Absolutely 100% correct! All women have God-given built-in cheater detectors. Many dismiss it, ignore it or deny it, but if your gut is telling you something, listen and believe!
The worst ones are those who will never take responsibility for their actions. After cheating on me several times, my waste of space ex is still blaming me for breaking up with him. According to him, I ruined his life. The most narcissistic creature I’ve ever met.
Oh boy! I hear this. I was to blame for EVERYTHING that was wrong in his life! He was so hostile towards me, nagging and picking at me constantly behind closed doors and then when we were with his friends he'd be all over me like a rash (putting on a show to look like a loving, nice guy). Of course I'd react coldly because he'd been berating me all day, so I ended up looking like a bitch to his friends!! Nasty situation that was incredibly damaging.
Yes they will all of a sudden turn it and start harping on " what your doing that they perceive as wrong, the mess I had decided its suddenly a good idea to talk about how I dont have job, yet every time I did he tried to ruin it, and now I am unemployed because of whats going on in world. Its ridiculous
This is the best advice I've ever heard about how cheats operate. I definitely started to suspect him when he became angry at me out of the blue. I met one of the women and when he came home that day I very calmly but menacingly repeated every lie he'd told her. Then told him that his friend knew everything and was expecting him. Goodbye. No yelling. No drama. Just complete control and above all else, dignity. Years later he calls and says it was his greatest regret. Remain dignified ladies!
used to argue about MY damn intuition all the time, after 37 years, he left after he assaulted me that I WAS CHEATING. haha. I would never cheat, never have, never will.
I was married to a cheater and observed the behavior in my sister's cheating husband.. they always act jealous and accuse their wife of doing what they are doing.. when the wife is at home raising their babies.
When a man starts buying nice clothes for no reason;;;; buying nice cologne, when they never used it before on a regular basis, that's another tell tale sign too.
Yep, been through that, never saw someone so sexy and smelling like heaven just going to "work".. meanwhile they don't even see you looking at how foolish they're looking
@Light and Love lol your name does not suit your comment. Please if you want to give yourself the name of love and light,then start speaking with these traits.
Dieting and working out too. In their 40’s especially dangerous decade-midlife crisis. Teenage son gets the girls now and is being called “my old man.”
@@janicesmith1956 omggg the underwear!!! It’s so true!!! I remember my man being obsessed with some brand underwear “Ethika” around the time I caught him cheating. I never even put 2 and 2 together!! He was buying cologne and new clothes, too! Man don’t even wear cologne. So spot on!!
When I suspected my ex bf of cheating, it got to where I would tell him that I wouldn’t do anything that he wouldn’t do while I was out with my friends. That shut him up. Glad I broke up with his lame ass.
Ok! Guess my first husband was a cheater. Years after the fact, I got a confirmation that it was the case. Always tried to make me feel crazy, super jealous, unstable and angry. Guess I know for the next one. Thank you!
That is so true. My ex boyfriend was unclear, one day he got so mad about me that I decided to go to my house. Lucky him it was a festival by his house the next day so I drove to his house with my son to park my car there. And BINGO. It was another woman who abviosly she didn't know anything about me. Be careful when he gets mad for no reason. He begged me for two years. He also got obsessed to get me back and now he has a permanent restrain order thanks to the judge.
You're sooo right!... I wasted 5 weeks on a liar. I had never encountered a jerk like him before. Luckily, i spotted these red flags and ended it before wasting more time. Thank you!
You are completely right. In my life I learn to love myself. My life moto is:" If he doesn't like me, I won't like him more".Simple as that. My advice to all girls,woman.."Love yourself. You are most important. You have only one life. Don't loose it on person who doesn't deserve your time. Be happy with right people who really love you ❣️" All the best to all. Thank you for this video. I had luck that my man loved me and did all for me. I will shere this video to my daughter. She need to see it. She think that all man are like her father. Hope she will follow you and learn something.
How do you come back from the ultimate betrayal and disrespect? Always start from yourself. When you love your man you will not even entertain the thought of betraying him, belittling him, degrading him in any way. So if he loved and valued you why would he do it then? He wouldn't. So that means he doesn't value you or love you which means there is no life with this guy. Nothing can make him love you or value you so why invest time and effort to save something so rotten?
Let me share this. I've dated and known guys who were cheaters. I know I made bad decisions please don't judge me but I hope you'll learn from this. Not all cheaters act this way. Sometimes, they are very good in hiding their identity and you wouldn't know that they are cheating until it's too late. Well, good news, if something's bad, they really can't keep it. It is true indeed if someone has the answer to everything and has good excuses, good luck.
I've wasted my 5years of life in a wrong toxic relationship which gave me so much trauma.. That sometimes I can't sleep at night because of it.. I wish I've found videos like this earlier before.. But not late yet.. Cause I am strong and healing..
No good you invested 5 years on an awful guy. In the end you got away from such a toxic being. Forgive yourself as you didn’t know what you do going through the experience you have.
This is so accurate I wish I knew this years ago, Thankyou. I just thought he was confused, split personality, maybe a narcissist. I used to believe Alison’s Armstrong’s advice ‘there is a good reason for what he’s doing’. There never was. He was cheating the whole time and trying to gaslight and attack me to take the focus away from his inauthentic and abusive actions 😞 LISTEN to this ladies. It is so spot on. Dont think your man is the only one this doesn’t apply to. These signs are gold. And even if by some tiny chance he’s not cheating if he’s doing these things he is still an abusive idiot!!
I have been cheated on several times and let me tell you, they don’t have to have a car, a job, and can spend most of their time with you, you can be freaky af, and they’ll still cheat on you. Some of them don’t even use their phones to do it too. I have had this happen multiple times when I was supporting them due to a job loss or other situation where they needed help. That was the thanks I got and had to find out through other people that it was so many different girls and I also got an STI from one of them. It’s just like pretty much impossible for me to ever trust again after what I’ve seen. I honestly hope one day it will be possible for me. Good luck out there but never underestimate anything. Men will Lie and lie for as long as possible to get what they want.
I had “grenades” thrown my way for years. The effect: distracts and makes one fearful to discuss any issue. I tried so hard to understand ; my mere presence would prompt pouting silence or terrible rages. I am petite vs 350lbs (he blamed me for his gluttony). I wish I had this information many years ago. Thank you for explaining the issue so clearly and compassionately. I am sure you have spared many spouses/partners from needless grief. Great work!
the moment he accused me that I cheated, I went out and made it happen, just so he could say, 'See, I'm right!' and I say, 'Good for you, now get lost!'
That's because there is something wrong with people that do that to someone that cares about them. Not everyone that cheats has a personality disorder, but ALL people with one, definitely cheat. No exceptions.
@ 1st one didn't need to listen any further; it's called mind games. *in the past ✌🏾* I pray other women come to know their value and leave this situation permanently, and be able to detect cheaters. Women remember your God given intuition.
I pay attention to action and words. Lol, sounds like my ex. Theres a reason why he's my ex. I can see what he was doing. In the end i found out he was as much as a player as his friends were. Its better to get rid of a toxic person whos manipulative and thinks they can trick you into believing it!
My ex once said to me that if I ever cheated on him that he would take me back, something along those lines as well as I can remember. It was totally out of nowhere, I was finishing making dinner for the family and went to find him in the garage, he came out and told me that, I was completely puzzled-I don’t remember what I said if anything, I’ve never cheated on him. Now, I think he was telling me that he was cheating on me!!! Boy was I ever so naive!!!! And he is definitely a narc who would never admit it or take responsibility. Yuk.
I to have had a strange feeling that my person of 16 months has been drifting away. Today I text him to tell him that I suspect him drifting away and that I believe he has someone. I told him I have a upcoming date because he has neglected me to often. He immediately text to say he is on his way to talk to me. I bet that scared him or pissed him off. I also am now lacking interest in him . I'm fed up with his pattern and do not need his shit any longer. I thaught that I would die without him but now that's changed after realizing what a jerk he is. I am not planning to welcome in my home when he knocks.
I’m glad I got my divorce after 20 years in the relationship .im 49- single and me the Queen 👸 I’m hApiier alone. Taking care and loving me more! Exactly my ex acted like that. I’m glad I’m out 😌
@@royalqueen2434 I am so happy for you! I have known someone about 28 years and they still try to insert themselves into my life..it would be so nice to be totally away from them! Happy Holidays!🎅
When they have a date and want to make sure you want nothing to do with them and leave them alone they will start an annoying fight to piss you off and avoid him then when the date doesn't work out they come back and say they miss you and act like nothing happened...
So accurate! My ex accused me in public that I am a liar.I thought about everything I told him, about what could I have been laying. I was questioning myself 😞 Guess who was a liar? Found out he was married! 🥺 Alex you are so on point. It also applies for every relationship with relative, co worker even strangers. When they accuse you for laying, cheating, stealing etc. and you are clean for sure they talk about themselves. I do love your advices! Thank you, Alex!
This was so him...everytime I caught him or sense he'll always look for my phone and search any male conversations and start saying am cheating and acting all jealous 😃
side note if you're dealing with a woman that's doing it: i'm a girl and i did all of these signs in my last relationship bc i have serious trust issues and i was always worried that he's doing something behind my back or will find someone else and leave me etc. BUT i didn't cheat on him. so if it comes to women - these signs are not always signs of cheating. accusations and anger in my case were based on fear of the person leaving and not me cheating. hope that will help someone.
Same with my boyfriend.. he has been cheated on in all his relationships so he is extremely anxious and has a hard time trusting, although I was a virgin when I met him. Very hard to tell if there was really something going on.
Well I was married to a fool who cheated on me with two women and I didn't know about one of them until years later. He was never worth my time or my fellowship, these individuals never are. They are worth nothing!!
SiR Alex …thank you so much…I broke up my cheater fiancée last night …he really got a perfect score of what u explain in this video..he called up his friends just to talk to me try to convince that I am the only woman he have but all are lies..you are the opener of my eyes Sir Alex..🥰❤️
My dreams were telling me he was cheating. I felt like I was going crazy. Come to find out he was bored. A wife, 2 kids, a busy life that I thought was a good life. I gave it my all but it wasn't enough. I just wish he would communicate with his sons.
@@briane4340 get out of that situation NOW! You will loose your soul if you don't. No matter how difficult find a way. Don't settle to stay with someone that doesn't have your best interest at heart. You don't want to be this type of man when you are old and need help and compassion, they will feed you to the dogs if let them. They will discard you, when you most need them. They are evil!
So true Alex!!! Thank you for laying it out in simple specific terms. Watch the behavior, right ladies? How some men can lie right to your face is amazing. Thank goodness their nasty, attacking, or abusive behavior ( for no reason) speaks volumes. Recognize and believe the signs!
My friend had been married for 4yrs has 2 young children her husband who cheated on her many times. She found another woman in her house , her husband said nothing was going on but he lied and continued having the affair for 1 yr. Admitted they didn't have sex but she gave him a blowjob! My friend gave him another chance, start anew and after she came back from holiday with him discovered He also has been texting prostitutes but says to this day he never had sex with any prostitute. He also been messaging other girls and paying for online photos. She threw him out but is thinking if she should give him another chance even thou inside she can never trust him she just wants her children to grow up with both parents as she never got to. ITS BEEN 1 month and he says it's good he got exposed because he found God. And started showing us the list of religious talks ( thing is his ex GF told us he did the same thing before calling her ugly dumping her and putting religious texts on his Instagram. HELP GUYS my friend feels sorry for her children. Under 5 both of them
I don't think they accuse you of cheating because they actually believe it (unless they're a Narcissist)... They do it to subconsciously justify their own cheating, so they don't feel guilty! themselves
So true!! My cheating ex was angry and mad at me all of the time for no good reason or for no reason at all. He actually did all of the things that you listed. Excellent video! Thank you!
Yes,they are sick,sad, angry,hurtful, and without me NOW..... but with their next victim that is blind to what they are getting done to them😬 No more!.... because I'm with a man that feels he can be happy with me and we can enjoy life together sanely❤️
OMG...I am so glad I got out of that toxic relationship...even keep trying to call me,but I blocked him!👍I am french as well!Thank you.. Merci beaucoup!
On my experience, whenever a man is I’m the wrong, he will turn it around on me. They project their bad behaviors and thoughts onto the woman so that she feels bad, and they don’t. I’ve never cheated on anyone in my entire life, yet the men who cheated on me accused me of doing what they were doing. I’m not the jealous type, so if I feel a guy is cheating, I know he is. Next time a man cheats on me, I’m gonna return the favor and show him how it feels.
You are very very accurate sir ! Obviously a man who goes into a rage all the time and over trivial matters has something to hide and it's bugging him. Or the man is not aging well and just feeling frustrated so he uses rage to justify himself. Whatever the reasons just stay cool and not allow men like that ruin our well beings cos stress like that can make us ill. His friends !!?? Pff !! Birds of the same feathers flock together. Thank you sir.
All true. I never bothered confirming. I knew something was off and that was the strongest sign to get divorced. Go with your gut always. Don't stay around to see how much worse it can get.
Wow! Spot on! Yes, it is so weird that they get angry and blame you for something they did. It just shows they aren't happy. I will never forget story about a guy who cheated on his wife. He later on first killed his wife, then both of his 2 little girls! So sad! I always thought that he hurt himself the most.
Everything you said is so true I remember all that when I was younger exactly what you said is exactly what happened back in the seventies and it is so true beware ladies
Omg your so right. My ez was so jealous he accused me of clearing he did'nt want me going or doing anything without telling him but all along he was cheating on me until i found out and he kept lieing told me he was with his grandson while he had surgery on a Saturday(Hmmm) so i went to his house and he was there with the woman he was with before me and him got together. The look on his face when he. Opened the door was. $$ PRICELESS$$$
Ex was like that too. Now I know that when they checking up on you its because he or she (if cheating) is planning their cheating schedule lol. Thank yourself/ancestors for making you drive to his place to see who he really is.
Wow 🤩 absolutely amazing truth My x cheated on me and my divorce done last week on 28 October 20 was married for 27yrs and separated for more than 2yrs.Yes you are so true after my divorce he is still blaming on me till today.He was in a relationship with someone who is still married and going back to her husband.But my divorce done l am from New Zealand with three kids 🙏🏻
I like you ... you make such good educational videos and are exposing these men ... I wish I had access to these videos a decade ago my life would had been different.... thank you for helping women all around the globe women who are blind , broken down and confused... your opening there eyes ... God bless a beautiful soul
A woman always knows. She can feel it in her solar plexus!!! Intuition.
Absolutely 100% correct! All women have God-given built-in cheater detectors. Many dismiss it, ignore it or deny it, but if your gut is telling you something, listen and believe!
Sure can
And those that deny this..are fools.. when I felt something was way off.. Boom to the curb!
I knew my dad was cheating. I was just waiting for him to get caught because I knew my mom wouldn't believe it. I said something.
All guys expect their partner to cheat now days
My ex husband was always mad at me and accusing me of cheating but he was the one doing it.
That's what they do ..
Same!
Always the way arse hole him.
Same here
Same here !
Everything he's saying is true. And they're really good at gaslighting too.
You pretty much described a Narcissist !
I thought the same. Sounds exactly like my ex.
Yes...my ex is a Narcissist. This describes him to a T
Absolutely. My X husband
The worst ones are those who will never take responsibility for their actions. After cheating on me several times, my waste of space ex is still blaming me for breaking up with him. According to him, I ruined his life. The most narcissistic creature I’ve ever met.
Oh boy! I hear this. I was to blame for EVERYTHING that was wrong in his life!
He was so hostile towards me, nagging and picking at me constantly behind closed doors and then when we were with his friends he'd be all over me like a rash (putting on a show to look like a loving, nice guy). Of course I'd react coldly because he'd been berating me all day, so I ended up looking like a bitch to his friends!!
Nasty situation that was incredibly damaging.
OMG!!! I am going through the same exact thing! God is good!
Yes they will all of a sudden turn it and start harping on " what your doing that they perceive as wrong, the mess I had decided its suddenly a good idea to talk about how I dont have job, yet every time I did he tried to ruin it, and now I am unemployed because of whats going on in world. Its ridiculous
Damn shithead like my mom & ex husband !!
My ex wayne was like that . I made a video and put it up on here
So basically they are unreliable, angry, and constantly jealous... even if a guy like that isn’t cheating on you, you should definitely leave.
Sharon Borjas, you look stunning 🌹🌹🌷🌷 dear
My guy never border to ask who am not am making call with or accusing me for cheating it's that he don't love me
Bingo!
The pickings today are extremely small- good luck ladies 🤷🏽♀️😔
This is the best advice I've ever heard about how cheats operate. I definitely started to suspect him when he became angry at me out of the blue. I met one of the women and when he came home that day I very calmly but menacingly repeated every lie he'd told her. Then told him that his friend knew everything and was expecting him. Goodbye. No yelling. No drama. Just complete control and above all else, dignity. Years later he calls and says it was his greatest regret. Remain dignified ladies!
I was dignified with every breakup, but after the last one I will not be dignified.Some men don't deserve dignified behaviour.
That's why after two Cheating husband's ..I'd rather Stay Single & alone ...
Hallelujah!! I've never been so happy and liberated!! No more stress!!
I am the same
Same!!!
Two husbands damaged my health from the stress. Never ever again! Don’t even want to date.
Don't give up ladies. Heal yourself first and be open for new possibilities.
They put you in a position to defend yourself, to distract you from your intuition.
I also ( besides with a partner) experienced this with a longtime girlfriend...hm.
This is the most insightful comment by far... Thanks for sharing the wisdom.🖤
Yahh your right he make you feel your fault for having those things in your mind.
used to argue about MY damn intuition all the time, after 37 years, he left after he assaulted me that I WAS CHEATING. haha. I would never cheat, never have, never will.
Amen
I was married to a cheater and observed the behavior in my sister's cheating husband.. they always act jealous and accuse their wife of doing what they are doing.. when the wife is at home raising their babies.
To ignore them completely is One way to deal with such type of men!!!
They rip you down to the lowest, pick on your weak points,become angry and abusive, 😢
Toxic people need to stay away and I need to have stronger boundaries
Ditto!!
Second that
Never ignore your gut be a detective in your relationship
Never ignore your gut feeling
If you feel something is wrong in your relationship, believe yourself, respect your feelings, because you are RIGHT.
After my husband died, I knew what he always denied. I’m free of him, forever.
When a man starts buying nice clothes for no reason;;;; buying nice cologne, when they never used it before on a regular basis, that's another tell tale sign too.
Yep, been through that, never saw someone so sexy and smelling like heaven just going to "work".. meanwhile they don't even see you looking at how foolish they're looking
@Light and Love lol your name does not suit your comment. Please if you want to give yourself the name of love and light,then start speaking with these traits.
New underwear too
Dieting and working out too. In their 40’s especially dangerous decade-midlife crisis. Teenage son gets the girls now and is being called “my old man.”
@@janicesmith1956 omggg the underwear!!! It’s so true!!! I remember my man being obsessed with some brand underwear “Ethika” around the time I caught him cheating. I never even put 2 and 2 together!! He was buying cologne and new clothes, too! Man don’t even wear cologne. So spot on!!
Just mirror what a man does to you back to him. They can dish BUT DAMN SURE CAN'T TAKE IT🙂
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When I suspected my ex bf of cheating, it got to where I would tell him that I wouldn’t do anything that he wouldn’t do while I was out with my friends. That shut him up. Glad I broke up with his lame ass.
I did this ... we broke up 😅
Especially when they TELL you there's other women besides you.
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There are only 2 types of men in this world, honourable men and dishonorable men, I have yet to meet an honourable man.
2 types:
The one that can fake longer
The one that can't
They're hypocrites, liars and cheaters
I have an honourable man. I’m very lucky.
Same here !
I 100% agree with that comment I guess the only time I'll meet a nice one is in heaven
Spot on!
They are mean, also, I think because they want the woman to leave first.
Exactly....and that is exactly wat I did, and he became a wreck
Didn't think of that.
Ok! Guess my first husband was a cheater. Years after the fact, I got a confirmation that it was the case. Always tried to make me feel crazy, super jealous, unstable and angry. Guess I know for the next one. Thank you!
Stay single be the best life
Hey
I can confirm
Yep! 👍
Amen!
Absolutely
That is so true. My ex boyfriend was unclear, one day he got so mad about me that I decided to go to my house. Lucky him it was a festival by his house the next day so I drove to his house with my son to park my car there. And BINGO. It was another woman who abviosly she didn't know anything about me.
Be careful when he gets mad for no reason.
He begged me for two years. He also got obsessed to get me back and now he has a permanent restrain order thanks to the judge.
The other sign is they start getting in shape AND they start buying clothes...and keeping their car cleaner than normal.
Yep he got air freshener for his car..... and new style hair etc. In the gym.
"Be careful ladies". Awwww I really felt like you said that straight from you heart to use. Thank you
You're sooo right!... I wasted 5 weeks on a liar. I had never encountered a jerk like him before. Luckily, i spotted these red flags and ended it before wasting more time. Thank you!
Thank you for being here.
Try wasteing 2 yrs on a lieing clearing POS.
5 weeks is better than 5 years
Mines worse wasted 4yrs
@@samahj8567 me also.. 5 yrs
You are completely right.
In my life I learn to love myself. My life moto is:" If he doesn't like me, I won't like him more".Simple as that. My advice to all girls,woman.."Love yourself. You are most important. You have only one life. Don't loose it on person who doesn't deserve your time. Be happy with right people who really love you ❣️" All the best to all.
Thank you for this video. I had luck that my man loved me and did all for me. I will shere this video to my daughter. She need to see it. She think that all man are like her father. Hope she will follow you and learn something.
How do you come back from the ultimate betrayal and disrespect? Always start from yourself. When you love your man you will not even entertain the thought of betraying him, belittling him, degrading him in any way. So if he loved and valued you why would he do it then? He wouldn't. So that means he doesn't value you or love you which means there is no life with this guy. Nothing can make him love you or value you so why invest time and effort to save something so rotten?
Well said 😌
Let me share this. I've dated and known guys who were cheaters. I know I made bad decisions please don't judge me but I hope you'll learn from this. Not all cheaters act this way. Sometimes, they are very good in hiding their identity and you wouldn't know that they are cheating until it's too late. Well, good news, if something's bad, they really can't keep it. It is true indeed if someone has the answer to everything and has good excuses, good luck.
Yep my husband did the same things and finally I cheat too and we divorce but I’m happy freeeeee 😘
I've wasted my 5years of life in a wrong toxic relationship which gave me so much trauma.. That sometimes I can't sleep at night because of it.. I wish I've found videos like this earlier before.. But not late yet.. Cause I am strong and healing..
Me too😢😢
Good on ya girl. You wil trust and love again in time. Bless you
No good you invested 5 years on an awful guy. In the end you got away from such a toxic being. Forgive yourself as you didn’t know what you do going through the experience you have.
I've wasted 51 years of my life on two Cheating husband's ..I'm 70 now ..Id rather be on my own than be hurt again by a Man ..
🙏🏾 I wasted 10 yrs. I was so dumb and ignored all the red flags!
This is so accurate I wish I knew this years ago, Thankyou. I just thought he was confused, split personality, maybe a narcissist. I used to believe Alison’s Armstrong’s advice ‘there is a good reason for what he’s doing’. There never was. He was cheating the whole time and trying to gaslight and attack me to take the focus away from his inauthentic and abusive actions 😞
LISTEN to this ladies. It is so spot on. Dont think your man is the only one this doesn’t apply to. These signs are gold.
And even if by some tiny chance he’s not cheating if he’s doing these things he is still an abusive idiot!!
Since I started listening to your teachings, my life has changed, thanks and may God bless you Alex.
Wonderful!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert ko io opo ooo
Same think... Me also..
That's horrible and so evil... Blaming the partner to distract from their own deceit.
My boyfriend started to accuse me of cheating on him from day one and I never ever cheated on him at all and it is making me really sick now
I have been cheated on several times and let me tell you, they don’t have to have a car, a job, and can spend most of their time with you, you can be freaky af, and they’ll still cheat on you. Some of them don’t even use their phones to do it too. I have had this happen multiple times when I was supporting them due to a job loss or other situation where they needed help. That was the thanks I got and had to find out through other people that it was so many different girls and I also got an STI from one of them. It’s just like pretty much impossible for me to ever trust again after what I’ve seen. I honestly hope one day it will be possible for me. Good luck out there but never underestimate anything. Men will
Lie and lie for as long as possible to get what they want.
is there anyone on here still get nightmares about what ex done especially about the cheating. ????
Yes ..i do ...
Yes he ruined us,moved on and got her pregnant, I'm still not over it
Me...
Yes
I did at first but it got better over time
This helps a lot this is exactly what he was doing to me. I never knew why he was so angry, accusatory....
My ex used to do this... he was a narcissist too. But karma bit his ass real bad! God is good.
Yes they gaslight you and reverse the situation. Such a good point. Love your advice.
Yes! Thank you!
I had “grenades” thrown my way for years. The effect: distracts and makes one fearful to discuss any issue. I tried so hard to understand ; my mere presence would prompt pouting silence or terrible rages. I am petite vs 350lbs (he blamed me for his gluttony). I wish I had this information many years ago. Thank you for explaining the issue so clearly and compassionately. I am sure you have spared many spouses/partners from needless grief. Great work!
You should've screamed about your 50% Of the assets. I'd bet my car he'd have shut up. I know for a reason. I had the last laugh.
the moment he accused me that I cheated, I went out and made it happen, just so he could say, 'See, I'm right!' and I say, 'Good for you, now get lost!'
That is so true! Dealt with this for over 20 years. Love had me stupid. Single is the best way!!
This sounds just like a Narcissist will do and say !!!!
That's because there is something wrong with people that do that to someone that cares about them. Not everyone that cheats has a personality disorder, but ALL people with one, definitely cheat. No exceptions.
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@ 1st one didn't need to listen any further; it's called mind games. *in the past ✌🏾* I pray other women come to know their value and leave this situation permanently, and be able to detect cheaters. Women remember your God given intuition.
From my own experience and wisdom, you are exactly correct 100% great work!
Much appreciated
Kimberly Smith,I admire your lovely smile 😊!
I pay attention to action and words. Lol, sounds like my ex. Theres a reason why he's my ex. I can see what he was doing. In the end i found out he was as much as a player as his friends were. Its better to get rid of a toxic person whos manipulative and thinks they can trick you into believing it!
My ex once said to me that if I ever cheated on him that he would take me back, something along those lines as well as I can remember. It was totally out of nowhere, I was finishing making dinner for the family and went to find him in the garage, he came out and told me that, I was completely puzzled-I don’t remember what I said if anything, I’ve never cheated on him. Now, I think he was telling me that he was cheating on me!!! Boy was I ever so naive!!!! And he is definitely a narc who would never admit it or take responsibility. Yuk.
I to have had a strange feeling that my person of 16 months has been drifting away. Today I text him to tell him that I suspect him drifting away and that I believe he has someone. I told him I have a upcoming date because he has neglected me to often. He immediately text to say he is on his way to talk to me. I bet that scared him or pissed him off. I also am now lacking interest in him . I'm fed up with his pattern and do not need his shit any longer. I thaught that I would die without him but now that's changed after realizing what a jerk he is. I am not planning to welcome in my home when he knocks.
I have called it "crazy-making." You have it exactly right, Alex.
“Word Salad” I love these words were using to identify the nonsense so we don’t get trapped. Jeez.
This is so true. My ex kept trying to accuse me but turns out he was projecting his actions on me
K R,You deserve better 🙏🙏🙏
I’m glad I got my divorce after 20 years in the relationship .im 49- single and me the Queen 👸 I’m hApiier alone. Taking care and loving me more! Exactly my ex acted like that. I’m glad I’m out 😌
I’m right there! Thank you for sharing hope of surviving this. Can’t wait to be on the other side of this.
Women do not need men to live but otherwise..
Silver Mont I'm divorcing after 32 years. Its not easy because of the trauma bond but I'm doing well and growing stronger everyday
@@royalqueen2434 I am so happy for you! I have known someone about 28 years and they still try to insert themselves into my life..it would be so nice to be totally away from them! Happy Holidays!🎅
I agree Alex, now I knew, when I was asking question he got mad for no reason, my best friend is my intuition..
When they have a date and want to make sure you want nothing to do with them and leave them alone they will start an annoying fight to piss you off and avoid him then when the date doesn't work out they come back and say they miss you and act like nothing happened...
Indeed
Excellent content, thank you! And I will add to the part where friends help, also family do, so be very careful - they protect their own.
Thanks for sharing!!
You are such a good man alex❤️ thank you for your work Alexandre🥰☺️🙈
My pleasure!!
So accurate! My ex accused me in public that I am a liar.I thought about everything I told him, about what could I have been laying. I was questioning myself 😞 Guess who was a liar? Found out he was married! 🥺 Alex you are so on point. It also applies for every relationship with relative, co worker even strangers. When they accuse you for laying, cheating, stealing etc. and you are clean for sure they talk about themselves.
I do love your advices! Thank you, Alex!
You're spot on Alex, thanks for sharing. Ladies take this advice serious.
Thanks for watching!
Hi, Alex. I will always remember to put myself on the pedestal.
C J,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!
This was so him...everytime I caught him or sense he'll always look for my phone and search any male conversations and start saying am cheating and acting all jealous 😃
side note if you're dealing with a woman that's doing it:
i'm a girl and i did all of these signs in my last relationship bc i have serious trust issues and i was always worried that he's doing something behind my back or will find someone else and leave me etc. BUT i didn't cheat on him. so if it comes to women - these signs are not always signs of cheating.
accusations and anger in my case were based on fear of the person leaving and not me cheating.
hope that will help someone.
Same with my boyfriend.. he has been cheated on in all his relationships so he is extremely anxious and has a hard time trusting, although I was a virgin when I met him. Very hard to tell if there was really something going on.
Well I was married to a fool who cheated on me with two women and I didn't know about one of them until years later. He was never worth my time or my fellowship, these individuals never are. They are worth nothing!!
Wow, that's so precise. I experienced that with ex. After that, he will blame you and saying you're looking for the problem
SiR Alex …thank you so much…I broke up my cheater fiancée last night …he really got a perfect score of what u explain in this video..he called up his friends just to talk to me try to convince that I am the only woman he have but all are lies..you are the opener of my eyes Sir Alex..🥰❤️
Ugh some of these men!!! We invest so much of our selfs just to be let down by the one we loved the most.
Cynthia Henderson yes since I was 15 and now 68.
This is just a long-winded way of saying that he's a damn narcissist.
...They're the worst of the worst.
💯💯
AGREE sounds like all tactics Narrisist do, and they are the worse they have no conscious.
100% spot on Alex. I’ve been there done that. Luckily not anymore, but all you said is 100% correct!
Kristina Leonardo,you look stunning dear 🌺🌺
Yup Jealous Angry... Was very unsafe with him
I drove right out of his life, and never want to see him again, started 3 days and I was gone!! I seen and heard enough, I don’t live it!!
My dreams were telling me he was cheating. I felt like I was going crazy. Come to find out he was bored. A wife, 2 kids, a busy life that I thought was a good life. I gave it my all but it wasn't enough.
I just wish he would communicate with his sons.
Indeed. Now, it answers all the questions that is on my mind, why my ex treated me like a trash! Thank you, Coach Alex!
It’s called projecting.. and that’s what all people do to take the spotlight off themselves.. but thank you 🙏🤓
Not all people do that. So, that is inaccurate. Narcissistic people do that though.
Im new here. But i agree with the projecting part. I know someone like that. Its just crazy.
Yea a lot of people do it, but not all people.
@@briane4340 get out of that situation NOW! You will loose your soul if you don't. No matter how difficult find a way. Don't settle to stay with someone that doesn't have your best interest at heart. You don't want to be this type of man when you are old and need help and compassion, they will feed you to the dogs if let them. They will discard you, when you most need them. They are evil!
You are exactly right, Mr.Cormont!
God bless and thank you.
You are very welcome
Carolina Lagman,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🥀🥀🥀🥀, hope you are with a good man!
Awesome!! you are so correct and straight on the dot👍
So true Alex!!! Thank you for laying it out in simple specific terms. Watch the behavior, right ladies? How some men can lie right to your face is amazing. Thank goodness their nasty, attacking, or abusive behavior ( for no reason) speaks volumes. Recognize and believe the signs!
My friend had been married for 4yrs has 2 young children her husband who cheated on her many times. She found another woman in her house , her husband said nothing was going on but he lied and continued having the affair for 1 yr. Admitted they didn't have sex but she gave him a blowjob!
My friend gave him another chance, start anew and after she came back from holiday with him discovered He also has been texting prostitutes but says to this day he never had sex with any prostitute. He also been messaging other girls and paying for online photos. She threw him out but is thinking if she should give him another chance even thou inside she can never trust him she just wants her children to grow up with both parents as she never got to. ITS BEEN 1 month and he says it's good he got exposed because he found God. And started showing us the list of religious talks ( thing is his ex GF told us he did the same thing before calling her ugly dumping her and putting religious texts on his Instagram. HELP GUYS my friend feels sorry for her children. Under 5 both of them
Jane Tempellini,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!
I don't think they accuse you of cheating because they actually believe it (unless they're a Narcissist)...
They do it to subconsciously justify their own cheating, so they don't feel guilty! themselves
Truth...im always the blame. He gets mad at me for everything.
Narcissist RED FLAG! God bless!❤
Absolutely right! Run from this kind of cheaters ladies! Excellent video. Thanks🌹🌹
Exactly!!
So true. Guilty Dog Barks First.
So true!! My cheating ex was angry and mad at me all of the time for no good reason or for no reason at all.
He actually did all of the things that you listed.
Excellent video! Thank you!
Thank you for your comment!
Yes,they are sick,sad, angry,hurtful, and without me NOW..... but with their next victim that is blind to what they are getting done to them😬 No more!.... because I'm with a man that feels he can be happy with me and we can enjoy life together sanely❤️
So glad for you! You deserve to be in a happy and healthy relationship.
After what I have been through from my ex I hope God blesses me with a good man and partner. As you have been blessed to find love truly 💕💕💕
OMG...I am so glad I got out of that toxic relationship...even keep trying to call me,but I blocked him!👍I am french as well!Thank you..
Merci beaucoup!
OMG, this is so true!!! So glad I caught it and dumped him!! Thank you, Alex! 🙂
So glad you are here!
It took me 2 cheaters to learn this.... they accuse you of cheating when they are!!
So true Alex I've been there yes full of excuses lies everything
On my experience, whenever a man is I’m the wrong, he will turn it around on me. They project their bad behaviors and thoughts onto the woman so that she feels bad, and they don’t. I’ve never cheated on anyone in my entire life, yet the men who cheated on me accused me of doing what they were doing. I’m not the jealous type, so if I feel a guy is cheating, I know he is. Next time a man cheats on me, I’m gonna return the favor and show him how it feels.
You are very very accurate sir ! Obviously a man who goes into a rage all the time and over trivial matters has something to hide and it's bugging him. Or the man is not aging well and just feeling frustrated so he uses rage to justify himself. Whatever the reasons just stay cool and not allow men like that ruin our well beings cos stress like that can make us ill. His friends !!?? Pff !! Birds of the same feathers flock together. Thank you sir.
I already know what they do they attack when they are guilty and make excuses and put the blame on the innocent
You are right on
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for being here.
I guess trust your instincts...
Elvia Rivera, Hope you are with a good man!!
All true. I never bothered confirming. I knew something was off and that was the strongest sign to get divorced. Go with your gut always. Don't stay around to see how much worse it can get.
Been there done that. 22 years of worse.
Thank you
Many excuses are all your fault and never take any responsibility responsibilities they are never wrong
Wow! Spot on! Yes, it is so weird that they get angry and blame you for something they did. It just shows they aren't happy.
I will never forget story about a guy who cheated on his wife. He later on first killed his wife, then both of his 2 little girls! So sad! I always thought that he hurt himself the most.
I would leave immediately and never look back and warn all my friends
Everything you said is so true I remember all that when I was younger exactly what you said is exactly what happened back in the seventies and it is so true beware ladies
Thanks my friend. I wish I could have seen this video sooner.
Glad I could help!
OMG. You nailed it with my past experience
Omg your so right. My ez was so jealous he accused me of clearing he did'nt want me going or doing anything without telling him but all along he was cheating on me until i found out and he kept lieing told me he was with his grandson while he had surgery on a Saturday(Hmmm) so i went to his house and he was there with the woman he was with before me and him got together. The look on his face when he. Opened the door was. $$ PRICELESS$$$
Ex was like that too. Now I know that when they checking up on you its because he or she (if cheating) is planning their cheating schedule lol. Thank yourself/ancestors for making you drive to his place to see who he really is.
My husband has shown all these behaviour and I got to know he was cheating me! All signals match
i am sorry to hear that. Leave him, forget it and get you a better hubby. He is waiting for you
Wow 🤩 absolutely amazing truth
My x cheated on me and my divorce done last week on 28 October 20 was married for 27yrs and separated for more than 2yrs.Yes you are so true after my divorce he is still blaming on me till today.He was in a relationship with someone who is still married and going back to her husband.But my divorce done l am from New Zealand with three kids 🙏🏻
Stay strong, you deserve to be in a healthy relationship!
I like you ... you make such good educational videos and are exposing these men ... I wish I had access to these videos a decade ago my life would had been different.... thank you for helping women all around the globe women who are blind , broken down and confused... your opening there eyes ... God bless a beautiful soul
I appreciate that
So true...
I have gone true the same thing
Not once .. not twice but thrice.
Feel like a fool. God help me🙏🙏
Exactly..... I was most honest and clear . Now I'm happy and single . Never again....never