Joy is yelling at the top of his lungs and his dad is more interested in keeping the peace than challenging his wife’s sense of entitlement to ignore Joy’s boundaries. Joy is still grieving his mom even though dad has decided to move on from his dead wife and mother of their son. You’re dropping the ball dad.
I'm a stepmother, and you don't interfere in your spouse's kids. I left it to him, and I certainly didn't go in their rooms to do anything. Cleaning their room, etc, was up to them, I'd just shut their door. Richa is the one who vandalized the school.
My husband passed away when my children were 5 and 6. I never thought of bringing in another man over them for reasons such as this. They are grown now. So now I've started dating.
I did have a boyfriend but they never moved in or stayed at my house when my children stayed with their dad then I would spend the weekend with my boyfriend, but I was home before they got home.
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I'm about half way through the story and all I can say is the new wife is the problem. You CAN NOT force yourself on a child especially one who's suffered the tragedy of losing his mother. She is overstepping and dad needs to wake up and be there for his son. Ugh parents Edit: : I knew it. I knew it I knew it. Gold diggers looking for a simp. And daddy O is such a dumbass he would push his son away for a scank. Men are do simple when you involve nookie twash. Ugh. I hope he and his son can find their way back to each other for the sake of the child.
Richa needs to stop trying to be his buddy. She needs to give him his privacy. Her throwing away his personal stuff thinking that she is helping is just damaging the relationship they could have eventually. She's trying way too hard way too fast. As far as the dad goes he needs to tell her to lay off. Joy may have overreacted but he is a teenager. And he felt like she invaded his privacy.
Geez, this dad had no problem just shipping his son off because his son didn't like how intrusive, manipulative, and overbearing his new wife was behaving. She wanted the son out of the way and she got her way. OP wasn't thinking with the hear on his shoulders.
This is why I think single parents should wait until their kids are older enough to take care of themselves, it's better to be alone than letting a monster inside your house with them there, we know you want someone to date but think with your brain and not your parts for once, you never know the person you're going to let come inside your house, they can be an angel or they can be a wolf in sheep's clothing
14:58 this is exactly one of those stories where the child cuts the parent off and then they ask on Reddit again "why is my son doing this to me". At that point you don't even deserve your son's attention. You didn't wait for the CCT camera footage that would approve to everything and you believed a person you have only been with for maybe 2 years over someone you've been with several years. If he doesn't talk to you then that's a you problem and if he never talks to you again well you only have yourself to blame for that.
As soon as the spray paint stuff happened I knew it was her. And way to go dad. You really needed your son now he hates you and he'll remember this for the rest of his life. Be prepared for the shittiest nursing home in the near future
SHAME on YOU for choosing your wife over your son! Don't you dare call yourself a parent, much less a father! Hugs to your son. I hope your son never speaks to you again. I hope the person he marries someday has a family that lives him unconditionally. I hope he has a fabulous life without you in it.
Anyone who has raised a teen knows his behavior is normal. Teens are more interested in their friends than their parents. Also, boys, especially pre teen & teens, NEED privacy. Who wants someone barging in during personal private activities! Send the step mom out for boarding, not the son.
Wow... this poor kid... at least the dad made sure the boarding school had clubs and classes that might interest him and/or help him develop skills he has... but this poor kid...
Having worked at a military school in my much younger years, I can honestly say very view of the kids are their by choice. They are horny / moody teenagers and the parents don't won't to have to deal with them.
@@superdave8248 military school is VERY different from a standard boarding school!!! I've known students from both and the experience, as well as the students who attend, are VERY different people!!!
Another parent thinking with their private parts INSTEAD of parenting 💯❗‼️🤦🏽🤦🏽♀️ this is a gold diggers mo to get rid of stepchild🙎🏽🙎🏽♀️ gaslight and bully then get kid sent off somewhere 🙆🏿♀️ this one made me cry, so sad doing that baby like THAT 💯❗‼️
OP, your son made one request. Keep your wife out of his room. For some reason, she had an issue with that. That's not normal. You may want to write him a letter on how weak and blind you were to everything. Let him know he may never forgive you, but remind him you are human and all make mistakes. He will one day make a mistake and need to be forgiven. Mail the letter to him.
It was 2 years or a little over 2 years, but he moved on before his kid had properly processed a grief.. I'm so sick of these men thinking with their second head
@@claudeyaz oh I missed that part thank you love but yeah I agree , he’s an angry teenager who wasn’t able to process his moms death properly ! Just for the father to throw some women on him after what like 2 months I think smh 🤦🏾♀️ Then she comes in and tries to change things right away it’s so messed up
This isn't a father nor dad.....Joy would be better off if he was in foster care then he is with a man that can't go with a woman for a year at least.. ...OP makes me sick...
I stopped this at 12:00 because I smell a rat! Teenage boys would write something rude about a stepmother, but NEVER on the wall of a school!! Me thinks stepmom is the one who wrote it and she is the problem!! I love being right! Never throw your kids out over a mate!! Learned a huge lesson there!
Why does Richa think he isn’t going to give her guff over chores. And she messed with his stuff. She needs to apologize her reaction was so childish. She needs to be punished. I assure him she doesn’t have the best intentions.
Half way through, no camera proof? I betthestep mother painted that to set him up and get rid of him. Shes been pushing boarding school almost from day one. Also not respecting his boundaries she is gaslighting and manipulating the situation.
What teenage boy who builds computers would ever be stupid enough to spray paint graffiti that would so directly point to him? That was an obvious setup.
What an idiot. All he needed to do was work less and be at home more to spend time with his son, but instead he gave all the responsibility of looking after him to someone they barely knew. A therapist might also have helped. The son is right to defend his boundaries. OP is so impatient with his son. If he wants to be trusted again, he needs to show him that he is trustworthy for months or years. That means care. Which is work, that OP avoided to do in the first place.
No fault divorce? This was totally ALL the stepmother's fault. She FRAMED her stepson and convinced OP to send his son to boarding school for a crime he didn't commit. She didn't respect the stepson's boundaries. Not only did she have to pay for breaking the camera and vandalizing school property, but I would have sued her for defamation of character and emotional distress. Yes, I agree that OP is suffering for jumping the gun and losing his son's trust, but I think the stepmother should suffer even worse.
This husband is being Manipulated by his new wife. Over & over again she invades the son’s space & throws away Needed parts for the computer he’s working on. I would have blown up too. The dad grounding his son for being mad at what his wife did is Outrageous!
Ah... a second wife following the path of the psycho. OP made such a big mistake: He should have sent Joy to a military school... Just think through how that would end....
The poor kid. This is one of the rare times where I’m not on the OP’s side at all. He ruined the his relationship. If his son never forgives him I can’t even blame him. The kid even said to wait for the cctv footage and to wait for the police to finish the investigation. He couldn’t even give his son that, which is the bare minimum.
My husband and I are being married for more than 27 years. Either one of us has a space in our apartment, the other one would not dare to touch. Everyone needs some private place, especially teenagers. That woman is crossing so many borders she has being told about, I can feel the son's frustration only by listening to this story. And his father equally doesn't care about his son's feelings. They shouldn't be too surprised about the son going lc or even nc. Heard the rest of the story now and OP finally came to his senses. He can only hope, it wasn't too late to repair the relationship to his son. Edit: After having listened to the rest.
“She would not even fight for the house she would just leave” why would she be entitled to anything they’ve been married a whole 5 minutes come on dad wake up!
OP should accept the fact that he chose his lying wife over his son and CCTV footage. His son will leave him alone once he graduates high school and goes off to college and gets married. If he has children, he'll never take them to visit their grandpa, he'll just say that his parents both died after he graduated high school.
Youre an fool op... you had your son first! She has no experience with kids...teenagers are not the age for a woman to start practicing being a mother! Listen to your child and back him once in a while.,any women would say she's fine with a man's child if she really wants to marry the man! This boy lost his mom and this woman is nuts treating him that way! Hope he doesnt do something to himself .., he'll hate you if you send him!!! Hope his dead mom cant see any of this..,heartbreaking! I'd run away fast! Poor kid!
This dad seems to be a good dad with some sense. Not choosing her side no matter what, seeing both sides and trying to be fair. Obviously this is the opposite of dad …I haven’t even finished the whole video but obviously the stepmom vandalized the school 🙄🙄
Honestly the bit with CCTV footage made me think it's a made up story. Footage isn't usually stored in the camera but in a computer the whole CCTV system is hooked up to. So damaging the camera wouldn't make it difficult to retrieve it.
You let her try to bully your son into accepting her as a full mother, going so far as to not accepting his boundaries. You knew she kept going into his room unwanted, that should have been his safe space and you took that away from him. Those fights didn't have to happen if she'd stayed out of his room. She wasn't his mother or his guardian. She never adopted him. She was just 'his father's wife'. Then you did nothing while she threw out his things, slandered his name and reputation and got him sent to boarding school. Of course he's going to write you off. You did it to him first.
I'm in the father is the worst crowd on this. Does nothing except for punish the victim- surprised things don't work out well for him. The father is so desperate to have a partner he trashes his relationship with his son. What a horrible human the father is- yes the stepMom is horrible too but it's the seeming kindness of the father that makes him a worse human.
Step mother has absolutely no respect for OPs kid. I wouldn't be surprised if the step mother wrote the graffiti on the school. Theres something not right with her given the lack of respect for boundaries, blaming the kid, subtle manipulation of OP and suggesting he sends his son away.
I new from the beginning she was behind it she deliberately provoked him by going in his room. She wanted him out the picture and you were stupid enough to listen to her. Your son comes first maybe counselling will help. I hope you forgives you for your sake..
I am not halfway through this and I am seeing so many red flags. This woman acts more like a bratty teen than a grown woman. Edit 2: Rica is the AH. No one has the right to force themselves in your life or make you like them Edit 4. If this woman was my stepmother, I would want to go to boarding school to get away from her and if possible spend the entire sunner at summer camp
I'm only halfway through the story and I don't like to step mom and I think she set him up and I guess I'm going to finish watching the video to see what happens
First rule of being a single parent. Don't get into a relationship unless the kid(s) are on board with it. And to be fair, it is hell being the third wheel in raising a child. Although her actions are good intentioned, he likely views her actions as trying to replace those of his "real" dead mother. At the nine minute mark, I just had to stop. This father is trying to force a square peg in a round hole. His best option here is to keep the relationship on the slow burner. Him and the new woman simply need to wait to get seriously involved (live together) only once the kid is out of the house. But honestly, the father is ignoring one thing. Kiddo is still morning his mother. And a number of his actions are to keep her memory alive. Not even two minutes into this story I came to that conclusion. The father is dense as hell, is only focused on his needs (domestic chores and sex - call it what it is) and not taking anybody else's needs into consideration.
The dad is a piece of trash. Can’t trust his son whom seems pretty chill. Even from the father’s point of view the kid seems pretty chill compared to the woman.
Wow... and I thought my Bio "Dad" (more a donor than anything else but I digress) was terrible but this guy belongs on a top ten list for the worst fathers ever. At least My bio "Dad" had the decency to leave the day I was born so I never had to deal with him. But this dishonorable scum bag abandoned and turned his back on his son simply because his new wife asked him to. And this poor kid is goin to have to live with that memory and spend his life coping with the fact that his Dad valued him so little. Yet another reason I thank my lucky stars that I never have nor ever will meet my sperm donor. There is nothing in this world that is worse than a self proclaimed "father that doesn't properly care for their kids.
I'm sorry, but please tell me that the OP/Dad of his son, is Mispronouncing His son's name (as it could be J O E Y, and He NEVER EVER Named his SON a Girly name being JOY) Since with OP keeping calling HIS SON JOY?? i thought JOY was the VERY FEMININE name of the OP's GIRLFRIEND??!!! Because if the OP is calling his SON a FEMALE NAME, the SON has WAY more problems to deal with other than Not just his step mom NOT RESPECTING The Son's RIGHT to have Privacy in HIS OWN BEDROOM!!!!
So, I've just gotten to the part where you think your son did the writing on the wall, and he said that he didn't. Is your son stupid? I think that I would believe him. Her name is very uncommon, and I don't think he would be stupid enough to write that if it was actually him. I would take a look at his friends or his enemies or your wife. Why do you guys keep asking the same question? If you want to know who you can trust and who's telling the truth, put up cameras with audio in your home. Think op think!
Nah, OP can go to hell. The son must never ever forgive or trust that SOB father, same with that crappy school that expelled him then wanted him back. Once you expel an innocent student because of false criminal act, you would never get that student back. You can retract the expelling, but no innocent student that was expelled due to false criminal act claim would ever want to go back to a crappy school who have zero brain...
Joy is yelling at the top of his lungs and his dad is more interested in keeping the peace than challenging his wife’s sense of entitlement to ignore Joy’s boundaries. Joy is still grieving his mom even though dad has decided to move on from his dead wife and mother of their son. You’re dropping the ball dad.
The sons right, he did tell him, the dad is a horrible father
I'm a stepmother, and you don't interfere in your spouse's kids. I left it to him, and I certainly didn't go in their rooms to do anything. Cleaning their room, etc, was up to them, I'd just shut their door. Richa is the one who vandalized the school.
Title should be: How to be an insensitive and clueless dad
What a horrible dad
She needs to leave that boy alone
And stay out of his room
What a father, she wants dad to herself. That poor boy.
In the way that the dad says oh he's constantly challenging her, instead of saying that she is constantly being intrusive
Why did he get into a relationship..when his kid was still not recovered.. wtf
This is a hard one ..what if the son NEVER got over it? Should OP stay single his whole life?
If someone wants me to choose between them and my children my children will win hands down.
My husband passed away when my children were 5 and 6. I never thought of bringing in another man over them for reasons such as this. They are grown now. So now I've started dating.
I did have a boyfriend but they never moved in or stayed at my house when my children stayed with their dad then I would spend the weekend with my boyfriend, but I was home before they got home.
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Children first!🫧
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I have seen examples where if worked out great too
So it differces from case to case I guess
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I'm about half way through the story and all I can say is the new wife is the problem. You CAN NOT force yourself on a child especially one who's suffered the tragedy of losing his mother. She is overstepping and dad needs to wake up and be there for his son. Ugh parents
Edit: : I knew it. I knew it I knew it. Gold diggers looking for a simp. And daddy O is such a dumbass he would push his son away for a scank. Men are do simple when you involve nookie twash. Ugh. I hope he and his son can find their way back to each other for the sake of the child.
Stepmom (on paper only) here, and I completely agree. His kids, HIS problem. If his kids wanted to get to know me, they can... IF THEY WANT.
Richa needs to stop trying to be his buddy. She needs to give him his privacy. Her throwing away his personal stuff thinking that she is helping is just damaging the relationship they could have eventually. She's trying way too hard way too fast. As far as the dad goes he needs to tell her to lay off. Joy may have overreacted but he is a teenager. And he felt like she invaded his privacy.
Op, you've didn't make a mistake. You've made a disaster. You chose that gold digger over your own child. You've failed miserably.
Just tell her to leave your son alone. Very simple. Shes a control freak. Probably does the same thing to the husband.
Geez, this dad had no problem just shipping his son off because his son didn't like how intrusive, manipulative, and overbearing his new wife was behaving. She wanted the son out of the way and she got her way. OP wasn't thinking with the hear on his shoulders.
Would this constant intrusive behavior be ok if it were a stepdad invading stepdaughter's personal space and going through her things?
Mom would have already called the police as soon as baby girl said the words "... he was going through my things".
Trust is so hard to gain & yet so easy to loose.
Wow... OP keeps picking his side piece (I mean wife) over his SON. And he wonders why his son has an attitude?! Did OP fall off the cabbage truck?
Ofc Joy is devastated first his MOM DIES then the only parent he has left abandons him this makes me sad
This is why I think single parents should wait until their kids are older enough to take care of themselves, it's better to be alone than letting a monster inside your house with them there, we know you want someone to date but think with your brain and not your parts for once, you never know the person you're going to let come inside your house, they can be an angel or they can be a wolf in sheep's clothing
Right? That's why I stayed single until my children were grown. I didn't want them to go through this shit.😊❤
@@lauraaustin5378 You're smart, I wish my dad was like you :')
14:58 this is exactly one of those stories where the child cuts the parent off and then they ask on Reddit again "why is my son doing this to me". At that point you don't even deserve your son's attention. You didn't wait for the CCT camera footage that would approve to everything and you believed a person you have only been with for maybe 2 years over someone you've been with several years. If he doesn't talk to you then that's a you problem and if he never talks to you again well you only have yourself to blame for that.
Richa vandalized the school
Exactly I haven’t seen the whole video 🤦🏾♀️
As soon as the spray paint stuff happened I knew it was her. And way to go dad. You really needed your son now he hates you and he'll remember this for the rest of his life. Be prepared for the shittiest nursing home in the near future
I've been there Aunts threw out a $1000.00 check that I hadn't deposited. I told them not to touch my stuff. I understand the son.
I agree with the son, she's being too pushy. She should have given him time
SHAME on YOU for choosing your wife over your son! Don't you dare call yourself a parent, much less a father! Hugs to your son. I hope your son never speaks to you again. I hope the person he marries someday has a family that lives him unconditionally. I hope he has a fabulous life without you in it.
Well she "always wanted to be a homemaker," means she was waiting for the correct mark..diggin for gold
Anyone who has raised a teen knows his behavior is normal. Teens are more interested in their friends than their parents. Also, boys, especially pre teen & teens, NEED privacy. Who wants someone barging in during personal private activities! Send the step mom out for boarding, not the son.
The wife sound horrible. She a control freak. Over steping the boundaries.
I got divorced when my son was 4 and didn't bring another woman around because of being afraid of this. He's grown now and I date now.
There is screwing up. And then there is destroying your child. He will never truly trust you again.
Wow... this poor kid... at least the dad made sure the boarding school had clubs and classes that might interest him and/or help him develop skills he has... but this poor kid...
OP jumped the gun. There's no denying it. And I don't blame the boy for losing all faith in his father.
Having worked at a military school in my much younger years, I can honestly say very view of the kids are their by choice. They are horny / moody teenagers and the parents don't won't to have to deal with them.
@@superdave8248 military school is VERY different from a standard boarding school!!! I've known students from both and the experience, as well as the students who attend, are VERY different people!!!
Another parent thinking with their private parts INSTEAD of parenting 💯❗‼️🤦🏽🤦🏽♀️ this is a gold diggers mo to get rid of stepchild🙎🏽🙎🏽♀️ gaslight and bully then get kid sent off somewhere 🙆🏿♀️ this one made me cry, so sad doing that baby like THAT 💯❗‼️
I never understand this thought process. What kind of parent chooses dick/pussy over their kid.
Called it! The stepmom being the culprit!😅
OP, your son made one request. Keep your wife out of his room. For some reason, she had an issue with that. That's not normal. You may want to write him a letter on how weak and blind you were to everything. Let him know he may never forgive you, but remind him you are human and all make mistakes. He will one day make a mistake and need to be forgiven. Mail the letter to him.
I would never choose a man over your children
the boy is a normal teenager just need to give him his privacy.
His mom died not less than a yr ago wtf is wrong with him?! & the father needs to grow a back bone smh 🤦🏾♀️
It was 2 years or a little over 2 years, but he moved on before his kid had properly processed a grief.. I'm so sick of these men thinking with their second head
@@claudeyaz oh I missed that part thank you love but yeah I agree , he’s an angry teenager who wasn’t able to process his moms death properly ! Just for the father to throw some women on him after what like 2 months I think smh 🤦🏾♀️ Then she comes in and tries to change things right away it’s so messed up
This isn't a father nor dad.....Joy would be better off if he was in foster care then he is with a man that can't go with a woman for a year at least..
...OP makes me sick...
op just lost his son
I honestly wonder if anyone mentioned "DO NOT SEND YOUR KID TO A BOARDING SCHOOL OR YOU MAY GET SCAMMED BY A TTI PROGRAM THAT WILL ABUSE HIM".
Before the story moveds any further 12:04, the second wife set Joy up, and wanted Joy gone.
Yeah sorry to the Dad but you lost your son. Yeah you finally got your truth but you lost your son for good.
I would if someone kept walking in on my personal space. No way to be friends.
Love always blinds people to the monster within.
I stopped this at 12:00 because I smell a rat! Teenage boys would write something rude about a stepmother, but NEVER on the wall of a school!! Me thinks stepmom is the one who wrote it and she is the problem!!
I love being right! Never throw your kids out over a mate!! Learned a huge lesson there!
She need to stay out his room and respect him and his things
She’s trying to get a rise out of him. She knew he would react this way. Bad dad all around.
Why does Richa think he isn’t going to give her guff over chores. And she messed with his stuff. She needs to apologize her reaction was so childish. She needs to be punished. I assure him she doesn’t have the best intentions.
Half way through, no camera proof? I betthestep mother painted that to set him up and get rid of him. Shes been pushing boarding school almost from day one. Also not respecting his boundaries she is gaslighting and manipulating the situation.
What teenage boy who builds computers would ever be stupid enough to spray paint graffiti that would so directly point to him? That was an obvious setup.
What an idiot. All he needed to do was work less and be at home more to spend time with his son, but instead he gave all the responsibility of looking after him to someone they barely knew. A therapist might also have helped. The son is right to defend his boundaries. OP is so impatient with his son. If he wants to be trusted again, he needs to show him that he is trustworthy for months or years. That means care. Which is work, that OP avoided to do in the first place.
No fault divorce? This was totally ALL the stepmother's fault. She FRAMED her stepson and convinced OP to send his son to boarding school for a crime he didn't commit. She didn't respect the stepson's boundaries. Not only did she have to pay for breaking the camera and vandalizing school property, but I would have sued her for defamation of character and emotional distress.
Yes, I agree that OP is suffering for jumping the gun and losing his son's trust, but I think the stepmother should suffer even worse.
This husband is being Manipulated by his new wife. Over & over again she invades the son’s space & throws away Needed parts for the computer he’s working on. I would have blown up too. The dad grounding his son for being mad at what his wife did is Outrageous!
Ah... a second wife following the path of the psycho. OP made such a big mistake: He should have sent Joy to a military school... Just think through how that would end....
The poor kid. This is one of the rare times where I’m not on the OP’s side at all.
He ruined the his relationship. If his son never forgives him I can’t even blame him.
The kid even said to wait for the cctv footage and to wait for the police to finish the investigation. He couldn’t even give his son that, which is the bare minimum.
She had no right to touch his personal things..
She's need counseling
Wow, what a horrible woman! She set up her step-son in order to get rid of him! And the dad bought it!
My husband and I are being married for more than 27 years. Either one of us has a space in our apartment, the other one would not dare to touch. Everyone needs some private place, especially teenagers. That woman is crossing so many borders she has being told about, I can feel the son's frustration only by listening to this story. And his father equally doesn't care about his son's feelings. They shouldn't be too surprised about the son going lc or even nc.
Heard the rest of the story now and OP finally came to his senses. He can only hope, it wasn't too late to repair the relationship to his son.
Edit: After having listened to the rest.
I dont like op so far and the step mom is overstepping boundaries left and right
Step-mom needs to get a life!
“She would not even fight for the house she would just leave” why would she be entitled to anything they’ve been married a whole 5 minutes come on dad wake up!
Joy or Joey?
I knew it was too obvious for the son to be the culprit. No one is so stupid to put the name of their enemy , that they get identified easily
OP should accept the fact that he chose his lying wife over his son and CCTV footage. His son will leave him alone once he graduates high school and goes off to college and gets married. If he has children, he'll never take them to visit their grandpa, he'll just say that his parents both died after he graduated high school.
16:07 that cow !!! She the worst poor Joy ❤❤
19:53 you made your bed.. now it’s night night time
Youre an fool op... you had your son first! She has no experience with kids...teenagers are not the age for a woman to start practicing being a mother! Listen to your child and back him once in a while.,any women would say she's fine with a man's child if she really wants to marry the man! This boy lost his mom and this woman is nuts treating him that way! Hope he doesnt do something to himself .., he'll hate you if you send him!!! Hope his dead mom cant see any of this..,heartbreaking! I'd run away fast! Poor kid!
I hope the father a long lonely life, Son a have a happy life leave him when you become 18 and never look back❤❤❤
This dad seems to be a good dad with some sense. Not choosing her side no matter what, seeing both sides and trying to be fair. Obviously this is the opposite of dad …I haven’t even finished the whole video but obviously the stepmom vandalized the school 🙄🙄
This dad makes me so angry,
I bet the step mother is the one that did the graffiti.
Ok dad, if this is what you want then know that this will be the LAST time we ever speak
Honestly the bit with CCTV footage made me think it's a made up story. Footage isn't usually stored in the camera but in a computer the whole CCTV system is hooked up to. So damaging the camera wouldn't make it difficult to retrieve it.
You let her try to bully your son into accepting her as a full mother, going so far as to not accepting his boundaries. You knew she kept going into his room unwanted, that should have been his safe space and you took that away from him. Those fights didn't have to happen if she'd stayed out of his room. She wasn't his mother or his guardian. She never adopted him. She was just 'his father's wife'. Then you did nothing while she threw out his things, slandered his name and reputation and got him sent to boarding school. Of course he's going to write you off. You did it to him first.
HE’S A TEENAGER. WHAT DOES SHE EXPECT
I'm in the father is the worst crowd on this. Does nothing except for punish the victim- surprised things don't work out well for him. The father is so desperate to have a partner he trashes his relationship with his son. What a horrible human the father is- yes the stepMom is horrible too but it's the seeming kindness of the father that makes him a worse human.
Step mother has absolutely no respect for OPs kid. I wouldn't be surprised if the step mother wrote the graffiti on the school. Theres something not right with her given the lack of respect for boundaries, blaming the kid, subtle manipulation of OP and suggesting he sends his son away.
If I ever have children and my partner passes away I will not date until they are in college.😊
Clueless dad
Op should have got counseling for his son
Is the step mom touching him?
Idk but are likely snooping
The little head was doing all the thinking for the big head, you were tired of sleeping alone and threw your vulnerable so to the sharks.
can ya say the dad is being manipulated by the new wife.
Father of the year. Your son did nothing wrong. You made him wrong
I new from the beginning she was behind it she deliberately provoked him by going in his room. She wanted him out the picture and you were stupid enough to listen to her. Your son comes first maybe counselling will help. I hope you forgives you for your sake..
6:16 This is getting creepy.
Op your son wouldn’t be dumb enough to make it so obvious if he did it🥺
I am not halfway through this and I am seeing so many red flags.
This woman acts more like a bratty teen than a grown woman.
Edit 2: Rica is the AH. No one has the right to force themselves in your life or make you like them
Edit 4. If this woman was my stepmother, I would want to go to boarding school to get away from her and if possible spend the entire sunner at summer camp
!!! How can you pick your new wife over your own child !!!!! Your rotten Op
I'm only halfway through the story and I don't like to step mom and I think she set him up and I guess I'm going to finish watching the video to see what happens
First rule of being a single parent. Don't get into a relationship unless the kid(s) are on board with it.
And to be fair, it is hell being the third wheel in raising a child. Although her actions are good intentioned, he likely views her actions as trying to replace those of his "real" dead mother.
At the nine minute mark, I just had to stop. This father is trying to force a square peg in a round hole. His best option here is to keep the relationship on the slow burner. Him and the new woman simply need to wait to get seriously involved (live together) only once the kid is out of the house.
But honestly, the father is ignoring one thing. Kiddo is still morning his mother. And a number of his actions are to keep her memory alive. Not even two minutes into this story I came to that conclusion. The father is dense as hell, is only focused on his needs (domestic chores and sex - call it what it is) and not taking anybody else's needs into consideration.
The dad is a piece of trash. Can’t trust his son whom seems pretty chill. Even from the father’s point of view the kid seems pretty chill compared to the woman.
Wow... and I thought my Bio "Dad" (more a donor than anything else but I digress) was terrible but this guy belongs on a top ten list for the worst fathers ever. At least My bio "Dad" had the decency to leave the day I was born so I never had to deal with him. But this dishonorable scum bag abandoned and turned his back on his son simply because his new wife asked him to. And this poor kid is goin to have to live with that memory and spend his life coping with the fact that his Dad valued him so little. Yet another reason I thank my lucky stars that I never have nor ever will meet my sperm donor. There is nothing in this world that is worse than a self proclaimed "father that doesn't properly care for their kids.
I'm sorry, but please tell me that the OP/Dad of his son, is Mispronouncing His son's name (as it could be J O E Y, and He NEVER EVER Named his SON a Girly name being JOY) Since with OP keeping calling HIS SON JOY?? i thought JOY was the VERY FEMININE name of the OP's GIRLFRIEND??!!! Because if the OP is calling his SON a FEMALE NAME, the SON has WAY more problems to deal with other than Not just his step mom NOT RESPECTING The Son's RIGHT to have Privacy in HIS OWN BEDROOM!!!!
what a simp and beta father!!!
Dad was an idiot.
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So, I've just gotten to the part where you think your son did the writing on the wall, and he said that he didn't. Is your son stupid? I think that I would believe him. Her name is very uncommon, and I don't think he would be stupid enough to write that if it was actually him. I would take a look at his friends or his enemies or your wife. Why do you guys keep asking the same question? If you want to know who you can trust and who's telling the truth, put up cameras with audio in your home. Think op think!
Op made a mistake, hopefully OP and his son can work this out.
Nah, OP can go to hell. The son must never ever forgive or trust that SOB father, same with that crappy school that expelled him then wanted him back. Once you expel an innocent student because of false criminal act, you would never get that student back. You can retract the expelling, but no innocent student that was expelled due to false criminal act claim would ever want to go back to a crappy school who have zero brain...