It's because they didn't think, they only superficially care about their dogs. They are items to these people, not actual animals. That's why they won't actually put in the effort
@@m6666I didn't know that was a problem, my four dogs eat together with no problems. I'm curious as to why you shouldn't, would you mind explaining Thanks 🐾💜🐾
@@littlelizzi3135Mine always eat together they even eat with the cats nobody bothered anyone else. If your pets are ok then there’s the answer. I’ve never had any behavioral issues with my pets but my family are on the same page pet wise and put the time in. This couple have issues and that’s clear by their animals 😢
@littlelizzi3135 if your dogs get on fine, then that's great. If you have a resource guarder or even a very dominant dog, then they could prevent your other dog from eating (as seen in this episode) or even if you have 2 dominant dogs then you should feed them separately as they could start fighting over the food, and that's the last thing you want happening as that could cause further tension between the dogs even when there are treats around or if a child has food that too could be a problem. I believe prevention is better than cure, so in that regard, I think it's always better to err on the side of caution.
These two are NEVER gonna make it as a married couple (if they ever make it that far). I swear, Victoria is a couples therapist more than a dog trainer!
@@charlhotmcding6207 that is sad. He has family money and is a lawyer. He is very disrespectful to her and doesn’t care at all about her dog. She should have run instead of ignoring all the red flags.
Right! Then he's like "she should help me train him" and she said she already trained her dog 😢 and cut to him so sad even scared to play with her, he's hiding.. poor baby
😂😂😂😂 it's not his dog your dog just like children if you do this like how she is like well my dog is trained yours isn't I'm not training just is just as much of the problem.....
The best advice of all time for the guy in the video would be to treat Norman situation the way he would do for Zandar.. THE MOMENT his dog stopped eating he started to fight for him but what about poor Norman who is so traumatized by Zandar? He is clearly ready to sacrifice the comfort of everyone around for his dog and he definitely enjoys the dominance of the dog.. No way someone would be willing to leave the other pet of the house and his gf/bf this traumatized and do nothing about it unless they like the way things are
Because he’s an entitled A-hole who didn’t care about this poor woman at all. I’m glad she’s away from him. I mean my god I wouldn’t ever be able to accept that little rat dog.
I feel truly sorry for Lindsay. She is being emotionally and verbally abused by Jason. He is selfish and uses her emotions against her, and their dogs are the complete reflection of both of them. I hope she can learn that leaving may be her best option, especially since she wants kids.
Another kind of guy i dont want in my life 😂 one who always feels hes always right and thinks doing something different looks wacky 😏 sorry for lyndsey 😮💨 and more sorry for the dogs their parents cant understand them
Jason's behaviour here is shocking. His parents and girlfriend have been bitten multiple times and he needs to get a grip. And sorry Lyndsey, but he clearly doesn't love anyone other than himself.
Even after the training, in the end Jason made it a/b himself. "Now she See's that she will have to help me train Zander", he concluded. Honestly, it was never Zander that she had a problem with; but Jason, who seemed under concerned, if not unconcerned that Norman stopped living life, and was wasting away beneath the sofa. I think his lack of concern, recognition of the problems, and total failure to be in tune and proactive is what crowded Lindsey's heart. Xander needed serious intervention. Now, that she has bonded with Xander, he will always be her dog too.
And this is why, as the owner of large dogs, I *hate* so many small dog owners. If one of my dogs bit someone on a daily basis, they'd have been seized and put down, but small dogs can terrorize people for *YEARS* and the owners just go "oh well" until they can't even leave their home without getting bitten.
Very true. I’m a volunteer at a dog shelter, so I handle Malinois, Rotts, Pitts, German Shepherds, Danes etc. Never had a problem (and Im quite a petite woman) The only time I got sent to a hospital was by a small Jack Russel. Bit my hand through and through, bit my stomach too. He had bitten before but it was not written on his info. Whereas we also had a huge GS, his info said « Not to be handle by women » eventhough I never ever had a problem w him. Because he growled once at a woman at his adoptive home. So bc of that, the GS never got adopted, when the JR was given 2 more chances with adoptive pple (that he bit too). Big dogs have a very strong bias against them. And it’s so damn unfair.
I agree completely. I am a dog trainer and the idea that once it's small enough to "not be a threat", they don't have to treat it like a dog. No training, no socialization, nothing, just because it isn't big enough to rip someone's face off. On the other hand, it's also partially a treatment problem for the dog. People disrespect small dogs ALL THE TIME. They don't have any caution, they just pick them up, even strangers, and then are shocked when the dog freaks out. All dogs are DOGS, not objects. If a stranger came up to my Rottweiler, no introduction, and just grabbed him to try to pick him up, NOBODY would be surprised if he growled or wiggled or otherwise panicked (he wouldn't, he's been extensively trained for physical handling, but that's exactly what people aren't training their small dogs for) The public seems to think that all small dog behaviors are "cute", even biting and growling and barking, so we've kinda created the problem by not treating them like actual dogs. The amount of people that have said to me "I didn't know small dogs COULD be trained!" Is honestly pretty uncomfortable. Don't get a dog if you can't/won't put in the work to make it a well-behaved member of your household
I have to agree, I’m so much more comfortable around larger dogs than smaller dogs. The only time my, my brother and people had to actually stand on a neighbour’s wall, was due to small dogs! People just don’t treat them as dogs, so they’re unruly! My dog walker who has a great successful reliable business, ended up not taking on small dogs because they are so difficult, due to their owners.
the pain in her eyes when she watched her dog in complete shutdown truely brought me to tears. I felt her pain quite a lot and I don't even have a dog.
Boyfriend is gaslighting his GF. She needs to escape this horrible relationship. It's easy to train a dog -- hire a behaviouralist and be committed to helping the dog become calmer. Also, notice the pee pad on the floor? That's a symptom that this dog does not get adequate exercise. A well exercised dog is a happy dog.
Most people with tiny dogs in NYC need to have pee pads in apartments. The little dogs can’t hold their bladder long enough to get downstairs and outside. My friends who have tiny dogs that are excellently trained use pee pads just so they don’t have pee accidents.
Nyc is a horrible place to live. I took my dog out every 45 min to 1 hr when potty training and basically trained it out of her. Its a lot of work and people need to realize it
Or a sign that they live in an apartment 🙄 my dog is trained on a pad for the same reason, we can't just let our dogs out at 3am. Maybe don't be so judgemental
All the girl needed was some validation from her partner. Thats it. Some validation for the past 4 years. And the relationship can move on in the present and reality
He's a man who don't know how to turn off this contention for the sake of their relationship, that that's hired for pay at work.... Married to a commission salesman and we've had this talk LOL
I am so happy for her and her dog. She will have learned what she should avoid in a partner. I hope she and her dog heal and are wiser for that horrid torturous experience.
Terriers are difficult dogs to train because they are so smart and were originally bred for hunting small animals. The other thing I notice with dogs is if the household members fight it directly affects the dogs' behavior. Animals pick up all our emotions and tension is hard for them.
Hahaha he also didnt try to train at all. Terrier or not... any dog without training and an owner in denial will be terrible. Im so glad this couple split up.
Man! This episode struck a deep chord with me. When my ex moved in with his dog he was a nightmare because he had never done any training with him. My dog was trained and well behaved and my ex pretty much expected me to train his dog for him. He never took any accountability for his dogs lack of training and barely any responsibility to do so. After 3 years his dog was still not listening and pushing every boundary that he could. The reality is that the problem was my ex. Not necessarily the dog. Ex. Ex. Ex. I do not miss either of them.
I have a puppy that is naturally a little more difficult than the average puppy. You need dog trainers right from the beginning if you’re not experienced and you need to be extremely strict. It’s gotten a whole lot better in just a few weeks. That is more relaxing for me AND my dog. I know it can sometimes be hard to be very strict but it really makes it better for everyone in the long run. For Lindsay I hope she didn’t marry him and didn’t have kids with him. He can’t and doesn’t want to take care of his dogs and leaves it to her. He‘ll do the same with his kids.
If they cant agree about training a dog... if they cant have kids because of the dog... RUN lady! RUN for the hills! and find someone with a cat who your sweet boy can live with in peace!
Well This one was a surprise! The one thing I did note is he's out early and home late evening so a massive percentage of the dogs care is down to her. Faced with that and an aggressive dog bullying her own dog to traumatising levels, I'm not in the least bit surprised she sees it as his dog, her dog. Or worse still, his ex-girlfriends dog 😮 Victoria had a HUGE job here and she did exceptionally well. I did Not expect them to be together but another commenter says they are, blimey 😮
The ones who have checked say they're not together, but he married someone else called Lindsay, and Lyndsey from this episode is married to someone else.
The one thing this couple desperately need is Jason sitting down, saying sorry for the buttom of his heart not taking Norman's problems seriously enough, and Xander's problems seriously enough. Than they could moove on more easily.
Are u a psychologist? ‘Narcissistic’ label has been abused and misused to label people one doesn’t like! Also, there are people with narcissistic tendencies and the more extreme is a Narcissistic personality disorder!
@@lenitaa7938oh. My. God. I caaaanot. Everyone is a narcissist lately. Like when people learned the word “toxic” everyone and their mother is “toxic” just because there was a disliked behavior. Every single human being has had narcissistic tendencies at some point in their life but real NPD is actually pretty rare. These people the cry NARCISSIST at everyone who has a crappy behavior has probably never genuinely known someone with real NPD
I feel bad for Lindsey and Norman. It really does seem like this guy never cared to begin with and doesn’t see how dire the situation was knowing his dog is biting people and drawing blood. How clueless and selfish can you be jeez.
There were like... 3 dog training activities? And 30 minutes of couple counselling??? 😄😄😄 Lyndsay looks a bit out of control, but that's what living with someone who constantly minimises your feelings does to a person... If she doesn't scream, she doesn't think he'll listen. And then he blames her for anything that is wrong. She married another guy, good for her. Jason is bad news, and his dog is just an extension of his own issues as a potential partner. 🙄
The fighting will stop when she dumps him and leaves... That fighting is never going to end and she cannot stay in a negative situation. Plus the two are not married. So Zander is not her dog. She can leave when she wants to.
She is more into him than he is into her 🙄. Postscript: Jason married Lindsay in 2015 (nope, not the same person😂). And Lyndsey married someone else in 2014. And I hope Norman and Xander lived happily ever after too.
@carolwilliams8511 just bc the couple went their separate ways doesn't mean the dogs were rehomed at all they're with the same owners. And with him being rehabilitated he can be rehomed as long as their history is disclosed to the potential new owners. She was letting them know he couldn't be rehomed bc she said she was done and the only option was that or her getting on board bc he couldn't go anywhere as the liability he was then at the time. He could be totally fine somewhere else rn tbh
Well done, Victoria Stilwell. That was No easy task, but you got your message through and hopefully the couple and their dogs can move forward in unison
I can’t believe they allowed this little rat nightmare to steal food out of a human being’s mouth while terrorizing the other dog. People are claiming this couple is still together and with kids but this dog is such a massive red flag. This guy is bad news. She’s staying with a guy who treats her like garbage because he has family $$$ and is a lawyer. How very sad.
Someone else commented that they're not together but married separately to other people. Who knows, but I sure hope that's true, since they seemed very incompatible.
If you take the time to get a dog you need to take the time to train it. Poor Lindsey I know she’s heartbroken about the whole situation especially her own dog who’s terrified to even come out of hiding.
What kind of person let’s there dog get like that?! 🙄 and that guy likely didn’t see a thing wrong with the behavior. Had dogs my whole life. Not gonna have a dog that fricken bites me. No way! I get sick of people letting there dogs completely run them with no boundaries or respect at all. Obviously it’s not the poor dogs fault. It’s the man’s fault. I hope that poor woman took Norman and ran for the hills.
You're right, even HIS OWN PARENTS said they think he secretly likes his dog being so agressive. And a dog that had bit me, several times even, would not be welcomed back into my home, not even if it's my childs dog. That man was a walking red flag, I don't understand why she hadn't left him long before....
The fact that Jason refuses to accept accountability and responsibility for the problems that he and his dog has caused is ridiculous. Lindsay can't be expected to simply get over everything while Jason doesn't accept responsibility for the situation.
Omg this guy and his dog are giving me anxiety. That obnoxious little fur ball is just Jason’s quadrupedal tether, that’s why he doesn’t see a problem with the behaviour. He’s a bully too!
This little dog( terrier) is Smart and seems she understand Lindsey doesn't love him,the way he expressed,when Lindsey tried to give him treat by saying" touch" it took time for the dog and finally he submitted. Its amazing animals are also like human, they understand but cant express...
Why won't Victoria see that it's the man allowing this behavior and refusing to handle his dog. It's his dog, it has bitten everyone and even his parents said he needs help. Her dog isn't bothering anyone and he's living in fear. It's not the woman, it's the man.
That guy is manipulative and controlling. He’s doing it quietly, and going through the motions. The look on his face when Victoria told him that she was in charge. That girl should run for the hills and take her dog with her. Did you notice that when the dog started to behave or calm down, he did some small thing to to wind it back up again He’s trouble with a capital T.
Jason is emitting red flags all over the place. He's not willing to see the blame in himself. And then he wants to redirect everything on anyone else but himself.
Run Lindsay! A man who's not concerned you are being bitten and then makes HER the problem that he needs to get away from is someone you need to get away from!!
I’m so glad Victoria Stillwell was able to help this couple! The relaxation between the two humans after the canoe exercise was so clear to see; it was lovely! I hope cooperation, commitment, and love over being right stays with them.
i really feel like it wasn't addressed enough how right she was. when HIS dog couldn't eat, suddenly there was a problem. but when her dog couldn't, tough. like, that's a problem in the way he operates and will continue to.
Lindsey needs to tell this man child to grow up and behave like a responsible adult…. The poor dogs deserve better. Leave quickly Lindsey this guy is not parenting partner material.
I honestly can't comprehend the audacity of these people. To be so immature as to have a full-blown argument on camera, in front of your dog trainer, and your parents, without an ounce of shame is unbelievable. Neither of them are mature enough to be in a relationship, and other commenters have been saying that they broke up in the end anyways. Victoria was trying to put a band aid on a gushing wound. This relationship was bound to fail.
If that was a big dog bitting it would be muzzled straight away. Its not fair on these people that have been bitten multiple times to expect them to be ok with being around a dog that has bitten them several times unmuzzled. On top of that, they are still walking it in public on a loose leash without a muzzle? It could have easily jumped at a child and bitten it. Causing even greater damage, as children are so much smaller. Saying that, ive respect for Victoria, it must be hard when owners refuse to muzzle..She is a brave lady...
I would have liked to see more emphasis on the fact that Xander bit people frequently. That is sooooooooo bad!! And it didn't seem like Jason (the man-baby) cared. I agree with Victoria that Xander was feeding off Lyndsey's energy, but honestly... I see why Lyndsey would have trouble with this. The sticky situation with the dogs reflected the sticky situation between J&L. How sad. I know this episode is older, and people evolve and mature. So for today, I hope both J&L moved on and matured from this experience. Thank you for your work, Victoria.
You just made her more compliant, because she really loves the guy. But he will never put her first.. Sorry... IF any partner does not stand up for his/her other half, then they are not compatible.
4:15 A cleaning lady probably can't afford to sue them; that's the only reason they're "lucky". The things us poors put up with because we can't afford to hold spoiled rich people accountable us ridiculous!
Let's face it, it was a load of bulls*it. I'm happy Victoria interrupted and told Jason to let Xander go when she did, as the doga teacher was blatantly ignoring any and all stress signals from the dogs.
Rule #1 for having pets that came from 2 different families It doesn’t matter who’s pet it was originally, once your 2 families merge together they become both of your pets, if you get a new stepmom, step siblings, husband, wife or whatever and you both had pets that you owned before your 2 families came together guess what? They’re now everyone’s pet and you all gotta learn to love them all the same
That only works if they actually have a good relationship in the first place and are willing to work together. In her case I wouldn't even move in together as long as his dog is a loose cannonball.
It is mindboggling to me that they didn't separate the dogs during meals as soon as it was clear Xander was stopping Norman from eating.
Exactly! They had them eating side by side which you never do anyway.
It's because they didn't think, they only superficially care about their dogs. They are items to these people, not actual animals. That's why they won't actually put in the effort
@@m6666I didn't know that was a problem, my four dogs eat together with no problems. I'm curious as to why you shouldn't, would you mind explaining Thanks 🐾💜🐾
@@littlelizzi3135Mine always eat together they even eat with the cats nobody bothered anyone else. If your pets are ok then there’s the answer. I’ve never had any behavioral issues with my pets but my family are on the same page pet wise and put the time in. This couple have issues and that’s clear by their animals 😢
@littlelizzi3135 if your dogs get on fine, then that's great. If you have a resource guarder or even a very dominant dog, then they could prevent your other dog from eating (as seen in this episode) or even if you have 2 dominant dogs then you should feed them separately as they could start fighting over the food, and that's the last thing you want happening as that could cause further tension between the dogs even when there are treats around or if a child has food that too could be a problem. I believe prevention is better than cure, so in that regard, I think it's always better to err on the side of caution.
I love the way Victoria can walk into someone's apartment, command them to 'leave', and they just do it 😂.
she emanates boss bitch energy and i love it 😂
@@mm-ln9sw pun intended?
These two are NEVER gonna make it as a married couple (if they ever make it that far). I swear, Victoria is a couples therapist more than a dog trainer!
@@charlhotmcding6207 that is sad. He has family money and is a lawyer. He is very disrespectful to her and doesn’t care at all about her dog. She should have run instead of ignoring all the red flags.
nope - he married someone else and so did she!
So who's right here? Two people checked and came up with opposite answers.
@@m6666I double checked they’re not married they married different people, he married a different girl named Lindsey lol
@@Turboj47 thanks 😊
Seeing poor little Norman huddled in the corner on the sofa just broke my heart!
I cried 😢
Right! Then he's like "she should help me train him" and she said she already trained her dog 😢 and cut to him so sad even scared to play with her, he's hiding.. poor baby
@jenma9377 I didn't cry, but close to it b/caz I got teary eye. It was definitely heartbreaking.
He is pouring out red flags!! His dog reflects him
😂😂😂😂 it's not his dog your dog just like children if you do this like how she is like well my dog is trained yours isn't I'm not training just is just as much of the problem.....
Yup, zero accountability from him he just wants to blame her. Imagine what kind of Attorney he is! Text book gaslighting and Narcissism.
Exactly mostly pets personality was mirrored from their owners 😅
@@kellylocamarie What??? was that meant to be an actual coherent sentence?
@@kellylocamarie nah it's not her personality to redo this dog's education because his owner is incompetent
The best advice of all time for the guy in the video would be to treat Norman situation the way he would do for Zandar.. THE MOMENT his dog stopped eating he started to fight for him but what about poor Norman who is so traumatized by Zandar? He is clearly ready to sacrifice the comfort of everyone around for his dog and he definitely enjoys the dominance of the dog.. No way someone would be willing to leave the other pet of the house and his gf/bf this traumatized and do nothing about it unless they like the way things are
Because he’s an entitled A-hole who didn’t care about this poor woman at all. I’m glad she’s away from him. I mean my god I wouldn’t ever be able to accept that little rat dog.
Dump the guy !!! These guys who like aggressive "dominating" dogs; they really are like "MY" wife, MY house, MY kids, MY car
@@NikkieRoxxx She did!
100%
I’ve never seen Xander spelled like that. different….
"She left the house without getting bit" 😂😂 talk about low expectations
😂😂😂
Yeah that’s like rewarding someone for washing their hands after using the bathroom.
I feel truly sorry for Lindsay. She is being emotionally and verbally abused by Jason. He is selfish and uses her emotions against her, and their dogs are the complete reflection of both of them. I hope she can learn that leaving may be her best option, especially since she wants kids.
Omg when she started crying my heart 😭💔🥺
Exactly 💯
Jason is a horrible selfish self centered human being. No wonder he’s in a solo practice
Another kind of guy i dont want in my life 😂 one who always feels hes always right and thinks doing something different looks wacky 😏 sorry for lyndsey 😮💨 and more sorry for the dogs their parents cant understand them
@@lindziep6319owners not parents
Victoria is not only a great dog trainer but also a good couples counseling 😂
fr she was training them more than dogs haha
Jason's behaviour here is shocking. His parents and girlfriend have been bitten multiple times and he needs to get a grip.
And sorry Lyndsey, but he clearly doesn't love anyone other than himself.
Yeah, I’d have been like “Enjoy and take care of your demon dog cuz he’s _all_ you’re gonna have” and walk out the door.
Him self in the beast 😢
He clearly doesn't care about his family or his girlfriend and I really hated him and zander the evil devil dog in this episode
True Lindsey he needs to move he so disrespectful.
Even after the training, in the end Jason made it a/b himself. "Now she See's that she will have to help me train Zander", he concluded. Honestly, it was never Zander that she had a problem with; but Jason, who seemed under concerned, if not unconcerned that Norman stopped living life, and was wasting away beneath the sofa. I think his lack of concern, recognition of the problems, and total failure to be in tune and proactive is what crowded Lindsey's heart. Xander needed serious intervention. Now, that she has bonded with Xander, he will always be her dog too.
I love the way Jason's parents are on Victoria's side
Clout chasers
My heart just breaks for Norman 😢
Oh my dear, poor Norman! I didn't even notice he was there until they were talking about how shut down he was...
And this is why, as the owner of large dogs, I *hate* so many small dog owners. If one of my dogs bit someone on a daily basis, they'd have been seized and put down, but small dogs can terrorize people for *YEARS* and the owners just go "oh well" until they can't even leave their home without getting bitten.
Yes. Very unfair. No dog should have a pass for aggression.
Very true. I’m a volunteer at a dog shelter, so I handle Malinois, Rotts, Pitts, German Shepherds, Danes etc. Never had a problem (and Im quite a petite woman) The only time I got sent to a hospital was by a small Jack Russel. Bit my hand through and through, bit my stomach too. He had bitten before but it was not written on his info. Whereas we also had a huge GS, his info said « Not to be handle by women » eventhough I never ever had a problem w him. Because he growled once at a woman at his adoptive home. So bc of that, the GS never got adopted, when the JR was given 2 more chances with adoptive pple (that he bit too). Big dogs have a very strong bias against them. And it’s so damn unfair.
That was also wath I was thinking😂
I agree completely. I am a dog trainer and the idea that once it's small enough to "not be a threat", they don't have to treat it like a dog. No training, no socialization, nothing, just because it isn't big enough to rip someone's face off.
On the other hand, it's also partially a treatment problem for the dog. People disrespect small dogs ALL THE TIME. They don't have any caution, they just pick them up, even strangers, and then are shocked when the dog freaks out. All dogs are DOGS, not objects. If a stranger came up to my Rottweiler, no introduction, and just grabbed him to try to pick him up, NOBODY would be surprised if he growled or wiggled or otherwise panicked (he wouldn't, he's been extensively trained for physical handling, but that's exactly what people aren't training their small dogs for)
The public seems to think that all small dog behaviors are "cute", even biting and growling and barking, so we've kinda created the problem by not treating them like actual dogs. The amount of people that have said to me "I didn't know small dogs COULD be trained!" Is honestly pretty uncomfortable. Don't get a dog if you can't/won't put in the work to make it a well-behaved member of your household
I have to agree, I’m so much more comfortable around larger dogs than smaller dogs. The only time my, my brother and people had to actually stand on a neighbour’s wall, was due to small dogs! People just don’t treat them as dogs, so they’re unruly! My dog walker who has a great successful reliable business, ended up not taking on small dogs because they are so difficult, due to their owners.
I loved seeing how chill and happy Norman was during dog yoga ❤
I feel so bad for both dog’s but my god my heart broke looking at poor Norman. I’d happily give him the life, love and attention he needs! 💔
Actually I feel Lyndsey was a very good mom to Norman, but she was dating a narcissist
the pain in her eyes when she watched her dog in complete shutdown truely brought me to tears. I felt her pain quite a lot and I don't even have a dog.
Boyfriend is gaslighting his GF. She needs to escape this horrible relationship. It's easy to train a dog -- hire a behaviouralist and be committed to helping the dog become calmer. Also, notice the pee pad on the floor? That's a symptom that this dog does not get adequate exercise. A well exercised dog is a happy dog.
Most people with tiny dogs in NYC need to have pee pads in apartments. The little dogs can’t hold their bladder long enough to get downstairs and outside. My friends who have tiny dogs that are excellently trained use pee pads just so they don’t have pee accidents.
They live in a NYC high rise, sometimes it takes 10 minutes to get downstairs.
Nyc is a horrible place to live. I took my dog out every 45 min to 1 hr when potty training and basically trained it out of her. Its a lot of work and people need to realize it
Or a sign that they live in an apartment 🙄 my dog is trained on a pad for the same reason, we can't just let our dogs out at 3am. Maybe don't be so judgemental
All the girl needed was some validation from her partner. Thats it. Some validation for the past 4 years. And the relationship can move on in the present and reality
All she needs is to get the hell out of there goooodddd
@@james.6933 fr. men are just narcissists.
He's a man who don't know how to turn off this contention for the sake of their relationship, that that's hired for pay at work....
Married to a commission salesman and we've had this talk LOL
@@james.6933 ikr, even better. I read in the comments their relationship didnt last. What a suprise. 🤷🏼♀️
That's sarcasm ....right?
They split up - girl dodged a bullet. Who needs to marry a 10 year old?
They did? That's good to hear. Poor Norman.
I am so happy for her and her dog. She will have learned what she should avoid in a partner. I hope she and her dog heal and are wiser for that horrid torturous experience.
Yep!!! Best thing for her and Norman
Best thing
What a horrid father he would be.
Damn, he sees people getting bitten by his dog and all his reaction is "get over it"
Terriers are difficult dogs to train because they are so smart and were originally bred for hunting small animals. The other thing I notice with dogs is if the household members fight it directly affects the dogs' behavior. Animals pick up all our emotions and tension is hard for them.
Hahaha he also didnt try to train at all. Terrier or not... any dog without training and an owner in denial will be terrible.
Im so glad this couple split up.
Jason : "Xander is really a loving dog."
Lindsay : "Xander bit our cleaning lady."
Man! This episode struck a deep chord with me. When my ex moved in with his dog he was a nightmare because he had never done any training with him. My dog was trained and well behaved and my ex pretty much expected me to train his dog for him. He never took any accountability for his dogs lack of training and barely any responsibility to do so. After 3 years his dog was still not listening and pushing every boundary that he could. The reality is that the problem was my ex. Not necessarily the dog. Ex. Ex. Ex. I do not miss either of them.
I have a puppy that is naturally a little more difficult than the average puppy. You need dog trainers right from the beginning if you’re not experienced and you need to be extremely strict. It’s gotten a whole lot better in just a few weeks. That is more relaxing for me AND my dog. I know it can sometimes be hard to be very strict but it really makes it better for everyone in the long run.
For Lindsay I hope she didn’t marry him and didn’t have kids with him. He can’t and doesn’t want to take care of his dogs and leaves it to her. He‘ll do the same with his kids.
I heard that they're married to 2 different people with kids
@@warriorskitcat3859Oh No that’s awful all that hard work and effort Victoria put in all for nothing
@@deniseshephard3347 ikr, but they didn't seem to have the best relationship, I hope they are happy now
If they cant agree about training a dog... if they cant have kids because of the dog... RUN lady! RUN for the hills! and find someone with a cat who your sweet boy can live with in peace!
Exactly
So true it is the only good thing to do for her!
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They split up so she dodged him
Well This one was a surprise! The one thing I did note is he's out early and home late evening so a massive percentage of the dogs care is down to her. Faced with that and an aggressive dog bullying her own dog to traumatising levels, I'm not in the least bit surprised she sees it as his dog, her dog. Or worse still, his ex-girlfriends dog 😮 Victoria had a HUGE job here and she did exceptionally well. I did Not expect them to be together but another commenter says they are, blimey 😮
But in the same thread, someone else says they're no longer together. Who knows?
The ones who have checked say they're not together, but he married someone else called Lindsay, and Lyndsey from this episode is married to someone else.
The one thing this couple desperately need is Jason sitting down, saying sorry for the buttom of his heart not taking Norman's problems seriously enough, and Xander's problems seriously enough. Than they could moove on more easily.
That man's narcissistic toxicity was poisoning three other beings. He needs a trainer. With a cattle prod.
Absolutely @jess, especially the cattle prod!
Well said!!!
Lol that's so funny and so accurate
Are u a psychologist? ‘Narcissistic’ label has been abused and misused to label people one doesn’t like!
Also, there are people with narcissistic tendencies and the more extreme is a Narcissistic personality disorder!
@@lenitaa7938oh. My. God. I caaaanot. Everyone is a narcissist lately. Like when people learned the word “toxic” everyone and their mother is “toxic” just because there was a disliked behavior. Every single human being has had narcissistic tendencies at some point in their life but real NPD is actually pretty rare. These people the cry NARCISSIST at everyone who has a crappy behavior has probably never genuinely known someone with real NPD
He's an attorney at work and at home. Lol. It's constantly him trying to convince her he is right and never actually trying to understand her side.
I'm stunned that the cleaning lady didn't sue !
Maybe because she doesn't have enough money to do so and the guy is an attorney so..
@@ivelissesairro8917Or maybe he paid her off. That’s what lawyers do to. Settle.
@@KittenBowl1 Yes
She is realizing that he is not able/willing to train his dog and therefore is not good father material.
I am convinced he's the type of guy who would throw her into the water blindfolded for laughs had the cameras not been on🙄
"Youre lucky you didnt get sued" 😅 her telling the lawyer
I feel bad for Lindsey and Norman. It really does seem like this guy never cared to begin with and doesn’t see how dire the situation was knowing his dog is biting people and drawing blood. How clueless and selfish can you be jeez.
Especially since he's an ATTORNEY. Like...this is a tort waiting to happen 😂
Lindsey and norman need to pack up and leave those lame boys
The boyfriend is lame. Zander is not. Zander is the direct result of that toxic man and its not Zanders fault. Zander needs a new home
she did end up leaving. she's now married to someone else and has 2 kids
@@paigebernard583 I hope that’s true, these two seemed very ill matched and like they’d be better off not in a relationship with each other.
This guy's left eyebrow needs a show of it's own
Jason is one GIGANTIC red flag!!!!!!!!🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
HE IS SOOOOOO SELFISH! I'M SCREAMING!
There were like... 3 dog training activities? And 30 minutes of couple counselling??? 😄😄😄
Lyndsay looks a bit out of control, but that's what living with someone who constantly minimises your feelings does to a person... If she doesn't scream, she doesn't think he'll listen. And then he blames her for anything that is wrong. She married another guy, good for her. Jason is bad news, and his dog is just an extension of his own issues as a potential partner. 🙄
I feel bad for the dog hiding and shaking.
Heartbreaking..
The happiest news about this episode is that they broke up and are no longer together.
I LOVE Victoria’s energy! 🤩✨
The other trainers left because of this guy, not because of the dog…
The fighting will stop when she dumps him and leaves... That fighting is never going to end and she cannot stay in a negative situation. Plus the two are not married. So Zander is not her dog. She can leave when she wants to.
zander is her dog as long as she lives there. Also both dogs need better owners.
She is more into him than he is into her 🙄.
Postscript: Jason married Lindsay in 2015 (nope, not the same person😂). And Lyndsey married someone else in 2014. And I hope Norman and Xander lived happily ever after too.
Victoria warned him that Zander cannot ever be rehomed.
ive been hearing this from the comments, does anyone have a source?
@@sardonicsardonyx359their facebooks and some found it over on google
@carolwilliams8511 just bc the couple went their separate ways doesn't mean the dogs were rehomed at all they're with the same owners. And with him being rehabilitated he can be rehomed as long as their history is disclosed to the potential new owners. She was letting them know he couldn't be rehomed bc she said she was done and the only option was that or her getting on board bc he couldn't go anywhere as the liability he was then at the time. He could be totally fine somewhere else rn tbh
I’ve had as many as 5 dogs in my home at one time, some were more food aggressive than others. I’ve always fed the dogs in their own safe spaces.
Well done, Victoria Stilwell.
That was No easy task, but you got your message through and hopefully the couple and their dogs can move forward in unison
I can’t believe they allowed this little rat nightmare to steal food out of a human being’s mouth while terrorizing the other dog. People are claiming this couple is still together and with kids but this dog is such a massive red flag. This guy is bad news. She’s staying with a guy who treats her like garbage because he has family $$$ and is a lawyer. How very sad.
Someone else commented that they're not together but married separately to other people. Who knows, but I sure hope that's true, since they seemed very incompatible.
She is now better off with another husband. Feel sorry for the guy's actual wife for being with him.
"little rat nightmare" 😂😂
Aww poor Xander was ruined by Jason, ignoring his terrible behaviour made him a terrible dog.
I cannot agree more. He got a dog for shits and giggles.
Zander is a good boy with horrible owners. Thats that. He was not given structure and training, he will never be a bad dog.
He needed way more home truths than she did!!
Just curious you think it me or the dog should add more full episodes to playlist
Yes, yes and more YES's . Please? It is great to watch the transformation of the furry ones AND their humans.
I am really getting fed up of the same old episodes getting uploaded every single day.......
@@hassan9311Same it's just like supernanny same repeated episodes and clips
@@terajewelcAs far as I know the programme isn't being made anymore.
If you take the time to get a dog you need to take the time to train it. Poor Lindsey I know she’s heartbroken about the whole situation especially her own dog who’s terrified to even come out of hiding.
This guy has a huge sense of entitlement (probably due to money and upbringing) and so does his dog.
His Parents sounded quite resonable though
@@schildiphin44
Ikr..
@@schildiphin44sometimes our kids don’t grow up the way we want them to. just life
And the girl too not just the guy lmao 😭😂 her dog did not fit her personality
@@schildiphin44His parents are good actors for TV especially Dad.
They aren’t together in any way. The guy takes zero responsibility!
What kind of person let’s there dog get like that?! 🙄 and that guy likely didn’t see a thing wrong with the behavior. Had dogs my whole life. Not gonna have a dog that fricken bites me. No way! I get sick of people letting there dogs completely run them with no boundaries or respect at all. Obviously it’s not the poor dogs fault. It’s the man’s fault. I hope that poor woman took Norman and ran for the hills.
You're right, even HIS OWN PARENTS said they think he secretly likes his dog being so agressive. And a dog that had bit me, several times even, would not be welcomed back into my home, not even if it's my childs dog. That man was a walking red flag, I don't understand why she hadn't left him long before....
He's out most of the day and she's the one who's home most of them time and that says alot.
The fact that Jason refuses to accept accountability and responsibility for the problems that he and his dog has caused is ridiculous. Lindsay can't be expected to simply get over everything while Jason doesn't accept responsibility for the situation.
Omg this guy and his dog are giving me anxiety. That obnoxious little fur ball is just Jason’s quadrupedal tether, that’s why he doesn’t see a problem with the behaviour. He’s a bully too!
Great Job! This was a very tough situation.
I'm glad you're able to find things that worked for them.
This little dog( terrier) is Smart and seems she understand Lindsey doesn't love him,the way he expressed,when Lindsey tried to give him treat by saying" touch" it took time for the dog and finally he submitted. Its amazing animals are also like human, they understand but cant express...
You tell them Victoria the reality of it and they need to know the truth and understand the owners ❤
"Xander is really a loving dog"
**The dog 2 seconds later**
Jumping up biting barking running around
This show is great to show you what type of person/traits/behaviours to not settle with or put up with in a relationship.
Victoria you are such an amazing reader of people and animals! ❤brilliant!
Why won't Victoria see that it's the man allowing this behavior and refusing to handle his dog. It's his dog, it has bitten everyone and even his parents said he needs help. Her dog isn't bothering anyone and he's living in fear. It's not the woman, it's the man.
Are you for real? Were you watching this episode?
That guy is manipulative and controlling. He’s doing it quietly, and going through the motions. The look on his face when Victoria told him that she was in charge. That girl should run for the hills and take her dog with her. Did you notice that when the dog started to behave or calm down, he did some small thing to to wind it back up again He’s trouble with a capital T.
Jason is emitting red flags all over the place. He's not willing to see the blame in himself. And then he wants to redirect everything on anyone else but himself.
Run Lindsay! A man who's not concerned you are being bitten and then makes HER the problem that he needs to get away from is someone you need to get away from!!
I’m so glad Victoria Stillwell was able to help this couple! The relaxation between the two humans after the canoe exercise was so clear to see; it was lovely! I hope cooperation, commitment, and love over being right stays with them.
i really feel like it wasn't addressed enough how right she was. when HIS dog couldn't eat, suddenly there was a problem. but when her dog couldn't, tough. like, that's a problem in the way he operates and will continue to.
Victoria Needs To Have Update Episodes
How nice and lovely Victoria is!!❤
This couple are not suited. Can you imagine this behaviour in front of children
Quite. It would be absolutely terrible.
The boyfriend and his dog are bullying Lindsey and her dog it’s literally 2 against 2. The dog’s personalities are exactly like their owners
Doga is possibly one of the strangest but cutest things I've ever seen 😭
21:16 her laughing at her husband is just so funny
Central Park has a great big dog park. I used to take my Great Blue Dane Sir Sydney Buxton there often. I hope they can take their dog there.
One dog being nicer at a time!❤
I can be just imagine these two as parents blaming each other. for their children’s misbehavior.
I imagine their last dog trainers quit because of them fighting not that they couldn't train the dogs. These people need help for themselves.
Lindsey needs to tell this man child to grow up and behave like a responsible adult…. The poor dogs deserve better. Leave quickly Lindsey this guy is not parenting partner material.
I honestly can't comprehend the audacity of these people. To be so immature as to have a full-blown argument on camera, in front of your dog trainer, and your parents, without an ounce of shame is unbelievable. Neither of them are mature enough to be in a relationship, and other commenters have been saying that they broke up in the end anyways. Victoria was trying to put a band aid on a gushing wound. This relationship was bound to fail.
Victoria is a legend
very good comment
Least. Deserving. Participants. Ever.
Poor Normie... I hope she got tf out of there
I love this dog trainer!!!!
If that was a big dog bitting it would be muzzled straight away. Its not fair on these people that have been bitten multiple times to expect them to be ok with being around a dog that has bitten them several times unmuzzled. On top of that, they are still walking it in public on a loose leash without a muzzle? It could have easily jumped at a child and bitten it. Causing even greater damage, as children are so much smaller. Saying that, ive respect for Victoria, it must be hard when owners refuse to muzzle..She is a brave lady...
I would have liked to see more emphasis on the fact that Xander bit people frequently. That is sooooooooo bad!!
And it didn't seem like Jason (the man-baby) cared. I agree with Victoria that Xander was feeding off Lyndsey's energy, but honestly... I see why Lyndsey would have trouble with this. The sticky situation with the dogs reflected the sticky situation between J&L. How sad.
I know this episode is older, and people evolve and mature. So for today, I hope both J&L moved on and matured from this experience.
Thank you for your work, Victoria.
Omg I started bawling when norman was being so sad in the couch 😭
It literally brought me to tears watching Norman cower in fear on the couch 😢💔
Don't have time for dog? Don't have time for child.
Well HE was expecting Lindsay to take care of everything 😂 he's that type of guy
Poor little Norman!! I just want to save him!!😢
You just made her more compliant, because she really loves the guy. But he will never put her first.. Sorry... IF any partner does not stand up for his/her other half, then they are not compatible.
Absolutely wonderful to see they have got on same page
4:15 A cleaning lady probably can't afford to sue them; that's the only reason they're "lucky". The things us poors put up with because we can't afford to hold spoiled rich people accountable us ridiculous!
She is part time dog owner part time relationship counselor 😂😂
“Love can only go so far”.
Gag!
Take responsibility!
You have lovely ideas plus both dogs will feel at peaceful and calm for both dogs well done ❤
😂 the yoga was funny😂
Let's face it, it was a load of bulls*it. I'm happy Victoria interrupted and told Jason to let Xander go when she did, as the doga teacher was blatantly ignoring any and all stress signals from the dogs.
Rule #1 for having pets that came from 2 different families
It doesn’t matter who’s pet it was originally, once your 2 families merge together they become both of your pets, if you get a new stepmom, step siblings, husband, wife or whatever and you both had pets that you owned before your 2 families came together guess what? They’re now everyone’s pet and you all gotta learn to love them all the same
That only works if they actually have a good relationship in the first place and are willing to work together. In her case I wouldn't even move in together as long as his dog is a loose cannonball.
Exactly. Just like with children
Correct all dogs can sense a human being stressed or anything ❤