Honestly, over-produced TH-cam videos kind of separate me from the creator. I think the obvious amount of research you do for your videos is very evident and you project your content in a very genuine and real way which is why I enjoy watching what you make so much, and I'm sure most of your subscribers feel the same! I genuinly look forward to your videos, so please keep doing what you're doing ❤
You are the only TH-camr that I never wanted to unsubscribe from. Been watching you for a very long time, so now it feels like you are my actual friend! You deserve every single one of your subscribers and even more!!! Sending love and positive vibes 💕
Damn, Sarah. I felt like I was sitting in the passenger seat. There was a moment when I wanted to give you a hug or something but then it hit me that I am not in your passenger seat, I am in my bed wearing fuzzy socks. Here are some thoughts I had while listening to you: -A lot of us like that you talk about different topics. In my case, it's pretty much the reason I'm here. We might me a niche audience but niche audiences tend to be more enthusiastic and loyal. -I'm sure you know better than anyone commenting that filming allows you to cut and think about what you're going to say, kind of like when you're writing. I feel like the other TH-camrs you compare yourself with definitely know the power of editing. It's not a bad thing, but it's like looking at Instagram; it's curated to look better than it actually is. -Also, a loooot of people are really good and just being confident when they speak, so you believe them in the moment. Sometimes, a few days after I listen to one of these people I realize they're full of crap. -Remember how I said that I felt like I was sitting next to you? That is something that I feel big TH-camrs don't achieve. One of the beautiful things about the internet is that it democratizes content creation and I feel like the channels that have millions upon millions of viewers have kind of lost sight of that? But what you're creating, even if it's on a smaller scale, is important and unique and beautiful. Don't lose sight of that. And we're here for you.
Oh, I hate when I can't like a comment because the phone won't allow me to. >< I really agree with you, you sound so wise and I agree with your point about Sarah's audience. 💛 Xx
I can relate to literally every single thing you said in this video from depression right now, growing older (I’m turning 27 on Thursday) pressure to be a better youtuber and human being, achievement-based confidence based on what you are capable of doing or what you are not capable of doing especially compared to others and having that mean something in your head about your value. Questioning why the people in your life and all that you have is even there, like why do I have such a great life and great boyfriend? The speaking thing even. I used to script videos and I thought they would be so good but I ended up doing the same thing you described here, trying to write down bullets, then they turned into sentences and you speak them verbatim and it comes out different than what you wanted. It is hard to not have the skills to speak what is in your head in a way that translates well. I even tend to do what you described here when you hang out with friends. Bonding over similarities even if they are negative is, I think, a natural response in friendships and it’s normal to get stuck there until you realize you don’t like doing that. Every time I try to relate to a friend and tell them why I feel that I understand them, I also question whether that was being a good friend because I don’t want to take away from the safe space I want to hold for them and I don’t ever want to turn the attention toward me if that means they feel diminished somehow or I don’t know. I’m kind of doing that right now except you actually asked us if we have experienced anything similar so it is appropriate here. But I know what it is like to question if you’re a good friend or if that person you just hung out with is like thinking they don’t want to hang out anymore or confide in you or if they feel negatively toward you. Ugh I’m having a hard time too
You are an intelligent, beautiful, creative, strong, and compassionate woman! You deserve all of the love and positive relationships that have come into your life ♥️ don’t doubt that!
I don't think self esteem is something you ever really get over. Something my coworker told me (and I don't know where she heard it) is that life is separated between three phases. The okay/good phase, the bad phase and the phase of getting better. The bad phase is always the shortest, and the getting better part is the longest. If you can get good at getting better, you can handle anything. I've been a viewer for years now and when you open up like this it reminds me to open up, too. You may feel like others are smarter than you, or better than you. But they're not you. You're authentic. The best thing about you is that you open up. You share, you help us. You provide resources. I only hope we can give you the same support back. I have so much love and respect for you.
This video is 2 years old and you probably won’t even read this but i was shocked to find out that we have almost identical thoughts when it comes to depression and anxiety because I always thought you were better than me at every aspect of life....you’re beautiful, you’re in a romantic relationship, you speak so intelligently and genuinely in all of your videos. All of these things that I just don’t have and can’t do. I’m so sorry you feel like you’re not enough but you 100% are enough and a lot of people love you, including me
I struggle with major depressive disorder and I'm currently going through one of the worst times of my life with my mental health. Sometimes I find the hyper-positivity that many youtubers constantly feel the need to keep up in their videos triggering because my own life seems bleak and boring in comparison. I identify and am comforted by your content because I feel like you are being genuinely you. I just find it helpful to be able to watch someone who has similar struggles and doesn't try to fake happy because depression feels incredibly lonely most of the time. I just wanted to say thank you for making your content because it means quite a lot to me. Sending you all my love and support because you've helped me feel less alone.
I'm 44 and still have days where I don't feel like I'm where I should be in my stage of life! But hey, I just wanna say; don't beat yourself up or tear your work down. You have subscribers because you are you!! We all have shitty days and that's okay. It's the strength of getting through those days that in the end matters most!!
Sigh, I'm so sorry you feel this way. Comparing yourself to other youtubers is something I struggle with as well. All your differences make you so special and interesting though!
This breaks my heart but I adore you and I’ve always considered you to be very intelligent and well spoken. I know exactly how you feel. I’ll be turning 23 this year and I feel so left out. I don’t have any friends, I don’t go out, I’ve never been to a party, never been kissed, never had a boyfriend. I just recently got dropped from my school for missing to many days. I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. I don’t feel smart enough or good enough to even try sometimes. I completely understand. This is coming from somebody who has been watching your videos since 2014, YOU ARE AMAZING, SMART, KIND, BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT, YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON, YOU ARE WORTHY, YOU ARE ENOUGH (SO MUCH MORE THAN ENOUGH) AND I ADORE YOU! ❤️
This is exactly how I've been feeling these days... It's nice to know that it happens to other people too, and that I'm not going crazy... Thank you for that
i used to think i had my self esteem sorted out but man, i don't. comparing yourself feels horrible and i'm trying not to do it too. we should be smart, or strong, or pretty on our own terms. everything we use to put ourselves down is a comparison- if we were the only person to exist, we wouldn't have those thoughts. sometimes we need comparison to be a better person but we need to try to go easy on ourselves because we deserve it. careers, especially youtube, can make this even harder, but you just need to try to take it back to basics- you're worth it and you're awesome, take it from us:)
I totally relate Sarah. I’ve been the same pant size since I was 13 and now I’m a good two sixes larger after one year. The weight gain is really affecting my self esteem, I don’t want to leave the house because I think I look disgusting. It’s rough but hopefully in time we’ll embrace our physical changes since it just means we’re maturing. I’m here for you!
I can’t speak for everyone else on here, but I for one enjoy your videos. I think your content is interesting and unlike everything else on TH-cam. There’s only so many Barbie types you can take before you need a break and want to watch someone real, someone you can relate to, someone like yourself.
MeteoricMarlin omg, you're right, i think she is so real, and i can feel close to her like a friend, and most of the youtubers don't do that, they think that they are better than anyone else and that's absolutely disgusting, they forget that they're just humans
I love that you arent like other youtubers, watching you is relatable as you are living a normal life with normal day to day struggles. Watching other youtubers who are under 25, living in massive houses, selling merchandise and always doing sponsored videos just make me feel depressed about how shit my normal working life is. When my life isnt shit, and neither is yours! Its just we are constantly seeing "how much greener the grass can be", which cannot be good for any of us in the long run. Xxx
I can relate to a lot of the things you said. I feel like a lot of TH-camrs have unrealistic goals. Like they spend their ENTIRE time on youtube, filming, editing, etc, but normal people have other things to do other than TH-cam, so you shouldn’t compare yourself to them. I love that you have real videos like this and we can relate to you
I really hate it when my elders tell me to grow up when I have self esteem issues - in my eyes I can’t just love myself or stop doubting myself every year I get older. It just doesn’t happen. Thank you so much for making this Sarah, I appreicate your honesty and i’m happy you have us as an outlet for you x
I feel you on the age thing, I'm going to be 30 in February. But for me it has nothing to do with looks. It's more so what I planned and wanted for myself when I was younger for around the middle/end of my 20's and here I am 29 and none of what I wanted has happened for me and it's almost like I've failed myself, you know? I can relate on the looks thing too though and I've thought about plastic surgery myself, but I just don't know if it's me. It is a lot easier to write things down, but do what you feel is right for you. :)
woah - the part about not feeling good enough for the people in your life is the SAME way I’ve been feeling lately. It’s nice to know that it’s a valid feeling that other people have, and that it’s not just a ‘me’ problem
I've noticed that I was happier when I was around less people . I'm 42 now and because of my work I'm around a lot of negative people . I used to do work that I would see very few people . And I also think social media is not good for a lot of people it messes with your mind. You are good at what you do ive been watching your videos for a long time . I think that you are intelligent and that is why you worry so much . I'm also happier in the summer like you . I've found that having a dog or a cat helps , music and dancing around in my house lol. Hope you feel better soon x
This is so relatable. I always feel I'm a disappointment, and I always relate it to my parents being too enthusiastic about me when I was young. Telling me all the time I was smart, or how much I could improve a skill. In the end, when you finally fail at something (because it IS going to happen) you had always thought you were great, smart and eveyone was expecting so much of you. It's very rough and the feeling of unworthiness never goes away.
I need to thank you for making this video because I feel a lot of the things you do. The issues about being a good friend, and being smart, and being well spoken in videos. I try to remember that I probably don’t sound intimidating and hopefully some people like that.
Baby girl, not one single 28 year old that I know has their shit together... Myself included. I feel like my late 20s (😦😦) have been harder than my early 20s.
Kristen Hudson THIS. I only started to feel like I kind if got it together once I turned 30 last year and I've never been more confident in my life and my life has never been more "together." Oh and it's crazy because at 28 I was still not THERE, you know?
This!! NO ONE TELLS YOU THIS! You always hear people say that teens and 20 somethings think they're living their best life but really you will be much happier as you get older and 30 is like this fantasy age where you finally know who you are, found your place in the world, start a family, have a cat and dog and gain a magic certificate at adulting. Well I spent all my teens being a top student, knowing what the next goal was, feeling on track... Now, almost 28, no job, no idea what do do next, no cat, no dog, no certificate... Not asking to be pitied or anything, it's just really reassuring to know that you're not alone in this and that even if no one in your real life goes through the same thing, people, somewhere do.
Kristen Hudson truth! In my early twenties at least I knew where I was supposed to be, I went to school and I had faith in my future and my possibilities. Today, as the opportunities and time slip away, I feel more and more like a headless chicken. I'll get there, later that everyone else, but I'll get there
Waking up to these 3 responses made me feel so much better about my life... We are not alone guys and we will get there eventually! Here's to our 30s being a helluva lot better than our 20s 🍺 Much love and luck to you all ❤
I can't explain how much I needed this video today. Thank you for always being brutally honest with us about your struggles and insecurities. Your words reach more people than you know.
I'm turning 25 in a month, I know age is coming and I feel like your thoughts and advice on how to deal with it is always very calming to me to the point where I think of you when I start judging myself for wrinkles and stuff, and stop it and think of the possitivity you always share! You got this Sarah! We are here!
As someone who lives with clinical depression, anxiety, ADD, and (periodically) terrible self-esteem, I struggle with so much of what you're going through. When I get too self-critical, I've been trying to look at myself as I would a friend or family member. And I would never in a million years think so negatively about a loved one. It's so important to practice self-love. If someone you love expressed the insecurities you're having, I know you would assure them that they're worthy of so much love and success. So, Sarah, even when can't see it, you are young and beautiful, intelligent, inspiring, brave, and worthy of all the love and success you have received (or ever will).
it’s 4am and I can’t sleep because of an argument I had hours earlier because of my self esteem issues... it’s nice hearing you being so honest with us, I’m not good with words but we are all with you ♡
I love how you vocalize some of my constant inner thoughts that I couldn't imagine anyone else thinking.! In this video when you wonder "Did I talk about myself too much?" after conversing with your friends, my mind was blown! Thank you for making this content because it's so great to not feel alone in the way my mind works
You are so honest and real, that is what people need. Nobody’s life is perfect, we all make mistakes, are lazy and mess up many many times and that is ok. I know you have heard million times but you are good enough, I love your videos. Hope you feel better soon I mean after your period is over. PS. Having a good cry always helps. A tight hug to you. 😘
In many aspects, I feel the same; I feel confident in who I am but I find myself consistently anxious that I am not living up to the people I love and care about expectations. It is refreshing and relieving to hear someone say it aloud, especially someone who is the same age as me. So, thank you. That being said, I hope you (as well as any anyone feeling this way) can heal and learn to manage that anxiety and self-doubt in a positive way.
This video resonated with me so much. I've been feeling very similar to most if not all of the things you mentioned, especially about worrying about being too self-centered around friends and all of that. I've been struggling with this for so long but it felt really good to watch this and know that it's not just me feeling these things, so thank you for sharing this video!
I have been watching your channel for years. I love and rewatch many of your videos - you're so lovable and your energy is great. never compare yourself
Literally this. Just turned 27 and everything you have described is everything going on in my mind. Thank you so much for posting this because (selfish-ly) it’s nice to have someone to relate to. I truly hope this year gets better for you and that you can find some positive ground.
Sarah, I feel like we all have these issues. Don‘t worry, you‘re such a beautiful soul inside and out. Whenever I see u without makeup or whenever u talk of your „weaknesses“, I think to myself how truly real you are in a world full of masked people. You show the real you to the world and that is such a beautiful trait to have! I wish I had a friend like u ♥️ never let the society make you feel unworthy when being unapologetically you. We need more like u!
Everything you said hit home for me. Everyone has good days and bad days when it comes to self-esteem. I always try to take it one day at a time and not to beat myself up for the bad days. You are one of my favorite youtubers and just wanted to say that you are awesome!
Hey lady. You said something that really resonates to me because I have been there: "it translates into a relationship... 5 years now... still have self esteem issues... one of my biggest fears is losing it..." People can take that negatively, but I actually think this is an important statement. Regardless of your confidence and attractiveness (yo, you hot!) it is important to keep in mind your partner, too. Not that you should remain the "same" as when you met them, but it's so so easy to try and compare yourself to the way you were when you met. My husband and I have been together 12 years (countless hair changes, countless weight changes, changes in careers) and depression (husband) as well as severe anxiety (me) can cause you to doubt your relationship. The important thing is talking to each other... and really, the amazing thing is that the relationship you have with Ryan goes further than anything anyone else can say (TH-cam, etc.) so long as you keep open communication, that can help watching others make changes (getting plastic surgery, etc.) and thinking you need to do it. This is the lengthiest comment and the short of it is, I see so much of myself in you and totally get where you are coming from (sorry if above is rambling) Keep "taking off the pants" and living life. Pants or no pants, we're all still here 👋 Self esteem issues happen no matter the age but live your life in the way that makes you HAPPY and f*** the rest.
As an 18 year old (I've probably followed you since I was 14) but like I have so much love for your videos. Thank you for being vulnerable and open to us like this. Like I've had weight and personal issues like this, as I'm plus size and like much love for you. You're a great creator and thank you for this open-ness with us. ❤
I love that you talk about subjects that are seen as taboo in society and thankful that you're bringing awareness to the subjects that are usually hush hush.I enjoy every single one of your videos and have learned so much from you 💙💙
I totally understand this struggle (including that damn PMS)! Your authenticity is the reason why we love you! There's nothing more brave than being true to yourself and that's what makes you (and everyone else being real) awesome!
I feel all of this so strongly. I'm currently attending school and getting my mfa, but I feel like I'm so less intelligent than the rest of my classmates. And it definitely affects my self esteem. Thank you for making this video. You're not alone, and it's comforting for us to be reminded that the people we look up to are also human and struggle with the same things that we do.
what’s worse is that feeling like you’re not good enough turns into self-sabotage. but just so you know, the fact that you’re so chill when you talk about things that do matter, makes you the saving grace of yt right now. especially with how saturated it can be with all the drama, lately. cry it all out as much as you can but please take care of yourself!! take a chance to perhaps take up a hobby to distract yourself from work if you can 💛
I am 28 years old and I personally feel that I am getting old as well ! The fillers thought has come across my mind before ! You are extremely brave for bringing this up in conversation ! YOU ARE NOT UGLY BY THE WAY, You've got beauty ! Hands down !
You probably won’t see this since it’s an older video but I’ve been going through a lot recently with my self esteem being so awful, and i remembered this video and went back to watch it. And even though i know i have a lot that i need to do to fix what’s going on with me, starting with seeing a therapist, it is still nice to hear from someone who deals with the same things and the same struggles with their self esteem with relationships and friendships. So thank you for making this video, it’s always good to feel a little less alone.
creators tend to seek perfection in their creations & make the best, but the important thing to remember is to do your best *with* the time & resources you have.
I feel the same. I feel like I can no longer describe myself. I can describe who I was in the past, but I can't describe who I am right now. I feel like I don't have any hobbies or passions or anything like that. Thank you for posting this video! It's easy to think that we're alone, but you're right. Everyone has self-esteem issues, and you're really brave for sharing yours. You've always been one of my favorite TH-camrs. Keep it up!
i appreciate they way that you present yourself authentically, as someone who is selfdepricating but also so super thoughtful about your impact on the ppl around you and being cognizant about how your feelings about yourself are feeling. i appreciate this so much because I am going through so much of this. I started trying this app my bestie recommended which is called the insight timer. they are really short meditations. i feel like they give me a moment of grounding during the day.
I can so relate to everything you are saying. I'm 30 now and while my confidence has grown in some areas, I find that I really over think social situations and I internally cringe after every one, when I think about the things I said and the things I could have done to be a better friend. You are such a lovely, real, beautiful person. Sending you hugs and hoping that January flies by and the sun comes out again :)
I've had a lot of the same thought spirals you mentioned about not feeling good enough or smart enough. It sucks getting caught in that spiral, but it is nice to know that I'm not the only one going through it. I mean obviously a lot of people feel this way, but during those spirals you can't think that positively. Thank you for sharing!
Part of the reason why I was so drawn to your psyche videos before I subscribed was because of how intelligent and eloquent you are. You might not feel it, but you’re a smart person! You might have used a script, but you still wrote that script yourself, and they’re still your independent thought. You have a beautiful brain, don’t feel lesser because you might not have performed as well as others in a traditional classroom setting
You are such a beautiful person! Everything you said is so relatable, the fact that you're so honest with your viewers is truly precious. In fact your realness is the reason why you're one of my fav youtubers over those with perfect filming skills, super thought through content, etc. You really feel like a friend to me and i love you!
you are exactly the kind of youtuber I love to see. I love seeing genuine people on here, talking about and sharing the things they re truly interested in. your videos and channel never seem fake or forced to me and I love seeing that. I love how your channel actually makes me feel okay about being different or feeling different. I always feel less alone and like I understand myself, my mind and my feelings that little bit more after coming to your channel. it brings a sense of comfort that I don't find with other youtubers. please keep being you and creating the content you do because this channel feels so real and there needs to be more of that on here. love you and your videos :)
30 years from now you will look back at this video and wonder how you ever thought these things. you're young, intelligent, pretty, and able-bodied. They say youth is wasted on the young...
I can totally relate on not feeling good enough for anyone,and some of the other things you mentioned. I overthink everything,and end with the thought of that they secretly hate me now. You are definitely good enough Sarah :) Every single person in your life is so lucky to have you in theirs. Seriously
I see your videos for you, beyond the content, and that's because in this false social media world we live in, you're probably the most real and I like that, I'm 35 and I still hope to be what I've always dreamed of because I'm finally getting to hear my voice above that of others. Continue doing what you do, you do it very well. A hug!
I feel like watching you vent has really helped me feel better, as I can relate to everything you've just talked about. I hope it makes you feel more at ease knowing that there are others going through the same thing! ❤️
I just wish I have a friend like you right now. I'm 27 and I have no boyfriend, 2 close friends and that's it. I feel alone and my self-esteem is so low, I feel like I'm alone because I don't deserve good people to be around me 😔
Ivette Chipuli Like...are you me? Because I feel the exact same way. 23 no boyfriend (never had one) and only 2 really close friends. I totally understand how you feel.
sweetchocolatesecret It's good to know that I'm not the only one and someone else understand me, when it's so hard to explain this feeling. Much love to you 💕💕💕💕
I feel the same as you both, feel alone and everyone around me seems to be having the time of their lives while I'm doing nothing. Anyway I hope you girls feel better very soon, you deserve great things💖
You are verbalizing many things that a lot of us feel. I hated my body for so long. Being sexually harrassed in school really did me in. It took me a while to build my self esteem back. I held my worth in what others thought about my body and not my own. Sometimes i stand in the and gas myself up. Our own compliments are the only ones that matter.
I’ve been watching your videos for a couple years now. You’re a TH-camr that I can relate to in so many ways. We all have self esteem issues and the fact that you’re able to be open and honest about them is empowering. Don’t compare yourself to others. 28 is still so young but unfortunately because of social media, there’s this pressure to look perfect. Just focus on your health, be kind to yourself and take things one day at a time 💛
I’m turning 25 this year and about three months ago I started to freak out because I felt like a failure compared to other women my age. I also have to cope with SAD and eating disorders, so I’m actually really glad you made this video. It’s so relieving to know someone else is able to overcome the issues I’m struggling with now. Your channel has been such a breath of fresh air for me because you’re willing to address things that some people don’t want to talk about. It’s so inspiring to see someone so genuine and relatable on TH-cam.
Love you so much! I really relate to this even though I’m in university. Lack of relationships, friends, and future jobs really puts a damper on my self esteem. Then I have physical insecurities that affect my self esteem also. You’re not alone in this. I admire you as a TH-camr because you release unique content, have an honest personality, and talk about taboo things that really need to be talked about. Even if you think you don’t deserve your viewers or your channel, we don’t deserve you! Love seeing your videos, don’t feel bad for feeling the way you do.
You are my favourite youtuber. Iam so proud of the mindset that you currently gained "it is fine to just exist and not have to associate your identity with your job".
Only yesterday I was watching through some of your videos again and realized "huh - I really don't follow anyone quite like Sarah." And it was such a good thing! I think I can speak for a lot of fellow subscribers in saying that we might have been drawn in by your content, but we stay because we value you as the person we get to "check in on" several times a week. I admire how much work you've put into your channel over the years, and especially so in your determination to facilitate compassionate discussions about mental health, animal rights, finding your way, and not being ashamed of who you are. Thanks so much for all you do, and I hope you feel better 💖
this really hit home with me. I have the same issue with my friends and with my relationship, I always feel annoying and talk about myself too much even when thats not my intention. self esteem has really been an issue with me lately,l and so has SAD. watching you, and relating to you made me cry. we can get through this sarah, I love you!
This video couldnt have been more perfect and it was posted at the right time. Especially for me. Literally how ive been feeling too, girl thank you for making this and not making me feel alone on this.
I was literally just crying because I was feeling this way, and then I go to my subscription page and see this. I relate to all of these things (except I don't make youtube videos because I'm too scared to even try) and I don't have many people around me right now, so it was nice to see this. I hope you can get past it soon. ❤ I love your videos btw.
Oh honey, I’m 32 and I have these problems. I’m overweight and am trying very hard to eat healthy, exercise 5 - 6 days a week and I’m trying to work on myself mentally as well, but I still see myself the way I’ve always seen myself; gross and ugly and a cow. It’s a habit that’s hard to break. Having self-esteem and body issues don’t have an age range. It stems from traumatic experiences or past issues that haven’t been resolved. You’re definitely not alone in this crappy battle. I think you’re absolutely beautiful, inside and out. I love watching your videos.
to make you feel better: I've subscribed to you for years now and I have o say that you've NEVER disappointed me because we all see that youre an amazing human with a lot of creativity and love and now I wanna give it back to you
You ARE good enough! Actually your more then good enough! You’re gorgeous, funny, smart and honestly the most down to earth, relatable and most real TH-camr out there! We love you Sarah!!! 🖤🖤
Your content is a blessing to find. I know you know this because these are topics not everyone talks about even with their families or friends. I came across your channel a couple of years ago when I was going through a rough breakup leaving a toxic relationship. That video, how to deal or get over a breakup truly just did something for me. It wasn't bullshitt advice, and everything you said rang true within me. If it's about being perfect, we all know it's nearly impossible to please ourselves but we, your subscribers, appreciate the work you put in. I admire you for doing what you do and being who you are even more so while dealing with your own personal business. Depressed since 14, am almost 22 now and still coming to terms that this is life for me. it's such a relief to see people like you out here doing good in the world we love you 😇👍
I felt a lot of the same stuff around turning 25. I think it comes down to comparing yourself to others and what you "should" be doing or have done by that age. We just have to remind ourselves that it's okay to take life at your own pace and if you're happy with where you're at that's what truly matters. I've been through a lot of major setbacks in my life but I'm finally in a good place and it doesn't seem like much to other people but for some of us just being okay is a huge achievement. Love you and your content. x
You’re literally the only TH-camr that I’ve continued watching over the years. Your TH-cam presence means a lot to me because I appreciate the topics you talk about and the way you are so considerate towards others’ feelings. I relate a lot to the struggles you talk about in your videos and vlogs, and would like to thank you staying true to yourself over the years. Sharing the good and not so good aspects of life on the Internet is hard. You are honestly my favorite TH-camr xx
Thank you for being so honest, Sarah. Like a lot of people have mentioned in the comments, I can absolutely relate to the feelings of doubt and letting the depression control your confidence to the point where you feel like you lose yourself. Listening to you share your struggles throughout the years as really help me reflect on my own thoughts and feelings, and have helped me grow as a person. I am 23, and still find myself wondering when all of my insecurities and uncertainties will melt away, and leave me as the adult that I am 'supposed' to be (because that's totally how life works, hahaha). As much as I wish that you didn't feel so bad, I selfishly appreciate you bringing me back down to Earth, and reminding me that we don't just suddenly 'grow up' and become a perfect, cookie cutter person who is always positive and has absolutely everything figured out. As humans, we are all on our own unique journeys through life, where we grow a little every day, and continuously discover more about ourselves. I apologize for the long winded comment, but I just want you to know how much you really touch people, and help them as they go along on their own journeys. I hope that we as a community are able to give back to you those feelings of support and certainty. Take care, Sarah, you absolutely deserve what you have
Life is just a box of wonders. Just live in the moment and as generic as it sounds, get a journal and start by writing down little things like, "What 3 things do you like about yourself?" Physically and personal. Self therapy is one of the most healing and easy things we can all do. Find ways to physically express your love towards yourself. Reward yourself and acknowledge the beauty you have within and outside. Sometimes we seek for answers from others and that's great, but sometimes we have the answers we need. I hope you feel better and learn to love yourself and criticize yourself less harshly. You're beautiful, lovely, and talented.
OH MY!! I felt super related to what you were talking about, through the whole video. I m a 23year old, who feels stupid, not enough in every different topic in my life. School, friends , family,relationships, social stuff, everything.I feel old, not successful, and wishing the schooldays would come back, as I was ,too,an effortlessly good student, which doesnt translate at all to my unilife.AT ALL!. But,I m.sure you know that you are the one who brings yourself down more than anyone. I have faith in you, think reasonably over it. AND PLEASE, HAVE SERIOUSLY CHECKED OUT THE TH-cam COMMUNITY?! MOST ( if not all of the 16_28knowitalls) DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO MAKE A PROPER SENTENCE IN THEIR NATIVE LANGUAGE. And they dont even intend to ever learning how.
I'm not hating on people that get work done but I'm subscribed to you because you're a refreshing face to look at as well as an intellectual, and realistic personality. A lot of people are trying to reach this "heightened form of beauty", when they do this they lose their uniqueness. Changing their faces and bodies at the snap of a finger..it's okay but I wonder if they ever look in the mirror after and miss what they're meant to look like and the face they grew up with. When the botox and injections start to fade , do those flaws become worse , do other issues breed from there? In a society where accepting what you look like as you age is foreign, realize that what you think you are missing, you truly gain. It's hard for me to see such beautiful people pick themselves apart , it instills that insecurity in myself as well. It's okay to not like everything about yourself, there are people that, without you even knowing.. like those things for you.
You are amazing Sarah. I always loved your content and personality. Every one on TH-cam is changing, nobody cares about being genuine anymore. People just want to use clickbait to make money. I’m so happy you haven’t changed who you are for TH-cam. 💕
I totally get the being a good test taker. Everybody would always be like you are so smart, because I got good grades, but half the time I struggled with understanding what I was learning, I just have a good memory which made taking tests easy for me. I don’t really feel like I’m actually that smart.
I’ve been feeling that whole having trouble thinking I can speak intelligently too. It makes me feel like a bad student, so I can empathize with what that’s like. It’s kinda nice to know that it’s not just a me thing though... Self-esteem issues are a pain. I hope you have more good days soon 🧡
thank you for posting this! you talking through your thoughts helps me figure out similar things im feeling and hopefully helps you as well. i wanted mention something about how youre worried about talking about yourself too much when a friend has a problem, because i worry about that all the time too. i learned that its actually been proven that being empathetic and relating to someone will make them feel better! maybe keep that in mind, because im sure you are a great friend and girlfriend regardless of what your depressive thoughts tell you. and remember, we're in this together!
Basically everything you mentioned resonated with me so much. I feel that we are really similar in regards to our thoughts/behavior which is why I love you and your videos so much. Just know that you're subscribers are here for you, we are subscribed to you because we love you. When you think self critically just remember how far you've come and remember you are not alone. You have people that care about you so much! xoxo
I really sincerely understand what you're talking about. I've had some of the exact same feelings from feeling dumb to not feeling like a good person. It's an awful emotional state to be in
You seriously spoke for me! I agree with every single thing you said. ☹️ It feels like I’m living a nightmare where my soul is in a body I see so ugly. I’m not good enough for anyone
I’m a few years younger than you, but I’ve been having very similar feelings about my identity. I’m currently on my winter break from college, and with anxiety, depression, and lots of time alone, I’ve been struggling. One night while I was trying to shut out the thoughts, I found mental and emotional peace by watching your videos. You may say that you’re not well-spoken, but you have such a way with words that makes it easy for anyone to empathize, relate, and reflect. Whether it’s a sit down talk like this one or a “scripted” video, you have helped me form new opinions/perspectives on so many different topics as well as tackle some of my most irrational feelings and thoughts. Thank you.
Seriously this breaks my heart. I hate seeing you doubt yourself so much. One of the reasons I’m subscribed to you is because you’re so DIFFERENT from all the other youtubers. You’re authentic, and seem so down to earth & I can’t stand fake ass TH-camrs who never have “real” talks or share what’s really going on in their life! I can relate to this video though & i think it’s so courageous that you’re telling us your fears/feelings. You’re beautiful, you are worthy, you are smart. The age thing... i can relate. I’m turning 26 this year & i can start seeing small changes... but try not to compare what you’re doing to others (people getting plastic surgery because there’s no comparison) Sending you hugs Sarah!!! Xoxo xoxo
I know exactly where you’re coming from. If anything I think your videos have been continually getting better and better and I love watching every single one. It may feel like you’re “not as good” as everyone else but I actually prefer watching your videos because you’re so down to earth and real, I feel like I can relate to you and I love that.
I’ve enjoyed your videos for over half a decade - I struggle with a lot of what you struggle with and I just wanna say that I love u and that you are a valuable person. Your videos have been there during some difficult days in my life. As a girl around your age I feel like I’ve grown up with you and I just wanna say how proud I am at how far you’ve come (from your dental and driving fears to your ability to be honest and raw online). Wishing you the best. 👊🏻💕
I know you know you aren’t alone, but here’s another reminder. We are with you.
You are more than good enough for me
I just want to give you a hug ❤️
Honestly, over-produced TH-cam videos kind of separate me from the creator. I think the obvious amount of research you do for your videos is very evident and you project your content in a very genuine and real way which is why I enjoy watching what you make so much, and I'm sure most of your subscribers feel the same! I genuinly look forward to your videos, so please keep doing what you're doing ❤
You are the only TH-camr that I never wanted to unsubscribe from. Been watching you for a very long time, so now it feels like you are my actual friend! You deserve every single one of your subscribers and even more!!! Sending love and positive vibes 💕
Damn, Sarah. I felt like I was sitting in the passenger seat. There was a moment when I wanted to give you a hug or something but then it hit me that I am not in your passenger seat, I am in my bed wearing fuzzy socks. Here are some thoughts I had while listening to you:
-A lot of us like that you talk about different topics. In my case, it's pretty much the reason I'm here. We might me a niche audience but niche audiences tend to be more enthusiastic and loyal.
-I'm sure you know better than anyone commenting that filming allows you to cut and think about what you're going to say, kind of like when you're writing. I feel like the other TH-camrs you compare yourself with definitely know the power of editing. It's not a bad thing, but it's like looking at Instagram; it's curated to look better than it actually is.
-Also, a loooot of people are really good and just being confident when they speak, so you believe them in the moment. Sometimes, a few days after I listen to one of these people I realize they're full of crap.
-Remember how I said that I felt like I was sitting next to you? That is something that I feel big TH-camrs don't achieve. One of the beautiful things about the internet is that it democratizes content creation and I feel like the channels that have millions upon millions of viewers have kind of lost sight of that? But what you're creating, even if it's on a smaller scale, is important and unique and beautiful. Don't lose sight of that. And we're here for you.
Oh, I hate when I can't like a comment because the phone won't allow me to. >< I really agree with you, you sound so wise and I agree with your point about Sarah's audience. 💛 Xx
I can relate to literally every single thing you said in this video from depression right now, growing older (I’m turning 27 on Thursday) pressure to be a better youtuber and human being, achievement-based confidence based on what you are capable of doing or what you are not capable of doing especially compared to others and having that mean something in your head about your value. Questioning why the people in your life and all that you have is even there, like why do I have such a great life and great boyfriend? The speaking thing even. I used to script videos and I thought they would be so good but I ended up doing the same thing you described here, trying to write down bullets, then they turned into sentences and you speak them verbatim and it comes out different than what you wanted. It is hard to not have the skills to speak what is in your head in a way that translates well. I even tend to do what you described here when you hang out with friends. Bonding over similarities even if they are negative is, I think, a natural response in friendships and it’s normal to get stuck there until you realize you don’t like doing that. Every time I try to relate to a friend and tell them why I feel that I understand them, I also question whether that was being a good friend because I don’t want to take away from the safe space I want to hold for them and I don’t ever want to turn the attention toward me if that means they feel diminished somehow or I don’t know. I’m kind of doing that right now except you actually asked us if we have experienced anything similar so it is appropriate here. But I know what it is like to question if you’re a good friend or if that person you just hung out with is like thinking they don’t want to hang out anymore or confide in you or if they feel negatively toward you. Ugh I’m having a hard time too
saaaaaaameeeee it's amazing to know that they are others who feel the same way
You are an intelligent, beautiful, creative, strong, and compassionate woman! You deserve all of the love and positive relationships that have come into your life ♥️ don’t doubt that!
*”they said when I got older all my fears would shrink, but now I’m insecure and I care what people think”*
I don't think self esteem is something you ever really get over. Something my coworker told me (and I don't know where she heard it) is that life is separated between three phases. The okay/good phase, the bad phase and the phase of getting better. The bad phase is always the shortest, and the getting better part is the longest. If you can get good at getting better, you can handle anything. I've been a viewer for years now and when you open up like this it reminds me to open up, too. You may feel like others are smarter than you, or better than you. But they're not you. You're authentic. The best thing about you is that you open up. You share, you help us. You provide resources. I only hope we can give you the same support back. I have so much love and respect for you.
This video is 2 years old and you probably won’t even read this but i was shocked to find out that we have almost identical thoughts when it comes to depression and anxiety because I always thought you were better than me at every aspect of life....you’re beautiful, you’re in a romantic relationship, you speak so intelligently and genuinely in all of your videos. All of these things that I just don’t have and can’t do. I’m so sorry you feel like you’re not enough but you 100% are enough and a lot of people love you, including me
I struggle with major depressive disorder and I'm currently going through one of the worst times of my life with my mental health. Sometimes I find the hyper-positivity that many youtubers constantly feel the need to keep up in their videos triggering because my own life seems bleak and boring in comparison. I identify and am comforted by your content because I feel like you are being genuinely you. I just find it helpful to be able to watch someone who has similar struggles and doesn't try to fake happy because depression feels incredibly lonely most of the time. I just wanted to say thank you for making your content because it means quite a lot to me. Sending you all my love and support because you've helped me feel less alone.
Alanna Medeiros I second this. Too true. Nicely put.
Yes, same with me
I'm 44 and still have days where I don't feel like I'm where I should be in my stage of life! But hey, I just wanna say; don't beat yourself up or tear your work down. You have subscribers because you are you!! We all have shitty days and that's okay. It's the strength of getting through those days that in the end matters most!!
I turn 25 in May... I have been feeling all of these feelings - it's overwhelming. Thank you for the talk.
Sigh, I'm so sorry you feel this way. Comparing yourself to other youtubers is something I struggle with as well. All your differences make you so special and interesting though!
The fact that you are so thoughtful, so self-aware and do things out of love says a lot about the kind of person you are. We all see it!
This breaks my heart but I adore you and I’ve always considered you to be very intelligent and well spoken. I know exactly how you feel. I’ll be turning 23 this year and I feel so left out. I don’t have any friends, I don’t go out, I’ve never been to a party, never been kissed, never had a boyfriend. I just recently got dropped from my school for missing to many days. I don’t know what I’m doing with my life. I don’t feel smart enough or good enough to even try sometimes. I completely understand. This is coming from somebody who has been watching your videos since 2014, YOU ARE AMAZING, SMART, KIND, BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT, YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON, YOU ARE WORTHY, YOU ARE ENOUGH (SO MUCH MORE THAN ENOUGH) AND I ADORE YOU! ❤️
This is exactly how I've been feeling these days... It's nice to know that it happens to other people too, and that I'm not going crazy... Thank you for that
i used to think i had my self esteem sorted out but man, i don't. comparing yourself feels horrible and i'm trying not to do it too. we should be smart, or strong, or pretty on our own terms. everything we use to put ourselves down is a comparison- if we were the only person to exist, we wouldn't have those thoughts. sometimes we need comparison to be a better person but we need to try to go easy on ourselves because we deserve it. careers, especially youtube, can make this even harder, but you just need to try to take it back to basics- you're worth it and you're awesome, take it from us:)
I totally relate Sarah. I’ve been the same pant size since I was 13 and now I’m a good two sixes larger after one year. The weight gain is really affecting my self esteem, I don’t want to leave the house because I think I look disgusting. It’s rough but hopefully in time we’ll embrace our physical changes since it just means we’re maturing. I’m here for you!
I can’t speak for everyone else on here, but I for one enjoy your videos. I think your content is interesting and unlike everything else on TH-cam. There’s only so many Barbie types you can take before you need a break and want to watch someone real, someone you can relate to, someone like yourself.
MeteoricMarlin omg, you're right, i think she is so real, and i can feel close to her like a friend, and most of the youtubers don't do that, they think that they are better than anyone else and that's absolutely disgusting, they forget that they're just humans
I love that you arent like other youtubers, watching you is relatable as you are living a normal life with normal day to day struggles. Watching other youtubers who are under 25, living in massive houses, selling merchandise and always doing sponsored videos just make me feel depressed about how shit my normal working life is. When my life isnt shit, and neither is yours! Its just we are constantly seeing "how much greener the grass can be", which cannot be good for any of us in the long run. Xxx
I can relate to a lot of the things you said. I feel like a lot of TH-camrs have unrealistic goals. Like they spend their ENTIRE time on youtube, filming, editing, etc, but normal people have other things to do other than TH-cam, so you shouldn’t compare yourself to them. I love that you have real videos like this and we can relate to you
I really hate it when my elders tell me to grow up when I have self esteem issues - in my eyes I can’t just love myself or stop doubting myself every year I get older. It just doesn’t happen. Thank you so much for making this Sarah, I appreicate your honesty and i’m happy you have us as an outlet for you x
I feel you on the age thing, I'm going to be 30 in February. But for me it has nothing to do with looks. It's more so what I planned and wanted for myself when I was younger for around the middle/end of my 20's and here I am 29 and none of what I wanted has happened for me and it's almost like I've failed myself, you know?
I can relate on the looks thing too though and I've thought about plastic surgery myself, but I just don't know if it's me.
It is a lot easier to write things down, but do what you feel is right for you. :)
woah - the part about not feeling good enough for the people in your life is the SAME way I’ve been feeling lately. It’s nice to know that it’s a valid feeling that other people have, and that it’s not just a ‘me’ problem
Follow up: kept watching, and the seasonal depression part AGAIN I RELATE
I've noticed that I was happier when I was around less people . I'm 42 now and because of my work I'm around a lot of negative people . I used to do work that I would see very few people . And I also think social media is not good for a lot of people it messes with your mind. You are good at what you do ive been watching your videos for a long time . I think that you are intelligent and that is why you worry so much . I'm also happier in the summer like you . I've found that having a dog or a cat helps , music and dancing around in my house lol. Hope you feel better soon x
This is so relatable. I always feel I'm a disappointment, and I always relate it to my parents being too enthusiastic about me when I was young. Telling me all the time I was smart, or how much I could improve a skill. In the end, when you finally fail at something (because it IS going to happen) you had always thought you were great, smart and eveyone was expecting so much of you. It's very rough and the feeling of unworthiness never goes away.
This is so relatable. I completely understand the way you are feeling - everyone has these thoughts, regardless of if they talk about it, or not.
I need to thank you for making this video because I feel a lot of the things you do. The issues about being a good friend, and being smart, and being well spoken in videos. I try to remember that I probably don’t sound intimidating and hopefully some people like that.
you are by far my favorite youtuber, so real and genuine! i love you
Baby girl, not one single 28 year old that I know has their shit together... Myself included. I feel like my late 20s (😦😦) have been harder than my early 20s.
Kristen Hudson THIS. I only started to feel like I kind if got it together once I turned 30 last year and I've never been more confident in my life and my life has never been more "together." Oh and it's crazy because at 28 I was still not THERE, you know?
This!! NO ONE TELLS YOU THIS!
You always hear people say that teens and 20 somethings think they're living their best life but really you will be much happier as you get older and 30 is like this fantasy age where you finally know who you are, found your place in the world, start a family, have a cat and dog and gain a magic certificate at adulting.
Well I spent all my teens being a top student, knowing what the next goal was, feeling on track... Now, almost 28, no job, no idea what do do next, no cat, no dog, no certificate...
Not asking to be pitied or anything, it's just really reassuring to know that you're not alone in this and that even if no one in your real life goes through the same thing, people, somewhere do.
Kristen Hudson truth! In my early twenties at least I knew where I was supposed to be, I went to school and I had faith in my future and my possibilities. Today, as the opportunities and time slip away, I feel more and more like a headless chicken. I'll get there, later that everyone else, but I'll get there
Waking up to these 3 responses made me feel so much better about my life... We are not alone guys and we will get there eventually! Here's to our 30s being a helluva lot better than our 20s 🍺 Much love and luck to you all ❤
Im turning 28 this month. You have no idea how much this comment relieved my heart and soul. THANK YOU 💚
I can't explain how much I needed this video today. Thank you for always being brutally honest with us about your struggles and insecurities. Your words reach more people than you know.
I'm turning 25 in a month, I know age is coming and I feel like your thoughts and advice on how to deal with it is always very calming to me to the point where I think of you when I start judging myself for wrinkles and stuff, and stop it and think of the possitivity you always share! You got this Sarah! We are here!
As someone who lives with clinical depression, anxiety, ADD, and (periodically) terrible self-esteem, I struggle with so much of what you're going through.
When I get too self-critical, I've been trying to look at myself as I would a friend or family member. And I would never in a million years think so negatively about a loved one. It's so important to practice self-love.
If someone you love expressed the insecurities you're having, I know you would assure them that they're worthy of so much love and success.
So, Sarah, even when can't see it, you are young and beautiful, intelligent, inspiring, brave, and worthy of all the love and success you have received (or ever will).
it’s 4am and I can’t sleep because of an argument I had hours earlier because of my self esteem issues... it’s nice hearing you being so honest with us, I’m not good with words but we are all with you ♡
I love how you vocalize some of my constant inner thoughts that I couldn't imagine anyone else thinking.! In this video when you wonder "Did I talk about myself too much?" after conversing with your friends, my mind was blown! Thank you for making this content because it's so great to not feel alone in the way my mind works
You are so honest and real, that is what people need. Nobody’s life is perfect, we all make mistakes, are lazy and mess up many many times and that is ok. I know you have heard million times but you are good enough, I love your videos. Hope you feel better soon I mean after your period is over. PS. Having a good cry always helps. A tight hug to you. 😘
In many aspects, I feel the same; I feel confident in who I am but I find myself consistently anxious that I am not living up to the people I love and care about expectations. It is refreshing and relieving to hear someone say it aloud, especially someone who is the same age as me. So, thank you. That being said, I hope you (as well as any anyone feeling this way) can heal and learn to manage that anxiety and self-doubt in a positive way.
This video resonated with me so much. I've been feeling very similar to most if not all of the things you mentioned, especially about worrying about being too self-centered around friends and all of that. I've been struggling with this for so long but it felt really good to watch this and know that it's not just me feeling these things, so thank you for sharing this video!
I have been watching your channel for years. I love and rewatch many of your videos - you're so lovable and your energy is great. never compare yourself
Literally this. Just turned 27 and everything you have described is everything going on in my mind. Thank you so much for posting this because (selfish-ly) it’s nice to have someone to relate to. I truly hope this year gets better for you and that you can find some positive ground.
Sarah, I feel like we all have these issues. Don‘t worry, you‘re such a beautiful soul inside and out. Whenever I see u without makeup or whenever u talk of your „weaknesses“, I think to myself how truly real you are in a world full of masked people. You show the real you to the world and that is such a beautiful trait to have! I wish I had a friend like u ♥️ never let the society make you feel unworthy when being unapologetically you. We need more like u!
Everything you said hit home for me. Everyone has good days and bad days when it comes to self-esteem. I always try to take it one day at a time and not to beat myself up for the bad days. You are one of my favorite youtubers and just wanted to say that you are awesome!
Feel free to be yourself, that’s personal love. And don’t look for perfection, but strive for improvement.
Hey lady. You said something that really resonates to me because I have been there: "it translates into a relationship... 5 years now... still have self esteem issues... one of my biggest fears is losing it..." People can take that negatively, but I actually think this is an important statement. Regardless of your confidence and attractiveness (yo, you hot!) it is important to keep in mind your partner, too. Not that you should remain the "same" as when you met them, but it's so so easy to try and compare yourself to the way you were when you met. My husband and I have been together 12 years (countless hair changes, countless weight changes, changes in careers) and depression (husband) as well as severe anxiety (me) can cause you to doubt your relationship. The important thing is talking to each other... and really, the amazing thing is that the relationship you have with Ryan goes further than anything anyone else can say (TH-cam, etc.) so long as you keep open communication, that can help watching others make changes (getting plastic surgery, etc.) and thinking you need to do it.
This is the lengthiest comment and the short of it is, I see so much of myself in you and totally get where you are coming from (sorry if above is rambling)
Keep "taking off the pants" and living life. Pants or no pants, we're all still here 👋 Self esteem issues happen no matter the age but live your life in the way that makes you HAPPY and f*** the rest.
As an 18 year old (I've probably followed you since I was 14) but like I have so much love for your videos. Thank you for being vulnerable and open to us like this. Like I've had weight and personal issues like this, as I'm plus size and like much love for you. You're a great creator and thank you for this open-ness with us. ❤
I love that you talk about subjects that are seen as taboo in society and thankful that you're bringing awareness to the subjects that are usually hush hush.I enjoy every single one of your videos and have learned so much from you 💙💙
Proof for your amazing personality: every single person watching you. Don't overthink!
I totally understand this struggle (including that damn PMS)! Your authenticity is the reason why we love you! There's nothing more brave than being true to yourself and that's what makes you (and everyone else being real) awesome!
I feel all of this so strongly. I'm currently attending school and getting my mfa, but I feel like I'm so less intelligent than the rest of my classmates. And it definitely affects my self esteem. Thank you for making this video. You're not alone, and it's comforting for us to be reminded that the people we look up to are also human and struggle with the same things that we do.
what’s worse is that feeling like you’re not good enough turns into self-sabotage. but just so you know, the fact that you’re so chill when you talk about things that do matter, makes you the saving grace of yt right now. especially with how saturated it can be with all the drama, lately. cry it all out as much as you can but please take care of yourself!! take a chance to perhaps take up a hobby to distract yourself from work if you can 💛
I am 28 years old and I personally feel that I am getting old as well !
The fillers thought has come across my mind before !
You are extremely brave for bringing this up in conversation !
YOU ARE NOT UGLY BY THE WAY, You've got beauty ! Hands down !
You probably won’t see this since it’s an older video but I’ve been going through a lot recently with my self esteem being so awful, and i remembered this video and went back to watch it. And even though i know i have a lot that i need to do to fix what’s going on with me, starting with seeing a therapist, it is still nice to hear from someone who deals with the same things and the same struggles with their self esteem with relationships and friendships. So thank you for making this video, it’s always good to feel a little less alone.
creators tend to seek perfection in their creations & make the best, but the important thing to remember is to do your best *with* the time & resources you have.
I feel the same. I feel like I can no longer describe myself. I can describe who I was in the past, but I can't describe who I am right now. I feel like I don't have any hobbies or passions or anything like that.
Thank you for posting this video! It's easy to think that we're alone, but you're right. Everyone has self-esteem issues, and you're really brave for sharing yours.
You've always been one of my favorite TH-camrs. Keep it up!
i appreciate they way that you present yourself authentically, as someone who is selfdepricating but also so super thoughtful about your impact on the ppl around you and being cognizant about how your feelings about yourself are feeling. i appreciate this so much because I am going through so much of this.
I started trying this app my bestie recommended which is called the insight timer. they are really short meditations. i feel like they give me a moment of grounding during the day.
I can so relate to everything you are saying. I'm 30 now and while my confidence has grown in some areas, I find that I really over think social situations and I internally cringe after every one, when I think about the things I said and the things I could have done to be a better friend.
You are such a lovely, real, beautiful person. Sending you hugs and hoping that January flies by and the sun comes out again :)
I've had a lot of the same thought spirals you mentioned about not feeling good enough or smart enough. It sucks getting caught in that spiral, but it is nice to know that I'm not the only one going through it. I mean obviously a lot of people feel this way, but during those spirals you can't think that positively. Thank you for sharing!
Part of the reason why I was so drawn to your psyche videos before I subscribed was because of how intelligent and eloquent you are. You might not feel it, but you’re a smart person! You might have used a script, but you still wrote that script yourself, and they’re still your independent thought. You have a beautiful brain, don’t feel lesser because you might not have performed as well as others in a traditional classroom setting
You are such a beautiful person! Everything you said is so relatable, the fact that you're so honest with your viewers is truly precious. In fact your realness is the reason why you're one of my fav youtubers over those with perfect filming skills, super thought through content, etc. You really feel like a friend to me and i love you!
you are exactly the kind of youtuber I love to see. I love seeing genuine people on here, talking about and sharing the things they re truly interested in. your videos and channel never seem fake or forced to me and I love seeing that. I love how your channel actually makes me feel okay about being different or feeling different. I always feel less alone and like I understand myself, my mind and my feelings that little bit more after coming to your channel. it brings a sense of comfort that I don't find with other youtubers. please keep being you and creating the content you do because this channel feels so real and there needs to be more of that on here. love you and your videos :)
30 years from now you will look back at this video and wonder how you ever thought these things. you're young, intelligent, pretty, and able-bodied. They say youth is wasted on the young...
I can totally relate on not feeling good enough for anyone,and some of the other things you mentioned. I overthink everything,and end with the thought of that they secretly hate me now. You are definitely good enough Sarah :) Every single person in your life is so lucky to have you in theirs. Seriously
I see your videos for you, beyond the content, and that's because in this false social media world we live in, you're probably the most real and I like that, I'm 35 and I still hope to be what I've always dreamed of because I'm finally getting to hear my voice above that of others. Continue doing what you do, you do it very well. A hug!
I feel like watching you vent has really helped me feel better, as I can relate to everything you've just talked about. I hope it makes you feel more at ease knowing that there are others going through the same thing! ❤️
honestly this is a prime example of why I love you so much
I just wish I have a friend like you right now. I'm 27 and I have no boyfriend, 2 close friends and that's it. I feel alone and my self-esteem is so low, I feel like I'm alone because I don't deserve good people to be around me 😔
Ivette Chipuli Like...are you me? Because I feel the exact same way. 23 no boyfriend (never had one) and only 2 really close friends. I totally understand how you feel.
sweetchocolatesecret It's good to know that I'm not the only one and someone else understand me, when it's so hard to explain this feeling. Much love to you 💕💕💕💕
I feel the same as you both, feel alone and everyone around me seems to be having the time of their lives while I'm doing nothing.
Anyway I hope you girls feel better very soon, you deserve great things💖
I feel the same way and dealing with severe depression
You are verbalizing many things that a lot of us feel. I hated my body for so long. Being sexually harrassed in school really did me in. It took me a while to build my self esteem back. I held my worth in what others thought about my body and not my own. Sometimes i stand in the and gas myself up. Our own compliments are the only ones that matter.
I’ve been watching your videos for a couple years now. You’re a TH-camr that I can relate to in so many ways. We all have self esteem issues and the fact that you’re able to be open and honest about them is empowering.
Don’t compare yourself to others. 28 is still so young but unfortunately because of social media, there’s this pressure to look perfect.
Just focus on your health, be kind to yourself and take things one day at a time 💛
I’m turning 25 this year and about three months ago I started to freak out because I felt like a failure compared to other women my age. I also have to cope with SAD and eating disorders, so I’m actually really glad you made this video. It’s so relieving to know someone else is able to overcome the issues I’m struggling with now.
Your channel has been such a breath of fresh air for me because you’re willing to address things that some people don’t want to talk about. It’s so inspiring to see someone so genuine and relatable on TH-cam.
Also, would love to see the cult video and super excited for the lookbooks! (:
Love you so much! I really relate to this even though I’m in university. Lack of relationships, friends, and future jobs really puts a damper on my self esteem. Then I have physical insecurities that affect my self esteem also. You’re not alone in this. I admire you as a TH-camr because you release unique content, have an honest personality, and talk about taboo things that really need to be talked about. Even if you think you don’t deserve your viewers or your channel, we don’t deserve you! Love seeing your videos, don’t feel bad for feeling the way you do.
You are my favourite youtuber. Iam so proud of the mindset that you currently gained "it is fine to just exist and not have to associate your identity with your job".
Only yesterday I was watching through some of your videos again and realized "huh - I really don't follow anyone quite like Sarah." And it was such a good thing! I think I can speak for a lot of fellow subscribers in saying that we might have been drawn in by your content, but we stay because we value you as the person we get to "check in on" several times a week. I admire how much work you've put into your channel over the years, and especially so in your determination to facilitate compassionate discussions about mental health, animal rights, finding your way, and not being ashamed of who you are. Thanks so much for all you do, and I hope you feel better 💖
this really hit home with me. I have the same issue with my friends and with my relationship, I always feel annoying and talk about myself too much even when thats not my intention. self esteem has really been an issue with me lately,l and so has SAD. watching you, and relating to you made me cry. we can get through this sarah, I love you!
This video couldnt have been more perfect and it was posted at the right time. Especially for me. Literally how ive been feeling too, girl thank you for making this and not making me feel alone on this.
I was literally just crying because I was feeling this way, and then I go to my subscription page and see this. I relate to all of these things (except I don't make youtube videos because I'm too scared to even try) and I don't have many people around me right now, so it was nice to see this. I hope you can get past it soon. ❤ I love your videos btw.
Oh honey, I’m 32 and I have these problems. I’m overweight and am trying very hard to eat healthy, exercise 5 - 6 days a week and I’m trying to work on myself mentally as well, but I still see myself the way I’ve always seen myself; gross and ugly and a cow. It’s a habit that’s hard to break. Having self-esteem and body issues don’t have an age range. It stems from traumatic experiences or past issues that haven’t been resolved. You’re definitely not alone in this crappy battle. I think you’re absolutely beautiful, inside and out. I love watching your videos.
to make you feel better: I've subscribed to you for years now and I have o say that you've NEVER disappointed me because we all see that youre an amazing human with a lot of creativity and love and now I wanna give it back to you
You ARE good enough! Actually your more then good enough! You’re gorgeous, funny, smart and honestly the most down to earth, relatable and most real TH-camr out there! We love you Sarah!!! 🖤🖤
Your content is a blessing to find. I know you know this because these are topics not everyone talks about even with their families or friends. I came across your channel a couple of years ago when I was going through a rough breakup leaving a toxic relationship. That video, how to deal or get over a breakup truly just did something for me. It wasn't bullshitt advice, and everything you said rang true within me. If it's about being perfect, we all know it's nearly impossible to please ourselves but we, your subscribers, appreciate the work you put in. I admire you for doing what you do and being who you are even more so while dealing with your own personal business. Depressed since 14, am almost 22 now and still coming to terms that this is life for me. it's such a relief to see people like you out here doing good in the world we love you 😇👍
I felt a lot of the same stuff around turning 25. I think it comes down to comparing yourself to others and what you "should" be doing or have done by that age. We just have to remind ourselves that it's okay to take life at your own pace and if you're happy with where you're at that's what truly matters. I've been through a lot of major setbacks in my life but I'm finally in a good place and it doesn't seem like much to other people but for some of us just being okay is a huge achievement. Love you and your content. x
You’re literally the only TH-camr that I’ve continued watching over the years. Your TH-cam presence means a lot to me because I appreciate the topics you talk about and the way you are so considerate towards others’ feelings. I relate a lot to the struggles you talk about in your videos and vlogs, and would like to thank you staying true to yourself over the years. Sharing the good and not so good aspects of life on the Internet is hard. You are honestly my favorite TH-camr xx
Thank you for being so honest, Sarah. Like a lot of people have mentioned in the comments, I can absolutely relate to the feelings of doubt and letting the depression control your confidence to the point where you feel like you lose yourself. Listening to you share your struggles throughout the years as really help me reflect on my own thoughts and feelings, and have helped me grow as a person. I am 23, and still find myself wondering when all of my insecurities and uncertainties will melt away, and leave me as the adult that I am 'supposed' to be (because that's totally how life works, hahaha). As much as I wish that you didn't feel so bad, I selfishly appreciate you bringing me back down to Earth, and reminding me that we don't just suddenly 'grow up' and become a perfect, cookie cutter person who is always positive and has absolutely everything figured out. As humans, we are all on our own unique journeys through life, where we grow a little every day, and continuously discover more about ourselves. I apologize for the long winded comment, but I just want you to know how much you really touch people, and help them as they go along on their own journeys. I hope that we as a community are able to give back to you those feelings of support and certainty. Take care, Sarah, you absolutely deserve what you have
Life is just a box of wonders. Just live in the moment and as generic as it sounds, get a journal and start by writing down little things like, "What 3 things do you like about yourself?" Physically and personal. Self therapy is one of the most healing and easy things we can all do. Find ways to physically express your love towards yourself. Reward yourself and acknowledge the beauty you have within and outside. Sometimes we seek for answers from others and that's great, but sometimes we have the answers we need. I hope you feel better and learn to love yourself and criticize yourself less harshly. You're beautiful, lovely, and talented.
OH MY!! I felt super related to what you were talking about, through the whole video. I m a 23year old, who feels stupid, not enough in every different topic in my life. School, friends , family,relationships, social stuff, everything.I feel old, not successful, and wishing the schooldays would come back, as I was ,too,an effortlessly good student, which doesnt translate at all to my unilife.AT ALL!. But,I m.sure you know that you are the one who brings yourself down more than anyone. I have faith in you, think reasonably over it. AND PLEASE, HAVE SERIOUSLY CHECKED OUT THE TH-cam COMMUNITY?! MOST ( if not all of the 16_28knowitalls) DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO MAKE A PROPER SENTENCE IN THEIR NATIVE LANGUAGE. And they dont even intend to ever learning how.
I'm not hating on people that get work done but I'm subscribed to you because you're a refreshing face to look at as well as an intellectual, and realistic personality. A lot of people are trying to reach this "heightened form of beauty", when they do this they lose their uniqueness. Changing their faces and bodies at the snap of a finger..it's okay but I wonder if they ever look in the mirror after and miss what they're meant to look like and the face they grew up with. When the botox and injections start to fade , do those flaws become worse , do other issues breed from there?
In a society where accepting what you look like as you age is foreign, realize that what you think you are missing, you truly gain. It's hard for me to see such beautiful people pick themselves apart , it instills that insecurity in myself as well. It's okay to not like everything about yourself, there are people that, without you even knowing.. like those things for you.
You are amazing Sarah. I always loved your content and personality. Every one on TH-cam is changing, nobody cares about being genuine anymore. People just want to use clickbait to make money. I’m so happy you haven’t changed who you are for TH-cam. 💕
I totally get the being a good test taker. Everybody would always be like you are so smart, because I got good grades, but half the time I struggled with understanding what I was learning, I just have a good memory which made taking tests easy for me. I don’t really feel like I’m actually that smart.
This video hits very close to my heart. I’m right there with you. You’re not alone, girl!
I’ve been feeling that whole having trouble thinking I can speak intelligently too. It makes me feel like a bad student, so I can empathize with what that’s like. It’s kinda nice to know that it’s not just a me thing though... Self-esteem issues are a pain. I hope you have more good days soon 🧡
thank you for posting this! you talking through your thoughts helps me figure out similar things im feeling and hopefully helps you as well. i wanted mention something about how youre worried about talking about yourself too much when a friend has a problem, because i worry about that all the time too. i learned that its actually been proven that being empathetic and relating to someone will make them feel better! maybe keep that in mind, because im sure you are a great friend and girlfriend regardless of what your depressive thoughts tell you. and remember, we're in this together!
Basically everything you mentioned resonated with me so much. I feel that we are really similar in regards to our thoughts/behavior which is why I love you and your videos so much. Just know that you're subscribers are here for you, we are subscribed to you because we love you. When you think self critically just remember how far you've come and remember you are not alone. You have people that care about you so much! xoxo
I really sincerely understand what you're talking about. I've had some of the exact same feelings from feeling dumb to not feeling like a good person. It's an awful emotional state to be in
I completely relate to you with irrational fears and uncertainty in a relationship. It's normal. Just know that you are loved just the way you are.
You seriously spoke for me! I agree with every single thing you said. ☹️ It feels like I’m living a nightmare where my soul is in a body I see so ugly. I’m not good enough for anyone
I’m a few years younger than you, but I’ve been having very similar feelings about my identity. I’m currently on my winter break from college, and with anxiety, depression, and lots of time alone, I’ve been struggling. One night while I was trying to shut out the thoughts, I found mental and emotional peace by watching your videos. You may say that you’re not well-spoken, but you have such a way with words that makes it easy for anyone to empathize, relate, and reflect. Whether it’s a sit down talk like this one or a “scripted” video, you have helped me form new opinions/perspectives on so many different topics as well as tackle some of my most irrational feelings and thoughts. Thank you.
Seriously this breaks my heart. I hate seeing you doubt yourself so much. One of the reasons I’m subscribed to you is because you’re so DIFFERENT from all the other youtubers. You’re authentic, and seem so down to earth & I can’t stand fake ass TH-camrs who never have “real” talks or share what’s really going on in their life!
I can relate to this video though & i think it’s so courageous that you’re telling us your fears/feelings. You’re beautiful, you are worthy, you are smart.
The age thing... i can relate. I’m turning 26 this year & i can start seeing small changes... but try not to compare what you’re doing to others (people getting plastic surgery because there’s no comparison)
Sending you hugs Sarah!!!
Xoxo xoxo
I know exactly where you’re coming from. If anything I think your videos have been continually getting better and better and I love watching every single one. It may feel like you’re “not as good” as everyone else but I actually prefer watching your videos because you’re so down to earth and real, I feel like I can relate to you and I love that.
I freakin' loved this video. You were so honest and REAL. So relatable, thanks for making the rest of us feel less alone!
I’ve enjoyed your videos for over half a decade - I struggle with a lot of what you struggle with and I just wanna say that I love u and that you are a valuable person. Your videos have been there during some difficult days in my life. As a girl around your age I feel like I’ve grown up with you and I just wanna say how proud I am at how far you’ve come (from your dental and driving fears to your ability to be honest and raw online). Wishing you the best. 👊🏻💕