My mom gave me the "they're just jealous" line, and looking back, she was right. You don't realize most bullies are just jealous losers until you're an adult.
I’m a housewife. Most of my friends are high powered women (doctors, nurses, heads of non-profits/city council members). We learn from each other, cheer each other on and we’re all girls girls. Those “haters” lack self-worth and can’t even see their own potential. But I’m in my 30s now and do not tolerate negative whiners. Like stop. If you’re unwilling to take a step towards what you want in life, don’t hate on the women who run towards their own dreams. It’s soul sucking.
You're so right we can get along when the women love themselves . there is no competition , we compliment exactly , build each other up. we are unique and amazing all in our own way .
@@qosaghcalnan1045 I think we all compete, it's human nature but the feeling to compete should be less compared to the inspiration the person makes you feel. If my mind is in competition mode towards a girl or a man, they can't be my friends or lovers
Yeh, a lot of the "divide" is media-created. I've been a broker on good money in of London (square mile) , at home with small children, now I'm working ft again but no pressure. I feel like I understand all angles! What annoys me is the myth that we are pitted against each other.
I REALLY NEEDED THIS. As a spoiled girlie I was told I’m weird for having acquaintances and not calling every single person I meet a friend, like I have standards for a reason 💅
This is such a thing in american culture to call some guy u laugh with at work at work a friend, or the bartender at the bar you always frequent, or some person you sorta hung out with twice "my friend". Like, those ppl are not your friend, they barely even actually know you. You cannot just throw that word around. I do love when an acquaintance says "we're not friends?" Lol if u dont have my address, my phone number, or we never met up irl just to hang, correct, we are not friends 😒
I’m tearing up because I never thought anyone else felt this way. I always loved fashion, was a ray of sunshine, smiling and loving on people and it felt like other women always had a problem with me especially close friends. I never understood why and started thinking I was the problem to where I completely censored myself so that I don’t look like I’m bragging or I think I’m better than others. I removed the light from it being on me to other people and man it feels miserable because I’m not being myself. I’m so happy for this video, thank you!
Ohh my god we share the same passion of fashion we and I know how it feels.Hope it gets better for you now that you understand it. I think we should definitely be friends ❤
I am so sorry for what you been through. People are just envious because they themselves lost that part of themselves meanwhile you continue to be radiant and confident and that bothers them. I hope you continue to be yourself. Don’t let spiteful people take away your light
Yesterday i learned that a guy in the local music scene is a serial abuser thanks to gossip. He has been sexually abusing women for 20+ years. But of course getting men held accountable is almost impossible so as women we HAVE to gossip in order to warn potential future victims.
Yes discreet info sharing also revealed to me abusive behavior from certain state senators. I worked as a lobbyist and other ladies would warn me about people (mostly nasty men but also some nasty women). And I’ve in turned shared my info with them. Bc people may only reveal their true colors in select situations and they pretend / wear a mask. That way you know who to avoid being alone in a room with and who to expect will be a total egotist when working on a project. You can also know how to use flattery on these narcissists to navigate their bad behavior and win out in the end. But if you treat a narcissist like a regular caring person, you get bit in the ass.
that's not gossip. That's the secret survival strategy that women instinctively engage in since forever. Talking shit about your best girl friend and her new bf every chance you get for a year solid, to people who don't even know the other person? That's gossip and it's toxic. ❤
Yes, when i left an abusive man he abused me through the courts and my first solicitor told me it was "important my daughter didn't become a man-hater". I was shocked he confused my reports on the behaviour of one man, to me, as mere man-hating... as years rolled by I continued to ponder his ridiculous comment and that he never said to my x, make sure your son doesn't hate women. Society makes it hard to be heard.
There's gossip and there is crap talking. Very different things. One is "Did you hear that Tim has been cheating on Shelly for 30 years? And the other is "Did you see Shelly's hair? It looks terrible." I also believe that if you gossip about people, especially friends, you should also have the guts to tell those things to that person's face. Not just behind their back. Like you would tell Shelly that Tim is cheating. Not just tell other people. Otherwise it is just unhelpful and disrespectful gossip.
Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. There is a difference between spreading rumors, gossip, slander, hate and a solid warning. Warning: “Hey, that man is on the sex offenders registry..you should do some research.” Gossip: “oh my, I heard from a friend of a friend who once talked to someone that a guy she dated once is a serial-dater and cannot commit. I think he was abused as a child. Such a loser.” Hate can harm even innocent people. I don’t know the man you heard about but there are a lot of men who are punished by scornful women and a lot of women who are tarnished by damaged men. Hurt people hurt people but without proof and evidence it’s all hearsay say and it’s our job to find our own insight. As for dangerous men (and women) they should always be held accountable by the LAW!! If it is a legal offense, like a narcissist..it is others job to figure those people out. Some might call some a name just because they didn’t get what they wanted. Smear Campaigns are a real thing too and usually are followed by gossip. Food for thought.
"A lot of people don't deserve you." Thank you for this! I tried so hard to be nice and friendly to a new neighbor who didn't reciprocate anything. I eventually moved on (after feeling bad about it), and had to remind myself not just to try too hard with people just bc of proximity.
FAKE AF! I like to call that the Regina George effect! I wish their was these type of communities for spoiled girly when I was younger. I would have avoided those types of so called girls sooner. My boundaries were not strong enough for me to walk away immediately unfortunately.
This is actually one of the reasons why I have very few friends and also why that people before I go on dates with them. One dude legit got upset I wasn't into him when I literally told him day one this wasn't romantic or sexual and he wasn't going to be my bestie either. He actually had the audacity to say in front of me that I'm too much for other ppl and it's going to be hard for me to find a romantic interest but he understands me so I should really date him 🤨😐. He then proceeded to say he should have the right to personally meet the boys I'm interested in before dating them, as in he should vet them 😐. I was like, "sir you are not my father and I am not your teenager daughter and I choose who I date and who's in my life". I digress, rant over but yes don't trust ppl who say they like you while complaining about every little thing that makes you, you.
Spoiled girly soul sisters recognize one another by our bright lights. In our best life era and happy for one another. Keep shining gorgeous souls.✨️💕👑
I am so sick of having to make myself small so as not to make others around me feel comfortable. I need to be the least interesting, well-travelled, cultured, sexy and intelligent person in the room. Not the most.
I fell out of my last friend group because of several reasons, the main being I am "too much" for them. I was always trying to better my life and called out the toxicity within the group of highly anxious and depressed people. It wore on me that my voice was steadily being suppressed in favor of others and I started losing myself. I will forever be grateful for the hardships that led me to move away from them and start to rebuild my inner light. Now, I hope to find my people who aren't intimidated by my passion and who will celebrate my successes with me while I celebrate theirs.
I don't have a great history with female friendships and I think it has to do with me always becoming friends due to them coming to me and then placing me in the position as their closest/best friend. I have never actively approached women and tried to make friends so I end up dealing with women who use me, get really possessive, pretend we are exactly the same(I am not allowed to have my own ideas without them claiming we did it and thought it), and I think enjoy seeing me at my lowest in comparison to them. No more! New day! REFRESH
oh my god i’ve experienced the exact same thing….them being possessive and “pretending were exactly the same” is sooo specific 😭😭like my god it pissed me off so bad
Yes a lot of times girls get extremely clingy with me, I don't mind it because I am introverted and clingy people kinda keep me social but then I get drained off with them talking so much and I need to go off to other introverted people 😅. Others are fine tho
Girl - I have an acquaintance who was telling people at a party that we are best friends from high school. She doesn’t know ANYTHING about me. We were a grade a part in school! We’ve hung out a couple times and go to each others parties like 1-2x per year. We’re not friends 😭 I’ve had several bad friendships before which makes me VERY selective on who is in my inner circle. I’d rather have NO friends or 1-2 besties than a bunch of people draining me all day.
“You are the top tier friend” omg tell me why I just got out of therapy and we spoke about how I was so scared to pour into ppl now because I tend to pour out 100% and ppl just walk away…..bcuz those aren’t my ppl 💡✨ Yes because I give soooo much , I deserve reciprocation OMG Elle!!! Thank you !!!!
It’s actually sad how more women have caused me to cry than men. The fact that I’ve had bad experiences in the past with some manipulative men. Yet I’ve had been more hurt by women who are just mean. And unfortunately that toxicity is infectious. I was a mean girl too at one point. I’m so done with that. I just want to be a light. Be in my feminine and love those around me. Thank you Elle for your beauty and light
6 1/2 mins in, the bit about let's not glorify being unwell reminds me of this song called Get Well by Icon For Hire. It's about being fed up with being unwell and trying to get better. That's the vibe tbh.
I have been through all that . I still remeber when I had a happy trip and traveled to another country , as a spoiled girly , and when I came back to my country I could feel it how unhappy my " close friends " were . and instead of cutting this " fake friendship " what I did is that I tried to hide all happy detailes about my travel . and they didn't even ask me ... Today I understand everything , and so sorry for old me , It will never happen again , And I will never make haters close anymore .
This just came out in the right time. I had just broken up with a friend and that sucks. She just isn’t as in the same vibration as me and I’ve realised that it is time to let go of this.
@@Elisabetta886 we will get through this ✊🏽. I spend more time with family now. I have decided to focus my energy on building myself & my hobbies. New friends will come along the way. Have faith it will get better for us😊🩵
Going back in time I feel so weird about my mother. She dressed me badly, she did not care that I was getting fat and I get along with her better now that I am divorced. I don't want it to be that she is jealous of me, but sometimes it does feel that way
Elle, you are absolutely HEALING ME and my biggest thrauma from high school, I hope you know that you are such a powerful HEALER and you shine so bright. I was heavily bullied in high school by both insecure boys and girls and people made attempts to destroy my reputation multiple multiple times. At the time this tortured me and my soul so much, I thought - whattttttt is wrong with me, what am I doing wrong. THANK YOU for telling me IT FINALLY CLICKED IN MY BRAIN just TODAYYY at 23 years old that THEY WERE JEALOUSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
i had the same experience. it was one of the most painful things to experience and i’ll never forget the things that were done to me but i’ve moved on to live my best spoiled life. nobody would be living to bring you down unless you were a threat to them or made them feel insecure. i mean if that’s you in your profile pic .. enough said! people feel intensely triggered by beautiful women who are also beautiful inside. remember that’s just people though. the universe loves us and will always bless us so long as we remain good hearted. so many people are missing out on blessings all cuz they can’t fix their nasty attitudes. you almost have to be glad they didn’t wanna be your friends cuz nothing blocks blessings like having stagnant, low vibrational people in your circle. stay blessed and beautiful 🩷
@@lasantuzza777 Thank you for the beautiful comment, lovely 🩷 You made me smile 🫶🏼 May you always stay this beautiful and may all of us spoiled girlies here continue to be blessed 🌟
Are you me?? I feel like I wrote this Because SAME!!!! I've been in therapy ever since I graduated from highschool, and not ONE session healed me like this video has. I cried when I realized that there was nothing wrong with me!!!! They just hated me for WHAT. For being better than them?? That's it?? 😭😭 I'm praying for complete healing from both of us from HS trauma!!! I hope you're doing well now!
Oh yes! Idk why people gaze at me up to down with envious eyes? I mean what did I even do? Because I am wearing makeup, have hair done perfectly, wore nicely ironed well put-together outfit? They even go on to mock me for being perfect! Whyyy????
It’s so weird. I used to think, ‘Oh my God, is there something wrong with my face?’ But now I’m realizing it’s probably just jealousy. Jealousy is nothing to play with because I remember how this girl would always say shady things loud enough for me to hear, and I’d just be like, ‘Oh, whatever.’ I wasn’t too shy to confront; I was too shy to understand why someone would be jealous of me. I had low self-esteem, so I didn’t understand why anyone would be jealous of me. She always made comments about my hair; like, she ‘jokingly’ cut a part of it in front of the teacher in the hallway, who did nothing, and I didn’t notice until I heard her say something because she did it from behind. Then one day she cut off all my hair. So, those little remarks that she’s making, you’re thinking, ‘Oh, whatever, just ignore them, they’re just bullies.’ Like, no, don’t just ignore them. I was too shy to understand why someone would be jealous of me. Like the TH-camr said to block them, do not give them access to you. No good can come from it.
I’m 33 and have experienced this wayyy too much. I didn’t think that I would have that problem at this stage in my life. I’ve cut off so many friendships this year because of red flags from people marinating in darkness and want to bring others down. So many people out there that shits all over authentic demeanour & warm nature.
Gurl, your videos have healed me. I’m a reformed pickmeisha and as a small step my boyfriend and I vowed not to make fun of gurls anymore. If I have dealings with femmes/afab people I am giving it my all to uplift them in a world that would rather have us treated like shit💖
I’ve changed myself and becoming a spoiled girly, I don’t know why I don’t click with my friend circle anymore. I’d ask them to go out and enjoy, they be like I don’t have enough money and I tell them I’ll help you with that they’ll still say no 😅. Anyways I don’t have time to wait for anyone , I’ll go on dates alone.
i have an experience about jealousy to share. i had this classmate at 8 grade, who was always mocking me, targeting jokes at my mannerisms, music taste and treated me badly in a general. i never really reacted to her behavior or confronted her, but it always smelled like jealousy and i knew that. the year went by and at the end we had some group projects to make. she was in this group of friends that had quite of a reputation at school. i don’t know what happened, but they had a big fight and she separated from the group. this girl was all alone now, with a bunch of school projects to do and came to me asking if she could enter our group. she was humble and looked sad at classes after fighting with her friend group. i asked my group if we could pair up with her and that’s what happened. when we finished our assignments and got our grades, she was so grateful and messaged me expressing her gratitude. from this to the very end of the year, that girl’s behavior towards me changed completely. she would never look at me before, and when she did, always had a sarcastic/disdain look after that, she started smiling at me and everything was fine between us she even got back together with her old group and never bothered me anymore.
I never had my girl group, i had severe social anxiety in college and struggled a lot with social relationships. know I am beautiful, smart and before you mentioned it, i intuitively knew that it is my purpose to embody my divine self, shine bright with my light. and as we awaken ourselves we help others awaken just by the power of our light. Your videos just remind me all these things and you teach me things i havent realized yet about myself and others that just heal me and lift me up. Thank you Elle, love youuu 💖
I am a stay at home mom and for the last year i have been making the effort to dress better makeup and the moms have been giving me the eye 👀 i don't care i shine we all can shine together ladies do the effort
This video came at a PERFECT time. Just two days ago, I had a really unproductive conversation with someone that I thought I wanted to be friends with. After the conversation, I felt super guilty how SHE felt about the things I said. But I realized today that I actually one thousand percent standby what I said and how that friendship needs to end. Then this video drops!! Every video that's come out for the past three weeks have been on some cosmic timing. I feel alive again!
It's crazy how I never thought of gossip as a form of protection, just a mechanism that women use to hurt each other, because that's the only side o it I've experienced in my life
This video just made me realize that one of my “friends “ was making me bad, first time we met I noticed she had a lot of red flags but she said that I was a good influence for her and we could level up together and blah blah blah, last week she disrespected me in front of literally a lot of people and after that she came to me and said “Do we have homework “
I have been feeling lonely for so long , I’m 34 and at this stage of my life , I feel like I’m starting over , I love where I have reached and I feel like I’m finally starting to be myself and love the life that I want , that also means make new friends and be a part of new experiences. I feel a little scared and lonely but also so thrilled and this massive excitement at the same time , cuz I just know that so much good, and so much of what I actually want manifested in the physical realm of that world is waiting for me, I’m just so grateful. Watching your video gave me this peace that it’s okay , and I will find and connect with my people , that I’m not crazy for wanting something since forever and I had just silenced my voice for some reason. I’m actually enraged to the point that I’m changing my life and I’m so excited about it , thank you, I love you and whoever reads this comment, so much love and warmth your way , I can’t tell you how relieving it is to not feel crazy for just wanting something different from every single person around you, I feel liberated !
This video was what I really needed to hear 10 years ago but nobody talked about it like this back then. ❤ Also I am happy to report today I embody all of what a spoiled girlie does when it comes to friendships, and life is sooo much better.
This topic is exactly something I've been thinking about a lot these past months because a very close female freindship i had for years is slowly coming to an end. I've learned to let her go and would really love to find new friends that align with me so we can support each other, yet I haven't found many in my environment yet which makes me feel very insecure and guilty to leave my past friendship.
Most of my old female friends really changed for the bad. Now i don't even feel the need to be friends with them. It just seems a little difficult to find new ones.😮
This video helped me to understand so many situations I've been in with female friendships! Thank You so much for all your work Manifestelle, we love you! Stay in your light everyone, we got this xxx
I needed to hear this. My last female friendship ended over 10 years ago. It ended cause I met my ex boyfriend. She said that I was ignoring her and replacing her with my ex. Which was never my intention and simply not true. Apart from that that we’ve been dating for ONE week when she told me that. One week. It was ridiculous.. But years later this trauma stuck with me and manifested pretty hard. For a long time I thought that I can’t have both: a loving partner and female friends. Maybe some of you can relate. :(
"When you are a ray of sunshine, you embody light, and expose darkness in people." Beauty shames the ugly Strength shames the weak Death shapes the living, and Ideal shames us all -Jordan Peterson "The 12 Rules for Life" (2018)
I just wanted to say thank you for monitoring the comments section and blocking hate comments. It's so uplifting to read a comment section that's full of positivity and light. 💗
Hello girlies❤ Just wanted to share this to really show how much the sisterhood has impacted my life So there has recently been a case where a jealous man was talking behind my back. But my fellow sister has defended me. This moment really stood up to me because now I realize that most of my life, MEN have been the root of drama, not women. MEN have been the ones to betray, make outrageous decisions out of ego, talk behind other's back and the main ones who prayed for my fall. Whereas women, my fellow sisters, have nurtured me, put me up when I couldn't raise me by myself, they have been a shoulder to cry on and a beautiful hand that I could hold when I was feeling lost. I am truly blessed to have so many wonderful memories where even women that I wasn't even talking to have calmed me down in strussful moments. It's like we are uncounciously communicating with one another. The sisterhood is truly blessing, it's one of the most fulfilling things I could ever have. They just give me something that men could never replace. I need and I love and I appreciate my sisters so so much❤
I really needed this vid as someone who has been ruthlessly bullied throughout my whole life in school, by my family and pickme “friends” Since dropping all of my toxic friends though and being a Blockiana, I’m starting to attract much higher value women in my life!
This is so good and so timely for me. There's a man in one of my friend/aquaintace groups who is obsessed with me and I rejected him (for obvious reasons). So he started gossiping about me and telling lies to mutual friends. When I found out he was doing that, I blocked him immediately. Unfortunately this also outed one of my girlfriends as a pickme, as she took his side. We're all going on a cruise next year and I might lose a few "friends" in this group. But you're right - SO many people want to be my friend, and I have other friend/aquaintace groups on the cruise too who all like me and no one gossips about me. Plus, I never go on this annual cruise without meeting and connecting with nice, new people. Excellent support group meeting! I'll listen again before the cruise for the inspirational reminders that I am the LIGHT 🥰✨️
My harasser and stalker tried to get lots of her friends to follow me to gain info for her she’s been doing it for ten years. I’m so flattered!! Despite the fact she claims I’m the one harassing her. I’m not giving her energy and I’m getting all of hers lol
Knowing there is a growing number of women who can move with discernment, grace and respect for both men and women and the unique and valuable roles we have to play and the strengths we all have to share, even in today’s world - this - this makes me feel so hopeful for the future. May the spoiled girlies have lots of babies so this energy spreads. 🙏
I love your special take on platonic so called friendships with the opposite sex. Can you do a video about it? Women are selling themselves short these days
I love this, but be careful everyone. I was embodying my light and felt more feminine than i ever have, and some friends came and tore it all down. It started slow, lots of male attention and fake friends. In the end, my self-esteem has worn down so much i hate myself in ways ive never thought possible and I have a stalker that ruined my life. I have not been well and i dont trust anybody. As a girl that came from an abusive home, forced to care for younger siblings in my masculine, embodying my feminine was the best thing that ever hapened to me for the short time i had it. I should have known better but the same abusive patterns came back to me from other people. Narcissists in different hats......just be careful bc the world loves to test you.
🌻 You're doing a great job of being you. Balancing feminine and masculine is a form of art. Now you know what to protect, because you learned from what people tried to take from you Maybe wishful thinking, but i refuse to believe they actually took anything. I see sparkles of well guarded feminine in your post. They're right there, underneath a protection of masculine 💗 layer upon layer we build up the painting of our lives, thank you for sharing a snippet of yours
Girlies, I haven't been feeling the best about my social circle, its quite small and this sadness was brought on by mom. "You don't have any experiences" When I can list off the experiences that I've had with my friends. And I've traveled to Europe once. It's an infant and once after I graduated college. She basically sends unhealthy that I'm alone a lot but I try reaching out to my friends and other people. And I'm going to therapy to actually work on. Strengthen and my friendships so this spoiled girly is doing some work.
Girlie, I’m so sorry your Mom is making you feel that way❤ maybe she is projecting her own personal regrets onto you - like Elle says, “other people’s insecurities is not your problem”. Please know that loneliness is not a bad thing, neither is a small social circle! It is completely fine to take time to experience life in your own way, figure out who you are and what you enjoy.. You really have all the time in the world ❤❤ Trust me, when you learn your worth and find your confidence life gets so much better!! Hang in there and don’t let your mom shame you.. you deserve all the best things in life😊 Take care girlie❤
I experienced this too, that mad me sad for a while but I just noticed that other people want to spread their darkness, but it is better to move on to not lose your light.
This video was perfection. I've been quietly existing spaces that force me to dim my light. I feel like a new woman, I'm around less people but I'm more successful and focused. I'm happy to be away from overtly competitive and catty people. I work towards really robust experiences even if I must venture out alone. Great video, yes block people from accessing any parts of you if they disrespect and dismiss. I've learned to forgive, and leave them where they are. 💙
It’s like you know what’s going on with me. Really needed this. I’ve been feeling like I’m getting mean and seeing them in my socials trigger me cause I know how bad they treated me but I just wanted to act like things are right. I’ll definitely block
If you need to see them, instead of focusing on what they did try reminding yourself of all the things you would have done for them if you were still friends and visual it as positive energy that you then gift to yourself instead.
This is EXACTLY the video I needed. Thank you. I thought there was something wrong with me because no matter how I was nice and accomodating to people, one thing they “hate” suddenly had them gossipping maliciously about me or dismissing everything I did for them to call me “unkind and manipulative.” Now I know that they’re either jealous or there’s something wrong with them LMFAO. Thanks for the boost of confidence and validation 🎉🎉🎉 I wish I had refreshing friends like you.
I love you besties ❣️ I'm 45 years old I'm getting a lot of support and validation here for what I believe is the correct posture and energy. I can't fix the past but I have 2 daughters and a son and this space gives me hope for me and the future generations. Wake up !!! Xoxo 💋 ❤
love this community, i used to ask and sometimes feel like im a bad person because of ppl around me ,conforming no nuace nellys but i realized because of elles help and this community that im just a blessed spoiled girlie
Spoiled girlie 🙋🏽♀️ I love how you made this into a formula. I see now what I was doing right and this confirmed to me to keep my standards high, while serving my besties. Love your energy and your vibe. My partner would always tell me the ones who turned on me were jealous, and I didn’t see it at first because I didn’t want to seem arrogant. When I think about it, it makes sense and it’s not even about me, it’s their own insecurities. Envy does rear it’s ugly head and many people who harbour it need to get their own life in order and stop hating on others, especially women doing it to other women. Does any one else experience other women copying them, like their style and their hobbies and mannerisms, but hating on them and not complimenting them, or giving back-handed compliments?
I know what you mean. Although, i have experienced people copying me but when they do compliment me, it feels off. Kinda like a blade hidden by honey, if this makes sense.
ABSOLUTE YES. i have alot of female circles around, especially cause i am in an all girl's uni and omg my health has been just naturaly so much better. i am happy, safe, nurtured and healing like thats the vibe all around
I want to embody light and be a spoiled girly and be myself but I find it hard because I don’t have confidence in myself my anxiety and trauma hold me back so bad and I don’t know who I am sometimes but I’m going to therapy and I will embody light even when I feel so much darkness inside
You just may be one of the most important philosophers in our era ❤🎉 honestly I've felt the internet lacked original voices... Until one day I started listening to your podcasts
Gosh this reminded me so much of my narcissistic husband! (Going through a divorce) Your videos are such a shining light and helping me stay focused ❤❤
I recently went through the worst upheaval of my social life and it put me in the deepest and darkest depths of myself, it made me lose my purpose and light. I am slowly trying to find my sense of self back, and to be in alignment with myself and the universe again. I am slowly learning to be a spoiled girly, but finding balance between preserving my light and sharing it is so hard. Loneliness is so hard when you have lost yourself so much. Thank you for your videos, they create something in me that helps a lot.
Oh my GOODNESS! I have (quietly ) ghosted a few people this year and am at a place where I feel like I have no close friends (I do have a couple of long distance friends but not really anyone local anymore) but over the years as I have embraced the vision for my life Ive discovered what I will no longer tolerate. Elegance, supportiveness, and genuine connection - not just this surface level, mutually beneficial networking stuff that marketing has taught us. It’s interesting because I am at a point of starting over. I am so motivated to let my light come through, even more so now. On my TH-cam channel I even presented myself looking not so great to document the transformation I am experiencing and let it be a part of my confidence building. Finding a new sense of style, as well as how I’m showing up in the world in general. I am 43 and have never felt more aware of my inner strength. Love all the comments on this video too! Thank you for calling this out. 🙏🏻
You know I would love for you to be my mentor. When I first heard your content, I couldn't 100% resonate because I wasn't at a certain point yet. Now that I have grown, you are one of my favorite channels ever. I guess you are already my mentor in a way. I can't wait to keep learning from you. Hopefully, when I get to where I am going, I'll meet you in person some day :)
I'm currently going through a lot of transformation and I came to all the conclusions you are being vocal about, and I treat finding you as a sign that I'm on the right way. It took me years of pathetic experiences, being a pick me, lowering myself for others and hundreds of dollars on therapy to get the mindset I'm now approaching. Thank you for your content, I really believe that you're out there doing public service. I hope that teenage and early 20s girls who watch you really listen to you and by that they will be able to avoid a ton of mistakes and they won't have to learn the hard way. Don't want to sound as an ageist tho, I believe that women of all ages can benefit from your videos and that it's always a good time to change one's life for the better. For all the girlies striving for happier lives - you got this.
I'm so glad you made this video and opened this conversation. I realized that I needed to largely distance myself from my best friend because she was becoming jealous and envious of the accomplishments that I was making. I was pushing myself to figure out and succeed in my finances, assets, career, my partner, and my future life! I was making so much ground, but because my best friend didn't have the same she started guilting me for being better off and blamed me for not making her a priority... but the problem was never me, it was her and the issues she was having with her own life. I spent too long giving all my energy and light to make her feel seen, but I finally realized that THAT IS NOT MY DAMN JOB!! Never dim yourself for those who don't work to shine themselves. Your light is your own, never let anyone stop you from being your best self, you wonderful spoiled girlies 💙💙💙✨️✨️✨️
your videos got me up to do the dishes in my room for the first time in weeks. idc i’ve been depressed and shameful and guilty about nothing for so goddamn long and i’m over it. i’m changing my life for the better and i’m gonna be who i always knew i could.
As someone with CPTSD, anxiety, and self confidence issues, I definitely have not had the confidence to act on being a spoiled girly, but recently discovered your videos and love what you talk about and the points you make. While in my mind I agree with everything I hear you talk about in your videos, and want to embody that, my mental health makes it hard to truly act confident in myself, stop being a ppl pleaser, and actually act like a spoiled girly. But, I hope I can slowly grow confidence and try to embody these spoiled girly things in my own life step by step. Thanks for the content you make :)
Elle, I want to congratulate you on your amazing channel. You validate me in ways noone ever did. You understand and you find the right words to say. You make a huge difference. I finally found the courage to go for the lifestyle I always wanted. From the bottom of my heart, thank you and keep going.
Lmao we need to create a word for that nasty lil sneaky but not so sneaky side eye from those haters! 😂😂😂 It is so true tho My mom also used to tell me growing up that they were “just jealous”,but I really never believed her back then.I would always try to win people over. Or at times of low self esteem, id think there was something wrong with me. Wish it didn’t take me till i was 32 to figure out they really were just jealous, but hey at least im here now! 💁♀️💕✨😉 PS - should i let my mom bask in the glory of being right, or keep this one between us girlies? Hmm 🤔 😂
@@audreyandrea460 better late than never, right? 😉✨💕 And honestly im not really surprised you had men in your life that were jealous of you. Id be jealous of us too if i was a guy! Lol 😂 🤷♀️💯
I've had certain "friends" in the past who would immediately think that I was the culprit if someone anonymously threw them under the bus. Or they'd immediately believe negative gossip about me from people who barely know me. Or they'd think I was lying if I genuinely was unable to help them out with something. That's when I realised they didn't see me as a friend. They saw me as a THREAT. Waiting in the wings for my downfall. Needless to say, i cut them loose, and am now VERY particular about who I let into my life (or even my home, lol).
This could not have a come at a better time in my life. I am partaking in a fb contest, we’re my peoples can cast a Free Vote, it’s been interesting to see those, “friends” not showing the same love I so freely share to them. No I’m not surprised. I’m not seeking their validation, but would love to have a fraction of that support. I take solace in your words. Thank you for the light you share with us!! I will be listening to this on repeat!! Thx Beastie 💕
I cut all my friends low energy vampires. Am moving to a new country hopefully will manifest amazing bright friendships with similat values and goals and bright vision
Love this topic and the fact this hits home back at junior high with the girls at school who keep giving me the ick just cause i have high bounderies with high standards then same during senior high before going to fashion school . It became slow but smooth to sence the ick and found true freinds in diffrent comunities then dumped and or destroyed the toxic people out of my area
With gossip…. I have to say, there is a difference between talking about someone and your concerns for them or praising them. But talking about a person negativity is what I don’t want to participate in. Negative gossip is different from positive gossip.
My sister started randomly hating- accusing me of “making my bf get two jobs.” I understand why she would be so jealous looking back at our childhoods. She was never afraid to ask- even demand things. I was the total opposite. She’s assuming I’m acting the way she would in my situation.
My mom gave me the "they're just jealous" line, and looking back, she was right. You don't realize most bullies are just jealous losers until you're an adult.
true.
I’m a housewife. Most of my friends are high powered women (doctors, nurses, heads of non-profits/city council members). We learn from each other, cheer each other on and we’re all girls girls. Those “haters” lack self-worth and can’t even see their own potential. But I’m in my 30s now and do not tolerate negative whiners. Like stop. If you’re unwilling to take a step towards what you want in life, don’t hate on the women who run towards their own dreams. It’s soul sucking.
You're so right we can get along when the women love themselves . there is no competition , we compliment exactly , build each other up. we are unique and amazing all in our own way .
Exactly, nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife! The power to choose your own lifestyle is feminist within itself.
@@qosaghcalnan1045never gonna happen there’s always gonna be small minded ones ruining it for the rest of us
@@qosaghcalnan1045 I think we all compete, it's human nature but the feeling to compete should be less compared to the inspiration the person makes you feel. If my mind is in competition mode towards a girl or a man, they can't be my friends or lovers
Yeh, a lot of the "divide" is media-created. I've been a broker on good money in of London (square mile) , at home with small children, now I'm working ft again but no pressure. I feel like I understand all angles! What annoys me is the myth that we are pitted against each other.
Today is a good day for the spoiled girlies!
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Yes it is!!!!!😍💅🏿
Amen 🤍
I REALLY NEEDED THIS. As a spoiled girlie I was told I’m weird for having acquaintances and not calling every single person I meet a friend, like I have standards for a reason 💅
This is such a thing in american culture to call some guy u laugh with at work at work a friend, or the bartender at the bar you always frequent, or some person you sorta hung out with twice "my friend". Like, those ppl are not your friend, they barely even actually know you. You cannot just throw that word around.
I do love when an acquaintance says "we're not friends?" Lol if u dont have my address, my phone number, or we never met up irl just to hang, correct, we are not friends 😒
@@Pomagranite167 YESS! It’s not even just American culture, I’m in the UK and it’s such a common thing here too 😭
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@@n1313_Im in Ireland, same here, well we all know what it is but saying acquaintance is a bit rude in front of them
@@orls9068 yeah I get that, I just find it weird that people find the actual label weird when it’s talked about in general lol
I’m tearing up because I never thought anyone else felt this way. I always loved fashion, was a ray of sunshine, smiling and loving on people and it felt like other women always had a problem with me especially close friends. I never understood why and started thinking I was the problem to where I completely censored myself so that I don’t look like I’m bragging or I think I’m better than others. I removed the light from it being on me to other people and man it feels miserable because I’m not being myself. I’m so happy for this video, thank you!
They saw an icon in the making,radiate your birthgiven light girl🫶🏾 sending you some uplifting energy
So sweet 🥹 sending love ❤️ & light to all of the Spoiled Girlies 🫶🏽💞✨ Godspeed ladies 🌟💫
Ohh my god we share the same passion of fashion we and I know how it feels.Hope it gets better for you now that you understand it. I think we should definitely be friends ❤
I don't know how we find each other! I want to meet my loyal friends sm, we're out there tho
I am so sorry for what you been through. People are just envious because they themselves lost that part of themselves meanwhile you continue to be radiant and confident and that bothers them. I hope you continue to be yourself. Don’t let spiteful people take away your light
Yesterday i learned that a guy in the local music scene is a serial abuser thanks to gossip. He has been sexually abusing women for 20+ years. But of course getting men held accountable is almost impossible so as women we HAVE to gossip in order to warn potential future victims.
Yes discreet info sharing also revealed to me abusive behavior from certain state senators. I worked as a lobbyist and other ladies would warn me about people (mostly nasty men but also some nasty women). And I’ve in turned shared my info with them. Bc people may only reveal their true colors in select situations and they pretend / wear a mask. That way you know who to avoid being alone in a room with and who to expect will be a total egotist when working on a project. You can also know how to use flattery on these narcissists to navigate their bad behavior and win out in the end. But if you treat a narcissist like a regular caring person, you get bit in the ass.
that's not gossip. That's the secret survival strategy that women instinctively engage in since forever. Talking shit about your best girl friend and her new bf every chance you get for a year solid, to people who don't even know the other person? That's gossip and it's toxic. ❤
Yes, when i left an abusive man he abused me through the courts and my first solicitor told me it was "important my daughter didn't become a man-hater". I was shocked he confused my reports on the behaviour of one man, to me, as mere man-hating... as years rolled by I continued to ponder his ridiculous comment and that he never said to my x, make sure your son doesn't hate women. Society makes it hard to be heard.
There's gossip and there is crap talking. Very different things. One is "Did you hear that Tim has been cheating on Shelly for 30 years? And the other is "Did you see Shelly's hair? It looks terrible."
I also believe that if you gossip about people, especially friends, you should also have the guts to tell those things to that person's face. Not just behind their back. Like you would tell Shelly that Tim is cheating. Not just tell other people.
Otherwise it is just unhelpful and disrespectful gossip.
Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
There is a difference between spreading rumors, gossip, slander, hate and a solid warning.
Warning: “Hey, that man is on the sex offenders registry..you should do some research.”
Gossip: “oh my, I heard from a friend of a friend who once talked to someone that a guy she dated once is a serial-dater and cannot commit. I think he was abused as a child. Such a loser.”
Hate can harm even innocent people. I don’t know the man you heard about but there are a lot of men who are punished by scornful women and a lot of women who are tarnished by damaged men. Hurt people hurt people but without proof and evidence it’s all hearsay say and it’s our job to find our own insight.
As for dangerous men (and women) they should always be held accountable by the LAW!! If it is a legal offense, like a narcissist..it is others job to figure those people out. Some might call some a name just because they didn’t get what they wanted. Smear Campaigns are a real thing too and usually are followed by gossip. Food for thought.
"A lot of people don't deserve you." Thank you for this! I tried so hard to be nice and friendly to a new neighbor who didn't reciprocate anything. I eventually moved on (after feeling bad about it), and had to remind myself not just to try too hard with people just bc of proximity.
drama free yes. i avoid ppl who say they like me but are mean to me
Ppl are crazy like idk why they do that stuff
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FAKE AF! I like to call that the Regina George effect! I wish their was these type of communities for spoiled girly when I was younger. I would have avoided those types of so called girls sooner. My boundaries were not strong enough for me to walk away immediately unfortunately.
This is actually one of the reasons why I have very few friends and also why that people before I go on dates with them. One dude legit got upset I wasn't into him when I literally told him day one this wasn't romantic or sexual and he wasn't going to be my bestie either. He actually had the audacity to say in front of me that I'm too much for other ppl and it's going to be hard for me to find a romantic interest but he understands me so I should really date him 🤨😐. He then proceeded to say he should have the right to personally meet the boys I'm interested in before dating them, as in he should vet them 😐. I was like, "sir you are not my father and I am not your teenager daughter and I choose who I date and who's in my life".
I digress, rant over but yes don't trust ppl who say they like you while complaining about every little thing that makes you, you.
no but i love it "They know how they did you wrong" oml thank youuu
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Spoiled girly soul sisters recognize one another by our bright lights. In our best life era and happy for one another. Keep shining gorgeous souls.✨️💕👑
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Ahhhh I love this. Thanks, sis. You too!
Yes!❤
You tooo ! Keep shining 💕💕
Thankyou for this xo 💗🙏
I am so sick of having to make myself small so as not to make others around me feel comfortable. I need to be the least interesting, well-travelled, cultured, sexy and intelligent person in the room. Not the most.
I fell out of my last friend group because of several reasons, the main being I am "too much" for them. I was always trying to better my life and called out the toxicity within the group of highly anxious and depressed people. It wore on me that my voice was steadily being suppressed in favor of others and I started losing myself. I will forever be grateful for the hardships that led me to move away from them and start to rebuild my inner light. Now, I hope to find my people who aren't intimidated by my passion and who will celebrate my successes with me while I celebrate theirs.
I don't have a great history with female friendships and I think it has to do with me always becoming friends due to them coming to me and then placing me in the position as their closest/best friend. I have never actively approached women and tried to make friends so I end up dealing with women who use me, get really possessive, pretend we are exactly the same(I am not allowed to have my own ideas without them claiming we did it and thought it), and I think enjoy seeing me at my lowest in comparison to them. No more! New day! REFRESH
oh my god i’ve experienced the exact same thing….them being possessive and “pretending were exactly the same” is sooo specific 😭😭like my god it pissed me off so bad
Damn that's terrible. That sounds dysfunctional and toxic af. I hope you find healthier relationships in the future.
Yes a lot of times girls get extremely clingy with me, I don't mind it because I am introverted and clingy people kinda keep me social but then I get drained off with them talking so much and I need to go off to other introverted people 😅. Others are fine tho
Girl - I have an acquaintance who was telling people at a party that we are best friends from high school. She doesn’t know ANYTHING about me. We were a grade a part in school! We’ve hung out a couple times and go to each others parties like 1-2x per year. We’re not friends 😭 I’ve had several bad friendships before which makes me VERY selective on who is in my inner circle. I’d rather have NO friends or 1-2 besties than a bunch of people draining me all day.
Sameeeee
“You are the top tier friend” omg tell me why I just got out of therapy and we spoke about how I was so scared to pour into ppl now because I tend to pour out 100% and ppl just walk away…..bcuz those aren’t my ppl 💡✨ Yes because I give soooo much , I deserve reciprocation OMG Elle!!! Thank you !!!!
29 whole minutes? the spoiled girlies are being spoiled today 😌
💅🏽spoiled girlies unite 🫶🏽
It’s actually sad how more women have caused me to cry than men. The fact that I’ve had bad experiences in the past with some manipulative men. Yet I’ve had been more hurt by women who are just mean. And unfortunately that toxicity is infectious. I was a mean girl too at one point. I’m so done with that. I just want to be a light. Be in my feminine and love those around me. Thank you Elle for your beauty and light
Be the change you wanna see in the world
6 1/2 mins in, the bit about let's not glorify being unwell reminds me of this song called Get Well by Icon For Hire. It's about being fed up with being unwell and trying to get better. That's the vibe tbh.
I have been through all that . I still remeber when I had a happy trip and traveled to another country , as a spoiled girly , and when I came back to my country I could feel it how unhappy my " close friends " were . and instead of cutting this " fake friendship " what I did is that I tried to hide all happy detailes about my travel . and they didn't even ask me ...
Today I understand everything , and so sorry for old me , It will never happen again , And I will never make haters close anymore .
A lot of old "friends" from high school be gossiping ur business to ur ex- friends and high school bullies from 10 years ago. Cut them off!!!
This just came out in the right time. I had just broken up with a friend and that sucks. She just isn’t as in the same vibration as me and I’ve realised that it is time to let go of this.
🥺thank you for sharing bestie
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@@Elisabetta886 we will get through this ✊🏽. I spend more time with family now. I have decided to focus my energy on building myself & my hobbies. New friends will come along the way. Have faith it will get better for us😊🩵
How can a woman be confident if her mom is constantly jealous of her ? I wish more creators would explore this topic
She made a video on mommy issues I think
@@hafsaz_ can you give me the link or video name pls
It’s rough
Yeah my mom was the one who was jealous of me
Going back in time I feel so weird about my mother. She dressed me badly, she did not care that I was getting fat and I get along with her better now that I am divorced. I don't want it to be that she is jealous of me, but sometimes it does feel that way
Elle, you are absolutely HEALING ME and my biggest thrauma from high school, I hope you know that you are such a powerful HEALER and you shine so bright. I was heavily bullied in high school by both insecure boys and girls and people made attempts to destroy my reputation multiple multiple times. At the time this tortured me and my soul so much, I thought - whattttttt is wrong with me, what am I doing wrong. THANK YOU for telling me IT FINALLY CLICKED IN MY BRAIN just TODAYYY at 23 years old that THEY WERE JEALOUSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
I am so happy for you ❤❤❤
i had the same experience. it was one of the most painful things to experience and i’ll never forget the things that were done to me but i’ve moved on to live my best spoiled life. nobody would be living to bring you down unless you were a threat to them or made them feel insecure. i mean if that’s you in your profile pic .. enough said! people feel intensely triggered by beautiful women who are also beautiful inside. remember that’s just people though. the universe loves us and will always bless us so long as we remain good hearted. so many people are missing out on blessings all cuz they can’t fix their nasty attitudes. you almost have to be glad they didn’t wanna be your friends cuz nothing blocks blessings like having stagnant, low vibrational people in your circle. stay blessed and beautiful 🩷
@@hiii.2061 Thank you, lovely 🩷
@@lasantuzza777 Thank you for the beautiful comment, lovely 🩷 You made me smile 🫶🏼 May you always stay this beautiful and may all of us spoiled girlies here continue to be blessed 🌟
Are you me?? I feel like I wrote this Because SAME!!!! I've been in therapy ever since I graduated from highschool, and not ONE session healed me like this video has. I cried when I realized that there was nothing wrong with me!!!! They just hated me for WHAT. For being better than them?? That's it?? 😭😭 I'm praying for complete healing from both of us from HS trauma!!! I hope you're doing well now!
Oh yes! Idk why people gaze at me up to down with envious eyes? I mean what did I even do? Because I am wearing makeup, have hair done perfectly, wore nicely ironed well put-together outfit? They even go on to mock me for being perfect! Whyyy????
Literally got told off for being so happy 😂 I'm done
Been getting shade and side eyes since the third grade for NO reason what so ever. Lol I'm 40 and it has not stopped. 😂
Me too.😂
Same 😂 no offence but I’m born this way 😤 haha
It’s so weird. I used to think, ‘Oh my God, is there something wrong with my face?’ But now I’m realizing it’s probably just jealousy. Jealousy is nothing to play with because I remember how this girl would always say shady things loud enough for me to hear, and I’d just be like, ‘Oh, whatever.’ I wasn’t too shy to confront; I was too shy to understand why someone would be jealous of me. I had low self-esteem, so I didn’t understand why anyone would be jealous of me. She always made comments about my hair; like, she ‘jokingly’ cut a part of it in front of the teacher in the hallway, who did nothing, and I didn’t notice until I heard her say something because she did it from behind. Then one day she cut off all my hair. So, those little remarks that she’s making, you’re thinking, ‘Oh, whatever, just ignore them, they’re just bullies.’ Like, no, don’t just ignore them. I was too shy to understand why someone would be jealous of me. Like the TH-camr said to block them, do not give them access to you. No good can come from it.
Same. It’s like the Pantene ad from the 90’s “don’t hate me because I’m beautiful “. 😂
Very good keep it up it means you look good and well out together you go girls ! 😊
Manifesting smart friends like you >>>
I’m 33 and have experienced this wayyy too much. I didn’t think that I would have that problem at this stage in my life. I’ve cut off so many friendships this year because of red flags from people marinating in darkness and want to bring others down. So many people out there that shits all over authentic demeanour & warm nature.
I'm so happy about this little safe space for us without incels and Tate fans commenting and spreading their disgusting beliefs
Gurl, your videos have healed me. I’m a reformed pickmeisha and as a small step my boyfriend and I vowed not to make fun of gurls anymore. If I have dealings with femmes/afab people
I am giving it my all to uplift them in a world that would rather have us treated like shit💖
I hope she would do one for toxic family members too
I’ve changed myself and becoming a spoiled girly, I don’t know why I don’t click with my friend circle anymore. I’d ask them to go out and enjoy, they be like I don’t have enough money and I tell them I’ll help you with that they’ll still say no 😅. Anyways I don’t have time to wait for anyone , I’ll go on dates alone.
You sound like a beautiful friend ❤
Take out your notepads and pens, the queen has posted
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so true, hate never comes from above, it always comes from below. So never stoop down to their level.
i have an experience about jealousy to share.
i had this classmate at 8 grade, who was always mocking me, targeting jokes at my mannerisms, music taste and treated me badly in a general.
i never really reacted to her behavior or confronted her, but it always smelled like jealousy and i knew that.
the year went by and at the end we had some group projects to make.
she was in this group of friends that had quite of a reputation at school.
i don’t know what happened, but they had a big fight and she separated from the group.
this girl was all alone now, with a bunch of school projects to do and came to me asking if she could enter our group.
she was humble and looked sad at classes after fighting with her friend group.
i asked my group if we could pair up with her and that’s what happened.
when we finished our assignments and got our grades, she was so grateful and messaged me expressing her gratitude.
from this to the very end of the year, that girl’s behavior towards me changed completely.
she would never look at me before, and when she did, always had a sarcastic/disdain look
after that, she started smiling at me and everything was fine between us
she even got back together with her old group and never bothered me anymore.
I wich i could have friends like you, thanks to you i am leaving the friends that want to push me down ❤ thank you 💖💖
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Stay strong!! It's lonely out there, so remember there's plenty of fish in the sea! ❤
@@tristanhaile thank you 😚😚 wish you all the Best in the world 💗💗💗
I never had my girl group, i had severe social anxiety in college and struggled a lot with social relationships. know I am beautiful, smart and before you mentioned it, i intuitively knew that it is my purpose to embody my divine self, shine bright with my light. and as we awaken ourselves we help others awaken just by the power of our light. Your videos just remind me all these things and you teach me things i havent realized yet about myself and others that just heal me and lift me up. Thank you Elle, love youuu 💖
I am a stay at home mom and for the last year i have been making the effort to dress better makeup and the moms have been giving me the eye 👀 i don't care i shine we all can shine together ladies do the effort
This video came at a PERFECT time. Just two days ago, I had a really unproductive conversation with someone that I thought I wanted to be friends with. After the conversation, I felt super guilty how SHE felt about the things I said. But I realized today that I actually one thousand percent standby what I said and how that friendship needs to end. Then this video drops!! Every video that's come out for the past three weeks have been on some cosmic timing. I feel alive again!
It's crazy how I never thought of gossip as a form of protection, just a mechanism that women use to hurt each other, because that's the only side o it I've experienced in my life
This video just made me realize that one of my “friends “ was making me bad, first time we met I noticed she had a lot of red flags but she said that I was a good influence for her and we could level up together and blah blah blah, last week she disrespected me in front of literally a lot of people and after that she came to me and said “Do we have homework “
I have been feeling lonely for so long , I’m 34 and at this stage of my life , I feel like I’m starting over , I love where I have reached and I feel like I’m finally starting to be myself and love the life that I want , that also means make new friends and be a part of new experiences. I feel a little scared and lonely but also so thrilled and this massive excitement at the same time , cuz I just know that so much good, and so much of what I actually want manifested in the physical realm of that world is waiting for me, I’m just so grateful.
Watching your video gave me this peace that it’s okay , and I will find and connect with my people , that I’m not crazy for wanting something since forever and I had just silenced my voice for some reason.
I’m actually enraged to the point that I’m changing my life and I’m so excited about it , thank you, I love you and whoever reads this comment, so much love and warmth your way , I can’t tell you how relieving it is to not feel crazy for just wanting something different from every single person around you, I feel liberated !
This video was what I really needed to hear 10 years ago but nobody talked about it like this back then. ❤
Also I am happy to report today I embody all of what a spoiled girlie does when it comes to friendships, and life is sooo much better.
This topic is exactly something I've been thinking about a lot these past months because a very close female freindship i had for years is slowly coming to an end. I've learned to let her go and would really love to find new friends that align with me so we can support each other, yet I haven't found many in my environment yet which makes me feel very insecure and guilty to leave my past friendship.
Most of my old female friends really changed for the bad. Now i don't even feel the need to be friends with them. It just seems a little difficult to find new ones.😮
This video helped me to understand so many situations I've been in with female friendships! Thank You so much for all your work Manifestelle, we love you!
Stay in your light everyone, we got this xxx
🤎🤎thank you bestie
My friend ghosted me and my feelings were hurt but this video is helping me feel a lot better.
I needed to hear this. My last female friendship ended over 10 years ago. It ended cause I met my ex boyfriend. She said that I was ignoring her and replacing her with my ex. Which was never my intention and simply not true. Apart from that that we’ve been dating for ONE week when she told me that. One week. It was ridiculous.. But years later this trauma stuck with me and manifested pretty hard. For a long time I thought that I can’t have both: a loving partner and female friends.
Maybe some of you can relate. :(
"When you are a ray of sunshine, you embody light, and expose darkness in people."
Beauty shames the ugly
Strength shames the weak
Death shapes the living, and
Ideal shames us all
-Jordan Peterson "The 12 Rules for Life" (2018)
I feel you like my bigger sister . Thank you for this safe space 💜
thank you bestie🤎
I just wanted to say thank you for monitoring the comments section and blocking hate comments. It's so uplifting to read a comment section that's full of positivity and light. 💗
I knew I was feeling extra spoiled today
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Hello girlies❤
Just wanted to share this to really show how much the sisterhood has impacted my life
So there has recently been a case where a jealous man was talking behind my back. But my fellow sister has defended me.
This moment really stood up to me because now I realize that most of my life, MEN have been the root of drama, not women. MEN have been the ones to betray, make outrageous decisions out of ego, talk behind other's back and the main ones who prayed for my fall. Whereas women, my fellow sisters, have nurtured me, put me up when I couldn't raise me by myself, they have been a shoulder to cry on and a beautiful hand that I could hold when I was feeling lost.
I am truly blessed to have so many wonderful memories where even women that I wasn't even talking to have calmed me down in strussful moments.
It's like we are uncounciously communicating with one another.
The sisterhood is truly blessing, it's one of the most fulfilling things I could ever have.
They just give me something that men could never replace.
I need and I love and I appreciate my sisters so so much❤
I really needed this vid as someone who has been ruthlessly bullied throughout my whole life in school, by my family and pickme “friends”
Since dropping all of my toxic friends though and being a Blockiana, I’m starting to attract much higher value women in my life!
This is so good and so timely for me. There's a man in one of my friend/aquaintace groups who is obsessed with me and I rejected him (for obvious reasons). So he started gossiping about me and telling lies to mutual friends. When I found out he was doing that, I blocked him immediately. Unfortunately this also outed one of my girlfriends as a pickme, as she took his side. We're all going on a cruise next year and I might lose a few "friends" in this group. But you're right - SO many people want to be my friend, and I have other friend/aquaintace groups on the cruise too who all like me and no one gossips about me. Plus, I never go on this annual cruise without meeting and connecting with nice, new people. Excellent support group meeting! I'll listen again before the cruise for the inspirational reminders that I am the LIGHT 🥰✨️
This is pure gold. Literally going thru some major heartbreak from a close female friend… Thank you, the timing of this is a synchronicity.
This support group is so healing, I'd love to make some spoiled girlie friends irl too ❤❤❤ sending much love
My harasser and stalker tried to get lots of her friends to follow me to gain info for her she’s been doing it for ten years. I’m so flattered!! Despite the fact she claims I’m the one harassing her. I’m not giving her energy and I’m getting all of hers lol
Knowing there is a growing number of women who can move with discernment, grace and respect for both men and women and the unique and valuable roles we have to play and the strengths we all have to share, even in today’s world - this - this makes me feel so hopeful for the future. May the spoiled girlies have lots of babies so this energy spreads. 🙏
I love this. 🙂
I love your special take on platonic so called friendships with the opposite sex. Can you do a video about it? Women are selling themselves short these days
This girl just used "Schrodinger patriarch" as a term and now she has my fully respect! 🥰
I love this, but be careful everyone. I was embodying my light and felt more feminine than i ever have, and some friends came and tore it all down. It started slow, lots of male attention and fake friends. In the end, my self-esteem has worn down so much i hate myself in ways ive never thought possible and I have a stalker that ruined my life. I have not been well and i dont trust anybody.
As a girl that came from an abusive home, forced to care for younger siblings in my masculine, embodying my feminine was the best thing that ever hapened to me for the short time i had it. I should have known better but the same abusive patterns came back to me from other people. Narcissists in different hats......just be careful bc the world loves to test you.
🌻 You're doing a great job of being you. Balancing feminine and masculine is a form of art. Now you know what to protect, because you learned from what people tried to take from you
Maybe wishful thinking, but i refuse to believe they actually took anything. I see sparkles of well guarded feminine in your post. They're right there, underneath a protection of masculine 💗 layer upon layer we build up the painting of our lives, thank you for sharing a snippet of yours
Ohhhh you're speaking on envy. I just watched a video on it and you're so right, girlie!
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Link the video babes 💗
The resonance is so strong! The collective consciousness of the spoiled girlies is growing and I love that for us. Another great video Elle 💕
Girlies, I haven't been feeling the best about my social circle, its quite small and this sadness was brought on by mom. "You don't have any experiences" When I can list off the experiences that I've had with my friends. And I've traveled to Europe once. It's an infant and once after I graduated college. She basically sends unhealthy that I'm alone a lot but I try reaching out to my friends and other people. And I'm going to therapy to actually work on. Strengthen and my friendships so this spoiled girly is doing some work.
Girlie, I’m so sorry your Mom is making you feel that way❤ maybe she is projecting her own personal regrets onto you - like Elle says, “other people’s insecurities is not your problem”. Please know that loneliness is not a bad thing, neither is a small social circle! It is completely fine to take time to experience life in your own way, figure out who you are and what you enjoy.. You really have all the time in the world ❤❤ Trust me, when you learn your worth and find your confidence life gets so much better!! Hang in there and don’t let your mom shame you.. you deserve all the best things in life😊 Take care girlie❤
@wafflesinlava thank you so much. Mind you she's saying this at 60 years old 🙄
I can relate to this my friends are sweethearts actually, my dynamic with my mom is not the best it's just such a dysfunctional environment
I experienced this too, that mad me sad for a while but I just noticed that other people want to spread their darkness, but it is better to move on to not lose your light.
This video was perfection. I've been quietly existing spaces that force me to dim my light. I feel like a new woman, I'm around less people but I'm more successful and focused. I'm happy to be away from overtly competitive and catty people. I work towards really robust experiences even if I must venture out alone. Great video, yes block people from accessing any parts of you if they disrespect and dismiss. I've learned to forgive, and leave them where they are. 💙
It’s like you know what’s going on with me. Really needed this. I’ve been feeling like I’m getting mean and seeing them in my socials trigger me cause I know how bad they treated me but I just wanted to act like things are right. I’ll definitely block
If you need to see them, instead of focusing on what they did try reminding yourself of all the things you would have done for them if you were still friends and visual it as positive energy that you then gift to yourself instead.
This is EXACTLY the video I needed. Thank you. I thought there was something wrong with me because no matter how I was nice and accomodating to people, one thing they “hate” suddenly had them gossipping maliciously about me or dismissing everything I did for them to call me “unkind and manipulative.” Now I know that they’re either jealous or there’s something wrong with them LMFAO. Thanks for the boost of confidence and validation 🎉🎉🎉 I wish I had refreshing friends like you.
I love you besties ❣️ I'm 45 years old I'm getting a lot of support and validation here for what I believe is the correct posture and energy. I can't fix the past but I have 2 daughters and a son and this space gives me hope for me and the future generations. Wake up !!! Xoxo 💋 ❤
love this community, i used to ask and sometimes feel like im a bad person because of ppl around me ,conforming no nuace nellys
but i realized because of elles help and this community that im just a blessed spoiled girlie
Spoiled girlie 🙋🏽♀️
I love how you made this into a formula. I see now what I was doing right and this confirmed to me to keep my standards high, while serving my besties. Love your energy and your vibe. My partner would always tell me the ones who turned on me were jealous, and I didn’t see it at first because I didn’t want to seem arrogant. When I think about it, it makes sense and it’s not even about me, it’s their own insecurities. Envy does rear it’s ugly head and many people who harbour it need to get their own life in order and stop hating on others, especially women doing it to other women. Does any one else experience other women copying them, like their style and their hobbies and mannerisms, but hating on them and not complimenting them, or giving back-handed compliments?
I know what you mean. Although, i have experienced people copying me but when they do compliment me, it feels off. Kinda like a blade hidden by honey, if this makes sense.
Women can be a boss and a good friend and feminine. ❤❤❤ No need to be one or another.
ABSOLUTE YES. i have alot of female circles around, especially cause i am in an all girl's uni and omg my health has been just naturaly so much better. i am happy, safe, nurtured and healing like thats the vibe all around
I want to embody light and be a spoiled girly and be myself but I find it hard because I don’t have confidence in myself my anxiety and trauma hold me back so bad and I don’t know who I am sometimes but I’m going to therapy and I will embody light even when I feel so much darkness inside
You’re literally saving my early 20s💕 thank you Elle, always looking forward to your videos 😍
You just may be one of the most important philosophers in our era ❤🎉 honestly I've felt the internet lacked original voices... Until one day I started listening to your podcasts
Bestie we need your videos everyday life is hard out here and thank you for sharing your wisdom
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Gosh this reminded me so much of my narcissistic husband! (Going through a divorce) Your videos are such a shining light and helping me stay focused ❤❤
I recently went through the worst upheaval of my social life and it put me in the deepest and darkest depths of myself, it made me lose my purpose and light. I am slowly trying to find my sense of self back, and to be in alignment with myself and the universe again. I am slowly learning to be a spoiled girly, but finding balance between preserving my light and sharing it is so hard. Loneliness is so hard when you have lost yourself so much. Thank you for your videos, they create something in me that helps a lot.
Haven’t watched this one yet, bit I gotta say I’ve been rewatching every single one of them throughout the week on repeat!! 💜 So valuable!
I appreciate you bestie! glad it's helping🤎
Oh my GOODNESS! I have (quietly ) ghosted a few people this year and am at a place where I feel like I have no close friends (I do have a couple of long distance friends but not really anyone local anymore) but over the years as I have embraced the vision for my life Ive discovered what I will no longer tolerate.
Elegance, supportiveness, and genuine connection - not just this surface level, mutually beneficial networking stuff that marketing has taught us.
It’s interesting because I am at a point of starting over. I am so motivated to let my light come through, even more so now.
On my TH-cam channel I even presented myself looking not so great to document the transformation I am experiencing and let it be a part of my confidence building.
Finding a new sense of style, as well as how I’m showing up in the world in general. I am 43 and have never felt more aware of my inner strength.
Love all the comments on this video too! Thank you for calling this out. 🙏🏻
You know I would love for you to be my mentor. When I first heard your content, I couldn't 100% resonate because I wasn't at a certain point yet. Now that I have grown, you are one of my favorite channels ever. I guess you are already my mentor in a way. I can't wait to keep learning from you. Hopefully, when I get to where I am going, I'll meet you in person some day :)
I'm currently going through a lot of transformation and I came to all the conclusions you are being vocal about, and I treat finding you as a sign that I'm on the right way. It took me years of pathetic experiences, being a pick me, lowering myself for others and hundreds of dollars on therapy to get the mindset I'm now approaching. Thank you for your content, I really believe that you're out there doing public service. I hope that teenage and early 20s girls who watch you really listen to you and by that they will be able to avoid a ton of mistakes and they won't have to learn the hard way. Don't want to sound as an ageist tho, I believe that women of all ages can benefit from your videos and that it's always a good time to change one's life for the better. For all the girlies striving for happier lives - you got this.
Spoiled girlie support group for lifeee ❤❤❤
I'm so glad you made this video and opened this conversation. I realized that I needed to largely distance myself from my best friend because she was becoming jealous and envious of the accomplishments that I was making. I was pushing myself to figure out and succeed in my finances, assets, career, my partner, and my future life! I was making so much ground, but because my best friend didn't have the same she started guilting me for being better off and blamed me for not making her a priority... but the problem was never me, it was her and the issues she was having with her own life. I spent too long giving all my energy and light to make her feel seen, but I finally realized that THAT IS NOT MY DAMN JOB!! Never dim yourself for those who don't work to shine themselves. Your light is your own, never let anyone stop you from being your best self, you wonderful spoiled girlies 💙💙💙✨️✨️✨️
your videos got me up to do the dishes in my room for the first time in weeks. idc i’ve been depressed and shameful and guilty about nothing for so goddamn long and i’m over it. i’m changing my life for the better and i’m gonna be who i always knew i could.
Sending you love bestie❤
You got this💓
I really truly love and appreciate the community of this channel
As someone with CPTSD, anxiety, and self confidence issues, I definitely have not had the confidence to act on being a spoiled girly, but recently discovered your videos and love what you talk about and the points you make. While in my mind I agree with everything I hear you talk about in your videos, and want to embody that, my mental health makes it hard to truly act confident in myself, stop being a ppl pleaser, and actually act like a spoiled girly. But, I hope I can slowly grow confidence and try to embody these spoiled girly things in my own life step by step. Thanks for the content you make :)
Elle, I want to congratulate you on your amazing channel. You validate me in ways noone ever did. You understand and you find the right words to say. You make a huge difference. I finally found the courage to go for the lifestyle I always wanted. From the bottom of my heart, thank you and keep going.
Lmao we need to create a word for that nasty lil sneaky but not so sneaky side eye from those haters! 😂😂😂
It is so true tho My mom also used to tell me growing up that they were “just jealous”,but I really never believed her back then.I would always try to win people over. Or at times of low self esteem, id think there was something wrong with me.
Wish it didn’t take me till i was 32 to figure out they really were just jealous, but hey at least im here now! 💁♀️💕✨😉
PS - should i let my mom bask in the glory of being right, or keep this one between us girlies? Hmm 🤔 😂
it's called "getting ruffled"! and yes please tell her!
@@therealmanifestelle oh right!getting ruffled i love it!!! 😘💕 thanks again elle for speaking our truth and making us laugh in the process love yew!
Yes I’m similar - I was about 34 when I realized that people had been jealous of me. Men included - ick.
@@audreyandrea460 better late than never, right? 😉✨💕
And honestly im not really surprised you had men in your life that were jealous of you. Id be jealous of us too if i was a guy! Lol 😂 🤷♀️💯
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I've had certain "friends" in the past who would immediately think that I was the culprit if someone anonymously threw them under the bus. Or they'd immediately believe negative gossip about me from people who barely know me. Or they'd think I was lying if I genuinely was unable to help them out with something.
That's when I realised they didn't see me as a friend. They saw me as a THREAT. Waiting in the wings for my downfall.
Needless to say, i cut them loose, and am now VERY particular about who I let into my life (or even my home, lol).
I'm litterally having a spiritual awakening by watching you. Thia is insane. You are something different.❤
This could not have a come at a better time in my life. I am partaking in a fb contest, we’re my peoples can cast a Free Vote, it’s been interesting to see those, “friends” not showing the same love I so freely share to them. No I’m not surprised. I’m not seeking their validation, but would love to have a fraction of that support. I take solace in your words. Thank you for the light you share with us!! I will be listening to this on repeat!! Thx Beastie 💕
this came to me at the perfect time
this video felt like a comforting, long hug. i really wna give you a big tight hug, elle. Thank you, Elle; you are saving lives.🥺
im so glad we found each other ☺ spoiled girlies unite!
I cut all my friends low energy vampires. Am moving to a new country hopefully will manifest amazing bright friendships with similat values and goals and bright vision
Same
Love this topic and the fact this hits home back at junior high with the girls at school who keep giving me the ick just cause i have high bounderies with high standards then same during senior high before going to fashion school . It became slow but smooth to sence the ick and found true freinds in diffrent comunities then dumped and or destroyed the toxic people out of my area
With gossip…. I have to say, there is a difference between talking about someone and your concerns for them or praising them. But talking about a person negativity is what I don’t want to participate in. Negative gossip is different from positive gossip.
My sister started randomly hating- accusing me of “making my bf get two jobs.” I understand why she would be so jealous looking back at our childhoods. She was never afraid to ask- even demand things. I was the total opposite. She’s assuming I’m acting the way she would in my situation.