This is a very good example of what not to do when ending with a client. It feels uncomfortable, the counsellor is not holding the space empathically... there's no flow. The consellor's energy almost feels confrontational rather than gently probing/challenging. The counsellor saying: "you seem upset" is so off cue it comes across as condescending. The client is clearly angry and feeling abandoned, bring it into the room! I understand this is role play, but the instruction here is not what I would advise. The questions need to be far more open to begin with even the most basic open questions, such as:- "Tell me what's going on for you right now..." "Do you want to say more about that?..." "What words or thoughts come up for you as we begin to discuss ending?..." And sit in that uncomfortable silence and help the client to get in touch with and process her feelings. You can ask if discussing ending reminds her of any past memories or fears. There are so so many ways to open this up to explore her feelings in an environment of sharing, rather than this tight, rigid dialogue of few words.
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I think this conversation is fine and is giving the client the opportunity to voice how she feels. She clearly needs help working towards greater autonomy before ending.
Read some of the comments here about therapist being a bit aloof. I can see a bit why people would say that, but also regardless of role play we dont see all the stages of the relation built prior. The therapist feels very comfortable with challenging and that can come from dev of unique relationship over time.
Interesting that one would find it standoffish. I'm from the US myself and the therapist seems completely fine to me. For one, the way the client is sitting doesn't seem to me to be inviting for the therapist to sit any closer. In that way the therapist is showing respect for physical boundaries. For another, this is a professional, therapeutic relationship, not a social one or anything like that. Therefore I find her positioning to be very appropriate. For myself she seems very genuine.
The client feels abandoned and is doing her best to passive aggressively slow down the death of her relationship with the counsellor. I’m not a fan of how her words say that she won’t come next week with bravado, but her eyes and tone say that she wants the counsellor to say, “Actually, let’s not end counselling.” Unpleasant because I know people like this in my life. At the same time, I have empathy for the client. She feels she is losing a precious aspect of her life, and no one likes losing something good.
How frustrating that in order to see this through we have to 'purchase' the ending. I've bought enough in relation to my course on counselling skills so I suppose I'll find it there, this is cheeky though. As for the helper in this video I disagree with the majority that she's doing wrong. Her sitting back comfortably with her legs crossed clearly shows comfort toward her client whom she has, if you were paying attention, clearly been seeing for several + sessions. Further more her acknowledgement of her helpee's expression and responses are profound, how is this being missed and construed as 'funny looks' or lacking empathy?
What a load of bollucks regarding her legs crossed ....bad body language, she was softly spoken & relaxed, not corporate ,she maintained eye contact & kept her distance............excellent
okaaaaaayyyy... i dont think i want to have her as my counsellor.. she doesnt make me feel comfortable at all just by looking at her face =s shes kind of intimidating! ANDshe crossed her leg! her body slopped down to the chair.. didnt even sat up straight and she had her hands clasp together!
This counselor is pants. She sits there laid back with her legs crossed. The client is sitting better. The counselor is hopeless. I would never speak to a client like this. 'Did you want to keep coming ad infinitum?? What a lousy thing to say!
Therapist’s office is not entertainment centre. And confrontation is one of the most important techniques to raise awareness of clients. All of us are hearing some inconvenient words in our daily life. And one of the most important duties of a therapist is to prepare his/her client to this world. If you do already a good job with your clients, you don’t need to beware while you confront.
@@siyabendk6400I think the main issue people are picking up on is her lack of empathy and her not at least validating the feelings the client is expressing. Ending any relationship, including a therapeutic one, brings up many complex emotions and can be very hard for some people and this needs to at least be acknowledged and validated.
This is a very good example of what not to do when ending with a client.
It feels uncomfortable, the counsellor is not holding the space empathically... there's no flow. The consellor's energy almost feels confrontational rather than gently probing/challenging.
The counsellor saying: "you seem upset" is so off cue it comes across as condescending. The client is clearly angry and feeling abandoned, bring it into the room!
I understand this is role play, but the instruction here is not what I would advise.
The questions need to be far more open to begin with even the most basic open questions, such as:-
"Tell me what's going on for you right now..."
"Do you want to say more about that?..."
"What words or thoughts come up for you as we begin to discuss ending?..."
And sit in that uncomfortable silence and help the client to get in touch with and process her feelings.
You can ask if discussing ending reminds her of any past memories or fears.
There are so so many ways to open this up to explore her feelings in an environment of sharing, rather than this tight, rigid dialogue of few words.
Dear The Counselling Channel, I would like to say, thank you, to you, for taking the time, energy and effort to both upload and share this video with the youtube family. Thank You!
I think this conversation is fine and is giving the client the opportunity to voice how she feels. She clearly needs help working towards greater autonomy before ending.
Read some of the comments here about therapist being a bit aloof. I can see a bit why people would say that, but also regardless of role play we dont see all the stages of the relation built prior. The therapist feels very comfortable with challenging and that can come from dev of unique relationship over time.
Interesting that one would find it standoffish. I'm from the US myself and the therapist seems completely fine to me. For one, the way the client is sitting doesn't seem to me to be inviting for the therapist to sit any closer. In that way the therapist is showing respect for physical boundaries. For another, this is a professional, therapeutic relationship, not a social one or anything like that. Therefore I find her positioning to be very appropriate. For myself she seems very genuine.
The client feels abandoned and is doing her best to passive aggressively slow down the death of her relationship with the counsellor. I’m not a fan of how her words say that she won’t come next week with bravado, but her eyes and tone say that she wants the counsellor to say, “Actually, let’s not end counselling.” Unpleasant because I know people like this in my life. At the same time, I have empathy for the client. She feels she is losing a precious aspect of her life, and no one likes losing something good.
Interesting and insightful video.
How frustrating that in order to see this through we have to 'purchase' the ending. I've bought enough in relation to my course on counselling skills so I suppose I'll find it there, this is cheeky though.
As for the helper in this video I disagree with the majority that she's doing wrong. Her sitting back comfortably with her legs crossed clearly shows comfort toward her client whom she has, if you were paying attention, clearly been seeing for several + sessions.
Further more her acknowledgement of her helpee's expression and responses are profound, how is this being missed and construed as 'funny looks' or lacking empathy?
What a load of bollucks regarding her legs crossed ....bad body language, she was softly spoken & relaxed, not corporate ,she maintained eye contact & kept her distance............excellent
The client seems very agitated at the thought of ending. The counsellor doesn't seem to notice this.
The therapist should normally have educated the client about endings..
the counsellor's body language isn't very approachable and she her tone doesn't come across as very friendly.
The counselor is taking a very interestingly passive and almost judgmental approach. Not how I’d do it, that’s for sure lol
okaaaaaayyyy... i dont think i want to have her as my counsellor.. she doesnt make me feel comfortable at all just by looking at her face =s shes kind of intimidating! ANDshe crossed her leg! her body slopped down to the chair.. didnt even sat up straight and she had her hands clasp together!
I agree with you ⭐️
This counselor is pants. She sits there laid back with her legs crossed. The client is sitting better. The counselor is hopeless. I would never speak to a client like this. 'Did you want to keep coming ad infinitum?? What a lousy thing to say!
Therapist’s office is not entertainment centre. And confrontation is one of the most important techniques to raise awareness of clients. All of us are hearing some inconvenient words in our daily life. And one of the most important duties of a therapist is to prepare his/her client to this world. If you do already a good job with your clients, you don’t need to beware while you confront.
@@siyabendk6400I think the main issue people are picking up on is her lack of empathy and her not at least validating the feelings the client is expressing. Ending any relationship, including a therapeutic one, brings up many complex emotions and can be very hard for some people and this needs to at least be acknowledged and validated.
Yeah...she doesn't want you to not come back because then she doesn't get anymore money.