+Kolnay Anthony I recently lost two very close (if not the closest) friends of mine just bcuz of this. Let me tell ya, it fuckin hurts. Wish you weren't... but you are goddamn right. :/
I didnt want to give up on someone I liked alot and sent like 6 or 7 messages in a row just saying how much i liked her then apologizing for it. I feel like an idiot because of it but at the time I couldnt give up on her. Im dumb
This. To everyone struggling, you are loved. The problem is that you feel like you aren’t loved by the one person that you want to love you more than all the others. I challenge you to move forward. Place this burden before you as a boulder of remembrance, of the places you will have come. This milestone will always be there to remind you of how far you’ve come from where you started. You can love and be loved again. Be brave. Be so courageous that you are proud to look back and barely see the valley from whence you came. Push forward.
Addiction... It has taken my ONE PERSON away from me. I've never been with a woman who made me just KNOW I'd found my person, until I met her, and then fell in love with her. When she is clean, she is HER, she is HERSELF, she is the person she TRULY is deep inside herself and who God created her to be. When she is clean, she is also my person... My ONE, single, person, the woman I know without a single shred of doubt (not even for a fraction of a second) whom I would've HAPPILY spent the rest of my life with, and Eternity after that if it were possible. I would have easily given my life for hers, if some misfortune came about which would've required me to do so that she might live. She was my person. I'm 37. I loved the mother of my 2 boys with what I thought at the time was all of my heart... I had NO CLUE, and quickly learned that lesson after my person found her way into my life. Not only was my heart not "all in" in my previous marriage, in truth, I came to realize, I hadn't even truly known what love IS to begin with. When you find your one person, you just know somehow. It's as though God throws a switch and suddenly you realize that until it was turned on, the entire world and everything in it and in life itself was only half lit, like realizing your whole life, you weren't the WHOLE picture, but one piece of a 2 piece puzzle upon which the entire picture is displayed only once the two CORRECT pieces are placed beside one and other and then connected, only then are you whole. It's more than a realization, it's a revelation. And there is no going back. However, I've had to move forward, and move on, all the while knowing full well that I'm leaving the fully lit world and all its beauty behind me, and knowing that I will never be a part of that full image again. It's a pain unlike any I've ever known, and as an addict myself, I am in recovery, and doing everything I possibly can to make it through this time in my life without using one substance or another (or multiple) in order to numb myself in an attempt to avoid the pain and the heartbreak I feel every second of every passing day. Addiction has forced me to walk away from my ONE person for fear of never being able to break the cycle. I have made the choice to stay time and again, and her using ALWAYS leads to me using again, no matter the lengths to which I've gone in order to attempt to save her and get her clean and/or keep her clean. I put her before my recovery, and I fall, everytime, knowing full well from the start that ANYTHING I put before my recovery I WILL most certainly lose. A life of using is misery, and living THAT life, even with your ONE PERSON in it, is no less miserable, infact its exponentially much much worse. Human beings, namely, addicts such as myself, simply are not ourselves when under the influence of drugs and alcohol, we become monsters or worse, individuals completely devoid of even the 1st bit of any capacity for love, sympathy, empathy, compassion, or even any consideration for anything beyond ourselves and our own need for whatever substance(s) we may have come to physically and mentally rely on in the grips of active addiction. It's not that we DO NOT love or care, we simply lose the ability for anything or anyone to hold a position of priority in our lives over the substance(s). We become slave to it, even unwillingly at times. We will put OUR OWN LIVES in jeopardy without a second thought, so in their active addiction you simply cannot hold the expectation for a person to take you or your thoughts, feelings, emotions, or even your life itself into consideration above the substance(s). Its for this reason my person is taken from me and I cannot turn back. And this song just makes the truth and sadness of it all ring as true and clear as a bell. I've been FORCED to choose me. I just hope and pray that one day, I might find the strength and ability to forgive myself for doing so and be able to live my life and live with myself and the way things will have to be without my person.
I’m 45 and going through an epic heartbreak. He ended it 5 weeks ago. I lost my best friend and the love of my life. Acceptance and letting it (and him) go, are so very difficult. Then comes gratitude and forgiveness. Thank you universe for all the lessons. The good, the bad, the ugly and the soul destroying ones. I’m winning this war!! 💪💪💪
Bailey Schmidt Awwwww, Thank you. I hope you never have to experience the grief, unimaginable loss and heartbreak I just have. It’s two months on. My heart still hurts and I miss him so much. This nearly broke me, but it didn’t. I’m still upright and chasing my dreams. How lucky am I that I got to find a once in a lifetime kind of love. If only briefly. How blessed am I that I got to experience something so wonderful, that it is so very difficult to say goodbye and let go. Much love and peace. Xxx ❤️❤️❤️❤️✌️✌️✌️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Joanne Mates -time does heal all wounds. I never want to relive my teens, 20s, 30s, or 40s. It’s amazing how a new perspective & time makes things you thought you couldn’t endure, seem like small stuff, in the grand scheme of life. Count your blessings. You’d be surprised how full your life is. From one whose been there done that & really really ok. For every thing, think of a worse case scenario & be thankful of what you’ve been spared from.
as someone who loved someone for 2 straight years when they loved someone else, i can testify that the pain it goes away. it eventually fades into a dull burn, different than the twisting of a knife. the only remainder of the hellfire is the old yearbook photos and a journal. it’s been 2 years and i’ve learned that just because you love someone doesn’t mean that they love you back. you will heal. it passes, eventually.
Has anyone one heard the Bonnie Raitt originals? Both titles are hers, and while I love Bon Iver’s cover, the originals are superb, as well. Give her a listen, you won’t be disappointed.
+BaNaNaCeZeT I don't know the details, but he has a song and album called 'For Emma, forever ago'. So I'm guessing she was/is someone special in his life.
That 2nd chord, at 0:26..........is so incredibly heart-breaking without having a single word sung. Reid/Shamblin wrote this monster. "I learned Your Honor, that you can't make a woman love you if she don't"
I have been listening to Bonnie Rait for thrity yrs. plus and would generally not approve of anyone covering her stuff, but this guy BLOWS THE DOORS OFF! Love it. Glad I found him.
My gosh this song came across me today. I really thought I was ok, but it’s not that simple. He left me so out of the blue and it’s been almost two years. It just tells me how much I truly loved (not lusted) over him. It’s a work in progress. But this song spoke to me because I know that there are others in the same boat. May we all heal!
Ooh lady, I'm right there. Just had the two year anniversary of the love of my life bailing with almost no notice... apparently just realised he didn't want to be married any more. I stopped processing the hurt for a while as I threw myself into work and so I'm just starting to work it all through again. We'll get there mate :)
This will always be my favourite cover. I return to it almost weekly. Sometimes I can handle it, sometimes the tears flow. Know that you are loved by the universe, and more importantly, you must find a way to love yourself. You are the only one that will be there for yourself, through every second of your precious life. Give yourself the love you crave and deserve, and you will never be lonely 🙏 ✨
Not much worse than being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back. Justin’s voice and piano only add to the haunting and ethereal feelings that ooze between these lyrics and notes. Perfection, this is. Heart wrenching, awful, wonderful perfection.
I am a big Metal fan. I enjoy a wide array of Music but i've got to say, this is some mental talent right here. Passionate, soulful, absolutely outstanding stuff. Bon Iver, take a bow son
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I've been listening to this song for so long, and just recently came back too it.. Going through exactly what hes singing about, and it just hit home, you can just hear the selflessness, raw emotion and helplessness hes feeling in this song.
A series of truths arranged superbly; all good advice for those not wise enough to learn from the words but instead understand them when its too late. Beautiful.
Turn down the lights Turn down the bed Turn down these voices inside my head Lay down with me Tell me no lies Just hold me close Don't patronize Don't patronize me 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't I'll close my eyes Then I won't see The love you don't feel when you're holding me Morning will come And I'll do what's right Just give me 'til then to give up this fight And I’ll give up this fight 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
Sometimes you can't force someone to stay in your life, you just have to let them go no matter how hard it is. And if they come back then fuck them cos who wants someone who has to leave to realise your worth?
I was with her for nearly fourteen years and she gave me the best years of my life, as well as my son. It’s been seven years since I laid beside her and a week ago she got remarried. I will never stop loving her, but I am glad she is now truly happy again. This song will always let me feel the love I have for her.
john daniel do you know what the best part of this song is for me? that i can no longer relate to it. You'll get there, i promise - bigger and better things are waiting for you so chin up John
That's what great artists do. Somehow they tap into our childhood, at least we think they do. Holocene makes me think back to when my mother would tuck me in at night.
The piano chords alone, stop my heart! This song has the ability and capacity to move you where words simply cannot go. This rendition of the song done in falsetto is truly timeless!
These lyrics are pure truth. That's why even though they're painful, they feel good to hear. They replace the lie we've told ourselves all our lives that we can control other people or situations.
I accidentally stumbled upon this by watching some choreographies..and I do not regret as this song has touched my heart and it's absorbed all the pain and passion in his voice..falling out of love is the most painful things I've ever had the unfortunate of experiencing.
Every last word of this song explains the absolute ache in my heart. The one true love of my life has gone because I couldn't make him love me anymore, even though it happened so naturally at the start :( I wish, more than anything, I could hold him in my arms and know he loved me like I do so love him but it won't happen. I feel as though my soul has shattered into a million pieces and can never be fixed.
+John Smith not that I need to explain myself to you but no, that's not what happened. I was the one who cared more than he deserved and he took me for granted.
Well whimsical is defined as "playfully quaint or fanciful, especially in an appealing and amusing way" so definitely not that. Ethereal was the word that came to my mind, but to each his/her own.
Damn how music can reach out and touch exactly what you are dealing with in life. All thats left to do is let her go, just don't know if my heart can take that much pain. She meant the world to me and ill never be able to tell her that again, I wish you the best in your amazing life and know that you will make people happy where ever you are.
Same. Worse thing in the world to walk through this life feeling nothing has meaning because nothing compares to the happiness you feel when you share it with someone and it’s missing from your life
This is absolute. What the song requires and demands is delivered. Emotion and professionailsm laid down (virtually) in Stone.THIS is excellence. Personally I can see the enjoyment in the musician knowing he has given everything.
To: Jessica aka Yellow Sherbert aka 2019 World "Passion" Dance Champion aka my love, my butterfly, my everything, my fleeting suburban chariot.. I walked alone and drifted 20 years searching for the same love you showed me at age 15.. after you lost your mother and our lives were separated, I never had a month go by without thinking of you. But as the many years past, I firmly believed that it was just another "young love" story that I would keep to myself or tell my children about when they got older lol. For years I thought you had moved to another city/state as you had done before.. But then tragically.. your father died.. And you came back home. Little did I know that at age 35 our lives would unexpectedly cross paths again.. we never knew our daughters were friends at the same school, much less knew that we had children at the same age going to the same schools lol.. Two years later.. a few coffee dates, some crazy slumber parties with the kiddos and look at us now.. it took almost 25 years, the intervention of our childrens friendship and some hardships between all of this to bring us back together. The rewards of coparenting and knowing someone truly, unconditionally loves and accepts me for who I am is absolutely, undeniably life changing. The odds of this actually happening, Jess.. this wonderfully romantic, beautifully tragic and almost impossible story of our love will always be remembered. Through our love, our children witness something truly beautiful and healthy... something they will always remember and hold as the gold standard for their relationships.. its timeless and priceless. I am forever in your debt for the rewards you have given me and our family. Thank you for choosing me, Jessica. I cant imagine my life without you.. From high school to this moment.. I love you because you reflected then, and still continue to define everything beautiful to me. You've truly saved my life tonight... you came in the nick of time.
Im sure he felt the same way, words can only be made sense of with a little bit of melody. The depth of those emotions are like diamonds under the ground, his voice is his tool, his emotions are his work to use that tool, the masterpiece is finding the diamond in that deep deep pit. He taught me, if you're going to dig deep, you'll see the reason you got so depressed, you went all the way down there to find something beautiful, something heart wrenching and knee dropping beautiful that makes the human experience, worth enduring. Love.
I was like, "Imma give this video 10 seconds," and then I heard the piano (that raw piano) the ringing of that old school organ that your grandma used to have. And the beauty and talent he shows with it.
This video came up on my recommendations after not listening to it for so many years. I listened to this over and over when I had gone through such horrible relationships that I was too scared to leave because I was manipulated. I really just want everyone to know that it’s okay to not be okay, and if you feel this song on an intimate level, don’t ever be afraid to get out of a toxic relationship, and don’t ever be afraid to move on, and embrace someone new. Lots of love 💛
This reminds me of my older brother, he is drug addicted and I try everything to get him back on track, but not much a 16-year old boy can do about it. I just hope that someday he'll wake up before he gets to the point were nobody will be there for him.
Dear Christian, I'm sad about you and your brother. It is very hard to be the one whose love is in your outstretched hand and the person can't see it. He is out of your circle of control which makes this harder. In the meantime don't stop reminding him of the love all around him. Do this in the brief moments of sobriety...I hope he comes around.
Christian Horslund never stop loving him. Never give up. No matter how frustrating. Always answer his calls even if you know he’s asking for money. Just tell him no and stick to it. Don’t take his mean words personal. He doesn’t truly mean them. Just never give up! Don’t shame him. Don’t be embarrassed of him. Remember he is sick. He has an illness and no one truly understands what it’s like to battle that illness unless their an addicted. Always show respect. Never shame him or shun him or gossip about him. You can’t stop him from using. Only he can. Don’t get frustrated just love him. Don’t fall for his manipulations. He doesn’t mean it in his heart it’s just part of the illness. For an addict to have a sober friend or family member be a person like I’ve suggested, helps keep “one foot pointing home” to the sober life and a good support system (you). Also, l please don't ever call him a junky a disappointment an embarrassment belittle him or make him feel less then and not worthy. Good luck Stay strong This is not advice to use temporarily. This advice is you can use for the rest of your life in different aspects and situations. Continue to be a good man and stay away from drugs and alcohol. It's to easy to develop the illness called addiction. Anyone can get it. Just like cancer. Take care of yourself. Stay focused on your goals HeySunShine
We both broke each other’s heart. I was dwelling on self-hatred, and you were there loving me with all you’ve got. I didn’t understand back then how to handle such love. You became too much for me. And all the things that we loved about each other became something that broke us. I guess that’s it. That’s how we were supposed to end.
You gave quite the chills, Bon. You brought me back to the best days and also the worst of my entire life, summer 2013 in New York, lived some emotional moments. Thanks for that, you make magic things with that piano. Greetings from Buenos Aires, Argentina.
Perfect description of a situation I am so deeply lost in... I do love YOU so much!! :'( Never thought it would end..., What an incredible way of describing ones feelings. Absolute masterpiece!
When I hear songs like this, it just makes you really appreciate life. Its hard not to remember the good and the bad, but still be grateful for the experience. Just another example of why mash-ups are just great ideas. Thanks for being a great example Bon
"I Can't Make You Love Me" Turn down the lights, Turn down the bed, Turn down these voices, Inside my head Lay down with me, Tell me no lies, Just hold me close, Don't patronize me [x2] Cause I can't make you love me If you don't, You can't make your heart feel Something it won't, Here in the dark, These final hours I will lay down my heart And I feel the power But you don't, No you don't Cause I can't make you love me, If you don't [x2] No, you won't I'll close my eyes, No, I won't see The love you don't feel, When you're holding me Morning will come, And I'll do what's right Just give me till then To give up this fight And I will give up this fight... Cause I can't make you love me if you don't I can't make your heart feel, Something it won't, Here in the dark These final hours I will lay down my heart And I feel the power But you don't, No you don't I can't make you love me if you don't If you don't, No you, no you won't I found love darlin' [x5] Love in the nick of time I found love darlin' yeah, Love in the nick of time
Amy, it’s been 3 and a half years and I know you’re happy with him now. I see your smile brighter than the times we were together. I gave you a promise ring stating my love for you and the future for us was going to be bright or so I thought. I turned 21 and went through a dark path for a while and you were there for me through it all and I just pushed you away. You showed me your unconditional love you had for me and I just pushed it away. Why must we be like this? Why did I ever push you away when I loved you and you loved me? Maybe I got scared but I’m more terrified now that I’m alone. I wanted you back and I tried to fight for you and pleaded for you to take me back but your mind was in someone else’s now. The last time I saw you was that time in October before your birthday. It was cold out and all I wanted to do was reach for your hand but I knew it wasn’t the same for you anymore I knew I had lost you. I’m happy for you though because he makes you happy. You’ll always have a special place in my heart because you were my first everything, my first girlfriend, my first best friend, my first love. Farewell Amy I love you.
6 years. 6 years since the last time I held her hand. Since I said I loved her before we broke up once again. Took her for granted, us for granted. Biggest misstake I've ever done, she literally was perfect. The blue eyes, her long brown hair, her kindness, caring and loving personality and the things she did for me. Every single day. If I could turn back time, I would. I would do everything different, I think many of us here would. She's engaged now, they bought a dog, share a beautiful apartment and she really seems happy. Love is hard, but remember that there's always one reason you ended up together at first. Something she/he'll always carry with them. Be strong. Love you.
Imagine you’re being interviewed, but rather than for a job, it’s for your personal life. The quintessential interview question of your biggest weakness gets asked. What do you say? I say I invest too much of my heart into every decision that I make and every stance that I have; I don’t mean to sound pompous like I’m so emotional or in touch with every situation in my life.. Recently, a long relationship that I had with a significant other came to a close. I was happy, comfortable, content prior to the breakup; she had even adopted a shelter dog during our time together which I had a grown very close to. So here comes the weakness... we mutually break up. All that investment of feelings and emotions defaults and I’m left empty handed. Change is hard for me. I’m a routine driven person fortunately and unfortunately and it feels like my whole life has been upside down the last few weeks. I am moving towards rehabbing my mentality and outlook. I love being invested in my relationships and stances but when things go awry, it’s tough to move on and make yourself vulnerable again. But that’s the only option to really know & love someone....thank you.
You'll never get past it, or ever forget it, but you'll work through it. I've had many loves in my life. But none that hurt as much as my first. You'll love again, trust me. You're capable. Vulnerability and the willingness to love again will take time. Your heart will break some more. You'll break some hearts in the process. But someday you'll love again. You'll look back on your first love and smile. There won't be a necessity or longing to be with them, though, once you've found a mature love that lasts. But you'll always look back on the first and smile.
The intro reminds me of "And So It Goes" by Billy Joel, which is one of the most underrated songs ever written, and this song is genuinely up there with it in terms of its beauty
The two of you have something beautiful. An undeniable chemistry even other people can’t help but notice. You have a great friendship. And yet all of that is not enough. He can’t see himself being with you. You’re not good enough for him to take that chance. You want to practically beg him to love you back. But you just know it doesn’t work that way and no matter how much you try, you can’t change someone’s heart. You can’t force a love that just not there.
It’s been a year now and I still miss her so much. I just loved the way she looked at me. She always thought I didn’t love her that much but I did. I have been told to move on but I understand not focusing on the past but I really love her and only want her. Holding her hand, laying down watching the sun set. Love hurts a lot, open up to people you really trust.
Wow. This song. Ow. I really messed up not only a beautiful relationship, but also the woman I love in the process. We are friends, still, and I am thankful fir that, but this song tears me up. I shake, I hurt so bad. I'm sorry for everything, lizzy. I really miss you. I wish I could tell you.
You are the lucky one my friend. Even tho, she doesn't love you anymore you can still spend some time with her. Unlike you, after my ex and i broke up we are completely stranger even tho i tried so hard to kept our friendship.
This is what the song was written for. Some have said Bonnie Rait owns this song and that is perhaps a little much - country maestros Reid & Shamblin wrote it and she recorded a great, great song. But Bon Iver strips it back and takes it up a further notch, with that maudlin, slightly out of tune piano a perfect foil for his raw, disjointed, emotional vocal. Perfectly executed.
Time and distance. It cures everything... except the melancholy of feeling that we were all once connected to the ultimate source of everything... but worry not, its been prophesied that MAN will return to the source. A painful return of the prodigal son but a return none the less.
for me, if I was feeling that, in front of would be better, more certain....hate to jump off and become paralyzed but still here...lol...but I understand what you mean!
More and more I’m becoming his fan and he didn’t have to try to make me his fan🤣🎶 He makes that classic ole piano look and sound like a Baby Grand piano 🎵
the tears run down my face with this song.. bon iver makes me so emotional and remember all the good times with the best guy i've ever met, i screwed up and now its too late thought.
Everyone is here spilling their guts about how this song reminds them of this or that bad relationship....and I'm just here like.... I remember there very first time I heard this song. It was brand new, playing on my radio for the first time when I was just an ordinary kid from a broken home, hanging out in my bedroom, reading or drawing to entertain myself (the days before personal computers or smart phones. the only tv set we owned was no bigger than a small microwave, it was black and white and already occupied by my mom and brother who were PROBABLY watching star trek or some shit i couldn't relate to.) This night was no different than any other except it was a sort of awakening experience. This song was THE ONE that showed me how music could tell a story (who needs tv if you have an imagination??) I still couldn't entirely relate to this song because I was a stupid little nine year old kid with no hardcore life experiences, but I still soaked up the message...... "you can't make someone love you." you can't make them care. you can't make them do the right thing. Not even your parents or siblings. While sitting on the floor of my bedroom, drawing in my old sketch book while this song played out, I realized that the only hope anyone has for happiness is to never settle, become complacent or tolerant or allow others to use you up and throw you away. because that shit hurts and it touches others, not just you. that complacency and naivety was why I was living in a broken home, eating leftover pizza or some other shitty fast food every night because my mom was often too tired or depressed to bother cooking decent meals for us. It was why my dad decided, when I was only two years old, that he'd rather find some other woman to use up and make some more kids to disappoint and let down. I remember thinking "Man..... why do people wait so long to figure out their relationship is dying? why do they wait until there are children? if things weren't working before what makes them believe kids will some how fix it?" So yeah..... I may not have a sad tale of woe and misery about lost love other than the kind a kid should expect from a healthy functioning family. This song(and others) helped me prevent that crap. THIS SONG IN PARTICULAR is why I never had an ounce of remorse for letting someone go if they didn't want to be with me. The moment they dropped the first hint (and people always do, and it's always early in a relationship if you don't ignore the signs) I was gone. No fighting or begging from either one of us. They have gone on with their lives and everyone is happy.
I've always experienced this song in reverse...I used to pray God would make me fall in love with my children's father... I'm afraid I just can't love...I can't make my heart feel
PenCapsandBandAids And you always will..☹️ Its crazy how something so sad can be so beautiful at the same time..I hate this song so much but I love it at the same time
I will never find a song I love so dearly. One that finds me on my darkest days and on my brightest mornings. This cover brings me feelings of joy and of sympathy. Reminds me of times better left unsaid and memories soon to be. A life I wish to live, and a future I’ve been waiting to hold.
This makes the world go around. Damn love this song and keeps me wanting to live another day. The hurt never heals, time can't heal but does make us all stronger in so many ways. And crave the same thing over and over. All we live for is to find that love, to be loved, and love that love back. The greatest drug is love and the music that brings it all in perspective. Such beauty! So love that..
There is no worst thing than having to give up on someone even though you don't want to, because you just know you have to
You nailed it.
+Kolnay Anthony I recently lost two very close (if not the closest) friends of mine just bcuz of this. Let me tell ya, it fuckin hurts. Wish you weren't... but you are goddamn right. :/
+Kolnay Anthony I can so totally relate. It hurts like a bitch!
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I didnt want to give up on someone I liked alot and sent like 6 or 7 messages in a row just saying how much i liked her then apologizing for it. I feel like an idiot because of it but at the time I couldnt give up on her. Im dumb
I wonder if Bon Iver knows he’s Bon Iver
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this comment is gold
Lmao!!
these are the laughs I come to the comments for
Bon Iver is the band, Justin Vernon is the incredible mastermind behind it.
I feel like it should be a duet, but the other person left.
It's originally by Bonnie Rait. Check it out, if you like. It's really great
Fucccckk
OUCH IT HURTS SO GOOD
Dan. Your ears? Jk
The Boring Case files haha my soul. That was a brilliant comment
Even if you're in a healthy, loving relationship, I think there will always be a person you think about when a song like this plays.
so true.
The one that got away...
are you really in a loving relationship if you still think about the person who broke your heart rather then person who filled in the cracks?
DAMN this is true
Women think like that
This.
To everyone struggling, you are loved. The problem is that you feel like you aren’t loved by the one person that you want to love you more than all the others. I challenge you to move forward. Place this burden before you as a boulder of remembrance, of the places you will have come. This milestone will always be there to remind you of how far you’ve come from where you started. You can love and be loved again. Be brave. Be so courageous that you are proud to look back and barely see the valley from whence you came. Push forward.
tripl3rider truth. 💔
Addiction... It has taken my ONE PERSON away from me. I've never been with a woman who made me just KNOW I'd found my person, until I met her, and then fell in love with her. When she is clean, she is HER, she is HERSELF, she is the person she TRULY is deep inside herself and who God created her to be. When she is clean, she is also my person... My ONE, single, person, the woman I know without a single shred of doubt (not even for a fraction of a second) whom I would've HAPPILY spent the rest of my life with, and Eternity after that if it were possible. I would have easily given my life for hers, if some misfortune came about which would've required me to do so that she might live. She was my person. I'm 37. I loved the mother of my 2 boys with what I thought at the time was all of my heart... I had NO CLUE, and quickly learned that lesson after my person found her way into my life. Not only was my heart not "all in" in my previous marriage, in truth, I came to realize, I hadn't even truly known what love IS to begin with. When you find your one person, you just know somehow. It's as though God throws a switch and suddenly you realize that until it was turned on, the entire world and everything in it and in life itself was only half lit, like realizing your whole life, you weren't the WHOLE picture, but one piece of a 2 piece puzzle upon which the entire picture is displayed only once the two CORRECT pieces are placed beside one and other and then connected, only then are you whole. It's more than a realization, it's a revelation. And there is no going back. However, I've had to move forward, and move on, all the while knowing full well that I'm leaving the fully lit world and all its beauty behind me, and knowing that I will never be a part of that full image again. It's a pain unlike any I've ever known, and as an addict myself, I am in recovery, and doing everything I possibly can to make it through this time in my life without using one substance or another (or multiple) in order to numb myself in an attempt to avoid the pain and the heartbreak I feel every second of every passing day. Addiction has forced me to walk away from my ONE person for fear of never being able to break the cycle. I have made the choice to stay time and again, and her using ALWAYS leads to me using again, no matter the lengths to which I've gone in order to attempt to save her and get her clean and/or keep her clean. I put her before my recovery, and I fall, everytime, knowing full well from the start that ANYTHING I put before my recovery I WILL most certainly lose. A life of using is misery, and living THAT life, even with your ONE PERSON in it, is no less miserable, infact its exponentially much much worse. Human beings, namely, addicts such as myself, simply are not ourselves when under the influence of drugs and alcohol, we become monsters or worse, individuals completely devoid of even the 1st bit of any capacity for love, sympathy, empathy, compassion, or even any consideration for anything beyond ourselves and our own need for whatever substance(s) we may have come to physically and mentally rely on in the grips of active addiction. It's not that we DO NOT love or care, we simply lose the ability for anything or anyone to hold a position of priority in our lives over the substance(s). We become slave to it, even unwillingly at times. We will put OUR OWN LIVES in jeopardy without a second thought, so in their active addiction you simply cannot hold the expectation for a person to take you or your thoughts, feelings, emotions, or even your life itself into consideration above the substance(s). Its for this reason my person is taken from me and I cannot turn back. And this song just makes the truth and sadness of it all ring as true and clear as a bell. I've been FORCED to choose me. I just hope and pray that one day, I might find the strength and ability to forgive myself for doing so and be able to live my life and live with myself and the way things will have to be without my person.
I just shed a tear. 💔😭
I’m 45 and going through an epic heartbreak. He ended it 5 weeks ago. I lost my best friend and the love of my life. Acceptance and letting it (and him) go, are so very difficult. Then comes gratitude and forgiveness. Thank you universe for all the lessons. The good, the bad, the ugly and the soul destroying ones. I’m winning this war!! 💪💪💪
You're an amazing human, and I'm so happy you can find the power. All the love and good vibes
Bailey Schmidt Awwwww, Thank you. I hope you never have to experience the grief, unimaginable loss and heartbreak I just have. It’s two months on. My heart still hurts and I miss him so much. This nearly broke me, but it didn’t. I’m still upright and chasing my dreams. How lucky am I that I got to find a once in a lifetime kind of love. If only briefly. How blessed am I that I got to experience something so wonderful, that it is so very difficult to say goodbye and let go. Much love and peace. Xxx
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Joanne Mates -time does heal all wounds. I never want to relive my teens, 20s, 30s, or 40s. It’s amazing how a new perspective & time makes things you thought you couldn’t endure, seem like small stuff, in the grand scheme of life.
Count your blessings. You’d be surprised how full your life is. From one whose been there done that & really really ok. For every thing, think of a worse case scenario & be thankful of what you’ve been spared from.
I was totally fine. Then he began singing. Now I’m not fine.
😢😢😢
Ditto
Joanna Middendorp but its going to be okay
I completely disagree with you. To each his or her own though
Yep. Just tryna do the dishes here, and suddenly I’m WEEPING
I just wanna sit here, listen to this and cry for the rest of my life
but his end is love in the nick of time xo
I listen and feeling just want to die.
Same here haha
gag
gag
This is a whiskey and feel sorry for myself kind of evening.
Are you sad that you have no legs, Mr Puffin?
+Holly very much so. :(
+Legless Puffin hope you're doing fine though!
I know this isn't the take away message here but.....good whiskey lol?
Legless Puffin i will save your comment and use it somewhere, sorry but no sorry.thanks!
as someone who loved someone for 2 straight years when they loved someone else, i can testify that the pain it goes away. it eventually fades into a dull burn, different than the twisting of a knife. the only remainder of the hellfire is the old yearbook photos and a journal. it’s been 2 years and i’ve learned that just because you love someone doesn’t mean that they love you back. you will heal.
it passes, eventually.
Has anyone one heard the Bonnie Raitt originals? Both titles are hers, and while I love Bon Iver’s cover, the originals are superb, as well. Give her a listen, you won’t be disappointed.
Heard her perform it live awhile ago. Hard to believe, but I think she sings it even better now. Her voice has gotten more rich.
She is one of my favorites! One of the greats!
Will Downing's cover has always been my favorite
R L His cover is beautiful!
Emma, fucking hurt him again so we can get some more music.
+Jamie Holmes Can you explain it a little to me? :D Just started to following Bon
+BaNaNaCeZeT I don't know the details, but he has a song and album called 'For Emma, forever ago'. So I'm guessing she was/is someone special in his life.
+Jamie Holmes haha... yes, Emma... not too much though. ;)
+Denise Thompson Nothing good ever came out of writing in peace ;)
+BaNaNaCeZeT Do a little research. It's a complete fairy tale you'll enjoy it.
That 2nd chord, at 0:26..........is so incredibly heart-breaking without having a single word sung. Reid/Shamblin wrote this monster. "I learned Your Honor, that you can't make a woman love you if she don't"
Wow you caught that too..... So beautiful. I'd love to hear him try it as a duet. yes no
i thought the same thing. never heard any chord like it....
Noticed the same thing too. . :D.
Cory Urton you play?
Lawrelle Eyee yes, not piano though. guitar
I have been listening to Bonnie Rait for thrity yrs. plus and would generally not approve of anyone covering her stuff, but this guy BLOWS THE DOORS OFF! Love it. Glad I found him.
Eric Anderson lg
I absolutely agree
please find the Prince version. It's so good, 1996.
Nancy Wilson's version is over the top.
im a 21 year old male who listens to dubstep and rap music but this song makes me cry every single time
My gosh this song came across me today. I really thought I was ok, but it’s not that simple. He left me so out of the blue and it’s been almost two years. It just tells me how much I truly loved (not lusted) over him. It’s a work in progress. But this song spoke to me because I know that there are others in the same boat. May we all heal!
Ooh lady, I'm right there. Just had the two year anniversary of the love of my life bailing with almost no notice... apparently just realised he didn't want to be married any more. I stopped processing the hurt for a while as I threw myself into work and so I'm just starting to work it all through again. We'll get there mate :)
This will always be my favourite cover. I return to it almost weekly. Sometimes I can handle it, sometimes the tears flow. Know that you are loved by the universe, and more importantly, you must find a way to love yourself. You are the only one that will be there for yourself, through every second of your precious life. Give yourself the love you crave and deserve, and you will never be lonely 🙏 ✨
Not much worse than being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back. Justin’s voice and piano only add to the haunting and ethereal feelings that ooze between these lyrics and notes. Perfection, this is. Heart wrenching, awful, wonderful perfection.
I am a big Metal fan. I enjoy a wide array of Music but i've got to say, this is some mental talent right here. Passionate, soulful, absolutely outstanding stuff. Bon Iver, take a bow son
I hear the angels calling.....such a talented soul. I'll be honest man....I'm man enough to admit that this song makes me cry sometimes.....
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this song just gives me flashes of memories I haven’t even had yet
Perfect.
I've been listening to this song for so long, and just recently came back too it.. Going through exactly what hes singing about, and it just hit home, you can just hear the selflessness, raw emotion and helplessness hes feeling in this song.
Sadness shows us how lucky we are when we're happy.
UGH that nearly made me cry Jake
jake lowrey
very true, thank you
Please put. This. On. Spotify.
Julia Magnatta not Bon Iver but there’s a version of this by a band called The March Ahead that is pretty fantastic
The cover by Colouring is even more beautiful than The March Ahead (in my opinion)! It just came out this year so it has very few listens
A series of truths arranged superbly; all good advice for those not wise enough to learn from the words but instead understand them when its too late.
Beautiful.
Turn down the lights
Turn down the bed
Turn down these voices inside my head
Lay down with me
Tell me no lies
Just hold me close
Don't patronize
Don't patronize me
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
You can't make your heart feel something it won't
Here in the dark in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
But you won't, no you won't
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
I'll close my eyes
Then I won't see
The love you don't feel when you're holding me
Morning will come
And I'll do what's right
Just give me 'til then to give up this fight
And I’ll give up this fight
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
You can't make your heart feel something it won't
Here in the dark in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
But you won't, no you won't
'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
Sometimes you can't force someone to stay in your life, you just have to let them go no matter how hard it is. And if they come back then fuck them cos who wants someone who has to leave to realise your worth?
Yeah fuck them.
Maz a little hard to just let go like that. To painful
haha i rate that comment!
😢 i let her go
suzal Adhikari breathe easy my friend.
I was with her for nearly fourteen years and she gave me the best years of my life, as well as my son. It’s been seven years since I laid beside her and a week ago she got remarried. I will never stop loving her, but I am glad she is now truly happy again. This song will always let me feel the love I have for her.
wow brother.
EmptyRoyal T that was so deep❤️🙌🏾
I would love to stop loving you. I would give anything to move on and forget you.
john daniel do you know what the best part of this song is for me? that i can no longer relate to it.
You'll get there, i promise - bigger and better things are waiting for you so chin up John
justjohn dangit Your pic is nightmare fuel. And hugs. We've all been there dude. x
Funny how a melody sounds like a memory :)
That's what great artists do. Somehow they tap into our childhood, at least we think they do. Holocene makes me think back to when my mother would tuck me in at night.
i like that "melody sounds like memory"
truly Brilliant...Thank You...my heart and brain were thee but no words, You nailed it
Like a soundtrack to a July Saturday Night, Springsteen - Eric Church
ok this just made me cry
The piano chords alone, stop my heart! This song has the ability and capacity to move you where words simply cannot go. This rendition of the song done in falsetto is truly timeless!
These lyrics are pure truth. That's why even though they're painful, they feel good to hear. They replace the lie we've told ourselves all our lives that we can control other people or situations.
Very well said. : )
wasn't prepared for this. oh man. Wow. tears.
Makes me think of my wife. I love her so much and wish she felt the same. Sad song
Although I havent found a new love. She is my one and only. Always will be. I miss you baby
i signed in just to up vote you guys..I hope everything works out for you two...
I feel for you too, kinda going through the same thing.
Evdizz Sea Dawg Bobby Gordon Strength and hope to all of you.
The feels...
I accidentally stumbled upon this by watching some choreographies..and I do not regret as this song has touched my heart and it's absorbed all the pain and passion in his voice..falling out of love is the most painful things I've ever had the unfortunate of experiencing.
Every last word of this song explains the absolute ache in my heart. The one true love of my life has gone because I couldn't make him love me anymore, even though it happened so naturally at the start :( I wish, more than anything, I could hold him in my arms and know he loved me like I do so love him but it won't happen. I feel as though my soul has shattered into a million pieces and can never be fixed.
+Charlene Taylor Awwwww....
+Charlene Taylor I'm sorry, Charlene. I've been there too, very recently. It's an ache like no other. You'll get through this.
+Charlene Taylor your a pretty girl, you'll find somebody else soon enough.
+Charlene Taylor probably because you were a mean intolerable bitch like most other women
+John Smith not that I need to explain myself to you but no, that's not what happened. I was the one who cared more than he deserved and he took me for granted.
this literally touches my soul in such a beautiful and haunting way!! it gives me such whimsical chills! it's perfect
Briana Mia I think "whimsical" is the wrong word for it, buddy.
I listen to the song and whimsical comes to mind. What would you say?
Well whimsical is defined as "playfully quaint or fanciful, especially in an appealing and amusing way" so definitely not that. Ethereal was the word that came to my mind, but to each his/her own.
Damn how music can reach out and touch exactly what you are dealing with in life. All thats left to do is let her go, just don't know if my heart can take that much pain. She meant the world to me and ill never be able to tell her that again, I wish you the best in your amazing life and know that you will make people happy where ever you are.
This song means more to me then anyone will ever know I cry every time I hear it...its hard being alone..
Same. Worse thing in the world to walk through this life feeling nothing has meaning because nothing compares to the happiness you feel when you share it with someone and it’s missing from your life
I miss her so much. Every day
do you still ?
What about now huh?
Absolutely beautiful! I hope this man is famous because he deserves to be discovered!
Dont worry about that! as far as artists of this genre go, Justin Vernon is one of the most well known! As you say, its for good reason too.
This is the most beautiful thing I've ever heard in my entire life.
+fiveinchesofwow Vid, or it's bullshit
You know that tingly feeling you get when you meet someone that you like? Well, that's your common sense leaving you.
amazing thought! 😍
or the person is tickling you
great line man
LMAO
I love that
This is absolute. What the song requires and demands is delivered. Emotion and professionailsm laid down (virtually) in Stone.THIS is excellence. Personally I can see the enjoyment in the musician knowing he has given everything.
To: Jessica aka Yellow Sherbert aka 2019 World "Passion" Dance Champion aka my love, my butterfly, my everything, my fleeting suburban chariot..
I walked alone and drifted 20 years searching for the same love you showed me at age 15.. after you lost your mother and our lives were separated, I never had a month go by without thinking of you. But as the many years past, I firmly believed that it was just another "young love" story that I would keep to myself or tell my children about when they got older lol.
For years I thought you had moved to another city/state as you had done before..
But then tragically.. your father died.. And you came back home.
Little did I know that at age 35 our lives would unexpectedly cross paths again.. we never knew our daughters were friends at the same school, much less knew that we had children at the same age going to the same schools lol..
Two years later.. a few coffee dates, some crazy slumber parties with the kiddos and look at us now.. it took almost 25 years, the intervention of our childrens friendship and some hardships between all of this to bring us back together. The rewards of coparenting and knowing someone truly, unconditionally loves and accepts me for who I am is absolutely, undeniably life changing. The odds of this actually happening, Jess.. this wonderfully romantic, beautifully tragic and almost impossible story of our love will always be remembered. Through our love, our children witness something truly beautiful and healthy... something they will always remember and hold as the gold standard for their relationships.. its timeless and priceless. I am forever in your debt for the rewards you have given me and our family.
Thank you for choosing me, Jessica. I cant imagine my life without you.. From high school to this moment.. I love you because you reflected then, and still continue to define everything beautiful to me. You've truly saved my life tonight... you came in the nick of time.
when's this coming to theaters doe??
wow man this choked me the fuck up, congrats to you bro so happy it all worked out
Achingly beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️
What a hero for posting this! I'm only discovering it October 2019!
words cannot explain this man
Im sure he felt the same way, words can only be made sense of with a little bit of melody. The depth of those emotions are like diamonds under the ground, his voice is his tool, his emotions are his work to use that tool, the masterpiece is finding the diamond in that deep deep pit. He taught me, if you're going to dig deep, you'll see the reason you got so depressed, you went all the way down there to find something beautiful, something heart wrenching and knee dropping beautiful that makes the human experience, worth enduring. Love.
Anyone else diggin' the rawness of the piano? wow.
Definitely.
I was like, "Imma give this video 10 seconds," and then I heard the piano (that raw piano) the ringing of that old school organ that your grandma used to have. And the beauty and talent he shows with it.
The Bluesy touches he gives in there just amplify the passion and feeling in this song
This video came up on my recommendations after not listening to it for so many years. I listened to this over and over when I had gone through such horrible relationships that I was too scared to leave because I was manipulated. I really just want everyone to know that it’s okay to not be okay, and if you feel this song on an intimate level, don’t ever be afraid to get out of a toxic relationship, and don’t ever be afraid to move on, and embrace someone new. Lots of love 💛
This is just so lovely. The emotion is literally blowing me away
What an incredible unique voice. Staggeringly beautiful!
This reminds me of my older brother, he is drug addicted and I try everything to get him back on track, but not much a 16-year old boy can do about it.
I just hope that someday he'll wake up before he gets to the point were nobody will be there for him.
Dear Christian, I'm sad about you and your brother. It is very hard to be the one whose love is in your outstretched hand and the person can't see it. He is out of your circle of control which makes this harder. In the meantime don't stop reminding him of the love all around him. Do this in the brief moments of sobriety...I hope he comes around.
Christian Horslund i would love to know how youre and your bro doing??!
Christian Horslund never stop loving him. Never give up. No matter how frustrating. Always answer his calls even if you know he’s asking for money. Just tell him no and stick to it. Don’t take his mean words personal. He doesn’t truly mean them. Just never give up! Don’t shame him. Don’t be embarrassed of him. Remember he is sick. He has an illness and no one truly understands what it’s like to battle that illness unless their an addicted. Always show respect. Never shame him or shun him or gossip about him. You can’t stop him from using. Only he can. Don’t get frustrated just love him. Don’t fall for his manipulations. He doesn’t mean it in his heart it’s just part of the illness. For an addict to have a sober friend or family member be a person like I’ve suggested, helps keep “one foot pointing home” to the sober life and a good support system (you).
Also, l please don't ever call him a junky a disappointment an embarrassment belittle him or make him feel less then and not worthy.
Good luck Stay strong This is not advice to use temporarily. This advice is you can use for the rest of your life in different aspects and situations. Continue to be a good man and stay away from drugs and alcohol. It's to easy to develop the illness called addiction. Anyone can get it. Just like cancer.
Take care of yourself. Stay focused on your goals
HeySunShine
This song got me good 😢
Beautiful
Talal Sobhi it has a beautiful way of doing that. ❤️👩🦰☀️
Thanks for your music Bon Iver !!!!! I really love Justin Vernon. he's passion, he's breathtaking, he's love, he is .......
We both broke each other’s heart. I was dwelling on self-hatred, and you were there loving me with all you’ve got. I didn’t understand back then how to handle such love. You became too much for me. And all the things that we loved about each other became something that broke us. I guess that’s it. That’s how we were supposed to end.
You gave quite the chills, Bon. You brought me back to the best days and also the worst of my entire life, summer 2013 in New York, lived some emotional moments. Thanks for that, you make magic things with that piano. Greetings from Buenos Aires, Argentina.
Justin Vernon*
This is a song that will never loose value, emotion in the piano and that voice. I will never lose interest in his songs.
Beautiful. There are numerous moments within this rendition that have what such moments need.
so bittersweet, yet beautiful. he did justice to the original. i keep coming back to this song to hear part of my life.
Perfect description of a situation I am so deeply lost in... I do love YOU so much!! :'( Never thought it would end..., What an incredible way of describing ones feelings. Absolute masterpiece!
Can't help..tears are rollin down my face whenever I hear this song
When I hear songs like this, it just makes you really appreciate life. Its hard not to remember the good and the bad, but still be grateful for the experience. Just another example of why mash-ups are just great ideas. Thanks for being a great example Bon
This made me cry.... Not complaining.... Power of heartfelt music will do that
Can we all just admire the emotion for a second. It puts my stomach in my throat.
"I Can't Make You Love Me"
Turn down the lights,
Turn down the bed,
Turn down these voices,
Inside my head
Lay down with me,
Tell me no lies,
Just hold me close,
Don't patronize me [x2]
Cause I can't make you love me
If you don't,
You can't make your heart feel
Something it won't,
Here in the dark,
These final hours
I will lay down my heart
And I feel the power
But you don't,
No you don't
Cause I can't make you love me,
If you don't [x2]
No, you won't
I'll close my eyes,
No, I won't see
The love you don't feel,
When you're holding me
Morning will come,
And I'll do what's right
Just give me till then
To give up this fight
And I will give up this fight...
Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
I can't make your heart feel,
Something it won't,
Here in the dark
These final hours
I will lay down my heart
And I feel the power
But you don't,
No you don't
I can't make you love me if you don't
If you don't,
No you, no you won't
I found love darlin' [x5]
Love in the nick of time
I found love darlin' yeah,
Love in the nick of time
Beautiful , raw , sensual. Adding Bon Iver to my playlists.
Amy, it’s been 3 and a half years and I know you’re happy with him now. I see your smile brighter than the times we were together. I gave you a promise ring stating my love for you and the future for us was going to be bright or so I thought. I turned 21 and went through a dark path for a while and you were there for me through it all and I just pushed you away. You showed me your unconditional love you had for me and I just pushed it away. Why must we be like this? Why did I ever push you away when I loved you and you loved me? Maybe I got scared but I’m more terrified now that I’m alone. I wanted you back and I tried to fight for you and pleaded for you to take me back but your mind was in someone else’s now. The last time I saw you was that time in October before your birthday. It was cold out and all I wanted to do was reach for your hand but I knew it wasn’t the same for you anymore I knew I had lost you. I’m happy for you though because he makes you happy. You’ll always have a special place in my heart because you were my first everything, my first girlfriend, my first best friend, my first love. Farewell Amy I love you.
Oh My God! This is awesome! Love it so much! Kisses from Brazil.
6 years. 6 years since the last time I held her hand. Since I said I loved her before we broke up once again. Took her for granted, us for granted. Biggest misstake I've ever done, she literally was perfect. The blue eyes, her long brown hair, her kindness, caring and loving personality and the things she did for me. Every single day. If I could turn back time, I would. I would do everything different, I think many of us here would. She's engaged now, they bought a dog, share a beautiful apartment and she really seems happy. Love is hard, but remember that there's always one reason you ended up together at first. Something she/he'll always carry with them. Be strong. Love you.
This is such a soul touching song. It makes me think of a person who has my heart and always will. Thanks for sharing this.
Imagine you’re being interviewed, but rather than for a job, it’s for your personal life. The quintessential interview question of your biggest weakness gets asked. What do you say?
I say I invest too much of my heart into every decision that I make and every stance that I have; I don’t mean to sound pompous like I’m so emotional or in touch with every situation in my life.. Recently, a long relationship that I had with a significant other came to a close. I was happy, comfortable, content prior to the breakup; she had even adopted a shelter dog during our time together which I had a grown very close to. So here comes the weakness... we mutually break up. All that investment of feelings and emotions defaults and I’m left empty handed. Change is hard for me. I’m a routine driven person fortunately and unfortunately and it feels like my whole life has been upside down the last few weeks.
I am moving towards rehabbing my mentality and outlook. I love being invested in my relationships and stances but when things go awry, it’s tough to move on and make yourself vulnerable again. But that’s the only option to really know & love someone....thank you.
It's songs like this that make me wonder if I'll ever truly get over my first love.
Never 💛
You'll never get past it, or ever forget it, but you'll work through it. I've had many loves in my life. But none that hurt as much as my first. You'll love again, trust me. You're capable. Vulnerability and the willingness to love again will take time. Your heart will break some more. You'll break some hearts in the process. But someday you'll love again. You'll look back on your first love and smile. There won't be a necessity or longing to be with them, though, once you've found a mature love that lasts. But you'll always look back on the first and smile.
J Tho This is profoundly comforting. Thank you very much. ❤️
The intro reminds me of "And So It Goes" by Billy Joel, which is one of the most underrated songs ever written, and this song is genuinely up there with it in terms of its beauty
The two of you have something beautiful. An undeniable chemistry even other people can’t help but notice. You have a great friendship. And yet all of that is not enough. He can’t see himself being with you. You’re not good enough for him to take that chance. You want to practically beg him to love you back. But you just know it doesn’t work that way and no matter how much you try, you can’t change someone’s heart. You can’t force a love that just not there.
It's true. You can't make somebody love you, you have to respect their feelings.
This song just got 1000000000 times better. Bon Iver delivers all of the tears.
It’s been a year now and I still miss her so much. I just loved the way she looked at me. She always thought I didn’t love her that much but I did. I have been told to move on but I understand not focusing on the past but I really love her and only want her. Holding her hand, laying down watching the sun set. Love hurts a lot, open up to people you really trust.
Damn! Raw talent! Thank you Mr. Bon Iver! I enjoy this.
this makes me ball my eyes out. love this version.
Wow. This song. Ow. I really messed up not only a beautiful relationship, but also the woman I love in the process. We are friends, still, and I am thankful fir that, but this song tears me up. I shake, I hurt so bad. I'm sorry for everything, lizzy. I really miss you. I wish I could tell you.
Tell her.
Ryan Craig i lold
B L Awwwh Im hurting for u
did you ever tell her how you felt?
You are the lucky one my friend.
Even tho, she doesn't love you anymore you can still spend some time with her. Unlike you, after my ex and i broke up we are completely stranger even tho i tried so hard to kept our friendship.
Justin Vernon: "I can't make you love me if you don't"
Me: "Don't talk like that. Of course I love you"
Goosebumps! Simply gut stirring. BEAUTIFUL
I'm so sad, that this version of the song isn't on spotify.. So beautiful!
This is what the song was written for.
Some have said Bonnie Rait owns this song and that is perhaps a little much - country maestros Reid & Shamblin wrote it and she recorded a great, great song. But Bon Iver strips it back and takes it up a further notch, with that maudlin, slightly out of tune piano a perfect foil for his raw, disjointed, emotional vocal. Perfectly executed.
Who Hurt you Bon?
Joseph Iosefa *Justin Vernon
Kit Palmer lmaoooooooo
Joseph Iosefa James Bon
Joseph Iosefa Emma, man. Fucking Emma!
Hamidi Zakaria pahahahahaha love it!!!
He just made this timeless song his own. Overwhelmingly beautiful and passionate. Wow!
Good thing I didn't hear this six months ago, I may have thrown myself off a train
Time and distance. It cures everything... except the melancholy of feeling that we were all once connected to the ultimate source of everything...
but worry not, its been prophesied that MAN will return to the source. A painful return of the prodigal son but a return none the less.
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for me, if I was feeling that, in front of would be better, more certain....hate to jump off and become paralyzed but still here...lol...but I understand what you mean!
I dont know if I'm in love with "you" anymore, but this made me think again...
More and more I’m becoming his fan and he didn’t have to try to make me his fan🤣🎶
He makes that classic ole piano look and sound like a Baby Grand piano 🎵
the tears run down my face with this song.. bon iver makes me so emotional and remember all the good times with the best guy i've ever met, i screwed up and now its too late thought.
Everyone is here spilling their guts about how this song reminds them of this or that bad relationship....and I'm just here like.... I remember there very first time I heard this song. It was brand new, playing on my radio for the first time when I was just an ordinary kid from a broken home, hanging out in my bedroom, reading or drawing to entertain myself (the days before personal computers or smart phones. the only tv set we owned was no bigger than a small microwave, it was black and white and already occupied by my mom and brother who were PROBABLY watching star trek or some shit i couldn't relate to.) This night was no different than any other except it was a sort of awakening experience.
This song was THE ONE that showed me how music could tell a story (who needs tv if you have an imagination??) I still couldn't entirely relate to this song because I was a stupid little nine year old kid with no hardcore life experiences, but I still soaked up the message...... "you can't make someone love you." you can't make them care. you can't make them do the right thing. Not even your parents or siblings.
While sitting on the floor of my bedroom, drawing in my old sketch book while this song played out, I realized that the only hope anyone has for happiness is to never settle, become complacent or tolerant or allow others to use you up and throw you away. because that shit hurts and it touches others, not just you. that complacency and naivety was why I was living in a broken home, eating leftover pizza or some other shitty fast food every night because my mom was often too tired or depressed to bother cooking decent meals for us. It was why my dad decided, when I was only two years old, that he'd rather find some other woman to use up and make some more kids to disappoint and let down.
I remember thinking "Man..... why do people wait so long to figure out their relationship is dying? why do they wait until there are children? if things weren't working before what makes them believe kids will some how fix it?"
So yeah..... I may not have a sad tale of woe and misery about lost love other than the kind a kid should expect from a healthy functioning family. This song(and others) helped me prevent that crap. THIS SONG IN PARTICULAR is why I never had an ounce of remorse for letting someone go if they didn't want to be with me. The moment they dropped the first hint (and people always do, and it's always early in a relationship if you don't ignore the signs) I was gone. No fighting or begging from either one of us. They have gone on with their lives and everyone is happy.
I dont know why I come here so much... I guess I miss someone.
I've always experienced this song in reverse...I used to pray God would make me fall in love with my children's father... I'm afraid I just can't love...I can't make my heart feel
Angel Bogart me too
Please you have to contact me. We both have the same story. I thought I was the only one.
Wow Im in the same situation. I just cant feel in love with him.
One day you will hear this song and it won't bring you to tears, it won't hurt to think of him. Today is not that day but one day...
Ten years and a tattoo later, I’m still crying to his croon.
PenCapsandBandAids And you always will..☹️ Its crazy how something so sad can be so beautiful at the same time..I hate this song so much but I love it at the same time
This was so good, it made me feel like I was falling in love with this guy....awesome...
It's 2019 already and I still get emotionally destroyed by this version.
I will never find a song I love so dearly. One that finds me on my darkest days and on my brightest mornings. This cover brings me feelings of joy and of sympathy. Reminds me of times better left unsaid and memories soon to be. A life I wish to live, and a future I’ve been waiting to hold.
it hurts when you love them and they love someone else, but it hurts even more when there's no one else, and they just don't love you.
His music is the closest thing to a spiritual experience I've ever had.
I love that this is trending in some way. I'm not alone...
This makes the world go around. Damn love this song and keeps me wanting to live another day. The hurt never heals, time can't heal but does make us all stronger in so many ways. And crave the same thing over and over. All we live for is to find that love, to be loved, and love that love back. The greatest drug is love and the music that brings it all in perspective. Such beauty!
So love that..