I love how you said that you should be prepared to have a baby when you have sex. So many people don’t understand the importance of that and it leads to a lot of broken families and people
Its sad really, there are a rare few who stay together though, one of my friends was dating a guy who was a year younger then her (he was 18 she was 19) she got pregnant and even though his parents were against it he asked her to marry him, they got married, had a baby girl and a year later they had another baby girl, definitely the happiest young family i have ever seen
Never looked at it like that, bit of an eye-opener. Though personally I like to talk it all out, get everything out in the open. Being open and honest is in my mind the best remedy for a healthy relationship.
Honest answer: Of never being in a relationship 🙋♀️ Surely it's easier to leave someone because you want to than it is to find someone who's willing to take you?
The bathroom one, I feel like a huge opportunity to shed some light on safety was missed. Sometimes we go to the bathroom in groups because we don't feel safe going on our own.
I'm 22 year old female and never been to the bathroom with anyone else 😩 I do feel like I'm missing something... But why would you not feel safe going to a toilet? That's like the safest place surely 🤷♀️
I was taught to always go to the bathroom with other people for my safety. Typically women’s restroom are next to men’s and the reality of the world we live in now is that numbers bring safety in this situation.
I love that closing statement about being careful abt who you have a baby with. I'm a single mom, got pregnant at 20 & wish I had gotten that advice. I adore my son (he'll be 17 next month), but he grew up without a dad and if I had known better, sometimes I wish I had picked a better dad for him, maybe one who would be present and not abusive then later absent. So YESSS, be careful and think your decisions through! Goes for guys and girls! :)
yeah, it would be easier to just be straight up honest. but us girls have doubts too... so i guess in a way, by saying “i’m fine” we’re hoping our “partner” or “boyfriend” will continue to care
“I’m fine” means “Everything will be ok, I know that, but it sucks right now and I need you to care, I need to vent, I need a shoulder to cry on, I need to know I can trust you with my feelings. I don’t want advice, I just want your ear but I am too afraid to ask.” Thats a lot of words, so it’s just easier to say “I’m fine”😂😂 we can be lazy with our answers too
I feel like “I’m fine” means either she’s actually fine or she’s upset. If she’s upset, she’s either waiting for you to ask about it, or she just doesn’t want to talk. For instance, if she’s mad at you, she may say “I’m fine” to get you to initiate the conversation.
Maybe it's because I'm Dutch and we are super straight forward but I don't get why you would answer "i'm fine" when someone specifically asks if something is wrong. To illustrate the weirdness: if a waiter asks you if you want to drink something and you say no, then don't expect a drink coming your way 🤷♀️
These are really mature responses, especially for your ages and as a young married couple with no other partners. That made me sound really old, but I'm just impressed! You're right that so much of the superficial stuff simply fades away and is irrelevant in the face of a deeper love and bond with your partner. 💕
I’m a few years off of 30 and I still enjoyed both these videos! For a person that has not done ‘that’ yet and was once in a serious long term relationship, I completely agree with your outlook and view point. I’m happy I’m saving myself for the one. I think it’s really good that young people like yourselves are talking about this because young people need to hear it’s nothing to rush into and it’s ok to wait. Do more of these type videos 🥳
I totally agree with Abby on the emotional thing. I want my husband to be sensitive and to know it’s okay to cry, but wouldn’t want him crying all of the time. I cry enough.
THANK YOU ABBY for being so real, I am a girl and sometimes my period pain is bad sometimes not so much, it depends and sometimes I also play it up a bit and every single girl out there does toooo and you are the ONLY ONE who has actually said it. Thank you for not playing the victim because I know so many women emotionally manipulate men through period pain. Thank you!!
Abby, I am soooo in tune with you when it comes to guys Lockerroom talk around women! I am a grandpa and drive a school bus and nothing bothers me more than guys who talk nasty or curse around them. My own boys talk like that around their children and is a major argument between us s.
"Im fine"...we say that when we dont wanna burden you with our problems and we're trying to hold it together and be strong....again this does not apply for everyone.
I like how you two are comfortable enough to talk to your audience and be open about topics and speak the truth in such a kind way to not offend anyone! Love your videos so much!! ❤
Im 5’9 something and my boyfriend is 5’8 - it was for sure hard at first because I felt “bigger” than him, but he still makes me feel protected and feminine so can attest - height does not matter but it feels like it does at first.
I love how you guys are so sincere and don’t sugar coat everything! Y’all are seriously couple goals! I’m so glad I came upon you guys just this week, it’s made my week 10x better.
I love how Abby is so genuine and she’s so like honest and y’all are by far my favorite yt couple and y’all literally suite each other so well love y’all Abby and Matt
You guys remind me what its like to be with a guy who makes you feel cute, sexy, confident and intelligent. What it feels like to love the way a partner makes you feel. I've forgotten what that feels like in my last relationship and look forward to that again so thankyou
On the confidence over looks thing: I find this to be completely true, at least for women who are not just looking for a fling. I know several men who are obese or not classically good-looking who find success in relationships. I was not confident for a long time, but I’ve started working on being more open and feeling comfortable in my own skin and only after a couple of days, I’m already seeing more interest from some women. I’m actively avoiding a serious relationship right now though, because I need to work on myself so I can be more considerate and healthy for my next relationship.
I also want to note on a couple of these: There is a big difference between confidence and arrogance. Confident people just have an ease about them and are easy to talk to. Arrogant people make it harder to be around and harder to have conversations with. As for choosing the bad guy, yes, some women are immature or just seem to choose the wrong men unfortunately. Not that it can't happen, but often if you're going to a bar to find a good relationship, you're looking in the wrong spot. Do things you enjoy often and there's a good chance you'll meet someone with similar interests. Abs are nice and all, but I wouldn't want a man obsessing with it. If he spends more time at the gym and looking in the mirror than on his relationship, no thank you. As far as abs and height go, sure there can be an initial attraction with those, but as people get to know each other and begin to like each other that stuff does not matter. You like the person for them, not how they look. As for period cramps, some girls have it worse than others. In my teens I would almost pass out from the pain every month. As in I would get clammy and sweaty and my face would get really pale. After my teens they have gotten much better but I still have the occasional extra painful month. I actually try to hide it because I don't like showing that side of myself. For vulnerability of men, I personally prefer men to be able to have a genuine conversation about thoughts and feelings on something but would not like them crying all the time. Just like I do not want to be crying all the time. Vulnerability, but not emotional.
I love your open honest genuine answers to the "hard questions'. So much TRUTH. Glad that you two are strong and confident in your relationship to share with others. The 18-24 person really need people like you two to be this open . This is what true love looks like.
Concerning the question why girls go to bathrooms in groups: Sometimes (or, most of the times actually) it's a safety measure. Either it's to talk about something not everyone's supposed to hear (believe me, you'll never hear as much stories and trashtalk and whatever as you hear in girls bathrooms😂) OR, and that's a pretty important one, we go together to ensure the other one is save. Personally, for my group of friends it's an absolute no-go to let a female go to the bathroom all by herself if you're out in the public. You never know what might happen...
Yes! There was one time I was in the school bathroom and two girls came in and they didn't know I was in there and they were talking trash about someone and then I awkwardly walked out because they were taking too long to leave so when I walked out they both just looked at me like "oh crap you heard that?"
Julia Brookes loool One time I was in a shnucks bathroom and there was,like snarling noises from the other stall. It was either a lady who was breathing weird, ooooorrrr a freakin monster,I left before I found out.
The question what does “I’m fine” really means, for me it usually means “I’m tired of talking about this so I’ll just say I’m fine so we can move on” 😂
“I’m fine” actually can mean “leave me alone” for some women or “hey, you need to ask questions to help me through something” like Abby said...you guys have to figure out which one your woman means.
17:38 I also think that some “bad guys” pretend to be “good guys” but really it’s just an act. Also, if you are in a vulnerable place it’s easy to look past the red flags. Like my mams dad died and that’s when my mam met my dad and my dad is a toxic narcissist. It’s not all guys and I’m not saying that all guys are bad but that’s just my experience.
My husband and I just got married, and we love watching your video’s together. We’re also in our early 20’s and it’s nice to see married couples our age.
The one thing I really like is that they don’t look at the camera every time they start talking, they look at each other and have a convo which I just really like cause I don’t like when you tubers always look to the camera and are not as laid back as they are 💕
I am way outside of your target viewer age, but I just love hearing young people making right choices and not be afraid to talk about it. You two the sweetest and pretty funny, too. Stay true to each other and communicate, communicate, communicate! 😊
I agree with everything you said!!! Abby is SO GORGEOUS! For the bathroom question, it’s a great way to talk in public and it’s also kinda a safety thing for me? Y’all are the cutest! 💖
I love how she was being deadass honest about everything and not trying to be a saint. I think she really spoke for a lot of girls out there. She was straight up yes or no. No maybes or "I don't know"s.
I like this relationship because it teaches young kids what a healthy relationship looks like yes I know I’m single but when I’m older and ready for a relationship and I’m already exposed to healthy relationships like this and not tolerate abusive relationship like my parents, my mom always told me to get a good guy unlike my father and I think Matt is a great example for traits I want in my future man
Abby, I’m with you on that one. I also agree that the majority of the female population would say they like guys to be vulnerable and emotional.. but I feel like that is part of the relationship. I don’t know!
That was great advice 9:00 and 16:57 was spot on but I also think attachment style issues come into it. And I couldn't agree more about saving oneself for marriage
My fiance is my first relationship also, so I feel with Abby on so many of these! Especially the one about fear. I was afraid of him losing interest in the beginning, and now I know we are equally as excited to get married. You guys are inspiring! ❤️
yes! i totally agree, abby. confidence gives us assurance that the guy will be a good protector and a provider... and just stand up for us in general. looks however only last for a few decades, and will inevitably change. but the integrity and confidence of the person will hopefully not. :) thanks for the encouragement that yall bring 💕you guys are so cute
I’m in my 60’s (😳) and haven’t recently come across Matt & Abby and I really enjoy it and your content. I wish there had been TH-cam when I was in my teens because I have learned more listening to you both and looked back and know that I needed more advice about dating in order to make far more informed decisions. Thanks guys! I’m sure many young people take on board a lot of what you talk about. 🥰🙅♀️🙅♀️
I have a thought about the toxic guy topic, (I’m not saying everyone) If the girl grew up with a toxic dad, that’s something thats normal for her, and she may want the nice guy, but the nice guys freak her out. Because being treated with kindness after a toxic situation, it’s shocking to the system. Also, she might accidentally scare off the nice guy. Abuse is a real thing. And it comes in a lot of different forms. Just my two cents. Love your videos!
On the bathroom one, it's also safer for women that way. In developing countries especially. Also kudos to Abby for being so honest. In today's politically charged climate, you could be attacked for saying something as simple as "I like it when men aren't too emotional". Science shows that most women feel the same way as Abby, they just don't own up to it. And that understanding that women look for confidence over looks. Brilliant! You two are delightful to watch ❤️
My wife and I had been married 10 years the time I broke down and sobbed in front of her. The weird thing was we had sold our first house we lived for 10 years. We were about to walk out and the buyers were on their way. An emotional response to all those memories of our first night their from our honeymoon, bringing our baby girl home. Those Christmas mornings and birthday parties, came over me like an avalanche coming down a mountain. It's been 14 years in our current house, another daughter. My first daughter is graduating high school in may and moving to college in the fall. My second cry may be coming soon. You two are so adorable together and fella you seem to have an awesome thing going. Don't be a fool and ever let her go. Young lady your a class act.
i’m 15 and i just discovered your channel and i love it so much! you guys are so sweet and positive and i love all the real tips that are in your video 🥰🥰
Favorite part had to be 8:16-8:26 😆 Matt - "That's kinda sad" Abby - "Yeah I know... I... I really brought the whole mood down." Matt - "Oh my gosh... s'okay though, I feel like being real is so important." Abby - "Mmm, I got a brown chunk."
I always think that I want an emotional guy, but then when a guy gets too emotional I’m like 😬 what is going on here, that’s my job and I don’t need quite that much help with it. But Abby is right, being sensitive is a whole different story. Show us that you can be vulnerable with us and our hearts will melt.
Want to be confident- 1.master in any one thing 2.tell/do what u want to do bcz if u r doing nothing then also some people will talk negative 3.love ur self.(have a decent dressing sense+keep urself fit 4.talk with new people.
I feel like sometimes I'm fine sometimes means that you're actually fine, but most of the time, it means you're not fine. Sometimes you want to talk farther about it and sometimes you don't.
I think a guy crying at the birth of his child or death of a loved one is totally ok. However crying all the time because of anxiety or mental health issues is NOT Attractive!!! I agree us ladies have enough emotions for the relationship!!
I think one of the things that attracts me most to men is kindness. If he is genuinely kind to all kinds of people, then that is a huge thing for me. And yes, looks do matter, but here’s the thing, each girl has a different definition of good looking, and for many girls it’s NOT the standard you see in the media. I have a friend who purposely went after guys who weren’t “good looking” in the traditional sense because in her experience, guys who were “hot” by society standards were jerks. So for me, it’s kindness and good looks that first gets me, then from there it goes into thoughtfulness, maturity, wisdom, etc.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years (we’re 24 now) and the way you guys look at life is so inspiring! I hope to be happily married like you two one day in the near future💘
that very sly cut from 9:10-9:11, I only noticed it because of the ice cream switch lol love you guys and your content- that someone out there is willing to talk about these things and have these conversations !
I go to the bathroom with my friends because I'm too scared to go alone. with a friend, at least I have someone with me if we were to get separated from the group (like if they move location while I'm peeing)
“I’m fine” can genuinely mean “I’m fine”. However, for the most part it means whoever is asking to get that answer, said or did something wrong. That’s when communication should be one of the highest things on the relationship priority list. “I’m fine” for me is another way of saying “please leave me alone for a bit. I’ll be okay if you stop speaking” or “I’m fine, I just feel upset and am processing what happened. Please don’t ask me anymore.”Haha
Yes Abby, 100% true. Confidence over Looks ALWAYS. For all the boys out there, a girl that you will want to be with, and who wants to be with you will love you no matter how awesome (or not) you think u look, but for how much she loves how confident and good you are to her and the things/people she values. And honestly, you may think you're not that good looking but you are, I promise. I can tell you this from my current experience :)
Intimacy that time of month question mark? Then immediate commercial. Who ever is placing the commercials must watch the video before putting it in. You two are so funny. I am 62 and Abby nailed it. Old school. 👍👍
My answers!! 1-Some girls, I personally don’t. 2-Definitely, some girls experience them way worse than others and some don’t feel them really at all. (I don’t play it up though, then when you are actually in pain they won’t believe you.) 3- Sometimes it does mean I’m fine, sometimes it means I don’t want to talk about it, and sometimes it just means I don’t want pity. 4-I honestly have no idea🤣 But I do always go to the bathroom with someone. 5-I agree with Abby, I personally don’t share my emotions and don’t know how to deal with my emotions. (But sensitive is good and showing your emotions every now again is good.) 6-It does matter somewhat... I personally don’t focus on it too much. 7-Not as much as guys think it does. 8-I don’t know, maybe losing myself within the relationship? Like loving that person so much but they don’t return the feelings so I change for them. 9-I 100% agree with Abbie. 10- Agreed with Abbie, don’t try too much or try to do anything “special”. 11-Respectful, stay interested, keep the conversation going, etc. 12-Some girls may be, I’m not. (It’s gross for myself, I’m in pain, etc) 13-Respectful, kind, funny, etc. 14-I don’t like long hair, beards, other random things. 15-Short hair. 16-Abs, but I don’t personally don’t care too much, I just want someone who is healthy and not obese or anorexic. 17-Agreed with her, if someone has had several relationships it’s usually because they are an issue. 18-No comment. 19-Agreed. 20-Not having respect, not caring, etc. 21-Not really, maybe a stubble sometimes. 22-No comment. 23-YES. 24-Definitely, lack of maturity. Also some nice guys are boring, you can be a nice guy and be fun. (Confidence) 25-When you are ready, some people are ready at 17 some are ready at 34. I personally am trying to wait til marriage. If someone really loves they will wait. Reply with some of yours!:3
“Why do girls go to the bathroom in groups?” In Harry Potter, Hermione got attacked by a troll in the bathroom. No further comment.
Hahahah 🤣
... that killed me 😐
Fax
Jajajajaja
And Ginny got taken, myrtle died, and Katie got cursed
I like this wholesome couple!!! No F bombs, no trash talking. This is the way couple should be.
Absolutely
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Mhmm
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It's different for every couple. Many people just have different senses of humor
“What am I gonna do get out a ruler” she’s not wrong 🤣🤣
LOL
Matt & Abby do you guys have Instagram
Not just size, but what about girth?Just asking....
@@corinehanes2956 personally as long as it’s 4+ inches idc
If you say it doesn’t matter you’ve never been with a really small one
I love how you said that you should be prepared to have a baby when you have sex. So many people don’t understand the importance of that and it leads to a lot of broken families and people
Yes I completely agree! My easy answer to an end of abortion: stop having sex before you are able to have a baby. End of story.
@@willowmiller7006 yes, nothing else to say
Its sad really, there are a rare few who stay together though, one of my friends was dating a guy who was a year younger then her (he was 18 she was 19) she got pregnant and even though his parents were against it he asked her to marry him, they got married, had a baby girl and a year later they had another baby girl, definitely the happiest young family i have ever seen
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@@StellaEmerald I swear. Its like people forget that people can do what the fuxk they want. We live in a free world
I only say “I’m fine” when I’m mad at someone bc I don’t wanna accidentally hurt their feelings with something I say in the heat of the moment
Carly Walker very true!
Same
Same man 🙄
Never looked at it like that, bit of an eye-opener. Though personally I like to talk it all out, get everything out in the open. Being open and honest is in my mind the best remedy for a healthy relationship.
Same
What are you most afraid of? Honest answer: Being in a relationship and wishing I were single again.
Honest answer: Of never
being in a relationship 🙋♀️
Surely it's easier to leave someone because you want to than it is to find someone who's willing to take you?
The height thing was really important to me (I’m 5’10’’) until I met my husband who is 5’8’’. 🤷🏼♀️ it really doesn’t matter now!
BlankCanvas88 omg yeees
Then your not ready yet!!
Answer: getting in a toxic relationship
The bathroom one, I feel like a huge opportunity to shed some light on safety was missed. Sometimes we go to the bathroom in groups because we don't feel safe going on our own.
Also lines are long and we need someone to talk to
Yes thank you!
I'm 22 year old female and never been to the bathroom with anyone else 😩 I do feel like I'm missing something... But why would you not feel safe going to a toilet? That's like the safest place surely 🤷♀️
Yea I go to the bathroom with my friends because I don’t feel safe going alone...
@@annabelleagnew37 but why?
I was taught to always go to the bathroom with other people for my safety. Typically women’s restroom are next to men’s and the reality of the world we live in now is that numbers bring safety in this situation.
True
Yes exactly!! Whenever this question comes up I'm always like "to avoid predators cause they're safety in numbers!!"
Same!
I love that closing statement about being careful abt who you have a baby with. I'm a single mom, got pregnant at 20 & wish I had gotten that advice. I adore my son (he'll be 17 next month), but he grew up without a dad and if I had known better, sometimes I wish I had picked a better dad for him, maybe one who would be present and not abusive then later absent. So YESSS, be careful and think your decisions through! Goes for guys and girls! :)
girl we are so proud of u!!and happy early birthday for your son he have a strong mother
“I’m fine” is a test. To see if you actually know the girl to know they’re not fine and to see what you can do to make it better.
Rose Farstone I try not to do it. I just know that that’s why a lot of people do it. Don’t come at me for it lmao
yeah, it would be easier to just be straight up honest. but us girls have doubts too... so i guess in a way, by saying “i’m fine” we’re hoping our “partner” or “boyfriend” will continue to care
Thank u very much for the information
It's not a test. Sometimes we say it because we don't want to talk about it or bother anyone
“I’m fine” means “Everything will be ok, I know that, but it sucks right now and I need you to care, I need to vent, I need a shoulder to cry on, I need to know I can trust you with my feelings. I don’t want advice, I just want your ear but I am too afraid to ask.”
Thats a lot of words, so it’s just easier to say “I’m fine”😂😂 we can be lazy with our answers too
I say the same thing when it’s too complicated to express, or when I know I’ll be ok and I don’t want to bother you with it.
I feel like “I’m fine” means either she’s actually fine or she’s upset. If she’s upset, she’s either waiting for you to ask about it, or she just doesn’t want to talk. For instance, if she’s mad at you, she may say “I’m fine” to get you to initiate the conversation.
Great point!
literally just killed my brain
Maybe it's because I'm Dutch and we are super straight forward but I don't get why you would answer "i'm fine" when someone specifically asks if something is wrong. To illustrate the weirdness: if a waiter asks you if you want to drink something and you say no, then don't expect a drink coming your way 🤷♀️
@@lidewijvos yoooo thats so true xD
This is childish. Instead of saying “I’m fine” just say that you are upset. I don’t understand this.
“I want you to think I want you to leave me alone, but I DONT want you to leave me alone” OMG so true
These are really mature responses, especially for your ages and as a young married couple with no other partners.
That made me sound really old, but I'm just impressed!
You're right that so much of the superficial stuff simply fades away and is irrelevant in the face of a deeper love and bond with your partner. 💕
I’m a few years off of 30 and I still enjoyed both these videos! For a person that has not done ‘that’ yet and was once in a serious long term relationship, I completely agree with your outlook and view point. I’m happy I’m saving myself for the one. I think it’s really good that young people like yourselves are talking about this because young people need to hear it’s nothing to rush into and it’s ok to wait. Do more of these type videos 🥳
Love that! Thank you for sharing. We appreciate the support!
I totally agree with Abby on the emotional thing. I want my husband to be sensitive and to know it’s okay to cry, but wouldn’t want him crying all of the time. I cry enough.
Ya that is Double standard though
I feel like Abby’s personality really showed in this video! Love it 😀
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THANK YOU ABBY for being so real, I am a girl and sometimes my period pain is bad sometimes not so much, it depends and sometimes I also play it up a bit and every single girl out there does toooo and you are the ONLY ONE who has actually said it. Thank you for not playing the victim because I know so many women emotionally manipulate men through period pain. Thank you!!
Abby's right - "I'm fine" from a girl is loaded.
Abby, I am soooo in tune with you when it comes to guys Lockerroom talk around women! I am a grandpa and drive a school bus and nothing bothers me more than guys who talk nasty or curse around them. My own boys talk like that around their children and is a major argument between us s.
Did anyone else notice when they switched treats? lol it caught me off guard
Nice eye!
I didn’t noticed but now I searched for it 😂😂
I searched for this comment to make sure I wasn’t the only one 😂
It took me second and then when I realized I went back to see how long they had been eating the other ones icecream😆
Haha! I told my hubs this, too! So funny.
PERIOD CRAMPS ARE THAT BAD just saying
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Mine are
Yes they are. Mine get so bad that I throw up.
@Emily Kuessner mine never used to be but now they make me crawl up in bed and cry and go through a whole packet of painkillers
Mine hurt soooo bad I feel like I’m getting stabbed and torn in every way possible
Abby’s personality is just like Rosanna Pansino 🤣 she’s so sweet and kind and funny!
Awww you’re so sweet! Thanks!
Nah, she seems more genuine than Pansino actually.
omg she is💛
"Im fine"...we say that when we dont wanna burden you with our problems and we're trying to hold it together and be strong....again this does not apply for everyone.
I would love to see a hopes for the future video, maybe talking about what your goals are individually, as a couple, and your future family!
Noted. Thanks for the idea!
Matt should try a period cramp simulator 😂
That idea is golden!!!
YASSS
This comment made my day
That would make such a funny video
Anybody who understands pain knows those things are completely bogus.
The part about the ruler...yes guys really out here believing girls carry around a portable ruler 😂
LOL 😂
You have a ruler that isn’t portable? 😂😂
i actually have a ruler that folds in half so i'm all set
me, someone who works with wood and other materials, who literally will carry around a portable ruler... :0
🤣 Nah, use a fabric soft ruler. 💯
i love how you guys are telling people that the first time they should do it is after they're married. I commend you
Agree 1000%!!!!
I like how you two are comfortable enough to talk to your audience and be open about topics and speak the truth in such a kind way to not offend anyone! Love your videos so much!! ❤
That is such a sweet comment! Thank you!!
Im 5’9 something and my boyfriend is 5’8 - it was for sure hard at first because I felt “bigger” than him, but he still makes me feel protected and feminine so can attest - height does not matter but it feels like it does at first.
Thank you for sharing!! ❤️
That gave me hope because I’m 5’7 and still growing
Alejandro Martinez I promise it doesn’t matter to the right person 😊
I love how you guys are so sincere and don’t sugar coat everything! Y’all are seriously couple goals! I’m so glad I came upon you guys just this week, it’s made my week 10x better.
I love how Abby is so genuine and she’s so like honest and y’all are by far my favorite yt couple and y’all literally suite each other so well love y’all Abby and Matt
maybe im just dumb but when he said "we're so happy you're here" i felt so welcome and i subscribed lol
Aww thanks! WE ARE SO HAPPY YOU ARE HERE!!! ❤️❤️❤️
You guys remind me what its like to be with a guy who makes you feel cute, sexy, confident and intelligent. What it feels like to love the way a partner makes you feel. I've forgotten what that feels like in my last relationship and look forward to that again so thankyou
I’m 50 and love y’all! Love your TikTok’s too. I’m a nurse and you brighten my days/nights during this awful COVID season♥️
Thank you for your service to the community! So glad we are getting to brighten your day ❤️❤️❤️
"What am I gonna do, get out a ruler?" LOL
LOL
On the confidence over looks thing: I find this to be completely true, at least for women who are not just looking for a fling. I know several men who are obese or not classically good-looking who find success in relationships. I was not confident for a long time, but I’ve started working on being more open and feeling comfortable in my own skin and only after a couple of days, I’m already seeing more interest from some women. I’m actively avoiding a serious relationship right now though, because I need to work on myself so I can be more considerate and healthy for my next relationship.
The bathroom one is probably cuz hermoine got attacked by a troll when she went alone, Ginny got aducted and Myrtle died😂😂😂😂
Katie got cursed
Ka Lane I did? Just kidding I got you
Omg that is so true
STOPP LMAO
And Katie got cursed lol
I also want to note on a couple of these:
There is a big difference between confidence and arrogance. Confident people just have an ease about them and are easy to talk to. Arrogant people make it harder to be around and harder to have conversations with.
As for choosing the bad guy, yes, some women are immature or just seem to choose the wrong men unfortunately. Not that it can't happen, but often if you're going to a bar to find a good relationship, you're looking in the wrong spot. Do things you enjoy often and there's a good chance you'll meet someone with similar interests.
Abs are nice and all, but I wouldn't want a man obsessing with it. If he spends more time at the gym and looking in the mirror than on his relationship, no thank you. As far as abs and height go, sure there can be an initial attraction with those, but as people get to know each other and begin to like each other that stuff does not matter. You like the person for them, not how they look.
As for period cramps, some girls have it worse than others. In my teens I would almost pass out from the pain every month. As in I would get clammy and sweaty and my face would get really pale. After my teens they have gotten much better but I still have the occasional extra painful month. I actually try to hide it because I don't like showing that side of myself.
For vulnerability of men, I personally prefer men to be able to have a genuine conversation about thoughts and feelings on something but would not like them crying all the time. Just like I do not want to be crying all the time. Vulnerability, but not emotional.
I love how casually you were eating that ice cream while answering Abby 💜💖😂 y'all are the cutest!
😊 thank you
Abby: I look for somebody that is happy, joyful
Matt: a literal golden retriever
I love your open honest genuine answers to the "hard questions'. So much TRUTH. Glad that you two are strong and confident in your relationship to share with others. The 18-24 person really need people like you two to be this open . This is what true love looks like.
Concerning the question why girls go to bathrooms in groups: Sometimes (or, most of the times actually) it's a safety measure. Either it's to talk about something not everyone's supposed to hear (believe me, you'll never hear as much stories and trashtalk and whatever as you hear in girls bathrooms😂) OR, and that's a pretty important one, we go together to ensure the other one is save. Personally, for my group of friends it's an absolute no-go to let a female go to the bathroom all by herself if you're out in the public. You never know what might happen...
nbec that's true I try to always use the buddy sisteme
Yes! There was one time I was in the school bathroom and two girls came in and they didn't know I was in there and they were talking trash about someone and then I awkwardly walked out because they were taking too long to leave so when I walked out they both just looked at me like "oh crap you heard that?"
Julia Brookes loool
One time I was in a shnucks bathroom and there was,like snarling noises from the other stall.
It was either a lady who was breathing weird, ooooorrrr a freakin monster,I left before I found out.
@@madeleinecarson7262 omg that's sooo weird😂
OMG SO WELL SAID.
I wish I’d have had you guys as roll models when I was younger. Keep being you it’s so valuable for youngsters to have good role models
The question what does “I’m fine” really means, for me it usually means “I’m tired of talking about this so I’ll just say I’m fine so we can move on” 😂
This lady is so sensible, so mature and I loved it...I love both of them❤️
You're so sweet!!! Do a "who knows each other better" video, or an sketch of couples with height differences if that makes sense 😂 Love you guys!
Great idea!!
“I’m fine” actually can mean “leave me alone” for some women or “hey, you need to ask questions to help me through something” like Abby said...you guys have to figure out which one your woman means.
17:38 I also think that some “bad guys” pretend to be “good guys” but really it’s just an act. Also, if you are in a vulnerable place it’s easy to look past the red flags. Like my mams dad died and that’s when my mam met my dad and my dad is a toxic narcissist. It’s not all guys and I’m not saying that all guys are bad but that’s just my experience.
Thank you for sharing! We really appreciate your vulnerability and insight. Sending love your way ❤️
My husband and I just got married, and we love watching your video’s together. We’re also in our early 20’s and it’s nice to see married couples our age.
That is awesome! Love it ❤️
The one thing I really like is that they don’t look at the camera every time they start talking, they look at each other and have a convo which I just really like cause I don’t like when you tubers always look to the camera and are not as laid back as they are 💕
I am way outside of your target viewer age, but I just love hearing young people making right choices and not be afraid to talk about it. You two the sweetest and pretty funny, too. Stay true to each other and communicate, communicate, communicate! 😊
I agree with everything you said!!! Abby is SO GORGEOUS! For the bathroom question, it’s a great way to talk in public and it’s also kinda a safety thing for me? Y’all are the cutest! 💖
Thank you so much! We are so glad you are a part of the fam 🤗
I love how she was being deadass honest about everything and not trying to be a saint. I think she really spoke for a lot of girls out there. She was straight up yes or no. No maybes or "I don't know"s.
sometimes I think "I'm fine" is us trying to convince ourselves that we are fine, whether we are or not.
Very true!
I love how he gave you attention while you were talking💓💓
Aww you're so sweet!
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Man today was perfect i got my learners permit and matt and abby post a new vid like best day of 2020
Well tbh 2020 SUCKS!!!!
Congrats! Also, thanks for joining us for a new video :)
I like this relationship because it teaches young kids what a healthy relationship looks like yes I know I’m single but when I’m older and ready for a relationship and I’m already exposed to healthy relationships like this and not tolerate abusive relationship like my parents, my mom always told me to get a good guy unlike my father and I think Matt is a great example for traits I want in my future man
Matt: "Keeping real is important"
Abby: "MMMMMM BrOwNiE cHuNk"
Abby, I’m with you on that one. I also agree that the majority of the female population would say they like guys to be vulnerable and emotional.. but I feel like that is part of the relationship. I don’t know!
I love how they are so serious and then she says that she loves her “brown chunka” ice cream lol
That was great advice 9:00 and 16:57 was spot on but I also think attachment style issues come into it.
And I couldn't agree more about saving oneself for marriage
My fiance is my first relationship also, so I feel with Abby on so many of these! Especially the one about fear. I was afraid of him losing interest in the beginning, and now I know we are equally as excited to get married. You guys are inspiring! ❤️
yes! i totally agree, abby. confidence gives us assurance that the guy will be a good protector and a provider... and just stand up for us in general. looks however only last for a few decades, and will inevitably change. but the integrity and confidence of the person will hopefully not. :) thanks for the encouragement that yall bring 💕you guys are so cute
MATT: OR THERE FOOT SIZE
ABBY:mathew!
LOL 😂
I’m in my 60’s (😳) and haven’t recently come across Matt & Abby and I really enjoy it and your content. I wish there had been TH-cam when I was in my teens because I have learned more listening to you both and looked back and know that I needed more advice about dating in order to make far more informed decisions. Thanks guys! I’m sure many young people take on board a lot of what you talk about. 🥰🙅♀️🙅♀️
Abby's too cute...her response to "body count" 😂
I have a thought about the toxic guy topic, (I’m not saying everyone) If the girl grew up with a toxic dad, that’s something thats normal for her, and she may want the nice guy, but the nice guys freak her out. Because being treated with kindness after a toxic situation, it’s shocking to the system. Also, she might accidentally scare off the nice guy. Abuse is a real thing. And it comes in a lot of different forms. Just my two cents. Love your videos!
I found you guys on tik tok and I cant stop watching your videos!
Aww thank you so much you guys :)
On the bathroom one, it's also safer for women that way. In developing countries especially. Also kudos to Abby for being so honest. In today's politically charged climate, you could be attacked for saying something as simple as "I like it when men aren't too emotional". Science shows that most women feel the same way as Abby, they just don't own up to it. And that understanding that women look for confidence over looks. Brilliant!
You two are delightful to watch ❤️
I love you guys!! You spread so much positivity and I really appreciate you guys speaking on subjects that can be hard to talk about.
Thank you so much!!!
@@MattandAbby OMG thank you so much for responding!!!! I'm freaking out!!!!!!
Watching adorable couples like you guys make it worthwhile. It's always good when couples watch your videos together.
LOVE abbys answer to the i’m fine question
haha thanks!!
My wife and I had been married 10 years the time I broke down and sobbed in front of her. The weird thing was we had sold our first house we lived for 10 years. We were about to walk out and the buyers were on their way. An emotional response to all those memories of our first night their from our honeymoon, bringing our baby girl home. Those Christmas mornings and birthday parties, came over me like an avalanche coming down a mountain. It's been 14 years in our current house, another daughter. My first daughter is graduating high school in may and moving to college in the fall. My second cry may be coming soon. You two are so adorable together and fella you seem to have an awesome thing going. Don't be a fool and ever let her go. Young lady your a class act.
i’m 15 and i just discovered your channel and i love it so much! you guys are so sweet and positive and i love all the real tips that are in your video 🥰🥰
Excellent answer on liking guys to be emotional.
Also like the emphasis on respect. So huge. But ladies, be respectable!
Favorite part had to be 8:16-8:26 😆
Matt - "That's kinda sad"
Abby - "Yeah I know... I... I really brought the whole mood down."
Matt - "Oh my gosh... s'okay though, I feel like being real is so important."
Abby - "Mmm, I got a brown chunk."
I always think that I want an emotional guy, but then when a guy gets too emotional I’m like 😬 what is going on here, that’s my job and I don’t need quite that much help with it. But Abby is right, being sensitive is a whole different story. Show us that you can be vulnerable with us and our hearts will melt.
So like, the guy that I like is confident while playing his sport but off the track he is shy and it is the most adorable thing😂🥺
Want to be confident-
1.master in any one thing
2.tell/do what u want to do bcz if u r doing nothing then also some people will talk negative
3.love ur self.(have a decent dressing sense+keep urself fit
4.talk with new people.
At 9:13 I said out loud to myself "When did they switch?" as in their ice cream lol :)
LOL nice catch!
LOL I didn’t even notice
Haha yeah I had to repeat that one 😂😂 I was like 😵 “what did I miss” 😳😳 (repeat the clip) 😂
@@mirimorowithjesus yeah me too
Lol me too! I went back to see when they did
I feel like sometimes I'm fine sometimes means that you're actually fine, but most of the time, it means you're not fine. Sometimes you want to talk farther about it and sometimes you don't.
I think a guy crying at the birth of his child or death of a loved one is totally ok. However crying all the time because of anxiety or mental health issues is NOT Attractive!!! I agree us ladies have enough emotions for the relationship!!
I think one of the things that attracts me most to men is kindness. If he is genuinely kind to all kinds of people, then that is a huge thing for me.
And yes, looks do matter, but here’s the thing, each girl has a different definition of good looking, and for many girls it’s NOT the standard you see in the media. I have a friend who purposely went after guys who weren’t “good looking” in the traditional sense because in her experience, guys who were “hot” by society standards were jerks.
So for me, it’s kindness and good looks that first gets me, then from there it goes into thoughtfulness, maturity, wisdom, etc.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years (we’re 24 now) and the way you guys look at life is so inspiring! I hope to be happily married like you two one day in the near future💘
Love the honesty!
I wish you were around when I was growing up!
Matt: our audience is mainly 18-24 year olds Me: I’m 13......😂
LOL
Same
Same ..
Sup' people
Me too😆
I’m 14
I like it how they made the video fun and also advisable and mature. No vulgarity just pure fun and knowledgable
Quick question is uncomfortability a word?? 😂 y'all are so cute!
LOL I thought so... If not, let's make it one 😂
Matt & Abby haha discomfort is the word you’re looking for!
Well it is now!😂
that very sly cut from 9:10-9:11, I only noticed it because of the ice cream switch lol love you guys and your content- that someone out there is willing to talk about these things and have these conversations !
“I’m fine” depends on the tone. Sometimes it means that we just need time alone.
GREAT ADVICE!! + I was laughing my head off, y’all just click so well together and God made y’all for each other!!
I go to the bathroom with my friends because I'm too scared to go alone. with a friend, at least I have someone with me if we were to get separated from the group (like if they move location while I'm peeing)
Totally get that ❤️
“I’m fine” can genuinely mean “I’m fine”. However, for the most part it means whoever is asking to get that answer, said or did something wrong. That’s when communication should be one of the highest things on the relationship priority list. “I’m fine” for me is another way of saying “please leave me alone for a bit. I’ll be okay if you stop speaking” or “I’m fine, I just feel upset and am processing what happened. Please don’t ask me anymore.”Haha
Sent this video to my fiancé because the “I’m fine” question was so spot on! 🙌🏼
Yes Abby, 100% true. Confidence over Looks ALWAYS. For all the boys out there, a girl that you will want to be with, and who wants to be with you will love you no matter how awesome (or not) you think u look, but for how much she loves how confident and good you are to her and the things/people she values. And honestly, you may think you're not that good looking but you are, I promise. I can tell you this from my current experience :)
i love that i'm seeing more and more people advocating for waiting until after marriage. and who articulate why so much better than i do
Intimacy that time of month question mark? Then immediate commercial. Who ever is placing the commercials must watch the video before putting it in. You two are so funny. I am 62 and Abby nailed it. Old school. 👍👍
You two are so sweet together 😍
I never had a boyfriend and not even a kiss (I’m 20 by the way) but I wish he will be like Matt.
You're so kind! Sending love your way :)
OMG you answered 😍😍😍 Thank you!
My answers!!
1-Some girls, I personally don’t.
2-Definitely, some girls experience them way worse than others and some don’t feel them really at all. (I don’t play it up though, then when you are actually in pain they won’t believe you.)
3- Sometimes it does mean I’m fine, sometimes it means I don’t want to talk about it, and sometimes it just means I don’t want pity.
4-I honestly have no idea🤣 But I do always go to the bathroom with someone.
5-I agree with Abby, I personally don’t share my emotions and don’t know how to deal with my emotions. (But sensitive is good and showing your emotions every now again is good.)
6-It does matter somewhat... I personally don’t focus on it too much.
7-Not as much as guys think it does.
8-I don’t know, maybe losing myself within the relationship? Like loving that person so much but they don’t return the feelings so I change for them.
9-I 100% agree with Abbie.
10- Agreed with Abbie, don’t try too much or try to do anything “special”.
11-Respectful, stay interested, keep the conversation going, etc.
12-Some girls may be, I’m not. (It’s gross for myself, I’m in pain, etc)
13-Respectful, kind, funny, etc.
14-I don’t like long hair, beards, other random things.
15-Short hair.
16-Abs, but I don’t personally don’t care too much, I just want someone who is healthy and not obese or anorexic.
17-Agreed with her, if someone has had several relationships it’s usually because they are an issue.
18-No comment.
19-Agreed.
20-Not having respect, not caring, etc.
21-Not really, maybe a stubble sometimes.
22-No comment.
23-YES.
24-Definitely, lack of maturity. Also some nice guys are boring, you can be a nice guy and be fun. (Confidence)
25-When you are ready, some people are ready at 17 some are ready at 34. I personally am trying to wait til marriage.
If someone really loves they will wait.
Reply with some of yours!:3