I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. Childhood trauma and loneliness can be incredibly challenging. Remember that there are people who care, and seeking support, whether from friends, family, or a professional, can make a difference. You're not alone in this journey.
1) you don’t enjoy the things you used to 2:00 2) you are too afraid to take chances anymore 2:44 3) you find it hard to be optimistic 3:21 4) you find it hard to connect with people 3:52 5) you feel misunderstood by everyone 4:16 6) your trauma still defines a lot of your life 4:54
@@thymajasty1637You can check out 5:33 for some suggestions. I'm not an expert, below are just my personal suggestions. There are sources you can read more to understand trauma and how to recover from them. If need be, please seek further advice from a qualified professional. Hope you'll feel better soon! 🫶
Y’know the “feeling like no one really understands you” is probably the most accurate for almost everyone, and that is just sad because we don’t get eachother cuz everyone has a lot of mental struggles inside to take the strength of carrying others, there are people brave and assertive enough, but the fact that the majority in this world is who needs much help without any sort of strength left in them is what is shattering for our social mindset
I am severely hurt and lonely. I have been this way for over 14 years now. Now my body is starting to react to it. I have tried everything. Therapy, counseling, many coping strategies, hobbies, traveling, meditation, and much more. Now I find myself numb.
this phenomenon is coming globally, you are not alone, the reason behind it is money greed has reached to new heights and a financial system or monetary system correction is needed. the truth is you are not alone because of trauma etc instead because of lack of money and hence lack of power or lack of luxury. people employer, friends, wife, girlfriend or almost every body around you , is measuring you in terms of money and hence only socializing according to your worth in money. it's awful and it's happening globally.
In my history, save for a few freak circumstances, all my trauma was unintentionally self inflicted. I overstepped boundaries with so many people without realizing it and recieved the worst kind of pushback. The harsh words, the scathing final farewells, the "i would rather do this than be around you" last words that cut insanely deep. And I've carried that burden for the last 12 years of my life. That's why I'm so lonely right now. Because I'm afraid, scared out of my mind even, to take a chance with anyone or anything because of the fear of failure. That fear has controlled me for so damned long. Even with being in therapy for a year and a half at this point, I feel like I'm not really sure what to really do to put myself back on track. The worst part is I have no choice but to do this alone outside of therapy. All my loved ones have seemingly abandoned me. Man, trauma friggin sucks....
Summary person is missing so I guess it's my turn: 1. You don't enjoy the things you used to 2. You're too afraid to take chances anymore 3. You find it hard to be optimistic 4. You find it hard to connect with people 5. You feel misunderstood by anyone 6. Your trauma still defines a lot of your life
I feel 6/6 of these lately. Like for a few months now that I begun trying to opening up myself. Often struggle to even do eye contact just to avoid interaction and making acquaintances. Just hope I will get through it and finally be able to socialize more this year.
I can see how I fit into many things mentioned here. Less because of war or the likes but rather because of my problematic childhood and difficulties with my father. Luckily I found help recently and try to _overwrite_ bad events with good ones.
It’s a fundamental problem in my life not just a temporary state. It was just the other day that I learned another part of why I always feel broken, unlovable, and lonely. As an adult, I’ve always understood that my mother not being able to hold me or take care of me in any way immediately after my birth meant that we never formed the natural connection between mother and child. But I hadn’t taken that understanding far enough. I realized recently that I felt rejected, lonely, unlovable, and probably terrified. It’s no wonder that I cried a lot. That’s always been used as an indictment of me by my mother, but it should have been an indictment of the situation instead. She had someone take care of me during the day, but when Dad wasn’t home at night there wasn’t anyone reliably there for me. I’m sure others who were separated from their parent(s) after birth deal with some feelings of rejection. I hope they had someone to fully support them after the separation.
Trauma has robbed me any semblance of a normal life. I stay inside and dint leave the house much. I have no idea how to interact with ppl. I can't hold down jobs.
I'm sorry to hear that trauma has had such a profound impact on your life. It's important to prioritize your well-being. Seeking support from professionals or connecting with others who may have experienced similar challenges could be helpful and you don't have to face this alone. Have you considered seeking for help?
2022 was the best year of my life. 2023 was the worst. Nothing but loses, no wins. Lost my girlfriend, lost my first dog, my karate school closed down nowhere to train, my band broke up, my friends group split, and I feel lonely all the time. I was alone a lot in my life but I haven't felt lonely like this since high school 15 years ago.
So sorry to hear 2023 was the worst year. I hope things will slowly pick up for you in 2024. There is a saying that kept in my heart to this day. I figured to share this with you: Life is a roller coaster, full of twists, turns, ups, and downs. Remember, just as the coaster rises after a fall, you have the strength to rise again. Every twist is an opportunity to learn, grow, and discover your resilience. Cherish the ride, savor the exhilarating highs, and navigate the lows with the knowledge that brighter days are ahead. You are the master of your journey, and with each revolution, you are sculpting a story uniquely yours.
Just wanted to give some feedback for the subtitles, I preferred it when they didn't animate with a fade-in. It's quite distracting when your main content is simplistic still images a lot of the time, and i feel like you're reading text with 50% opacity constantly as when the word is said it's still fading in. Thank you for the great videos
I always feel misunderstood by everyone still. Because I’m just so different 😢 And sometimes I don’t take chances with people who I think will hurt me I don’t trust any of my loved ones of my problems cause they won’t understand. I’m an INFJ and yesterday I met another INFJ in this big world 😊 I was so happy and it’s one of my school teachers and I was able to connect with her better than most of my friends
I didn’t realize I had trauma until recently. When I heard of people who were traumatized there were 3 examples: war vets , people who were abused , and people with bad parents. Then one day I looked at my actions and they did not make sense to me so I did a little looking and I found out people that did not get attention from their parents and peers when they were younger could be traumatized. Then I found out people with autism tend to have unresolved trauma with social situations. Then I found out that people who struggle with the guilt of accidentally hurting people struggle witn trauma. Then I looked at my behavior. I would always take the blame for everything , I rarely could talk to anyone without the fear of scaring them away , I always would do anything to keep someone on my side , and I would just randomly start crying anytime I thought about the past. It’s strange how trauma forms. Honestly I think it can be practically anything if you don’t have support and happiness in your life. However that’s coming from someone without the fundamental human skill of social understanding.
It's really hard. Trying to deal with this without therapy. I can somewhat control it but at times feel lost and without a sense of direction. Especially the last few months have been challenging.
Sorry to hear that! I know it can be difficult and intimidating to reach out for help. It sounds like the last few months have been extremely challenging. Do you have any close support system you can reach out for help initially?
@Psych2go I have a close friend, which I speak with, and he's told me in the past to seek therapy...I'm sure why I feel the way I do and can't seem to snap out of it is due to the trauma I suffered as a child and even into my teens.
I love y'alls videos, they calm me down when i'm sad I feel normal and accepted :) but they don't change the fact my mind is rlly full, but it's fine, I rlly like it still
The dumbest thing i feel right now is what the heck is my trauma? And the trauma I feel like i went through wouldnt be considered trauma by everyone else so i just feel stupid feeling this way
I feel like the reason im lonely because I’m so depressed and suicidal that I stay away from the people I love the most. I also overdose so then I act different then lose other people… I also have really bad trust issues so I can’t be completely honest with people so then I lose even more.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. It's important to reach out for support, whether it's from friends, family, or a mental health professional. You don't have to face these challenges alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help. Do you have anyone in your support system you trust to talk about it?
@@Psych2go No, not really. I think the people I trust the most are my friends but they don’t really help. They also have mental health issues so I have to be there for them without venting.
@@Psych2goI'm going through alot rn since kindergarten, my parents dont take me to mental health professionals or doctors to diagnose me with mental illnesses (but I do feel like I do have it like anxiety, depression, c-ptsd, maybe more) and no im not self-diagnosing myself, it's just that I've done alot of research about myself and alot of signs and symptoms really do describe me who I am. My heart feels like a burden, constant mood state of sadness, though I do have the motivation and effort to change my life, I can't do it......😢
I've been feeling like this a lot for over a year now, even with prescribed medications and recently therapy sessions from a psychologist. It really sucks. I don't even know why I keep going anymore.
I definitely have experience with most of these points, but didn't realise it until this video, so thanks 👍🏻. I've been struggling a lot recently and have actually been hiding away from the world, so I can just get a bit of breathing space. However, due to past trauma, I really don't want to go back into society, for fear of my trust being broken or being overwhelmed with other people's worries. I'm glad to say that I still do have hope in my future, but my trauma has a stronger hold.😔😊💙🤗
I'm definitely struggling with my trauma and as a result of It I have isolated and kept to myself due to the pain that I feel... Currently in therapy, but healing is worth it. But it's a very hard and painful process at the same time. And even uncomfortable which I know is normal but it's still hard at times
Not all people who have trauma shut down their feelings and stop hanging out with people. There are some people who have trauma who are so desperate to connect with others that they become too emotionally attached to other people. People with trauma can also be too trusting of others. I know someone who’s like this in real life, and also collector my favorite character from the owl house had trauma. He got betrayed by his siblings and belos but collector didn’t shut down he still opened his heart and he was still naive and trusting of others he trusted king and thought king would never betray him even though his other friends did. Collector is so desperate to have a friend that will love him and connect with him that he always trusts people too easily that end up abandoning him, betraying and lying to him.
Loneliness is a huge part in my life, after all, there were quite a few people who discarded me from one day for another. Now, whenever I feel lonely, it manifest in the form of unbearable coldness, enough to instill shivers in high summer and that is the form of coldness that is the most potent and never gets better, it gets worse in fact.
I am also experiencing this trauma from my primary school. My teacher used to verbally abuse me. I don't had friends. I changed my school in high school but i never abled to form friendly relationships with any teachers. Now I'm finally completed my high school months ago with deep loneliness and i wish to never see my teachers' and classmates' faces ever in my life.
Another likely sign is the feeling of safety whenever you're alone, I won't diagnose myself, but I've felt most of these before so I think I have some room to talk about it. That feeling whenever you believe its all over, yet the only safe place you can find is by yourself nowadays, that sense of disturbance whenever someone pulls you out of that trance, even if they're a family member wanting to check in or ask you something. The most damning part about trauma induced loneliness is whenever your brain craves nothing but solitude.
Been watching for over a year now and love your content, it's helped quite a bit. I wanted to see if maybe you could make a video on debunking people's fears of therapy and acquiring help?
This channel and the people who manage it are the greatest in the internet, considering how many other anyhow popular people behave. Thank you, uhhh whiever you may be
A good friend just told me they hate me and blocked me because i’ve been forgetting or ignoring their texts. I don’t know if its trauma that causes me to isolate but I always do this and it always ends the same way. I feel like i’ve manipulated and emotionally abused this person without even realising i’m doing it and i feel terrible and guilty for letting this happen again. I’m glad i found this video and others like it which makes me want to seek help and hopefully avoid this toxic pattern in the future so i don’t hurt anyone again.
I have had trauma throughout my life and it's broken me down into a shell of a person. I haven't even been able to work in almost 10 years. My support is null and when I try to get help it's denied or too expensive.
Thank you for reminding me that it’s just temporary. Idk how i ended up isolated myself since i lost my bf but it’s been 5 months now. Last time he said to me was ‘don’t let traumas get in ur way and let people love u’. That time I didn’t get it bc i didn’t want to forget him til i’ve watched the end of ur video, it is the only way to get me out of this suffering loop and still keep him in my heart.
This video basically describes me, my childhood trauma from school, which to this point of my life has never been resolved. Effects me every day of my life, everything this video talks about i can very much relate too, my trauma comes from a not happy school life at all i wont go into detail, but unfortunally it happend also during my puberty years so it has shaped my personality. I have anxiety problems, social anxiety also included, life in isloation becouse of that, not friends, never had a girlf friend or anything close to that in my life. I'm feeling constantly lonely and depressed. But after walking around with for over 20 years or so, and also since the loss of one of my parrents that shook me to my core and kinda woke me up. I have finally started to seek help for my trauma. I don't know what type or when my therapy begins, waiting time/que time, and also being redirected to the best organisation that can help me, becouse i also have ASD so i have to find a specialist also in that autisme field. But all i know is that the therapy will begin somewhere this year, and i'm also aware it will be a long tough road, but i want to change and want to feel beter mentally, make friends, perhaps if possible even meet a partner and not be scared an anxious anymore 24/7. I just hope, there is still hope for a bright future for a older person like me, i'll become 37 in a few weeks from now, and i do not know how many years of therapy it will take for me to get healthy mentally again.
@@Psych2go they always do very much, just your narration voice alone makes me listen. I’m on the spectrum and have anxiety, polyneuropathy and sensory integration disorder from birth. I hate doctors and I’m very stubborn and rejective. This is something I can let get close, always. Even just the interesting ones that I don’t completely relate with. And I’ll get the plushly some day 🤭 lots of love from Hamburg in Germany ❤️
@@Psych2gofor real though, thx. It’s a pretty good substitute for therapy as much as sitting in a room when some else with the same problem has a session. The sitting room, listening, relating. No diagnosis, but most of us have it anyway. This is free help oder at least free relaxation of the mind for a while and something to reflect about. I have free healthcare, but I still have to wait another six months (many have passed) for the center for autism to examine me extensively and regular therapy with just talking takes up to six months, you call them and get put on a list. Then you call each week to stay on it. Then I reject 9/10 doctors that I hate immediately 😢😂❤
I have all these signs. I never got closure. I’ve lived all my life with trauma. It’s always in relationships that trauma my love for things… I hope I can heal. This is why I can’t trust or even be loved by others. But I love others and help them.
Having an alcoholic, agressive father i had to grow up very quickly...talking about relationships or trusting to people? Something like that does not exist for me. But was seems to be most painful is that when i was young looking at my father i knew that he was the person that i do not want to become..he served to me as anti rolemodel. I told myself if i had my own family i would never to such a harm to them. Now i am 35, feel alone and still single. I feel like i cant prove that i would be a better father and husband...i am not able to have an relationship because i always feel like i am not good enough for women. Not nice enough etc.. But i also think that its hard for me to love somebody. I just do not feel this emotion at all. I lost it somewhere...maybe somebody relates to my comment. What i want to say is just maybe we should try to live as good as possible despite all traumas we carry and then one day we will regred nothing 🙂
I WISH I could reach out to a therapist, but my (very emotionally abusive) mom is VERY against it, and I can't see one while I am forced to live with her. I have been going through a REALLY fucking hard time lately (hence why I'm back at this channel, it cheers me up and validates me, even calls me out and shifts my perspective sometimes, lol), been very depressed, stressed, anxious, and EXTREMELY suicidal, and I REALLY think I need to see a therapist (and quit my job that is partially responsible for all I'm feeling, but mom won't let me, ;A;), but I can't. It sucks. T__T This video is very sweet and good, though, and BOY, do I feel a lot of this! I LOVE being alone, just naturally, but espec lately, espec with my bro, my rock, moving out soon, I'm feeling REALLY lonely! X'D
Maybe I don't know my own self, I can feel most of these. Maybe it is my own fault that I can no longer connect with people because of the past with bullying and felt nothing now. I do want others to succeed and to fullfill unlike myself. I do know others feel the same as what I had in life, yet I want others to be better than myself. Maybe I'm just drunk, since I just drank, but have a great day everyone. I know you will succeed.
been watching y'all for years now, i was 14 when i first stumbled upon you guys, now im 18. Thanks a lot, the quote & conclusion at the end helped, thanks psych2go team for providing a voice & helping through. Much Love
I used to be so naive, thinking that people are always ready to be by my side and never disappear the same way I behave myself, being loyal and trustful. In the end, even those the most important ones to me tend to swoosh away, some just see me as a third wheel, and some of them disappear with no point to get in contact with. This definitely tought me how this life is. But those moments of letting go the people I value the most affected my subconsciousness if I may say so, leaving those mental wounds that one is unable to heal but only take care of, developed a high level of distrust and cautiousness towards humanity (including how our modern world collapses). I do wanna be loved, I know how to use my own pros and cons. But the more I experience people, the more I prefer my loneliness. I really don't want to experience that feeling of despair again.
We're here when you need them. I hope everything's ok for you! I hope it's ok to ask. Is there a reasons why you haven't watched our videos in a long time?
I've always wandered why I'm misunderstood by others, and that why do i feel that others are misunderstanding me, no wonder it was the childhood trauma I've been through. yes, i go through everything mentioned but the way trauma tells about me..is emotional burstouts, i really get them very often, and my heart feels heavy, I don't know what to do about it :(
I had a trauma when I played at my friend's house in 2006. At that time my mother and brother were beaten by my father, I was the only one who wasn't beaten. I wish I was there. But if I was there, what could I have done to stop it? When that incident happened I was only five years old, the trauma still haunts me. I feel very guilty
I cannot disagree that suffering is temporary. Life also is. So people choose the easy way out. You either die earlier or live long enough to see yourself become stone hearted. I started teraphy. I take prescripted drugs and in the end I'm still standing in the same place where I was in the beginning. So what's the point of all of that? I don't care what others would think when am gone. They put me in this position in the first place.
HEY GOOD EVENING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO CHECK ON EVERYONE, I HAVE TO SAY I CAN RELATE TO THIS TOPIC, SLEEP WELL MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY 💯🙏💙💪🙈🙉🙊
I think I checked off all 6 of these signs, though I can’t remember any particular past trauma. Maybe getting picked on as a kid caused me to be closed off to most people and the few people I did call friends always ended up moving away. That could be why I’ve built up this barrier around myself. Most people are not going to be kind to me so I distrust them and the ones who will be kind are just going to leave me anyway, or something like that. I don’t know, I don’t pretend to understand what’s going on inside my head.
>reach out to a mental health expert Yeah too bad I both live in the US, and don't have any and can't afford health insurance. Guess I'm shit outta luck lol 🙃
Government provided healthcare isn't all it's worked up to be. I moved from the US to the UK almost 10 years ago, and have been trashed by the system here. The worst thing is when I reached out to get help recovering from an abusive relationship, I really didn't get any support and have had to go private. Also, the support for people with autism and other mental problems is terrible. It can take 2-5 years to be tested for autism, and then the only local support is from private groups that have been started up by people with autism.
+Psych2GoTv *As an autist whom the school systems o' the late-20th-Century United States failed due to immature resources, I haven't experience wi' the following symptoms o' trauma:* 1:59 *1. Lack of Historical Enjoyment* 2:42 *2. Fear of Chance* 3:19 *3. Lack of Optimism* 3:51 *4. Connective Difficulty* 4:15 *5. Universal misunderstanding* 4:51 *6. Trauma as Life Definition* However, due to internal, unconscious mental and emotional blocks pathognomonic of Kanner's, I never developed senses of/for emotional essentials in relationships. In fact, having YET to experience a Guiding Relationship as defined by Steven E. Gutstein Ph.D., I've YET to develop enjoyment, optimism, and connection as results of mind guidance.
My older brother committed suicide in 2019. My best friend died of leukemia in 2022. I'm now in college and I feel so lonely. I long to have someone to be with me. A friend, a girlfriend i don't care. Just some one who cares. But I don't know how to or bring myself to meeting new people.
(Not really one to dump stuff like this but i honestly wanna know peoples thoughts cuz this has me going mentally insane) ive had 3 therapists in all the first fucked me up more, the second was my sisters old therapist that she was done with as they did the work they needed and she healed. so i started seeing her for about 3 years until i wanted a break to see how id do, but my mom came in and started seeing her. I thought oh well she needs it (she really did and does) so i started seeing the last one after a while, realizing i still couldnt shake all that negativity. She saw me for abt a year before i wanted another break, seeing if after all those years i would be ok. Well newsflash im not and ive been having a lot of very dark thoughts recently, with no hope they ever stop. Now my 2 little sisters are seeing both of them. I think its good bc they also need them in my op and they seem to be helping them a lot. But now i dont know where to go or who to go to. what do i do? I dont wanna have these thoughts anymore, their honestly hurting my soul. i told my mom and she threatened me with the hospital i find it kind of funny even tho i know i shouldnt
U know what? I'm gonna tell you something that happens to me. My personal problems for me are big deal , but whenever I want to explain something that I feel I'm never able to explain what does it feel when I'm depressed. But for past experiences trying to explain myself for what I feel I get a negative response and invalidating my opinion to a point where now I just feel that anything that goes into my mind and hurts me and it's a problem I just won't say anything to anyone because I'm afraid of getting a response that what I think or feel is stupid.
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i have childhood trauma, no friends in school (social anxiety) and im invisible to my classmates. loneliness is painful as hell.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. Childhood trauma and loneliness can be incredibly challenging. Remember that there are people who care, and seeking support, whether from friends, family, or a professional, can make a difference. You're not alone in this journey.
I'm going through the same thing so please remember you are not alone
I have this as well but I feel like it’s also connected to the fact that I was a child of a hoarder.
@@wherethequietbeingsgo im so sorry to hear that :(
Same; let’s be friends make a club of, “The Loners”
1) you don’t enjoy the things you used to 2:00
2) you are too afraid to take chances anymore 2:44
3) you find it hard to be optimistic 3:21
4) you find it hard to connect with people 3:52
5) you feel misunderstood by everyone 4:16
6) your trauma still defines a lot of your life 4:54
All of the above. Fantastic.
What do u do when it all applies to u….
Welp this is me
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@@thymajasty1637You can check out 5:33 for some suggestions.
I'm not an expert, below are just my personal suggestions. There are sources you can read more to understand trauma and how to recover from them. If need be, please seek further advice from a qualified professional.
Hope you'll feel better soon! 🫶
Nah I feel so called out everytime I get a notification from your channel 😭
🥺I hope you can become more self-aware and reach out if you need help
It's sad and funny at the same time 😅
Wish you the best!
Y’know the “feeling like no one really understands you” is probably the most accurate for almost everyone, and that is just sad because we don’t get eachother cuz everyone has a lot of mental struggles inside to take the strength of carrying others, there are people brave and assertive enough, but the fact that the majority in this world is who needs much help without any sort of strength left in them is what is shattering for our social mindset
I am severely hurt and lonely. I have been this way for over 14 years now. Now my body is starting to react to it. I have tried everything. Therapy, counseling, many coping strategies, hobbies, traveling, meditation, and much more. Now I find myself numb.
Have buddy have you heard of 5-MEO-DMT? Have a look into it :)
Sending well wishes. I can relate deeply to your experience.
@@tododia7701 Thanks a lot. Hopefully it changes soon. 🙏🏽
this phenomenon is coming globally, you are not alone, the reason behind it is money greed has reached to new heights and a financial system or monetary system correction is needed. the truth is you are not alone because of trauma etc instead because of lack of money and hence lack of power or lack of luxury.
people employer, friends, wife, girlfriend or almost every body around you , is measuring you in terms of money and hence only socializing according to your worth in money. it's awful and it's happening globally.
@@param888 That is true. The world is so money focused and not human focus. It sucks.
Having a horrible night, but this really helps. Thank you so much for being here, even if it's indirect.
Is everything ok? I hope everything will get better for you!
Idk you but we’re both here. I love you ❤ be safe!!
@@Psych2go I'll be okay, I promise
Hope you’re doing better 😊
In my history, save for a few freak circumstances, all my trauma was unintentionally self inflicted. I overstepped boundaries with so many people without realizing it and recieved the worst kind of pushback. The harsh words, the scathing final farewells, the "i would rather do this than be around you" last words that cut insanely deep. And I've carried that burden for the last 12 years of my life. That's why I'm so lonely right now. Because I'm afraid, scared out of my mind even, to take a chance with anyone or anything because of the fear of failure. That fear has controlled me for so damned long. Even with being in therapy for a year and a half at this point, I feel like I'm not really sure what to really do to put myself back on track. The worst part is I have no choice but to do this alone outside of therapy. All my loved ones have seemingly abandoned me.
Man, trauma friggin sucks....
Summary person is missing so I guess it's my turn:
1. You don't enjoy the things you used to
2. You're too afraid to take chances anymore
3. You find it hard to be optimistic
4. You find it hard to connect with people
5. You feel misunderstood by anyone
6. Your trauma still defines a lot of your life
I think they went on vacation LOL
Been feeling a bit like this lately. You uploaded this video at like the perfect time. Thank you so much for this. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
You are so welcome! We're here for you whenever you need. Stay strong!
I feel 6/6 of these lately. Like for a few months now that I begun trying to opening up myself. Often struggle to even do eye contact just to avoid interaction and making acquaintances. Just hope I will get through it and finally be able to socialize more this year.
Yeah same, I'm still struggling with myself to open up...
But if we don't give up and try to improve ourselves I'm sure we can do it :)
H.O.P.E. = Hold On, Pain Ends. :)
Yes, when you die.
It only ends with your final breath 😔
This is so true especially trust issues and feeling misunderstood thankyou ❤️😊
I can see how I fit into many things mentioned here.
Less because of war or the likes but rather because of my problematic childhood and difficulties with my father.
Luckily I found help recently and try to _overwrite_ bad events with good ones.
It’s a fundamental problem in my life not just a temporary state. It was just the other day that I learned another part of why I always feel broken, unlovable, and lonely. As an adult, I’ve always understood that my mother not being able to hold me or take care of me in any way immediately after my birth meant that we never formed the natural connection between mother and child. But I hadn’t taken that understanding far enough. I realized recently that I felt rejected, lonely, unlovable, and probably terrified. It’s no wonder that I cried a lot. That’s always been used as an indictment of me by my mother, but it should have been an indictment of the situation instead. She had someone take care of me during the day, but when Dad wasn’t home at night there wasn’t anyone reliably there for me. I’m sure others who were separated from their parent(s) after birth deal with some feelings of rejection. I hope they had someone to fully support them after the separation.
Trauma has robbed me any semblance of a normal life. I stay inside and dint leave the house much. I have no idea how to interact with ppl. I can't hold down jobs.
I'm sorry to hear that trauma has had such a profound impact on your life. It's important to prioritize your well-being. Seeking support from professionals or connecting with others who may have experienced similar challenges could be helpful and you don't have to face this alone. Have you considered seeking for help?
2022 was the best year of my life. 2023 was the worst. Nothing but loses, no wins. Lost my girlfriend, lost my first dog, my karate school closed down nowhere to train, my band broke up, my friends group split, and I feel lonely all the time. I was alone a lot in my life but I haven't felt lonely like this since high school 15 years ago.
So sorry to hear 2023 was the worst year. I hope things will slowly pick up for you in 2024. There is a saying that kept in my heart to this day. I figured to share this with you: Life is a roller coaster, full of twists, turns, ups, and downs. Remember, just as the coaster rises after a fall, you have the strength to rise again. Every twist is an opportunity to learn, grow, and discover your resilience. Cherish the ride, savor the exhilarating highs, and navigate the lows with the knowledge that brighter days are ahead. You are the master of your journey, and with each revolution, you are sculpting a story uniquely yours.
@@Psych2goWell said. Everyday is TRULY a winding road like Sheryl Crow sang about. ❤
Just wanted to give some feedback for the subtitles, I preferred it when they didn't animate with a fade-in. It's quite distracting when your main content is simplistic still images a lot of the time, and i feel like you're reading text with 50% opacity constantly as when the word is said it's still fading in.
Thank you for the great videos
I always feel misunderstood by everyone still. Because I’m just so different 😢
And sometimes I don’t take chances with people who I think will hurt me
I don’t trust any of my loved ones of my problems cause they won’t understand. I’m an INFJ and yesterday I met another INFJ in this big world 😊 I was so happy and it’s one of my school teachers and I was able to connect with her better than most of my friends
Shalom and namaste
Ouch...I gotta get outta this place...so that I can step towards healing.
Thank you for the encouragement.
I was just searching up how to make friends a sec ago and I checked my youtube notifs and this is what it is. Wow I really do feel lonley.
I didn’t realize I had trauma until recently. When I heard of people who were traumatized there were 3 examples: war vets , people who were abused , and people with bad parents. Then one day I looked at my actions and they did not make sense to me so I did a little looking and I found out people that did not get attention from their parents and peers when they were younger could be traumatized. Then I found out people with autism tend to have unresolved trauma with social situations. Then I found out that people who struggle with the guilt of accidentally hurting people struggle witn trauma. Then I looked at my behavior. I would always take the blame for everything , I rarely could talk to anyone without the fear of scaring them away , I always would do anything to keep someone on my side , and I would just randomly start crying anytime I thought about the past. It’s strange how trauma forms. Honestly I think it can be practically anything if you don’t have support and happiness in your life. However that’s coming from someone without the fundamental human skill of social understanding.
It's really hard. Trying to deal with this without therapy. I can somewhat control it but at times feel lost and without a sense of direction. Especially the last few months have been challenging.
Sorry to hear that! I know it can be difficult and intimidating to reach out for help. It sounds like the last few months have been extremely challenging. Do you have any close support system you can reach out for help initially?
@Psych2go I have a close friend, which I speak with, and he's told me in the past to seek therapy...I'm sure why I feel the way I do and can't seem to snap out of it is due to the trauma I suffered as a child and even into my teens.
I love y'alls videos, they calm me down when i'm sad
I feel normal and accepted :)
but they don't change the fact my mind is rlly full, but it's fine, I rlly like it still
We're here for you. Thanks for your support!
The dumbest thing i feel right now is what the heck is my trauma? And the trauma I feel like i went through wouldnt be considered trauma by everyone else so i just feel stupid feeling this way
I feel like the reason im lonely because I’m so depressed and suicidal that I stay away from the people I love the most. I also overdose so then I act different then lose other people…
I also have really bad trust issues so I can’t be completely honest with people so then I lose even more.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. It's important to reach out for support, whether it's from friends, family, or a mental health professional. You don't have to face these challenges alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help. Do you have anyone in your support system you trust to talk about it?
@@Psych2go No, not really. I think the people I trust the most are my friends but they don’t really help. They also have mental health issues so I have to be there for them without venting.
@@Psych2goI'm going through alot rn since kindergarten, my parents dont take me to mental health professionals or doctors to diagnose me with mental illnesses (but I do feel like I do have it like anxiety, depression, c-ptsd, maybe more) and no im not self-diagnosing myself, it's just that I've done alot of research about myself and alot of signs and symptoms really do describe me who I am. My heart feels like a burden, constant mood state of sadness, though I do have the motivation and effort to change my life, I can't do it......😢
I've been feeling like this a lot for over a year now, even with prescribed medications and recently therapy sessions from a psychologist. It really sucks. I don't even know why I keep going anymore.
I definitely have experience with most of these points, but didn't realise it until this video, so thanks 👍🏻.
I've been struggling a lot recently and have actually been hiding away from the world, so I can just get a bit of breathing space. However, due to past trauma, I really don't want to go back into society, for fear of my trust being broken or being overwhelmed with other people's worries.
I'm glad to say that I still do have hope in my future, but my trauma has a stronger hold.😔😊💙🤗
I'm definitely struggling with my trauma and as a result of It I have isolated and kept to myself due to the pain that I feel... Currently in therapy, but healing is worth it. But it's a very hard and painful process at the same time. And even uncomfortable which I know is normal but it's still hard at times
Your voice made me fall asleep,in a good way u sounded so pleasant i took a quick nap ☺️
Not all people who have trauma shut down their feelings and stop hanging out with people. There are some people who have trauma who are so desperate to connect with others that they become too emotionally attached to other people. People with trauma can also be too trusting of others. I know someone who’s like this in real life, and also collector my favorite character from the owl house had trauma. He got betrayed by his siblings and belos but collector didn’t shut down he still opened his heart and he was still naive and trusting of others he trusted king and thought king would never betray him even though his other friends did. Collector is so desperate to have a friend that will love him and connect with him that he always trusts people too easily that end up abandoning him, betraying and lying to him.
Unearthing The Trauma Under Loneliness Is Essential But VERY Difficult...😥..... It Makes Sense That Trauma Repeats Like This🥺
Very relatable. Wish healing was easier. I e had lots of therapy but still stuck in this, most of the 6 points.
Loneliness is a huge part in my life, after all, there were quite a few people who discarded me from one day for another. Now, whenever I feel lonely, it manifest in the form of unbearable coldness, enough to instill shivers in high summer and that is the form of coldness that is the most potent and never gets better, it gets worse in fact.
Getting older made me notice these signs more often or made them
worse.
Thank you for this 💜🙏🏻🫶🏻
You're very welcome! If there are any topics you'd like to learn more about. Do let us know!
Every time I think its going to be different, but no, I still check all these boxes and life still keeps throwing these things at us. c'est la vie
Honestly, this woman’s voice alone makes me feel better.
I am also experiencing this trauma from my primary school. My teacher used to verbally abuse me. I don't had friends. I changed my school in high school but i never abled to form friendly relationships with any teachers. Now I'm finally completed my high school months ago with deep loneliness and i wish to never see my teachers' and classmates' faces ever in my life.
Another likely sign is the feeling of safety whenever you're alone, I won't diagnose myself, but I've felt most of these before so I think I have some room to talk about it. That feeling whenever you believe its all over, yet the only safe place you can find is by yourself nowadays, that sense of disturbance whenever someone pulls you out of that trance, even if they're a family member wanting to check in or ask you something. The most damning part about trauma induced loneliness is whenever your brain craves nothing but solitude.
Been watching for over a year now and love your content, it's helped quite a bit. I wanted to see if maybe you could make a video on debunking people's fears of therapy and acquiring help?
"If you want to talk about something new, you have to make up a new kind of language."
Haruki Murakami
This channel and the people who manage it are the greatest in the internet, considering how many other anyhow popular people behave. Thank you, uhhh whiever you may be
A good friend just told me they hate me and blocked me because i’ve been forgetting or ignoring their texts. I don’t know if its trauma that causes me to isolate but I always do this and it always ends the same way. I feel like i’ve manipulated and emotionally abused this person without even realising i’m doing it and i feel terrible and guilty for letting this happen again.
I’m glad i found this video and others like it which makes me want to seek help and hopefully avoid this toxic pattern in the future so i don’t hurt anyone again.
Man I cried through out this video, very therapeutic,
It's interesting how much I relate to this list given most people wouldn't consider what I have to be trauma
I have had trauma throughout my life and it's broken me down into a shell of a person. I haven't even been able to work in almost 10 years. My support is null and when I try to get help it's denied or too expensive.
Thank you for reminding me that it’s just temporary. Idk how i ended up isolated myself since i lost my bf but it’s been 5 months now. Last time he said to me was ‘don’t let traumas get in ur way and let people love u’. That time I didn’t get it bc i didn’t want to forget him til i’ve watched the end of ur video, it is the only way to get me out of this suffering loop and still keep him in my heart.
Without listening, the answer is absolutely.
This is too relatable 😢
Your voice is damn soothing yrrr❤️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🕊️🫂🫂🫂🫂♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for sharing us these details in my childhood I've felt that type of trauma but I'm improving myself every single time 😁😎
Great information for anyone person going through this epic and brutal life!
Every word of this video is like somone understands me.....its just so relatable for me
True 👍thanks
This video basically describes me, my childhood trauma from school, which to this point of my life has never been resolved. Effects me every day of my life, everything this video talks about i can very much relate too, my trauma comes from a not happy school life at all i wont go into detail, but unfortunally it happend also during my puberty years so it has shaped my personality. I have anxiety problems, social anxiety also included, life in isloation becouse of that, not friends, never had a girlf friend or anything close to that in my life. I'm feeling constantly lonely and depressed. But after walking around with for over 20 years or so, and also since the loss of one of my parrents that shook me to my core and kinda woke me up. I have finally started to seek help for my trauma. I don't know what type or when my therapy begins, waiting time/que time, and also being redirected to the best organisation that can help me, becouse i also have ASD so i have to find a specialist also in that autisme field. But all i know is that the therapy will begin somewhere this year, and i'm also aware it will be a long tough road, but i want to change and want to feel beter mentally, make friends, perhaps if possible even meet a partner and not be scared an anxious anymore 24/7. I just hope, there is still hope for a bright future for a older person like me, i'll become 37 in a few weeks from now, and i do not know how many years of therapy it will take for me to get healthy mentally again.
Crying realising I can resonate with all of them 😭😭😭
Yeah thanks for the help. I didn't realize how painful this was to admit.
Can these please stop being so relatable
Why does childhood trauma surfaces during teenage and 20s?
Checks out 😢
Hope this video helps you. Which point resonated with you the most?
@@Psych2go they always do very much, just your narration voice alone makes me listen. I’m on the spectrum and have anxiety, polyneuropathy and sensory integration disorder from birth. I hate doctors and I’m very stubborn and rejective. This is something I can let get close, always. Even just the interesting ones that I don’t completely relate with. And I’ll get the plushly some day 🤭 lots of love from Hamburg in Germany ❤️
@@Psych2gofor real though, thx. It’s a pretty good substitute for therapy as much as sitting in a room when some else with the same problem has a session. The sitting room, listening, relating. No diagnosis, but most of us have it anyway. This is free help oder at least free relaxation of the mind for a while and something to reflect about.
I have free healthcare, but I still have to wait another six months (many have passed) for the center for autism to examine me extensively and regular therapy with just talking takes up to six months, you call them and get put on a list. Then you call each week to stay on it. Then I reject 9/10 doctors that I hate immediately 😢😂❤
I've been alone my whole adult life. I'm 58 this weekend, so this isn't going to change.
But my loved ones are making me suffering more and more .....its just hurt so much that i want to run away.....
I have all these signs. I never got closure. I’ve lived all my life with trauma. It’s always in relationships that trauma my love for things…
I hope I can heal. This is why I can’t trust or even be loved by others. But I love others and help them.
VERY informative video.
Really identified and put into words a lot of things I see in myself, but didn’t understand.
Very helpful and insightful!
Having an alcoholic, agressive father i had to grow up very quickly...talking about relationships or trusting to people? Something like that does not exist for me. But was seems to be most painful is that when i was young looking at my father i knew that he was the person that i do not want to become..he served to me as anti rolemodel. I told myself if i had my own family i would never to such a harm to them. Now i am 35, feel alone and still single. I feel like i cant prove that i would be a better father and husband...i am not able to have an relationship because i always feel like i am not good enough for women. Not nice enough etc.. But i also think that its hard for me to love somebody. I just do not feel this emotion at all. I lost it somewhere...maybe somebody relates to my comment. What i want to say is just maybe we should try to live as good as possible despite all traumas we carry and then one day we will regred nothing 🙂
I WISH I could reach out to a therapist, but my (very emotionally abusive) mom is VERY against it, and I can't see one while I am forced to live with her. I have been going through a REALLY fucking hard time lately (hence why I'm back at this channel, it cheers me up and validates me, even calls me out and shifts my perspective sometimes, lol), been very depressed, stressed, anxious, and EXTREMELY suicidal, and I REALLY think I need to see a therapist (and quit my job that is partially responsible for all I'm feeling, but mom won't let me, ;A;), but I can't. It sucks. T__T This video is very sweet and good, though, and BOY, do I feel a lot of this! I LOVE being alone, just naturally, but espec lately, espec with my bro, my rock, moving out soon, I'm feeling REALLY lonely! X'D
Maybe I don't know my own self, I can feel most of these. Maybe it is my own fault that I can no longer connect with people because of the past with bullying and felt nothing now. I do want others to succeed and to fullfill unlike myself. I do know others feel the same as what I had in life, yet I want others to be better than myself. Maybe I'm just drunk, since I just drank, but have a great day everyone. I know you will succeed.
5 is sooo true..
been watching y'all for years now, i was 14 when i first stumbled upon you guys, now im 18. Thanks a lot, the quote & conclusion at the end helped, thanks psych2go team for providing a voice & helping through.
Much Love
Having a stressful morning, after having to study for a test. But thanks for being here for people like me.
I used to be so naive, thinking that people are always ready to be by my side and never disappear the same way I behave myself, being loyal and trustful. In the end, even those the most important ones to me tend to swoosh away, some just see me as a third wheel, and some of them disappear with no point to get in contact with. This definitely tought me how this life is. But those moments of letting go the people I value the most affected my subconsciousness if I may say so, leaving those mental wounds that one is unable to heal but only take care of, developed a high level of distrust and cautiousness towards humanity (including how our modern world collapses). I do wanna be loved, I know how to use my own pros and cons. But the more I experience people, the more I prefer my loneliness. I really don't want to experience that feeling of despair again.
I haven’t watched one of your videos in a while, but as soon as I seen that title I clicked without thinking
We're here when you need them. I hope everything's ok for you! I hope it's ok to ask. Is there a reasons why you haven't watched our videos in a long time?
@@Psych2goI’ve primarily been busy with work but it’s mostly because of what I see in myself that I really don’t want to see
Your BEST Video to date!! SO WELL DONE!! SHARING!!! ❤
Thank you so much 🤗 Yes, please do share this message to help others!
@Psych2go all the time!! Loving your Trauma videos. I work with Lots of Trauma clients and I've been telling them about your channel. :)
The topics discussed in this video were uncomfortably relatable...
Right on spot
Damn
Helpful vid thanks
I've always wandered why I'm misunderstood by others, and that why do i feel that others are misunderstanding me, no wonder it was the childhood trauma I've been through. yes, i go through everything mentioned but the way trauma tells about me..is emotional burstouts, i really get them very often, and my heart feels heavy, I don't know what to do about it :(
Thank you very much 🌹🌺🌷
Finally getting treatment for my childhood trauma
I had a trauma when I played at my friend's house in 2006. At that time my mother and brother were beaten by my father, I was the only one who wasn't beaten. I wish I was there. But if I was there, what could I have done to stop it? When that incident happened I was only five years old, the trauma still haunts me. I feel very guilty
I identify so much with number 5
I never knew I was dealing with most of these, especially thanks to the last one.
This video helps me realize my trauma
Perfect for me and especially my girl friend 🙏❣️
This video is kinda relaxing.
Thanks so much! We worked hard on this video. Do you mind elaborate on what makes this video relaxing? :)
@@Psych2go Just the gentle whisper as if to relax the mind is what it makes it relaxing.
I cannot disagree that suffering is temporary. Life also is. So people choose the easy way out.
You either die earlier or live long enough to see yourself become stone hearted.
I started teraphy. I take prescripted drugs and in the end I'm still standing in the same place where I was in the beginning. So what's the point of all of that? I don't care what others would think when am gone. They put me in this position in the first place.
All of the above.
Wow this video decides my life
HEY GOOD EVENING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO CHECK ON EVERYONE, I HAVE TO SAY I CAN RELATE TO THIS TOPIC, SLEEP WELL MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY 💯🙏💙💪🙈🙉🙊
I think I checked off all 6 of these signs, though I can’t remember any particular past trauma. Maybe getting picked on as a kid caused me to be closed off to most people and the few people I did call friends always ended up moving away. That could be why I’ve built up this barrier around myself. Most people are not going to be kind to me so I distrust them and the ones who will be kind are just going to leave me anyway, or something like that. I don’t know, I don’t pretend to understand what’s going on inside my head.
>reach out to a mental health expert
Yeah too bad I both live in the US, and don't have any and can't afford health insurance. Guess I'm shit outta luck lol 🙃
Government provided healthcare isn't all it's worked up to be. I moved from the US to the UK almost 10 years ago, and have been trashed by the system here. The worst thing is when I reached out to get help recovering from an abusive relationship, I really didn't get any support and have had to go private. Also, the support for people with autism and other mental problems is terrible. It can take 2-5 years to be tested for autism, and then the only local support is from private groups that have been started up by people with autism.
HEY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING, PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS, HAVE A BLESSED DAY, TEE 💯🙏💙💪🙊🙈🙉
am so miserable.
+Psych2GoTv *As an autist whom the school systems o' the late-20th-Century United States failed due to immature resources, I haven't experience wi' the following symptoms o' trauma:*
1:59 *1. Lack of Historical Enjoyment*
2:42 *2. Fear of Chance*
3:19 *3. Lack of Optimism*
3:51 *4. Connective Difficulty*
4:15 *5. Universal misunderstanding*
4:51 *6. Trauma as Life Definition*
However, due to internal, unconscious mental and emotional blocks pathognomonic of Kanner's, I never developed senses of/for emotional essentials in relationships. In fact, having YET to experience a Guiding Relationship as defined by Steven E. Gutstein Ph.D., I've YET to develop enjoyment, optimism, and connection as results of mind guidance.
My older brother committed suicide in 2019. My best friend died of leukemia in 2022. I'm now in college and I feel so lonely. I long to have someone to be with me. A friend, a girlfriend i don't care. Just some one who cares. But I don't know how to or bring myself to meeting new people.
(Not really one to dump stuff like this but i honestly wanna know peoples thoughts cuz this has me going mentally insane) ive had 3 therapists in all the first fucked me up more, the second was my sisters old therapist that she was done with as they did the work they needed and she healed. so i started seeing her for about 3 years until i wanted a break to see how id do, but my mom came in and started seeing her. I thought oh well she needs it (she really did and does) so i started seeing the last one after a while, realizing i still couldnt shake all that negativity. She saw me for abt a year before i wanted another break, seeing if after all those years i would be ok. Well newsflash im not and ive been having a lot of very dark thoughts recently, with no hope they ever stop. Now my 2 little sisters are seeing both of them. I think its good bc they also need them in my op and they seem to be helping them a lot. But now i dont know where to go or who to go to. what do i do? I dont wanna have these thoughts anymore, their honestly hurting my soul. i told my mom and she threatened me with the hospital i find it kind of funny even tho i know i shouldnt
dam, rlly didnt expect to be called out like that
This is definitely me
U know what? I'm gonna tell you something that happens to me. My personal problems for me are big deal , but whenever I want to explain something that I feel I'm never able to explain what does it feel when I'm depressed. But for past experiences trying to explain myself for what I feel I get a negative response and invalidating my opinion to a point where now I just feel that anything that goes into my mind and hurts me and it's a problem I just won't say anything to anyone because I'm afraid of getting a response that what I think or feel is stupid.