I understand where you're coming from. Life is too short to be unhappy. Sometimes the "logical" decision isn't always the right one. I'm glad that you're happier and can enjoy the game again. You're a great ambassador and you have great positive energy.
I can't ever relate to not loving basketball at any time of my life no matter how hard life gets. It's a love affair. It's the best sport. More than a game to me.
I watched this like 5 years ago as a kid. It completely blows my mind away that I’m literally in the exact situation today now that it’s on my recommended. Thank you Rachel.
Rachel, excellent job of your path away from the game. This video must have been a load lifted from your shoulders. Almost all of us "change horses" as we transition into adult life. Yours has been extraordinary and still keeping your perspective on happiness in your life. Coach Tom
Just reading through the comments and listening to the video on reasons why they quit basketball, and I'm happy to say I will never end up like that. Basketball has made me a better person. From someone in 6th grade coming to a new school since I'm in the military and move around a lot, to the next year being the most popular person in our middle/high school because of basketball. I'm not quiet anymore, even after I moved again, I still have a lot of friends because of me not being quiet and also from playing.
I think it's smart that you do what you wanna do. We only have so long to live and if you can't enjoy that time then you're not doing yourself any favors. I've always heard people talk about how they wish they would've done something different with their life and I'm glad to see someone who's actually trying to do what they love. I'm 18 and I have been struggling lately on my major in college because my heart tells me journalism but the people surrounding me tell me doctor or lawyer and I just had to learn to do what I want to. Thanks for the testimony Rachel.
Thought you were going to say you got pregnant. But this is a much better story. Reminds me of what happened to my sister who went to play for AlbanyU. Picked the wrong school and lost her love of the game.
Airjas Productions That's not true at all. You're confusing the GAME of basketball with the BUSINESS of basketball. The former is all about competing with yourself and others. The latter is a cut-throat game of politics, that only get's worse as you make it higher up the ladder.
Airjas Productions its not ridiculous actually. You can lose interest in something & still come back to love it in a different way, sort of the message of the video. Sort of like her example, if you've been married for 10 years & the spark between you & your partner just disappears, that in no way means you never loved your partner. It just means the spark you had is gone, as was her spark with basketball. There's nothing wrong with losing a love of something
I've been following you since you were on that Elle and Blair online show and found you to be a great and entertaining on air personality and that's a part of why I stuck around. It's been awesome to see how far you've come despite all these challenges. I'm so proud of how you have taken your passions and merged them together for the better! Thanks for sharing this part of your story! Very inspiring!
hi! I just want to say that I understand where you are coming from!! your analogy of the relationship and basketball was spot on!! I have been playing ball since 6th grade and my junior year season tryouts are in 4 days. I used to love basketball with all my heart. that was all I ever thought about. I went to practice everyday, even after school practices I would go home and practice more. I scored 18 points almost every game. my 9th grade year came up and I just didn't have interest anymore and I didn't love it like I normally do and it was sad. but it wasn't what I wanted. it didn't make me happy. I played for everyone else to be happy. my dad would force me to play. I never told him I didn't want to keep playing because I was terrified. the other day I finally told him that it wasn't what I wanted and that he keeps forcing me to play and I'm not happy doing it anymore. he got mad and disappointed and he just tells me repeatedly that I could get a full ride to a D-1 college and I could do what I love and get all my schooling paid for. but I didn't want to play My whole college playing bball and not being happy. he doesn't understand and still tells me to play but he doesn't understand I don't want to anymore. I don't know if I should try out this week or just take a break from ball and find out what is in the future for me and what I will end up doing and doing what I love. I need help making a decision. please answer back and help.
Beautiful message to people making tough decisions and trying to follow their dreams Rachel. It takes a ton of courage to face those who put you in a mold and need you to stay there. It's hard to make that decision that is right for you while running the risk of disappointing those around you who can't possibly understand what is going on inside. Thanks for sharing your story.
THANK U SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS. quitting basketball was my hardest decision too. Basketball was my everything and it was the only thing I knew. But it wasn't making me as happy anymore. College basketball is it's own animal. So cool to know many have the same story as me. God bless u. Keep inspiring.
This past December I decided to transfer from Hofstra University because they no longer had undergraduate classes I wanted to take. It was by far the hardest decision of my life, and it took me a couple of months to admit to myself that I wanted to transfer. I had a good scholarship there, and had wanted to attend Hofstra since I was 12 so to leave there was beyond difficult. I was so unhappy not being able to take sports related classes that even though I enjoyed everything else about the university the curriculum just wasn't for me anymore. I currently am attending the United States Sports Academy and have never been happier. Thank you for sharing your story and for your advice. Im sure it wasn't easy giving up basketball, much harder than anyone could express but it all worked out for the best it seems!
This video is really great. I think it was very generous of you to share all this. Thanks for posting it. Kinda helps me with what I went through in the music industry.
Your story is a great example of a tough choice at a moment which became a great decision some time later. As soon as playing basketball isn't life anymore, you know that it is the time to do something else. As soon as the human being doesn't fit with the basketball player anymore, Something has to be done. Familly is important in these cases, and you were really lucky to have a great one who have your back when you needed it. I wish you a lot of success and happiness in your future. I think you deserve it ! :)
Rachel!! It's been so long! I hope you're doing well! This video was so heartfelt and inspiring! I loved this video, thank you for sharing a part of your life! Hahah we never got to do our collab video!! Congratulations on all your success!!
Wow, just now watching this video. What you've shared makes you real, and human, and ultimately an inspiration to others. I see you've been doing exactly that for the past several years. Keep it up!
i learned a lot from this video! I started looking at colleges and I get caught up in a school's athletic program and i don't really look at the academics or whether if i even like the school.This video helped me look at every part of a school not just one part. thank you! and happy birthday!!
Wow!! this hit home for me.. Our stories are kind of of the same but different. I played my four years, but also had the opportunity to play overseas. That's when mentally I knew that basketball was over for me. Its more to it but that is the just of it. similar to your story.
I wouldn't have known about you if I didn't know you had played basketball. The game still brought you great blessings. I'm happy that you chose to do what made you happy inside that takes great courage. Keep at it you rock!
I just wanted to say thank you for this video. I am going through a tough time in my life with a similar passion of mine I just don't love anymore(Cooking) and I will definitely take these words and apply them to my situation. It is hard to even think about something you invest so much of your life into as something that doesn't make you happy anymore but if you did it and became successful I believe anyone can do the same thing. Again, thanks!
That's an uplifting story. Thanks for sharing in such a public forum. Your passion for hoops and helping people is as inspiring as the story itself. It's crazy how your influence in basketball is so much greater now than it ever would have been as a player. Now that you have a strong (and strengthening) voice in the basketball community; how can you use that power to help individuals, groups, and the community as a whole solve problems and shore holes in our "national basketball system" (AAU>NCAA>professional)?
Dream of playing professional basketball? NBA is great if you can make it, but there are other pro basketball leagues in the world that you can earn a living. This is a response to some of the comments I read from some the guys. As far as Rachel, she made some challenging decisions that she took responsibility for and adapted to her new reality. When you take ownership of those decisions, the better your life will become. You will find your way and find a better fit for your life.
Excellent point about don't just focus on the basketball. Consider what your majors might be and see if they have a focus in that major. Your goal was to get a scholarship and you achieved it, congrats. We like to believe that life is this linear progression and its not. Its not uncommon for teenagers to go through mental changes(struggles) when they hit 18-19. Being a parent of 3 teenagers, I just want my kids to think and based on your video, you are a very deep person and successful. Keep it goin.
that's a difficult choice and i'm so happy that you picked to quit. people might think that basketball is the obvious option for you to take because you won't know what's going to happen after you quit basketball and how much money you would've get by continue playing basketball. for me, a successful life isn't valued by how much money you make or how much money you make. it's all about what makes you happy and finding the place where you belong. i'm so proud of you :).
ODU's an amazing school, but we're glad you're much happier! Can you do a video talking about your career journey from basketball to what you're doing now? From a career standpoint, you've inspired us as well :)
You the shit for this ! This was me 3 years ago but not as an athlete. I just chose to drop out on my third semester because of many of the things you said like location of the school, fitting in and also not being able to pick the major that I wanted. 3 years later and I’m still happy with my decision. Even though I was getting a small scholarship and grants that helped a lot financially, this sounds corny, it just didn’t feel right in my heart. It sure was the scariest shit I’ve had to decide on in my life.
Im 15 and I was gonna go out for my freshman highschool team. I went to all the summer events and camps the school had and to all the practices. Then after 6 months of working hard to ensure I had a spot on that team, I didnt try out. I went to the first 2 days of tryouts then just stopped. The reason I decided not to go is because I didnt want to play with the kids on the team. They were treating me like crap and acted as if I wasnt even there when we were on the court. When I did get the ball I would nail just about all my shots but they still acted as if I was invisible. That was 2 months ago and Im still debating whether I should have just tried out. Just like you its painful for me to watch the game. i dont know what to do for the next upcoming years. If I should try to make the team again or not. But watching this kinda made me feel a bit better. I dont know why but it just did. I was able to actually relate to someone who went through something similar.
I feel I can show this to some of my players so they can see what some female players go into when it comes to picking a college and to what they are looking for when it comes to picking college. The first thing I will ask my students is where would you want to live for the next two to four years and what do you want to study. Rachel the reason I was watching your site is due to I'm coach here in South Colorado and when I watch most of the clips on you tube it's more young men doing drills and I coach girls so when I show any drills I would like for them to see a female doing the things they will be doing and how it looks. So thank you for the information.
A happy you is most important. it also helps us spread our love better and easier to others. That's ultimately what we should aspire to leave behind when we're gone I think...
I respect the decision for you to quit early on, it's just not for everybody. But there are some people who don't have the simple choice of leaving and having family pay for the schooling. Not saying you're wrong for that or should be ashamed, obviously not. But for some, maybe a lot of D1 athletes, that could be the only way they get through school to graduate. It is a tough decision to stop playing for whatever reason though, but it has turned out good for you. You've made some characterizations about the media and a few other things I did not necessarily agree with but overall, it seems like you do a good job. Keep it up and I'm sure you will have a nice future ahead of you.
Very true, i stopped playing recently in a similar way, for similarish reasons. It's true, if you stop loving something, stop and do something else. Being known as a "basketball player" all through school and abit after, you do get alot of people wondering why you stopped. But, it's simple, to do other things.
i quit basketball bcuzzzzzzzzz... haters, politics, bull crap, coach pets, coaches, practice, my teammates parents, my teammates, working out, never fitting in, stress, losing friends, and I had 2 become more aggressive, and i hate being aggressive I'm a nice guy😀, and I just really didn't like practices lol.
Alright man, what you gotta do is get better, and prove them all wrong! If you don't like your teammates, then get better than them, to where you lead them. Train hard, and the rewards will come
DowntownSplasher The coaches already had a favorite, and when I came on the teams I was always far more skilled than "the coaches pet" which was always the go 2 point guard, so most of the parents would be upset when the coach would play me over him bcuz the "coaches pet" has been playing on the team before I was there. I never had a problem when it came down 2 who was better, bcuz I worked super hard on my game and would practice for hours ever day. It just wasn't my passion and I didn't love it anymore after a while.
DowntownSplasher don't get me wrong I still love basketball, its just not m passion, and I have other passions and dreams that I love WAY more then basketball that I'm trying 2 accomplish right now😀.
Trying to sum up the overall theme of the video. Is it: "Do what's best for you, forsaking all others including teammates and family" or "Don't be afraid to walk away from your commitments to make yourself happy"?
I can totally relate. I walked away from a full scholarship after my freshman year. It made my HS coaches mad and many couldn't understand it. It was the best decision for me.
Good for you walking away when you did I'm in a similar situation now I've played flag football for 6 years last year I tried out for high school JV team first tackle team and went through conditioningand practice and got cut taking this year off what is your advice for next year I'm not sure how much I want to commit to it what is your advice
a similar thing happened to me but with softball. i committed to a school that i didn’t really love and i just lost love for the sport. when i was being recruited in 8th and 9th grade, i was in love with the sport and never imagined i’d lose love for it. lucky for me i foresaw that i probably wouldn’t be happy at the college before i got there and without softball i really got to pick a school that i loved and not one that i felt forced to go to. i haven’t regretted the decision for one second.
I love your channel sooo much and this video was so honest and open and amazing! You should make a Playlist Challenge video where you show us your favorite jams! :)
Rach, you're awesome, but you're also in a very fortunate position of being very beautiful and smart too, with a very supportive family.That isn't the case for many. A lot of college athletes aren't that, not that it matters in their love life in college, but that's a different topic all together. Then there is the pressure to live up to your parents expectations too to boot. I'm glad things worked out for you in the end with where you are currently nonetheless.
I am actually in the exact same position that you are in right now. I am in my junior year of high school, and I just came back from my last AAU tournament like yesterday lol...and I think one of the scariest things to me is first, how exactly did you talk with your parents about quitting, and second, did you ever see your old teammates and/or coaches again...and if you did, was it awkward??
I'm a freshman in high school and I'm not really sure if I want to play basketball for my sophomore year and so on. Music is the thing that makes me really happy, but I've had a hard time keeping up with it since basketball practice was every day. I'm scared to quit though because my teammates and my coaches think I'm really good, and I just don't want to disappoint any of them. Any advice?
Had something similar in a way that I was capable of playing at a high level but coaches always never picked me. I played rugby for one of the best teams arguably in the country (btw in from England) All my teammates would be getting called up for regionals and even country. I was never called for anything, this made start to not enjoy the game anymore. Worst part was my dad is so passionate about the game, so to tell him I didn't want to play anymore was very hard for me to say. Luckily I found basketball, which was like the complete opposite to a point, i was finally getting the praise, coaches would finally see my potential and they wanted me to play for them (not playing regional or country though but it wasn't serious to me) but it made me happy and they would go out there way for me to get me on there team.
Not a lot of people can say they were good enough to receive a D1 scholarship. Good job nonetheless, you went to Wadsworth I think? Just a few mins from where I went to school, Buckeye.
nba2k16 etc on consoles i want to talk about the thumb sticks preferably the right one and the triangle and sometimes the 2 lift trigger... grab one of your co workers and play 2k now when they shoot the ball right before the release flick the right analog to the right it only works for some players like kevin durant if you timed it right he should miss with others you can tap triangle or y if your an xbox player the left trigger works with free throws...this has been going on for years can you all fix that??? and the deference system needs tweaking the bump steal is not realistic aint no way im going to let someone in real life bump me and take the ball
Thank you. About time we found out. Do you think had the situation been a little different (ie made better friends with the teammates, knew the area better) you would have stayed longer?
stress and pressure are difficult. Sometimes you have to have struggles to appreciate how good you have it. Butttttt maybe youve just always had it really good. Others work harder and want it more. At least youre pretty. But what happens if that goes away? What will you want?
my dream when I was a child to play in professional basketball I run to basketball courts to practice shooting and layups and dribbling skills all the day I love basketball I go outside and play some Bball with my friends but my other friends teasing me everytime I play basketball I start to think "should I stop basketball and change my paths? will I become great?. when I was a child I start watching Kobe Bryant and he such a great I want to become like kobe. one day I dream I want to be the best basketball player here in the Philippines (respect me who am i) I love basketball so much but when I realized I had to change my career I want to find a job and this day it's time to let go I will try my best to had a good life
This is where I am right now. I am going to be a senior in high school at a D1 high school and I have been playing basketball my whole life and I am falling out of love with the sport. I just feel lost.
Hi, Rachel. I've been watching your shows for a long time, didn't know you graduated from AU haha. I'm currently attending AU for the quantitative analysis program. I wish you the best with your life and your career, and I hope I can make AU proud one day just like you. Haha I also played varsity back in high school, which was in Ruben S Ayala High school, Chino Hills. Same place the ball family is from.
Rachel Annamarie DeMita Hi I'm a basketball player who's entering his senior year. I haven't gotten any colleges to look at me yet but I've been invited to multiple camps and I haven't been able to go to them cause my parents said they're to far. And I'm thinking about quiting because I haven't gotten any colleges yet but I feel like my senior is going to be great year because I've been playing on the summer varsity team at my school and in all 3 games so far I've scored 22,28, and 34 points. I just wanna get your input on what I should do. Oh I'm also starting on varsity.
I'm thinking about quitting basketball, I have a lot of basketball men's tourneys. But it's very hard to win it all because there's so much stacked teams around here.
Given the last video where you mentioned a little bit about it I thought it was because of injuries. I remember you mentioning something about your body not feeling the same way and you had to consider your health in the future.
Ughh my coach pississ me off -_- He hasn't even gave me my uniform and our last game is in 20 days, which is totally fucked up. Considering I stay after school to practice my moves, shots and drives, and he hasn't even played me or given me a uniform. My other coaches have given me chances and have played since 4th grade on all four quarters, as a starter. I'm not even fiting in, since apparently I'm always yelled at by other girls when I accidentally dropped the ball, and they always start to threaten me. -_- When they drop the ball, thousands of times, they personally think its okay, and are like "it's okay" or that I am threated to die or become killed by one of them, with a weight, considerding "we are team members" The freakn coach will not do anything about it. -_- I really love basketball but I just don't know any more, I'm losing my passion for it, and I really just want to quite their team, and play for another school, but I can't because apparently I'm not allowed to leave, because my coach won't let me nor will he let me quite. -_- Yet he still wants me to stay on the bench without even a uniform to "support" those we hate my guts.
I understand where you're coming from. Life is too short to be unhappy. Sometimes the "logical" decision isn't always the right one. I'm glad that you're happier and can enjoy the game again. You're a great ambassador and you have great positive energy.
I can't ever relate to not loving basketball at any time of my life no matter how hard life gets. It's a love affair. It's the best sport. More than a game to me.
It's not the best sport, sorry, for me I love soccer and even though it is the most popular, it isn't the best
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Me 2 man I fail exams to be able to go to practices and games good to see someone also say shit on everything but Ball cuz #Ballislife
Ryan Kenny that's an opinion so stfu
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I watched this like 5 years ago as a kid. It completely blows my mind away that I’m literally in the exact situation today now that it’s on my recommended. Thank you Rachel.
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"Will you play 2K with me?😂💍🏀"
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At least you're more popular than 99.99% of the players in wnba
+Gameover1000- Don't even know one of them. 100% more popular.
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+The Question that's really offensive...
Rachel, excellent job of your path away from the game. This video must have been a load lifted from your shoulders. Almost all of us "change horses" as we transition into adult life. Yours has been extraordinary and still keeping your perspective on happiness in your life.
Coach Tom
You know she don't give a fuck about you... Bruh..
I'm done bro he said she don't give a fuck
AEG Entertainment stfu they know each other
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Just reading through the comments and listening to the video on reasons why they quit basketball, and I'm happy to say I will never end up like that. Basketball has made me a better person. From someone in 6th grade coming to a new school since I'm in the military and move around a lot, to the next year being the most popular person in our middle/high school because of basketball. I'm not quiet anymore, even after I moved again, I still have a lot of friends because of me not being quiet and also from playing.
Dorian Hill just wait bruh you’re gonna quit. Doing it to be popular ain’t gonna last.
I think it's smart that you do what you wanna do. We only have so long to live and if you can't enjoy that time then you're not doing yourself any favors. I've always heard people talk about how they wish they would've done something different with their life and I'm glad to see someone who's actually trying to do what they love. I'm 18 and I have been struggling lately on my major in college because my heart tells me journalism but the people surrounding me tell me doctor or lawyer and I just had to learn to do what I want to. Thanks for the testimony Rachel.
Thought you were going to say you got pregnant. But this is a much better story. Reminds me of what happened to my sister who went to play for AlbanyU. Picked the wrong school and lost her love of the game.
Kingston Hawke you cant lose the love for the game, its ridiculous... it only means you didnt love it enough period
Airjas Productions That's not true at all. You're confusing the GAME of basketball with the BUSINESS of basketball. The former is all about competing with yourself and others. The latter is a cut-throat game of politics, that only get's worse as you make it higher up the ladder.
Airjas Productions ? people fall out of love all the time. people change. besides, the game can't love you back
Airjas Productions its not ridiculous actually. You can lose interest in something & still come back to love it in a different way, sort of the message of the video. Sort of like her example, if you've been married for 10 years & the spark between you & your partner just disappears, that in no way means you never loved your partner. It just means the spark you had is gone, as was her spark with basketball. There's nothing wrong with losing a love of something
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I've been following you since you were on that Elle and Blair online show and found you to be a great and entertaining on air personality and that's a part of why I stuck around. It's been awesome to see how far you've come despite all these challenges. I'm so proud of how you have taken your passions and merged them together for the better! Thanks for sharing this part of your story! Very inspiring!
hi! I just want to say that I understand where you are coming from!! your analogy of the relationship and basketball was spot on!! I have been playing ball since 6th grade and my junior year season tryouts are in 4 days. I used to love basketball with all my heart. that was all I ever thought about. I went to practice everyday, even after school practices I would go home and practice more. I scored 18 points almost every game. my 9th grade year came up and I just didn't have interest anymore and I didn't love it like I normally do and it was sad. but it wasn't what I wanted. it didn't make me happy. I played for everyone else to be happy. my dad would force me to play. I never told him I didn't want to keep playing because I was terrified. the other day I finally told him that it wasn't what I wanted and that he keeps forcing me to play and I'm not happy doing it anymore. he got mad and disappointed and he just tells me repeatedly that I could get a full ride to a D-1 college and I could do what I love and get all my schooling paid for. but I didn't want to play My whole college playing bball and not being happy. he doesn't understand and still tells me to play but he doesn't understand I don't want to anymore. I don't know if I should try out this week or just take a break from ball and find out what is in the future for me and what I will end up doing and doing what I love. I need help making a decision. please answer back and help.
Beautiful message to people making tough decisions and trying to follow their dreams Rachel. It takes a ton of courage to face those who put you in a mold and need you to stay there. It's hard to make that decision that is right for you while running the risk of disappointing those around you who can't possibly understand what is going on inside. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thanks for the transparency I enjoyed this as much as anything you've ever done. Keep up the amazing work.
THANK U SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS. quitting basketball was my hardest decision too. Basketball was my everything and it was the only thing I knew. But it wasn't making me as happy anymore. College basketball is it's own animal. So cool to know many have the same story as me. God bless u. Keep inspiring.
Great video! Love how she takes the time to answer all of her fans' questions! Keep doing more videos too!
This past December I decided to transfer from Hofstra University because they no longer had undergraduate classes I wanted to take. It was by far the hardest decision of my life, and it took me a couple of months to admit to myself that I wanted to transfer. I had a good scholarship there, and had wanted to attend Hofstra since I was 12 so to leave there was beyond difficult. I was so unhappy not being able to take sports related classes that even though I enjoyed everything else about the university the curriculum just wasn't for me anymore. I currently am attending the United States Sports Academy and have never been happier. Thank you for sharing your story and for your advice. Im sure it wasn't easy giving up basketball, much harder than anyone could express but it all worked out for the best it seems!
You're beautiful Rachel
I was about to say the same thing haha
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This video is really great. I think it was very generous of you to share all this. Thanks for posting it. Kinda helps me with what I went through in the music industry.
Your story is a great example of a tough choice at a moment which became a great decision some time later. As soon as playing basketball isn't life anymore, you know that it is the time to do something else. As soon as the human being doesn't fit with the basketball player anymore, Something has to be done. Familly is important in these cases, and you were really lucky to have a great one who have your back when you needed it. I wish you a lot of success and happiness in your future. I think you deserve it ! :)
Rachel!! It's been so long! I hope you're doing well! This video was so heartfelt and inspiring! I loved this video, thank you for sharing a part of your life! Hahah we never got to do our collab video!! Congratulations on all your success!!
It was a long time that she wasn't uploading because of 2ktv. I think they had the season finale and the award show 2 weeks ago.
Wow, just now watching this video. What you've shared makes you real, and human, and ultimately an inspiration to others. I see you've been doing exactly that for the past several years. Keep it up!
i learned a lot from this video! I started looking at colleges and I get caught up in a school's athletic program and i don't really look at the academics or whether if i even like the school.This video helped me look at every part of a school not just one part. thank you! and happy birthday!!
Wow!! this hit home for me.. Our stories are kind of of the same but different. I played my four years, but also had the opportunity to play overseas. That's when mentally I knew that basketball was over for me. Its more to it but that is the just of it. similar to your story.
I wouldn't have known about you if I didn't know you had played basketball. The game still brought you great blessings. I'm happy that you chose to do what made you happy inside that takes great courage. Keep at it you rock!
I just wanted to say thank you for this video. I am going through a tough time in my life with a similar passion of mine I just don't love anymore(Cooking) and I will definitely take these words and apply them to my situation. It is hard to even think about something you invest so much of your life into as something that doesn't make you happy anymore but if you did it and became successful I believe anyone can do the same thing.
Again, thanks!
That's an uplifting story. Thanks for sharing in such a public forum. Your passion for hoops and helping people is as inspiring as the story itself. It's crazy how your influence in basketball is so much greater now than it ever would have been as a player. Now that you have a strong (and strengthening) voice in the basketball community; how can you use that power to help individuals, groups, and the community as a whole solve problems and shore holes in our "national basketball system" (AAU>NCAA>professional)?
Life can bring you anywhere. Just do what you love to do and keep moving
Dream of playing professional basketball? NBA is great if you can make it, but there are other pro basketball leagues in the world that you can earn a living. This is a response to some of the comments I read from some the guys. As far as Rachel, she made some challenging decisions that she took responsibility for and adapted to her new reality. When you take ownership of those decisions, the better your life will become. You will find your way and find a better fit for your life.
Excellent point about don't just focus on the basketball. Consider what your majors might be and see if they have a focus in that major. Your goal was to get a scholarship and you achieved it, congrats. We like to believe that life is this linear progression and its not. Its not uncommon for teenagers to go through mental changes(struggles) when they hit 18-19. Being a parent of 3 teenagers, I just want my kids to think and based on your video, you are a very deep person and successful. Keep it goin.
Coming back for 2K16, right?
love your vulnerability, your openness, and your decision to share it with us. please keep up your good work!
that's a difficult choice and i'm so happy that you picked to quit. people might think that basketball is the obvious option for you to take because you won't know what's going to happen after you quit basketball and how much money you would've get by continue playing basketball. for me, a successful life isn't valued by how much money you make or how much money you make. it's all about what makes you happy and finding the place where you belong. i'm so proud of you :).
ODU's an amazing school, but we're glad you're much happier! Can you do a video talking about your career journey from basketball to what you're doing now? From a career standpoint, you've inspired us as well :)
love where you are now i hope you do keep it up we love seeing you on the game!
You the shit for this ! This was me 3 years ago but not as an athlete. I just chose to drop out on my third semester because of many of the things you said like location of the school, fitting in and also not being able to pick the major that I wanted. 3 years later and I’m still happy with my decision. Even though I was getting a small scholarship and grants that helped a lot financially, this sounds corny, it just didn’t feel right in my heart. It sure was the scariest shit I’ve had to decide on in my life.
Im 15 and I was gonna go out for my freshman highschool team. I went to all the summer events and camps the school had and to all the practices. Then after 6 months of working hard to ensure I had a spot on that team, I didnt try out. I went to the first 2 days of tryouts then just stopped. The reason I decided not to go is because I didnt want to play with the kids on the team. They were treating me like crap and acted as if I wasnt even there when we were on the court. When I did get the ball I would nail just about all my shots but they still acted as if I was invisible. That was 2 months ago and Im still debating whether I should have just tried out. Just like you its painful for me to watch the game. i dont know what to do for the next upcoming years. If I should try to make the team again or not. But watching this kinda made me feel a bit better. I dont know why but it just did. I was able to actually relate to someone who went through something similar.
I feel I can show this to some of my players so they can see what some female players go into when it comes to picking a college and to what they are looking for when it comes to picking college. The first thing I will ask my students is where would you want to live for the next two to four years and what do you want to study. Rachel the reason I was watching your site is due to I'm coach here in South Colorado and when I watch most of the clips on you tube it's more young men doing drills and I coach girls so when I show any drills I would like for them to see a female doing the things they will be doing and how it looks. So thank you for the information.
A happy you is most important. it also helps us spread our love better and easier to others. That's ultimately what we should aspire to leave behind when we're gone I think...
I respect the decision for you to quit early on, it's just not for everybody. But there are some people who don't have the simple choice of leaving and having family pay for the schooling. Not saying you're wrong for that or should be ashamed, obviously not. But for some, maybe a lot of D1 athletes, that could be the only way they get through school to graduate. It is a tough decision to stop playing for whatever reason though, but it has turned out good for you.
You've made some characterizations about the media and a few other things I did not necessarily agree with but overall, it seems like you do a good job. Keep it up and I'm sure you will have a nice future ahead of you.
Very true, i stopped playing recently in a similar way, for similarish reasons. It's true, if you stop loving something, stop and do something else. Being known as a "basketball player" all through school and abit after, you do get alot of people wondering why you stopped. But, it's simple, to do other things.
i quit basketball bcuzzzzzzzzz... haters, politics, bull crap, coach pets, coaches, practice, my teammates parents, my teammates, working out, never fitting in, stress, losing friends, and I had 2 become more aggressive, and i hate being aggressive I'm a nice guy😀, and I just really didn't like practices lol.
Alright man, what you gotta do is get better, and prove them all wrong! If you don't like your teammates, then get better than them, to where you lead them. Train hard, and the rewards will come
DowntownSplasher The coaches already had a favorite, and when I came on the teams I was always far more skilled than "the coaches pet" which was always the go 2 point guard, so most of the parents would be upset when the coach would play me over him bcuz the "coaches pet" has been playing on the team before I was there. I never had a problem when it came down 2 who was better, bcuz I worked super hard on my game and would practice for hours ever day. It just wasn't my passion and I didn't love it anymore after a while.
DowntownSplasher don't get me wrong I still love basketball, its just not m passion, and I have other passions and dreams that I love WAY more then basketball that I'm trying 2 accomplish right now😀.
+infinite moonwalk so basically working hard and earning it?
Andrew C what do u mean??
Trying to sum up the overall theme of the video. Is it: "Do what's best for you, forsaking all others including teammates and family" or "Don't be afraid to walk away from your commitments to make yourself happy"?
I lived in Norfolk/Virginia Beach. And went to Old Dominion
The most beautiful basketball woman on this planet. Better than Candace and skylar. Amazing smile. It's contagious.
oscar morales what about kristen ledlow
oscar morales Better than Skylar Diggins?
Nah!
IWantMyVisionBack way better
justin koyu sai
OH HELL NAHHHHH
+justin koyu sai if she had a booty I would die in love
I can totally relate. I walked away from a full scholarship after my freshman year. It made my HS coaches mad and many couldn't understand it. It was the best decision for me.
Love the vulnerability you showed. Hopefully this can serve as inspiration to many who are going through something similar in their life
Rachel Demita is a beautiful and honest person 😊
Good for you walking away when you did I'm in a similar situation now I've played flag football for 6 years last year I tried out for high school JV team first tackle team and went through conditioningand practice and got cut taking this year off what is your advice for next year I'm not sure how much I want to commit to it what is your advice
a similar thing happened to me but with softball. i committed to a school that i didn’t really love and i just lost love for the sport. when i was being recruited in 8th and 9th grade, i was in love with the sport and never imagined i’d lose love for it. lucky for me i foresaw that i probably wouldn’t be happy at the college before i got there and without softball i really got to pick a school that i loved and not one that i felt forced to go to. i haven’t regretted the decision for one second.
Not sport-related but I can relate to her story right now. Up and onwards from here on!
The exact same reason I stopped playing. I love this!
I love your channel sooo much and this video was so honest and open and amazing! You should make a Playlist Challenge video where you show us your favorite jams! :)
Just do what you love, dear 🙏🏼 all the best 🥂🍀
I went to ODU too! Norfolk is not the best area. Most hang out at Virginia Beach.
Just found your channel from watching you play in the celebrity NBA game. You've got skills. Enjoyed this video and I know exactly how you feel.
Rach, you're awesome, but you're also in a very fortunate position of being very beautiful and smart too, with a very supportive family.That isn't the case for many. A lot of college athletes aren't that, not that it matters in their love life in college, but that's a different topic all together. Then there is the pressure to live up to your parents expectations too to boot.
I'm glad things worked out for you in the end with where you are currently nonetheless.
I am actually in the exact same position that you are in right now. I am in my junior year of high school, and I just came back from my last AAU tournament like yesterday lol...and I think one of the scariest things to me is first, how exactly did you talk with your parents about quitting, and second, did you ever see your old teammates and/or coaches again...and if you did, was it awkward??
I'm a freshman in high school and I'm not really sure if I want to play basketball for my sophomore year and so on. Music is the thing that makes me really happy, but I've had a hard time keeping up with it since basketball practice was every day. I'm scared to quit though because my teammates and my coaches think I'm really good, and I just don't want to disappoint any of them. Any advice?
Thank you, Rachel for this video, nice to see you doing the thing you love the most.
Maybe a video about your fitness routine would be nice.
Had something similar in a way that I was capable of playing at a high level but coaches always never picked me. I played rugby for one of the best teams arguably in the country (btw in from England) All my teammates would be getting called up for regionals and even country. I was never called for anything, this made start to not enjoy the game anymore. Worst part was my dad is so passionate about the game, so to tell him I didn't want to play anymore was very hard for me to say. Luckily I found basketball, which was like the complete opposite to a point, i was finally getting the praise, coaches would finally see my potential and they wanted me to play for them (not playing regional or country though but it wasn't serious to me) but it made me happy and they would go out there way for me to get me on there team.
Not a lot of people can say they were good enough to receive a D1 scholarship. Good job nonetheless, you went to Wadsworth I think? Just a few mins from where I went to school, Buckeye.
So much respect for this. I am in a similar place right now. Thanks for sharing this.
This was interesting. I'm in my senior year of college and kinda not feeling football anymore but unsure what I should do... Interesting advice
I would say if you get drafted into the NFL sign, but it's your choice
nba2k16 etc on consoles i want to talk about the thumb sticks preferably the right one and the triangle and sometimes the 2 lift trigger... grab one of your co workers and play 2k now when they shoot the ball right before the release flick the right analog to the right it only works for some players like kevin durant if you timed it right he should miss with others you can tap triangle or y if your an xbox player the left trigger works with free throws...this has been going on for years can you all fix that??? and the deference system needs tweaking the bump steal is not realistic aint no way im going to let someone in real life bump me and take the ball
Congrats girl! It's all about taking risks. 💕😊👍🏼It can be scary at times.
Same thing happened to me but for football (soccer)
You mean futbol lmao
+Brian Scalabrine no, he meant football
Ya xD
***** I am speaking English here
+UnkownWizard futbol is the Spanish term in the uk or anywhere it's football so do some research son.
Rachel can you do a q and a or how to shoot a three pointer ?!?!
Thank you. About time we found out. Do you think had the situation been a little different (ie made better friends with the teammates, knew the area better) you would have stayed longer?
stress and pressure are difficult. Sometimes you have to have struggles to appreciate how good you have it. Butttttt maybe youve just always had it really good. Others work harder and want it more. At least youre pretty. But what happens if that goes away? What will you want?
my dream when I was a child to play in professional basketball I run to basketball courts to practice shooting and layups and dribbling skills all the day I love basketball I go outside and play some Bball with my friends but my other friends teasing me everytime I play basketball I start to think "should I stop basketball and change my paths? will I become great?. when I was a child I start watching Kobe Bryant and he such a great I want to become like kobe. one day I dream I want to be the best basketball player here in the Philippines (respect me who am i) I love basketball so much but when I realized I had to change my career I want to find a job and this day it's time to let go I will try my best to had a good life
jhake belano if you love the sport try ur hardest to make it happen
Don't let anyone tell you can't do something. if you find something you love chase it
This is where I am right now. I am going to be a senior in high school at a D1 high school and I have been playing basketball my whole life and I am falling out of love with the sport. I just feel lost.
Hi, Rachel. I've been watching your shows for a long time, didn't know you graduated from AU haha. I'm currently attending AU for the quantitative analysis program. I wish you the best with your life and your career, and I hope I can make AU proud one day just like you. Haha I also played varsity back in high school, which was in Ruben S Ayala High school, Chino Hills. Same place the ball family is from.
Yes, more videos
Man thank you so much for making this video. This is exactly what I'm going through on my college team. Thank you so much I appreciate it
I would love to see a workout routine & hairstyles for after workouts! ♥
I love the song at the end what is it called. and thanks I like our interview in NBA2k15 keep up the good work
u ain't the real kevin durant
fk KD
ur beloved 11 ranked school has now dropped to 129... Hella dodged a bullet with that one...
Thomas Walker lmao I live near odu I got a scholalship to play football there but I ended up not going I never knew she went there
@@jayysavage4680 bro I'm from Norfolk small world
Why did you delete some of your videos? :(
Your smile is amazing! good for you and chase what you really want
You're doing an amazing job with NBA2K. Keep it up! Thank you for sharing a lil bit of your story.
I Love You Rachel!!!
Rachel Annamarie DeMita Hi I'm a basketball player who's entering his senior year. I haven't gotten any colleges to look at me yet but I've been invited to multiple camps and I haven't been able to go to them cause my parents said they're to far. And I'm thinking about quiting because I haven't gotten any colleges yet but I feel like my senior is going to be great year because I've been playing on the summer varsity team at my school and in all 3 games so far I've scored 22,28, and 34 points. I just wanna get your input on what I should do. Oh I'm also starting on varsity.
***** yea thanks I thought about it and I'm just gonna stick with it. If I keep working hard then success will come in the end
DaKidd NextD00r I know this was a year ago but if you could get back to me how was senior year
Thanks for sharing this. Great advice! : )
I'm thinking about quitting basketball, I have a lot of basketball men's tourneys. But it's very hard to win it all because there's so much stacked teams around here.
Don't quit because other people are "better" then you, keep trying to be on top, keep your eyes on the prize
LittleFrank95 your buns
Given the last video where you mentioned a little bit about it I thought it was because of injuries.
I remember you mentioning something about your body not feeling the same way and you had to consider your health in the future.
this video help me so much thanks to you now im ready to change my ways
Great advice for not only girls but guys too you have a really a good mind
Rachel! Long time no see!! It's been a while!
That was terrific. Well said, well understood.
I hope you feel the same way till now. 🙂
100% one of the best videos for why I quit sport.
Ughh my coach pississ me off -_- He hasn't even gave me my uniform and our last game is in 20 days, which is totally fucked up. Considering I stay after school to practice my moves, shots and drives, and he hasn't even played me or given me a uniform. My other coaches have given me chances and have played since 4th grade on all four quarters, as a starter. I'm not even fiting in, since apparently I'm always yelled at by other girls when I accidentally dropped the ball, and they always start to threaten me. -_- When they drop the ball, thousands of times, they personally think its okay, and are like "it's okay" or that I am threated to die or become killed by one of them, with a weight, considerding "we are team members" The freakn coach will not do anything about it. -_- I really love basketball but I just don't know any more, I'm losing my passion for it, and I really just want to quite their team, and play for another school, but I can't because apparently I'm not allowed to leave, because my coach won't let me nor will he let me quite. -_- Yet he still wants me to stay on the bench without even a uniform to "support" those we hate my guts.
+Marianna Smith Never give up. Make all the negative things into motivation
Thank you, I have actually talked to my coach today about it :) IdKForDahWin
+Marianna Smith They're jealous of your you know whats
What? *****
+Caesar Vespasian L
9:52 is it cantonese??
Q&A plz
Wow that comparison was very relatable too. But omg I think I literally just fell more in love with you 😍😍
So are u still doing 2ktv?
I can really relate to what you say. Love this！
Inspirational and courageous!
Thanks for sharing. I enjoy you every week on nba 2k..
what song is that at the end?