Empty Nesters: Navigating Emotions 🌿 and Finding New Joy 🌟

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  • @followyourbrush
    @followyourbrush 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    When our children were grown. We began to host exchange students from around the world. They were in 11th grade. We did this for 12 years and it was so much fun!!!

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That was such a great thing to do! I bet the experience was amazing! ♥♥♥

  • @cher1292
    @cher1292 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    First of all, I love the 2x2 watercolor sketchbook! That’s in my cart too. Since finding you, I have spent a tad bit of money. What a beautiful talk you had with us about emptiness syndrome! We raised our two daughters but one of them had a baby at 19. She was not mature enough for a child so we raised our grandson. When he went off to college last year we were finally alone at age 60 & 65. It literally broke my heart in so many ways. I did become very depressed and the adjustment was horrible. Thankfully, this year has been better and I have adjusted to him being gone. A very bittersweet moment in a “parents” life that’s for sure. It’s amazing to see them grow into an adult, but then what do we do with ourselves now? 🤷🏻‍♀️ His school is within driving distance and he comes home often. I had someone tell me to stop looking at the empty driveway. 😞 That was such a true statement. Not seeing his vehicle in the driveway day in, and day out really made me sad. Now we are purchasing a different home and things are in such a better place. I actually look forward to things when I didn’t last year so to add to your talk everything will be OK it’s just a natural life adjustment and a beautiful one once you let it be! ❤️

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Hi Cher! I am so happy to read that you overcame the sadness and that life is now looking up again. I can imagine, the sacrifice parents do for their children, but honestly, I think grandchildren are the most beloved ones, so I think that what you went through, particularly because raised him, was even more strongly felt because of this bond. I am happy to hear that he is in driving distance and that he comes often! That is a plus! But yes, sometimes, the smallest of things, like the car in the driveway, can be most difficult ones because they creep up unexpectedly. Even scents can be triggers. But yes, it's just a new adjustment and as you say, a year down the road everything is getting back to normal and life is shining again. I can't wait for you to use your 2x2 sketchbook, you will love. And... about the spending ;) I am the same way, but do give yourself just a small budget each month to buy 1 thing that you love the most of all things you see in youtube. I tend to love everything I see and sometimes buy a lot and then never use it. So make lists, and really see if you need that particular thing in your life and if you will use it. If yes, of course get it and enjoy it. But if the answer is no, just leave it alone. I assure you, this mentality, has saved me a lot of money. ♥♥♥ Thank you so much for your support and so happy you are here! ♥

    • @cheryledwards7381
      @cheryledwards7381 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      We are packing to move and I agree with sitting aside a budget to buy ONLY what I truly need or will use. I am almost sick to my stomach on the amount of scrapbooking paper and other miscellaneous items that I am having to throw away. I was hoping a local school or library would benefit from these items but they weren’t interested. I now wish I had all of that money back. I am watching as many of your videos as possible. They are very informative and calming to watch. Have a great evening and thank you for your kindness!

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you so much! I am glad you are enjoying the videos. It's sad that some schools are not even interested in art approaches. Perhaps the community church or community art clubs could be interested. You could also make some bundles to gift to crafty friends and family this season! ♥

  • @cher1292
    @cher1292 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I love the muted colors you’ve used.

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      These were gorgeous colors to work with. I will be swatching these soon, since I haven't yet done this brand. They are A. Gallo Colors, a handmade brand from Italy. ♥

  • @doriswhyte1931
    @doriswhyte1931 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hi Sundayberries it’s very thoughtful of you to think about your sister and how she’s feeling. I too have recently become an empty nester but in a different way. I left my husband of 45 years a couple of months ago. I won’t bore you with the details but”wine, women and song” just about covers it. I am now living alone and I have to say that I’m enjoying it, I paint when I want, eat when I want and although I’m still having quite a bit of anxiety, I’m doing ok. I have to say that I feel sad that this has happened but I know that moving out was for the best. I have my son and grandchildren and that is enough for me at the moment. Dee

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Dear Dee, I am so sorry to hear about your separation, this is such a difficult step to take and such a huge life change. I have never been married but I have had relationships fail, and while not 45 year long relationships, what and how we feel is probably quite close. I am sending you a big hug, and let you know that I admire your courage at this time. It does take a lot of to make a decision to dissolve something that, while no longer good for us, is what we have known for so long. But, I am so glad that you are feeling better and enjoying your personal space and time. I am glad that you are surrounding yourself with the healing energy of art. I am one who feels a lot of anxiety and in your case, I think that will be part of you for a while, but we can overcome this as well. The most difficult part is done, and while some emotions might be conflicting, for example, feeling happy with your new surroundings and your new space, but at the same time sad because of the loss of the relationship, especially one that was so long. But this is something that as we move forward, we actually overcome too. If you ever need to talk, drop me an email. much love your way, Dee. ♥♥♥

  • @followyourbrush
    @followyourbrush 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a cute little sketchbook!!! ❤❤❤

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It was so much fun! Super cute!

  • @brendasanchez9523
    @brendasanchez9523 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for sharing this video! I think this is really helpful for anyone going through a difficult phase in their life. I personally never thought that I would find joy in watercolor painting, but I have. I find it quite relaxing and it really takes my mind away from all the “noise” and stress of my daily routine. Right now, only have time on the weekends with my busy schedule. I hope over time to keep getting better at it.
    I really hope others find this video as helpful as it has been for me
    Thank you for sharing ❤

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am so happy to hear that you are enjoying watercolors. Sometimes, trying out different things that you might never thought you'd like can actually surprise you! ♥

  • @markdonovan1540
    @markdonovan1540 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hola Sundayberries! I have an accordion watercolour sketchbook like that. It's the same brand, but a larger size. I bought it three years ago to do some sketch paintings from holiday photos. I still haven't started it yet 🤦‍♂️. I love the way you've used this mini accordion book to produce wonderfully colourful shapes and patterns.
    Empty nest phase is not so common here in Spain, as many children end up living with their parents well into their 30s and 40s. This is mainly due to lack of affordable housing and the job market. So here it's more a case of "they can't fly from the nest". Obviously, many young people do, or they emigrate to countries with better employment opportunities.
    Often parents don't have an alternative interest outside of the family unit, so the vacuum created by children leaving home can be difficult to fill at first. Your suggestions on how best to deal with that situation is very positive and inspiring.

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hola Mark! ♥ Que gusto verte por aca! I do have the other sizes of this same concertina book! Maybe we could challenge each other and do a project together! That would be fun! Thanks for the support, as always, so very much appreciated. I have missed you around and was going to send an email to check on your tomorrow, as a matter of fact! So it's good to hear from you and your input is always so helpful. I think that this phase is quite pronounced in families where the children leave to study abroad or in different states, where coming back home as often is not possible. I have seen it happen a lot among Americans because, although leaving the nest is indeed encouraged, when the kids leave they really do find themselves missing them a lot. This is quite pronounced as well in stay at home mothers or fathers. Their lives are intricately mingled with the children that when the separation happens, it is quite difficult. In Puerto Rico, like in Spain, most kids stay home since the island is small and universities are usually close to home, so no need to leave the nest, but some do go off abroad and then some parents experience it. I can see why too. Here in the states, while encouraged to leave the home, some parents can be too attached and have devoted their lives to the kids, so when they leave they fall into depression and I am seeing this more and more around me. And well with my sister now, of course I was going to be concerned and made me think of others. I am unsure how this video will reach these people, but hopefully, if in some measure, it can be of help to someone, then it's purpose has been achieved. This is the same as in any type of loss, in my opinion, not necessarily with kids. I can happen when we loss someone important that we have been caring for and suddenly that is no longer there. It applies to many situations. I miss you so much Mark! So glad you are well. Let me know if we should do this challenge! Perhaps we can do it as a group thing to include Dee! ♥♥♥

  • @carmenasanchezmerly4396
    @carmenasanchezmerly4396 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I went through this and it felt difficult to adapt but it also helped me greatly to find myself again and enjoy the little things as the bigger things and enjoy again life itself! So grateful for your channel! Many blessings for you and your love ones!❤

    • @sundayberries
      @sundayberries  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing!! I wish the same for you♥♥♥