friends and people who listen to what i say and who understands me is all i ask for, it's all i want. I honestly only want genuine friends and genuine people who understands me more than even my parents. I'm not looking for love, not now, not ever, not until i have found genuine people i can be with, and finding genuine people and friendshas and still is harder than i thought it would be, and still it isn't a challenge. Why it isn't challenging enough is beyond me. I've turned to hard liqour and started isolating myself, mostly because i don't enjoy life, and because i dislike my job, and because i have a sore shoulder. I've told people about my declining mental and physical health, and still i don't get any help. I'm not looking for love until i get the help i need and find genuine people i can surround myself with
It's quite frustrating to be reminded constantly that I was actually in love. That video just validated everything that I felt for my ex. And for a long while, I wasted all the love I can give to someone who was faking it the whole time before she left me for someone else. I'm glad to know that I'm very much capable of doing that, but I'd rather be left alone and content with myself than getting into a relationship that would just end in lies and betrayal.
i’m in a really tricky situation because i threw myself into a relationship with one of my friends way too quickly and now i’m having second thoughts. i would break up, but i don’t wanna lose them as a friend. i’ve also become friends with some of their friends and i don’t wanna lose them either. i feel like an asshole.
Its videos like this that makes me want to have talks with my mom since I struggled with feeling love or expressing it because of that difficulty, thanks for the simple words of wisdom and encouragement
This is a must share video... Thanks for this one
It's been like this for me in the past... but I am with someone who loves me no matter what and they care about me
I really needed this video, thank you so much!
Glad it could be helpful! Are there any other videos you would like to see?
@@Psych2go I don't know if you have done this, but can you make a video about the differences between panic attacks and anxiety attacks?
Wow I have noticed more authenticity in your voice, do you have a change in your life rn? :D
2:21 I loved sm the little Tata and chimmy holding hands dolls😭😭😭😭 they are so cute
How do you send this to them without sending this to them. Not to be dramatic but I think I really needed this wake-up call.
This is super helpful as usual! Thanks so so much!
Glad it could be! Do you have any requests for new topics?
I'm in love with someone. But the only thing I struggle with is with remembering to interact with people in all my relationships (family, friends, and love.) I think I don't have a grasp on time.
I fell out of love because I could tell he didn't love me as much anymore but based on these things makes me realize he truely didn't love me as much as I had loved him and once we had one break I could tell that it wasn't meant to be I completely broke it off. Even though he still has made me happier than anyone I don't think I made him all that happy
NGL, I had all these signs except the number 3. We enjoy being together but mostly in his own ways. Our relationship was like all about physical contact, we only talk when we plan to meet each other, we never go on a date, we're just always in his very cold room doing what he wants, sometimes when we go out, we only buy foods & eat inside his car. That's not that date & relationship I want, I don't feel anything but his desire. Too good we parted ways.
I'm asexual and aromantic so I'm not interested. People don't believe me and they think I can change. I've been like this since I can remember.. I just don't feel anything. Also the fact that I'm treated differently because I'm Goth and a metalhead makes me even more uninterested for anyone. There's plenty of others who like me, but I get sick..
Um what is, asexual and aromantic?
asexual means you are unattracted to having sex related activites with anyone
aromantic means you don't want to have a romantic experience with anyone
However it is a spectrum and it's not black and white. People who are both asexual and aromantic are ones who don't care to have any of a relationship beyond platonic ones and don't enjoy sexual stuff.
@@bowlorice Asexual means no feelings of sexual attraction and aromantic means no feelings of romantic attraction
You familiar with Schizoid Disorder?
@@olivemeraki schizoid personality disorder is when you don't want any close relationships at all, including with family or friends. You like isolation and prefer it. It is not to be confused with being asexual.
I LOVED THE ANIMATION STYLE OMG IT'S AMAZING :D congrats to the animator!
needed this like 18 months ago 😭
Great video but I'm dying over the wee Psych2go Kanthony! So cute! ✨💙
So, I’ve never fallen in love…
How old are you?
I am more of an introvert that is always on my own so I only have myself to love
People are different and so are their emotions and how they live them. I don’t think describing “being in love” can never be objective. But I still agree with most of this video’s assumptions. Especially the last one. I’m just saying there could be someone who has a completely different explanation for the way they feel and it’s okay and it doesn’t mean their feelings are not legit. Everyone has their own way of seeing the world. Things like emotions shouldn’t be so definitive ^^
I needed this so baad!!😩
Yeah I’m not in love and it does make sense. We haven’t met, it’s freaking okay.
Thank you!!! I came her for confirmation. In my heart I think I already knew.
I feel sad because we are great together. We are at the very beginning of our relationship, and it is actually my first one, even though I'm 29. He loves me and is the perfect boyfriend, but maaaan replying to his texts feels like a chore! I can get bored while kissing or being intimate, even though I enjoy other activities with him. He is always the one who initiates physical contact, not me. It really took me a while to realize this is platonic love. Now, how to tell him this?
I kinda have the same Problem but i've been with him for about 8 months now. Even tho we talk very openly about everything, I think about breaking up quite often. He is also kinda my only friend rn... sometimes I just wanna turn back time and leave things in the friendzone. Figuring out if it's love or friendship is hard...
Just an update. I recently had a very honest conversation with him, and it went better than I expected. We both decided we still love each other as friends, and agreed on keeping that part of our relationship, but not having a romantic relationship. Still trying to figure out if we keep the sexual part or not tho (we are both very liberal on that part), as it risks getting our feelings confused.
@@justyouknow2856 I wish you have (or already had) the best luck solving your situation! Feelings are so complicated...
We broke up yesterday. I really didn't love him:/ but I feel much better being out of that relationship.
I’ve been in a relationship for two and a half years. I lost my feelings of love in September of last year. I’m so lost and don’t know what to do. My relationship feels like a chain I’m stuck to. They know about my loss in feelings but want me to talk to a therapist first. I’ve had no hope finding one and it’s causing me stress and depression. I don’t know what to do
I see that I'm on the edge of falling out of love bc I vent abt my partner a lot but barely tells him and he can stop communicating for long period of time. It's complicated and idk if I should hold on or move on. Idk, if I'm the only one fighting to make it nice does worth it.
I love him so much but I'm getting a little indecisive
Amanda, I'm IN LOVE with your voice!!! I'm swooning as I write this....🥰😘
My ex and I were absolutely happy (as I saw it) and got involved in a community musical. I as the set designer, he as the lead. He ended up getting emotionally involved with the female lead and dumping me before the show started (last week). And has gotten together with her simultaneously.
He told me all the right things and showed me all the passion over our 7 months together. I am still in shock at the abrupt ending. What he told me on breaking up was "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". Hard to believe he was that good of a liar for this long. He claimed that he was saying all the right things to deepen his feelings that weren't there yet.
Seems he's chasing the all elusive feeling of infatuation that he thinks is love, and hurting everyone along the way in his selfishness. I'm devastated. He was so convincing and I feel so betrayed. Is his judgement clouded by his new feelings, or did he truly never love me?
I am so sorry you have to go through this! Sounds really confusing and heart breaking. Reminds me of how important it is to be honest and not say the right things just to fit in. Hope you find strength and clarity.
I hope you are doing better! I am going through something very similar, and currently I also feel absolutely betrayed, idk if he is still with the other girl but I feel absolutely betrayed and heartbroken. He told me he cares a lot about me but that his feelings aren't enough for a relationship with me, and this video absolutely seems to explain what happened to him. I just wonder how my feelings grew while his diminished, and I'm also sad that he didn't tell me about this sooner instead of leading me on. Like before talking to this other girl and before spending about 2 months pretending as if everything was fine when it was all over for him :(
I do love him, but I’m not a romantic person and I’m very closed off, I can’t not text him because I feel alone without him. Whenever I say I love him I feel nauseous and when I try to be lovey dovey etc, he knows im not romantic but to the point where I get nauseous I creep myself out and I feel so different from everyone else. I can say I love you to my family but like that’s something totally different…
I dont know girl.. i be feeling like i am but on the other hand i dont think im ready for that yet.
We're often watching TH-cam on our phones, unique programs and accounts, so we often do it in different rooms, or opposite sides of the same room. Often when he watches TV I'll watch my videos only during commercials, and he often mutes the TV during commercials so he can listen to my video (we have a lot of similar interests, though I don't do much TV unless he's in the room). I've been burned out for several months, so he gives me space when I need to be alone. I think I complain about him too much--always affectionately, but still too much and still complaints. Still, after 6 years the love is a strong as ever, we've just mice past the honeymoon period.
This hurts like hell because its what Im ecperiencing after saying "yes" for being nice and not wanting to see the other person sad
Now what do I do now that I realized that I'm not truly inlove with him? I feel so bad to hurt his feelings but I can no longer pretend to love him and force myself to talk to him everyday. Am I a bad person for leading him on? I know he really loves me.
What if some of those points you have, and some you don’t? It’s hard to imagine that a negative point or two outweigh the positive points:
Keep in mind that your feelings lie. Love is a choice not a feeling. Some days you may be in a lot of pain and may not give one crap about a person. But it doesn't mean you don't love them. Don't be misguided by whether or not you get the butterflies around someone anymore. Love is a choice and love requires work to keep the passion going. You need to feed that fire with your attention every day.
Then i was never in love.
Thx your videos rly helped it helped me find out I have depression and anxiety
What if you love the person, admire them, like their company and all, but you just don't feel like IN LOVE anymore? And you're ok talking with this person and enjoy spending time with them, but just doing friendship stuff and feel annoyed when doing couple stuff...
maaaan, Fearing I'm aromantic because I'm nearing my 30'ies and I've yet to feel any sort of love or Lust towards anyone.
Would be GREAT to experience this emotion at least once but alas, stil haven't found "the one"
I'm not really used to saying I love you to someone it sometimes gets stuck in my throat
But how do you know if you're just past the peak of love and need to invest more to make it work or if it's just over?
Here before psi comments!
What if you no longer love someone and you are trying to leave the relationship but they are in denial, what do you do then?
That dosen' t matter you are still leaving.
Throw them out the window