11:25=(they usually try to find a man who is more compatible even if that means its only to be lover type of relationship.) thats senteces is what i have been missing for years. i have been good all the way to attract women and conect with them and make them seem me like a serios boyfriend or a husband material but i was thinking that this way is to difficult to get to sex and for that mindset i was being insecure. i bought the flow and i understand it totally that i was just 1 step away from succses the way that i behaving was actually the best and fastest way to get laid or get a girlfriend but i was afraid to make a move because i was thinking that was the long way but the 4 step of the flow teach me the missing point that i was missing for years. chears dan 🍻
So good to hear man 👏👍 You've got this now. Simply use one (or a few) of the many techniques from Step 4 to get the results you want (i.e. kissing, dates, sex, a new relationship). You will laugh at how easy it is. Enjoy the fun times ahead with women! I hope to hear more success stories from you. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ i laugh at the start man beacause was mind blowing and sometimes scary how easy was i know its wired to feel scary but thats how i felt. now i have been used to it and i dont laugh anymore dan 😄👍
So cool 😄 I can't express how happy I am to hear from a man who actually gets it. I know how amazing it is to be experiencing what you are now. It's so much damn fun. Suddenly, you can have pretty much any woman you meet. It's such a life-changing experience. Enjoy the fun times ahead! Cheers, Dan
I bought your audiobook The Flow, years ago, and, like you say at the end of the video, I understood that true seduction is not about routines or schemes, but to build oneself as a true man. Thanks, Dan. Keep up the good work. And you guys listening, buy the book!
Great to hear from you Alan. The confidence you've experienced will only grow stronger. It just gets better and better. Enjoy the awesome times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
I've been a fan of yours for years, Dan. Applying these principles helped set me apart from the competition when I first started dating my now wife. We now apply your teachings towards building business relationships at the company we've started together. Happy to see the channel doing so well!
So good to hear Shane 👏👍 I love to hear it. I wish you and your wife the very best of success with your company. You have the right mindset, so you will be fine. Enjoy the great times ahead! Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan, you use of examples is what really sets you apart from every other dating coach on TH-cam. Not only is your theory on point, but the example conversations are soooo helpful to awkward folks like me. Appreciate you bro.
Perfect timing on this video Talking to a girl and it feels like there is a connection there, then suddenly she just ignores me, but still decides to sit within my zone. Thinking it is some kind of test, will remain calm and keep moving things forward Love the videos Dan, tbh your channel is my favorite when it comes to this topic. No games.
Every woman wants a strong man; every sister wants a strong brother; every daughter wants a strong father; every mother wants a strong son. As a man, being strong is your only option.
I’ve been listening to Dan for years in between relationships when I feel lost or low and I listen to a lot of other dating advice but Dan is the only one who actually makes it simple but effective. So many people just rely on no contact or instills doom and gloom or nonsensical “alpha male” tactics that don’t work. Keep it up Dan men need more people like you and not all these busters on giving bad advice
Read the Flow and it clicked a puzzle piece into place. Worth it. I look at them and act as if it’s already there now. Good deal. Still not a fan of pushing for sex on a first date and that shit. Not at all. But to each their own.
Great to hear The Flow solved the puzzle of women for you Brett. About sex on the first date: Yes, each to their own. You can do it on the first date, second date, third and so on. However, these days, if a guy leaves it too late (i.e. 4 to 6 dates), it can make some women begin to question whether there is enough sexual chemistry between them to have a successful relationship. It's best to at least get to kissing by the first, second or third date in most cases. Cheers, Dan
Definitely guilty of #2, it would've been my first date in more than six years and I didn't want to look needy. On a dating site she agreed to meet me after a work trip, so I sent her a message then, which she read and didn't reply to. Then the coof scam hit the next month and now I'm unemployed, so things haven't improved.
Non-human animals have no free will. They can't love in the Human sense of the word. Most members of the homo sapiens species also can't. Their idea of love is what you feel for your cute puppy or for a baby or, as a teen, for another hot teen. That's not Love, in the Human sense of the word. It's impossible to feel Love for a baby - they have no Human values and virtues to be Loved for (like rationality, honesty, justice, independence, productivity...). To love is to _value_ greatly. Most people's valuing 'engine' is almost dead. They don't _really_ want anything. That's the sad truth. Most are motivated by fear, not by love/desire/'greed'. Most are in what Carol Dweck called "the fixed mindset". Only a small percentage of people have grown to be capable of Love. Have become Humans. Don't be at the level of some of the losers in society, dog mommas - unable to get the love of someone who has choice (because they're unable to provide value - that which others want). 😀
Dan you've been a huge help this past year with my mindset. A year ago I could barely hold eye contact with people. Now I am talking to women with confidence and am able to flirt a little bit. The change in how women act towards me is crazy. The problem is I'm still doubting myself when it comes to taking things to the next level, even though I know these girls are feeling attraction. How do you suggest I get over that anxiety? I've read The Flow, but when these opportunities present themselves, I start doubting that women would find my lifestyle interesting (I hardly have any social circle, but am working on that too), or I doubt that I am asking them out at the right time/place. I've blown several great opportunities this year with beautiful girls, and I know I'm real close to having everything click, so any additional tips you have are appreciated.
Great to hear of your progress. Well done. However, you must do Step 4 of The Flow, otherwise you will remain stuck there. Just use the examples of how to what to say to get a phone number, what to text her after, or if you're feeling more courageous, how to initiate a kiss, or physical touch. You must do Step 4, otherwise both you and the woman will feel disappointed that something didn't happen. Cheers, Dan
I really appreciate how you try to the best of your ability to educate young men like myself about women, it can’t be simplified anymore than this, thank you Dan.
Nice 👍 That would work, as long as the guy isn't being needy when he says it (i.e. he's not saying it in a way where he's trying to be a knight in shining armor, be Mr. Perfect, suck up to her, etc). Instead, he is saying it knowing that she'd loved to get tickled by a confident, masculine man like him.
For the most women if the man is confident around you, then that definitely means that the man has other options and you are not his number 1 option. You could have been no 1 but just at the time you are not and you can be sure of it.
Awesome to hear that Francis! It only gets better from where you are now. Be sure to use the techniques and you will get the results. Enjoy the great times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
Great video. I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
There’s this girl at work that I feel like might like me but I’m not sure. She laughs a lot at things that I say and says things like “you’re funny” and “you crack me up”, she also says my name a lot when she talks to me. Yesterday she told me to text her when I get in because the roads were icy. Today we were talking about something (can’t remember what it was) and I told her “I have no idea…do you really think I pay attention to that?” And she said “I’ll be honest Nick, I don’t know WHAT you pay attention to” and she seemed annoyed. Two people have told me so far that it sounds like she likes me and is frustrated that I’m not picking up on her signals. I’m still not fully comfortable asking her out though because she’s a co worker and I want to know for sure otherwise it’s awkward. Also, her friend (another co worker, female) played a trick on me today by trying to scare me by opening a door without me seeing her and I said “what the hell is that?” And she comes in smiling and says “it’s just me, I’m playing”. And then they both started laughing. She goes “I knew I’d get you” and I said sarcastically “you know me so well don’t you” and she said “trust me, we have you pretty figured out”. Is she being flirty by basically admitting that they both dig me? So yeah, I have two questions. Two different girls.
About the girl at work who you suspect likes you: There's nothing wrong with suggesting you catch up for 'after work drinks' with others and then move things forward with her there. Here's a video I made about coworker attraction: th-cam.com/video/V8RbgcSzXgs/w-d-xo.html About the girl who tried to scare you: She's signaling that they talk about you and have been trying to figure you out. Either risk moving things forward with the woman you like, or just treat them as two women who like you and that you're not going to sleep with.
As a 52 years old woman, single for years now, these videos help restore my faith in humanity. It's such a relief to hear a man speak the way Dan does. All my interactions with men on dating websites are so awkward and end up just making me feel bad about myself. Because I know how EASY it would be for basically almost any man to attract me. And they DON'T do it!! I literally CRAVE a man that would just put an ounce of effort into it. It's so easy guys. 🙏
Perfect timing. I went out on 3 dates with this girl and we kissed on the third date. Then couple days later her replies are far in-between. It’s been 2 days now since I texted her. How and what should I say to reignite the communication
I have been with a girl since last 2 months, but it seems she is not trustworthy. She is still into relationship with other guy, and due to lack of trust, I stopped feeling attraction for her. I place respect before sex and her beauty.
Show confident, relaxed interest in her. That's completely different to needy, desperate, tense interest in her. Essentially, my approach and what I teach in The Flow, is like what a guy who is naturally good with women would do. You've seen how naturals are around women, but if you don't understand how they do it, then I highly recommend that you read or listen to The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/2929ba1 Cheers, Dan
I love your content bought the flow and im thinking on investing on the conversation mastery program… i gotta comment though this seems very polarizing to what other youtubers like casey sanders say, he basically goes on saying that you shouldnt show too much interest on women, and invest the least, since she wants open relationships until she decides to chose you over the other boyos, kinda confused here
Casey is currently dating a certain type of woman (i.e. bad girls, player girls) and is currently in his player phase. Yes, those sort of women tend to continue dating other men until they decide that they want you. However, you still do need to show interest without being needy. In other words, you are an emotionally independent man and do like her, but don't need her. If she senses that, she feels drawn to you and feels free to continue coming forward into the relationship. However, if you try to 'play it cool' with a woman like her by acting like you don't care, but secretly really want her/need her, she will pick up on it and play hard to get. If you then panic in the slightest, she will lose respect for you. That's why it's best to be honest, but emotionally independent. No games. Just true confidence and honesty. BTW: Here's what I did to date and sleep with multiple women at once when I was going through my player phase: th-cam.com/video/krJncM_mJMY/w-d-xo.html
Excellent video, Dan! I wanna ask you something. What advice do you have when it comes to interacting with women in loud places like a DJ in a bar or a band playing? Do I just need to man up and be confident while speaking loud and clearly? There's a side of me that says it's difficult to interact with them there if I'm not one of their friends, but maybe I just need to tackle the situation by embracing my confidence and social intelligence. Of course, I do not want to be "just friends" with them. I wanna take it to the next level with the phone number, kiss, date, sex, relationship, all that good stuff. Cheers!
All this makes sense if you have a woman talking to you in the first place. Ive gone years without even a single sentence spoken between me and a woman id date. Apps are a dead end. In person it seems all the women dont really go in public around here since covid happened.
Women don't go out in public? Dude that has to be one of the funniest excuses I've ever heard. Come on man. You do see women that you find attractive, but you just don't talk to them. BTW: If you're afraid to talk to women in public, put yourself in situations where women will approach you and then be ready to attract them: th-cam.com/video/OrMmmiwmV5E/w-d-xo.html Cheers, Dan
Awesome video man, I definitely made those mistakes when I was younger... Now Dan, if you don't mind answeing, what do we do if we feel our girlfriend is constantly lying about something (I mean something she did in the past during our relationship, not that she's lying all the time), and she won't admit it? I feel she's not admitting the truth about certain things because she's afraid of losing me or me getting really angry at her. I tried miltiple times to tell her to tell me the truth, since I picked up quite a lot of women over time and learned when someone is lying. Yet she still won't do it and I lose respect and trust for her when that happens. And I told her that as well and nothing has changed. Also point 2. If me and her mom hate each other after a year into the relationship with ny gf (it started with her mom wanting to use me and also called me bad names while wanting us to breakup, even though I didn't do anything bad), what do I do? I feel like I can't trust my girlfriend 100% if I'd marry her knowing her mom will always get in between us and maybe even trick my kids against me, when we'd have them?
1. Why do you need to know? What will you do with the information? The second question is what concerns her the most. 2. Hate is a pretty strong word to use. If you honestly feels as though she hates you and would be manipulative and troublesome, then it doesn't seem like a good situation to stick with. BTW: I broke up with a girlfriend (when I was good with women) who has very sexy, fun and cool. We had a great time together for over a year. So much laughter and good times. Yet, she was a liar (and actually enjoyed lying) and her mother was as well. I left her because it just wouldn't have been good long term. Too much of a risk. 3 years later, I met my wife. Loyal, honest, supportive, loving, challenging, deserving of my respect. 11 years later, we're still in love, have twin daughters and all is well.
Hey dan, I want to ask something about texting goodmorning/goodnight. Im in a relationship and I've been sending regular goodmorning goodnight texts. I saw the video about it getting boring overtime so I thought I wouldnt do it as much, but when I do not text her goodmorning or goodnight, she gets sad, asks why Im not texting it anymore, says that I dont care anymore and so on. How do I answer to that or deal with that type of reaction? By the way, your videos helped me a lot over the past year with me relationship and its going much more smoothly because of your advice. Thanks
I discuss the good morning/good night text problem here: th-cam.com/video/3dskjTEaRhU/w-d-xo.html Great to hear that you're relationship is going more smoothly. I highly recommend you watch this entire playlist of my relationship videos: th-cam.com/video/CF54ljVirro/w-d-xo.html Cheers, Dan
You can download it to your phone (tablet, or computer) and no app is required. Your phone can automatically handle it. Alternatively, you listen to it in your Modern Man account on a phone, tablet or computer. Cheers, Dan
I girl I was seeing with incredibly bad past trauma. Beaten up by her boys father. Kinda a functioning alcoholic. But many good qualities also! Given me very strong mixed signals. I subconsciously overcompensated how kind I'd usually be, due to her past. She was playing the victim and I fell for it. Sure I wouldn't of been the only one to do so. I was firm many times with her and never reacted to like when she'd try and make me jealous. Basically she's bolted. Saying I've pushed her boundaries and she's uncomfortable. Her last message was emotionally charged wanting a reaction. Most likely one where I get on my hands and knees and say sorry. I went silent, didn't respond until two weeks later. Briefly explained a few points, called her out on her bullshit. Saying I'm not an emotional punch and take no crap. It must've got a reaction as she blocked me! But I feel the right tone of message to send. I'm now wondering if she'll reach out?
Yep. Women like her tend to attract guys who want to 'save her' and be extra nice to her due to her past. Yet, here's the thing...her ex wasn't the only bad guy she dated. There's something about those guys that attract her. The only way to make a woman like that love you and only you, is to be a good guy with balls. You can't be a nice guy with a woman like that. She will always leave you. If you want to know how to be a good guy with balls, the program is: store.themodernman.com/better_than_a_bad_boy.html Cheers, Dan
Thanks for the reply. And I know I'm not the only sucker to fall for this. Many guys have come and go. It's like it's just a game to her. Anyway have I played the latter part of this much better. Being more silent and firm? If this ends that's fine. If I can judt alter her way of thinking a little. As in I wasn't as much as of a pushover as she thought. I'd be quite happy with that. I've seen her on dating apps for quite a long time! Is my next move just stay quiet still?
@@mattdyer5437 A woman like her is no big loss if you don't convert her to a sexual partner. Chances are she would have been getting a much better deal than you if the 2 of you had become an item. Onwards and upwards. On to the next woman....
I want a friends with benefits relationship with a women but women's always do want serious long term relationship....how to pursue a women for FWB causal?
hello Dan, i want to ask if i flirt a woman too much and not taking an action to move forward, would she freindzone me or hate me? i'm quite good at making women feel attracted but don't know how to move things forward, so i notice that she starts to play mind games and try to friendzone me The second question is that does a woman reject a man just because he is good - looking even if he can make her feel attracted, i notice that some women tried to make something happens with me, but some are afraid of me even though i can flirt and make them feel atracted to
Yes, many women will friendzone you, or play hard to get if you take to long to make a move. They become afraid of being rejected by you, so they stop showing as much interest. Alternatively, they sense that you're afraid to make a move, so they lose interest. In terms of being good-looking - yes that makes some women feel afraid of not being able to maintain your interest. The solution is to go through The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/2929ba1 Just follow the steps and you will get results. It's simple and easy to do. Cheers, Dan
To really appreciate women you have to appreciate that women are there to be a natural challenge to men and that you should be grateful for it because it makes you a better man.
I’m going out with a lady now for about 6 months. At the beginning everything was very nice, sex was great and we were in touch often. For about 6 weeks now, she’s distant, sex has stopped and she said she no longer feels intellectually attracted as before. I really like her and she does look amazing for a 47 years old as she never had kids, but this mental game is killing the relationship. It’s bloody hard work to keep on top of things with girls nowadays. I try my best and try to be confident and all other things, but this kind of games just makes life harder.
Dan help me out.. I had this girl who was really interested in me, spoke to me the whole time while I was away on holiday, but the moment we got back her vibes been off, still talks but dodges any compliments or flirts i throw her way..
About to get your book and have a read. My sticking point seems to be my social intelligence/social skills in the initial meeting. When i meet a woman from a social circle (sports/hobbies etc i do ok, but to try and talk with a random stranger i struggle. Do you coach guys or is the book really the best place to start
The book (ebook or audiobook) is the best place to start. I used to take guys out to approach and attract women every weekend, but can't do that now as I am in a committed relationship. You will love The Flow and the boosts to your social intelligence and attractiveness that it provides. Enjoy the great times ahead with women!
For sure, just as you would likely feel about some women. However, if a woman is attracted to a man and he then moves things forward (i.e. to a phone number, kiss, or date), she will usually then become interested in having sex with him. Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan, how can I pick up 2 girls at the same time and get their number without them rejecting me for the fact that I want them both? Thank you for this amazing video by the way!🤘
Hang on...can you consistently pick up one woman though? The reason I ask is that guys often ask how to do wild, extraordinary things when they haven't yet mastered the basics. Cheers, Dan
Actually women usually run all 3 tests at once by suddenly playing hard to get. By doing so they can see how confident a man is, how much he wants her and his social intelligence to realize that that is what she is doing. BTW, this is why virtually all women will play hard to get at some point. Why wouldn't they? It is such an efficient way of sizing up a man.
Dan, I often see guys approaching two girls who are by their table in the way that he invites them to go to their table, and it works, I guess that for those girls, it was enough that someone approached and was relaxed and confident, so then they were open for whatever may happen. The other guy was shy and unsure, I could tell that he avoided even looking at 2nd girl that was next to him, while the guy that invited the 1st girl gained initial interest so much that even the 2nd girl started taking his hand and dancing a bit. Later, I saw them all at another bar; the girls were still sitting next to them, even tho they hadn't talked much at that point with them, while the girls were on their phones. 2nd guy relaxed a bit after a few more drinks and started talking a bit with 2nd girl, but I could tell by the body language that it was neutral. Yet, those girls gave them a chance by staying way longer with those guys, so yeah, as you said, most girls are way easy to pick up if you even just display one or two personality traits.
It used to be that maths felt unnatural to you, or driving a car, or using a certain kind of software. Then, you got used to doing it and you do it naturally and automatically now. Same with banter and flirting with women. You're just not used to it and likely don't know what to say or do. If you want to learn, go to: store.themodernman.com/in/2929ba1 Cheers, Dan
Dan. How can I prevent pregnancy during sex with women?? I am afraid of women's pregnancy during sex with them... How did you prevent pregnancy when you have sex with 250 women???
Wear a condom 😄 If you get into a relationship and stop wearing a condom, you can either suggest she goes on the pill, or you pull out and jerk off the last 5 seconds to ejaculate on her stomach, back, face, etc.
11:25=(they usually try to find a man who is more compatible even if that means its only to be lover type of relationship.) thats senteces is what i have been missing for years. i have been good all the way to attract women and conect with them and make them seem me like a serios boyfriend or a husband material but i was thinking that this way is to difficult to get to sex and for that mindset i was being insecure. i bought the flow and i understand it totally that i was just 1 step away from succses the way that i behaving was actually the best and fastest way to get laid or get a girlfriend but i was afraid to make a move because i was thinking that was the long way but the 4 step of the flow teach me the missing point that i was missing for years. chears dan 🍻
So good to hear man 👏👍 You've got this now. Simply use one (or a few) of the many techniques from Step 4 to get the results you want (i.e. kissing, dates, sex, a new relationship). You will laugh at how easy it is. Enjoy the fun times ahead with women! I hope to hear more success stories from you. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ i laugh at the start man beacause was mind blowing and sometimes scary how easy was i know its wired to feel scary but thats how i felt. now i have been used to it and i dont laugh anymore dan 😄👍
So cool 😄 I can't express how happy I am to hear from a man who actually gets it. I know how amazing it is to be experiencing what you are now. It's so much damn fun. Suddenly, you can have pretty much any woman you meet. It's such a life-changing experience. Enjoy the fun times ahead! Cheers, Dan
I bought your audiobook The Flow, years ago, and, like you say at the end of the video, I understood that true seduction is not about routines or schemes, but to build oneself as a true man. Thanks, Dan. Keep up the good work. And you guys listening, buy the book!
Great to hear from you Alan. The confidence you've experienced will only grow stronger. It just gets better and better. Enjoy the awesome times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
I've been a fan of yours for years, Dan. Applying these principles helped set me apart from the competition when I first started dating my now wife. We now apply your teachings towards building business relationships at the company we've started together.
Happy to see the channel doing so well!
So good to hear Shane 👏👍 I love to hear it. I wish you and your wife the very best of success with your company. You have the right mindset, so you will be fine. Enjoy the great times ahead! Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan, you use of examples is what really sets you apart from every other dating coach on TH-cam. Not only is your theory on point, but the example conversations are soooo helpful to awkward folks like me. Appreciate you bro.
Awesome to hear that Trevor! Cheers, Dan 👍
Perfect timing on this video
Talking to a girl and it feels like there is a connection there, then suddenly she just ignores me, but still decides to sit within my zone. Thinking it is some kind of test, will remain calm and keep moving things forward
Love the videos Dan, tbh your channel is my favorite when it comes to this topic. No games.
there's always a test, if you acknowledge it asap you already passed half of the test
Every woman wants a strong man; every sister wants a strong brother; every daughter wants a strong father; every mother wants a strong son. As a man, being strong is your only option.
I’ve been listening to Dan for years in between relationships when I feel lost or low and I listen to a lot of other dating advice but Dan is the only one who actually makes it simple but effective. So many people just rely on no contact or instills doom and gloom or nonsensical “alpha male” tactics that don’t work. Keep it up Dan men need more people like you and not all these busters on giving bad advice
Read the Flow and it clicked a puzzle piece into place. Worth it. I look at them and act as if it’s already there now. Good deal.
Still not a fan of pushing for sex on a first date and that shit. Not at all. But to each their own.
Great to hear The Flow solved the puzzle of women for you Brett. About sex on the first date: Yes, each to their own. You can do it on the first date, second date, third and so on. However, these days, if a guy leaves it too late (i.e. 4 to 6 dates), it can make some women begin to question whether there is enough sexual chemistry between them to have a successful relationship. It's best to at least get to kissing by the first, second or third date in most cases. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ oh of course. No sex but these hands of mine ARE magic tho.
All the best D
Definitely guilty of #2, it would've been my first date in more than six years and I didn't want to look needy. On a dating site she agreed to meet me after a work trip, so I sent her a message then, which she read and didn't reply to. Then the coof scam hit the next month and now I'm unemployed, so things haven't improved.
I have a lot to work on myself and I always ended up with your videos thank you 👍
Glad to be able to help 👍
My dog loves me at least........ lol
As long as you give him food. 😂
Non-human animals have no free will.
They can't love in the Human sense of the word.
Most members of the homo sapiens species also can't. Their idea of love is what you feel for your cute puppy or for a baby or, as a teen, for another hot teen. That's not Love, in the Human sense of the word. It's impossible to feel Love for a baby - they have no Human values and virtues to be Loved for (like rationality, honesty, justice, independence, productivity...).
To love is to _value_ greatly. Most people's valuing 'engine' is almost dead. They don't _really_ want anything. That's the sad truth. Most are motivated by fear, not by love/desire/'greed'. Most are in what Carol Dweck called "the fixed mindset".
Only a small percentage of people have grown to be capable of Love. Have become Humans.
Don't be at the level of some of the losers in society, dog mommas - unable to get the love of someone who has choice (because they're unable to provide value - that which others want). 😀
Dogs are the only loyal ones.
It's debatable. 😢
Dan you've been a huge help this past year with my mindset. A year ago I could barely hold eye contact with people. Now I am talking to women with confidence and am able to flirt a little bit. The change in how women act towards me is crazy. The problem is I'm still doubting myself when it comes to taking things to the next level, even though I know these girls are feeling attraction. How do you suggest I get over that anxiety? I've read The Flow, but when these opportunities present themselves, I start doubting that women would find my lifestyle interesting (I hardly have any social circle, but am working on that too), or I doubt that I am asking them out at the right time/place. I've blown several great opportunities this year with beautiful girls, and I know I'm real close to having everything click, so any additional tips you have are appreciated.
Great to hear of your progress. Well done. However, you must do Step 4 of The Flow, otherwise you will remain stuck there. Just use the examples of how to what to say to get a phone number, what to text her after, or if you're feeling more courageous, how to initiate a kiss, or physical touch. You must do Step 4, otherwise both you and the woman will feel disappointed that something didn't happen. Cheers, Dan
I really appreciate how you try to the best of your ability to educate young men like myself about women, it can’t be simplified anymore than this, thank you Dan.
8:58 "The woman says 'oh, I hate being tickled.'" I'd respond with a confident smirk and "the last guy who tried it wasn't doing it right."
Nice 👍 That would work, as long as the guy isn't being needy when he says it (i.e. he's not saying it in a way where he's trying to be a knight in shining armor, be Mr. Perfect, suck up to her, etc). Instead, he is saying it knowing that she'd loved to get tickled by a confident, masculine man like him.
For the most women if the man is confident around you, then that definitely means that the man has other options and you are not his number 1 option. You could have been no 1 but just at the time you are not and you can be sure of it.
Thanks for these videos Dan. I bought The Flow and it really improved my confidence and social intelligence with women!
Awesome to hear that Francis! It only gets better from where you are now. Be sure to use the techniques and you will get the results. Enjoy the great times ahead with women! Cheers, Dan
7:07 to 7:12 that thunderstorm. That's why Dan, we just love ya..
Great video. I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
I will forever clap for others until its my turn 🎉🎉
Australia recently became the World Champions in cricket, by beating India in the finals.
Congratulations to all Australians!
There’s this girl at work that I feel like might like me but I’m not sure. She laughs a lot at things that I say and says things like “you’re funny” and “you crack me up”, she also says my name a lot when she talks to me. Yesterday she told me to text her when I get in because the roads were icy. Today we were talking about something (can’t remember what it was) and I told her “I have no idea…do you really think I pay attention to that?” And she said “I’ll be honest Nick, I don’t know WHAT you pay attention to” and she seemed annoyed.
Two people have told me so far that it sounds like she likes me and is frustrated that I’m not picking up on her signals. I’m still not fully comfortable asking her out though because she’s a co worker and I want to know for sure otherwise it’s awkward.
Also, her friend (another co worker, female) played a trick on me today by trying to scare me by opening a door without me seeing her and I said “what the hell is that?” And she comes in smiling and says “it’s just me, I’m playing”. And then they both started laughing. She goes “I knew I’d get you” and I said sarcastically “you know me so well don’t you” and she said “trust me, we have you pretty figured out”. Is she being flirty by basically admitting that they both dig me?
So yeah, I have two questions. Two different girls.
About the girl at work who you suspect likes you: There's nothing wrong with suggesting you catch up for 'after work drinks' with others and then move things forward with her there. Here's a video I made about coworker attraction: th-cam.com/video/V8RbgcSzXgs/w-d-xo.html
About the girl who tried to scare you: She's signaling that they talk about you and have been trying to figure you out. Either risk moving things forward with the woman you like, or just treat them as two women who like you and that you're not going to sleep with.
Dan Bacon is the man. I have been watching you from Africa, Angola, Luanda. 😊
Very interesting, thanks for sharing
So many guys are so scared now, all you have to do is simply TRY.. and you'll stand out.
You nailed it.....
As a 52 years old woman, single for years now, these videos help restore my faith in humanity. It's such a relief to hear a man speak the way Dan does. All my interactions with men on dating websites are so awkward and end up just making me feel bad about myself. Because I know how EASY it would be for basically almost any man to attract me. And they DON'T do it!!
I literally CRAVE a man that would just put an ounce of effort into it. It's so easy guys. 🙏
Genius as always
Cheers Peter 👍 Glad you enjoyed the vid
Good 👍🏼 one Dan, thank you 🫵🏽
Perfect timing. I went out on 3 dates with this girl and we kissed on the third date. Then couple days later her replies are far in-between. It’s been 2 days now since I texted her. How and what should I say to reignite the communication
I have been with a girl since last 2 months, but it seems she is not trustworthy. She is still into relationship with other guy, and due to lack of trust, I stopped feeling attraction for her. I place respect before sex and her beauty.
For sure. Not every woman is a keeper.
Happy Thanksgiving bro✌🏾🥧
Hope it's a good one for you man 👍
Im confused with the part about interest levels. When we look to needy and when she think we are not interested not enough
Show confident, relaxed interest in her. That's completely different to needy, desperate, tense interest in her. Essentially, my approach and what I teach in The Flow, is like what a guy who is naturally good with women would do. You've seen how naturals are around women, but if you don't understand how they do it, then I highly recommend that you read or listen to The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/2929ba1 Cheers, Dan
I love your content bought the flow and im thinking on investing on the conversation mastery program… i gotta comment though this seems very polarizing to what other youtubers like casey sanders say, he basically goes on saying that you shouldnt show too much interest on women, and invest the least, since she wants open relationships until she decides to chose you over the other boyos, kinda confused here
Casey is currently dating a certain type of woman (i.e. bad girls, player girls) and is currently in his player phase. Yes, those sort of women tend to continue dating other men until they decide that they want you. However, you still do need to show interest without being needy. In other words, you are an emotionally independent man and do like her, but don't need her. If she senses that, she feels drawn to you and feels free to continue coming forward into the relationship. However, if you try to 'play it cool' with a woman like her by acting like you don't care, but secretly really want her/need her, she will pick up on it and play hard to get. If you then panic in the slightest, she will lose respect for you. That's why it's best to be honest, but emotionally independent. No games. Just true confidence and honesty. BTW: Here's what I did to date and sleep with multiple women at once when I was going through my player phase: th-cam.com/video/krJncM_mJMY/w-d-xo.html
Thanks for the reply really appreciate it, for sure will check the suggested video
Excellent video, Dan! I wanna ask you something. What advice do you have when it comes to interacting with women in loud places like a DJ in a bar or a band playing? Do I just need to man up and be confident while speaking loud and clearly? There's a side of me that says it's difficult to interact with them there if I'm not one of their friends, but maybe I just need to tackle the situation by embracing my confidence and social intelligence. Of course, I do not want to be "just friends" with them. I wanna take it to the next level with the phone number, kiss, date, sex, relationship, all that good stuff. Cheers!
thanks, good video
I always fall short on number 2
Interest level in her 😂😂
All this makes sense if you have a woman talking to you in the first place. Ive gone years without even a single sentence spoken between me and a woman id date. Apps are a dead end. In person it seems all the women dont really go in public around here since covid happened.
Women don't go out in public? Dude that has to be one of the funniest excuses I've ever heard. Come on man. You do see women that you find attractive, but you just don't talk to them. BTW: If you're afraid to talk to women in public, put yourself in situations where women will approach you and then be ready to attract them: th-cam.com/video/OrMmmiwmV5E/w-d-xo.html Cheers, Dan
Awesome video man, I definitely made those mistakes when I was younger... Now Dan, if you don't mind answeing, what do we do if we feel our girlfriend is constantly lying about something (I mean something she did in the past during our relationship, not that she's lying all the time), and she won't admit it? I feel she's not admitting the truth about certain things because she's afraid of losing me or me getting really angry at her. I tried miltiple times to tell her to tell me the truth, since I picked up quite a lot of women over time and learned when someone is lying. Yet she still won't do it and I lose respect and trust for her when that happens. And I told her that as well and nothing has changed.
Also point 2. If me and her mom hate each other after a year into the relationship with ny gf (it started with her mom wanting to use me and also called me bad names while wanting us to breakup, even though I didn't do anything bad), what do I do? I feel like I can't trust my girlfriend 100% if I'd marry her knowing her mom will always get in between us and maybe even trick my kids against me, when we'd have them?
Leave her, if she is hiding something
1. Why do you need to know? What will you do with the information? The second question is what concerns her the most.
2. Hate is a pretty strong word to use. If you honestly feels as though she hates you and would be manipulative and troublesome, then it doesn't seem like a good situation to stick with.
BTW: I broke up with a girlfriend (when I was good with women) who has very sexy, fun and cool. We had a great time together for over a year. So much laughter and good times. Yet, she was a liar (and actually enjoyed lying) and her mother was as well. I left her because it just wouldn't have been good long term. Too much of a risk.
3 years later, I met my wife. Loyal, honest, supportive, loving, challenging, deserving of my respect. 11 years later, we're still in love, have twin daughters and all is well.
Hey dan, I want to ask something about texting goodmorning/goodnight.
Im in a relationship and I've been sending regular goodmorning goodnight texts. I saw the video about it getting boring overtime so I thought I wouldnt do it as much, but when I do not text her goodmorning or goodnight, she gets sad, asks why Im not texting it anymore, says that I dont care anymore and so on. How do I answer to that or deal with that type of reaction?
By the way, your videos helped me a lot over the past year with me relationship and its going much more smoothly because of your advice. Thanks
I discuss the good morning/good night text problem here: th-cam.com/video/3dskjTEaRhU/w-d-xo.html Great to hear that you're relationship is going more smoothly. I highly recommend you watch this entire playlist of my relationship videos: th-cam.com/video/CF54ljVirro/w-d-xo.html Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan , I want to ask you ,the best way to get her phone number without rejection
DAn Bacon is legit. I have gotten two exes back using his get my ex back. I ended the relationships is why it didn't work out lol. But dan is the man
if we buy audio book the flow how does it work , where do we listen to it is there an app or !
You can download it to your phone (tablet, or computer) and no app is required. Your phone can automatically handle it. Alternatively, you listen to it in your Modern Man account on a phone, tablet or computer. Cheers, Dan
I girl I was seeing with incredibly bad past trauma. Beaten up by her boys father. Kinda a functioning alcoholic. But many good qualities also! Given me very strong mixed signals. I subconsciously overcompensated how kind I'd usually be, due to her past. She was playing the victim and I fell for it. Sure I wouldn't of been the only one to do so. I was firm many times with her and never reacted to like when she'd try and make me jealous.
Basically she's bolted. Saying I've pushed her boundaries and she's uncomfortable. Her last message was emotionally charged wanting a reaction. Most likely one where I get on my hands and knees and say sorry. I went silent, didn't respond until two weeks later. Briefly explained a few points, called her out on her bullshit. Saying I'm not an emotional punch and take no crap. It must've got a reaction as she blocked me! But I feel the right tone of message to send. I'm now wondering if she'll reach out?
Yep. Women like her tend to attract guys who want to 'save her' and be extra nice to her due to her past. Yet, here's the thing...her ex wasn't the only bad guy she dated. There's something about those guys that attract her. The only way to make a woman like that love you and only you, is to be a good guy with balls. You can't be a nice guy with a woman like that. She will always leave you. If you want to know how to be a good guy with balls, the program is: store.themodernman.com/better_than_a_bad_boy.html Cheers, Dan
Thanks for the reply. And I know I'm not the only sucker to fall for this. Many guys have come and go. It's like it's just a game to her. Anyway have I played the latter part of this much better. Being more silent and firm? If this ends that's fine. If I can judt alter her way of thinking a little. As in I wasn't as much as of a pushover as she thought. I'd be quite happy with that. I've seen her on dating apps for quite a long time! Is my next move just stay quiet still?
@@mattdyer5437 A woman like her is no big loss if you don't convert her to a sexual partner. Chances are she would have been getting a much better deal than you if the 2 of you had become an item.
Onwards and upwards. On to the next woman....
I want a friends with benefits relationship with a women but women's always do want serious long term relationship....how to pursue a women for FWB causal?
Hey dan, would you make video about looking confindent in photos on social media like Facebook or intagram?
I discuss that topic in this video: th-cam.com/video/InHo_IJwAAc/w-d-xo.html
hello Dan, i want to ask if i flirt a woman too much and not taking an action to move forward, would she freindzone me or hate me? i'm quite good at making women feel attracted but don't know how to move things forward, so i notice that she starts to play mind games and try to friendzone me
The second question is that does a woman reject a man just because he is good - looking even if he can make her feel attracted, i notice that some women tried to make something happens with me, but some are afraid of me even though i can flirt and make them feel atracted to
Yes, many women will friendzone you, or play hard to get if you take to long to make a move. They become afraid of being rejected by you, so they stop showing as much interest. Alternatively, they sense that you're afraid to make a move, so they lose interest. In terms of being good-looking - yes that makes some women feel afraid of not being able to maintain your interest. The solution is to go through The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/2929ba1 Just follow the steps and you will get results. It's simple and easy to do. Cheers, Dan
To really appreciate women you have to appreciate that women are there to be a natural challenge to men and that you should be grateful for it because it makes you a better man.
I’m going out with a lady now for about 6 months. At the beginning everything was very nice, sex was great and we were in touch often. For about 6 weeks now, she’s distant, sex has stopped and she said she no longer feels intellectually attracted as before.
I really like her and she does look amazing for a 47 years old as she never had kids, but this mental game is killing the relationship.
It’s bloody hard work to keep on top of things with girls nowadays.
I try my best and try to be confident and all other things, but this kind of games just makes life harder.
Dan help me out.. I had this girl who was really interested in me, spoke to me the whole time while I was away on holiday, but the moment we got back her vibes been off, still talks but dodges any compliments or flirts i throw her way..
Move on
Basically, as a man you have to be a master of those attributes ..I mean you will be tested and you can fail. Women just can be pretty. Cruel..
About to get your book and have a read. My sticking point seems to be my social intelligence/social skills in the initial meeting. When i meet a woman from a social circle (sports/hobbies etc i do ok, but to try and talk with a random stranger i struggle. Do you coach guys or is the book really the best place to start
The book (ebook or audiobook) is the best place to start. I used to take guys out to approach and attract women every weekend, but can't do that now as I am in a committed relationship. You will love The Flow and the boosts to your social intelligence and attractiveness that it provides. Enjoy the great times ahead with women!
I'm 100% better than who she is with right now.
Hey Dan... Is it possible for a girl to feel attracted to a guy but not interested in having sex with him?
For sure, just as you would likely feel about some women. However, if a woman is attracted to a man and he then moves things forward (i.e. to a phone number, kiss, or date), she will usually then become interested in having sex with him. Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan, how can I pick up 2 girls at the same time and get their number without them rejecting me for the fact that I want them both?
Thank you for this amazing video by the way!🤘
Damn! 😂🤣
Hang on...can you consistently pick up one woman though? The reason I ask is that guys often ask how to do wild, extraordinary things when they haven't yet mastered the basics. Cheers, Dan
@@DanBacon_ that's a very good point
Yes man, I'm not as good as you yet, but thanks to The Flow I've been able to consistenly pick up women. Not every woman but some of them@@DanBacon_
@@anonimo5912XD
i have -50 social intelligence. easily my biggest downfall. and i text without really thinking.
Actually women usually run all 3 tests at once by suddenly playing hard to get. By doing so they can see how confident a man is, how much he wants her and his social intelligence to realize that that is what she is doing. BTW, this is why virtually all women will play hard to get at some point. Why wouldn't they? It is such an efficient way of sizing up a man.
Dan, I often see guys approaching two girls who are by their table in the way that he invites them to go to their table, and it works, I guess that for those girls, it was enough that someone approached and was relaxed and confident, so then they were open for whatever may happen. The other guy was shy and unsure, I could tell that he avoided even looking at 2nd girl that was next to him, while the guy that invited the 1st girl gained initial interest so much that even the 2nd girl started taking his hand and dancing a bit.
Later, I saw them all at another bar; the girls were still sitting next to them, even tho they hadn't talked much at that point with them, while the girls were on their phones. 2nd guy relaxed a bit after a few more drinks and started talking a bit with 2nd girl, but I could tell by the body language that it was neutral. Yet, those girls gave them a chance by staying way longer with those guys, so yeah, as you said, most girls are way easy to pick up if you even just display one or two personality traits.
Ya banter right, ugh I guess I'm wet behind the ears, i find it unnatural to bring up some 'funny guy' aspect of myself.
It used to be that maths felt unnatural to you, or driving a car, or using a certain kind of software. Then, you got used to doing it and you do it naturally and automatically now. Same with banter and flirting with women. You're just not used to it and likely don't know what to say or do. If you want to learn, go to: store.themodernman.com/in/2929ba1 Cheers, Dan
It happened to me
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Congrats legend
Dan. How can I prevent pregnancy during sex with women?? I am afraid of women's pregnancy during sex with them... How did you prevent pregnancy when you have sex with 250 women???
Wear a condom 😄 If you get into a relationship and stop wearing a condom, you can either suggest she goes on the pill, or you pull out and jerk off the last 5 seconds to ejaculate on her stomach, back, face, etc.
@@DanBacon_I can't do it with a condom, but out of fear I take it out 5 minutes earlier, not 5 seconds.
Women are amazing
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Dan can I have your number?😢