That's basically how all failed relationships work, they did like you yesterday, that's why left cause they don't like you today, nothing wrong with that, expecting someone to always like you is selfish Like if someone is being really annoying they are really annoying, it doesn't matter if you like them or not, whether they wanna put up with your flaws and still be with you is what separates working relationships with failed relationships.
it just feels like it was yesterday, but in fact it was already going on for a while hence the response: did I, yeah? like how couldn't you see that I am unhappy for so long?
I randomly caught the bulk of the movie on TV once but missed the beginning and ending, need to revisit it because I loved what I saw, it was funny but shit got dark quick and I like that
Had this friend, he use to be nice. We shared many good moments together, I thought we were real close. I loved him like a brother. Eight years. Then on a whim, he through me under the bus as a scapegoat. He did something dumb, he needed someone to blame, he made tall tales and fabricated stories about how it must be my fault. All behind my back. Friends started to turn on me, I couldn't understand what was going on, and then he blew up on me with rows of lies and placements of his guilt onto my shoulders. He did this in front of others, insisted I was the liar. I lost so much within days, because he needed someone to blame. It's been over a year, and yet I still think back on it every now and then. He use to be nice. Or was he ever? Maybe he was always like this, and I was to wrapped up in how much fun I was having to see it. Stepping back, the red flags are all over the walls. It's so hard to look at them, because I want to remember him as the man I admired and looked up to... but that man was a well crafted lie, wasn't it? He was never a good man, was he? He threw his blame onto others to keep his image. It hurts.
Hey man, I’m a random stranger on the internet, that’ll probably never know you, but I already know you’re one of the realest people out there, all this happened to you, but you’re still here kickin it, still trying to see the best in people, still being you. Let me tell you something… everything that happens is for a reason, and you won’t know that reason until the moment it was necessary for, so enjoy the moments that come and go, that last long or last a little while, happy or sad, because all of it is building who you are. Once again I do not know you, but I know you’re a real one, keep being you, and enjoy each and every moment of your life, knowing you’re you, no one else is you, and no one else will ever be you. Much love man!
Amazing work. Surprisingly emotionally, especially at the end, how the trumpet's quick hightones feel like a quick rising heartbeat when its mixed with the guy's increasingly emotional words. Thats how i saw it anyway, again, good job!
Its so fucked up to feel like this, to know someone grew out of your relationship, it doesn't even have to be anyone's fault, it's just how life is. Fucked up
It is fucked up cause you care, if you didn't care it wouldn't matter, the way I cope with it is to acknowledge I did care for someone that much and I know I am capable of kindness, care and love even if it didn't work out with them, how one handle difficulties and hardship and still move forward is called "life".
It's not how "life" is, it's how industrialized society is. Due to increasing independence and isolation you experienced different events, relationships and influences separated, developing separated, so now you relate to each other less and know less about each other than before. Humans who always live together and experience hardship and joy together dont "grow out" of their relationship.
@@LolAloshIt turned out that the friendship wasn’t as close for them anymore but it still was for me. I guess it’s on me for not seeing it, but it still blind sided me for it to just suddenly end. They were avoiding me and I asked if I had done something wrong. They simply said that they weren’t interested in being friends anymore and that I should move on.
@@TheNightWatcher1385 well they are then toxic pepole if they refuse to tell you what you done giving you silent treatment throwing away 10 years freindship I suggest you do take thire advice Pepole change but we can't look back or we will regret more Sometimes freindship ends for and for no reason its normal But you have to be strong
@@TheNightWatcher1385 well they are then toxic pepole if they refuse to tell you what you done giving you silent treatment throwing away 10 years freindship I suggest you do take thire advice Pepole change but we can't look back or we will regret more Sometimes freindship ends for and for no reason its normal But you have to be strong
Sometimes when it snows in the middle of the night and everyone in the house and neighbors are asleep, I'll go outside and just stand there feeling the comfort of isolation
There's nothing in the world like walking through the woods while it's snowing, looking behind you to see nothing but your own footsteps in the snow. Just don't do it at night, lol. My house has a fireplace, I like to light fires during nighttime snowstorms if I don't work the next day.
I had a friend like that. We were best mates at school through our love of motorcycles. We did lots together. I often visited his home a few miles from mine. When we finished school aged 18 we took a holiday together to see a big motorcycle show in London. We had brilliant time and now 53 years on I still remember it fondly whenever I look back through old photographs. When the holiday was over, we travelled home chatting excitedly about our experience. When our ship docked, we said goodbye and headed home. I never saw my friend or spoke to him ever again and to this day I don't know what happened. I called to his house but he was never there and he didn't have a phone. I wrote and never got any replies. We were good friends but he cut me completely out of his life just like that. At first I was upset, then angry and then little by little I began to forget about him. He's still around. A mutual motorcycling friend told me he met him recently. I'm actually glad he's doing ok but I have no interest in him now. He cut me for his own reasons but the hurt felt then has long gone together with an interest I ever had in him. People can be very strange.
@@kieranhouliston3065 Yes no problems now. It happened so long ago that it hasn't crossed my mind in many years. A lot of water under the bridge since then. But thanks for the kind thoughts.
thankyou for sharing ............ it's a deeply hurtful thing...........by way of offering an explanation it seems most of our relationships in life were so of their time & place.........we all get scattered to the wind..........new relationships usually mean dropping old ones.........maybe it's the one that loved the most........ cared most ........got hurt the nost ?..........we want to know the reasons but it probably wouldn't help or fix anything...........we all have to find a way to deal with rejection even if we never fully do..........maybe hell is a place devoid of love ?......perhaps i am drifting into overly dramatic ?...........going too deep just gives you the bends .........i certainly don't recommend over analysing or over retrospection........we probably want answers or explanations that don't exist ........just people's quirks & characters hurting each other.......maybe selfishness.......we all have to find a way of coping with not being liked loved or even hated.......certainly not getting what we want .........i suppose we should try to appreciate the happy chapters we experienced & the pleasure we had from them .........perhaps ultimately love requires all or nothing with no middle ground ?........i can't explain what i can't explain........there's no complete palliative cure when it comes to love lost or relationships no more.........maybe we also had to learn to care more for ourselves ? ..........like they did of themselves..........i dunno..........we just have to accept we weren't what they wanted or needed...........if they didn't move on how would we meet anyone else ?........ah God i could go on about this subject forever but there's just no point..... God knows it's not just relationships that haven't worked out round here !.........i found death easier to cope with..........it's when the person is still alive & the story could continue any day more difficult !..........kind regards si
"Really knowing someone doesn't mean anything. People change. A person may like pineapple today & something else tomorrow." - Girl in Blonde, Chungking Express (1994).
people don't change, they just stop lying at some point and you think they changed, when in reality they were just giving you a persona. Very few people are actually who they portray themselves as. The greatest evil we do to each other is the lie of persona. Yes even worse than actual crimes and physical assaults. Be true to yourself, for if you aren't you can't be true to other people and lie without meaning to. And to those that lie like this on purpose, the word for them is psychopaths. Real change is hard, and the evidence of it is clear. It is never sudden. If you notice sudden change in someone, all it means is you are finally seeing truth and they were always like this in their heart. And this applies to all situations. Not just romantic relationships. Everyone lies to everyone else in their very being. Every second. Every Day. This is what is meant by "we all sin" THIS LIE, which by the way is the same reason we wear clothes, because we wish to lie due to being ashamed of our selves. To be true to ones self is to bare yourself naked at all times and to choose to be vulnerable even unto death. To not do this, *is* sin. We have all sinned, we all wear clothes.
Traveled to Memphis this last summer, found myself walking on Beale St taking in the sights and sounds. I suddenly remember this song and If Beale St Could Talk, and realized I was there.. I broke down a bit honestly. It was beautiful that day. Fit the tune perfectly.
I had a part of my life, almost a year, everything felt void, I did all the things I normally did.. but there was no enjoyment. because all the friends I had made doing those things were gone. I'm sorry for anyone else that's felt this way, you're not forgettable. There will always be someone who will remember who you are, and who you were to them. Remember in every encounter, big or small, you can change someones life.
Something I never knew but learned is that all the things you can have or do, theyre just not the same when you can’t share them with anyone. I’m not rich at all but I can imagine why people who are rich would say it doesn’t make them happy
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
“You liked me yesterday.” “Did I, yeah?” It’s pretty much how my relationship of one and a half years ended. I got a screenshot from my friend with my boyfriend telling her he wasn’t sure he wanted to stay with me. I left after that, but I thought he loved me. I mean, he’d loved me the day before that. I don’t know what I did wrong. I just wish he would’ve talked to me before going to other people about our relationship.
had a really close friend. really punk, i told her all my secrets. we shared stories and friends. a few years ago she stopped talking to me suddenly and one day she gave my phone number to a bunch of kids i didnt know and they started harassing me. shes a completely different person than the one i knew. i wonder if she was just lonely and using me until she could be popular. then i was just a bag of secrets to be spread around. she used to be nice.
i understand these feelings, so very much. they still hurt, and often, it feels like the world is so hell bent on making my pain feel "out of place". as if, i should already have moved on from what happened to me. as if, i should already have stopped hurting over the things that have been done and said. as if, i should be able to just "let go" of the people who once, meant so much to me. i didn't even get closure. i have to move on without it, while not impossible, it hurts so much more without it.
I know how you feel. I got done dirty by someone who meant the absolute world to me but I don't think anything they could have said or did would have made a difference. I'm not sure if closure truly exists. We only have to move on the best we can but it can take a lot of time. It depends on the person and the scenario because everyone is different.
This is not the video I wanted after figuring out that me of my closest friends, which was going on 3 years until today, finally told me that she never liked me and didn’t want to be my friend anymore. After all that I did to help her, make her feel welcome, and all that I did to try and make the friendship stay together, just to come crumbling down with trauma resurfacing due to abandonment issues. And yet, this is somehow the video I needed to finally realize that I’m being delusional about my friendship with them. If it truly was a friendship, it then the care and consideration should’ve been mutual, and this, weirdly, made me realize that. It hurts still, but maybe, just maybe, I might be able to heal. Thank you.
I feel like this got recommended to me because it's about me. I have the serious urge to completely cut contact with the friends I had as a teenager (even though I don't have anyone else) because I want to grow, but I'm aware of how cruel that would be in a world where some people need affection (or at least attention) and don't appreciate solitude as much as I do.
I'm in the same boat. I'm ready to grow and experience new things, but my friends aren't, and spending time with them is holding me back from growing and maturing myself. I don't think I really have any other option but to cut them out of my life, and I know them well enough they'd never be able to see it my way. It just sucks.
@@digiquo8143 It really does. My only friend right now is a guy who manipulated me into dating him when we were 15 and is still hung up on getting me to date him because, according to him, I'm the only friend who's been consistently pleasant to him. But it hurts when he talks to me because I was in love with his brother back then, but he was all "aww but girlie all the girls like him and no one likes me :c" so I blew my chance with the one I really liked just to be alternative. It's so hard to move on when the only people in your life are from a decade ago and it's so much harder to find new friends as an adult.
Be honest, trully honest, tell that you want a "new life" and part of that is being alone, atleast for now, maybe forever, or maybe one day you may talk to them again. Let them know that its not their fault on doing nothing wrong, is just that you changed, and are now asking that "if you love it, you had to let it go" They wont be happy, but they will have a real answer and it would be infinitely less painful and easier to keep going forward. Or say what you want, just be honest, its the only way to make it right
I already did most of that myself. Problem was, it was never them holding me back from growing. It's me. I can't change because i don't know where to start. Even now that i have a girl who seems to care about me, I feel the pain of.. the fear of losing to myself. My greatest enemy, fighting back against my true values because I am the issue. I have more problems than i know what to do with, and none of them involve the people I decided to drop like dead weight.. Maybe it will soon be time I avenged all those that I wronged. I used to be nice, at least.. That's what i tell myself so i can wake up just one more day without the guilt of a hundred cruel acts dragging me down 6 feet under.
Why do you feel you need to drop your friends in order to grow and mature? I am 71 and my best friends are men I met at school when we were 7 years old. We all have our own lives and other circles of friends. We did different things after we all finished school. I worked abroad for 20 years but we had and still have an unbreakable bond. There were four of us, three now as one passed away 12 years ago. But we loved him and we never forget the boy he was and the man he grew to be. You sound quite young to me so you will grow. You will have life experiences that you never guessed would happen. Some of these will be amazing and sometimes the things life throws at you will hurt. I speak with the hindsight of years of experience. But through it all I didn't need to abandon my friends. You can still be you and go on your journey while keeping your friends. My dad once said to me that you will have many people in your life but if you have four good friends, people who love you and will be there for you when you need them, you will be a very lucky man. My dad was a wise man and he was absolutely right. Your life is a long, fascinating road with lots of twists and bends. There is so much ahead of you, but never forget your friends. Best wishes.
@@azde4042 How do you know? It's a symptom of being human, it's like saying "This is what having a prosthetic leg feels like" We are all human, let's have empathy for each other instead of being divisive like that.
@@rokukouI don't think trying to expose internalized feelings indicates a lack of empathy. The commenter doesn't indicate that this feeling is exclusive to autism, just that it describes a facet of it. Humans do a LOT to feel like they're understood by their peers, so sometimes you'll encounter someone adopting a lot of labels; not out of desire to isolate themselves and feel special (not that a desire for uniqueness is inherently bad), but to expose their inner characteristics to the people around them, ultimately to be understood better.
@@rokukouand btw even if we disagree on the particulars, we agree on the fact that humans should have maximal empathy for each other, have a good day/night friend!!
Sometimes thats how I feel about myself I used to have extreme social anxiety that caused me to be abnormally nice, and when I overcame most of my anxiety, I dropped friends who were draining me and using me for my niceness in order to manipulate me and give themselves the attention they lacked at home. With the real friends I made, I became funnier but as a result more sarcastic and a playful type of mean. But theres always thought “I used to be so nice, what happened?” Sometimes I wonder if I just should’ve stayed that way, but also i’m so much happier now.
I like to say "It's better to be alone than with people who make you feel alone." I honestly had a similar experience - The more I saw who I could be in the mirror, the more I realized how unhappy I was around certain people, and how easy it was to make excuses about it. What shocked me was how me becoming "meaner" was really just me matching their energies.
That’s good. It shows that people won’t take advantage of your kindness. I one time had a kid threw a paper wrapper into my mouth in the bus and I fucking screamed at them for doing what they did.
Sounds to me like you've simply grown to have autonomy over your own life and choices. There's a difference between being nice for the sake of avoiding conflict, and being nice because you understand a situation and genuinely want to be nice. The latter is what being nice truly is, and is what we should aim to be, because it allows us to stand up for ourselves when someone tries to manipulate us either intentionally or unintentionally.
Everyday is waking up and thinking that the people around me cared. Maybe it's all in my head. Maybe it's real. I'm lonely no matter where I go, and I crumble even harder now than I used to as a child. I'm sure they're all tired of this. I am too.
What matters is that you cared. If to no one else, it matters to me. Even though I'm a complete stranger and we know nothing about each other. If you care, it matters to me.
Reminds me of a sentence I've read at a book of Brandon Sanderson: "You don't stop love someone just because he's hurting you. Life were a lot easier if it could be changed."
Had a friend online. Loved her. Promised to never leave her. Now we're together for real. She can't seem to muster any sort of care for me. I said I'd never leave her.
@@briaormead4239 no, no she is not. But I promised under no uncertain terms that I would not leave her no matter who she became. A silly thing to promise maybe. What can I say? I love her more.
It has drawn out of me a pain I did not know was there, lurking in the depths. Now and again I feel that familiar despair, knowing you never looked back the day you left. And even when I reminisce about our days without a care, I hope that someday you will see the theft. Theft because you could not share, the loyalty of a friendship and playful caress. Since The Man called for us to part, day in day out, wither my tender heart. A poem inspired by the Fox And The Hound
It's easier to be nice when you have nice thoughts and don't know so much pain. But what's better, to be good wothout trying, or to be wrong, and overcome it?
They only need you until they find someone/something better, sometimes for them, even loneliness after a point is better than staying with you, because they are simply done with your presence.
Once i knew someone. They were everything to me. I loved them. They hurt me many times. I never cared. Until i was finally thrown away for good. At first i thought it was understandable. Then the hate i felt when i realized all that time theyd lie to our friends that i was violent, perverted. That i was much older than i am. Then to have the gall to tell them all, and even me at one point, how they missed me and were sorry. Only for, when i told them i dont forgive them, to play a game of pretend just so they could wriggle their way out of it again. Just as theyve always done. The hate ive felt for so long. Expecially when i realized they never really were nice.
used to be friends with a girl like that, we used to ride a train together almost everyday, she used to be nice, or maybe she never used to be. one day my feelings got the better of me and I confessed, i was met with complete silence and avoidance, what i considered to be a friend turned into a stranger in a matter of days, i was replaced with another person.
@@TomAndrews91 this sounds like standard friendzoning where an attempt to make things romantic burns the bridge and ends the friendship bc she feels like it’s too awkward to continue platonically. Doesn’t necessarily mean there was something sinister all along
Farrel and Gleeson fit so perfectly together, you just know that any movie with those two in is going to contain quality acting and intelligently written dialogue.
I like this because obviously this is about relationships, but I also feel like this guy was talking about his hometown. You used to be nice. Maybe you were never nice?
It might even be worse than losing a romantic relationship cause we always think that our best friends are always gonna be there for us. But sadly life just isn’t a fairy tale.
“You used to be nice” LITERALLY MY EX he gradually turned from a supportive person into a homophobic and transphobic fascist. I have a new partner and I’m doing better but honestly it still stings. Especially because now he literally ignores me but still acknowledges my partner because they used to be friends too. I mean I know it’s better this way, but it still stings.
That's actually crazy, maybe your ex either was a shitty person from the beginning but hided it or got influenced by toxic people online. Either way, it's good you're doing better now
I feel like i'm on opposite end of this situation. I feel like I can't be someone's true friend, I don't feel like I'm willing to do serious deeds for them. I have quite a few people who consider me very kind guy and good friend, and deep inside I can't help but think that they're utterly wrong and will regret meeting me.
this video feels too much like my inner voices most days.. "I used to be nice.. right?" "what happened to that?" "oh god, maybe i never was.." "what's up with that?" "I like how i am now though, right?" "I don't." "but I did yesterday, right?" "Did I though?" "I thought i did.. Thought i was pretty happy yesterday.." "I didn't." "what's wrong with me?" "It's just you."
Please don't ghost your friend. As someone who just got ghosted, I felt like my friend had stuck a dagger in my heart. An honest conversation will hurt, but I think if you don't owe them the effort to fix things, then you atleast owe them an honest conversation. Sending love to you and your friend.
@@samgilley3160 thanks for the feedback. but the thing is, i will most likely have to stay with my classmates for the next 2 years because yk, school system. And if i create drama, it will turn into a snowball of hate and revenge. talking from experience here. and i wish i could talk to them in an honest conversation, but they will definitely not care or emphasize with me at all. (because they dont.) I just want to avoid whatever might come in my way. (also, im sorry for your friend doing that to you.)
😢made me rewatch fox and the hound, haven’t seen it since daycare. But I have still always called it my favourite Disney movie. And it is still is (I like spirit too)
Warning, rant below. Just needed to share. My first betrayal felt wrong. I didn't even think i could feel this way. Like if you were half-in collecting a big puzzle, go to hang out with your friend, than return home to find it crashed in a million pieces. Your friend is the only one who was in your home besides you. I didn't believe it at first, i didn't want to believe it, it could never happened, my friend would never do that! But as i slowly realised the truth, my heart still tried to put me aside. It's wrong. It could never happened. Not right, not at all. It feels so wrong, some kind of a mistake. It shouldn't have happened, my expectations were not like that, not like that. I accepted eventually.
Makes me think about one of my old friends. we met a few summers ago and immediately hit it off. we laughed together, had deep talks about life, and hung out as often as we could. then one day, i woke up and he was nowhere. he ignored my calls, refused to talk to me in public, and never wanted to make plans. we rarely fought, and when we did we made up. but this time it was different. it's been a year since we talked, and it still feels like yesterday he and i were best friends.
This made me think of someone who said something like this-- after I cut them off harshly. They were bullying me and tormenting me/abusing me in multiple ways-- and when I finally had enough and cut them off and spat back they tried to pull this line on me.... So I likely have very different feelings towards this than most other people watching this. oops.
Am I nice? I’m not so sure. I try to be, but living on this earth has made me feel cold. I can only trust myself at this point and it’s sad. I hope everyone can feel happier as time moves on
You thought you knew someone. You thought they were a good person, that they'd stay by your side through anything. And then they start lying to you, but they're so nice to you, right? Maybe you're just paranoid., maybe they have a reason, maybe it's your fault. You weren't paranoid. And this person wasn't good. And you thought that you could help them fix it, that it's all going to work out. But it doesn't, you know that. But this person, sometimes they say things that make you hope that they can change. Yet they hurt you again and again, but you can't leave. You're stuck. You're tired, and you can't leave. You've lost the strength.
Two people I considered my best friends. One ghosts me after 3 years of radio silence. Another blocks me almost everywhere I have regular contact with them, days after I stayed at their house when everything seemed fine. Were we ever friends? Or did I just attach myself to them? I cared deeply for them. I never wanted to be a nuisance, a bother, a source of anxiety… but I worry I became one. Or worse: I always was… how did I make this happen? Is this even my fault? What happened to us, man?
This is how I felt when my best friend of 5 years ghosted me 3 days before my birthday. I asked her if everything was okay because I had a feeling and she replied like normal, using emojis and stuff. Then I never heard from her again. I had to find out from other people :(
A slightly touched up version of the transcript: Transcript 0:00 him: you used to be nice 0:02 him: [(that/)or did] you never used to be 0:05 him: oh God 0:08 him: maybe you never used to be 0:13 him: you do like me 0:16 the other: I don't 0:19 him: [you] like[d] me yesterday 0:22 [Music] [the other: did I yeah?] 0:27 him: I thought you did [sharp halt]
My mom always says, “ you use to be such a sweet little girl always kind, what happened?” I can’t even describe how much I hate it… nothing happened I just stopped holding back and taking hate from my brother who actually pushed me into a wall and tried wrestling me (he started learning this year.) because I was telling him a story in the door way of his room… (parents weren’t home.) craziest thing is I went back out to eat dinner and he acted like nothing happened- like wtf? And I’m the issue 🫠
used to be friends with a group of people who kinda sucked. because i was put in a seperate class to all of my friends, i had to find new ones. our group grew super fast and soon new people were coming in randomly. none of them knew my name. or even that i was there. so i left. but i had no other friends to turn to. then i met a really nice group, they were funny and just great. then they all left the school. now im back with my first group of friends, the one i was seperated with at the start. and i havent been happier in the past 6 years
Feels like one of those "this is the ending huh" type of scene in a movie i watched 5 years ago.
Banshees of Inisherin came out in 2022 bruh
@@GreenGuy502 they said this *felt* like *those scenes* not that this *was* the scene
@@GreenGuy502 they werent talkin abt this movie
Reminds me of eternal shine of a spotless mind for some reason
Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️
Nothing like going over old texts to see the first messages filled with shy flirting turn into a cold sequence of letters pointing to the end
Real ash
SO TRUE
Yeah, I don't even bother or I will dream of her.
This sounds exactly like the daily conversation I have with my cat.
I thought at first it was a dog talking to his human.
Lmao
"You liked me yesterday"
Man, that one hit close, my most serious relationship ended basically like that:/
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That's basically how all failed relationships work, they did like you yesterday, that's why left cause they don't like you today, nothing wrong with that, expecting someone to always like you is selfish
Like if someone is being really annoying they are really annoying, it doesn't matter if you like them or not, whether they wanna put up with your flaws and still be with you is what separates working relationships with failed relationships.
Bruh moment
real (its okay, they weren't the one then)
it just feels like it was yesterday, but in fact it was already going on for a while hence the response: did I, yeah? like how couldn't you see that I am unhappy for so long?
For anyone wandering the audio is from the Banshees of Inisherin. It's my favorite movie
same here!! absolutely love it, recognised the audio immediately haha
"You two rowin?"
thank you man. went to comment section just for that
I randomly caught the bulk of the movie on TV once but missed the beginning and ending, need to revisit it because I loved what I saw, it was funny but shit got dark quick and I like that
Thank you !! I hope you try In Bruges, it has the same 2 actors. It's my favourite movie.
The vibe is immaculate
Its gut wrenching
Hope everyone doing good and staying safe. If you need to talk to someone or need help, there are people who care. Sending support and hearts. ❤️❤️❤️
It is divine
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*"you used to be nice.. what happened to that?"*
Responsibility. Experience. Life.
Maybe I never was
Did the cat get your tongue?
You outlived your purpose
the world sucked away all my hopes, after that i could no longer put the effort into trying
Had this friend, he use to be nice.
We shared many good moments together, I thought we were real close. I loved him like a brother.
Eight years.
Then on a whim, he through me under the bus as a scapegoat. He did something dumb, he needed someone to blame, he made tall tales and fabricated stories about how it must be my fault. All behind my back. Friends started to turn on me, I couldn't understand what was going on, and then he blew up on me with rows of lies and placements of his guilt onto my shoulders. He did this in front of others, insisted I was the liar. I lost so much within days, because he needed someone to blame.
It's been over a year, and yet I still think back on it every now and then.
He use to be nice.
Or was he ever?
Maybe he was always like this, and I was to wrapped up in how much fun I was having to see it.
Stepping back, the red flags are all over the walls. It's so hard to look at them, because I want to remember him as the man I admired and looked up to... but that man was a well crafted lie, wasn't it?
He was never a good man, was he? He threw his blame onto others to keep his image.
It hurts.
im sorry that happened to you. Hopefully your friends can see who’s really the liar here.
i experienced the same exact thing a few times actually with long term close friends too
Hey man, I’m a random stranger on the internet, that’ll probably never know you, but I already know you’re one of the realest people out there, all this happened to you, but you’re still here kickin it, still trying to see the best in people, still being you. Let me tell you something… everything that happens is for a reason, and you won’t know that reason until the moment it was necessary for, so enjoy the moments that come and go, that last long or last a little while, happy or sad, because all of it is building who you are. Once again I do not know you, but I know you’re a real one, keep being you, and enjoy each and every moment of your life, knowing you’re you, no one else is you, and no one else will ever be you. Much love man!
That’s terrible dude : ( but you’ll find a new circle of real friends someday.
Keep moving FOWARD you know you didn’t do any of those things you do
Amazing work. Surprisingly emotionally, especially at the end, how the trumpet's quick hightones feel like a quick rising heartbeat when its mixed with the guy's increasingly emotional words. Thats how i saw it anyway, again, good job!
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Kinda sounds more like a clarinet or piccolo than a trumpet, tbh.
yesss i love the trumpet there
algorithm blessed me with this at a weird time. its an odd vibe realizing you've been both of the speakers at different times
I just got it too, thinking about life when I was either side of it. It made me cry so much. Nice pfp me too
This is upsettingly relatable.
Its so fucked up to feel like this, to know someone grew out of your relationship, it doesn't even have to be anyone's fault, it's just how life is. Fucked up
It is fucked up cause you care, if you didn't care it wouldn't matter, the way I cope with it is to acknowledge I did care for someone that much and I know I am capable of kindness, care and love even if it didn't work out with them, how one handle difficulties and hardship and still move forward is called "life".
It's not how "life" is, it's how industrialized society is. Due to increasing independence and isolation you experienced different events, relationships and influences separated, developing separated, so now you relate to each other less and know less about each other than before. Humans who always live together and experience hardship and joy together dont "grow out" of their relationship.
@@redblue5140This is it right here 🔥
I'm afraid this is beginning for me as well... but... I'm still around if they need me...
Closest friendship of 10 years ended like this. Still not over it. Just wish I could go back to the good times.
What happened.?
@@LolAloshIt turned out that the friendship wasn’t as close for them anymore but it still was for me. I guess it’s on me for not seeing it, but it still blind sided me for it to just suddenly end.
They were avoiding me and I asked if I had done something wrong. They simply said that they weren’t interested in being friends anymore and that I should move on.
@@TheNightWatcher1385 well they are then toxic pepole if they refuse to tell you what you done giving you silent treatment throwing away 10 years freindship I suggest you do take thire advice
Pepole change but we can't look back or we will regret more
Sometimes freindship ends for and for no reason its normal
But you have to be strong
@@TheNightWatcher1385 well they are then toxic pepole if they refuse to tell you what you done giving you silent treatment throwing away 10 years freindship I suggest you do take thire advice
Pepole change but we can't look back or we will regret more
Sometimes freindship ends for and for no reason its normal
But you have to be strong
i feel you dude, going through the same shit right now
Sometimes when it snows in the middle of the night and everyone in the house and neighbors are asleep, I'll go outside and just stand there feeling the comfort of isolation
There's nothing in the world like walking through the woods while it's snowing, looking behind you to see nothing but your own footsteps in the snow. Just don't do it at night, lol. My house has a fireplace, I like to light fires during nighttime snowstorms if I don't work the next day.
It never snowed where I grew up but similar to you I’ll just stare at something for hours at night wondering where the good days have gone.
Strangely, in a night in that still snow, you can feel a warmth almost cozy under its blanket as you stand among dark stars.
@@Don.ChallengerWinter nights comfort me like no other.
Banshees and Beale Street? What a combo.
What is the piano and horn playing under the dialogue? Is it a piece I can find?
Edit: that was quick, I found it
@@benthomas3753well what’s it for the rest of us
@@scootysweetsAlbum: If Beale Street Could Talk
Song: Agape
@@whitewolftamer000 thank you
@@scootysweets I think it's called "agape"
I had a friend like that. We were best mates at school through our love of motorcycles. We did lots together. I often visited his home a few miles from mine. When we finished school aged 18 we took a holiday together to see a big motorcycle show in London. We had brilliant time and now 53 years on I still remember it fondly whenever I look back through old photographs. When the holiday was over, we travelled home chatting excitedly about our experience. When our ship docked, we said goodbye and headed home. I never saw my friend or spoke to him ever again and to this day I don't know what happened. I called to his house but he was never there and he didn't have a phone. I wrote and never got any replies. We were good friends but he cut me completely out of his life just like that. At first I was upset, then angry and then little by little I began to forget about him. He's still around. A mutual motorcycling friend told me he met him recently. I'm actually glad he's doing ok but I have no interest in him now. He cut me for his own reasons but the hurt felt then has long gone together with an interest I ever had in him. People can be very strange.
Hope you feel better
All I can say, Sorry.
@@kieranhouliston3065 Yes no problems now. It happened so long ago that it hasn't crossed my mind in many years. A lot of water under the bridge since then. But thanks for the kind thoughts.
thankyou for sharing ............ it's a deeply hurtful thing...........by way of offering an explanation it seems most of our relationships in life were so of their time & place.........we all get scattered to the wind..........new relationships usually mean dropping old ones.........maybe it's the one that loved the most........ cared most ........got hurt the nost ?..........we want to know the reasons but it probably wouldn't help or fix anything...........we all have to find a way to deal with rejection even if we never fully do..........maybe hell is a place devoid of love ?......perhaps i am drifting into overly dramatic ?...........going too deep just gives you the bends .........i certainly don't recommend over analysing or over retrospection........we probably want answers or explanations that don't exist ........just people's quirks & characters hurting each other.......maybe selfishness.......we all have to find a way of coping with not being liked loved or even hated.......certainly not getting what we want .........i suppose we should try to appreciate the happy chapters we experienced & the pleasure we had from them .........perhaps ultimately love requires all or nothing with no middle ground ?........i can't explain what i can't explain........there's no complete palliative cure when it comes to love lost or relationships no more.........maybe we also had to learn to care more for ourselves ? ..........like they did of themselves..........i dunno..........we just have to accept we weren't what they wanted or needed...........if they didn't move on how would we meet anyone else ?........ah God i could go on about this subject forever but there's just no point..... God knows it's not just relationships that haven't worked out round here !.........i found death easier to cope with..........it's when the person is still alive & the story could continue any day more difficult !..........kind regards si
"Really knowing someone doesn't mean anything. People change. A person may like pineapple today & something else tomorrow." - Girl in Blonde, Chungking Express (1994).
people don't change, they just stop lying at some point and you think they changed, when in reality they were just giving you a persona. Very few people are actually who they portray themselves as. The greatest evil we do to each other is the lie of persona. Yes even worse than actual crimes and physical assaults. Be true to yourself, for if you aren't you can't be true to other people and lie without meaning to. And to those that lie like this on purpose, the word for them is psychopaths.
Real change is hard, and the evidence of it is clear. It is never sudden. If you notice sudden change in someone, all it means is you are finally seeing truth and they were always like this in their heart. And this applies to all situations. Not just romantic relationships. Everyone lies to everyone else in their very being. Every second. Every Day. This is what is meant by "we all sin" THIS LIE, which by the way is the same reason we wear clothes, because we wish to lie due to being ashamed of our selves. To be true to ones self is to bare yourself naked at all times and to choose to be vulnerable even unto death. To not do this, *is* sin. We have all sinned, we all wear clothes.
The feeling you get when you realize “huh this is what this feels like”
Traveled to Memphis this last summer, found myself walking on Beale St taking in the sights and sounds. I suddenly remember this song and If Beale St Could Talk, and realized I was there.. I broke down a bit honestly. It was beautiful that day. Fit the tune perfectly.
I came across this video by complete accident, searching for the wrong thing. Glad I did, this is good.
When you find out that your friendship wasn’t as important to them as it was to you:
I’m sorry to whoever else feels like this. I just want you to know that I do too, and your not alone. Sometimes it’s nice to know your not alone
Thank you ❤
"Or did you never used to be?"
I had a part of my life, almost a year, everything felt void, I did all the things I normally did.. but there was no enjoyment. because all the friends I had made doing those things were gone. I'm sorry for anyone else that's felt this way, you're not forgettable. There will always be someone who will remember who you are, and who you were to them. Remember in every encounter, big or small, you can change someones life.
Something I never knew but learned is that all the things you can have or do, theyre just not the same when you can’t share them with anyone.
I’m not rich at all but I can imagine why people who are rich would say it doesn’t make them happy
This means a lot to me. That's bud
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Can dr.porass send to me in UK?
these bots are getting crazier everyday
“You liked me yesterday.”
“Did I, yeah?”
It’s pretty much how my relationship of one and a half years ended. I got a screenshot from my friend with my boyfriend telling her he wasn’t sure he wanted to stay with me. I left after that, but I thought he loved me. I mean, he’d loved me the day before that. I don’t know what I did wrong. I just wish he would’ve talked to me before going to other people about our relationship.
A whole bunch of online anons I’d known for over a decade were in this situation and I was the cold one.
“I liked them all yesterday”
i just finished watching this movie after listening to this and the movie cinematography was amazing thank you
Which film is it?
@@thing4275 Banshees of Inisherin
@@thing4275what’s it about?
realization hurts because it makes you feel foolish and naive
had a really close friend. really punk, i told her all my secrets. we shared stories and friends. a few years ago she stopped talking to me suddenly and one day she gave my phone number to a bunch of kids i didnt know and they started harassing me. shes a completely different person than the one i knew. i wonder if she was just lonely and using me until she could be popular. then i was just a bag of secrets to be spread around. she used to be nice.
i understand these feelings, so very much.
they still hurt, and often, it feels like the world is so hell bent on making my pain feel "out of place". as if, i should already have moved on from what happened to me. as if, i should already have stopped hurting over the things that have been done and said. as if, i should be able to just "let go" of the people who once, meant so much to me.
i didn't even get closure. i have to move on without it, while not impossible, it hurts so much more without it.
I know how you feel. I got done dirty by someone who meant the absolute world to me but I don't think anything they could have said or did would have made a difference. I'm not sure if closure truly exists. We only have to move on the best we can but it can take a lot of time. It depends on the person and the scenario because everyone is different.
This is not the video I wanted after figuring out that me of my closest friends, which was going on 3 years until today, finally told me that she never liked me and didn’t want to be my friend anymore. After all that I did to help her, make her feel welcome, and all that I did to try and make the friendship stay together, just to come crumbling down with trauma resurfacing due to abandonment issues.
And yet, this is somehow the video I needed to finally realize that I’m being delusional about my friendship with them. If it truly was a friendship, it then the care and consideration should’ve been mutual, and this, weirdly, made me realize that.
It hurts still, but maybe, just maybe, I might be able to heal. Thank you.
This movie was crushing and I love what you did to this dialogue. The Banshees of Inisherin
"Use to be" being the key phrase. All the scars life hands out can make some not so nice anymore...
I feel like this got recommended to me because it's about me. I have the serious urge to completely cut contact with the friends I had as a teenager (even though I don't have anyone else) because I want to grow, but I'm aware of how cruel that would be in a world where some people need affection (or at least attention) and don't appreciate solitude as much as I do.
I'm in the same boat. I'm ready to grow and experience new things, but my friends aren't, and spending time with them is holding me back from growing and maturing myself. I don't think I really have any other option but to cut them out of my life, and I know them well enough they'd never be able to see it my way. It just sucks.
@@digiquo8143 It really does. My only friend right now is a guy who manipulated me into dating him when we were 15 and is still hung up on getting me to date him because, according to him, I'm the only friend who's been consistently pleasant to him. But it hurts when he talks to me because I was in love with his brother back then, but he was all "aww but girlie all the girls like him and no one likes me :c" so I blew my chance with the one I really liked just to be alternative. It's so hard to move on when the only people in your life are from a decade ago and it's so much harder to find new friends as an adult.
Be honest, trully honest, tell that you want a "new life" and part of that is being alone, atleast for now, maybe forever, or maybe one day you may talk to them again.
Let them know that its not their fault on doing nothing wrong, is just that you changed, and are now asking that "if you love it, you had to let it go"
They wont be happy, but they will have a real answer and it would be infinitely less painful and easier to keep going forward.
Or say what you want, just be honest, its the only way to make it right
I already did most of that myself. Problem was, it was never them holding me back from growing. It's me. I can't change because i don't know where to start. Even now that i have a girl who seems to care about me, I feel the pain of.. the fear of losing to myself. My greatest enemy, fighting back against my true values because I am the issue. I have more problems than i know what to do with, and none of them involve the people I decided to drop like dead weight.. Maybe it will soon be time I avenged all those that I wronged. I used to be nice, at least.. That's what i tell myself so i can wake up just one more day without the guilt of a hundred cruel acts dragging me down 6 feet under.
Why do you feel you need to drop your friends in order to grow and mature? I am 71 and my best friends are men I met at school when we were 7 years old. We all have our own lives and other circles of friends. We did different things after we all finished school. I worked abroad for 20 years but we had and still have an unbreakable bond. There were four of us, three now as one passed away 12 years ago. But we loved him and we never forget the boy he was and the man he grew to be. You sound quite young to me so you will grow. You will have life experiences that you never guessed would happen. Some of these will be amazing and sometimes the things life throws at you will hurt. I speak with the hindsight of years of experience. But through it all I didn't need to abandon my friends. You can still be you and go on your journey while keeping your friends. My dad once said to me that you will have many people in your life but if you have four good friends, people who love you and will be there for you when you need them, you will be a very lucky man. My dad was a wise man and he was absolutely right. Your life is a long, fascinating road with lots of twists and bends. There is so much ahead of you, but never forget your friends. Best wishes.
This is what being autistic feels like sometimes; like hoping will just lead you to feeling stupid
That's being human not being autistic
edit: before you hate, i am on the spectrum. I just don't like divisiveness 👍
@@rokukou you don’t get it
@@azde4042 How do you know? It's a symptom of being human, it's like saying "This is what having a prosthetic leg feels like" We are all human, let's have empathy for each other instead of being divisive like that.
@@rokukouI don't think trying to expose internalized feelings indicates a lack of empathy. The commenter doesn't indicate that this feeling is exclusive to autism, just that it describes a facet of it. Humans do a LOT to feel like they're understood by their peers, so sometimes you'll encounter someone adopting a lot of labels; not out of desire to isolate themselves and feel special (not that a desire for uniqueness is inherently bad), but to expose their inner characteristics to the people around them, ultimately to be understood better.
@@rokukouand btw even if we disagree on the particulars, we agree on the fact that humans should have maximal empathy for each other, have a good day/night friend!!
Sometimes thats how I feel about myself
I used to have extreme social anxiety that caused me to be abnormally nice, and when I overcame most of my anxiety, I dropped friends who were draining me and using me for my niceness in order to manipulate me and give themselves the attention they lacked at home. With the real friends I made, I became funnier but as a result more sarcastic and a playful type of mean. But theres always thought “I used to be so nice, what happened?” Sometimes I wonder if I just should’ve stayed that way, but also i’m so much happier now.
I like to say "It's better to be alone than with people who make you feel alone." I honestly had a similar experience - The more I saw who I could be in the mirror, the more I realized how unhappy I was around certain people, and how easy it was to make excuses about it. What shocked me was how me becoming "meaner" was really just me matching their energies.
I'm socially anxious and abnormally nice. Difference is I don't have a lot of friends
That’s good. It shows that people won’t take advantage of your kindness. I one time had a kid threw a paper wrapper into my mouth in the bus and I fucking screamed at them for doing what they did.
Sounds to me like you've simply grown to have autonomy over your own life and choices. There's a difference between being nice for the sake of avoiding conflict, and being nice because you understand a situation and genuinely want to be nice. The latter is what being nice truly is, and is what we should aim to be, because it allows us to stand up for ourselves when someone tries to manipulate us either intentionally or unintentionally.
You're just being genuine, nobody is always nice and kind, to expect the opposite from someone else is selfish.
The fact that not everyone can feel this phase n vibe 🔥
Everyday is waking up and thinking that the people around me cared. Maybe it's all in my head. Maybe it's real. I'm lonely no matter where I go, and I crumble even harder now than I used to as a child. I'm sure they're all tired of this. I am too.
Maybe you should do some shrooms.
@@WELLbethere Maybe.
What matters is that you cared. If to no one else, it matters to me. Even though I'm a complete stranger and we know nothing about each other. If you care, it matters to me.
This is my life
This will be viral in 12 years trust me.
Reminds me of a sentence I've read at a book of Brandon Sanderson: "You don't stop love someone just because he's hurting you. Life were a lot easier if it could be changed."
“There is always something ridiculous about the emotions of people whom one has ceased to love.” (The Picture of Dorian Gray, 79)
That's the tragedy, I wasn't.
I am nicer now.
But alas it is too late now.
Had a friend online. Loved her. Promised to never leave her.
Now we're together for real. She can't seem to muster any sort of care for me. I said I'd never leave her.
You said "never" to a woman that cared for you. She is no longer that woman. She isn't the person you promised to.
@@briaormead4239 no, no she is not. But I promised under no uncertain terms that I would not leave her no matter who she became. A silly thing to promise maybe. What can I say? I love her more.
At first I was like "wtf am I watching"
But suddenly it clicked and now it all makes sense
Great video
It has drawn out of me a pain I did not know was there, lurking in the depths.
Now and again I feel that familiar despair, knowing you never looked back the day you left.
And even when I reminisce about our days without a care, I hope that someday you will see the theft.
Theft because you could not share, the loyalty of a friendship and playful caress.
Since The Man called for us to part, day in day out, wither my tender heart.
A poem inspired by the Fox And The Hound
this like arrived in my recommendations at a terrifyingly accurate timing
This sums up how i felt about someone I thought was really special to me till they SAed me.
The two sides of me everyday remembering everything i have done wrong.
This hit really hard. I always feel like I was a much better person when I was younger
It's easier to be nice when you have nice thoughts and don't know so much pain. But what's better, to be good wothout trying, or to be wrong, and overcome it?
Damn im getting to the end of rdr2 rn and this hits hard
“We’re thieves in a world that don’t want us anymore.”
oh god maybe you never used to be
The banshees of inisherin is where the audio is from, agape is the name of the song off “if beale street could talk” the album
They only need you until they find someone/something better, sometimes for them, even loneliness after a point is better than staying with you, because they are simply done with your presence.
After using your presence, they are done with you.
I can't explain why this makes me so emotional and sad...
For anyone curious,
It from the Movie "The Banshees of Inisherin"
Once i knew someone. They were everything to me. I loved them. They hurt me many times. I never cared. Until i was finally thrown away for good. At first i thought it was understandable. Then the hate i felt when i realized all that time theyd lie to our friends that i was violent, perverted. That i was much older than i am. Then to have the gall to tell them all, and even me at one point, how they missed me and were sorry. Only for, when i told them i dont forgive them, to play a game of pretend just so they could wriggle their way out of it again. Just as theyve always done. The hate ive felt for so long. Expecially when i realized they never really were nice.
narcissists are difficult im glad you saw through it
: ) : 3
Ngl i feel guilty about this not exact scenario but kinda the same and i im making it worse all because of my insecurities and shit..
used to be friends with a girl like that, we used to ride a train together almost everyday,
she used to be nice, or maybe she never used to be.
one day my feelings got the better of me and I confessed,
i was met with complete silence and avoidance,
what i considered to be a friend turned into a stranger in a matter of days,
i was replaced with another person.
Someone who treats you like that is not kind. Niceness is fake. You didn't lose out on anything.
@@TomAndrews91 this sounds like standard friendzoning where an attempt to make things romantic burns the bridge and ends the friendship bc she feels like it’s too awkward to continue platonically. Doesn’t necessarily mean there was something sinister all along
@@constellationorion8679 That's a fair point.
Farrel and Gleeson fit so perfectly together, you just know that any movie with those two in is going to contain quality acting and intelligently written dialogue.
A wonderful way to describe everyone's relationship with the world right now. Or maybe we've always felt this way. 💔
the banshees of inisherin made some amazing quotes and i'm so glad. because without it we wouldnt have got masterpieces like this
I don't why but this scene would perfectly fit starting or ending of the movie that i would watch last time 😢
This video got me out of a really toxic relationship. Thank you :)
I used to let people take advantage of me* i’ll stand up for myself now.
Too many emotions to feel all at once. This is art. It is also painful.
Can't wait to see the animatics sprawled out of this, honestly's such a mood
This is the same thing I’m goin through, glad to know others feel the pain
I like this because obviously this is about relationships, but I also feel like this guy was talking about his hometown. You used to be nice. Maybe you were never nice?
This hits close to home.. it really does. It reminds me of losing my best friend. I'm sorry to anybody who relates to this, it hurts.
It might even be worse than losing a romantic relationship cause we always think that our best friends are always gonna be there for us. But sadly life just isn’t a fairy tale.
“You used to be nice” LITERALLY MY EX he gradually turned from a supportive person into a homophobic and transphobic fascist. I have a new partner and I’m doing better but honestly it still stings. Especially because now he literally ignores me but still acknowledges my partner because they used to be friends too. I mean I know it’s better this way, but it still stings.
That's actually crazy, maybe your ex either was a shitty person from the beginning but hided it or got influenced by toxic people online. Either way, it's good you're doing better now
@@LynxRhyme he got influenced. He used to be pretty cool. But that time’s over so whatever. His loss, ain’t mine.
applaud you for capturing vibes…i can’t even pick another word but vibes seem to fit here
I feel like i'm on opposite end of this situation. I feel like I can't be someone's true friend, I don't feel like I'm willing to do serious deeds for them. I have quite a few people who consider me very kind guy and good friend, and deep inside I can't help but think that they're utterly wrong and will regret meeting me.
this video feels too much like my inner voices most days..
"I used to be nice.. right?"
"what happened to that?"
"oh god, maybe i never was.."
"what's up with that?"
"I like how i am now though, right?"
"I don't."
"but I did yesterday, right?"
"Did I though?"
"I thought i did.. Thought i was pretty happy yesterday.."
"I didn't."
"what's wrong with me?"
"It's just you."
relatable with my friend (i try and ghost them to not make matters worse.) (amazing video by the way! it perfectly captures the vibe!)
Please don't ghost your friend. As someone who just got ghosted, I felt like my friend had stuck a dagger in my heart. An honest conversation will hurt, but I think if you don't owe them the effort to fix things, then you atleast owe them an honest conversation.
Sending love to you and your friend.
@@samgilley3160 thanks for the feedback. but the thing is, i will most likely have to stay with my classmates for the next 2 years because yk, school system. And if i create drama, it will turn into a snowball of hate and revenge. talking from experience here. and i wish i could talk to them in an honest conversation, but they will definitely not care or emphasize with me at all. (because they dont.) I just want to avoid whatever might come in my way. (also, im sorry for your friend doing that to you.)
Wow. You made this feel so ... Genuine.
😢made me rewatch fox and the hound, haven’t seen it since daycare. But I have still always called it my favourite Disney movie. And it is still is (I like spirit too)
Warning, rant below. Just needed to share.
My first betrayal felt wrong. I didn't even think i could feel this way. Like if you were half-in collecting a big puzzle, go to hang out with your friend, than return home to find it crashed in a million pieces. Your friend is the only one who was in your home besides you. I didn't believe it at first, i didn't want to believe it, it could never happened, my friend would never do that! But as i slowly realised the truth, my heart still tried to put me aside. It's wrong. It could never happened. Not right, not at all. It feels so wrong, some kind of a mistake. It shouldn't have happened, my expectations were not like that, not like that.
I accepted eventually.
Makes me think about one of my old friends. we met a few summers ago and immediately hit it off. we laughed together, had deep talks about life, and hung out as often as we could. then one day, i woke up and he was nowhere. he ignored my calls, refused to talk to me in public, and never wanted to make plans. we rarely fought, and when we did we made up. but this time it was different. it's been a year since we talked, and it still feels like yesterday he and i were best friends.
This video gave me goosebumps. I can't explain it.
I was in love with the idea of her
That one late night conversation when you are alone with the boys be like:
This made me think of someone who said something like this-- after I cut them off harshly. They were bullying me and tormenting me/abusing me in multiple ways-- and when I finally had enough and cut them off and spat back they tried to pull this line on me.... So I likely have very different feelings towards this than most other people watching this. oops.
Am I nice? I’m not so sure. I try to be, but living on this earth has made me feel cold. I can only trust myself at this point and it’s sad. I hope everyone can feel happier as time moves on
You thought you knew someone. You thought they were a good person, that they'd stay by your side through anything. And then they start lying to you, but they're so nice to you, right? Maybe you're just paranoid., maybe they have a reason, maybe it's your fault.
You weren't paranoid. And this person wasn't good. And you thought that you could help them fix it, that it's all going to work out. But it doesn't, you know that. But this person, sometimes they say things that make you hope that they can change. Yet they hurt you again and again, but you can't leave. You're stuck. You're tired, and you can't leave. You've lost the strength.
Two people I considered my best friends. One ghosts me after 3 years of radio silence. Another blocks me almost everywhere I have regular contact with them, days after I stayed at their house when everything seemed fine. Were we ever friends? Or did I just attach myself to them? I cared deeply for them. I never wanted to be a nuisance, a bother, a source of anxiety… but I worry I became one. Or worse: I always was… how did I make this happen? Is this even my fault? What happened to us, man?
It wasn't your fault. I will never understand why people do this
*The Banshees Of Inisherin* ;a beautiful movie indeed. :)
the audio, the music but the cinematography. I love the clips in this and i'm sorry to anyone who relates to the audio
Went through this same thing this week, honestly it breaks my heart. Seems like people go through the same stuff
The Banshees dialogue fits this mood
Banshees is a great movie, one of my lifetime favourites for sure
This is how I felt when my best friend of 5 years ghosted me 3 days before my birthday. I asked her if everything was okay because I had a feeling and she replied like normal, using emojis and stuff. Then I never heard from her again. I had to find out from other people :(
Life and love is an illusion. Sad but true.
💯💯💯 true both are illusions.
Every crush I’ve had ends up like this
Shit really fucks with you
A slightly touched up version of the transcript:
Transcript
0:00 him: you used to be nice
0:02 him: [(that/)or did] you never used to be
0:05 him: oh God
0:08 him: maybe you never used to be
0:13 him: you do like me
0:16 the other: I don't
0:19 him: [you] like[d] me yesterday
0:22 [Music] [the other: did I yeah?]
0:27 him: I thought you did
[sharp halt]
Something about this is just? I don't know. Special. Lovely. Strong.
This hits way too hard.
My mom always says, “ you use to be such a sweet little girl always kind, what happened?” I can’t even describe how much I hate it… nothing happened I just stopped holding back and taking hate from my brother who actually pushed me into a wall and tried wrestling me (he started learning this year.) because I was telling him a story in the door way of his room… (parents weren’t home.) craziest thing is I went back out to eat dinner and he acted like nothing happened- like wtf? And I’m the issue 🫠
Ugh sisters…
Makes me think of lost friends and my ex. Time never stands still. Life is a constant revolving door.
he liked me yesterday.
used to be friends with a group of people who kinda sucked. because i was put in a seperate class to all of my friends, i had to find new ones. our group grew super fast and soon new people were coming in randomly. none of them knew my name. or even that i was there. so i left. but i had no other friends to turn to. then i met a really nice group, they were funny and just great. then they all left the school. now im back with my first group of friends, the one i was seperated with at the start. and i havent been happier in the past 6 years