HOW TO NOT GET ATTACHED TO A WOMAN WHEN DATING (URGENT Message From CASEY ZANDER)
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Casey you are THE TRUTH! everything you said hit home to me I made so many of those mistakes when I was younger. I really appreciate the value you are giving to young men. I look forward to the next one. Keep up the good work brother
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man is not to buipd anything with her but also to lead the relation?
Do you do one on one chats? I got something to ask you about this chick
Plz make point vdo for ...why girl friend changes when she becomes wifey..😂need to verify my knowledge
"Attachment is the root of all suffering" Buddha
Hell yes
Just be glad you’re smashing her now. - Chris Rock.
What's your view on the dilemma of attachment and relationships from the Buddhist perspective?
Christ is lord
My parents have been married for over 40 years. They are both attached. It still works well because he has instilled a sense of dread in my mom..My dad made it known that if my mom ever violated his trust, he is gone instantly, and will nrver look back. My mom is old fashioned, and would never do anything, but my dad still made it known. He also keeps himself in shape by working out and eating well, and he also dresses well. This gets attention from other women. This keeps the woman in line too without even saying anything. They know they can be replaced.
@@jeansollot6419it’s abuse to have respect for yourself as a man? You’re going to have a difficult love life with that mentality
what a nice thing to do for a husband to "instill a sense of dread" in his wife. Stop watching red pill nonsense omg
@@Christian-rb8wk
If his father didn't do that, his mom would've left a while ago
I love this.
@Christian-rb8wk sorry but this is facts.
This is what women respond to.
Every time I have dated a girl that I wasn't very much into, she has started to chase me, because my lack of attachment made me care less about the outcome, which made me behave in a more masculine and attractive way (that includes avoiding those mistakes Casey is talking about in the video). It's key to act the same way when we are dating our dream girls. Our job as men is to live great lives, invite girls into our lives and then let the GIRLS do the chasing and ask for commitment.
My last two gfs I did not want to date them. I just wanted to have fun. I asked my friends and they said the same. When you have that state of mind of not wanting to have anything serioes with them your body language says it all. You behave differently and that attracts them. Today I want something serious with this chick am seeing and guess what, I'm having a tough time with her. Shes knows it.
Dont chase a woman. Chase the money & your goals & then sometime inbetween now & then the woman will chase you.
Act accordingly 👍
You forgot to say “She’s not yours it’s just your turn”.
@@TheFriendlyPsychopath😂😂😂😂
I am considered “ emotionally Unavailable “ but this is part due to childhood trauma & negative experiences. Women always flocked to me. And I hardly give them the time of day. They love this. It keeps them in a constant state of uncertainty. Their emotions are constantly gauged becuz they cant figure you out. It’s a “ blessing “ that came from a “ curse “ currently I have a 4 girl rotation and they all pursue and initiate contact with me. It’s the better route to go as far as dealing with women are concerned. NEVER get attached. She will leave you dry the moment she sees that you are.
I too have my own Roster & i do the same thing without being attached & the magic thing is that they chase you more!
Reverse psychology works wonders 😉
@@heathRoccoI also have a roster and they’re all in love with me. Casey the goat🤣 but it’s crazy to think that it’s impossible for 90% of men to have
@@heathRocco i JUST mentioned the word reverse psychology in a previous comment right before yours and u just confirmed what i was thinking haha. It legit seems that way.
Reverse psychology with an 11 yr old eho doesn't know anything
What do those other women think about that that want you for themselves 😂
...the moment she sees that you care?
Being Emotionally unavailable is the the sure fire way to avoid getting too attached, plain and simple
But how? How does a man learn how to be emotionally unavailable?? Especially if he’s in love with a girl and sees a future with her. How do you completely change your mindset?
Exactly @@dylanshorrorchannel1378
Never fall in love with her
@@dylanshorrorchannel1378 Your simping. Understand that she does not feel the same. You look pathetic in her eyes. Being a man is what it’s about. Keep in mind she has irons in the fire and is probably getting her back blown out by Chad in the break room at work. You’re a cog in the wheel as she sleeps her way up the hypergamous mountain. Go red pill.
@@dylanshorrorchannel1378great question … I am considered “ emotionally Unavailable “ but this is part due to childhood trauma & negative experiences. Women always flocked to me. And I hardly give them the time of day. They love this. It keeps them in a constant state of uncertainty. Their emotions are constantly gauged becuz they cant figure you out. It’s a “ blessing “ that came from a “ curse “ currently I have a 4 girl rotation and they all pursue and initiate contact with me. It’s the better route to go as far as dealing with women are concerned. NEVER get attached. She will leave you dry the moment she sees that you are.
Attachment is the root of all suffering
if you don`t attach you won`t invest, if you don`t have a need to invest (time/resources) why do you even bother meeting girls?
Shhhhhhh quiet down
🤔 is it ? But it's wrong. It's actually something different. Not being attached in a healthy way is the root of all problems. Healthy starts from you.
listen up young guns , 63 yo here been there done it , listen up hard , no pain no gain . myman Casey will keep you straight.
It sucks to know that I made all these mistakes with someone but damn am I glad that I found Casey so I don't make the same mistake twice!!
Same
Yup
Same here! We make it bro!
Yep me too older guy got infatuated with a younger girl but there's still time I've backed off no more chasing making myself much more unavailable let them come to you if it's meant to be
Instinctively she will always have more respect, admiration, honor, and desire for the man that she likes who can have sex with her and remain indifferent and unattached than she ever will for the man that shows her that he truly loves her.
And there’s no two ways about it
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"its not my job to build anything with her", great advice.
Fortunately, the mindset I've practiced for years pretty much lines up with most of your teaching. I'm thankful for the confirmation. I knew what works but never knew exactly why it worked to the depth I've seen thru you. Great work, Sir. Thank you.
May this message go far and wide soon. The times they are a changin'.
16:18 FACTS. Listen guys. I have always had women attracted to me and approach me, but it never lasted long because... I start to get too invested in them. So to them, they were like oh, what I thought he was he isn't, he is not really stoic, focused on himself and his purpose, here he is getting weak for me already. The very second I realized this was the issue my entire dating life with women changed. Now when they pursue me, now I am the one picking and choosing which one to date, and oh, I am also the one who decide if I am going to let her leave because I know exactly what to do.
I used to have a problem where I would trama dump or love bomb on girls to get them to dump me because I didn’t want to hurt their feelings and break up with them. Smh 🤦♂️
That's some solid advice G
I’m tired of playing games/drama everyday.I better just be alone.Its peaceful.
Also a good way to be
Been ignoring her for so long, she wouldn't know if I was even dead at this point. Just killin it!
Lol
Unconscious self sabotage makes us guys our own worst enemies as we project our enmity on to others. But when the enmity returns to the guy in the mirror, the cycle repeats.
Casey I'm 58 and looking back on my failures I see you are wise beyond you're years. Wish I had someone like you giving me advice when I was 25!
Women have too many options nowadays so there is no point in being attached to them
Exactly
Because of The Internet & Social Media
Women Have too Many "Options".
This is why they keep Moving the
"Goal Post" : 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
@WonZZY2003 thats why they keep moving the goal post?....interesting
@@PassionateSpirit88
I mean, her dream guy constantly keeps changing as she continues to encounter different or better-looking types of guys' profiles showing up on her Instagram feed page, FYP page of her TikTok, and other social media platforms she may be using.
This is why they keep Moving the
"Goal Post" : 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
By "Goal Post" i used as a citation of dating standard which she keep elevating it higher and higher and making it harder for you, to make herself submit to you..
@@PassionateSpirit88
Because of inconsistent emotional pattern, you can't fully trust em
Finally, this has always been where I’ve lost them in relationships
6:27 and stop worry about her not doing it if she says you dont call her enough. i am going through that right now with a girl, she has said it many times, i dont change and she still CALLS, 90% of our conversations is a phone call.
What exactly do you respond when she brings up the topic?
Try to be specific, please.
I was like this 10 years ago and got more ass than a toilet seat. But the tradeoff was I was depressed and unfulfilled because I wasn’t feeling anything for the girls I was seeing.
As a man approaching 40 this year. Take it from an older man with wisdom and experience…
Dating and relationships for a man in today’s world is a game that is rigged for you to lose.
You’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t.
Work on yourself brother
Agreed.. I've given up
Totally true. I am in the same boat brother. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Still trying to find a midway solution.
@@ramyz911 There isn’t one. You have to put up with loving a girl without being in love with her.
Female nature has seen to it that a man gets punished if he does.
Falling in love is a privilege that only girls get to experience. For men, we can only fall in love with our purpose and nothing more.
@@OnderHassansure this isn't just hypergamy that comes after the peak of an empire?
This just happened to me
I caught it midway through and I realized going 1on1 monogamous takes all the man’s leverage away
Yep. Same. I refuse to do that and it allows me to retain my power
Sex. Sex is the thing that creates attachment. Why do u think girls put it off so long....? They know once you have sex, they are gonna become attached. If you want to draw things out, space out the sex.
Space out the sex and enjoy it when ED kicks in at 80 and enjoy it when u are preparing to exit.😂
No bro lol these women are getting ran through and not getting attached, it's just sex for them
My takeaway from this - focus more on yourself, displaying affection is okay as long as it’s in moderation, build a wholesome life and self, be kind but firm, practice some degree of emotional unavailability, and most importantly, be at peace with being alone.
13:03 listen, EVERY TIME I HAVE SAID that I want to BUILD SOMETHING with a woman, it either doesn't even start or it ends. Listen, WOMEN ARE NOT BUILDERS, THEY ARE SUPPORTERS & NURTURERS. Therefore, YOU THE MAN MUST BUILD then she will come in and support it, nurture it and make it better. Don't try to build a business, a friendship, nor relationship... don't EVER say that, make her ask and don't give the full impression that is what you want, YOU SHOULD BE FOCUSED ON BUILDING. That is what is important to a woman's SURVIVAL INSTINCTS.
Great work, man ! Keep this kinda videos going and you'll get far ! You're cracking them down, you're nailing it !!!!!
This is a much needed video Casey, I’m currently dating four women right now.
How explain?
B.s. 😂
Don't fall in love
You do know that ain't Wise
You're dating ten women right now. Five on each hand.
We ve all been waiting for this video😊. Awesome piece Casey. Thanks for giving me the edge.
Let’s go man this is clutch. Early stage of relationship and it’s going well
I know what you say is completely correct. I was incredibly attracted to a girl a while back and started showing some of these signs, but did not realize them until a few weeks after she pulled away.
At least I now know what to do with the next one, but as you say, it's easy to fall apart and become way too invested and attached when you really like her, as I found out the hard way...
I'll never doubt you man, what you're saying is the absolute truth, you have made it into a science
Absolutely life saving and eye opening… that’s exactly where I fall every time
A much needed video, thank you Uncle C.
thanks again casey. this one is super important to me because this was how i was with the last 2 relationships i had and i fucked them up royally. i just had to learn from experience. that, and videos like this, will be the pinnacle to my new masculine frame im building right now, and i gotta say i already feel my balls getting bigger. i have one girl on the line right now that im super stoked to try and work these videos on. keep yall posted.
I really admire and appreciate your commitment to teach men that thing they are missing in life.
You must know that it’s your purpose And mission
I have watched a shit ton of Casey's vid's, for me this is the best one. It really sum's up many things.
The best teacher ever!
Damn bro, this perfectly discribes why my first and also last relationship ended. Thankful i‘m never going to do these mistakes again, and can‘t wait to teach my son‘s this important lessons on day❤
Btw your chest looks bigger these days Casey! God bless you and much love from germany❤❤
Man thank you for this, this video is literally all I needed, wish you best in life, god bless you. Much love for ya.
Operate from abundance. Takes time to build your "network" but it will happen. Then you won't have to worry about coming off needy or thirsty. You literally won't give a fk because there's someone else to take out, talk to, take home etc. Spend less time on the girls and more time on yourself.... This guy is giving sound advice. Subbed.
Subbed isn't a proper word.
Well thought out and sustinct. Lots of tips showing potential potholes that are sometimes overlooked or just missed.
Little things, to be ignored at your own peril.
The video I’ve been waiting on 🔥🔥🔥🔥
needed this actually just started dating and was looking for this.
Wonderful video Casey. Well done. You just broke down what it is to be a man; to be centered, strong and yet emotionally measured.
Really needed this, I am every red flag on this board to some extent.
I appreciate your videos dawg. Literally grounded me with this one lol
I'm watching all of your videos and using your advice 70-80% of the time and its working thanks you are the best
you re nurturing n rebuilding social fabric of mankind around the west. Great. Thnks Mr Casey.
My good man, very on point. Through trial and error your breakdown will work.
Right on time. Needed this
Yea bro i really need this
This is so crucial
Thanks
thanks for the videos man. I've been watching a few and now I understand why my relationships in the past failed. I hope I had this information in the past but takes a man to learn from mistakes.
It's crazy I already understood the psychology you're explaining and i can speak from experience that it absolutely works. Ive been in several relationships in the last decade but haven't been broken up with once in that time span. I've broken up with them. Now I'm engaged to my dream girl but she doesn't know shes my dream girl because i dont make her feel like I'm super attached. I got her wrapped around my finger. She knows i love her but i dont give the impression that my life completely revolves around being with her.
You might think you got her but she's actually got you
Agree! Don't be attached to ur dating counterfeit. It means don't over emotional investing into man or woman before confirming he or she a marriage material. just honest transparency in friendship without any benefit, if he or she cannot be honest to communicate, don't expect he or she can be honest after entering relationship or marriage.
Transparency eliminates wild delusion in your brain before you truly know this person.
It's never too late after finding one owning the traits that truly amazes you then to fall in love with.
Relationship is a business confirmation, all condition fits, then marriage is true love relationship, a true deal investment and lifelong love attachment.
Me, a female brain's view.
Great video Casey !
Bro just wanna say thanks for all the great advice i dont wanna be something im not, I call pull baddies but a lot of the stuff you talked about pushed em away
I wish I had seen this decades ago. Nothing surprising really, just the way you put it made finally things click. Your rhetoric made grammar to reach logic beautifully.
I have started putting your videos on before sleeping. It helps in good sleep as well as give information
So many gems here💎💎
This is all 100% facts. Wish I knew and applied this earlier.
The way you don’t get attached is ABCD. Always be catching dates (With more than one until u find the one)
Casey spitting the best game on the net
DEFINITELY
something that helped me a lot excepting reality and really starting to even like the way it is, is by thinking about why the female male dynamic is this way: everything casey talks about makes you as a man long term extremely capable and powerful not only with women. God or biology (however you want to put it) structured that this way to only let men and women reproduce that were actually capable and competent! So start to think of it as the new type of self development journey and you wont recognize yourself again within a years time.
Casey your demeanor in this video was awesome
Casey lots of respect brother,your'e the only dating preceptor on TH-cam whose content feels genuine to me,would you make a video on,how to know if a woman really loves you
If you dont know, she doesnt. Saved Casey the time. Lol
@@HashTagMediaGuy😂😂😂
Women can't love, at least the way we do... It's even in the Bible, God commands men to love their women, and women to respect and submiss to their men...
Anne brother truths spoken !
Thanks a lot bro with this video. Went on a great first date with a girl who's values and lifestyle r de same as mine and I am okay with the idea that we might not see each other again coz that's life.
She is de type of girl that likes to take things slow and i will give her good space in between dates if we see each other in the coming weeks.
Thanks to this video, know i know how i need to lay my cards.
Thanks a lot man you de best in the game and have fulfilled your true God given purpose.
not a single dislike on this vid, good shit man
Wow.Casey You are spot on.Presently with a very young single mom Filipina.Lot of insights you tell me how to be not attached emotionaly.Since I am already helping financially and supportive of her.But keep otherwise a healthy distance.I am the boss but not in an arrogant,nasty way.Keep up the best you already doing that.
You are getting played. This is the most simp comment on this video. You are paying for another man's child. Run
You speaking the Gospel bro 💯
How does both sexes being so cold towards each other ever form a relationship or anything healthy?
Is the women that are so cold, this is the only remedy to counter attack that shit
I love and respect your teachings and lectures. They work and I have no doubt they will continue too work… but to be honest, for me at least. My quality of life is low when I do all these methods. Yes I have the girl but I still want too be myself and give my love and dive into the “feminine” because I am naturally a loving and caring person. I still use your teachings but I still act like a nice guy but only 20% of the time. It seems to work out for me. I say once a week, for me, I’ll be a caring and loving stereotypical boyfriend and if I sense the dynamic shifting, I’ll pull back and be nice guy every other week to correct it. Your knowledge is valuable but at the end of the day… what’s the point of being in a relationship if you can’t afford to feel love and give it. Anyways that’s my view.
Totally agreed brother. It's like you either get tons of girls and feel unfulfilled or you try to work for a real loving relationship and they start to pull away 😂 damn if you do and damn if you don't.
This is so important. This type of behavior where no one is attached is actually evolutionarily terrible. Being a good parent requires attachment, and that begins between two people
My interpretation is these techniques are for how to get dates in online world, rather than trying to find life partner or start a family....
Your words has to be carved on Gold 🪙, this is the Bible of dating. May God Bless you and your family forever Casey 🙏🙏🙏
Ur a champion bro real talk.
Excellent content!
Great video! How to not be attached to one woman - love all women
Thank you this is what I needed
Priceless viedeo. You are a life saver dude.
This is what I hate about dating in America. Everything has to be breezy and no one wants to show their hand for fear of being perceived as too eager.
At some point you have to let your sexual intent be known. I’d rather have a woman reject me for being too aggressive than not aggressive enough. Women have a lot of options so being too nonchalant won’t work.
Thats dating life in the west. Deal with it
You'll have a better chance of winning her over by being assertive as appose to being aggressive, aggressive will only make you come off desperate and too thirsty and you might repell her, whereas being assertive displays confidence and will impress and attract her more to you, bruh
You are missing the points. This video is not about the first dating phase, it's about when you are already sleeping with her.
it wont work dog , listen up to Cuz Casey
You still don’t get it
beautiful video, just on time.
Love your work man.
This is a top 10 video IMO
Thank you for helping me 🎉
Your best video, by far.
how havent i subbed yet?? SUBSCRIBED
Casey...I'm really interested in your opening game. You've been really stressing the mid game
tactics and concepts, but what we need from you is how you manage to display interest and not give away your power in the beginning stages. how are you developing the connection? Thanks bro
This is a very important topic of discussion. It is the very downfall of every man to woman relationship.
Great content bro
Thanks Dakota Man!!
Glad to say ive stopped all the needy behaviour
I needed to hear this, doing so many of these to a girl I like a lot. Hopefully I haven’t blown it.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Once u let her go I promise u she'll come back. Stay detached. Stay stable.
You are a genius bro
Thanks Casey !
Uncle C baby, thank you man
It’s a Stoic approach, which is time proofed. Thx for the truth reminder! 😅
as a man im telling you this, i love you, youre helping me like noone else could, your vids should be paid to watch :)
I missed the mark so hard on this. Fortunately I made these mistakes with a woman who wasn’t right for me. She pushed so hard. Tattooing my name on her, pushing me to move in right away, etc. Now she definitely had some attachment issues for moving so fast, but I accepted and fed into it too. I came from a place of scarcity and desperation. I did okay at first… letting her text me first etc. but then I became too comfortable and weak. I made my whole life about her. Very unattractive and she lost feelings for me. The outcome hurts, but I’m grateful for this pain and growth. It’s a battle every day. These practices he’s talking about take serious discipline and will power. It’s the only way though. There’s no other choice
Thanks Casey...... You have removed tons of garbage from my mind regarding this most toxic thing "Women who are our friend, whonignores us without our any mistake".....
With lots of love from India....