Losing my dad to brain disease...

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  • @ji1511
    @ji1511 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Your parents raised you very well. Take care.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you so much! It means a lot for me to hear that really.. stay safe and take care!

  • @mlz6959
    @mlz6959 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    My condolences! He is in a better place now and indeed treasure life every day!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hey thank you for the condolences. Yes at least he is not in pain yet and he was a Christian so I'm certain his with Jesus and his parents up there. Thank you again and take care!

    • @JK-oy5vi
      @JK-oy5vi 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries Yes i am sure he is ! Thanks for sharing ! Your parents must be proud of you. YOu are a good son! Take care.

  • @summerc.5369
    @summerc.5369 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Sorry for your loss, Steve. I am very moved by your dad's story. You are strong for being able to share that with us without breaking down in front of the camera. I, however, had to sit back and take a deep breath after watching this. In retrospect, it was wonderful of you to get him the mobility vehicle that enabled him to see the world outside again before his passing. I love that montage of your dad at the end of the video. It was a nice tribute. Take care and God bless.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hey Summer, thank you for watching the video and your very kind words!! I broke down in between but edited them out😅 Our family just received his ashes on that day so I was really sad that day.. Yeah I'm so glad that I got that car for him. My mum took him out for a drive almost everyday. Sometimes to the seafront and sometimes just driving to random places then coming back. I was never really very close to dad and we grew even more distant when I was married then went through divorce.. it's so sad that I never really got to know him as a person instead of just being my dad. Lots of regrets :( Thank you again for leaving such a kind and warm comment and I hope you'll stay safe if you live in Singapore with the virus spreading lately. Take care!🥰

    • @summerc.5369
      @summerc.5369 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ReddotDiaries Hi Steve, don't be too hard on yourself. If your dad's condition was anything like ALS, his brain was still very alert even though his body was weak. I'm sure he appreciated the things you did for him although he could not vocalize it. One thing you can do for your dad to to take care of your mom. From watching the car episode, she seems like a very supportive wife and loving mom. I admire her strength. But it's great to have your support at this fragile moment so it's great that you're moving back to NZ. I do believe that time is the best medicine. In the meantime, take good care of yourselves.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@summerc.5369 Hey thank you so so much for what you said. I actually really appreciate it and it meant a lot to me. Yes, I think now I need to take of my mum.. it's been tough times for her as well and last thing I would want is for her to go through illness. Thank you and take care!

  • @stevenk907
    @stevenk907 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Steve I am so sorry for your loss . RIP. Makes me cry bro . I lost my mom last year due to lung cancer

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Steven! how are you? Thank you so much for your condolences and kind words of comfort.. and I'm so sorry to hear about losing your mom... it must have been very difficult for you to have her go through a difficult illness like that.. but like many people have said on this page, let's believe that they're in a better place and make the most of rest of our lives! Take care and thank you so much!

  • @clfive02
    @clfive02 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I found this video after watching your upload on about your last day at work. Mate, keep your chin up, life indeed is short and thanks for inspiring me to think differently too. Best regards from Korea!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Charles! Thank you!! I'm doing much better now.. sometimes I feel guilty for living on as if nothing happened but I think dad would rather see me happy and motivated to move on. Must be spring in Korea now right? Man I miss going there and eating home cooked food at my grandma's place. Take care buddy!

  • @Sminsky
    @Sminsky 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I watched the video you posted when you were back in NZ visiting yr parents. My condolences.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for the condolences. Yes that was just about two months ago and things just got worse very fast.. thank you again and if you stay in Singapore, I hope you'll stay safe in phase 2 with the local cases going up lately. Thanks again!

  • @Christinawmf1
    @Christinawmf1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey Steve. I just got onto your channel and watched your videos about living as a Singaporean for 12yrs, giving your best in appreciating the last weeks in Singapore before heading back to Nuzzan for good. I was really touched by your honest, no frills yet warm "dialogues" about your life in the present and in retrospect.
    Though it was few months back, but I just want to express my heartfelt condolences to you and your family for the loss of your dad. I was really moved by the video where you got your dad the mobility car. And your mom was so delighted that she just drove off with your dad on that long awaited drive out of the house to see the world, which he loved so much.
    The montage you created in memory of your beloved dad was most touching. I still miss my dad who passed on 5 years ago. Sadly I don't have many shared memories and photos of him. Knowing that he loved life and lived his best (though with regrets too), taught me how precious is life and people.
    I hope you are taking time to rest, seek, reset and just enjoying time with your mom. We can't dictate the length of our time. But we can make it count for those around us - add a smile and spark in theirs. It's ironically beautiful how our regret also helps us grow and shine brighter for God, for those around us and ourselves.
    I really hope you're settling in and coping along well. Hope to see you on your next video. Take care.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Christina, just wanted to thank you for your comment. I read it a few times and agree with everything you said. I'm sorry to hear about your dad and can only hope that you're doing better over time...
      I guess for me I learnt the pain of regret through my dad's illness and death. Especially all the little things that I didn't do like calling him, thanking him, taking videos of him... all of which were so easy to do but I was just being lazy and telling myself "next time".
      Well I guess there does come a day when there is no "next time" and that's it. You can cry, regret but nothing will change. So for me having this realisation made me look at what I'm missing out now for taking things for granted and being lazy again...which is part of the reason why i also decided to leave my job and come back to NZ.
      "It's ironically beautiful how our regret also helps us grow and shine brighter for God, for those around us and ourselves." This is so well said and true and I'm going to remember what you said. Thank you for taking the time to share that with me...
      Take care and see you in my next video:)

  • @khoomenghong9635
    @khoomenghong9635 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Sorry for your loss, Dr Steve. My heartfelt condolences to u and your family. Your dad is in a better place now and he will always be with u deep in your heart. Take care.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi! Thank you so much for the condolences.. I really, really appreciate it and like you said I believe he's in a much better place without pain and suffering now. Take care during phase 2 and I think you're coming back next week right? See you then!😊

  • @normanchua5407
    @normanchua5407 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am so sorry to hear this. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Stay strong!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Norman, thank you so so much for the condolences. I really appreciate it! If you are staying in Singapore, I hope you and your family will stay safe and strong! So many local cases these few days..

  • @joyceswee6501
    @joyceswee6501 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Deepest condolences to you and family, Steve. Stay strong for your mum and take care good care of yourself.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hello Joyce thank you so much for the condolences. I really, really appreciate it. My mum is doing much better now and I think she takes a lot of comfort in knowing that I'll be there soon. Take care during phase 2 and thank you so much again.

    • @niranjaladematapitia2636
      @niranjaladematapitia2636 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Stay strong! Your mom needs u at this time and u did your best to him. Hugs fr Sri Lanka.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@niranjaladematapitia2636 Thank you Joyce and hope the virus situation isn't as bad in Sri Lanka. Take care!

  • @sweetlemon9499
    @sweetlemon9499 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm new to your channel, thanks for sharing this video , truly appreciate it Steve

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for watching! And being new to my channel 😊 hope you're staying safe in Singapore!

  • @chseetoh
    @chseetoh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My deepest condolences to you and your family Steve... My mum passed away 12 years ago with the same condition as your dad, i understand the pain and it's a blessing for them that they are now free of suffering as this illness had no medicine to cure and muscle deteriorating make them painful, just that they can't talk to us to let us know... i took 3 years to move forward with the loss but time will heal and i am sure your dad is in a better place now. Be strong and take care....

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey, I'm sorry your mum went through the same condition.. I know it's really awful right..because they can think clearly in their mind but basically trapped in the body that won't work.. It reminded me of the movie Get Out actually.. When my dad had enough strength to use the mouse to type things out, I was so heartbroken because I could tell inside that body was still my dad that I remembered.. Thank you so much and I hope you'll stay safe and take good care also..☺️

  • @sharonwong465
    @sharonwong465 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am so sorry. Heartfelt condolences to you and your mom.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Sharon thank you for the condolences and warm words of comfort. My mum is doing much better but I'm sure we will both have our ups and downs.. take care during phase 2 in Singapore and thank you so much again.

  • @danieltan6964
    @danieltan6964 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sad to hear this sad news, hope you stay strong Steve, May God Bless His Soul, hope everything will work out fine for You and your Mum and Sister.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Daniel, thanks for the blessings and concern bro..! Mum and sis are doing much better now :) Hope you and your family will stay safe during this phase 2!! thanks again and take care!!

  • @beachbutterflyz
    @beachbutterflyz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm so, so sorry to hear about your loss. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. 😔🙏🏻

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you so much for the condolences and your kind words.. I'm not sure if you're in Singapore but if you are, I hope you'll stay safe during the upcoming phase 2. Thank you again and take care!

  • @trellbell
    @trellbell 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing your father with us. My prayers are with you and your family.
    We learn valuable lessons during our darkest moments. And I have no doubt your father is going to enjoy watching this new chapter of yours in NZ. Telling everyone, "That's my boy" ❤❤❤

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for the prayers.. and how have you been?!! How is your family? I hope it's getting a bit warmer there now :) Haha yes I'm actually looking forward to that part of going back to NZ to make him proud. How's the covid situation over there? I heard that many people are already vaccinated and won't have to wear a mask anymore.

    • @trellbell
      @trellbell 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ReddotDiaries things are moving right along. Going to be moving soon as well! Should be around June or July. Not a big move, just a few towns over. Kiddos are about to be done with this school year...they are excited for summer. We are in the awkward stage of needing a hoodie and jeans in the morning but a shirt and shorts in the afternoon. LOL
      I was finally able to get my first shot yesterday. A lot of people are vaccinated but active covid numbers are still up due to the ones who refuse to get vaccinated or wear a mask. I forsee me still wearing a mask when I'm out even after I'm fully vaccinated. I kinda like hiding part of my facial expressions. LOL

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@trellbell That's great to hear..! Sounds like things are getting back to normal over there. I miss having a change in season like that.. 😅Good luck with your move and hope your family will enjoy summer!!

  • @dantantantan1358
    @dantantantan1358 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Speechless, just like what you say, go and appreciate every single day, every single sunrise.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks boss! I hope I can experience many things like you! From a policeman to boss and father, that's something I look up to! see you again soon.

  • @ashke1348
    @ashke1348 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for reminding us to treasure our present. I want to believe that time will heal all wounds, and may your dreams come true.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much. I still have ups and downs especially when I visit cemetery but I guess it's all part and parcel of life.. hope you're doing good and take care!

  • @mariajessica513
    @mariajessica513 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I understand how u felt because my dad had celebral degeneration, too. It was not common disease so my family and I had no one to reach out. I was afraid to find out more about the disease via internet but instead I kept moving forward in finding out what cure is out there? But my dad google and he knows exactly what he was about to go through. He was so brave and was so easy taking care of him. I know he was in pain but he never showed. Next month, he will be 9 years in heaven and not a single day goes by that I don’t missed him. Take care, too 💝

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey Maria thank you for sharing your story... I think you are the first person I met whose family member had the exact same disease.. and you're right there was no cure for him.. For the first few years we also took him to many different doctors and tried to get his condition to slow down at least but it just slowly took his freedom away. I think for me the saddest part was the he was very much "alive" inside but couldn't express anything.. I can't imagine going through such experience myself and feel so bad that I wasn't there for him much of the time. Thank you and I hope you're taking good care of yourself too.. thank you again.

  • @richardchin1621
    @richardchin1621 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your parents had raised you grow up 😊 very good health and take care of yourself ✌️💙🏵️🌼🌟

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah and I feel quite bad that I didn't do much for them. I guess now it's time to be more nice to mum (easier said than done haha) thank you and take care!

  • @zandrakoon4651
    @zandrakoon4651 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🕊 Our deepest condolences to you Steve & your Family in New Zealand !
    May you find the strength to reconcile with your wife & loving family back together !

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the condolences!☺️

  • @shan2lu
    @shan2lu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Deepest condolences. And thanks for sharing with your viewers although it's so difficult to talk about it. Stay strong and take care mate! 💪

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for the condolences. It was actually helpful to let it out and I was really overwhelmed with the support from everyone! Thank you so much😊

  • @JD-sh8ub
    @JD-sh8ub 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am sorry for your loss. Proverbs 3:5-6 helped me to deal with the passing of my parents

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hey thank you..! I just looked it up and it is very comforting to feel and know that he will direct my path.. thank you and stay safe during phase 2 in Singapore!

  • @dannieritzynovelo8692
    @dannieritzynovelo8692 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest sympathy and condolences to you and to the rest of your loved ones.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the condolences. My mum and sister are doing better now! Thanks again and take care!

    • @dannieritzynovelo8692
      @dannieritzynovelo8692 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries Glad to know your mum and sister are ok. Have a safe trip going home in New Zealand. Take care as well!

  • @seahmavis2811
    @seahmavis2811 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My deepest condolences to you during this period of grief. It must be so heartbreaking not being there to see your dad for the last time. I felt the same way too when my dad died in the hospital and I was no there when he passed away. I can feel your sorrow and pain. May the sweet memories of your dad help you in the closure. May God grant you peace and comfort you and may each passing moment ease the pain you feel within. Praying for you that you remain strong for your mum and her to cope with the loss of your dad.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Mavis, thank you for the condolences and sharing your story. It really felt awful and guilty for not being there in his last moment of life but at least he was with mum and his friends.. and most importantly with Jesus. Thank you for your prayers and I hope you and your family will stay safe during phase 2 and take care...!

  • @Coffee22946
    @Coffee22946 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for this video. It is a timely reminder for everyone that life is short and unpredictable. Take care!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you! Yeah even though that is very true I often forget about it and end up wasting a lot of time.. even today I've been super lazy and just laying on the floor the whole day :(

  • @mustafakamal284
    @mustafakamal284 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Steve...Sorry for your loss.. Stay positive and stay safe .... Condolences to you and your family..

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey bro Selamat Hari Raya.. thank you so much for the condolences and I hope you and your family will stay safe during phase 2.. take care bro.😊

  • @jsfifisiow8714
    @jsfifisiow8714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Steve
    It’s a life cycle , birth , old, sick , die - as what you have shared , one day we will be sleeping in the little coffin as well .
    Your smile will make your dad smile too when he look at you from high . Do our best and live to the fullest while we are on earth . Thank you very much to show us the interesting part of Singapore , it’s a meaningful task to many of us !

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hey thank you for the condolences.. and sharing such wise words!! You are so right about living to the fullest on earth and I want to remind myself that everyday from now on.. and no worries! Singapore have given so much to me and this is my way of saying thank you and also staying connected to Singaporeans even after I leave.. Thank you and stay safe!!

  • @gaelflynn657
    @gaelflynn657 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Deepest sympathy and condolences to you. Most memorable video of you and your dad was the one you gave him the car. You had been a good son. Remember all the good memories of him. May he rest in peace.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Gael, thank you for the condolences. I just wish that I got him that car sooner. Would have made his and mum's life so much better in his last few years.. thank you and take care!

    • @gaelflynn657
      @gaelflynn657 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries You take care too and stay safe. Would love to see any videos of the quarantine period you had in NZ.

  • @Shannon9918
    @Shannon9918 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    oh dear,our deepest condolences. Take care.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Yen, thank you so much for the condolences. Really appreciate it.

  • @jessicapapioful
    @jessicapapioful 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awwww. Sorry for your loss Steve! Condolences to you and to your family.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for the condolences. Just part of parcel of life that we all go through I guess.. thank you again and hope you and your family will stay safe especially with the nasty strain of covid going around. Take care!

  • @dannytang6671
    @dannytang6671 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am sad to hear of your loss。The one we love are never gone they live within our hearts。pls be safe & takecare your mum。

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you Danny! It's been a while and we have our ups and downs but at least I'm here with mum now. Take care!

  • @MYMY-zn2qh
    @MYMY-zn2qh 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sorry to hear about your loss. Your previous videos actually made me thinking of stop working and wanting to spend more time with my aging parents. Take care there.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for your kind comment.. and if you can, you totally should! It's better than losing them then regret..you can always find a job and work but once they're gone.. that's it. Take care and stay safe during phase2!!

  • @Staryglitz
    @Staryglitz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m so sorry for your loss Steve. My deepest condolences. I lost my Dad almost 8 years ago to cancer. I’m sure your dad is at a better place now. Thank God for technology that you were still able to watch his funeral live stream. Please take some time off if you need.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hey thank you for the condolences and I'm so sorry to hear about what's happened to your dad.. it must have been really difficult to see him go through a tough condition like that.. and I'm sure our dads are all in much better places without all the pain and suffering. Yes it was good to watch the live stream but also just sad to see him lying down in that coffin and not be able to say last goodbye in person.. Luckily I did manage to take three days off which was very helpful. I hope you and your family will stay safe during phase 2..! Take care and thank you again :)

  • @TheKrazyKoala
    @TheKrazyKoala 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’m sooooo sorry 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️ I want to send my wishes to your family 😪😪😪. - from Singapore

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey! haha sorry I just saw this only la.. thank you as always for checking in and posting your videos! Hope they gave you nice dinner at the hotel tonight! Goodnight and stay strong while you're in quarantine...!

    • @TheKrazyKoala
      @TheKrazyKoala 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries 🤗🤗🤗

  • @sojourner7782
    @sojourner7782 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My condolences to you. I only came across your channel recently. Thank you for the reminder about living our lives fully, follow our passions and dreams. God bless you.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Joanne, thank you for leaving a comment..! Yes that was one of the things I kept thinking about after my dad fell sick. He had so many plans to finally live his life after his retirement but in the end couldn't do any of it.. so for me I decided why wait? No one wishes on their death bed I wished I worked more, or bought a bigger house or nicer car etc.. just enjoy life doing what you love. Thank you and hope you had a nice weekend!

    • @sojourner7782
      @sojourner7782 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries so true. I also realise you live in the estate I grew up in. My parents still live there. If you haven’t checked out tried the Dry Mee Pok (with chilli) from the stall called Yam Mee Teochew Fishball Noodles in Kovan Food Centre, do check it out. Not the two stalls facing the carpark. Three-generation stall. Grandfather prepares ingredients, father cooks, mum and children help out.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow really?? I heard there used to be a water well in Kovan is that true?I think I've had that at kovan hawker centre before.. there's another famous one by punggol nasi lemak right

    • @sojourner7782
      @sojourner7782 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries I’m not sure about the water well. Punggol Nasi Lemak is in a coffee shop about 5-mins walk from the Kovan hawker centre. A lot of good food there!

  • @clovischen1221
    @clovischen1221 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My condolences Steve. Wish u all the best for you and your family and good luck in your endeavors in NZ. May god's peace be with you.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Clovis, thank you for the condolences..! We are all doing a bit better and as much as I'm sad to leave SG, I'm also looking forward to my new journey in NZ! thank you again and take care!!

  • @zboyuan4423
    @zboyuan4423 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My condolences to you and your family. Take care. Your dad is part of you, always stay inside your heart and your memory.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for the condolences and saying that..! Dad being part of me is the thought that was most comforting last week. Thank you for reminding me that. Hope you will stay safe during this phase 2 and pray we can all avoid another CB.. take care!

  • @piyenting7156
    @piyenting7156 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just saw this video. Very sorry to hear about the demise of your father. I fully understand why you were upset. Kind of in the same boat. Do more videos when you are finally back in NZ. Miss NZ, especially Auckland. Best wishes!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you..! And I'm sorry to hear your going through a similar experience..pray that you'll stay strong and be there for your family too.. yes I'll do more videos when I get there too! You take care and have a good weekend!!

    • @piyenting7156
      @piyenting7156 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries You too, have a nice weekend and enjoy the rest of your stay in SG. Cheers

  • @klesatele
    @klesatele 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So sorry for your loss. 😕🙏🏽

  • @mjoswong1947
    @mjoswong1947 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Will pray for ur dad soul ! I am in the same situation like u I lived in France for the past 15 yrs ....few years back I came back to my dad’s funeral....last year I came back to Singapore to stay with my mum now diagnosed to have cancer . .... lucky she has recovered well . it is a big decision to leave France but I am glad to spend time with my family here . Have a safe journey back home and treasure the time u have with ur family ,

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for the prayers and sharing your story... and I'm so glad you came back to take care of your mum and be with family. Thank God she recovered..! And Singapore is much safer from covid than France or europe so I think it was good decision for you to come back. I'm really treasuring my time in Singapore more than anything else so really praying that we won't go into another CB... Hope you and your family will stay safe with the local cases going up. take care!

  • @nesadcruz7840
    @nesadcruz7840 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So sorry for your loss. I remember the day I lost my dad, I was devastated. Will pray for your family.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Nesa, thank you for the prayers and concern.. It's one of the saddest days of our lives losing a family member.. but something that everyone must go through.. If you are in Singapore I hope you will stay safe esp during this phase 2 with more local cases happening.. thank you and take care!

    • @nesadcruz7840
      @nesadcruz7840 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries Indeed it is. Thank you, stay safe yourself too.

  • @sunofwinter888
    @sunofwinter888 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My condolences ! He is a better place now .

  • @jeffseah397
    @jeffseah397 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bro,I lost my father 4 years ago due to cancer,he open his eye for his final look staring at me for quite a while before closing back his eye on his sick bed and few hours later he left us,is a terrible feeling as what you experience now,times will heal the sadness.Do pour out your sorrow to people you feel you can attach to.Take care.I know is not easy for you to do this video cos is quite emotional during this period.Your dad at peace already.Thats life.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Jeff, thank you for sharing your story and it really made me sad picturing how you said good bye to your father.. like you said I think sometimes just crying and being ok with it helps. But I would like to think that my dad would want me to be happy and learn something from this so we just have to get back up and keep going again. Take care in phase 2 and thank you so much for your warm words of comfort!

  • @WWK186
    @WWK186 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My condolences! Sorry for your loss. Do take care.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the condolences Wendy! We are doing much better now and moving on 😊

  • @EstherTan-uz3pt
    @EstherTan-uz3pt 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Condolences to your family and your Dad is in a better place now🙏 May he RIP and you are so strong to talk about him. Stay Strong and God Bless.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Esther, thank you for the condolences and I also believe he's in a better place without pain and suffering. Thank you and take care during phase 2..!☺️

    • @EstherTan-uz3pt
      @EstherTan-uz3pt 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries Take care and stay safe too Steve!

  • @jamiej6953
    @jamiej6953 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sorry for your loss. Hope you and your family can stay strong and united. Wish you all the best!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello Jamie, thank you for the condolences, I really appreciate it. Actually my sis and I were never close but somehow through this we became a bit closer. It feels a bit weird but I guess dad would have been happy to see that haha thanks again and take care!

  • @Joel-qc3jc
    @Joel-qc3jc 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Deepest condolences Steve. Sorry for your loss, I am sure he is in a better place. It must be very painful to not be around when he passed away and with family at this time. My mum passes away in 2017 and it took me about 3 years to get over it. And till today, I have not cleared her room yet. it's quite painful when you are alone, so stay strong, take good care of your mum and yourself and have a safe trip back to New Zealand.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Joel, thank you for the condolences and sharing your story.. I can really feel your pain when you said that you still haven't cleared her room....I'm so sorry for what you've gone through and pray that you'll be alright.. thank you for all your heartfelt advice and I hope you too will take care with the local cases going up and everything. I was really hoping to spend the last few weeks of my time here exploring and eating but so sad that may not be the case anymore..Take care and stay safe and healthy!!

  • @kristypua9275
    @kristypua9275 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences to u and family and stay strong. Your dad is in a better place. Take care Steve

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Kristy, thank you for the condolences...! and I would also like to believe that he's in a better place now. Take care during phase 2 and stay safe!!

  • @tommywang28
    @tommywang28 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences. It must be very painful to not be around family at this time. Stay strong and God bless.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hello Tommy, thank you for the condolences. Yeah not being there and watching the funeral stream was the hardest and very upsetting part.. Although I'm sure I'll have ups and downs, I'm doing better now. Thank you again and take care during phase 2!!

  • @hsulingtock7033
    @hsulingtock7033 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sincere Condolences to you Steve & family. Grieve if you must, but dont take too long, your dad will be sad seeing you like this in heaven. He is in a better place free of pain. May the peace of God be with you and your mum. ✝🧡

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for the condolences...and that's what I thought as well. I'm sure he wouldn't want me to be sad or drink.. so I tried to be the person he would be happy to see and be proud. Thank you so much for the kind words and take care! :)

    • @hsulingtock7033
      @hsulingtock7033 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries Steve, do take good care of yourself & your mum! ❤️

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hsulingtock7033 thank you 😊

    • @hsulingtock7033
      @hsulingtock7033 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ReddotDiaries Have a blessed weekend!

  • @JafoD7
    @JafoD7 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences. Stay strong and take care.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for the condolences. Our family is doing much better now and I'm sure my dad would like to see us happy and strong. Thanks again and take care!

  • @vijayletchumygovindankutty3689
    @vijayletchumygovindankutty3689 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    May his soul rest in peace
    You take care of yourself
    Stay strong and safe

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you. And hope you will stay safe too 😊

  • @ztslplayztslplay3542
    @ztslplayztslplay3542 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh dear my deepest
    condolences so sorry to hear your loss please take care steve

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey how have you been? Thank you so much for the condolences. I really, really appreciate it. Take care during phase 2 and be safe! So many local cases these few days...

  • @mommyeileen
    @mommyeileen 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences to you and your family. Please take care of yourself too.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Eileen, thank you for the condolences. I really appreciate it and I'm doing a bit better now already.. take care during phase 2! so many cases here and I really hope it doesn't get any worse..

  • @xiaobaby16
    @xiaobaby16 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m so sorry for your loss. My sincere condolences to you and your family. He is in a better place now.
    And just wanted to let you know, you are not alone.. We are here for u.
    Stay strong and take care Steve....

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for the condolences..! Yes I also believe he is in a better place now and hope he's doing all the things he enjoyed before he got sick up there. And thank you thank you so much for saying that you're here for me.. even though you're a stranger and we've never met it really warms my heart to hear that. Thank you.

    • @xiaobaby16
      @xiaobaby16 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries U are welcome Steve. Remember that every good friend was once a stranger😊. Can intro u nice places to eat If one day u happen to come sg again.
      All the best to u in NZ, take gd care of your family and stay safe.

  • @fancykook4388
    @fancykook4388 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    oh gosh, it was so sudden
    deepest condolences steve

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey yeah it's crazy how fast things can get worse when someone's health is so fragile. But at least he left peacefully with my mum beside him.. thank you for the condolences and take care!

  • @meanlianloh1414
    @meanlianloh1414 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dear bro... Yr beloved daddy is NW free fr suffering n relived fr all sickness.... He is NW in his new chapter of lives.... Be strong stay safe n healthy.... Bless upon u n family.... Tc

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for your kind comment! I really appreciate and find comfort in knowing that he is relieved from sickness like you said.. you be healthy and strong too and God Bless!

  • @vkohl3065
    @vkohl3065 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences to you Steve and your lovely family . Life is fragile and we should live laugh and love and spent each day happy and not sweat the small things in life, your dad was happy to see you when you visited NZ for that short visit to spend some precious moments with him . Take care Steve we’re all thinking of you and your family in your loss and praying that time will heal the pain 😪

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for the condolences..!"Life is fragile and we should live laugh and love and spent each day happy and not sweat the small things in life"

  • @yvon6307
    @yvon6307 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences to you and your family. Do take as much time as you need to grief. Your precious Dad knows you love him,.No words are good enough,give yourself time to heal and move on. Death is a certainty,living is a choice. Live well! Live without regrets. Run your race. God bless!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Yvon, thank you for the condolences...! I'm not going to try rush the grieving process and just accept it as part of human experience. I'm sure I'll have ups and downs.. and totally agree with living being a choice..! Live without regrets and going to enjoy my marathon and enjoy the view while I'm at it. God bless and take care during phase 2!!

  • @abrahambowen1453
    @abrahambowen1453 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am so sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
    May The Lord Jesus Shalom Peace upon you and your family during this mourning period.
    Do take care

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hey thank you for the condolences. My dad was a very devout Christian and he actually left while his friends from church were praying for him! Thank you again and I hope you'll stay safe during phase 2. Take care!

  • @lowlaychoo4363
    @lowlaychoo4363 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your mom needs you, really. Be happy, live your dreams. My dad is not well and somehow, I can relate.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you! Yes she's doing better now but I think I should go back to help her out and chase after my dreams.. I'm sorry to hear your dad isn't doing well.. Losing our parents is smth we all must go through and I think it's best to treat them in a way you won't regret later.. hope his illness isn't too serious.. take care..

    • @lowlaychoo4363
      @lowlaychoo4363 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries I feel the same too about our parents. Not something we can avoid. Do our best for them. Thanks.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes that's very true..! We can only do our best so we won't regret later. Hope you're having a good evening!

  • @mingzy
    @mingzy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Deepest condolences. Sorry for your loss.
    Just remember you’re not alone in Sg. Hope you have a calming stay here until you return home.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you so so much for your kind words and condolences..! I don't know how I can show my gratitude for everyone especially in Singapore who have wished me well on this page... With phase 2 coming up I'm sure the rest of my stay will confirm be very calming la..😅 Hope you and your family will stay safe during this time. Have a good weekend and take care!

    • @mingzy
      @mingzy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries yah now very sian, can only dabao or delivery. Your makan bucket list how... do at home mukbang lah. No choice. Hope to see you enjoying all the yummy foods before you move home. Many of my foreign friends also moving home liao , with phase 2 now, suddenly many tightened restrictions, difficult to meet to also, abit sad but wish you all well... stay safe & happy! Now I go watch you eat frog haha... just taste like chicken la , don’t scared...

  • @Ethanolic
    @Ethanolic 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m super sad.. He will be super proud of you as his son. Take care please :/

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope so too 😊 he left peacefully and hope he will look after me too

  • @innerlight10
    @innerlight10 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Deepest condolences for you & your family. Take care!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much for the condolences..! Take care if you stay in Singapore with phase 2 coming up and virus spreading.. thank you so much again!

  • @TheMoshiguide
    @TheMoshiguide 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I m sorry to hear that in deep. The force will be with you.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for your kind words of comfort.. it is really very helpful and much appreciated. Hope you'll stay safe in phase 2! Kinda sucks but at the same time so lucky that we didn't go back to the full cb..take care!

  • @siewchee2361
    @siewchee2361 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest sympathies for your loss. Sharing your video meant a lot as it brought back memories of when I lost my father 7 years ago. The best thing you can do for his memory is to live your life happily and look after your Mom well which is what I am trying hard daily to do. Take good care of yourself and all the best in your future.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for the condolences.. sigh does it ever get easier over time...? I'm sorry to hear about your father..and like you said I guess the best thing I can do is to keep mum healthy and happy till she meets him again. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope you and your mum will stay safe during phase2..! Take care!!

    • @siewchee2361
      @siewchee2361 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      It does get better but you will have good and bad days. Treasure the time you have with your mother. Thanks and stay healthy too, greetings from nova Scotia Canada

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@siewchee2361 Thank you. And I just looked up Nova Scotia and that's so far away from Singapore!! and such a beautiful place too.. take care and be safe..!

  • @maryngshwuling9916
    @maryngshwuling9916 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences 🙏

  • @girlzzang722
    @girlzzang722 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So sorry to hear that..I will pray for your dad

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for your prayers and I'm very sure my dad will be appreciating it a lot as well. Thanks again and take care during phase 2 in Singapore!

  • @beachlifeboy
    @beachlifeboy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh dear, e I’m so sorry. And it’s extra painful due to COVID-19. Thank you for the valuable reminder.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you for your kind words of comfort and yes! not being able to be there because of this stupid virus was so upsetting. Take care!

  • @jeanettelim1688
    @jeanettelim1688 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    OMG, my deepest condolences 💐. Prayers to you and your family. Loss of anyone close is never easy. Do take care Steve ❤️

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Jeanette, thank you for the condolences. It was very difficult but we are all learning to get on with our lives.. after all I'm sure dad wouldn't want us being sad and crying everyday. Thank you and take care too!!🥰

  • @dahmon000
    @dahmon000 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Deepest condolences as well. Just started watching some of your videos. Will definitely miss your videos on SG after you leave Singapore.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Damon thank you for the condolences and watching my videos..! I may not be here but ill continue to post there and hope you'll find it enjoyable 😊

  • @Wayneyeo
    @Wayneyeo 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Condolences to you and your mom, all these are part of life. Take care and move on stronger

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Wayne, thank you for the condolences! And like you said I'm also beginning to learn that all these are part and parcel of life.. Thanks and take care bro!

  • @julianang8088
    @julianang8088 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences! Take care Steve!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Juliana, thank you so much! I really appreciate it. Take care too!

  • @jocelyns4988
    @jocelyns4988 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dear Steve, deepest condolences to you and your family on the passing of your beloved father. Thank you for sharing what has happened the past few weeks. It must have been so difficult to do this, so thank you for making this video. Was worried about how you were coping. The advice “Everyday is important” is so meaningful. I do believe that too. Take care, and all the best for your remaining time in SG and when you return to NZ.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Jocelyn, thank you for the condolences...! I really appreciate it. It was very difficult the first few days especially not being at his funeral but now I'm just grateful and happy that I still managed to visit him few months ago. Sometimes I feel like the day that I wake up to in this able body is something that my dad would have longed for in his last days..so I feel bad kind of wasting it (although I to be honest I often end up wasting a lot of it..) I hope you and your family will stay safe during phase 2! Take care and thank you so much again.

  • @jackiec1175
    @jackiec1175 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So sorry to hear the sad news. Will lift up a prayer for your family. Hope both you & your mother are able to get through this rough time with God's strength. Thanks for your open, honest sharing & hope this helps a bit in your healing. God bless you & your family. Your dad's spirit lives on inside of you, & I'm sure he's in heaven looking down on you free from illness & healthy & whole. 힘내시고 앞으론 좋은일만 있으시길 빌게요. 화이팅!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      아...너무 감사해요!!! 아버지 돌아가실때 교회분들이 오셔서 많이 기도해주셔서 저희가족에게 큰 위로 되었어요. Your dad's spirit lives on inside of you 정말 마음에 와닿는 말이에요 정말 감사합니다! 힘내고 더 열심히 후회없이 살려구요!!!😊

  • @chonglili59
    @chonglili59 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my dear so sad to hear your loss. My deepest condolences.
    Take care and stay safe

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Lilli, thank you for the condolences and kind words of comfort.. if you stay in Singapore, I hope you and your family will stay safe during phase 2! Thanks again and take care😊

    • @chonglili59
      @chonglili59 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries i don’t stay in Singapore even though I am Singaporean. You stay safe and healthy during this lockdown in SG. Even 🇨🇦 is not doing well too.😔

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@chonglili59 Walao so far away from home! take care and I suppose it'll be summer there soon.. hopefully it will be hot enough to remind you of weather back in SG.. take care and be safe!

  • @catherinechiang9364
    @catherinechiang9364 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Steve, Deepest condolences! May his soul Rest In Peace. Take god care young man.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Catherine thank you so much for the condolences. I'm actually doing much better especially with so many people leaving kind comments and I hope my dad is reading this in heaven too. I hope you and your family will stay safe with the nasty new strain of covid going around.. and thank you so much again. I really appreciate it.

    • @catherinechiang9364
      @catherinechiang9364 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries my father passed away when I was overseas too. It was tough. He is in a better place for sure. Stay safe yourself too Steve. If you chance upon Chicago in future, give me a shout out. It’ll be my pleasure to show you around ya.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@catherinechiang9364 Thank you Catherine...! Sounds like things are almost getting back to normal over there. I'm sure you know but we've been hit with spike in local cases and going back to phase 2.. I'm really hoping we don't go back to CB. I've never been to US before but I'll certainly keep you in mind! Thank you so much again and take care!

  • @prettycatmint4514
    @prettycatmint4514 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm very sorry for your loss. Have been looking forward to your next video but not this kind. The end of this video was hard to watch. I lost my Dad to complications from Parkinson's Disease 5 years ago and suffered a personal setback 15 years ago. Time heals all and it really does. Take care of yourself and a big hug from me.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey how have you been? I'm so so sorry to hear what happened to your father... and yes I do agree that time heals all.. thank you so much and hope you'll take good care of yourself and family during this phase 2.. hopefully we won't go into CB again

  • @jamesgohigh26
    @jamesgohigh26 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am sorry to hear your story. My mom passed away more than ten years ago. I cannot agree more that: if something makes me happy, just do it and don’t wait! Cheer up

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey James thank you for your kind comment.. this whole experience just made me think about life and how short it is and like you said we should or try to at least do smth that makes us happy !

  • @unkniwdead3516
    @unkniwdead3516 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Always live life to the fullest. Stay strong and stay healthy. Take care🙏

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes Wendy! Live everyday as if it's last. It's easier said than done but I would like to remind myself a lot about that. Take care Wendy!

  • @hannahtan3203
    @hannahtan3203 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Condolences to you and your fam. Death puts life in perspective and your dad’s wisdom about life to live in the present moment is so precious. Hope you will discover life and its abundance as you begin again!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Hannah thank you so much for saying that. Yeah losing my dad was a big wake up call for me and helped me realise what's important for me in life. Thank you again and wish you all the best too!

  • @wengtang2001
    @wengtang2001 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Our condolences. The love of your dad lasts forever.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you so much for your condolences.. and yes although my dad was super strict growing up and never expressed much looking back there were many moments he showed us love in different ways and I'll cherish them forever.. take care during phase 2 if you stay in Singapore and thank you so much again!

  • @dannysoh9467
    @dannysoh9467 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Deepest condolences to you and your family

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for the condolences Danny. My mum is doing much better now also... have a good weekend bro!

  • @zanntan661
    @zanntan661 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hugs~ Very sorry to hear the passing of your father , Steve stay strong. My deepest condolences to you and your family. He is in a better place now, no more pain. Take gd care of your mum. Wishing you and family well , take good care!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Zann, thank you so much for the condolences. I really appreciate it! And yes he is definitely in a better place now and I'm sure over there he won't be in pain and won't be trapped to a wheelchair.. my mum is doing much better although she was quite emotional when we buried him on Friday. Thank you again and hope you will stay safe during phase 2! Take care!!

  • @yeahwin
    @yeahwin 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm late to this but I hope you and mum are doing better. It's almost been two years since my dad passed on and I'm still not over it. Take good care, Steve ❤

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Mazuin. I really appreciate you saying that and hope you're doing better over time though... I think all we can do is to remember our dads and live a life they would be happy to see until we meet one day again.

  • @wyattearp88
    @wyattearp88 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    what a sad news , my condolences, u still need to take care mum

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Jayce, thank you for the condolences..! my sis will be leaving NZ soon so I'll be the one taking care of her now.. Really hoping we don't go into CB in the last few weeks of my time in Sg for now..take care and stay safe and healthy!!

  • @Prankzterstarr
    @Prankzterstarr 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    take care steve! it's true that we take so many things for granted!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you so much for your warm words of comfort. Yes we always take things for granted until we realise we'll lose them.. take care during phase 2 in singapore and thank you again.

  • @Richard1855
    @Richard1855 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Steve, don’t be too hard yourself, as I believe things happen for a reason. You have been a son that many parents would have been proud to have. Your Dad till his last days was still thinking of you and spared you the pain in seeing him go. I know from my own experience that my Mum passed and I was in a different city in Australia. You will get over your Dad’s passing and will cherish the wonderful memories of him. Take care and I will be keeping an eye out of how you are travelling via your upcoming videos.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Richard, just want to let you know that I really appreciate your comment. Thank you. Losing our parents is something that everyone must go through yet I was so not prepared for it... I hope you're doing alright too and thanks again for your kind support bro.

  • @marieg2g
    @marieg2g 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hugs! Sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family. At least, you have visited your father the last time. Go ahead and cry if you miss him. It is alright to cry and moan for him. But take care and spend time with your mother when you are back home.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Marie! Hope you have been well. Thank you so much for the condolences and like you said I'm so happy that I at least got to visit him recently. Yah I have cried at times but sometimes feel really guilty for getting on with my life as if nothing's happened... you take care too during phase 2 and hope you and your family will stay safe! Thanks again! Really appreciate it.

    • @marieg2g
      @marieg2g 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries I am well, thank you. Hope you are well too. We have to get on with life as this is part and parcel of life. You are strong to get on with life so do not feel guilty as u r doing the right thing. But remember to video call your mother often and talk to her. She will be affected more than u as she took care of your father 24x7. Be strong for your mother and give her a virtual shoulder to cry on. Take care and till you are back to be with her. I guess for these few weeks, you have nothing much to do as our government has tightened our movement to stop the spread. God bless.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@marieg2g Thank you! I think mum is feeling sad and lost but at the same time a bit relieved with some freedom in her life now. Yes.. looks like my last few weeks in Singapore will be spent in my home..haha.. take care and be safe!!

  • @karencheong8805
    @karencheong8805 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    OMG. This is unexpected news to me. My condolences to you and your family. I know what's your feelings right now because I was went through this too. Please stay strong and take care of yourself.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey Karen how have you been?! Thank you for the condolences.. it's been difficult but sometimes I feel very guilty about living my daily life as if nothing had happened.. I guess this is just normal part of the grieving process. But how are you? hope everything is alright over there and that you and your family are doing well!

    • @karencheong8805
      @karencheong8805 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiaries I am fine here. I just quite shock to hear about your father's passing because it's remind about my both parents passing away. So, I quite understand what you been through. I know it's very hard for you as now you decided go back for take care of your mother. That's good. I also having hard time as I was seen doctor during that time for my depression. But don't worry about me. I am totally recovered. That's why I hope that you can able take care of yourself. So that your father won't worry about you.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@karencheong8805 That's good to hear you're doing ok..! I figured the same and realised that my dad would actually want me to take care of myself and move on with life while he watches.. Thank you and take care and be safe..!

  • @nraidahh
    @nraidahh 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    noooo, i hope you'll find peace in his passing and remember all the good times you had with your dad however far you may have been while growing up. take care and take as much time as you need to heal.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey how have you been? thank you for such a kind comment..😊I hope you're doing alright! Looks like there's more and more cases of covid everyday... stay safe during phase 2 and take good care!

  • @chongkokwoei4371
    @chongkokwoei4371 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Steve, sorry to hear about this piece of news. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Stay strong and wish that everything will get well for you soon. Your dad now in a better place.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey thank you so much for the condolences...! I'm doing much better now especially with everyone leaving such kind and warm comments. I also think he's in a better place without pain and suffering especially with him being a devout Christian. Hope you and your family will stay safe during phase 2! Take care😊

  • @faiththong1984
    @faiththong1984 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sorry to hear that . Stay strong

  • @Komedia12
    @Komedia12 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Steve, I'm sorry for your loss. 🙏

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for the kind words.. really appreciate it. I hope you and your family will stay safe in these times. Take care.

    • @Komedia12
      @Komedia12 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      No worries Steve.
      Thank you as well. (We are trying our best, ...)
      Hugs.
      -alex

  • @MrZipher20
    @MrZipher20 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Appreciate your sharing 💖 Take care and stay strong.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you! We are doing better now especially now that I'm back in NZ 😊

  • @Dan-nb7zq
    @Dan-nb7zq 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dear Steve, My deepest condolences to you and your family, please take care

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey, thank you so much for the condolences. Wish you and your family will be safe with the virus coming back in singapore and take care!

    • @Dan-nb7zq
      @Dan-nb7zq 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      My dad passed on late December last year due to pneumonia. I have one elder Sister and younger sister and only son in the family I understand how you feel. I knew your channel in the episode when you returned to Singapore from New Zealand. I will support your channel. Keep up the good work Steve!

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Dan-nb7zq Hey I'm sorry to hear that bro... Until my dad passed away, I didn't know that so many elderlies passed away from pneumonia... thank you for your support, I really appreciate it and take good care bro! Local cases going up a lot..

    • @Dan-nb7zq
      @Dan-nb7zq 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Reddot Diaries Hey brother, you too take care, stay safe and healthy! GOD Bless You!

  • @babych3r
    @babych3r 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi. Just so happen to stumble across this video. I’ve lost my dad a few months back and I understand how it feels to lose someone during the pandemic and not being able to be there immediately as I’m also living in a different city :/ it’s going to be difficult but it gets better as time passes by. All the good and bad times you have spent with him will always be remembered. Take care :)

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey thank you for leaving such a kind comment! And I really hope that you're doing better now.. for me lots of regrets for things I did and didn't do for him. Like you said I believe it will be difficult but things will get better and hope one day I can look back at good and bad memories and smile. Thank you and take care!!

    • @babych3r
      @babych3r 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ReddotDiariesyou will! I'm sure where ever he is, he would want you to be happy and not feel regret over the things you could have done. Remember to keep living the life he would want you to have. Cry it out whenever you feel like it. It's okay not be okay. I hope being back home with your family will make it less difficult for you. :)

  • @HM-ri2wx
    @HM-ri2wx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi! My father passed away 9 years ago, he was also suffering from pneumonia.. I understand how you are feeling. My deepest condolences, hugs.. Pls take care.

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi! Thank you for the condolences.. and I'm sorry to hear about your father also.. I have been getting better over the last few weeks and believe he's in a better place 😊 you take care too and thank you!!

  • @yqmelody
    @yqmelody 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My deepest condolences to you and your family.. Please take care

    • @ReddotDiaries
      @ReddotDiaries  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey how have you been? and thank you for the condolences.. take care during phase 2 and stay safe☺️