HELP! My partner won’t budget & keeps spending all our money!

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ม.ค. 2025

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  • @patmartin9727
    @patmartin9727 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +21

    Great tips there Jane. When I met my husband he had a nice home a nice car no debt except his mortgage and a current account with not much money in it. He worked hard but spent hard which was not how I had been brought up. I took over managing the household finances. He was happy to earn the money and leave the rest to me. I gave him Pocket Money every week and set up a budget. Little by little I managed to build up savings and a good emergency fund. One day he said he couldn’t understand how I could fund things like changing the car and going on holiday without getting a loan from the bank. He was never interested in learning about budgeting or saving but was happy with me paying things and FINDING the money when we needed something or get a larger energy bill in winter.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      Thanks for sharing your story Pat.

  • @Cheryl-gu1hv
    @Cheryl-gu1hv 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

    My husband is totally on board with not spending money. We are retired and have what we need. Very grateful we worked hard for what we have. Enjoyed the video. 😊😊

  • @michellejennings3232
    @michellejennings3232 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I am single so I budget alone but as i was listening to your presentation i found myself identifying with ALL the personality types you discussed. Sometimes, if my life is an indicator, even single people will be dealing with a " spender" AND a " saver", and the associated internal struggles.
    So, your suggestions work even for SOME single people.
    Thanks for your hard work.

  • @simonefeaster5131
    @simonefeaster5131 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Much appreciate this video, Mike and Jane! In the past I struggled to bring my husband on board the (more) frugal train. Fortunately, he isn’t particularly spendy, but rather he’s disorganized. While we are not always on as much the same page as you and Mike, we are much more organized, communicative and reaching financial goals together than before I started watching your videos. I am choosing to focus on the good progress we have made as a couple, and I try to remember that with money comes emotion, so I make sure not to bring it up when either of us is having an “off” day. Thanks again for the great topics and ideas ❤

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Your final point is so important. Thanks for sharing.

  • @patmartin9727
    @patmartin9727 18 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +8

    Good afternoon everyone from a very cold -5 snowy West Yorkshire in the Uk. Hope everyone is able to stay warm and stay safe.

  • @wyyeti4004
    @wyyeti4004 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    I can’t wait for this video. My other half is VERY stubborn.

  • @lindajacquot5391
    @lindajacquot5391 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Vital video for budgeting with a partner! Thanks, Jane and Mike! This should be in the top five of your excellent, must-watch videos. ❤🐾❤️🐾

  • @Shantelle6253
    @Shantelle6253 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I'm glad you specified in the beginning. Sometimes a legal separation is the only way to stop an entitled spouse from drowning the entire family. I'm going to boop the like button and skip the rest ❤

  • @teresaearl5688
    @teresaearl5688 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    We are very fortunate, we are on the same page with money and budgeting. ❤

    • @cathydyer3774
      @cathydyer3774 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Us too 🙂

  • @Dutch_Gonneke
    @Dutch_Gonneke วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    I would love to know how to get a partner. Period.
    🤣

    • @lindajacquot5391
      @lindajacquot5391 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Be careful what you wish for.😂

  • @hayleyrichardson3343
    @hayleyrichardson3343 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    I’ve been married 41 years happy

  • @lynnestait8011
    @lynnestait8011 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    ive always dealt with the finances but it made sense as I was in Banking for 34 years! I came from a budgeting upbringing, whereas my husband didnt, he often saw his Mum go short as his parents didnt have a great relationship, luckily hes not a spender, so its been working for us almost 40 years

  • @Pejosach
    @Pejosach 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I’m also looking forward to this video. My husband is getting closer to me in my frugalness, but our attitudes to budgeting still differ and there can often be a bit of a ‘push-pull’ when it comes spending x

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Good luck. It takes patience but worth it.

  • @barbarasheers1273
    @barbarasheers1273 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Jane, this subject is the absolute number ONE stumbling block in this household. We have the Saver/Frugal side and then we have I'm not happy until I have spent every penny and the pennies to be made next month side. Since I am the one watching I can admit I am the Saver. PLEASE think about expanding on this subject in future midweek money chats.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      I'm so sorry to hear this. Have you tried the three suggestions I made ?

  • @annamariekorte7259
    @annamariekorte7259 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Great video.

  • @Ann-d6y
    @Ann-d6y 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Hi. Education is the key....

  • @muttersmenu2422
    @muttersmenu2422 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    My late husband liked to consider himself good in managing with the family finances, in fact he was fairly hopeless. We were never owed anything other than the mortgage but had little in savings and things looked fine.
    On having to take over the estate I discovered things were not really that good. A strict rule was applied, record every cent spent and for the past twenty years has been done Holidays are paid up for prior to going, clothing is basic and interchangeable.
    Managing money 💰 was a learning curve for the but I got there😊
    Thanks Jane and Mike for an informative talk. Pats to the doggies ☃️👍🇦🇺

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for sharing. Often people think they're on top of things.

  • @lorelei9393
    @lorelei9393 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Great video. 👍

  • @sophiawolthof1238
    @sophiawolthof1238 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    👍👍👍

  • @rachalsmith
    @rachalsmith 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    My and my partner live separately we combine our money to and extent we pay our bills and have fun with the rest of this!

  • @carolwoodward6141
    @carolwoodward6141 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hello from Virginia 🇺🇸🗽

  • @94hydenseek
    @94hydenseek 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    I've always taken care of the household finances and I don't mind doing it, I don't find it a chore Hubby is not good at being froogle or money saving but knows that I take good care of the finances so it works for us. I've done it for so long that I don't think I would like or appreciate him poking his nose in, lol. Money doesn't interest him, when I worked he never asked how much I earned nor does he question what I spend, I suppose because he knows it's taken good care of. Works for us.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@94hydenseek thanks for sharing,

  • @lauravancea3935
    @lauravancea3935 17 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Great post!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @S-K.456
    @S-K.456 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    My husband doesn't want to know about budgeting! Im the opposite 😅 We keep our finances separate, he pays all bills I pay for groceries, childcare. Its equal % to what we earn. When it comes to big purchases, holidays etc we split it, again equally. Not my ideal but it works now.

    • @FrugalQueeninFrance
      @FrugalQueeninFrance  16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      I'm glad you're making it work even though I sense that you'd rather it was different

  • @mariannewesten3638
    @mariannewesten3638 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I am lucky,that I have a frugal husband.we both grew up in a family where the parents were frugal.for us it's our way of living.And we love it👍