“Extremely online people” in my experience are extremely dangerous. I don’t need that in my life. I use the internet to learn, not to peacock, boast, or indulge in pride.
Nice one! I'm terminally online myself. I don't use Twitter or Reddit or Instagram at all, but I do fall into the same trappings with TH-cam. I watch a lot of creators and really admire their ability to put themselves out there and contribute content like you have here. Sometimes I get that feeling of inadequacy for not having the courage / skill to contribute myself. Maybe one day I'll try.
I have studiously avoid twitter unless something I'm interesting is happening in current events but I am thinking facebook has gotten quite sticky (not toxic - just a lot) and increasingly irrelevant ads and suggested content (they're also wanting to dial up the 'engagement' i.e. outrage by trying to hook me with things I definitely disagree with). and let's be real the 'endless lake' ==. k-hole of youtube is also a massive time-suck
I'm on the same page! I recently deleted Instagram and Twitter apps from my mobile and I unfollowed 100% of people on Twitter, adding the ones I am interest in to lists. It helped a bit, but that was not enough to keep myself distant from all the drama. So now I am considering taking a 30 day break! Feels good to know I'm not alone. Enjoy the silence, brother. Enjoy the silence.
Completely agree. I've pulled away from most social media and only check my feeds once or twice a day. Once you get past the FOMO feeling, it is almost scary how much you realize you don't need it and how much time you feel was almost wasted on it.
I relate with this so much! Also I have this constant FOMO thing where everything I do outside work/programming is not enjoyable because I have this fear that it's unproductive. This is crearly not healthy at all and we kinda have to get rid of all this fast-paced environments that our brain cannot handle..
Yes, there’s something in this video. That is revealing the real-world developer’s life instead of hello world. I had this anxiety as a not cool enough developer. I record my vlog telling what I’m worrying about and how I’m stuck. But I know no one is interested. Recently I’m accidentally disconnected from the online developer world. I did feel nervous about losing track of the newest or coolest tech stack and missing the You Should not XXX title videos. However, I never felt so connected to the real world. There are pros and cons of connecting online. It’s just like connecting the nerve with other people so we share the feelings, share what we learned, and also share the anxiety. There are plenty of tech videos but lack this type of video that share honest feelings. It is something I believe developers need. We care too much about logic or algorithms but forget that we are humans, and our feelings matter.
IMO there is a technique to quitting technology for good. When I tried stopping everything cold turkey like pulling out sim cards, unplugging all electronics, etc. I ended up in a pickle trying to explain to friends and family why I was unreachable. So my word of advice to anyone trying to enjoy the physical world, is inform the people that you care about before quitting cold turkey.
Watched to the end and I think it's partly about what we obligate ourselves to do. When I first started my teeny tiny channel I wanted to do a video every week. But then I realised, I have more pressing obligations, so I create stuff only when I want to. I try not to care about it so much. Hope you find some way of maintaining your work and doing the stuff you love.
As a developer on the internet, I too acknowledge the value of not getting sucked into toxic and/or exhausting communities. I salute you and your Twitter hiatus, hope you feel less tired soon mate.
Like you, I'm also chronically online. I find myself that when I can't sleep I watch TH-cam. When I'm at work I spend time reading Reddit or Twitter. Much like others I use the internet as a distraction, but when I see the success of others it makes me feel small about my own. I'm from a small town in Arkansas where most friends, family. I know the most about computers and tech. But it was because I used computers as my escape from the small-mindedness of my area. But, I see your point so much of the internet is toxic. I wish you the best in your hiatus but, also don't let Twitter or others bring you back in and then bring you down.
Thanks for this genuine talk. For me it took a while to internalize that 'building connections' is not always the same as 'staying connected' even though they often overlap. One example is how people can still be best friends even after not staying in contact for years. I've always known this but in practice it is so easy to get caught up staying online and unknowingly become traffic number to social network overlords, and in turn miss out doing other stuff that might have actually mattered.
I'll be staying out... however, I'll be "online" just for people that contribute to my ultimate goal! Learn and enjoy the people who make a difference in my life. Kudos to you Adam!
This is exactly what happened to me when I moved to another country. I stopped streaming for a while, I stopped being on the net so much to prepare everything for the move. When I was in my new home, I felt a disconnection from the things I was doing, and it's hard for me to get back to them. And I don't know if I want to resume them, either. I watched the whole video, it doesn't need a summary. 😂
I'm a cs grad aspired to be a web dev, what's most difficult to me is coping with all that toxic positivity on LinkedIn and other social platforms of people my age and younger than me posting and putting their achievements in your face, projects finished, courses completed, etc.. while I'm reading js books to have strong base before jumping into a framework..
Great content adam, we all feel a little bit like that, I assure you. Just wish you produce more content here, it is really nice the way you are building this
7:06 😂😂 You’re absolutely right… Your videos are just really relaxing lol But yeah, I can totally relate. I’m in the habit of taking periodic breaks off social media where I can be away for up to 2 months sometimes, been doing that for about 2 years now, and everytime I come back, I feel refreshed… Like my mind actually rested during that period. I don’t know why I come back really, maybe deep down I enjoy the noise lol… Whatever it is, we do need to take breaks every now and then.
I think you are so right Adam. Thanks for this video. I'm trapped. Twitter makes you feel all those things you mentioned but It's also the only place in which I have a chance to build a digital audience. Perhaps I'm missing something (probably I am) but I don't see alternatives. It's hard to take breaks from Twitter and still have some engagement.
You’re welcome. We need to talk, we need to listen, to live. I’ve been coding remotely prior to the pandemic and was extremely online since I was younger, I really feel you. I need to do the same.
Loved this video, we need more of this kind of discourse for sure! Publicly talking about this, at least for developers, is really helpful. So many devs are "extremely online" and could really benefit from a bit of a culture correction.
Totally see myself in this, although not Twitter, since I don't use it, and not a community in particular, but it does happen a lot where I feel like I need to know this many frameworks, this many languages, the integrations they have, have this much knowledge on a particular topic, say system administration related or DevOps... And then yeah, comparing myself to someone who does those things, or even worse, multiple people doing each of those things but in my mind it''s like it all comes from one person, and it just feels awful, feels like there's not enough time to learn all of that etc...
I've never been sucked into the Twittersphere, but had been considering it recently. Thanks for helping me remember that at the end of the day, it's all just a bunch of noise and really doesn't matter.
I deleted my Twitter account for 4 months and then made a new one. I wrote more code, had more opportunities, and spoke with more people on discord and hung out with coworkers. You’ve got this, take a break for a bit!
I thoroughly understand the way you feel. We all feel that way from time to time but to be honest, I don't think the internet is the problem. You can hand someone a hammer and they can do useful things with it, as well as smash someone's head. I believe we can reduce the negative impact that the internet can have on us by doing things that make us stay more connected with ourselves. I know it's not easy because I've also been fighting this battle for awhile. Thank you for sharing your feelings about it, I really appreciate it. Keep up with the great content.
It's been about a year since I quit Twitter cold turkey. I mostly don't regret it, other than the fact that I did make a lot of connections that could've potentially helped me out personally or professionally down the line. For the most part, though, Twitter was taking a big toll on my mental health. My feed was full of more successful folks and their side hustles and it just made me feel comparatively inadequate. I constantly felt pressured to keep up with the latest tech news and insert myself into discussions (and write articles) and check notifications for likes, just to stay "relevant" and feel validated. It warped my self esteem and changed how I felt about tech writing. Any sort of extrinsic motivation will do that, though-for example, getting paid to write articles versus writing for the love of the craft or because you're really passionate about a topic. The sad thing is that my online addiction hasn't necessarily improved after quitting-Reddit and TH-cam have just filled that void.
Used to live in the ozarks and have similar thoughts all the time. When I went to college, I noticed my friends from big cities like chicago and new york tended to have higher tolerance for using technology all day. Not sure what that means, but anyways, the cure to doom scrolling for me was establishing a solid morning routine. Make a good breakfast, get some random chores done, go to the gym, etc., all without a phone. It feels super awkward at first, but like after a month it feels weird using your phone as a crutch.
I removed instagram, and cut my twitter time by 80% JUST BECAUSE of this. I also find it tough because if not for twitter/twitch (being extremely online) I'd have never found the community I'm in right now. But I also think there needs to be extremely offline time, and insane balance for you to have fun and not feel horrible. Also +1 on the anxiety part. I need me a loooong vacation offline to get rid of it now feels like
I'm in the same boat as well, Extremely online about 6 month ago, and that's make me not being productive person and i'm kinda feeling guilty about myself, from 6 month ago until now, i'm fully stop playing social media, Specifically on facebook. and i don't think i will comeback soon except i want share something like a moment and then just go again, not scrolling feed for 1 - 2 hours a day, that's a good thing.
100 percent agree. I've also purged myself more and more over the years from social media and ive never had any regrets. Oddly enough to me I've found that there's this bliss in not knowing stuff? (Not just dev) Yeah, it's tricky because natively there is that combat of imposter syndrome in the field and it sucks because it really takes a toll on in certain environments. Ultimately for me, I think we all should just mess up faster - together. Lol I know that's sounds counter intuitive / productive but I feel like time is best spent nowadays by making each other better. Regardless, of the IDE/tech stack water cooler mumbo jumbo I'm sure social media fuels. Let's just make cool shit, share it, learn more and be less bad the next time haha. Appreciate the video
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I just like listening you talk :D I can relate, it's real.
I can relate to this very well, and this is one of the reason I quit Facebook 5 years ago. I think I'll limit my Twitter use in the future too, it'll probably improve my life.
tbh i had to unplug from react shills and fanboys , once stepping into the vue ecosystem my life has been so much easier and less hacky. right now im looking for vue and laravel jobs because i feel that is gonna be better for my mental health. i love this video
I have stayed mostly off twitter last few years and that's helped a lot with my mental health (that and the medication xD) for those who can't stay 100% away, I'd suggest remove the app, always logging out (so you have to login when you want to use it) or even use some read-only client (there's some available) Anyway, relating a lot with tired part, hoping things improve for all of us.
There's toxicity wherever you look, it's the ability to step away from those people who perpetuate it is the long term peace of mind goal. There's safe places on twitter and elsewhere in life. You don't have to get sucked in by it all but I guess everyone's different it can be harder to switch off from that. I do accept I've had to move away from some people online because it's just non-stop from them and it's not healthy for them or anyone else involved long term.
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After 1 year without FB. I do mot miss it at all. I now enjoy the face to face contact. Now, I am planning on deleting twitter and Instagram just because I don't use them as much i dont get anything from those networks that i can value. I totally understand you.
To add, content being served and communicated is optimized for money making, not what may be "better for us" socially. I love learning. I love absorbing information. There's so much amazing things on the internet, but I think very much there is a skewed representation. If you were taking a walk or sitting on the couch doing nothing, you wouldn't have a reason much to share that online.
Love these videos. Let me tell you what I appreciate - you moderately made it, and you don't participate in the buzzword game, because you don't need to.
Man I've been feeling this for a while. A couple years ago I killed my FB account and felt so good about it. Maybe it's time for sending the Twitter account out behind the woodshed also. I'm originally from the Ozarks also!! I wonder if we have any overlap in our network :)
Watched till the end. I do enjoy listening to you talk. One thing that I found to be a decent middle ground between wanting to browse social media like Twitter and abstaining from it is …Mastodon. It doesn’t have an algorithm to keep you engaged, so there are times where you will be bored or uninterested and will naturally stop looking.
The internet is fine. Like food and alcohol, you have to still work out what the right amount is for you and then manage that. If you notice you're having too much of it, then you have to work on that like going on a diet or stopping drinking.
@@adamdotdev For what it's worth, I feel you though! We get caught up on the limitless possibilities of being online and it sucks you in. I think you have to hit the bottom before you realise and start managing it in a way that suits you specifically.
It's crazy how production quality changes the kind of videos you end up watching. I watched the entire thing *exclusively* because the sound and camera quality are amazing. If you were using a crappy mic I'd have closed the tab after the first 5 seconds. What's this syndrome called? PS: message is on point, it's all white noise.
Twitter can be a jungle. You never know what you're going to get. After things changed, it's not the same anymore. My timeline isn't showing me random people related to the content I like seeing anymore. I want to see smaller account's posts and etc.
Mate, don't just think about removing things from your life but also add new things. Get new hobbies, interests, read new stuff (philosophy, psychology, poetry, there's so much cool stuff to read), get out there, maybe some outdoorsy stuff. Cheers, and I wish you the best!
what he says to do is that you don't have to - just get more disciplined and cut down work to being online 4-6 hrs a day - get some local side gigs - twitter sucks - start your own mastadon server and get some admins - invest more in yourself and not other people's ideas
Sam Harris had a similar experience after quitting twitter, but applies to most social media. Pointless drama and attention grabbing will have serious mental health consequences given enough time
To dive further into this, but i don't feel like the internet was like this 10-15 years ago (even with sites like Myspace and other niche social platforms). But I think the dark UX that have are applied in these apps exacerbate all these things you speak about here.
You should talk to Andrew McLuhan, his grandfather was Marshall McLuhan and has a LOT to say about the dangers of the internet that you mention. #MediumIsTheMessage
Iam totally fine without Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and TikTok, never missed them, never will. You just have to actively look for new possibilities then, otherwise you will miss one or the other Javascript framework (oh no :D) And you should be just as careful with TH-cam, not necessarily as a creator, but as a consumer.
"Don't be on the internet, is bad for you" might be the wrong way to phrase "avoid excess". I'm on Reddit/ Twitter/ IG, but not for the karma/ discussions/ interactions like I used to, which was toxic. I'm there for the break, for the memes, or for reserch purposes (Reddit is Google's right hand at this point). You should be on internet for the break, but if you're on a break from the internet, that just means you might be dealing with either excess or the wrong focus/ use of the platforms. It's hard to change the perspective of social media, but once you accept what's bad for you, you don't ditch internet, you ditch bad behaviour for yourself. ...or just take trips regularly, as devs can't really "quit" haha.
I think twitter is more of an american site. Here in Europe it basically has no relevance. Of the little time I spent on twitter it has been horrible tho- must delete app
“Extremely online people” in my experience are extremely dangerous. I don’t need that in my life. I use the internet to learn, not to peacock, boast, or indulge in pride.
How often do you spend online, as a Developer?
Nice one! I'm terminally online myself. I don't use Twitter or Reddit or Instagram at all, but I do fall into the same trappings with TH-cam. I watch a lot of creators and really admire their ability to put themselves out there and contribute content like you have here. Sometimes I get that feeling of inadequacy for not having the courage / skill to contribute myself. Maybe one day I'll try.
Yeah I hear you dude. I watch lots of YT software devs and admire their courage and energy.
Oof man I relate to this.
Same. Guys like Theo and ThePrimeagen are my favorites but goddamn. I compare myself to them way too much for my own good.
@@datboi1861 yeah nothing like a bit of imposter syndrome when you compare yourself with other smart people.
same dude, same
Twitter is just non stop…spending a week away detoxing from the phone was the best thing I’ve ever done.
Twitter is nothing but toxicity. No sense using it whatsoever.
“Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt
I have studiously avoid twitter unless something I'm interesting is happening in current events but I am thinking facebook has gotten quite sticky (not toxic - just a lot) and increasingly irrelevant ads and suggested content (they're also wanting to dial up the 'engagement' i.e. outrage by trying to hook me with things I definitely disagree with). and let's be real the 'endless lake' ==. k-hole of youtube is also a massive time-suck
on the plus side at least I avoided TikTok brain!!!
I'm on the same page! I recently deleted Instagram and Twitter apps from my mobile and I unfollowed 100% of people on Twitter, adding the ones I am interest in to lists. It helped a bit, but that was not enough to keep myself distant from all the drama. So now I am considering taking a 30 day break! Feels good to know I'm not alone. Enjoy the silence, brother. Enjoy the silence.
Completely agree. I've pulled away from most social media and only check my feeds once or twice a day. Once you get past the FOMO feeling, it is almost scary how much you realize you don't need it and how much time you feel was almost wasted on it.
I relate with this so much! Also I have this constant FOMO thing where everything I do outside work/programming is not enjoyable because I have this fear that it's unproductive. This is crearly not healthy at all and we kinda have to get rid of all this fast-paced environments that our brain cannot handle..
Ig I like listening to you talking xD
Your videos have a nice vibe and you're one of the few youtubers that I keep watching their videos until the end
Yes, there’s something in this video. That is revealing the real-world developer’s life instead of hello world.
I had this anxiety as a not cool enough developer. I record my vlog telling what I’m worrying about and how I’m stuck. But I know no one is interested.
Recently I’m accidentally disconnected from the online developer world. I did feel nervous about losing track of the newest or coolest tech stack and missing the You Should not XXX title videos. However, I never felt so connected to the real world.
There are pros and cons of connecting online. It’s just like connecting the nerve with other people so we share the feelings, share what we learned, and also share the anxiety.
There are plenty of tech videos but lack this type of video that share honest feelings. It is something I believe developers need. We care too much about logic or algorithms but forget that we are humans, and our feelings matter.
IMO there is a technique to quitting technology for good. When I tried stopping everything cold turkey like pulling out sim cards, unplugging all electronics, etc. I ended up in a pickle trying to explain to friends and family why I was unreachable. So my word of advice to anyone trying to enjoy the physical world, is inform the people that you care about before quitting cold turkey.
Watched to the end and I think it's partly about what we obligate ourselves to do. When I first started my teeny tiny channel I wanted to do a video every week. But then I realised, I have more pressing obligations, so I create stuff only when I want to. I try not to care about it so much. Hope you find some way of maintaining your work and doing the stuff you love.
As a developer on the internet, I too acknowledge the value of not getting sucked into toxic and/or exhausting communities.
I salute you and your Twitter hiatus, hope you feel less tired soon mate.
Like you, I'm also chronically online. I find myself that when I can't sleep I watch TH-cam. When I'm at work I spend time reading Reddit or Twitter. Much like others I use the internet as a distraction, but when I see the success of others it makes me feel small about my own. I'm from a small town in Arkansas where most friends, family. I know the most about computers and tech. But it was because I used computers as my escape from the small-mindedness of my area. But, I see your point so much of the internet is toxic. I wish you the best in your hiatus but, also don't let Twitter or others bring you back in and then bring you down.
Thanks for this genuine talk. For me it took a while to internalize that 'building connections' is not always the same as 'staying connected' even though they often overlap. One example is how people can still be best friends even after not staying in contact for years. I've always known this but in practice it is so easy to get caught up staying online and unknowingly become traffic number to social network overlords, and in turn miss out doing other stuff that might have actually mattered.
I'll be staying out... however, I'll be "online" just for people that contribute to my ultimate goal! Learn and enjoy the people who make a difference in my life. Kudos to you Adam!
This is exactly what happened to me when I moved to another country. I stopped streaming for a while, I stopped being on the net so much to prepare everything for the move. When I was in my new home, I felt a disconnection from the things I was doing, and it's hard for me to get back to them. And I don't know if I want to resume them, either.
I watched the whole video, it doesn't need a summary. 😂
"extremely online crowd, and I'm not sure if I want to go back" => makes youtube video
I'm a cs grad aspired to be a web dev, what's most difficult to me is coping with all that toxic positivity on LinkedIn and other social platforms of people my age and younger than me posting and putting their achievements in your face, projects finished, courses completed, etc.. while I'm reading js books to have strong base before jumping into a framework..
Great content adam, we all feel a little bit like that, I assure you. Just wish you produce more content here, it is really nice the way you are building this
7:06 😂😂
You’re absolutely right… Your videos are just really relaxing lol
But yeah, I can totally relate. I’m in the habit of taking periodic breaks off social media where I can be away for up to 2 months sometimes, been doing that for about 2 years now, and everytime I come back, I feel refreshed… Like my mind actually rested during that period. I don’t know why I come back really, maybe deep down I enjoy the noise lol… Whatever it is, we do need to take breaks every now and then.
love your honesty in your latest videos. i see myself in those situations and it’s like i finally understand what is going on inside my head
I think you are so right Adam. Thanks for this video.
I'm trapped. Twitter makes you feel all those things you mentioned but It's also the only place in which I have a chance to build a digital audience. Perhaps I'm missing something (probably I am) but I don't see alternatives. It's hard to take breaks from Twitter and still have some engagement.
You’re welcome. We need to talk, we need to listen, to live. I’ve been coding remotely prior to the pandemic and was extremely online since I was younger, I really feel you. I need to do the same.
I think this is great! thanks for sharing. I’m started to feel that way lately about Twitter
Loved this video, we need more of this kind of discourse for sure!
Publicly talking about this, at least for developers, is really helpful. So many devs are "extremely online" and could really benefit from a bit of a culture correction.
Totally see myself in this, although not Twitter, since I don't use it, and not a community in particular, but it does happen a lot where I feel like I need to know this many frameworks, this many languages, the integrations they have, have this much knowledge on a particular topic, say system administration related or DevOps... And then yeah, comparing myself to someone who does those things, or even worse, multiple people doing each of those things but in my mind it''s like it all comes from one person, and it just feels awful, feels like there's not enough time to learn all of that etc...
I've never been sucked into the Twittersphere, but had been considering it recently. Thanks for helping me remember that at the end of the day, it's all just a bunch of noise and really doesn't matter.
I deleted my Twitter account for 4 months and then made a new one. I wrote more code, had more opportunities, and spoke with more people on discord and hung out with coworkers. You’ve got this, take a break for a bit!
I thoroughly understand the way you feel. We all feel that way from time to time but to be honest, I don't think the internet is the problem. You can hand someone a hammer and they can do useful things with it, as well as smash someone's head.
I believe we can reduce the negative impact that the internet can have on us by doing things that make us stay more connected with ourselves. I know it's not easy because I've also been fighting this battle for awhile. Thank you for sharing your feelings about it, I really appreciate it. Keep up with the great content.
It's been about a year since I quit Twitter cold turkey. I mostly don't regret it, other than the fact that I did make a lot of connections that could've potentially helped me out personally or professionally down the line. For the most part, though, Twitter was taking a big toll on my mental health. My feed was full of more successful folks and their side hustles and it just made me feel comparatively inadequate. I constantly felt pressured to keep up with the latest tech news and insert myself into discussions (and write articles) and check notifications for likes, just to stay "relevant" and feel validated. It warped my self esteem and changed how I felt about tech writing. Any sort of extrinsic motivation will do that, though-for example, getting paid to write articles versus writing for the love of the craft or because you're really passionate about a topic.
The sad thing is that my online addiction hasn't necessarily improved after quitting-Reddit and TH-cam have just filled that void.
Used to live in the ozarks and have similar thoughts all the time. When I went to college, I noticed my friends from big cities like chicago and new york tended to have higher tolerance for using technology all day. Not sure what that means, but anyways, the cure to doom scrolling for me was establishing a solid morning routine. Make a good breakfast, get some random chores done, go to the gym, etc., all without a phone. It feels super awkward at first, but like after a month it feels weird using your phone as a crutch.
I removed instagram, and cut my twitter time by 80% JUST BECAUSE of this. I also find it tough because if not for twitter/twitch (being extremely online) I'd have never found the community I'm in right now. But I also think there needs to be extremely offline time, and insane balance for you to have fun and not feel horrible.
Also +1 on the anxiety part. I need me a loooong vacation offline to get rid of it now feels like
I like listening to you talk :)
Great video, thank you :)
I'm in the same boat as well, Extremely online about 6 month ago, and that's make me not being productive person and i'm kinda feeling guilty about myself, from 6 month ago until now, i'm fully stop playing social media, Specifically on facebook. and i don't think i will comeback soon except i want share something like a moment and then just go again, not scrolling feed for 1 - 2 hours a day, that's a good thing.
100 percent agree. I've also purged myself more and more over the years from social media and ive never had any regrets.
Oddly enough to me I've found that there's this bliss in not knowing stuff? (Not just dev) Yeah, it's tricky because natively there is that combat of imposter syndrome in the field and it sucks because it really takes a toll on in certain environments.
Ultimately for me, I think we all should just mess up faster - together. Lol I know that's sounds counter intuitive / productive but I feel like time is best spent nowadays by making each other better. Regardless, of the IDE/tech stack water cooler mumbo jumbo I'm sure social media fuels.
Let's just make cool shit, share it, learn more and be less bad the next time haha.
Appreciate the video
I just like listening you talk :D I can relate, it's real.
Even though I do not financially support you I do appreciate your insights, "also the fact that you're not selling me anything"
Please always continue to be yourself, although the numbers, "hopefully not financially" will make it hard
Genuine video, really refreshing
I can relate to this very well, and this is one of the reason I quit Facebook 5 years ago. I think I'll limit my Twitter use in the future too, it'll probably improve my life.
tbh i had to unplug from react shills and fanboys , once stepping into the vue ecosystem my life has been so much easier and less hacky. right now im looking for vue and laravel jobs because i feel that is gonna be better for my mental health. i love this video
I have stayed mostly off twitter last few years and that's helped a lot with my mental health (that and the medication xD)
for those who can't stay 100% away, I'd suggest remove the app, always logging out (so you have to login when you want to use it) or even use some read-only client (there's some available)
Anyway, relating a lot with tired part, hoping things improve for all of us.
There's toxicity wherever you look, it's the ability to step away from those people who perpetuate it is the long term peace of mind goal. There's safe places on twitter and elsewhere in life. You don't have to get sucked in by it all but I guess everyone's different it can be harder to switch off from that. I do accept I've had to move away from some people online because it's just non-stop from them and it's not healthy for them or anyone else involved long term.
After 1 year without FB. I do mot miss it at all. I now enjoy the face to face contact. Now, I am planning on deleting twitter and Instagram just because I don't use them as much i dont get anything from those networks that i can value. I totally understand you.
To add, content being served and communicated is optimized for money making, not what may be "better for us" socially. I love learning. I love absorbing information. There's so much amazing things on the internet, but I think very much there is a skewed representation. If you were taking a walk or sitting on the couch doing nothing, you wouldn't have a reason much to share that online.
Such a unique take
Love these videos. Let me tell you what I appreciate - you moderately made it, and you don't participate in the buzzword game, because you don't need to.
Loved this video man! Enjoyed hearing your thoughts about this. I totally agree btw. Also, is that diorama houses in the background?
This great advice something to reflect on my current suitation using too much instagram no a days and also twitter. Need to disconnect for a bit
It can definitely be exhausting. The non-stop stream of new tools to learn and other FOMO is a lot 😅
Man I've been feeling this for a while. A couple years ago I killed my FB account and felt so good about it. Maybe it's time for sending the Twitter account out behind the woodshed also.
I'm originally from the Ozarks also!! I wonder if we have any overlap in our network :)
Watched till the end. I do enjoy listening to you talk. One thing that I found to be a decent middle ground between wanting to browse social media like Twitter and abstaining from it is …Mastodon. It doesn’t have an algorithm to keep you engaged, so there are times where you will be bored or uninterested and will naturally stop looking.
As always, enjoy everything in moderation, and you're more likely to be fine.
07:04 you damn right. I mean, I like your content in general but your voice is soothing but not in a weird way😂
thats why i stopped using social networks 15 years back
Browsing Twitter as I listen to this in the background...
Great video, I relate to this a lot
It’s addiction, physically and psychologically addictive to get that dopamine hit.
the struggle is real.
The internet is fine. Like food and alcohol, you have to still work out what the right amount is for you and then manage that. If you notice you're having too much of it, then you have to work on that like going on a diet or stopping drinking.
great take!
Yeah for sure man, moderation is key. I guess that applies in more than one way on the Wild Wild Web.
@@adamdotdev For what it's worth, I feel you though! We get caught up on the limitless possibilities of being online and it sucks you in. I think you have to hit the bottom before you realise and start managing it in a way that suits you specifically.
It's crazy how production quality changes the kind of videos you end up watching. I watched the entire thing *exclusively* because the sound and camera quality are amazing. If you were using a crappy mic I'd have closed the tab after the first 5 seconds. What's this syndrome called? PS: message is on point, it's all white noise.
Twitter can be a jungle. You never know what you're going to get. After things changed, it's not the same anymore. My timeline isn't showing me random people related to the content I like seeing anymore. I want to see smaller account's posts and etc.
Great video.
I feel you bro 100%
Left Twitter, and while I'm still terminally online, I feel much better because it was so toxic.
Well said
Hey at lest you can retune. Imagine living in NYC and trying to tune out.
Liking your videos 👌
same with me, you are not alone, its okay #LoL
I just played the entire video to help with the algorithm, but yes this was a ramble video 😂
how is living in the ozarks?
Mate, don't just think about removing things from your life but also add new things. Get new hobbies, interests, read new stuff (philosophy, psychology, poetry, there's so much cool stuff to read), get out there, maybe some outdoorsy stuff. Cheers, and I wish you the best!
what he says to do is that you don't have to - just get more disciplined and cut down work to being online 4-6 hrs a day - get some local side gigs - twitter sucks - start your own mastadon server and get some admins - invest more in yourself and not other people's ideas
Sam Harris had a similar experience after quitting twitter, but applies to most social media. Pointless drama and attention grabbing will have serious mental health consequences given enough time
To dive further into this, but i don't feel like the internet was like this 10-15 years ago (even with sites like Myspace and other niche social platforms). But I think the dark UX that have are applied in these apps exacerbate all these things you speak about here.
yeah, spending too much time on reddit is literally making me miserable. I need a break
it almost ruined my life my last year as my last hihghschool year i just amost failed it and smoking and porn addiction too
basically "thanks for watching! But don't come back".
Totally get what you mean Adam! Since some weeks, I just visit twitter once a day and for the rest of the day I say fu twitter, don't waste my time!
You should talk to Andrew McLuhan, his grandfather was Marshall McLuhan and has a LOT to say about the dangers of the internet that you mention. #MediumIsTheMessage
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IOTA - an extremely small amount.
Iam totally fine without Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and TikTok, never missed them, never will. You just have to actively look for new possibilities then, otherwise you will miss one or the other Javascript framework (oh no :D) And you should be just as careful with TH-cam, not necessarily as a creator, but as a consumer.
I knew you from twitter
"Don't be on the internet, is bad for you" might be the wrong way to phrase "avoid excess".
I'm on Reddit/ Twitter/ IG, but not for the karma/ discussions/ interactions like I used to, which was toxic.
I'm there for the break, for the memes, or for reserch purposes (Reddit is Google's right hand at this point). You should be on internet for the break, but if you're on a break from the internet, that just means you might be dealing with either excess or the wrong focus/ use of the platforms.
It's hard to change the perspective of social media, but once you accept what's bad for you, you don't ditch internet, you ditch bad behaviour for yourself.
...or just take trips regularly, as devs can't really "quit" haha.
but the ASMR girls are great....seriously.....they chill me out.
What's your story? You seem to be a religious guy (I am religious too)
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Summary: touch grass
I think twitter is more of an american site. Here in Europe it basically has no relevance.
Of the little time I spent on twitter it has been horrible tho- must delete app
I watched now a lot of videos of you. Seems you are in a life cricis. You should talkwith a good friend about it.
first!
You just need a wife and a baby to disturb you constantly every hour, then you will need some private time! 😆
delete twitter & reddit, the problem is solved🙃
I hate twitter 🧵
All the marketing / guru bullshit. The “for you” tab is hell on earth
“For you” is soooo bad on Twitter 😅