My brother was abused , I was lucky enough not to have been born at the time , he ended up on heroin at sixteen , in and out of prison , all the way through to his fourties’ until he eventually jumped in front of a train. He had no voice , I admire you guys so much for what you have done. Rest in peace to my bro lenny , and to anyone else who fell through the cracks and didn’t make it ❤
we can ALL make a difference EVERYDAY even if its just a tiny one, just a smile say hello how are you, so sad what happend to Lenny who knows what he could of become with the right support,, never STOP Loving my brother x
There are some who only do that for views, though. There's a whole thing about how the guy who started the trend in America had spoken out against the practice because opportunists were coopting it for views. I'm not saying do nothing, but I am saying do anything but what those guys did.
These guys are a real inspiration. Talking about SA is tough for everyone, but it's historically been harder for men. So it's great to see the doors opening for men to talk about their experiences too. The problem of paedophilia can only be tackled once it's brought out into the open.
Proud to call Mike my close friend. Proud to have been part of the Dark Light team. Selfless yet unapologetic and thats rare now-a-days. Growth is so powerful and I hope this new vid helps even 1 person. Props also to LadBible for raising awareness. Mad respect Mike, I am so happy to have seen your growth over the years and looking forward to being by your side watching the rest! The Power Of One 🖤
From a fellow child abuse survivor, thank you for the work you did and the new work you are doing now. I also work in the human services field and I always say my goal is to be the person I wish I had during my darkest times. Keep up the great work ❤️
What a terrific guy. I've seen him in an interview with mainstream media and he comes across in both as a genuine caring individual. He really deserves total respect.
As a survivor of childhood abuse? Thank you. A million times thank you. I have my own child now, 6 years old, and I hope there's more heros like you out there fighting for his safety.
I am a female survivor, I love what Mike and Dan are doing to help men come to terms with what happened to them as boys, children are never to blame for the wicked acts of devious adults. Excellent work guys and using your experiences to help others is commendable.
What is problematic is that these devious adults are more than often molested in tehir childhood, they can on average molest 300 children themselves, so it's exponential humanity problem.
Happened to me back in the 1980s...as a male....sorry ladies, but if it happens to you as a boy "stand up...stop crying..be brave"....I got so lost in feeling no emotion anymore...I got so fucking angry I just tried to hammer shit out of everything in my path, then I found drugs, and drugs allowed me to not really feel anything, on cue, on point of payment...easy. Now...I actually forgive them, I'm not carrying their evil on my shoulders, they already stole my childhood, I'm not giving them my adulthood. Fuck them, they get hanged by thyself, I don't need to care about the grave they already already dug, for me, a spade is used for a garden, where things can grow, live and thrive.
@@Tryste I’m not sure where you’re from, but in Australia only 10% of convicted pedophiles have had pedophilia perpetrated upon them. I’m a survivor and I can tell you that other survivors I’ve talked to would never put a kid through the kind of trauma that they themselves have have had inflicted upon them.
@@dudeybagz depending on the data, here in Europe some studies went up to 30%. But what is scary is that the average perprators age is younger and younger and the porn culture is suspected to be the cause for that.
Shocking numbers he's quoting for the quantity of stings. 500. And the predator's are going after 8 year olds. Holy Christ. These two heroes. Unbelievably strong & kind hearted men. It must be far too emotionally heavy to do this work for too long. I send all my love. And I'll warn all the friends I know who have children nearing the age of social media. Blessings. x Edit: LADbible you guys are doing incredible work making our world clearer and more understandable. Thank-you.
It really depends on the group involved. From what I have seen they run the gamut from being really professional and doing it for all the right reasons, it just doing it purely for attention and have no care for the wider family and the abuser they are catching. We are much better in the UK than in the US, where a lack of easily used citizens arrest laws makes it difficult to hold them until the authorities arrive, so many of those involved are quite clearly in it for clicks. The ends do not always justify the means here, as they often make the individual phone up their families who are innocent and as a result end up posting these humiliating conversations online.
@@PunishedRalph That's the thing about consequences, they often affect more than just the receiving ndividual. It's not fair to the family, but they need to know when they are harboring a pedo. The police aren't always there to clean up the mess exactly how you would prefer. Many pedo hunting groups DO act silly and unprofessional. While still doing a great job at what they set out to do. Pedophiles deserve no mercy and deserve every negative thing that comes their way. When it comes to this kind of justice, there is not a right way to go about it. You either get the guy caught or you don't.
@@trip4923 Yeah, but that does not mean that the way the family is informed should be used as some sort of spectacle. No one would say they should not be informed, but either that should be done professionally by the team - with a female who takes them to one side and shows them the evidence if they are willing to view it - or via the police. You seem to be saying that it is fine to traumatise innocent people, because people want clicks or cannot be arsed to act in an appropriate manner when telling them their husband, son or dad is a nonce. There is a right way to go about it, making a spectacle of it is clearly just done as a power trip by those involved. They then use the refrain that it is just a nonce to defend their poor behaviour. Seeing them scream "nonce defender" at innocent, and understandably confused and shocked family members because they do not instantly trust what some chavs who have knocked on their door are claiming is nuts. It's actually disgusting. People defending these actions because it's a nonce do not seem to realise that this is in turn harming their own cause - professionalism would make it easier for authorities to work more closely with teams, and in doing so benefiting everyone asides from those who are preying on children.
I'm a psychologist in the USA, and it is so heartening to witness this powerful conversation between such courageous men. I have such respect and admiration for you. I work with combat Veterans, and when they are recovering, they are some of the most wise, compassionate, brilliant and kind human beings on earth. I have worked with some of the professionals you speak of, that lack curiosity and inquisitiveness. I think that, on the other side of trauma is incredible depth and empathy. Gentlemen, you are changing the world and creating an enduring legacy of healing. Thank you for being who you are in the world!
one in five children have been molested in australia and 70% go on to be molesterers,heres an important question,would you kill your child if they are a petofile?because in todays world theres a good chance they will be,we need to get to the base of the problem and i have the solutions but people are wont learn them because they are to busy covering thier own tracks,have you ever heard the saing though dust protest to much,if you want the solutions to petofilia and how to break the cycle i have them but they will open the whole worlds insecurities,so will we fix this or do i have to give you the medal for covering up your own insecurities
I feel that a lot. I was an EMT for 7 years and the stress and emotion of everything I saw got to me one day and I also attempted to un alive myself. Seeing kids ripped apart in car accidents from a drunk driver, who is completely untouched, it just really got to me. 911 calls of child abuse, sexual abuse I really hated those calls. This planet is such a beautiful place but it can have very very dark spots
Former RN here. I echo your sentiments. We see the absolute worst/best in people but more often than not, the worst is more often what sticks with you.
Im now 37 and still comming to terms with my trauma is the only way to put it BUT people like you make the world liveable THANKYOU from every part of my heart from Oxford 🇬🇧
Very emotional hearing these two men speak. I work in mental health and honestly will take this video with me through my career. The second gent especially, you are so articulate and speak so honestly and clearly about your experiences and feelings throughout your life. Abuse grows within silence. We need to give people from a young age the vocabulary and the space to speak.
What a trio of heros! The two fellas who sacrificed their mental well-being to try to help children to not go through what they and a lot of us went through, but the host as well for giving them a platform.
Not many people can bare the worlds pain, suffering and horror to this degree, let alone a victim/survivor of said horror. It must take such a strong stomach, heart, mind and soul to endure this... but not a broken soul, and this man, God bless him, is a broken soul. You can hear it in his voice, see it in his eyes, his posture, his apathy - he is haunted, this is PTSD. His pursuit of truth and justice, though highly honourable, is akin to self harm in his case, ripping open that wound daily. This man deserves a medal, a reward and the best aftercare money can buy, he's a guardian angel among mere mortals and cowards. As for the "higher up police" being against good, brave men like Michael, men doing Gods work - well, we all know why... crooked, complicit, GUILTY.
Who wouldn't be haunted, of course he is. However I think what he's doing is a form of exposure therapy, which is the only thing that works for phobias. You slowly face your demons and you learn you have nothing to fear, that you're stronger than them. Also he mentioned looking for answers, lots of people who had dysfunctional relationships as children seek to re-enact them in adulthood in order to change the pattern and resolve the conflict in a better way.
These guys are incredibly inspiring, and this interviewer is so good. He asks great questions and also knows when to let his interviewees steer the conversation. Great stuff
I have a little daughter and every time I see interviews and documentary about that topic I feel so sorry for all Those little kids. I watch my daughter sleep , knowing she is safe and loved and a happy child...and burst out in tears how someone could do anything to a child. I can't comprehend and it makes me feel paralyzed. Seeing people like Mike and Dan actually do something gives me a little bit of hope. Thank you.
I've never been through any kind of trauma like this, but as a man in my mid 40s who has pretty severe mental health issues, hearing these guys speak was huge for me "Your vulnerability is the sharpest tool you have" That's huge. Thank you guys so much for this.
I feel weird about liking this video because of how horrible the subject matter is. But we've got to protect our children by raising awareness. God bless these men and everyone who is combatting this horrible horrible crime.
Great to see two men who have experienced terrible things finding a way through. So articulate. This is a great example of why we need more mental health support.
I have personally done the training with Lads Like Us and will attest to its power. Amazing to hear the pain and see the recovery first hand, the lads are truly incredible and I'm very thankful they wear their hearts on their sleeves to demand change in the systems. Thanks guys ❤
Also a survivor and so grateful that you gentlemen found your voice. You became heroes when you decided to share your vulnerability! What you have actively done to bring predators to justice is awe inspiring. Thank you for marching boldly into the dark to save children! God bless you!
I'm absolutely loving these podcast episodes. It's so nice to hear from these people and catch up with what's going on with them. This one was particularly great and I'm so happy for these two for being able to work through their trauma.
I'm very grateful especially for the second part of the program. This happened to me aged 9 to 12, no one intervened and it has its consequences to this day. I am 59.
I’m so sorry for that. Glad that your here, you’re strong! You can’t change things around you but you can change your perspective. Life life to its fullest and don’t let bad ‘people’ tell you how to feel or live. Being here, breathing, having legs and eyes is precious, use it to do what u love! Stay healthy and blessed🙏🏼
I teared up when he talked about the girl he helped prosecute her abuser. I hope she lives a happy healthy life with her baby, that's such great news and I totally understand why he would be proud of that, he should be
I can’t imagine the negativity of the world from the view of these teams, but for me, the fact that there are these teams shows the positivity. Thank you to everyone involved in child protection and safeguarding vulnerable people xxx
I was a school teacher and foster Mum. I was appoached by the deputy principal and a 7 year old boy's social worker to see if I would be willing to foster him. He was severely abused and had a lot of angry behaviours that was putting people off adopting him. I was more than happy to do that as I'd already been taking him to school and out on the weekend. One day there was a male relieving teacher that was on a two week contract. My classroom was across from the staffroom on one side and the playground on the other so I could see a lot. I looked out the window and saw this teacher talking to him and I could tell by the boys movement that he was uncomfortable. I asked him that night what the teacher said to him. He told me that he used to go to their house to tutor his older teenage brother and that sometimes his brother stayed at the teachers house. There are other things that he shared and I immediately knew what the teacher had done. The next day I went to the deputy principal about the situation as she had worked hard to get him and his five siblings away from the parents. I then approached the teacher and told him to stay away from my foster son. The same thing happened at lunchtime that day and I went out to get my foster son and warn the teacher that next time I'd call the police. I had a parent that I knew well because I taught their daughter in year one, come in to say hi which was normal but her son was in the class that this teacher was teaching in and she told me that he was going to tutor her son at the library that weekend. I asked her to come back after school so I could warn her which is crossing professional boundaries but when it comes to kids I'd risk my job to make sure they are safe. She thought that because the school had let him teach there (that is a whole other story) it was nothing to worry about. Sure enough the boy was groomed. He had planned to take him camping for the weekend at the end of his two week job placement, and finally it clicked that I was right and they cut ties. Parents need to be aware of what can happen especially with the internet. So many parents and grandparents let their kids go online without constantly monitoring what they are doing. Some think that their child is just playing computer games when in fact they could possibly be talking to a predator. It's a dangerous world and the internet makes it easy to groom kids.
I'm in Salford and like one of the guests said would love to be involved in this. Unfortunately I'm now a vunerable adult I suffer with cptsd, parasomia and borderline. All brought on by my childhood abuse and toxic environment. Thank you gents for speaking up for the many. I worked in the sra survivors community to help for many years. But was also not healed. I'm getting there now. Watching these guests is like a breath of fresh air for me and many others. Thank you would love to connect
I cant imagine the psychological trauma doing this kind of thing must leave, I had to stop watching the sting videos because of how it affected me mentally, I actually saw people I grew up with and went to school with and called friends at one time or another on those stings, I think its the realisation of just how many of these horrible people there are out there, its terrifying as a father
you guys are heroes because you're setting a great example by sharing your experience and lending your perspective to professionals. more power to you both
Mike you are an incredible man. Thank you for all the work you have done for paedophile victims. I'm so sorry to hear that you yourself have been a victim. You are an eloquent speaker and your calm demeanor helps people to hear your message. Please take care of yourself and your own health. You are a special and worthy person. Best wishes to both you and Daniel with your new venture, it's long overdue. It would be wonderful to see you guys travel the world and share your message, knowledge and ideas but be careful that it's not at the expence of your families and loved one's. God bless you both.
I met Mike and Danny - Lads Like Us at a Resolve Conference in London earlier this year. Their lived experience is so sad. But, how far they have come today comes down to that one person who managed to turn something on which changed their whole compass of life. Its a key we all hold for someone else struggling, just don't stop trying your key in people. One day it will fit on someone. Mike and Danny's true potential got unlocked by someone who just listened and didn't give up trying. Being trauma informed and as he said The Power of One, can achieve one man's true potential.
Phenomenal podcast. Very interesting to hear you both talk about your experience. I hope that this podcast will act as a useful resource for someone who may be in a similar headspace or had similar experiences
I have so much respect for these guys and their ability to articulate what their journey has been like. Their courage is self-evident, but they use that courage to help others and that takes something very, very special and very rare. They're making society better and we're all in their debt.
This interview was so gripping. What these guys have been through and are now achieving is immense on so many levels. Something that I was really hoping to hear discussed are funding issues, budget cuts, socioeconomic issues and systemic fracturing of social welfare in the UK and how this attributes to the way people speak out. Or potentially even the way in which social workers tackle cases/case loads.
These guys are awesome. They remind me that I can do something with my negative childhood experiences. They encourage me to pursue trauma care, to help people, and to educate others on what survivors really need.
34:17 these are the words I needed. I never can explain to people why I am scared of emotional intimacy. This is exactly why. When I gave emotional intimacy a final chance, I was abused and discarded. How am I supposed to ever allow someone close again? I am petrified
Love yourself first. Be kind to yourself even if you made a mistake. Betrayal says volumes about them and nothing about you. You had the courage to open up which is a huge milestone for yourself. Next time vet your partner longer before opening up. Match their level of intimacy and loyalty, but only at YOUR comfort level. Look up reparenting to help yourself through your negative inner voices you inherited from past trauma. Research narcissism so you can identify and separate genuine people from those that are toxic with self-serving behavior. It will help you identify what may have conditioned you growing up too which can contribute to being naive about the nature of some people. Also research and truly contemplate your own boundaries and don't budge for no one. Create boundaries and know how to enforce them. People will love you with your boundaries and all. People that challenge your boundaries do not have your best interests in mind.
As the mum of a nearly 3 year old boy, and another one on the way, I couldn't help but get emotional watching this. Seeing two adult males talking so candidly about the abuse they faced has me in awe of their strength. I feel so sad they weren't protected as they should have been, they deserved so much more. I just can't get my head around how anyone can abuse children, it really does keep me up at night.
Outstanding talk! These lads are above the bar with what they are doing! God bless you two and the trauma groups your bring to light! I’m a child trauma survivor and seeking help now. Thank you for coming across my channel because this comforted me knowing we can turn this around and get out of the cycle! Amen brothers thank you so much! ✌🏾❤️🔥🍻🙏🏾
There is always something so powerful about people and especially men, talking openly about their own stories. Not just about the abuse, but their life and conquering.
Really good interview. Too many things hushed up and kids labelled as problems rather than looking deeper into why. Much respect and love to Mike and Dan for their hard work in helping others.
The world needs so much of this, having been through a lot of trauma as a child i was lucky and used my demons to better myself and those around me who had also been through trauma ,, much love to you guys and keep up the good work.
"It's Societies Responsibility!" ... Truth. I pray that all who experiance trauma, find their own peace and break free from its shackles. Everyone involved in this type of work are Heroes. Thank You for simply being -- we all need your strength and courage.
Well done. This podcast is without doubt, an inspirational legend. Those two guys are fantastic. Their determination, their erudite and truthful explanations are breathtaking. I’m so glad that agencies up and down the country have honed in on their vital skills. When they start thinking about dishing out knighthoods and the like; these are the true worthy recipients. I worked in Housing for many years and I saw how the job easily entwined with other vital services to safeguard vulnerable people. What annoys me is it has to take two fundamentally “normal” blokes to shake up and wake up professional services. Government need to notice these two and pay attention. Oh, and they’re both Mancs; like me ( no bias, honestly) Well done boys. You’re both UTTER LEGENDS.
ABsolute mad respect for these two quality guys. I know it's nowhere near the same (and I'm not equating by any means for a second). But what he said towards the end about trauma was very moving. I lost my twin brother when I was 12, I haven't spoken to anyone about it (not even family, as I had to be that strong character) because I feel like I haven't gotten the voice for it. I'm 23 now, and these two lads have just got me off my arse to go and seek help about and confront this. What an amazing pair of guys, and an exceptional interviewer.
I can't watch even half a video as it's make me too upset at the moment. anybody who does anything that helps fight this horrific crime is a hero! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Brilliant podcast! My heart goes out to the two guys. Their braveness has resulted in a powerful forum which thankfully authorities etc are recognising! God bless you both! Respect!
It takes courage to explain how you have worked through your trauma, and reached a part of your journey where you have moved on from hunting and taken the next courageous step on your path.
This video deserves a billion views. It only makes humanity better, it empowers people to open their eyes to know to protect children and have compassion for the kids who have been wronged. I wish these platforms would elevate THIS not prank BS
What an absolute pair of hero's Dan and Mike are. I cannot. express enough admiration for the increadible and valuable work they have done and are doing.
To hear you say, Mike, that the trauma of losing a parent for instance at a young age can be just as traumatic, almost brought me to tears. I often think my feelings aren't valid, or feel guilty, comparing my pain to others. Things like, at least I wasn't beaten or molested... or, plenty of people lose a parent young, I'm nothing special. Or I feel foolish for it bothering me 30 years later. But it has never left me, I may not be conscious of it but I literally feel the weight every moment of everyday, it's always there. At age 6, you're literally unable to process the concept that one minute everything is fine, literally the next minute your mom is gone and you'll never see her again. I heard in psychology class or read somewhere that the trauma that you refer to, the effects don't manifest themselves until the teenage years. To me, and I'm sure you and everyone else, this matches up perfectly. I never ever bring it up, and avoid mentioning it unless absolutely necessary, one because it's awkward and uncomfortable for me, but also because I don't want people to think I'm fishing for sympathy. I never would because I don't want it. But to hear my feelings validated was nice.
I'm so grateful to the both of them and I'm 100% sure that this will help victims and survivors of any background speak out/get support. Sending love and hugs to those who have gone through this
Mike and Daniel are two amazing men and i deeply respect them and their work without knowing them personally. More has to be done to help young boy without taking away from the girls. Great vid.
This is brilliant. I'm not a survivor, either, I'm working on recovering and living. I relate to males who have experienced CSA and childhood abuse more than women despite being female myself. I just learnt to shut down like men and boys are expected to do. This is a powerful video. Thank you.
i watch a few hunting groups and my daughter is a decoy and i have often thought how do you listen to what some monsters have done to our children, and see photographs confront them and then go home to your own kids, i hope the hunters get to talk about it and get it out of your head with a bit of therapy because you couldnt do this day in and day out walk away from it and live a "normal" life i hope they get help.well done lads and thanks for helping our kids, i am a survivor but not healed yet and i am 66 now and never got justice xxxxx
Daniel really done the work to heal. He has a fantastic understanding of his life and his previous behaviours.. it's incredible to see. What a powerful person
in a similar fashion, my abusers were both male and female, family members and strangers. having been raped by both genders, it was absolutely devastating when you are sitting in a classroom of your peers discussing sexual assaults, and when the subject of a woman raping a man comes up, everyone in class is laughing their heads off saying that a woman cant rape a man. They were all running their ignorant mouths while i sat there dying inside because i WAS. to add insult to injury, because of the abuse, it screwed my brain up as well. as i got older, the women i was attracted to hadnt. it was at this point that i realized that I was now a predator myself. After years of trying to self-destruct, i decided to take this sickness and make it work for me. i used my sickness to train my child's mother, and my two step-daughters how to spot a predator. I also told my childs mother about all of this that i went through long before we decided to have a child together. 13 years later, none of my children have been touched......my kids also know exactly what hapened to me and why my brain is broken. just like in the wild, its near impossible to successfully hunt a target when the prey KNOWS you are there and can see you coming. anytime i had an idea come through my mind about a way that i could abuse one of them, i ran straight to Jen to tell her about it. Because if i told her about it, i now eliminated my ability to act on it. but after coping with this for nearly 30 years now, i can certainly attest that making the choice to NOT act on your thoughts is as easy as choosing chocolate milk over white milk. the only time that this method wont work is if you WANT to abuse someone. and if thats your goal, sad to say ive got nothing to help you now. the only time the choice not to abuse gets hard is when you WANT to hurt kids....... chew on that one for a bit.....
This is truly inspiring that I can not find the words. Well done Ladbible for platforming this and I hope it leads to funds/help in making their world domination a reality. Gentlemen, what you say about safeguarding being everyone’s responsibility is a vital message, and having watched all of Mikes videos it gives me something positive to focus on, something small but that I can do. Thank you for your bravery xx
Such a powerful powerful conversation! Yes, yes, yes - get involved, speak up, be the one to make a difference. It just reminded me of a conversation at work about a neglected, little girl and bottom line why nobody intervened is was "you don't want to get involved" and it made me so mad. I salute you two for coming forward and leaving victimhood (comfort zone) behind. Love it. Live, don't survive and numb. Sooo on point. One part of the past does not determine the rest of the future. Super inspirational! 🙏
It take an angel to take on and endure this level of Hell on Earth in order to help the helpless. So many blessing and love upon you Sir for all the good you have done.
Thank you Ladbible for giving these guys a platform to promote their positive message and increase awareness about male sexual abuse victims and toxic masculinity. These 2 guys are very inspirational, I have so much respect for what they're doing now - well done lads👏🏻👏🏻
This is the first video I've seen on LadBible which really would have profited from subtitles, these stories are way too important to miss a single word, I want to thank LadBible for all the videos you have put up and I am grateful for all the messages you sent out into the world and I also would like to send a big hug to this guy, thank you very much for getting involved with this horrendous crime and putting yourself on the line, I am sending you my respect, we need men like you to be safe
My brother was abused , I was lucky enough not to have been born at the time , he ended up on heroin at sixteen , in and out of prison , all the way through to his fourties’ until he eventually jumped in front of a train. He had no voice , I admire you guys so much for what you have done. Rest in peace to my bro lenny , and to anyone else who fell through the cracks and didn’t make it ❤
Lenny from Guildford? I new lenny
Rest in peace to your brother❤
we can ALL make a difference EVERYDAY even if its just a tiny one, just a smile say hello how are you, so sad what happend to Lenny who knows what he could of become with the right support,, never STOP Loving my brother x
My deepest condolences 🙏
@@joegreen8248 yeah Lenny from Guildford , he was my brother
Congratulations to these two men that managed to use their trauma to help others. What a great gift to society.
There are some who only do that for views, though. There's a whole thing about how the guy who started the trend in America had spoken out against the practice because opportunists were coopting it for views. I'm not saying do nothing, but I am saying do anything but what those guys did.
@@Brian_fooking_Ferry he skipped over it fast but he was.
Totally agree! He said it himself... being going into a room with big burley men and allowing them to speak... this work IS SO SO SO important.
These guys are a real inspiration. Talking about SA is tough for everyone, but it's historically been harder for men. So it's great to see the doors opening for men to talk about their experiences too. The problem of paedophilia can only be tackled once it's brought out into the open.
Absolutely agree
people find it emasculating for men to talk about being abused (in any form not just sexual) but the reality is abuse can happen to anyone
Well said
SAY IT. Sexual assault? Rape? Molestation? Say the words. By censoring these words people become less affected by their meaning.
@@DX-d it’s a TH-cam comment. People don’t want their comments to get ghosted for having buzzwords
Proud to call Mike my close friend. Proud to have been part of the Dark Light team. Selfless yet unapologetic and thats rare now-a-days. Growth is so powerful and I hope this new vid helps even 1 person. Props also to LadBible for raising awareness. Mad respect Mike, I am so happy to have seen your growth over the years and looking forward to being by your side watching the rest! The Power Of One 🖤
Mmm you're yummy
You up to much tonight
Massive respect you 👍🏼
Glad he has good friends because good people need a warm community of friends and loved ones ❤ biggest respect 🙌 ❤ 👏 💙
These guys are great. I would be proud to call them friends.
From a fellow child abuse survivor, thank you for the work you did and the new work you are doing now. I also work in the human services field and I always say my goal is to be the person I wish I had during my darkest times. Keep up the great work ❤️
You keep up the great work as well.
I second what the first comment said 🕊
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What a terrific guy. I've seen him in an interview with mainstream media and he comes across in both as a genuine caring individual. He really deserves total respect.
As a survivor of childhood abuse? Thank you. A million times thank you. I have my own child now, 6 years old, and I hope there's more heros like you out there fighting for his safety.
I am a female survivor, I love what Mike and Dan are doing to help men come to terms with what happened to them as boys, children are never to blame for the wicked acts of devious adults. Excellent work guys and using your experiences to help others is commendable.
What is problematic is that these devious adults are more than often molested in tehir childhood, they can on average molest 300 children themselves, so it's exponential humanity problem.
Happened to me back in the 1980s...as a male....sorry ladies, but if it happens to you as a boy "stand up...stop crying..be brave"....I got so lost in feeling no emotion anymore...I got so fucking angry I just tried to hammer shit out of everything in my path, then I found drugs, and drugs allowed me to not really feel anything, on cue, on point of payment...easy. Now...I actually forgive them, I'm not carrying their evil on my shoulders, they already stole my childhood, I'm not giving them my adulthood. Fuck them, they get hanged by thyself, I don't need to care about the grave they already already dug, for me, a spade is used for a garden, where things can grow, live and thrive.
@@gabbermensch I'm sorry for you, I do wish you all the best ahead and be liberated of all this
@@Tryste I’m not sure where you’re from, but in Australia only 10% of convicted pedophiles have had pedophilia perpetrated upon them. I’m a survivor and I can tell you that other survivors I’ve talked to would never put a kid through the kind of trauma that they themselves have have had inflicted upon them.
@@dudeybagz depending on the data, here in Europe some studies went up to 30%. But what is scary is that the average perprators age is younger and younger and the porn culture is suspected to be the cause for that.
Shocking numbers he's quoting for the quantity of stings. 500. And the predator's are going after 8 year olds. Holy Christ. These two heroes. Unbelievably strong & kind hearted men. It must be far too emotionally heavy to do this work for too long. I send all my love. And I'll warn all the friends I know who have children nearing the age of social media. Blessings. x Edit: LADbible you guys are doing incredible work making our world clearer and more understandable. Thank-you.
They go after much younger than 8. It’s horrific!
dont think i could do it. respect to them.
its not "vigilantism" its a neighbourhood watch of the internet age. people like this man have the right to try and keep their communities safe.
It really depends on the group involved. From what I have seen they run the gamut from being really professional and doing it for all the right reasons, it just doing it purely for attention and have no care for the wider family and the abuser they are catching.
We are much better in the UK than in the US, where a lack of easily used citizens arrest laws makes it difficult to hold them until the authorities arrive, so many of those involved are quite clearly in it for clicks. The ends do not always justify the means here, as they often make the individual phone up their families who are innocent and as a result end up posting these humiliating conversations online.
@@PunishedRalph That's the thing about consequences, they often affect more than just the receiving ndividual. It's not fair to the family, but they need to know when they are harboring a pedo. The police aren't always there to clean up the mess exactly how you would prefer.
Many pedo hunting groups DO act silly and unprofessional. While still doing a great job at what they set out to do.
Pedophiles deserve no mercy and deserve every negative thing that comes their way.
When it comes to this kind of justice, there is not a right way to go about it. You either get the guy caught or you don't.
@@trip4923 Yeah, but that does not mean that the way the family is informed should be used as some sort of spectacle. No one would say they should not be informed, but either that should be done professionally by the team - with a female who takes them to one side and shows them the evidence if they are willing to view it - or via the police. You seem to be saying that it is fine to traumatise innocent people, because people want clicks or cannot be arsed to act in an appropriate manner when telling them their husband, son or dad is a nonce.
There is a right way to go about it, making a spectacle of it is clearly just done as a power trip by those involved. They then use the refrain that it is just a nonce to defend their poor behaviour. Seeing them scream "nonce defender" at innocent, and understandably confused and shocked family members because they do not instantly trust what some chavs who have knocked on their door are claiming is nuts. It's actually disgusting. People defending these actions because it's a nonce do not seem to realise that this is in turn harming their own cause - professionalism would make it easier for authorities to work more closely with teams, and in doing so benefiting everyone asides from those who are preying on children.
I agree. The police is underfunded, and it could be your child they're saving.
I wish they had these but for thieves. Portland is out of controls thieves are running rampant, without getting their faces smashed in
I'm a psychologist in the USA, and it is so heartening to witness this powerful conversation between such courageous men. I have such respect and admiration for you. I work with combat Veterans, and when they are recovering, they are some of the most wise, compassionate, brilliant and kind human beings on earth. I have worked with some of the professionals you speak of, that lack curiosity and inquisitiveness. I think that, on the other side of trauma is incredible depth and empathy. Gentlemen, you are changing the world and creating an enduring legacy of healing. Thank you for being who you are in the world!
This man deserve some kind of medal. Mad respect from Denmark.
Yes He Deserves that and Perhaps King Charles Might Agree with You ?
one in five children have been molested in australia and 70% go on to be molesterers,heres an important question,would you kill your child if they are a petofile?because in todays world theres a good chance they will be,we need to get to the base of the problem and i have the solutions but people are wont learn them because they are to busy covering thier own tracks,have you ever heard the saing though dust protest to much,if you want the solutions to petofilia and how to break the cycle i have them but they will open the whole worlds insecurities,so will we fix this or do i have to give you the medal for covering up your own insecurities
@@derekstynes9631 with the kings links to known pedo Jimmy saval? And his brother Andrew?
@@derekstynes9631 Charles is a nonce 😂
King Charles defends paedophiles like Andrew and other rich Elites.
I feel that a lot. I was an EMT for 7 years and the stress and emotion of everything I saw got to me one day and I also attempted to un alive myself. Seeing kids ripped apart in car accidents from a drunk driver, who is completely untouched, it just really got to me. 911 calls of child abuse, sexual abuse I really hated those calls. This planet is such a beautiful place but it can have very very dark spots
Former RN here. I echo your sentiments. We see the absolute worst/best in people but more often than not, the worst is more often what sticks with you.
Reminds me of 'Nam
I feel you there mate. Here's hoping it doesn't weigh down on you so much these days because yeah it's definitely a struggle to deal with at times.
Im now 37 and still comming to terms with my trauma is the only way to put it BUT people like you make the world liveable THANKYOU from every part of my heart from Oxford 🇬🇧
@The Chad. Thank you. You made a difference. You are still making a difference. 👏🏾
This guy is a hero. I cannot imagine the amount of lives he has saved.
he has probably saved his own as well. big up him and good on him.
Absolute hats off to these two guys, a shining example of turning yourself around and passing on the help, wish them both all the best of luck.
Very emotional hearing these two men speak. I work in mental health and honestly will take this video with me through my career. The second gent especially, you are so articulate and speak so honestly and clearly about your experiences and feelings throughout your life. Abuse grows within silence. We need to give people from a young age the vocabulary and the space to speak.
What a trio of heros! The two fellas who sacrificed their mental well-being to try to help children to not go through what they and a lot of us went through, but the host as well for giving them a platform.
Not many people can bare the worlds pain, suffering and horror to this degree, let alone a victim/survivor of said horror. It must take such a strong stomach, heart, mind and soul to endure this... but not a broken soul, and this man, God bless him, is a broken soul. You can hear it in his voice, see it in his eyes, his posture, his apathy - he is haunted, this is PTSD. His pursuit of truth and justice, though highly honourable, is akin to self harm in his case, ripping open that wound daily. This man deserves a medal, a reward and the best aftercare money can buy, he's a guardian angel among mere mortals and cowards. As for the "higher up police" being against good, brave men like Michael, men doing Gods work - well, we all know why... crooked, complicit, GUILTY.
I do not believe he is broken.
He is angry.
He needs respite.
We Need A Legion Of Them.
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Who wouldn't be haunted, of course he is. However I think what he's doing is a form of exposure therapy, which is the only thing that works for phobias. You slowly face your demons and you learn you have nothing to fear, that you're stronger than them. Also he mentioned looking for answers, lots of people who had dysfunctional relationships as children seek to re-enact them in adulthood in order to change the pattern and resolve the conflict in a better way.
These guys are incredibly inspiring, and this interviewer is so good. He asks great questions and also knows when to let his interviewees steer the conversation. Great stuff
This really hit my emotions hard, absolutely nothing but utmost respect for both of these men for speaking up and giving a message to the world !
Mike is one of the most genuine guys I’ve had the pleasure of knowing and working with big up 🙏🏻💪
I have a little daughter and every time I see interviews and documentary about that topic I feel so sorry for all Those little kids. I watch my daughter sleep , knowing she is safe and loved and a happy child...and burst out in tears how someone could do anything to a child. I can't comprehend and it makes me feel paralyzed. Seeing people like Mike and Dan actually do something gives me a little bit of hope. Thank you.
I've never been through any kind of trauma like this, but as a man in my mid 40s who has pretty severe mental health issues, hearing these guys speak was huge for me
"Your vulnerability is the sharpest tool you have"
That's huge.
Thank you guys so much for this.
From a survivor I want to say thank you for what you've done. You've saved so many people from horrific trauma
I feel weird about liking this video because of how horrible the subject matter is. But we've got to protect our children by raising awareness. God bless these men and everyone who is combatting this horrible horrible crime.
Great to see two men who have experienced terrible things finding a way through. So articulate. This is a great example of why we need more mental health support.
I have personally done the training with Lads Like Us and will attest to its power. Amazing to hear the pain and see the recovery first hand, the lads are truly incredible and I'm very thankful they wear their hearts on their sleeves to demand change in the systems. Thanks guys ❤
Also a survivor and so grateful that you gentlemen found your voice. You became heroes when you decided to share your vulnerability! What you have actively done to bring predators to justice is awe inspiring. Thank you for marching boldly into the dark to save children! God bless you!
Nobility walks among us in those that fight against abuse. Thank you, for all you've done to protect the innocent.
I'm absolutely loving these podcast episodes. It's so nice to hear from these people and catch up with what's going on with them. This one was particularly great and I'm so happy for these two for being able to work through their trauma.
I spent near on 30 years working with kids in secure units (some abused some not) and such, this man is a legend IMO.
Thank you for your work. Joy and serenity to you.
I'm very grateful especially for the second part of the program.
This happened to me aged 9 to 12, no one intervened and it has its consequences to this day.
I am 59.
Your not on your own xx
I’m so sorry for that. Glad that your here, you’re strong! You can’t change things around you but you can change your perspective. Life life to its fullest and don’t let bad ‘people’ tell you how to feel or live. Being here, breathing, having legs and eyes is precious, use it to do what u love! Stay healthy and blessed🙏🏼
I teared up when he talked about the girl he helped prosecute her abuser. I hope she lives a happy healthy life with her baby, that's such great news and I totally understand why he would be proud of that, he should be
I can’t imagine the negativity of the world from the view of these teams, but for me, the fact that there are these teams shows the positivity. Thank you to everyone involved in child protection and safeguarding vulnerable people xxx
True definition of hero. So grateful for people like this who dedicate their time to save children’s lives. Respect.
I was a school teacher and foster Mum. I was appoached by the deputy principal and a 7 year old boy's social worker to see if I would be willing to foster him. He was severely abused and had a lot of angry behaviours that was putting people off adopting him. I was more than happy to do that as I'd already been taking him to school and out on the weekend. One day there was a male relieving teacher that was on a two week contract. My classroom was across from the staffroom on one side and the playground on the other so I could see a lot. I looked out the window and saw this teacher talking to him and I could tell by the boys movement that he was uncomfortable. I asked him that night what the teacher said to him. He told me that he used to go to their house to tutor his older teenage brother and that sometimes his brother stayed at the teachers house. There are other things that he shared and I immediately knew what the teacher had done. The next day I went to the deputy principal about the situation as she had worked hard to get him and his five siblings away from the parents. I then approached the teacher and told him to stay away from my foster son. The same thing happened at lunchtime that day and I went out to get my foster son and warn the teacher that next time I'd call the police. I had a parent that I knew well because I taught their daughter in year one, come in to say hi which was normal but her son was in the class that this teacher was teaching in and she told me that he was going to tutor her son at the library that weekend. I asked her to come back after school so I could warn her which is crossing professional boundaries but when it comes to kids I'd risk my job to make sure they are safe. She thought that because the school had let him teach there (that is a whole other story) it was nothing to worry about. Sure enough the boy was groomed. He had planned to take him camping for the weekend at the end of his two week job placement, and finally it clicked that I was right and they cut ties. Parents need to be aware of what can happen especially with the internet. So many parents and grandparents let their kids go online without constantly monitoring what they are doing. Some think that their child is just playing computer games when in fact they could possibly be talking to a predator. It's a dangerous world and the internet makes it easy to groom kids.
I'm in Salford and like one of the guests said would love to be involved in this. Unfortunately I'm now a vunerable adult I suffer with cptsd, parasomia and borderline. All brought on by my childhood abuse and toxic environment. Thank you gents for speaking up for the many. I worked in the sra survivors community to help for many years. But was also not healed. I'm getting there now. Watching these guests is like a breath of fresh air for me and many others. Thank you would love to connect
I cant imagine the psychological trauma doing this kind of thing must leave, I had to stop watching the sting videos because of how it affected me mentally, I actually saw people I grew up with and went to school with and called friends at one time or another on those stings, I think its the realisation of just how many of these horrible people there are out there, its terrifying as a father
“Vulnerability is the sharpest tool in your box.” Brilliant 👌🏼
you guys are heroes because you're setting a great example by sharing your experience and lending your perspective to professionals. more power to you both
Mike you are an incredible man. Thank you for all the work you have done for paedophile victims. I'm so sorry to hear that you yourself have been a victim. You are an eloquent speaker and your calm demeanor helps people to hear your message. Please take care of yourself and your own health. You are a special and worthy person.
Best wishes to both you and Daniel with your new venture, it's long overdue. It would be wonderful to see you guys travel the world and share your message, knowledge and ideas but be careful that it's not at the expence of your families and loved one's. God bless you both.
I met Mike and Danny - Lads Like Us at a Resolve Conference in London earlier this year. Their lived experience is so sad. But, how far they have come today comes down to that one person who managed to turn something on which changed their whole compass of life. Its a key we all hold for someone else struggling, just don't stop trying your key in people. One day it will fit on someone. Mike and Danny's true potential got unlocked by someone who just listened and didn't give up trying. Being trauma informed and as he said The Power of One, can achieve one man's true potential.
Phenomenal podcast. Very interesting to hear you both talk about your experience. I hope that this podcast will act as a useful resource for someone who may be in a similar headspace or had similar experiences
I have so much respect for these guys and their ability to articulate what their journey has been like. Their courage is self-evident, but they use that courage to help others and that takes something very, very special and very rare. They're making society better and we're all in their debt.
So much respect to you.
Watching you really moved me.
Not sure why you have stopped.
I'll carry on your work, if you show me ropes.
As a fellow Manc, the second lad is one of the most articulate I've heard speak about these issues, power to you mate.
LADbible TV thank you for talking about the hard topics in the world that people need to hear. And thank you to the guests that participate.
What an amazing gentleman. So real, honest and down to earth. This is so raw, so frightening for many reasons. The problem is bigger and terrifying.
Thank you for sharing your path to helping so many. It's men like you both, that are truly what is needed throughout the world.
This interview was so gripping. What these guys have been through and are now achieving is immense on so many levels.
Something that I was really hoping to hear discussed are funding issues, budget cuts, socioeconomic issues and systemic fracturing of social welfare in the UK and how this attributes to the way people speak out. Or potentially even the way in which social workers tackle cases/case loads.
These guys are awesome. They remind me that I can do something with my negative childhood experiences. They encourage me to pursue trauma care, to help people, and to educate others on what survivors really need.
34:17 these are the words I needed. I never can explain to people why I am scared of emotional intimacy. This is exactly why. When I gave emotional intimacy a final chance, I was abused and discarded. How am I supposed to ever allow someone close again? I am petrified
Love yourself first. Be kind to yourself even if you made a mistake. Betrayal says volumes about them and nothing about you. You had the courage to open up which is a huge milestone for yourself. Next time vet your partner longer before opening up. Match their level of intimacy and loyalty, but only at YOUR comfort level. Look up reparenting to help yourself through your negative inner voices you inherited from past trauma. Research narcissism so you can identify and separate genuine people from those that are toxic with self-serving behavior. It will help you identify what may have conditioned you growing up too which can contribute to being naive about the nature of some people. Also research and truly contemplate your own boundaries and don't budge for no one. Create boundaries and know how to enforce them. People will love you with your boundaries and all. People that challenge your boundaries do not have your best interests in mind.
((Virtual huggs))
As the mum of a nearly 3 year old boy, and another one on the way, I couldn't help but get emotional watching this. Seeing two adult males talking so candidly about the abuse they faced has me in awe of their strength. I feel so sad they weren't protected as they should have been, they deserved so much more. I just can't get my head around how anyone can abuse children, it really does keep me up at night.
Outstanding talk! These lads are above the bar with what they are doing! God bless you two and the trauma groups your bring to light!
I’m a child trauma survivor and seeking help now. Thank you for coming across my channel because this comforted me knowing we can turn this around and get out of the cycle! Amen brothers thank you so much! ✌🏾❤️🔥🍻🙏🏾
“they say you can’t polish a turd, but we’re gleaming” HAHA I LOVE HIM
He's right. You can't polish a turd, but you can glitter it!
There is always something so powerful about people and especially men, talking openly about their own stories. Not just about the abuse, but their life and conquering.
These guys are legends to the truest word. Every ounce of respect for people like this. Well done guys 👏🏼
Really good interview. Too many things hushed up and kids labelled as problems rather than looking deeper into why. Much respect and love to Mike and Dan for their hard work in helping others.
The world needs so much of this, having been through a lot of trauma as a child i was lucky and used my demons to better myself and those around me who had also been through trauma ,, much love to you guys and keep up the good work.
"It's Societies Responsibility!" ... Truth.
I pray that all who experiance trauma, find their own peace and break free from its shackles.
Everyone involved in this type of work are Heroes. Thank You for simply being -- we all need your strength and courage.
Thank you gentlemen, for being so open and vulnerable with all of us. 💙
Not all hero’s wear capes! This man has saved so many children!! Thank you!!
I walked away from catching predators as well. Felt like I did my part, but now it’s time for me to fully focus on my family.
Thank you for doing it in the first instance💙🙏🌟
Thankyou for your service ❤
Well done. This podcast is without doubt, an inspirational legend. Those two guys are fantastic. Their determination, their erudite and truthful explanations are breathtaking. I’m so glad that agencies up and down the country have honed in on their vital skills. When they start thinking about dishing out knighthoods and the like; these are the true worthy recipients. I worked in Housing for many years and I saw how the job easily entwined with other vital services to safeguard vulnerable people. What annoys me is it has to take two fundamentally “normal” blokes to shake up and wake up professional services. Government need to notice these two and pay attention.
Oh, and they’re both Mancs; like me ( no bias, honestly)
Well done boys. You’re both UTTER LEGENDS.
I’m a healthcare provider. Professional curiosity will go forward with me even more than before. Thank you both.
ABsolute mad respect for these two quality guys. I know it's nowhere near the same (and I'm not equating by any means for a second). But what he said towards the end about trauma was very moving.
I lost my twin brother when I was 12, I haven't spoken to anyone about it (not even family, as I had to be that strong character) because I feel like I haven't gotten the voice for it. I'm 23 now, and these two lads have just got me off my arse to go and seek help about and confront this.
What an amazing pair of guys, and an exceptional interviewer.
I can't watch even half a video as it's make me too upset at the moment.
anybody who does anything that helps fight this horrific crime is a hero!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
after going through shit like that its crazy that you have the balls to go through it again again mad respect
Brilliant podcast! My heart goes out to the two guys. Their braveness has resulted in a powerful forum which thankfully authorities etc are recognising! God bless you both! Respect!
It takes courage to explain how you have worked through your trauma, and reached a part of your journey where you have moved on from hunting and taken the next courageous step on your path.
This video deserves a billion views. It only makes humanity better, it empowers people to open their eyes to know to protect children and have compassion for the kids who have been wronged. I wish these platforms would elevate THIS not prank BS
What an amazing guy. He’s made such a massive difference in so many victims or potential victims lives. I hope he finds mental peace in the future
What an absolute pair of hero's Dan and Mike are. I cannot. express enough admiration for the increadible and valuable work they have done and are doing.
Massive thank you for all your work and to all the other teams who carry out this voluntary work. Protecting the most vulnerable.
To hear you say, Mike, that the trauma of losing a parent for instance at a young age can be just as traumatic, almost brought me to tears. I often think my feelings aren't valid, or feel guilty, comparing my pain to others. Things like, at least I wasn't beaten or molested... or, plenty of people lose a parent young, I'm nothing special. Or I feel foolish for it bothering me 30 years later. But it has never left me, I may not be conscious of it but I literally feel the weight every moment of everyday, it's always there. At age 6, you're literally unable to process the concept that one minute everything is fine, literally the next minute your mom is gone and you'll never see her again. I heard in psychology class or read somewhere that the trauma that you refer to, the effects don't manifest themselves until the teenage years. To me, and I'm sure you and everyone else, this matches up perfectly.
I never ever bring it up, and avoid mentioning it unless absolutely necessary, one because it's awkward and uncomfortable for me, but also because I don't want people to think I'm fishing for sympathy. I never would because I don't want it. But to hear my feelings validated was nice.
I'm so grateful to the both of them and I'm 100% sure that this will help victims and survivors of any background speak out/get support. Sending love and hugs to those who have gone through this
What a great man this guy is for doing that kind of necessary but traumatizing work! Excellent interviewer, too!
Or so he would like us to think...
@@mariemccann5895well what do you think then?
@@mariemccann5895 your a disgrace to say that, he's saving kids fgs 😡
When ordinary people do extra ordinary things. You lads are the ''bollocks'', well done so proud of you! Respect from Sheffield.
Fellow Sheffielder 🙌
Mike and Daniel are two amazing men and i deeply respect them and their work without knowing them personally. More has to be done to help young boy without taking away from the girls. Great vid.
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This is brilliant. I'm not a survivor, either, I'm working on recovering and living. I relate to males who have experienced CSA and childhood abuse more than women despite being female myself. I just learnt to shut down like men and boys are expected to do. This is a powerful video. Thank you.
Respect for you man. You are a hero. I'm actually crying. People like you is the reason to believe and hope .
Biggest respect 🙌 🙏 👏 thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ I wish you peace and happiness. We need more people like you!!!
Top bloke's. Massive respect to these fellas. Strong enough not to repeat the pattern of trauma and instead make the world a better place
i watch a few hunting groups and my daughter is a decoy and i have often thought how do you listen to what some monsters have done to our children, and see photographs confront them and then go home to your own kids, i hope the hunters get to talk about it and get it out of your head with a bit of therapy because you couldnt do this day in and day out walk away from it and live a "normal" life i hope they get help.well done lads and thanks for helping our kids, i am a survivor but not healed yet and i am 66 now and never got justice xxxxx
Daniel really done the work to heal. He has a fantastic understanding of his life and his previous behaviours.. it's incredible to see. What a powerful person
Two hugely inspirational gents!! I’m not overly religious but it feels right to say .. amen for you both 🙏💎
in a similar fashion, my abusers were both male and female, family members and strangers. having been raped by both genders, it was absolutely devastating when you are sitting in a classroom of your peers discussing sexual assaults, and when the subject of a woman raping a man comes up, everyone in class is laughing their heads off saying that a woman cant rape a man. They were all running their ignorant mouths while i sat there dying inside because i WAS.
to add insult to injury, because of the abuse, it screwed my brain up as well. as i got older, the women i was attracted to hadnt. it was at this point that i realized that I was now a predator myself. After years of trying to self-destruct, i decided to take this sickness and make it work for me. i used my sickness to train my child's mother, and my two step-daughters how to spot a predator. I also told my childs mother about all of this that i went through long before we decided to have a child together. 13 years later, none of my children have been touched......my kids also know exactly what hapened to me and why my brain is broken.
just like in the wild, its near impossible to successfully hunt a target when the prey KNOWS you are there and can see you coming. anytime i had an idea come through my mind about a way that i could abuse one of them, i ran straight to Jen to tell her about it. Because if i told her about it, i now eliminated my ability to act on it. but after coping with this for nearly 30 years now, i can certainly attest that making the choice to NOT act on your thoughts is as easy as choosing chocolate milk over white milk. the only time that this method wont work is if you WANT to abuse someone. and if thats your goal, sad to say ive got nothing to help you now.
the only time the choice not to abuse gets hard is when you WANT to hurt kids....... chew on that one for a bit.....
So much love and respect for these guys. Thank you so much 💓
Deep thank you for paying it forward. You are co-creating a great positive ripple effect in a broken society.
This great soul should have been supported to continue his work. He deserves a medal for god’s sake!
So much admiration and respect for these empowered and incredible men 👏 thankyou for all you do 🤍
Hats off to these guys and the programme makers. Fascinating and brilliant.
This is truly inspiring that I can not find the words. Well done Ladbible for platforming this and I hope it leads to funds/help in making their world domination a reality. Gentlemen, what you say about safeguarding being everyone’s responsibility is a vital message, and having watched all of Mikes videos it gives me something positive to focus on, something small but that I can do. Thank you for your bravery xx
This catch up is actually brilliant 🙌🏽that's for putting this out 🤝🏼
Such a powerful powerful conversation! Yes, yes, yes - get involved, speak up, be the one to make a difference. It just reminded me of a conversation at work about a neglected, little girl and bottom line why nobody intervened is was "you don't want to get involved" and it made me so mad. I salute you two for coming forward and leaving victimhood (comfort zone) behind. Love it. Live, don't survive and numb. Sooo on point. One part of the past does not determine the rest of the future. Super inspirational! 🙏
Thank you guys. Been wonderful listening to you. xx
It take an angel to take on and endure this level of Hell on Earth in order to help the helpless. So many blessing and love upon you Sir for all the good you have done.
Thank you Ladbible for giving these guys a platform to promote their positive message and increase awareness about male sexual abuse victims and toxic masculinity. These 2 guys are very inspirational, I have so much respect for what they're doing now - well done lads👏🏻👏🏻
This is the first video I've seen on LadBible which really would have profited from subtitles, these stories are way too important to miss a single word, I want to thank LadBible for all the videos you have put up and I am grateful for all the messages you sent out into the world and I also would like to send a big hug to this guy, thank you very much for getting involved with this horrendous crime and putting yourself on the line, I am sending you my respect, we need men like you to be safe
One word - INSPIRATIONAL!!! These two men are incredible and I wish you all the very very best in your endeavours. WOW!!!